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Well this is the boundary podcast episode you might not have heard before... You know how important it is to set boundaries with others (family, friends, coworkers, strangers on the internet). But what about setting boundaries with your SELF? Why it's so important to set boundaries with ourselves, and what happens when we don't FOUR areas to look at when you're setting boundaries with yourself The big myth about "balance" and how to think of it instead How self-directed boundaries can help us set and maintain boundaries with others, especially during tense or stressful times and more! SHOW NOTES: Prentis Hemphill on boundaries Cheryl Strayed on boundaries READ: Setting Mindful Boundaries with Family on WANT LISTEN: On Listening As Service with Benjamin Mathes on the WANTcast Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram at @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com
“Prioritize the relationship over being right.” - Benjamin Mathes How much power do you give your ego? Our minds are constantly at war with our ego. This war can stunt growth and the ability to reach our true potential because, with ego there is pride. Our Guest Benjamin Mathes encourages us to unravel the layers we have built protecting our ego. Once we allow those layers to unravel, we can then find the importance of creating a “Healthy ego”. But first, we must witness our ego without passing judgment. Today we are with Benjamin Mathes. Benjamin has been an actor for over 20 years. On film, television, and stage he has worked with artists such as Clint Eastwood, Alan Arkin, Sam Raimi, Bradley Cooper, Andy Garcia, Chris Rock, and Brian Grazer. He has served as an acting coach for Warner Brothers, HBO, and currently for Netflix. Internationally, he runs acting retreats in Ireland, and his career workshops have been held around the world. He is a certified Associate Teacher of Fitzmaurice Voicework®, and has served as vocal and dialect coach for major motion pictures, network television, and theatres around the country. He is the author of four books: Thought Lozenges for Artists; a daringly optimistic, “open-where-you-want” look into the creative process. “CRASH: Unstuck Yourself”, a guided journal designed to directly combat the blocks holding us from our creative potential. “You, the Career” offers a holistic approach to life and art that allows you to have the career you want without losing the person you are. His most recent book, “Short Paragraphs on Listening”, draws from his experience Free Listening on the streets and is an open-where-you-want book about the power of listening. Lastly, if that's not enough, Benjamin is the founder of Urban Confessional: A Free Listening Movement. Started as a way to challenge conventional actor training, Urban Confessional is a community of artists who believe people should be heard. They stand on street corners all over the world with signs that say "Free Listening" — and you can imagine what happens next. Their work has been featured in magazines, academic publications, and blogs, and on radio and television. And is now in over 70 countries with thousands of volunteers. /// Topics we discuss: Shutting up Keeps the ego in check. Prioritize relationships over being right. Cooling down the need to dominate. Is there anything you have left to say? Allows you to fully hear the person. How you can close a conversation. Prioritizes well -being. Understanding your own ego He learned from religious and artistic practices. Helping people develop a healthy version of the ego. Divorce helped investigate his ego. Practical explanation of ego Ego is not the problem, our relationship with ego is the problem. We can over define ourselves. If we ignore our differences, it hurts the healthy ego. Kids vs. Adults Younger kids have a healthier ego. As you grow you create an unhealthier sense of ego. References: Bluey on Disney+ Urban Confessional Free Listening Tristan Coopersmith Episode
“Prioritize the relationship over being right.” - Benjamin Mathes How much power do you give your ego? Our minds are constantly at war with our ego. This war can stunt growth and the ability to reach our true potential because, with ego there is pride. Our Guest Benjamin Mathes encourages us to unravel the layers we have built protecting our ego. Once we allow those layers to unravel, we can then find the importance of creating a “Healthy ego”. But first, we must witness our ego without passing judgment. Today we are with Benjamin Mathes. Benjamin has been an actor for over 20 years. On film, television, and stage he has worked with artists such as Clint Eastwood, Alan Arkin, Sam Raimi, Bradley Cooper, Andy Garcia, Chris Rock, and Brian Grazer. He has served as an acting coach for Warner Brothers, HBO, and currently for Netflix. Internationally, he runs acting retreats in Ireland, and his career workshops have been held around the world. He is a certified Associate Teacher of Fitzmaurice Voicework®, and has served as vocal and dialect coach for major motion pictures, network television, and theatres around the country. He is the author of four books: Thought Lozenges for Artists; a daringly optimistic, “open-where-you-want” look into the creative process. “CRASH: Unstuck Yourself”, a guided journal designed to directly combat the blocks holding us from our creative potential. “You, the Career” offers a holistic approach to life and art that allows you to have the career you want without losing the person you are. His most recent book, “Short Paragraphs on Listening”, draws from his experience Free Listening on the streets and is an open-where-you-want book about the power of listening. Lastly, if that's not enough, Benjamin is the founder of Urban Confessional: A Free Listening Movement. Started as a way to challenge conventional actor training, Urban Confessional is a community of artists who believe people should be heard. They stand on street corners all over the world with signs that say "Free Listening" — and you can imagine what happens next. Their work has been featured in magazines, academic publications, and blogs, and on radio and television. And is now in over 70 countries with thousands of volunteers. /// Topics we discuss: Shutting up Keeps the ego in check. Prioritize relationships over being right. Cooling down the need to dominate. Is there anything you have left to say? Allows you to fully hear the person. How you can close a conversation. Prioritizes well -being. Understanding your own ego He learned from religious and artistic practices. Helping people develop a healthy version of the ego. Divorce helped investigate his ego. Practical explanation of ego Ego is not the problem, our relationship with ego is the problem. We can over define ourselves. If we ignore our differences, it hurts the healthy ego. Kids vs. Adults Younger kids have a healthier ego. As you grow you create an unhealthier sense of ego. References: Bluey on Disney+ Urban Confessional Free Listening Tristan Coopersmith Episode
In this special unedited episode we celebrate International Free Listening Day - April 11 - by talking with the founder of free listening and Urban Confessional, our very own Benjamin Mathes, and do a sample listening with Matt and Gogi. We explore this curious phenomenon, why it gained such widespread popularity, and its effect on listener and listenee.
Lucia Towers joins us as our first ever guest! She reveals her unlikely superpower, favorite celebrity for piggyback rides and discusses redefining her fear of creative failure. Lucia also shares a wonderful excerpt from "You, the Career: A Holistic Guide to Acting, Life, and the Biz" by Benjamin Mathes.
Benjamin is an artist, author, listener, and the founder of Urban Confessional — a movement that is "recovering the lost art of listening". Benjamin tells us about the story behind the movement and some of the things that are present for him in the quality of listening. Urban Confessional is present in 80 countries. You can find more info about the Urban Confessional here, and about Benjamin here.
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Listening. Something that seems so simple but yet is very difficult and now more than ever it is imperative. Benjamin Mathes is an actor in Los Angels, is an acting teacher, and is a listener. In fact, he has created a website called UrbanConfessional.org that not only tells why and even how to listen, but has created a movement of listening all across the globe. You want to get started? It's as simple as creating a sign, standing on a corner and just.....listening.
During challenging times, we all need someone to listen and we all need to be heard. In this episode, Benjamin Mathes shows up to take listening to the next level. If his name sounds familiar, it’s because he has been an actor for over 25 years, working with some of the biggest names in the industry including Clint Eastwood, Alan Arkin, Sam Raimi, Bradley Cooper, Andy Garcia, Chris Rock, and Brian Grazer. He is also the founder of Urban Confessional: A Free Listening Movement. Currently, in over 80 countries, their volunteers stand on street corners with signs that say "Free Listening" and provide compassionate, non-judgmental listening for anyone who needs to talk. Their work has been featured in over 40 national publications including the Huffington Post, The Atlantic, Fast Company, and The Big Think. Ben shares how he founded Urban Confessional, why people have a hard time listening, how divorce changed his life, and some of the amazing stories strangers have told him. We also chat the benefits of hatchet throwing (seriously!). Please show up for us by subscribing, rating, and leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. Connect With Asher Gottesman http://www.ashergottesman.com/ https://www.instagram.com/theasherg/ https://twitter.com/TheAsherG Connect With Benjamin Mathes & Urban Confessional https://benjaminmathes.com/ https://www.instagram.com/bcmathes/ https://twitter.com/Bcmathes https://urbanconfessional.org/ https://www.instagram.com/urbanconfessional/ https://twitter.com/UCFreeListening
Wanting to be of service to others, Benjamin decided that a great way to help others be seen, heard, and understood would be to simply listen. And as Benjamin is so fond of saying, “Being heard is so close to being loved that most people can’t tell the difference.” How to Find Out More About Urban Confessional and The Free Listening Movement Urban Confessional Website: www.urbanconfessional.org Twitter: @UCFreeListening Instagram: Urban Confessional Facebook: Urban Confessional Email: urbanconfessional@gmail.com
Wanting to be of service to others, Benjamin decided that a great way to help others be seen, heard, and understood would be to simply listen. And as Benjamin is so fond of saying, “Being heard is so close to being loved that most people can’t tell the difference.” How to Find Out More About Urban Confessional and The Free Listening Movement Urban Confessional Website: www.urbanconfessional.org Twitter: @UCFreeListening Instagram: Urban Confessional Facebook: Urban Confessional Email: urbanconfessional@gmail.com
Learn what the incredible power of listening can do! I received a copy of Benjamin Mathes’ book, “Short Paragraphs on Listening,” as a gift after a speech I gave recently in Los Angeles. Not knowing much about Ben, I was curious about why an actor was teaching others about how to listen, even asking them to post signs on street corners encouraging strangers to come speak with them. But that is Ben’s magic. In our podcast, we dig deep into Ben’s own life experiences and the need to listen to others if we are going to find ourselves. As you listen to Ben, you too will realize that listening is far more important than most of us ever thought. Perhaps you'll find yourself pausing, listening and enjoying others in totally new ways. That's what happened to me...hopefully to you too. Enjoy, and please share. How the "Free Listening" movement started In 2012, Ben Mathes sent a community of actors onto the streets of Los Angeles holding signs that said, “Free Listening.” The artists opened their hearts to anyone who needed to laugh, cry, scream or just chat. Everyone involved never imagined that this simple act would start a worldwide movement called Urban Confessional that today has grown to include people from all walks of life across 6 continents, 80 countries and 40 states. Thousands of volunteers across the globe now listen to strangers, capturing their thoughts and ideas. The feedback Ben has gotten is that his simple but big has been transformative, enabling participants to simply listen to people they otherwise never would have met. The importance of being heard This lovely passage appears on Ben's website, which sums up Urban Confessional perfectly: We listen for others, believing that people need to be seen, heard and understood. We listen for ourselves, having found the exercise of engaging strangers with open ears and open hearts to be life-giving. Ben's latest book: “Short Paragraphs on Listening” In his new book, Ben writes about some of the “listenings” that have been important to him. Here is one of my favorites: "One About Listening with Your Heart So much can be said without saying anything The heart, the breath and the body have a way of telling a truth our lips are too afraid to tell Listen deeply to the deepest parts of yourself and let the heart do the communicating.” About Benjamin Mathes Ben has been an actor for over 20 years. In film and television and on stage, he has worked with Academy Award-winning director Clint Eastwood, Academy Award-winning actor Alan Arkin, Andy Garcia, Bradley Cooper, Chris Rock and Academy Award-winning producer Brian Grazer. In 2012, Ben founded Urban Confessional: A Free Listening Movement, whose volunteers stand on street corners with signs that read "Free Listening" and provide compassionate, non-judgmental listening for anyone who needs to talk. Ben also produced the documentary, "Listening is Loving," about the power of listening to people with dementia. Ben is the author of four books: “Thought Lozenges for Artists,” “CRASH: Unstuck Yourself,” “You, the Career” and his newest release, “Short Paragraphs on Listening,” which draws from his experience with Free Listening and focuses on the power of listening. In addition, Ben leads acting retreats, career workshops and an acting studio, CRASH ACTING, which inspires a guerrilla approach to acting. Ben received his MFA in Acting from the University of California, Irvine. You can learn more about Ben at benjaminmathes.com. For more reading and listening on similar subjects, check out these blogs and podcasts: Blog: Time to Add Gratitude to Your Life—And Your Company's Culture! Blog: Like Helen Keller, You Too Can Triumph Over Your Obstacles And See With A Fresh Lens Podcast: Jennifer Dawn—Finding Your Way In Business and Life Podcast: Richard Sheridan—How To Lead With Joy And Purpose! Podcast: Cheryl McMillan—How To Develop Your Emotional Intelligence And Why It Matters Additional resources Ben's website: benjaminmathes.com Ben's book: “Short Paragraphs on Listening" My book: "On the Brink: A Fresh Lens to Take Your Business to New Heights" Our website: Simon Associates Management Consultants
Benjamin Mathes is both a leader and an artist. He has been an actor for over 20 years and developed the Crash Acting class he teaches and writes about. He is a speaker and leadership coach in corporate settings. He writes across a few blogs and has published a string of books, the most recent one being You, the Career. He is the host of the Heard podcast. Perhaps most famously, he is the founder of a free listening movement called Urban Confessional. We provide longform and “shortcuts” versions of each conversation to meet your listening needs. Episode Links • Benjamin Mathes Website: http://benjaminmathes.com • Urban Confessional Website: https://urbanconfessional.org • Benjamin’s Acting Website: http://www.crashacting.com • The Story of Urban Confessional: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZF7NE7WDOZI • Benjamin’s Podcast – Heard: https://heard.world • You, the Career by Benjamin Mathes: https://www.amazon.com/You-Career-Holistic-Guide-Acting/dp/069213347X • How to do Free Listening: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y0KCq76K-X0 • How to Listen When You Disagree Blog Post: https://urbanconfessional.org/blog/howtodisagree • Born Standing Up by Steve Martin: https://www.amazon.com/Born-Standing-Up-Comics-Life/dp/1416553657/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1539110889&sr=8-1&keywords=born+standing+up+steve+martin Subscribe to our Newsletter at: www.schoolofthoughtproductions.com/contact/ We would love to connect with you! Please email us at schoolofthoughtpodcast@gmail.com to tell us who you are, what you think about the show, and who we should talk to next. Connect with us and the rest of our tribe by searching for School of Thought Podcast on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.
Benjamin Mathes is both a leader and an artist. He has been an actor for over 20 years and developed the Crash Acting class he teaches and writes about. He is a speaker and leadership coach in corporate settings. He writes across a few blogs and has published a string of books, the most recent one being You, the Career. He is the host of the Heard podcast. Perhaps most famously, he is the founder of a free listening movement called Urban Confessional. We provide longform and “shortcuts” versions of each conversation to meet your listening needs. Episode Links • Benjamin Mathes Website: http://benjaminmathes.com • Urban Confessional Website: https://urbanconfessional.org • Benjamin’s Acting Website: http://www.crashacting.com • The Story of Urban Confessional: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZF7NE7WDOZI • Benjamin’s Podcast – Heard: https://heard.world • You, the Career by Benjamin Mathes: https://www.amazon.com/You-Career-Holistic-Guide-Acting/dp/069213347X • How to do Free Listening: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y0KCq76K-X0 • How to Listen When You Disagree Blog Post: https://urbanconfessional.org/blog/howtodisagree • Born Standing Up by Steve Martin: https://www.amazon.com/Born-Standing-Up-Comics-Life/dp/1416553657/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1539110889&sr=8-1&keywords=born+standing+up+steve+martin Subscribe to our Newsletter at: www.schoolofthoughtproductions.com/contact/ We would love to connect with you! Please email us at schoolofthoughtpodcast@gmail.com to tell us who you are, what you think about the show, and who we should talk to next. Connect with us and the rest of our tribe by searching for School of Thought Podcast on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.
In 2012, host, Benjamin Mathes created Urban Confessional: a Free Listening Movement. Since then, the movement has grown to over 80 countries with thousands of volunteers holding signs that say, "Free Listening". In this episode, Benjamin uncovers the secrets to deep listening. Often referred to as a "soft skill", this podcast will show you why listening is actually a "survival skill". Take notes and listen carefully, there's a lot of info in this episode!
Is it too early to eat conversation hearts? Is the app HQ the first step toward Black Mirror? This weeks interview is with Benjamin Mathes from Urban Confessional, an organization providing free listening to anyone who needs it. Learn more: https://www.wedandwoke.com/blog/urbanconfessional
Rick and Dan talk with the founder of Decision Point Wellness, Mike Reis.Then, they talk to the founder of Urban Confessional Benjamin Mathes.Support the show: https://faithtalk590.com/ministryaudioSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
For a city that was built on a foundation of distraction, in the aftermath of evil, Las Vegas is awake. The locals waited in line for eight hours to give blood. The city has started funds and efforts to house the families of the fallen who seek to come into the city to see the ones they've lost. When Benjamin went free listening in the streets of Vegas, he talked with many people struggling to make sense of how they feel. Today we all pause to reflect on what it means to listen in times of anguish.
How do we release our need for control? It’s all too often that the hectic whims of the world seem to subject us to circumstances that we’d rather not be in. But usually, the most painful parts of those situations come from worrying about things we have no say over whatsover. In his time working with CEO’s and entrepreneurs, Benjamin has focused on two key concepts: The Career Matrix and the Creative Economy. In this episode, Benjamin unpacks these two ideas, and explores several elements that we can all use to improve our careers and our everyday lives.
Benjamin Mathes has been an actor for the past 20 years and works with artists and leaders in an executive coaching role. He leads Urban Confessional, a free listening movement made of up of volunteers who believe everyone needs to be heard. Benjamin resides in the Los Feliz neighborhood of Los Angeles and can be seen on street corners listening to people.
* SEASON ONE FINALE * As you probably already realized…this episode is a little different. It’s just me today. I’m gonna try something new. It just so happens that by the time a lot of you listen to this, it’ll also be my 30th birthday. I decided that today, I’d jam about 30 lessons I’ve learned in 30 years. I know. A little headline-y. But hey. I always love reading those lists, and hearing what others have to say about the lessons they’ve learned, so I thought maybe you’d like to, too. And honestly, as I was thinking about it, there is a LOT of overlap in the lessons I learned in season one of the WANTcast. Some of these are a little more trivial than others – like, stuff about smog checks, for example – but when I was in the moment and didn’t know what to do or was thrown off my game, they seemed like really big moments. 30 lessons in 30 years. As full of a list as I could muster up. Here we go! Show Notes: WANTcast archives Benjamin Mathes episode Kirsten Potenza episode Ashlee Piper episode Jessica Murnane episode Kate Northrup Many Lives, Many Masters Using Your Intuition Vs. Being Triggered I Love You And I Like You: The Ebbs And Flows Of Body Image The Dreams We Woke Up From: An Ode To Transitions Like this episode? Shoot me a comment below, leave a review on iTunes, share it on Facebook, tweet it out on Twitter, or post it on Instagram. Be sure to use the hashtags #WANTcast, #womenagainstnegativetalk, and/or #WANTyourself!
Today’s guest is the PERFECT way to ring in 2016. And yes, it’s a dude. Since the beginning, I’ve wanted to include MEN in the WANT gameplan, because I truly believe that if we’re going to make a dent when it comes to negative self talk, men need to be a part of the conversation, too. So, now, once a quarter (which is every 3 months or so), I’m going to be featuring a WANT MAN on the pod; a person I feel truly embodies the message of WANT and has a unique story of moving forward fearlessly to offer up. Our first WANTman is Benjamin Mathes. Ben is the founder of Urban Confessional: A Free Listening Project. Started as a way to challenge conventional actor training, Urban Confessional is a community of artists who believe people should be heard. They stand on street corners all over the world with signs that say "Free Listening" - and you can imagine what happens next. Their work has been featured in academic and commercial publications, blogs, on radio and television, and recently in a Kleenex campaign I’ll put in the post on the site. Ben has been an actor for over 20 years on film, television, and stage, and he has worked with artists such as Clint Eastwood, Bradley Cooper, Brian Grazer and more. He serves as Head of Production for Seine Pictures, a film finance and production company in Hollywood, overseeing the creative development and production of each film. As a teacher, he has been on faculty or taught workshops at universities all over the world, and his acting studio, Crash Acting, inspires a guerrilla approach to acting driven by the idea that service is the context for artistic greatness. As an executive coach, Ben draws upon his 15 years of creative development, artistic leadership, and social entrepreneurship to help senior executives, management, and sales teams increase their creative capital in business leadership and team building, individual productivity, and presentation acumen. He’s also the author of two books detailing and investigating the creative process: Thought Lozenges for Artists, and CRASH, Unstuck Yourself, a guided journal designed to directly combat the blocks holding us from our creative potential. In this episode, we dive super deep. We talk hitting rock bottom and the lessons that come from there, how to make whatever work you do in this world leave a legacy, judgement and being judged, and how to reach a place of self-forgiveness. I can’t stress this enough- this episode is really, truly, for everyone. At the end of the episode, Ben and I are going to give you a challenge, so be sure to listen to the whole deal and join on in. Without further ado, the first WANT man, the brilliant Ben Mathes.