Podcasts about Alcoholism

The 12 Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous are the framework for how the groups work.  According to the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, "The '12 Traditions' of Alcoholics Anonymous are, we A.A.'s believe, the best answers to that our experience has yet given to those ever-urgent questions, 'How can A.A. best function?' and, 'How can A.A. best stay whole and so survive?'"As alcoholics, our person ambition and "good intentions," could turn this fellowship away from it's primary purpose, which is for us to stay sober.Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversyTradition 11 - Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films. Tradition 12 - Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. John I and Steve C join to talk about the guardrails that help AA operate.Please help support the show by giving it a review and rating in Apple Podcasts.  Find Recovery Links, access to social media and email at https://notalonerecovery.com/Please share with friends and family.

In this supportive, life-saving resource, the New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Failure helps parents and educators understand the roots of substance abuse and identify who is most at risk for addiction, and offers practical steps for prevention.Jessica Lahey was born into a family with a long history of alcoholism and drug abuse. Despite her desire to thwart her genetic legacy, she became an alcoholic and didn't find her way out until her early forties. Jessica has worked as a teacher in substance abuse programs for teens, and was determined to inoculate her two adolescent sons against their most dangerous inheritance. All children, regardless of their genetics, are at some risk for substance abuse. According to the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse, teen drug addiction is the nation's largest preventable and costly health problem. Despite the existence of proven preventive strategies, nine out of ten adults with substance use disorder report they began drinking and taking drugs before age eighteen. The Two Jess(es) welcome this incredible third Jess, once again, for another rattling WeSTAT conversation on the topic of alcohol, your kids, substance abuse disorder, and how our relationship to ALL of it, desperately needs to be examined- for the sake of our children's brain development.Meet Jessica!Jessica Lahey writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Washington Post, the New York Times, and The Atlantic and is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. She is a member of the Amazon Studios Thought Leader Board and wrote the curriculum for Amazon Kids' The Stinky and Dirty Show. She lives in Vermont with her husband and two sons.To learn more, go to: https://www.jessicalahey.com/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

What is the day going to look like as a result of my fitful night's sleep?  Turns out I may have had some covert or subversive anger issues today.  But first how to do a 4 count meditation.  The power of the hemingwayapp.comAdministrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Intro: 00:01 Imagine a conscious contact with God. So strong that no matter what you are doing or not doing that, no matter what your kids are up to or not up to, and that whether you've got the person of your dreams or they're just not cooperating, that you are happy content and at peace, a space where everyone else's thoughts, attitudes, and actions are beautiful and exactly as they are supposed to be. Well, this is the space where I like to play. My name is Misha Z, and this is today's. Slap. Join me as I shed light on the thoughts, actions, and attitudes that are causing you pain. And we train our minds to go to the capital S inner self, the joy that is waiting for us, the God with him.Mischa Z: 00:53 I am going to talk about covert anger today. Covert, anger, and how I needed to, uh, have, uh, have awareness that I did indeed have some, perhaps what we would call subversive or covert anger issues. That's what, that's what we're going to talk about today. Um, when I, uh, was, so this morning, I, you know, did my meditation. Man, I slept not so well last night, it was interesting. Um, very tossing and turny. Very, very, um, very inter intermittent. Ooh, I think I'm coming across someone. I know Tony. What's the apps, man. Good, good to see how fun is that? Just got to say hi to Tony. Where was I? Oh yeah, fitful night's sleep.Mischa Z: 02:10 And I think what's interesting about a fitful night's sleep is as I'm having fitful sleep in that moment, I can be very concerned about what is the day going to be looked, going to look like as a result of my fitful nights, sleep? You know what I mean? Does anybody else had that before? So you're in the midst of your fitful night's sleep and the mind starts projecting. Maybe we could call it, the ego starts projecting. Oh no, what's my day going to be like, I'm going to be tired. How am I going to show up for people? Um, am I going to be, am I going to be exhausted in all my activities?Mischa Z: 03:07 What else could we say? Um, you get what I'm talking about? It could be anything, or, gosh, am I going to be fitful all night? Am I ever going to fall asleep? And the mind just starts rolling. And I guess the point of this little diversion is that, you know, I had my fitful night's sleep. I woke up, I was actually felt more refreshed than I thought it was going to. So that was a surprise. So all that projecting about I'm going to be exhausted and not be able to get anything done or whatever worries were happening in the fitful moment.Mischa Z: 03:48 And I headed off to do my meditation, my hour meditation. I do my hour meditation and it's a fun one. Actually, it was pretty good. You know, it's focusing on what, you know, the thoughts would run and then come back to breath and I do a meditation on a four count, oftentimes. So that's what I was doing this morning. And when I see a four count, each out-breath is a countdown from four. I need to figure out a better way to say this, how that works. But so, you know, in breath through the nose; out breath through the nose. Mentally say Four. Next breath in out breath say three. Next breath in and out breath two. And you're saying this to yourself, obviously in your mind. In breath out breath, one. In breath, repeat from four on down. And whenever the, so what happens is you doing the four count? Inevitably the mind will start thinking about things.Mischa Z: 05:07 And the awareness that I'm thinking about other things becomes evident is that a double, a double positive, the awareness becomes evident. That is funny. Anyway, the awareness that I'm thinking about other things becomes evident. So you come back to the four count and it's a very smooth, aware process. Lots of fun insights are flying around back to the breath. It's funny too, in some of those moments, I can have fear like, oh no, if I go back to the breath, the insights will go away. So I was definitely playing with that thought. And um, so I come out of the meditation. So the meditation is great, good hour meditation. And after the meditation, I was, I would say, surprisingly vibrant and vital. Full of vitality. I dunno if that's the right word, but it was refreshed. Shall we say? Yeah, it was refreshed. That's a great way to say it. So all my worries of I'm going to be tired all day... That may still be yet to come by the way, I might need an app or a new meditation session to find that refreshed attitude.Mischa Z: 06:50 Um, and so I went into A Course In Miracles and, you know, I had a powerful couple of days. So A Course In Miracles, I'm reading, this is funny. I'm trying recording on a new platform and I lose track of, it's hard for me to find the time. So come out of the meditation, do my A Course In Miracles. And I'm just super, I was so calm and centered and connected. I think that that's a great word to say. I was connected. Like I have was just at peace in the moment, savoring my cup of coffee. Um, very, I hadn't perhaps I'd say spaced out is the right word. I would start my reading the A Course In Miracles. And then the next thing you know, it took me to some starts is what I'm trying to say until I was able to focus on it. The A Course In Miracles, section of a manual for teachers, uh, section three, I think it was, I can't remember what the name was, but again, I was not hard on myself for not focusing, right.Mischa Z: 08:31 It can be frustrated and I'm not focusing. I have to start again or read that paragraph for the sixth time or that sentence for the seventh time. And that was very much, it's all good. It's all good. I was not tripping at all and having awareness that I was not tripping. So that, that there was very much the feeling this morning in the meditation and coming out in the meditation of the gift of the aware, observing the observer. Is that a way to say it? Uh, um, yes. So my mind was drifting it's it's one of those days. Thanks for hanging in there. If you've made it this far, really the whole point of telling you all about the meditation and such was to say, one of the thoughts that popped up is I was reading A Course In Miracles and I jotted it down was covert anger. I was very memories of my covert anger, um, issues. Had calm, subversive as well. They were so subversive to me and that I was able to definitely justify them. And so my rationalization was subverting my relationship, my happy relationships, how's that? Oh my gosh, Russell Brunson. If you're listening to this, you will not be happy. I'm not using fifth grader, lower words.Mischa Z: 10:23 Oh my gosh. So many thoughts, streams piling through the brain. But so, uh, I'll, I'll close that loop, uh, Russell Brunson and many others, uh, you know, they say, Hey, when you're talking to the public, oftentimes a very effective way to get your point across is take, keep it simple. Like keep, you know, you don't need to use big words like that can actually distract from your message. And I think about that a lot. Cause I, I love big words. I love looking them up in the dictionary when I come across them. It's fun to, to sometimes, you know, look up words and then see them see that word materialize in your, or in my, um, conversations are writing at a later date. And as a matter of fact, to continue on that loop, um, there's a thing called Hemingway Hemingway app or hemingway.com, Hemingway editor or Hemingway app.Mischa Z: 11:35 I think it's Hemingway editor.com (it's actually hemingwayeditor.com). I'll put the link, check the link in the show notes. Um, and by the way, does anyone else do this? Does anyone else like throw in the big words, thinking that will make you more effective? I know I do. So if you do, Hey, welcome to the tape. So Hemingway editor, I think that's what it's called. Hemingway editor.com. You can again, check the show, the links in the show enough, you can, you can put in your sentence and it will tell you what grade level you're speaking at and are the sentences too complex are like run-ons or things like that. Or, um, you know, are you using it'll, it'll tell you words that are like, uh, I'm trying to think of the word. Um, well it'll give you recommendations for like past tense, present tense or things like that, or it'll say, Hey, you can actually just omit this word. Fricking love that I've gotten in the habit of going to Hemingway editor.com and, and putting in, uh, sentences things that I'm writing and really using it as a tool to, to be more concise in my thoughts, in my writing and, um, fix run-on sentences and all sorts of stuff.Mischa Z: 13:18 And it's really fun to use it and then send it out, send out whatever I'm sending out email or, or show notes or something like that. And then read it at a later date and be like, oh yeah, that is much easier to read than my normal writing. Anyhow, the meditation subversive, anger, covert, anger, and the issues that it caused me. And when I had awareness of it and the steps that I took to break free of it, that's what I was was, and am going to discuss. Let's do that for covert anger part two. Okay.Speaker 1: 14:07 Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for spending time with me today, as someone who is committed to growth and service to this world. I so appreciate your willingness to come with me, go within and serve our world through change. If you found value in this podcast and you know, someone who can use this message, share this episode with them, share it. So our mission can be achieved one episode at a time and of course, subscribe so you can hear more. And lastly, for more resources on what has helped me on my journey and can help you on yours, go to be love.media forward slash resources. That's B E L O V e.media forward slash resources. Thank you again for listening.

I finished the A Course In Miracles (ACIM) "Text" portion.  I've been hard at ACIM for two years.  I give you a high level breakdown of the layout.  I'm astonished that I've come this far with it.  And one of  major breakthroughs I've had.  I relate the impact of studying ACIM for that long to things you may have been studying.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 I finished the A Course In Miracles "Text". I just finished the A Course In Miracles "Text". I've been reading that, reading the A Course In Miracles, diligently doing all the exercise every day for, it's gotta be right at two years. And that's what I'm going to talk about today. And it's interesting. It feels like such a major accomplishment. And I was, I've been, I finished it yesterday, actually the Text. So the, A Course In Miracles combined volume is four main sections. There's the "Text", the "Workbook For Students", the "Workbook For Teachers". And I think it's "glossary" of terms or it's something there's a four section. And I, when I started it two years ago, I tried to start with the "Text", the "Text" section. It's about 670 or 675 pages long, composed of chapters. And each chapter has a section and each section is about two to three pages and it's super dense, lots of weighty concepts. And it's written in this double negatives and things like that. I was constantly looking up words and having to reread sentences to try to understand it. What they meant and get through the double and triple negatives even I think.Mischa Z: 02:16 And so in order, the A Course In Miracles is "Text", which is the 675 pages composed of all the chapters and sections. Then there is the "Workbook For Students", which is 365 daily exercises. And they're thought, um, exercises, meditation practices, um, some of the daily practices, have you say a mantra or a thought or a way to look at things on the top of the hour, every hour. Different things like that. It's really, really cool. And then I've just started the "Workbook For Teachers". And of course there's the "introduction" before all of that. So in the introduction, it says, Hey, you can read these this in no particular order. So if you're not called to read the "Text" first, then do the "Workbook For Students" or do the "Workbook For Teachers" or what have you. So I was trying to read the Text, but it was so weighty and lots of concepts and lots of words that I wasn't necessarily comfortable with.Mischa Z: 03:57 And so I found it to be a massive struggle and it was not gaining ground in the Text. This was two years ago when I first started. I was just walking past the skate park and they were cranking loud punk ish music. Not the poppy punk that perhaps we're all familiar with, but that edge. More mean. Mean's the right word, more aggression. I know what the word is. I'm looking for it. It doesn't matter. I hit pause and then re-started right now. So, and then of course I was reflecting on. Man, I used to kind of like that music when I was a wee lad and I would skateboard myself.Mischa Z: 04:55 Yes. When it was a weed, lad and used to skateboard myself who were the bands. Um, there was the straight edge bands cause because I was sober at such a young age and still sober straight line sobriety. Minor Threat, that was one of the straight edge bands. But of course there was the Dead Kennedys, Black Flag, the Sex Pistols, your classic. And then all the other ones, I can't remember. The more famous punk band has just popped into my head. But anyhow, back to the more spiritually weighted matters. Um, of A Course In Miracles in the Text was just not grooving for me. And so I was like, all right, I guess I'll just go to probably try it for a couple of weeks. So I moved on to, um, the Workbook For Students and the 365 exercises. And it was awesome. Highly recommend it to anybody, but I, but I did it one day at a time was very diligent, did not miss a day.Mischa Z: 06:10 If I went on camping trips, I would, I print out I'd snap, a picture printed out of that days, you know, exercise. And it really transformed my life in a lot of ways. If I was prepared, I would have told, be telling you how it transformed my life, but suffice it to say that judgements have been stripped away massively. Like I just don't judge people, places and things nearly as much. And it's interesting because as I was coming to starting the A Course In Miracles, I was like, I still have this low line judgment. And I don't like it. I don't like placing judgment on what people say, I'm just over it. And then A Course In Miracles manifested my willingness to do the a course of miracles. Finally manifested anyhow, I finished the 365 daily exercises of the Workbook For Students and started, went back to the Text and it was the most amazing thing.Mischa Z: 07:30 The Text, I could see it in a new light and the concepts were clean and crisp. I was able to get through the double negatives, you know, just awesome. So, so awesome. But I distinctly remember at the beginning of starting the Text, the second time I was like, there are 675 pages, two to three pages a day of way weighty concepts, what, that's a lifetime away. It felt like it was a lifetime away. And it was. So anyway, I just, all of a sudden yesterday I was done, literally. I was like, oh my God, I'm done! And wow. And my life for that next year, we'll tell you about reading that through the COVID through financial stuff, through like it's true, so much cool things have happened, new layers of letting go. I should save it for part two. Um, yes, yes. I will save it for part two, but I just would encourage anybody go buy A Course In Miracles and do itSpeaker 2: 08:56 And jump in the fray with me. You can click in the links in my show notes or on the resources page, www.belove.media/resources. So, so powerful. So look for a part two where I get more in depth into, um, actual changes that I'm aware of. And I'm going to end with this. I have gotten feedback from multiple people on how I've shifted so much, um, from, of course in miracles.New Speaker: 09:38 So as I was, you know, finished the course in miracles. And then, um, I finished the Text section of A Course In Miracles, the 675 pages, effectively two to three pages a day I got done and I was like, thinking, oh my gosh, I've got to record an episode about this because it's been so profound in my life. The ACIM for short, it's been so profound in my life. And then I was thinking, well, how many books have I read, which are powerful, or what have you, or, you know, I've been reading the big book. You can Google that. What's the big book, um, for my gosh, 35 years now, on and off, it's been so powerful in my life. I was thinking, well, what about, so I was like, well, gosh, I don't know if people will get the gravity of, of finishing the Text section, honestly. So I was thinking about it. I was like, man, I guess I would liken it to, I'm trying to think of any super it's like a college course or something is what I would say. So two years of this course in miracles, it's like college kind of, it's like taking math for two years, plowing through a couple of weighty, you know, math books and, and increasing your capacity for math equations, you know, getting into super fancy stuff. Or maybe, uh, I'm thinking like, um, Metta, no, not metaphysics, uh, like, uh, you know, physics like as people grow, grow and physics. And, and of course now I can't remember any of the terms, but then I was also thinking, well, maybe it's like someone reading the Bible. I've never tried to read the Bible myself, but I know some people have dedicated their lives to Matthew, this and Joseph that to Colin at this. And, you know, and just study a little bit or a lot of it every day. And as they can, maybe maybe people can relate to that or students or people who've taken doctorates, or masters or been to college, or maybe somebody who's, you know, mechanical thing. So learning, you know, going deep on engine stuff for electronics or it's, it's the it's that kind of wait. That was my final thought goodbye.

In this interview former NFL player, American Ninja athlete, and transformational public speaker Anthony Trucks breaks down the three phases of his "Shift Method".  See, Shift, Sustain.  And the best part, he gives actionable steps within each phase.  You can literally listen to this interview and begin to transform your life.  And he tells amazing stories about crushing quarterbacks in front of 50,000 people!  Um…it's amazing. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out Anthony Trucks here: https://anthonytrucks.com/Take his Identity Quiz that helped me so much here: https://go2.bucketquizzes.com/sf/4e63da08Get his book and free gifts here: https://identityshiftbook.com/Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: [music]0:00:06.4 Mischa Z: Welcome back to The Tools For A Good Life Summit. Right now, I would like to introduce to you Anthony Trucks, Ex-NFL player. This is a foster kid turned NFL athlete and serial entrepreneur with one serious superpower; making shift happen no matter what, by assessing the power of identity. You have overcome 30-plus traumatic life events, navigating the identity shifts that followed. Anthony has come to be known as the leading expert in shifting, which is making a shift internally to elevate how you operate externally, which in turn changes your life. Your system is called the Shift Method, and you weave together neuroscience, psychology, technology, and hard fought life lessons to help anyone with a desire for more in their life, achieve any goal they want or have ever wanted. I especially like this next sentence, "Before making it apparent that their goals were actually set far below their true potential in the first place." I love that. Like tapping into the potential that people don't even know that's there, it's beautiful.0:01:29.0 Anthony Trucks: And it's beyond, yeah.0:01:30.2 Mischa: Yeah.0:01:30.5 Anthony Trucks: Usually, it's far beyond their thoughts. We set limitations on our dreams without even knowing it.0:01:35.2 Mischa: Yeah, it's amazing. Buckle up, it's time to make shift happen.0:01:39.5 Anthony Trucks: Shift, shift and move.0:01:43.6 Mischa: [laughter] So first off, thank you so much for jumping in the fray with me. Very excited. And let's just maybe spend a few minutes, we can talk a little bit about your history and your 30-plus traumatic life events. I just... Looking at your history, one thing that jumped out at me was, you were 14, perhaps struggling a little bit in the foster home system. Yes, and then...0:02:09.6 Anthony Trucks: Yeah.0:02:10.3 Mischa: I read a note, you said, "Hey, I was a self-aware kid," and I recognized your pattern and you perhaps needed to change at that point. Maybe speak to that just quickly.0:02:21.5 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, well it's interesting, when I got to the age of 14, I'd already gone through years of crazy, We'll call it. I was given away at three, so I had a lot of different dynamics woven all into the personality and identity of who I was. It took a lot of years, but after a while, you start to see yourself for who you are. The problem is, I think, we are all self-aware, but we're aware of a self that we've crafted that's not always the most positive, so that's where why we beat ourselves up, "And we're not that good, not that great." And I think there's a separation when you can... In a positive way, a separation when you understand who you are seeing yourself through of the filter of the world, and then who you actually are. There is a difference. And so I think at 14, 15, I was still developing that. It wasn't until I was really like 15, that I got a chance to really see who I was. And I was like, "Oh, that's who you are," 'cause prior to that moment, I saw myself in a light that wasn't the best.0:03:15.3 Mischa: And was this a conscious change? Or was it sort of it just happened and looking back on it, hindsight, you're like, "Oh." Or was it... Does that question make sense, or...0:03:31.7 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it does make sense. It was more of a hindsight, I think it took time and in the distance, and the background to get it.0:03:38.6 Mischa: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You're just on the phone there, now you wanna put the...0:03:42.3 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, there's someone at the front door, but I'm not gonna talk to him.0:03:44.9 Mischa: Okay.0:03:45.6 Anthony Trucks: Somebody delivered flowers to my house, and it was the wrong person. So I think she's taking them, which is good, I hope she takes them to the person that deserves them 'cause someone deserves them, and they were not my flowers, but I'm good now.[chuckle]0:03:58.9 Mischa: All good. I'll be able to... We'll strike that. Strike that.0:04:02.1 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, yeah. Well, we could leave it in, it would just be weird, but that's the scatter brain-brain that is my brain. I'm the only one home, so my dog started barking, I gotta like, "Is someone at the door?" So yeah.0:04:10.9 Mischa: Yeah, yeah, yeah.0:04:11.9 Anthony Trucks: Now, we're good though. That's part of my identity. I can keep rolling, man. I mean you can keep it in, you don't have to keep it in.0:04:17.9 Mischa: Yeah, no, I love it. And we'll keep rolling. I think it's good.0:04:21.0 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, it's life.0:04:21.7 Anthony Trucks: What's that?0:04:22.4 Mischa: It's life, man.0:04:23.2 Mischa: That's life, especially these days.0:04:25.7 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, seriously.0:04:27.5 Mischa: Yeah. And then of course there was the, your very brief stint in the NFL. And I think the...0:04:37.5 Anthony Trucks: Yes, three years.0:04:39.3 Mischa: Yeah, yeah, the striking part there was you only got to play in one pre-season game and then you had an injury, or?0:04:44.8 Anthony Trucks: Well, my third year, I got hurt in my first pre-season game. So my first year, second year, I was cut the first year, cut the second year, third year, I was finally looking like I was about to make the team. And then I tore my shoulder and the season was over. So that was the first pre-season game. So no, I played in games. It wasn't like I just was there for a year and out of there, but it was, it's unfortunate man, there's a lot of build up to that whole situation, but the NFL is an interesting beast. It's the highest level in the world. So any time you get to the highest level in the world for anything, I don't care if it's the highest level of the world for, I don't know, kitten sock knitting, there's gonna be crazy things that go on, 'cause you got so many people involved, it's cutthroat.0:05:25.3 Mischa: Cutthroat.0:05:26.1 Anthony Trucks: It's ruthless. It is demanding at levels that are beyond human typical logic. 'Cause the typical human, I don't think that they... And this is not like saying people are better, right? But you're not typically in a race or in a competition to be the best in the world out of seven billion people, you know what I'm saying? So you're not... You're not at that... So now that you do, it's like the average human doesn't get the logic behind, why would you subject yourself to so much difficulty and pain and anguish? Why would you do that? It doesn't make sense. And I'm like, "It's right, it doesn't make sense that I would live a mediocre life, that is one I don't want to see what I'm fully capable of." It's a back and forth, you know what I'm saying?0:06:05.6 Mischa: Yeah.0:06:06.5 Anthony Trucks: So it's not that anybody is right or wrong, it's just, what's logic. And I don't think people use that... "Well, it's not logical." No, it's not logical to your brain, and that's okay. It's not logical that you would marry that person because they're a horrible person. There's just different things that are logic, and so I just... I've got to the point of realizing in life, the beauty is the difference. What is good for me isn't good for everybody else. I'm not a good fit for everybody, and that's okay. That's completely okay, and if you can get to that point, it alleviates so much more stress and anxiety and just weirdness that happens in life.0:06:40.3 Mischa: It's so empowering, it's very empowering.0:06:42.4 Anthony Trucks: Freeing, yeah.0:06:43.1 Mischa: A Place to be. Yeah, frank, I love that. I was curious, did you have any glory moments, sort of those stadium, 50,000 people.0:06:53.2 Anthony Trucks: Did I? Oh man.0:06:55.9 Mischa: Yeah.0:06:56.1 Anthony Trucks: How many do you wanna know about, man?0:06:57.3 Mischa: Tell me a couple. Tell me, I wanna know.0:07:00.7 Anthony Trucks: Here's a good one. Here's a good one. Here's a good one. It's two. These two are gonna be Oregon ones 'cause I had fun in Oregon. I had fun everywhere else but Oregon was a good one. So there's one play where we're playing against Arizona State, they had come to our house, junior year, and I'm trying to find, we're trying ball, right? And what happens, it was junior year, it's what it was. And they're at our house and we gotta beat them, we're trying to obviously make our way to get to another level and trying to get some ball game stuff going on, and they come to our house. And there's just this one specific play to where if they line up a certain way I blitz, and if they shift out of that, I don't blitz anymore because they have an extra person. Because if I blitz, somebody's open, so we'd be screwed. It's like 3rd and 12 or something, and the ball is... They get up to the ball, they get lined up. I'm supposed... Slits, they move. I don't realize it. So I am supposed to cover and in my head, I'm like, "I'm going, I'm going, I'm going, I'm going, I'm going."0:07:52.5 Anthony Trucks: I can see in the video, my line back with a mic sitting next going, "Don't go." You could see his hand motion, but it's Austin Stadium and Austin Stadium is one of the loudest in the country. You can't hear anything. So you gotta know it, and I'm just dialed, "I'm gonna get this dang court," as my head's here. And all of a sudden like you can see me in the balls hike, and I take off. Now, I don't know how that's happened, but their right guard was the guy who's supposed to guard me, guard or tackle, completely misses me, doesn't whatever it is, and the quarterback rolls out to me, and as he's rolling out, I barely... And he gets like a step away, I have to leave my feet, and if both of my hands don't grab this man in mid-air and grab him like a carnival game. You Know. I jump out, I'm in full Superman, I get one hand on his shoulder, one hand on his hip, I take him down and I celebrate, and the whole stadium just erupts, turn over on run downs, and we get the ball back. It was crazy. That was one of them. Another one...0:08:52.6 Mischa: So first of, wait, wait a minute. So that's on accident that that happens?0:08:56.0 Anthony Trucks: Oh yeah. After the play, if you look at the video, we have it after the play, I'm cheering my linebacker guy comes up, grabs my helmet, and you can see him yelling at me, "You've messed up, but you didn't mess up. Great job. Don't do that ever again."[chuckle]0:09:07.5 Mischa: That's so good. Okay, next one. Okay.0:09:09.8 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, and then other one was, we're playing against... So at my senior year, I'm balling against... All the teams are playing. I end up leading my senior year, the Pack-10 at the time, in sacks, tackles for loss, forced fumbles and fumbles recovered, I was like 6th in total tackles, but I missed a game against USC to a high ankle sprain, but I was balling that year. And I was doing well, I had three sacks against ASU, as a matter of fact, the next year at their place, and so I'm feeling good about myself and my coach ran a meeting one time we were about to play Cow, Cow is coming up to Oregon. And I'm talking I'm proud of how good I am, he's like great job. He goes, "Hey I don't want you to think you're the greatest," he says, "You ain't the greatest until you go in there, you sack, you force a fumble, you recovered the fumble, you pick it up and score a touchdown. Then you can start talking, right? So he says this and he's serious, but joking at the same time.0:10:00.5 Mischa: Of course.0:10:00.6 Anthony Trucks: This was like early in the week. Now we come to the game, I was like the second or third quarter, I can't remember what it was. And they line me up and they give me a blitz, so I'm like, "I'm gonna go get this guy," right? And in my head, I'm not thinking about what he said earlier in the week, I'm just doing my thing. So I come around the bend and the running back goes to block me. Somehow, he misses me completely. I sidestep him, he goes flying by. So I go up, the quarterback doesn't see me, blind sight, sack him. Forced ball comes out, forced the fumble. Fumbles on the ground. We both go to the ground. I recovered the fumble. Now it's college football, so your knee is down, so I didn't score a touchdown. I mean, the whole crowd's erupted. Everybody is crazy. Everybody's... I'm excited, I come to the sideline. I'm high five'ing. Hey man. Hey man, I come to a coach. He looks me dead in eyes, and he goes, "But you didn't score a touchdown." That was Don Kellum.0:10:54.0 Mischa: Ruthless. Don.0:10:54.3 Anthony Trucks: Ruthless dude. That's how he was. He was the hard-nosed dude. But he...0:10:57.3 Mischa: That's cold-blooded.0:10:57.9 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, I got a whole bunch of weird ones like that. I got stuff from the NFL, High School. We got a whole bunch, but those are two of my fun ones.0:11:01.3 Mischa: That's beautiful. Yeah. And so when you hurt your shoulder, and career is over, that's pretty deflating to go from those highs to those lows, obviously.0:11:14.5 Anthony Trucks: Pretty much though. Yeah, you go from being somebody to being nobody, at least in your head, internally. Any time a human being has put their heart into something, whether it's being a parent and the kid goes to college, leave the military, you leave sports, you lose a job, you leave a job, you sell a business. When you no longer can show up in the capacity of that role anymore, you lose a sense of yourself. And so for me, it was football and I've lost a sense of myself in that realm, and so yeah, I definitely had a little downward spiral, we'll call it.0:11:43.0 Mischa: Yes, and then you were able to make it through a dark time, come out the other side. Have a pivot point where, "Hey, I think coming through that perhaps close to suicide moment," yeah?0:12:00.3 Anthony Trucks: Most definitely. Yeah, unfortunately.0:12:01.9 Mischa: Yeah, unfortunately, it's a dark place to be. So you create a tool, which I'm staring at, at least the result of the tool, so now you...0:12:12.2 Anthony Trucks: One of them.0:12:12.7 Mischa: What's that?0:12:12.8 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, it's one of them for sure. I make a whole bunch of weird stuff now.0:12:15.5 Mischa: Yeah, cool. Oh, go ahead.0:12:17.5 Anthony Trucks: That's a good tool you got right there. That's the slow or go identity. It's a good grid right there.0:12:22.3 Mischa: Yeah, it's great. I just wanna tell you that, as I said before we started recording that you are very influential in me helping get the summit.0:12:33.1 Anthony Trucks: Nice.0:12:34.2 Mischa: Continuing with the summit process, because I took your little... You go to... Anybody can do this. They can go to Anthonytrucks.com and click on the what's my identity type button.0:12:46.8 Anthony Trucks: Easy.0:12:47.8 Mischa: Yeah, super easy. And the quiz I was taking it like... Yeah, we'll see. Honestly, I was like, "Yeah, what's this?" And I took it and that it was right on the money, my friend, and I was [0:13:00.4] ____.0:13:00.4 Anthony Trucks: Is it kinda weird?0:13:00.4 Mischa: Yes, it's very weird. Turns out, I hate to admit it, but I will, I'm a dabbler. And so it helped me... One thing you have on the dabbler is to find little successes to help propel you forward and to have a contingency plan for when you go into that dark spot, that shiny object.0:13:27.2 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, 'cause dabblers are people who chase opportunity, but they shut down in oppositions sometimes.0:13:31.3 Mischa: Yes.0:13:31.7 Anthony Trucks: So in order to push forward to be a doer, all you have to do is spend time doing more, which means you have to tackle the oppositions.0:13:39.6 Mischa: Yeah, perfect. Love it. So that moment helped me progress forward with my summit, 'cause it's lots of inviting and potentials for rejection and stretching, right?0:13:53.2 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, I agree.0:13:54.3 Mischa: So thank you for that, Anthony.0:13:54.4 Anthony Trucks: You're very welcome, man. What it's for? What I made it for, man. Yeah.0:13:57.8 Mischa: Yeah. So that was... I just... Beautiful. So I'm gonna get to the point here. So you're gonna answer a question for me. I'm gonna set up a scenario and why we're all here. So here's the scenario. We've got somebody... And it sounds like you have been through it multiple times in your life, so you are gonna be familiar with it, so we've got... Let's look at life, the three-legged stool, relationships, finance and health, and then... Yep, now, so now someone who is successful or once successful, and they... You have two legs of those stool come out from under you, that can be a very dark place, and you were there.0:14:40.1 Mischa: And so for me, I had that. I had had success in my 20-year sales career, all of a sudden, career upheaval. I went through a divorce out of nowhere, financial distress, and both my parents died in rapid succession within two weeks of each other, and it was a very dark time. And the thing was, was that to pull myself up from my bootstraps attitude that, "Work your way through it," wasn't working. I needed extra, I needed a little nudge, I needed something like this. So my question to you is, thinking of your tool, your modality, all your bag of tricks, what are the exact next steps you would offer a person like me that was in that scenario, so that I know that I'm headed in the new, right direction, that I'll have positive momentum towards getting my life back on track?0:15:36.4 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, so the one thing that's good about this is it's not a guessing game. I think some people, they will navigate this by guessing little pieces that could be beneficial, and for me it's like, I look at the whole revamp. See you've mentioned and alluded to earlier, I've had 30-plus randomly weird situations that have... I could say each one of them would have... Has knocked other people off track for an entire lifetime.0:15:56.2 Mischa: Yes.0:15:58.7 Anthony Trucks: Very odd. It's very odd, and I didn't even think of it and notice it until I was in my early 30s, to be quite honest. I was like, somebody else brought it to the forefront and I was like, "Yeah, I did, oddly have a way of doing this, and so I'll tell you what I've done every time that that's happened to me."0:16:12.0 Mischa: Fantastic.0:16:12.7 Anthony Trucks: So I did it accidentally at first, and now I do it proactively. I think we do have that unfortunate life, we do proactively choose to eat healthy sometimes, but most of the time we react to life, we're not responding in a chosen manner. So what I've done is I've gone back and said in those moments, I needed to look at who I was, not so much what I knew or what I had access to. And in my life now, I'm always like, "I got a problem. Who is Anthony right now? My wife and I are arguing, who am I? I'm not the best father. Who am I? I'm not working out the way I'd like to, Who am I?" And there's a reason why I say, "Who am I?", not, "What do I gotta do?" Because if you are the person to do those things, you wouldn't even question what you have to do, you just do that stuff. That's just the simple nature of it. Like if I'm the person who just... If it's who I am to work out every day, I'm gonna work out every day, I'm not gonna worry about that. If it's who I am to be the most amazing, loving, caring, paying attention husband, that's who I'll be every day.0:17:09.5 Anthony Trucks: And so when someone's in that space, typically we say, "What's wrong? What do I gotta fix? What do I gotta do?" And I'm more like, "Who do you gotta be?" 'Cause if you don't realize that there's a certain core person of you running all this, then you're gonna keep repeating the same situation, you'll keep landing in the same place. And this is why a lot of my work is in identity, it's all in that realm of, "Who are you?" So what I first have people do is you have to have them see. And the see phase... It's a three-step phase called the shift method. The first stage is the see phase, and the see phase is where you get to go in and take a look at what is really going on, and it usually isn't fun to see. It's the stuff where you get exposed to the true aspect of your humanity and you go, "Yeah, I don't like that part of me," but for the first time in your life, maybe you actually accept it and go, "I gotta work on that." 'Cause not everybody does.0:17:58.4 Mischa: Oh, absolutely. It can be hard. Can I ask you a question in that regard?0:18:01.6 Anthony Trucks: Please.0:18:02.0 Mischa: So is there like... Give my audience an actionable step in that regard to...[overlapping conversation]0:18:06.7 Mischa: Yeah, absolutely.0:18:07.6 Anthony Trucks: Here we go. So this is dead serious, is we have something we call triad talks, and it's a certain series of questions in a certain order and a specific way we do it, but I'll give you the overarching. What you do is you go and select a group of questions that essentially would get to the root of you, that you don't even... That you'd be scared to hear the answer to. We'll call it that. Get to the root of the questions. And then what you do is you go find people who you know and that you like and that they're positive humans, and you ask them, "Hey, can you answer these questions for me, about me?" And this is something where there's a way you go through it to where you do certain things to where you're not actually, we'll call it, cannibalizing your ability to get great answers, but what you'll do is you'll get feedback if you do it the right way. You'll get feedback from people that is really hard to swallow.0:19:00.0 Mischa: And usable, so let's just... I wanna tackle that. So we've got step one of the see... Step one is the see phase and a tool within that is a triad talk, and so... Fantastic. So give me an example of one, two or three questions, so like...0:19:19.3 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, easy. So I guess, well, one question I ask them is, if you were to get rid of a part of me, like, okay, you'll remove a certain part of how I do things. What would it be and why? If you were to rate my... If you could do this actually. Rating is usually fun. If you were to rate and you'll give me a number based from zero to 10 on how good of a friend I am or how good of a blank I am, is a good question there. What is the most frustrating thing about me that you feel like you have to endure, and I'll never change? Like little stuff like this.0:19:56.2 Mischa: Oh, those are good.0:19:57.1 Anthony Trucks: And they let them... And you ask the questions, but you have to be prepared for the answers. You have to actually absorb those answers a certain way, and if you do it right, it will break your heart, you'll feel like you wanna retort and you can't, but you'll get gold, you'll start to see yourself, and that's I think one of the biggest gifts is to see through the veil of really what's going on that other people can see, but I'm just blind to it, there's a statement that I love is you can't see the label when you're inside the jar. And a lot of us are in that jar and we don't even know what's going on or operating.0:20:33.2 Anthony Trucks: It's like, "How come no one's coming around? 'Cause it says poison on the outside," dude.[chuckle]0:20:36.5 Anthony Trucks: Like, Have you seen yourself?[laughter]0:20:38.2 Mischa: Right. Oh my God.0:20:38.7 Anthony Trucks: You gotta figure that out.[laughter]0:20:40.4 Mischa: Oh my gosh, that is amazing.0:20:43.6 Anthony Trucks: That's one of the first pieces, man, is, is going to a level of actually, that's the tactical thing is, What in the world do I gotta work on? And then the second thing that we do is we go through the shift phase, which really is where the action is taken, we are shifting internally and making shifts actionably externally because of those internal ones. And what it allows us to do is take a look at our life and then you actually change your life, 'cause shifts make the change, right? If I wanna change the destination of a plane, I am shifting the trajectory, right? I'm not... I wouldn't call it like I'm gonna change the trajectory. You'd kinda shift it like, I'm gonna go a little bit one degree this way. And I'll change the destination, right? That's what we're doing, we're trying to change the destination in your life. It's just a shift, not crazy.0:21:25.2 Mischa: You know what's so good about that and so hopeful about that is we don't necessarily need to do a 100, we don't need to move the ship completely.0:21:33.7 Anthony Trucks: No.0:21:33.8 Mischa: Right, it's like, "Hey, let's take those next little incremental things to get us going in that right direction, Right?."0:21:40.0 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, if you go... I literally Googled this, if you were to choose to go from San Francisco to the, say, Orlando Airport, if you on the way there made a one degree shift in trajectory from the get-go you would land 40 miles south in Lakeland, Florida.0:21:57.5 Mischa: Wow.0:21:58.3 Anthony Trucks: One degree.[laughter]0:21:58.9 Anthony Trucks: Isn't that crazy?[chuckle]0:22:00.2 Mischa: It's crazy, one degree.0:22:01.0 Anthony Trucks: That's the difference. So people are like, you don't gotta go and overhaul your entire life, man, just... 'cause the plane's always in the air. It's always going somewhere. Just adjust the trajectory. It's a shift and you're good.0:22:15.1 Mischa: I love it. So let me ask, how about an actionable step in the action step phase, so you've gone out and you gave me a few questions, so give me like an action step to help make that degree change.0:22:27.7 Anthony Trucks: Oh, yeah. So it's just fun but everybody can do this. All you gotta do is ask yourself, what's that one thing that's been lingering, and I'm gonna say why this is important. Let's purpose it with this, if something didn't scare you, it wouldn't be important to you. There are things that scare you that wouldn't scare me because they're important to you, and vice versa, there's things that I would be deadly afraid, deathly afraid to do it. You wouldn't even care. Like surfing, I'm gonna get eaten by a shark. I'm not gonna do that. But you're like, "No, bro this is easy." You see what I'm saying.0:22:55.5 Mischa: Yes.0:22:56.0 Anthony Trucks: The difference is, it's because what's important to you. Now, here's the thing, if that thing is lingering didn't scare you, it would already be done by now. It just would. If I'm like, "Hey, I want a hamburger and a milkshake," and I'm not gonna feel guilty, I'm going to the store right now.[chuckle]0:23:12.1 Anthony Trucks: I'm going to get it now... Any of you've done, I'm not afraid of it, I'm looking forward to it.[laughter]0:23:16.2 Mischa: Yes. Yes.0:23:16.6 Anthony Trucks: So a lot of these ideas and things that linger for a lot of folks, they're like, "I'm good, I just gotta get... " No you're afraid of it, and that's okay.0:23:25.2 Anthony Trucks: Right? So the first action you take is in the direction of the fear, and if you don't know how to do that, you take the fear and you find ways to open it up until you find the smallest pieces of it and then start attacking the small pieces, right? It's... What is that earth invaders? When you hit the...0:23:42.7 Mischa: Oh, space invaders?0:23:42.8 Anthony Trucks: And it turns into little ones and little ones...0:23:44.0 Mischa: Yeah, yeah, yeah.0:23:44.8 Anthony Trucks: You gotta make it the small ones, that's obviously the wrong game to do that, but when you can make things small. 15 minutes, it's much easier to overcome the fear for that 15 minutes than it is to perceive, "I gotta do this for the next week. Oh my God, okay, I'm gonna do that next week," and then next week and the next month, and then... So chunk it down to the smallest minute steps and then attack it that way, but it's usually gotta be in the direction of something that scares you or could linger for too long.0:24:12.1 Mischa: So any real-life example you've seen recently or you see...0:24:14.9 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, you wanna launch a podcast, you wanna launch a summit, right? Summit or podcast, right? And I'm not saying you're afraid of it at all, but I'm just saying, this is what... Some people are probably afraid of doing it. Yeah, he's maybe a little bit afraid, right?[laughter]0:24:25.8 Mischa: Yeah, maybe.0:24:26.5 Anthony Trucks: So you didn't just one day go, "Alright, I'm gonna do everything today," you're like, "Alright, I'm gonna send an email first." Small step.0:24:32.6 Mischa: Yeah.0:24:33.0 Anthony Trucks: Write the email, send it out, you wanna do it. Okay, great, okay, okay, now I gotta buy some equipment, I gotta figure out what the email thing look like. I gotta say, Okay, how do I time this? How am I gonna deliver it? How people are gonna opt in? When they opt in what are they gonna get? How I set a checkout page? How am I gonna get 'em to pay for this? Do I do a PayPal? This is all the stuff that goes into it. It's minute little steps, but you didn't just wake up one day, say I'm gonna figure it out today, you looked at little by little by little, and chunked it apart to where now it's real, it's live and it's coming to fruition.0:25:01.7 Mischa: I love that. Yes, thank you. Perfect, so then, so we've got the see phase, the action phase or the stuff... What did you define?0:25:11.2 Anthony Trucks: Shift. The see and shift.0:25:12.3 Mischa: Yes, yes.0:25:12.8 Anthony Trucks: And the last stage is sustain.0:25:19.7 Mischa: Sustain.0:25:19.9 Anthony Trucks: The sustain phase. See, Shift, Sustain.0:25:20.7 Mischa: See, shift, I couldn't read my own writing. See, shift.0:25:25.3 Anthony Trucks: Me either.[laughter]0:25:25.4 Mischa: Sustain. Sustain. So tell me about sustain.0:25:27.2 Anthony Trucks: Sustain phase is the one where... We as people unfortunately get to the point of we have success and then we stop doing what it took to get there because it either wasn't who we were, we just were pushing, or we got lazy. We're like, "I'll have this and maintain it'll be there," but we don't realize that you've gotta sustain the amount of effort to sustain a level of success and if you wanna have more success, you have to sustain the drive to continue to keep achieving more. So what happens is some people will... Like I had my gym business. I would focus on, "Let me get past this hump, I gotta make some money." And I would do all these things to get to the point that I make that money to pay the bills and go, "Oh, I can relax now." And then three months later, I'm in the exact same place. I gotta fight real hard because every time I would get to the top, I would stop doing what it took to get to the top.0:26:13.7 Anthony Trucks: Imagine if I just kept doing that stuff, the amount of momentum. So people don't have sustainability in life and it's not because they don't know how or don't have the skillsets, they just stop when they feel like they don't need to have that kind of effort and push 'cause they're not looking at shifting into being that person. And there's reasons that this happens. I think sometimes we lose sight of why we're doing things. It's not anchored consciously as to why I'm moving every day, I'm just getting up and doing it 'cause it's what my job is now.0:26:41.0 Mischa: Yep.0:26:41.0 Anthony Trucks: And then also I think sometimes we float around the wrong people. I think the hive, the environment's difficult 'cause there's a statement of, "You are the average of the five people you surround yourself with." And I think it's halfway right. I think you're the average of the expectations of the five people you surround yourself with. If you think about it, if I wanna... Say I have a million dollars and I wanna make $2 million dollars. Well, there's people I could hang out with that maybe have a million dollars, but what if it's a person that makes a half a million dollars, but they wanna make 2 and the million dollar people are content?0:27:15.7 Mischa: Yeah.0:27:16.5 Anthony Trucks: Well, the expectation of the half a million dollar person, they're like, "Look, I'm not shooting for 1, I'm shooting for 2." "Well, I'm shooting for 2 also. Let's figure it out." Whereas the million dollar people are like, "We've got a million dollars, we're cool." There's nothing wrong with them, but for what I want, I need to be around the expectations of what it takes to get there 'cause that half a million dollar person is not gonna let me sit idle at 1.2 or 1.3. They're gonna be like, "No, you keep pushing. You gotta get to 2." Whereas the 1 million dollar people, they're like, "Well, you're good. Slow down. What are you doing? Are you crazy?" So I think when you get into the sustain phase, if I'm gonna sustain my trajectory, I must consistently have a hive of people who have expectations at a level that are at or above where I wanna have them myself.0:28:00.0 Mischa: That's a great... I like the expectation piece in there because the... I like that added bit because the perception is, "If I hang out with a millionaire, bam, that's gonna... That is gonna help me elevate." Not that that's the all end all, but as an example.0:28:16.3 Anthony Trucks: Yeah. You'll get there. You can, but then, you can, but it's hard to get past there. Not that you can't, but it's hard to get past there 'cause you'll get to the point of... Think about what I just... Logically. "I got a million. Alright, cool. I'm gonna hang out, put my feet up. I'm gonna golf with Bob." And I'm like, "No, bro, I wanna make a $2 million dollar business. I can't go golfing and do that. I gotta go keep working." You know what I mean? There's just things you gotta look at. And so it is. It's an expectation piece and then if you don't sustain it, man, you'll lose it.0:28:44.8 Anthony Trucks: You'll just lose to be in place. And then I think at a certain level, for me, the sustain phase is, "I gotta find out why I gotta keep growing." And what I've found is anybody that's had a nominal level of success, there's a certain heart, for the majority in my opinion, to give back. They thrive, they wanna do well, and I found that there's this thing called marginal utility. And if I have 10 hamburgers, well, if I eat one 'cause I'm starving, that first one is delicious. Now the second one, it's still pretty good. Third one, I don't know. Fourth one, I can't do it, I can't do it. I got seven more hamburgers, what am I doing right now? I wanna feel good though. What do I do? I can't keep eating hamburgers.0:29:23.7 Anthony Trucks: Well, if I wanna feel good, what if I give them to somebody else who's starving? Different kind of good, but I feel good, so I give him the hamburgers. He does the same thing. He eats three and he's like, "Alright, I got four more." He keeps on passing it along. Well, the idea is if you do that, you'll notice, "Wow, I really like how it feels to give back and to serve. Who do I have to be, to be able to do that at a higher level?" And guess what it does? Puts you right back to seeing who you are and who that next person is that can do that. It's a cycle.0:29:54.6 Mischa: I think that's such a great space to work from as well. It's initially where perhaps when we're younger or what have you, it's that financial, build the family, find that success that pulls us forward and then it can be such a great place to work from, to shift to that, "Alright, how can I be of service on a broader scale?" So that's a great... That's a great thought as far as sustaining. So what are two or three habits that you have to help propel you on a daily basis or perhaps to find that...0:30:38.8 Mischa: That service piece, yeah. Go.0:30:40.3 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, yeah. So here's one thing is I fall in love with the day, not the destination. I think sometimes we spend way too much time looking at, "Well, am I there yet? Am I there yet?" like a 5-year-old in the car. But I love the days and I have a certain amount of space and time in my day that I operate and I love it. I love to be in motion. I think all humans... We love the motion. There's magic in the motion. There's something too... Like I can sit here with all this stuff off in my office and hang out, but there's more joy talking to you. Just like you. I'm sure before you could be in your house and be content, but when we get on like this, it's a different kind of joy we get to hang out in. There's no anxiety, there's no stress, we're just chatting, two guys talking. This is the motion of the magic, right?0:31:25.2 Mischa: Yeah.0:31:25.6 Anthony Trucks: And so what I look at is I need to be always in a position where I'm doing things that are keeping me moving, but the right things. So when you say, "How do I keep that consistent?" I just... I have a certain block of my day. I love being in the groove of working, but I make sure the things inside that groove are the ones that still scare me, are the ones that move that move the needle, are the ones that are useful to what I'm doing and habitually I just commit to falling in love with the day. And if I do that enough and if I have things that I enjoy, eventually, 'cause they're the right things, I end up at a destination and then I'm like, "Cool. I wanna get back to climbing the mountain." You spend way less time at the peak than you do on the journey. I want to enjoy the journey. So that's a big piece of it. And then if I'm hiking a mountain, I don't wanna be with a person who won't shut up that's annoying.0:32:17.9 Anthony Trucks: I wanna be with people who are like... Cheer me on, who could have similar conversations. 'Cause the thing about whenever you're out for a hike, time flies by with great conversation.0:32:27.6 Mischa: It does.0:32:28.6 Anthony Trucks: It melts away. So if I'm gonna be on this hike and I'm gonna enjoy the journey, I wanna have people that I can enjoy it with. And then when I get to the peak, I get to celebrate. They're taking a picture of me, I'm taking a picture of them. We get some lady I don't know to take a picture of us. It's this cool experience because you have the people and you are loving every step of the journey, quite literally.0:32:49.3 Mischa: Yeah, that's great. Do you calendar your sustainability, those activities?0:32:57.3 Anthony Trucks: Oh, man. I have a very ridiculous dialed in calendar for how my life is. It's right here. It's like my life is rolling it's... But here's the beauty of it, I have the method I use that I teach people, it boils down to execution. I think that's the one thing. Some people give a lot of insight, information, theory, and then leave it on you to figure out how to make it real in your life. Whereas for me, we teach, we talk, we boil things down to very specific actions, and even then I don't leave you hanging. Then I'm like, "Alright, great. We're gonna go... We're gonna put them in your life now, we're gonna make sure... " I just had a client call today, we broke down her entire morning routine down to the exact hour and a half she'll do it. I think an hour and half's kinda long, but for her it fits. But the idea's like I'm not just saying, "Go make a morning routine," and she's like, "Alright," and then walks away. We work through all of it, every piece, so there's understanding for it and the timing behind it, and then it's like, "Alright, now we take the action on it."0:33:54.6 Anthony Trucks: And it's that action that creates the difference, it creates a change. And so when I'm doing these things, I'm not just theory, man. I'm like, "I want you to finally have these things real in your life, because when they are that's when the true confidence comes in, the transformation comes in. It's not in the planning." We as humans feel better there. I think people fall in love with a safe work. "I wanna start a business." "Okay, start a business. What are you gonna do?" "Okay, I'm gonna get my business cards done, I'm gonna make a landing page, I'm gonna think of a name, I'm gonna, follow the... " That's not the stuff that you need to do to make the business. It sounds like it is. It's the safe work, though. You could do it in your house at night, making a little website, it looks pretty.0:34:29.0 Anthony Trucks: But the scary thing that actually makes it a real business, not you in the background, or having a hobby, getting bored, is when you can go, "Okay, pay me for this. This is what it's gonna cost you to actually get this improvement in your life." It's a business and that's the scary work. Now, the safe work and the fun work that has a place, but that's not what does it, man. And that's the thing is people are afraid of doing the scary work. They don't understand the sacrifice that it takes sometimes.0:34:58.3 Mischa: Yeah. It sounds like you are not only gifted at doing that scary work yourself, but you've systemized a way to...0:35:08.0 Anthony Trucks: Oh, very much.0:35:09.7 Mischa: Yeah, to pass it on to other people.0:35:10.2 Anthony Trucks: I have to. If I don't, then I'm just talking. If I was to sit here and give people all this information and not give them some way to apply it, I have done a massive disservice. I think we have a lot of people in this space that are doing a disservice because all they do is talk. Which means all you do is point the problem out and you inspire and motivate, but then you don't tell them what to do. It's kind of like people leave events and they're, "I'm excited. I'm gonna do this." And they're all gripping the steering wheel, they can't... They go to bed and one day they wake up like, "Where did it go? What do I do now? I don't feel completely inspired. I forgot how I'm supposed to feel, what's the next step?" And then it turns into this, I think, an immediate switch, it turns into, I don't know, sadness, a lack of self-esteem because I'm like, "Man, I didn't even do anything. I suck." And now it's even worse.0:36:00.5 Mischa: Yeah, it's like that emotional roller coaster, right? The one that... Yeah, I get that.0:36:05.2 Anthony Trucks: Yeah. I'll inspire you, but I'm gonna be very clear. The real motivation comes from “can you get up in the morning and do something?” And it's like that will come from, did you do it? Did you take an action? Because the moment I can give someone a guiding point and then they go execute on it, they feel amazing. It's palpable. You can't take it from them. That person is the one that's gonna get up every day because they're looking forward to that feeling. It's not how I yelled at them or that video that I made that was super cool with great drone shots. That's alright, but the thing is “is did you do something with your life that I guided you to do yourself so you created the pride that you get to keep”?0:36:42.6 Mischa: Anthony, that's beautiful. I think that that is a great place to end this section. Don't forget, we're gonna do another interview, but I just wanna say quick to everybody watching and listening to Anthony and I, if this was fantastic and you want to get more of what Anthony has to offer and see more, upgrade to the All-access pass for the bonus interview because Anthony and I are going to go even deeper. And I have a few more amazing questions and I'm gonna go let you pick what we wanna talk about. Before we end this section, is there anything that you think we missed or you wanted to say before we stop this bit?0:37:27.9 Anthony Trucks: I don't. No. I believe those who wanna be better will go join. There's always this thing that years ago someone explained to me was like, "You wanna make an investment, but you can go and try to invest in a company, right? But the best investment is always in yourself." And those who pay, pay attention, because it's worth more. And if it's worth more, you'll do more with it. So those who are like, "I really wanna commit to doing something great," yeah, go ahead and take that next step because we're gonna get in here in a second and those are the people that can raise their hand and we'll look back years ago and go, "That person is successful." Why? It's not by accident. They took those next steps.0:38:04.1 Mischa: Yeah, thank you so much for that, Anthony. And then again, a quick reminder to everybody, you can go to anthonytrucks.com, click on the, “What's my identity?” Take this test. It is awesome. It helped me. And then you can also book a call, there's a link to book a call with you. So I would encourage anybody, if they don't upgrade and see the next section, to at least click on anthonytrucks.com and take the identity type quiz.[music]——————-

Thursday Meditation #3 “What if we are sinless and eternal?  What if that's what we learn when we die?  What if we could learn it before we die?  How free would you be?  What could you let go of?  How much more could you love and be loved?Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript:  n/a

I've quit many addictive compulsive behaviors in my life.  Including drinking, drugging, and  gambling. And I definitely had a case of workaholism.  And these days as I build an online business...on my days of weakness where I think, "if I could just work more". I'm like, “Yeah.  No. You can't." Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 There's a line in the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous that says "seemingly he couldn't drink again, even if he wanted to". Now, in other words, a person that had been crippled with alcoholism and not being able to stop drinking, and it was physically killing him and destroying his relationships. And, uh, he embraces the program, the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous and, you know, ends up where seemingly he couldn't drink again, even if he wanted to. And I'm going to relate that to working a lot. Seemingly I couldn't work again a lot, even if I wanted to. And we could say call that alcohol, uh, workaholism. So, uh, you know, I've had an opportunity in my life to clean up lots of, uh, addictive compulsive behaviors. So quit drinking. Um, a long time ago, decades ago, 35 years ago, as of this recording and I am not here representing Alcoholics Anonymous.Mischa Z: 01:34 So let's just get that clear. Um, I also got to quit drugs. I also got to quit gambling and I definitely had a case of yeah, workaholism. I think you could call it a workaholism when I was in sales, you know, my quest for success, financial success for, you know, notoriety you with, with it being number one, within whatever company I was in. Um, perhaps I worked an inordinate amount inordinate, too much. How's that to the detriment of family, to the detriment of relationships, to the detriment of, um, my physical health, maybe. Um, definitely. Uh, but, and I'm not saying anybody should or should not want to work that much or. Hey, somebody is so inspired to work, create whatever, you know, I'm not here to judge that or say what that amount is. I will say that, you know, the pattern I was in with work needing to achieve, needing to make X amount of money needing to, uh, do these kinds of things I would throw surfing in there as well.Mischa Z: 03:26 Um, but anyway, um, it was interesting because as I think about it, and as I record this, I was really good about taking weekends off work-wise I was really good about, um, not bringing the work home. It's just, I would leave really early in the morning and, uh, perhaps, you know, get home. I tried not to, to, to work 18 hour days, let's say it definitely. Some people will absolutely work from home work on the weekends or these sorts of things. I'm dating myself as well because not many of us were working from home as much as we are today. And the recent COVID pandemic has escalated that.Mischa Z: 04:23 But I mean to say, is that when I'm done working, I'm done working, but my routine had become this. I would, I would, you know, exit the house very early, so I could surf and maybe that's six in the morning surfing and then work for the two priorities and, and, you know, I would, so what would happen? And then on the weekends, it was all about surfing and Mischa time. And, and then, you know, I, I was working so much in producing so much in having success that I started putting on realistic expectations on Dawn, my wife, you know. I'm the producer and this sort of arrogant attitude look what I'm doing for the house, paying the bills. Therefore I don't need to provide perhaps other emotional support and stuff like that. I dunno. It's very interesting. Uh, just, just know that, you know. That drive for being number one that drive for ultimate success that drive for making a lot of money. You know, especially when I was in mortgages was there, I wanted to be number one at Wells Fargo. I wantedSpeaker 2: 05:57 that notoriety and the financial fulfillment of that. And so then, you know, it came to quitting the mortgage business and staying home with my two boys being a stay at home ish dad. So I did that back in 2016. I think it was when I finally quit mortgages. Um, maybe it was 2017. I've sort of lost track. I need to figure out that exact timeline. I think it was 2016. It's definitely, yeah, it must be five years by now, again, as I record this. But as I'm in the 2CCX, as I'm creating these online, working on creating an online business and doing all this stuff. I, I couldn't put in 12 hour days seemingly if I wanted to. Like that lack of balance and the capacity to, to go out of balance has been stripped from me. I couldn't go back to workaholism seemingly even if I wanted to.Speaker 2: 07:26 And sometimes, you know, the drive to have followers and do all this stuff and build this business and make it happen fast and all these things and the illusion of more time, more time spent will help accelerate that process. You know, I can, I can think that I want that, but I can't literally physically do it, which is pretty freaking cool. So on my days of weakness where I'm like, if I could just work more, I'm like, "yeah, no, you can't." I literally can't work more than the, you know what, as I've said before, I'm, I'm maybe putting in five or six hours, but it's good solid hours, but I seemingly couldn't do more even if I wanted to. So anyway, there you go. Um, love that, uh, I'm done have a good day peace out.

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Episode 813 | Adriel Sanchez and Bill Maier answer caller questions. Show Notes CoreChristianity.com Questions in this Episode 1. How do I know that God hears and answers my prayers? 2. I have been an alcoholic and struggled with addiction nearly all of my life. Can I still be a Christian if I struggle with this? What do I do? 3. Did Pharaoh's magicians perform actual signs and wonders, or were they allusions? 4. If my family member is an addict, what should I do? How should I counsel people in these situations? 5. Jesus often uses the phrase “outer darkness, where there is weeping and gnashing of teeth.” Is he referencing Hell in each of these cases? Today's Offer The Screwtape Letters Request our latest special offers here or call 1-833-THE-CORE (833-843-2673) to request them by phone. Want to partner with us in our work here at Core Christianity? Consider becoming a member of the Inner Core. Resources Core Question - How Do I Live the Christian Life?

More on Webster's definition of Salvation.  And thoughts from A Course In Miracles.  .  Am I willing to embrace new thoughts and concepts?  Am I willing to see somebody differently? Or am I going to be contemptuous and stubborn in my thought process?  The more I can see people as simply good and spirit and part of the infinite mind... Then the side benefit of that is I get to see that in myself and my concept of myself changes.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:05 A Course In Miracles, the final vision chapter 31, section seven, the Savior's vision part two. Part one I was rolling so good that it ended up, um, taking me a good 10 minutes. So quick salvation 1). a. Deliverance from the power and the effects of sin. B: the agent, or means that affect salvation. See Christian science: the realization of the supremacy of infinite mind over all bringing with it, the destruction of the illusion of sin sickness and death. And that's capital I infant capital and mind implication God. Two: Liberation from ignorance or illusion. 3. A. A preservation from destruction or, or failure. 3 B deliverance from danger or difficulty.Mischa Z: 01:16 And here is... I'm going to paraphrase sentence 3.3. By focusing on the good in the people around us, or perhaps that we see the body grows decreasingly...The body grows decreasingly persistent in your sight and will at length be seen as little more than just a shadow circling around the good. By focusing upon the good in your brother, your neighbor, your sister, a politician, you don't like, um, whoever insert person there, the body grows decreasingly, decreasingly persistent in your sight. And will it length be seen as little more than just a shadow circling around the good. And I love that concept. So, um, people that perhaps I run into all the time or a loved one or a, an enemy, if I can focus on the good, we'll start to see more of the God within them, their spirit, and I'll be less fixated on their body and the illusion that they're their body.Mischa Z: 02:44 And I guess we're all going to need to take the leap that, um, we're more than our bodies and people who are listening. Hopefully you're like, yeah, I'm tired of seeing people just as, as a physical thing. Like I want to stop judging. I want to grow past judging, grow past, you know, resentment. Um, and I believe judgment judging good or bad, I would say or good. Cause it's easy to be like I judge good. Well, judging is judging. Um, the judgment could be perhaps low grade resentment. Oftentimes anyhow, like we want to see people as beautiful spirit. Whether you believe that we're souls are all one spirit. Just a little knock of the one spirit. Um, have faith in the person who is next to us or who we see, this is a sentence five.one so that your fearful concept of yourself may change. And so that's the next thing is if we can see people the good in people, and this is, I like this for me, right? This could be a different experience for you, but the more I can see people as just good and spirit and part of the infinite mind. Um, then I, the side benefit of that is I get to see that in myself and my concept of myself changes.Mischa Z: 04:29 Here's the kicker and all five sentence five by three. And all this shift requires that you be willing that this happy change occur no more than this. As asked all that this shift requires it is that you be willing that this happy change occur. And I am more and more seeing like there's all these thoughts and concepts that can be good, that are good and liberating and, and challenge my thinking of the norm. And challenge my illusions of what I think are important. And am I willing to embrace new thoughts and concepts and I willing to see this happy, or am I willing to, let's say, and all this shift requires is that you'd be willing that this happy change occur. Yeah. So am I willing, are you willing? I think that's such a great question. And so many circumstances, am I willing to see somebody differently?Mischa Z: 05:42 So great question again, it's easy to point to politicians, although the politics seems to be really, but nine right now. So maybe I could point to something else, but I think you get what I'm saying. If there's, you know, a place or thing out there, am I willing to see them differently or am I going to be contemptuous and stubborn in my thought process? And um, so great question. Here's the next. I give my next point that I love from this section of A Course In Miracles. I give my concept of myself to God that I may offer peace. So I've got this concept of myself that oftentimes can be diluted or is, you know, there's this whole meaning of life thing and all this stuff that I get to embrace more as they get older and, and, and things. Um, and am I willing to release the concept of myself? Just be like, you know what, and it goes on to, to, to, to, to say like, it's this concept of ourselves that we put between ourselves and the people that we see. And so can I let go of that concept of myself, give it to God or whatever you want to call it, just be free of it so that I can look on everything that I see, everyone that I come across brand new without judgment, not painted by what I think. I know.Mischa Z: 07:32 So it goes on here. Sentence 13.4. It cannot judge me. I cannot judge because I, I do not know. And recognizing this, I merely asked what is the meaning of what I behold, I love that I'm going to try that. What is the meaning of what I behold? So as I walk out today, I'm about to go shopping at trader Joe's and a couple other spots. I'll probably swing by target perhaps, but, um, I need to get some ibuprofen ibuprofen. My two jars that I bought at Kirkland 10 years ago are finally are finally used up. But anyway, you know, I'm going to bump into people and how I perceive myself, my age, my maleness, my singleness, my dadness my, all this stuff. Right? All these things. What if I was free of all that? And I could just see somebody and be like, what, what is it?Mischa Z: 08:47 What is the meaning of what I behold? So interesting. Interesting. Um, question. And I wrote down, I give the concept of myself to you, God, because I'm going to play with this idea and hopefully I'll play with this and report back a couple other quick sentences. What is temptation, but the wish to stay in hell and misery. Think about that one. That's a good one. What is temptation? But the wish to stay in hell and misery sentence, a paragraph 10 sentence, one paragraph 11, sentence five. This is the Savior's vision that I see my innocence and all I look upon and see my own salvation everywhere. Next sentence. I hold no concept of myself, between my calm and open eyes and what I see. I bring the light to what I look upon that I may see it as it really is. Then the next sentence, 13.4. I cannot judge because it does not. It cannot judge because it does not know any me and lessons and recognizing this, it merely asks what is the meaning of what I behold. I'm going to go try and do that. Be free of judgment. Not know and ask what is, what am I looking at here? God. All right. Love that everybody have a good day. Okay.

The 12 Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous are the framework for how the groups work.  According to the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, "The '12 Traditions' of Alcoholics Anonymous are, we A.A.'s believe, the best answers to that our experience has yet given to those ever-urgent questions, 'How can A.A. best function?' and, 'How can A.A. best stay whole and so survive?'"As alcoholics, our person ambition and "good intentions," could turn this fellowship away from it's primary purpose, which is for us to stay sober.Tradition 8 - Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.Tradition 9 - A.A., as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve. John I and Steve C join to talk about the guardrails that help AA operate.Please help support the show by giving it a review and rating in Apple Podcasts.  Find Recovery Links, access to social media and email at https://notalonerecovery.com/Please share with friends and family.

One in three women worldwide have experienced physical and/or sexual violence in their lifetime, and every nine minutes a child is sexually assaulted. Today's guest, Gina Rolkowski, is a survivor herself. Struggling with drug addiction, abusive relationship patterns, and suicide attempts, Gina later found healing through trauma informed therapy and her faith. Now a former elementary school teacher and parent educator turned trauma coach, Gina works with women who have experienced sexual abuse, whether in childhood or as adults. She also is the founder of Bridge to Breakthroughs, a faith-based mentoring and coaching program for women. In this episode, Gina talks with Zach about relating to our inner child, dissociation, shame, and more. Learn more about Bridge to Breakthroughs at ginarolkowski.com. The Landmark Recovery Podcast is a production of Landmark Recovery. We understand that everyone has their own history, their own struggles, and their own needs. Our goal is to not only treat the disease of addiction, but the underlying causes as well. https://landmarkrecovery.com/life-at-landmark/the-landmark-difference/

CROSSOVER SHOW WITH THE STAFF ASSISTANT PODCASTJamil was a former Correctional Officer who had some bumps during his career. In this episode, Jamil speaks of the struggles with Alcoholism and how he turned his life around, how he helps all types of  Law Enforcement and others with their addictions. You can follow his current journey on Instagram: Copturnsentrepreneur. 

This week The TV Boys sit down to discuss Michael J. Fox. We wanted to make a "Forward to the Past" pun here, but that's already an actual episode title from 'Back to the Future: The Animated Series' so just listen in for more jokes, show facts and fun times.

Hi friends! Today we're talking all about alcohol and drinking culture.. **TW: ED BEHAVIORS**My toxic past with drinking and how it exacerbated my eating disorder behaviorsSocietal pressures to drink, especially in the workplaceLiving life 'in the gray' How to DO YOUWould love to hear your thoughts! Leave a review, tell a friend, DM me. XOXO

I go ahead and give Webster Dictionary's definition of "Salvation", which is super juicy and leads to great conversation.  Do Christian Scientists avoid the doctor because they believe god is going to cure them?  Or is it something more alluring?  And I leave you with a question. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:02 Today's A Course In Miracles was super juicy. Got my mind going so much. So of course, in miracles, chapter 31, the final vision, section seven, the Savior's vision, it's actually on page 662 on the book that I have. And, uh, A Course In Miracles, combined volume. So I have never been a church guy in, um, through my life when I was a kid, I went to church a couple of times that. I, I I'm telling you the story because of the contempt or the judgment or the, yeah. The contempt that comes up when I hear certain words. And, uh, because the ego is strong in me. And, um, when I talk about this stuff, this is not to knock anybody who loves church and, you know, loves whatever. How God is being, uh, you know, however God's manifesting through their church. Awesome. I tend to go to recovery meetings to find connection to source and stuff like that.Mischa Z: 01:39 And I know a lot of people in recovery also go to church and stuff like that. So anyway, I probably didn't even need to talk about all of that, but just know that I've never been a church guy too much contempt. The dogma freaks me out. And, um, I'm sure the dogma of the recovery groups that I go to freaks other people out as well. So we're all leaning into our own dogma, but like the word savior, for example, historically, that would, you know, uh, would, uh, shut my mind down. I'd be like, savior heck with that, save your, shave your savior. But now the fact that I can say it on this podcast and that I can read content that has that word in it that's growth for me, perhaps the next time, I won't need to say this disclaimer, which would be ultimate growth.Mischa Z: 02:52 This section talks about salvation and judgment, a bunch and salvation as, so it's such an interesting concept. When I hear that salvation, it susses out that contempt in me, um, it shines that light of contempt on me. And honestly, I don't even really know where it came from or manifested from. Like I didn't really ever have a bad experience in church growing up. I, my parents definitely were not church goers. As in my youth. I went to church a couple of times with various friends. And I never really gripped me enough that I wanted to go back, but I did like the, the fellowship and, and such so anyhow salvation. So I was like, let's look up the word salvation as according to, to Webster. And the point of this is like, do I want salvation or don't I would, I rather hold the word salvation in contempt, therefore I don't want salvation or is salvation something to be wanted.Mischa Z: 04:16 So I went ahead and looked up salvation and Webster and definition two as what I'm going to start with because that's, I think you'll see that heck yes, I want salvation. I do. When I read number two. Liberation from ignorance or illusion. At this point in my life, I do want liberation from ignorance or illusion and/or illusion. Back in the day I did , I liked the illusions that I embraced and they served me. I liked the ignorance. Ignorance has definitely been bliss, blessed in my life over the years. However, when the veil of ignorance can be cracked, then you're kind of hosed. So yes, indeed. I do want ignorant. Uh, I do want, uh, salvation, according to definition, Webster two: liberation from ignorance or illusion. Number three, definition, three, a preservation from destruction or failure preservation from destruction or failure. Well, of course I might want some salvation there, deliverance from danger or difficulty deliverance from danger or difficulty. Let's go with 1) a. This is where it starts to get a little wonky for me. Deliverance from the power and the effects of sin. Now, historically, that definitely would have been a, uh, my mind would've started to shut down a little bit close off to these ideas. But today I love this idea deliverance from the power and effects of sin.Mischa Z: 06:24 And yeah, I would like that. I like the idea that there is no saying that that is an illusion and, and some of the things that come with that. One B the agent, or means that affect salvation, or it could be effects the agent, or means that affect salvation. C 1) c., I kind of like this one, Christian science: the realization of the supremacy of capital. I infinite capital M mind over all bringing with it, the destruction of the illusion of sin sickness and death. The realization of the supremacy of infinite mind over all bringing with it, the destruction of the illusion of sin sickness and death.Mischa Z: 07:26 And if we believe we are our bodies, I am my body. The body is the be all end, all of my existence, which may or may not be true. But if I hold strong to that, then I am going to believe in sickness because sickness ultimately, and death ends the body. And I, I, this is what comes to mind when I think of Christian science and it, and that this definition gives me a new appreciation of Christian Scientists. And that's that I, but if I, and I'm talking a bit out of ignorance here, but from what I understand, a Christian Scientists, they are not big into traditional Western medicine. Like if they get sick cancer or some such thing, from what I understand, a Christian Scientist would pray or do these things and, and would avoid say getting treatment for cancer. Now, when I hear people talk about that, somebody who's not a Christian Scientist, and they hear somebody say that they say a Christian scientist naive really believes that if they get cancer, they turn to God. They pray to God. And they believe that God will heal their sickness like the physical sickness, the cancer itself. And I would challenge that line of thinking that a Christian scientist says, Hey, I'm not my body. And that I'm much more in that. I'm part of this. What is it, uh, this, um, infinite mind.Mischa Z: 09:22 And so there's no need to heal from the sickness because this blip of time that we're represented by a body is an illusion. So there's no need to, like, I don't care if I die in other words, or I'll trust in God that if the cancer is meant to go away, it'll go away. If the cancer is meant to, end the usefulness of my body on this planet. So be it. And I love that thought. I love the thought of being so convicted that there's more going on than just our bodies that you're like, yeah, it's all good. Like there's no need to stress about the sickness or the short-term illusory pain that I'm going to feel.Mischa Z: 10:13 Cause I'm more than my body. I'm part of the infinite mind. So sin sickness and death are an illusion. I'm not going to be die. I'm just going to be perhaps liberated from this current way that I relate to the planet. I believe that, um, I'm not going to get a talk about judgment. I'll have to save that for the next episode, because I think that I hit a good, um, at least eight to 10 minutes, love to all. And, uh, I'm down for salvation. What I'm trying to tell you is today I choose. Yes. Salvation sounds good. Why not? And I ask you, are you willing to embrace the concept of salvation? Peace out, have a good day.

Tried doing it your own way?  Thought you didn't need any help from others?  Where did that lead you?  Most people who experience problems with alcohol, drugs, gambling, pornography, and other issues attempt to do it on their own.  When … Episode 77: Your Best Got You Here Read More »

We are encouraged to make offers so I'm making an offer.  The Time I almost bought that shiny black Cayenne Turbo.  And I'm having fun playing with the email tech.  Not sure how this episode is of service…other than “be consistent and publish and learn”.  But that's enough.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 Walking recording with my shirt and V 88, Mike, go buy it off of my resource page. www.Belove.media/resources. I've got all sorts of other cool stuff. There. Books, podcast tech, I'm going to be building it out with more things in the future stuff that helps me thrive in life. That was not the purpose of this episode. However, we're encouraged to make offers, make an offer. So there you go. I'm making you an offer. Enjoy these episodes that I put out, learn with me, grow with me, laugh with me, but at the same time, go by the fun toys that I'm telling you about. So if you haven't bought, purchased the Shure MV88 mic yet, go purchase it. Now um, oh my gosh. I'm having, it's fun. Getting back on track. I believe a few episodes ago, perhaps three or four, I was talking about how it was getting back on track.Mischa Z: 01:10 Um, I'd gone camping. My brother had been to town and, and, um, I was pretty blown out after the summit. So I was, I was having a hard time finding focus in the moment and it starting to fall back in place one day at a time as I do the next indicated step. So I've got an email list that came from, uh, the summit. And some of you listeners may be part of that email list if you are. Hello. So glad to have you on board. Thank you for listening and partaking and being on this awesome journey with me. And you can also send me an email anytime at info@belove.media. Say hi, check in, ask me questions, tell me what you like, what you don't like, whatever. Oh, go leave me a five-star review on the apple podcast. Anyhow. So I'm, I am, uh, tasked to email my list.Mischa Z: 02:24 And one of the programs that can automate that it's called Active Campaign and you can do all of these super cool flows. So as people log into the summit and register, they enter one flow and then if they buy the VIP, they're pushed over to another flow. And then if you, you know, do this, you're pushed over to another flow. And ultimately I want you in the nurture campaign flow and where I can add value to your life and sell you things and we can interact and all this fun stuff. And I'd hired Andrea, Andrea, Peer, you can Google her Facebook her. She's super gifted at what she does. She was the tech who, who helped me build out the summit. Andrea, if you're listening, love you, thank you so much for being part of my team and helping me. Um, but she had... Porsche Cayenne just went by.Mischa Z: 03:40 I had to pause it because he was very excited to get around that corner and stomp on it as he went by. I might too, if I had a shiny black Cayenne, which reminds me of a funny story, I almost did buy a shiny black cayenne turbo back in the day. This is about eight years ago, nine years ago. I don't know. I, I, I, I've never been a super big car guy and God bless you. If you are. Some people love their cars. I've been more of having fun with my house. I'm more of a house guy, which I think I learned from my dad, but I was buying that Cayenne Turbo, which is a ridiculously cool car. And for whatever reason, I was going to lease it. And, uh, we worked it out and have the payment and this and that. And the deal was pretty much done and I was happy with everything. And then they went and pulled my credit and my credit score wasn't, at the time, quite good enough to qualify for the amazing payment.Mischa Z: 05:01 So the deal fell apart. I came back to my census and it was like, I don't need a Porsche Cayenne. And again, if you have one, God bless you. If you have love your cars, love them. I had, uh, I've had some, whatever. Anyway, distracted. Now I barely ever drive. So I have a Ford, like a 2001, a pick em up truck, my son Waylon. I had that nice Mazda CX9 instead of buying the Porsche Cayenne. And I bought the, the CX9 with all the trimmings, and, all the fun stuff, the nav, all the goodies. And, uh, a year or so ago, my son was like, "I want the shiny car". And I was like, you know what? You can have the shiny car. I'll take the raggedy old truckSpeaker 2: 05:58 So Waylon has the shiny car I have the raggedy old truck and, oh, it just makes me think of home Jackson, Wyoming, my roots. Such a weird thing. Anyhow, thank you for the diversion. So Active Campaign, I'm finally catching up enough where I can play with Active Campaign myself, and it's taken me a while to get to this point, but here's the point. Um, I have people in the nurture flow and when somebody new...cause randomly people are coming into the summit. And still. And the summit is evergreen, which means people can still register for the Tools For A Good Life Summit, go check it out. If you haven't registered and watched any of the speakers. And then they, you can, you can, anybody who does that today, they get into the, into the evergreen flow, which is isn't an email flow, which, you know, releases the speakers day one day, two day three, cetera.Speaker 2: 07:15 They get 120 hours of free access to the, to the non VIP, um, interviews and all that. But after that, they, I needed the, the tag to get them into the nurture campaign. And, and I actually figured it out today and it felt so good. And that is part of the tech that I love playing with. So I love the email follow-up systems and all that kind of stuff. It's just so cool how you can do all that. And you know, the toys and the tech to do that now or so awesome. And visually they're super cool. And, you know, they show you that the, the flows and the trees and all that. And so I was able to, I'd had a couple of new people in the queue that were stuck in the evergreen queue. Sorry about the language. If you're not tracking me, but I needed to bump them over to the nurture path flow. And I quickly figured out how to add that tag, and it worked, and that's so fun and it's fun having fun, I guess that's my point. It's, um, I'm past a little bit of the overwhelm, still a slight overwhelm state, but having fun versus just like survival. Anyway, that's what I've got for you. Love to all have a great day. Go chase some dreams. Go try new things, learn new stuff. Take messy action. Um, get overwhelmed. Yeah. Life is good. Peace out.

I had a really funny thought.  Russell Brunson is my mentor and I've never met him.  Who knows if I'll ever meet him. And, and he wouldn't be able to pluck me out of a picture or a crowd.  Just like the people I used to make fun of.  Who's mentor's and guru's are over in India.  They've never actually met them.  And half of them have been dead for decades.  Life is full of Irony now isn't it?Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:02 This episode is about. Well, I had a really funny thought as I was listening to the Russell Brunson Marketing Secrets Podcast recently. And you know, I'm in Russell,Brunson's 2CCX coaching program. His high end coaching program. I am a click funnels member. So I use his software to host the funnels and the webpages. Many of the webpages that I have that are about me. And Russell Brunson in effect, I was thinking about it like, he's my mentor, right? He is my mentor Russell Brunson's my mentor. And I thought, that's the funniest gosh, darn thing, because I have never met him. Who knows if I'll ever meet him. And, and he wouldn't be able to pluck me out of a, out of a crowd or a picture. And I think that that is so funny and so weird and so abstract. Because I'm like, well, he kind of is my mentor, this illusory mentor.Mischa Z: 01:41 And I had a, I had this guy Ken, who was a, my spiritual mentor for many years, 15, 16 years. And he finally passed away and Ken was my spiritual mentor. Mentor for free and, and, you know, very influential in my life. And one of the things he was telling me over the years was was, Hey, you should find a business mentor. You should find a business mentor. And, uh, oh, here comes the wind. This is going to be very windy. I need a wind screen for my phone. Oh, by the way, I'm walking through the Encinitas community park and now hitting the road. And I'm recording on my phone with my MV88 mic, which you should go by off of my resources page, www.belove.media/resources. But... I am the crazy one. I am the crazy guy talking into his phone.Mischa Z: 02:55 I'm the crazy homeless guy today. And the Encinitas community park. As I record this, it's about 5:30 ish, but it is busy, busy with lots of families, lots of kids, lots of football programs, lots of little kids at the park, lots of kids playing soccer, all the stuff. lots of people walking their dogs. Plenty of opportunities for me to feel in secure design, walking and recording with my Shure, Shure. S H U R E MV88, mic, which you can go by off of the show notes of this podcast episode and you should buy it because it's an awesome toy and you can record whatever's high quality recordings of whatever's rattling through your melon. So there's two ideas back to the mentor thing. And Ken telling me, I should have a mentor and being I've been in recovery for a majority of my life.Mischa Z: 04:12 What two-thirds of my life now, where the idea of mentorship is it's free. Um, you know, you, you, as, uh, as a recovery mentor, oftentimes it's, it's free and that 12 step programs and things so subconsciously or consciously, depending on any given moment, I've had an idea that it should be free. Now I did have a home loan mentor. Darren Riley love you, Darren, if you happened to be listening to this, Darren Riley taught me so much about home loans and was so influential and was a springboard for me for massive success and really how to do that business, right. And, and how to thrive. And, and all of these things. Now, I didn't literally pay him, but I worked for him for a couple of years. And he got, you know, a percentage of, of all the business that I did. And year one, it was a great deal for me, for me, because I took advantage of his knowledge and his, um, expertise and all that, and just was constantly, you know, taking advantage of that relationship.Mischa Z: 05:43 And I say taking advantage of that, I mean, you know, utilizing that relationship in a good way. And so he was overworked and underpaid year one of the mentorship. And then you're too, when I was effectively, well up to speed and just cranking away, I was a very quick learner and, uh, many things came together for me at that time. Um, you know, he was, his shoulder started hurting from stacking the money. That's how I like to say that. So anyway, uh, years later, you know. Ken, You should get a business mentor as I was looking for new ventures. And so I had it in my idea, you know, for free. And then also that you've got to know the guy or gal you've got to know the person. And so it makes me think about the other funny thought was like, you'll hear people who talk about, oh, my guru, my guru, my guru.Mischa Z: 06:52 And, and so you could say, oh, when was the last time you met your guru or, had coffee with them? Or talk to them? And they're like, oh, well, they're dead. You know, I talked to them in spirit or, well, I've never actually met them. They're, uh, they're Indian. And, you know, they're an avatar over in India or something like that. And so the way you're, you're oftentimes in those relationships, the way you're. It's a third party relationship, two or three degrees of separation. So either that, that spiritual person is dead. And so you're, you're getting to take advantage of that relationship by one of their, the dead person's old students, right? So that, that student, you know, is now teaching others. And by default, the dead guru is now the new students guru. Um, or, you know, you've got your Yogi who's over there in India.Mischa Z: 08:02 And, uh, you know, he, he was a teacher to somebody. Somebody who is now in the states and, and mentoring new yoga people, or what have you. And so again, by two degrees, or is that one degree of separation, two degrees of separation, the person you've never met is now your mentor. And, oh my gosh, I used to think that was the funniest thing ever. And now, honestly, I don't know if I'm going to publish this episode because it's just such an abstract, weird concept for me. But Hey, I'm paying for a high-end coaching program. And, uh, so which is awesome, not complaining, super stoked about it.Mischa Z: 08:54 Like it's been money well, well, well, well invested. And in hindsight, I would've taken advantage of high end coaching programs earlier in my life. Like really invested in myself in that regard. Um, but B it's two degrees of separation that Russell Brunson is my mentor. So one of Russell Brunson's coaches is my coach. His name is Vince Green. And Vince love you if you are happening to listen to this episode. But, uh, then says so good. And here's my, whatever it is, that one degree or two degrees of separation that Russell Brunson as my mentor. So funny life is good. Got to have fun, peace out.

Each week, the founder of a company or brand shares what worked for them, what they needed to improve on, and all of their learning lessons along the way.Episode #155 - "What It's Really Like to Be an Entrepreneur" has been rebranded  to "That Entrepreneur Show" https://www.VincentALanci.com/.For the seventh episode of Season 11, the show travels to Utah to sit down with Jeff Jackman.  Some of the areas he will touch on are how to acquire new clients,  find new places to look for clients, finish your education after taking a break, and so much more! Enjoy the show.Jeff is a full-time artist and entrepreneur. At a younger age, he like many people didn't know what to do with his life and fell into dead end jobs and alcoholism. Jeff decided to make a change back in 2012 and he stopped drinking alcohol ever since. Jeff has since gone back to school and earned a Bachelor of Film and Masters in Game Arts from the Entertainment Arts and Engineering lab at the University of Utah. Since going back to school, Jeff has had the chance to find what it is he knew was meant to do: Make art that solves problems for others! Along with schooling, he worked 2 years in a games and app lab for therapeutic and health related games, followed by 3 years at a local indie game studio. Jeff has since been making a name for himself in the indie game and character illustration scene and he's the guy who made Host Vincent A. Lanci's recent book cover, Mental Health Week! Check out that book here: https://www.amazon.com/Mental-Health-Week-Vincent-Lanci/dp/0578676168/ref=sr_1_3dchild=1&keywords=mental+health+week&qid=1633690968&sr=8-3Host Name: Vincent A. LanciEmail: PodcastsByLanci@Gmail.comYouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCy0dil34Q5ILEuHgLVmfhXQInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatentrepreneurshowFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThatEntrepreneurShowTwitter: twitter.com/PodcastsByLanciLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/showcase/thatentrepreneurshowFor Digital Editing Inquiries: Email PodcastsByLanci@Gmail.comHappy | https://soundcloud.com/morning-kulishow/happy-backgAdventure by MusicbyAden | https://soundcloud.com/musicbyadenCreative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 3.0 UnportedSpotlight Story & Quote Source: MyModernMet.com, Goalcast.com

Ex NFL Player and CEO San Diego Rescue Mission Donnie Dee discusses service as a tool for a good life on the Tools For A Good Life Summit.  Truly inspirational Donnie Dee is literally saving lives.  Helping get homeless people off of the streets and back into a good life.  Careful if you listen…you will want to volunteer. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Donate, support, and check out the San Diego Rescue Mission here: https://www.sdrescue.org/Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: 0:00:07.1 Mischa Z: Welcome back everybody to the Tools For A Good Life Summit and right now, I would like to introduce to you, Donnie Dee, President and CEO of the San Diego Rescue Mission. Welcome, Donnie.0:00:23.1 Donnie Dee: Well, welcome to you. Thanks for having me.0:00:25.4 Mischa Z: Indeed, indeed. And then before we get started here, I'm gonna read your bio really quick, if that's okay.0:00:30.7 Donnie Dee: Absolutely.0:00:31.6 Mischa Z: Alright, fantastic. Donnie Dee joined the San Diego Rescue Mission as President/CEO, mid-July, 2017. Anniversary is coming up or you just hit it?0:00:43.3 Donnie Dee: This week, yeah. Today, as a matter of fact.0:00:46.1 Mischa Z: Oh, wow.0:00:46.6 Donnie Dee: Yeah, four years ago today.0:00:48.5 Mischa Z: Oh, fantastic. Growing up in Kansas City, sports have always been important to Dee. He played football and basketball for Oak Park High School and was a four-year letterman in football at the University of Tulsa, graduating from there in 1988 with a business management degree. He was then drafted by the Indianapolis Colts and played in the NFL for two and a half years for the Colts and Seahawks. And then quick, was that an injury or you just... Go ahead.0:01:22.5 Donnie Dee: I did finish with an injury. I actually played for another team but just never really felt right, and so, yeah, I would say it was an injury that ended my career.0:01:32.4 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah, yeah. And was that a heavy moment?0:01:37.5 Donnie Dee: It was. You dream your whole life about playing a sport like that, and so for it to come down and you did not have a lot of control over how it ends is a little disappointing and a heavy thing to process. You play football your whole life and then for some of us, it just comes to an abrupt ending. It takes a little while to get used to.0:01:56.2 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'm guessing, and we can get into this in a minute, but your faith was not only tested but enriched and really helped you through that time?0:02:06.9 Donnie Dee: 100%. I think you find out what's most important and what you really value. And look, at the end of the day, football's a game, it can't be the most important thing in your life, and it's a game and it's why they call it a game. And so I think I was able to make the transition.0:02:23.4 Mischa Z: Yeah, what a great lesson too and I think what a great thing or analogy, or whatever that... For me, I just hear that and I'm like, "Yeah, how much stuff do I put attachment on where it's just money or it's just this or just that when really... " I think is the lesson there.0:02:42.8 Donnie Dee: Well, yeah, and it's easy to do because what our priorities are end up being the things that we chase and we center our whole life around, but what happens if we have the wrong priorities? Well, then we have established a life that isn't very deep, doesn't have a lot of substance, and those things always... You end up finding that out as time goes on that, "Hey, maybe this isn't as big a deal I thought it was." And that was really my relation with football. I went to University of Tulsa and football was the most important thing in my life. And then I got hurt in college and realized that, "Look, this can give you a lot of opportunities but it can't be the most important thing in your life 'cause it's gonna let you down eventually."0:03:26.0 Mischa Z: Yeah, and I'm thinking too, I bet from that part of the country you grew up in and just... That was probably your destiny to a certain extent. That's the lifestyle...0:03:38.8 Donnie Dee: Well, yeah, I think sports is a really big deal in the Midwest. Football is an enormous thing in Oklahoma. But even for me personally, my father was a professional basketball player for the Indiana Pacers and he won an actual gold medal, which I think is one of the most difficult accomplishments in all of sports, is winning a gold medal in the 1968 Olympics playing basketball. And so, yeah, I would say it was very much my destiny. I wanted to be an athlete, I wanted to accomplish what my dad had accomplished, I wanted to make him proud. I never imagined not being an athlete and I put that pressure on myself.0:04:14.6 Mischa Z: Yeah, I will say too, for anybody younger, back in the day... So when your father went to play basketball in the Olympics, that was amateurs. There was no Michael Jordan, no LeBron James showing up, that was strictly amateur class.0:04:32.6 Donnie Dee: These are all college guys playing against other countries and they were the best in the world, they were the best in the world. It has changed and now we've got pros playing against pros in the Olympics.0:04:42.9 Mischa Z: Yeah, I think that's cool. I think I'm even more excited now to have you on the summit because I think, to have your identity in sports that much or as a pro football player and to have those cracks start to happen in college and then perhaps ultimately in the NFL, that it's such a powerful testament to what we're offering. How do we make it through those rough parts of life when our identity is shattered a little bit? So anyway, yeah, let me finish up here and thank you for indulging those questions. So here we are. Dee began his career in 1990 with the Fellowship of Christian Athletes in Colorado. Dee went on to become COO or Chief Operating Officer of the FCA for five years before relaunching the Tom Landry Associates, a major donor program at FCA. Again, the Fellowship of Christian Athletes. Dee is married to his college sweetheart, Jackie, who was also a college athlete. They have two grown children, Johnny, who's now 28 and about to get married, right?0:06:00.7 Donnie Dee: That's correct.0:06:01.7 Mischa Z: Yeah, very exciting, congratulations. And Jennifer, 25, who both played college basketball at USD and UCI, respectively. If I'd quickly touched on a... And again, for any of the younger people, Tom Landry, he was the coach... He was the man in football for a few decades, perhaps.0:06:23.0 Donnie Dee: Very successful coach, went to the playoffs 23 years in a row, still has, I think, that record, and Bill Belichick's about to break it or maybe he was about to break it before last year because I don't think he went to the... I don't think the Patriots went to the playoffs last year, but Tom Landry is a very successful coach. He wasn't our founder but he got involved very early on with the Fellowship of Christian Athletes and really put us on the map. I think once he got involved and used FCA as his platform to share his thing, I think our ministry really exploded when I was with FCA, and I'm certainly thankful for his life and his leadership.0:07:01.0 Mischa Z: Yeah, and you had a chance to interact a little bit with Tom Landry?0:07:05.3 Donnie Dee: I did. We had an annual giving campaign that people would give $10,000 or more in a year in honor of Tom Landry and that was used for local field ministry to work with coaches and athletes at the local level.0:07:22.2 Mischa Z: I wanted to touch really quick before we get to the question and the meat of the summit question, to you, is that... Clearly, it's evident to me through your history and what you do that your faith is very important to you and it's been a very powerful part of your life, yeah?0:07:42.1 Donnie Dee: Yeah, it is and it has been, and I think it always will be. I didn't grow up in a Christian home, didn't grow up in the church, and so really just trying to figure out life by myself. I'm from a broken home, my father was an alcoholic, and so I think that, in many ways, I was gonna follow in his footsteps, not only athletically but also socially. I think I was destined to just be an alcoholic and to probably bounce around from relationship to relationship. And it wasn't until I got to college that I saw some other athletes that lived out their faith and that became inspirational for me and interesting to me that I asked questions. I think, in the end, I just began to embrace my faith and allow God to have a role in my life, and to have this daily relationship where I get a chance to strengthen my faith and try to be all that God has called me to be.0:08:39.4 Mischa Z: It's beautiful. So your interest and that nurturing in your college years, that's what led you to, obviously, your work in things like the San Diego Rescue Mission, yes?0:08:55.8 Donnie Dee: 100%. Yeah, I think faith and really beginning to understand the God of the Bible and really what the scripture teaches really compels you to wanna make a difference in the world and to wanna see other people not just as humans at different stages and different statuses in life but to begin to see them as God's creation and that whether you're homeless or whether you have billions that we're really all the same in terms of God's eyes and he calls upon us that have been given much to help those that maybe aren't as privileged or haven't been given as much, and I just think that's a great way to live your life. And I've seen so many that have gone before me that lived their lives that way and it really challenged me to embrace that.0:09:38.9 Mischa Z: Yeah, fantastic. I think my relationship with source or a higher power, or God, as you say, has been more from a recovery lens, like a traditional 12-step, that was my entry point, but I'd love...0:09:55.3 Donnie Dee: That's good.0:09:56.1 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah. I'm excited for your viewpoint. [laughter] And what I wanna touch on here too is service. So you are CEO and President of the San Diego Rescue Mission. So the San Diego Rescue Mission is feet on the street, helping people, yeah?0:10:22.0 Donnie Dee: That's correct. Yeah, we have a large facility downtown. It's an old hospital. I have 366 beds, 60 of those beds are used for emergency shelter use overnight, women and children only, and they stay there one night at a time, two nights at a time. The other 300 beds are used for what I believe to be the number one solution for homelessness and that is rehabilitation. You understand that, you understand the power of a program, you understand the power of accountability and direction, and support 'cause you've obviously overcome some things in your own life. And we have people that come to us that, yes, circumstantially, they may be homeless but there's other things that are going on in their heart that have led them to this lifestyle of homelessness and we're trying to address what's going on in the heart so that they can overcome and really be free from this challenge of living on the streets. So they live with us for a year. We call them students. The first semester is wellness, the second semester is education, the third semester is job placement and housing. And we tell them on day one, "Give us a year, we'll get you off the streets permanently." And we do that through our rehabilitation program.0:11:33.2 Mischa Z: It's beautiful. I love it. Well, good. I think we've laid the framework for service as a tool for a good life. So I have a question that I'm gonna ask you and I'm gonna lay the scenario and basically, if we think of life as a three-legged stool of relationships, finance, and...0:11:57.9 Donnie Dee: Health.0:12:00.0 Mischa Z: Health. Thank you. [chuckle]0:12:00.3 Donnie Dee: Absolutely. I read the question.0:12:01.9 Mischa Z: That's good. [laughter] I appreciate that, Donnie. Thank you. And then if we think of someone who was successful or is successful and two or three of the legs fall out from under them, so perhaps... So I'll speak for me. I went through divorce, another failed relationship after that, both my parents died in rapid succession, this was all 5 to 10 years ago, career upheaval. And up until that point, success had served me very well. And so pull myself up from my bootstraps, that mentality, that "Fix it. Work your way through it. Sort it out", that was no longer working. [laughter] I needed new tools. [laughter] And so by the grace of God, I got new tools. And so my question to you is, thinking of service to community as a tool, what are the exact next steps you would offer a person like me who is, perhaps, hitting that rough part of life? What are the exact next steps you would offer this person so they know they are headed in the new, right direction that they will have positive momentum towards getting their life back on track?0:13:27.7 Donnie Dee: That's a big question, that's a heavy question, and I don't know that there's an easy answer to that. I can tell you what comes to mind for me and I can tell you what has worked for me. I think the exact next steps really have to do with how you view the world. I think everything starts internally first. I can't be for the world if I'm not first that in myself. I can't impart what I don't possess. And so I think I have to have a philosophy of life. I think I have to have a view of the world that is healthy so that I can begin to see people and see others the way that would allow me to have influence on them.0:14:12.0 Donnie Dee: I think, for me, it starts with gratefulness. I think that so many of us, especially today, in this world feel like we need to play the role of the victim and I think we're losing sight of the amazing Americans that have overcome so much to make a life of themselves and they didn't play the victim. They played the, "I'm gonna get up every day, I'm gonna do the best I can, and I'm grateful for this opportunity." I think thankfulness and having a thankful heart really centers someone to really begin to see their circumstances and to see the world in a way that allows them to take advantage of their opportunities. I think that's the first step, is do you realize how much you have? It's like the guy that said that he was complaining having no shoes until he saw the guy who didn't have any feet. I think you don't have to look far, especially when you live in San Diego, to spend some time in Mexico and you see that it's a whole different world down there.0:15:25.0 Mischa Z: A whole different world, yeah.0:15:26.6 Donnie Dee: We have a lot to be thankful for and I think it starts with that.0:15:32.7 Mischa Z: Let me ask you a question, do you have any sort of things that you do to bring that gratitude forefront in your day?0:15:41.5 Donnie Dee: I do. I start each day in reading and in meditation, specifically reading the Bible and in praying out my faith and just trying to center myself around the opportunities I have for that day. It's easy for me to get out of the bed and to rush into the mission because of the volume of responsibilities that's down here. And we've got 300 people living with us and even during COVID. It's not like we kicked them out. They stayed with us, that's their home for a year. And so just the pressure and the volume of responsibility, and the stress, and the decisions that need to be made. I can't come down to this work everyday without something to give and I gotta have life to give if I'm gonna help somebody that's broken figure out how to take steps in their life. So I can encourage them to be grateful and to be thankful that they've got a place to live even though that in the world's eyes they're probably at the bottom of the...0:16:49.7 Mischa Z: Pecking order.0:16:50.0 Donnie Dee: Probably the bottom of the pecking order. There's a lot to be thankful for. They have a lot to be thankful for. They've got a bed, they've got a safe place, they've got meals. And I can't communicate that to them if I'm not coming from a position of gratefulness and thankfulness. And so, yeah, I think starting each day in just prayer and in reading, and centering myself around what I know to be true is one of the things I practice daily.0:17:14.9 Mischa Z: Fantastic. And I heard you say meditation in there too. Real quick, how much time do you dedicate to that in your morning?0:17:26.0 Donnie Dee: Thirty minutes or so. I read and pray and sometimes I'll listen to a good message but I really just try to carve out before I actually get up. I workout, then I sit out back and read and pray, and then I jump in the shower and grab my stuff, and I hit the road 39 miles south to the San Diego Rescue Mission. So that is in my routine six days a week.0:17:51.8 Mischa Z: Fantastic, thank you. Alright, so number one, start with gratitude, and you gave some great ways to do that. What do we have next? What's after that?0:18:01.6 Donnie Dee: Well, I think the next thing is to look for opportunities to serve. The world is full of need. There is so much suffering in the world and so many that are just challenged by their own circumstances, and you don't have to go far. You don't even have to do anything formally or structurally. You can just look around your neighborhood and see somebody that needs a helping hand, that needs a word of encouragement, that needs somebody to come alongside of them and just put their hand on their shoulder, and say, "It's gonna be okay." I think how we view the world and how we see the world really determines the opportunity, I believe, God gives us to serve the world. There's so many opportunities to serve. I had a friend that is no longer alive, he was a tennis pro at El Camino Country Club, and I would say my best friend ever.0:18:51.8 Mischa Z: Who is your best friend ever?0:18:53.1 Donnie Dee: He was my best friend. He passed away probably 10 years ago. I've got a picture of him up here in my bookshelf. He passed away about 10 years ago of a brain tumor and it really came on fast, and I just watched him go through all of that and really die in an honorable way. And he was just a tennis pro. He'd make a lot of money but then I saw him have an impact on a lot of people. I had a chance to officiate his memorial service. There's probably 500 people standing remotely in this little chapel. But I remember he used to tell his kids... And he's about 10 years older than me, so I kinda looked up to him a little bit. And I remember he told his kids who were a few years older than my kids that if you're having a bad day, go be a blessing to somebody. Go find somebody and be a blessing to them and not only will you make their day a much better day but it'll take your eyes off of what concerns you most. And I think that's a powerful principle that is easy to implement that can change your complete perspective and how you see your circumstances by, one, being grateful and by, two, looking for opportunity to be a blessing to somebody else, formally or informally.0:20:10.3 Mischa Z: I love that a lot. Service, for me, has been so impactful in my life to get me out of my head and all those things that you said, and to find that gratitude in a lot of what I do. My current state in the world, I'm trying to let go of what being of service means. So I have my vision and it usually has lots of accolades. I want to be of service and then the shiny objects but I... So I wanna ask you... Easy to implement. So tell me, give me some easy to implement both, I think you said, official and unofficial.0:20:58.8 Donnie Dee: Yeah, or formally or informally.0:21:00.0 Mischa Z: There we go.0:21:01.0 Donnie Dee: And I would say, formally, there's lots of organizations like the San Diego Rescue Mission. I had 240 volunteers down here last week that get what it means to serve the world, that get what it means to serve the community. They got things going on, they've got kids, little league games, and work, and church responsibilities, and yard work, and all kinds of stuff like the rest of us, but they come down every week, many of them, and they serve meals. They come down every week, many of them, and they help us run the mission; 240 volunteers that showed up last week. Now, some of them were regulars and then some of them came down for their once a month service project but I love that they're committed to this place. And I would say that's one of the ways to serve, is to be consistent, is to find a place that really hits your heart and a place that you wanna make a difference because there's lots of organizations like ours out there that need the help. We don't have enough staff to do all the things that we need to do around here and when volunteers come down and serve, not only does it help us raise our level of leadership but it helps those that we're serving because now we could do it at a much higher level.0:22:18.1 Mischa Z: I love that. I like what you said, and I'm gonna frame it this way, take the time to find some place that inspires you to be consistent. So go to the San Diego Rescue Mission and if that grabs you, awesome, be consistent but if it doesn't, perhaps look again. Keep looking until you can find that thing that maybe resonates, yeah?0:22:45.0 Donnie Dee: Yeah, and I think that we don't have to do everything, but what if all of us at this summit did something? And I'm sure that if you had the ability to find out all of the areas that people at this summit are involved in, we'd probably be impressed and probably be in awe, but there's probably somebody that this really speaks to them. You've been feeling like you need to get involved, you've been feeling like you need to do something, and I would say, find that thing and also, step back and evaluate your own story. What is it that you've been through? What is it that you've been challenged by, either as you grew up or even later in life? And typically, I have found that that ends up being something that you wanna give back too because you've been given so much. Like for you, I can only imagine what it's like for you to sit down with somebody who's struggling with an addiction and the power of that is, is that you know exactly what that's like, you know exactly what that means.0:23:53.4 Donnie Dee: I remember I'm the oldest of four and my parents got divorced when I was in eighth grade, and I always resented it. I was like... I never really understood how difficult and challenging it is to be married till I got married. I'm just a kid and I resented it, and I always wondered why it had to happen, because it was hard on us. It was really hard on us. But it wasn't until I was 25 years old and I took a position in Colorado working with coaches and athletes, and I met a kid whose mom asked me, "Would you meet with him because me and his dad are going through a divorce and he's really struggling?" And I sat down with him at Taco Bell and that divorce that I went through as an eighth grader made sense to me because I could speak to him in a way that I think he listened to me more than he listened to anybody else because I could relate. And I think that's the challenge, is not only to be consistent at that thing that you feel compelled to do but to find something that really resonates with your heart because you've been impacted, you've changed, you've overcome. And I think that puts you in a position to really have an impact on other people that will trust you because you've been there.0:25:08.3 Mischa Z: Yeah, that's good. That experience, bring that experience to the table and use that as a tool to serve. That's very powerful. How about informally? So we covered formally, tell me some informal.0:25:25.3 Donnie Dee: I think that some of us are more relational than others, and so as I mentioned earlier, just having a world view where you see people as people, not as a hassle or as a distraction, or as a... We've got... I remember when I was a kid, if somebody rang the doorbell, it wasn't uncommon growing up in a neighborhood. We were bouncing around from house to house. Somebody rings my doorbell now, I'm half freaked out. [laughter] What do they want? Am I in trouble? Am I about to get robbed? Why are they ringing my doorbell? We live in a world of garage door openers where we pull our car in and we get out, and walk into the house and we don't connect with anybody, and I just don't think that's... I don't think that's best for society. We are human beings, we are meant to connect, and I think the absolute most fulfilling way to connect is to help others. And so as we began to see in our neighborhoods, as we begin to see in our workplace, as we begin to see at the gym, as we begin to see people at our kids practices, and as we begin to build relationships, I think you find that there's a whole world out there that's waiting to be touched and waiting to be blessed if we'll have the eyes to see that.0:26:45.7 Mischa Z: Yeah, I loved that thought. This is what I hear, a lot of what I hear, is how powerful, when I walk out the door, a smile can be, a generous nod, an open, generous... And when I say generous, meaning... I don't mean literally having to give something to somebody but that... You know what I'm saying when I say generous?0:27:11.9 Donnie Dee: We all know people that when you're around them, they're life-giving, they're so positive, they're so enthusiastic, they're so full of joy. That's actually contagious. And when I see that, not only do I benefit from that but it's also a challenge to me that I wanna be that kind of person. I wanna be that kind of person that when others are around me, it raises their level of influence and leadership capacity.0:27:40.2 Mischa Z: Yeah, and the other thing I heard was, if I'm having... If I see somebody and I go negative and I get judgmental or whatever that could be, they shouldn't have crossed the street in front of me, or the gamut that can go through our brain is literally practiced to be like, "Wait a minute, can I shift how I view that person to a positive attitude or from a positive set of glasses?" or say it however you want.0:28:09.9 Donnie Dee: Yeah, yeah, no, I think it goes back to that way we view the world and we are all pretty selfish and we all are the most very self-centered and self-focused, and self-aware, and if I can begin to see the world from a standpoint of, "Look, it's not about me"... I need to remind myself of that daily. That's almost something I should rehearse in my head over, "It's not about me. This is not about me. This is not about me, my needs, my wants, my desires. What if I begin to make the world about other people?" and I think that's legacy. You start talking about how to make the most of our lives. Well, service is certainly a way to do that and at the end of our lives, what you have in an auditorium, like my friend that I mentioned, is a bunch of people that you've impacted if we dare to see the world in another's focused view. If we see the world in a self-focused view, then at the end of our lives, probably not a whole lot of people are around to celebrate your legacy, right?0:29:20.2 Mischa Z: Right, it's true.0:29:21.3 Donnie Dee: We know that now, so why don't we do something about it? Why don't we do something different?0:29:25.8 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah. If we can dare... Say that again, if we can dare to see the world... How did you say that? If we...0:29:33.2 Donnie Dee: Well, if we can dare to see the world others-focused instead of me-focused, then really I think build a legacy that has an impact on lots of people's lives.0:29:45.7 Mischa Z: Yeah, that's great. So good. Donnie, I love it. I think that that's a great place to stop interview one. So if this interview with Donnie Dee was fantastic and you want to get even more content from Donnie, upgrade to the all access pass for that bonus interview. And I've got some good questions and I know we're gonna have some fun, and I'm gonna give you an opportunity to be vulnerable, so I think that's always really good. Any final thoughts to share that we did not get a chance to cover, Donnie?0:30:29.0 Donnie Dee: No, just that I think we should all be mindful that life is short, and so each day's a gift. The Bible teaches that this is the day that the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it. And I think that regardless of your faith orientation, I think we would all agree that life is short and goes by very quickly, and so what we do with these days really determines a successful life. If you want another tip, I think, in terms of how to have an effective life and to be well-rounded and to be well-balanced like that three-legged stool, then we gotta get up every day and make this day count by treating it as a gift.0:31:09.7 Mischa Z: Yeah, that's good. That's good stuff, Donnie. Thank you so much. You can find out all about what Donnie does as President and CEO of the San Diego Rescue Mission by going to sdrescue.org. Again, sdrescue.org. There's opportunities to donate. I'm sure you would always love donations, donation-supported...0:31:38.2 Donnie Dee: Yeah, we've got a lot of opportunities to serve, a lot of opportunities to give, a lot of opportunities to praise, so yeah, we'd love to have any of your listeners involved in any one of those plans.0:31:48.6 Mischa Z: Alright, fantastic, Donnie. And again, everybody click on the all access pass button below so you can get unlimited access to all of our interviews with Donnie and all of the bonus interviews which Donnie and I are going to get into next. I'm gonna hit stop and thank you so much for round one, that was beautiful.0:32:10.5 Donnie Dee: Thank you.

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Arlina Allen 0:13 Dr. Rob Kelly, thank you so much for joining me today. Thank you, Andy for asking. Awesome. Looking forward to this. Hey, before we get started, I saw a picture of you with an English bulldog. Was that yours? Unknown Speaker 0:25 Yes, I have three English Bulldogs we strive for, but we had to rehome one because of fights. Oh, but I have Mackenzie, Who's the girl and two boys. Arlina Allen 0:34 And so sweet. So I've had four total but right now I have just one. Yeah, an English bulldog. His name is Teddy. He's the podcast mascot. You will occasionally hear him snoring in the background. Unknown Speaker 0:47 Always. I've got three in the office today cuz doing other things downstairs. But yeah, I hope they don't balk or anything. Otherwise, we're in trouble. It's Arlina Allen 0:56 fine. It's fine. This is not CNN. Be good. But my audience is all about sobriety and finding solutions. And you are the solution guy. I saw you on the doctors and did my research and saw on your on your website that you talk about permanent recovery. And that's what everybody wants. Everybody wants these people who've just been through the wringer of people who want to stop and cannot. Those are our people. Right and so I can't wait to hear what you have to say about all that. But like I said, before we jump in we do this something called the lightning round. So I'm just gonna pepper you with it's never usually very fast. But I'm I'm so curious. What were some of your favorite books when you got sober? Unknown Speaker 1:51 When I got sober? Well, obviously the big book I read often, but I kind of well I wrote about myself. So that's obviously the best ever. But just real life, I love biographies. I love to see how other people live. And now other people have overcome not not a big believer in you know, these get get well or get fit box that are out there. I just think that it's all about the mind. on trade with the mind. Yeah, I Arlina Allen 2:21 couldn't agree more. Yeah, I'll be talking to Dr. Anne Lemke. She wrote that book that just was released dopamine nation, so I'm super excited about that. And also, never enough. Another neuroscientist. Oh, yeah. Yeah. So I'm all about it. Awesome. What about do you have like a favorite go to mantra, he kind of said it this morning. When I asked I Unknown Speaker 2:44 did I did. I always use that it's dreaming. I'm living the dream instead of dreaming a living is and it came to me. When I was homeless, passing a nice house with the children mum and dad. Having Christmas lunch. I used to dream of that. I used to dream of living that little dream. And I went I did. It just came to me one day, and it's been my mantra ever since. Arlina Allen 3:08 Yeah, we do have a tendency to spend a lot of time in fantasy land. One more. Yeah. And that throws Unknown Speaker 3:14 even afterwards, if I'm honest. Um, do you have a regular self care routine that you practice for yourself? I do every single day when I get up. First thing I want to do is I want to train my subconscious brain. So I go to the mirror. I love myself in the eyes. And I say I love you 10 times. I don't say any other affirmation just I love you. Because I used to have a big problem with that. So I'm kind of stored in the subconscious brain. So when it comes to like decision making, that's going to pop over to the prefrontal cortex, and I'm gonna go you know, something, I love myself today. I deserve this. So yeah, that's what I do. And then I write out five things, I'm going to accomplish that day. And, and the idea behind that is if I if I, if I complete all five, I've taken a step forward in life. If I only complete three or four, I've taken a step back in life. Arlina Allen 4:07 Oh, interesting account. You know, what I heard recently is accountability. Empathy without accountability reinforces the victim mentality. Yes. I like that. I like the I like that accountability piece that you have for yourself. I have a feeling you're kind of a hard ass and I can't wait to talk to you about that. But I have one more question. I like I like to work question. What's the one thing you wish you knew when you first got sober? It's gonna be okay. That's gonna be my life's gonna be amazing. You're like this amazing? He says, um, and what do you do for fun? Unknown Speaker 4:44 I have a music where am I used to be a musician when I was young. So I was a onstage musician and then I was a played at Abbey Road for about three or four years. I played with elton john Queen David Bowie. So I have a music room at home or with a full fall everything Got everything and you can imagine so I go in there about once every couple of days and I may play drums or guitar I might play keyboard I might write songs I might do a live YouTube. So that's what I do and of course walking my three English Bulldogs is also great Arlina Allen 5:16 use I noticed that you have some big guns Do you consider exercise fun? Unknown Speaker 5:21 Yes of course. Yeah, I I have what's called a mirror in the house. We also have a bike. A well known bike power. Arlina Allen 5:28 The mirror the exercise mirror thing? Yeah. Oh, you like that? I'm, I'm I know. Phenomenal. You can do everything on that. Yeah. And you can make yourself look beautiful. Yes. If you really squint for me, I'm like, Oh, yeah. Can I just I don't want to gloss over the fact that you mentioned that you play with elton john and Queen. fucking amazing. Unknown Speaker 5:49 Right on, right. That is Arlina Allen 5:52 amazing. He just kind of like threw that out there very casually. That's pretty incredible. Unknown Speaker 5:57 Yeah, why? It's what paid for courage college, I was a session musician. I grew up on a unmade projects. So I wasn't ever going anywhere, really. But I was wanting to better so I auditioned after playing another recording studio sessions and then added seven auditions and got the job. And I was only 16 at the time against perfect. I know. But I had this confident. Well, I said my mom used to tell me I used to walk around with a guitar around my neck and wouldn't even check it out of both. I was just because I'm musical family. I was on stage at nine. Family. So yeah, so awesome. Everyone asked the same thing. Who's the worst person you've played with? Regarding hanging around? Who's the best, worst person to elton john. Once he gets into that mood, his heart was Arlina Allen 6:40 out before he got sober after? Unknown Speaker 6:43 Yes, I think before it would be 79 around the area. And the best would be Freddie Mercury. We spent hours and hours late into the night chatting about philosophy and how it can change the world. So yeah, I got this Arlina Allen 6:58 sense from Freddie Mercury that he'd be really funny. Unknown Speaker 7:01 Oh, yeah, he is. He's always kind of switched on. You never find him in a bad mood. He's always smiling. He used to call me Robbie, darling. Unknown Speaker 7:10 What else would he call you? Right? Unknown Speaker 7:14 Awesome, guys. Arlina Allen 7:15 It's amazing that he is truly truly unique. That's very cool. Okay, well, that's it for my silly lightning round questions. I always like to provide like Book Resources and things like that and sort of set the stage for mindset. But really, what I, what you and I think both care about is helping other people and to help other people I do I actually practice hypnotherapy. So when you talk about subconscious mind, neuroscience and all that stuff, what we're talking about is root cause, right? Because we're You and I are dealing with people that have chronic, persistent, pervasive conditioning from childhood. I read somewhere in your stuff that root causes are abandonment, fear and shame. Can you tell me a little bit about why those things lead us to want to medicate with drugs and alcohol? And really, mostly, what is your process to help treat that pervasive consist consistent conditioning? Unknown Speaker 8:16 Well, we have to look, there's a couple of things you need to look out before again, that conversation and that is the alcoholic brain, which is a predisposition. We're born this way. So rather drink, not like drug taking. alcoholism is different. So we look at that brain, for instance, is what I study. And many people often ask me, what's the gateway drug? Rob? It's obviously marijuana. And my answer is always the same. It's trauma. That's the gateway drug. So I'm born this way. I have a remapped neural pathways at birth because you have the alcoholic brain, which wants to self sabotage any opportunity it can. So remapped and then trauma. Now when I'd say trauma, people think, Oh, well, I've never been in a car crash or, you know, it's no witness to murder or right. But drama could be in the house. So for instance, by my mom watching, hypothetically, one day and me and my brothers stood on the table, my brother's a normie. And my mom says to my brother, because this is what she said, and this is what she he hears, Paul, down on that table. You stupid idiot. Get down, and he jumps off and he laughs What I hear same sentence said to me in the same voice, get out of that chair, you stupid idiot. So my brain and subconscious brain and central nervous system is jacked up for a start. And all that wording, everything we hear, and we see is always stored in the subconscious brain every thing we do, and that's why the latest science that I do regarding the brain is helpful into the subconscious brain. So I'm automatically abandoned because of the way I hear and see things. So my dad used to work a lot of hours were a working class family. So I have hardly seen my dad there. abandonment issues straight away, which we don't think or abandonment issues. My dad's doing the best he can, you know? Oh, don't be silly, Robert, you can't go to college like your brother. Oh my goodness that does more harm than you could ever imagine. But my subconscious brain loves that stuff. Arlina Allen 10:17 Why did she say Why did she say you can't Don't be silly, you can't go to college, it was Unknown Speaker 10:22 just something my mom said, you know, it's not like my brother, when it's like, we can't go to college, we just don't do that. See, I was supposed to grow up, just like my parents. By the time I was 18, married by the time I was 19, have a baby or to have a normal nine to five working manual job and go to the pub every night and the way home. That was it from generations to generations. Because you can see that pattern of alcoholism and mindset going back through my family, that that's what they settled for. Now, I was different, I didn't want to settle for that. So going back to the abandonment, the alcoholic brain and central nervous system. And the whole aura is always felt as if we don't fit in. So I never fit in anywhere. So there's the abandonment, again, the shame of where I grew up. I grew up on the project counselor stage, all my friends I went to school with even though it was just a normal school, they lived on a private estates, which parents had a mortgage, we pay rent, I was so embarrassed about I was so shameful. And of course, when my drinking took over at the age of nine, I started but it took over about 2526 there was the shame of that. So what we do is we have to go back or we call is a scene of the crime. And we have to start clearing that stuff up. And the worst thing somebody can say to me is Oh, yeah, I've kind of worked on that myself. If you worked on that yourself, you won't be relaxing, first of all, and you won't be going through girlfriend's chain every week, you know, you're having, we have to really go back and look exactly what you do and repair that damage done in the past and usually by Kagan's Arlina Allen 11:57 so when you say go back to the past and repair the damage, that is the crux of the treatment, right? Unknown Speaker 12:04 Yes. Yes. Because you have to go back and look, you know, I mean, many people come in, they go, Okay, well, I drink him out. I don't do this. They do that. Well, anything, any trauma. Now. Everything's good. And when we go back and really pinpoint, they forget to tell me about the molestation from the father or the uncle or the priest. They forgot to tell me a bit homosexual actually did when he was nine or 10. They forgot to tell me about how the mum used to smack them across the face because their house wasn't tidy when they come home. So they kind of think well, mum and dad did the best now. I'm not having that. hating on people say that. Well, they did the best they could now, you know, I used to walk to school with holes in my socks, and cardboard in my shoes. Because I hold in my shoes. Walking on the snow to Mars. I had to watch work every day because my mom couldn't afford my socks and shoes. Now my mom could afford and my dad to go to the bar every Friday and Saturday night. So I had one person sat down once and he said this. He said wrong. You really upset about them shoes. And I said yeah, but my mom dad couldn't afford it. And he said this to me that changed my life. He says when your mom went to the bars every Friday, Saturday and Sunday night, did she have holes in her socks? And I was like, when he hit me I had more trauma and I could ever imagine growing up, you know, they will drop me with a friend. But when I got to the friend, the man and the woman they would say okay, we ever we have a naked night tonight. So everyone gets naked. I didn't tell my mom that because I thought it was natural. Arlina Allen 13:36 Yeah, yeah. That everybody in the house got naked. Unknown Speaker 13:40 Yeah, but you know, all the kids and the mom and dad. And that's just a Wait, why. So I went along. I never even mentioned it because I thought it was the norm. You see my I have a big thing. And it's this, anything less than nurturing as a child, his child abuse, especially what find out more about the brain and the central nervous system. I can never get a girlfriend, Why do I always leave? Why is it Why did I marry my dad? Well, it's like, you have to understand why we do these things. There's a pattern to our behavior. And if and if you're happy doing that pattern and living the way you're living great, but if you want to change your life, then you need to go back and clear this stuff up and change neural pathways from self sabotage to self care. Because at the moment, or when I was born up until about 28 when I got sober. I had more self sabotage. And then I did self care. So I start really good. Oh, I would look so good. I mean, when I was when I went to work, I do anything girlfriend, but after a month or two, it's self sabotage. If you feel like this. Oh my god, it's it's nine o'clock. Rob. You're not supposed to start till 10 and then six rather you're going home. I'll stay till seven A month later, Where the hell is Rob It's one o'clock. That's all my life has been like that. Because I self sabotage over any considerable period with a mindset like that. Arlina Allen 14:59 Right? It's an internal In a mindset of I don't really truly deserve this Unknown Speaker 15:04 100 and million percent and the other one is self dialog I can I can sell stuff so you don't have to say anything to me. I dropped a pat on the floor and I go What a stupid idiot when I'm picking it up loves that stuff so when I go for that car that job that girl that house whatever the subconscious brain goes, You stupid idiot. What are you doing here? You can't do this Did you think you are and I still get that today when I go on when I do speaking of setting the wing some town I'm thinking oh my god, they don't want what I've got nothing to offer. Oh my god, oh my god, and a panic. And then God taking a walk over and I'm a big spiritual guy now used to hate that word garden. Oh, we're all happy going to church. I used to hate that. Arlina Allen 15:47 Did you go to church growing up? Unknown Speaker 15:48 I did. I was a quiet I was a quiet boy I was I was a chorister, as they call it in the Protestant church had a great voice and my but my headmaster sexually abused me. One of the guys that you know, and I blame my mom. My mom knew about this. Arlina Allen 16:06 That he was like that and sent you anyway. Unknown Speaker 16:09 It was nothing directly talked about. But I remember being picked up. There's a there's a group out there of saying there's a cola, Vienna Boys Choir, and we should delete it. Well, my headmaster said well, who was also the the teacher of the music and the church, said to my mom, we have Robert an audition for the Vienna Boys Choir in Chester, which is 70 miles away for LA. He took me there and the rest was blurred. We never went to any audition. I come home feeling sick. Mom said I was silent for about three months. Yeah, I was concerned if and I was shocked. I don't remember the incident. But put two and two together. You know, I don't know of any audition. So it's a ruse. And then there was the neighbor across the road. That was about 1415. And he was he was married. But he was he was gay. And we go to the sauna together because I was into fitness and bodybuilding at the time. And he would try to MLS me and do things. And it was awkward. And no one made it into fun, but many years later, and I said oh you everyone needs to go to sauna. I said, Oh yeah, with the gay guy. And I looked at them. And I said, How'd you know? Now everyone knows about him? And I didn't say Arlina but I wanted to say why the fuck? Did you just let me go through five years of my life with this guy knowing quite well, what he's capable of doing. And he really kind of set me and not against my parents. But I'm thinking you know, the best he could is not good enough for me. Arlina Allen 17:38 I don't know I heard that at a meeting one time this guy because you do hear that a lot and I think it's a way it's a sort of like spiritual bypassing like you have to go through the pain first and do the processing metabolize the pain Ababa. And sometimes that bought they did the best they could offers a little bit of peace. But if you don't do the work first, it's just spiritual bypassing and you're just putting a bandaid over a pile of shit. Right? Exactly. This guy stood up at a meeting one day and he like, pounded the podium. He goes it wasn't good enough. Yes, it wasn't. And I was like, Thank you finally somebody said Unknown Speaker 18:18 you say the truth exists. And that's and that's what's missing. One of the things that I came to America because I wasn't known or famous or anything back then is I wanted to to have a platform where I could speak my mind. I don't report to anybody you know if I say the things that other people are thinking or wish they could say because it isn't good enough. You drop the fucking bar mom and dad own it you know get get oh well that's just the way that my dad never spoke to me. You know, he couldn't give him a gift he was one of them gave very embarrassed what it was just the way he was brought bullshit. Change it I changed it you know I lost my kids and all that but now I've got in touch with one of our I've changed it you know? Just to what No, it's not I'm not having that. You know, Arlina Allen 19:00 what's important about owning it in your mind like when when you're when you tell somebody you know hey, it wasn't good enough and we want them to own it. Is it the validation is it a standing up for ourselves? What is it about owning it that is so important Unknown Speaker 19:18 well first of all when I when I do that it's it's telling the truth it's out in the truth is that there are some there are some guys going up now around the world that don't even think the Holocaust happened. It's that crazy. Don't want people to get into that. It's like less reminders who dropped the ball and who didn't you know, and I like I like given information that you know people go oh shouldn't be talking about that. You know, first of all the alcoholism. Yes, we should. And I'm blatant when farmers comment on little Johnny's you know his his drinking every day like what he's gonna die. Whoa, you can't say that. Yours. Why? Why can I not speak the truth? Truth tell him for me is powerful. Yes, really is power. And I like to I like to. First of all, I have this order that attracts people when I speak. And that was a gift. I used to be on it, huh? Yeah, yeah. Now I say louder, say stronger, say proud. And people listen. And I love the fact that let's not keep it hidden away. Bring it out because alcoholics used to be until two, three years ago, where the gay community was 30 years ago, is that we don't talk about that. We don't really we know it goes on. But hey, you know, I always think I know right? But Arlina Allen 20:33 okay, here's, here's this Sorry to interrupt you. But here's the thing. It's okay for you to get drunk and show your ass in public. Yeah, but God forbid you tell people I don't drink anymore. I just don't like black now. I don't like waking up. And the worst thing in Unknown Speaker 20:47 the world is like, I heard this guy tell the joke when she was like, I went to the bar. And the guy said to me, do you want to drink and he says no one alcoholic? And he said what? He said, I'm sorry. I'm a I'm a serial killer. Thank God for that. scenario, when I'm out there just doing it. You know, it's Arlina Allen 21:06 so crazy to me that people are so like, and people still like that are in recovery. And listen, I don't I don't come out with like, I'm an alcoholic. I'm just like, yeah, don't do that. It just depends on the audience. It really depends on you have to you have to know your audience. Like at work I used to when I was in corporate, I would just be like, yeah, just not drinking want to get up early. Want to be fresh. Unknown Speaker 21:28 Yes. But I'm the last 10 years have been with people who are getting back in shape. And I've worked with a lot of a list footballers and stuff like that. And the fitness now is about getting back in shape, which covers for those people, I tell them the truth. You know, when they come in with a table, or you want a drink, and I was drinking, by the way to go do and drink, I'll just have cold coke. You're a big guy, you know, what you want to drink. Especially if it's a woman something it's like, I just have a little whiskey and like if I had a whiskey, first of all, I'm going to try to rape you. Or take you on in front of my wife. And then we're going to start fighting anybody who disagrees with me. And then I'm not going to actually get you on because I'll be arrested. What? That's what happens when I drink so I'll just have a coke. Yes, sir. And then walk away Arlina Allen 22:14 from coke coming out. One time I made the mistake and tell this guy at work. Because I go oh, I don't drink and he goes How come and I tend to break out naked. And he was off to drinks place. Oh, wrong, wrong thing to say. Break out in handcuffs. How about that? I'm allergic. Yeah, nobody scared of me fighting. I'm like five, three. That's awesome. But okay, so you know what I wanted to ask you? I did. I saw a lot of your videos and things like that. And you have this very strong personality kind of in your face thing. And there. There are some people that that that that really respond like they respond to that people who are in denial, people who just need that. I think people crave that level of accountability. People want to know where the boundaries are, so they can feel safe. But I don't think it works for everyone. How do you know who that works for I you know, since you are able to adapt to every different kind of alcoholic? I think that's part of the gift the chameleon thing, right? I'm sure you have that too. You have learned to turn that into an asset. How do you read someone to know whether the in your face kind of style works or the gentle nurturing works? Unknown Speaker 23:37 So usually the firt the first indication is where they contacted us. It's like, well, I heard this podcast and oh, my God, I love Dr. Rob cannon, that's the first one he needs in his face. And then you got a parent's recall about this 18 year old girl is second too much heroin. And you know, you need a different approach to that. So and then they need to take an assessment, one of the reasons why we have a 97% success rate, over 20 odd years, 30 years and 7000 patients is because of the assessment. So I find out real quick whether you whether you really want to do this deal. So when when we will not take anybody's money if we can't guarantee that they can recover. So the assessment kind of puts everything into place for me. And you know, most people want what I give, but there are so I have a psychotherapist that works with four girls of sorry, three girls and one guy that needs a soft approach. And that's great. We'll do that. Okay. No, but that Arlina Allen 24:35 be assessment that so you You must turn away a lot of people who don't really want it. Unknown Speaker 24:41 Yes. And that's what people can't understand, especially our so called treatment friends out there who keep checking the same person back time and time again for 30,000 a month is like I won't do that. Well, how do you survive? Well, we took almost a million dollars this year. How much did you take by being honest and straight with people because now we get to get be known like that is if you can't pass, I don't care how much money you've got. We've been offered blank checks, literally blank checks by billionaires and say fill it on yours. Unknown Speaker 25:11 Yes, they're saying, Unknown Speaker 25:12 My child is my child. I'll give you a blank check. You can do anything. You can buy your house, you can take a million you do. I'm the guy that turned down Britney Spears for a million dollars back in Dallas in the day because she came in she was drunk. She was three hours late. And she was a mess. So I said, No, I'm not doing it. Jamie at that girl bunnies are please Rob, please robbed. And the bodyguard often said, You're not leaving until you see her. So I'll put him in his place. And then two days later, she shaved all my hair off. So I won't do that. I can't lock in a parent's face and say, Hey, I'm really sorry. But she didn't want to know, I don't believe in that. If you get somebody with you, one on one, we do one hour a day for 90 days, you can change the way they think, per an Arlina Allen 25:55 hour a day for 90 days. What do you do in that hour? Unknown Speaker 25:58 Well, five days with me, and I go back and change neural pathways. And I change belief and I change behavior. And we build a future for them. So if they need a job, we'll get them on. If they need to start their own business, we'll build them a website, all this great stuff, my psychotherapist will go back to the scenes of the crime. He's specialize in childhood trauma, my number one coach, which is also my daughter, which we'll get into later, and Manchester office in England about a year ago. And she is the family, people because we believe if somebody calls, who wants help in a house, and this him, his wife and two children over the age of 16, all of them need to be in the program. We will take you on say, well, let's just be that sick. Now the house is sick, first of all, and the wife probably enabling, and she's going through some stuff, and she's probably mad or nervous breakdown. So either you all come on, or we don't see you as all Arlina Allen 26:54 that brilliant. Unknown Speaker 26:56 What do you think, you know, if you can imagine a house, let's be let's say speak Japanese. And we to take them out of the house and stick them in our houses, let's speak English, because we have a different language for recovery. So he speaks English, Japanese how still speaking Japanese. So we take the guy we're putting back into the Japanese speaking house, what's going to happen is going to start speaking Japanese. And that's one of the problems with recovery, you don't understand the family dynamic dynamics around the alcoholic, the whole family's sick and we need to heal the whole family. So we find that very unnecessarily intense work with the family dimension, the family unit. And of course, the alcoholic and the desperate wife, you know, terrible when we leave the wives alone or the husband's whoever the drinker is or the user. And we forget all about it. Because they've got the abandonment, they've got the shame, they've got the remorse they've got I always say, you know, sort of wives and husbands or partners or alcoholics or addicts, the PTSD that you have, because you have it, if you will, every one is no different from the PTSD from someone coming home from war. Now, I I love our soldiers, I'm an American citizen, I love them to bits, but just talk about the brain guys, because both of them never know it's going to be the last day, both of them never, no one's going to kick off. Both of them never know that you're not going to walk on eggshells today. It's the same thing. So the brain doesn't know the difference between war and war in the household. That's another thing that people don't understand. So the wife is going to be okay. Now she won't, you know, she will, you know, either commit suicide or do a runner or assist the alcoholic start drinking again, because she can't stand this new person that's come out. So it's really complex when when we talk about fixing, you know, it really is. And that's what we've done. We've spent 20 odd years, I do the latest brain science, I do brain spotting. What's brain spotting brain spot is a new development, that was only three people in the country or the world right now it can do it. Because it's not even, they haven't even bought a training course for it. But brain spotting is a technique that goes into the pupil and to the subconscious brain. It's a bit like a DMR. But it's it's a little different. So we're talking to the subconscious brain. And it's all about eye movement and the flicker in one eye. And then we stay with that flicker in that one eye and we find out what's caused that. And so Arlina Allen 29:17 where are they? I can see I can I see where you're going with this. So when you say that you see the eye flicker that's in the indicate and can't speak this morning. That's an indication that there is a traumatic memory there. Yes. And so you have them you see like what's happening now? Yes, that kind of thing. And the Unknown Speaker 29:36 first response, I know it's nothing, but we hold it there. We hold it. And they've got a look at the pan. And that may take five hours. It might take five minutes, but I'm staying there and all of a sudden they go Yeah, yeah. When you start talking about the traumatic event, it's the most powerful thing I've ever seen. Arlina Allen 29:56 So that's so this is what's been coming up for me lately. is there's the traumatic events like EMDR, like you mentioned, the eye movement desensitization reprocessing or reprogramming. And then there's but what do you do with the people who have the consistent pervasive trauma day in and day out? Like I was talking to a gal who had a mother who was a heroin addict, and she would hear her mother on the phone saying, we don't have enough, I need money, I need to feed my kids. Like she was using her kids as a scapegoat. And she was using her kids to get money. And but and there were times when she didn't have food. So today, she hoards food, and she has a weight issue. Right? It's and so you know, we were going to do some EMDR, or some, you know, hypnosis on that. So she goes, but it's not one situation, it's pervasive. How do you treat that pervasive, repetitive conditioning like that mental conditioning? Unknown Speaker 30:54 So we use the brain spotting, obviously, we also use a technique, which is called somatic experience, which is se people call it se. So we go back and we look at the central nervous system, and why is this being beat? Why is this happening? What's causing it, then we go into the brain, and we look at what's been happening in the past. So now we're using NLP neuro linguistic programming. So we're watching the behavior or watching the brain change and watching the trauma in the past, any patient or constantly, first of all needs to feel safe, we're getting in a safe place. And we go through that through the NLP or the SE. And we find out so then three techniques together, as as well as building confidence in the patient, that you're your own person, you know, and, unfortunately, we're going to go back, and we're going to pick them to pieces, the scene of the crime, as we call it, and then bring you forward through for the trauma through the behavior through the reaction that you have through the fear, but you haven't we walk them through bit by bit until they have clear conscience. And this takes time to deal with that in mind, Arlina Allen 32:02 yeah. Okay. So you create the safe space, you build confidence, and then bring them through those traumatic experiences with the button. So that feeling of safety and confidence overrides? Yes. Fear. Oh, 100%. That's what is the rewiring of the brain? Unknown Speaker 32:23 Yes, it's really it's resetting your pathways is what it is. Yeah. And then, and then once we've reset your pathways, and get them excited about life, the neurons start firing and get as excited. Every time we say certain things like thank you to somebody, dopamine is released into the brain, we use that a lot, you have to compliment three people every day. So it's a new technique that we have been doing for so many years, that used to call it out the box, they still call it out the box. But with the percentage rates that was on a success we had, we just really need to start looking at alternative ways to go back and fix this permanently. We don't need to go to for medication straight away. Because when we do, or, Arlina Allen 33:03 I'm sorry, go ahead and finish. Unknown Speaker 33:06 Thoughts about drugs, especially heroin addicts. 99.9% of heroin addicts started in the doctor's office, just because the doctor says it so it doesn't make it right. Or doesn't make it true. Yeah, and one of my big deals at the moment is fight against your doctor questioning why how when, what's going on? Why do I need to take this what damage is gonna do to what's the long term effect, but we don't we just go to doctors who are getting backhanders from somewhere, because the latest medication like vyvanse is out. And all of a sudden, it's the number one pill, you couldn't get it over here in Texas, you have to wait a week for vyvanse so popular he was someone who's getting something for doing that. What is five ounce vyvanse is a bit like it's it's amphetamine salts, it's it's a bit like Adderall. It's a different name on it. So when we're feeding our kids, amphetamine salts, speed is what we're giving our kids for attention deficit, when I was a kid, attention deficit was a slap across the head and say, concentrate. But there's a whole new story on that, where we go with that I can't get into it now. Because there's a lot more to explain about that. But that's that's what we do with people, you know, and we build them up and we create a life worth living. And we'll go to any lengths to do it and the length now, so doing as we have to, Arlina Allen 34:23 yeah, let me ask you, there's a lot of talk about I really don't have any judgment about about how people get sober and I understand that there's, you know, harm reduction is a thing. Yes, right. Like I get that and but I'm always I don't have enough information to make an informed decision about like the brain and the neural pathways and because while I think it's important for you know, people are smoking weed to get off heroin and that keeps them alive. God bless you. Do what you got to do. My concern is that like If the emotional and mental evolution or progress ends there, Do you have feelings about I'm sure you have feelings or opinions about like, why is harm reduction? not meant to be a permanent thing? Like how, like when I talk to people like that, how can we move them? Yes, I'm glad you're alive. If that's what's keeping you alive, I don't even have an opinion. But what about, what about one day stopping that? What about healing your brain and your dopamine reward system so that you no longer have to do that you can have the benefits of living a full life. Yeah, because I've heard of people on Suboxone for years, that's not the idea, you know, is much harder to come off Suboxone is heroin as a fact. So what we have to do is, is down step and grade and down and then taper off gradually and have an end date for that. So let's say the end date is two months or three months, we need to we need to keep heading towards that. And eventually as the brain starts to weaken up, and the central nervous system starts to activate supposed to do, and the feelings start coming back. And you realize that life is worth living and so much you've missed out on, eventually the end date will happen, and then be able to come off successfully. So depending on how far down how bad the psychosis is, how bad the day has been damaged, you cannot just stop and say, Okay, my fault drugs now, that's the worst thing in the world you can do, right best thing in the world you can do is seek doctor's help, come down and get your doctor to bring you down. Same with alcohol. I'm wherever they call me all the time, while he's drunk. Uh, you know, he's in a bad state of head. Now the bottles, don't hide the bottles, make him drink until he gets to detox. And many people are just ignorant about these because lack of now, therefore, his lack of information, though, we've been stuck in a closet for so long that you know, and that's one of the things that you want to do. Listen, when I was homeless people used to spit on me on the floor. I used to wake up and kids used to throw diapers on me that will fall. You know, having a lie. I woke up one morning, I was covered in this stuff. And I just I'm angry at that. And I'm really happy that I'm in a great place to do that today. So you know, I'm really strong on let's get a solution, a permanent solution for this minutes lotion, medication. Unfortunately, I don't think for addiction or alcoholism in general, permanent medication is not the way to go. That's in my opinion. because nothing's good enough for me. You know, we go to the sandwich shop, my friend has a sandwich and a call, I get to seminary a bag of chips, two cups, you know, I want 50,000 in the bank. Great. So when we get it Oh, it's just 100. It's crazy. So giving people drugs over lunch impaired regarding alcohol in our government, their addiction, not talking about medical, I take, I take a small drug for my depression, my antidepressant. And I'm proud of that, and I'm not coming off it. And that's the way it goes, you know, we should have that fine line between good medical advice. And don't listen to what other people say. So when it comes down to hardcore, abstinence completely 100% for that, the way we get there, wow, I don't care how you get there. When you come to me, there's an A, B, and C and you'll follow that up. People often say the difference between a therapist and what Dr. Rob's crew does, is the therapist will ask you How are you feeling? Then bastards will tell you how to feel. It's like, well, that's what it is. Because if I sat here long enough for me, and I said, I love you. I think you're the most amazing, gorgeous person I've ever seen. I want to leave my late wife tomorrow. And I want to come and find you out and marry you. You're going to laugh. But if I said it often enough, you're going to start to believe it. And if I said it real often enough, I'm going to start to believe it. So what we hear when we get these patients in sets them up for an amazing life. When's the last time somebody said you're an amazing person? When's the last time we thank somebody? I'll tell them I love you. When you start saying you stopped at a hospital walked in and thanked all the nurses. It never happens. Because especially when you get to a position like me and other people like me. I'm in the office some months ago and have two nurses there once a year once in their ages. And I heard them once said, oh my god. Did you see what Dr. Kerry just did with that guy? came in measureable suicidal, he walked out laughing and Western said bye to everybody is an absolute miracle worker 90 days. Yeah. And the older nurses said, Hey, have you told him that? And said, No, not me. They already knows. But I knows. We don't know. No, no. That's okay. So. So this is the interesting thing about, you know, the default mode network, right? That that operating system that we have in our brain and we tend to this what I've had this, you know, this observation that we need that if we've had constant conditioning of negativity, right like you were talking about repetition, you said if I tell you All these beautiful things, you're gonna start to believe that I'm gonna start to believing it's the repetition because the subconscious mind doesn't filter false from the truth. Right? It just takes, it's like the balance scale, which is kind of the good news, right? There's that idea of 51% that we're actually all you need is 51% to tip the scale, right? So it's this ongoing conditioning that that we need. So over those 90 days, they get the, you know, they get reconditioned, their mind is reset, the family is re adjusted. But the kicker is the the default mode network and going back to the old way, it's like if we don't maintain the conditioning, is it true that they go back to the old ways? What do you do for the ongoing conditioning course? Unknown Speaker 40:46 So this is my guys who are less than I'm sorry, what guys are watching? This is my self sabotage. neuropathways there's a blue plan. lymphocytes out sabotage, okay, these down here. Your small bits of self care. This runs my brain. Yes, I will self sabotage. So what this program does is it takes you from there to there, Arlina Allen 41:09 flips it over. Unknown Speaker 41:10 Yeah, so so they said never going to go away. So we need to daily maintain this by the smallest things obviously Peter, spiritual guy, you pray, covenant people at the Good Samaritan, you know, whenever I go into a room, like the room up, because if I walk into a room with a frown on my face, those people are gonna frown back. If I walk in the room and a smile on my face, most people gonna smile back. That's the hardest thing for people to do is practice smiling. You know, because the world needs leaders, you could be a leader for a day in the office or that waiting room or, you know, the elevator, you know, it's all about carrying carrying a message of Hey, you can be anything you want. And people people used to go Dr. Robert cambia president as I beg to differ today. You know, our business has just been run our country Don't tell me you can't do anything. There's no difference in somebody who comes to me almost homeless or homeless like me, and they and the CEO sat in that office above the only difference is he believed he could do it you don't want to believe that they can do it. The world is that oyster? Absolutely. Arlina Allen 42:13 People really understand how powerful beliefs are no are all in your subconscious mind. Unknown Speaker 42:20 Yeah, all powerful they are I always tell people your power but you just don't know it we need to start realizing how powerful you really are. Arlina Allen 42:28 Yes, I think you know and traditional, like 12 step record like the old school recovery is beating the drum of you're powerless you're powerless over you know, that hear it all the time. powerless over people places and things and I think I have to call bullshit on that. Unknown Speaker 42:43 Because you know, it's the face the biggest myth in a Yeah, is what because what is that once the Heartless were all put? No, it doesn't. Arlina Allen 42:51 alcohol. Unknown Speaker 42:53 What are the step one says we admitted we were powerless. How can I be power is not aware, no apostrophe in there. But people put in all powers over I'm not powerless over alcohol. I pass the liquor store. Hey, man, it's a past tense, they meant it to be a past tense. The term a permanent recovery. We had mentioned we were and our lives had now. It's all past tense once you start the steps if you've read the book, I mean, I love 12 step meetings with that big book because it's the truth. Yeah, talk about a psychic change and people go is that crystal ball? Listen, in 1938 when they were talking about a psychic change, it was changed neural pathways. 10 years ago, only 10 years ago in the medical fraternity, we found the brain was like plastic neuroplasticity they call it so same thing to change the neural pathways a mold in them in 1938 these guys were talking about that. Ai rooms right now are a joke. 90% of people in any meeting around the world is a heavy drinker. And we allow them to get away with this bullshit that come in. Oh, today I want to talk about I went to bed last night and my cat was looking bear up from my husband. Is he an alcoholic? Fuck Really? You know, we allow these guys to do that. So the real message is gone. But I've got to tell you 20 Arlina Allen 44:08 depends where you go. It did. Not only not all meetings are created. Oh, Unknown Speaker 44:13 no, they're not. They're amazing meetings. But there's the best piece of literature I've ever read. Is the 164 about about Blue Book. Oh, yeah. All the studies I've done in the world regarding that pertaining to the recovery of an alcoholic was the best book I've ever read. Arlina Allen 44:25 Yeah, I love the community that Yeah, there's so many good things but but you know, you just blew my mind with the whole we're powerless. Not we're powerless. Little apostrophe makes all the difference. And I guess the one thing that really bothers me about the 12 step community is the way some people treat the book like a new Bible. It's the religious dogmatic, like they're close minded to other things. And I wanted to ask you if you had any thoughts or opinions on, like treatment resistant depression with the use of psychedelics, I know Johns Hopkins is doing lots of studies. And there's this new like alternative recovery for people with like, intense heroin addiction or tend to alcoholism. They're doing these Iosco retreats in Costa Rica do what what are your thoughts on those? Unknown Speaker 45:16 Well, I have to be really kind of medical hair and say, hey, there's not enough data to make a decision right now. But we only know a little about the brain, we're discovering more and more every month. So why wouldn't you try that? Why wouldn't you try a different route to get to the same end result? Which is sanity? and living your best life? You know, and it may work for you? It may not? AIA may work for you. It may not. I mean, you don't have to go one place. 111 place is not the answer to everyone's problems here. The answer is to seek out the treatment that your doctor or therapist tells you to try. And I tried aect about five years ago with electronics I can't remember now trauma or something. But I was depressed, very, very depressed. And this is what my hater my career, but I did it for about four weeks best thing I ever did. Oh, my thing I ever did. Yeah, in literally four or five weeks. So I am always looking at different alternative new treatment, you know, and I don't put it down on anybody or anything from the medical fraternity that wants to be tried. Because why wouldn't we? Arlina Allen 46:23 Yeah, I've seen some just really interest. I've been hearing lots of experiences from people who talk about doing these Iosco retreats, I practice abstinence, my life is great. And I don't feel the need to I don't suffer from depression. It sounds very interesting, because it is a it sounds like a process of dissolving the ego. And really, it's like, it's like it drops the veil of denial. And you can see things clearly what you were talking about before about recognizing and acknowledging the truth, right, the truth of maybe some of the fear and the abandonment in the past. And I just found that really interesting. It'll be interesting to see what the Johns Hopkins clinical trials do. But I know of people personally who do things like the micro dosing to treat clinical depression, and things like Unknown Speaker 47:12 somebody like john hopkins university, and hospital to try this because everyone else would put a dampener on it. So I'm glad a good name in the industry. And the medical fraternity has actually taken steps to do this. I think it's absolutely amazing. But at the end of the day, it all goes back to your childhood. And you always go back to the predisposition and the heredis do facts of any illness around especially alcoholism and addiction. So it would be interesting to find out because the problem is with this world right now, is everybody knows somebody with an alcohol or drug problem. And I always say to him, if you don't, it's probably you. Because everybody knows somebody. You know, and a few times I've said that people got very quiet, and ended the conversation real quick. Yeah. So you know, let's bring it out into the open. Let's try all these things for different people and see if we can get a response. Arlina Allen 48:06 Yeah, yeah, life is short. Let's just Cut the bullshit and get to the truth. Unknown Speaker 48:11 sugarcoating. This shit kills people. And when somebody goes into a room, and a room and goes, Well, we're all powerless over alcohol. My answer is always the same. How many fucking people have you killed with that line? How many people have you killed by just saying that you self sank just son of a bitch. Read the park? If you if you stuck in is that was that mean? Read the information that tells us read it. It's awesome. Arlina Allen 48:35 Yeah, and it's not it's not only read it but apply it right we have to take action and apply the information. So it's not enough to know how we are know what we need to know the how we need to know how to apply this information. And, and listen, I just love what you're doing. It's I'm so pumped. I'm gonna leave all your links in the show notes. What's the best way to get ahold of you? If somebody is needing your help or wanting your help Unknown Speaker 49:00 jump on a Google or anything like that search engine. Just put my name in there. Dr. Rob Kelly, you'll see me websites Rob Kelly, calm I spell my name with two B's. So it's our BB k e Ll y.com. And if you want Listen, guys, I want to say something. If you're sat at home and listen to this and don't think you're worth anything and don't think you can allow anything because of your past. I want to apologize to you guys. Because somebody put that there. We are born with million dollar minds stop hanging around 10 cent minds, it's not for you. So that being said, I know people are set on going it's okay for him to do a turn to I don't know what to do. I'm going to give you my phone number here and my personal phone number. And if you're sat at home in a bad state, I'd rather come and help you right now and come to your funeral. So if you're sat at home in a bad state and want a 10 minute pep talk that will change your life. Here's my personal phone number people don't believe me. This is my cell phone number. It's not my assistance. It's not the front desk. It's 214600 zero to one, zero. Now, as you can imagine, I'm a busy guy where you call me or text me, leave a message, I will get back to you and it will be okay. Don't believe the hype. It's gonna be alright. Arlina Allen 50:12 Wow, that's impressive. I was like, Oh shit, he's really going to do it. Unknown Speaker 50:17 No, people are surprised that that you know, it just I know, I'm in the trenches with you guys. It's on to a homeless guy that got his kids taken off in, you know, that fell asleep. Last drive his kids Three days later not being changed or fed and I'm drunk on the floor, and the police drag them out of there. This is the guy that his eldest daughter said, baby, Daddy, please stop drinking and I couldn't do it. Six months later, I was homeless, the million dollar house had gone. The cars the wife, the kids, the parents, the brother and sister, I was abandoned on the street, I can do this. I'd love to sit here and tell you, I'm really clever. But I'm not. If I can do this, you can do that. You just need that 10 Mini pep talk to set you on the real track. And of course it had been helped you professionally, of course. But you do have to pass an assessment. And 75% of people that come to us fail the assessment, unfortunately, because we're the real deal. We're talking to true. Arlina Allen 51:09 accountability. I love it. Dr. Rob Kelly, thank you so much for your time today. I am so inspired and excited about the work that you're doing. I can't wait to leave all the links to all the resources and thank you so much for being the real deal and giving your phone number. That's incredible. Unknown Speaker 51:29 I know it's awesome. Thank you guys for listening and thank you Arlina you're an amazing and I love you by the way. Arlina Allen 51:34 I love you. I believe you. You have a wonderful day. Thank you so much. Thank you. Bye bye Transcribed by https://otter.ai

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I had so much fun doing a mediation episode last Thursday that I thought I would do a meditation this Thursday.  Maybe I will make it meditation Thursdays?!  Todays meditation: What if there was no hurry?  And the ideas and questions that surround that.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:03 I had so much fun doing a meditation episode last Thursday that I thought I would do it again. And I thought, "why not have meditation Thursdays?" Meditation Thursdays. So no promises, but I thought I'd give it a rip. How about it is Thursday. Here we go. Let's have a meditation. So for today I wrote down what if there was no hurry? What if there was no hurry. What if there was...well...let's start with this. Let's take a big, long breath in through your nose. Long breath out through your nose. Sit comfortably in your seat. If you're in your car, if you're on your couch, perhaps you're you're walking while you're, you are listening to this. Stop for a moment and bring your awareness to where you are. What you're doing. Take a big breath in through your nose.Mischa Z: 01:34 Big breath out through your nose. Role, your neck from side to side, feel the vertebrae by vertebrae, crackling breath in breath out. Role your shoulders up and down. Wiggle your hips from side to side, settle into your seat. Or if you're standing shift from one foot to the other and then let your arms hang dangle down by your side. Whether you're standing or sitting big breath in. Breath it all out, bring your awareness to your, your heart. Perhaps put your hand on your chest. Breath in breath out. And let's contemplate the idea. What if there was no hurry? What if there was no hurry regarding your relationships? Regarding your finances? Your job? What if you were right where you were supposed to be? Breathe that in. Right where I'm supposed to be. Breathe that out. Appreciate the silence of the moment. If it's quiet where you're sitting. Perhaps you hear a car go by. The train whistle, blow, no matter nice breath in long breath out. Savor where you are at this space. At this time, you are right where you're supposed to be. If you're single, there's no hurry to be in a relationship. If you were in a relationship, it's beautiful as it is. Can you see it and appreciate it for how it stands right now? Letting go of attachment of what we think needs to be.Mischa Z: 05:28 The illusion of needing more success. Needing, Wanting, Perhaps craving more than what you have. For, for me. Can I sit in this space of creating new opportunities? And letting go of expectations and outcomes where I think I should be? Can I stop comparing myself to others? What if there is no hurry? What if I'm where I'm supposed to be? What if my sons are where they're supposed to be? As far along as they're supposed to be? Long breaths in. Long breaths out. Breath in. And the long breath out. What if there is no hurry?Mischa Z: 08:39 Here that dog barking in the background, perhaps there's a refrigerator humming? A clock taking? Breathe in, breathe it out. Roll your head from side to side. What if there's no hurry. Role your neck around in the circle. Tilt your head strongly from side to side, reach your arms tall above your head. Interlace your fingers and stretcher arms tall issue. Push your palms to the ceiling. Now a big breath out and let it go. Shake your arms by your side. I encourage you to savor things as they are. And to question any time today where you're feeling stressed about time constraints. Ask yourself what if there was no hurry? What if there is no hurry?

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It's Time for me to get my Amazon affiliate back up and running.  And I tell you the story of how Amazon kicked me off of their affiliate/associate program for cutting corners.  My excuse?  I was in a state of overwhelm.   Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 I'm walking in recording with my Shure MV88 mic. No, this is not a repeat of last of the last six episodes that I've started with that. Um, you can click through and buy the Shure MV88 Mic through my...through the show notes through my resources page, which is Be Love Media, www.Belove.media/resources. And you can buy the Shure MV88, and some other cool tech that I use to record episodes and do what I do. Now, why I'm talking about that is it's time for me to get my Amazon affiliate back up and running. So when I started this whole venture creating podcasts and summits and things. One of the ways to find some initial monetization and not a lot, but perhaps depending on your momentum, again, a way to find initial monetization was to create a resource page. Guide people to that resource page through your, um, show notes. Through your intros and outros. More specifically your outros. On your episodes by maybe saying it like I have done on this episode and I'll do it again right now.Mischa Z: 01:55 Hey, go to www.belove.media/resources and get your Shure MV88 mic. Because it is awesome. And hopefully you do that. And I get my affiliate link from Amazon, put it in the show notes, you buy it for the normal price. You actually can't even tell that, um, that I've got anything to do with it. It's the normal Amazon page. It's pretty cool. It's really cool. Right? And, and I believe in the product and I put time and effort into creating a podcast and all these things. So hopefully you will purchase something. I'll also talk about A Course In Miracles. So you can buy the A Course In Miracles, the third edition combined volume. You can buy that, um, through my resource page and some other stuff.Mischa Z: 03:02 And so when I started this whole venture, I created the resource page. I got, I became an Amazon affiliate. I, I, um, you know, started driving a little bit of traffic there. And when you start as an Amazon affiliate, you've got six months to, I believe it's do three sales or six sales or something like that. And if you don't do three sales or six sales within that first six months they cancel your affiliate link. So, that's the first bit of pressure. You've got to sell a certain amount. And I was like, oh my God, there's no way that's going to happen. Well, of course I got, uh, I did, I had, you know, the three sales or the six sales within the first 30 days. So that was super cool. Unfortunately, that triggers something where Amazon looks to make sure your Amazon affiliate compliant.Mischa Z: 04:15 The reason I'm telling you all this is because a friend of mine was like, Hey, I hope you've been tracking your, your sales because I've been buying a bunch of books from your resource page. Cause he loves the Course In Miracles and buys him for his buddies and stuff like that. And uh, and I was like, oh no. I mean, yay. Yes, I was super excited, but oh no. And I'm going to, and I'm telling you why the, oh, now right now you can go back and hear these episodes. Right? Talk about Amazon affiliates, declining my affiliate status. Cause "the man" Blank'n Amazon, the man making it really hard, I feel like. And then also back then Apple wasn't distributing my podcasts. So there was the whole Apple battle. Those were way back in like episodes, probably 20 to 40 or something like that.Mischa Z: 05:22 Anyhow. Um, so at the bottom of my show notes, it says, "I am an Amazon affiliate. I may get paid for any purchases you make through these links" or something like that. I, I put the appropriate verbiage at the bottom of, of the page there. I did not have that verbiage originally because I chose to ignore it by the way, everything I'm going to tell you how I flailed and why Amazon kicked me off as, because I cut corners. I was like, yeah, that rule doesn't apply to me. And Amazon was like, oh yes, that rule does apply to you as an Amazon affiliate. So I got the disclaimer at the bottom and the other thing is your web page. You have to, um, when you try, when you apply to become an Amazon affiliate, you give them your web page where stuff's going down and you need to be producing new content.Mischa Z: 06:31 It's like six pieces a month or something new every day. Or I can't remember what it is. You can't just have a page out there and not be adding value. So you've got to be producing content. And again, I was like, that rule does not apply to me. And I just choose to ignore it. And it wasn't like it doesn't apply to me. I was just in a state of overwhelm. I was like, I just, you know, starting a podcast, working on my dream 100, you know, trying to get a framework together for a summit idea, all this stuff, all this new stuff. And so I was like, well maybe, maybe Amazon will miss that. Or it didn't read all the details, the fine print or whatever. So I was so excited to start having a little bit of revenue. When all of a sudden I get the email, it said you've been shut down.Mischa Z: 07:41 And I was like "Damn It!". And so fast forward, six months later to today. And so I just said, you know what, I'm going to keep all the, you can still sell stuff through your old affiliate links. You just don't get paid on it. Um, so I was like, at some point I'll get to making a page that shows my updated content every day and I'll meet the requirements. And now, so a couple of things, one people are buying and I'm not getting credit. So I was like, all right, it's time to it's time to take the time to reapply to the Amazon affiliate program and do the work it takes to make sure all the I's are dotted and the T's are crossed. And the other thing is I'm going to start making a big push to drive more organic traffic to my podcast, to my resource page, to, to, to those affiliate links.Mischa Z: 09:04 So I need to have it in order. So there you have it. I think. So that's, what's up it's time for me to hopefully the next, hopefully within the next week, one of my episodes will be I've reapplied for the Amazon affiliate program. And then hopefully within a few weeks, it'll be, yes. I passed the test and checked the boxes and I's are dotted. T's are crossed and I am a successful Amazon affiliate. A person company, whatever. Anyway, there you have it love to all, um, these are all, uh, problems of gradual success as well. Love to all bye.

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Turns out Russell Brunson is Human.  On his Marketing Secrets Podcast he talks about a real time failure.  This is refreshing and lets me know I don't need to be superhuman.  This also shakes me up because it means there is no golden goose.  I have more failures in front of me. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript:  Mischa Z: 00:03 Recording and walking with my Shure MV88, I just listened to a Russell Brunson podcast. Too is Russell Brunson's, Marketing Secrets Podcast. And one thing I noticed about Russell Brunson, he's really good at staying on point with his episodes. And he obviously has great content. He's very successful at what he does with tons of experience. So I very much enjoy his, um, staying on point. And I realized, yeah, I can veer off a lot veer off of my point. And I love that. And they can have multiple points going at the same time. And I love that perhaps one day, all my episodes will be, or most of them will be one specific point, but as it is, some of my episodes are good at that. And some are good at multiple trains of thought, this is going to be a multiple train of thought episode.Mischa Z: 01:17 The next thing about the, his podcast today was he showed some great vulnerability talking about how he had a failed webinar. So he does webinars and drives purchases and things like that. And generally speaking, we hear about lots of success. He paints the picture of lots of success, which is awesome. He does have lots of success. But today he said how he ha he had in him and his company, ClickFunnels had invested multiple eight figures in a, in a company and another company to acquire their list. And then so they could market to this list and, and he was doing a webinar to that list. And, you know, 8,000 people jumped on the webinar or something and, and he flamed out in a massive way. And he was talking about it. And he was also talking about at the end, you know, he said, Hey, a lot of us successful folks talk about the wound versus the scar and how, how in a perfect world, you, you only talk about those things that have scarred over. So they're not raw wounds. And he was laughing and, you know, having fun. And he was clearly the state of frustration talking about the current wound of his failed webinar. And, uh, which is really cool because it gave me, or gives me a little permission to talk about some of the wound'ee things that I talk about. Um, and, and I, I dunno if I want to say makes it okay, but, but it, it does happen and it can be refreshing to hear about real time frustration from someone who's super successful.Mischa Z: 03:44 And he further talked about how, how, you know, some, some failures that led to successes. He had the launch Click Funnels five times, and then on the sixth time, and finally took hold and he was talking about how he did this. It was called 10 X, this 10 X sales conference. And he did his presentation and he made $3 million. This was a live concert or not. It was a live presentation in front of 10,000 people or some such thing. And, and it was so successful, his pitch that he made $3 million, sold $3 million worth of product. And so the next year he goes to it to do it again. And there's a documentary about the whole thing, which now I have to watch, but he brings along a documentary crew and I get under the, under the guise of this thing is going to be super successful. There's 30,000 people at the event this time versus 10,000 last time. So he, you know, they're thinking they're going to make tens of millions of dollars, or he says, billions of dollars. And of course he totally flamed out. So he put out the documentary that shows him flaming out, shows this whole process. Now I have to find it. And you can listen to the Russell Brunson Marketing Secrets Podcast. And he it's like my webinar failed. That's the, something like that, the title of his episode.Mischa Z: 05:43 And, uh, and you can track down the, this, this documentary of him imploding on webinar or on, on, on, yeah, on a big sales presentation in front of 30,000 people or not having the success he wanted. So it was kind of refreshing. He was just talking a lot about how, you know, he's a performer and effect in, and, uh, you know, it's, he's, he's sales...does salei... s his performance, right? He's, he's performing to sell his very effective product. And it was kind of two things I felt after the podcast episode, the first one was, thank God, he's human. Right. Thank God. Russell Brunson is human. Russell Brunson is human. And then the second thing I thought was, oh, now there's no golden goose out there that ensures success, quote, unquote success and everything we do as a fledgling entrepreneur, um, I've got to get ready to fail.Mischa Z: 07:11 There's going to be failures. So that, that, that was a very, I was like, oh my gosh, that was disheartening for a moment. But of course, as I like to say, come back to the moment, do the next indicated step and, uh, continue on. It's funny. I managed to stay on point about somebody else's podcast episode being my, being my topic. Um, so yeah, that's, that's, uh, that's it Russell Brunson had a failure and, uh, it, it provided me hope that, uh, we don't have to be superhuman, but then also, oh, no, we don't become superhuman. Uh, gosh, that's it. I I'm right at eight minutes, I'm going to call it good. Have a fine day.

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See all the Healthcast at https://www.biobalancehealth.com/healthcast-blog/ Situation: over the Covid Quarantine many of my patients became addicted to alcohol.  I found that my training was wanting in terms of making my patient aware that I knew they had a problem and that to be healthy and productive they must deal with this problem, addiction.   I would like you to share your experience in treating alcoholics and some important dos and don'ts when it comes to talking to an alcoholic who is in denial about their addiction.   Let's say an alcoholic is convinced that they have a problem and get into counseling with you, where do you start to untangle this problem so that they can see that they do have a problem? Once an alcoholic is convinced that something must change as to his or her drinking what is the next step for them? One of the things I learned during the quarantine was that it is never good medical advice to stop drinking alcohol cold turkey without constant medical treatment and oversight (like they offer in rehab). Most people are afraid of rehab because they don't know what will happen to them….the fear of the unknown actually prevents them from getting help. Can you give us a thumbnail description of what happens in rehabilitation? Many of my patients become addicted to sugar in place of alcohol. Can you tell me why that occurs? What can we do about it other than feed them a whole foods diet with low carb? Are there certain supplements that can be used to treat the side effects of alcoholism, and to replace the vitamins that are used up by drinking alcohol chronically? The fear of the first 2-3 days of withdrawal is always a deterrent to getting treatment. It might help to explain the treatment for withdrawal in a medical setting if someone hasn't stopped drinking by weaning down on the amount of alcohol, they take in.  The current medical treatment for withdrawal from alcohol that is recommended by the American College of Family Physicians.  I have added some supplements to replenish the body after alcohol addiction and to help clear the liver. In general, Acute and Subacute withdrawal should be monitored and treated in a medical setting with physicians available. It is only necessary for a short period of time.

Have you ever wondered what's at the core of addiction? What is the causality of addiction? Have you ever wondered what it is that created your addiction in the first place? Do you know the difference between recovery and healing from addiction? Do you know how important it is for you to strengthen your mind and change your thinking in order to recover and heal from addiction? These are questions answered and discussed on this week's podcast. Listen as Coach Blu describes his approach to addiction recovery, using your mind as a tool rather than an obstacle and being able to truly identify what caused your addiction in the first place. There are so many pathways to recovery that more information and more tools you can use to overcome trauma, addiction, and mental health could only strengthen your overall understanding and pursuit of a sober lifestyle.  Please join Addict to Athlete's Patreon support page and help us turn the mess of addiction into the message of sobriety! https://www.patreon.com/addicttoathlete For more information on Team Addict to Athlete and Addiction Recovery Podcasts please visit our website. https://www.AddictToAthlete.org

After two weeks of camping and my brother being in town I'm getting back to my entrepreneurial journey.  Which feels good.  And it turns out I may have mastered consistency.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:03 It is fun to get back on track. It's fun to get back on track, you know, when you're busy with something and you get momentum and then perhaps you take a vacation and come back from the vacation, rested and relaxed, and it can take a little bit to re find your groove. And, uh, and to get back on track. But when you do it feels good. So, yes, let's talk about this. Getting back on track. I, of course completed the Tools For A Good Life Summit, which anybody can go check out www.toolsforagoodlifesummit.com. I had put a ton of work into it and came out of the other side with all sorts of great lessons and momentum, but at the same time, very burned out and overwhelmed by perhaps next steps. And that's what I've been talking about, the last few episodes or some of the next steps.Mischa Z: 01:16 And I feel like a few of those episodes have been a bit disjointed and messy, but I'm still going with it. Take the messy action. So my brother was in town for a week as well. I love my brother, Nick. Hey Nick, if you're listening, I love you make us such a fantastic supporter of me and what I do. But as I get older, I'm 53. Now Nick came and visited for five or six days, and we usually have some fun and, and eat lots of food, drink, lots of coffee. And you know, every time he leaves there is sadness in me. And I'm not sure why I'm telling you this. And will you find this useful? Maybe you'll find it useful in that you can relate. But I had a very big sense of melancholy when he left. He left a couple of days ago, but I definitely had a sense of melancholy.Mischa Z: 02:26 And, uh, so I went on this camping trip. So effectively was off the grid, got nothing done other than grounding with nature. Bonding, with nature and getting refreshed and revitalized. Then my brother came to town and I effectively, you know, took that week off from all this 2CCX growing your audience, um, you know, building a business, an interweb business fund. And, uh, he left a couple of days ago. Then I just took the next day off beautiful. And yesterday I was inspired to update my Instagram and my son, the, the, the, the bio link. And so what's going on is I'm on a summit. I was on somebody else's summit. I spoke on it, the Forgiveness Zone Summit, go check it out. The Forgiveness Zone Summit. You can click on the link in the show notes and check it out that way. But part of me being on the summit is to promote the summit. As I've asked people who spoke at my summit to promote that summit. So I am committed to promoting the summit, but part of that is getting my Instagram dialed in so that I don't have enough followers on Instagram yet where I can put the link in the actual story, I guess. Yes, the story.Mischa Z: 04:18 And so I need to put "link in bio" "link in bio". I believe that's the same in the notes of a regular Instagram post too, on the feed. So "Link in bio". So I needed to get the link in bio dialed in. So I did there's link tree, you'll see link tree on my part of ClickFunnels. So I was able to create a quick funnel and put it in the Instagram bio. So you can click on the link in bio and it, you can go to the Forgiveness Zone Summit. You can go to the Tools For A Good Life Summit. You can go check out this podcast, the Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path To Peace! Podcast. So that feels awesome. I finally got that done. I got an, a post on Facebook for the Forgiveness Zone Summit. I got that done. I've got an idea on how to update my Facebook profile.Mischa Z: 05:22 So I'm working on that, all these things. Um, and I got an email out to my list promoting the summit. That's the biggest thing. I got an email out to my fledgling list, promoting the Forgiveness Zone Summit. Wow! So I've been thinking a lot too, about how am I adding value? Is this adding value? And I think one of the big ways that I'm adding value on this podcast, as people can jump along, they can grow with me. They can try new things with me. They can try the things that I'm trying with me, or perhaps they can listen fondly and go, gosh, I can remember back when I was starting out with new ventures on the internet. And so you can laugh with me. Um, and hopefully, you know, hopefully I am showing people how to take messy action, how to trust in God, how too, you know, learn all great life tools along the way.Mischa Z: 06:41 Oh my goodness. Um, so I also, the last two or three weeks had missed, um, some, a couple of coaching calls on purpose. Cause I was off the grid effectively on vacation. I had missed a couple of classrooms, a couple of coaching group classrooms. And so I got to re engage and get on a coaching call today and it felt really good. I got to talk to coach Vince about my insecurities, about re upping on the coaching and how I felt perhaps behind. And, and some of my other insecurities, you know, monetizing my vision, the business will the business ever monetize and some other things. And he talked to me about consistency. And how, what he saw in me was consistency and how consistency is such a key part of, of, of an entrepreneurial endeavor. Consistency is a big, big part of that. So that felt really good to hear. Um, so I just wanted to give everybody an update. I'm back at it. I feel good. I'm updating Instagram, I'm updating Facebook and promoting the summit that I spoke on the Tools For A Good Life Summit. I'm back on some coaching calls. And I feel like the momentum I had out of the summit, much of that is indeed carrying forward. So that's where I am. I feel like I survived vacation. I survived family visits, perhaps even thrived through them. Love to all have a good day.

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Labor day mayhem swirls around me as I record this.  A little bit on the next bits of messy action standing right in front of me.  And I give you the simple instructions on how to interact with a hundred thousand people via Facebook groups.1) Find five groups that share your common interests.  With approximately 20,000 each. 2) Each morning you put a value post in there.   3) Each morning you answer three questions that have been posted on each group.  (Thank you Russell Brunson!)Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 I am going to try to record with a lot of people coming and going. As I record this it's labor day and I grabbed my microphone on the way out the door. I'll tell you why I woke up this morning and did my meditation and did a little, A Course In Miracles reading, which was so poignant about, um, gosh, I don't have my notes in front of me. It doesn't matter. Let's say that for another day. It did all that. Did my routine checked to make sure that the latest podcast episode published and it did, and it was number 300. Oh my God. I have published 300 podcast episodes . and it just brought such a light lightness to my heart and a bit of joy. It's like, oh my gosh, like one day at a time that has come together and the outcomes were or are, or where holy mackerel. I probably probably edit the motorcycles out. Anyhow, the outcomes were irrelevant. It was just really cool to be like, yeah, 300 episodes are up. The best part about it is number 300, my top three prayers for the moment. How fun is that? I dunno. And all, it just seems sort of numerically, coincidentally, 300 episode, top three prayers to stay in the moment.Mischa Z: 02:23 And I thought to the messy action, there's a lot of messy action going on right now. And I'm like, you know what? I'm going to record. But I feel like is in the teeth of the madness, the mouth of the madness traffic people walking, it's an incredibly busy morning due to, uh, people having the day off. So normally where in there wouldn't be traffic or this week cars or this people. I was like, I was thinking, I'm going to look really silly talking to my phone, recording on my Shure MV88, mic. But heck with it, do it anyway. Take the messy action. Put your fears aside, take the messy action and put your fears aside. And how about this? Maybe this attracts the person it's supposed to attract it. Repels the people it's supposed to repel, but attracts the people it's supposed to attract.Mischa Z: 03:40 I like that thought another thing I wanted to discuss, another thing I wanted to discuss is up until this morning, I kind of was in a state of overwhelm of, of next. What was next? I know I've talked about that on a few episodes, but I had some fear of financial insecurity takeover in this moment. Him not financially insecure, but I was projecting out a couple of years and gripped with, oh my gosh, what if this doesn't work? Or, you know, what, if I don't start making money or monetizing my efforts. And you know all this future tripping and also like the list of tasks in front of me. And it just became very clear next indicated step. And it's all going to be good next indicated step and it's all going to be good. So the next indicated step is put out a couple of promotions on the summit that I'm on, that I've been asked to speak on.Mischa Z: 05:06 You can check it out. The forgiveness zone summit, the link will be in this episode and come up with a new, uh, clean up my Facebook profile and then start interacting with groups. And that's just, that's one thing to do the other is to, uh, so I can do that right away. I can get home and then clean up the episode. And then the a hundred thousand people in the three to five groups, clean up those groups and then start interacting with the groups. And that feels like the Herculean effort, right? Like, right. Like you can tell I'm insecure in the moment. Cause there's lots of filler words, right? Like lots of filler words. So funny that being a filler as well.Mischa Z: 06:23 So the next thing staring me right in the eyes is interact with a hundred thousand people via Facebook groups. So anybody can do this. If you're wanting to grow your audience or have some impact or extend your reach or link in with new communities, find three to five groups on Facebook that are what you're interested in. So mine would be most likely meditation, you know, S uh, personal growth, perhaps recovery. So you find five groups with approximately 20,000 each and then each morning you put a value post in there and you answer three questions on each group.Mischa Z: 07:22 In theory, this will drive interactions with you and your Facebook profile. And if you have somewhere that they can follow from your Facebook profile, they'll follow that, that breadcrumb. I E for me, it could be my summit link or my podcast linked to my podcast, whatever. And as I record this, I've got about 350 Instagram followers. And about 1050 Facebook friends slash followers, I think he started getting followers on your personal profile when she cap at the 5,000 friends. I honestly don't know how it works, but I'm just telling you those numbers. So for a couple of reasons, one, so we can see how the numbers are different in a few months and two, um, it's creating a little accountability in me. I'm putting out there what I'm going to start doing every morning. Okay. There is my labor day episode. I made it. I survived. What did I talk about? I talked about, oh, yes, I recorded my, or mySpeaker 2: 08:55 Hundredth episode published, which very exciting brought joy to my heart. Just that one day at a time, I've been able to do that and be staying in the moment to the next indicated step. That's all I got to do. Peace out. Love to all.

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My brother nick is in town!  I reflect on my willingness to finally do a meditation episode.  And then I give a shout out to my brother Nick, who always supports me.  No matter the shenanigans.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript:Mischa Z: 00:01 So my brother is in town, my brother, Nick, who's a few years older than me. And, uh, he's been in town for a few days and it's so interesting because it upsets my routine. And in a, in a fine way, like I'm absolutely not complaining. Um, and I love my brother tremendously. And, uh, I just want to say a few things about my brother and then some inspiration, um, that I had at the same time. So, uh, yeah, Nixon town naked. If you're listening to this, to this episode, I love you. Um, uh, yeah, so Nick gets to town and, um, it was right after my camping trip. And, uh, and so as I'm trying to find my new routine coming out of the summit and I go on this camping trip, get back and Nick shows up the next day and, and, uh, I had all this momentum recording episodes for, for this podcast.Mischa Z: 01:07 And then as soon as Nick lands and like too bashful to record an episode in front of him, um, trying to find the time usually recorded my house or walking, but not finding time to walk, anyhow. Um, and just in a bit of a, of a state of, uh, oh no, again, what am I going to record? What am I gonna record? I'm I'm idealess. Idealless for a podcast episode and, uh, all of a sudden, so this is one of the things I'm going to talk about. I've got a couple more in regards to Nick. Um, but this is really in regards to some inspiration that I had. So I was just reading "A Course In Miracles", you know, as Nick was kicking it on the couch, it's the afternoon, three or four in the afternoon. And, and I keep, you know, turning to my intuition or source or, you know, the infinite intelligence and, and trusting that don't worry.Mischa Z: 02:22 It's okay if your Nick's here and you're not having a ton of cohesive thought streams of thought for, for, um, an episode. Just trying to trust that right. And keep like, saying that mantra to myself, Hey, it's okay. The ideas will come. Or I had all these great content flowing front, um, the Viktor Frankl book. And I'm hoping for more content from that book, because it was so rich with ideas and talking points. And there were, uh, interestingly in the Victor Frankl book, there's a couple of thoughts where I was like, a couple of this ideas might go, oh, maybe I would disagree a little bit. So I think that will be fun to talk about as well, perhaps or anyway. So as, uh, I'm reading "A Course In Miracles", I find this really juicy paragraph about pausing for a moment and letting go of some preconceived notions and things.Mischa Z: 03:46 So you can see people in a different light and the inspiration hits me as I'm doing what the paragraph says, oh my gosh, what a great meditation this would be and what a great episode that would be. And, um, it's been lurking in my mind as I, when I, from when I started the podcast. And even before I started the podcast, perhaps I would do some sorts of, you know, meditations and, uh, and so to have that thought pop into my head and that willingness feels super exposed. Wanting to do a meditation episodes. I just feel super exposed to me, like putting myself out there in a way that's very raw. And so the thought of actually doing it was very far away. The idea of it was there, but perhaps the willingness and the inspiration seemed elusive and fleeting at best. And so to have that inspiration come to me was pretty cool. And the next thing that happened was go do the meditation yourself, take 20 minutes, breathe that in and let it settle and internalize it and then come back and record the episode. And, uh, so that's what I did. Yesterday's episode was the, was the outcropping of that. Is that the right word or the result of that? Um, it's really funny as I'm walking through traffic, talking on my phone, getting interesting looks, trying to not get hit by a car,Speaker 2: 05:57 Hitting pause, just hitting start again. I found a bench to sit on. Sure. It he'd get hectic all the sudden as I was walking and recording. So anyway, it was super fun to do that a little, you know, seven or eight minute episode meditation. And I'm assuming that as you're listening to this, I actually published it. Um, but I did some, I did some literally four or five years ago. And I still have some that were recordings laying around where I started playing with this microphone that I'm recording on and playing with meditations and things, but never with, did I actually think I would record and publish meditations? It's a very exciting, thank you for listening. Listen to yesterday's episode. I hope you find it fun. Um, and so lastly, just want to talk about Nick and give a little shout out to Nick. And I could probably do a whole nother episode and perhaps I will, but I just want to say right here in this moment, how, how I really, my brother is such a good man and how, oh my gosh.Speaker 2: 07:23 It's may have trains super loud RVs. I thought this was going to be a nice, calm, quiet episode. It's not turning out that way. The best laid plans of mice and men hang in there, everybody. But just to see just how cool it is to have a brother is who was so supportive of what I feel like are my shenanigans, right? Like doing podcasts and summits and, and, uh, just over my life, he's always been encouraging to me and, and, uh, and, and one of my biggest supporters and my biggest fans in the face of sometimes what seemed to be crazy behaviors. So a big shout out to my brother. And I would encourage anybody to think about the people in their lives, who support you, who are the people in your lives that support you no matter what, and just encourage you. And I hope you have at least one of those people in your lives. One of them is absolutely my brother, and I'm very grateful for him and just life is good. That's it? I'm going to stop. Now. I survived. This is one of those episodes where I feel like I survived in spite of the mayhem flying on around me.

Dom the Hypnotist crushes at the Tools For A Good Summit!  He will have you break through some of your limiting thoughts and patterns by the end.  And he gives you actionable tools for a healthier mind. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://aMischa Zn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://aMischa Zn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://aMischa Zn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: 0:00:06.2 Mischa Zvegintzov: Welcome back, everybody, to the Tools For A Good Life Summit. And right now I would like to introduce to you Dom... And I might butcher your last name, so bear with me, Bertoncini.0:00:20.0 Dom Bertoncini: Yeah, you hit it right on the head, I'm surprised.0:00:22.8 Mischa Z: Alright, fantastic. AKA, or also known as, Dom The Hypnotist. And I'm gonna tell the people a little about you real quick.0:00:32.0 Dom the Hypnotist: Cool.0:00:33.0 Mischa Z: Alright, so Dom, you, specialize... You're certified in hypnotherapy, timeline therapy, and neuro-linguistic programming. You specialize in helping people get rid of anxiety, depression, and limiting beliefs, so they can live the life that they want. You have worked with some of the top athletes in the NFL, UFC, and Olympic athletes from all over the world. And a fun fact about Dom, you get randomly referenced by UFC fighters on the Joe Rogan podcast.0:01:11.8 Dom the Hypnotist: Yeah, awesome, thank you. I appreciate that intro. And sometimes people think that I only work with athletes, but I work with everyday people like myself. There's only so many athletes that you're gonna be able to work with, just because there's only... You think about the NFL, there's only a thousand people, and out of those a thousand people... I have a small group of people that I work with it. Same thing in the UFC, there's only 550 people on the roster. So sometimes people think, "Oh, does he only work with athletes?" or whatever. No, I work with everyday people, like I said, like myself, like yourself, so...0:01:49.9 Mischa Z: Yeah. Perfect, thank you for that. I will tell you, as I've been putting together this summit and I was searching madly for a hypnotherapist...0:02:00.0 Dom the Hypnotist: How did you... Did you go on Instagram and you went to the "hypnosis" tag or something? 0:02:04.9 Mischa Z: Yeah, exactly.0:02:05.9 Dom the Hypnotist: Oh, there you go.0:02:06.0 Mischa Z: Exactly. Yes, and yeah it was interesting, I'll tell you, you can find, obviously, a ton of people that way, and what I loved about you and what drew me to you is you seem like a down-to-earth real... Like, "Here's a real... " You present it in real-life terms, which I think is so powerful. Yeah, and then I'll tell you too, I was like... You invite a few people, and I'm like "Gosh I hope Dom says yes", 'cause I like your message, I think...0:02:39.9 Dom the Hypnotist: I think I got an email from you and then I thought it was spam and so I just kind of ignored it, 'cause I get emails like that all the time...0:02:46.1 Mischa Z: Yes.0:02:46.1 Dom the Hypnotist: People asking "Dom do you wanna get your blue check mark? Do you wanna get this or that?" or whatever. So I just kind of ignored it, and then the second email, I don't know what caught my eye but I think it seemed like it wasn't spam, and I kind of read through it like, "Oh, this guy actually looked at my account, it wasn't just a blast email."0:03:05.0 Mischa Z: Yes, yes. Yeah, cool. Tell me, just real quick, at two to three minutes, how did you get involved in hypnotherapy and NLP and all that sort of stuff? 0:03:14.0 Dom the Hypnotist: Yeah, so it was actually completely random. Ever since I was maybe 18-19 I've always been into NLP and Hypnotherapy and everything else, because for about 11 years, from 18-19 to about 31 I had done insurance sales. So in insurance sales, or any sales job, you're always constantly trying to improve your mindset, trying to get better and more effective at what you're doing, and so I had known about it for a very long time. But about...0:03:45.0 Dom the Hypnotist: So I've been doing this a little bit over two years, it's been March 5th, 2019 is when I graduated my first course, but what happened was my mom, she's into personal development, she's pretty successful, she owns an insurance company or an insurance brokerage as well, through State Farm, and so she's always doing personal development, she's always going to seminars and courses and all this. And so she had went to an NLP course and she was telling me about it, and she goes, "Yeah, you learn how to do hypnosis", and this, that, and the other, "And yeah, and it only took two days to learn it." And I was like... I was kind of blown away, 'cause I thought that it was something that it would take months and months and months of training before you could get to hone in your skills, right? 0:04:32.0 Mischa Z: Yes.0:04:32.1 Dom the Hypnotist: So that's why I never really got into, 'cause I was like "I don't have the time to go through all that." So she was telling me about it, I was like, "Wow, that sounds pretty interesting." So, I don't know, a couple of months go by and she ended up surprising me with it as a Christmas gift. So Christmas of 2018 she got me a three-day introductory course. So I was like, "Wow, this is kinda cool." Honestly, best Christmas present I've ever had, to this day. So I went to the course and I had literally zero expectation of doing this for a living.0:05:05.0 Dom the Hypnotist: I was just going to get rid of my own problems I was dealing with and maybe learn like a cool trick or something, you know, "Make yourself sleep!"0:05:12.5 Mischa Z: Yes.0:05:13.8 Dom the Hypnotist: Like you see on YouTube, right? So I had, like I said, zero expectation that I was gonna do this. So I went to the course and I just fell in love with it. I was really good at it, I took to it pretty well. And after that three days I really felt a shift in myself, like I could literally feel just energy coming out of me, like I could put my hands and feel it. And I'd never felt that in my life, I always thought like the chakra stuff and all that BS, I was like "That's fake, that's not real", and then I actually felt it coming out of my chest, I was like "Oh my God... "0:05:51.8 Mischa Z: What? 0:05:52.0 Dom the Hypnotist: What was I holding on to? Like... Jesus. So I thought, I was like, "Man, if I could help people feel like this and I can do this for a living, I would way rather do this than selling insurance." So I had made a goal initially to transition from doing insurance to doing a full-blown hypnotherapy business, and I figured it would take me about six months to build up a clientele and everything else.0:06:19.0 Dom the Hypnotist: So when I got out of that course I literally had zero belief that I could charge for my services, so I had no real confidence. Because when you're in the course you're doing it with people that paid to be there, so it's a little bit easier, right? They're a little bit easier to do the process with, so I thought, "Well. Is this gonna work on people outside of the course?" right? So then I just started offering free 20-30-minute sessions through my Instagram for anybody who was interested. So within the first week I worked with 45-50 people.0:06:55.6 Dom the Hypnotist: Just any free time I had, just back to back to back to back to back. And then the second week was the same thing, so within about two weeks I worked with over 100 people, and they were like... People were promoting it on their Instagram, their Facebook and everything else. So I got to the point where I was like, "Well hey, I have so many people that wanna do this that I have to charge for my services, and I have no time to do insurance", so I remember it was literally two weeks of the day, I woke up, I actually had a full schedule that day, and I called my assistant, I said, "Hey look, call these people and tell them I'm not gonna come to the meeting. I'm done selling insurance, this is it. I'm never selling another insurance policy for the rest of my life." And then two weeks in I stopped, and then now we're here.0:07:44.0 Mischa Z: Wow, Dom, that is amazing. Thank you for that.0:07:46.5 Dom the Hypnotist: Yeah, it was like completely random. I had no... Zero intention. But I'm so thankful and grateful for my mom for doing that, 'cause had she not, who knows? I'd probably still be selling insurance, hating my life, looking for something else that's more fulfilling, and I was one of the lucky ones I guess.0:08:06.9 Mischa Z: Yeah. You know, what I love about that story too is, well, the serendipitous nature of it, obviously, is great, but clearly the tool itself in action. So...0:08:17.2 Dom the Hypnotist: Yeah. That's the main thing. Taking action? 0:08:20.6 Mischa Z: No, yeah, taking action and also the tool itself, like that tool, the gift, the serendipitous events of your mother giving you that for a gift, right? 0:08:32.5 Dom the Hypnotist: Right.0:08:33.0 Mischa Z: And then you dove in and then you do it, and then to take the action that the tool inspired in you. Right? 0:08:43.2 Dom the Hypnotist: Yeah totally. Yeah, I just became obsessed, man. I was just like... It was all I thought about. And I'm still obsessed, but you know that... It's like that new car smell or the new car you buy, for the first couple of weeks you're like, "Oh my God!" you know? 0:08:58.9 Mischa Z: Yes. And it was just so exciting. So, yeah I really... I always tell people there's the three best decisions I ever made in my life: Number one, having my daughter, number two, starting my hypnotherapy business, and number three moving to Las Vegas. So yeah, it's been great. It's been truly life-changing.0:09:21.0 Mischa Z: That's amazing. I'm just taking note on that: Your daughter, starting your hypnotherapy business, and then moving to Las Vegas.0:09:33.1 Dom the Hypnotist: It used to be, before that, it was "Man, the best decision I ever made in my life was getting out of California and moving to Las Vegas." [chuckle] But then when I had my daughter and then, you know, so it is...0:09:42.1 Mischa Z: Yes, yes, kids are amazing, we're gonna save that for the bonus round. Yeah, I have two sons, 18 and 20, at the time of this, and they are just... It's an amazing, amazing experience. Big gifts too. Alright, so let's get to the meat of the matter. I'm gonna give you a scenario and then I'm gonna ask you a question. Okay? 0:10:07.9 Dom the Hypnotist: Let's do it.0:10:08.7 Mischa Z: Alright, fantastic. So, given this scenario, think of life as a three-legged stool of relationships, finances and health. And now think of someone who was or is successful and has had two of those legs fall out from under them. So this could be a combination of divorce, career upheaval, financial stress, these kids that we're talking about, kids acting out and not going the direction we want them to. There could be physical health challenges for themselves or for a loved one, maybe a death in the family or continued failed relationships.0:10:50.0 Mischa Z: And for me it was I went through a heavy divorce, both my parents died in rapid succession, within two weeks of each other, this was all going down. My career went... This was about 10 years ago, my career went into upheaval and financial distress, and up until that point my "pull myself up from my bootstraps" mentality, that "fix-it" mentality had worked, right? But then all of a sudden I needed new tools, and it was clear. Like working my way through it, like more success, more money, more toys, was not gonna solve the problem, so I needed new tools. So my question to you is, thinking of hypnotherapy as a tool, what are the exact next steps you would offer someone like me who's in that situation so that I know I'm headed in the new right direction, that I'll have positive momentum towards getting my life back on track? 0:11:57.5 Dom the Hypnotist: Good, so it's actually funny you say that, 'cause those are the three main areas that we help people with: Health, career relationships. And usually, for the most part, when people come to us, one of the areas is good but the other two are out of whack, everything's out of balance. So there's a couple of things. One is we have to figure out why this is happening, because we are all the creators of our reality, and once we understand that then we can take back the power and begin to change.0:12:32.0 Dom the Hypnotist: One thing that you find, especially in relationship stuff, is people always wanna blame the other person for why their life is the way that they are, right? So I'll give you a prime example, one of my clients... So I know this isn't a hypnotherapy thing, but you have to understand this concept first before the hypnotherapy will work. Because if you don't understand this concept, I could do this, I could hypnotize you every single day for the rest your life and nothing will work. So you have to understand this concept of cause and effect.0:13:04.1 Dom the Hypnotist: So, a client of mine, she was telling me about how her ex was so manipulative and "He's this and he's that", and blah, blah, blah, blah. Which we've all been there before. And I stopped her and I explained to her the concept of cause and effect, and you probably know what it is but for the people who don't know, I'm just gonna explain.0:13:29.0 Mischa Z: When things happen in life we are either at cause, in other words, we take responsibility for everything that happens to us in our life. Whether it's this guy just crashed into me, rather than blaming that person, we take the responsibility, Okay, what did I do? Or What am I not doing? Or what's going on in my mind, that is creating this reality around me, what is causing this to happen? So, you're either gonna take responsibility or you're at the effect. And we're at the effect of something, it's always something outside of us. It's her, it's him. It's my boss. It's this guy, it's... It's whatever, right? So there's a problem when you're at the effect of something is you give up your power to that person or to that situation, because if it's like, Oh well, it's him doing it to me, essentially what you're saying is that that person controls you and control your life, and has the power over you. So what we have to do, no matter what it is, I don't care if you caught your wife cheating on you, if... Like I said, somebody crashed in your car, your boss fired you. I don't care how bad it is.0:14:38.7 Dom the Hypnotist: You have to take responsibility and go, okay, it's not their fault, it's my fault, yes, they did that. But what am I doing or what am I not doing that's allowing this to happen? What am I doing or not doing that's allowing people to treat me this way, right? So going back to my client, I explained this concept, but I said, "Look, he's so manipulative and all this stuff," and I said, "Is it that he's a good manipulator, or are you allowing him to manipulate you?" And it was like a light bulb went off in her head and she was like," Well... " and I said, "Well, think about this for a second.0:15:16.0 Dom the Hypnotist: Do you think your ex, boyfriend or fiance is a good manipulator? Let's say I took him and I put him with a high, high level manipulator," let's think about the general of an army is somebody whose job is to do manipulation, now, manipulation isn't always... Isn't always a bad thing? It's just... Manipulation is good or bad, right? Your heart manipulates body to perform better. So I said, "If we took him and we put him with this guy... Is he a good manipulator?" And she was like, "Yeah, yeah, I guess, you're right?" I said, "Yeah, so it's not that he's a good manipulator, you're allowing him to manipulate you, and once you realize that and you go, oh, okay. It's me that's doing it. So what am I doing or what am I not doing that's allowing him to treat me that way?" The same thing with bullies.0:16:08.0 Mischa Z: Yes.0:16:08.6 Dom the Hypnotist: People always wanna blame the bully, blame the bully, blame the bully and... Yes, I understand that, but when you take your focus off the other person. You go okay, what am I doing or not doing well? Okay, well, my body language is communicating certain things, my tonality is communicating certain things, the way that I walk, everything is communicating to this person that they can treat me this way. Now, once you realize that you go, Okay, what can I do to fix that? Well, I can do some speaking classes...0:16:35.9 Mischa Z: Can I ask you a question? 0:16:37.3 Dom the Hypnotist: Yeah, yeah, yeah.0:16:38.9 Mischa Z: So would you suggest like anybody listening, and we said, Hey, for this step number one, figure out why this is happening, and we want you to understand that you're... The effect is not them it needs to be you... Would you suggest like... Yeah, would you suggest like writing an inventory for that or write down what's that...0:17:07.5 Mischa Z: What do you mean? Which part? Write down, which part? 0:17:10.2 Dom the Hypnotist: For example, if your client, for example, they said, "I am being manipulated." So you would say, How could you help somebody, like somebody who's listening and they're going all right, I'm ready to take accountability...0:17:27.5 Dom the Hypnotist: Right, right, right.0:17:28.3 Mischa Z: Literally, how could you help them take accountability? Reframe that statement, write down what you think the problem is, my ex is a son of a bitch, why don't you reframe that or...0:17:44.4 Dom the Hypnotist: I would reframe that as, "Sorry your ex is a son of a bitch, maybe you have low standards... " right? It's true. My boss is treating me this way, well, maybe you just don't have a backbone. So again, there's no real exercise that I do with people, but when I explain this concept, people get it, they go.0:18:08.8 Mischa Z: Love it.0:18:09.5 Dom the Hypnotist: Right, yeah. I can't sit here and complain about the bully and be, it's him, it's a bully about... No, it's not, it's you... Because again, if you spoke a certain way, if you had a certain belief system about yourself, if you pick martial arts or whatever, nobody's gonna mess with you, you don't even have to say it, people just know they pick up telepathically or unconsciously they know, don't mess with that guy, right don't treat this person that way. So that's the first thing, because again if people are always blaming others and they don't take responsibility they're powerless. The other thing that's important going back to these different areas. So we all have what are called limiting beliefs and limiting decisions, so limiting belief is just a belief that we have that limits us being able to create a certain reality for ourselves. So I'll give you an example of limiting beliefs that I used to have... I used to have the belief that every time something is going good, that something bad is gonna happen, right? And a lot of people have this belief.0:19:25.5 Mischa Z: Waiting for the other shoe to drop.0:19:27.8 Dom the Hypnotist: Like, Oh, shoot, man it's getting too good. What's gonna happen? It's going to... Around the corner. Well, here's the thing, if you have that belief that therefore becomes your reality. So we will unconsciously for the most part, which means we're not aware of it, match our outside reality to match that belief. So once we get to that point, we'll self-sabotage, we'll do all these things so that we basically confirm that it's true. So when I real, I didn't even know I had that belief 'til I was 31 right, when I went through this process of... So once I realized I had it we go back, we find out what it is, So for me, what it was, you know my parents had been there like 15 and 17, they weren't, they didn't stay together, so you know, I would split time between my parents and so my mom when she was 18, she actually joined the military.0:20:19.2 Mischa Z: Okay.0:20:19.8 Dom the Hypnotist: And so by that time I was two, three years old, and when she joined the military, if you're not married, you can't live with your parent, right, so you somebody else has to watch you or whatever, if you're a single mother. I don't know if it's the same for single father... Yeah, maybe it's changed but this is 30 years ago, whatever.0:20:36.2 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:20:36.7 Dom the Hypnotist: So she ended up going off to boot camp, the whole thing, and I don't know, a year into it or whatever, she ended up meeting my stepdad and they got married. So when I was about three or four years old, when I was living with my family, splitting time between my grandparents and my dad's and all that, everything was going good, and then my mom got married, so then boom, I get shipped off and then I move across the country to Maryland right. Then we're in Maryland for a year or two. And you know, if you know anybody in the military, they move around all the time. So after about a year or two, once I'm settled in, I've got my new little friends in preschool and all that... Boom, Now we moved to Hawaii, and then we're in Hawaii for about four or five years. Everything's going good again. You know, I'm really doing excelling in sports, I have a bunch of friends, the whole thing, and then when I was about 10 years old, we had to move to Washington, and then we lived in Washington for two years. You get the point.0:21:30.5 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:21:30.5 Dom the Hypnotist: So, as subconsciously, as a survival mechanism, I developed a belief like, Hey, don't get too settled in, don't get too excited because everytime you do, something bad happens and you know, moving for a kid is a pretty traumatic experience.0:21:46.7 Mischa Z: It is.0:21:47.2 Dom the Hypnotist: You're the new kid at school. You always got a freaking like prove yourself, you gotta worry about people picking on you, the whole thing, so as a survival tool, my subconscious or unconscious mind created that belief system, so then throughout my entire life, because I had that belief, it manifested itself over and over again, right so when my relationships were really good, that would go bad or my friendships were really good, they would go bad, when I was working out and I was in great shape in the gym, everything, I would get an injury, when I was doing really well financially, I would somehow self-sabotage and put myself, you get it? So now, that I've gotten rid of that belief and I realize, Look, when things are going good, they continue to get better. And that's what happens, yeah, there's little blips and there's little days where you don't want, and things don't always go my way, but instead of it, my life being like this, it's more like this.0:22:43.8 Mischa Z: Love that.0:22:44.2 Dom the Hypnotist: You get little, little tiny bliss, but it's always consistently getting better.0:22:48.7 Mischa Z: Love it, yes.0:22:49.5 Dom the Hypnotist: So we gotta go through, limiting beliefs, and then the last thing is going through and figuring out something that's called getting rid of what we would call your negative motivation, or in other words your pain motivator, so when we're motivated in life, we are either motivated to avoid pain or we are motivated towards pleasure. Okay, so the thing with pain motivation is, it's very, very powerful right, we've all been there before, or you're super broke and you got two pennies are up together... You're pretty freaking motivated to get out of that situation, right because like, Oh my God, it's so painful, I gotta get out of it.[chuckle]0:23:31.8 Mischa Z: Necessity is the mother of invention.0:23:33.6 Dom the Hypnotist: Yeah, exactly, it's like Okay, I have to do it.0:23:36.5 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:23:36.8 Dom the Hypnotist: Well when we're in that point, you know, here's the pain, here's being broke or out of shape, or I just had a heart attack, or I just had to break up or whatever, we feel that pain. Boom! The motivation kicks in. But then what happens as soon as we're not really feeling that pain point anymore, what happens to that motivation...0:23:54.3 Mischa Z: Right it tapers off, or it's that whole.0:23:56.9 Dom the Hypnotist: We procrastinate, we make excuses, we self-sabotage, we don't show up on time, we do it, and then all the way back down where you feel that pain again and then... Boom. The motivation kicks in. So pain, motivation causes very inconsistent results, so now, pleasure motivation, which is the opposite of that, instead of focusing on what you want to... On what you want to avoid, we focus on what you want to go towards the pleasure that you wanna experience, so for example, going back to finances rather than thinking yourself, Man, I don't wanna be broke, I don't wanna be stressed out about money, I don't wanna worry about money, I don't want to... Whatever. Now you're thinking, because, here's the thing, do people not wanna be broke, no, that's not what they actually want. What they want is to have financial success or abundance or freedom or whatever it is. So once we can hyper-focus on what it is you actually want, then that over time and patience, that's, that becomes our new reality, so now what happens is, it's a little bit easier said than done.0:25:04.3 Dom the Hypnotist: We all know that, like or not everybody, but a lot of people know that. But what's happening that even though we know that, we keep going back to the pay motivators. Well, what happens... When we go through our life, you know our subconscious mind, its number one objective is protection, is survival, above everything else. So when we go through life and we experience, "negative events" and I put that in quotes because there's no such thing as a negative event, there's no such thing as a positive event, all events in life are neutral, the only thing that gives it a negative or positive is the perception of the person who's observing the event, so.0:25:40.8 Mischa Z: Love that.0:25:41.2 Dom the Hypnotist: When we "go through negative experiences" our subconscious mind will hold on to that experience because it thinks it's protecting us Right. So going to the finances, if you grew up broke, if your parents struggled with money, if you lived in a cockroach infested apartment, if you lived in a bad neighborhood, if... You know, when you're 18 years old, you got yourself into credit card debt, all these things that build up, build up, build up, will, when we're trying to focus on pulling ourselves out of that, we're like, okay, focus on the financial freedom, focus on abundance, focus on this, in the back of our head or sub-conscious is like yeah, but remember that one time? This happened, remember when you grew up. And this happened.0:26:23.4 Dom the Hypnotist: What we have to do is we have to go back and we have to resolve all the "negative events" that we're holding on to subconsciously, and then once you resolve it and our subconscious goes, "Oh, that wasn't a negative event, it was actually a positive experience that's helping me in my life." Then you just clean all that stuff out, and now when you start to focus on your future abundance, creating success, everything else, then it's much, much easier because you've resolved all that stuff. Does that make sense? 0:26:51.1 Mischa Z: It does. It makes absolute sense.0:26:53.2 Dom the Hypnotist: And the other thing is, we get what we focus on. So if we focus on what we don't want, that's exactly what we get. We've all heard, don't look at the color black, don't see the color black, don't notice it... And then black is everywhere, right? So maybe it's I don't wanna be broke, I don't wanna be stressed, I don't wanna be worried. Your reticular activating system going, "Alright, Dom wants to be broke, he wants to be stressed, he wants to be worried," and then we'll self-sabotage, so... And it's the same thing in relationships, it's the same thing with health. So that's what I would tell people if they are struggling in those lives, number one, take back responsibility, find out what your limiting beliefs are, get rid of them, and then get rid of that pain motivation, so you can make the things in your life happen at a rapid pace.0:27:34.6 Mischa Z: That's beautiful, that's beautiful. When you're doing your work with a client and they roll in and they're open-minded, how... I guess then you would start implementing the hypnotherapy techniques that you use, what's the arc of change of... I'm not sure if I'm asking this right, but how soon could somebody feel better? And I'm not saying they have to have riches or a new relationship or be back in fighting shape, but perhaps they get that relief or that assurance that, yeah, I'm heading in the right direction.0:28:20.9 Dom the Hypnotist: I tell people all the time, I'm a hypnotist, I'm not a magician. So I can only facilitate, I can't magically make you rich, I can't magically... You have to meet me halfway. So when I work with clients, I give them certain homework assignments, things to do, because it's a do-with process, it's not just, I'm gonna lay here and do all this and then magically in a month from now, I'm gonna win a million dollars in a lottery. Okay. Yeah, maybe that can happen, totally, but we're gonna be realistic. So to answer your question right away, so when people... Number one, many of us have beliefs that we're unconscious to, right? We're not aware of it. Like I told you, I had the belief that every time something's going good, something's going bad, or something bad is gonna happen. I didn't know that until I was 31. So when you become conscious of the limiting beliefs and things that you have that are going on, that in and of itself, just becoming aware of it, will start to release those limiting beliefs, right? 0:29:21.5 Dom the Hypnotist: So I have a client recently, we did our first session, and her whole thing was like, she made great money, but somehow she would always give it back, always give it back, always give it back. And what it was... And she wasn't aware of this when we brought it to her conscious what it was, is that throughout her life, her dad basically was always like her hero, right? He would always come and save the day ever since she was a kid, and then throughout high school her car would break down, dad's there to fix it. This happened and dad's got the money. So unconsciously, she was doing that, basically self-sabotaging her life so that her dad can come and save her, because she wanted to fill that from her dad, and then she knows that her dad wants to feel that... Wants to be that hero.0:30:11.8 Mischa Z: Yeah, he wants to be the hero.0:30:13.2 Dom the Hypnotist: Exactly, and it was so funny when she was telling me that I'm getting... I don't know why I'm getting the chills talking about this, but it's just... It's just funny, I'm thinking about my daughter. But it's so funny because that's how dads are, that's kind of like what we do. And I was watching a movie a week before that, and in the movie, everything starts going bad with the family and the dad, the daughter was not really connecting with the dad, and she's like, "Yeah, whatever, dad." That kind of attitude. And then when the family got into a sticky situation, the dad was like, "I've been waiting for this moment in my entire life," and I was like, I know what you mean. Sometimes I wish somebody would do something so I can be the hero. So it's like, once she became aware of that, all of a sudden she's like, "Oh, I'm doing this little dance with my dad, and it's how we filled our relationship and it's not necessary." And then within that moment, now that she's aware of it, when she starts to do it again, she go, "No, no, no, this is not right. This is only enabling me to continue to self-sabotage, so I have to stop, set up boundaries," that's another thing, setting up boundaries between you and others and yourself. And so yeah, so right away, that was our...0:31:24.6 Mischa Z: That's beautiful.0:31:26.1 Dom the Hypnotist: Our second session is next week, but yeah, she literally... And she's like, "I can't believe what just came to mind. I never would have thought," and there were some other stuff in there as well. But yeah, one session right away.0:31:39.5 Mischa Z: Beautiful, thank you so much for that. I have a question for you. You said homework assignments, why don't you go down your top three or four homework assignments that you have people do, if you'd be willing to do that. Yeah.0:31:53.5 Dom the Hypnotist: Some homework assignments are gonna be specific to that person, so for example, her, she's unconsciously spending money, spending money, spending money, so we have to have her track her finances, what is she spending on a daily basis? If somebody is overweight, they're unconscious to how many calories they're consuming on a daily basis, so we have to get them to track their calories so they can be aware of it consciously, right? 'Cause if you don't know how many calories you're eating, you're at 3000-4000 for the day, you have no clue. But when you track it and you're at 2000, you go, "Oh, shoot, do I really wanna eat this extra, whatever?" And then you're probably gonna know it's not... And then it'll be... It'll go away. So a lot of it is tailored to specific people, but then there are certain things that I'll have everybody do. So one thing is making a list of everything that you don't want in your life. I don't wanna have anxiety. I don't wanna...0:32:44.6 Dom the Hypnotist: I don't wanna feel depressed anymore, I don't want to be broke, I don't wanna be alone. I don't want whatever. Everything you can imagine that is in your mind that you don't want. Okay? So the purpose of writing that down is because... So there's the four stages of learning. The first stage of learning is what we call unconscious incompetence. So unconscious means we're not aware, and incompetence, we're doing something wrong. So most of the time, like I said, every time something's going good, something's going bad, I was unconscious incompetent. I had no idea that that was a belief that I had.0:33:21.5 Mischa Z: Ignorant. We're just ignorant to it.0:33:23.0 Dom the Hypnotist: 'Cause we're ignorant to it. So once you write it on paper and you sit there and you think, and you really put your mind into it, certain things will be like, "Okay, these are obvious." But then other things will pop up like, Oh, I wouldn't realize I was thinking about that. Okay, good.0:33:37.7 Mischa Z: So good.0:33:39.1 Dom the Hypnotist: Then what we do... So once you do that, you graduate to the second stage of learning, which is conscious competence... Sorry, conscious incompetence. So now you're still doing it wrong, but you're aware of what you're doing wrong, so you can at least identify it.0:33:57.7 Mischa Z: I love it.0:33:58.3 Dom the Hypnotist: So that's... When we write it down, we go, Okay, this is what I'm doing wrong. Then what I have them do is I'll take that piece of paper and I have them write down what it is that they actually want instead. Okay. And I remind them in a specific way. Now, the reason we're doing this going back to the pain, motivation, pleasure, is because again, somebody doesn't actually not want anxiety. What do they want? They wanna feel calm, they wanna feel at peace, they wanna feel confident, they wanna believe in themselves, they wanna... Whatever. So those are two different pictures in our mind. When you're thinking about, I don't want anxiety, when you think about I don't want anxiety, you feel anxious.0:34:38.7 Dom the Hypnotist: But when you think about, Okay, I wanna feel confident and secure and calm or whatever, you get a completely different picture, and then thoughts create pictures in our mind, those pictures create feelings in our body and then we act based off those feelings. So if we're always thinking, I don't want anxiety, I don't want anxiety, I don't want anxiety, our pictures in our mind is anxiety, anxiety, anxiety. We feel anxious and we act anxious. But if it's calm, confident, whatever, it creates a different picture. So I have them flip it. So then by doing that, they graduate to the third stage of learning, which is conscious competence. So they're... Competence means they're doing it right, but they have to make a conscious effort. They have to... Oh wait, I'm having that negative thought, switch it to this.0:35:24.8 Mischa Z: Love it.0:35:25.7 Dom the Hypnotist: And then what will happen is through the process of doing the work that we do, releasing negative emotions, beliefs, all this other stuff, is they will graduate to the fourth stage of learning, which is unconscious competence, which means you're doing it correctly and you don't even know you're doing it correctly.0:35:41.9 Dom the Hypnotist: We've all done this before. The first time you learn how to drive, you don't know what... You're using two feet, you're all jacked up, you don't even know you're doing it wrong. And then your dad goes, Hey, it's one foot dude. Take it off the gas. So then the next time you go to do it, you're like, Oh, wait a minute. And then you make that conscious effort like, "Wait, take my foot off. Okay. Press the gas, press the break." And then after doing it for a little while, we're freaking talking on the phone, typing in our GPS, driving on the freeway, doing all this crazy stuff, and we're just unconsciously competent. So that's the level that we get to, is having it to where their brain is just programmed to automatically visualize and to think about what it is they want, the pleasure motivation instead. Now, there's something really important, and this may help a lot of people because we've all done affirmations before or tried it or heard about it.0:36:38.0 Dom the Hypnotist: But how many times do those affirmations come true. Not a lot. Okay. And there's a couple of reasons why. Number one is, most of the time, sometimes you'll hear like a 30-year guru who's been in the personal development space for a really long time, and they're very, very successful and they've done it, they have proof, track record, the whole thing. And they'll say, "Okay, you just have to write down: I am a millionaire every day." Until it comes true. The problem with that is that when we affirm things that aren't true, our subconscious mind will not take it on as a suggestion. So if I just sit here, watch... We'll do it together, Mischa. Close your eyes.0:37:27.0 Mischa Z: Okay.0:37:28.9 Dom the Hypnotist: Say what's... Well, let's say, I don't know, maybe you are worth this kind of money, I don't know. But let's say in your head, I'm worth $10 million.0:37:38.8 Mischa Z: Okay.0:37:39.5 Dom the Hypnotist: Okay. Now, what does that little voice in your head tell you? 0:37:43.5 Mischa Z: Yeah, right. [laughter]0:37:44.1 Dom the Hypnotist: Yeah, right. Exactly. So imagine every day you're writing, you're affirming something that isn't true, isn't true, isn't true, isn't true, your subconscious is rejecting it. It's actually causing more harm than good, because here's what happens. Imagine you're in a relationship with somebody, and all they did was lie to you every day. Well, eventually you're gonna stop believing the things that they say and you're gonna have distrust. So our conscious mind is like the father, the mother, the parent, and our subconscious mind is like the child. Most of us don't realize that our subconscious is in the background, it's operating on its own. So if you're constantly lying to your child, your child is like, "Hey man, I don't believe anything you're saying." So when you create that distrust, it actually has the opposite effect. Now, what we wanna do, again, as a parent, we wanna build trust between our children so that our children will trust us and believe the things that we say. So when we affirm things, we have to affirm things that are actually true. So close your eyes again. Now, I don't know, I don't know, what's a financial goal that you have that you haven't achieved yet, that you want. Let's say a million dollars, 10 million, whatever.0:38:57.3 Mischa Z: Yeah. Okay. Let's say, let's say liquid for $2 million.0:39:01.5 Dom the Hypnotist: Perfect. So I want you to say, I am focused on being... Creating $2 million in liquid assets.0:39:11.6 Mischa Z: I am focused on...0:39:14.2 Dom the Hypnotist: Creating $2 million in liquid assets.0:39:16.4 Mischa Z: Good. I am focused on creating $2 million in liquid assets.0:39:20.7 Dom the Hypnotist: Perfect. Now, what does that little voice tell you and how does it feel now? 0:39:24.4 Mischa Z: Yeah, feels good. I'm like, "Heck, yeah. Let's get this done."0:39:28.0 Dom the Hypnotist: Right. Yeah. You feel it, you...0:39:29.9 Mischa Z: Yeah. Dude, literally, my house just got lighter. I'm like...0:39:35.4 Dom the Hypnotist: Yeah, you're like... Because now it's true. You are focused on creating that and you don't have it now, and that's okay, but now your subconscious goes, "Okay, that's what we're focused on? We're focused on creating two million dollars?" I don't care if you have two dollars in your bank account or 200000. If you are at that whatever level that is true, so then once it's true, your subconscious will take it on as a suggestion. And once it takes on as a suggestion, it will allow you to start to manifest that into your reality. But again, going back to the guru, sometimes they're so far removed from where they were 30 years ago that they forget... Yeah, they did want this to come true, but they were more focused on the realistic steps to get there, right? 0:40:18.4 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah.0:40:19.9 Dom the Hypnotist: And that's another major thing with the homework, to answer your question, to circle back, so when I have them write that, I don't have them say I want this because they're in the feeling, in the space of wanting. We don't wanna necessarily want something because that doesn't necessarily mean you're gonna get it. But if I tell them I am focused on creating or becoming. Now it's more of, "Okay, I don't have that but I'm making it happen." I'm in the process of doing it as opposed to, I want this, right? It's a different frame of mind.0:40:54.1 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:40:54.4 Dom the Hypnotist: So let's say... So that's another thing and then the other thing is, if there is anything I can go back and tell my younger self, this would probably be it, is to create realistic goals that you can achieve, small, little achievable steps that you can build on because...0:41:12.2 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:41:14.0 Dom the Hypnotist: Again, you hear somebody say, "Oh, just think big and be worth 100 million or a billion." And then what would most of us do? We think about that and we go, "That'll never happen. That seems impossible. What if this happens? What if I get sued? What if this... What about if I have a problem with the police? How am I gonna get insured? And then we go, "Forget it. I don't wanna do it." Right? So it's kind of like this, Why can't you Mischa and when I say Mischa, I want you to build me a... I don't know, maybe you could do this but let's just assume you can't. I want you to build me a...0:41:41.9 Mischa Z: We'll find out.0:41:43.8 Dom the Hypnotist: Right? 0:41:47.7 Mischa Z: Okay.0:41:48.3 Dom the Hypnotist: How overwhelmed would you be at the thought of building a house? 0:41:49.6 Mischa Z: Yeah, it would be fairly overwhelming, for sure.0:41:51.9 Dom the Hypnotist: It'll be very overwhelming. And even if I said, "Look, Mischa it's a two million-dollar, 3 million-dollar house, you can have it free and clear, you just gotta figure out how to build it."0:42:00.5 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:42:01.3 Dom the Hypnotist: It would still be like, "Yeah, that sounds great but I don't know where to start." Right? 0:42:04.7 Mischa Z: Yeah. Yes. Ironically, I do have some experience and I could probably make it happen. But anyway, I get it. I get it, I'm sorry. No, I know.0:42:18.1 Dom the Hypnotist: What's that? 0:42:19.8 Mischa Z: I said, "I don't know." I just... It was funny, I thought I would cope to that. But go on, yes.0:42:25.8 Dom the Hypnotist: So, well what's the first thing you do before you build a house? You don't build the house. What do you do before that? Well, first you gotta find the piece of land that you're gonna build it on, right? And then you gotta get plans. You gotta do all that, but let's assume you have the plans all figured out. The first thing is I gotta go check this piece of land. I just gotta get the weeds and the trash and the grass, anything. I gotta get it cleaned out, right? That's the first step. Now, most people go, "Yeah, I could do that. That seems pretty easy. How hard can that be? I'm just cleaning it up." Right? 0:42:57.6 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:42:58.4 Dom the Hypnotist: Okay, cool. Now we gotta figure out how to flatten it out and some people might think, "Oh my God, I don't know how would I do that?" Think about it. If you had a 10 x 10 foot piece of land like the size of a small room...0:43:10.0 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:43:10.5 Dom the Hypnotist: You could figure out how to make that thing level. So if you could figure that out, you just duplicate your efforts.0:43:15.7 Mischa Z: Love it.0:43:16.4 Dom the Hypnotist: And go through the whole process, right? And then...0:43:17.4 Mischa Z: So good.0:43:17.4 Dom the Hypnotist: Step by step by step, you'd get there.0:43:21.2 Mischa Z: It's beautiful.0:43:21.9 Dom the Hypnotist: But what most people do is they put 90% of their attention on the house and 10% or zero on the what's the next step.0:43:32.5 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:43:32.9 Dom the Hypnotist: But really what we wanna do is we wanna flip it. So 10%, 'cause you still wanna have an idea of where you're going and what...0:43:40.8 Mischa Z: Yeah, the vision.0:43:41.7 Dom the Hypnotist: Yeah, the you wanna have the vision so 10, 20% goes on the house, and the other 80, 90% is what's the next step. What's the next step? 0:43:49.3 Mischa Z: It's beautiful.0:43:49.9 Dom the Hypnotist: What's the next step? 0:43:50.8 Mischa Z: It's beautiful.0:43:53.5 Dom the Hypnotist: So most people, when they come to me, they just have unrealistic expectations. I wanna lose 60 pounds. When's the last time you lost five pounds? [laughter]0:44:00.1 Dom the Hypnotist: Okay, so let's get to five pounds. Okay, cool. Then they get excited like, "Yeah, I could lose five pounds in two weeks. Cool." Then they do that, Okay, listen to... And then through time and patience and breaking it down before you know it, they're 60 pounds lighter and they're in the best shape of their life, right? So same thing financially. Rather than the 2 million, it's like, "Okay, I gotta save up. How do I get to 10 thousand, 20 thousand, 30, 50, 100, right? 0:44:22.9 Mischa Z: Yeah. It's beautiful. Dom, so so so good. Thank you for the last nuggets there. I'm gonna cut us off here really quick, and I think you've just over-delivered in such a massive way, so thank you, and thank you for... That little visualization was so good.0:44:44.9 Dom the Hypnotist: I am focused on creating today, yeah.0:44:46.7 Mischa Z: Yeah, it's beautiful. And so, audience here everyone who's listening and partaking, if this interview with Dom was fantastic and you wanna get even more content from Dom, upgrade to the all X all access pass for that bonus interview. And any final thoughts that we did not get a chance to cover, Dom? 0:45:13.1 Dom the Hypnotist: I mean, if you're thinking about signing up for this program or doing any personal development, this is what I always tell people, "Look, if you're on the fence"... I don't know how much it is or whatever, but if you're on the fence about it, I always think, "Okay, what's the worse gonna happen? You're gonna sign up for this plan and then maybe you don't really get much out of it. But on the upside potential, if you even just get one little nugget out of whatever, the VIP training and program...0:45:39.3 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:45:40.8 Dom the Hypnotist: Now, I know even one nugget, maybe certain people buy with this, certain people don't, and there's gonna be that person or those people they go, "Oh yeah, I have that same stupid belief, oh my God." Or "I've been thinking about doing too big too soon, and I gotta bring it." So even just one nugget, was worth whatever the cost of the VIP training is. So if you're on the fence about it, just freaking do it and I know it will be worth it.0:46:07.9 Mischa Z: I love that. Thank you so much for that Dom. And again, they can... Or not again, everybody can find you at domthehypnotist.com, and they can actually...0:46:23.1 Dom the Hypnotist: Go to... It's better if you find me on Instagram or YouTube. Those are the two main platforms that I interface with people with.0:46:28.1 Mischa Z: Okay.0:46:30.3 Dom the Hypnotist: So yeah, if you wanna go on there and then... Are you talking about to do a consultation, is that...0:46:33.5 Mischa Z: Yes, so I was just gonna say for a consultation, they can get a free consultation so go ahead and tell them where they can do that.0:46:38.6 Dom the Hypnotist: Yeah, yeah. So if you go on to my YouTube or on my Instagram, and I don't know if you're gonna have a link, I can send you the link to schedule a consultation, but if any of this stuff kind of buy with you and you thought like, "Okay, yeah." There are certain things that I don't help people with 'cause I don't feel I'm the best person for it, and a lot of times I have to turn people... I turn more people away than I accept just because I can't help everybody with every problem, right? So I don't feel like if somebody has a drinking problem... And it's not that I don't wanna help them, it's just that I've never experienced that, and so I don't know what it's like, so I really can't connect on that level. I'm not confident in myself that I could help somebody quit drinking. So quit drinking, quit smoking, things like that, it's not really my thing. But again, the relationship stuff, the health stuff, the career stuff, if that is something, fill out the... Click the link I'll share it with you... Fill out the form. If it's something we feel like we can help you with, that we can honestly and truly help you improve on, then we'll schedule a consultation with someone from my team and they go through and see if we'd be a good fit.0:47:42.2 Mischa Z: Perfect, perfect. Fantastic. And the link is next to this interview, so anybody watching, please click on the link. Get your free consultation, and then, where was I here? Yes, click the button on this page to get unlimited access to all of these interviews and the all X all access pass, so I'm gonna end right now and then we'll get started on our next session.0:48:12.3 Dom the Hypnotist: Okay, cool.

Ryan Wilson is a husband, father, and Mastermind member. Today, he tells us his story of his history with alcoholism and how he survived it. He also tells us of how his father's struggle with alcoholism affected his childhood and adult life.  Addiction is something that many people struggle with throughout their lifetime. Whether it's gambling, drugs, or alcohol, there's something holding you back from letting go. Sometimes, it takes a crumbling moment in your life when you're on the ground and no one can help you but yourself. If you continue to let your addiction consume you, it may end up getting the best of you.  For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://thedadedge.com/friday19/  ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

A 7 minute meditation to let go of judgment and our ideas of people so we can see them in a new light.  I focus on three sentences that highlight this idea.“Let us be still an instant and forget all things we ever learned. All thoughts we had. And every preconception that we hold of what things mean and what their purpose is.”“Let us forget our own ideas of what the world is for.  We do not know.”“Let every image held of everyone, be loosened from our minds and swept away.”Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 We are going to try something fun today. We're going to try a meditation. And the purpose of this meditation is to let go of judgment and our ideas of people. So we can perhaps see them in a new light. So Let's get started. This meditation will take probably 6, 7, 8 minutes, and we're going to start with breathing. I'm outside in the wind. So I'm trying to get situated. And it's kind of funny. Okay. So I want you to sit comfortably in your chair. I want to you to start taking some long, deep breaths. So big breath in. Now, big breath out. Big breath in. Long breath out. Continue with these long breaths in through your nose And out through your nose. I want you to roll your head from side to side. As you relax and loosen your neck with your long breaths, Feel the vertebrae, vertebrae crunching, perhaps. Your arms, let them dangle by your sides. And perhaps gently shake out your arms, release that energy, Continue breathing with me long breasts and through the nose. Long breath out through the nose. Being gentle and kind to your, your body, your thoughts, your mind. I'm going to read a few sentences. "Let us be still an instant and forget all things we ever learned. All thoughts we had. And every preconception that we hold of what things mean and what their purpose is."Mischa Z: 03:39 Let's sit quiet quietly with that thought, As you breathe in through your nose, Out through your nose, I'm going to read that again. "Let us be still an instant and forget all things we ever learned. All thoughts we had and every preconception that we hold of what things mean and what their purpose is." And let's sit quietly for a minute as that thought swirls through our mind.Mischa Z: 04:56 Next sentence. As we continue to breathe deep breaths in and deep breaths out, "Let us forget our own ideas of what the world is for. We do not know." Long breaths in through the nose.Mischa Z: 05:54 Perhaps you hear a car drive by as you sit still, Perhaps you hear a bird chirp in the background. Perhaps you hear my wind chimes ringing, gently. Use these sounds to free your mind and loose your brain of those thoughts, those preconceptions. Ideas of what we think the world is for. And our last sentence. Last thought. "Let every image held of everyone, be loosened from our minds and swept away." Breathe that in. Long breath out. That is worth another read. "Let every image held of everyone, be loosened from our minds and swept away."Mischa Z: 07:57 I want you to use this time to see the space, to release your thoughts of judgment, of places, things, and for, particularly people. And let innocence and new and freeing thoughts flow through, Which will allow you to see people, even people that you think, you know, in a fresh new light. Take a big breath in. Long breath out through the mouth. If your eyes are closed, blink your eyes open and roll your neck from side to side, give yourself a big hug and take these new, fresh thoughts, awareness ,perception out into your day. Thank you for participating in meditation number one on the Bitch Slap Accelerated Path To Peace Podcast. Have a good day.

Dr. Jason ZW Powers is the creator of the Positive Recovery© approach to treating addiction and serves as Chief Medical Officer of Positive Recovery Centers. Dr. Jason has a private addiction medicine practice in Houston, Texas, works as an interventionist, and is a published author of When the Servant Becomes the Master (2nd Edition) - the a A-to-Z guide of all things related to addiction, and The Positive Recovery© Daily Guide, a self-help guide full of positive interventions that are designed to intentionally boost what leads to human happiness: positive emotions, engagement, relationships, meaning, and achievement. Dr. Jason is board certified in Family Medicine and Addiction Medicine. He received a Masters in Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. Dr. Jason currently resides in Houston with his wife and 3 children.Connect with Dr. JasonPositive Recovery Centers Instagram | @positiverecoverycentersPositive Recovery Centers Website | positiverecovery.comPositive Recovery MD Podcast | Positive Recovery MD on Apple PodcastsConnect with The Courage to ChangePodcast Website | lionrock.life/couragetochangepodcastPodcast Instagram | @couragetochange_podcastPodcast Facebook | @thecouragetochangepodcastPodcast Email | podcast@lionrock.lifeYouTube | The Courage to Change PlaylistLionrock ResourcesLionrock Life Mobile App | lionrock.life/mobile-appSupport Group Meeting Schedule | lionrock.life/meetings

I finish "Man's Search For Meaning" on my camping trip.  And looking up the side of the mountain I immediately have an opportunity to put his ideas in practice.  It's better than NetFlix!Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:03 All right. Victor E Frankl, Frankl Frankl. Yes. Victor E Frankl. "Man's Search For Meaning" more thoughts of my camping trip. Um, on the last episode, I was going to say how Victor Frankl perhaps inspired me, or I got to draw a direct correlation between service and, um, how Victor Frankel thinks what drives man is meaning having meaning in your life. And Victor breaks it down into three main ways. It's not necessarily what I'm going to do on this episode because I've not prepared. Gosh, you'd hope I would be, but there's lots of winging it these days. Um, it seems that there's always something going on. Let it rip, let it rip, take the messy action. Anybody out there wanting to create a podcast, a blog, a YouTube channel who wants to start, you know, getting their thoughts, ideas, their message out there, or maybe they just want to entertain who knows what the motive is, but they want to use a blog, a YouTube channel, um, a podcast as a mechanism for this or this, the source to do that.Mischa Z: 01:29 Take the messy action. Just take the messy action. That's what I'm going to tell you because you probably, well, I'm guessing you don't have an audience yet, so no one's going to be there to judge you. And if you do have an audience while they know who you are anyways, so no big deal take the messy action is which what I seem to be gifted with doing, taking the messy action on my podcast. So Viktor Frankl, um, you know, one of the things he talks about is his, his meaning how having a purpose in your life, and it does not have to be big and it doesn't have to be, it's having meaning in the moment. That's what it is. It's having meaning meaning in the moment. And he talks a lot about it in regards to the concentration camp experience and how people can derive meaning in life, even though they're headed towards death rapidly or they're seeing it or, or all of this.Mischa Z: 02:40 And I am, I'm hesitant to talk about it because it's so extreme. And I'm a white boy from Wyoming who now lives in Encinitas, California making podcast episodes. So, um, one thing I had been saying to a few friends is, you know, as we're trying to detach from controlling people, places and things, and trying to learn how to find joy or meaning in, in the moment and cede control of, of how we think people are supposed to act, feel, think what they're supposed to do, you know, as we're scaling God up bigger and bigger, and then, you know, inevitably someone brings these extreme circumstances of murderers and rapists and, you know, military leaders or, you know, leaders who do lots of damage. Right? And I had this thought of like, well, can we have our god so big and trust so much that there is something greater than this moment of our human existence, that if we were to have an executioner or we could smile lovingly to that executioner, or as they were opening the door to, you know, the, the, the hangman's noose for us, and I'm doing the best I can to talk about that idea, to be willing, to talk about that idea, to conceptualize that idea, given my, given my circumstances.Mischa Z: 04:35 Um, and so fast forward to reading Victor Frankel's book, and then in essence, he's talking about love and finding meaning in the moment as you're, you know, suffering extremely and perhaps dying, um, or being put to death. Um, I'm going to still work on how to talk about that. I think they're, they're interesting ideas. One idea that he floats is, um, is like: if you put even a small amount of gas in an enclosed space, the gas evenly distributes through that space, perfectly, and he correlates that to that, to suffering. He's like, so it doesn't matter how much suffering you have in a human consciousness. If it's a little, it's going to fill up the space. Same as gas fills up the void. And so he's like, Hey, his thesis is suffering a suffering, which is pretty crazy, right? Cause this dude went through for three years in four concentration camps.Mischa Z: 06:07 Um, anyway, I get my, thank you for listening to that. I'm going to try to continue to talk about the ideas that were sussed out, um, by Viktor Frankl in his book and within me. And one thing was, is finding meaning one way to find meaning is service. How can you serve in the moment? And, uh, I love that because I'm all about service. I've talked about it on other episodes. It's a big part of, you know, recovery of the recovery community is carrying the message. How can you be of service? And it's obviously within churches and religions and, and there's plenty of nonprofits out there. And so it's, it's this, isn't a new idea by any means on a big scale, as well as on a small scale. Being nice, forgiving, smiling, opening the door for somebody. Like it can be the tiniest things, a gracious nod, letting somebody in within traffic, like letting somebody in without throwing a fit, flipping them off. You know, if somebody cuts you off graciously, be cut off smile, wave. Thank you.Mischa Z: 07:31 Um, so it's, it's about nine o'clock at night on the camping trip and it's dark and there is a heavy, there's this part of a climb to get to the next lake. I wish I could remember what it is, but it was up heavy, heavy, like you almost wanted to have ropes, but you know, people were doing it with backpacks and things. But a couple of guys we look up and all of a sudden we see headlamps at nine o'clock at night, scaling down this chute to get back to crater, to, um, iceberg lake. And, um, it was hard enough for people to do that part of the hike in daylight let alone at night. So it was, it was honestly better than watching Netflix because it's a very far away, but you can see the two headlight beams and a very dramatic, very dramatic.Mischa Z: 08:31 They make it that it takes them half an hour, 45 minutes, whatever it is. And, um, they walked by us because the trail goes by our campsite and we're talking to them for a second. And I say, Hey, I'm inspired all of a sudden, Hey, do you guys need a campsite? Because they're clearly tired by now. It's 10 o'clock at night and you can't see anything to find a campsite. And, um, I happened to know where a couple of campsites were and they were so relieved and so excited and so happy. And, um, and I just thought of Victor Frankl and being of service and, and how in that moment after just finishing his book, I got to ask those guys if I could help them with a campsite. And we showed him this, uh, ridiculous campsite that we found, and they were just so happy.Mischa Z: 09:28 And, you know, I was gratified in the moment gratified in that I had meaning. And, um, it was just a really cool experience and to be in nature, just feeling the whole vibe of that, all the flow of it all. And, uh, yes, I'm doing a quick time check. Um, that's what I've got for you. The serendipitous events that led to me finishing the whole book and then yeah, I would encourage anybody to read "Man's Search For Meaning". Great, great book, just a great, great book. And I'll talk more about it. Love to all again, I'm going to say, get your tails out there and go camping. Get out in nature detached for two or three days, if you can, but I guess you can do silent retreats, all sorts of things. Um, many people are doing that. I'm just going to encourage you to do it again. If you have done it and absolutely get out there, if you haven't. All right, I'm done peace out.

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Part 2 of our conversation with Tim G.  Like almost everything Tim has done, it's happened kicking and screaming.  That includes his outdoor meeting, painting and gardening.  But once he's done it, he felt better.  We all can identify.Please help support the show by giving it a review and rating in Apple Podcasts.  Find Recovery Links, access to social media and email at https://notalonerecovery.com/Please share with friends and family.Cover artwork courtesy of Tim G.

Samantha & Nicole Senia are a dynamic, passionate mother daughter duo supporting each other in sobriety. Samantha is a born entrepreneur. When her marriage fell apart, she drowned herself in chardonnay until she was no longer functioning. With sheer grit, she joined the road to recovery and started a new empire out of her garage, determined to teach her two kids, Nicole and Brandon, that they can do anything they set their mind to. Nicole is a creative soul with a mission to remove the stigma associated with sobriety Nicole was on a fast track to success on her artistic path when addiction to drugs and alcohol derailed her plans. After getting sober, Nicole is pursuing her passion for singing and songwriting and completing her college degree at Loyola Marymount University.Today, Samantha is the CEO of Elite Home Staging and Elite Maison, a furniture collection, where she has garnered numerous accolades for being one of the most sought-after stagers in Southern California. She works with her daughter Nicole who is one of the top saleswomen at Elite Home Staging.The mother daughter duo recently started THE POWER OF WE, a podcast that peels back the curtain on sobriety, sanity, and survival.Connect with Samantha & Nicole SeniaInstagram | The Power of We Podcast | @thepowerofweofficialInstagram | Elite Home Staging | @elitehomestagingInstagram | Elite Maison |  @shopelitemaisonWebsite | The Power of We Podcast | thepowerofwelive.comConnect The Courage to ChangePodcast Website | lionrock.life/couragetochangepodcastPodcast Instagram | @couragetochange_podcastPodcast Facebook | @thecouragetochangepodcastPodcast Email | podcast@lionrock.lifeYouTube | The Courage to Change PlaylistLionrock ResourcesLionrock Life Mobile App | lionrock.life/mobile-appSupport Group Meeting Schedule | lionrock.life/meetings

We Talk with Carleen About her addiction, how she overcame an eating disorder to be on of the fittest people on the planet. We talk what life is like being married to a first responder, and the decision to start a family and discusses the issues that they had to overcome, and the surprises of the 4th Trimester and how they have now settled into a really good groove.

What would life be like if we gave ourselves PERMISSION? Permission to truly chill, to feel deeply, to open up and express ourselves in ways that serve us - and others? Kristoffer “KC” Carter has A LOT of ideas about this. He's the exact opposite of aspirational hustle culture and warmed over self help -- and he's Laura's coach! In this episode, Kristoffer shows us what happens when a disaffected sales dude goes deep into the world of meditation and spirituality and emerges as a Fortune 100 executive coach and unwavering advocate for every. single. one. of us. Have a pen and paper handy for this one, because the wisdom is flowing. The Four Permissions: https://www.thisepiclife.com/manifesto/ KC's Book Permission To Glow: https://www.thisepiclife.com/book/ Meet KC: https://www.thisepiclife.com/about/ Tell Me Something True is a 100% independent podcast. There are no corporations or advertisers backing this community. We are 100% funded by the TMST community. Support TMST, hear uncut interviews, and keep it ad-free: https://tmst.supercast.com/ Join our free online community (it's not a Facebook group!): https://www.tmstpod.com/