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Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleejaine/We all know how important self care is, but sometimes it can be hard to be consistent or find self care practices that flow with our everyday schedule. Here are a few attainable self care ideas that you can do on a regular basis, and a few self care splurge ideas as well.

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Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleejaine/If you aren't already incorporating practicing gratitude into your daily life, you are missing out. This is one of the most impactful things that you can do to create a life filled with love and happiness. Expressing gratitude will not only increase your happiness, but it will also draw more things to be grateful for into your life. Listen in for the reasons why and actionable tips on simple ways for you to practice gratitude every day.

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleejaine/These are life changing productivity tips to help you get things done and achieve your goals in 2022. If you feel overwhelmed by everything you're working on or have going on in your life, this is a must listen to podcast to help you boost your productivity.

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleejaine/Have you ever thought about how your self image reflects your self worth? The two are very closely tied together. If your mind is filled with self doubt and insecurities, you likely have a negative self image that could be clouding your potential and positive thinking more than you even realize.

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleejaine/One of the most requested podcast topics that I have received is to discuss how to create balance between work and life. And if I am being completely honest, I don't believe there is such a thing. We will never be in a position in life where we dedicate equal exact amounts of time and energy between everything we have going on (whether that be family, business, extracurriculars, etc). Check out my tips on how to embrace the imbalance of life, and reduce the stress and anxiety around your work and social calendar.

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Hi ladies, thank you for listening. If any of this episode resonated with you, please help me share the love by giving this show a positive review.Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleejaine/In life you get what you tolerate. If you tolerate people talking down to you, insulting you, or treating you poorly in anyway, that is what you will continuously get.If you only tolerate respectful friendships and interactions, that is what you will. You get what you tolerate, ladies. It is as simple as that.

Hi ladies, thank you for listening. If any of this episode resonated with you, please help me share the love by giving this show a positive review.Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleejaine/Have you ever heard the phrase “dress for the job you want”? Well how about we start dressing for the life we want. You see when we dress for the life we want, not only are we working towards showing up as the best version of ourselves, but we are also creating opportunities for our dream job, dream partner, and dream to become our reality. To start dressing for the life you want, all you have to do is stick to the clothing styles, fits, and colors that make you feel absolutely amazing. Dress for the life you want so that you can show up confident and radiant in your everyday life.

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Connect with me on Instagram and subscribe on YouTubeWelcome back to The Ashlee Jaine Show, ladies. I am your host and guide, Ashlee Jaine, sharing all the advice, tips, tricks and actionable takeaways on basically your entire life, how to become the very best version of yourself. I share a lot of mindset. I share a lot of motivation, positivity, self-love, self growth and pretty much everything else in between. So if you are new to my podcast channel, I hope that you will hit that subscribe button and hang out with me for my upcoming episodes. I would love to welcome you to the family and have you here and be your guide, if you will, to help you on becoming the very best version of yourself. That's kind of what we are going to be talking about in this episode here today, which is something that I am super passionate about. This is probably one of my internal like desires or my internal passions. Like I am screaming with joy right now to be talking to you about this, because it is something that I live my life by. And I don't know how I got to this point. I can't really explain why or how I feel this way. But I do know that I love working on myself. I love personal development. I love growing, and I love becoming the very best version of myself.A- WORKING TOWARDS A+I think that we were all put here for a reason, and it is our job to reach our fullest potential. And that takes work and that takes time and that takes growth. And so today, my friends, we are going to be talking about how there is always room for improvement in your life. I like to think of myself as an A minus. If I had to give myself a grade, I would be an A minus. I am always striving towards that A plus status. But I know that there's always going to be room for growth, there is always going to be room for improvement. And so it may be my last breath, my dying day that I am that A plus, But for today and my future days, I live life as an A minus, striving to be that A plus. If any of that makes sense to you, if not, just sit tight. I promise I will elaborate and explain a little bit more. Now, I want to give you just some basic categories of where you can work on improving or expanding or growing in your life. And these are probably the most common, but they are definitely not limited or restricted by any means. So if there is something else or some other area of your life where you feel like you really want to see some improvement, then you can take everything that I'm about to share with you here and you can apply it there as well.EDUCATIONI would say the most common are going to be your education, your intelligence. What do you know, what do you know how to do? Those are things and those are skills that you always want to be growing and expanding on. If you stop learning, you stop living pretty much. You should make it your daily effort to learn something new, learn how to do something better, et cetera, et cetera. HEALTHAnother category of life that you really want to focus on, always improving on is your health. And this is so important I don't even need to go into why it's important. Hopefully you understand the relevance that your health plays in this game that we are playing called life. But you should always strive to do better, be better in regards to your personal health. RELATIONSHIPSNow, of course, we can't talk about improving if we don't mention love and relationships. And these are romantic relationships. These are friendships. These are, you know, relationships with your relatives. And so any relationship in your life, even if it's with your boss or if it's with your third cousin, it doesn't matter. There's always ways that you can grow and develop and improve in your relationships. SURVIVAL OF THE FITTESTThink about yourself as evolving. Think about yourself as ever, evolving. Now we have mixed information, if you will, on evolution. But there's one thing that's undeniable, and that is the survival of the fittest. Survival of the fittest really just comes down to who was able to evolve or change to adapt to their environments, to adapt to the skills that they need to know to survive. It really just comes down to like those important key factors that helped them continue on where others failed and fell off. Are you going to be a survivor? Are you going to be one of those people who would fall under the category of survival of the fittest? Or are you going to be one of those people who stopped and who didn't continue to improve on or adapt or change to to meet the needs of your environment, to know the skills that you needed to survive? I would hope that it's definitely not the latter. And the fact that you're here listening to this podcast with me tells me that you are definitely going to be one of those people who fall under the category of the survival of the fittest. Now, with all of this said, let's go ahead and just dive right into working towards becoming the best version of yourself.EXAMPLES OF HOW YOU CAN IMPROVE YOUR LIFELike I said, there are those key categories, but don't limit yourself to just what I shared here on this podcast episode. I really would challenge you to find other areas of your life that you really want to grow and expand on. And I'm going to give you some examples. So let's say you want to improve on your health. So maybe you go from choosing a salad over a cheeseburger when you're out to eat with your friends. Or maybe you go to the gym two days instead of one day a week or figure out how you can push yourself further or do better in that aspect of your life. This is going to look differently for everyone because we are all so unique. We all have different priorities, different values, different things that we're already implementing versus things that we could be implementing. So like I said, these are just examples. But I really want you to kind of rack your brain and figure out how you can grow and develop and become the best version of yourself in all regards of life, not just maybe the few categories that I've listed here. Another way that you could maybe expand on or improve your education or increase your intelligence is to read two more pages of a nonfiction book each night. Or maybe you sign up for a training course. Maybe you decide to go back to college, maybe you watch YouTube videos that show you how to do an oil change. These are just examples because I most definitely would never learn how to do an oil change. That is not anything that I'm interested and learning how to do. But like I said, the opportunities and the options are truly limitless when it comes to you. Let's say you went to work on becoming a morning person, and this is probably something that I should really implement in my life a little bit better than I do. But maybe you start with waking up ten minutes earlier and then you gradually increase that time, maybe ten minutes, one week and twenty minutes the next week. And you figure out some really incredible ways as to how to be productive and maximize that time. Or maybe it's you know, you're taking that ten to twenty minutes to meditate. Or maybe it is you taking that ten to twenty minutes to exercise, whatever that looks like for you. That is an example of how you can improve on an area of your life. If that is where you choose to improve on.Maybe you want to be more organized. Maybe you're wanting to increase your organization skills. So maybe you lay out your outfits for the week. Maybe you go buy closet systems and cabinet systems and storage bins and you alphabetize all of the food in your pantry and you color code all of the clothes in your closet. These are just examples I'm throwing out if you want to increase your organization, which I definitely encourage you to do, because let me tell you what organization and systems in place like that and, you know, storage organization, stuff like that creates so much clarity in your life. Clutter equals basically just chaos pretty much in your life. So definitely do that if you haven't already figure out how you can improve on organization because it's going to be life changing for you. OK, sidetracked there. Sorry if you know me, if you listen to any of my podcast in the past, you know that I can get off topic from time to time, but I try to keep my bullet point notes so that I can get right back on. And that is what we are going to do right now. Let's say you want to improve on your relationships, your friendships, for example, maybe you take a few minutes out of your morning every day to text a friend while you are thankful for them, how they have impacted your life, or maybe even just a simple compliment. Or maybe you want to. Expand on your friendship, so maybe you make an effort to meet 10 new people a week, everybody can meet 10 new people a week, you go to the grocery store and you meet people in the checkout line, you go to the post office. There's so many ways that you can meet people. And those are just examples of how you can improve on or expand on or grow in the department of relationships, whatever you do. The moral of the story is you should always be doing something that is going to be moving the needle forward. You should always be asking yourself, how can I grow here? How can I develop further here? What can I do to become the best version of myself in this category, whether it's, you know, like I said, education, whether it's relationships or X or Y or Z, if there is anything that I want you to take away from this podcast episode, it is that you have not reached your fullest potential in any aspect of your life. And there is still so much more room for growth, regardless of the topic, regardless of the situation, the relationship, the scenario, whatever, whatever, you absolutely can still grow as a human being. And it is your job, in my opinion, to do so. While you are here. You have to make the most of this lifetime. You have to be constantly working towards reaching that potential, impacting all of the lives that you can, all of the things.Otherwise, if you're stagnant and you're just the same old you from the time that you turn, let's say early adulthood, maybe 22 to the time that youn see your grave at the age of, I don't know, 86, then what did you do with all of those years in between those years were wasted because you were doing the same thing and you weren't moving forward. You weren't improving, you weren't expanding, you weren't doing all of the things that you were here to do and you likely weren't living out your purpose because you're definitely not searching for or reaching or reaching towards your potential. So think about all of those things. Think about the way that this plays in your life and how it can truly change your future around. You have the opportunity to really become such an incredible human being. And I hope that you don't sleep on that. I hope you don't let that pass you by. Like I said, this is something that I'm very passionate about. You can probably hear it in my voice right now as I'm speaking. And I really hope that this episode doesn't fall on deaf ears. I hope that you take this time to internally reflect and to ask yourself what areas you want to focus on, what areas can you grow, what areas can you improve on and figure out that actionable steps and things that you can do to make that happen.Anyways, I want to end this episode on that note, and thank you so much for taking the time to tune in and listen with me today. Thank you so much for if you are here. If you are listening, this tells me that you are definitely someone who is on a journey to becoming the best version of yourself already. And I just want to take a moment to honor you for that, because not everybody is at that point in their life. Not everybody realizes the importance of that in life. So you are special for even being here, for even showing up right now, today, listening to this podcast episode, because this is you working on becoming the best version of yourself. And if you haven't already, I hope that you will hit that subscribe button. I hope that you will hang out with me on my upcoming episodes. And I look forward to connecting with you more. If you want some day to day interaction with me, you can come hang out with me on Instagram or I also share some YouTube videos, lifestyle, blogs, beauty and fashion and all of those fun things on there. Thank you so much for listening in today, ladies, and I will catch you on the next episode.

Connect with me on Instagram and subscribe on YouTubeHey, ladies, welcome back to the Ashlee Jaine Show, I am your host and guide, Ashlee Jaine, sharing advice and actionable tips on self-love, self growth, relationships and pretty much everything else in between. Today, we are going to be talking about how your life is happening now and the power in the present. And to be honest, the word power is something that I really used to shy away from. It's kind of an ongoing joke with some of my friends because it just made me nervous. I don't know why. I just assumed it to be a bad word, I guess, if you will. I am no longer at that point in my life. In fact, I fully embrace the word power. I actively seek out power and powerful things in my life. So we are going to be talking about the power that is in the present and it is honestly limitless. There is so much power in living your life in the present moment and in current time, rather than focusing on the future or waiting for X, Y and Z to happen because your life is happening right now at this moment, second by second and minute by minute. You are literally watching your life unfold as you are here with me, as you were listening to this podcast, as you are driving your car, as you are taking a shower, as you are, whatever it is that you may be doing in this moment. Your life is happening right now. It is unfolding before your eyes as we are here together in this space.I want you to understand the importance and the weight of that and what that truly means, because you right now, your children are growing older, your dreams are coming true. You are actively working towards whatever it is that you want in life right now at this very minute. So please, for the love of all things, holy, please do not focus on the future. Please do not focus on waiting until your dream job comes true or waiting until you have a million dollar mansion or waiting until whatever it is. I am honestly coming at this from personal experience. I'm a go getter. I love to make my goals happen. I don't know what it is. It's almost like an unhealthy addiction for me. But because that's who I am and who that is who I am at my core, I always focus on the future. I'm always focused on moving forward. I'm always focused on what's happening next month, next year. And so this has been something that I really had to learn from my own personal experience. I learned that I need to appreciate and slow down and honor the present as much as I possibly can, because it is all the actions that I'm taking right now, it is me sitting here and recording this podcast that is going to get me to where I want to be and help me reach my ultimate goals in life. It is me taking the time to show gratitude for my children being at these ages, because next thing I know, they're going to be driving their own cars and going off to college. It's all of these things that we really just have to pause and reflect on and show gratitude for, show happiness towards. And that, my friends, is just as important as focusing on the future, as writing down your goals, as waiting for you to be a six figure earner or whatever it is, the moment, the second by second, the minute by minute, those things all play a role in helping you get to that, in helping you get to that future point in time when your dreams are becoming your reality and when everything wonderful is happening for you in the world. So if you're like me, while you're focused on forward movement and all of those things, you have to kind of slow yourself down. Maybe it's setting aside some time at the end of every day to reflect on the things that you did, the conversations that you had, the people who you spoke with, the activities you did with your kids or whatever that may look like in your life and show appreciation for that, honor those things, honor those activities, honor the time feeling like it's going slow as molasses, because truly the days are long, but the years are short. This is my little gentle nudge and reminder to encourage you to slow down, encourage you to embrace the day to day, encourage you to acknowledge the power in the present time to honor yourself in this second and in this minute for working towards whatever it is that you're working towards, for taking the time to say what you're thankful for, to acknowledge and honor each moment and each minute of your day and of your life and the value that comes with that.I honestly can say that there is so much power, there is no better power move in life, than taking the time to slow down, show appreciation, honor where you're at while embracing and working towards where you want to go. And so I am going to just wrap up this episode with having said that and letting you know that you will be in a better place because you have taken the time to slow down, because you have taken the time to show gratitude and honor where you're at. In addition to where you're going, it will literally change you at your core and unlock so much happiness and probably so many opportunities in life because you are attracting more positive things just by showing gratitude, just by honoring yourself, that you would even venture to realize or that you could even possibly imagine at this point. Thank you so much for tuning in and listening with me today, ladies. I honor you for showing up as your best self, working towards growth, working towards reaching your fullest potential. And if you haven't already, I hope that you will hit that subscribe button so that you can hang out with me on my upcoming podcast episodes. And I will catch you next week.

Connect with me on Instagram and subscribe on YouTubeWelcome back to the Ashlee Jaine Show, ladies. I am your host and guide, Ashlee Jaine, sharing tips, tricks and advice on all things self growth, self-love, personal development, relationships and pretty much everything else in between. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATIONToday, we are going to be talking about one of the necessary topics or I feel like it is necessary, and that is effective communication. Now, I talked a little bit and gave a great example of the importance of effective communication in my last podcast episode, where I really talk about expectations and relationships and how important it is to communicate those. Honestly, I have actually had quite a few interactions here recently with people in my life where I have been totally blown away by their lack of communication skills. So that's what we are going to be talking about today. That is what we are going to be addressing. And unfortunately, most people are never taught how to effectively communicate with others. And what's even worse than that is that most people don't even take the initiative to learn how to effectively communicate with others. Now, I will say I was not taught how to effectively communicate. I don't think that that's really something that a lot of parents teach their children. However, when we are adults, it kind of becomes our due diligence to learn how to effectively communicate. And so I feel like most of you listening, are working towards bettering. yourself in all regards. Maybe you're on your way to learning how to communicate effectively or maybe you are just not there yet, but it is important for you. This is one of the best life skills that you can ever learn, and that is how to effectively communicate with others, because this is how you get your needs and your wants met. This is how you relate to others. The relevance that they and of the role that they play in your life is how you convey your love. This is there's so many things that go into communication. This is how you show up to be yourself and to share who you are and how you learn about others. This is truly the basis and the foundation of so much in our lives. So needless to say, I truly feel like this is such an important, important life skill and important thing to learn if you haven't already and if you are on your way to learning. I truly hope that it's something that you master at this point. And where I'm at with communication, I am still guilty of slip ups and mis-communicating and being irrational and saying things that I really shouldn't from time to time. So it's one of those things where it's a muscle and you have to flex it and you have to work on it in order for it to, you know, reach its potential. So just keep that in mind as we're going through everything. But honestly, I just really want you to understand the importance of communication and the way that it carries in your life and in your relationships and relationships are literally built or broken on communication. I can share a story about a friend that I had. And it was so unfortunate because I really loved this friend, she was a good friend of mine. And we kind of got I don't even recall what the argument was about, but the things that were said on her end of the conversation were angry. She was hurt or angry, and she was saying things in response to those emotions. And in turn, those hurt me and made me angry. And so I no longer wanted anything to do with that relationship. And that's the perfect example of relationships being broken based on ineffective communication. Now, if people are hurt or angry or whatever, have a disagreement, whatever, I am respectful of that. I am not the type of person to, you know, just wipe my hands clean if someone disagrees with me. But I don't really tolerate disrespect. I don't really tolerate saying inappropriate things or anything like that. And so that really was the end of what I thought was a really good friendship.Like I said, that really is an example of what is at stake for lack of good communication skills. So just keep that in mind now in my last podcast episode I shared. Briefly, a story about me and my husband and a conversation that we had, which essentially came down to him communicating, feeling like his needs in our marriage were not being met. He felt like I have been so busy and I just really haven't had the time that I normally do or that I normally invest in our marriage to commit to him. And so because he effectively was able to communicate that with me, I actually scheduled a date night for the two of us and I made it special. I made it a surprise and found a sitter for the kids and everything like that. If he had not done that, if he had not effectively communicated that and he went about it in such a good way, but if he had not done that, I would not have in return realize that he is feeling like a little left out and, you know, like he's feeling a little less important in our marriage than what he has felt in the past. I would have never realized that we would have never went on this incredible date. We played mini golf. I'm pretty sure I beat him, but he may tell a different story because he was playing one handed for most of the time, but we would have never come together and figured out how to meet those needs in his relationships or those expectations, as I talked about in my last episode.That's another example of how important it is to communicate. You have to communicate the things that you're feeling, the things that you are needing, the things that you're wanting. You have to communicate your story, your history, who you are and where you want to go in life. To others, this helps build relationships. This helps get you to where you want to be. This helps with jobs. This helps with so much in your life. I think at this point I am really beating a dead horse at this point by saying that you need to know how to communicate and your life because it truly plays a factor in every aspect of your life. And honestly, the benefits of effective communication are endless. It can be anything from a healthy relationship. Having your needs and your once met, whether those are mental or physical, it can be helping others understand your inner outer world or vice versa, and you understand their inner and outer world. It can literally come down to being as relevant and as important to giving you peace and satisfaction in life, all by knowing how to effectively communicate.So I want to share a few of my effective communication tips and tricks with you now that are so simple, you'll wonder why you haven't been implementing them already if you're not and show you how easy it is to work on communicating effectively moving forward. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION TIP #1Now, my very first tip is one of those things that is definitely easier said than done and just bear with me as we barrel through it. But it is honesty. You have to be honest with yourself and you have to be honest with others. So if you are feeling a certain way, if there is something that you want, whether it is a promotion, a pay raise, a, you know, more quality time with your significant other like my husband was communicating with me. Whatever it is, you have to be honest with yourself, and then you need to realize and figure out an effective way to communicate that with the other person involved or with the other people around you. And honesty is a really hard thing to grasp because sometimes honesty or we feel that honesty isn't always the best policy. It's not always going to get us where we want to go or what we're wanting in a relationship. And we feel like maybe we're going to hurt the other person's feelings or, you know, we're going to be too outspoken or too abrasive, whatever it is.But we need to be honest and really, it's not a matter of what it is that you want or what it is that you're trying to say. It all comes down to how you say it. So how you deliver that feeling or that desire for a pay raise. It's not the abrasiveness or the outspokenness. That's not what leads to those things. That's not what leads to being too you know, insulting is a great one. We'll use insulting as a word. It's not what you say. It is how you say it. And that's where effective communication comes into play. So whatever it is that you're conjuring up in your mind right now about what you want to be honest about, what you want to learn, how to effectively communicate, think about the delivery, think about the ears that it is going to fall on. How are people going to perceive what you're saying? How will it come across. Are you are being too abrupt, if you are being rude in your delivery and what you're saying, yes, people will feel like you are being too aggressive or they will feel like you are, you know, being insulting. So really take all of that into consideration when you're trying to deliver your honesty, you want to deliver everything that you say with the most tact and the most grace that you possibly can. And your delivery will be so much better received when you are using those tactics rather than just being blunt, rather than just not having a filter and blurting out whatever it is in your mind.EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION TIP #2The second tip that I'm going to share with you is using I statements, and this is something that I learned when Nick and I were in couples counseling. Actually, they really honed that in on us. We need to use I statements instead of used statements. So, for example, if my husband is doing something and I find it extremely annoying, I'm going to say “I find it really hard to listen to or to watch you do X, Y or Z” instead of saying “when you do that, it's really freaking annoying to me.” You need to stop it. Do you see the difference in how that's going to be delivered, how that's going to be perceived by my husband? When I say “I” I'm talking about me. I'm not making accusations about him. I'm not pointing the finger or placing blame. It is much more about me. And so people are more likely to be less defensive and things like that. So focus on the statements instead of the you statements. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION TIP #3And the third tip that I'm going to share, and this is probably the most important one out of any of the ones that I'm sharing with you. It's the last one, but it's the most important out of the three by far, and that is avoid speaking in the midst of extreme negative emotions. Sometimes it is better to be silent and to get yourself and your thoughts together before you speak, then to just come up with something that is completely irrational or just off the cuff because you are angry, because you are sad or whatever that extreme negative emotion may be. When you are doing this, you are being more reactive to a scenario or to a situation or in a conversation. It's not going to benefit you in any possible way to say something deliberately, just to hurt someone else, just to express your anger or your frustrations or your emotions in a very bold way, I guess is a good word for that. So take that into consideration. Figure out how you can be less reactive in your statements and your responses and things like that. If you get a really shitty email from someone, take your time to respond to it. You don't need to respond to it right away. You don't need to sit there and go to town on your keyboard with all of the angry words that you have for that person. The same is true for face to face conversations. There have been so many times that I have literally had to walk away from my husband because what I want to say and response to him is not productive or constructive or positive by any means, so I will literally walk away from the conversation until I have collected my thoughts, until I pulled together what I want to say. And I make sure that it is a statement that is going to be productive. It is going to move the conversation forward. It is not going to turn into some back and forth tennis match of, you know, angry words or whatever your case may be. I know you know what I'm talking about, because us women, we are very reactive. And if you say the wrong thing to us, we immediately want to retaliate with something witty, something clever, and that really doesn't do us any good. It doesn't do any sort of justice to any stretch. So take all of this into consideration. Take these three tips into consideration. And whether you're practicing them one at a time in your communication with others or whether you are implementing them all at once, which, hey, more power to you, go big or go home, just make sure that you are working towards implementing them in your life, in your communication and learning how to be an effective communicator. You want to speak your mind, you want to speak clearly, and you want to make sure that the words that you are saying are intentional, they are grateful. They're not here to bring anyone down or say anything negative, and they are productive in getting your point across and moving the conversation forward. Those are my three tips for effective communication. I hope that this has helped you. If you are like me, you may still have slip-ups from time to time. Don't get me wrong, because I do, it's easy to get defensive and to be reactive and things like that. So just do what you can to work towards becoming an effective communicator. I promise you will see so many changes in your relationships, in your job, in so many aspects of your life. And you will really come to find that peace and that satisfaction because you are effectively communicating the things that you need or that you want in life and that you need or you want from the people in your life. It is a very important life skill. I don't know if I can say that anymore. It is so important and I honor you for just showing up here with me today, taking the time to listen in and really working on becoming the very best version of yourself. If you haven't already subscribe to my podcasts, I hope that you will do so. I look forward to hanging out with you on my next episode next week.

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Connect with me on Instagram and subscribe on YouTubeWelcome back to the Ashlee Jaine Show, ladies, I am your host and guide, Ashlee, Jaine, sharing advice and actionable tips on self-love, self growth, family marriage, life and pretty much everything else in between. If this is your very first podcast episode with me, I would encourage you to hit that subscribe button and make sure that you are notified. When all of my new shows come out, I put out a new episode every single week and try to fill them with golden nuggets of information for you to use to help show up as your very best self on an everyday basis. And that is exactly what we are going to do in this episode today. Today we are talking about assets and liabilities. So full disclosure before we dive in, I am a huge fan of personal finance. It's actually become a passion of mine because I really enjoy being financially smart or financially educated and making good sound financial decisions, both short term and long term. And it's something that I've really studied a lot on and I feel like I don't necessarily talk a lot about because there's a big part of me who doesn't feel like I have the place or the knowledge to tell people what to do with their money. So I really try to just, you know, keep that sort of advice to a minimum. But we are actually not going to be talking about money at all today.We are going to be talking about you and your relationships and how you show up in them. And let's just be clear on what the definition of an asset and a liability is. An asset is something that creates value or generates value or brings in value. And a liability is essentially the opposite of that, especially in the terms or in the regards in which we are going to be discussing today. So someone who is not contributing value or providing value in a relationship or honestly, just in this world in general, and as unfortunate as it may be, there are definitely people who are more of a liability than an asset. And most likely you are related to some or, you know, some individuals who you can identify as a liability. But it's not necessarily going to be all about them in this episode. I really want to focus on you, especially because I want each and every single one of you to be considered an asset in every single relationship and in every single capacity that you can be. Now, in order to be considered an asset, you really have to make sure that you are coming in strong to the relationship or to whatever good or service or whatever scenario in your life that may be. So in order to show up and to provide value, you need to be giving something to the relationship.You need to be giving yourself to your job. You need to be giving yourself to your charity work or, you know, the causes that you're passionate about. Whatever it may be, you have to be providing value in some way and value can be honestly, it can be anything. The exchange of value is only as limited as you define it. You can provide value by providing information. You can provide value by providing positivity. You can provide value by being a good listener. When your friend or a relative or whoever this relationship is with needs someone to talk to. There are so many ways that you can show up and provide value in each and every single day of your life. And really, I would just encourage you to try to identify it all throughout the day, the ways that you show up and you already provide value, because chances are if you're listening to this podcast, you're already someone who's contributing to the relationship, who is contributing to the world in a positive way because you are on your way to becoming the very best version of yourself. And that's why you're here and that's why you're listening to this podcast and that's why you are focusing on personal development and self growth. So try to take mental note of the ways that you show up and you provide value in your job.Try to take mental note of the way that you show up and you provide value in. Your relationships, does your value look like taking the initiative to spearhead a very important project at work? Does your value look like putting the needs of your children before your own? Does your value look like giving someone a polite smile when you can tell that they're having a hard day? There are so many different ways and so many different things that you can do to provide value in this world. And I honestly believe that this is just a big part of of reaching your full potential in this life and of touching the lives and of doing all of the things that you and your soul were set out to do. Because I do believe that we are all here for a purpose. And I think that once you are aware of the ways that you provide value in the ways that you show up in your relationships and in your job and in your life, you are one step closer to doing all of those things, to reaching your potential, to living out your purpose, to contributing to the world in a positive way. Now, on the flip side of that, let's talk about liabilities for a second. Now, I personally know liabilities and I know that, you know, liabilities to analyze your relationships, analyze your interactions, analyze your current roles in life.Are they a liability or are they providing value? Are they lighting you up and making you feel fulfilled or are they draining you? Are they bringing you down or are they doing the opposite of providing value? Now, I actually admittedly did look up the definition to a liability online and it basically says risk or hazard. Right. So you can think about people as a risk or a hazard if you'd like a risk or hazard to your mental well-being, a risk or a hazard to your physical health, maybe it's someone who encourages you to do things that you know you shouldn't do, like drink and drive or smoke cigarettes or, you know, whatever that may look like for you. Maybe it is a very stressful job that is very demanding and taxing on not only your brain, but also your body as well. Maybe you're drinking way too much coffee, way too much Starbucks to stay awake and get the job done. And it's taking its toll on you. That is a liability. Those people are a liability. They are a liability in the sense that they are not providing you value. They are not helping you achieve your fullest potential or live out your purpose or do good in this world. If you put together a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle and you have one side on the left that says asset and you have one side on the right that says liability, and you go down and add things that are current in your life, current roles that you play, current relationships that you have.It's very easy to categorize those relationships in those roles. On the left side, you may have, you know, your church. If you are religious, that is an asset because that provides you with value, that fills you up, that helps you reach your potential, that helps you live your purpose, that helps you put good out. And the world on the opposite side of that, you may have and I've talked about this before, toxic relationships and how to handle them. It's one of my older episodes. You can go back and take a listen to it, because there's lots of really good information in there. But on the other side of that, maybe you have a sibling or maybe you have a friend who does nothing but complain and vent all the time. And they're very negative and they bring you down. And any time that you're around them, it's just nothing but a soapbox of everything that's going wrong in their life. And as much as you love them and you want to listen to them and be positive and help them, you can only do so much without them helping themselves.So maybe that is a specific person in your life that you consider a liability. And it's very taxing. It's very taxing relationship on you mentally. I'm sure as you are listening to this podcast right now, people are starting to pop into your mind. Things are starting to pop into your mind. Is there something that you're doing that's not filling you? Maybe it wants to. Maybe it doesn't anymore. Maybe it's no longer serving you. That is now a liability. Things can always go from liability to asset, an asset to liability and vice versa. It just depends on where you're at and who you are at this point in your life. So don't think that once once you put someone in that asset category that they can't soon become a liability because that is not true. And don't you think that just because they're a liability right now, that friend is going through a really hard time? They could be an asset at some point in the future. It's not a relationship or severing. Maybe they just really need to get all of the. Stuff out, but you don't necessarily have to be the person that they get it out to. So just keep that in mind. Things can flip flop. They can go back and forth and you can flip flop as well. Maybe or maybe you're on the liability side right now for some people, maybe you're the friend that's showing up and complaining and venting and, you know, standing on your soapbox, talking for the entire conversation, having a monologue rather than a dialogue that's not you providing value to your friend or that person in that relationship.But you can you can change that. You can figure out how you can provide value in that relationship. In fact, I think all of your I would say your top five or top 10 relationships between friends and family just go through that list, ask how you can provide more value in that relationship, and you will honestly be surprised at the value that is reciprocated, meaning they are going to then provide value for you if you start showing up more for the people that you love. And in those relationships, they are going to start showing up more for you. It's funny, it's almost like a symbiotic relationship where you have to put in the work and then they will match it. And unfortunately, there is going to be a person from time to time who doesn't do that. But that is not on you. That's nothing about you. That is definitely more so about them. And if you feel like your energy and your value isn't being matched, they may be more of a liability. That's a sure sign that they are not necessarily interested or capable of showing up and matching you and providing value in your relationship that way.Now, value looks different for everyone. What you consider value is going to be very different than what they consider value. But let them and you show up in the ways that you can and in the ways that are strengths to you. So, for example, I have a friend who is an amazing gift giver as she is so thoughtful and everything is just so planned out. Like every holiday you can think of. She does something fun and something cute, some sort of gifts for, you know, not just me or my husband, but also for our kids, too. And it's I love that about her. And honestly, I wish that I had that in me, but I don't. Gifts are like the bottom of my love languages. It's like number five for me. I'm not a gift person, especially if I feel pressured to have to give a gift. That's just not who I am. Like Christmas. No thanks. I'm not going to hire somebody. I get just because there's a holiday that says that I have to. So anyways, that's how she shows up and she provides value. That's how she shows the importance and the relevance of the relationship or our relationship to her. But I, on the other hand, can't do that. That's not how I show up.I'm more of a words of affirmation. I'm going to tell you that you're amazing and then I'm so thankful for you and that I'm so happy to have you in my life. And I'm so, you know, proud of you for X, Y, Z. And you're doing wonderful at this. And that's who I am. That's how I show value. Words of affirmation is like a big one for me because I am the type of person who loves to inspire and encourage. So that's who I am. That's how I show value in that relationship. So just because someone is showing you value in a different way than how you show value, you still need to honor and respect that and most definitely acknowledge it because not everyone is going to show up and provide value in the exact same way. Now, all of this aside, I really hope that you take the time to make a mental note or a mental list of the assets and the liabilities in your life in this can be anything from your husband and your job to your volunteer commitments or your. Daily workout routine, just take note of how it is making you feel, how it is showing up and providing value for you, how it is serving you at this time and take it from there, you don't have to necessarily take any action.You can leave everything just as it is. But at least in the back of your mind, you'll know next time that friend goes to vent or that job wears you down. Hey, this is a liability in my life. And maybe from there you can start to get a strategy together, a game plan. This would be a great time if you have people, especially in relationships, to go back and listen to the How to Handle Toxic Relationships podcast episode that I did. But at the end of the day, I would just encourage and inspire you to make sure that you are showing value in all capacities of your life in all regards, and really just focus on, you know, reaching your potential, touching those lives, living out your purpose, all of those good things, putting putting goodness and kindness and positivity and productivity out into the world. However, it is that you show up, just make sure you're doing that. And I can promise that it will come back to you tenfold. Thank you so much for listening, ladies. I really appreciate you and honor you for taking the time to tune in and work on becoming the best version of yourself today. If this episode was inspiring to you, I would encourage you to share it and help me get the good word out to other women, just like you. And I will catch you on the next episode.

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What does the way you are showing up in this world say about you? It may be more than you realize.Humans have a primitive instinct to make judgments and assumptions based on other’s appearance and actions. Are they friend or foe? Are they confident or cowardly? Are they leading or following?These are just a few of the ways our brain subconsciously works to categorize people. This is happening on a subconscious level, out of our control. Once we acknowledge that we are doing this to others, we need to understand that these judgments are also being made about us.So I would invite you to evaluate how you are showing up in this world.Are you showing up as the confident, warm, and capable person that you are? Or does your appearance, speech, and body language say less about you?What are some ways that you can elevate your physical appearance? Speak more clearly? Act with intention in every interaction?By doing these things and ensuring that your presence is actively portraying your inner world (aka the amazing person that you are) you are opening the window of opportunity for better things to come your way. Better job opportunities. Better relationships. Better quality of life. You are actively showing up for the life that you want to live, and not just for now, but also in the future.Just as your physical appearance and presence can say a lot to the people around you, so can your outer world, such as your house, desk, office, car, etc. How tidy are those areas? How organized?This can be a great indication of what is happening in your inner world, and also create stress and anxiety. When you’re constantly surrounded by mess and clutter, it is taking up space in your brain. Space that could be used to accomplish a goal, create something new, or invite a new positive relationship in your life. Essentially, it is clouding the ability for these opportunities to come your way.Try creating some sort of cleaning schedule, whether it is daily or weekly to keep your area and surrounding clean and clutter free. This will help create clarity in your mind and make you much more efficient and open to other areas in your life.

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