Love or Leave it

Do you ever throw adult tantrums?Do you struggle with all or nothing thinking with friends, partners, family?Do you feel let down easily?I do.Its hard. disappointment is hard.  so lets talk about it

One of my favorite stories- from the outside they were a model couple, but she was slowly dying inside, yet tortured by the idea of breaking apart her perfect looking family.  My client is the definition of a badass but her marriage felt empty.  Listen to find out how this played out and what really got us moving quickly

Why do boundaries matter?Why are they so hard to set?What are they uncomfortable?What can we do about it?Why is it hard to say no, and why is it hard to hear no?Why are boundaries one of the most important communication tools you can learn and master...Listen to this episode to get a clear perspective on all of the above.  If you haven't already- also listen to Episode 50 (for boundaries in children)Today Im talking about some uncomfortable conversations I had to go thru with family that taught me a lot and put my boundaries to test

Even if you dont have kids, this is such an important topic- as an adult we often struggle with boundaries because they were pushed away as children and that habit is hard to break.Today i am talking about how people sometimes bulldoze boundaries when it comes to children- why does that matter? Why should you care? what is the impact of that?

I love this topic sooo much.  I also hate this topic sooo much. haha!!In this episode- I talk about good girl messaging with is the root of the people pleaser women who have heard this message so often to the point that we grow up to believe we are unloveable unless we act a very specific wayand what we can do to change this for our kids, and ourselveswhy should you care about this? because its hard to be yourself/be in a secure relationship when you are still trying so hard to figure out who you are allowed to be

This is a bonus episode recorded from the heart, in response to some of the terrible happenings.  I think the mental health epidemic is a real thing we need to speak about.  The audio quality is not great, sorry about that, but if that doesnt bother you, this episode is really important. Please share!

I haven't talked about this in a minute, I wanted to thru why do I even do this?  What does it mean to feel silenced? Why as humans do we want to see someone else talk about the things that we don't feel comfortable talking about? Why does this all matter to me enough that Im willing to deal with the negative feedback?

If youre an overthinker like me, i have some tips and new perspective for you.  Overthinking isnt necessarily a bad thing but it will keep you stuck, so learn what to do differently and how to think about this in a way that is useful.  Also what does it mean to decide? And are you stuck with your decisions? What if its the wrong choice?

does anyone talk about the weird space that comes after you realize that maybe this relationship is not for you?well today I am going there.  why is it so hard to leave, after all? why do we feel like it's difficult to know where to turn when we start to navigate this. it can be so lonely, so let's chat.  you are never alone

Today's episode is super candid, I want to share a bit of realness of what's been going on in my life.  The last few months have been super difficult, and I want to talk about where I thought I was and where I am instead.  This one was hard to share, but I love this community and wanted to be as transparent and honest as possible

In this episode I talk about a pattern I see with women in their 20s and 30s and the pressure that we put on ourselves.  I break it down because this pattern seems to cause a lot of stress and anxiety that I think we can avoid

Disclaimer: I am not an expert, the thoughts shared in this episode are based on my own experience.  If this is triggering in anyway, please do not listen.I grew up with a severe eating disorder, and told virtually no one about it.  The shame, the loneliness, the helplessness consumed me for many years.  I talk about it today to start the conversation and shed light on what it might be like for someone you know closely, or yourself to go thru this alone.  I also touch on the things that we often say that we don't think matter, but can change the trajectory of someone's thoughts.  **this episode was hard for me to share, so thank you for listening with love**

This case study if from my client (anonymous as always) who was feeling a lot of pain and anger processing what went down in her relationship.  In this episode I walk you through the process we had to go thru to get her through a lot of heartache so that she could get a sense of closure whether that meant confronting him or letting him go- listen to find out.

Whether we are talking about relationships, bodies, careers, or any part of your life- comparison will ruin everything for you. Today we talk about why comparing your relationship to others is going to mess with your head. And why you need to stop doing that and look internally instead 

A note from my heart about being grateful.  I wanted to give you a fresh new perspective on the life you have and how to make sure you stay in tune with all of your blessings.There are people out there who want everything you have, and there are people out there who have everything you think you want.  So what do we do with that…?

Do you not trust your partner? Did they break your trust? Or maybe you are just afraid they are doing something behind your back?In this quick ep I am breaking down exactly what needs to be going thru your head when you feel like you are super anxious because you cannot trust your partner.  Whatever the reason is, I give you some real advice with a dose of tough love on how to move thru this.  I break down a real convo I had with a client who was deceived once or twice and really is struggling because she is haunted by thoughts of how her partner hurt her.

Are you struggling with chronic health issues or unable to lose weight? Does it seem like no matter what you do or how many doctors you see, your health issues remain the same?  Our guest today, Misha Vayner, knows this all too well. For years, Misha struggled with chronic pain, brain fog, and weight loss until she discovered that her health problems were rooted in stress and traumatic life experiences.  From there she began her healing journey and now helps other women do the same.  In our conversation, Misha shares how she got back into alignment with her body to heal herself of all her chronic issues, plus tips on how you can start your healing journey.Connect with Misha VaynerINSTAGRAM | WEBSITE | FACEBOOK GROUP

Do you ever wonder how you went from passion/dating to just roommates? OR maybe you don't even have time to wonder that but life together just feels basic and mundane? I have some answers for you. Sorry (not sorry) for the tough love in advance. xoxo

I am bringing you stories of a few of my clients so that you can really see what goes on in a coaching season with me.  This particular client came to me because her relationship was "fine" but she knew she wanted more but wasn't necessarily being pushed to stay or leave.  In this short story, I explain what we worked thru to ultimately get her to a decision.

This is for you if you live with your partner and tasks feel imbalanced.  Feeling like you do a lot, and your partner is not doing nearly enough? That its all on you? That the burden is heavy? This is for you!Today I talk about how to manage this so it doesn't make you crazy

5 day challenge- 5 things you NEED to work on if you're having trouble in your relationship.  5 bite size pieces of work you need to do whether you decide to stay or go, you have to work on these.  I break them down in a way that allows you to go do the work TODAY. I promise this is going to help you now AND later in life. Day 5- It's to lie to other, but why is it so easy to lie to yourself too? And what kind of trouble does that get you in? Learn today what I think about it, and how to catch yourself in the act.

5 day challenge- 5 things you NEED to work on if you're having trouble in your relationship.  5 bite size pieces of work you need to do whether you decide to stay or go, you have to work on these.  I break them down in a way that allows you to go do the work TODAY. I promise this is going to help you now AND later in life. Day 4- Trust yourself so much that you are ok with the decisions you've made and so that you can grow and evolve moving forward.  It is ok to change your mind, and I want to go over why and how this shows up in your relationship... and what to do about it

5 day challenge- 5 things you NEED to work on if you're having trouble in your relationship.  5 bite size pieces of work you need to do whether you decide to stay or go, you have to work on these.  I break them down in a way that allows you to go do the work TODAY. I promise this is going to help you now AND later in life. day 3- how to handle guilt in your relationship, especially if you are a woman. Why this causes such an issue if it's not addressed. What to do about it and how to work thru it.

5 day challenge- 5 things you NEED to work on if you're having trouble in your relationship.  5 bite size pieces of work you need to do whether you decide to stay or go, you have to work on these.  I break them down in a way that allows you to go do the work TODAY. I promise this is going to help you now AND later in life. Day 2- Have you gotten help with your relationship? It's easy to be scared to get help because then it means something might be "wrong" with your relationship.  This is super important. Listen in to know why it matters.   

5 day challenge- 5 things you NEED to work on if you're having trouble in your relationship.  5 bite size pieces of work you need to do whether you decide to stay or go, you have to work on these.  I break them down in a way that allows you to go do the work TODAY. I promise this is going to help you now AND later in life. day 1- what if the problem is you? what do YOU need to work on.  Today I break down how to really take a look at the patterns that you bring to the relationship, and how to really work on them.  And why this matters.  

In this episode I interview model, photographer, business-therapist Ashley Cook Adair about the hardest decision she has ever had to make- from being a stay at home wife to leaving her marriage and starting over with nothing.  She talks about the type of courage it took, what she had to leave behind, and the lessons learned... all in the name of self love.  Did she find her happily ever after? Enjoy the listen!Ashley can be found on instagram @ashley.cook.adair

In this episode I talk to @theallykennedy about what its like to be married to someone you love so much and choose to leave anyway.  She talks to about choosing her destiny over love, and how hard it was.  But also how necessary it felt to not lose herselfWe discuss closure and what it means to really listen to your gut even if all signs are pointing in a different direction.  

Mindset 101.  What is mindset, how can you work on your mindset, and why does it matter?being able to stop and actually work on my mindset has been a total life saver.  I can actually slow down and figure out my anxieties by observing and questioning my thoughts.  Here is a tangible way for you to work on it too

This one was close to my heart, as I have dealt with this a lot lately.  Today I talk about what challenges come up when relatives/caretakers are around my kids and how I handle it.  As always, take what's helpful and leave the rest

Im giving you a few examples of things I have manifested, big and small.  I manifested my move to atlanta, a car, a bagel hahaha, and some cashhhh money!I really believe you can either believe in this, or you cant, but what do you gain by not?Why not ask for the thing you want, and decide they can be yours?Try it for yourself, what do you have to lose?

Here are the 5 lessons that I wish I had learned sooner in my life in terms of my relationships.  I break down each one and tell you why they served me at the time but that, looking back, I wish I had changed them sooner.AND listen to the end to hear a huge announcement in my life.   

Tara talks to me about how their marriage hit a rough spot, but it was worth it to her to take on a bit more and then really dive into working on their marriage.  She never doubted that this was the relationship for her.  Also how we can show kids that marriages do not have to be perfect to survive

You need your partner to change something, but they won't do it.  How to handle how you bring this up, what to do if they don't change, and what it means about your relationship and you.

In regards to relationships you hear that they are all hard, but how hard are they really supposed to be? And what point do you know that maybe its just too hard?? This episode gives you a guide to follow to really understand what is manageable vs what might clue you in to look a little deeper. xoxo

In this episode I talk about something that occurred to me during my maternity leave.  I was living in a state of lack and neediness, but something happened a few days ago and I wanted to share it with you.  Even if you are great at expressing gratitude, which I thought I was too, this will be helpful.  

this was the hardest thing Ive talked about yet- this is my story uptil now, from my perspective.  my marriage has been hard and Ive learned so much along the way.  its the reason I am who I am and its the reason I wanted to be a relationship coach and help other women feel seen and heard.  I want to empower women who feel like they cannot share their stories, that they did something wrong, and that they have anything to embarrassed about if things didnt turn out exactly as planned.  Being Indian, having heavy expectations from the outside and within, plus the general desire to fit in and be loved got me into a bit of  a mess.

This episode was hard, and its not just for you moms out there.  This is a story of what happens when we dont honor ourselves and the lessons I learned getting pregnant and then post pregnancy.  This was life changing for me but also so painful.  I definitely cried recording this, but i wanted to share in case it could help anyone at all!

Financial Coach Sierra Roper and myself have a convo about money in a relationship.  A topic that causes so much tension for so many couples.  Myself included!  Sierra helps women feel more confident with their money by learning how to budget, save, and pay off debt.  If you want more of her, find her on instagram: @sierraroperr

In this episode I interview Katie Runyan, a senior director of product for a tech company, about what it's been like being single after long term relationships and how she knows she is ready to date again.  We talked about how you know when a relationship has run its course, even when it's not awful.  I hope you enjoy this one!

Today I interviewed Kaitlyn Ash, an entrepreneur who helps women with their social media and marketing.  We talked about what it is like to prioritize kids, spouse, business, and find the balance in it all.  We discussed the anxieties that can come up in a relationship, and how to handle that.  I loved doing this interview, I hope you find it helpful too!

I am so excited to bring you this episode. Jessica Battle is a mindset mentor, business coach, and intuitive eating expert. But today we are talking about her marriage! I felt like I had the chance to interview a celebrity (if you don't know who she is, where have you been?!) even though she's a huge part of my life. Her marriage isn't perfect but listen in to hear the journey to get there and why she knows with certainty her husband is her forever person.

Erica is someone Ive known for a few years, and Ive worked with her before in one of my group programs. I love her energy, she’s so optimistic about life and relationships. She is so mature for her age, and the way she describes her relationship with her boyfriend is really refreshing and simplified. I think we could all learn something from this. They have had hard times but she explains how that never made her waver, so please listen to find out why.

This is so special for me to be able to provide you with! In this interview I chat with Life coach Sarah Plowman about how she found her way out of her marriage with two small children, and how she has transitioned into a life of co-parenting. We discuss the struggles, the challenges with children, and how she finally made the leap to start a new life. I find her story to be so beautiful, I hope you enjoy it too!

You know who you are. or you know someone like this. This is a very difficult trait to be around (sorry, but thats just how I dish it). And today I want to challenge you to think about this a little more.

this is a replay of a live I did! I often get asked how to fix a relationship but this question is really important to answer and understand first. This question is not an easy one for everyone to answer but I am challenging you to be honest with yourself and figure out if you even want to be in your relationship.

Do you know that you're unhappy but you just feel stuck? In this episode I call you out. I talk about what you need to be doing to figure this out, and what options you have!

No matter what your love language is, you should be spending quality time with your partner. Get off your phones, turn the tv off, and talk to each other. This also applies outside of your relationship and in life in general. Start to get really intentional about how you spend your life!

in this episode I talk about overthinking and fear. How preparing for the worst doesn’t actually prepare you, and why you need to be aware of these processes in your life and start to question if they are really serving you. I also dive into how to turn inaction into action so you get live your best life

Do you struggle with making everyone else happy at your own expense? This episode is for you. This episode is the key to living a more authentic life, where you can stand in your own truth and not worry what the world thinks of you.

Today I talk about a very important but difficult aspect to change in your relationships immediately- reactions. This goes hand in hand with the episode about controlling your self. Whether it is a romantic relationship or not, how you react is important and I will tell how you can work on that today.

being accountable for yourself and not worrying about what your partner is doing wrong is super important if you want a healthier relationship immediately.