Podcasts about The Ethical Slut

Part two of Belonging + Ethical Non-Monogamy picks back up with game designer and ENM practitioner Ian Riutta. Dr. Mona and Ian expand on their initial conversation to cover topics such as misconceptions about ethical non-monogamy, family dynamics in ENM relationships, and resources like books for those wanting to discover more. Tune in now and explore: - Misconceptions about ENM, including that ENM is all about sex - Acknowledging and meeting needs in ENM relationships - The potential for toxicity in relationships that incorporate concepts like veto powers, couples privilege, and unicorn hunters - Family dynamics in ethically non-monogamous relationships, including coparenting and teaching kids about ENM - The difference between ENM practitioners and ‘swingers' - Books like “The Ethical Slut” that lay out ENM structures for those seeking more information Learn more about the Belonging Reimagined Podcast: www.drmonanour.com/podcast Connect with Dr. Mona Nour: www.drmonanour.com

The Novel: The Perfect Gift: a Christmas Cuckold NovellaThe Author: Clio EvansThe Guest: Alexis, of Have Curves Will TravelThe Synopsis:What happens when you get snowed in with two hot lumberjacks and your husband?Rosie is a pro bono lawyer on a holiday vacation with her uptight, neurosurgeon husband of eight years. Greg has promised a week-long getaway in a remote lake-side cabin where they can escape their high-pressure jobs and explore their fantasies...The only problem is—it's been three days, and Greg has yet to even kiss Rosie.When a snowstorm hits Christmas Eve, two lumberjacks show up on their doorstep in need of refuge from the cold. Hawk and Ashton are two rugged, hot-blooded mountain men in need of something—or someone—to defrost their icy hearts.Rosie knows it's wrong, but she can't resist the temptation. Besides, it's Christmas Eve, and she deserves the perfect gift…Show Notes:- The 7th annual 12 Days of Boobsmas- A last-minute book switcheroo- Parallel reading (00:04:15)- Introducing today's book pick, The Perfect Gift (00:08:02)- Baseball monster pirates anyone?- A brief synopsis for The Perfect Gift (00:10:55)- Before, during, and after care- The technological advancement every romance reader needs- The... "three for one" scene (00:22:23)- Don't worry, there's plenty of lube- Switch/submissive men in romance- Supplemental Reading suggestions (00:29:15)- The 6th Day of Boobsmas jingle courtesy of Cooper BaldwinSupplemental Reading/Watching/Listening Suggestions:- Kelly's picks: The Jacksonville Rays series by Emily Rath (why choose hockey romance), Axes and O's (married lumberjacks + a third) and Trick Shot by Kayla Grosse- Alexis' picks: Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Philip Miller, The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie EastonOther News:December 1st marks the start of The 12 Days of Boobsmas. Tune in for new podcast episodes, new giveaways, and more holiday romance recommendations, all month long!Purchase my Holidays in L.A. series: Meet Me in Los Feliz and Venice Actually, and Santa Monica BabyLinks: Follow Boobies & Noobies on Twitter, Instagram, & Facebook @boobiespodcast, on TikTok @realkellyrey, and check out our blog, merch, and more on our brand new Boobies & Noobies website. 

Even if you've been following my work for a while, you're not going to believe how bad the state of affairs has gotten when it comes to postgraduate education in counseling psychology — until you hear from today's guest. Ryan Rogers, a student currently pursuing a masters degree in the hopes of becoming a therapist, joins me to discuss the troubling trends he's observed in mental health education. Ryan shares his personal journey, including his background in addiction and the motivation behind his pursuit of a counseling career. We delve into the alarming shift in graduate programs, where political activism often takes precedence over the core principles of therapy.Ryan highlights his experiences in classes that prioritize critical theory over practical skills, leaving students ill-equipped to address the real needs of their clients. We explore the implications of this shift, particularly in relation to suicide prevention, addiction treatment, and the importance of cultural competency. Ryan raises critical questions about the role of therapists: should they be activists for so-called social justice, or should they focus on helping individuals navigate their personal struggles?Throughout our conversation, we examine the consequences of substituting genuine therapeutic training with ideological indoctrination. As we unpack these issues, we aim to shed light on the future of counseling psychology and the urgent need for a return to a client-centered approach that prioritizes healing over activism.Ryan Rogers is a graduate student in clinical mental health counseling. He has a bachelor's degree in psychology and work history in addiction treatment. Twitter/X: @RyanMcRogers Upcoming book:  The Woke Mind: The Twisted Psychology of the Social Justice Movement (Social Justice Fanaticism Book 6) - Kindle edition by Rogers, RyanView my complete list of book recommendations, including those written by authors who have been guests on this show, at https://sometherapist.com/bookshop.As an Amazon affiliate, I earn a small commission from qualifying purchases made through affiliate links from my show notes or website. Thank you for purchases that support the show! 00:00 Start[00:02:30] Counseling program concerns and indoctrination.[00:04:18] Activism in therapy training.[00:08:22] Cultural competency in therapy.[00:10:37] American perfectionism vs. Mexican culture.[00:17:12] Counseling grad programs' effectiveness.[00:18:22] Teaching quality in psychology classes.[00:24:01] ROGD Repair for parents.[00:27:16] Common humanity versus identity markers.[00:31:06] Wokeness in academic environments.[00:34:12] Lack of experienced educators.[00:38:58] Counseling theories in academia.[00:42:46] Counseling versus Social Justice Advocacy.[00:45:04] Self-beliefs and mental health.[00:51:06] Antinatalist views and human nature.[00:52:57] Normlessness in society and therapy.[00:58:00] The Ethical Slut in Counseling.[01:00:45] Attachment theory and relationships.[01:04:44] Therapy and its societal perceptions.[01:09:03] Intersectionality and Religion Evaluation.[01:12:24] Pride in Professional Experience.[01:16:20] Hate and envy in activism.[01:20:54] The downfall of counseling profession.[01:24:51] Therapy and political discontent.[01:29:56] Transition in kids.[01:30:41] Limits of gender dysphoria treatment.[01:34:13] Tribalism and cultural biases.[01:38:48] Understanding social justice radicalism.ROGD REPAIR Course + Community for Parents is available now! 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Is comedian Allen Strickland Williams nonmonogamous or emotionally evasive? We talked about the difference between ethical nonmonogamy and simple sluttery on our most bro-y episode in some time! There's nothing wrong with being an LA fuckboy. So long as we're not false advertising. Mentioned: October 24 - The Naked Comedy Show @ Hacienda https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-naked-comedy-show-best-stand-up-comedy-without-pants-in-bushwick-tickets-1032030820967 Share your thoughts on this week's show in The Champagne Room at http://manwhorepod.com/discord! Get the latest edition of The Ethical Slut at http://bookshop.org/shop/billy! Follow Allen Strickland Williams! Album: Ran Through Twitter: @totallyallen Instagram: @allenstricklandwilliams TikTok: @totallyallen www.allenstricklandwilliams.com Follow Billy! Instagram: @thebillyprocida TikTok: @TheBillyProcida Instagram: @billyisprocida 0nlyFans: @callmebilly Money Stuff Venmo: @BillyProcida Cash App: $manwhorepod PayPal/Zelle: funnybillypro@gmail.com Do your affordable book shopping at http://bookshop.org/shop/billy! Enjoy ad-free episodes at https://www.patreon.com/manwhorepodcast! Email your comments, questions, and criticisms to manwhorepod@gmail.com. Late Night Radio by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ www.ManwhorePod.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pinky lives life with a whole lot of zest and enthusiasm! And, as she describes it, sometimes a bit impatiently. Although, we might argue that her impatience could be attributed to some built up excitement! I tried writing more about Pinky but her bio over on her website at 3shadesofgrey.com captured it much better than I was able to: I was born and raised into a religious, and conservative family. Women were taught to not be heard or to put their needs and wants first. As I grew, I found myself in relationships with people who had similar beliefs to my family. I was in a nearly two decade relationship, with a man who had no interest in sex, my sexuality or my desires. I was made to feel guilty when I expressed my sexual desires. Outside of the bedroom, however, we built a solid family together. I stayed for my children, and then I decided, I needed to leave for myself. It was during this relationship that I first read the Ethical Slut, and it opened my eyes to what relationships could be. My ex and I attempted to have an open relationship, but that was very short lived. It wasn't until I met my husband Anthony that I learned more, and realized this was something I wanted to explore further. That's when I decided to do some research and further educate myself. I became more and more intrigued by the freedom and the voice that was give to women in the non- monogamous world. The education and conversations that my now husband and I had, built a strong foundation for a successful relationship. During our journey, we talked about things that most couples never even discuss, and we spoke about them open and honestly. Anthony and I now have an open marriage. I prefer polyamorous relationships, and some situational swinging. Truly I thrive the best on one on one engagement with open and like minded people who are willing to walk the road less traveled. As a sapiosexual I connect best on an intellectual level first, building a strong relationship, and then engaging physically. Earlier this year Pinky started a new podcast with her husband Anthony and metamour Ava. On the Three Shades of Grey podcast they talk about the ups and downs of exploring non-monogamy in three very different ways and how the three of them make it work together. Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Jody has been reading the Ethical Slut. The interesting part of her reading this at the midpoint of her journey instead of at the beginning is that it feels like she's learned a lot of these lessons mentioned through experience. 

Jody has been reading the Ethical Slut. The interesting part of her reading this at the midpoint of her journey instead of at the beginning is that it feels like she's learned a lot of these lessons mentioned through experience. 

Hoje é dia de episódio sobre um tema muito pedido! Depois de literalmente anos pensando na melhor forma de abordar a não monogamia no podcast (um tema que sempre esteve presente em todo o conteúdo, mas que nunca recebeu episódio exclusivo), a Ada decidiu começar do zero, como já fizemos com o BDSM, e gravar um episódio com definições, termos e questões iniciais. Assim, a gente tem uma base pra futuros episódios com convidades e para aprofundar diversos desses pontos e reflexões. Ela fala sobre o que é e o que não é não monogamia, diferentes vertentes e formas de enxergar a questão, termos e problematizações, erros comuns de quem tá começando, pontos positivos, sugestão de materiais e fontes e muito mais. Esperamos que vocês gostem e, que apesar de não ter muita novidade para quem já está familiarizado com a não monogamia, seja um episódio útil para quem ainda está entrando em contato e se entendendo nesse mundo.   É claro que não deu pra falar de tudo que a Ada gostaria em menos de 2 horas de conteúdo e que foi necessário fazer escolhas e abordar algumas questões de forma menos aprofundada, mas você está mais que convidade a deixar seu feedback, sugestão ou pergunta para um próximo episódio (dessa vez com convidades!) nos comentários do Spotify, do YouTube ou da vitrine do Insta! Apoie o Chicotadas! https://apoia.se/chicotadas   Minutagens: 36s Introdução do episódio: por que esse tema só veio agora? 10m12s Definição da monogamia e da não monogamia 18m30s Relação aberta (citado: @memesamorlivre, entidade casal/privilégio de casal) 22m58s Diferentes formas de ver/viver a NM: poliamor hierárquico/não hierárquico, solo poly, anarquia relacional, não monogamia política (citado: poligamia, escada rolante relacional, @naomonoemfoco) Texto: https://naomonoemfoco.com.br/breve-manifesto-para-a-anarquia-relacional/   31m20s Pequeno Glossário de termos comuns e questões problematizadas: polícula/polécula, rede (de afetos), compersão, metamor, poliamor "de mesa de cozinha" (kitchen table), poliamor paralelo, Don't Ask Don't Tell (DADT), escada rolante relacional, relação primária, secundária, nesting partner (ninho), anchor partner (âncora), comunidade aroace (arromanticidade/assexualidade), amatonormatividade, atração/relação queerplatônica, energia de nova relação (ENR), energia de relação estabelecidade (ERE), polisaturação, relação cometa, trisal fechado, polifidelidade, unicórnios e caça de unicórnios, poder de veto, entidade casal, política do pênis único (OPP) 47m E o BDSM? Como entra aqui? Por que faz sentido ser não mono e fetichista? Só tem NM no BD? 54m45s Recado do https://apoia.se/chicotadas 56m45s Erros comuns de quem está começando 1h01m45s Responsabilidade afetiva, letramento, opressões e privilégios 1h09m32s Pontos positivos da NM (citado: desescalar)   1h21m20s Fontes LIVROS: Tudo sobre o amor, Bell Hooks Ética do amor livre (The Ethical Slut), Janet W Hardy e Dossie Easton O Desafio Poliamoroso, Brigitte Vassalo Descolonizando Afetos, Geni Núñez Negritude e não monogamia, Rhuann Fernandes Não monogamia: trânsitos entre raça, gênero e sexualidade, Andreone Medrado e Rhuann Fernandes Nas trincheiras por novos mundos: Caminhos para a Não Monogamia Política, Não Mono em Foco PODCASTS: Eta Porra @etaporra.pod NMPod @naomonoemfoco, ep 22 sobre BDSM Imposturas Filosóficas, @razaoinadequada RC Não Mono, @rcnaomono Ramboia com Moderação, @ramboiacommoderacao   PERFIS (consulte sites, blogs, livros etc.) @eta.nega @etaporra.pod @_laurampires @genipapos   @rcnaomono @afetonm @compersao_ @ramboiacommoderacao   @naomonoemfoco @rhuannfernandes @andreone.medrado @afetosinsurgentes @razaoinadequada   @pessoasnaomono @luicastanho @lui_knk @marisadantas @mariliamoscou @jamilesalima @memesamorlivre @chamegamos @relacionadengo   1h21m20s Despedida e aftercare https://linktr.ee/chicotadas

This week involves understanding polyamory which involves distinguishing it from open relationships, which focus on physical exploration, while polyamory emphasizes forming emotional bonds with multiple partners. Core principles include consent, communication, non-exclusivity, compersion, individual autonomy, customization, and emotional honesty, with relationship structures ranging from hierarchical to non-hierarchical, solo, parallel, and kitchen table polyamory. Exploring the intersection of polyamory and BDSM reveals how they complement each other, with individuals navigating dynamics with multiple partners. While challenges like jealousy and societal stigma exist, embracing ethical principles fosters healthier relationships. Navigating New Relationship Energy (NRE) is crucial, and The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy is recommended reading for further insights. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/chattingwiththelightkeepr/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/chattingwiththelightkeepr/support

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit wisdomofcrowds.liveA recently-published memoir making headlines suggests a trend: Polyamory is going mainstream among high-status Americans. Culture critic and environmental studies professor Tyler Austin Harper joins Christine and Shadi to make sense of this fad, and explain why it's both an upper-class luxury and a raw deal. Along the way they discuss happiness, self-expression, race, love, self-immolation, parenting, and a better way to live. Required Reading:* Tyler Austin Harper, “Polyamory, the Ruling Class's Latest Fad.”* Tyler Austin Harper, “I'm a Black Professor. You Don't Need to Bring That Up.”* Tyler Austin Harper, “The 100-Year Extinction Panic Is Back, Right on Schedule.”* Molly Roden Winter, More: A Memoir of Open Marriage.* Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton, The Ethical Slut.* Philip Rieff, The Triumph of the Therapeutic: Uses of Faith after Freud.* Christine Emba, Rethinking Sex: A Provocation.

Hour 2 of A&G features... The death of Navalny... Who was a our greatest president... Illegal immigrants have a new drop off point in California... Polyamory--is it the next big thing? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hour 2 of A&G features... The death of Navalny... Who was a our greatest president... Illegal immigrants have a new drop off point in California... Polyamory--is it the next big thing? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hour 2 of A&G features... The death of Navalny... Who was a our greatest president... Illegal immigrants have a new drop off point in California... Polyamory--is it the next big thing?  Stupid Should Hurt: https://www.armstrongandgetty.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Liv Brunet est peut-être la personne célibataire la plus heureuse et sereine que j'ai rencontrée, une source d'inspiration. Liv est une fille, il en a eu la révélation/confirmation le 26 mai 2023 précisément (détails : https://youtu.be/AgVvuRF5lEU?si=BwIvREAYeVSLyi_5). C'est une personne qui m'a aidée à pousser ma réflexion sur certains sujets et à acquérir des réflexes qui m'aident au quotidien, notamment en tant qu'aidante. Dans cet épisode, pour la première fois au micro, j'évoque ma réaction lors de la rupture avec mon compagnon, après 13 ans, il y a 8 ans déjà, un siècle ! Qui était là pour m'aider à traverser cette épreuve et à me relever ? (Merci à elles et eux) Comment Liv a vécu ses propres ruptures, dont la dernière. Où va l'amour quand on est quitté·e ? Comme le chante si bien Nach (Anna Chedid) dans "Ce qu'ils deviennent" : "Où vont les vœux, est-ce qu'ils reviennent?", que faire de tous ces projets qu'on avait à 2 ? Les adapter en projets solo/sola ? Nous évoquons aussi avec Liv comment il envisage l'amour, les rencontres, à 63 ans, est-ce que les applis de rencontres sont le bon endroit ? Pas forcément pour lui. [Il est d'accord pour être genré au masculin, j'ai demandé]. Un épisode dense, chargé en émotions, parfois philosophique, j'espère que ça vous parlera :) Bonne écoute !Précision : la voix de Liv est encore un peu voilée car il avait été malade quelques jours auparavant. Merci de votre compréhension.Prochain épisode le 17 janvier, passion Francophonie, enfin une personne née au Québec ! Je suis joie ! Si vous voulez soutenir Single Jungle, avec un don en une seule fois, j'ai ouvert un Tipeee : https://fr.tipeee.com/single-jungle. J'ai suivi le conseil d'auditrices et d'auditeurs qui ont proposé de participer à la hauteur de leurs moyens, ponctuellement, aux frais des épisodes (prise de son/montage). Merci aux premières personnes qui ont participé ! Retrouvez Liv Brunet : https://linktr.ee/livbrunet?fbclid=IwAR0h2sPnCZJ6PralmSAx7DJT4C9e0lw-vusbfr26Xcqo2-Xj_dFeK9wLNUAsur les réseaux sociaux :Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/livbrunet/ et https://www.instagram.com/lereveilendouce/Tik Tok : https://www.tiktok.com/@liv_brunet/Youtube : https://www.youtube.com/@LivBrunetFacebook : https://www.facebook.com/LivBrunet et https://www.facebook.com/olivier.l.brunetSur son site : https://liv-brunet.com/la-conversation/ Références citées dans l'épisode ou en bonus (à suivre) Le podcast de Liv Brunet : "Le réveil en douce" : https://lereveilendouce.lepodcast.fr/ Musique Les créations de Liv et son groupe, ou en solo https://liv-brunet.com/musicien/ Nach (Anna Chedid) "Ce qu'ils deviennent" https://youtu.be/Dd_2s1kLRdU?si=Iw8LbvRvis7EyP_X et globalement tout ce que fait Nach, hâte de la revoir en concert ! https://www.deezer.com/fr/artist/74397 https://open.spotify.com/intl-fr/artist/1Rt8z1WIL486Ohrcokl6t0 Séries "Sex and the city" puis "And just like that..", création Darren Star, puis Michael Patrick King, avec Sarah Jessica Parker, Kristin Davis, Cynthia Nixon, Kim Cattrall, Chris Noth, John Corbett (Aidan, team Aidan forever, Big était une relation toxique) "Insecure" de Issa Rae, la citation d'Issa sur le mec "work in progress" qu'elle a eu, et "transformé" à force de patience, d'amour, de pédagogie en "produit abouti" et c'est une autre femme qui en profite désormais... Je l'ai mise en story épinglée (lien à suivre) Livres « Polyamoureuse, confidences d'une femme qui aime au pluriel » de Lucile Bellan (éditions Larousse) https://www.editions-larousse.fr/livre/polyamoureuse-9782036021747 à retrouver dans l'épisode 66 de Single Jungle https://singlejungle.lepodcast.fr/ep-point-66-lucile-bellan-polyamoureuse-ce-qui-coince-cest-que-je-prenne-du-temps-pour-moi-alors-que-je-suis-maman "La salope éthique, guide de polyamorie respectueuse pour des relations sereines" (The Ethical Slut) de Dossie Easton et Janet W. Hardy (éditions Tabou), livre recommandé par Liv Brunet, et il a plein d'autres recommandations indiquées à chaque épisode de son podcast : https://lereveilendouce.lepodcast.fr/ AVERTISSEMENT IMPORTANT : Ne jamais s'inscrire sur une application ou site de rencontres payant sans 1) lire les avis sur Google (Play store) ou Apple (App store) 2) lire les conditions tarifaires de l'abonnement. Ainsi je vous déconseille fortement le site PARSHIP, qui pratique l'extorsion : on ne peut pas résilier avant 1 an obligatoire, même si on n'utilise plus le service, qui n'est pas satisfaisant, car très peu de personnes dans votre région. Le service client n'a que mépris pour les clients et le service communication ne veut rien entendre (un comble), aucun arrangement possible. Donc évitez-vous une dépense inutile. Episode enregistré en octobre 2023, à Paris chez Isabelle, merci à elle pour son hospitalitéMontage et mixage : Isabelle FieldMusique : Générique de "Manimal", virgules sonores : Edouard JoguetLogo conçu par Lynda Mac-ConnellHébergement : Podcloud

Please join us for episode 49 of Open Deeply with the legendary, Janet Hardy. Janet is most known for the Ethical Slut, but she is a prolific writer of over a dozen groundbreaking books. In this episode, she reads from her soon to be published book, Notes of an Aging Pervert. This novel is SO kind, vulnerable and honest regarding the uncomfortable subjects of aging and facing mortality. We're all going to die, but we remain avoidant of the subject. Janet holds our hand and makes thinking about this topic way easier. Here is one excerpt from the book, ““I've come to think of my lifetime as a relatively brief vacation, and my body as resortwear — perhaps a nice sundress, or a pair of comfy shorts. Like all vacations, this one will feel like it's over much too soon.” She also discusses family, love, relationships, and of course, k1nk including several kinky memories. One of the most captivating parts of the book is when she tells the story of being present for her father's “good death” which is mystical, awe inspiring and beautiful. In addition, the paperback is filled with Janet's original raw and lovable artwork of herself and loved ones. In this interview Janet discusses the vulnerability of including nude drawings of herself and why she decided to include them. The book has a certain comfy and comforting quality to it, despite the scary topics, that makes one want to grab a blanket and some hot cocoa and curl up while reading it. It's a love gift. It's a book that helped me sit in reverence for this iconic human that has blazed a trail for so many, including me, so that in turn, our own path might not be so hard. We hope you join us for this captivating episode as we discuss this amazing book. Janet's bio: Janet W. Hardy is the author or coauthor of more than a dozen groundbreaking books about relationships and sexuality, including The Ethical Slut, which has sold more than 300,000 copies to date. She spent the first three decades of her life believing that she was the only person in the world who got turned on by thinking about spanking. She wrote her first book, The Sexually Dominant Woman, to help create a world in which nobody else would ever be that clueless. Janet has traveled the world as a speaker and teacher on topics ranging from ethical multipartner relationships to erotic spanking and beyond. She has appeared in documentary films, television shows, and more podcasts and radio shows than she can count. She has narrated audio versions of many of her books, and looks forward to doing more. Janet spent a quarter century as editor-in-chief of Greenery Press, the firm she founded in 1992, which went on to publish dozens of books about alternative sexuality and relationships. While she has retired from being a publisher, she goes on writing, drawing, editing and educating about sexuality. Janet lives the life of a kinky poly queer genderbent geezer in Eugene, Oregon, with her spouse and a whole lot of pets. How to find Janet: Website: https://janetwhardyauthor.com/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/jhardyauthor X/Twitter janetwhardy IG: http://instagram.com/janetwhardy How to find Sunny Megatron: Website: http://sunnymegatron.com Facebook http://facebook.com/sunnymegatron Twitter http://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Instagram http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron YouTube https://www.youtube.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/2HroMhWJnyZbMSsOBKwBnk How to find Kate Loree: Website http://kateloree.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@opendeeplywithkateloree Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kateloreelmft Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft YouTube https://youtube.com/channel/UCSTFAqGYKW3sIUa0tKivbqQ Open Deeply podcast is not therapy or a replacement for therapy.

In honor of Spooky Season, October's theme is GHOSTING and today Chino shares a wild *in person* ghost story & guest Nick Norcia weighs in. Plus! Nick and Rory discuss bad dates, learning to release shame, Nick's three date rule, avoidant attachments and soooo much more. To follow Nick on IG click HERE or Tiktok click HERE. To follow Chino click HERE. If you're interested in reading the books mentioned you can click on either: The Velvet Rage or The Ethical Slut. For Giveaways, sign up for the mailing list here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/ For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on INSTAGRAM click @icouldbeblonder and on TIKTOK @roryuphold  To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/ Got a Question? Wanna submit a story? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTok Opening Jingle credit: Harry Foster Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Guest: Janet Hardy (author, publisher, educator, awesome human) Janet Hardy, author of epic works including The Ethical Slut, The New Topping Book, and Radical Exstacy, joins Auntie Vice to chat about her new memoir Notes From an Aging Pervert. In this memoir, Janet reflects on her life as a genderqueer, BDSM and polyamous pioneer. She gives readers insight into her aging process and her new phase of life. We cover everything from being released from our meat suits (dying), to riding the sex train to the end of the line, to the joys of not having to worry constantly about money. Books by Janet Hardy Notes from an Aging Pervert The New Topping Book The New Bottoming Book The Ethical Slut Radical Estacy ----more---- Other References in this episode Patrick Califia, Macho Sluts. Jay Weissman, SM101. Midori, The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage ----more----

Lauren and Lars have been together for about 20 years and decided to open their marriage about five years ago. They initially opened slowly at a pace they both felt safe with. They used their weekly date nights to read and study The Ethical Slut and they got super intentional about their relationship and getting connected before they dove in. And then... Dive right in, they did!   Lauren and Lars are pretty active in the swinging lifestyle and also blur the lines a bit between friends and more. One of the things we love about our conversation is how they embrace the power of human connection, regardless of labels. We also have some beautiful conversations about what the early days of opening up looked like for them when they weren't exactly sure what they were wanting, or what was even available.   Bringing it around full circle, Lauren is now a lifestyle coach who works with people of all orientations who are interested in the lifestyle and consensual non-monogamy. She's a trained co-active coach and has completed Gottman Level 1 Training, as well. Please check out her website to learn more!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

My Hero Academia, Squirting, and the Aristocats.I'm sexcited for you all to meet my impressively slutty Argentinian friend/partner.   We chat about her group sex experiences, slut safety tips, and she tries to guess a handful of bizarre Urban Dictionary terms.  If you enjoy nipple zapping, you're in for a treat.Support the show, or the invisible woman will get you.patreon.com/sexieshowCashApp: $SexieShow

Summary:   In today's After Dark episode, Diane is joined by Ben and Dedra Hartman, founders of the supplement company Morphogen Nutrition. Although this episode has nothing to do with health and fitness, Ben and Dedra are in the open relationship and non-monogamy lifestyle. They delve deeper into the topic and discuss what the lifestyle looks like for them, how their relationship evolved into what it is today, the challenges they've faced, and how (or if) it impacted their business.    Key Takeaways:   02:42 - Meet Ben and Dedra Hartman 03:20 - How their non-monogamous lifestyle began 11:44 - Addressing potential issues that may come up 12:51 - How to discuss the “swinger” lifestyle with friends and family 14:14 - Ben and Dedra share their personal experiences with their first shared hookup 17:41 - How their relationship has evolved since their first experience together 19:51 - Having casual solo experiences when only one person finds half of the opposite couple attractive 20:23 - How to create personal boundaries and say “no” 22:54 - Becoming a throuple and the lessons that came of it  26:36 - At what point do you decide to add another person into your relationship? 28:58 - Managing the jealousy and what that looks like 35:32 - Compersion & sexual intimacy 38:03 - What is the “pretty woman rule”? 40:34 - Addressing the sentiment “you're asking for your spouse to cheat on you” 45:35 - How being with other people has impacted Ben and Dedra's sex life 46:56 - Navigating life after sharing their sexuality publicly 52:47 - Extremely helpful advice for new couples who want to enter the swinger lifestyle 1:01:09 - Remember this if you're bringing in a single person into the picture  1:01:53 - Suggested resources for people interested in the swinger lifestyle     Connect with Ben & Dedra:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fitdeeds/ , https://www.instagram.com/morphogen_ben/ , https://www.instagram.com/morphogen_nutrition/  Website: https://www.morphogennutrition.com/      Resources Mentioned:   Sex with Emily Podcast: https://sexwithemily.com/listen/  John Romaniello: https://www.instagram.com/johnromaniello/  Plush: https://plushparties.com/  Rachel Wright (psychotherapist): https://rachelwrightnyc.com/  The Ethical Slut: https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379  Feeld App: https://feeld.co/  Swing Lifestyle App (SLS): https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sls-official-swinger-community/id1449170265  Connect with Diane:   GET ON MY E-MAIL NEWSLETTER HERE Instagram: dianeflores_IFBB_Pro YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dianeflores_ifbb_pro  Ask me anything! E-mail: diane@venusfitnessstudio.com      Work with Diane:   Apply to be on our Competition Team HERE Check out the New Client Offer at Venus  The Goddess Body Project 12 week program Ditch Deprivation 12 week Diet Coaching Program Join the Sensual Dance Movement and feel confident in your skin Get your FREE backstage packing list for competition here     Fuel Your Body with the Goods:   Try Meal Prep Delivery with FitKitchen Code: Diane10  Try this Energy Shot from Magic Mind - Code: BBRadio Visit Titan Nutrition for the exclusive offer for BossBitch listeners *Promo code BossBitch at check out Visit HiYo for 20% off non-alcoholic beverages HERE  Fave Boss Bitch Protein Bars - Built Bars *Use Promo Code: “Diane” at check out  

Ihre Bibel heißt "The Ethical Slut" die ethische Schlampe, und damit sind jene Menschen gemeint, die Liebesbeziehungen zu mehr als einem Partner pflegen - im gegenseitigen Einverständnis. Ende der 90er-Jahre schwappte die polyamore Welle von den USA nach Europa. Von Tania Försterwww.deutschlandfunkkultur.de, FreistilDirekter Link zur Audiodatei

For the 122nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Allison Moon, sex educator and author of "Girl Sex 101" and "Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex." In this "Quickie" episode, Allison shares tips for dating and sleeping around without being a (non-gendered) dick about it. This is your non-shady guide to sexual sex and stepping into your ethical slut era while keeping everything above board with your various partners. For more from today's guest, Allison Moon: Order Getting It from Bookshop.org Check out Allison's website alliedmoon.com Connect with Allison on Instagram @allison_moon Psst, Courtney has an OnlyFans, which is a horny way to support the show: onlyfans.com/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Switch to the better razor and show your skin you care with Athena Club! Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Subscribe to the Private Parts Unknown YouTube channel to watch full-length video episodes and clips from the show. youtube.com/privatepartsunknown Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let's be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I talk about polyamory as an umbrella term— reframing poly on a huge continuum to many constructs with partner(s). I also explore how poly can help us learn about our relationship attachment, break down cis-heteronormativity & explore what we genuinely need in our loving relationships. Recommended books - Polysecure by Jessica Fern, The Ethical Slut by Easton & Hardy, Opening up by Tristan Taramino

On today's episode we're covering: - An intro to ENM Australia, James' new venture - Our experience in dating people "much" (such a relative term!) younger or older than us - What really defines an "open" relationship Links to what we mention in the podcast: Sav & Mark on TikTok: @savandmark https://www.tiktok.com/@savandmark?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc BS with Em on TikTok: @bswithem https://www.tiktok.com/@bswithem ENM Australia on Instagram: @enm.australia https://www.instagram.com/enm.australia/ Books for those interested in learning about non-traditional relationship structures (in the order James mentions): The Ethical Slut, by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, by Christopher Ryan The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel Polysecure, by Jessica Fern More than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory, by Franklin Veaux

While the sexual liberation movement of the 60's and 70's told us that we can express ourselves how we want and have sex when we want, regardless of society's opinion, the reality is that 50+ years later, that is still really difficult for many women. We still have experiences where we are shamed for our sexual desires, we often feel disconnected from our bodies and erotic self, and have plenty of situations where we're having un-pleasurable sexual experiences. But it doesn't have to be this way! In this episode we share a Sexual Liberation roadmap so that you can reclaim and stand fully in your magnificent sexual power.*Curious about how to liberate your inner witch and experience more pleasure, turn on and a deeper connection to life? Check out these selected links from the podcast!14 Qualities of a Sexually Liberated Woman by Ev'Yan Whitney https://www.evyanwhitney.com/blog/the-sexually-liberated-woman Recommended Books: Pussy by Mama Gena & Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy and Dossie EastonRadical Sex Witch Merch https://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/theradicalsexwitchesSex Love & Relationship Coaching with CarlaSex, Love & Relationship Coaching for Women and CouplesBody of the Goddess Group Program**Book Your Free 45 minute Discovery Call with CarlaTarot Readings with Little LeahDo they love me? Will I get that promotion? What should I do next? Get answers by booking a Tarot reading with Little Leah! Get info & availability by emailing Leah at deathmothtarot@gmail.com.Have a question or comment about this episode or anything else - let us know by connecting with us on Social:The Radical Sex Witches on Instagram @theradicalsexwitchesConnect with Carla and Little Leah on Instagram: @carlawainwright @little_leah78Connect with Carla on FacebookEmail us! radicalsexwitches@gmail.com

My supercharged guest Kaamna Bhojwani helps people explore and express their sexuality by connecting more deeply with their inner selves. Are you ready for a shake-up of your relationship with your body (and hopefully your partner too)? Tune in to this chat where we explore South Asian attitudes toward sex, how to speak to your kids about it, and so much more!Listen now on your favorite podcast app, Spotify or iTunes and please take a second to rate us wherever you're listening so the voices of these inspiring women can be heard all over the world!SHOWNOTES FOR EPISODE 81:Learn more and support Kaamna's work on her websiteFollow Kaamna on instagram and YouTubeBooks we discussed:The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love (Revised)Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman ArchetypeSex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay ManQuestions? Comments? Get in touch @theindianeditpodcast on Instagram !Special thanks to Sudipta Biswas and the team @ Boon Castle / Flying Carpet Productions for audio post-production engineering!

Ashely is awesome AF.  She found kink through Christian purity culture and now has over a decade of experience in the BDSM scene. As a sex and kink educator, she's a deep well of kink experience and knowledge and she's a pro and sharing it with others. Ashely believes in continuing education and mentoring when it comes to kink, and so this episode covers several delicious topics because all the hosts take turns picking her brain. Find Ahsley on Instagram here!Interested in booking a coaching session with her? You can book with her and check out all the other cool stuff she does through her linktree here!Our vampire kink discord is poppin'! It's super sexy up in there. GET INTO IT!Click here to access the Talk Dirty To Me contact form and let us know if you have a kink story, a confession, are an advocate or an enthusiast of a kink that we should discuss, or a health or wellness professional that crosses over into the kink world, etc. Literally anything. Fill it out and submit it!Support Talk Dirty To Me and Little Renegade Films. Your contribution not only helps us improve the quality of our content but also allows us to continue to create new podcasts and film content for you! Make a one-time donation here! Or become one of our patrons here! Make sure to click the "see all 11 levels" button to see all your membership options.

Today I am talking to Lelia Gowland, a married Southern woman with a literal white picket fence, who confronted her fears and her need for anonymity to very publicly embrace her queer and polyamorous identities and discover the beauty of deep connection and authentic self expression. You will hear us talk about how the polyamory landscape has evolved over the last decade or two, and how self acceptance of your personal identities, queer, polyamorous, non monogamous, whatever they are, can affect you.  Lelia is a writer and a speaker who centers her work on authenticity. She's written for publications like Forbes, Huffington Post, and Harper Bazaar, and she speaks to organizations and individuals about leading with authenticity to create happier, more productive lives.

Welcome to this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper where the inbox is opened up, questions are asked and opinions are shared. Thank you to everyone who has asked a question and those who will be going forward. As a lover of books and bookstores, here are the books discussed in this episode and linked to the host's favorite bookstore: The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love By Janet W. Hardy, Dossie Easton The New Topping Book By Janet W. Hardy, Dossie Easton The New Bottoming Book By Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism By Philip Miller, Molly Devon SM 101: A Realistic Introduction By Jay Wiseman --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/chattingwiththelightkeepr/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/chattingwiththelightkeepr/support

Are you surrounded by huge sex parties, tantra and kink events, sex science socials and orgies - though you don't want any of it? Living in a sex-positive intentional community, Lila Donnolo (of Horizontal with Lila and IHeartRadio's Positively Sex) has 24/7 access to whatever her heart desires, but she struggles with receiving pleasure. Yet after watching her housemate's ‘sensation gangb*ng', Lila realizes that luxuriating in touch and adoration feels edgy, so she asks for help and is instructed to create a menu of sensual human appetizers, salads, entrees and desserts and to invites friends and lovers. Is it selfish to bask, and to not rush to reciprocate? #HumanSlipNSlide #Laughter #DoodlePoll    Song: ‘Dopamine' (BØrn)   About our Storyteller:   Lila Donnolo of Horizontal with Lila is an Intimacy Specialist, a Public Speaker, Writer, Actress, & Curator of Immersive events. As the daughter of an American psychologist & a Brazilian social worker, she's been a student of human relationships for about as long as she's been a human. She's had pillow talk with thousands of people (most of whom were not her lovers!), and 127 of those conversations are broadcast for the world to hear on her indie podcast horizontal with lila. She's presented her intimacy frameworks as a TED Idea Search Latin America 2021 finalist, a Business of Fashion VOICES conference speaker, and a SXSW 2022 presenter. Putting her NYU Tisch Drama (Experimental Theatre Wing) BFA to use! Positively Sex! her new podcast for iHeart Media (the #1 Podcast Network in All the Land!) began as a live interactive audio show & winner of Clubhouse's Creator First Program. As a public speaker and creator of immersive events, she hosts happenings such as horizontal storytelling pajama parties, Femme Domme Kink Tasters, connection games, hot love talks & a sensual, intimate Valentine's experience for everyone, regardless of relationship status, called 14 Rooms. Friends who met at one of these events are still dating, 5 years later!   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/B2RhHSxhrvP/ Horizontal with Lila Podcast: https://horizontalwithlila.com/ Positively Sex on IHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-positively-sex-102809649/ Episode links:   LIVE SHOW: Bawdy Storytelling is turning SIXTEEN! It's our 16th Anniversary on Saturday, February 25th, and our theme for the night is ‘HeartThrobs and DemiGods' and this Live Show happens in San Francisco - but it'll be Livestreamed to wherever you are, so that you can be there with us, too. 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Episode SummaryDossie Easton is a co-author of The Ethical Slut and four other books on sex, BDSM and relationships. As a pioneer in the world of polyamory she renders fascinating and mirthful accounts of her hard-earned wisdom on navigating the dynamics of non-traditional relationships, particularly with the ethics of “sluthood.” Dossie is also a psychotherapist in private practice and an accomplished poet. Episode #28 of the How Humans Work Podcast w/Jef Szi jumps right in, as Dossie spontaneously recounts a key psychedelic experience from 1969. Her visions in this pivotal “trip” made clear that the path forward in life would be at least a five-year commitment to exploring her sexuality in a non-monogamous way. As an Ethical Slut for more than 50 years since, Dossie has a wealth of experience and wisdom to share. We had a wide-ranging conversation across nearly two hours, delving into an array of lessons and issues which are connected to non-monogamy and polyamory. Specifically we talk about: the role of feminism in sexual liberation - the “discovery” of the clitoris in 1973 - ethical tales in “one night stands” - the community benefits that come with a village of lovers - the importance of language in talking about sex - the the self discovery found in sex and relationships - how to work with sexual jealousy - the ethical responsibilities that come with difference in sexual experience - aspects of navigating polyamory - dealing with transgressors effectively - why sexual freedom requires an absence of sexism - active and receptive roles in sexual relationships unbound by gender and much more.This show is definitely one of most interesting and joyful conversations to date on the podcast. Dossie's deep sincerity and amazing capacity to talk about matters of sex with courage and knowledge was an afternoon to be remembered. I hope you find it as thought provoking and meaningful as I did. Enjoy the show and let me know what you think.

We are back with the second part to our epic two part episode covering the 17th Annual Frigid Fringe Festival. On Part II we sit down with seven more artist to talk about their shows and experiences in the theatre. If you loved Part I, you're going to love this even more! So don't miss out, and make sure your friends don't either!Frigid NYC presents the17th Annual Frigid Fringe FestivalFebruary 15th-March 5th@ The Kraine Theater and Under St. MarksTickets and more information can be found at firigd.nycTest produced and performed byVitan PravtchevAs You Will by Connor Mullen How to Be an Ethical Slut by Brooke McCarthy Pretty Beast by Kazu KusanoThe Gyno Kid by Claire Ayoub Eleanor's Story: An American Girl in Hitler's Germany by Ingrid Garner Blind sp.ts by Seema Shukla And be sure to follow all of our artists to stay up to date on all of their latest projects and productions:Vitan Pravtchev:linktree.com/v.i.t.a.nClaire Ayoub:claireayoub.com@claireayoubBrooke McCarthy:@howtobeanethicalslutwww.howtobeanethicalslut.comIngrid Garner:eleanorstory.com@eleanorstoryKazu Kusano:kazukusano.comlinktree.comkazukusanoSeema Shukla:dearseemashukla@gmail.comConnor Mullen:FB@asyouwillshakespeareIG @improvasyouwillwww.connordmullen.com

How to be an Ethical Slut is the award-winning solo by Brooke McCarthy. Experience the ride of your life as an unethical slut penetrates lies, STDs, triads, orgies, and love in her musical journey to becoming an Ethical Slut. Lead performer and solo daredevil - Brooke McCarthy is an actor, singer, dancer, content creator (YouTube: Bartender Brookie), playwright, and teaching artist. She holds her MFA in Acting from the University of Georgia. She's originally from NJ and currently resides in Charlotte, NC.Part solo show, part cabaret, the play covers the life of an unethical slut named Blake Valentini as she struggles between dating the socially acceptable way - monogamy - or daring to open her mind to unusual relationship pleasures and tribulations. This bold, sexy, and vulnerable story touches upon topics that are often unseen onstage such as sexual health and nonconventional relationship styles. Everyone, including Blake, may learn a thing or two about honesty and sexuality throughout this wild ride.The limited run in NYC 2023, plays February 18 - 27 at UNDER St. Marks in the East Village. How to be an Ethical Slut is directed by Robyn Accetta and has played to packed houses and won numerous awards in 2022 including the “Spirit of the Fringe” (St. Lou Fringe Festival), “Philly Fringie” Audience Choice Award (Philly Fringe), and the "Best of Fest" (Hartford Fringe Festival).Brooke McCarthy discussed what inspired her to write the show, “I wanted to share my personal journey with polyamory and all of the hard lessons it taught me about honesty, relationships, and owning our unique identities. Not only is non-monogamy not the norm in our society, but it was also something I did not talk about openly in my personal life nor is it something that appears often in a positive light on stage. I was inspired to use parts of my own life to craft a story that inspires honesty in our relationships while empowering us to embrace the unconventional ways that people may love each other. After all, love is love.” She went on to share, “Whether my audience identifies as polyamorous, monogamous, or polycurious, I hope they absorb a new perspective on life and love.Upcoming Performances of How to Be an Ethical SlutFrontera Festival in Austin, TX Jan 29, 30, Feb 4Frigid Fest NYC Feb 18-27Visit Brooke's homepage at http://www.howtobeanethicalslut.com/Follow Brooke on Instagram @howtobeanethicalslut and Tik Tok @howtobeanethicalslut

In this episode Goddess Legend brings you on journey call My Ethical SLUT Diaries part 1 She explains her views on being the other woman, open relationship, and polyamory where she believes she could have two husbands.!!! We do not own the rights to the music used in this recording! Saving All My Love for You" is a song written by Michael Masser and Gerry Goffin, originally recorded by Marilyn McCoo and Billy Davis Jr. for their album Marilyn & Billy (1978). American singer Whitney Houston recorded a cover of the song for her self-titled debut studio album (1985). It was released on August 13, 1985, by Arista Records The Journey of A Soul Sister

What is nonmonogamy? Trauma-informed relationship coach Miriam Diana will tell you what you need to know! In this episode: Miriam Diana references the nonmonogamy bible: "The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love." The authors of "The Ethical Slut" are sex educator and writer Janet W. Hardy and marriage and family therapist Dossie Easton. The very first edition of "The Ethical Slut" came out in 1994 when Dossie Easton was 50 years old; the first mass-produced edition was published in 1997 when she was 54. Miriam Diana shares her personal experiences with open relationships and monogamishamy. Shout out to Dan Savage for the term "monogamish"! At minute 28:00, Miriam Diana leads a relaxation exercise to connect your heart to your sexy parts, as well as a visualization meditation to help you feel into what type of relationship structure works best for you. Do you feel best when you're in a monogamous relationship container? Or do you feel most happy and peaceful with multiple partners and/or lovers? This practice will help you imagine what each experience would be like. Ask a question for the podcast at tinyurl.com/sensitiveslutquestions. Learn more about Miriam Diana and her coaching at facebook.com/miriamdianacoaching.

Today I am talking with Delphine Lumen. Delphine is someone who has a passion for learning about what makes happy, healthy relationships and has spent the last year or so creating social events like coffee socials, speed dating, and friending events for non monogamous folks. She creates spaces where genuine curiosity is welcome and heteronormativity, cis normativity, and mono-normativity are challenged. We talk about her story from growing up in a non-traditional household to spending seven years intentionally celibate before then starting to date and engage in polyamorous relationships. She talks about how people in polyamorous relationships deal with their jealousy and the challenges that are involved in untangling your genuine feelings from societal programming so that you can be authentically yourself in relationships.

Jealousy has been on my mind since we posted the episode on Ethical Non-Monogamy. Dozens of you came to me with the same feedback: "I could never, I'm too jealous". Today I take a closer look at the emotion we all seem to have the most shame and fear around. I talk about Ethan and Harper's relationship in White Lotus, read from the chapter on jealousy in The Ethical Slut and take some advice from Tik-Tokers on how to understand ourselves and our relationships better by learning to examine our jealousy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode we discuss: - How Rachel came to understand her sexuality - Things to consider when looking for a therapist open to non-monogamy - Navigating feelings of jealousy, fomo and fear of doing something wrong - Tips to help with how to think about non-monogamy - Books suggested are The Ethical Slut and Polysecure - Questions to Ask Yourself o In your past, have you ever felt romantic love for more than one person at the same time? o How do you define the word commitment? o What do I want in my romantic and or sexual life? Am I open to multiple romantic relationships? Am I open to multiple sexual relationships? Do I want those to overlap? If I want more than 1 partner, what degree of closeness and intimacy do I want in those relationships? o Have I ever felt the desire to explore a relationship more freely? o If you are in a romantic relationship, is your desire for other relationships coming from dissatisfaction or lack of happiness in your current relationship, or because you want the and, because you want to explore more? - The difference between being dissatisfied in a relationship and wanting to open your relationship, and wanting to open your relationship because you want more Rachel Wright Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thewright_rachel/@thewright_rachel This episode is for informational purposes only.

In her essay "Scenes from an Open Marriage" Jean Garnett asks her husband "'Which scenario endangers us more: you sleeping with other women, or you not sleeping with other woman?'” Partnership and commitment is difficult and inherently risky—so what about opening up a relationship? Today on the pod I explore ethical non-monogamy. I examine Garnett's essay as it relates to a friend, B, who has practiced ENM and then I'm joined on the phone by another friend. We discuss The Ethical Slut, love, individualism and how to connect to your desires and advocate for your own needs in a relationship. A Sony Music Entertainment, Somethin' Else, and Bitch Era Media production.   Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts   To bring your brand to life on this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever wondered what it would be like to engage in swinging? In this episode, we get a firsthand account of the lifestyle from Accidental Swingers Podcasts hosts Myrina and Tristan. While the whole concept may be taboo from some points of view, this couple of 27 years will be removing the stigma and shedding some light on their life and marriage. Even if the lifestyle is for you, Myrina and Tristan will drop some golden nuggets on overcoming performance anxiety, achieving better orgasms, and so many other interesting tips that will spice up your sex life. So jump right in, and let's explore this world of swingers, sex, and orgasms like you've never seen before!  [00:00 - 07:41] What Swinging Is Like: A Swinger's Perspective  • Let's meet the creators of the accidental swinger podcast, Myrina and Tristan. • Myrina and Tristan discuss their story of getting into swinging.  • The early challenges and doubts that arose initially, along with the excitement and fascination. • Tristan's views on jealousy and seeing his wife with other people.  • Myrina talks about how she gets gratification for knowing that Tristan pleases someone.  [07:42 - 22:05] Making it Fun, Safe, and Satisfying for Everyone Involved  • The social aspect that can come from swinging.  • Swinging vs. open relationship vs. polyamory - what are the differences?  • A look into Myrina and Tristan's polyamorous and ‘hot wife' experience.  • Brining the lifestyle into the public space. • The rules for engaging at swinger parties and building connections with others. • Tips on what to expect at different parties.  [22:06 - 30:19] Multiple Women Don't Mean Multiple Orgasms • Tristan talks about how he engages with multiple women in one night.  • How social anxiety can boil over into performance anxiety and how to deal with it. • Refocus on the woman (or man) you're with currently.  [30:20 - 43:13] Swingers Reveal How They Keep Their Marriage Strong • The importance of having vulnerability with your partner. • Swingers have "easy" communication when they can trust their partner. • Communication is key to maintaining a healthy swinging relationship. • Tristan and Myrina's instances of needing to overcome challenges with communication. • Navigating the different phases of life together.  • A quick word from our sponsor. https://mensexualityclub.com/salespage (Modern Man Club) [43:14 - 52:27] To Swing or Not to Swing: How to Know What's Right for You  • Your marriage needs to be strong first. • You don't need to go through non-monogamy alone - there is professional help to guide you.  • Specific challenges that arise in swinging and how to overcome them - start with https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-accidental-swingers-podcast/id1505232583 (The Accidental Swingers Podcast) • How reading https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379 (The Ethical Slut) can help you navigate the challenges in polyamory. [52:28 - 1:02:53] Over 50, Over Weight, Still the Best Sex Ever • Tristan talks about how he has the best sex of his life even without health-optimizing rules. • How a love for sex and your partner/s can bypass age and health and let you have good sex. • How the five senses connect to your erection. • A look at how ED medication can have adverse long-term effects. [1:02:54 - 1:12:34] Having More, Better, and Different Orgasms • How the doors opened to both clitoral and vaginal orgasms. • How a woman can take advantage of not having a refractory period. • Prolonging orgasmic experiences by relaxing, hydrating, and being in the moment. [1:12:35 - 1:19:15] Anyone Can Spice Up Their Relationship • How to find more content from Myrina and Tristan. • You don't need swinging to spice up your sex life - it takes openness and communication.  • Look out for resources and places that...

Today's podcast is sponsored by Athletic Greens. Athletic Greens is a scoop wellness that allows you to absorb 75 quality vitamins and minerals regardless of your health needs. Athletic Greens is giving you a Free 1 year supply of immune supporting Vitamin D with 5 travel packs with your first purchase. Go to their site www.athleticgreens.com/emerging to take ownership over your health needsGrab your imaginary pearls as we discuss the production of the play, How to be An ethical slut. It's a one woman show put on, directed by, written by Brooke McCarthy during Philadelphia's Fringe Fest.It was inspired by the 1997 book, “The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Adventures,” by Janet Hardy and Darcy Easton.This production will explore what it really means to live in your truth and own light. There are several showcasings happen get your tickets. The show is for ages 18 and up and has asked audience to come with an open mind as it's not about sexuality as much as it sounds as if it is. Owning who you are is the message. You can also donate to Fringe Arts............Red Headed Slut is your drink of the day. The triggers blog is for anyone who is or will suffer oneFind me on socials as Toitimeblog

Have you or your partner ever wondered how about opening your relationship? In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca cover not only some of the many reasons partners might explore non-monogamy, how to communicate in a connected way about it, how to explore it carefully—and how to express if it doesn't feel right for you. They share their experiences in working with a variety of partners in open relationships and offer resource material to help guide you through the world of consensual non-monogamy. Books referenced in this episode: https://bookshop.org/a/8250/9781683647461 (Open Monogamy) by Tammy Nelson https://bookshop.org/a/8250/9781944934989 (Polysecure) by Jessica Fern https://bookshop.org/a/8250/9780399579660 (The Ethical Slut) by Janet Hardy Share your questions with us at https://my.captivate.fm/whydoesmypartner.com/contact (whydoesmypartner.com/contact) If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at https://whydoesmypartner.com/events (whydoesmypartner.com/events) This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

The Hey, Boomer guest today is Stella Fosse, writer, advocate for older women's empowerment and workshop leader.  Our topic today was Sexy Stories for and about Women Over Sixty. Stella reinvented herself from a technical writer, to a writer of erotica for and about older women. Her first book, Aphrodite's Pen: The Power of Writing Erotica after Midlife, includes lots of how to's and prompts to get your started. Her latest book, "Brilliant Charming Bastard" was released this year. We talked about claiming our narrative at this stage of our lives.  We discussed the difference between Elderotica and Seasoned Romance Stories.  When I asked about being objectified as sexual beings, Stella turned that around to finding the freedom of being able to walk down the street without being harassed, and the freedom to be more playful in our relationships. We talked about the benefit of finding supportive writers groups, both in person and online.  It was a fun discussion. I think you will enjoy it. Episode Takeaways: 1. Read books, and watch movies that show possibilities of this part of life. 2. Find ways to build creativity into this part of your life. 3. Enjoy your body. 4. Learning and sex until rigor mortis.  Thanks so much for listening. Subscribe on Apple Podcast, Stitcher , Google Podcast. or Spotify Follow up on Facebook and Instagram You can email me with questions or comments at wendy@heyboomer.biz – Wendy Green is a Certified Life Coach, working with people going through the sometimes uncomfortable life transition from full-time work to “what's next.” Find out more about Wendy's 6-week “What's Next Transition” Coaching workshop – You can find Stella at stellafosse.com or email her at stella@stellafosse.com  Other resources mentioned Writing Open the Mind by Andy Couturier  Fifty First Dates After Fifty by Carolyn Lee Arnold  Fear of Dying by Erica Jong Naked at our Age by Joan Price  Forever 51 by Pamela Skjolsvik ============================================ Show transcript And welcome to the Hey Boomer Show, which is live every Monday at 1:00 Eastern on Facebook, LinkedIn and YouTube. My name is Wendy Green and I am your host for Hey Boomer. And hey, Boomer is a show for those of us who believe we are never too old to set another goal or dream, a new dream. It is for lifelong learners who want to find meaning and purpose in their lives and live the best part of their life in this next chapter. Every year I put together an Alzheimer's walk team and every year I get a bunch of people that come and walk with me and we raise money. Last year, we hit the championship level. We raised over 1000. So this year I am asking you to join our team. There's a couple of ways you can do this. You can join the local team here in Greenville, South Carolina, and walk with us and help raise money for that. Or you can join our our hey boomer team and walk in your community. So for now, I have a Greenville team. I have a hey boomer team in California and I have a Hey Boomer team in Maryland. And anybody that joins our team, I'm going to give them this cute, hey, boomer hat so that you can wear that when you walk and you can wear it afterwards proudly as a member of Hey, Boomer. So all you have to do is go to act.Alz.org/goto/HeyBoomer, join our team and support the hopeful end of Alzheimer's. I also want to say that I am not anti retirement. anti retirement, but I don't recommend it for almost anybody because retirement means withdrawal. And if you withdraw from life, you really are giving up on life. And what happens is that every day starts to run into the next. You become bored and lethargic. You find yourself spending more time on the couch than doing just about anything else. And I want to encourage you, as I said in the opening, this show is about living your best life in this next chapter. So I have a six-week group program called What's Next? And you can find it and get more information about it on HeyBoomer.Biz/coaching. There you'll find a synopsis of what the group coaching experience is about. A little video from me and an opportunity to sign up for a free 20 minute consultation so that I can learn more about you. You can learn more about me. And then we can make a decision whether this is a good fit for you or not. So there's no obligation. Check it out at heyboomer/coaching and get set or get your mojo back if you feel like you've lost it. Now to talk about what's coming up. Kathleen, A Berry PhD and coeditor of "Unmasked: Women write about sex and intimacy after 50" said, "When we think of erotica, we don't usually link it together with middle aged women." In fact, it is middle aged women who are finally liberated to fully experience the sensuous delight of erotica. They have reached the point in their lives when they are no longer encumbered by the risk of pregnancy, nor zapped by the physical ramifications of menopause. And there's another aspect to this topic. Ageist thinking says that older women become matronly and we lose our beauty. And the idea of older women having sex seems almost unappealing in our society. There are a few examples of women over 50 being sexual in the media. I'm sure that or I hope that you all have seen Grace and Frankie with Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda. And there's a new movie out with Emma Thompson called Good Luck to You, Leo Grande. And in this movie, Emma Thompson plays a widow who has never had a satisfying sex life. She is curious and she's nervous. She hires a sex worker. This movie explores her journey to becoming comfortable with her own sexuality. It is available on Hulu. Good luck to you, Leo Grande. So today we're going to talk about the idea that we are all sensual beings into our sixties, seventies, eighties and beyond, and that we can all make our own decisions about what is right for us regarding sex at this stage of our life, really at any stage of our life. So let me bring Stella on and introduce you. Hello, Stella. I want to thank. Thanks for having. Me. Oh, I've been looking forward to this. And so is the audience. I've heard a lot of people say, Oh, I'm going to watch. I'm going to watch. So brief bio. Stella is a former biotechnology writer who advocates for the creative power of older women. Her books include "Aphrodite's Pen: The Power of Writing Erotica After Midlife", "The Erotic Pandemic Ball," And ooh, did you hear the Thunder? And her debut novel at age 68, "Brilliant, Charming Bastard." She is currently teaching romance writing to seniors and writing a book about creative retirement. Stella lives with her partner in North Carolina. You can follow her on Facebook, LinkedIn and Instagram, and she blogs on her website, which we will get to, and I'll share all of her contact information later. So, Stella. Yes. So, you know, in my coaching practice, I always talk to people about reinvention. And many people have a really hard time thinking about what they're going to do next. They had their career and That was that was who they defined themselves as they didn't have an idea of what was next. So I'm curious about your reinvention journey from tech writer to writer of erotica and the ups and downs of that. Oh Well, I always wanted to be a writer. In fact, my childhood goal was to write my first novel by the time I was 25. So I missed that by 50 years. As you said, it's never too late. So I went to college in the early seventies when there was a total double standard about writing anything sexual. Philip Roth's novels were literature. Erica Jong's novels were trash. And so that's that's what it was like when I came up. And I certainly never thought about writing erotica back then after college, after I got my degree in creative writing, which when I moved to New York, I was told would get me. If I had that plus $0.25, I could get a ride in the subway. So I went back to school, got a master's in biology, and had a career writing FDA submissions, which are about as asexual as you can get. And when I was starting to think about graduating from that career, if we don't like the word retirement, maybe we can. Graduation. I happened to read an article in the New York Times Book Review section by a romance author who was also in her late fifties, who was advising her sister writers that if they wanted to get published, they should write romance characters in their twenties. And I thought, that's pretty outrageous. Why should women of a certain age have to closet themselves when they write? And around that time, a friend of mine Linx Cannon started a reading series at an Oakland bookstore called Dirty Old Women, and she invited all her friends to write erotic stories and come and read them before an audience. And I thought, Well, why not? So that's that's how this started. So I mean, I think if you asked me to come to a book reading and writing erotic stuff called Dirty Old Women, I would probably be pretty nervous. Were you nervous at first? Yeah, I sure was. But, you know, we had a great crowd every time, and it was really a mixed age crowd. There were a lot of younger women in the audience who would come up to us afterwards and thank us and say, you know, we we thought that part of life ended around age 40. So thank you for showing us that that's not the case. I've come to think of this kind of writing as a political act, really, as part of our part of liberating ourselves. So a political act and an educational act in a sense, for the young people that there is. You can continue to look forward to this. That's right. This doesn't just there's not a not a cutoff date. Right. Right. So in Aphrodite's pen, you talk about the power of writing erotica. As older women, what do you mean by that power? I think I think there are a couple of kinds of power involved. One is the power to claim back our narrative for ourselves. You mentioned earlier that there's this there's this idea in the culture. There's this sexist age trope that older women have outlived their own sexuality. And when we write, even if even if a woman writes a story and saves it for herself, she's reclaiming her own agency because, you know, sexuality isn't something society gives us or something society can take away. It's innate in us. And when we write, we reclaim that for ourselves. And if we decide to publish a story, then we're pushing back on this big cultural narrative. I think of. I think of culture as sort of like an ocean liner. You know, it's going in one direction. It's big, has a lot of there's a lot of inertia. But if if everybody gets out their teaspoon, writes their story and starts, you know, pushing the water, we can we can start turning the culture in a better direction if a lot of us are writing our stories. Well, if you've never written anything like that before. Yeah, how would you even get started? Well, I think, you know, if you're not in a community that has a dirty old women reading series, you can still you can certainly get a copy of Aphrodite's Pen, which has exercise, writing exercises, writing prompts, all kinds of ideas for how to create characters, how to mine your own life experience. Because by now all of us have lots and lots of experience that we can draw from in creating plots and creating characters. And then the book also has interviews with women, older women who write erotica, talking about their experience and examples of stories that they've written. So you can really get a sense of of this what I think of as a developing crone culture. Hmm. Hmm. So I, I have to tell you, I mean, I was so a naive, I guess is the right word about all of this. You know, I was I was thinking, well, there's not really going to be much of a plot. It's just going to be one sexual act after another. And and when I read your book, Brilliant, Charming Bastard, there was quite an involved plot there and not nearly as much sex as I expected there to be. And it was tastefully managed. So it was a big surprise to me. And you called this form of this genre of writing. Like, what did you call it? Elderotica. Elderotica. And and the way they categorize it. So seasoned, well there is a category of seasoned romance. Seasoned romance. So when I was speaking earlier about that article, I read by that the woman advising other women writers to make their characters young. She was writing romance, which is a really structured form. And I sort of thought I was writing romance when I wrote Brilliant Charming Bastard. But now that I'm teaching about romance, I realized that I did not follow the rules. Romance. Romance has a very set structure for how you set up your plot and how your characters interact and what happens at the end. And it's really about a happily ever after ending. And my book is more a lot of people hate the phrase women's literature. But I think mine is more like seasoned women's literature. But there is a whole category now called season romance. Publishers are realizing that we are a big market. There are a lot of people now, more and more people in their fifties, sixties and seventies. And we don't necessarily want to read about people in their twenties. Right. So what's the difference then between Seasoned Romance and Elderotica? Oh, that's a good question. So. So if you think about again, if you think about what romance is, it's it's really centered around one relationship between two people and they have to have a happily ever after ending. Erotica is more like how one person develops, one main character develops through her sexual experiences and and becomes a more fully developed person by the end of the story. So it's it's it's a different it's a different genre. And then there's porn, which is a whole different thing. Right, right, right. So I would say that Good Luck To You, Leo Grande is Elderotica. Have you seen it? Oh, I love that movie. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Because she definitely develops into a more fuller person. Yes. And she's really developing her relationship with herself. Yes. Not that the other person is objectified because he's not. I think he's he's he's a fully developed character in his own right. But but the the real theme of the story is that she comes into her own, as you said earlier. Yeah. Yeah, I guess it is sort of. It is elder erotica. I hadn't thought of that. Yeah. Yeah, I loved it. It is. I mean, at first I wasn't sure if I was going to like it, but yeah, it was so brave. Yes. So so talking about objectification. Yeah. Right. So when we're young, you know, society, I mean, sex sells and ads, right? They encourage young women to dress sexy, wear the highest heels, you know. And it is a very objectified way of gaining attention as older women, of course, we still want to look lovely and sexy. And how do we how do we do that so that our minds are not telling us? Yeah, but that's just objectifying yourself. That's a really interesting question. I think. I think there comes a point in most of our lives where we can walk past a construction site without being harassed. And and, you know, that is, you know, people talk about invisibility of older women. There is that upside. There is that freedom. And in that freedom, I really think there's an opportunity, again, to to look at our own agency, to claim our own sexual being and to not feel like we're always having to fend off unwanted attention. So I like to look at the freedom side of it. And and once we've once we're kind of in that state, once we're in that stage, when we reclaimed our freedom, then I think it gives us room to be more playful in our relationships because because we have freed ourselves of that concern about being objectified. Not that I mean, you can you can play with objectification in a consensual relationship. That's something there's that wonderful book, Mating in Captivity, that talks about talks about that. But but again, I really think that this notion of invisibility has a huge positive aspect for us as a women. It's a great way to phrase it. Yeah, because we don't have to. We don't have to be harassed walking down the street. No, but we can be free and playful on our own terms when we want to. With whom we want to. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. I know. We've got a big thunderstorm coming up here. Thor Agrees with you. That's right. So so talking about the women's movement and the whole discussion about ageism. Now, you and I have both been involved in in those discussions in larger forums and, you know, the societal myth of women losing their sexuality like you talked about with the young people. So I'm curious how you think writing about sexuality or erotica or reading about it even can can help in that, dispelling some of those ageist myths? Yeah. Yeah. You know, we all grew up with women our age, grew up swimming in this gender age group without even realizing it. I mean, think about, you know, Sleeping Beauty and Maleficent. Think about Cinderella and the wicked stepmother. I mean, we we absorbed a lot of that before. We were old enough to have maybe have clear thinking about the fact that we weren't always going to be Cinderella's age someday. We were going to be the age of the stepmother. And what did that mean for us? So. So when we step back from those myths and start creating our own myths, I think that really gives us a lot of power and it gives us a new voice that's important for us as older women. So I think it's key to seek out as a reader, as a watcher of movies and shows. I mean, you mentioned some really powerful, significant shows. There are a lot of great books out there. I mentioned Erica Jong earlier. She wrote Fear of Flying as a young woman. She wrote Fear of Dying as an older woman, which is a great novel with a lot of sexuality about being in our sixties. These are ways that we can reclaim our our power through reading and writing and kind of we can reprogram ourselves away from all that sexist age stuff that we were exposed to when we were young. I do think there's power in that. You know, when we when we stay in our own heads and and tell ourselves the same old story over and over again, which we bought into because that's how we were raised. Seeing other examples like Grace and Frankie, like Leo Grande, you know, you start to say, Oh, well, there are other ways to look at this. And I love Erica Jong. Yeah, yeah, she's great. And, you know, there are more and more women writing from that vantage point now. Caroline Lee Arnold has a new memoir out called 51st Dates After 50. Which which is really fun. I got to got to interview her from my blog recently. And that's just one example I have on my website. I have a whole list of references for movies, shows and books because I really think it's important as a as a consumer of culture, to be mindful of what we are consuming and and look at the positive aspects of this part of our lives, because there are plenty of negative stories out there. Right. I think I'll try to link to that in the show notes. Oh. Yeah, because that would be good for everybody. So you're teaching a course now? Yeah. What is that course? It's called Thee and Me Could Write a Bad Romance. What is that about? Oh, so I. One day I just on a whim, I put up something on LinkedIn saying, I'm thinking about teaching this class. Thee and Me Could Write a Bad Romance. And a woman from an organization that provides lots of content for for older folks wrote to me and said, Oh, great, we want you to come teach this class. Well, of course, I had no curriculum. I just I just had this title. So that's when I started learning what romance is actually about as a genre, and that I actually had not written one. I thought I did, but I didn't. So. So I put together a curriculum. It's eight weeks long and we've been looking at the whole structure of romance, what act one looks like. Act two looks like Act three looks like how to build characters, how to build plot, how to make your scene conform to what you're looking for, how to construct dialogue that works the whole the whole thing. So it's been a lot of fun and I'm I'm looking forward to offering it again for a wider audience later on. And are most people going to end the course with a written story? Well, they're they won't end with full drafts of romance novels, but they'll end with a lot. They have everybody by now has a schematic with every scene they're going to write. They have descriptions of their main characters. They're supporting characters. They have a lot of their scenes written, and now they're working on love scenes, which is fun. That's great. So can they find out about this on your website? It's not up there yet. I will I will put it up there because as I said, I do want to offer this again in the fall. I'll be offering this class. So Stella's website is StellaFosse" FOSSE" and you can sign up for her newsletter at page.StellaFosse/What's-new? And you don't have to worry about that because as soon as you get in the website, you'll start getting these annoying invitations to sign up for the blogs and the newsletter. Yeah, so they're fun to read too, so I would encourage you to do that. So just a couple more questions. This one's a little bit more. Yeah. Okay. Realistic, let's say. All right. All right. So you're writing erotica, right? Sex at this stage of your life, our lives is not always easy, right? Women are not lubricating the way they used to. Men are not getting erections like they used to. And sometimes our knees hurt trying to get into position. So, I mean, you could make a comedy erotic story about that, but I'm wondering how you handle that in an erotic story. That's a really good question. So so there's a woman named Joan Price who writes she writes a senior advice column for Senior Planet on Sexuality, and she's written also some great books, including one called Naked at Our Age, which I highly recommend. And she reviews, by the way, she reviews sex toys from the standpoint of an older person and recommends vibrators and all kinds of sex toys. So she's a wonderful resource. I really recommend her. And when I read so, so I like to think about this from the flip side, I like to think about if I'm looking at what she has to say about senior sexuality. Then what is it that works well for us at this stage and focus on that. So for example, in one of her books, she talks about that that men have passed a certain age do really well sexually if they're standing because of the way blood flows. So so that inspired me to write a story in which a couple in their sixties at the end of the story, there's a there's a love scene where they're leaning against a vibrating dishwasher while they're they've been in the kitchen talking, and then they end up doing that. So so I think there are ways to incorporate the positives, the things that do work well into our writing. So and again, I really I really recommend Joan. I think she's a great. Great resource. Yeah, thanks. I'll have to check that out. And you put up a quote from Anderson Cooper, which I thought was hysterical. His mother, Gloria Vanderbilt, was 85 when she said to him, I'm going to write an erotic novel. And he said, those were the seven most horrifying words he'd ever heard. I haven't asked my kids how they would feel if I was to announce that. Maybe I will ask them. But how did your sons or daughters or how did your kids respond to this? You know, I love it when I love that quote. And when I put that up on Facebook, I'm Facebook friends with Janet Herdy, who some of your readers may know as the author of The Ethical Slut, a book that came out quite a while ago about polyamory. And and so my comment was, oh, my poor babies. And then and then her answer was, oh, mine too. So but actually, the interesting thing is so that's Stella Foster is a pen name. And the reason I chose a pen name is that I didn't want to embarrass my adult children any more than necessary, but they've actually been pretty cool about it. In fact, one of my daughters, who's a professional designer, designed the cover for Brilliant, Charming Bastard. So, yeah. I think that they I think that they they like the idea of empowering older women and that this is a way to do it. And after all, I have two sons and two daughters. My daughters are going to be older women at some point, too. So. So I think they get it surprisingly. Have they read your books? No. No, they. Don't. Not necessary. No, no, no. That's not for them. So what's next for you? What's coming down the pike? Well, I am in the middle of writing a book about creative retirement with a friend of mine, Stevie Jane Parks, who is a psychotherapist and an abstract painter. So she took up abstract painting after her former career was winding down. So. So we're we're in the middle of doing that. We're we're writing about lots of different topics, everything from housing to sexuality to creativity and play to just everything you can think of movement. And so that's great fun. And we're collecting anecdotes to include in that book from a lot of older women who've who've taken on new adventures after 60. So that's being fun. I also have decided that if I'm going to teach about romance, I'd better actually write a romance that actually is a romance. So, so in the in the in teaching this class, I've come up with an outline that I use as an example. And it's a, it's a, it's a vampire romance. So. So that can. Be pretty sexy, actually. Fun. There's already one out there. There's a there's a really good one out there called Forever 51. Oh, I don't know that. It's about a woman who becomes a vampire in the middle of menopause. So she's she's permanently in the throes of menopause. It's very fun to read. Oh, gosh. Now, you mentioned earlier that some some like if you really wanted to try and learn how to do this, you know, you certainly your book, Aphrodite's Pen is one way, but you also talked about writing groups. So I know you had some great groups out in California. Now you're in your new home in North Carolina. Are you finding other women that you can form a group with and write with? I'm. I'm involved in. So in North Carolina, we have this wonderful organization called the North Carolina Writers Network, which is a statewide organization there. They're like, you couldn't throw a rock without hitting a writer in North Carolina. There's so many. So I'm involved in the local chapter of that statewide organization. When I first got there, I walked in with a stack of Aphrodite's pen, which had just come out at that point, and I think they were somewhat taken aback by that. I bet they were. This California girl, what's up with her? But they've gotten used to me and I'm on the steering committee for that local organization now. So I think they've decided they can tolerate me, after all. But at this point, I would say a lot of. There's so much opportunity online to work with other writers all over the country. For example, I really recommend anybody who's interested in getting involved in writing to sign up with National Novel Writing Month, or NaNoWriMo, which is based in the San Francisco Bay Area. People all over the country are writing first novels through NaNoWriMo. And actually, I have there are lots of local subgroups through NaNoWriMo, and there also are topically related groups. So for example, I have one on there for erotica writers. There are lots of opportunities no matter where you live. Yeah, the pandemic has changed things so much that doing things virtually is so much closer to the norm now than it was a couple of years ago. So true. That's so it's really, really opened up a lot of opportunities for for folks our age to do many things that we wouldn't have been able to do before. So how does that work? Well, yeah, but say I've never written before. Right? I write a blog, but I've never written a book. I've fantasized about it. But yeah, you know, I would like to want to creep in and sit in the very back row and like, don't ask me anything, let me just listen; harder to do on a virtual screen. But how does it work when you join a writing group? Well, a couple of things. One is, you know, there are books you can get that will just help you launch into writing from starting from zero. And my favorite and this is not about erotica, but my favorite book to to introduce people to writing in general is called Writing Open the Mind. It's by Andy Couturier, and it has all kinds of ideas and exercises for helping people look at writing as play and not judge themselves. And that's really key when you're when you're writing a first draft, when you're first getting involved in writing, to set aside your inner critic and be playful about your writing. So that's how I approach writing, teaching, writing. That's how I'm approaching the and me could write a bad romance because it doesn't matter if your first draft is bad, it's just play and it's fine. So that's, that's one thing. But yeah, I think it's important to find a safe. If you're going to find a writing group, it's important to find one that's a safe space where people are going to give you feedback that encourages you to keep going and not not nitpick. And. And when I when I run a writing group, I ask folks to give. The following kind of feedback. Listen to what the person is reading you and then write down the phrases that really grab you that seem really significant to you. Write down what you like and give the person that feedback that will help them to keep going. You know, I think I think those things are really significant. Yeah. Sometimes one or two phrases of compliments can take away some of that fear. So. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, this has been this has been really interesting. You know, I have I have read and watched more erotica this past week or so, getting ready for this show then probably ever. And it's really been interesting, though, Stella. It has helped. It has opened my eyes and acceptance in a lot of ways and. Yeah, yeah. Fun, yeah. You know, Maggie Kuhn, who founded the Gray Panthers had this motto, Learning and sex until rigor mortis. Keep learning. Keep having sex. That's the best advice ever. Well, before we went on, we talked about possibly you gifting a couple of downloads of your book, your newest book to some of our listeners. Do you want to tell people how you do it? And I will share your email address. Sure, I'm happy to do that. So the first three folks who write to me at Stella@StellaFosse.com, be happy to send you an E-copy of Brilliant, Charming Bastard. So just, just get on there and write to me. The book will come from book club and it may go into your spam or junk folder. So if you don't see the book in the next day or two, please check your spam and junk folders. Make sure that it's not hiding there. And if that doesn't work, write to me again and let me know and I'll we'll sort it out. So, okay, so it's the first three people. So you can't wait. We have more than that. We have a bunch of people watching so it's good. Yeah. It's Stella@StellaFosse "Fosse" .com. So drop her a note right now. Yeah. Get started on. Brilliant, charming bastard. Yeah. And I hope that lots of folks will sign up for the blogs and emails and also look look for the resources tab on the website. Because, again, we have lots of movies, shows and books that talk about the positives around your sexuality from a fictional standpoint. And also I have I have some of Joan Price's books up there as Resources to. Awesome. Thank you for what you're doing, Stella. Well, it's fun. It's a fun revolution. I like to. It's a fun revelation. So I always ask my guests for two or three takeaways. Okay, so what would you like to leave the audience with? All right. The first is one of the things we've been talking about this whole time, and that is read books and watch movies that show the possibilities of this part of life. It's easy to find the negative stuff, but if we're going to reprogram ourselves and look at the bright side, it's important to find those those books and movies and shows. And I'd say Caroline Arnold's new memoir, 51st Dates After 50, would be a great place to start. That sounds like fun. The second thing is find ways to build creativity into your life. Whatever works for you, whether that's cooking or painting or writing and and find people who enjoy the same thing you do so you can reinforce each other. Share, share information and resources and successes. And as I said earlier, National Novel Writing Month is a great free way to get involved if writing is a way that you want to be creative. The third thing is enjoy your body. Your body is a good gift. And you know, I took up weightlifting in my sixties. It's marvelous. Talk about helping you feel powerful. Go swimming, buy a vibrator. I mean, look at Joan Price's recommendations and and find something that works for you. And again, remember what Maggie KUHN said, learning and sex until rigor mortis. Great advice. Thank you, Maggie KUHN. Maggie, if you read her autobiography, she certainly took her own advice. All right. So we've been I've been sharing Stella's website information again. You can email her at Stella@StellaFosse.com So hopefully you get lots and lots of emails and questions and check out the resource page like she said. Absolutely. Join our walk to End Alzheimer's. Yes. The link for that is act.alz.org/goto/HeyBoomer and join the team, contribute to try and end this awful disease. You know, it's certainly our parents or us could be looking at that at some point. We don't want to! Connect with me about the What's Next coaching program, the six week group coaching program at HeyBoomer.biz/coaching. I'd love to talk to you 20 minutes. 20 minutes. That could change your life and really give you some insights into what's next for you. So check that out. This guest has been amazing. Well, thank you. Yes. And thank you for having me. Thank you for joining us. It's such an interesting conversation. And I want to tell you about my guest for next week. Her name is Minette Norman and we're calling the show Jumping Off into the Great Unknown. So both Minette and I have done this more than once, and we are going to share our stories and our experiences together. We talked about kind of interviewing each other, so that should be an interesting experiment. Minette's LinkedIn Profile says she helps leaders cultivate inclusive teams. She's a keynote speaker, a psychological safety certified practitioner and an upcoming author. And I thought, how cool is that? That she claimed it before her books out there. I am an upcoming author, so I thought that was pretty cool. And like Stella modeled for us today and like we all strive for "live with passion, live with relevance, and live with courage". My name is Wendy Green, and this has been Hey, Boomer.

This conversation with Kaitlin and Julian is one of our all-time favorites. Not sure if we're allowed to say that, but here we are. They met and fell in love on the school bus and now have been together for 16 years and married eight. The short version is that one day Julian brought home the Ethical Slut, they read it, and pretty much the next day decided they were polyamorous. It's slightly more complicated than that, but not much. A lot has happened since they read the book and opened up and we have so many amazing conversations about their journey. We dig into self-love, dating, imbalance, self-esteem, and the art of just jumping in. One of the things we love about their journey is that while they have definitely been on it together, they've also each been on their own path at the same time. This conversation is incredible and we hope you enjoy.   Check out the full show notes here.   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Setting healthy boundaries when entering the swingers lifestyle will be something I always advocate for.  Over the last few episodes, we've been discussing the reasons why one wants to be a swinger. Thinking about out our desires and turn-ons and how to communicate them to our partners.  The flow of conversation will help you build the basic foundation to a healthy relationship in the alternative lifestyle world.    75 Day Challenge: http://wix.to/qb5hwJ1?ref=2_cl   *Referencing page 71-73 in the Ethical Slut, Edition 2.   About Mizzy Bender Who doesn't love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn't afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.   Mizzy Bender is a 38 year old female entrepreneur leading the way within the Lifestyle community. Mizzy's journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling East Coast putting on full thematic lifestyle events with her partner in crime, Spencer. Mizzy's passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where we can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without judgments, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.   Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed, starting as an online shop that has migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at alternative lifestyle events across the US.   Shortly there after, the podcast, The Mizzy Bender Show was created. ​ Follow the journey to see where this influencer goes next!

Today we discuss turn ons that lead to fulfilling our desires after lasts weeks discussion on what brought us to the alternative lifestyle.  Our conversations are going to be a continuous look into our mind, body and soul, allowing us to live our best healthy selves and relationships.    75 Day Challenge: http://wix.to/qb5hwJ1?ref=2_cl   *Referencing page 175-177 in the Ethical Slut, Edition 2.   About Mizzy Bender Who doesn't love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn't afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.   Mizzy Bender is a 38 year old female entrepreneur leading the way within the Lifestyle community. Mizzy's journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling East Coast putting on full thematic lifestyle events with her partner in crime, Spencer. Mizzy's passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where we can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without judgments, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.   Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed, starting as an online shop that has migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at alternative lifestyle events across the US.   Shortly there after, the podcast, The Mizzy Bender Show was created. ​ Follow the journey to see where this influencer goes next!

In today's world, we're often encouraged to think that sex is no longer a subject burdened with shame or repressed feelings. Rather, it is pleasurable, exciting and even empowering – as long as all parties are consenting. But do women really have the same sexual freedom as men, or are they still living in a man's world, conforming to male heterosexual desires and tastes? How do young women who've grown up in a sexually celebratory and supposedly shame-free society navigate sex? To discuss it, our host, the cultural historian and broadcaster Shahidha Bari, is joined by the authors of two books taking differing approaches to the debate: Christine Emba, columnist for The Washington Post and author of Rethinking Sex: A Provocation, and Dossie Easton, therapist and co-author of The Ethical Slut. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling defeated by last week's overturning of Roe v. Wade by the Supreme Court? As an antidote to the bad news, we share this origin story from Author, Psychotherapist, Kinkster, Sex Radical and Ethical Slut, Dossie Easton. This story was told at Dossie's Story Toast in 2019, where we celebrated both her 75th birthday and the 50th Anniversary of *this*, Dossie's life-changing trip to a new sexually empowered version of feminism. Gather your strength and be inspired by Dossie's true tale as we prepare to challenge what's next. #WorkToDo #TooIntelligent #TooOutspoken #TooStrong #TheRiddleOfTheUniverse   Song: ‘Unstoppable' (Sia) About the Storyteller:   Dossie Easton, a long time player on the San Francisco S/M scene, is co-author with Janet Hardy of The Ethical Slut, The Bottoming and Topping Books, and Radical Ecstasy:  SM Journeys to Transcendence.     Dossie is a psychotherapist working with individuals, couples and more in her private practice in San Francisco, with a particular interest in how S/M journeys into Shadow can bring old wounds into the healing light of consciousness and and give them a shot of life force in the form of good hot sex.    An active sex radical since 1961, Dossie was a member of the first Board of Directors of the Society of Janus in San Francisco in 1974, and active with SFSI from 1973 to 1985. 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Welcome to the last week of this month's theme, Design Your Life August! This month, Good Moms went on a 4 week journey to empower their tribe to become active participants in the creation of EVERY aspect of their lives. This week, Erica and Jamilah are joined by editor, educator on alternative sexualities and relationships, and co-author of this month's book club choice The Ethical Slut, Janet W. Hardy. In this episode, the ladies didn't leave any subject off of the table and candidly discuss non-monogamy, childhood conditioning, BDSM, parenthood, and how alternative lifestyles change the way you view and experience relationships. You'll want to stay to the end to hear Janet tell us a whorie that MAY or MAY NOT involve a married couple ,and a fist. You can also expect to hear:- Relationship frameworks and the role of jealousy. - Janet's relationship with Co- Author, Dossie Easton, and their journey in writing The Ethical Slut.- The fluidity of being an Ethical Slut. - Parenting while also being a member of the BDSM communityConnect with us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices
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This week, Good Moms catch you up on all of their most recent and inspiring travels to Costa Rica and New York. Traveling has inspired Erica & Milah to reflect deeply on the life they've created for themselves over the last 3 years. The ladies talk about how they've been able to cultivate experiences and lifestyle shifts for themselves and their kids although It's hasn't been easy, you'll hear in this episode why they think it has been completely worth it! So, in the spirit of creating the life you want our theme this month and mantra for life is “design your life!”In celebration of planting the seeds of growth and intentional restructuring, Good Moms have a special announcement at the end of this week's episode that you don't want to miss!You can expect to hear:
- Details about their mind-shifting trip to Costa Rica.- How to manifest what you want including a dance party on the beach with a sweaty sex man.

- Milah crashing a car off a baby cliff and what it took to save them