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Today my friend Courtney Anderson. Courtney is the author of Sober Vibes A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol, and host of the Sober Vibes Podcast She joins me to talk about how sobriety reshapes your relationships, career, identityand what to do when everything shifts. Sobriety is more than putting down the drinkits a total identity shift. In this episode, we dive into the surprising (and sometimes painful) side effects no one talks aboutlike losing friends, outgrowing your job, and redefining who you are. If youve ever thought, Why does everything feel different now?this ones for you. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! Connect with Courtney Here https //www.courtneyrecovered.com Link to her book Sober Vibes https //amzn.to/3ZbRX7K =J

Welcome to the podcast! Its been a minute since I introduced myself, so in case we havent met yet, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. I have been sober for 31 years, happily married for 28, a mother of two amazing young men, and an english bulldog called Teddy, that you might hear snoring in the background on occasion. Im also the bestselling author of The 12 Step Guide for Skeptics Clearing up common misconceptions of a path to sobriety. As a sober coach, I help my clients navigate the complex world of recovery and support them through lifes challenges. I coach men and women as they move through early sobriety, transitions at work, healing relationships, and work life balance just to name a few. Recovery is a process and we dont do this alone. If you need additional support, you can learn more my coaching by visiting soberlifeschool.com Today I am speaking with Sam Miller, comedian, father, and a person in long term sobriety. We talk about the complicated relationship he had with his father before he died at 12, and the trauma underneath it all that led to years of addiction and suffering. I have to say, I genuinely appreciated Sams willingness to be so open and vulnerable in this conversation. I walked away feeling hopeful and inspired by his story and how he has created a beautiful life for himself and his family. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Hey friend, Thank you for downloading the episode, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. Were doing something a little different today. On this call I am speaking with Joslynn who is in long term sobriety, but like many of us, she has been struggling with sticking to a healthy food plan. The funny thing is, we all know what we should eat. But knowing what to do and being able to do it are two different things. What we are going to do on this call, is address the two opposing desires the part that wants to eat healthy and the part that wants to indulge. We will be going through a process called Polarized Parts Work where we honor the intentions of both parts. This is actually a process I take my clients through to help them overcome that internal resistance that shows up when were trying to break out of old habits, start new ones, and generally reach for bigger goals. I hope that this demonstration gives you a little bit of insight into how you can close the gap between knowing what to do, and taking consistent action. And if you know anybody who is struggling with self sabotage or procrastination, please consider sharing this episode with them. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Today I am joined by my friend and fellow podcaster Brock Bevelle. Hes a retired police officer and a man in long term sobriety from opioid addiction. He also manages the Tiktok and IG accounts called @Fentanylprojectaz where he interviews people on the street in active addiction. We are going to talk about what its like to be in long term sobriety and actually get into some of our dark addiction stories that keep us sober that we dont normally talk about. I also wanted to bring awareness to Brocks work where he is actually in the streets trying to help people kick fentanyl addiction. He offers basics like hygiene kits, sunscreen, and water, but he also offers emotional and recovery resources. Not only that, he is literally saving lives on a regular basis. There are many videos on Tiktok where he Narcans people who are actively overdosing. Its heartbreaking, but also so inspiring to watch as he gives hope to so many people. The main reason I wanted to talk with Brock again is because I wanted to find out how we as a community can support people like him who are on the streets every day. If you are inspired by Brocks work and you feel called to help, Ill encourage you to send him some supplies through his amazon link. Ill leave it in the show notes at odaatchat.com, or you can also find it on IG and Tiktok under @fentanylprojectaz So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Can marriages really survive alcoholism? Well today my guest Melissa shares how hers almost didnt, but with the support of her 12 step program, professional help, and a lot of work, her marriage is now better than ever! Melissa Stoeltje is the author of Drunk Love Marriage Under The Influence. A memoir that not only shows the dark side of a high achiever who struggled with her drinking, but the steps she took to get her life back on track. Before we jump in, did you know that there are a bunch of resource guides on the website? Theres a guide for your first 30 days, a resource list of 100 books, podcasts and meetings? Theres even a guide on how to have sober fun! Just visit odaatchat.com Lastly, if you are enjoying the podcast, please consider leaving a review on Apple podcasts. Your review helps our rankings so that others like you can find the support they need too. I read every review and your support means the world to me. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! Get Melissas Book Here https //librarytalespublishing.com/collections/melissa-fletcher-stoeltje =J

Hey friends, welcome to the podcast, in case nobody has told you yet today, you are loved! If youve been listening to the podcast for a while youll know Ive been addressing my financial insecurities lately. Honestly its kind of embarrassing to admit this, but Ive always had a dysfunctional relationship with money. I know this isnt really true, but I have deeply rooted beliefs that money will solve all my problems, and these beliefs are at the root of my workaholism. Today I will be joined by Barney Whiter, a financial coach who is also sober! Well dive into his story of alcoholism, his relationship with money and how he helps people feel more at ease with it and reach their goals. Before we jump in, I am looking for volunteers who would like coaching around procrastination, self-discipline, and work life balance. The coaching sessions will be recorded anonymously and published as bonus episodes. I want listeners to get a feel for what coaching is like and benefit from hearing other peoples experiences. If you are interested, just email me at podcastvolunteer@gmail.com So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Just a little programming note Today as I record this, which is April 23 2025, I am celebrating 31 years of sobriety! Im going to record a solo episode in a few days to talk about some of the things I learned this year, and some projects Im working on to better service you, the listener, and my private clients. So stay tuned for that! If you want to help me celebrate this milestone, I would be so grateful for a review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The debate around the use of medications in recovery has been going on for decades, if not longer. With the development of new drugs that treat detox, cravings, anxiety, depression and trauma, its easy to get confused when trying to decide if medications are right for you. Today I have invited Dr. Eric Arzubi, a medical doctor and Psychiatrist to join me as we discuss evidence-based medications, why there is so much stigma around needing them, and how the impact of childhood trauma could be affecting you in adulthood. We also talk about the ACE quiz ( adverse childhood experiences) that you can take for free and how to use the results. Ill leave a link to the quiz in the show notes at odaatchat.com If you find this episode helpful, please share it with your friends. The more we educate our support network the stronger we become as a community. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Hey Friend, thank you for downloading the episode, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. On April 23 I will be celebrating 31 years of continuous sobriety. Its always a time for reflection and as I look back, I want to share the top 3 things that have been key in maintaining my sobriety. The first is that I have made sobriety my number 1 priority. It comes before my husband, my job, and even my kids. I know that if I dont take care of my mental and emotional well being, that my sobriety could become vulnerable, and thats a risk Im just not willing to take. Theres an old saying that no matter how far down the road you go, youre still the same distance from the ditch. I am very clear that I cannot drink like a normal person, despite how long Ive been sober. Sobriety is the foundation of this life I love so much. Another component to my sobriety has been community. I have surrounded myself with other people who also have made sobriety their number 1 priority. Theres an idea called the contagion theory, that was developed by researchers at Harvard. It says we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with. We tend to adopt the beliefs and habits of the people we spend the most time with. And lastly, maybe most importantly is something I dont think I talk about enough, which is the role that spirituality plays in my life. Im pretty allergic to anything religious, so thats not what Im talking about. I mean no disrespect to religious people if that works for you. I just needed to come to an understanding of what it means to connect to a God of my understanding, which in short is universal law but also a power rooted in love. I have had spiritual experiences that were so profound, theres no other way to explain them. They actually happen so frequently in the recovery community we often refer to them as God Shots. They are like little reminders that we are not alone, and there is a greater power working in our loves. If you have had a spiritual experience that youd like to share, just leave a comment on the blog at odaatchat.com or you can DM me on Instagram at arlinaallen And as always, if you find yourself in need of support along your sobriety journey, please reach out to me to find out if sober coaching is right for you. Just visit soberlifeschool.com and book a no obligation call. Today I have a special guest, Andrea Seydel who is the author of Recovery Without Rock Bottom Reclaim Your life From Addictive Behavior. She is also the host of the super popular, Saving You Is Killing Me Podcast. Andrea shares how living with an addict led her to a very dark place of self-doubt, and shame that nearly cost her everything. I dont think we talk enough about how destructive addiction is for the family members, so today is an attempt to rectify that. And honestly, I dont think I know a single person in recovery who hasnt suffered from codependency to some degree so this will be a helpful episode for all involved. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Andrea. =J

Today I am speaking with Author and Yoga Teacher Bryan Hyman. He will be sharing his experience with addiction, the catalyst to his recovery, and his book, Recovery With Yoga Supportive Practices For Transcending Addiction. Before we jump in, Id like to introduce a new segment - Sobriety Shorts A bite sized bit of wisdom and an action step to move you deeper into your recovery journey. Today Id like to talk about The Sobriety Drift. Its what happens when the motivation from emotional pain starts to subside and we start to skip on the action steps that help us feel better. Its happened to me many times. I get super willing out of desperation to do all the self-care like step work, meditation, journaling, exercise&all that stuff. Then voila&I start feeling better! Mood follows action. Cause and effect come into play and I start getting comfortable. Maybe Im tired or pressed for time, and I think Im going to skip my meditation or my journaling and before you know it, days or weeks pass by and I havent done my self care. This is the sobriety drift. Its so subtle I dont even realize its happening until BAM! Something happens to throw me off course and Im back to feeling totally dysregulated. Whats going on under the surface is that I am taking action motivated by a temporary fuel source - fear of pain. Which actually isnt a bad motivator to get you going, but we need to switch to a more sustainable source of motivation mid flight. That would be community, accountability, and routine. We are way more likely to do self care if there is someone else watching or depending on us to do things with them. Like having an exercise buddy, going to self help meetings with friends and doing service work. All of these things provide a more sustainable source for motivation, it encourages self discipline and ultimately keeps you on the straight and narrow. Id love to hear your thoughts on what keeps you on the path, so leave a comment on the website at odaatchat.com or email me at arlina @soberlifeschool.com or DM me on IG at Arlinaallen. If you find this helpful, please share it with a friend! The hardest part about growing a podcast is getting the word out, so if you know someone who loves sobriety, let them know about us! So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Hey Friend, in case youre new here, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. Today youll hear from my friends Lane Kennedy andamp; Tamar Medford, as we discuss their new book Sobriety for Dummies. And in case you had the same reaction to the book title as I did, dont worry, I totally asked them about it. But before we jump in& I just wanted to share something that comes up for a lot of us in recovery, which is seeking external validation andamp; people pleasing. These are actually very common coping mechanisms that develop in childhood. When were growing up, we are dependent on the adults in our lives to take care of our physical and emotional needs. So if you grew up in a home where your needs were not met or the adults were dysfunctional, then we learn to deny our own needs in ways that appease our parents to get our needs met. This can lead to over achieving behaviors, people pleasing, codependency, and a heavy reliance on external validation. What this means is that we have a tough time recognizing and validating our own needs, wants and feelings. I actually wrote an article sharing my experience of how I am healing my own need for validation with some practical tips on how to let go of old destructive habits that I think youll enjoy. You can find the article at odaatchat.com. And in the spirit of cultivating a sense of self-love, follow me on IG for a free 30 day self-love challenge. Just do a search on Arlina Allen. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Lane and Tamar. =J

Okay friends, buckle up because this is going to be a wild ride! Frank Parisi is going to share his story about growing up around organized crime, violence, and drug addiction. He has such an interesting story, but I gotta tell you, he has amazing energy and really such incredible passion for life! Hes going to tell the story of how he got a heart transplant, and all Im going to say, is get out the tissues cuz its a tear jerker. Before we jump in, I want to share an idea that has really helped me on my journey of recovery that I share with my coaching clients all the time. Its that we only allow into our lives, what we believe we deserve on a subconscious level. I want to stress the subconscious part because our limiting beliefs are actually hidden from our conscious awareness. Thats why you struggle with relapse, or have unhealthy relationships or you find yourself in self-sabotage mode. All these things are evidence of low self-esteem. The good news is I have a solution for you. I would like to invite you to follow me on IG @arlinaallen for a free 30 day self-esteem challenge. Every day I will post a simple task or suggestion to help you build your self-worth. If you take consistent action, I can assure you that you will raise the level of your self esteem, and make progress towards feeling more peace and ease in your life. Also, I would just like to say thank you to the supporters of the podcast, your donations are what makes it possible for me to run the podcast without ads. If you are enjoying the podcast, I would be so grateful if you made a donation. Just visit odaatchat.com and under the tiny little home button at the top, there will be a dropdown menu where you can select donation. Any amount will help, and it allows the message of recovery to be distributed in 84 countries. If you cant make a donation, you can still support the podcast by leaving a 5 star review in the podcast app that youre listening on. It helps increase our rankings and spread the message of hope to those who need it most. Heres how to leave a review https //odaatchat.com/index.php/podcast/ Thats it for announcements! Please enjoy this inspiring episode with Frank Parisi. Connect with Frank https //frank-parisi.com =J

Today I am joined by Alexis, a former coaching client who came to me for support as she was struggling to stay sober. She was dealing with a ton of stress as a business owner, and loads of guilt as a mother. We also talked about the root causes of being an overachiever, struggling with perfectionism, alcoholism, and workaholism. And as always, we talk a lot about the insights, tools and practices that have helped her to stay sober and heal her relationships. Ill just warn you up front that towards the end we talk about a naked womens retreat she went on in Italy, and Ill just say, we had a good laugh. I think you will too. Before we jump in, have you ever been curious about self-hypnosis for things like sobriety, self-esteem and self-worth? If so, then check out the one day at a time youtube channel. I have been creating free videos that will help you to raise your self-esteem, let go of guilt and shame so that you can be free to reach your full potential. There is a link to the YouTube channel in the show notes or just search for The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast. Im releasing new recordings weekly, so be sure to subscribe! So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Alexis =J

Financial Insecurity is something that plagues all of us. And it doesnt seem to matter how much money you actually have. Its the fear of not having enough or losing what you have that shows up in a myriad of ways. So today Ive invited my friend Gary Menkes back to have the conversation around financial insecurity. Hes a Wall Street guy who also happens to be in long term sobriety. We are going to talk about some of the root causes, and more importantly, some of the solutions that will result in dissolving some of that fear. Be sure to stay to the end for a little mini course on how to manifest. Ill share the same techniques I used to book big guests like Elizabeth Gilbert and how I tripled my income one year. But before we jump in, if you have been trying to quit drinking and you feel like you just cant seem to stay stopped, then you might consider sober coaching. I have a program called Make Sobriety Stick that will help you work through some of those hidden obstacles, incorporate tools that help you manage stress and drinking triggers, and give you a personalized plan for success. I am not able to take a ton of clients but do have a couple of spots open. If youre sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, book a free strategy call to see if coaching is right for you. Just visit makesobrietystick.com So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! Connect with Gary here https //thebeginagainpodcast.com/ Instagram https //www.instagram.com/thebeginagainpodcast/ =J

Sobriety is not about becoming someone different, it about becoming your authentic self This is a quote from my conversation with Michaela, the co-host of 2 Sober Girls Podcast and Coach, focusing on wellness and sobriety. We discuss sobriety, manifestation, and lots of tools that will support you on your recovery journey. I absolutely adore Michaela and I know you will too! And speaking of tools for recovery, if you are thinking of taking a break from drinking, I would like to invite you to download a free guide 30 tips for your first 30 days. It has all my best tips in there on how to prepare before you start, how to talk to your friends and family, how to prevent cravings, and what to do when you get one. The funny thing is, we all face a lot of the same challenges in the beginning, and what I know for sure, is that theres a path around every obstacle. If I can do it, so can you. This guide will show you how. You can get instant access by visiting soberlifeschool.com So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

A lot of people with addiction have underlying childhood trauma, but thats not always the case. Today Im speaking with Nick Padlo. He is a military veteran who spent 27 months in combat between Afghanistan and Iraq. He went on to attend Stanford University and is now the CEO of Sophros Recovery. In his recent TedTalk, he made the case that we shouldnt have to become an alcoholic in order to learn valuable coping skills, but thats exactly what happened. I really appreciated Nicks vulnerability in sharing his darkest hour. I know that there are people listening who will deeply relate to his story. But before we jump in, if you or someone you know is struggling to get sober, please consider getting a copy of The 12 Step Guide for Skeptics Clearing Up Common Misconceptions of a path to sobriety. It will provide context and perspectives to move you past common obstacles to the 12 steps. Its a guide that will help you get into the recovery mindset in a way that will allow you to get all the benefits of 12 steps without any of the nonsense. You can order it through Amazon. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Every once in a while I get off an interview and think wow, its a miracle how some people can survive their childhoods. This was one of those conversations. Please note that this may be triggering to those with childhood trauma, and Michael does not shy away from the F-bomb. Michael shares his story of growing up with a mother who was not only an addict, but extremely abusive in many ways. His step father was violent and regularly traumatized him and his siblings as well. All throughout his childhood Michael endured the worst kinds of abuse, which led to addiction, but something happened. Through a series of events Michael took control of his life and not only turned his life around, but he has now dedicated his life to helping others through a very popular podcast, multiple books, and a very successful coaching practice. This is a very powerful episode of overcoming the odds, and offers hope that no matter what happened in your past, you can turn pain into purpose. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Hey Friend, Im so glad to hang out with you today! This is going to be a fun one. And if you havent been watching the YouTube interviews, you want to watch this one. My guest Erinn is absolutely stunning! But thats not even the best part of her because I found her to be so kind, full of faith, and simply inspiring. She is the co-host of 2 Sober Girls podcast along with the fabulous Michaela Horvathova, as well as a coach, and community facilitator. I love the work she and Michaela are doing and I think you will too. Before we jump in, I have to share an email I received from a reader of The 12 Step Guide For Skeptics Clearing Up Common Misconceptions of A Path To Sobriety. The email came from Stefanie and she writes I became sober in december 2023 without AA (but with the help of an online program) but I recently felt like there is still something missing. Stop drinking is not the real deal, Ive learned from your book and so now I am curious about what will happen during this second sober year, because I am joining an AA meeting now and we plan to go through the 12 steps together. I think it is amazing how open you describe your way of thinking and the issues you had to go through. I feel ready to start working on them thanks to the encouraging book you wrote. Thank you so much and all the best from Germany Can I just tell you, her email brought me to tears. So Stefanie, if you are listening, thank you for all your kind words! If you are interested in getting a copy of the book for yourself or a friend, its available on Amazon in either the Kindle Version or in print. The audio version is coming! So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Hey Friend, Thank you for downloading this episode! Its going to be a little bit different that what I normally do, but I think youll get a lot out of it. Like so many of us in recovery, I have felt really frustrated at times with my own negative repeating patterns. Procrastinating on self-care, spending too much time consuming information instead of acting on it, and at times, feeling really disappointed in myself. Its a really frustrating experience to recognize when Im feeling stuck and powerless to change, especially when I have tried just about every form of therapy, and read hundreds of books over the last 3 decades. But over the last couple of years, I have been practicing parts work, specifically polarized parts. An example of this is where I have an ambitious part of me that wants to get stuff done, but also a distractor part that causes me to get overwhelmed and feel paralyzed. It has been through this parts work that I have been able to resolve this polarization and resistance, to be more productive in the last 12 months than I have in YEARS. I have written a book, been consistent in the gym, my self-care practices, and created a new program that Ill share with you in a moment. In todays episode, I invited Cece Sykes to join me on the podcast to do a demonstration of this parts work. Cece has been working with the founder of IFS for the last 20 years and I consider her to be the leading expert on polarization. I believe in this work so much, that its the foundation of The Inner Compass Program, which opens for enrollment on 2/16. The focus of the course will be to use parts work to resolve internal resistance so that we can actually take action on the knowledge we have and prioritize our most important goals. If you have been searching for the missing piece, and feeling like you need something more, then Id like to invite you to join me in this new community. Just visit Innercompassprogram.com/waitlist and youll be the first one in line when enrollment opens. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Cece Sykes. =J

When is it okay to move away from 12 step programs? Is it okay? Or are we destined to drink or use again?  For some people, that's a dangerous prospect to consider, especially in early recovery. For others, it might be a way of honoring the need for something more. My guest Eric Zimmer, host of the wildly popular podcast “The One You Feed” and I are going to get into the nuances of recovery, how we evolve over the long term and so much more. Before we jump in, a quick announcement. If you find yourself skipping your self care practices like meditation, exercise, or connecting with others, then you're probably out of balance. Over time, this leads to increased anxiety, burnout, and ultimately feelings of “not good enough”.   As a chronic overachiever and goal getter, I fall into this trap myself. The one practice I have found that really helps me to get back on track is a 15 minute journaling exercise. It helps me to validate my own feelings, resolve internal resistance, and get back into balance so I can take action on what matters most, without feeling overwhelmed. You can download this worksheet for free by visiting: innercompassprogram.com So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think!

Thank you for downloading the episode, my name is Arlina, and Ill be your host. Today I have the honor of sharing a listeners story! Reagan is joining me today to talk about her experience with alcoholism, relapses, and how shes maintaining her sobriety today. I was reminded that so many of us had painful childhood experiences, and the lasting effect that can have on us in adulthood. Reagan bravely shares her story so that maybe someone else who is suffering, can find some hope for themselves too. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Hey Friend, Thank you for downloading the podcast! In case we havent met yet, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host! Im thrilled to introduce you to Dr Sarah Michaud. She is a clinical psychologist who has worked in the field of addiction, recovery, and codependency for over thirty years. Today were talking about her new book CoCrazy One Psychologists Recovery from Codependency and Addiction Memoir and Manual to Freedom. With an alcoholic mother, a father in denial, and a whole lot of guilt and shame, how could Sarah NOT develop codependency and addiction?! She will share her story, and as we always do, talk about practical solutions that you can apply to your life. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, with Sarah! =J

You might be thinking, fentanyl overdose? This cant happen to me, but youd be wrong. The scary truth about Fentanyl is that it is being included in a lot of counterfeit street drugs. My nephew who is 30, college educated, and in a professional tech job, has lost 4 friends to fentanyl overdose. They thought they were taking molly or something else, but they died because it was laced with fentanyl. These were young men who did not fit the typical demographic of someone youd expect to see in the news. My own son a few years back was experimenting with drugs and had taken a counterfeit pill. We were so lucky he survived. Even the ER doctor couldnt tell us what he took. My point is that when someone is taking drugs, they are playing russian roulette. We need to educate ourselves about whats going on so that we can protect ourselves and our loved ones. Today my guest Ryan Hampton will be talking about his new book Fentanyl Nation. He will be separating fact from fiction, and share simple, yet powerful action steps we can all take to help those who are experimenting or addicted to drugs. So without further delay, heres my conversation with Ryan Hampton. Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started Grab your copy here https //www.soberlifeschool.com Download Here https //www.innercompassprogram.com Private Coaching Make Sobriety Stick https //www.makesobrietystick.com Subscribe So You Dont Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https //www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1         Apple https //podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify https //open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music https //music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

We all know someone who is in denial, right? So can you break them out of denial? Today, my guest Amber Hollingsworth and I talk about what to do if someone you love is in denial, and the role you might be playing thats keeping them stuck. Amber is an addictions counselor with over 20 years of experience. She is also the host of Put the Shovel Down a YouTube channel with nearly 750K subscribers! Youll see in this conversation that she has a gift for putting herself in other peoples shoes and really understanding how people in recovery think and feel. We talk about what to do if youre trying to get sober and your spouse still wants to drink, how to build trust and credibility so they listen to you, and hard truths about what is required to get results. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Amber. Connect with Amber here https //www.youtube.com/channel/UCT8PE1v0xFR9zLXOijxM6hg/videos =J

Hi Friend, Thank you for downloading the podcast, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. Its not very often that a story brings me to tears, but the story youll hear today was incredibly moving. Today, I have the honor of sharing Jeannies story of growing up in a dysfunctional family, falling into addiction, spending time incarcerated, and losing her children. But due to the kindness of a very special woman, Susan Binkley, the founder of Blue Monarch, she found hope, healing for herself and her family and now leads a life of meaning and purpose. This is truly a story of hope for families that are recovering from addiction. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Hi Friend, thank you for joining me today! In case we havent met yet, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. Today I am speaking with Randy Hall, the former President of Recovery Dharma. He shares his insight and wisdom on addiction recovery. I have to say, I enjoyed this conversation SO MUCH! Randy is a guy who really gets it. I love his open mindedness and appreciation for all paths of recovery. Some things we cover are The add on approach The importance of rituals Replacing habits Healing practices and so much more! This is a long one, so if you cant listen to it in one sitting, I would encourage you to break it up into bite size pieces because the end includes some resources for other programs you might like to explore. If youd like to connect with Randy you can find him here IG Randallwestlyhall Email randy@apcbham.org So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

We have a returning guest today, Andrea Ashley, the host of the very popular Adult Child Podcast. She gives us an update to what life is like today after going through a heartbreak and dealing with parents who are deep into their alcoholism. Andrea really demonstrates what its like to be strong enough to be vulnerable, and stay emotionally sober through very stressful situations. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Ashley =J

Can AI tools really help you get sober? Today Ill be speaking with Zachary Gidwitz, the CEO of OpenRecovery, an app that leverages AI to make 12 step recovery content more accessible to those struggling with addiction. We talked about his story of addiction and recovery, but really got into practical ways to change your thinking so that you can better manage your feelings, how to let go of stress, feel more peace, and live your purpose. Zachary had so much wisdom and powerful insights to share. I know youre going to appreciate him as much as I do. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Is it possible to recover from addiction if you have a lifetime of trauma? The honest answer is, it depends. It depends on each individuals willingness to get help, practice self-reflect, be open minded and do the work of self-care. Today I sit down with Jami, who is a beautiful example of willingness, resilience, and someone brave enough to live with an open heart despite years of abandonment and tragic loss. Stay to the end because we talk about redefining some triggering words, so that they dont become limiting beliefs. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

If you are newly sober and you're feeling anxious about spending time with your family during the holidays, I have a few tips to get you through safely.

Hey friend, welcome to the podcast! I have a special guest today, Paul Churchill from the mega-popular Recovery Elevator, with more than 10M downloads! He is also an author and since I spoke with him last, a new husband and father! We had a wide-ranging conversation, including pushing past fear, new challenges in long-term sobriety, and how the recovery landscape has changed over the years. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! Subscribe So You Dont Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https //www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 =J

Hey Friend! Im so glad youre here for this special episode. Today my dear friend Charlie LeVoir, the host of The Way Out Podcast, is interviewing me to talk about my new book The 12 Step Guide For Skeptics Clearing Up Common Misconceptions of a Path to Sobriety. And stay to the end because we talk about the dark side of social media sobriety! When I announced that the book was published, I had several people suggest that I talk about why I wrote the book, and Im not great at doing solo episodes, so I asked Charlie to join me. BTW, follow me on Instagram @arlinaallen because Ill be sharing about The Inner Compass Program thats launching in January. The whole idea about this new program is to help you get unstuck on your personal growth journey and solve the one problem EVERYONE has which is collapsing the gap between knowing what to do, and actually doing it! We all struggle with internal resistance, and the new program will be focused on helping you resolve that resistance, so you can feel freer to take the actions that will help you break out of negative behavior patterns and make consistent progress towards your goals. I am so excited about this work, because its the work that frees you up to do all your other work! So thats it for announcements. Without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! Subscribe So You Dont Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https //www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 =J

Imagine being so obsessed with alcohol at 12 years old that you land in rehab at 13! My guest today is Christoper, and thats exactly what happened to him. He went on to struggle with alcohol and severe drug addiction for decades, which led him to the darkest side of humanity. But thats just the beginning of Christophers story. In this episode he will share how he was finally able to break out of addiction and adopt a lifestyle where he is absolutely thriving! So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! Subscribe So You Dont Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https //www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 =J

Can We End The Shame and Stigma of Addiction? Can we turn survival skills into healthy coping skills? Is it even really possible to heal from childhood trauma? Today my guest Heather Zuchowski and I addressed all these questions, and it might sound weird, but we actually had a great time! Heather is smart, shes funny, and very talented in her work. I so appreciated her vulnerability and transparency as we talked about the hardest parts of her story as well. She really delivers on the solutions too, which I love. Also, I have something fun to suggest to those brave souls who are listening right now. the response to the coaching calls has been so good, that I've decided to make them a regular part of the show! Here's the deal, if you are struggling with an issue like a difficult family member, ending a relationship, a situation at work,& maybe you're struggling with letting go of a sponsor, procrastination, dealing with grief, whatever and you'd like to talk it through with me, we can record our conversation and publish it as an episode, and we can even do it anonymously. So if you'd like support from me, and you'd be willing to be a guest to talk about your challenges, email me at arlina@soberlifeschool.com. I'll only be able to do a couple of these per month, so if you're interested, be sure to reach out as soon as you can. Lastly, the paperback version of my book is out! In case you didn't know, it's called “The 12-Step Guide for Skeptics: Clearing up Common Misconceptions of a Path to Sobriety”. All I'm going to say is that if you haven't worked the steps yet, this guide will help you get all the benefits without all the drama. The 12 steps are a worthy endeavor. You have nothing to lose, and there's nothing to be afraid of. I love you, you are safe, I'm here to help. You can work with me on a 1:1 basis, just visit soberlifeschool.com to book a strategy call. I'll keep you safe and moving in the right direction. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, with Heather! Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https //www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 =J

Welcome to the podcast! If you're listening in from the US, UK, Australia, Ireland, Germany & China - I'm so glad you're here! You're a part of a community that is listening from 69 countries. How cool is that?! I mention the different countries because I'm very aware that a lot of people don't have access to large recovery communities in their local towns. But we're living in a digital age, where people in recovery can connect, and stay sober through online groups. Today, my guest Paul will share his story of alcoholism, why he decided to stop drinking, and the online group he joined that has helped him to stay sober for over 15 years.  Before we jump in, I have the biggest announcement I've ever made… which is that my book is FINALLY available for pre-order on Amazon! It's called “The 12 Step Guide for Skeptics: Clearing Up Common Misconceptions of a Path to Sobriety”. And if you've ever had a bad experience with 12 step, or feel turned off by AA, I just ask that you try to keep an open mind for a moment, because the first thing I want to tell you is that your feelings are valid! I'm not going to pretend that there aren't some aspects of the program that are problematic, but what I want to tell you, is that there is a way around those sticking points that will allow you to access this magical process. The book will call out some of the most common issues I hear, and give you context and perspectives that might clear up any misconceptions. It's really a set of logical mindset shifts, while still honoring the feelings that naturally arise when grappling with behavior changes like alcohol use disorder. Listen, for the last 8 years and hundreds of podcasts later, you know my only goal is to help you end needless suffering. If this book can help you feel better, I hope you read it and apply it! But if you just can't get yourself to do that, I hope you feel comfortable enough to reach out to me and set up a call to talk about sober coaching. There are many paths to the same destination and I'm here to help. As always, you can book a free strategy call with me, just visit: makesobreitystick.com   So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Paul. Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube.

Are you a sober parent? Because if you are, you need to know youre not alone in navigating this sober lifestyle. We have different challenges which require a specific skill set. In her new book Parents in Recovery Navigating a Sober Family Lifestyle my guest Sarah Benton provides the solutions we need to create the peaceful loving families homes we all want for our kids. Shes going to share some stories, and some practical tools that you can use right away. Before we jump in, I have to share that I finally have a publication date for my book, The 12-Step Guide for Skeptics Clearing up Common Misconceptions o a Path to Sobriety which is Friday October 25th! Ive been talking about this book for what feels like forever, so I have to say, it feels very surreal to finally be at this point! The book is really my attempt to make the 12 step process available to those who are curious about it, but have stayed away due to shameful labels, religious trauma, or rigid oldtimers. There is a way around every obstacle. You can get all the benefits of this magical process, and this book will serve as your guide. To celebrate, you can get the ebook for .99 only on launch day! Im only doing this for my friends/listeners, so you just need to be on my newsletter to get the link. To sign up, go to odaatchat.com and enter your name and email on the popup! So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with my guest, Sarah. Subscribe So You Dont Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https //www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you! Here are 4 ways to get started Free Guide 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here https //www.soberlifeschool.com Private Coaching Make Sobriety Stick https //www.makesobrietystick.com Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free https //www.sobrietyreset.com The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love https //www.selfesteemcourse.com Apple https //podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify https //open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music https //music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

This is a little bonus episode. I'll be experimenting with some different formats, so if you find this valuable, please let me know and I'll do more of them! This is actually a very important topic about relationships. If you are  in the process of getting sober, you're probably in the process of repairing relationships too. Today I'm having a chat with Paul who answered my call for volunteers who are dealing with challenges in sobriety. We're going to be discussing his marriage of 37 years and the struggle he faces in coping with resentment from his wife. I just want to thank Paul for his openness, vulnerability and his desire to be of service to others. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE.  Subscribe on YouTube Here: https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you! Here are 4 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https://www.makesobrietystick.com Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free https://www.sobrietyreset.com  The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love  https://www.selfesteemcourse.com Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast  

Is this election season making you feel crazy? I know Im feeling frustrated and sad with where we are as a nation. There is a lot of tension in the air, I see long time friendships that are ending, and with the holiday season just around the corner, we need to find a better way to relate to our families that have different perspectives. And I just have to admit, I have plenty of my own biased thinking. I want to be open to allowing new ideas that will help me be the kind of loving person I want to be. Today my guest TJ Woodward and I are going to talk openly about how to maintain our sanity, and find a new way to relate to those we disagree with, all without abandoning our values. TJs name might sound familiar to you. He was my guest for episode #311. As a little refresher, TJ is the author of Conscious Recovery A Fresh Perspective On Recovery, and a person in long term recovery with 37 years of sobriety! This is a very important conversation. I hope it helps you find peace the way it did for me.. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with TJ. Subscribe So You Dont Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you! Here are 4 ways to get started Free Guide 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here https //www.soberlifeschool.com Private Coaching Make Sobriety Stick https //www.makesobrietystick.com Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free https //www.sobrietyreset.com  The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love  https //www.selfesteemcourse.com       Apple https //podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify https //open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music https //music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

Do you have an anger problem? It seems like it would be obvious, but if you have learned to suppress or deny your feelings, you may not recognize it or how its affecting your life. Michelle Farris joins me today to talk about 4 ways to identify anger, and 5 ways to manage it. Michelle is a licensed psychotherapist and person in recovery. This is actually her third time on the podcast, so if you want to hear her whole story, just go to odaatchat.com and Ill leave a link in the show notes. Before we jump in, I just wanted to let you know that Im publishing educational videos on my youtube channel. Ill be covering topics like how to rebuild self-esteem, tips to stop drinking, and long form sleep hypnosis to help you rewire your brain for improved self worth, detachment from overthinking, trust in the universe, self love and confidence.  Just visit The one day at a time recovery podcast on YouTube, and as always, the link will be in the show notes. https //odaatchat.com/index.php/2022/01/28/michelle-2/ Im really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Michelle . Connect with Michelle   https //www.counselingrecovery.com Subscribe So You Dont Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you! Here are 4 ways to get started Free Guide 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here https //www.soberlifeschool.com Private Coaching Make Sobriety Stick https //www.makesobrietystick.com Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free https //www.sobrietyreset.com  The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love  https //www.selfesteemcourse.com           Apple https //podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify https //open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music https //music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

Hi Friend, thank you for downloading this episode and hanging out with us today! If you hear some snoring, that's just my english bulldog Ted. I didn't have the heart to kick him out so he's hanging out with us too. Today's question is:  Can you get sober for someone else?  There is a lot of debate around the idea of getting sober for someone else. In this episode, I have a conversation with Paul Summers Jr, who is a returning guest. He is the author of “Hide and Seek: A Dad's Journey from Soulless addiction to sole custody”.  In this episode Paul shares his story of drug addiction, how he got sober for his daughter, and the fight to save her from an addict mother.  Before we jump in, I wanted to share an idea that has really helped a lot of my clients as they work towards breaking old behavior patterns and achieving really big goals, and that is the Law of 51%. It's easy to feel overwhelmed by changes that you want to make or goals you want to achieve. That feeling of overwhelm can keep you from taking action, which keeps you feeling stuck. Think of a balance scale and what it takes to tip the balance. It's just a little more on one side than the other! So the law of 51% states that all you need to tip the scale, is just a little more progress in the direction you're headed in. The big take away here is that you are closer to your goal than you think! With some tools, support and a little practice, you can reach that goal you have been struggling with.   This is just one of the lessons from my 6 week class called “Reinvent Yourself”. Listen, we all know what to do, but we just don't do it. Why? The answer is resistance. The magic is that we do the exercises together in class to break through that resistance and help you build momentum.   Class starts Oct 3 at 6pm PST. I only teach this class 3 times per year and space is very limited, so don't miss out! As a little incentive, if you sign up by Friday, you can bring a friend for free! To register, head on over to selfesteemcourse.com.   So that's it for announcements! Please enjoy this episode, with Paul!   Purchase Paul's Book Here: https://amzn.to/47JCY8e   Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube.   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 4 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https://www.makesobrietystick.com Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free https://www.sobrietyreset.com  The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love  https://www.selfesteemcourse.com       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast  

Is your self-worth tied to your relationship with money?    It is for me! And I know it is for so many of us in recovery. Money is a very triggering topic and touches so many aspects of our lives. And we rarely talk about it! So in this episode, we're going to get into it.   Today I'm speaking with Julie Reisler who is the author of Get a PhD in YOU: A Course in Miraculous Self-Discovery, podcast host of “The Youest-You”, and a woman in long term recovery from food addiction.   In this episode we'll cover topics like:   Food Addiction   Examples of Money Wounds   Limiting Money Beliefs   12 Steps To Healing Money Issues   Julie has so many insights to share. My favorite quote from her is: “What's reflected outside is a mirror of what's going on inside”. So true!   I'm really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Julie.   Connect with Julie Here: https://juliereisler.com/ Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you! Here are 4 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https://www.makesobrietystick.com Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free https://www.sobrietyreset.com  The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love  https://www.selfesteemcourse.com       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast  

This is going to be a really good one, especially for those who participate in ACA, which is Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families. In the 338 episodes I've recorded so far, I've actually never covered this topic! My guest for this conversation is Dr. Sharon Martin. She is a psychotherapist and author specializing in codependency recovery. For the past 25 years, she's been helping adult children recover from difficult childhoods, overcome feelings of unworthiness, and learn to set boundaries. Dr. Martin is the author of four self-help books, including “The Better Boundaries Workbook” and “Cutting Ties with Your Parents.” She also writes the popular blog Conquering Codependency for Psychology Today. In this episode we're going to be talking about setting boundaries, codependency, perfectionism, and how to handle events such as weddings and funerals if you've cut ties with your parents. Anyway, I'm really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Sharon, and let me know what you think! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE (https://www.odaatchat.com) . Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you! Here are 4 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com  Private one-on-one coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https://www.makesobrietystick.com   Sobriety Reset: A Self-Paced 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free  https://www.sobrietyreset.com  The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love https://www.selfesteemcourse.com      

Hey Friend, Thanks for downloading the episode!    I would like to introduce you to Patti Clark. She is the author of "Recovery Road Trip: Finding Purpose and Connection on the Journey Home"   Today she shares her story of how she found recovery, her relapse after 13 years sober, and how she got sober again.    She is so relatable and has so much wisdom to share!   In this episode:   What you'll hear:   ✅  Perils of Moving In Sobriety   ✅  Relapsing After Long Term Sobriety   ✅  Coping With Guilt & Shame   ✅  Creating The Community She Needed   And so much more…   Patti is such a beautiful person and I'm so lucky to have met her! I think you'll love her too.   So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Patti.   Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https://youtu.be/vTdDVZbH17Y https://amzn.to/3Mw6dBl

Hey Friend!    If you're new here, my name is Arlina and I'll be your host. If you're on Instagram, you can find me @ arinaallen, so drop by and say hi! I'd love to meet you!   In this episode, I have a conversation with Caroline Beidler, the co-author of “You are not your trauma: Uproot unhealthy patterns, Heal the family tree”   Trauma is such an important topic because so many of us in recovery from addiction are living with unhealed trauma. It affects our sense of self-worth, the people we surround ourselves with and even our ability to get or stay sober.   Caroline and I talk about her story of abandonment, growing up with dysfunctional parents, surviving multiple sexual assaults, and her own addictions.    We actually recorded this episode prior to the one we did with her mother Diana Dallas, who co-authored the book, but I was so moved by THAT conversation that I published it first.    So yeah, there's no master plan, I'm literally flying by the seat of my pants!   Caroline's story is one of trauma, but ultimately, she is also a living example of how far you can go, when there is willingness to do the work of recovery.    So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Caroline. Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates and videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://www.makesobrietystick.com     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

Hey Friend,    Welcome to the podcast! In case we haven't met yet, my name is Arlina and I'll be your host.   Today I am joined again by my friend John Loxley who is also a podcaster, he's a writer, father and person in long term recovery. This is his 3rd time joining me on the podcast. I absolutely love talking with John! He's a deep thinker, a philosopher, but also very down to earth.   In this episode John shares what it was like to leave his program behind when he vacationed in Turkey, how his mental health was affected and what he did to feel grounded again.   It was a wide ranging conversation, covering topics like why he quit drinking, the way he discovered spirituality, and 3 amazing stories of how his higher power works in his life.   I always get so much out of my time speaking with John, and I know you will too.   So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with John, and let me know what you think! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

For those of us in recovery, the relationships we have with our parents can be complicated. Especially if the parent was absent or if they had a lot of trauma.   Today I am honored to share a conversation with Caroline Beidler and her mother Diana Dallas. They wrote a book together called “You are not your trauma: Uproot Unhealthy Patterns, Heal The Family Tree”. It will ​​help you identify unhealthy patterns that keep you stuck and live more freely without your trauma--or your family's trauma--holding you back.   For me, this was such a powerful conversation. I was on the verge of tears multiple times. Their openness and vulnerability with each other really touched my heart.    And the book is amazing! It's part memoir, part science, and part workbook. It covers topics that include codependency, perfectionism, people pleasing and burnout to name a few.   Anyway, I'm really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode Caroline and Diana.     Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE.  Or watch the interview on YouTube!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

Can you imagine how terrifying it would be to get kidnapped?! Today my beautiful and talented friend Pamela Rueda shares her harrowing story of trauma, struggling with addiction in motherhood, dealing with shame, but also how she turned it all into her superpower.    I think we should all start calling her Powerhouse Pamela because she is so full of energy and works so hard to support other women in recovery.   Before we jump in, I am sooo excited to share that I finished writing my book! The 12 step guide for skeptics - is finally finished! Well, kind of finished. It's about to go to the editor, then I have to submit it for copywriting, get the book cover done…okay so there's still a lot to do BUT! I'm hoping to have it done for either Sober October (not likely) or No Booze November (possibly), but definitely for Dry January!    It has literally taken me YEARS to get to this point, so I'm starting to get excited about sharing it with the world. The reason I wrote it is because over the last 8 years of doing the podcast, I have been exposed to a TON of misconceptions, misunderstanding, and quite frankly a lot of vitriol against AA. While I can validate that there are some problems with the fellowship, the 12 step process is so profoundly transformative, that they have been adapted to many addictions and disorders.    It's part memoir, part psychology, part science - but all my opinions. Listen, I don't know what's right for you, but I'm going to offer you some context and perspective so that you,  as they say in the rooms, can run the experiment for yourself.   If you are the open minded type and you're curious about what's in the book, you can visit the12stepguideforskeptis.com and download the first few pages. It'll also put you on my newsletter so you can get updates about when it will be published.    I'm really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with , and let me know what you think!   Connect with Pamela here! https://www.mybadassrecovery.com/ https://www.instagram.com/mybadassrecovery/ Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

Hi Friend! In case we haven't met yet, my name is Arlina and I'll be your host.   Today I'm sharing a conversation I had with Alex McRobert, aka, Sober Yoga Girl. Alex shares her story of how she started drinking at 14, her family life, and how she went from living in Kuwait at 23 years old, to realizing she had a problem with alcohol. Alex shares how she was able to find her own unique path to sobriety, what she does to maintain it, and the amazing life she has created for herself in Bali!   Alex is a beautiful example of what it looks like to have the courage to follow your heart and live a life full of purpose and meaning.   Anyway, I'm really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Alex, and let me know what you think!   Connect with Alex on IG: https://www.instagram.com/alexmcrobs https://www.themindfullifepractice.com/ Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

Do you struggle with feelings of unworthiness? Does it hold you back from reaching your goals?    Today I am joined by Paul Summers Jr, the author of “Hide and Seek: A Dad's Journey From Soulless Addiction to Sole Custody”   He had reached out to be a guest on the podcast, and after a short discussion we decided to do a coaching call to address the feelings he was having around promoting his book. Feelings of not wanting to be a pushy sales guy, or being sensitive to critical feedback.   We do a demo of parts work, to get to the root cause of where these feelings come from, and Paul was able to heal some old wounds in the process.   I want to thank Paul for his courage and vulnerability. I think it will help for others to see how deep work leads to feelings of peace and positive productivity.   So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Paul, and share it with a friend!   Buy The Book Here! https://amzn.to/4bTjQot   Connect with Paul Here: https://www.paulsummersjr.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul_summers_jr/ Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

Have you been trying to change your drinking on your own? Or struggled to stay sober in social situations or on vacation?   Well today my guest Deb Masner and I talk about some of the most common mistakes people make when trying to quit drinking, and how to avoid them.   Deb is the host of The Alcohol Tipping Point Podcast. She works with people who find themselves in the gray area of drinking, where alcohol is taking more than it's giving. People in the gray area who recognize that it's time to change their relationship with alcohol.   We also talk about drinking triggers, what a sober toolkit is and how it can help regulate your emotions to make sobriety stick.   Anyway, I'm really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Deb , and let me know what you think! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podcast Addict, YouTube Podcasts, Amazon Music, or on your favorite podcast platform. You can watch the interview on YouTube here. Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast          

If you want to get sober, but you don't feel comfortable at AA meetings, what do you do?   Courtney Anderson, author of “Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol” joins me today to tell her story of recovery.    Link to book: https://amzn.to/4bFdVn4   We talk about what to expect in the first 30 days, journal prompts for self-reflection, how to handle social situations, and how to keep busy and find new ways of having fun.   Courtney is so fun and down to earth! I think you're going to love her as much as I do.   Anyway, I'm really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Courtney, and let me know what you think! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podcast Addict, YouTube Podcasts, Amazon Music, or on your favorite podcast platform. You can watch the interview on YouTube here. Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!   Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!   Here are 3 ways to get started:   Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com   Follow me on the socials for daily inspiration: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlinaallen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/arlinaallen   Private one-on-one coaching: https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching             Need Help Applying Sobriety Practices Into Your Life?    Here are 3 Ways I Can Support You On Your Journey To Your Highest Potential Grab Your Free Guide: How To Quit Drinking: 30 Tips For Your First 30 Days Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and TikTok Join Sobriety Reset - 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free To find out more about Arlina and her private coaching program, head over to https://recovery.soberlifeschool.com/coaching     The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love Private one on one coaching - Set Up A Call To See If Coaching Is Right For You!       Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast