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Boys today are being told to man up by the right and sit down by the left. Coming of age in the shadow of #MeToo and wading through algorithms rife with manosphere content, many young men are accepting the far right's simple answers and leaning into traditional masculinity…without realizing it's stunting their emotional development. Others are letting technology isolate and depress them. What is it about boys' psychology that makes them so vulnerable to the Internet Age? How does patriarchy lead well-intentioned parents to treat their sons less affectionately? When will men have a liberation movement—and do they deserve one? Ruth Whippman, author of BoyMom, sits down with BoyDad Jon to unpack it all.For a closed-captioned version of this episode, click here. For a transcript of this episode, please email transcripts@crooked.com and include the name of the podcast.

You're listening to Burnt Toast! Today, my guest is Tracy Clark-Flory. Tracy is the feminist writer behind the newsletter TCF Emails and the author of Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire. She's also the cohost of the new podcast Dire Straights where she and Amanda Montei unpack the many toxic aspects of heterosexual relationships and culture. I brought Tracy on the podcast today to talk about my feet, but we get into so much more. We talk about porn, sexual identity, and the male gaze—and, of course, how all of this makes us feel in our bodies.This episode is free but if you value this conversation, please consider supporting our work with a paid subscription. Burnt Toast is 100% reader- and listener-supported. We literally can't do this without you.PS. You can always listen to this pod right here in your email, where you'll also receive full transcripts (edited and condensed for clarity). But please also follow us in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and/or Pocket Casts! And if you enjoy today's conversation, please tap the heart on this post — likes are one of the biggest drivers of traffic from Substack's Notes, so that's a super easy, free way to support the show!Episode 202 TranscriptVirginiaI am so excited. We've been Internet friends for a long time, and it's so nice to finally have a conversation. I'm very jazzed! TracyRight? I feel like we've talked before, but we have not, which is such an odd sensation. We've emailed.VirginiaWe've emailed, we've DM-ed, we've commented on each other's things. But we have not, with our faces and mouths, had a conversation. The Internet is so weird.Well, the Internet being weird is a lot of what we're gonna talk about today. Because where I want to start today is feet.TracyWhy not?VirginiaSo I initially emailed you when I was working on my essay about my Wikifeet experience, because you have written so extensively about porn and the Internet's treatment of women. And when I discovered my Wikifeet, one of my first thoughts was, “I need to talk to Tracy about this.” TracyThat makes me so happy. I want to be the first person that everyone thinks of when they find themselves on Wikifeet.VirginiaI was like, “I don't know how she'll feel…” so I'm glad you take that as a compliment.I don't even know where to start. Even though I wrote a whole essay about this, my brain is still, like, “record scratch moment” on the whole thing. Sojust talk to us a little bit where in your vast reporting on porn did you kind of become aware of fetish sites and what's your read on them? What's going on there?TracyI think I first became aware of Wikifeet in 2008-ish when they launched, and that's when I was a proper, full-time sex writer, on the sex beat, covering every weird niche Internet community. And then in the years since, I've unfortunately had many women colleagues—often feminist writers—who have ended up on the site. So unfortunately, you're not the first person I know who's ended up on there.VirginiaIt's a weird thing that a certain type of woman writer is gonna end up on Wikifeet. Why?TracyThere are no shortage of women who are consensually volunteering photos of their feet online for people to consume in a sexualized way, right? So the fact is that this site is providing a venue for people to do it in a very nonconsensual way, where images are taken from other venues that are not sexualized. They're stolen images, you know? Things that are screenshotted from Instagram stories, that kind of thing—and then put into this sexualized context. Not only that, but put into a sexualized context where there is a community around sexualizing and objectifying and even rating and evaluating body parts.My take is that this violation is part of the point. Because there is having a foot fetish—great, have at it, enjoy. And then there's consuming images that are nonconsensual. So I think that the violation is part of the point. And to the point of feminist writers, women writers online, ending up on it—I don't think it's an accident. Because I think that there is—perhaps for some, maybe not all—some pleasure taken in that aspect of trespass.VirginiaYes. My best friend is a food blogger, and I immediately searched for her because she's way more famous than I am, and she's not on there. And I'm glad, I don't want her non-consensually on there! But I was like, oh, it's interesting that I'm on there, lyz is on there. It is a certain type of woman that men are finding objectionable on the Internet. And putting us on WikiFeet is a retaliation or just a way of—I don't know. It's not a direct attack, because I didn't even know about it for however long my feet have been up there. But it is a way for men to feel like they're in control of us in some way, right?TracyOh, totally. And it's because there is something interesting about taking a body part that is not broadly and generally sexualized, and sexualizing it. There is this feeling of a “gotcha!” in it.There is something, too, about feet—I mean, I think this is part of what plays into foot fetish, often. There is this sense of dirtiness, potentially, but also the sense of often being hidden away. It's secret, it's private, it's delicate, it's tender. Feet are ticklish, there's so much layered in there that I think can make it feel like this place of vulnerability.I've written about upskirting. This was maybe like 15 years ago. But it's these communities where men take upskirt videos and photos of women on the subway or wherever, and then they share them in online forums. And that's very clearly a physical trespass. You're seeing something that was not meant to be seen. So it's quite different. But it's feels like it exists on a spectrum of trespass and violation and taking sexualized enjoyment out of that.VirginiaFrom someone who had no intention of you taking that enjoyment, who's just trying to ride the train to work.TracyTotally. And the foot thing, it just makes me think of all these different ways that women experience their bodies in the world. You can't just be at ease in your body, because someone might think your feet are hot.VirginiaIt's really interesting. I've talked about this on the podcast before: A little bit after I got divorced and I started having, weekends totally to myself in my house, it was the first time I'd been alone in my house in a long time. Obviously, usually my kids were there. My husband used to be there. And I had this strange sensation of being observed, even when I was completely alone in the house.It's just me and the dog. She's asleep. I'm making dinner or watching TV or doing whatever I'm doing. And I couldn't shake the sensation that I was watching myself, still thinking about what I was going to wear. It was so weird, and I realized it actually isn't particularly a comment on my marriage. It's more a comment on women are so trained to always feel observed. It's really hard for us to actually access a space where we're not going to be observed. It was wild.TracyWe adopt that perspective of the watcher, and we are the watched. We experience ourselves in that way, as opposed to being the watcher, the person who sees and consumes the world and experiences the world. It's like we experience ourselves being experienced by someone else—an imagined man often.VirginiaYes, you're always self-objectifying. It doesn't matter whether you're trying to please that gaze, whether you're trying to protect yourself against that gaze. Whatever it is, we're always aware of how we'll be perceived in a way that I don't think cis men ever have to consider. I don't think that's a part of their experience of the world in the same way.TracyAnd how messed up is that tension between trying to please and trying to protect oneself? What an impossible tightrope walk to be constantly doing.VirginiaRight, and to not even know which one you want sometimes. Like, which one you need, which one you want.TracyYeah, going back and forth between those extremes. You're always kind of monitoring and on edge.VirginiaAnd, it did shift. Now when I'm alone in my house, I don't feel like I'm watching myself. Like, it did lessen. But it was this very stark moment of noticing that. And I think the way our work is so online, we are so online, it doesn't help. Because we also have all learned through the performance art of social media to constantly be documenting. And even if you're by yourself, you might post something about it. There's that need to narrate and document and then also objectify your experience.TracyThe sense of, like, if I don't take a photo of it, it doesn't exist. It didn't happen. It's not real. It must be consumed by other people. I mean, when you were talking earlier about that sense of being surveyed, I think that is a very just common experience for women, period. But then I think, for me, growing up with reality TV, the explosion of reality TV, like that added this like sense of a camera on one's life.And then I think, like, if you want to bring porn into it, too—Like, in the bedroom, that sense of the watcher, so you have this sense of being watched by men, but then you have the sense of kind of performing for an audience, because that's so much of what I came up with culturally.VirginiaI mean, the way we often conceive of our sexuality is through performance and how are you being perceived not how are you experiencing it yourself? I mean, you write about that so well, that tension.TracyThat was my whole thing. My sexual coming of age memoir is so much about what it meant to try to move out of that focus on how I'm being perceived by my partner and into a place of what am I experiencing? What do I even want beyond being wanted?VirginiaMan, it's amazing we've all survived and gotten where we are. Another layer to this, that I thought about a lot as I was processing my Wikifeet, was how instantly I felt like I had to laugh it off. I really felt like I couldn't access my true reaction to it. I just immediately sort of went into this Cool Girl, resigned, jaded, like “What do you expect from the Internet?” This is why I wanted to talk to you. Because I was like, oh, this feels very similar to stuff Tracy struggled with and wrote about in her memoir.TracyOh, totally. It makes total sense to me that you would go to that default place. It makes me think of how I, especially early in my career writing online as a feminist blogger, I would print out the very worst, most misogynistic hateful comments and post them on my fridge because I was willing myself to find them funny, to be able to laugh at them and just kind of distance myself from them and to feel untouched by them.I think that Cool Girl stance is a way of putting on protective armor. So I think that makes sense as a woman writing online, but I also think it makes sense in the context of sex. So much of what I did—this performative sexuality, this kind of sense of being down for whatever in my 20s—was, subconsciously, a kind of defensive posture. Because I think I had this feeling that if I'm down for anything, then nothing can be done against my will, you know? And that was the mental gambit that I had to engage in, in order to feel safe enough to explore my sexuality freely. Granted, it wasn't very freely, turns out. But it makes total sense that you would want to default to the laughing at what is really a violation. Because I do think that there's something protective about that. It's like, “No, you're not going to do this to me. You're not going to make me feel a certain way about this.” But that only takes you so far.VirginiaWell, because at the same time, it also is a way of communicating, “Don't worry, I can take a joke. I'm not one of those feminists.” It also plays right into that. So it's protective and you can't rattle me. And, I'll also minimize this just like you want me to minimize it. So I'm actually doing what you want. Then my brain breaks.TracyRight? And then we're back to that thing we were just talking about, the wanting to please, but then wanting to protect oneself, and the impossible balancing act of that. VirginiaLike you were saying you've experienced these horrific misogynistic troll comments. I experienced them in the more fatphobic sense, but like a mix, misogyny and fatphobia, very good friends.So I think when you've experienced more extreme things, you then do feel like you have to downplay some of the minor stuff. It feels scarier for men to say that my children should be taken away from me than it does for them to take pictures of my feet. I can hold that. And yet I'm still allowed to be upset about the foot thing. Just because some things are more awful, it doesn't mean that we stop having a conversation about the more mundane forms of violation, because the more mundane forms of it are also what we're all experiencing all the time.TracyRight? Like the daily experience of it. I mean, unfortunately, there just is a full, rich spectrum of violation.VirginiaSo many choices, so many ways, so many body parts.TracyI do think that the extreme examples do kind of serve to normalize the less extreme, you know? And what we sort of end up putting up with, you know? VirginiaWhat would you say was a helpful turning point for you? What helped you start to step back from being in that cool girl mode? From being in that “I'm performing sex for other people” mode? What helped you access it for yourself?TracyI mean, honestly? A piece of it was porn. It's funny because I turned to porn as a teenager online in the 90s as a source of—I felt at the time—intel about what men wanted. Like, here's how to be what men wanted. And I tried to perform that, you know? And there were downsides to that, of course. There are some downsides. But I would also say that like in the midst of plumbing the depths of 2000s-era, early 2000s-era tube sites to understand what men “wanted,” I also started to kind of explore what I wanted.I wasn't drawn to it from that place of self discovery, but I kind of accidentally stumbled into it because I was watching these videos. And then I was like, oh, wait, what about this thing? Like, that's kind of interesting to me. And then, you start to kind of tumble down the rabbit hole accidentally. Women are socialized to not pursue that rabbit hole for themselves, right? So it was only in pursuing men's desires that I felt like I was able to unlock this whole other world of fantasy and desire for myself that I wanted to explore and that I was able to get into some non-mainstream, queer indie porn that actually felt very radical and eye opening.It was this circuitous route to myself. That was just a piece, I think, of opening up my mind to the world of fantasy, which felt very freeing. Then, getting into a relationship where with a partner who I could actually be vulnerable with, was a huge piece of it. To actually feel safe enough to explore and not be performing, and to have those moments of awkwardness and that you're not just this expert performer all the time. Like, that doesn't lead to good sex.VirginiaNo, definitely not.There's a part in the memoir with your then boyfriend, now husband, and you say that you wanted—you call it “a cozy life.” And I think you guys put that in your wedding vows. I think about that all the time. I think it's so beautiful. Just like, oh right, that's what we're looking for. It's not this other giant thing, the performing and the—I don't know, there's something about that really stuck with meTracyThat's so interesting. I haven't thought about that for a while. It's really interesting, and it's funny, because it was part of our wedding vows. VirginiaCozy means safety with another person, that felt safety with another person, right? And the way we are trained to think of sex and relationships really doesn't prioritize women's safety, kind of ever.TracyI mean, yeah, it's true. There is something very particular about that word cozy—it's different from when people say, like, “I want a comfortable life.” VirginiaYeah, that's bougie.TracyCozy is like, I want to be wrapped in a cozy blanket on the couch with you. And feel safe and intimate and vulnerable. So thank you for reminding me of that thing that I wrote.VirginiaWell, It was really beautiful, and I think about it often, and it was kind of clarifying for me personally. And it's not saying sex won't be hot, you know? It's just that you have that connection and foundation to build whatever you're going to build.TracyRight? And I think coziness kind of is a perfect starting point for being able to experience sexiness and hotness. I think we have this cultural idea that one must have this mystery and sense of otherness in order to be able to build that kind of spice and fire. And at least in my experience, that was not ever the case. I know that other people have that experience, but for me, I never had the experience of that sense of otherness and kind of fear even, and trepidation about this other person leading to a really exciting experience. It was more like being able to get to a place of trust and vulnerability that could get you there.VirginiaAnd obviously, there are all different ways people enjoy and engage in sex. And I don't think every sexual relationship has to be founded in any one thing, but I think when we're talking about this transition that a lot of women go through, from participating in sex for his pleasure, for performance, for validation, to it being something you can do on your own terms, I think the coziness concept is really helpful. There's something there.All right, well, so now you are working on a new podcast with Amanda, as we mentioned, called Dire Straights. Tracy, I'm so excited, because Heterosexuals are not okay. We are not okay, as a population.TracyJust like, literally, look at anywhere. Open up the front page of The New York Times. We're not okay on so many levels.VirginiaSo tell us about the pod.TracySo it's a feminist podcast about heterosexual love, sex, politics and culture, and every episode, we basically pick apart a new element of straight culture. So examples would be couples therapy, dating apps, sex strikes, monogamy, the manosphere, pronatalism, the list goes on and on. Literally this podcast could just never end. There's too much fodder. Unfortunately, I'd love for it to end for a lack of content, but that's not going to happen.So we look at both sex and dating alongside marriage and divorce, and the unequal realm of hetero parenting. We examine celebrities and politicians and consider them as case studies of dire heterosexuality. Tech bros, tradwives, terfs, all the whole cast of terrible hetero characters are up for examination, and our aim is to examine the worst of straight culture, but it's also to step back and kind of try to imagine better possibilities.It's not fatalist, it's not nihilistic. I think we both have this sense of wanting to engage in some kind of utopian dreaming one might say, while we're also picking apart what is so awful and terrible about the current state of heterosexual culture.So our first episode is about dark femininity influencers. I don't know if you've ever encountered them online.VirginiaYes, but I hadn't connected the dots. So I was like, oh, this is a thing.TracyThat's that thing, yeah. That's how I experienced it. It was, like, they just started showing up on my TikTok feed, these women who are usually white and wearing a bold red lip and smokey eyes, and they're essentially promising to teach women how to use their sex appeal in order to manipulate straight men into better behavior. They're selling this idea of seduction as liberation, and specifically liberation from the disappointments of the straight dating world. This idea is that by harnessing your seductive powers, you can be in control in this terrible, awful straight dating sphere.VirginiaIt's like, if Drusilla from Buffy the Vampire Slayer wrote a dating book. I don't know if that reference speaks to you or not.TracyI'm a little rusty on my Buffy, I have to say.VirginiaShe's like, pale skin, red lips, black hair, and tortures men. But yeah, it's this idea that you harness all your like, seductive powers to torture men to get what you want, which is men. Which is a husband or a boyfriend or gifts or whatever. They're shooting for a heterosexual relationship by exerting this power over men, and so the idea is it is somehow it's giving them more power in a patriarchal dynamic. But it doesn't really because they end up in the same place.TracyIt's the same place, it's the same exact place. It feels to me, in some ways, like a corrective against the cool girl stuff that we're talking about that kind of emerged in the 2000s, where, you know, it's this sort of like being down for whatever, that kind of thing. These women are kind of saying, you're not going to sleep with him on the first date. You're going to make him work for it, you know? And so there's a sense of like, I'm in control, because I'm not giving it away for free. It plays into all these awful ideas about women and sex and power. But it is ultimately ending up in the same place, and it is just ultimately about getting a man, keeping a man. And so, you know, how different is it really? I don't think it is.VirginiaI mean, it's not. It's the same rules and conversations that Charlotte's having in the first season of Sex in the City, which is ancient at this point. How are we still here? Are we still here?TracyWe're just inventing new aesthetics to kind of repackage these very old, retro, sexist ideas, you know?VirginiaI also think it's really interesting and helpful that you are interrogating straight culture as someone inside a heterosexual marriage. I've written about my own divorce, my critiques of marriage, and it triggers great conversations, but it always triggers a very uncomfortable response from a lot of married women who don't really want to go there, don't really want to pick up the rocks and look underneath it because it's too scary. It makes sense. And I'm wondering how you think about that piece, and how that's working for you.TracyI think it's very destabilizing for a lot of women in straight marriages and just straight relationships, period, to consider these things. I think it was over a year ago now that I wrote this piece about trying to coin this term hetero-exceptionalism in response to the backlash that I was seeing to the divorce memoir boom, where women reviewers, but also just people on Twitter or wherever, were kind of pointing at these authors and being like, well, I don't know what's wrong with you because my marriage is great.VirginiaThe Emily Gould piece in New York.TracyThere's this sense of like, oh, well, either I chose a good man or I know how to conduct a healthy relationship.VirginiaI'm willing to put in the work.TracyGotta put in the work. You will love our next episode about couples therapy, because we talk about this concept of putting in the work, and the idea that marriage is work, and that if you're not doing the work you're lazy. You're failing, the whole project of it.VirginiaThank you for unpacking that incredibly toxic myth! It really keeps women trapped in “I just have to keep working harder.”TracyWhich I think totally relates to this, the response to the divorce memoirs we're getting from people and the discomfort of when women raise these issues in hetero relationships that are not individual. Like, yes, we all feel that our relationship issues are special and unique. But they all relate to these broader systemic factors.I think that is really, really, really uncomfortable to acknowledge. Because I think even if you're reasonably happy in your hetero relationship, I think if you start to look at the way that your even more minor dissatisfactions connect to these bigger dissatisfactions that women are writing about that's all part of this experience of love in patriarchy that it doesn't feel good. That feels terrible. So I totally understand that.In the same way that we're sold this idea of trying to find the one and that whole romantic fantasy, I think we're also sold this idea of trying to achieve romantically within these patriarchal constraints. So it's like, well, I found the good one. I found the unicorn man who checks all the boxes and I did my work and so I'm in a happy marriage.Virginia“I'm allowed to be heterosexual because I'm doing it right.” That's feeling uncomfortably familiar, to be honest. You think you're going to pull the thread, and you realize you'll rip it all out.TracyThe thing is that a lot of people should be pulling the thread, and a lot of lives should be unraveling, you know? I think that's the uncomfortable truth, right? I totally get the resistance to it. But on the other side of it, I think there are obviously, clearly, a lot of women who are wanting to look at it, and who do want to have these conversations.VirginiaIt sounds like this is what you're trying to chart. There has to be a middle path where it's not this defensive stance of, oh, I found the one good one. And we're equal partners. It's okay, but a relationship where we can both look at this, we can both acknowledge the larger systemic issues and how they're showing up here, and we can work through it and it's not perfect, because it is love in patriarchy, but it can still be valuable. There has to be this third option, right? Please tell me you're living the third option, Tracy.TracyI mean, I do believe that I am but I also hesitate to put any man or any relationship on a pedestal. What I'll say is that to me, it feels so utterly essential in my relationship to acknowledge the ways that our relationship is touched by patriarchy, because all relationships are touched by patriarchy, right? And to not fantasize about us somehow standing outside of it, but also to be having constant ongoing conversations within my relationship where we are mutually critiquing patriarchy and the way that it touches us and the way that it touches the relationships of people we know, you know? I think that's part of why I think I'm able to do this podcast critiquing heterosexuality from within heterosexuality is because my partner showed up to the relationship with his own prior political convictions and feminist awareness. I wasn't having to be like, here's what feminism is and, here's what invisible labor is, and the mental load and all that stuff. He got it, and so we're able to have a mutual shared critique, and that feels very important.VirginiaThat's awesome to know exists, and that you're able to figure that out without it being such hard work. But where does that leave women who are like, oh yeah, my partner doesn't have that shared knowledge? Like, I would be starting the education process from zero and encountering many resistances to it. And therein is the discomfort, I think.TracyI mean, and that is the discomfort of heterosexuality. It's in this culture, because that is the reality is there are not a ton of men who have voluntarily taken women's studies courses in college and have the basic background for this kind of stuff. It's a really high bar and there is this feeling of what are you going to do? Are you going to hold out for the guy who did do that? Or are you going to try to work with him to get there? And I think that's fine, but I think what's essential is are you both working to get there, or are you pulling him along?VirginiaYeah, that's the core of it.I think just in general, reorienting our lives to where our romantic relationships are really important, but so are our friendships. So is our community. I think that's something that a lot of us, especially us in the post-divorce club are looking at. I think one of the great failings of heterosexual marriage is how it silos women into these little pods of the nuclear family and keeps us from the larger community.TracyTotally. I really do believe that the way that our lives are structured, this hetero monogamous, nuclear familydom, it works against these hetero unions so much. Which is so funny, because so much of this is constructed to try to protect them. But I actually think that it undermines them so deeply and drastically. And that we could have much richer and more vibrant, supportive, communal lives that made these romantic unions like less fragile and fraught.VirginiaBecause you aren't needing one person to meet every single one of your needs, you aren't needing this one thing to be your whole life.TracyWe put all of the pressure on the nuclear household for the cooking, the cleaning, the childcare, all of that. That is an impossible setup. It is a setup for failure. There's I wish I could quote the writer, but I love this quote about marriage and the nuclear family being capitalism's pressure cooker. If you think about it in those terms, it's like, this is absurd. Of course, so many people are struggling.VirginiaIt was never going to work. It was never going to work for women anyway, for sure.Well, I'm so excited for folks to discover the new podcast. It's amazing, and I'm just thrilled you guys are diving into all of this. It's such an important space to be having these conversations. So thank you.TracyThank you! I'm very excited about it, and it does, unfortunately, feel very timely.ButterTracyI definitely do have Butter. And this is so on topic to what we've been discussing. This book of essays titled Love in Exile by Shon Faye. It is a brilliant collection of essays about love, where she really looks at the problem of love and the search for love as a collective instead of individual problem. It is so good. It's one of my favorite books that I've read in the last five years.She basically argues that the heteronormative couple privatizes the love and care and intimacy that we all deserve. But that we're deprived of in this late capitalist hellscape, and so she sees the love that so many of us are deprived of as not a personal failure, but a failure of capitalism and community and the growing cruelty of our world. It's just such a tremendous shift of perspective, I think, when it comes to thinking about love and the search for love and that longing and lack of it that so many people experience.VirginiaOh my gosh, that sounds amazing. I can't wait to read it. Adding to cart right now, that is a great Butter. Thank you.Well, my Butter is, I don't know if you can see what I'm wearing, Tracy, but it is the friendship bracelet you sent me when you sent me your copy of Want Me.TracyDo you know that I literally just last night was like, oh, I'm going on the podcast tomorrow, I wonder if she still has that friendship bracelet.VirginiaI'm wearing the one you sent me, which says Utopia IRL, which I love. And then I'm wearing one that says “Fuck the Patriarchy,” which was made by one of my 11 year old's best friends for me. So the 10 year old girls are going to be all right, because they're doing that.TracyThat's amazing.VirginiaI wear them frequently. They go with many outfits, so they're just a real go-to accessory of mine. My seven year old the other day was reading them and was so delighted. And now, when she's at her dad's and we text, she'll randomly text me, “fuck the patriarchy,” just as a little I love you text. And I'm like, alright, I'm doing okay here.TracyYou're like, that's my love language. Thank you.VirginiaSo anyway, really, my Butter is just for friendship bracelets and also mailing them to people, because that was so sweet that you did that.TracyCan I mention though? Can I admit that I literally told you that I was going to send you that friendship bracelet, and I made it, I put in an envelope, and it literally sat by my front door for a full year.VirginiaI think that makes me love it even more, because it was a year. If you had been able to get it out the door in a timely fashion, it would have made you less relatable to me.That it took a full year that feels right. And I was just as delighted to receive it a year later.TracyIt was a surprise. I was like, you probably forgot that.VirginiaI had.TracyI emailed about it and that we had an inside joke about it, because it had been a year.VirginiaI did, but then I was like, oh yeah!TracyYou know what? I think it's a testament to you and how you come off that I like felt comfortable sending it a year later and just being like, fuck it, she'll be fine with it.VirginiaYes, it was great. Anyway, my recommendation is send someone a friendship bracelet by which I mean put it in an envelope by your front door for the next year. Why not? It's a great thing to do.So yes, Tracy, this was so much fun. Thank you for being here. Tell folks where we can follow you support your work, all the things.TracyYou can find the Dire Straights podcast at direstraightspod.com. And you can find my weekly newsletter about sex, feminism, pop culture at Tracyclarkflory.substack.com and you can find me on Instagram at Tracy Clark-Flory.VirginiaAmazing. We'll link to all of that. Thank you for being here.TracyThanks so much for having me.The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith (follow me on Instagram) and Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus, and Big Undies.The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.Our theme music is by Farideh.Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe

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Amy is joined by Dr. Jay Zigmont to discuss his book, The Childfree Guide to Life and Money, and better understand patriarchy's impact on our wallets, how parenthood shapes our finances, and the challenges and advantages of veering off the standard life script by choosing a child-free lifestyle.Donate to Breaking Down PatriarchyJay Zigmont, PhD, MBA, CFP® is the Founder of Childfree Wealth, a life and financial planning firm dedicated to helping Childfree and Permanently Childless people. Childfree Wealth is the first (and currently the only) life and financial planning firm dedicated to serving Childfree people.Jay is also the author of the forthcoming book The Childfree Guide to Life and Money and the co-host of the Childfree Wealth podcast. His Ph.D. is in Adult Learning from the University of Connecticut. He has been featured in Fortune, Forbes, MarketWatch, Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Business Insider, CNBC, and many other publications.

Are you struggling to get back into academic writing after a break? Or maybe you're afraid to change your writing schedule because you think you'll lose momentum. In this episode, I'll show you how to step away from your writing without derailing your progress and how to return to it without losing your rhythm. In this episode, I explore the concept of writing off-ramps and on-ramps—a metaphor (and practical toolset) for how to put your writing down with intention and pick it back up with ease. Whether you're heading into a planned vacation or returning from an unexpected pause, learning to manage transitions is a key part of building a sustainable academic writing practice. You'll learn how to exit your writing flow gently, leave strategic breadcrumbs for your future self, and design a smooth, flexible re-entry that supports your long-term goals without burnout or self-judgment. If you're craving a writing practice that feels stable, resilient, and empowering, this episode is a must-listen. Stop treating breaks like setbacks, and learn the tools and mindset you need to turn your writing pauses into powerful pivots. And don't forget: our next Navigate information session is happening on July 23, 2025. To get all the details, make sure you're on my email list—sign up at scholarsvoice.org. For full show notes visit scholarsvoice.org/podcast. We've opened the waitlist for our next cohort of Navigate: Your Writing Roadmap®. Check out the program details and get on the waitlist here.   CONTINUE THE CONVERSATION: Our 12-week Navigate: Your Writing Roadmap® program helps tenure-track womxn and nonbinary professors to publish their backlog of papers so that their voice can have the impact they know is possible. Get on the waitlist here! Cathy's book, Making Time to Write: How to Resist the Patriarchy and Take Control of Your Academic Career Through Writing is available in print! Learn how to build your career around your writing practice while shattering the myths of writing every day, accountability, and motivation, doing mindset work that's going to reshape your writing,and changing academic culture one womxn and nonbinary professor at a time. Get your print copy today or order it for a friend here! If you would like to hear more from Cathy for free, please subscribe to the weekly newsletter, In the Pipeline, at scholarsvoice.org. It's a newsletter that she personally writes that goes out once a week with writing and publication tips, strategies, inspiration, book reviews and more.   CONNECT WITH ME:  LinkedIn Facebook YouTube

This episode includes DanTresOmi from the "Where My Killah Tape?" Podcast." Addressing the Black Patriarchy - Prof. Kimya's Class," centers on the concept of Black patriarchy and its impact on the Black community, particularly concerning the representation of Black men in media. The participants explore how Black women have historically been, and continue to be, instrumental in portraying multifaceted Black male characters, contrasting with limited depictions when Black men primarily controlled narratives. A significant portion of the conversation examines the historical and contemporary roles of Black men and women in leadership within the Black community, highlighting the disproportionate burden often placed on Black women to address issues and drive progress, even when Black men hold positions of power. The dialogue critiques the notion of "baby steps" for Black men in dismantling patriarchal structures, emphasizing the urgency of self-reflection and action rather than relying on Black women to guide them. Ultimately, the source underscores the importance of recognizing and challenging gender-based power imbalances within Black society to achieve broader community advancement.

Is Bro' Seko Sexist? Do Brothers ignore Sisters? Should #shannonsharpe listen to Monique? Prof. Dr. Kimya Nuru Dennis chats with the "Professor's Pet" - Bro' Seko, about the patriarchy and how brothers far too often underrate the things Sisters bring to the table. Tap-in #codekeepers !Explore the complex issue of whether Black men listen to Black women, particularly in the context of patriarchy. The discussion begins with an anecdote about celebrity interactions to illustrate perceived disinterest in women's advice, then expands into historical and sociological perspectives. The hosts examine how societal expectations and historical comparisons between Black men and white men have shaped gender dynamics. They also scrutinize the concept of "chivalry" and its potential to inadvertently demean women, while advocating for critical thinking and individual understanding over ingrained gender roles. Ultimately, the conversation encourages Black men to challenge patriarchal norms for the betterment of the collective.Empower Consciousness: Note - The Get On Code: Our Black Empowerment channel hosts content that may not represent the views, opinions, and positions of the platform owners, participants, or partners. Get On Code, share the code, teach the code, become the code. Our code is empowerment. Focused on #Empowerment, and passionate about #BlackEmpowerment, the Get On Code : Our Black Empowerment platform, is built on the #EmpowermentAgenda . Interested in sponsoring the podcast? Email OurBlackImprovement@gmail.com . Watch Seko's film here: www.GenerationalFlip.com $20k - $90K of business funding - https://mbcapitalsolutions.com/positi... Money for your business: https://davidallencapital.com/equipme... Money for Real Estate Investments: https://PositiveVibesFinancial.com Purify yourself, house, and environment to remain safe: https://www.vollara.com/PositiveVibes Invest in stocks via STASH: https://get.stashinvest.com/sekosq72j Fix your credit: https://positivevibes.myecon.net/my-c... Raise money with Republic: https://republic.com/raise/i/jpdajr Raise money with WeFunder: https://wefunder.com/sekovarner/raise #GetOnCode #GetOnCodeShow #GetOnCodePodcast #TheFlyGuysShow #OmegaPsiPhi #Ques #Uplift #ConsciousCommunity #PanAfrican #FoundationalBlackAmerican #Indian #BlackIndian #Melanin #Indigenous #BIPOC #CopperColored #Moorish #B1 #FBA #ADOS #BlackAmerican #AfricanAmerican #Investment #Wealth • Patriarchy • Black men not listening to black women • Gender roles • Black women leadership • Shannon Sharp Mo'Nique • Black empowerment • Gendered chivalry • African cultures • Racial justice • Civil Rights Movement • Septima Clark • Malcolm X • Martin Luther King Jr. • Black men's health • Relationship advice • Unconscious bias • Communication challenges • Historical context • Male dominance • Societal expectations • Critical thinking • Generational Flip • Professor Kimya's Class • Get On Code • Podcast discussion • YouTube video • Black identity • White man's ice is colder • Eldridge Cleaver • Frederick Douglas • Ella Baker • Cat Williams Diddy • Prostate cancer awareness • Black men's therapy • Religion and gender • Adam and Eve interpretation • Masculinity • Femininity • Site Black Women • Black community issues

On July 14, 1789, ordinary French citizens stormed the Bastille, shattering the myth of royal divine right. Three months later, thousands of women marched on Versailles, demanding bread, justice, and dignity, driving the revolution forward with courage and resolve. As Ursula K. Le Guin reminds us, “We live in capitalism. Its power seems inescapable. So did the divine right of kings. Any human power can be resisted and changed by human beings.” Gaslit Nation Presents: Smash the Oligarchy. Smash the Patriarchy. Our summer series features women on the frontlines of the far-right assault on our democracy, our bodies, and our minds. Hear from: Amber Wallin – Economic justice advocate explaining why taxing the rich benefits all. Jamila Raqib – Leader in nonviolent resistance, training movements worldwide against authoritarianism. Erin Reed – Journalist tracking anti-trans legislation and arming communities to fight back. Kate Manne – Philosopher exposing misogyny's corrupting power in culture and politics. Mona Eltahawy – Queer Arab feminist, author, and survivor confronting patriarchy and tyranny globally. Marci Shore – Historian illuminating resistance and revolution lessons from Eastern Europe. Erica Smiley – Labor organizer championing collective power and workplace democracy for economic justice. Our summer bonus shows prove rest is resistance. Join our fearless guests on Gaslit Nation's Self-Care Q&A for inspiring ways to recharge.  We win by being the sand in their gears, and we will win! Our special summer series shows you how. Tune in all summer long at Gaslit Nation. For the hottest of hot takes, see you at the Monday salons, only on Patreon.  Want an exclusive look at the film the Kremlin fears? Fact Checker Patreon members and higher get a two-hour, behind-the-scenes audio guide to Mr. Jones.  Subscribe at Guardian of the Fourth Estate or higher for a signed copy of this summer's must-read, Dictatorship: It's Easier Than You Think! Limited signed copies available.  Join Gaslit Nation on Patreon at various levels for ad-free shows, bonus episodes, Monday salons, chat groups, and more. Annual subscriptions are discounted, and memberships make great gifts. Thanks to all who support our independent journalism. We could not make Gaslit Nation without you! 

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In this first episode of my new four-part series on Love & Patriarchy, I'm breaking down why resentment isn't a flaw—it's a map. I'll share the real reason it shows up, how it connects to internalized patriarchy, and why your guilt might actually be your inner wisdom trying to guide you home. This is consciousness work—and it starts right here. ✨ Episode at a Glance What patriarchy really means (it's probably not what you think) Why guilt, frustration, and resentment are invitations—not flaws The difference between linear vs. holistic thinking in relationships Five Relationship Powers you can activate—no matter what your partner does The “Power of One” and how your inner shifts change the whole system Everyday examples of internalized patriarchy—and what to do about them   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Questions for Couples Journal Private Coaching with Maggie Episode 173: Responsive Desire Episode 189: Why Your Marriage Should Feel Like A Sanctuary  Episode 58: The Power of One  

In this episode, the sisters dive into the rise and fall of women who built platforms by echoing red pill talking points and male validation culture. Why did it resonate with so many? What happens when the performance no longer serves them? And what does it reveal about the pressures women face to be chosen rather than whole? This is a candid conversation on identity, internalised misogyny, healing, and what it truly means to reclaim your voice.

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Claire & Zoe—creators of the Witches of Scotland campaign—are back for Part 2 of this raw, revealing episode of Womenkind Collective.We dig into the truth behind the witch trials, we talk with the authors about balancing humour and horror in telling stories of injustice, and how their work led to a formal apology for Scotland's women that were accused of witchcraft. They Spill the tea on the emotional weight of their research, and how the patriarchy's systems of silencing women are still active today.Plus, we wrap up our Book Collective read: How to Kill a Witch: A Guide for the Patriarchy — an unforgettable feminist reckoning.

Ref Aubrey Edwards and Will Washington are breaking down one of the most stacked AEW cards in history as All In Texas storms Globe Life Field this Saturday July 12th! They're covering every match from the highly anticipated Kenny Omega vs. Kazuchika Okada Unified Championship showdown, to the explosive Texas Death Match between current AEW World Champion Jon Moxley and Hangman Adam Page. Plus, they preview the Women's and Men's Casino Gauntlets, the fate-changing tag team triple threat between The Hurt Syndicate, The Patriarchy, and Jet Speed, and the high-stakes bout between The Young Bucks and Swerve Strickland & Will Ospreay with EVP titles and no World Championship shot for one year on the line! AEW Unrestricted is sponsored by Upper Deck!  Claim your free 2025 AEW ALL IN Digital Promo Card set from Upper Deck today! The set is only available until July 28 at 12pm Pacific. CLAIM HERE: https://bit.ly/4kUKqT2 AEW Unrestricted video episodes available Mondays at 1pm Pacific on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJ4e4Lb87XTzETPZyj7nZoJ4xPBjKdzgy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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How feminist author Farida D discovered patriarchy, how she normalized and internalized it until she realized that women are treated completely different from men. If you are interested in learning more please subscribe to my Substack. There is a free and a paid subscription. When you choose a paid subscription you will get deeper dives into each topic I discuss. https://substack.com/@wendymcclurethehopefulist2

Bestselling author Jo Piazza (Under the Influence) and Cristen don their milkmaid dresses to talk tradwives, elusive tradhusbands and the hustle. From homeschooling curriculum to MAHA-approved supplements, tradwife influencers are serving up a fantasy of submission—and becoming breadwinners while they're at it. Jo unpacks why it's so lucrative, the research behind her new tradwife thriller Everyone Is Lying to You, the pink-pilled pipeline pulling women rightward, and the prairie-core dream versus generational wealth realities.**For ad-free bonus episodes and uncut guest interviews, join the Unladies Room Patreon. Get in touch on Instagram @unladylikemedia, and/or subscribe to the newsletter at unladylike.substack.com.**See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Do you feel like you are behind on your summer writing goals? You're not alone, and you're not failing. It's time to normalize readjusting your summer writing plans without shame. In this episode, I guide you through a midsummer writing check-in. This flexible process will help you reassess your academic writing goals and realign them with your current capacity. Whether you mapped out a detailed summer writing plan back in May or are just now trying to make progress, I will walk you through how to revisit your calendar, evaluate your remaining time, and match it with what's left on your writing to-do list. Re-planning isn't a failure; it's a core skill that every academic writer needs to learn. Tune in to learn how to move from unrealistic expectations to a sustainable academic writing progress without burnout, shame, or overwhelm. If you're ready to improve your academic writing practice and finally clear your publication backlog, enrollment for the next round of my Navigate program opens soon! Get on the waitlist today. For full show notes visit scholarsvoice.org/podcast. We've opened the waitlist for our next cohort of Navigate: Your Writing Roadmap®. Check out the program details and get on the waitlist here.   CONTINUE THE CONVERSATION: Our 12-week Navigate: Your Writing Roadmap® program helps tenure-track womxn and nonbinary professors to publish their backlog of papers so that their voice can have the impact they know is possible. Get on the waitlist here! Cathy's book, Making Time to Write: How to Resist the Patriarchy and Take Control of Your Academic Career Through Writing is available in print! Learn how to build your career around your writing practice while shattering the myths of writing every day, accountability, and motivation, doing mindset work that's going to reshape your writing,and changing academic culture one womxn and nonbinary professor at a time. Get your print copy today or order it for a friend here! If you would like to hear more from Cathy for free, please subscribe to the weekly newsletter, In the Pipeline, at scholarsvoice.org. It's a newsletter that she personally writes that goes out once a week with writing and publication tips, strategies, inspiration, book reviews and more.   CONNECT WITH ME:  LinkedIn Facebook YouTube

This week, Joseph Spurgeon shares an unfiltered interview from Anatomy of the Church and State with host Jeremiah Campana. Together they tackle the controversial topic of the Crusades—the errors, the bravery, the eternal stakes—and what Christian men today must learn. Was it all just Roman Catholic works-righteousness? Was it a defense of Christendom? What should modern men reclaim? What must we reject? If you’ve ever fantasized about being a Crusader—but can’t show up for church or your family—this episode is for you. Chapters & Timestamps: 00:00 – Cold Open: Godfrey of Bouillon and the Crown of Thorns 01:50 – Introduction: Sharing a Cross-Podcast Interview 03:20 – Jeremiah’s Introduction & Why the Crusades Matter Now 05:40 – Joseph’s Journey into Studying the Crusades 07:15 – The Liberal vs. Conservative Take on the Crusades 09:00 – What Was Bad About the Crusades? (Indulgences & Works-Righteousness) 13:40 – Why Protestants Should Still Care About This History 15:00 – Eternal Thinking: Why Even Their Errors Convict Us 17:00 – The Church and State Problem (What Went Wrong & What Was Right) 20:20 – Don't Pick Up the Sword If You Haven’t Picked Up Your Bible 22:00 – The Martial Spirit of the Crusaders—Why It Still Matters 24:00 – Real Sacrifice: Time, Wealth, and Blood 28:30 – How Do We Know a Mission Is From God? 30:00 – Godly Zeal Must Be Biblical, Not Rogue 32:30 – The Importance of Biblical Literacy for Men 34:50 – The Real Unity of the Church—And What Divides Us 39:00 – How Disunity Helped Destroy the Crusades 41:00 – Church and State: How Should They Work Together? 45:00 – We Don’t Need New Crusades—We Need Repentance 47:00 – How Local Action Can Change a Nation 51:00 – Final Charge: If You Can’t Love Your Church, Don’t Talk About Crusading 58:30 – Prayer & Close Topics Covered: ✅ The theological errors behind the Crusades ✅ Why eternal-mindedness matters today ✅ The rightful role of the church and state ✅ How men can show martial spirit without physical warfare ✅ The need for local faithfulness before global impact ✅ What real unity in the church demands from us ✅ Why defending the unborn is the battle of our time ✅ Loving your neighbor starts at your local church TAKE ACTION: Don’t just learn—lead. Find a way this week to love your local church, engage your community, and honor Christ with zeal and truth. Build. Fight. Protect. Lead. This is The Patriarchy. Connect with The Patriarchy Podcast: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePatriarchyPodcast Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/58tm5zjz Apple Podcasts: https://tinyurl.com/f3ruzrsa Website & All Links: https://linktr.ee/thepatriarchypodcast Follow Us on Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePatriarchyPodcast Twitter/X: https://x.com/PatriarchyPod Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepatriarchypodcast Gab: https://gab.com/thepatriarchypodcast ________________________________________ Sponsored By: Patriarch Cigars – For men who reject passivity and take dominion Order now: https://patriarchcigars.com/ Fit Father Project – Reclaim discipline and strength for life Start here: https://secure.fitfatherproject.com/a/transformation/4539

You can contact Women Talking About Learning through our website, womentalkingaboutlearning.com We're on Twitter @WTAL_Podcast You can buy us a coffee to support Women Talking About Learning via Ko-Fi. Or you can email us via hello@llarn.com   Episode Links: Women Rising: The Unseen Barriers Jacinda Ardern Captured the World. And Then She Walked Away. Nationwide boss: Women working at home risk missing out Nurturing Women's Leadership: Building Strong Foundations Calling All Women: Supporting Other Women in Leadership Matters Bias in AI What is AI bias? What Do We Do About the Biases in AI? News flash: People tend to hire people like themselves Managers are hiring people based on whether or not they like them personally and it could lead to some big problems at work The High Cost Of Ambition: Why Women Are Held Back For Thinking Big Busting the Myth That Women Are Less Ambitious Than Men The #IlliniLeader's Digest Do Women Lack Ambition? Why male executives should not be praised for taking paternity leave Paternity leave: The hidden barriers keeping men at work Paternity Leave Benefits Both Men and Women. So Why Don't More Fathers Take It? Queen perform a cover of John Lennon's ‘Imagine' in 2005 Breaking the chains of traditional masculinity: another hidden driver of ge The Masculinity Trap: Rethinking engineering culture Work as a Masculinity Contest A Bad Business The collapse of Enron and the dark side of business From the toxic culture that gave us mansplaining and manterrupting, here comes … hepeating The English Beat - Mirror in the Bathroom (Official) Equal Pay Day 2024: Gender Pay Gap HIGHER than previously thought Gender pay gap in the UK: 2024 Female leaders: Beware the glass cliff – Michelle Ryan, Professor of Social and Organisational Psychology at the University of Exeter Women leaders make work better. Here's the science behind how to promote them Barriers for women in the workplace: A social psychological perspective - Hanek - 2022 Expanding Women's Access to Male-Dominated Jobs - Center for American Progress 10 Male-Dominated Industries (And How to Succeed as a Woman) Patriarchy   This week's guests are Laura Howard. Laura's passion and professional purpose is making work work for everyone – leaders, teams, and customers. After a twenty-year global career in the private and public sectors, including ten years as a senior leader, she qualified as an Organisational Psychologist in 2022. This led her to launch The Contented Workplace, fulfilling her ambitions for everyone to be their best and bring that best to work. She remains dedicated to research and teaching as an Associate Tutor for Birkbeck College (University of London). Her work is data and evidence-driven; as a previous people leader, her expertise has been forged in real-world experience.  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/execcoachlaura/ My research - Authenticity and woman's leadership: a qualitative study of professional business services in the UK | Emerald Insight   Cornelia Raubal is a former 9-figure CEO, certified NLP and strategic leadership coach who specialises in helping ambitious women become board-ready in 6 months. With a unique blend of commercial insight and mindset transformation, she equips professionals to lead with confidence, clarity, and impact. Her work is grounded in behavioural science and executive experience and whether in the boardroom or on stage, she empowers leaders to own their voice, develop the mindset and strategy that delivers results, and achieve measurable growth. Cornelia is also a board director for the national Governing Body of Ice Hockey in England and Wales, and hands on managing at club and national level.  Cornelia Raubal - Executive Coach - CRAFTPORT CONSULTING LIMITED | LinkedIn www.craftport.com Cornelia Raubal (@craftport) • Instagram photos and videos  

Send us a text!Welcome to Bright Hearth, a podcast devoted to recovering the lost arts of homemaking and the productive Christian household with Brian and Lexy Sauvé. In this episode, Brian and Lexy sit down for the first time on video to talk about Lexy's new book, Wisdom on Her Tongue: Tips for Getting Back Your Weekends & Holidays & Learning to Communicate Effectively in Marriage. You can see the full video version of this episode here. Shipping mid-July 2025! Every order through Friday, July 11th will be a signed copy. You can order the book and find out more here: https://www.newchristendompress.com/wisdomWant premium, handmade soaps without the seed oils or other nasty hormone disrupters? Check out our partners at Indigo Sundries Soap Co., and use code BRIGHTHEARTH for ten percent off your order!This episode is also brought to you by Live Oak Integrative Health. Visit https://www.liveoakintegrativehealth.com and connect with owner Rebecca Belch, who has served as a critical care and labor and delivery nurse for 20 years and is a licensed practitioner of functional medicine.Thanks to our friends at Gray Toad Tallow for sponsoring this episode! Head over to graytoadtallow.com and use discount code BRIGHT15 for 15% off your order.Check out Joe Garrisi at Backwards Planning Financial at https://backwardsplanningfinancial.com for all your financial planning needs!Visit KeepwisePartners.com or call Derrick Taylor at 781-680-8000 to schedule a free consultation. Looking for THEE gift to last a thousand generations? Check out Rooted Pines Homestead where they work together as a family economy to create natural wooden toys and herbal remedies. Visit rootedpineshomestead.com and use code BRIGHT10 at checkout for 10% off your first order.Be sure to subscribe to the show, and leave us a 5-Star review wherever you get your podcasts! Buy an item from our Feed the Patriarchy line and support the show at the same time at briansauve.com/bright-hearth.Become a monthly patron at patreon.com/brighthearth and gain access to In the Kitchen, a special bonus show with each main episode!Support the show

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In this episode of the Preacher Boys Podcast, host Eric Schwisinski sits down with Cara Meredith, author of Church Camp: Bad Skits, Cry Night, and How White Evangelicalism Betrayed a Generation. Together, they unpack the formative – and often fraught – world of evangelical church camps. Cara shares insights from her 30 years in camp ministry and her research, including interviews with dozens of former campers and staff across the U.S.The conversation explores the nostalgia and positive aspects of camp, as well as the darker threads: pressured conversions, purity culture, patriarchy, and the marginalization of women, LGBTQ individuals, and people of color. Cara and Eric discuss how church camp acts as a microcosm of white evangelicalism, often pushing conformity and suppressing individuality under the guise of faith formation. They also reflect on leadership, intent, and the importance of elevating marginalized voices within church spaces.Whether you have fond memories of camp or are re-examining its impact, this episode offers a nuanced look at the complexities, harms, and hopes for change in faith-based youth experiences.Timestamps:00:00 Intro and why church camp is worth discussing04:00 Who the book is for and why it was written07:30 Cara's history and experience in camp ministry10:30 The universal positives: fun, nature, and friendships13:45 The recurring negatives: shame, guilt, and pressured conversions17:30 Purity culture and its impact on campers20:00 The intentions of camp leaders vs. the reality of harm23:15 The business side of camp and conversion26:00 The role of nostalgia and critical reflection29:00 Conformity, identity, and the impact on marginalized groups33:30 “Cry night” and emotional manipulation36:00 Gender roles, patriarchy, and lack of women in leadership41:00 What would change if more women led camps?44:30 Elevating marginalized voices in faith spaces48:00 Reconciling good memories with the reality of harm51:00 Final thoughts and who the book is forSupport the Show:Patreon.com/PreacherBoys✖️✖️✖️If you or someone you know has experienced abuse, visit courage365.org/need-help✖️✖️✖️CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:preacherboyspodcast.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@PreacherBoyshttps://www.facebook.com/preacherboysdoc/https://twitter.com/preacherboysdochttps://www.instagram.com/preacherboyspodhttps://www.tiktok.com/@preacherboyspodTo connect with a community that shares the Preacher Boys Podcast's mission to expose abuse in the IFB, join the OFFICIAL Preacher Boys Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1403898676438188/✖️✖️✖️The content presented in this video is for informational and educational purposes only. All individuals and entities discussed are presumed innocent until proven guilty through due legal process. The views and opinions expressed are those of the speakers.This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/PreacherBoys and get on your way to being your best self.Our Sponsors:* Use promo code preacherboys at the link below to get an exclusive 60% off an annual plan: https://incogni.com/preacherboysSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/preacher-boys-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Diverse Voices Book Review host Hopeton Hay interviewed Ivy Pochoda, author of ECSTASY.  Based on a Greek tragedy by Euripides, Pochoda explained how she wanted to address difficult truths about female oppression and marital patriarchy. As described on her website, "Ecstasy is a riveting, darkly poetic, one-sitting read about empowerment, desire, and what happens when women reject the roles set out for them."  Diverse Voices Book Review Social Media: Facebook - @diversevoicesbookreview Instagram - @diverse_voices_book_review 

Send us a textSabrina and Jennifer, inventors and schemers, continue to sneak Sabrina's stories and novels to the  "recommended" pile of the New York publishing office of Jennifer's cousin: Whitaker, Smith, and Outlaw. Things are going well until the receptionist, Muffy Militello, discovers their secret: invisible cloth. Now Muffy wants in on the action.B is for Bisexual - short stories by Laura P. Valtorta

https://www.liseloensmann.com/  About Missing WitchesAmy Torok and Risa Dickens produce the Missing Witches Podcast. We do every aspect from research to recording, it is a DIY labour of love and craft. Missing Witches is entirely member-supported, and getting to know the members of our Coven has been the most fun, electrifying, unexpectedly radical part of the project. These days the Missing Witches Coven gathers in our private, online coven circle to offer each other collaborative courses in ritual, weaving, divination, and more; we organize writing groups and witchy book clubs; and we gather on the Full and New Moon from all over the world. Our coven includes solitary practitioners, community leaders, techno pagans, crones, baby witches, neuroqueers, and folks who hug trees and have just been looking for their people. Our coven is trans-inclusive, anti-racist, feminist, pro-science, anti-ableist, and full of love. If that sounds like your people, come find out more. Please know that we've been missing YOU. https://www.missingwitches.com/join-the-coven/

Dominique Lovings hosts Tiffany Ramm, LCSW on "Whiskey Sour Libations and Conversation" to explore the theme of sexual freedom and how it contrasts with societal labels of promiscuity. Tiffany shares her experiences as a licensed therapist and discusses how past content sometimes leads to undeserved judgments about her character. The episode delves into the societal double standards women face regarding sexual liberation, challenges in relationships, and the broader implications of male-dominated narratives. Engage with this conversation that questions societal norms and advocates for understanding and personal growth in sexual identity.

For centuries, misogyny has been the silent architect behind the patriarchal systems that suppress feminine power and limit women's potential. In this video, I reveal how misogyny operates as the patriarchy's most insidious weapon—and, more importantly, how you can break free from its grip to reclaim your sovereignty.As a spiritual, self-aware woman committed to individuation and empowerment, you deserve to understand the deeper currents shaping your reality. This conversation goes beyond surface-level feminism; we dive into the roots of misogyny, its impact on your psyche, and the spiritual tools available to heal, transform, and rise.In this video, you'll discover:The hidden mechanisms of misogyny within patriarchal culture—and how they shape women's self-worth and relationshipsHow internalized misogyny shows up in your thoughts, behaviors, and spiritual journey (even when you're conscious and educated)How to harness archetypes and feminine power to transmute wounds into wisdom and radical self-acceptancePractical steps to embody spiritual feminism and reclaim your voice, your body, and your destinyThis is a call to every woman who refuses to shrink, who is ready to alchemize her pain into power, and who seeks a path of deep feminine liberation. If you're ready to break the chains of the old paradigm and embody your high-voltage feminine energy, you're in the right place.Ready to unlock your unique feminine power? Download my free e-book, ‘Discover Your Power Archetype', and begin your journey to radical self-knowledge and empowerment.Download here: https://courses.venusianacademy.com/discover-your-power-archetype-unlock-the-feminine-powers-within/buy

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This might be one of our most important conversations yet.In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige take a deeper look at how patriarchy still influences recovery, relationships, and the systems that claim to support healing. We break down how women are often expected to stay silent, show grace, and be endlessly patient, even in situations that cause deep emotional harm.We explore the outdated beliefs that shaped programs like AA and Al-Anon, the gender roles passed down through generations, and the subtle ways control and emotional labor continue to fall on women. This is not a political conversation, it's a human one. It's about accountability, equality, and what a real partnership looks like.Whether you've been told to let things go, suppress your anger, or wait for someone else to get it together, this episode will help you name what's really going on.Support the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Is there a clear and deliberate agenda against men and boys in culture today? Or, is it simply a byproduct of the relative ease of modern times. My guest today, Pastor Douglas Wilson, makes the case that it's a combination of both and, more accurately, than “modern times,” a result of “wealthy times.” And, if that is the case, what should men do for ourselves and for the future of our children and this world? Today, Doug and I talk about rebuilding strength and order in our lives and instilling it in our boys, how exactly men can step up against the lunacy and degeneracy we see in modern culture, why men make inferior women and vice versa, why reality calls for us, as men, to reckon with the dangerous times in which we live, and why masculinity cannot (and, should not) be legislated away. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Welcome   01:03 - Softness in Society and Masculinity   03:36 - Exploitation in a Soft Society   04:17 - The Need for Righteous and Hard Men   06:30 - Hard Times Create Strong Men   07:58 - Men's Role as Protectors   09:16 - Historical Context of Church Femininity   14:53 - Corporate vs. Individualized Worship   17:51 - Egalitarianism and Traditional Roles   20:27 - Reclaiming Masculinity in Culture   22:57 - Preaching for Truth vs. Consensus   24:30 - Learning Masculinity Through Imitation   28:54 - Single Mothers and Masculine Role Models   31:19 - Balancing Risk and Safety in Raising Boys   37:06 - The Impact of a Pampered Society   41:49- The Decline of Risk-Taking in Men   46:18 - Male-Female Dynamics and Patriarchy   53:29 - Masculinity as Sacrificial Responsibility   57:13 - Promoting Man Rampant and Other Works   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

Are you constantly being asked to do more than your role requires because others around you aren't stepping up? You might be getting pulled into a leadership vacuum. In this final episode of the Leadership Series, I define what a leadership vacuum is and explain why so many mid-career academics—especially those in middle-management roles—get pulled into these gaps. Whether you're a department chair, PI, or program director, it's easy to start taking on responsibilities that aren't technically yours, particularly when leadership above you is weak or absent. I share how to recognize the vacuum, why scholars are especially vulnerable to it, and, most importantly, how to set boundaries that preserve your energy, time, and mission-driven focus. If you've ever felt overextended in your academic role, this episode is for you. Learn how to define your position and hold your boundaries with clarity and confidence. For full show notes visit scholarsvoice.org/podcast. We've opened the waitlist for our next cohort of Navigate: Your Writing Roadmap®. Check out the program details and get on the waitlist here.   CONTINUE THE CONVERSATION: Our 12-week Navigate: Your Writing Roadmap® program helps tenure-track womxn and nonbinary professors to publish their backlog of papers so that their voice can have the impact they know is possible. Get on the waitlist here! Cathy's book, Making Time to Write: How to Resist the Patriarchy and Take Control of Your Academic Career Through Writing is available in print! Learn how to build your career around your writing practice while shattering the myths of writing every day, accountability, and motivation, doing mindset work that's going to reshape your writing,and changing academic culture one womxn and nonbinary professor at a time. Get your print copy today or order it for a friend here! If you would like to hear more from Cathy for free, please subscribe to the weekly newsletter, In the Pipeline, at scholarsvoice.org. It's a newsletter that she personally writes that goes out once a week with writing and publication tips, strategies, inspiration, book reviews and more.   CONNECT WITH ME:  LinkedIn Facebook YouTube

In this episode, I'm discussing the importance of self-intimacy and how it can lead to healthier relationships and deeper connections because this helps you stop believing the LIE that you are "too much" when it comes to dating and relationships.Because this is such a common thing with my 1:1 coaching clients, I address the common fear of being 'too much' in love, explaining that this fear is rooted in societal conditioning, particularly from patriarchy.If this is something you struggle with, I advocate for slowing down and connecting with your body to cultivate self-intimacy, which ultimately enhances emotional intelligence and the ability to receive love. You can do that by grabbing my free Sensual Self Love Guide for Ambitious Women Reclaiming their Radiance here: https://selfexpressedbabe.myflodesk.com/selfloveguideThere's also a guided meditation in this episode, check the timestamps to jump straight too that.Takeaways:Embodiment and self-intimacy foster deeper connections.The fear of being "too much" is a societal myth.Patriarchy conditions women to feel anxious in love.Hyper productivity often masks deeper emotional issues.Rest is essential for emotional well-being.Self-intimacy enhances emotional intelligence.Slowing down allows for self-acceptance and confidence which allows you to fully receive and create healthy loveJoin the waitlist for Heart Magick here: https://selfexpressedbabe.com/breast-massage-course-for-women/Apply for 1:1 Coaching with me here: https://selfexpressedbabe.com/relationship-coaching-for-women/

About the EpisodeWill the real complementarians please stand up? Why it's time for thick/broad/natural complementarians to embrace the label of "biblical patriarchy" to differentiate themselves from the declining thin/narrow/ideological complementarians. Resources to Click“After Complementarianism, What? Why Egalitarians Are (Still) Winning the Evangelical Gender Debate” – Doug Ponder“Slaying Feminism: Ending the Impossible Quest for Sexual Interchangeability” – Doug Ponder“Male and Female He Created Them: The Implications of a Paradigmatic Reading of Genesis 1-3 for the Complementarian-Egalitarian Debate” – Doug Ponder“Newsletter #13: The Lost World of American Evangelicalism” – Aaron RennRomeo and Juliet, Act 2, Scene 2“A Biblical Vision of the Sexes: Harmonious Asymmetry” – Doug Ponder“Mere Complementarianism” – Denny Burk“What's In a Name? The meaning and origin of “Complementarianism”” – Denny Burk“Is Complementarianism a Man-Made Doctrine?” – Denny Burk“What is Biblical Patriarchy?” – Hard Men Podcast“Reformed Resourcement: Recovering Biblical Patriarchy with Zach Garris” – The King's Hall Podcast“The Three Worlds of Evangelicalism” – Aaron Renn“Newsletter #30: Complementarianism is a Baby Boomer Theology That Will Die with the Baby Boomers” – Aaron Renn“Who Should Read the Scriptures in Worship?” – O. Palmer Robertson“SBC Says Women Not Barred From Presidency, Pastor Dwight McKissic Suggests Beth Moore” – Leonardo Blair“Andrew Wilson says the Church Needs to Rethink Gender and Complementarianism” – Sam Hailes“A Word of Empathy, Warning, and Counsel for “Narrow” Complementarians” – Jonathan Leeman“Four Clarifying (I Hope) Thoughts on the Complementarian Conversation” – Kevin DeYoung“Empathy, Feminism, and the Church” – Joe Rigney“Does Anyone Need to Recover from Biblical Manhood and Womanhood?” – Andy Naselli“Complementarians and the Rise of Second-Wave Evangelical Feminism” – Doug Ponder and Bryan LaughlinThe Danvers Statement“Male-Only Ordination is Natural: Why the Church is a Model of Reality” – Steven Wedgeworth“What About the Term ‘Patriarchy'? – CBMW Podcast“Russell Moore's ETS Paper: The Best Yet” – Denny Burk“Rehabilitating Patriarchy” – Peter J. Leithart“After Patriarchy, What? Why Egalitarians Are Winning the Evangelical Gender Debate” – Russell D. Moore“Death to the Patriarchy?” – Kevin DeYoung“Loss of a Good Word (Again)” – Zephram FosterTheme of the Month: The Paterfamilias: Making Fatherhood Great AgainGive to Support the WorkBooks to ReadJesus, Justice, and Gender Roles: A Case for Gender Roles in Ministry – Kathy KellerWomen, Authority and the Bible – ed. Alvera MickelsenRecovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood: A Response to Evangelical Feminism – eds. John Piper & Wayne GrudemDiscovering Biblical Equality: Biblical, Theological, Cultural, and Practical Perspectives – eds. Ronald Pierce, Cynthia Westfal, et al.God's Design for Man and Woman: A Biblical-Theological Survey – Andreas J. Köstenberger & Mararet Elizabeth KöstenbergerThe End of Woman: How Smashing the Patriarchy Has Destroyed Us – Carrie GressSexual Politics – Kate MillettBeyond God the Father: Toward a Philosophy of Women's Liberation – Mary DalySoft Patriarchs, New Men: How Christianity Shapes Fathers and Husbands – W. Bradford Wilcox

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This week, we're sharing an interview with Talia Lavin, author of Culture Warlords: My Journey into the Dark Web of White Supremacy. In this chat, we speak about her more recent book, Wild Faith: How the Christian Right is Taking Over America. There's a lot in the book, most of it pretty disturbing (especially, I'm sure, for anyone who is ex-vangelical) and there is discussion of hateful ideology and child abuse and corporal punishment, though not in lurid detail, so listener discretion is advised. We hope to cover related topics in the future. Links: Newsletter: https://buttondown.com/theswordandthesandwich Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taliainteralia/ Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/swordsjew.bsky.social . ... . .. Featured Track: Voice Of God Is Government by Bad Religion from How Could Hell Be Any Worse

Why do women turn on each other? This important question was posed in a recent Substack article, which addressed what Jodi has been wondering for a long time: Is it envy? Fear? Competition? Patriarchy? All of the above? Regardless of the underlying reasons, we might catch ourselves dismissively believing 'there's just something about her that bothers me' (which then allows us to avoid those underlying reasons and blame the other person). In this episode, Jodi and her friend, Brooke, talk more about all of this. They also discuss the documentary, Call Her Alex, and the aforementioned Substack article by Women Are The Medicine.  Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and additional resources Link to Call Her Daddy on Hulu Link to Substack article by Rachel Lawlan of Women Are The Medicine   Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.  

This week with Bill taking some PTO Zach and JCB takeover the wheel. The 1 count is WWE. King and Queen of the Ring Finals are set; Cody vs Randy and Asuka vs Jade. We get the thoughts of the John Cena pipebomb including a statement from the absent Bill. Goldberg and Gunther exchange separate promos. Bayley loses to Becky Lynch due to Lyra Valkyria via disqualification. Penta attacks Chad Gable backstage. The 2 count is AEW. Couple of multi person matches on Collision; one for the women and another for the men. Big Bill and Brian Keith face off against the Patriarchy. The newly formed Jetspeed with a couple wins but get attacked by the Hurt Syndicate. The return of Kota Ibushi is discussed along with his match vs Trent. Mark Briscoe and Kris Statlander win their respective Casino Gauntlet qualifying matches. Will Ospreay and Swerve Strickland challenge the Young Bucks with some serious stakes on the line. The 3 count has predictions of the Night of Champions on Saturday. The boys give their picks for who is their Beefer choice of wrestler of the year on the men's and women's side. Odds and ends to close the show! Available on all audio podcast platforms. Listen Share Subscribe Repeat! Rate and review on Apple and Spotify! WWE AEW 50:50 NOC 1:33:10

In this episode I am once again joined by Mary Shutan: author, occultist, and spiritual teacher. Mary explains her activities as a modern spirit worker, reveals how to form and maintain working relationships with spirits, details the difference between spirit pacts and contracts, and warns about the unintended consequences of making deals with unknown beings. Mary explores the problems associated with using the word “shaman”, offers a critique of modern shamanism training courses, and explains why many people who pursue shamanism would be better suited to a religious orientation to animism. Mary also reveals her own aborted attempt at the infamous Abramelin ritual, details the resultant fallout and years of recovery, and reflects on the impact of magickal practice on mental and physical health. … Full episode link in bio. Also available on Youtube, iTunes, & Spotify – search ‘Guru Viking Podcast'.
 … 01:00 - What is a modern spiritual worker? 02:20 - Why Mary doesn't like to use the word “shaman” 02:44 - Mary's problems with Core Shamanism 04:31 - Shamanism and patriarchy 05:34 - Why Mary doesn't call herself a shaman 07:54 - Core Shamanism, Christian conditioning, and legacies of colonisation 10:58 - Anthropologists as shamanic teachers 13:21 - Training in Core Shamanism 15:41 - Critique of Core Shamanism and wounded healers 18:43 - Post-colonial critiques of modern shamanism 20:00 - Some people really want animism 21:42 - When shamanism goes wrong 22:33 - Cherry-picking shamanism and reconstruction 23:47 - Discernment and tainted gnosis 24:22 - Words have energy and the need for respect 26:36 - Mary uses the word “shaman” in her business and books 27:33 - Pervasive Christian conditioning 28:30 - Patriarchy in shamanism 29:38 - Pop-shamanism vs direct experience 30:55 - 20 years of teaching shamanism 32:16 - People don't believe in spirits any more 34:04 - Modernity and scientism 37:06 - Modernity and shamanism 40:40 - Martin Prechtel engaging with indigenous shamanism 43:06 - Indigeneity and the routes to become a shaman 46:52 - What Mary tells people who feel called to shamanism? 49:05 - Conflating personal religious practice with professionalising 49:53 - How to get started in animism 52:55 - Which spirits and entities does Mary work with? 55:27 - Spirit relations 57:42 - Mary's way of relating to spirits 59:33 - Spirit communication in dreams and through rituals 01:00:27 - Spirits who come to Mary 01:01:23 - Spirit contracts 01:03:56 - Spirit ID and the danger of spirit contracts 01:04:53 - The Buddha in Sri Lanka 01:06:35 - Be careful what you wish for 01:07:31 - Spirit Lawyering 01:07:52 - Healthy skepticism when dealing with spirits 01:10:00 - Cultural misunderstandings about spirits 01:11:21 - Don't make a pact with a spirit 01:12:29 - Warning about spirit contracts 01:13:18 - Pact vs contract 01:16:41 - Mary's training in Western Occultism and time in the Void 01:20:14 - Mary's spiritual crisis 01:24:17 - Orienting to the Dark Feminine 01:27:09 - Two attempts at the Abramelin ritual 01:29:16 - Abandoning the 18-month Abramelin ritual 01:29:50 - How did Mary exit the ritual? 01:30:48 - Magick and mental health 01:32:36 - Psychotherapists for magicians 01:33:32 - Struggles with the Golden Dawn and pivoting to shamanism 01:38:24 - Christian monks did magick 01:38:55 - Giving up seeking … Previous episode with Mary Shutan: - https://www.guruviking.com/search?q=shutan To find out more about Mary Shutan, visit: - http://maryshutan.com/ For more interviews, videos, and more visit: - www.guruviking.com Music ‘Deva Dasi' by Steve James

In this episode, we're diving into a New York Times article that had our jaws on the floor and our middle fingers in the air. The headline? Less Burnout, More Babies. The message? Young women should avoid burnout by skipping careers, getting married young, and cranking out kids.We unpack how this shiny new packaging of tradition is just the patriarchy doing what it does best - rebranding control as care. From subtle language shifts to full-blown regressive ideologies wrapped in cottagecore aesthetics, we're talking about what's really behind this push and why it's showing up now.If you're a woman feeling tired, lost, or overwhelmed by modern life, this episode is your reminder: the answer isn't to shrink your life to fit someone else's mold. It's to question everything - especially systems that benefit when women stay small, silent, and stuck.Expect laughs, some “can you believe this?!” moments, and a solid dose of sisterly wisdom. Bonus: a few feel-good content recs to balance out the existential dread.Hot Topics: Marlee Matlin (actress), Wendy Freedman astronomer), and Pride.Resources:Less Burnout, More BabiesCozy Convos MerchCozy AF Candle LineSign Up For Our Newsletter!

Patriarchy is a system that has shaped our world for thousands of years, which can make unpacking the topic feel overwhelming. Today, I offer a basic overview of patriarchy with specific examples that show how we got here and how it continues to influence us today. Awareness is the key to greater power and greater choice in your life. I hope that this episode provides you with insights and practical ways to claim both. Here's what I cover: The complexities of patriarchy beyond the idea that “men are in charge” How patriarchy was developed as a social technology in response to historical issuesLaws and political systems that were created to entrench patriarchy in societyHow to recognize patriarchy in action in today's societyThe ways patriarchy is internalized by people of all gendersHow humans created this system, so we can also choose to evolve beyond itI can't wait for you to listen!Book Recommendations for Further Reading:The Creation of Patriarchy by Gerda Lerner - A comprehensive historical analysis of how patriarchal systems developed and became institutionalizedUntamed by Glennon Doyle - A powerful exploration of unlearning patriarchal conditioning and discovering your authentic selfThe Authority Gap by Mary Ann Sieghart - Examines how women are systematically undermined and taken less seriously than men across all areas of lifebell hooks: All About Love by bell hooks - Explores how patriarchal systems damage our capacity for love and authentic connectionResearch and Studies Referenced:Archaeological evidence on egalitarian pre-agricultural societies:“The Gender Equality Paradox” - https://www.pnas.org/content/early/2018/04/16/1717312115National Academy of Sciences research on prehistoric gender roles - https://www.nationalacademies.org/based-on-science/prehistoric-gender-rolesHow Did Patriarchy Actually Begin?Medical research gender bias:“Gender bias in pain assessment and treatment recommendations” - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11441203/Journal of Law, Medicine & Ethics study on pain treatment disparities - https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1111/jlme.12040The mental load research:Arlie Hochschild's “The Second Shift” research - https://sociology.berkeley.edu/sites/default/files/faculty/hochschild/pdf/SecondShift.pdfEmotional labor studies - https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0003122412472680Confidence gap research:Kay & Shipman Harvard Business Review article - https://hbr.org/2014/08/why-women-dont-apply-for-jobs-unless-theyre-100-qualifiedThe Atlantic confidence gap study - https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2014/05/the-confidence-gap/359090/Language and gender studies:Linguistic Society of America research - https://www.linguisticsociety.org/resource/language-and-genderGender bias in language patterns study - https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2019-17914-001The Languages with Built-in SexismFind Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Send us a text!Welcome to Bright Hearth, a podcast devoted to recovering the lost arts of homemaking and the productive Christian household with Brian and Lexy Sauvé. In this episode, Brian and Lexy begin a series on "A Homemaker's Rules for Life," taking up Rule #3: A Homemaker walks by faith.Want premium, handmade soaps without the seed oils or other nasty hormone disrupters? Check out our partners at Indigo Sundries Soap Co., and use code BRIGHTHEARTH for ten percent off your order!This episode is also brought to you by Live Oak Integrative Health. Visit https://www.liveoakintegrativehealth.com and connect with owner Rebecca Belch, who has served as a critical care and labor and delivery nurse for 20 years and is a licensed practitioner of functional medicine.Thanks to our friends at Gray Toad Tallow for sponsoring this episode! Head over to graytoadtallow.com and use discount code BRIGHT15 for 15% off your order.Check out Joe Garrisi at Backwards Planning Financial at https://backwardsplanningfinancial.com for all your financial planning needs!Visit KeepwisePartners.com or call Derrick Taylor at 781-680-8000 to schedule a free consultation. Looking for THEE gift to last a thousand generations? Check out Rooted Pines Homestead where they work together as a family economy to create natural wooden toys and herbal remedies. Visit rootedpineshomestead.com and use code BRIGHT10 at checkout for 10% off your first order.Be sure to subscribe to the show, and leave us a 5-Star review wherever you get your podcasts! Buy an item from our Feed the Patriarchy line and support the show at the same time at briansauve.com/bright-hearth.Become a monthly patron at patreon.com/brighthearth and gain access to In the Kitchen, a special bonus show with each main episode!Support the show

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: In-depth Exploration of Patriarchy & its Correlation to Violence & Abuse [Part VIII of X]Join Val & Nathan as they respectfully lean into specific risk factors associated with formalized patriarchal religious institutions (including the LDS church) & how these vulnerabilities play out in very real ways.  They also explore how our children can eventually become safer as their caregivers become educated & reach a critical mass of light & knowledge about the harmful (even if unintended) consequences to many children raised within patriarchal homes & churches. **Please note, Val & Nathan are not implying that child abuse & violence are *inevitable* when their families and churches are patriarchal. They are simply unpacking all of the heavily researched data pointing to heightened risk factors associated with patriarchy and violence/abuse. Please, let us learn from the ample data & protect our children.Referenced in this Episode: Associated Press: Seven years of sex abuse: How Mormon officials let it happenSupport the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

This week on The Monday Edit, we have a very special guest joining in on the Monday fun: best selling author Anna Malaika Tubbs stopped by to tell us all about her new book, Erased: What American Patriarchy Has Hidden from Us and helps us hone in on real time examples of our Patriarchy is being weaponized today. Anna unpacks how the United States has constructed a unique—and often invisible—gendered hierarchy, one that is inextricably linked to whiteness and a deeply flawed binary system. From the founding fathers to the current Supreme Court, from the erasure of women in the Constitution to the ongoing fight for the Equal Rights Amendment, Dr. Tubbs reveals the mechanisms that have kept women's contributions hidden and their voices suppressed. Anna Malaika Tubbs is a scholar, advocate, and bestselling author (The Three Mothers: How the Mothers of Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcolm X, and James Baldwin Shaped a Nation) whose work brings a fresh, urgent perspective on American history and its gendered systems. With a Ph.D. in Sociology and a Masters in Multidisciplinary Gender Studies from the University of Cambridge and a Bachelors in Medical Anthropology from Stanford University, Anna translates her academic knowledge into clear and engaging stories. Her articles have been published by TIME Magazine, New York Magazine, CNN, Motherly, The Huffington Post, For Harriet, The Guardian, Darling Magazine, and Blavity. Anna's storytelling also takes form in her talks, including her TED Talk that has been viewed 2 million times, as well as the scripted and unscripted screen projects she has in development. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband, former Mayor of Stockton, CA Michael Tubbs  and their three young children. Not A Phase. Trans Lifeline Follow Anna Malaika Tubbs @annamalaikatubbs Follow us on Instagram @gettingbetterwithjvn Jonathan on Instagram @jvn and senior producer Chris @amomentlikechris New video episodes Getting Better on YouTube every Wednesday. Senior Producer, Chris McClure Producer, Editor & Engineer is Nathanael McClure Production support from Julie Carrillo, Anne Currie, and Chad Hall Our theme music is also composed by Nathanael McClure. Curious about bringing your brand to life on the show? Email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices