Safe Way Out

In this episode, I talk about the messy, tender art of letting go—of people, plans, and versions of ourselves that no longer serve us. If you've ever felt stuck holding on to something out of fear or habit, this one's for you. Let's explore what it really means to release with love, not guilt.

En este episodio, Luis reflexiona sobre las veces que nos perdemos en las relaciones y cómo redescubrir nuestra conexión con nosotros mismos. Hablamos de las señales de que estamos cediendo demasiado, perdiendo nuestra independencia y cómo recuperar nuestra autenticidad para poder estar bien con los demás. Un llamado a la introspección y el autoconocimiento para fortalecer nuestra salud emocional y nuestras relaciones.

Is your relationship making you feel more alive—or just tired? In this episode, I explore the difference between love that expands you and love that drains you. I'll walk you through real signs, honest reflections, and the kind of questions that help you check in with yourself. No judgment, just clarity. If you've ever wondered, “Is this love helping me grow?” — this one's for you.

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El primer episodio en español de un podcast de psicología, la vida, y todo lo demás.

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We're giving you our take on physical touch in relationships. Of course there are so many ways of looking at physical touch, so we'll cover a few perspectives, but ultimately we want you to understand how it plays a role in secure bonds. Thanks for listening to our podcast! Email us directly at cc-counseling@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Hope everyone has enjoyed their holidays! As the New Year comes around the corner, we're hoping that you have an outlook on the last year of your life -- we know it hasn't been easy for the world as whole. Keeping in mind your goals and intentions, it's easy to get stuck in fulfilling our goals, or just growing from where we are at this moment in our lives. We hope this insight will help build your intentions and give you feedback on what may help guide you in this journey towards self-growth. Keep growing strong everyone! Thanks for listening. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I apologize for the low mic volume this time around. Thanks for continuing to listen and support our podcast! Today, we're addressing the topic of "Shaping our Existence," because it relates specifically to how we continue to overcome things, just like the pandemic in the last year. Sometimes we hit bumps along the way in our journey through life, but we want to talk about how we can also embrace where we're at and overcome those challenges. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Hello everyone, we're so happy to be back on gear with the podcast! This last year has brought with it collective traumas and griefs in the world, and we're very excited to be having conversations that we hope will engage you and continue to bring light into your life right now. To those already, or newly listening to the podcast, we appreciate your ears and your hearts. We want this to continue to be a resource for those seeking support in times of great distress, or just to hear two therapists talk about topics that interests them! Thanks. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this new episode, I'm sharing with you the beauty of working as a counselor with clients who are struggling to attune to their partner's emotional experiences. We all have of our own stories and relationships-- sometimes we learn to insecurely connect with ourselves and others experiences. In counseling, we get to cultivate, or nurture, moments of secure and emotional attunement between loved ones. This is the great power and privilege that comes from doing this work. Today, I hope you will feel and hear some of what that looks like. Feedback, Questions or Comments to: SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com

In this episode Luis talks about the best ways of moving forward to taking care of yourself from a relationship perspective.

Today, we're talking about our thoughts regarding the new Cruella film that's coming out this year! We both share a love for the villain of 101 Dalmatian films, Cruella Deville, and we hope you'll enjoy our feedback and theories about the film coming out with Emma Stone. From a counselors perspective, we are excited to share our questions and comments about Cruella. Let us know if you have questions, feedback or topic ideas. Shoot us an email at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today we are chatting tattoos and are perspectives on it =)! Let us borrow your ears for a bit while we explore different ideas relating to them and to us

Welcome to 2021! It has been a whirlwind of a last year, but we want to welcome you back with some better surprises. We're glad to introduce you to one of our dear friends, Cindy T, who was so happy to be a part of this new journey with us. Come listen and hear what we have to say! Feedback and questions to SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

It's closer to the holidays, life is busy, and we're on various journeys in our lives as well. Today, we're addressing the topic of gift giving, however that might resonate with you and your loved ones. Maybe you'll learn some more about how we see gift giving! And maybe it'll relate to your experience too. Thanks for listening everyone, and please reach us at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com with any questions, topics or feedback. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, we're addressing the topic of insecurity and moving forward. 2020 has been a crazy, chaotic, pandemonium-type of year— however you have internalized this year, there are moments, both in life and relationship, where we find insecurity in ourselves and need to process. Listen to us this weekend, and let us know if you have feedback, topic ideas or questions—SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In today's episode, we're addressing the ongoing topic of panic, related to an ongoing pandemic in the United States, and all over the globe. There are patterns, as waves of deaths continue, of panic related to purchasing and overbuying. As simple as the topic seems, this is an area related to conversations about our emotions and relating our feelings to others around us. Let's dig in, and share your thoughts, topics or feedback to SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Secure attachment is the emphasis of the work we do with yourselves and with our clients. Today, we're addressing the factor of vulnerability, our willingness to share our deepest emotional experiences and feelings with others, and in a sense, with ourselves. The journey into the unknown is beautiful when we take the leap. Share your experiences, questions, feedback or topic ideas with us at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com

Today, we're addressing the formula for good self-esteem. The one question you might ask yourself is, "Do I need a relationship to have good self-esteem?" And, I mean, do you need a romantic partner to feel good about yourself. From a lens of attachment, we need secure attachments to regulate and process emotions in a safe and secure place. We hope you'll find this ep. insightful, and if you have any questions, comments or topic suggestions, email us at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, we're looking at the differences in personality, when it comes down to introverted and extroverted needs. We talk about our personal experience and professional understanding of these differences. We hope you'll find this intriguing and insightful. Reach out for support, questions or topic requests at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com

In this week's podcast episode, Luis and I are addressing the topic of regulating your emotions in relationships. Sometimes this is a difficult process, but I realize that it takes an incredible amount of work. Most of this work begins with learning to have someone else with us to find comfort and understanding how to access our emotions in the moment. We all need secure attachments, and we hope you'll find some insight in this discussion, or maybe relate to what we're addressing here. For questions, topics or feedback, please email us at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, we're getting some feedback about a training Luis participated in surrounding the topic of affairs. We're going to tie together some knowledge we share, and new knowledge from his training, to couples who are struggling in their relationships with overcoming infidelity. We hope you'll find it informative and enticing! Reach out for more support, questions or topics at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this week's episode, we're tracking some differences, from our knowledge and experience with our work, between Emotionally-focused therapy and narrative therapy. Of course, there are so many different types of therapy out there, including various approaches to processing emotion or presenting issues in relationships. Because we love attachment theory, and the work itself, we want to share our thoughts with you. Take a listen, share and reach out with any issues, questions or topic ideas at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, we're addressing the question, "What do I do when I don't feel like I'm enough for my partner?" This is a question you might've asked in the past, or are currently asking yourself. We're going to address how we start feeling secure with ourselves, especially by assessing and understanding the patterns that lead to guilt or shame in relationships. This doesn't have to be a romantic partner, it can also be a friend, family member, or co-worker, to name a few. Please listen, let us know your feedback or topic options! SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

This is as organic as it could get today. We started addressing the concept of "motivation," but you'll see we steered off in the direction of Attachment Theory. A beautiful listener asked us to cover the topic, and you'll see how important it is in secure attachments to meet the needs of our attachment figure. So, maybe you'll leave this episode with some more knowledge about the topic of attachment, and I hope you'll motivate yourself to find someone that is secure for you. Leave feedback or questions for us at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, we're addressing the topic of Spirituality. Take a dive into yourself to see what you attach yourself to spiritually. Sometimes this ties itself to religion, and at other times it's something else we transcribe into our lives. We hope you'll find this topic informative and useful. Thanks. If you have any feedback or other questions, please shoot us an email at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, our discussion gravitates towards the idea of wholeness; it can be seen from various perspectives and viewpoints. Some words you might hear being used are "secure," "harmony," or "bonding," but we want to share our beliefs about the idea of wholeness, and maybe you'll find that it provides you additional insight into your life. If you feel that you have other recommendations for podcast topics, or you'd just like to provide your own input on the new episode, email us at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today's topic is a response to a listener's request, addressing the concept of "self-forgiveness." We hope you'll find the details of today's conversation to be both informative and inspirational. Listen and pay attention to yourself to see if anything important comes up for you. If you have any questions or want to provide any valuable feedback to us, please email us at: SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today's podcast is addressing the topic of self-esteem. Self-esteem moves in various directions, and by that, I mean it can impact us in both positive and negative ways. Self-esteem involves awareness, emotional intelligence and impacts our personal and professionals lives. Today, we're looking forward to seeing what you'll find useful in this week's podcast, so definitely reach out with questions or feedback: SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, we're addressing a listener's question: How much does trauma correlate with Borderline Personality disorder? We hope you'll find our discussion on this topic informative, but also, you might have further questions that are left unanswered. We are still learning from our discussions as well, and we appreciate all feedback or additional questions. Please consider sending us anything at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Psychology, Counseling and Love -- These are a few of our favorite things; but, they extend into various parts of our lives. While this is personal, it is also serves as a lens into the importance of having someone else in our lives to share our struggles, decisions and choices with. It's important to connect, and without further adieu, please take a listen and find something interesting in our discussion today. Please provide questions or feedback to SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, we're addressing a question you might've asked yourself in the past, "What is too much control?" Control extends into various parts of our lives, and there are ways we see healthy and unhealthy levels of control. It plays a part in our goals, the future we're planning for ourselves, but it also plays into relationships, or attachments, and how we connect and have conversations about intentions in a relationship. We hope you'll find value in this podcast, and thanks for listening. Please feel free to email us with feedback or questions, SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, we're addressing Work-Life Balance, talking specifically about the stress that comes with our own jobs. I want to keep the discussion here short, so I start by posing the question, "How do you manage the stress from your job?" It's a big question, and a huge part of work-life balance involves managing your own self-care. We'll talk about those different ways and what it looks like here. Please take the time, if you'd like to provide feedback or have questions, to email us at: SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, we're addressing personal resistance, this common idea that can create cycle's in an individual's life. It's important to keep track of where we have resistance in our lives, whether that's professionally, personally or in a relationship. We hope what you'll take away from this is a tool for awareness, because we must be mindful and be able to appropriately address the reasoning behind our roadblocks. A big piece of this discussion is relying, with healthy codependency, on a securely attached partner or person in our lives. This helps lift some of the weight of resistance! We hope you'll find this discussion useful, and please give us feedback or questions anytime, at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, we're talking about the topic of looking after your mental health. In the US alone, there are various systems that have led to oppression of entire communities and the suppression of feelings related to internal struggles. We're addressing the stigma of mental health, because so many people have said things that relate seeking mental health support, whether that's self-help or therapy, to lack of confidence, weakness or shame even. There are ways that these systems and insecure attachments convey to us that mental health support is not necessary, and we end up carrying a wide load of shame, fear, disgust, and other feelings that break us apart inside. We hope you find this discussion today very useful, and for those needing other support and to simply provide feedback to us directly, please feel free to email us at SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Here we are, talking about breakups and the idea of leaving a relationship and processing the pain from it. There are instances in relationships where we realize mistakes might happen, and sometimes where we find ourselves looking to meet our needs elsewhere, we don't realize how addressing those needs can bring two people closer together. On the other hand, there are relationships that are extremely abusive, whether sexually, emotionally or physically, and it's difficult to understand how to express our needs or desires, and in our stories, this shows up differently. It's important to feel safe and secure in a relationship, and even through overcoming the damage of one, we need to process and understand the pain that it left us in the end. Hopefully this podcast episode will shed some well deserved light for you! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today, we're addressing the idea of sharing our political views in a safe space, in a secure relationship. What does this look like? How can we feel safe about opening up about our reactions to specific political topics, some of which shouldn't be a question of political nature? We are passionate about helping others understand and recognize the value of secure attachment, but this also means that when you're struggling to feel safe, whatever nature that may be, you have resources and ways to build awareness around your reactions to tough topics. It's vital we understand and grasp the reality that many of these topics center around a lack of empathy and compassion for individuals who are enduring circumstances that are unfair and unjust. We look forward to this discussion and hearing your feedback on the topic as well, thanks. Email: SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

As a continuation of our previous podcast, #BlackLivesMatter, we address the idea of looking at, and building awareness, of our own racism. We live within a system of racism that goes back since the earliest of times, since someone stood among another, a person of different skin tone. In today's podcast, we would like to give you a moment to think about what you feel, what you think about, when you address this topic. We know this can be hard to address, especially because your own background or personal experiences have driven you to think about feelings in a specific way. . . We challenge you to ask yourself why, and here, we want to look at the idea of white fragility and the importance of understanding humanity. You get to be scared, feel shame or even sadness, but the system creates anger, and empathy has come to a point that it forms fatigue for people of color, and empathy is humanity, and what these individuals are experiencing is clearly injustice. Also, the correct email to send feedback or responses is: SafeWayOut-podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Instead of titling this episode, the Power of Empathy, I suggest we call it #BlackLivesMatter. Whatever way we can stand in to show empathy, whatever way considers your emotions, your capacity to regulate your mental health, that would be what I recommend you consider here. We talk deeply about empathy in this podcast, but it isn't about what we do as individuals in a relationship, or as counselors, it's about how we can make a change in this crisis of inequality for our black brothers and sisters in this world, not just our nation. We talk today about the movement, but we home in on the ability to regulate yourselves, so that you recognize your own capacity to help, to show empathy to, understand and have compassion for what's happening in the world right now. What can you do? There are a few ways to look at this question, so, take a listen here and see if you'll find what you're looking for. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

It is our third year anniversary today, and without a doubt, developing secure attachments is not an easy endeavor. We are talking today about the understanding of shame, what it means, what it looks like in ourselves, and how it impacts our loving relationships. It isn't about brokenness when we can't recognize or vocalize our emotions, but it's about experiences that ingrain this idea of shame in us. This might mean we develop fear about opening up from various encounters or from within our families. I hope you will find value in this conversation, and we look forward to hearing your thoughts about the episode. We're beginning to think it's time to let people share their feedback, so feel free to email the podcast at: SafeWayOut-Podcast@outlook.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Here's the thing, we know how difficult it can be to express our needs when we're upset, if we're feeling angry, frustrated or shameful. These are just a few of the ways we feel when our partner, our friend or closed love one upsets us in a way that, when we feel a loss of control of our emotions, we can push or pull away from our attachments, or even push them away from us. Today, we talk about the value of secure attachment, because understanding how we can thoughtfully label our emotions, put words to those reactions, and help our partner(s) or other attachments be there to lean on to will be a beautiful transformation. Our past relationships can influence our reactions, especially when we're triggered, and we talk about this as well, because everyone deserves a secure attachment, and you might not realize how much your past relationships are impacting your current attachments too. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

We're talking today about understanding forgiveness and forget, in terms of the attachments in our life. You may not have experienced a secure attachment growing up, and maybe you're struggling to let go of a relationship that seems “toxic” or hurtful, but that's why we pose the question, what does it mean to forgive or forget in relationships? We hope you find this information valuable and applicable to your life in some way or another. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

When we talk about removing obstacles to growth, we're focusing on the need for awareness and comfort in a relationship, and how our own roadblocks can affect our emotional and physical attachment with a partner. You may have heard the saying that goes, "you have to love yourself first, before you can love someone else." In terms of attachment, you might not find security or comfort in yourself until the moment you find another human being who can help build your awareness about your needs. Security and trust can be found, even in times of global crises, when we communicate and have someone to help us pay attention to the parts of us that are struggling. We can unlock so much potential just by making the effort to connect with someone else. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Through the struggles that are moving you in the direction of your life, it's important to gain awareness about how trauma has impacted you. What are some of the experiences of trauma in your life? Maybe you need some help understanding what trauma looks like, because the timestamp on grief can be infinite, and there's no amount of time that can given to you to deal with that trauma(s). We're hopeful you find hope and safety in relationships in your life, especially those that can help you discover the impact of trauma in your life and how reaching out to a loved one, or even a counselor, can help you build that awareness and process the feelings underlying your triggers or responses to instances that remind you of your own traumatic experiences. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Right now, it's so hard to get in touch with what we're experiencing, especially with the current COVID-19 crisis in America. Wherever you need a listening ear, it's important to recognize the value in processing your own emotions, and you need a safe-base for security and trust. To have someone that can listen and provide a sense of empathy for what you're going through is the ultimate tool with this particular crisis. We're reaching out giving the listeners some options that are effective for various personality types or backgrounds. I hope we can continue to offer valuable information about attachment and the value self-care has in maintaining healthier bonds with those we love! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

The world is always changing, and right now, we're learning that some things are out of our control. We're two working mental health professionals that are aimed at focusing on the beauty of attachments and understanding what direction to take when we're struggling in different ways. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app