Dear Clementine

Today's questioner has been in her relationship for the last 10 years, she still loves her partner but feels like she's losing her identity & is trapped in the relationship. She doesn't want to end it because they're the 'golden couple' within their friends & family. She needs a little advice. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This question comes from a high school teacher who's concerned that the young women she teaches only have one aspiration - to get married. How can she work with them to help them aspire for more? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you move on when you can't stop thinking about them? Clem advises. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this special episode, Clementine is joined by Dr Sarah White, CEO of Jean Hailes to answer a few of your questions around menopause & peri menopause. They talk stigma, mental health, libido & HRT. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode briefly mentions suicide. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  ADDITIONAL INFORMATIONAustralian Menopause SocietyJean Hailes on MenopauseCREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's question comes from a listener who's sick of her friendly demeanour being mistaken for flirting. Why do men constantly make this assumption & how should she respond to them?If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our questioner is ready to leave her partner of 8 years but is unsure how to. She no longer feels the sexual attraction & is doing most of the domestic work at home. The problem is she has no savings & is studying so she's unsure on how to the separation happen practically. Clem advises. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of eating disorders. This question comes from a concerned listener who believes her colleague may be suffering from an eating disorder. She's concerned the colleague needs help, but that others in the office are continually commenting on her appearance & adding to the problem. So what should she do? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! ADDITIONAL SUPPORTThe Butterfly FoundationFind out more about the helplines available CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's question is from a listener who seems to have left all her hobbies in her 20's. Now she's 40 with kids & isn't as motivated to jump into activities as she used to be. She's missing her old self & would like some advice. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The question today comes from a mother who's concerned her mothers group have outdated views when it comes to the parenting responsibilities of men. How can she correct them & draw their attention to the fact that this should be a 50/50 partnership without coming across as rude? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This one is from a person whose partner has been having an emotional affair with a 22yo colleague. They've stayed together for a little while after the affair, but now they feel like it's time to go. The only thing hold them back is their daughter. Will they blow their life up by leaving & how can they be sure that what's on the other side will be better? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's question comes from a woman who's finding the automatic cordiality between men grating. Is the 'hey mate' language that's rarely directed at women a sign of our 'boy's club' culture? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our listener today depends on her mother for child care but is finding it difficult to maintain the relationship given her mother's troubling views. How can she stay true to herself & also the reality that she needs to keep her mother in her life given the practicalities?  If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The question today is from someone who no longer feels connected to their legal name. Their given name is a biblical one & they are no longer religious. Plus their name has never really felt like 'them' anyone. Should they change it or will they end up regretting it? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our questioner today is someone who's been discussing the premise of Clementine's latest book, 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' with her friends. While they all agree with the idea that marriage is an outdated, patriarchal construct, her friends do still get married & become wives. How can she support them while being firm in her beliefs? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains discussion of sexual assault.Today's question is from a listener who's been on a few nice dates with a man, but on their last date, when things went further & they were having sex, he didn't wear a condom even though she'd asked him to. He made his excuses, but she still feels uneasy. Does this incident make him a bad person? Is she over-reacting & how can she trust men in the bedroom again? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This question is from a person who's ready to leave their partner, but is worried about the impact on their kids - will they suffer if their dad's not around? Will they be picked on from coming from a 'broken home'? Clem advises. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our question comes from a woman who got married 10 years ago & changed her name without really thinking about it. A decade later, she regrets the decision & wants to change it back to her maiden name. Her husband says she's being ridiculous. Is she?  If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's marriage week on Dear Clementine to celebrate the release of Clementine's latest book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage'. All week Clementine will be answering your questions around marriage & sharing the phenomenal knowledge she's gathered in the process of writing the book. Today's question is from a woman who's 29 & entering the phase in her life where many of her friends & colleagues are getting married - whilst she's happy for them, she doesn't want to get married & is growing resentful of the fact that these couples are being celebrated for living a 'traditional life'. She fears fading into the background because she's chosen to opt out. How should she negotiate these feelings? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book here. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This question comes from a woman expecting a baby boy. While there are some wonderful role models in her life, her brothers are absolutely not. She doesn't want to cut them out of her life but she also doesn't want them around her son. What should she do? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't' here. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This question comes from a mum who is becoming more concerned with what she shares online about her children. Is she over-reacting or is she right to have strict rules around her children's digital footprint? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't' here. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our question today is from a listener whose 8 month old son is already the target of body-shaming comments from her family. There have been comments about his size & reference to diets. Is this fat-phobia & how can she deal with them? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't' here. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we hear from a listener who's currently staying with her brother. She's not paying rent & he expects her to pick up after him in exchange for the accommodation. Is she obliged to do so? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't' here. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today our question comes from a person who doesn't want to settle for a relationship they're not happy in, but also isn't sure how to deal with the loneliness they sometimes feel in their new solo life. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't' here. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, a question from a woman who has supported her husband in every aspect of his life only to find out he's been having an emotional affair. What should she do? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's question is a complex one - from a son who's been asked to keep his father's affair secret. It's a burden that's playing on his mind - he doesn't want to be the one to share news that could end his parent's marriage, but he also doesn't want to keep his mum in the dark. If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our listener today has been friends with a neighbour for the past 3 years. Since the friend moved away, she's contacted her multiple times but with no answer. Should our listener address it with her or accept the friendship is done? If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's question comes from a young woman who's just started out on a career in politics. She wants to know how she can stay true to herself whilst navigating people who automatically see her as lesser because she is a young woman.If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Please vote for Dear Clementine as Listener's Choice in the Australian Podcast Awards. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our question today comes from a listener who realises that her fear of putting herself out there creatively has stopped her from doing the things she truly loves. How can she start to feel comfortable putting herself out there or feel the fear and do it anyway? Please vote for Dear Clementine as Listener's Choice in the Australian Podcast Awards. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This question comes from a dad whose son has started to ask him questions about sex. Whilst he's comfortable talking openly, his sons mother isn't. So is this a part of a bigger issue & how can he talk to her about this so that his son gets both perspectives? If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Please vote for Dear Clementine as Listener's Choice in the Australian Podcast Awards. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This question comes from a woman in her late twenties who, with the rising cost of living is considering starting an Only Fans, but is concerned it may harm her future career prospects. If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Please vote for Dear Clementine as Listener's Choice in the Australian Podcast Awards. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How does today's questioner reconcile their passion for equality and their deep patriarchal rage, with their need and want to continue to exist amongst, sleep with and have relationships with straight men? If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Please vote for Dear Clementine as Listener's Choice in the Australian Podcast Awards. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode involves discussion of sexual abuse. The question today is from a listener who'd like some guidance on how to share their history of sexual trauma with new partners.If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Please vote for Dear Clementine as Listener's Choice in the Australian Podcast Awards. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our questioner in the episode is getting married next month & wants to know whether Clem feels there's space for a new kind of marriage in society where it's not the ultimate validation of a woman's worth? Can it be a conscious choice made by two people working towards a shared goal? If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode involves discussion of sexual abuse. This episode is a discussion of allegations against and the accountability of high-profile men, especially in the media.  The episode discusses Russell Brand who has been accused of rape and sexual assaults by women who have broken their silence on alleged attacks between 2006 and 2013.  These are allegations only.  Russell Brand vehemently denies the allegations and maintains that the relationships he had were absolutely, always consensual.  No criminal charges have been laid. If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode's question comes from a mum who's noticing that her son's world is filled with male main characters - in books, songs, shows. How can she teach him that this isn't the way things always are or should be? If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, our questioner is struggling to deal with the jealousy she has towards her wealthy friends. She says they are incredible friendships but she just can't get over the admiration she feels for their fortunes. She'd like some advice on how to reckon with this uncomfortable feeling.If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The listener in today's episode is concerned that she may have grown apart from her long-term friendship group. They're keen for marriage & babies & they just don't understand why those things aren't a part of her plan. Is it time for her to find some friends that she has more in common with? If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's writer is a high school teacher keen for some guidance on dealing with young and impressionable men who have embraced the troubling views of Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson. She want to foster critical thinking and respectful discussions, but would like Clem's advice on how to navigate the situation. If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our listener in this episode has done a lot of work to come to a place of body neutrality & wants to know how she can stop her friends from spouting diet culture BS.If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This question is from a listener whose boss has told them they're too enthusiastic, need to relax & should be more like their male counterparts. Is this really a problem or is their boss threatened by their approach? Clementine advises. If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, our listener has a 3 year old child & is very happy, but people keep asking her when she's going to have another. She wants to know why people are obsessed with this & how she can answer them. If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The author of today's question is keen to know whether she's holding her boyfriend to too high a standard when it comes to emotional intelligence. He has a toxic relationship with his mother & she wonders whether she should make consideration for that...If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.