Charting Toward Intimacy

Transform your sex life in just one hour with the Orgasm Course for Catholic Women In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen dive into the four temperaments—choleric, sanguine, melancholic, and phlegmatic—and explore how these personality types can influence your sex life and relationships. They break down the core traits of each temperament, discuss common challenges and strengths, and share practical advice for embracing your unique personality in marriage. Ellen and Kathleen also reflect on their own experiences and encourage listeners to consider how understanding temperaments can lead to deeper connection and communication. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Check out the Orgasm Course fort Catholic WomenEllen addresses a listener's question about having sex after a vasectomy now that they understand Catholic Church teachings on permanent sterilization. She explains the forgiveness received through confession, the lack of requirement for a vasectomy reversal by the Church, and the psychological journey of fully accepting God's grace. Ellen discusses the emotional impact of sin and offers insights on how to handle lingering discomfort and seek further healing through prayer and understanding.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Check out the Orgasm Course fort Catholic WomenEllen and Kathleen discuss the challenges of recognizing our own faults in marriage and how focusing on self-improvement can positively impact our relationships. They explore the importance of grace, self-reflection, and honest communication. The hosts emphasize that while it's easy to pinpoint our spouse's shortcomings, acknowledging and working on our own flaws can lead to a happier, more virtuous marriage.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Check out the Orgasm Course fort Catholic WomenExperiencing painful sex? Check out this 11 minute video on healing painful sex from a Catholic perspectiveIn this episode, Ellen shares a simple yet effective tip to help women reach orgasm by focusing on breathing. Ellen explains how holding your breath can create muscle tension, hindering the ability to relax and receive sexual pleasure. She discusses different breathing techniques such as 4-4-6 and box breathing, which help in regulating the nervous system. Ellen advises to prioritize deep and normal breathing, especially as the arousal builds, to facilitate orgasm. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get the Orgasm Course for Catholic Women right here!In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the challenging topic of navigating sex and intimacy after a fight. They provide insights on balancing the physical and emotional aspects of intimacy, recognizing the importance of the sacrament of marriage, and the choice to be intimate despite lingering feelings of hurt. They also emphasize the significance of prayer, sacraments, and spiritual growth to strengthen marriage. Ellen and Kathleen share personal experiences and practical advice on overcoming mental blocks, addressing arguments, and nurturing the marital bond.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Check out the Orgasm Course fort Catholic WomenIn this episode, Ellen delves into the complex issue of whether one should always say yes to their spouse in a marital context. Drawing parallels with the Annunciation, where Mary freely chose to say yes, Ellen offers a practical meditation to help navigate these feelings of obligation. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their decisions without overthinking and to seek inspiration from Mary's example of a joyful and grace-filled yes.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get Let's Talk About "It" right here and transform your marriage and sex lifeThis episode delves into the common experience in marriages where one spouse feels they are giving more than the other, particularly in the context of sex life and overall marital responsibilities. Ellen and Kathleen discuss the myth of a 50/50 marriage and share personal stories of times when they and their spouses bore unequal burdens. They highlight how these imbalances are a part of life's seasons and encourage focusing on the effort and sacrifices each partner makes in different areas.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get Let's Talk About "It" Right HERE!Ellen discusses the concept of marital debt and the perceived obligation for married couples to have sex. She explores this in the context of Catholic teachings on attending Sunday Mass and Holy Days of Obligation. Ellen argues that the true essence of these obligations lies not in mere obedience but in a deep, life-giving desire. Just as attending Mass should stem from a genuine yearning to connect with God, marital intimacy should be driven by a desire for deep communion with one's spouse, rather than a mere sense of duty___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Check out the Getting in the Mood Guide!In this episode Ellen and Kathleen explore the challenges and frustrations often associated with Natural Family Planning (NFP). They delve into the importance of choosing positive thoughts and gratitude, even in difficult circumstances, to improve one's marital intimacy and overall outlook on NFP. Through practical advice and thought-provoking insights, Ellen and Kathleen encourage listeners to shift their perspective, recognize NFP as a gift, and find strength in their faith and discernment.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Check out our courses and guides at Vinesinfullbloom.com/coursesIn this episode Ellen addresses the common concern of finding time for sex in the midst of busy modern lives filled with jobs, kids, and various commitments. Ellen emphasizes that we find time for what we prioritize, comparing the scheduling of sex to the commitment of attending Mass. She encourages listeners to evaluate their weekly activities, prioritize sex, and follow through on these priorities to enhance their marital intimacy. Ellen suggests practical steps, including scheduling and hierarchical prioritization, and reassures listeners to trust in God's provision of time and capacity.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Need help with how to actually say what you want to your husband? Get Let's Talk About "It"!This episode addresses the common struggle of figuring out personal sexual desires within a marriage, particularly from a Catholic perspective. The hosts discuss the importance of communicating needs, such as specific types of foreplay, to one's spouse while maintaining boundaries. The conversation emphasizes the power of positive thoughts and the importance of setting an appropriate time and atmosphere for such imaginative exercises. We also mentioned the Orgasm Course if you're looking for that!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Need help getting in the mood for sex. Your answer is the getting in the mood guide, right hereEllen discusses the challenge of staying present during sex and introduces the concept of storytelling as a helpful technique. She clarifies the difference between storytelling and role-playing, emphasizing the importance of maintaining the dignity of the act in accordance with Catholic faith. Ellen provides examples of how couples can use their imagination to create engaging scenarios and memories to enhance intimacy. She also mentions a new guide available for more tips on getting in the mood using imaginative and morally appropriate methods.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Check out the Getting in the Mood Guide Here!In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the appropriateness of Catholic women consuming romance novels and PG-13/R-rated media like Bridgerton and Game of Thrones. They explore the potential negative impact such content can have on brain chemistry, intimacy, and marital relationships. The hosts offer practical advice on recognizing and eliminating detrimental media from one's life, emphasize the importance of using one's imagination positively, and recommend using spiritually enriching content like Song of Songs to foster intimacy. They also introduce a forthcoming 'Getting in the Mood' guide to help women find morally acceptable ways to enhance their marital intimacy.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get the FREE Foreplay Foundations Course right here!In this episode, Ellen discusses the challenges of communicating and embracing the Church's teachings on Natural Family Planning (NFP) and marital intimacy. She reflects on a personal conversation with a family member who acknowledged that NFP is a 'hard sell.' Ellen delves into the difficulties of living out these teachings, the role of suffering in the Christian life, and how enduring these challenges can ultimately lead to spiritual growth and redemption. She encourages listeners to remain steadfast in their faith and commitments, despite the inherent struggles.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Transform your sex life with 7 essential conversations - Get Let's Talk About "It"In this episode Ellen and Kathleen discuss the ease with which marriages can become disconnected and offer strategies to counteract this. They emphasize the importance of intentional habits and routines in fostering connection, particularly in the context of marriage and intimacy. The conversation also explores the need for persistence in these efforts and compares these habits to continual prayer, highlighting that even small, seemingly rote actions can have substantial power and efficacy over time. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get the FREE Foreplay Foundations Course Here!Ellen addresses common questions and concerns about sexual desire within marriage. She discusses the significance of sex as a renewal of wedding vows and as a way to image the Trinity, emphasizing the importance of intentionality and respect toward the sexual union in marriage. Ellen explores how apathy towards sex can harm relationships and underscores the holy and essential nature of sex within a Catholic marriage.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get Lovemaking at Ave Maria Press! Use code Ellen10 to get 10% off!In this episode, we welcome Monica and Renzo Ortega to discuss their new book titled 'Lovemaking.' Drawing from personal experiences and mentorship to young couples, they emphasize the importance of communication and real conversations in marriage. They also read an excerpt from their book and elaborate on how it addresses sensitive topics such as sexual intimacy and marital challenges. Their book aims to guide newlyweds and couples at various stages of marriage, offering practical and heartfelt insights to strengthen their relationships.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Transform your sex life with 7 essential conversations - Get Let's Talk About "It"Ellen and Kathleen tackle the common misconceptions about sex and intimacy within marriage, particularly the idea that sex should be effortless. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

NEW Course Let's Talk About "It" is available NOW!Ellen addresses the question of whether it is okay for couples to make out while trying to avoid pregnancy during the fertile window. She explains the role of sexual arousal in preparing the body for sex and discusses the potential physical and emotional discomfort of arousing each other without the intention to have sex. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get Jackie Angel's new book Memorize Scripture here (use code ELLEN10 for 10% off!)In this episode Ellen is joined by Jackie Angel to discuss her new book, Memorize Scripture. They explore how memorizing scripture can enhance prayer life, and ultimately improve relationships, especially in marriage and sex life. Jackie shares her journey in ministry, the inspiration behind the book, and practical advice for integrating scripture memorization into daily life. The conversation dives deep into the benefits of focused prayer and present-mindedness, linking these practices to a fulfilling intimate relationship with your husband. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get the FREE 5-day Foreplay Foundations Course today!Ellen explores why sexual pleasure is so elusive. Discussing perspectives from Karol Wojtyla's 'Love and Responsibility,' Ellen explains how pleasure is collateral and not the primary end of human action. This episode covers the importance of focusing on love and self-giving actions rather than directly seeking pleasure, which can make it elusive. Ellen emphasizes that this elusiveness is actually beneficial, helping to ensure that spouses do not use each other merely as means to an end.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get the Orgasm Course for Catholic Women right here!In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss perseverance in enhancing marital intimacy. They emphasize reframing thoughts around sex and intimacy, offering practical advice on trying again and tweaking approaches when efforts seem to fail initially. The conversation also delves into the emotional and spiritual aspects, highlighting the importance of patience, mindset shifts, and prayer in overcoming challenges and achieving sexual pleasure. Listen in for insights on maintaining a healthy and holy sex life, even through tough seasons.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Check out the FREE Five Day Foreplay Course!In this episode, Ellen addresses common questions about foreplay and the Church's teachings on it. Covering topics such as the physiological effects of sexual arousal, the necessity of foreplay in intercourse, and the moral guidelines surrounding orgasms for both men and women, this episode provides a comprehensive overview. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode, Ellen and guest Mike 'Gomer' Gormley discuss the issue of sexual passivity in marriages, specifically through a Catholic lens. They explain what sexual passivity is, how it impacts relationships, and practical ways to combat it. Ellen emphasizes the importance of non-sexual touch and mutual understanding, while Gomer shares insights from his experience in parish ministry and personal anecdotes. They dive into the complexities of male and female perspectives on sex and intimacy, highlighting the significance of communication, respect, and appreciation in fostering a fulfilling marital relationship. This insightful dialogue aims to equip couples with the tools to enhance their intimacy and strengthen their marriages.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this special 200th episode, Ellen and Kathleen delve into their personal experiences with Natural Family Planning (NFP) and their fertility journeys over the past year +. They reflect on the impact of these experiences on their marriages and share heartfelt conversations about the challenges and blessings they've encountered. Tune in for an intimate and honest discussion on faith, family, and marital intimacy.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Getting distracted during sex not your only struggle with sex? That's why we created the Catholic Sex Course for Women, check it out here!In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the common issue of getting distracted during sex. They provide practical tips and strategies for staying present, such as using grounding techniques, involving your senses, and communicating with your spouse. They also emphasize the importance of cultivating a positive mindset towards sex and how sharing this struggle with your spouse can help. Join Ellen and Kathleen as they explore ways to enjoy and engage in meaningful, undistracted intimate moments.Pop Culture Catechism episode with Ellen___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get the Catholic Sex Positions Guide right here!Stop right now and listen to episode 162 of this podcast before you listen to this episode!In this episode, Ellen addresses the common issue of women experiencing low sexual desire during their infertile periods while using Natural Family Planning (NFP). She provides practical tips to help navigate this challenge, starting with the importance of sleep, adequate nutrition, and stress management outlined in episode 162. Ellen suggests techniques such as scheduling sex, wearing comfortable attire, and mentally preparing yourself to enhance desire. She also emphasizes viewing sex as a gift to your spouse and the importance of a positive mindset toward enjoying your sex life.Mentionables (use code CHARTING10 to get 10% off!)___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!In this special episode, Ellen shares the powerful testimony of a woman named Victoria, who experienced profound changes in her marriage and sex life through faith and prayer. Overcoming personal struggles and the challenges posed by her husband's use of pornography, Victoria's story emphasizes the transformative power of God's providence, natural family planning, and intimate connection. This heartfelt narrative demonstrates how persistent devotion and understanding can turn a relationship filled with pain into one of love, joy, and deep intimacy.Bloom for Women is an excellent resource if you are struggling in the same way that Veronica did. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the impact of busyness on intimate relationships. They highlight how constantly busy schedules can strain the connection with spouses and offer practical strategies to maintain intimacy.  Additionally, they share personal experiences and the role of faith in navigating stressful, chaotic periods, emphasizing the significance of prioritizing family and marriage over societal pressures and financial worries.Check out the O Course for Catholic Women right here! ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode, Ellen discusses the common habit of saying no to sex initiated by a spouse. She shares her personal experience of realizing this habit and challenges listeners to reflect on their reasons for frequently declining intimacy. Ellen encourages evaluating whether these reasons are genuine or simply habitual excuses, urging a more mindful approach to fostering a loving and unifying sexual relationship with their husbands.Get the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Ellen discusses the essential role of forgiveness in maintaining a healthy sexual and marital relationship. She emphasizes that forgiving a spouse, while difficult, is crucial for opening up emotionally and physically within the marriage. Ellen outlines what forgiveness truly means and why it is necessary, dispelling common misconceptions. She also connects unforgiveness with physical tension and reduced sexual pleasure, offering practical steps to forgive through faith in Jesus.Check out the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!JOIN US in the Sex and Intimacy Support for Catholic Women Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1518783282289684/___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Ellen and her husband Kurt discuss strategies to balance arousal differences between partners during foreplay and sex, particularly when a man's arousal curve is faster than a woman's. They stress the importance of mutual responsibility for each other's pleasure within a Catholic marriage, offering practical tips for men to manage their arousal and focus on their wives. Key elements include effective communication, patience, and intentional practice to ensure both partners enjoy a mutually satisfying sexual experience. The episode addresses misconceptions about sexual duration and underscores the selfless nature of intimacy, aiming for both partners to achieve pleasure together.Check out the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!JOIN US in the Sex and Intimacy Support for Catholic Women Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1518783282289684/___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode, Ellen discusses the profound impact of the sacraments of the Eucharist and Confession on improving sex life and marital intimacy for Catholic women. Drawing insights from 'The Imitation of Christ,' she highlights the healing and restorative power that these sacraments offer, emphasizing their importance in curing vices, overcoming temptations, and enhancing love and grace in marriage. Ellen encourages regular participation in these sacraments as a way to strengthen marriages, suggesting practical strategies for attending Mass and confession together with a spouse, even in challenging circumstances. The conversation aims to inspire listeners to integrate sacramental grace into their relationships, complementing human efforts such as marriage counseling for holistic healing and growth.Check out the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen emphasize the importance of discussing sex daily with your spouse as a way to improve communication and eliminate the negativity often associated with these conversations. They suggest setting aside just five minutes each day to ensure regular, comfortable discussions about sex. Topics include how to initiate conversations, preferences, personal hygiene, foreplay, and addressing past experiences. They provide practical tips and conversation starters to make these talks more effective and enjoyable.Get the Catholic Sex Positions Guide Here!Mentionables Website (CHARTING10 gets you 10% off!)Here's the conversation starters we recommend!What do you like about the way I initiateWould you like me to initiate in a different wayWhat kind of atmosphere do you like for sexWhat kind of personal hygiene do you prefer before sex? Shower, teeth, sweaty/stinky, cigarWhat kind of lingerie do you likeDo you like talking during sex? What kind of talking do you likeWhat is something you've always wanted to do?What is something about sex you often think about?What is something you wish/fantasize about sex?How often would you like to be having sex?What is your favorite position?What is a position you would like to try?What are your favorite things that I do during sex?What are things you dislike that I do during sex?What was your favorite sexual encounter we have ever had?What things do you like during foreplay?Is there something you would like to try?Is there something that embarrasses you about sex?What helps you relax before sex?What would you like to have done around the house before sex?Is there anything you need to have in place before being comfortable having sex?What are your past experiences of sex?How do your past experiences affect our sex life? How you view sex?Do you like wearing socks during sex?___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Ellen discusses the moral licitness of using marital aids, commonly known as sex toys, in Catholic marriages. She explains that while replacing sex with such aids is immoral, their use to enhance pleasure and intimacy within the marital act is acceptable. Specific aids like vibrators and penis rings are discussed in detail, emphasizing their role in improving the sexual experience without compromising the moral requirements of intercourse, such as ejaculation inside the woman. Ellen highlights the importance of using these tools as enhancements rather than necessities and offers guidance based on theological insights and teachings.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode, Ellen and guest Ginny Noce discuss the critical role of nutrition and lifestyle in enhancing men's sexual health. Ginny, a registered nurse and fertility awareness instructor with a master's degree in nutrition, shares insights on how diet impacts hormone health, libido, and overall well-being. Key topics include the importance of antioxidant-rich foods, managing blood sugar, pairing carbohydrates with proteins, and the benefits of strength training. The conversation also offers practical advice for women to support their husbands in making healthy lifestyle changes, emphasizing the significance of a balanced diet and regular exercise.Get connected with Ginny here! Or on Instagram Check out the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Ellen addresses the challenge of feeling uncomfortable with any touch from your husband automatically leading to sex. She introduces 'touch time' as a technique to build comfort and safety with non-sexual touch between spouses. Touch time involves structured sessions of touching each other in non-sexual ways to break the association of touch leading to sex, fostering a healthier tactile relationship.Check out the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the common struggle of saying 'should' in your sex life and how it can negatively affect your intimacy. They explore the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for these feelings. The hosts emphasize the need to shift from a scarcity mindset and provide practical advice on embracing a healthier, more fulfilling intimate life. They also touch on the spiritual aspects of sex and remind listeners to seek both physical and spiritual solutions.Check out the O Course for Catholic Women right here! ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode, Ellen addresses a listener's question about male sexual dysfunction, particularly erectile dysfunction and inability to finish, related to performance anxiety and natural family planning (NFP). She offers insights from a Catholic perspective on alleviating mental pressure, increasing intimacy frequency, and open communication between spouses. Ellen also discusses the importance of reframing thoughts around sex to reduce anxiety and highlights the significance of maintaining interest and support to help alleviate shame. The episode concludes with suggestions on bringing these issues to prayer and seeking God's grace in these challenges.Get the Catholic Sex Positions Guide Here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the importance of pursuing your spouse outside of the bedroom, offering practical advice and theological insights. They stress the significance of intentional love actions and how they reflect our relationship with God. The hosts share personal experiences and practical tips. They also highlight the challenges humans face in initiating love and emphasize the need for constant prayer to combat negative influences that prevent us from loving our spouses fully.Check out the O Course for Catholic Women right here! ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Ellen dives into the frequently misunderstood Ephesians chapter 5, elucidating its true meaning and emphasizing the profound responsibilities it places on both husbands and wives. She explores how Ephesians chapter 4's call to holiness frames the subordination described in chapter 5, clarifying that husbands are to embody Christ-like virtues, making marriages beautiful through mutual love and sacrifice.Get the Catholic Sex Positions Guide right here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Ellen welcomes Dr. Sarah Bartell, a moral theologian specializing in marriage and sexuality, to discuss how to handle situations where a husband does not agree with Catholic teachings on sex, intimacy, natural family planning, and contraception. They explore the church's teachings, practical advice for maintaining intimacy during abstinent periods, and how to approach conversations with a non-compliant spouse. Sarah shares insights on prayer, the importance of emotional intimacy, and examples of holy couples who have navigated similar challenges.Get on the waiting list for Sarah's My Delight CourseGet Sarah's FREE guide to Enhancing Marital Intimacy for Catholic women and learn 9 Skills for Mind, Body, and Spirit.Check out the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Ellen and Kathleen discuss the crucial role of empathy in relationships, particularly in the context of a married sexual relationship. They emphasize the importance of understanding and sharing the feelings of one's spouse, navigating differences in sexual desire, and the necessity of communication and compromise. The episode highlights that empathy is essential for both partners and stresses that both the spouse with higher and lower desire need to exercise empathy to foster intimacy and understanding in their marriage.Catholic Sex Course for Women - get all the info right here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode, Ellen explores the complex concept of shame in the context of sex and intimacy for Catholic women. Drawing insights from St. John Paul II's "Love and Responsibility," she discusses the dual nature of shame—its protective aspect to prevent objectification, and its role in seeking true love. Ellen delves into how positive shame safeguards intimacy, while emphasizing the need to eliminate negative shame influenced by purity culture and Manichaeism. She explains how love can absorb shame in a healthy marital relationship, ensuring respect and the true value of each person.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode Ellen and Kathleen delve into the highly requested topic of knowing when it's the right time to stop avoiding pregnancy and start trying to conceive. They explore the differences between the two approaches and discuss the beautiful openness couples can experience. Emphasizing a faith-based perspective, they talk about discerning God's will, the significance of prayer, and the importance of aligning one's will with God's. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Ellen and Kathleen offer guidance to Catholic couples navigating this stage of their marital journey.****The Painful Sex Course for Catholic Women is open for enrollment!****Have you experienced any pain with sex? This course is for you. Enrollment is open ONLY until 11:59 pm August 5, 2024. Join Now!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode Ellen delves into the common marital issue of differing sex drives between spouses. Ellen emphasizes that every couple faces this problem at some point and highlights the importance of understanding the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. She offers actionable advice on dealing with these differences, including improving communication, managing stress, ensuring adequate sleep, and proper nutrition. Ellen encourages spouses to stop blaming the disparity itself and instead focus on understanding and empathizing with each other's needs. Tune in for a compassionate and practical discussion aimed at enhancing intimacy and marital happiness.Get the Catholic Sex Course for Women RIGHT HERE!****The Painful Sex Course for Catholic Women is open for enrollment!****Have you experienced any pain with sex? This course is for you. Enrollment is open ONLY until 11:59 pm August 5, 2024. Join Now!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode I (Ellen) am joined by my husband Kurt to discuss the challenges we faced during the first year of our marriage, primarily focusing on our struggles with sex due to acute vaginismus and poor communication. We delve into how these issues affected our relationship, what we learned about the physical and mental aspects of sex, and how we ultimately overcame these challenges. We also introduce a new course on painful sex and the importance of a dual approach in addressing both the physical and mental aspects. Join us as we share our personal journey and offer insights and resources to help others facing similar struggles.Grab the free guide for 5 tips for less painful sex here (and get updates about when the cart opens for the Painful Sex Course for Catholic Women)___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Get our FREE Download of 5 tips for less painful sex!In this episode of Charting Toward Intimacy, Ellen Holloway is joined by Christina Walsh, co-owner of Tighten Your Tinkler, to explore various types of pain experienced during sex and the role of pelvic floor health. Christina, a licensed physical therapist, shares insights from personal and professional experiences, discussing causes such as hypertonic pelvic floors and the impact of trauma. Together, they emphasize holistic approaches, practical tips, and the importance of communication with spouses to address and mitigate these issues. Check out our other episode with Jen from Tighten Your Tinkler (ep. 70)  Resources mentioned on the episodeDecompression TechniqueImproving Intimacy Guide5-minute Root Cause QuizPubic joint self-checkUse code CHARTING50 to save $50 on the Tighten Your Tinkler Signature Program___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode Ellen  and Kathleen dive into the complexities of maintaining a healthy sex life during family vacations. They discuss practical tips for navigating shared living spaces, the importance of sustaining intimacy without sex, and creative ways to find private moments with your spouse. The conversation also covers how to handle charting for Natural Family Planning (NFP) while out of routine, including the use of phone reminders, habit stacking, and consulting with your NFP instructor. This episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for keeping the flame alive even on busy family trips.Get the Catholic Sex Course for Women RIGHT HERE!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

In this episode host Ellen Holloway delves into the topic of oral stimulation. Ellen explains the church's teachings on what is permissible and how oral stimulation fits into moral boundaries as foreplay leading to intercourse. Highlighting the importance of both male and female sexual pleasure, she clarifies that while female orgasm can occur during oral stimulation, male ejaculation must happen during intercourse to uphold the procreative purpose of sex. Get the Catholic Sex Positions Guide TODAY!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Trying new positions can be a lot! Maybe you're not sure how to approach the conversation or you don't even know any other positions to try. This week, Ellen and Kathleen talk all things trying new positions in the bedroom! NOW AVAILABLEThe Catholic Sex Positions Guide48% off for a limited time!Over 70 pages, 50 + positions with illustrations, instructions, tips, and troubleshooting___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions! Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode? Click here to learn more about Ellen's 12 week coaching program. Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comThe Charting Toward Intimacy Exclusive Community is now closed, if you would like to support the podcast, please consider purchasing one of our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses