Podcast appearances and mentions of larry ruhl

We share a conversation with Larry Ruhl about recovery.Link to “Little Bit Culty” episode about differentiating between healthy & culty 12-step community dynamics. You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE.  We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, a lego group, movie groups, and social events.  Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!  To submit an email to the podcast:    podcast@systemspeak.comContent Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

We chat with Larry, who presented at the 2022 Healing Together conference.  We share with each other about our grief over losing therapists, and talk about what healing looks like after.  We share about the impact of grief on our sobriety recovery.Larry's website and social media links:www.breakingtheruhls.com https://www.instagram.com/lruhlstudio/Content  Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services.★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Friend of the podcast, author, artist, and survivor, Larry Ruhl, joins us to talk about what life has been like since he released his book, "Breaking the Ruhls", and the new challenges that daily life brings after his openly wrote about his experiences.Larry joined the podcast previously, back in episode 72, where he talked about the experience of writing his book, why he did it, and the message he wants to share through his writing.Larry Ruhl serves as a board member for Taking Back Ourselves, which facilitates weekends of recovery for female survivors of sexual abuse, and is a registered speaker with the RAINN network (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). He previously served as a board member at Male Survivor. He also spoke at colleges and retreats to increase awareness of sexual abuse against men and boys. Today he shares his story publicly to spread awareness and to help others shed the shame and stigma associated with sexual abuse. He graduated from the Fashion Institute of Technology (FIT), with a degree in Display & Exhibit Design, and worked as a creative director at a textile firm for ten years until opening his own home furnishings/interior design business in 2004. He works as an artist and designer in the Hudson Valley. You can learn more about Larry on his websites, www.BreakingTheRuhls.com and LarryRuhl.com.During my chat with Larry, he gives us a recap on what's been happening in his life since his book has been published, including new speaking opportunities at conferences and some travel he's been able to do in support of his art.We also dive more deeply into the challenges and rewards that come with writing a book about your experiences.Larry shares about dealing with the personal struggle of some family members who may support you but choose to keep the struggles you share at a distance.We talk about navigating daily life after sharing your story openly, and the struggles of keeping up with self-care, along with the challenge of handling triggers, especially new ones that may come up.We discuss the importance of being open to exploring new coping strategies in ongoing healing, even if you have a solid arsenal of go-to skills.Being fully present in your body and being open to exploring new memories, personal struggles, or other challenges with your therapist, even if you feel like you've already done extensive healing.If you enjoy these podcasts would you consider doing 3 easy things for us?Share it with one person who might find it helpful.Leave a review on your favorite podcast app.Follow the podcast on that same app, so you never miss an episode.That’s it…Super Easy and it would mean the world to us.If you want to go a step further, we have a special Thank You just for You!All conversation and information exchanged during participation on the podcast and BeyondYourPastRadio.com are intended for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing on the podcast or posted on the above-mentioned website are supplements for or supersedes the relationship and direction of your medical or mental health providers.Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)

A profoundly personal account of the impact of complex trauma on a man’s life. Larry Ruhl’s   father sought comfort from his only son, ... ?blurring critical boundaries that would prove deeply debilitating. Larry’s mother, with her spiraling, ever-changing mental illness kept the family in a constant state of anxiety. By the time Larry graduated from high school, overwhelming sadness and suicidal thoughts took root, plaguing him for decades...

Larry Ruhl was in his 20s when he started having flashbacks. Shadowy childhood memories re-emerged of his father, coming into his bedroom late at night. As he uncovered these painful thoughts he was also grappling with his sexuality. He’s here today to talk about the process of healing and how it’s something he works on every day. Larry was brave enough to step into the darkest parts of his life and find solace in sharing with other survivors.*Heads up - this episode mentions childhood sexual abuse and suicidal ideation.*LINKS!Learn more about Larry’s story and order a copy of his book, Breaking the Ruhl’s.Larry is also an incredible designer! Check out his website.You can support this show by supporting our sponsors!Calm - Get 25% off a Calm Premium subscription at Calm.com/survivor and take a deep breath. We're chillin - you can, too!Living Proof - Make the switch to LivingProof.com/Survivor and you'll get a free sample of their BOMB dry shampoo.

Larry Ruhl is the author of a very powerful memoir, Breaking the Ruhls: A Memoir, a beautiful story about going through trauma from sexual abuse, living in shame and guilt, and taking the courage to stand up and speak out. Even during the editing stage, Larry was still rattled by his own story. It wasn’t just any other story. It was his personal journey. Ultimately, the message he wants to come across is that you can shed shame and that healing is possible. Now, he’s ready to stand up, speak up, and share his story!   What We Discuss with Larry Ruhl: Larry recalls his experience writing at the monastery and what he learned from the monks. One of the biggest fears in writing a memoir His story’s message: you can shed shame and healing is possible Taking vulnerability with you wherever you go: Larry's challenges while writing the book Larry’s thought process in deciding which to write Some tough things he had to go through during the editing process The power of standing up for yourself The publishing experience and the waiting game Shifting from guilt to maturity The massive impact the book has made, especially to other “survivors” Larry recommends resources to those who are also hiding in shame and seeking help   Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!

In this episode of the podcast, I'm joined by author and survivor, Larry Ruhl. Larry’s book, Breaking the Ruhl’s, is his story as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Throughout the book he faces the challenging questions. “Is it truly possible to move through the shame I carry every day? Can I have a full life without depending on mind-numbing drugs and alcohol? And the most difficult question of all: Do I tell? But how do I tell? Who do I tell? What happens if I do tell?” Larry Ruhl serves as a board member for Taking Back Ourselves, which facilitates weekends of recovery for female survivors of sexual abuse, and is a registered speaker with the RAINN network (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). He previously served as a board member at Male Survivor. He also spoke at colleges and retreats to increase awareness of sexual abuse against men and boys. Today he shares his story publicly to spread awareness and to help others shed the shame and stigma associated with sexual abuse. He graduated from the Fashion Institute of Technology (FIT), with a degree in Display & Exhibit Design, and worked as a creative director at a textile firm for ten years until opening his own home furnishings/interior design business in 2004. He works as an artist and designer in the Hudson Valley. During my chat with Larry we cover topics including: This memoir is so personal and the story is so painful. How did you find the strength to share your story? Did writing it help you heal? When did you first realize that what was happening in your household was not only not normal, but was physical, emotional, and sexual abuse? You talk about how you’ve found a way to forgive your parents, but that you’ll never forget what happened. Can you speak to that? You’re no longer in contact with your parents, but you are close with your sister, who still lives with them. Can you talk about how you decided to move forward with this book? Now that the book has been released, how has it impacted your healing journey, your relationships, and your life as a whole? Larry shares openly and vulnerably about his life and struggles, and offers such hope and encouragement during our conversation that you can help but be inspired by his bravery and the bravery of all who speak out and refuse to be silent. I’m so honored to have had the opportunity to talk to this incredible survivor and I look forward to bringing him back on the podcast in the future to talk more about his story. Thank you again Larry for your book, your message of hope, and your continued desire to reach those all who have survived the trauma of abuse. You can purchase, Breaking the Ruhl’s on Barnes & Noble and on Amazon. Be sure and follow Larry on Twitter & Instagram, @LarryRuhl -Matthew Pappas, CLC, CPNLPSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sPH8pMZ)

Larry Ruhl is the author of Breaking the Ruhls, a memoir about recovering from childhood sexual abuse and complex trauma. He is a registered speaker with the RAINN network (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). He previously served as a board member at Male Survivor. He also spoke at colleges and retreats to increase awareness of sexual abuse against men and boys. Today he shares his story publicly to spread awareness and to help others shed the shame and stigma associated with sexual abuse. He graduated from the Fashion Institute of Technology (FIT), with a degree in Display & Exhibit Design.www.breakingtheruhls.com

EPISODE 17 - BREAKING THE RUHLS ***REVIEW US ON ITUNES TODAY*** In todays episode author Larry Ruhl shares an emotional roller coaster of the story with us. In his story he shares the back-and-forth relationship between his mother and father, the sexual abuse he sadly injured by his father, and horrible verbal abuse from his mother.  However, in the end, Larry comes out triumphant! He understands that telling our stories is the one thing that can bring hope an understanding to all.   Follow Larry Online Twitter @LarryRuhl Instagram @LarryRuhl Facebook search Larry Ruhl LinkedIn search Larry Ruhl   Follow Kevin Gerdes Online Twitter @KevinGerdes Facebook Instagram @KevinGerdes   Follow LGBT Stories Online www.ourlgbtstories.com Twitter @ourlgbtstories Instagram @ourlgbtstories Facebook   Sign Up for Menlo Club Use Promo Code LGBT at checkout! www.themenlohouse.com     ***REVIEW US ON ITUNES TODAY***

The Man Rules do not prepare men to navigate the rocky emotional terrain of their day-to-day lives. So, what happens when childhood sexual abuse and emotional abuse make that terrain much, much rockier than average? In most cases, it leads to men suffering in silence from profound depression, crippling anxiety, rage, addiction, and behaviors that are destructive to themselves and others. Larry Ruhl, our guest this week, was on such a path until his caring partner encouraged him to get help. His father began sexually abusing him at age 4, and he was constantly subjected to his narcissistic mother's verbal abuse, manipulation, and violent rages. Teased and berated for not being man enough; seduced and abused for his sensitivity and vulnerability. He shares his story with Dan and proves that no matter how men have suffered, or how limited they've been by The Man Rules, there is hope and there is a better way forward. Larry's story is the first to be featured in our new series of Deep Dive episodes, where we ask one man to share about his struggles in learning to live authentically in spite of The Man Rules. If you can identify with any of this story please find someone with whom you can talk and consider getting help and support. You deserve peace and you don't have to suffer alone.

This week on Relationships 2.0 my guest is Larry Ruhl author of Breaking the Ruhls: A Memoir About the book: A profoundly personal account of the impact of complex trauma on a man’s life.Larry Ruhl’s father sought comfort from his only son, smothering him not only with his affection, but his sexuality―blurring critical boundaries that would prove deeply debilitating. Larry’s mother, with her spiraling, ever-changing mental illness kept the family in a constant state of anxiety. By the time Larry graduated from high school, overwhelming sadness and suicidal thoughts took root, plaguing him for decades.Breaking the Ruhls will resonate deeply with many who have experienced similar trauma, boundary violations, and abuse within the family. Ruhl mines his own experiences with sexual confusion, addiction and recovery, relationships, career struggles, and therapeutic breakthroughs, while demonstrating it is possible to heal and thrive. Ninety-three percent of juvenile sexual assault victims knew their perpetrators. For 80 percent of those, that perpetrator was a parent Shines a spotlight on complex trauma involving sexual abuse and help others shed the shame that sexual abuse survivors unfairly carry. About the author: Larry Ruhl serves as a board member for Taking Back Ourselves, which facilitates weekends of recovery for survivors of sexual abuse, and is a registered speaker with RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). He previously served as a board member at Male Survivor, a leading organization in the fight to improve the resources and support available to male survivors of all forms of sexual abuse. Today he takes meetings into addiction treatment centers as a way to shed shame and draw the parallels between addiction and sexual abuse.

In this episode, I'm joined by Larry Ruhl, author of Breaking the Ruhls: A Memoir. Larry joins me to share his story of how he's been able to heal and thrive after growing up in an environment where he experienced multiple forms of abuse and suffered with the effects of complex trauma as a result.  http://thegrassgetsgreener.com/larryruhl  Get your free copy of The Top 10 Strategies Guide for Survivors:  http://thegrassgetsgreener.com/guide  Help support the show on Patreon:  http://thegrassgetsgreener.com/patreon  Check out this episode's sponsor: novni.com 

This week, Martha's guests are Tina Alexis Allen, Tara Cousineau, Sharon Rousseau, and Larry Ruhl.

New episode with Larry Ruhl, author of "Breaking the Ruhls". He survived sexual abuse, a bi-polar mother and alcoholism & shares the path that lead him to healing and recovery. By sharing his story, he hopes to help others know they are not alone.

My guest is Larry Ruhl. His first book, Breaking The Ruhls (https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Ruhls-Memoir-Larry-Ruhl/dp/1942094582),is a profoundly personal account of the impact of complex trauma on a man’s life. Larry Ruhl’s father sought comfort from his only son, smothering him not only with his affection, but his sexuality―blurring critical boundaries that would prove deeply debilitating. Larry’s mother, with her spiraling, ever-changing mental illness kept the family in a constant state of anxiety. By the time Larry graduated from high school, overwhelming sadness and suicidal thoughts took root, plaguing him for decades. Breaking the Ruhls will resonate deeply with many who have experienced similar trauma, boundary violations, and abuse within the family. Ruhl mines his own experiences with sexual confusion, addiction and recovery, relationships, career struggles, and therapeutic breakthroughs, while demonstrating it is possible to heal and thrive. Special Guest: Larry Ruhl.