Flirt with Tawni Blake

Level up! Raise your standards in your dating life. You are worth more!

First dates should not be boring. Up your game. Shift your energy. Be more fun, more playful. Be curious. Ask great questions. Be memorable.

Women are taught from a young age that their only real purpose & goal in life is to get  married & procreate. I find this antiquated expectation ridiculous of course and I share my point of view on it all. 

I tell stories about past loves…. Love lost. Nostalgia. How I deal with all the memories that haunt me a bit. And the adventures I had moving to new cities all on my own. 

To meet someone in real life, you have to get out! Let's face it, dating apps are hit or miss. They take up a lot of time without a lot of real tangible results. It is way more effective (and fun, in my opinion) to meet in person and see if there's chemistry immediately. Let's get off our phones (& the apps) this summer and fully engage with the world full of people around us!

I discuss the pros and cons of this idea, and share my own personal experience through the years. 

In this episode, I share 3 success stories of clients who had given up hope on ever finding lasting love. Was it timing? Was it geography? Was it the work they did on themselves? We all need a little HOPE.

Your insecurity will inevitably manifest in your relationship. How you deal with it, and how you & your partner communicate about it will be the deciding factor if your relationship will last. Create a safer space for your person to talk about their issues with you. 

  In this episode, I talk about dating after therapy....How you might feel really ready! You've talked it all out. You may feel you have it all figured out now. All the sh#t from your childhood....But then you meet someone you really like, and all that you think you know flies right out the window....

The stress affecting your mental & physical health and therefore your relationships--your ability to date, connect and attract. Finding joy in the middle of it all. Self care. Taking care of each other. It all matters!

The stress affecting your mental & physical health and therefore your relationships--your ability to date, connect and attract. Finding joy in the middle of it all. Self care. Taking care of each other. It all matters!

I'm back!

That glimpse at insecurity that causes you to stay stuck. Are you spending way too much time in your head? Are you happy with your current partner? Or do you stay for all the wrong reasons?

Being single during the holidays can be rough! Newly single parents experiencing their first holiday without their kids, the family split apart. You are not the only one! Focus on yourself and self care and maybe do the unexpected. 

Perfect, beautiful date nights. And realizing my susceptibility to fear in a new relationship. The key to getting past it....and not messing it all up.

1992 was the year I fell in love for the first time with the most amazing human I have ever met...I am so grateful to him for setting the bar high for all the men that followed.

Cold weather is here....time to find someone to cuddle with to stay warm. I am also celebrating another successful singles gathering and feeling beyond grateful!

How does a relationship get started? From the first date to the exclusivity conversation. How do you make that decision to choose that one person to try and make something work? 

"During dark times, gratitude matters more than ever." This quote is from an article from a college on ethical leadership. Expressing gratitude can be a valuable tool when it comes to healing from grief. This week has been devastating for so many people. I have had few words to express my feelings, but I have remained in gratitude for every single thing that I have. Taking nothing for granted. Sending you all a little extra love....

My take on how to get a relationship to develop after your first date. The happy medium of communication, expressing your genuine interest, and curiosity. Flirting, fun, and some directness!

In your dating life, you are the common denominator. Your energy and your thoughts dictate how your dates will go. If you think all the good ones are taken.... If you think dating sucks...then this will be true for you. What do you bring to the table? Drama or healthy fun? Negativity or positive vibes? Get your sh#t together, people. :) 

I keep the theme of going down memory lane and read some of my love letters from the 6th and 7th grades. The intensity. The drama. So  passionately in love for two 12 year olds. And this is who I have always been. Makes me smile.

A "dear diary" episode about my 7th grade love affair who has recently shown up in my life, making us revisit our past moments together. This is the song by Chicago (the band) that takes us both back to me breaking his 13 year old heart back then. (Ouch!) So we have reconnected....now what? :)

Coaching dilemma for the dating coach...ignoring my own logical advice. I'm smitten! And all rational thought is thrown out the window...

You have to choose it. To work at it. To celebrate it. You must start with having hope that they exist!  

I'm on a roll! Successful first dates are about the energy you bring.

The excitement in the beginning of a new relationship can also mean fear and insecurities popping up for you, perhaps causing you to subconsciously self-sabotage to keep yourself from getting hurt. Try to stay in the moment.

Words matter. Be more intentional. Be a better listener. It can improve your dating life!

What I think it takes to make it a really great first date.

I describe my yummy feelings and energy of a new crush! Heady like a drug. Losing all logic. Feeling silly. ALL the fun!

Yes, I have decided to be single again....here we go....my first date adventures...."dear diary" episodes to follow. Stay tuned. I'm excited. 

Confidence is key. But the superficial gets you your chance. How you present yourself. Clothing often matters. Body language. A smile....Someone has to like what they see first so you get the chance to share who you are.

The beginning of a new relationship can be terrifying. Our fears make us act out and do stupid stuff to test the other human. The answer = true vulnerability and some blatant truth. First to ourselves.

I talk about how you can assume you know someone, never having asked the tough questions. And for people going on first dates, get that chip off your shoulder. 

I tell a story of a super negative experience this week. Why do people lash out at strangers? Again, hurt people hurting people, I guess. Does it make them feel better? Make sure you aren't one of these people.

Figure out your insecurities and what your addictions are and try to heal them. Work on loving yourself more and not always seeking external validation.

Ouch! How to handle the blow to your ego....

We must remember in relationships that actions speak louder than words. People can tell you who they WANT to be with you, but how they treat you on a daily basis is the key. Pay attention. 

But keep trying. Do it better. More effectively. And also try more to meet in the wild! It's a numbers game. Be your own matchmaker. And don't wear an ugly sweater on a date! :)

Courage to do the deep dive to build your confidence. Examining your past so you can move forward in a more healthy way. Shifting your energy so you can draw more to you.

Limiting beliefs. Narrow minded views.  Your attitude around dating needs to be more positive. 

I talk about the evolution of my incredibly BOY CRAZY dating life... A walk down memory lane. And I include advice on how YOU can get it right this time around...

If flirting could be so easy....Just engage and be curious. Friendly. Open. It's not rocket science, people! 

In this episode, I talk about my week of coaching several pain in the ass clients. :)  And I discuss attachment styles and how it affects your dating behavior.

Deliberate deception to woo you into a commitment based on lies. How to avoid this trap. Ask direct questions! Pay attention to the red flags!

Do you find the idea of a singles event terrifying? :) I recap the success of my event, and my new clients who are already transforming seemingly overnight. And all the other different personalities coming together for a night of flirting. 

Do more shit outside your comfort zone! Stop being boring! Talk to people. Flirt more! Be more fearless! Find more joy in your life! No risk=no reward.

Pining after a lost love...Did you learn anything the first time? And happy birthday to me! My gratitude for my joy filled life.

The dating advice you never seem to take...honoring yourself. Why you keep making other people more important than you are!

The Lost Art - do you know how to FLIRT? Without being too sexual too soon? Have we all forgotten how to talk to people? Has technology ruined us?

And other stories of people being stuck. Random emails I get from total strangers.....  Another day in the life of a dating coach.