Sex Life Unleashed

This episode is filled with candid and empowering discussions. From debunking societal norms on female desire to unraveling the mysteries of sexual compatibility, no question is off-limits. For more information check out Stephen on istagram @drdewit

Welcome to our podcast where we dive into some of the most pressing and intriguing questions related to love, sex, and relationships. In this episode, we tackle some of the most common questions that people have when it comes to intimacy and pleasure.Have you ever wondered why you can't seem to reach orgasm with your partner? Or maybe you're struggling with falling back in love with your first love even though you're married. How about the age-old question of why some partners won't go down on their significant other? And let's not forget about the issue of coming too fast, which can be frustrating and embarrassing for some.Finally, we explore the phenomenon of getting turned on by people who aren't our partners, and the delicate issue of wanting to go to a sex club when your partner doesn't. So, sit back, relax, and get ready for a fun and enlightening discussion on all things love, sex, and relationships!Have sex questions you need answered click  hereFollow me on Instagram

I'll be answering your questions and discussing how to talk to your partner about sex when you don't want it, the pros and cons of being a boss in your life and submissive sexually, and how to get rid of the shame and guilt you may feel after kinky sex. Plus, we'll tackle how to "make" your partner more open-minded and spice things up, how to handle "regrets" after "settling down", and where to find a partner that will prioritize your pleasure.  Come on in and let's get started!If you're interested in joining the secret society click hereYou can follow me here @drdewit

Every two weeks I love to bring you the answers to your questions: Whether you're struggling with a sexless marriage, learning how to stimulate a circumcised versus an uncircumcised penis, introducing new toys to your bedroom, or dealing with body insecurity, I'm here to help. Tune in as I provide frank and honest advice to get you back to enjoying a healthy and pleasurable sex life.For more information and to become part of the community follow here.

Welcome to this episode of my podcast! In this episode, I am going to answer four questions that many of us have been asking: Can men have sex for two hours? What tips can femme doms and male subs use? Is it okay to have a relationship with a second cousin?Is it ok to cry during sex?What if I have less experience than my partner? How can we sustain erections naturally? How can you navigate kink and non-monogamy with herpes? So, don't miss out on this episode and join me as I answer these questions and explore the possibilities of pleasure!Unlock the key to your sexual success with Stephen - click here! Are you ready to explore? Download your sex menu here.

Join me as I discuss the ins and outs of giving and receiving orgasms, how to identify and navigate romantic and platonic feelings, and when to know you're ready for an open relationship. From tips on anal sex to understanding the normalcy of different levels of sexual activity, I'm here to provide guidance and advice on all your orgasmic questions.Buckle up and get ready to explore the depths of sex, pleasure, and relationships in an open and honest way.Work with me one on one.Ask your sex questions here.

Welcome to my podcast episode on sex and kinks! We're going to explore all the naughty bits you've been wanting to know more about. Join me as I answer all the burning questions you've been too embarrassed to ask publicly: is there such a thing as being 'too horny'? How to explore kink without a partner? What's the difference between being attracted to someone and being transphobic? How do you share your preferences without insulting others? Is self-pleasure for women bad? We'll also talk about traps, different types of sex, the power dynamics of attraction, and so much more! Don't miss out on this wild and informative episode!Get in contact with Stephen hereSubmit your questions to have them answered anonymously here

This episode dives into the tricky world of relationships, sex and desire. We explore the questions of:- how to approach a situation when you're not turned on by your partner and don't feel the same level of desire.- how to prioritize comfort over performance, and how to explore different implements of impact play. - effects of porn on sexual performance and the importance of self-reflection and honest conversations with your partner. Lastly, we look at the myth that dimples above the ass guarantee explosive orgasms - so don't be fooled! Join us for an engaging conversation on sex, desire and relationships.Don't miss out on this unique chance to talk with Stephen one-on-one during our V-day Special! Click here to take advantage of this amazing offer.If you want your question answered in a future episode click here.

We're back and looking to crack open the conversation around sex!  In this episode, I share where I've been over the past 6 months and what we will explore in Season 3!Glad to be back and glad to have you along for the ride.Click here to submit your sex questions - Hey Stephen, please answer my question! For more information visit sexlifeunleashed.comJoin us every second Tuesday for your new episode.

Nicolle Hodges is a unique blend of philosopher, practitioner, and facilitator of deep human connections.From interviewing men in bubble baths on what it means to be a man to curating events for women to experience BDSM as a healing modality to writing books on the female orgasm in Dr. Seuss style Nicolle is not your average woman.  I call her a sexual superhero.In this episode, we explore what is on the other side of sexual shame, the immense power of community, what eroticism actually is, the challenge with consent, and BDSM as an avenue for healing and connection.You can find all the deliciousness of Nicolle @nicolledoublel

There is so much jampacked into this episode.  You might want to take notes.  Heather is a sex educator, therapist, and coach.  In her work, she aims to start practical conversations while honouring the complexity of the world around them.  Heather's also the person that I turn to when I need support.  She is a brilliant mind, a beautiful human, and as straightforward, honest, and funny as they come.In this episode, we discuss what Heather deals with in her private practice and how to go from a vanilla sex life to a kinky sex life.We cover:- Making a safe space for pleasure- Discomfort does not equal a lack of safety- Solo sexuality are you putting all the pressure on your partner?- The value of emotional safety when exploring sex- How to create a container of surrender where  your partner can just relaxAnd so much more.  If you want to get more Heather in your life... and who doesn't you can follow her on Twitter @misshc and on Instagram @heymisshc.And If you want to Unlock your Sexual Blueprint and join me live on June 1st click here.

Have you ever been tied up or tied someone up?  Or maybe just curious about it.  This week we have expert tier, Anastasia shares about the world of Shibari.Shibari is the act of tying up a person for aesthetic purposes— in a pretty or intricate pattern, typically by using some form of rope. And while shibari can be used for sexual pleasure, it's also used as a form of meditation, relaxation, and trust-building practice between two partners.In this week's episode,  Anastasia share's the different sides of shibari and what it can provide for people.  From an act of self-care to full body suspension whatever piques your interest it's in this episode.Learn what type of communication is necessary if you're the tier or the model, explore what trust looks like, the art of aftercare and untying,  and understand the types of rope to use.  We cover all the bases.You can follow Anastasia @voudouropes and you can access her course here, and check her out on youtube here.Speaking of courses my free Masterclass - Sexual Self Awareness: The first step to having an incredible sex life is available here.

Are you curious about what happens behind the dungeon door? Do you want the inside scoop on what the life of a Dominatrix is really like? This week Lady Pim generously shares the ins, outs, and nuances of being a professional pleasure/pain/fantasy collaborator and provider.If you've ever wondered...What does a dominatrix do when she's having a rough day and doesn't want to go to work?What does a great day at work look like?How do you vet clients?How do you navigate between personal relationships and work?What does safety look like?We get into it all this week!  So enjoy and get ready to use your safe word ~ kidding. Lady Pim is a Professional Dominatrix at The Ritual Chamber, Toronto. You can book a session at https://theritualchamber.ca/lady-pim.And you can follow her fire socials:@theladypim1 on Twitter@theladypim on Instagram

If you're curious about kink and what it takes to create a really healthy power exchange relationship..... Kathleen tells all from her early mistakes and missteps to her current D/s dynamic.In this episode, you will learn how to spot red flags from far away,  how to avoid the most common pitfalls submissives make, how to set boundaries with your Dom, how to find other play partners to join you and your partner, how to deal with people who kink shame you and so much more.Kathleen has taught extensively in the fields of sexuality studies and health policy at Western University, Queen's University, University of Toronto, and Trent University.  And we were so thrilled to have her as a guest!  If you want to take our relationship to the next level come hang out with me on Instagram @drdewit

Carlyle Jansen is a sex therapist (RP) and the founder of Good For Her, a sexuality shop and workshop centre in Toronto.  She is the author of Sex Yourself, a book on self-pleasure for cis-women, and Anal Sex Basics, a guide to anal pleasure for folks of all genders.  And so much more...In this episode, Carlyle shares how she went from being terrified of a penis to becoming both an anchor and beacon of sex positivity in Toronto and North America.If you're curious about having "sex worth wanting" and the steps to create it, what a Feminist Porn Award is and how to start an International Porn Festival, to a sex toy shop hires employees, to wondering if sex is a skill or a natural gift this is the episode for you.You can find her and her store at goodforher.com or carlylejansen.com.Improving your sex life starts with understanding your sexual self.  Take the first step and download your personal Sex Menu here.

Have you ever met someone that appears to have lived several lives in one lifetime? Shirley Rivers is one of those magical people. In this rollercoaster of an episode, Shirley shares the highs and lows of her personal journey and how she used that to propel her professional success. From a Gynecologic Teaching Associate to a Midwife to providing training to private medical providers, medical schools,VA Hospitals, universities, and rape centers around the world. This week we cover:What it takes to learn how to orgasm after 38 years of marriage?How to advocate for your sexual health?The dangers of toxic sexuality.The most interesting lunch hour of my entire life!For more information, Shirley can be reached at sdenise@2riversllc.com.If you want to expand your sexual self-awareness and understand your sexual self better download your sex menu here.

Have you been unhappy with your vagina?  Or has your vagina ever been unhappy with you?  Don't worry, it's OK.  Adrienne is the Yoni Nutritionist! A Certified Holistic Nutritionist and Sex Educator with a passion for women's health. In this week's episode, we talk about the importance of nutrition and holistic lifestyle practices to maintain their vaginal health and help them manage and eliminate symptoms of chronic vaginal infections.We take on disclosing to partners, shame and advocating for your own sexual health.You can learn more about Adrienne's programs here.And you can follow me on Instagram here.

Have you been silenced by just a look?  Were you taught to speak up for yourselves in all areas except sex?  Did your parents shield you from sex?  In this episode join me as I talk with Shelley Dee about how, as a Catholic daughter to Indian-Goan parents, she's navigated her sexual journey with lots of twists, turns and laughs along the way.Shelley's Podcast "Just Out Of Curiosity with Shelley Dee" is coming May 2022.And if you want to transform your relationship with sex the Sex Life Unleashed Academy is open for enrollment in June.  You can join the waitlist at www.sexlifeunleashed.com/waitlist.

Thanks for joining me for Season 1. I couldn't have done it without you! Through 15 episodes I've learned and grown a lot and I hope you have too.Taking a break to focus on two passion projects:The free masterclass "A Great Sex Life has Very Little to do with Sex: 4 Myths That Are Sabotaging Your Sex Life (and what to do instead)" that you can sign up for here.And launching the Sex Life Unleashed Academy 12 week online program that you can sign up for here.Look for Season 2 to be coming back late March.Until we meet again, remember the more we understand about ourselves and each other, the less we have to fear, the more love is here. So here's to happy days and living a sex life unleashed!

You may be stuck.... Like millions of other people.But you don't have to stay stuck!In this episode I do a deep dive into the benefits you can personally reap from working on your sex life beyond just better sex.I distilled the most common life-altering changes that clients consistently experience in their life.I share how working on your sex life actually sends ripples throughout your entire life.  Being a more confident, authentic, and happy person can dramatically alter how you interact with the world around you.  The waitlist for the sex life unleashed academy is now open.If you want to transform your sex life in 12 weeks and want to be the first to know about the program click on the link  sexlifeunleashed.com/waitlist

Are you curious about what a sexologist's sex life is like?Do I walk the talk? Do I live a sex life unleashed? In this episode, I share my personal story of sexual transformation, from the sad to the salacious, I will take you on the journey that covers the missteps, the darkness, the epiphanies, and the celebration. I share parts of me I haven't publicly shared before.  Get to know the man behind the doctor.The waitlist for the sex life unleashed academy is now open.If you want to transform your sex life in 12 weeks and want to be the first to know about the program click on the link  sexlifeunleashed.com/waitlist

Stephen, how did you become a Sexologist? And, what do you actually do?  Two of the most common questions I get.In this episode, I take you on the journey of my professional life for the past decade and share the twists and turns the ups and downs. I pull back the curtain and share what it took to get me to where I am today.If you've ever asked yourself who the heck is this Stephen guy? And you want to get to know the man behind the mic or if you're interested in the field of sexology this is the episode for you.The waitlist for the sex life unleashed academy is now open. If you want to transform your sex life in 12 weeks and want to be the first to know about the program click on the link  sexlifeunleashed.com/waitlist

Are you ready to throw in the towel and resign yourself to a life of bad sex, celibacy, or growing old where the only bedroom excitement is when you drop your dentures into the Polident on your bedside table? Sometimes you may think that you can't. Sometimes you need to hear it a different way.This is the episode for you.There's nothing horribly wrong with the fact that you haven't figured out how to have a great sex life right now. Sex is one of the most loaded topics out there. But when you take on your sex life and transform that it causes a ripple effect in the rest of your life.  You become more confident, you are able to easily have difficult conversations, you develop a deep love and appreciation for who you are.Join the Sex Life Unleashed Academy waitlist

What's not working in your sex life?  Do you know why?I know it seems like it sometimes but you're not the only one who has challenges when it comes to sex.I took inventory of all the women I worked with over the past year and in this episode, I am sharing them with you.If you are struggling with your sex life, it's ok.  It is part of being human. Which ones do you relate to the most? If you want to create a great sex life this year the waitlist is open for the sex life unleashed academy. In this 12 week online course, you will go from feeling stuck and frustrated with your sex life to feeling confident and empowered as you learn how to move past the past, find your voice and design, discover and create the sex life of your dreams.You can get on the waitlist by visiting sexlifeunleashed.com/waitlist

Are the holidays sexy?  Do you have that special someone... or two... or that new person?Or are the holidays full of family, food, stress, busyness, travel and you can't find the time to feel sexy let alone have sex.Well never fear in this week's episode I am going to share my top advice on how to maximize time for yourself and optimize that sexual connection time.So grab a glass of eggnog, a gingerbread cookie, and settle all in for a fun episode!I have also created a Happy Holiday Humping Guide. You can download it at www.sexlifeunleashed.com/holidays.Happy Holidays!

NEWS FLASH! None of your partner's body parts vibrate 200 times a second... And that's OK!If you've ever heard "you have the real thing right here, why do you need that 'thing'"? Or you've been shamed because you have pleasure products.  Never fear this week's episode will solve all your problems (or at least point you in the right direction).This week we cover what to do if your partner has sex toy tantrums, the conversations to have, the options to explore, and what to do if you're at a stalemate.  And I'll also cover the myth around desensitizing your clit and what you can do to resensitize that oh-so-important part.Enjoy, leave a review and share with someone who needs to hear this! *For ease of explanations in this episode I use heteronormative language as that has been my overwhelming clinical experience.  I invite you to map over your specific relationship(s) to get the most out of this episode.

There are thousands of pleasure products to choose from and that can get a little overwhelming.  If you're buying for the first time or looking to upgrade your current collections.In this week's episode, I share the questions to think about to ensure you get the right fit for you.And then I dive into the lovely world of lube and review the three main categories so you know which slippery stuff is best.The holidays are coming and pleasure products are truly the gift that keeps on giving.  So treat yourself or someone you love.You can grab the Pleasure Product cheatsheet here - sexlifeunleashed.com/toysSee you next week!

Have you ever faked an orgasm? More than a few?  Maybe you're hitting double digits? And maybe, just maybe you've pretended to enjoy a position that you hated because you thought that it would look hot or you thought your partner liked it? Or maybe you get anxious thinking about having sex?Chances are you're stuck in the performative sex trap... And it's ok many people just like you are AND that's why I recorded this episode to help you break free!In this episode, I will share what performative sex is, some scenarios you may find yourself in, the key indicators that you do have performative sex, and what you can do to break out of that trap.I have also created a Cheatsheet for you that captures the Sex Matrix exercise. You can download it at www.sexlifeunleashed.com/matrix.This episode is for you if you want more pleasure and to put a stop to performing.

Transforming your sex life is a journey... I'm sharing my journey over the last 2 years of working with clients and evolving as a sexologist.And sharing the journey I can take you on over the next few months to transform your sex life.If you're interested in becoming a Founding Member click here to learn more: www.sexlifeunleashed.com/foundingmemberWhat I do know is it will be 12 weeks, starting Feb 1st.  weekly live classes/assignmentsweekly live coaching monthly events one on one coaching (exclusive for founding members only) All with the support of the community, in a safe and confidential space.

Would you like to uplevel your sex convos? Become masterful at communicating your needs, wants and desires?  Don't we all.In this week's episode, I share the most popular communication technique that I have shared speaking across North America and on national TV.  And it continues to be one of my most requested communication strategies.I also cover how and why it is necessary to carve out time to talk about your sex life with your partner(s)... and then a fun way of communicating your fantasies.I have also created a Sex Communication Cheatsheet for you that captures all the topics we covered. You can download it at www.sexlifeunleashed.com/litaThis episode is for you if you want to empower yourself with simple, straightforward ways to share what you REALLY want your partner to hear and understand.

Do you get tongue-tied when it comes to talking about sex? Have you avoided awkward sex convos?  Do you shut down when hearing anything less than YOU'RE A SEX GODDESS or YOU'RE A SEX GOD?Out of all the weird, wild, wonderful things that we can do with our mouths when it comes to sex talking about it is the most powerful! But we suck at it.In this week's episode, we cover why we struggle so much with talking about sex, the different timing of conversations, paralinguistics (fancy word right ;).I introduce the concept of self consent and the secret "Three Things Questions" that can take your sex life to the next level and lots more.I have also created a Sex Communication Guide for you that captures all the topics we covered. You can download it at www.sexlifeunleashed.com/communication1If you're avoiding or have avoided talking to a sex partner (I think we all have) this is the episode for you.

Do you want to have great sex? OF COURSE you do!  But in order to do that, it's important to really understand yourself.  What were the messages you received growing up that impact you today? In this week's episode, we start to discover why you are the way you are and begin to understand your Sexual BlueprintI'll review the three types of formative instances that shape your current sexual reality and so much more.If you're struggling in your sex life or want to take it to the next level, this is a must-listen-to episode.Here is the link for your Sexual Blueprint Worksheet: www.sexlifeunleashed.com/blueprintWant to win a $50 Amazon gift card? As a new podcast reviews are so important.Leave a review for the podcast, screenshot it before you submit it, and send it to info@drdewit.com.  For every 25 entries, I'll be choosing a winner!Instagram @drdewit

Kink can be an access to keeping your sex life alive and exciting but... kink can be intimidating or even scary for some.  In this episode, I demystify kink by tackling common misconceptions, review terminology, and provide you with a simple and inviting way to look at kink...  and maybe even try something new.  Along the way, I share a few stories about my learnings and adventures. Here is the link for your Sex Menu: www.sexlifeunleashed.com/menuWant to win a $50 Amazon gift card? As a new podcast reviews are so important.Leave a review for the podcast, screenshot it before you submit it, and send it to info@drdewit.com.  For every 25 entries, I'll be choosing a winner!Instagram @drdewit

Orgasms can be elusive, difficult, and downright frustrating.  In this episode. We cover some of the most common challenges, the causes of those challenges, and what you can do about them.  Cause let's face it no one ever complained about too many orgasms.  As always,  I'll share insights from both my professional and personal life. And then I share a specific example of a woman I worked with and how I supported her to enjoy more pleasure in her life.This episode is for you wherever you are in your orgasmic journey.  Here is the link for the Orgasm Accelerator Worksheet: www.sexlifeunleashed.com/orgasmWant to win a $50 Amazon gift card? As a new podcast reviews are so important.Leave a review for the podcast, screenshot it before you submit it, and send it to info@drdewit.com.  For every 25 entries, I'll be choosing a winner!Instagram @drdewit

Have you ever wondered if you're normal? Let's face it, you're not alone. In this episode, we cover ways you can embrace, explore and celebrate all of who you are... even the deliciously wicked ones! Join me as we discuss the importance of being authentic and trusting yourself in all that you do! This episode is a must-listen if you want to understand better what it means to be an erotic outlier and find more confidence in who you are!Here is the link for your Sex Menu: www.sexlifeunleashed.com/menuWant to win a $50 Amazon gift card? As a new podcast reviews are so important.Leave a review for the podcast, screenshot it before you submit it, and send it to info@drdewit.com.  For every 25 entries, I'll be choosing a winner!Instagram @drdewit

Get to know what you can expect from Sex Life Unleashed and a little about Stephen.