Podcasts about Abstinence

In this episode, we are highlighting a presentation given at IFI’s 2025 annual Worldview Conference, which was held at Belmont Bible Church in Downers Grove. Scott Phelps, head of the Abstinence and Marriage Partnership organization, shares the Success Sequence program with the audience in the first half of the program, and in the second, demonstrates how the sex education programs in government schools codify the sexual revolution to the detriment of America.   Attend IFI’s 2026 Worldview Conference by registering here!… Continue Reading

In this episode of the Alcohol Minimalist podcast, Molly explores one of the most powerful yet under-recognized tools for transforming your relationship with alcohol: the language you use in your thoughts.She explains how common phrases like “I need a drink” or “I deserve this glass of wine” are not just throwaway expressions. These words create specific emotional reactions that drive habitual behaviors, especially during emotionally charged moments. Using the Alcohol Minimalist framework and the Behavior Map – Results Cycle, Molly walks through how rewording your thoughts can unlock more peaceful, intentional decisions about drinking.This episode focuses on two key language pairs:“Need” vs. “Want”“Deserve” vs. “Choose”You'll discover how shifting these words can reduce emotional urgency, increase your sense of agency, and help you align more closely with your alcohol core beliefs and long-term goals.What You'll LearnWhy your thoughts matter more than you think—especially the words you useThe neurological and emotional impact of saying “I need” versus “I want”How “I deserve this” may be fueling your desire without your awarenessWhy choosing your language intentionally supports long-term changeHow to rewire beliefs using the Alcohol Core Beliefs framework and the Behavior Map – Results CycleMentioned in the EpisodeMolly's book: Breaking the Bottle LegacyAlcohol Core Beliefs worksheetThe Behavior Map – Results CycleNew program announcement: Mostly Dry January – The Daily A daily support experience launching this January to help you stay focused, inspired, and mindful throughout the month.Key Quote“Your thoughts are not just background noise—they're the engine behind your emotions and actions. Change the thought, and you change the result.” – Molly WattsLinks and ResourcesLearn more about the Alcohol Core BeliefsJoin the Mostly Dry January – The Daily experienceInstagram: @alcoholminimalistFacebook Group: Alcohol MinimalistsTake Action This WeekStart tuning into your internal dialogue. When you catch yourself thinking “I need a drink” or “I deserve this,” pause and reframe it. Try saying “I want a drink” or “I choose to have a drink” and notice the emotional difference.Language is the entry point to lasting change.Low risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★

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If you're working to change your drinking habits and create a peaceful relationship with alcohol, you're in the right place. In today's episode, we revisit a very special conversation with internationally renowned neuropsychopharmacologist, Dr. David Nutt.This episode originally aired when the podcast was still called Breaking the Bottle Legacy, but the message and insights are just as powerful—and relevant—today.In this episode, Molly speaks with Dr. David Nutt, author of Drink? The New Science of Alcohol and Your Health. The conversation dives into the science behind alcohol's impact on the brain and body, while also exploring how to make more informed, intentional choices about drinking.Dr. Nutt shares:Why he wrote Drink?, and why science must inform our alcohol decisionsThe duality of alcohol: pleasure and poisonHis personal journey with alcohol, including owning a wine bar while being a leading voice in alcohol harm reductionHow using science can help you assess the role of alcohol in your life and your long-term goalsWhy This Episode MattersMolly revisits this conversation as a holiday-season reminder: it's possible to enjoy social events with alcohol while staying aligned with your goals. Dr. Nutt emphasizes the power of planning ahead, staying self-aware, and not drinking alone—core pillars of the Alcohol Minimalist approach.If you're seeking peace with alcohol—not necessarily abstinence—this episode delivers practical insights and validation that change is possible when you lead with knowledge and intention.Resources MentionedBook: Drink? The New Science of Alcohol and Your Health by Dr. David NuttWebsite: mollywatts.comTakeawaysAlcohol is a drug—understanding that fact is key to moderation“Think about drink”: intentionality and self-reflection help you stay in controlYou can challenge past patterns and create a new story for yourselfSubscribe and Share If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe and share it with a friend. And if you have a favorite adjective for your weather report or a show guest you'd love to hear from, email Molly at molly@mollywatts.comLow risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★

This podcast is listener-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.In this episode of Food for Thought, I explore the long, often-forgotten history of abstaining from meat during Advent and other Christian fasting periods, and how that tradition actually aligns beautifully with a modern vegan lifestyle.Drawing from my own Catholic upbringing, I look at how rites and rituals like Lent and Advent once emphasized simplicity, self-restraint, and giving up animal products, and how language, church rules, and holiday foods still carry traces of that history.I also invite listeners—religious or not—to consider their own version of conscious “fasting,” and I touch on traditional Advent/Christmas foods like Stollen that grew out of these practices.Here's the video version of the introduction to the re-broadcast:In this episode, you'll learn:* Historically, Christians spent more days not eating meat (and often other animal products) than eating it, especially around Lent and Advent.* The idea that being vegan is “incompatible” with culture or religion is new; religious abstinence from animal products is centuries old.* Words like “Carnival” (from carne levare – “remove meat”) and traditions like Meatfare/Cheesefare Sundays reflect this meatless history.* Advent used to be a serious season of fasting and abstinence, not just a time of treats, shopping, and countdown calendars.* Different Christian traditions (especially Eastern and Ethiopian Orthodox) still practice very strict, essentially vegan fasts for many days of the year.* Over time, church rules relaxed, and meat-eating became normalized and constant, while fasting became optional or symbolic.* You don't have to be religious to embrace the spirit of fasting: you can choose to simplify your diet, give something up (like alcohol, sugar, eating out, or processed foods), and let the feast feel more meaningful at the end.* Many beloved holiday foods—like Stollen, fruitcake, and other Advent breads and sweets—arose from these traditions of fasting, scarcity, and then feasting.* Part 2 will dive into Christmas feasting and traditional foods tied to the 12 Days of Christmas and Twelfth Night.Support the PodcastTo keep Food for Thought Podcast ad-free and accessible to all, I rely on the support of paid subscribers. If you're already one—thank you. If you're not, please consider becoming one. None of the companies below sponsored this episode. They're simply brands I personally use, love, and trust—which is why I agreed to be an affiliate.If you find this episode helpful, please consider giving it a like, share, comment, or restack. Remember Food for Thought is a listener-supported podcast, and your support as a paid subscriber helps me continue creating content that inspires compassion and action—for animals, people, and the planet.If you make a purchase using the links below, I receive a small commission at no extra cost to you—and you'll receive exclusive discounts using the codes provided!* Complement SupplementsEverything you need, nothing you don't. Complement makes targeted supplements for plant-based eaters, including B12, D3, DHA, and more—all from clean, trusted sources.

Craving & fêtes de fin d'année : comment tenir, se protéger et ne pas rester seul·eDans cet épisode, je parle d'une période souvent sous-estimée : les fêtes de fin d'année. Pour beaucoup, ce n'est pas que des décos lumineuses, des sapins et des repas en famille. C'est aussi du stress, des tensions, de la solitude… et parfois un retour du craving.Je partage quelques moments où, moi aussi, j'ai eu du mal autour de Noël et du Nouvel An, et ce que j'ai compris avec le temps : les déclencheurs, la nostalgie toxique, la pression de l'alcool, l'après-fêtes qui tombe parfois comme un vide.On voit ensemble comment poser ses limites dans les repas de famille, comment se protéger quand un proche consomme beaucoup, comment gérer une envie forte qui monte… et comment créer du lien quand on passe les fêtes seul·e.Un court épisode qui vous aidera, je l'espère, à traverser cette période sans se juger et en respectant son rythme.Tu n'as pas à tout affronter seul·e.Des bisous,Gab.

This week on The Beat, CTSNet Editor-in-Chief Joel Dunning spoke with Dr. Christopher McGregor, professor in the Department of Surgery at the University of Minnesota Twin Cities, about the current state of cardiac and kidney xenotransplantation. Chapters 00:00 Intro  03:10 Sir Terence English  08:00 JANS 1, Cardiac Xenotransplantation  09:13 JANS 2, Coffee Consumption on AF  11:06 JANS 3, Environmental Factors Acute AD  12:49 JANS 4, PROTHOR Trial  15:15 Video 1, Combined AV & Coronary via LAM  17:08 Video 2, ARCA w MV Prolapse  19:32 Video 3, Redo Elephant Trunk After EAR  22:06 Chris McGregor Interview  48:23 Upcoming Events  50:15 Closing  They discussed the three approved trials for xenotransplantation in 2025, the preclinical efficacy assessment, and the various challenges of xenotransplantation. Additionally, they explored the history of orthotopic transplants, heart failure, and antibody-mediated rejection. They also examined the future of xenotransplantation and the anatomy of pig hearts vs human hearts.   Joel also highlights recent JANS articles on the status of cardiac xenotransplantation including preclinical models, the DECAF randomized clinical trial on if caffeinated coffee consumption or abstinence reduces atrial fibrillation; the impact of environmental factors on acute aortic dissection; and a multicenter, international, randomized, controlled, phase 3 trial on the effects of intraoperative higher vs lower positive end-expiratory pressure during one-lung ventilation for thoracic surgery on postoperative pulmonary complications (PROTHOR).   In addition, Joel explores combined aortic valve and coronary surgery via left anterior minithoracotomy, management of anomalous right coronary artery in a patient with mitral valve prolapse, and redo frozen elephant trunk after endovascular arch repair. Before closing, Joel highlights upcoming events in CT surgery.    JANS Items Mentioned  1.) 2025: Status of Cardiac Xenotransplantation Including Preclinical Models  2.) Caffeinated Coffee Consumption or Abstinence to Reduce Atrial Fibrillation: The DECAF Randomized Clinical Trial  3.) Weathering the Aorta: The Impact of Environmental Factors on Acute Aortic Dissection   4.) Effects of Intraoperative Higher Versus Lower Positive End-Expiratory Pressure During One-Lung Ventilation for Thoracic Surgery on Postoperative Pulmonary Complications (PROTHOR): A Multicentre, International, Randomised, Controlled, Phase 3 Trial  CTSNet Content Mentioned  1.) Combined Aortic Valve and Coronary Surgery via Left Anterior Minithoracotomy: Clinical Experience With Sutureless Bioprosthesis  2.) Management of Anomalous Right Coronary Artery in a Patient With Mitral Valve Prolapse  3.) Redo Frozen Elephant Trunk After Endovascular Arch Repair  Other Items Mentioned  1.) Resident Video Competition  2.) 2025 CTSNet Recruitment Guide   3.) Career Center   4.) CTSNet Events Calendar  Disclaimer The information and views presented on CTSNet.org represent the views of the authors and contributors of the material and not of CTSNet. Please review our full disclaimer page here.

Very Low Nicotine Content Cigarettes for Smoking Cessation: Examining a Facilitated Extinction Approach and Dosing Schedule Drug and Alcohol Dependence Very low nicotine cigarettes (VLNC, 0.4 mg nicotine/g tobacco) have been shown to reduce smoking behavior when compared to normal nicotine cigarettes (NNC,17 mg nicotine/g tobacco). Participants (n=208) were randomly assigned to 4 experimental groups, immediate versus gradual (over 5 weeks) transition to VLNC, and standard counseling versus facilitated extinction counseling (weekly for 5 weeks). Facilitated extinction had participants smoke only in relevant contexts (e.g., places, affects, triggers). The immediate nicotine reduction group reported less smoking satisfaction and lower completion rates (72% immediate reduction versus 88% gradual reduction, p=.02). Abstinence (biochemically verified) at 2 months post study was 29%. There were no significant differences between the 4 study groups. VLNC were beneficial in smoking cessation.   Read this issue of the ASAM Weekly Subscribe to the ASAM Weekly Visit ASAM

If your brain is telling you, “It's the holidays, I'll start in January,” this episode is here to challenge that script. Molly dives into why the belief that we need a perfect time to change our drinking is one of the most misleading and damaging patterns we fall into. In this episode, you'll discover why December is actually the ideal time to begin changing your relationship with alcohol—and how doing so can help you build real-life skills that stick.Drawing from neuroscience, behavior science, and lived experience, Molly shows you how to bypass the perfectionism trap and gain momentum before the new year even begins.What You'll LearnWhy “I'll start after the holidays” is a psychological trapThe science of temporal discounting and how it sabotages habit changeHow to work with your brain's neuroplasticity to make change easierWhy starting now creates more resilient, long-term resultsPractical tools to begin moderating your drinking todayFeatured ConceptsHabit change during high-stress seasonsReal-life application of the Behavior Map-Results CycleBuilding skills in real time vs. waiting for “perfect” conditionsEmbracing discomfort as part of sustainable behavior changeQuote to Remember“If you wait for life to calm down to make a change, you'll be waiting forever. Change happens when you decide it does—even in December.” – Molly WattsLow risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★

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Zápisník alkoholičky je vlastní příběh spisovatelky Michaely Duffkové. Zaznamenala ho nejdříve na svém blogu, pak vyšla knížka a také film, který natočil Dan Svátek v hlavní roli s Terezou Ramba. A následovaly knihy Zápisník abstinentky a Zápisník Nealkoholičky.

Zápisník alkoholičky je vlastní příběh spisovatelky Michaely Duffkové. Zaznamenala ho nejdříve na svém blogu, pak vyšla knížka a také film, který natočil Dan Svátek v hlavní roli s Terezou Ramba. A následovaly knihy Zápisník abstinentky a Zápisník Nealkoholičky.

Zápisník alkoholičky je vlastní příběh spisovatelky Michaely Duffkové. Zaznamenala ho nejdříve na svém blogu, pak vyšla knížka a také film, který natočil Dan Svátek v hlavní roli s Terezou Ramba. A následovaly knihy Zápisník abstinentky a Zápisník Nealkoholičky.

Zápisník alkoholičky je vlastní příběh spisovatelky Michaely Duffkové. Zaznamenala ho nejdříve na svém blogu, pak vyšla knížka a také film, který natočil Dan Svátek v hlavní roli s Terezou Ramba. A následovaly knihy Zápisník abstinentky a Zápisník Nealkoholičky.

Zápisník alkoholičky je vlastní příběh spisovatelky Michaely Duffkové. Zaznamenala ho nejdříve na svém blogu, pak vyšla knížka a také film, který natočil Dan Svátek v hlavní roli s Terezou Ramba. A následovaly knihy Zápisník abstinentky a Zápisník Nealkoholičky.

Zápisník alkoholičky je vlastní příběh spisovatelky Michaely Duffkové. Zaznamenala ho nejdříve na svém blogu, pak vyšla knížka a také film, který natočil Dan Svátek v hlavní roli s Terezou Ramba. A následovaly knihy Zápisník abstinentky a Zápisník Nealkoholičky.

Zápisník alkoholičky je vlastní příběh spisovatelky Michaely Duffkové. Zaznamenala ho nejdříve na svém blogu, pak vyšla knížka a také film, který natočil Dan Svátek v hlavní roli s Terezou Ramba. A následovaly knihy Zápisník abstinentky a Zápisník Nealkoholičky.

Zápisník alkoholičky je vlastní příběh spisovatelky Michaely Duffkové. Zaznamenala ho nejdříve na svém blogu, pak vyšla knížka a také film, který natočil Dan Svátek v hlavní roli s Terezou Ramba. A následovaly knihy Zápisník abstinentky a Zápisník Nealkoholičky.

Zápisník alkoholičky je vlastní příběh spisovatelky Michaely Duffkové. Zaznamenala ho nejdříve na svém blogu, pak vyšla knížka a také film, který natočil Dan Svátek v hlavní roli s Terezou Ramba. A následovaly knihy Zápisník abstinentky a Zápisník Nealkoholičky.

Zápisník alkoholičky je vlastní příběh spisovatelky Michaely Duffkové. Zaznamenala ho nejdříve na svém blogu, pak vyšla knížka a také film, který natočil Dan Svátek v hlavní roli s Terezou Ramba. A následovaly knihy Zápisník abstinentky a Zápisník Nealkoholičky.

Zápisník alkoholičky je vlastní příběh spisovatelky Michaely Duffkové. Zaznamenala ho nejdříve na svém blogu, pak vyšla knížka a také film, který natočil Dan Svátek v hlavní roli s Terezou Ramba. A následovaly knihy Zápisník abstinentky a Zápisník Nealkoholičky.

We give a grade and Two Thumbs Up (Two Positive) and Two Thumbs Down (Two Negative) aspects of the Season 8 "Seinfeld" episode "The Abstinence." We talk with those responsible for making Seinfeld the greatest sitcom in TV history. Our guests are Seinfeld writers, Seinfeld actors and actresses and Seinfeld crew.We also welcome well-known Seinfeld fans from all walks of life including authors, entertainers, and TV & Radio personalities.We analyze Seinfeld and breakdown the show with an honest insight. We rank every Seinfeld episode and compare Seinfeld seasons. If you are a fan of Seinfeld, television history, sitcoms, acting, comedy or entertainment, this is the place for you.Do us a solid, support the Podcast

In this heartfelt and empowering conversation, Molly Watts welcomes Deb Gutierrez, a seasoned nutritional therapist and friend of the show. Deb shares her powerful story of surviving a life-threatening health crisis and how it reshaped her approach to wellness from the ground up.Deb's experience with endocarditis and open-heart surgery forced her to surrender control in ways she never expected. Her story offers a vivid reminder of why foundational habits—like moving your body, getting sunlight, and yes, minimizing alcohol—are critical not only for longevity but for resilience.Together, Molly and Deb explore the importance of honoring your body, the long-term impact of nutritional and lifestyle choices, and how to stay connected to your "why" when making change.Whether you're rethinking your relationship with alcohol or looking for inspiration to prioritize your health, this episode delivers hope, science-backed insight, and practical wisdom. What You'll Learn:Why foundational habits like movement, sleep, and morning light matter deeplyThe surprising diagnosis that led to Deb's open-heart surgery—and her recovery journeyHow surrendering control became Deb's most empowering lessonWhy "being built for it" isn't just about physical fitness, but mental and emotional readinessHow alcohol fits into a whole-person view of long-term healthWhy your habits today are either compounding problems or investing in resilienceResources & Links:Connect with Deb Gutierrez: www.debghealth.comLearn more about creating a peaceful relationship with alcohol at www.mollywatts.com Featured Quote:“Minimizing alcohol is a foundational health habit—just like sleep, movement, and nutrition. These are the basics that build resilience when life throws the unexpected your way.” — Molly WattsLow risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★

In this honest and eye-opening episode, Ariel sits down with guests to unpack the often-confused concepts of abstinence and celibacy, especially within the body of Christ. Together, they explore how these choices are shaped by pain, pride, purpose, and personal healing.The conversation dives into:The difference between celibacy (spiritual commitment) and abstinence (intentional choice)How past hurt, emotional trauma, and distorted self-worth influence sexual decisionsThe mental and emotional challenges of abstaining from sexThe temptation of self-pleasure and how it impacts true abstinenceHow knowing your bloodline helps you understand what you attractThe importance of healing before entering relationshipsWhy abstinence must be rooted in purpose—not pain or prideThis episode is a powerful reminder that healing starts with self-awareness, and that abstinence is not just about withholding sex—it's about protecting your value, honoring your journey, and preparing for divine alignment.

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On today's episode, we have Shelia Vakharia (she/her) join us for a conversation about our right to bodily autonomy. Together we talk about meeting people where they are at, consciousness raising around set and setting, and moving beyond abstinence only paradigms.

In this inspiring episode, Molly welcomes special guest Jillian Fontana, a certified sommelier and founder of Mod Elixirs, a new line of thoughtfully crafted alcohol-free beverages. Jillian shares her personal journey from being fully immersed in the wine and hospitality industry to re-evaluating her relationship with alcohol—all while staying true to her passion for wine and food.Through their conversation, Molly and Jillian explore what it means to be an alcohol minimalist even when you're deeply connected to the beverage industry. Jillian's story offers a powerful example of how we can rewrite our beliefs about alcohol, prioritize our well-being, and still celebrate the joy of tasting and pairing in a new way.What You'll Learn in This Episode:How Jillian's professional identity as a sommelier intersected with her personal struggle around overdrinkingThe subtle but important difference between alcohol moderation and alcohol minimalismWhy redefining rituals and routines around alcohol is a key part of long-term changeHow Jillian used her industry experience to develop Mod Elixirs, a brand-new line of alcohol-free elixirsPractical ways to incorporate mindful drinking while honoring your passion for food, wine, and connectionAbout Jillian Fontana:Jillian is a certified sommelier with a background in high-end restaurants in Boston and New York. After becoming a mother and noticing the increasing role alcohol played in her daily life, she began rethinking her habits and redefining her relationship with drinking. Drawing on her deep knowledge of flavor and pairing, she launched Mod Elixirs—a brand dedicated to crafting complex, delicious, non-alcoholic beverages for those who want a new way to celebrate.Resources & Links:Learn more about Mod Elixirs: Mod Elixirs WebsiteConnect with Jillian Fontana on Instagram: @modelixirsMolly's book: Breaking the Bottle LegacyJoin the Alcohol Minimalist community: Facebook GroupLow risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★

This episode we cover the first silver mine in Japan, as well as the way that this sovereign is approaching offerings to the kami and handling family matters. For more check out: https://sengokudaimyo.com/podcast/episode-138   Rough Transcript: Welcome to Sengoku Daimyo's Chronicles of Japan.  My name is Joshua and this is Episode 138: Offerings and Covenants   A gentle summer breeze blew through the cherry-tree-covered hills of Yoshino valley.  The royal residence, a kind of summer home for the royal family, normally somewhat quiet, was suddenly abuzz with activity.  The regular groundskeepers and those who tended the site throughout the year mingled with servants sent from the capital to make it ready for a royal visit.  Rooms were aired out and swept. Metal fixtures were polished.  The kitchen was stocked and ready to go. It had been some years since the prince—now sovereign—had resided in the valley as an attempt to proclaim he had retired from the world.  Now he was sitting at the top of the state government, but as such, he was more often than not living in the grand palace in Asuka, which he had renovated at the start of his reign. This, the Yoshino palace, was left as more of a vacation home—though "home" hardly did it justice given its majesty compared to the meager dwellings that otherwise surrounded it. And now there was a massive royal procession on their way.  Sure, it was the sovereign and his queen, and only a handful of princes, but they would each need their own quarters and likely have their own household staff that would no doubt need to be fed and housed.  In such a way a "simple" outing for the royal family was so often anything but for those who had to make it happen. And yet, such labor was much preferred to toiling in the fields, especially as the heat of the day started to rise, and the height of summer loomed large in the all-too-immediate future.   Alright, so we are in the midst of the reign of Ohoama, aka Temmu Tennou, the brother of Naka no Ohoe, who came to power through the use of military force—purportedly used in self-defense—and the sovereign who would have a profound effect on solidifying the Ritsuryo state, as well as the Chronicles and the history of the archipelago as we know it.  We've talked about Ohoama's ascension to the throne, and even his first year.  We mentioned how, during his reign, he rewarded those who helped him, tweaked the rank system, and we talked a bit about what we know of the clothing and the material culture of the period. This episode, we continue looking at what occurred during Ohoama's reign.  Specifically we'll be covering some of the ways in which Ohoama and his court were shaping the government and the structures of power to serve him and his family.  This includes everything from ritual, such as making offerings to various kami, to the way that he seems to have centralized power to himself and his family, which would have lasting impacts through the Asuka and Nara periods. First, though, a tiny little digression about silver.  We start in the 3rd lunar month of the second year since Ohoama ascended the throne, or the year 674 by the western calendar.  We are told that Woshiumi no Miyatsuko no Ohokuni, the governor of Tsushima, the island that formed the main border between the archipelago and the mainland, reported that silver had been produced there for the first time, and sent in some as tribute.  This is the first recorded instance of silver being produced in Japan. At this time, silver mining was mostly limited to finding a vein of silver on the surface and digging it out as far as one could possibly go into the rock and stone.  Still, silver would eventually become an important resource for the archipelago.  Tsushima would continue to produce silver through modern times.  Granted, production was limited until new refining techniques were introduced from Joseon Korea in the 16th century.  This was just as Ming dynasty deposits were declining, and as such, silver would become a major export from the archipelago to the mainland.  Indeed, by the 17th century, it is said that Japan accounted for one quarter to one third of the entire world's silver production. For now, however, the discovery of native silver was certainly a good start, but the Yamato court wasn't switching to a silver coin currency just yet—rice and cloth were still the major currencies for tax and trade purposes.  Still this find seems not insignificant, and clearly the chroniclers thought so as well -- as did the court.  They granted Ohokuni, the governor of Tsushima, the rank of Lower Shoukin.  The silver produced by the mine was offered to the various kami of heaven and earth, and presents were made to the high ministers and others of the rank of Shoukin and above. Now back to the Chronicles, and to the meat of what I'll be talking about this episode. On the 3rd day of the 8th lunar month of 674, we are told that the Royal Prince Wosakabe was sent to Isonokami shrine to polish up the divine treasures, at which point the sovereign made a rather spectacular decree:  he declared that all of the precious things originally deposited in the sacred treasuries by the various houses should be returned to their descendants. This appears to be a reference to the long-standing practice by Yamato of demanding that those they had gained some level of hegemony over turn over their sacred objects for Yamato's keeping.    We talked about this back in episodes 19 and 29, for example, when we talked about how Mimaki Iribiko, aka Sujin Tenno, and Ikume Iribiko, aka Suinin Tenno, had both requested treasures from Izumo and elsewhere, to be stored in the treasure house of Isonokami. We aren't told what all of these treasures were, but we can deduce that these were sacred treasures of the different houses and localities, much as the mirror, jewel, and sword were sacred treasures of Yamato.  These were items that early on distinguished the elite class in the archipelago, and had come to be gathered in the divine store houses.  You may recall how, early on, we saw mentions in the Chroncles that ships sent out to meet with others from different lands would place such treasures on a makeshift tree on the deck as a way of depicting who they were—who they represented. It would seem that these sacred objects came to represent the divine ancestors of the elites, and so eventually were associated with the idea of power and authority.  As Yamato spread its influence, possibly as much through the spiritual authority of Mt. Miwa as through its economic and military capability, it seems to have demanded that the various lands that came under its sway place their sacred treasures in Yamato's storehouse—a powerful image of Yamato's authority.  In a sense, this was a kind of hostage situation: recognize our authority, or your most sacred treasures, representing your ancestors, will be at risk .  One wonders if this isn't part of the reason that we find buried caches of bronze ritual items, including weapons, bells, and other such things, perhaps as a means of keeping them safe from those who would steal them away. However, in the new era of the Ritsuryo system, those objects, while still considered divine and sacred, did not hold the same value as they once had.  Perhaps I'm reading too much into it, but this really seems to me to be particularly illustrative of the idea that the cultural imaginary of state power and authority had shifted.  Yamato's power and authority was no longer based on its role as a spiritual powerhouse as much as it was centered on the continental framework of a heavenly mandate and a system of laws and punishments.   And so, the sovereign could return the sacred items back to their descendants, because to do so did not cost him anything, and at the same time would no doubt earn him goodwill.  He could appear magnanimous and, in so doing, solidify his position as the supreme hegemon of this new state.  In many ways this acknowledged the importance of the divine treasures to the people and to the kami while also no doubt reinforcing Confucian stereotypes of the benevolent ruler. More importantly, this shows how Ohoama was restructuring the rituals of the state.  After all, he had the Jingikan, an entire governmental department dedicated to administering the various shrines and sacred rituals; so even if the sacred treasures were returned, they were still technically under the control of the state apparatus.  We've already talked about the Daijosai, the Feast of First Fruits for a new reign, a central ritual to which Ohoama had added further pomp and circumstance.  But as no less a scholar than Herman Ooms has written about, Ohoama also initiated the practice of ordering regular centralized offerings to not just one particular kami, but to several or even a number of kami, or shrines, at any given time.  We see this in the following year, on the 23rd day of the first lunar month of 675, in an almost off-hand remark. Later, in the 10th month of 676 offerings were made to all of the "Ahimbe" kami of Heaven and Earth—that is all of kami that were part of the festival of first fruits held on the first day of the rabbit on the 11th lunar month.  Offerings were also made to all of the Heavenly and Earthly kami on the second day of the year in 681. Of course, these offerings would not just be enriching the shrines of these various kami, but it would also reflect on the various uji connected to each of those shrines, as well. Another example of the court's involvement in these ritual innovations appears to be the worship of the deities at Tatsuta and Hirose.  The first example of that is also in 675, in the 4th month of that year.  Prince Mino and Saheki no Muraji no Hirotari were sent to the Wind-gods at Tateno, in Tatsuta.  Aston notes that there is a litany to the Wind-gods mentioned in the Engishiki, a 10th century collection of information on various rituals of the time, so this practice seems to have taken hold, at least enough to persist over 3 centuries later.  Also in the 4th month of 675, Hashibito no Muraji no Ohobuta and Sone no Muraji no Karainu were sent to worship the Oho-imi deity at Kahawa, in Hirose. The Oho-imi appears to be a "big abstinence" deity, whom Aston identifies with Waka'ukahime, responsible for food.  Worship is again paid twice in the year 676, once in 677, then twice again in 679, continuing twice a year, almost exclusively in the 4th and 7th lunar months, through the end of the reign.  Why were these particular deities chosen for special worship by the court?  Ooms notes that these shrines were built downstream along the Yamato river, which, along with its tributaries, was responsible for the irrigation of the crops in the Nara basin.  This mirrors, in some ways, the responsibility of rulers in the Yellow River and Yangzi river regions to help ensure the flow of the rivers while preventing devastating flooding – a very continental idea of the responsibilities of the sovereign, though expressed here with a particularly Japanese style. Indeed, Aston associates the deity at Hirose, with the deity of food.   Likewise, the Wind-deities at Tatsuta were also related to helping to grow crops.  After all, Tatsuta would have been situated near the break in the mountains that surrounds the Nara basin, where the Yamato River flows out towards the Kawachi plain.  As anyone who lives near a mountain gap is no doubt familiar, those areas are notorious for channeling weather phenomena, including storms, which can bring rain, but could also bring terrible winds.  So it does seem a natural point to pray for good weather for your harvest or otherwise, given the geography that made up the sovereign's world. We also have, in this reign, considerably more discussion of Ise than we've seen, previously.  In 673 we have the Royal Princess Ohoku no Himemiko entering the Saigu, the Abstinence, or Purification, Palace, where she was to be purified before going to Ise, which she did in the 10th lunar month of 674.  Ohoku is said to have been the first official Saiou, the unmarried royal princess sent to oversee shrine operations, of Ise Shrine.  This is a practice we see at multiple shrines, although it's most prominent at Ise. The term for the position in general is Saiou, although at Ise the royal princess would also be known as the Saiguu, after the purification palace.  Although Ohoku is said to have been the first Saiguu at Ise, this is muddied somewhat by some earlier mentions in the Chronicles.  There are those who are said to have been sent as Shrine Princesses to Ise back in the time of Mimaki Iribiko and Ikume Iribiko, but the process was largely discontinued—or at least rarely mentioned—until this period.  There are certainly several named individuals who are said to have served the Deity of Ise previously, starting with the presumably mythical Yamato Hime, who is credited with founding the shrine.  There are also various royal princesses are noted as either having served or as having been made ineligible due to their indiscretions. However, those earlier mentions rarely go into the detail we see here —starting with the abstinence hall, where the would-be Shrine Princess must purify herself prior to approaching the shrine, a process that took some time.  Certainly we first really see this put into action with Ohoku, and from that time the position of Saiguu or Saiou at Ise does appear to have been regularly filled.  That Ohoku was actually the first "Saiguu" shrine princess appears to be confirmed by the "Fusou Ryakki", which states that the first Saiou was appointed when then Prince Ohoama, in the midst of the Jinshin war, made a prayer to Ise and offered the royal princess Ohoku no Himemiko in exchange for victory.  In fact, a lot of the focus on Ise seems to stem from its apparent involvement, at the behest of either Ohoama or his consort, Uno no Sarara Hime, in the conflict. The following year we are told that the Royal Princesses Towochi and Abe proceeded to Ise Shrine as well, though presumably just for a brief visit.  Towochi, you may recall, was Ohoama's daughter who had been married to Ohotomo, aka Koubun Tennou, whom Ohoama had defeated to take the throne.  Abe was a daughter of Naka no Oe, half-sister to Ohoama's queen, Uno, and would eventually go on to marry the Crown Prince, Kusakabe.  That gives you some idea of the position of those were going to the shrine. Princess Towochi herself would fall ill a few years later in 678.  In fact, it was just as the sovereign himself was preparing to go pay a visit to the abstinence palace, perhaps so that he could also head out to Ise.  The court had a divination to figure out when he would leave, officers had cleared the roads, and the public functionaries were in a line of procession when word came that Princess Towochi, suddenly took ill and died within the palace.  This stopped everything in its tracks, and in that year there was no sacrifice made to the kami of heaven and earth.  I suspect that this was in part due to mourning and in part due to the pollution more generally associated with death. Two weeks later, she was buried at Akaho, and Ohoama raised a lament for her. Later, in 686, we are told that the Royal Princess Taki, the Princess Yamashiro no Hime, and the Lady Ishikawa were all sent to Ise Shrine, though Princess Taki returned in less than a fortnight. Why all this focus on Ise?  Remember that the Chronicles were begun in this era, and so the "truth" they would tell would be the truth that Ohoama and his immediate successors orchestrated. The focus on Amaterasu, her shrine at Ise, and the role of the sovereign as Heavenly Descendant was thus part of the overarching narrative that the Chroniclers tried to promote.  Still, hints that the focus on Ise shrine may have been something largely created in this era, however, are scattered throughout the existing literature, despite the Chroniclers' best efforts. For one thing, it is fairly clear that early on, the focus in the Chronicles is on  Mt. Miwa and the deity  Ohomononushi, rather than Amaterasu.  We also see the fingerprints of deities like Takami no Musubi, who in one story is the one who is actually responsible for sending the Heavenly Grandchild down to earth in the first place. It also seems telling that Amaterasu is not mentioned in earlier court rituals.  Worship of Amaterasu by the royal family takes place at Ise shrine.  Meanwhile, there are various rituals preserved within the traditions of the palace that include many other, seemingly older deities. I have also noted in the past how Ise shrine isn't even the primary shrine of Ise no Kuni.  In fact, that is claimed by Tsubaki shrine, the shrine to Saruta Hiko no Ohokami, with a separate shrine to Ame no Uzume, who are both said to have met the heavenly grandchild on his descent. None of this is to say that Ise Jingu was brand new at the time of the Chronicles' writing —there does seem to have been a shrine on that spot for some time, though even the Chronicles suggest that it might have been moved from a shrine originally housed in the Nara basin.  It is also possible, and even likely, that the rise of Ise and Amaterasu coincided with other trends at the time.  Even if the Sun Goddess had not always been centered in Yamato ritual, she was not a new deity, and it may have been the case that her prominence, and that of her shrine in Ise had been growing in prominence before this time, and so the court was now adopting that popularity for themselves.  Of course, Ohoama and Uno don't exactly spell out what they were attempting to achieve, beyond the unification of the archipelago, more broadly.  How, exactly, their focus on Ise Shrine was meant to play into that I don't know that I could fully state, but it certainly seems to have allowed the sovereign to create a new cultic focus for kami worship with a story that touched on regions from Kyushu all the way to the eastern shore of the Kii peninsula. Given the decentralized nature of kami worship, I don't believe it was possible to completely rewrite all of the stories—hence the numerous and conflicting accounts given in the Chronicles.  However, that is also what would have made it easier to hide newly fabricated—or perhaps simply exaggerated—stories in the mix.  And of course, it wasn't necessarily that the Chroniclers were creating things out of whole cloth, but they were able to choose those things that people would remember and what would be lost and forgotten over time.  They had to make the decision, for instance, which story they told was the "main" storyline, and which were listed as coming from "other books", implying a degree of separation from the truth. Through all of this, it certainly seems that propping up the royal family and its lineage was a central focus—even if that lineage was largely something that had recently been created.  As a reminder, we see a lot heavier reliance at this point on royal princes as opposed to other elite families, and an actual or implied reliance, in particular, on the royal family, as that is where Ohoama was consolidating most of the power and authority. Kitayama Shigeo coined the term "Koushin Seiji" to refer to this idea of a consolidated royal—or imperial—family managing the affairs of state.  Literally it is something like "Imperial Family Government".   In Shigeo's concept this was specifically an autocratic authority executed by the sovereign, and those of his immediate family.  Of course, writing in the post-war era, it is more than a little likely that Shigeo and others were looking at the concept of Tennou in the 20th century compared with many other world monarchs.  In that vein, the Asuka and Nara periods do seem to have been one of the rare times—perhaps even the last time—that the sovereigns had such a direct hand in the government and the making and establishment of law and tradition. That said, not everyone ascribes entirely to the idea that Ohoama was a completely autocratic despot—after all, it was clear that there were still plenty of powerful families in the archipelago, and the Ritsuryo state itself was also being strengthened.  Still, it does seem that Ohoama had brought his queen, Uno no Sarara, and his descendants into government.  And they would not only assist him, but continue his work for the next generations, such that even though the histories would not be finished until well after Ohoama's death, they would still show his influence on events. The dedication of the royal family to work as one is perhaps most clearly demonstrated in the events of the 5th lunar month of 679.  It was then that the sovereign, and his family, proceeded to the Yoshino Palace.  Now Ohoama had plenty of offspring—among them 10 sons.  And as long as he was around, there would be a certain amount of civility, but he knew all too well how things could break down after a sovereign's death.  And so he brought them together and he made them enter into a pact, which we know as the Yoshino Covenant, or Yoshino no Meiyaku.  Besides Ohoama himself, there were several others in attendance, presumably those who might stand to one day inherit the realm.  These included his partner and queen, Uno no Sarara Hime, as well as her son, Prince Kusakabe, who would be named Crown Prince, only a couple of years later.  It also included the Royal princes Ohotsu, Takechi, Kawashima, Osakabe, and Shiki.  All of these individuals were made to swear an oath to support each other, even though they were all from different mothers, and they agreed. But so what?  Why does it matter?  It is all well and good that Ohoama brought them together for a bit of kumbaya in his old digs away from the capital, but was there anything really to this covenant. This covenant is significant in several ways.  First off, it is clear that Ohoama was pulling in his family and trying to ensure they were onboard with what he was doing and what was planned.  Furthermore, it set out a clear line of succession, something that had not really been done up to this point. We have ideas on what would have made a candidate eligible, but other than naming a particular crown prince there hasn't exactly been any clear process or rules of precedence for who would assume the throne.  Here, though, we have a list that appears to be in order of precedence, since it otherwise may not seem to make sense, at least from a modern perspective. A key clue in the Chronicles is often the order of the names.  The most important or highest ranking person is usually given first, and then names are typically given in descending order of precedence.  There are clues that this is the case, but it becomes even more stark when we actually see reference to an individual's court rank or the size of their fief.  Since this period brings about court rank even for royal princes, we have some of that, at least in later records.  As such, there is the idea that this order was actually providing for a line of succession.   As I mentioned, up to this point, the contest for the throne was a toss up with each monarch's death.  Claims from competing princes were often considered equally valid until one proved their claim through a political or military victory.  Ohoama appears to have been trying to add greater structure to this.  Specifically, we see that Uno no Sarara's son, Kusakabe, is given pride of place.  In fact, throughout the Chronicle it is typical that we see the Chroniclers designate a queen—a Kougou—that is considered the primary wife.  This queen is almost always found to be the descendant of previous royalty, granting their child a doubly royal lineage, through both the maternal and paternal lines.   There has been plenty of reason to doubt that this was actually the case, and it often seems like the Chroniclers stretched things more than a bit to make it all work out.  However, now we are almost more concerned with the very *truth* that the Chroniclers were attempting to burn into the social consciousness rather than the historical facts, because that gives us direct insight into how the court of the day viewed succession and legitimacy.And that does lead to another possible thought:  since the Chroniclers knew how things turned out it is possible that they were the ones ensuring that the order was as we have it.  So we cannot definitively say that this exactly mirrors's Ohoama's idea, but it certainly seems in line with his history and intentions and helps set the stage for us, at least, regarding what would later transpire in regards to succession.. Getting back to the covenant, as I noted, the first person listed, after Ohoama and Uno no Sarara Hime, is Prince Kusakabe.  He would be about 17 or 18 years old at this time, which is probably why he wasn't formally named Crown Prince until a couple of years later.  He isn't the eldest son, however.  Rather he was the second son.  Ohoama's eldest son, Prince Takechi, was actually third in line. Takechihad been with his father helping to lead the troops during the Jinshin War. While he was some 8 years senior to Kusakabe, he was nonetheless a son of Amago no Musume, one of Ohoama's consorts from a powerful clan, but not a royal princess like Uno no Sarara, Kusakabe's mother. Between Kusakabe and Takechi, in the second place spot for succession, was actually Prince Ohotsu, whom we also mentioned during the Jinshin War.  Ohotsu was likely 16-17 years old around this time.  While he was the third eldest child, he, like Kusakabe, was the son of a Royal Princess, Princess Ota, daughter of Naka no Oe, giving him greater bonafides than Takechi, apparently. So, in the top three slots, we have: Ohoama's eldest son by a royal mother, Ohoama's second eldest son by a royal mother, and finally Ohoama's eldest son by a non-royal mother. Fourth in line, and the 4th eldest, presumably, though I don't know that we have an actual age for him, is Prince Wosakabe.  He likely wasn't too young, however, as he had been given the task, previously, to polish the divine treasures in Isonokami's storehouse. It would appear that six of Ohoama's other sons didn't even get a mention.  That includes Princes Naga and Yuge, born to another daughter of Naka no Ohoe, Ohoye no Himemiko.  Then there is Prince Toneri, son of Royal Princess Nittabe, not to be confused with Royal Prince Nittabe, Ohoama's son by way of a daughter of Fujiwara no Kamatari.  Finally there was Royal Prince Hodzumi, a maternal grandson of Soga no Akaye, and Prince Shiki, a full brother to Prince Wosakabe. Prince Toneri is particularly conspicuous in his absence.  We know that he held the 5th rank, and two positions in government—that of Nagon, or Councillor, as well as the Minister of the Household, our Kunaikyou.  This may be because he was not doing so well.  We aren't told the story until the following year, on the 2nd day of the 7th lunar month of 680, when we are told that Prince Toneri took ill and was on the point of death.  His half-brother, Prince Takechi, went to check on him, and a day later Toneri passed away.  The way these are written it would be easy to believe that it all happened in a pretty short timeframe, but it is also just as likely that illness lingered, especially without modern medicine.  So it is possible that Prince Toneri was too sick at the time of the original covenant, though there could be some other reason we weren't told. This doesn't necessarily hold for all of the others, though.  For instance, we have the Princes Naga and Yuge mentioned in 693, well over a decade later, being granted the 2nd Broader Pure Rank at the same time that Prince Takechi is granted the 1st Broader Pure Rank.  So we can at least see that they were ranked below Takechi.   Similarly we see Prince Hodzumi likewise attained 2nd Broader Pure Rank at some point, and was still around to have his own fief and to receive houses to it in the following reign.  Hozumi even ranked above some of the others were in Yoshino, and yet was not present. It is possible that the princes not mentioned, assuming they had not met with an untimely end that was not mentioned in the record somewhere, could have been too young or too junior at the time of the meeting.  After all, when we look at the known ages of those who were there, we see that Prince Takechi may have been 25 years old, but Prince Kusakabe and Prince Otsu were just under 20, and it is unclear if others were older or younger than they were. There are two other princes who were part of the covenant who were not, perhaps surprisingly, sons of Ohoama.  Rather they were his nephews, sons of Ohoama's brother, Naka no Ohoe.  They were the princes Kawashima and Shiki. Kawashima is mentioned several times throughout the record.  Kawashima's mother was from a high ranking noble family, but given that Kawashima was married to his cousin, one of Ohoama's daughters, that may have brought him closer to the family.  He was about 22 years old at the time, too.  We see him often teaming up with Prince Osakabe on various projects, including the project to compile together the history of the royal household.  In fact, Prince Kawashima always precedes Prince Osakabe when they are mentioned together.  That said, we have evidence of Kawashima only being awarded up to 3rd Greater Pure rank, below even that of some who were not present, such as Prince Hodzumi.  His importance and impact, however, is noted through his numerous appearances in the record. In contrast, Prince Shiki has almost no mentions in the record.  It doesn't help that there are two Princes Shiki, one born to Naka no Ohoye and one born to Ohoama.  Their names are spelled differently, however, and although the first character of "Shiki" used in the Yoshino record matches neither name, the second character suggests that this was the son of Naka no Ohoye and not the Shiki that was brother to Prince Osakabe—though given that one followed the other in the record, there may have been some confusion on this point. And with all of that we have our apparent line of succession, as well as an idea of who the movers and shakers might be within the royal family.  From Ohoama and Uno no Sarara, we have Princes Kusakabe, Ohotsu, Takechi, Kawashima, Osakabe, and Shiki.  Six princes, four directly descended from the current sovereign, Ohoama, and two from the Naka no Ohoe lineage. Obviously, promoting the idea of a strictly patrilineal succession of father to son would have caused some problems for Ohoama's own legitimacy, not that anyone was going to gainsay him while he was on the throne.  However, with Kusakabe they seem to have established that in a de facto format, at least.  Furthermore it provided a blueprint for succession might fall to the other lines should the main line not work out.  This put Prince Ohotsu as next in line, should anything happen to Kusakabe, followed by Takechi.  That Kawashima may have had a shot over Osakabe and then Shiki is interesting as it suggests that it wasn't strictly about who descended from whom. We'll have to wait for Ohoama's death before we can fully appreciate how well this worked, of course.  Throughout history, agreements and covenants amongst powerful interests are often only as permanent as long as all of the interests remain aligned with one another, whether through mutual benefit or threat of consequences.  Once the power shifts, as it always does, those promises and treaties are almost always up for renegotiation, unless they are supported by some higher authority, whatever that might be. Following the royal family's off-site, they returned to the palace in Asuka.  There they had a formal ceremony in the Great Hall, the Ohodono, where the six princes all demonstrated their allegiance and paid respects to Ohoama.  Given the timing of this event, one can likely assume that it was a kind of public acknowledgement of the covenant and the agreement that they would all be working together as a united front on the project of the government. And with that, I think we can bring it to  a close for now.  There is plenty more about this reign to discuss before we move on, but we'll get there. Until then, if you like what we are doing, please tell your friends and feel free to rate us wherever you listen to podcasts.  If you feel the need to do more, and want to help us keep this going, we have information about how you can donate on Patreon or through our KoFi site, ko-fi.com/sengokudaimyo, or find the links over at our main website,  SengokuDaimyo.com/Podcast, where we will have some more discussion on topics from this episode. Also, feel free to reach out to our Sengoku Daimyo Facebook page.  You can also email us at the.sengoku.daimyo@gmail.com.  Thank you, also, to Ellen for their work editing the podcast. And that's all for now.  Thank you again, and I'll see you next episode on Sengoku Daimyo's Chronicles of Japan.  

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Bio: Jenny - Co-Host Podcast (er):I am Jenny! (She/Her) MACP, LMHCI am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, Certified Yoga Teacher, and an Approved Supervisor in the state of Washington.I have spent over a decade researching the ways in which the body can heal from trauma through movement and connection. I have come to see that our bodies know what they need. By approaching our body with curiosity we can begin to listen to the innate wisdom our body has to teach us. And that is where the magic happens!I was raised within fundamentalist Christianity. I have been, and am still on my own journey of healing from religious trauma and religious sexual shame (as well as consistently engaging my entanglement with white saviorism). I am a white, straight, able-bodied, cis woman. I recognize the power and privilege this affords me socially, and I am committed to understanding my bias' and privilege in the work that I do. I am LGBTQIA+ affirming and actively engage critical race theory and consultation to see a better way forward that honors all bodies of various sizes, races, ability, religion, gender, and sexuality.I am immensely grateful for the teachers, healers, therapists, and friends (and of course my husband and dog!) for the healing I have been offered. I strive to pay it forward with my clients and students. Few things make me happier than seeing people live freely in their bodies from the inside out!Danielle (00:10):Welcome to the Arise Podcast with my colleague Jenny McGrath and I today Jenny's going to read a part of a presentation she's giving in a week, and I hope you really listen in The political times are heavy and the news about Epstein has been triggering for so many, including Jenny and myself. I hope as you listen, you find yourself somewhere in the conversation and if you don't, I hope that you can find yourself with someone else in your close sphere of influence. These conversations aren't perfect. We can't resolve it at the end. We don't often know what we need, so I hope as you listen along that you join us, you join us and you reach out for connection in your community with friends, people that you trust, people that you know can hold your story. And if you don't have any of those people that maybe you can find the energy and the time and the internal resources to reach out. You also may find yourself activated during this conversation. You may find yourself triggered and so this is a notice that if you feel that that is a possibility and you need to take a break and not listen to this episode, that's okay. Be gentle and kind with yourself and if you feel like you want to keep listening, have some self-care and some ways of connecting with others in place, go ahead and listen in. Hey Jenny, I'd love to hear a bit about your presentation if you don't even mind giving us what you got.Jenny (01:41):Yeah, absolutely. I am very honored. I am going to be on a panel entitled Beyond Abstinence Only Purity Culture in Today's Political Moment, and this is for the American Academy of Religion. And so I am talking about, well, yeah, I think I'll just read a very rough draft version of my remarks. I will give a disclaimer, I've only gone over it once so far, maybe twice, so it will shift before I present it, but I'm actually looking forward to talking about it with you because I think that will help me figure out how I want to change it. I think it'll probably just be a three to five minute read if that evenOkay. Alright. I to look at the current political moment in the US and try to extract meaning and orientation from purity culture is essential, but if we only focus on purity culture in the us, we are naval gazing and missing a vital aspect of the project that is purity culture. It is no doubt an imperialist project. White women serving as missionaries have been foot soldiers for since Manifest Destiny and the creation of residential schools in North America and even before this, yet the wave of white women as a force of white Christian nationalism reached its white cap in the early two thousands manifest by the power of purity culture. In the early 1990s, a generation of young white women were groomed to be agents of empire unwittingly. We were told that our value and worth was in our good pure motives and responsibility to others.(03:31):We were trained that our racial and gender roles were pivotal in upholding the white, straight, heteronormative, capitalistic family that God designed and we understood that this would come at us martyring our own body. White women therefore learned to transmute the healthy erotic vitality that comes from an awakening body into forms of service. The transnational cast of white Christian supremacy taught us that there were none more deserving more in need than black and brown bodies in the global south pay no attention to black and brown bodies suffering within the us. We were told they could pull themselves up by their bootstraps, but not in the bodies of color. Outside the membrane of the US white women believed ourselves to be called and furthermore trusted that God would qualify us for the professional roles of philanthropists, medical service providers, nonprofit starters and adoptive mothers of black and brown children in the global south.(04:30):We did not blanc that often. We did not actually have the proper training, much less accountability for such tasks and neither did our white Christian communities. We were taking on roles of power we would have never been given in white spaces in the US and in doing so we were remaining compliant to our racial and gendered expectations. This meant among many other things, giving tacit approval to international states that were being used as pawns by the US Christian. Right among these states, the most prominent could arguably be Uganda. Uganda was in the zeitgeist of white Christian youth, the same white Christian youth that experienced life altering commitments given in emotionally evocative abstinence rituals. We were primed for the documentary style film turned organization invisible Children, which found its way into colleges, youth groups, and worship services all over the country. Many young white women watched these erotically charged films, felt a compulsion to do something without recognizing that compulsion came from the same tendrils of expectations, purity, culture placed on our bodies.(05:43):Invisible children's film was first released in 2004 and in their release of Kony 2012 reached an audience of a hundred million in its first week of release. Within these same eight years, Ugandan President Veni who had a long entangled relationship with the US Christian right signed into law a bill that made homosexuality the death penalty in certain cases, which was later overturned. He also had been responsible for the forced removal of primarily acho people in Northern Uganda from their lands and placed them into internally displaced people's camps where their death T tolls far exceeded those lost by Coney who musevini claimed to be fighting against as justification for the violent displacement of Acho people. Muny Musevini also changed the Ugandan constitution to get reelected despite concerns that these elections were not truly democratic and has remained president of Uganda for the last 39 years. Uganda was the Petri dish of American conservative laboratory of Christo fascism where whiteness and heteronormative racialized systems of purity culture were embalmed. On November 5th, 2, 20, 24, we experienced what am termed the boomerang of imperialism. Those who have had an eye on purity cultures influence in countries like Uganda are not surprised by this political moment. In fact, this political moment is not new. The only thing new about it is that perhaps for the first time the effects are starting to come more thoroughly to white bodies and white communities. The snake has begun to eat its own tail.Scary. Okay. It feels like poking an already very angry hornet's nest and speaking to things that are very alive and well in our country right now. So I feel that and I also feel a sense of resolve, you might say that I feel like because of that it feels imperative to speak to my experience and my research and this current political moment. Do you mind if I ask what it was like to hear it?Danielle (08:30):It is interesting. Right before I hopped on this call, I was doing mobility at my gym and at the end when my dear friend and I were looking at our DNA, and so I guess I'm thinking of it through the context of my body, so I was thinking about that as you're reading it, Jenny, you said poking the bear and before we shift too fast to what I think, what's the bear you believe you're poking?Jenny (09:08):I see it as the far right Christian nationalist ideology and talking about these things in the way that I'm talking about them, I am stepping out of my gender and racial expectations as a white cis woman where I am meant to be demure and compliant and submissive and not calling out abuse of power. And so I see that as concerning and how the religious right, the alt religious right Christian, religious right in the US and thankfully it was not taken on, but even this week was the potential of the Supreme Court seeing a case that would overturn the legalization of gay marriage federally and that comes out of the nuclear focus of the family that James stops and heralded was supposed to be the family. It's one man and it's one woman and you have very specific roles that you're supposed to play in those families.Danielle (10:35):Yeah, I mean my mind is just going a thousand miles a minute. I keep thinking of the frame. It's interesting, the frame of the election was built on economy, but after that it feels like there are a few other things like the border, which I'm including immigration and migrants and thoughts about how to work with that issue, not issue, I don't want to say it's an issue, but with that part of the picture of what makes up our country. The second thing that comes to mind after those two things is there was a huge push by MAGA podcasters and church leaders across the country, and I know I've read Cat Armas and a bunch of other people, I've heard you talking about it. There's this juxtaposition of these people talking about returning to some purity, the fantasy of purity, which you're saying you're talking about past and present in your talk while also saying, Hey, let's release the Epstein files while voting for this particular person, Donald Trump, and I am caught. If you look at the statistics, the amount of folks perpetrating violent crime that are so-called migrants or immigrants is so low compared to white men.(12:16):I am caught in all those swirling things and I'm also aware that there's been so many things that have happened in the last presidency. There was January 6th and now we have, we've watched ICE in some cases they've killed people in detention centers and I keep thinking, is sexual purity or the idea of the fantasy that this is actually a value of the Christian? Right? Is that going to be something that moves people? I don't know. What do you think?Jenny (12:54):I think it's a fair question. I think it is what moved bodies like mine to be complicit in the systems of white supremacy without knowing that's what I was doing. And at the same time that I myself went to Uganda as a missionary and spent the better part of four years there while saying and hearing very hateful and derogatory things about migrants and the fact that signs in Walmart were in Spanish in Colorado, and these things that I was taught like, no, we need to remain pure IE white and heteronormative in here, and then we take our good deeds to other countries. People from Mexico shouldn't be coming up here. We should go on Christmas break and build houses for them there, which I did and it's this weird, we talk a lot about reality. It is this weird pseudo reality where it's like everything is upside down and makes sense within its own system.(14:13):I had a therapist at one point say, it's like you had the opposite of a psychotic break when I decided to step out of these worlds and do a lot of work to come into reality because it is hard to explain how does talking about sexual purity lead to what we're seeing with ice and what we're seeing with detention. And I think in reality part of that is the ideology that the body of the US is supposed to primarily be white, straight Christian heteronormative. And so if we have other bodies coming in, you don't see that cry of immigrants in the same way for people that came over from Ukraine. And I don't mean that anything disparagingly about people that needed to come over from Ukraine, but you see that it's a very different mindset from white bodies entering the US than it is black and brown bodies within this ideological framework of what the family or the body of individuals and the country is supposed to look like.I've been pretty dissociated lately. I think yesterday was very tough as we're seeing just trickles of emails from Epstein and that world and confirmation of what any of us who listened to and believed any of the women that came forward already knew. But it just exposes the falseness that it's actually about protecting anyone because these are stories of young children, of youth being sexually exploited and yet the machine keeps powering on and just keeps trying to ignore that the man they elected to fight the rapists that were coming into our country or the liberals that were sex child trafficking. It turns out every accusation was just a confession.Danielle (16:43):Oh man. Every accusation was a confession. In psychological terms, I think of it as projection, like the bad parts I hate about me, the story that criminals are just entering our country nonstop. Well, the truth is we elected criminals. Why are we surprised that by the behavior of our government when we voted for criminality and I say we because I'm a participant in this democracy or what I like to think of as a democracy and I'm a participant in the political system and capitalism and I'm a participant here. How do you participate then from that abstinence, from that purity aspect that you see? The thread just goes all the way through? Yeah,Jenny (17:48):I see it as a lifelong untangling. I don't think I'm ever going to be untangled unfortunately from purity culture and white supremacy and heteronormative supremacy and the ways in which these doctrines have formed the way that I have seen the world and that I'm constantly needing to try to unlearn and relearn and underwrite and rewrite these ways that I have internalized. And I think what's hard is I, a lot of times I think even in good intentions to undo these things in activist spaces, we tend to recreate whiteness and we tend to go, okay, I've got it now I'm going to charge ahead and everyone follow me. And part of what I think we need to deconstruct is this idea of a savior or even that an idea is going to save us. How do we actually slow down even when things are so perilous and so immediate? How do we kind of disentangle the way whiteness and capitalism have taught us to just constantly be churning and going and get clearer and clearer about how we got here and where we are now so that hopefully we can figure out how to leave less people behind as we move towards whatever it looks like to move out of this whiteness thing that I don't even honestly have yet an imagination for.(19:26):I have a hope for it, but I can't say this is what I think it's going to look like.Danielle (20:10):I'm just really struck by, well, maybe it was just after you spoke, I can't remember if it was part of your talk or part of your elaboration on it, but you were talking about Well, I think it was afterwards it was about Mexicans can't come here, but we can take this to Mexico.Yeah. And I wonder if that, do you feel like that was the same for Uganda?Jenny (20:45):Absolutely. Yeah. Which I think it allows that cast to remain in place. One of the professors that I've been deeply influenced by is Ose Manji, and he's a Kenyan professor who lives in Canada who's spent many years researching development work. And he challenges the idea that saviors need victims and the privilege that I had to live in communities where I could fundraise thousands of dollars for a two week or a two month trip is not separate from a world where I'm stepping into communities that have been exploited because of the privileges that I have,(21:33):But I can launder my conscience by going and saying I helped people that needed it rather than how are the things that I am benefiting from causing the oppression and how is the government that I'm a part of that has been meddling with countries in Central America and Africa and all over the globe creating a refugee crisis? And how do I deal with that and figure out how to look up, not that I want to ignore people that are suffering or struggling, but I don't want to get tunnel vision on all these little projects I could do at some point. I think we need to look up and say, well, why are these people struggling?Speaker 1 (22:26):Yeah, I don't know. I don't have fully formed thoughts. So just in the back, I was thinking, what if you reversed that and you said, well, why is the American church struggling?(22:55):I was just thinking about what if you reversed it and I think why is the American church struggling? And we have to look up, we have to look at what are the causes? What systems have we put in place? What corruption have we traded in? How have we laundered our own conscience? I mean, dude, I don't know what's going on with my internet. I need a portable one. I just dunno. I think that comment about laundering your own conscience is really beautiful and brilliant. And I mean, it was no secret that Epstein had done this. It's not a secret. I mean, they're release the list, but they know. And clearly those senators that are releasing those emails drip by drip, they've already seen them. So why did they hang onto them?Jenny (24:04):Yeah. Yeah. I am sad, I can't remember who this was. Sean was having me listen to a podcast the other day, just a part of it talking about billionaires. But I think it could be the same for politicians or presidents or the people that are at the top of these systems we've created. That's like in any other sphere, if we look at someone that has an unsatiable need for something, we would probably call that an addiction and say that that person needs help. And actually we need to tend to that and not just keep feeding it. And I think that's been a helpful framework for me to think about these people that are addicted to power that will do anything to try to keep climbing that ladder or get the next ring that's just like, that is an unwell person. That's a very unwell person.Speaker DanielleI mean, I'm not surprised, I think, did you say you felt very dissociated this past week? I think I've felt the same way because there's no way to take in that someone, this person is one of the kings of human trafficking. The all time, I mean great at their job. And we're hearing Ghislaine Maxwell is at this minimum security prison and trading for favors and all of these details that are just really gross. And then to hear the Republican senator or the speaker of the house say, well, we haven't done this because we're thinking of the victims. And literally the victims are putting out statements saying, get the damn files out. So the gaslighting is so intense to stay present to all of that gaslighting to stay present to not just the first harm that's happened, but to stay present to the constant gaslighting of victims in real time is just, it is a level of madness. I don't think we can rightfully stay present in all of it.(26:47):I don't know. I don't know what we can do, but Well, if anybody's seen the Handmaid's Tale, she is like, I can't remember how you say it in Latin, but she always says, don't let the bastards grind you down. I keep thinking of that line. I think of it all the time. I think connecting to people in your community keep speaking truth, it matters. Keep telling the truth, keep affirming that it is a real thing. Whether it was something at church or like you talked about, it was a missionary experience or abstinence experience, or whether you've been on the end of conversion therapy or you've been a witness to that and the harm it's done in your community. All of that truth telling matters, even if you're not saying Epstein's name, it all matters because there's been such an environment created in our country where we've normalized all of this harm. I mean, for Pete's sake, this man made it all the way to the presidency of the United States, and he's the effing best friend of Epstein. It's like, that was okay. That was okay. And even getting out the emails. So we have to find some way to just keep telling truth in our own communities. That's my opinion. What about yours?Jenny (28:17):Yeah, I love that telling The truth matters. I feel that, and I think trying to stay committed to being a safe person for others to tell the truth too, because I think the level, as you use the word gaslighting, the level of gaslighting and denial and dismissal is so huge. And I think, I can't speak for every survivor, but I think I take a guess to say at least most survivors know what it's like to not be believed, to be minimized, to be dismissed. And so I get it when people are like, I'm not going to tell the truth because I'm not going to be believed, or I'm just going to get gaslit again and I can respect that. And so I think for me, it's also how do I keep trying to posture myself as someone that listens and believes people when they tell of the harm that they've experienced? How do I grow my capacity to believe myself for the harm that I've experienced? And who are the people that are safe for me to go to say, do you think I'm crazy? And they say, no, you're not. I need those checkpoints still.First, I would just want to validate how shit that is and unfortunately how common that is. I think that it's actually, in my experience, both personally and professionally, it is way more rare to have safe places to go than not. And so I would just say, yeah, that makes sense for me. Memoirs have been a safe place. Even though I'm not putting something in the memoir, if I read someone sharing their story, that helps me feel empowered to be like, I believe what they went through. And so maybe that can help me believe what I've gone through. And then don't give up looking, even if that's an online community, even if that's a community you see once a month, it's worth investing in people that you can trust and that can trust you.Danielle (30:59):I agree. A thousand percent don't give up because I think a lot of us go through the experience of when we first talk about it, we get alienated from friends or family or people that we thought were close to us, and if that's happened to you, you didn't do anything wrong. That sadly is something very common when you start telling the truth. So just one to know that that's common. It doesn't make it any less painful. And two, to not give up, to keep searching, keep trying, keep trying to connect, and it is not a perfect path. Anyway. Jenny, if we want to hear your talk when you give it, how could we hear it or how could we access it?Jenny (31:52):That's a great question. I dunno, I'm not sure if it's live streamed or not. I think it's just in person. So if you can come to Boston next week, it's at the American Academy of Religion. If not, you basically heard it. I will be tweaking things. But this is essentially what I'm talking about is that I think in order to understand what's going on in this current political moment, it is so essential that we understand the socialization of young white women in purity culture and what we're talking about with Epstein, it pulls back the veil that it's really never about purity. It's about using white women as tropes for Empire. And that doesn't mean, and we weren't given immense privilege and power in this world because of our proximity to white men, but it also means that we were harmed. We did both. We were harmed and we caused harm in our own complicity to these systems. 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And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that.

Think back to your sex education for a moment. Were you advised to “save yourself for marriage?” Were you asked to sign a “purity” pledge? For millions of people, that was their experience. In this episode, we're taking a closer look at abstinence pledges, including how they became so widespread, whether they actually work as intended, and the unseen consequences they leave behind. I am joined once again by Lauren Elise Rogers, a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach. Lauren brings an empathetic and non-judgmental approach, offering practical tools that empower her clients to take ownership of their pleasure and grow in confidence and connection. Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include: What does a typical abstinence pledge look like? How common are abstinence pledges today? Do abstinence pledges actually delay sexual activity? How might abstinence pledges make people less prepared for sex and relationships? What happens when people “break” their pledge? You can visit Lauren’s website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  If you’re ready to ditch the shady stuff and choose a libido supplement that's effective and that you can feel confident about, it’s time to check out Drive Boost.  Visit vb.health and use code JUSTIN for 10% off. Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today.*** *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

George Returns To Impaulsive | EP. 135BUY YOUR TICKETS TO THE "MAN ON WATER" TOUR NOW!https://www.thegeorgejankoshow.com/Text Me To Perform In Your City! (602) 932-8118 Follow George! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/georgejanko Twitter: https://twitter.com/GeorgeJanko TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@georgejanko Follow Shawna! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shawnadellaricca/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ShawnaDellaRiccaOfficial Follow Grant! (Video / Edit)  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blaccwellBusiness Inquiries Email: george@divisionmedia.coTimestamps:01:00 Tour Announcements and Exciting Clips02:43 The Plane Crash Story04:09 Government Shutdown and Travel Chaos05:40 Nashville Adventures and Gen Z Encounters13:40 Logan Paul and Friendship Challenges16:05 Stand-Up Comedy and Tour Highlights22:28 Reflections on Faith and Personal Growth27:41 Gratitude and Confidence in the Lord29:15 Thanksgiving and Self-Reflection29:52 Imagining Conflicts and Seeking Peace30:22 Heartfelt Prayers and Meditations30:41 Realizing My Evil Heart31:04 Confessing and Opening Doors31:16 Separation Between Us and God31:19 Moments of Displeasure and Sin31:49 Seasons of Contentment32:04 God's Timing and Gifts32:20 Praising God in Trials34:31 Understanding Others' Perspectives35:35 Journey of a True Christian36:13 A Sister's Realization37:03 Praising Through Fear38:00 Lessons and Tests from God40:47 Faith and Relationship with God41:54 Hearing God's Voice42:21 Denying Yourself and Following God42:42 Struggles of New Christians58:13 Abstinence and Forgiveness01:06:36 Gratitude for God's Blessings

In March of this year, IFI hosted our annual worldview conference at Belmont Bible Church in Downers Grove. The theme was restoring a Biblical perspective on marriage and family. This episode of Spotlight features one of our keynote speakers from our worldview conference. Scott Phelps heads up the Abstinence and Marriage Partnership organization, and during his presentation, pointed out that the best way to resotre a culture of marriage and family is to reach a new generation of American youth on the clear, objective benefits of marriage & family.… Continue Reading

Welcome to another episode of "Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick." Today, Michael sits down with Dr. Camden Morgante, licensed clinical psychologist and author of "Recovering from Purity Culture." Together, they dive into the real impact of purity culture within evangelical communities, exploring the myths and messages that have shaped so many lives, often with shame and fear at the center.Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience, Camden unpacks the psychological and spiritual wounds purity culture can leave behind and offers a thoughtful path toward healing, reconciling mind, body, heart, and soul. The conversation doesn't stop at identifying problems; it reaches for hope and reconstruction, offering practical tools for embracing a healthier, grace-filled sex ethic—and even guidance for raising the next generation with greater wisdom and compassion.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Episode Summary:In this timely revisited episode of the Alcohol Minimalist Podcast, Molly dives deep into the topic of binge drinking—what it is, how it affects your brain, and most importantly, how to avoid it. In the spirit of No Binge November, Molly reflects on the broader implications of binge behavior across all areas of life, not just alcohol. She challenges long-held assumptions, shares science-backed insights, and offers both mindset shifts and practical tools to help you reduce or eliminate binge episodes.Whether you've ever thought, “I'm not a binge drinker,” or you've struggled with black-and-white thinking like, “Once I start, I can't stop,” this episode provides clarity, context, and encouragement to build a more peaceful, mindful relationship with alcohol.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why binge drinking might look different than you thinkThe scientific definition of binge drinking from the NIHHow higher ABV drinks can quietly turn moderate drinking into binge drinkingThe impact of binge drinking on your brain and behaviorMindset patterns that contribute to binge episodesTools and strategies to help you stay mindful and break the cycleKey Takeaways:Binge drinking isn't just about getting sloppy drunk—it can be more subtle, and many daily drinkers may unknowingly meet the criteria.A typical IPA may pack more alcohol than you realize, impacting your overall intake more than expected.Mindset plays a powerful role—believing "I just can't stop" can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.The goal of being an alcohol minimalist inherently means avoiding binge episodes and embracing calm, controlled drinking habits.Low risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★

You quit everything — screens, stimulation, even connection — thinking it would make you feel alive again.But three weeks into your dopamine detox, you feel worse. Numb. Flat. Drained.That's not failure — it's feedback. Your brain isn't broken; it's withdrawing.When you've spent years wired for constant novelty, cutting dopamine off doesn't regulate your system — it crashes it.Your neurons go silent, your motivation disappears, and your nervous system panics in the quiet.The truth? You don't need dopamine abstinence. You need dopamine regulation.Discipline without regulation is deprivation. But discipline with understanding becomes freedom.Neuroscientist Explains the Hidden Cost of Dopamine Abstinence

Special Edition of the JAMA Editor's Summary featuring JAMA Network articles published at the 2025 AHA Scientific Sessions. Hosted by JAMA Executive Editor Gregory Curfman, MD, JAMA Senior Editor Philip Greenland, MD, and JAMA Cardiology Editor Robert O. Bonow, MD, MS. Related Content: Efficacy and Safety of Oral PCSK9 Inhibitor Enlicitide in Adults With Heterozygous Familial Hypercholesterolemia Liberal or Restrictive Postoperative Transfusion in Patients at High Cardiac Risk Caffeinated Coffee Consumption or Abstinence to Reduce Atrial Fibrillation DASH-Patterned Groceries and Effects on Blood Pressure Coronary Computed Tomography Angiography in Prediction of First Coronary Events Metformin to Improve Walking Performance in Lower Extremity Peripheral Artery Disease Physical Activity and Cardiovascular Outcomes in Phenotype-Negative Cardiomyopathy Variant Carriers Efficacy of Acoramidis in Wild-Type and Variant Transthyretin Amyloid Cardiomyopathy Atorvastatin and Aortic Stiffness During Anthracycline-Based Chemotherapy Clonal Hematopoiesis and Incident Heart Failure Chronic Kidney Disease Prevalence and Awareness Among US Adults Cardiotoxic Effects of Antibody Drug Conjugates vs Standard Chemotherapy in ERBB2-Positive Advanced Breast Cancer Prenatal Care and Perinatal Regionalization for Congenital Heart Defects Lifestyle Intervention for Sustained Remission of Metabolic Syndrome

In this episode of the Alcohol Minimalist podcast, Molly explores how your environment—your physical space, routines, and sensory cues—quietly shapes your drinking habits. From the shape of your glass to the spot you sit in at night, environmental triggers can powerfully reinforce auto-pilot behavior.But here's the key: these external cues are not the full story. They don't create your drinking habit—they support it. Real change comes from understanding why you're drinking in the first place and learning to respond to that emotional need in a new way.If you're ready to interrupt automatic drinking patterns and create more space for intention, this episode offers practical experiments and key mindset shifts to help you get started.What You'll Learn:The science behind “cue-induced behavior” and why your brain responds to drinking cues before you even decide to drinkHow physical environments and sensory cues reinforce habit loopsWhy changing your environment won't change your desire—but can support itFive practical, science-based experiments to reduce drinking triggers and increase awarenessHow to use those experiments as a bridge to deeper internal workThe emotional questions to ask when you interrupt a habit loopWhy lasting change requires more than just tactics—it requires managing your thoughtsExperiments to Try This Week:Swap Your Glass – Use a different shape or style to disrupt routineChange Your Location – Don't drink in your usual “drinking spot”Clear Visual Cues – Remove bottles, tools, and reminders from sightSwap the Soundtrack – Introduce new music or lighting to shift moodCreate a Wind-Down Zone – Design a new space for tea, reading, or journaling and anchor it to relaxation instead of alcoholLow risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★

 When sex is completely off the table and there's no end in sight, it can leave you feeling isolated, frustrated, and unsure of what God is doing in your marriage. In this episode of Charting Toward Intimacy, Ellen Holloway helps you understand how long term abstinence, whether from a high risk pregnancy, illness, or painful sex, can become an unexpected path to deeper connection. Learn how to find peace in God's plan, grow closer to your husband without physical intimacy, and hold onto hope even in the midst of suffering. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Welcome to this gentle sleep hypnosis session — Fall Asleep Fast. Tonight is about letting go quickly and easily, allowing your body to relax and your mind to quieten. These words are here to guide you into deep rest, where sleep comes naturally and effortlessly. All you need to do is breathe, listen, and allow yourself to drift.Hypnotherapy is an incredible tool that enables us to speak to the subconscious part of the mind – the part that is in control of our emotions and habits, therefore enabling a much higher success rate than just desperately relying on willpower in the everyday conscious part of our brains.Please like and share my recordings - and of course, subscribe to my channel, as I'll be putting out more Hypnosis & Meditation videos as often as I can :).About Me: I'm a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Coach based in Seville in Spain but I see clients online from all around the world, specialising in Alcohol Moderation and Abstinence.Please feel free to contact me for any enquiries via Instagram www.instagram.com/steveroetherapy.#hypnotherapy #forsleep #sleephypnosis #MaleVoiceHypnosis #deepsleep #sleepmeditation Music – Djupet - Owen Meyers c/o Epidemic Sound⚠DISCLAIMER⚠ All media content created by Steve Roe Therapy is intended for education and entertainment purposes only. Like all self-directed hypnosis, the recordings are not intended to substitute or replace one-to-one therapy, medical care or prescriptions from your health care practitioner. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary: As we close out More Sober October, Molly invites you to reflect not just on how many drinks you had—or didn't have—but on who you became along the way. This episode brings the month's theme full circle, offering a powerful emotional close and a neuroscience-backed perspective on identity change.Molly revisits the month's key concepts, including identity scripts, neuroplasticity, and casting “votes” for the kind of person you want to become. You'll hear encouragement to look beneath the surface of your habits and recognize the deeper shifts that may already be taking place.Whether October went exactly to plan—or not even close—this episode is a celebration of your progress, your resilience, and your values in action.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why change often feels subtle—and how that's a sign it's workingHow repetition rewires the brain and reshapes identityJames Clear's insight on identity-based habits and casting votesWhy you don't need to be perfect to be proudHow to create a powerful future-focused reflection practiceTry This Practice: Write a short letter to your “future you” with these prompts:This is what I've learned about myself…This is what I want you to remember next time it gets hard…This is what I'm proud of from More Sober October…This is what I know is possible for you…Bonus Reminder: Change isn't just about what you believe. It's about what you remember. Document your growth and create a breadcrumb trail for the future you to follow.Next Steps: Join Molly for No-Binge November, featuring the Just One More? Rewiring the Binge Brain course. For just $39, you'll receive lifetime access plus two live group coaching calls. Sign up here. Connect with Molly:Website: www.mollywatts.comInstagram: @alcoholminimalistFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholminimalistsLow risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, I sit down with our resident problematic fave for a hilarious, honest, and reflective conversation that kicks off the final season of The Boonie Breakdown! We unpack everything from the chaos of modern dating to personal growth, self-reflection, and what it really means to evolve in real time. We also discuss:

Episode Summary:In this episode of the Alcohol Minimalist Podcast, Molly explores a powerful and often overlooked question: Can you truly celebrate without alcohol? As we wrap up More Sober October and gear up for No Binge November, Molly dives into the neuroscience behind celebration and what it means to detach joy from a drink.Drawing on personal insight and scientific research, she challenges the deeply ingrained belief that alcohol is necessary for joy, milestones, or connection. This episode is a reminder that true celebration comes from meaning—not from what's in your glass.What You'll Learn:Why our culture ties alcohol so tightly to celebrationHow to redefine what celebration really meansThe neuroscience of joy and how your brain creates itPractical strategies for celebrating without relying on alcoholThe importance of identity in alcohol change workSpecial Announcement:Molly introduces her limited-time course Just One More? Rewiring the Binge Brain—offered exclusively for No Binge November. This $39 course includes:Lifetime access to the course contentA downloadable workbookTwo live group coaching calls with MollyA community of support to help you stick with your goalsThis is a great opportunity for anyone looking to shift their binge patterns and move into a more peaceful relationship with alcohol.Resources Mentioned:Sign up for No Binge November and the Just One More? course: https://alcoholminimalist.thrivecart.com/just-one-more-no-binge-november/To get email updates about upcoming events and coaching, join Molly's mailing list.Connect with Molly:Website: www.mollywatts.comInstagram: @alcoholminimalistFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholminimalistsLow risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★

Welcome to this gentle sleep hypnosis session, Rest Deep, Rise Calm, Feel Strong. Tonight is about softening into deep, nourishing rest — the kind that restores your body and steadies your mind. As you drift, these words will guide your subconscious toward peace and resilience, so that when you wake, calm strength greets you in place of tension. Let yourself relax completely, knowing that every breath tonight is building a steadier tomorrow.Hypnotherapy is an incredible tool that enables us to speak to the subconscious part of the mind – the part that is in control of our emotions and habits, therefore enabling a much higher success rate than just desperately relying on willpower in the everyday conscious part of our brains.Please like and share my recordings - and of course, subscribe to my channel, as I'll be putting out more Hypnosis & Meditation videos as often as I can :).About Me: I'm a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Coach based in Seville in Spain but I see clients online from all around the world, specialising in Alcohol Moderation and Abstinence.Please feel free to contact me for any enquiries via Instagram www.instagram.com/steveroetherapy.#hypnotherapy #forsleep #sleephypnosis #MaleVoiceHypnosis #deepsleep #sleepmeditationMusic – A Gentle Reminder - Hanna Lindgren - c/o Epidemic Sound⚠DISCLAIMER⚠ All media content created by Steve Roe Therapy is intended for education and entertainment purposes only. Like all self-directed hypnosis, the recordings are not intended to substitute or replace one-to-one therapy, medical care or prescriptions from your health care practitioner. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

JOIN THE 7 DAY RESET - ▶️ www.therebuiltman.com/7dayreset   Listen to Q&A Episode 1 - https://pod.link/1719651103/episode/ZjViMGViOTQtNjk3MS00NTBkLTkwNTktZThlYzg1NWM1NGM3   In this Q&A episode, Coach Frank Rich sits down with Coach Arnold Czirbrik, Head Coach inside The Rebuilt Man Brotherhood, to answer two powerful questions from men walking the journey to freedom:   1️⃣ How do I stop lust and objectification in the real world after quitting porn? 2️⃣ Why do I always relapse after 7 days, no matter how hard I try?   This episode goes beyond surface-level tactics. Frank and Arnold dive deep into the identity, neuroscience, and heart transformation behind real recovery.   Frank explains how lust is not a behavior problem; it's a heart problem and why the real battle isn't about resisting harder, but reshaping the way you see yourself and others. You'll learn how to appreciate beauty without objectifying it, and how faith, awareness, and purpose play key roles in walking out lasting freedom.   Arnold shares his personal story of transformation from addiction to leadership, breaking down why “glorified abstinence” isn't freedom. Together, they unpack the subconscious belief loops and upper limit patterns that keep men stuck in the 7-day relapse cycle and how to finally break through for good.   If you're a man serious about rebuilding your mind, body, and spirit; this episode will shift the way you see recovery forever.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why removing porn doesn't automatically remove lust   The difference between abstinence and real freedom   How to see women as beautiful, not sexualized objects   Why your subconscious might be sabotaging your streak   The truth about “upper limits” and the 7-day relapse cycle   How to reprogram your mind and reshape your heart through daily action   The importance of identity transformation over behavior management   Mentioned in This Episode: Wired for Intimacy — Dr. William Struthers   The Big Leap — Gay Hendrix   The Six Pillars of Intimacy — Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo   Favorite Quotes: “Freedom doesn't come from avoiding lust—it comes from reshaping your heart.”   “You can appreciate beauty without participating in it.”   “Abstinence isn't recovery. Until you change who you are, you'll always return to what you do.”   Connect & Take Action Join The Rebuilt Man Brotherhood for a free 7-day trial and get access to live coaching, accountability, and the tools to finally break free.   ▶️ www.therebuiltman.com/7dayreset   – Follow Coach Frank: IG - https://www.instagram.com/coachfrankrich   YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@CoachFrankRich   Website - https://www.rebuiltrecovery.com/homepage

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) My husband left me for a much younger woman. It happened two months ago, so the shock is wearing off, but I have no clue how to recover from this. I'm 51 and my husband is 55. He left me for a woman who is 30.2) If you could go back in time and give advice to your younger self about sex, knowing what you know now, what would it be? 3) What do you think would happen if you stopped all sexual activity, including masturbation? Would you go insane? Is it different for men and women? I am a man and just curious—I'm not going to try this.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let's get something straight: sex isn't the problem—control is. In this episode, we go there with award-winning journalist Carter Sherman, unpacking the “second coming” of the sexual revolution: why Gen Z is having less sex, how abstinence-only “education” and the internet are shaping desire (and anxiety), and what sexual conservatism vs. sexual progressivism actually looks like on campuses, in school boards, and in our bedrooms. We talk porn as an educator (for better and worse), the relationship recession behind the “sex recession,” consent, pleasure, labels, and—most importantly—how we each build a sex life that's ours. If you're tired of other people writing rules for your body and your choices, press play. We reference Carter's new book, The Second Coming: Sex and the Next Generation's Fight Over Its Future and her reporting on Gen Z's values-driven “revolution,” not just in headlines but in real life. For more on her work, check out the Guardian feature on Gen Z and the changing rules of sex. We Cover The internet as sex ed: community, confusion, and why nuance matters Abstinence-only programs vs. reality (and risk) Relationship recession > “sex recession” (what's actually declining) Sexual conservatism vs. sexual progressivism—who's setting the rules and why Pleasure, consent, and building a script that fits you, not Instagram How to talk about sex (without dying of awkward) and fight back—locally Because at the end of the day, this isn't just a conversation about sex—it's about agency, freedom, and reclaiming power over our own stories. And if there's one thing this revolution makes clear, it's that the most radical act might simply be choosing for yourself. Connect with Carter: Website: https://www.carter-sherman.com/  Book: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Second-Coming/Carter-Sherman/9781668052457 IG: https://www.instagram.com/heyyymizcarter/?hl=en  Related Podcast Episodes 152 / The Necessity Of Choice with Jacqueline Ayers Your Body Already Knows with Nidhi Pandya | 315 051 / Connecting To Your Sexuality with Aylen Doucette Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!

This week, Molly welcomes back Ian Andersen, co-founder of Sunnyside, for a timely and thought-provoking conversation on the evolving landscape of alcohol health and behavior change. Ian shares the backstory of Sunnyside's growth from its origins during the pandemic to the recent launch of Sunnyside Med, a new initiative designed to support individuals seeking more structure and support in reducing their alcohol consumption.If you're feeling challenged during “More Sober October,” or you've ever felt like you're behind the curve while the media insists everyone is drinking less, this episode offers reassurance, insight, and practical next steps.What You'll Learn:Why Sunnyside was founded and how its inclusive, non-prescriptive model fills a critical gap in alcohol supportWhat Sunnyside Med is and who it's designed to helpThe disconnect between public alcohol trends and personal strugglesHow the cultural narrative around moderation is evolvingWhy sustainable change requires systems, not shameThe psychological barriers that often prevent progress and how to overcome themQuotable Moments“We don't want to be the food scale or calorie counter of alcohol. We want to be a guide, not a judge.” – Ian Andersen“Just because the news says people are drinking less, doesn't mean you feel less stuck.” – Molly WattsResources and LinksLearn more about Sunnyside: www.sunnyside.coGet details on Sunnyside Med: https://www.joinsunnysidemed.com/Visit Molly's site for courses and coaching: www.mollywatts.comLow risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★

Season 14 Episode 374 reviews neuroscientist Friederika Fabritius on the limits of willpower with tips from Dr. Andrew Huberman's research on how to strengthen the anterior mid-cingulate cortex through deliberate focus and challenging tasks. The episode also reviews the brain's reward system and practical strategies—like Dr. Anna Lembke's 30-day dopamine reset—to protect motivation and long-term self-control. Practical takeaways include conserving willpower by simplifying choices, using meditation and focused exercises to build concentration, deliberately practicing difficult tasks to grow resilience, and rethinking how we reward children to avoid overstimulating their prefrontal cortex. On today's episode #374, we'll learn: ✔ Practical Tips for Building our Willpower/Resilience/Concentration ✔ The Importance of Understanding our Brain's Reward System for Ourselves and Our Children Welcome back to SEASON 14 of The Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast, where we connect the science-based evidence behind social and emotional learning and emotional intelligence training for improved well-being, achievement, productivity and results—using what I saw as the missing link (since we weren't taught this when we were growing up in school), the application of practical neuroscience. I'm Andrea Samadi, and seven years ago, launched this podcast with a question I had never truly asked myself before: (and that is) If productivity and results matter to us—and they do now more than ever—how exactly are we using our brain to make them happen? Most of us were never taught how to apply neuroscience to improve productivity, results, or well-being. About a decade ago, I became fascinated by the mind-brain-results connection—and how science can be applied to our everyday lives. That's why I've made it my mission to bring you the world's top experts—so together, we can explore the intersection of science and social-emotional learning. We'll break down complex ideas and turn them into practical strategies we can use every day for predictable, science-backed results. For today's Episode 374, we continue our journey into our mind (and brain) with PART 2 of our interview review with neuroscientist, Friederike Fabritius, who we covered on our last EP 373[i] and her book The Leading Brain: Neuroscience Hacks to Work Smarter, Better and Happier. VIDEO 1 Click Here to Watch Today we're reviewing a topic we've covered a few times on this podcast — willpower — that Friederike says “is limited and (that she) tries not to waste on people and processes that are just not worth it.” She explains: “To a certain degree, I try to simplify my life—I have five kids, a career, and I write books. So, in order to manage all of that, I say no to almost everything else. If I say yes to everything, by the end of the day I'm exhausted. If I then sit down at my desk to write, the result would be a disaster because my willpower is already depleted and I feel like collapsing on the couch. So, you need to be wise about not wasting your willpower on things that aren't worth it.” On Episode 294[ii], “Beyond Our 5 Senses: Understanding and Using the 6 Faculties of Our Mind,” we explored how to develop and use this important mental faculty. I find all six faculties of our mind fascinating—but the will is one of my favorites. It's what I'm using right now, sitting at my desk on a Saturday, to stay focused long enough to write this episode. YOUR WILL gives you the ability to concentrate. It helps you hold a thought on the screen of your mind, or choose thoughts of success over thoughts of failure. With a highly developed will, you can lock into a task, block out distractions, and accomplish what you set out to do. We also looked at willpower in Episode 344[iii], “The Neuroscience of Resilience: Building Stronger Minds and Teams,” where we explored how grit and mental toughness relate to new research from Dr. Andrew Huberman. His work shows what happens in the brain when we develop strong willpower—the same kind of strength we need to overcome adversity or, as Friederike describes, to sit down and write a book after a long day. This discovery even made one of the world's leading neuroscientists jump out of his chair—and I was right there with him in excitement. I can still remember exactly where I was when I wrote my notes about this—on my cellphone notepad when I learned this brain fact. Did you know there's a part of the brain called the anterior mid-cingulate cortex? It's not just one of the centers for willpower—scientists believe it may hold the secret to the will to live. (Dr. Andrew Huberman)[iv] This region increases in size when we do things we don't want to do—like adding exercise when we'd rather rest, or resisting foods we really enjoy. OR, think about the tasks in your day that you would rather skip over. When you do them anyway, you are strengthening and growing this part of your brain.

In this week's episode, Molly dives deeper into the More Sober October theme: Who are you without the drink? If you've ever felt like you're at war with yourself when it comes to drinking decisions, you're not imagining it. Molly unpacks the neuroscience behind this inner conflict and introduces listeners to the concept of our two selves—the automatic self and the intentional self.Referencing Daniel Kahneman's book Thinking, Fast and Slow, Molly breaks down how System 1 (your fast, emotional, habitual brain) and System 2 (your slow, rational, goal-focused brain) influence your drinking choices. This science-backed framework explains why your default drinking habits feel so hard to break and why it's absolutely possible to rewire your brain to make intentional, value-aligned decisions.Whether you're navigating more alcohol-free days this October or simply trying to understand why it's so hard to say no sometimes, this episode offers practical insight and compassionate encouragement.Key Topics CoveredWhy identity and habit formation go hand-in-hand with your drinking storyThe difference between your default (automatic) self and your intentional selfHow Kahneman's System 1 and System 2 thinking applies to alcohol habitsWhy the brain resists effortful thinking and defaults to the familiarHow to start training your intentional self to become your new defaultResources MentionedBook: Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel KahnemanJoin More Sober October with Molly: More Sober October InfoLow risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★