Back To Happy

Well, it's a bittersweet day in the land of Back to Happy because we're wrapping up our show with this episode. Between the two of us, we've been through a lot—but we genuinely, gradually have come back happier every time. Yes, there will be pain in life. But if you keep perspective and get real about what changes need to be made, what you learned and how to proceed… peace and equanimity can be found. May this episode help you rise up to greater happiness in your own heart. We send you love and we thank you for listening, Suzanne and Debi WHO ARE THEY? WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She's also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck. Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman's Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

Few experiences in life can be more bewildering than watching your 19-year-old daughter get suddenly, seriously ill. And then stay ill, off and on, for the next eight years. This is what happened to Debi Granger as her daughter Amera struggled with congestive heart failure, nearly dying three times. And yet. Such a time can also be when life is most inspiring, because a heart and kidney donated by a stranger ultimately saved her life. Debi tells her story, with its surprise ending, in such grace and strength it should inspire you for a long time to come.   May you find her story useful as you find your way back to happiness, and what really matters in this life, yourself. Sending a big hug, Suzanne & Debi SOOTHING RESOURCES & LINKS The Self Care Group for Extremely Busy Women WHO ARE THEY? WHO ARE THEY?  Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She's also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman's Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

This show is a replay of one of our most popular shows, #6, honoring Suzanne's late daughter Teal. If you feel stuck in life, unable to move forward or backwards, take a bit of inspiration here. Teal was a unique free spirit who felt the world was her oyster … and she rolled through it with ease, equanimity and a true lightness.  Leaving behind her journals, and memories of her remarkable life, she is here to teach us:  How to live with uncertainty How to find acceptance How to detach from what bothers us How to ‘just be'  How to stop trying to be all things to all people May you find some fun inspiration here as Debi and I talk about Teal and her amazing life.  LINKS About Teal page from our website XBW PODCAST   Teal playing on the Champs des Mars in Paris, France in 2011

It seems in life we are always running to catch up with something. Or someone. I don’t know about you, but I always feel just slightly behind. Yet, a lot of serenity comes from feeling that you have enough time. And that you have enough of what you need in general in life. In this show, Debi and I take on the tricky subject of managing time as a way to get back to happiness and inner peace. Among other things we cover: The power of mini habits to change your life My accountability pal and how we help each other along The magic of noting and really seeing your accomplishments How our To DO’s take over our mental space How to get out of the habit of ‘Shoulding’ on yourself May this help you rein in time a bit more so it’s on your side. Submitted with love, Suzanne and Debi RESOURCES The Self Care Group for Extremely Busy Women WHO ARE THEY? WHO ARE THEY?  Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

Control—you either love it…or you run from it. Seems we’re all caught in that push-pull dance in many areas of our lives. So, Debi & Suzanne knock around what we actually have control of, what we don’t—and why this really effects our happiness.  What Debi tells herself when she feels like she has to let go The biggest source of anxiety for many people The many benefits of letting go How to keep the faith even in hard times What do we actually have control of? What Suzanne learned about control from her 56,000 person Facebook group May this serve you well! Submitted with love and friendship, Debi & Suzanne RESOURCES The Self Care Group for Extremely Busy Women WHO ARE THEY?    WHO ARE THEY?  Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

Life can get on your nerves—have you noticed? Tolerations are those things that aren’t TERRIBLE, but they definitely grate on you. And they don’t bring joy. Think of gossipy friends, squeaky chairs, jobs that drain the life out of you. Debi and Suzanne discuss how to deal with ‘tolerations’, including: The 50-50 question Can tolerations be our teacher? The secret to letting go of that which we’re only tolerating Manifesting 101 What Debi learned about manifesting from her daughter’s heart transplant “Life figured it out for me,” Debi said… May this contribute to your overflowing joy! Debi & Suzanne WHO ARE THEY?    WHO ARE THEY?  Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

Have you ever stopped to notice, when you’re about to go on a furious tear, that you may be reliving old emotions from the past? No… well, yeah. Very few of us actually have. Yet triggers are actually what’s likely at play. In this show we talk about our various trigger insights, accumulated through collective decades of being triggered. We share: A few stories from the past Some useful tools that can help with being triggered Ideas on what road rage is actually all about A nifty martial arts trick Words on the question of responsibility A really good journaling exercise May this show serve you well! Suzanne and Debi LINKS Suzanne’s YouTube Channel The Conscious Girlfriend website (originator of the SCORE method) https://consciousgirlfriend.com/free-stuff/

Nothing is worse than not being able to sleep! Debi and Suzanne knock it around on the fraught subject of tossing and turning. They share their very best tips of fighting insomnia including Best sleep tips How to manage waking up in the night What to do when your mind keep racing Various supplements and things that really work May this help keep you well rested… and not lying awake! For surely, this is a path back to happiness. Best from both of us! Suzanne and Debi WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck. Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

What is at the heart of the mother-daughter relationship… and how does it affect us? In this show, we take a good clear look at our own relationships with our mothers (very different!), as well as with our daughters. For what’s here is nothing but unvarnished love. And it can be healing, indeed! Among other things, we covered: The story of Teal and Amera, our daughters Dealing with our daughter’s pushback The heart of love in motherhood What the moment was like when Teal was born Girdles and Chanel No.5 vs farm dresses—our two moms An important lesson Debi learned from her mom However, you get along with your mother, there is nothing as foundational as your relationship with the person who gave birth to you. May you find some healing and inspiration here. Suzanne and her mother Debi and her mother Submitted with love, Debi and Suzanne RESOURCES Suzanne’s essay ‘Learning to Forgive My Difficult Mother’

Suzanne and Debi knock around the critical issue of boundaries by sharing stories from their own lives, childhoods and relationships. Once you learn to stop allowing life (and others) to walk all over, happiness is easier than you think! Among other things, we talked about: What to know about setting boundaries and why it doesn’t always feel good What you can do to set boundaries more easily What you’ll get from setting better boundaries Boundaries with moms How to know WHEN to set those boundaries May this inspire your own boundary setting, and lead to even greater happiness. Best to you! Suzanne and Debi WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck. Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

It’s a long road to a life of serenity. Yet, it can be done no matter what your circumstances. In this show, we talk about lessons we’ve learned on how to finally calm down and become patient. We talk about: The patience of not needing to control outcomes The patience of allowing and acceptance Helpful inner thoughts on patience Learning patience with boundaries Learning patience with ourselves Toxic triggers that screw it all up Making requests …and so much more! May this show serve you well, friends. Much love! Suzanne and Debi WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck. Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

No matter where you are or what you’re doing, moving around is going to help. Even if you’re dealing with a disability—and especially if you’re dealing with anxiety and depression. In this show, we share ways to get yourself moving and KEEP yourself moving. Studies show it’s essential to not only maintaining your health, but keeping your sanity together. And Debi shares about her own routines that make her especially glad that she keeps on movin’…. We talk about yoga, why Suzanne doesn’t ride my bike on the street, Debi’s FitBit, and her favorite YouTube dance workouts. Even what to do when the weather stinks. As ever, submitted with a hug… Suzanne and Debi RESOURCES Misty Tripoli’s Body Groove Meredith Shirk’s One and Done Workouts Suzanne’s podcast on Zumba Funk Playlists on Spotify [LINK TO SPOTIFY] Funk Outta Here Funky Jams Suzanne’s R&B Band, Ruby’s in Town, funky dance parties online WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care. 

In this show, we share some very good stories about how we’ve remembered those who’ve passed… and even heard from them. Here are some of the things discussed: Deb recalls the ritual around her Dad’s death Suzanne recalls ways she stayed in touch emotionally with her daughter after she passed Suzanne shares her movable altar to Teal Ways you can remember those who die… and heal in the process Suzanne shares some surprising stories about staying in touch with Teal Staying in touch with ‘the other side’ and what it takes Handing extreme stress… and how it effects your body Sent with a wish for much love and healing! Suzanne and Debi RESOURCES Grief Dreams podcast Living Your Joy Surrendering to Joy Suzanne’s favorite fiction audiobooks: The Peacock Emporium by JoJo Moyes The Friends We Keep by Jane Green Always the Last to Know by Kristin Higgins Debi’s favorite non-fiction audiobooks: You Are the Guru, Gabrielle Bernstein Buddhism for Beginners, Jack Kornfield The Year of Magical Thinking, Joan Didion Wayne Dyer's Ultimate Library Libby app Audible app WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care. 

Just because I feel one way and you feel another…must we argue or even dislike each other? Hell no! We’re both advocates for all of us learning how to simply get along with each other. Especially now Among other things, we discussed: Why we encounter people who show up like roadblocks How we can cope with people who think differently The magic of being a good listener The power of not saying EVERYTHING on your mind Debi’s trick for not blurting out something that needs to not be said The powerful dream Teal showed up in about love and understanding …. And a cool new ‘Debi-ism’: Blappin’… as in blappin’ your jaws… Always fun to share and hear back from you, too. Send your comments to us at Suzanne AT suzannefalter.com and Debi AT suzannefalter.com Submitted, as ever, with love, Suzanne and Debi SOOTHING RESOURCES & LINKS Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast WHO ARE THEY?  Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.

It’s tricky, right? We need people. We’re fundamentally afraid of people, at least some of the time. Then someone reaches out and our day is made. Or maybe they don’t, and we stay stuck in our funk. We chat about various life breakthroughs we’ve had on the kindness train. This one’s an uplifting show… do hope you like it! Suzanne and Debi SOOTHING RESOURCES & LINKS Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast WHO ARE THEY?  Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.

So what does being kind ‘get’ you? Less time, perhaps some effort, maybe not even a thank you. Or… is it possible that you might actually seriously benefit from such actions?       - How Teal’s compassion taught Suzanne lesson about kindness How sharing an American flag with an elderly neighbor effected Debi Report from the front line and how compassion and kindness helps What both Debi and Suzanne learned from organ transplant professionals And so much more. Happy New Year, friend. Please take our thoughts and go forth in strength! Take care, Debi and Suzanne SOOTHING RESOURCES & LINKS Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast WHO ARE THEY?  Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

Debi tells the story of how she lost her home in the Camp fire in Paradise, one of the worst wildfires in California history. We’re airing because it contains some powerful lessons about happiness, and in some ways it was Debi’s Master Class. Rather than write a summary … take a listen and stay open. You’ll not only find yourself following along, one moment to the next, in an extremely well told story… you may find unexpected tears. And your own aha moment about your personal happiness.  May you find this useful. And may you have a wonderful New Year! Suzanne & Debi To send a question in for Suzanne and Debi to answer, please just pop them an email with ‘Question’ in the headline. Send to Suzanne@suzannefalter.com or debi@suzannefalter.com SOOTHING RESOURCES & LINKS Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

Sometimes when you set boundaries, you find yourself stuck in an angry place. Or if you’re busy, or under pressure, or even living in tight quarters, you may not have the mental space to process your anger. This show is all about managing your anger in a healthy way. We welcome you to come on in, relax and let go of the burdens you may be carrying around. Got some anger? This one’s for you. All our best as ever, Suzanne and Debi

Divorce can traumatize children left in blended families—and vex families hoping for the best, but not getting it. Debi and Suzanne talk through their own experiences raising or being raised in blended families. They chat about: How Teal’s death effected the divorce between Suzanne and Teal’s dad How Debi’s ‘unexpected’ son enhanced her life as a single mom What being in a blended family taught each of us How we raised kids—or grew up – our own blended families Our life lessons philosophies And we answer a question about using affirmations. Debi talks about her unique breathing affirmation, even used in the dentist’s office. Suzanne shares a key question that can help anyone get their needs met. And we knock around this amazing topic…. Hope this helps YOU get back to happy today! Take a listen! Suzanne and Debi WHO ARE THEY?  Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

Christophe Zajac-Denek is a successful podcaster, actor on shows like Twin Peaks, a drummer, stuntman and competitive surfer… and he happens to be a 4’4” dwarf. Listen as he shares with us in a beautiful, vulnerable show just what it’s like to be a little person in an average-sized world. In speaking, we learned: The realities of living in an average height world when you are a 4’4” man The hard things about being a dwarf actor Where little people get their confidence Stories from his childhood Why he’s a surfer (even though he’s from Detroit) How he’s gotten along with the Southern California ‘boy’s club’ of surf culture How he treats incidents of hate or social isolation The community around dwarfism, and how he came to join it What his dwarfism has taught him May you find this show as inspiring as we did! Suzanne & Debi RESOURCES I’m Kind of a Big Deal podcast on Apple Christophe’s website Christophe on LinkedIn MORE ABOUT CHRISTOPHE I'm an energetic and thoughtful individual who is genuinely curious by nature. I host and produce a podcast about people with dwarfism. The show is called I'm Kind of A Big Deal and creating it has given me the chance to connect with all types of different people, hone my recording chops, and creatively tell different people's stories. I come from a wide-ranging background ranging from touring musician, TV producer, actor/stuntman/entertainer, and project manager. Let's just say I've dipped my toes in several different ponds and they've all been fun and rewarding. Especially the time I landed a villainous role in David Lynch's Twin Peaks! 

In this show, we talk relationships, boundaries and asking for what you need these days. (And if there was ever a time when we all need to be able to get our needs met… well, that would be now.) Suzanne recounts how her own mother, who didn’t like compromise, taught her to stand up for herself. And Debi shares a number of stories from the annals of raising kids as a single mom… and how they all taught her to set better boundaries. You really CAN set better boundaries … and you can delegate, not matter how impossible it seems. This one’s for you if you need to learn How to set good boundaries Where and when to make requests What to reasonably expect from kids How to get your needs met Then we take a question from Theresa about how to make a ‘Me Time’ regimen. Can be tough, right? But we got you on this. Both of us have LOTS of experience with getting some alone time even in the toughest circumstances. May you enjoy! Suzanne & Debi RESOUCRES Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast  WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

Raising animals make us happy. And as Debi puts it, “They’re fun!” In some very personal stories, we share why that’s so very true. For not only are these little beasts funny, surprising, interesting and loyal… they’re also full of love. In this show, we talk about: Suzanne’s adventures raising street-smart chickens Debi’s duck hilarity How Debi’s dog Madi responded during the Camp Fire that took Debi’s home The hilarious differences in personality between her dog and her partner’s (much bigger) dog Suzanne’s karmic connection to her current pet, her wife’s German Shepherd Athena The reason to have a pet if you’re lonely or depressed Hilarious animal family dynamics in the duck world We also answer Marie’s question about how to resolve issues using journaling. It’s a wonderful practice to just write out what’s on your mind, and we encourage you to begin now… Submitted with love, Suzanne and Debi RESOURCES  Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast  WHO ARE THEY?  Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

Ryan Thompson lost his dream job an engineering intern at Disney World when COVID hit. He had one week to leave the Disney housing, find a new home, and figure out how to get along without his much-needed job. Now he’s the host of the inspirational podcast Crushin’ Lemons, and he’s thriving. Ryan’s the real thing when it comes to positivity. In speaking to him, we learned: Valuable life lessons gained from the crisis of being hired How surprised he was to find he was relaxed while being fired Where inspiration struck that led him on to a new path Where Ryan found unexpected joy A new lesson: There’s more to life than just working… Some of the inspirational moments his guests have had You’re going to find this show truly inspiring. We sure did! Thanks for being with us, as ever… Suzanne & Debi RESOURCES FB Self-Care Group Ryan’s Website Ryan’s Podcast MORE ABOUT RYAN Ryan Thompson is a former engineering intern at Disney World in Florida As the old saying goes, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Ryan Thompson is host of Crushin’ Lemons, a podcast dedicated to sharing the inspirational stories of our guests who persevered through life's challenges. We like to call those challenges lemon moments.

Stuck at home? You CAN find your way back to peace and even fun. Suzanne has been digging through her closets and discovering lost treasures. And Debi reflects on dancing and other solo activities that are actually remarkably fun! We talk about ways to get back to you, using the at-home experience to the max… Some of the things we touched on include: Dance parties you can do all by yourself on Zoom Debi’s Havana dance (see below) Digging into closets and drawers … and what you might unearth Photos and memories… and recipes! At home renovations that spark joy Shifting our environment to make us happy Creating our own little niche in the home We also answer a question from Lynne, about how our careers and passions might have shown up in our childhoods. Great question! Listen and hear a few personal stories from our pasts. Love and a big hug to all of you! So glad you’re here, Suzanne and Debi RESOURCES Havana (aka ‘Havana Camila Cabello Young Thug Dance Fitness --Melody DanceFit’) WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.    

Aside from just plain delightful laughs, we get a shot of inspiration from Leeanne. Her incredible perspective about major career catastrophe—the cancellation of the biggest tour of her 20 year comedy career—is nothing less than inspiring. Leeanne’s caring for her elderly parents… and how she copes How Suzanne’s relationship evolved with her siblings The importance of at least having a sight of someone’s face on Zoom How Leeanne coped with the cancellation of her 100 city tour Some perspective based on the past What her takeaways from COVID have been so far… How you can find your own takeaways Debi’s takeaway from the burning of her home in the Paradise wildfire … and what Leeanne’s learned from her wonderful fans. You can learn more about Leeanne and how to keep a little humor, and perspective in tough times, at the links below. What a fun interview! We’re sure you’re going to love it… Suzanne & Debi RESOURCES Leanne’s website Leanne’s podcast, Sweaty & Pissed MORE ABOUT LEANNE How do you describe Leanne Morgan? She sounds like a country music legend. Perhaps Loretta Lynn or Dolly Parton, but she occasionally slips into the persona of Gregory House M.D. Her crowd work often consists of showering audience members with compliments and diagnosis of a “healthy thyroid.” Morgan shares her own personal medical challenges that come with age and perimenopause. After almost two decades in the comedy business, she's shared the ups and downs of each stage of her life. For Valerie and myself, it has been a year-long goal to sit down and talk with the straight-talking Queen of “Yummy” herself.

We asked a very cool voice in the world of high performance and balance, Meredith Atwood to join us. Her path that took her away from self-loving and alcoholism Why the ‘perfect life’ is an illusion Her confrontation with suicide The link between despair and high performance The incredible number of negative thoughts we carry in our heads Overcoming trash talking in her own head What it took for her to accept herself? Overcoming internalized shame RESOURCES The Year of No Nonsense Meredith’s podcast, The Same 24 Hours Tony Robbins Website Meredith’s New York Post article Some useful books on Recovery from alcoholism Russell Brand, Recovery MORE ABOUT MEREDITH Meredith Atwood is a recovering attorney, wife, mother of two, four-time IRONMAN triathlete who had never run a mile in her life until she tackled the sport of triathlon. In 2010 she started writing and created her Swim Bike Mom blog. She is now the host of The Same 24 Hours podcast, and author of The Year of No Nonsense.

The day we met, on the beach at Ocean Beach in San Francisco, where we scattered Teal’s ashes five years earlier is indelibly sketched into our memories. Here is the story we can’t wait to share with you… and all of the emotions, intensity, ideas, inspirations, and reminiscences that came with it. For one thing, waiting to meet each other was a profound learning process for Suzanne. And it was all entirely, completely perfect. Listen and dig in… Enjoy this pure moment of unconditional love between fellow humans. May it lift you up. Take care, Suzanne & Debi RESOURCES Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

Can you be healed by your dreams? Can they actually shift things in your subconscious. Yes, we say. Both of us have had profound dreams around major life transitions. Some of which have been so blatantly symbolic, the meaning couldn’t be missed.  In some dreams, Suzanne has been teased by her daughter from the afterlife. And had the chance to connect with her son when he was on the other side of the world for a year. Debi dreamt about her house after it burned down… and it helped her heal from that trauma.  If we let them, dreams can inform us about the next steps we need to take— and heal the things that are heavy in our heart. As Debi put it, ‘If you let ‘em, dreams can be very helpful…’  Also we answer Julia’s question, ‘How do I love my body?’ with some concrete ideas. And Debi shares her experience of overcoming shame about her differently formed hips and knees.  Whatever is bothering you right now, may this help you get back to happy!  And we’re here to help.  Take care,  Suzanne & Debi  RESOURCES Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck.  Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.  

If you’re in a fun right now, you’re actually…in luck! In this show, we dissect some of the ways we’ve been able to move our moods from bad to better. Debi shares tips that immediately help. And Suzanne talks about how she was able to hold a major loss, Teal’s death, as a way to actually improve her life—against all odds. Whatever is bothering you right now, you really can get back to happy! And we’re here to help. Take care, Suzanne & Debi RESOURCES Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast

What you may not know about finding support might be seriously hurting you. Whether it’s a trusted friend, or a roomful of strangers, getting out of your bubble of discomfort is essential. You can do this! Among other things, we talked about: The nuance about asking for support … so you get it Suzanne reflects on how her ego kept her from getting help after her daughter’s death How online resources can bring in some unexpectedly fun support What happens after you wallow in your pain? What’s next? Our question fits right in here, because Luna asks, ‘How do I start a tribe?’ We riff on some really good, specific possibilities! Hope you enjoy! Suzanne & Debi RESOURCES Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast A Capella app WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck. Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and  The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.

After you walk away from the wreckage of a bad relationship or a divorce, there is gold to be found. But you have to know where to look for it. Suzanne and Debi have some useful ideas for bad relationship recovery.   A lot of us have been there, right? The cheating spouse, the abusive boyfriend, the sketchy date. Sometimes our love interests are not in our best interest. And yet, there is gold to be mined here. Debi and Suzanne talk about lessons they’ve learned from bad relationships ... and how those bad relationships have brought them to where they are today. RESOURCES Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck. Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and  The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.

If you feel stuck in life, unable to move forward or backwards, take a bit of inspiration here. Teal was a unique free spirit who felt the world was her oyster … and she rolled through it with ease, equanimity and a true lightness. Leaving behind her journals, and memories of her remarkable life, she is here to each us: How to live with uncertainty How to find acceptance How to detach from what bothers us How to ‘just be’ How to stop trying to be all things to all people May you find some fun inspiration here as Debi and I talk about Teal and her amazing life. RESOUCRES About Teal Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast Teal playing on the Champs des Mars in Paris, France in 2011 WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck. Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and  The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.

Does this sound familiar? You wish to God so-and-so at work would just understand all those subtle hints you keep leaving. You would SO love your partner to just freaking read your mind when it comes to birthdays, dates, even leaving his socks lying around. What’s wrong with this picture? The request is missing, that’s what. Requests are actually simple. And they’re your single biggest tool to get your needs met—but so often we don’t make them. Listen in and hear about: The secret agendas that derail requesting The cost of unmet needs Why requests are so crucial to happiness Mind reading and what it costs us Making powerful requests at work A useful communication tool in relationships We’re hoping this show can move you towards powerful request-making, if that’s a stumbling block. Seriously, they can make all the difference! Here to you and your happiness! Suzanne & Debi To send a question in for Suzanne and Debi to answer in the show, please just pop them an email with ‘Question’ in the headline. Send to Suzanne@suzannefalter.com or debi@suzannefalter.com SOOTHING RESOURCES & LINKS The Letting Go Reader WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck. Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and  The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.

Suzanne and Debi knock around the subject of kindness, and why it’s so essential for loving life again. If you’re tired of an unkind world, or you yourself feel too overwhelmed to muster up some kindness, take a listen. One thing both Debi and Suzanne learned in their transplant journey together is the immense power of kindness—especially from strangers—to turn things around. You’ll hear about the following, in this uplifting, free-flowing conversation: Why non-attachment is so key The power of kindness in action Teal’s take on compassion Are we having a kindness revolution? How Suzanne almost witnessed a murder … and learned about compassion Can we accept kindness from strangers/ May you find this inspiring and rewarding.We are here for YOU! Suzanne & Debi To send a question in for Suzanne and Debi to answer in the show, please just pop them an email with ‘Question’ in the headline. Send to Suzanne@suzannefalter.com or debi@suzannefalter.com SOOTHING RESOURCES & LINKS Suzanne’s Op Ed piece in the New York Times “For New Yorkers the Banality of Street Murder” Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women Podcast WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck. Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and  The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.

Few experiences are more moving than someone’s heart transplant story… unless you’re the mother of the recipient. Debi tells the story of how Amera’s life was saved through a transplanted heart and kidney. You’ll find this one inspiring, for sure.

You know all those horrible feelings you get stuck with from time to time? They are important, complex and well worth paying attention to. That’s what hosts Debi Granger and Suzanne Falter say. In this episode they offer their own hard won experiences working through tough moments. This one’s for you if: You know there’s something more going on underneath your anger You get overwhelmed easily by your feelings You find yourself silently seething You can’t stop obsessing over a worry or an upset Suzanne and Debi also take on issues like What a lack of boundaries costs you What to do in the moment of being triggered What to do about verbal abuse What that trigger really is all about Best practices for staying as cool as you can … and learning the next lesson May you find this useful! Suzanne & Debi To send a question in for Suzanne and Debi to answer, please just pop them an email with ‘Question’ in the headline. Send to Suzanne@suzannefalter.com or debi@suzannefalter.com SOOTHING RESOURCES & LINKS The Joy of Letting Go book Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck. Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and  The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.

Today more than two-thirds of all Americans are experiencing anxiety, and the number continues to grow. In this show we take a hand-on approach, sharing all manner of things we both found helpful as we navigated hard times. You’ll learn: A surprising way to use music for calming An ancient yoga practice specifically for anxiety Solid advice from a nature junkie on getting grounded What about meditation? … and much, much more May this help you relax, Debi & Suzanne SOOTHING RESOURCES & LINKS Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast Young Living Essential Oils starter kit Yoga Nidra, Julie Yogaressa (on Spotify) Calm app Insight Timer app Headspace app Calming Spotify Playlists: Book Club Cozy Acoustic Morning Sweater Weather Reading Soundtrack Nature Instrumental WHO ARE THEY? Debi Granger is a true survivor. After nursed two of her children through life-or death experiences, she lost her home in Paradise, California after the worst wildfire in state history. She’s also a working single mom with a disability. Yet, she remains a happy optimist, here to spread joy. She is a retired Dental Assistant with Expanded Function, and lives in the foothills of the Sierras with her fiancé, Chuck. Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster and essayist whose work has appeared in SELF, O, More, Fitness, New Woman and The New York Times, Tiny Buddha and Elephant Journal. She is the author of multiple self-help titles including How Much Joy Can You Stand? (Ballantine) and  The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks). Suzanne also hosts the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast where she interviews leading self-care authorities for those who need better self-care.

Welcome to the podcast that aims to help you get past your struggles. What  Back to Happy’s hosts offer is a little perspective, much of which they gained when Suzanne’s daughter’s heart saved Debi’s daughter’s life. Debi is also a Paradise wildfire survivor. These life-defining experiences changed both of them for the better, as they completely reinvented their lives with the wisdom of a new perspective. In fact, Suzanne’s daughter Teal wanted to be a healer before her sudden death. And today Debi’s daughter Amera actually is a healer, working in a hospital to provide people with cardio sonograms. This podcast is meant to continue Teal’s healing legacy, as Debi and Suzanne share her positivity. Today both of them truly are happier than ever, even after losing everything. Each show offers uplifting, humorous talk and answers to your hard questions. Debi and Suzanne take on life’s greatest challenges, from anxiety to grief, anger, finding healthy relationships, making difficult requests. And, of course, they’ll be sharing their organ donation story, as well as your write-in questions. No matter what you’ve been through … you really can get back to happy!