Podcasts about enjoy sex how

Minter Dialogue with Justin Hancock Justin Hancock, based in England, has been a relationships and sex educator for over 20 years. In that time he has worked with thousands of young people in schools, youth clubs, universities, and advice services. Justin created and still works at bishuk.com which is one of the leading relationships and sex education websites for young people over 14, this site attracts thousands of people per day. Justin provides training courses and RSE resources for teachers. He offers relationships and sex education for an over 18 audience too. He wrote ‘Enjoy Sex (How, when and IF, You Want To)' with Meg-John Barker, with whom he records the ‘Meg-John & Justin' podcast, and most recently published "Can We Talk About Consent, A book about freedom, choices and agreement," published by Frances Lincoln Children's Books in 2021. In this conversation, we look at the state of sex and relationships today, typically among the younger generations, the decline in reported sex, toxic masculinity, #MeToo, the rise of mental health issues, and how to broach consent, especially in a work environment.  If you've got comments or questions you'd like to see answered, send your email or audio file to nminterdial@gmail.com; or you can find the show notes and comment on minterdial.com. If you liked the podcast, please take a moment to go over to Apple Podcasts or your favourite podcast channel, to rate/review the show. Otherwise, you can find me @mdial on Twitter.

In this final episode for season three we finish by completing the circle of sex education with Justin Hancock. Justin is a sex and relationships educator, trainer and practitioner working with young people and adults in this field since 1999. His website BISHuk.com is one of the leading sex and relationships advice websites for all those over 14. It receives thousands of visits per day and is highly regarded by young people and practitioners alike. Justin has worked in schools, colleges, universities, and youth projects for over 20 years delivering relationships & sex education (RSE) with young people over 14. In addition to this Justin works with practitioners in sex and relationships education and sexual health services providing training and resources. He is also the co-author of a sex advice book with Meg-John Barker ( episode 14 of this season)  ‘Enjoy Sex - How, When and If You Want To'. He hosts the Culture Sex Relationships podcast. Justin's latest book is ‘Can We Talk About Consent', published by Quarto Books, is out now. www.bishuk.com www.bishtraining.com soundcloud.com/culturesexrelationships Social @bishtraining twitter

This episode brings two leading powerhouses of gender, trauma and their intersections with sex and pleasure. In this episode we look at the notion of intersectionality and how pleasure is informed by so much more than whats in our pants. You can find joy and pleasure after trauma and why generic sex advice can often make things worse for us than we intend. Alex Iantaffi, PhD, MS, SEP, CST, LMFT (they/them) is a family therapist, WPATH certified gender specialist, AASECT certified sex therapist, Somatic ExperiencingⓇ practitioner, clinical supervisor, and author. Alex is Chair of the Trans and Queer interest network of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) and President Elect of the Minnesota Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (MAMFT). Alex is the author of "Gender Trauma: healing cultural, social, and historical gendered trauma" and co-author of the books "How to UnderstandYour Gender: a practical guide for exploring who you are", “How To Understand Your Sexuality”, “Life Isn't Binary”, and “Hell Yeah Self-Care: a Trauma-Informed Workbook”. They also host the podcast Gender Stories. You can find out more about them at www.alexiantaffi.com or follow them on Twitter and Instagram @xtaffi and @genderstories  Meg-John Barker is the author of a number of popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including graphic guides to Queer, Gender, and Sexuality, How To Understand Your Gender, Life Isn't Binary, Enjoy Sex (How, When, and IF You Want To), Rewriting the Rules, and Hell Yeah Self Care. They have also written a number of books for scholars and counsellors on these topics, drawing on their own years of academic work and therapeutic practice. Website: rewriting-the-rules.com. Twitter: @megjohnbarker, YouTube: MegJohnBarkerPsych  

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking about the topic of consent.  Justin Hancock @bishsexed and I talk about why more conversations about consent are needed, why we think that they aren't happening and how we can all better understand consent, what it means, and what it looks like.   Consent is a powerful word, but not everyone understands exactly what it means. It is an essential component of not just our sex lives and relationships but all aspects of our lives. Despite this we have historically seen it left out of mainstream education and conversation and we see millions of examples worldwide about how consent has not been freely given and has been violated. Discussions around consent both in and out of our relationships need to be normalised and demystified in order that we can make the changes to our culture around consent, which is what Justin and I aim to tackle in our conversation.  Justin Hancock is the author of Can We Talk About Consent? and has been a relationships and sex educator for over 20 years. In that time he has worked with thousands of young people in schools, youth clubs, universities, and advice services. Justin created and still works at bishuk.com which is one of the leading relationships and sex education websites for young people over 14, this attracts thousands of people per day. As one young person put it “It's perfect for young people without being too cringe“. Justin also provides training courses and RSE resources for teachers. He also offers relationships and sex education for an over 18 audience too. He wrote ‘Enjoy Sex (How, when and IF, You Want To)' with Meg-John Barker and is the host of a new podcast Culture Sex Relationships.   https://www.bishuk.com/ Instagram : @bishsexed This episode was sponsored by iPlaysafe App. Download the free app and order your iPlaySafe Box - a home STI testing kit. Your results will be sent directly your app, along with an iPlaySafe badge verifying your sexual health status. It's then up to you when, with whom, and whether you share it.  https://www.iplaysafe.app/ Instagram : @iplaysafeapp Kate Moyle is Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist and Certified Psycho-Sexologist, who is passionate about having open and normalising conversations around sex and relationships; and helping people to get to a place of sexual health, happiness and wellbeing.  Follow Kate on Instagram at @KateMoyleTherapy

Join us for a multi-faceted and life-affirming conversation with writer, writing mentor and independent scholar Meg-John Barker where we discuss their wide ranging thoughts on gender non-conformity, plurality, consent, ‘anti-self help,’ and participation in queer and other subcultures. Topics we cover include: What it means to write an “anti self-help book” Plurality and trauma The intersections of psychology, gender non-conformity, and relationship structures outside the mainstream The crucial and complicated nature of consent Navigating the contradictions of academia and DIY media production About Meg-John Barker: Meg-John Barker is the author of a number of popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including Queer: A Graphic History, Gender: A Graphic Guide, How To Understand Your Gender, Life Isn’t Binary, Enjoy Sex (How, When, and IF You Want To), Rewriting the Rules, and The Psychology of Sex. They have also written a number of books for scholars and counsellors on these topics, drawing on their own research and therapeutic practice. Find Meg-John online: On the web: rewriting-the-rules.com, megjohnandjustin.com On Social Media:  Twitter: @megjohnbarker Instagram: @meg_john_barker Facebook: megjohnbarkerwriter YouTube: youtube.com/c/MegJohnBarkerPsych/ Links to relevant resources: Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22760492-healing-the-fragmented-selves-of-trauma-survivors Plural Selves: https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/plural-work/ The Bisexuality Report: https://www.bimedia.org/bireport/ Life Isn’t Binary: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/43818540-life-isn-t-binary Queer: A Graphic History: https://iconbooks.com/ib-title/queer-a-graphic-history/ Gender: A Graphic Guide: https://iconbooks.com/ib-title/gender-a-graphic-guide-2/ Sexuality: A Graphic Guide: https://iconbooks.com/ib-title/sexuality/ Meg-John and Justin podcast: https://megjohnandjustin.com/ https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/self/zones-of-stuck-patterns/ https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/self/plurality-and-trauma-2-practices/ Links to So Many Wings’ social media and website On the web: https://somanywings.org On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somanywingspodcast On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somanywingspodcast On Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/join/somanywingspodcast

Joining Charles Adrian for the 130th Second-Hand Book Factory is a slightly coldy Moses Woldetsadik. They talk passionate love, consensual sex and thoughtful kingship. You can find a song by Teddy Afro based on Moses’ first book on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mFzHpK7ibfo You can watch a video about Meg-John and Justin’s three handshake model of consent here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=awrp7EJGqyc and read more about it here: https://bishtraining.com/three-handshakes-an-activity-for-learning-how-consent-feels/ You can read about King Tewodros II on Wikipedia here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tewodros_II Marked as explicit on iTunes because of discussion of sex. Episode image is a detail from the cover of Enjoy Sex (How, when and IF you want to) A Practical And Inclusive Guide by Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock, published in 2017 by Icon Books Ltd; cover design by Mecob; Image © Shutterstock.com/MariyaF. More info and a link to a transcript of this episode is at http://www.pageonepodcast.com/   Book listing: Fikir Eske Mekabir (Love Unto Crypt) by Hadis Alemayehu (trans. Sisay Ayenew) Enjoy Sex (How, when and IF you want to) A Practical And Inclusive Guide by Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock Stories of King Tewodros told by Moses’ mother

Welcome to The Second Circle. A sex podcast for overthinkers.This week Franki talks to bisexual polyamorous woman L about opening up her marriage and managing multiple relationships. In The Overthinkers Guide To Sex, Frankie Wells and Anouszka Tate of sex podcast Project Pleasure tell us how some of their best and worst sexual experiences shaped them.In the intro Rob and Franki also talked about the BBC drama Wanderlust as well as Louis Theroux's documentary about polyamory, Love Without Limits. L and Franki referenced research which shoes that polyamorous people tend to practice safer sex and also mentioned the book Enjoy Sex: How, when, and if you want to by Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock.The Second Circle is a sex and gender politics podcast produced and hosted by journalist Franki Cookney. It seeks to bring some (okay, a LOT) of the nuance back into discussions of sex, relationships, and gender and challenges the idea that sex doesn't deserve the same thought and attention that we give to the rest of our lives.Series 3 of The Second Circle is supported by That's The Spot.Get in touch on Twitter @The2ndCircle or email us secondcirclepodcast@gmail.com.If you're enjoying the podcast, please visit the Patreon page to find out more about how you can support sex-positive content AND get rewarded for your loyalty! Or if you just want to low-key share the love, why not buy me a coffee?Support the show (https://ko-fi.com/frankicookney)

Welcome to the first of two keynote addresses from the 2019 Graphic Medicine conference, the theme of which was, “Queerying Graphic Medicine: Paradigms, Power, and Practice.” Meg-John Barker’s keynote address fits perfectly with this framing of our conference and our work in Graphic Medicine. Meg-John is the author of a number of popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including Queer: A Graphic History, How to Understand your Gender, Life isn’t Binary, Enjoy Sex (How, When, and IF You Want To), Rewriting the Rules, The Psychology of Sex, and The Secrets of Enduring Love. They have also written a number... Read More

Justin Hancock, a fantastic, experienced and qualified UK-based sex and relationships educator chats with Alex Iantaffi about the role of gender in sex education, consent, power and privilege and so much more! Justin is also the co-host of the fabulous Meg-John & Justin podcast, as well as co-author (with Meg-John Barker) of Enjoy Sex (How, when and IF you want to). You can find his podcast and educational zines co-created with Meg-John Barker at https://megjohnandjustin.com/ Find out about their training courses and resources at https://bishtraining.com/ and find their sex education website for everyone over 14 at https://www.bishuk.com/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/genderstories)

In this podcast we decided to unpack romance… and kind of put it back together in a different form. By the end of the podcast we realised we’d followed a similar line to the line we follow with sex in our book Enjoy Sex (How, When and IF You Want To).

In GBA 308, we get better acquainted with Meg-John and Justin. They talk about how they came to be sex and relationship educators, approaching sex, relationships and sexuality in an inclusive and non judgmental way, avoiding thinking in binaries and lots more. With references that include Terry Pratchett, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Professional Cycling and Homer Simpson as well as a whole range of academics, activists and theorists, it's a fun and informative conversation. MJ and Justin plug: Enjoy Sex (How, when and if you want to): a practical and inclusive guide: https://www.waterstones.com/book/enjoy-sex-how-when-and-if-you-want-to/meg-john-barker/justin-hancock/9781785780806 Their podcast and other collaborations: http://megjohnandjustin.com/ https://twitter.com/megjohnjustin https://www.facebook.com/megjohnjustin Bish UK: http://www.bishuk.com/ Rewriting the rules . com: http://rewriting-the-rules.com/ How to Understand Your Gender: http://www.jkp.com/uk/how-to-understand-your-gender-2.html I plug: Smut Slam: Sex Education on Wednesday Sept 13th: https://www.facebook.com/events/827737554066972/ What About the Men? Mansplaining Masculinity: https://soundcloud.com/standuptragedy/sut-presents-what-about-the-men-mansplaining-maculinity http://mansplainingmasculinity.co.uk/ The Family Tree: http://thefamilytreepodcast.co.uk/ We mention: Petra Boynton: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/authors/dr-petra-boynton/ Carluccios: https://www.carluccios.com/ Open Barbers: http://openbarbers.co.uk/ Barber Streisand: https://barberstreisand.com/ Roz Gill: https://www.city.ac.uk/people/academics/rosalind-gill Laura Harvey: http://brighton.academia.edu/LauraHarvey Open University: http://www.open.ac.uk/ Simone de Beauvoir: https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simone_de_Beauvoir PUA: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seduction_community Neil Strauss: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neil_Strauss bell hooks: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bell_hooks Toxic Masculinity: http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/Toxic_masculinity Young Masculinities: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Young-Masculinities-Understanding-Contemporary-Society/dp/0333779231 Hegemonic masculinities: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hegemonic_masculinity Homer Simpson: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homer_Simpson Charles Bukowski: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Bukowski This Is Why We Can't Have Nice Things: https://mitpress.mit.edu/books/why-we-cant-have-nice-things Revenge of the Nerds: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Revenge_of_the_Nerds Intersectionality: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intersectionality Kimberle Crenshaw: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kimberle_Crenshaw Patricia Hill Collins: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patricia_Hill_Collins Rewriting The Rules:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Rewriting-Rules-Meg-Barker/dp/041551763X Terry Pratchett: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Terry_Pratchett Relationship Anarchy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relationship_anarchy Dan Savage: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dan_Savage Joss Whedon: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joss_Whedon Joss Whedon Is a ‘Hypocrite Preaching Feminist Ideals,’ Ex-Wife Kai Cole Says (Guest Blog) http://www.thewrap.com/joss-whedon-feminist-hypocrite-infidelity-affairs-ex-wife-kai-cole-says/ Buffy the Vampire Slayer: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buffy_the_Vampire_Slayer Gaslighting: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting Complex PTSD: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Complex_post-traumatic_stress_disorder Petar Sagan: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_Sagan Superstar: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Superstar_(Buffy_the_Vampire_Slayer) Jonathan Levinson: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jonathan_Levinson Laverne Cox: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laverne_Cox The Eels: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eels_(band) Help more people get better acquainted. If you like what you hear why not write an iTunes review? Follow @GBApodcast on Twitter. Like Getting Better Acquainted on facebook. Tell your friends. Spread the word!

How to deal with a discrepancy in desire in a long-term relationship? We have tons of advice in this podcast for you. If you like this, you'll LOVE our book Enjoy Sex (How, When and IF You Want To). megjohnandjustin.com/publications

Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here.  Today we are continuing our discussion about non-monogamy.  Joining me again to explore this is Dr Meg-John Barker is a writer, therapist, and activist-academic specialising in sex, gender and relationships. Meg-John is a senior lecturer in psychology at the Open University and a UKCP accredited psychotherapist, and has over a decade of experience researching and publishing on these topics including the popular books Rewriting the Rules, The Secrets of Enduring Love and Queer: A Graphic History. Website: www.rewriting-the-rules.com. Twitter: @megjohnbarker. Welcome to the show. Today I would love to focus on the practicalities involved in non-monogamy. Let’s start with how you know if non-monogamy is for you?  Meg-John spoke about reading about different types of non-monogamy in Tristan Tamorino’s book Opening Up , reading the classic book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, The Ethical Slut and reading Frankline Veaux and Tatiana Gill’s More than Two. We spoke about taking things slowly and examining your needs and looking at what feels like it will suit your style. Meg-John highlighted the fact that you may not know how things will work for you until you actually try things but we both agreed that the more thought you put into your needs and limits and the more you explored before jumping into a relationship, the more likely you will make a better relationship choice. Meg-John identified metacommunication (talking about the way in which you communicate including what information is shared with your partner) is a skill that is particularly helpful when talking with potential lovers or partners.  We both identified high level communication skills, conflict management skills and assertiveness as essential life skills as well. Meg-John said that some people they know have taken to using a shared google doc to design their relationship including talking about expectations, limits, desires, form of non-monogamy, the way time is spent and even the relationship patterns that you have identified that might not be the best. Meg-John suggested that rather than doing what one does when dating which is present all the shiny pretty things and sometimes pretend there are no more murky parts to the self, in this situation, one is presenting the murky parts up front as part of the whole. We spoke about jealousy and about learning to experience the feeling fully and then sit with it, reflecting to understand where it is coming from and gain insight. Once that insight is gained, perhaps speaking to the person about the jealousy but not in a way that looks for the person to change their behaviour. Meg-John did make the point that just because someone is polyamorous does not mean that they are perfect or nice and that sometimes people act like jerks and then jealousy might be a very appropriate response. We finished up by speaking about how you can go about meeting other polyamorous people. We spoke about using Meetup to find groups, locating groups on Facebook, and that in urban areas people can even look for groups that cover some of their intersectionalities. We noted that in some poly groups a certain type of person can be overwhelmed by requests for dates while other people can find themselves feeling rejected as they might be ignored. We also highlighted that there can be pressure in more sex-positive groups to be poly or non-monogamous as well and that learning assertiveness is also an essential skill to manage these areas. Dr Meg-John Barker’s books mentioned on the program: Enjoy Sex (How, when and if you want to) (with Justin Hancock) Free Zines Twitter @megjohnbarker Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/megjohnbarkerwriter Website: Rewriting the Rules  Thanks for joining me this week for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.  Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter @drbisbey.  For a free 30 minute strategy session with me, go to www.the-intimacy-coach.com and click the button that says Schedule Now!  I look forward to seeing you next week.