Podcasts about shoulding

***Trigger Warning - Death of parent, caring for sick parentWell Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 208 - "Shoulding Series - Shoulda, woulda, coulda down the shame spiral" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideShoulda, woulda, coulda...we know we've said it more than once and we don't believe we are alone in that. The past can be full of shoulda, woulda, couldas that are impacting our needs in the present. In this episode we're going to talk about facing and dealing with our shoulds and how to turn shoulda, woulda, coulda into something that will actually support our needs.In this episode we cover:Looking at and resourcing your needs in the presentThe guilt and shame tracks and where they both leadCatching yourself on the shame spiralIs it better to stay in the present or return to the pastDealing with shoulds when we can't redo themSerena's trip down the shame spiral when her mom passed awayThe importance of giving ourselves graceFinding which unresolved barriers are holding us backThe gifts within the shouldsDealing with shoulds when we can redo themApplying past shoulds to present actionsThe alternative to shoulda, woulda, couldaEpisode References:The first episode in our Shoulding Series - Episode 206 - Shoulding Series - Why shoulding on yourself, or others, negatively impacts your needsThe second episode in our Shoulding Series - Episode 207 - How to shift your shouldsThe Guilt and Shame Series -Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series: The difference between guilt and shameEpisode 44 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's shame in disguiseEpisode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanityThe episode we refer to the inner critic - Episode 92 - How to deal with the inner critic and inner saboteurThe Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Shapes Series - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachEpisode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulThe Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachThe Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachThe other "shapes" episodes -Moving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneThe Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of moviesNotes:Download The Apology Blueprint PDF here: https://theuniversalneeds.com/ApologyPodcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideFind our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 207 - "Shoulding Series - How to shift your shoulds" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideSometimes we just have too much content. Well, we don't actually think that's a thing and if you tuned in last week you know we did have too much for one episode. Join us this week as we continue our conversation about the impact the word "should" has on our needs (and the needs of others) and begin to learn how to shift our shoulds into something that will actually serve us. In this episode we cover:Identifying where the "should" is coming from (only if you want to)If a "should" causes a rift in a relationshipReplacing the word should and connecting with Personal PowerBeing aware of shoulds close friendsHow we shift language and dismantle the "should"The importance of finishing the sentenceDetermining the consequences of doing or not doing the "should"Shoulds rightful place in apologiesWhy "should not" isn't any betterWhen the "should" is focused on youEpisode References:The first episode in our Shoulding Series - Episode 206 - Shoulding Series - Why shoulding on yourself, or others, negatively impacts your needsThe episode on boundaries and control - Episode Episode 101 - Boundaries Series: What exactly ARE boundaries?The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe relationship orbits episode - Episode 17 - Apology Series: What to do when you're waiting for an apology that will never come The Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachNotes:Phrases that seem to be one thing but mean another when you add the end of the sentenceA jack of all trades is a master of none, but often times better than a master of oneThe blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the wombCuriosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought it backPodcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideFind our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 206 - "Shoulding Series - Why shoulding on yourself, or others, negatively impacts your needs" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideWe should on ourselves, we should on others and we let people should on us...it's just shouldy all around. If you haven't guessed, today we're talking about the word "should". Join us on this episode where we're getting into "should", it's impact on our needs and what we can do if we find ourselves in a shouldy situation.In this episode we cover:Shoulding all over ourselvesWhat's the problem with "should"?Removing the perception of choiceIntroducing expectationsThe impact of "should" on our needsHow the needs work allowed Serena to eat chocolate cake without guiltFeeling guilt and shame around "should"The subtext of "should"Figuring out what is really right for us in a situationUniversal social norms and self conditioningWhy people "should" on othersFiguring out what the choice is, so we can make the choice that best meets our needsRe-wording the "should" with yourselfRe-wording the "should" with othersHow to approach beginning to shift our language around "should"Episode References:The episodes about guilt and shame -Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series: The difference between guilt and shameEpisode 44 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's shame in disguiseEpisode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanityThe episode about interconnectedness - Episode 202 - What is interconnectedness and why is it so critical to getting our needs met?The shapes episode about creating - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe dark side of questions episode: Episode 172 - The darker side of questionsThe episodes about shifting our language - Episode 19 - The C-wordEpisode 40 - Let's absolutely lose the absolutes (although not ALWAYS absolutely...)Episode 113 - Are you struggling with things that you 'have to', 'need to' or 'should' do?Episode 143 - Get your But out of herePodcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideFind our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Are you blaming your partner, friends or family members for how you feel?Saying they ‘make' you feel bad, insecure, anxious or rejected?'Shoulding' them - believing they should behave differently. And tending to assume the worst?If so - it sounds like you need to start cleaning up your own side of the relationship equation and getting more intentional about how you choose to to think, feel and respond to the situations in your relationships. And I'm going to teach you how!Mentioned in the episode:FREE Stop Projecting, Start Connecting masterclassOwn Your Side - 8 week group coaching programme (launches 1st Oct)

We'd love to hear from you! Send us a text!Have you ever thought about how women SHOULD OURSELVES all the time? We should volunteer for that. We should parent a better way. We should do more. We should be thinner. We should be able to do it all. Women are masters at SHOULDING ourselves. What is your “I should ____________?” Listen in to hear Elizabeth  talk about why we should ourselves, what it costs us and how to stop!Elizabeth Pehrson created The Exchange in 2015. The Exchange is a monthly event for ALL adult women. Women who work outside the home. And women who work in the home. Women who are single. And women who are married. Women who are moms. Women who are grand-moms. No matter what season of life you are in, The Exchange is here to inspire you to live life ON PURPOSE and WITH INTENTION.The Exchange is a non-profit that provides an environment for women to hear practical advice from topics Elizabeth has read and life lessons she has learned, and is currently learning. Equipping us to become better women tomorrow than we are today. And to ultimately use that to pour back into those around us. Tickets and info: theexchangeus.orgfollow us on instagram: theexchangeusfollow us on Facebook: the exchange cumming

hello sweet happy littles!today's episode is for the girlies who have emerged from new age spaces + are looking to reframe the perfectionism they picked up on their *healing journeys* - esp as it relates to the pressure to love yourself. also discussed: couch anxiety, copenhagen in the spring, delicious obsessions + delights of late and using context to design the perfect meals / intuitive diets. to request a 45-min somatic soothing session with me vibrantlyyher@gmail.com

Do you 'should' on yourself?Do you place obligations of correctness onto your actions or criticise them based on a cultural definition of correctness?Well, you should stop that! Just kidding....In this episode I'm chatting about the habit of 'shoulding'. Sharing why it's a red flag in your relationship with yourself and your values and encourage you to take the opportunity to get curious and get critical of what's going on.Of course we'll be chatting values in there and I'll be offering up a quick litmus test you can use to see if your 'shoulds' are actually taking you where you want to go.Let's dive in.Links & mentionsValues Layering Dietitian Values Podcast ep113Show notes, links, mentions & transcripts dietitianvalues.com/podcastContinue the conversation on Instagram @dietitianvalues

Send us a textReady to break free from the crippling "shoulds" that hold you back? In this episode of the Feel Lit Alcohol Free Podcast, co-hosts Susan and Ruby dive into the sneaky, self-destructive habit of "shoulding" ourselves. How often do you catch yourself thinking, "I should be happier," "I should be more successful," or even "I should be able to handle this"? These pervasive thoughts can weigh you down, but what if you could transform them into positive intentions?Join us as we explore listener-driven stories and reveal the heavy impact of these constant judgments on our lives. Discover powerful, practical tools to shift from self-judgment to self-compassion, and ask yourself: How can reframing "shoulds" change your life? What if you could fully embrace a lit, alcohol-free lifestyle? Tune in for inspiring coaching advice and step into a life where you feel truly empowered and free. Don't miss out on this transformative conversation. Are you ready to feel lit, alcohol-free? Let's dive in! Now, get cozy and hit play on this enlightening episode! Time Stamp00:00 Avoiding Self-Shoulding03:44 Thoughts, Feelings, Behavior Cycle06:34 Overcoming Self-Judgment Through Awareness10:41 Rethinking Fitness: Beyond the Gym15:53 Awareness and Managing Negative Thoughts17:29 "Journey to Alcohol-Free Living"19:59 Preference Questions and Personal Experiences25:07 Finding Joy in Daily Chores26:56 Mindset Shift: Gratitude Changes PerspectiveWe want to share something exciting with you—our upcoming Feel Lit 90 Alcohol Freedom Program! Imagine making 2025 the year you finally feel lit from within! Choose freedom. Join us now at Feel Lit 90 https://feellitpodcast.com/FeelLit90Feb Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and ask us any questions you have about breaking free from wine or living an alcohol-free lifestyle. Your question could be the highlight of a future episode! Join our Feel Lit AF Facebook Community for amazing support and connection! Watch Episode on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/@FeelLitAlcoholFreePodcast/videosWebsites:Susan Larkin Coaching https://www.susanlarkincoaching.com/ Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/Follow Susan: @drinklesswithsusanFollow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoachingIt is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any resource or communication on behalf of the podcast or otherwise to be a substitute for such.

Happy New Year! We made it to 2025. And if the first few weeks are any indication, it looks like we might be in for a bit of a bumpy ride.Which is why I open this month's “Good Enough Parenting” episode with the reminder that tapping into things that bring us joy is not a luxury as parents – it's a necessity for your family's well-being. Whether it's catching a movie, meeting up with a friend or simply savoring a quiet coffee, prioritizing things that fill your cup isn't selfish; it's essential.To start my year, I indulged in a favorite tradition: seeing a Broadway show solo. This time, it was Our Town—front row and close enough to get spit on by Jim Parsons (yes, it was worth it).Watching those turn-of-the-century moms yell for their kids to come to breakfast reminded me of something important:Some parenting struggles are timeless (like kids not listening the first, second, or third time).And parents losing their cool? Yeah, that hasn't changed in 125 years either.In this month's episode, we're diving into: ✨ How to stop “shoulding” all over yourself and your kids. 

Are you constantly telling yourself what you should be doing to lose weight, and then feeling guilty when you don't do it? In this episode of The Mindset Diet, Iman, breaks down why "shoulding" on yourself is one of the biggest obstacles to successful weight loss.She shares real-life client stories to illustrate how this mindset leads to the dangerous "all-or-nothing" approach, where you feel like you're either perfect or completely failing. Iman also provides practical strategies to reframe your "should" statements into empowering actions that can help you stay consistent and feel motivated on your weight loss journey.If you're tired of feeling stuck and want to build a more sustainable approach to losing weight, this episode is for you!Topics disussed:The impact of "should" statements on your weight loss journeyHow guilt and shame sabotage your progressThe dangers of the "all-or-nothing" mindsetThe role of social comparison in weight loss strugglesPractical tips for reframing negative thoughtsThe importance of celebrating small wins to stay motivatedHow to shift your mindset for long-term weight loss successApply for Coaching: Work with Iman 1:1 - Limited spots available on her personal roster.Take the Change Quiz to figure out why you're not losing weight and what to do about it: Connect with Iman:Email: iman@builtbybalancefitness.comFacebookInstagram

We have all been there and done that… We have sat in a big old pile of should when it comes to our age and the timelines we envisioned for our lives. We should our pants by:Comparing ourselves to where we thought we should be in life.Comparing ourselves to others.Comparing ourselves to where society has told us we should be.It is time to clear ourselves up, put on a fresh pair of pants, and embrace what it is you actually want outside of the should.Are you shoulding on yourself?! Not sure?! Take the “Should Quiz” to find out where and how much you are shoulding on yourself.Get on the wait list for my next FREE workshop to help you dig yourself out of that pile of should. Wait with me here!

The weight of womanhood is REAL HEAVY. Pressures, standards and expectations in virtually EVERY part of our lives and the reality that it is STRAIGHT UP IMPOSSIBLE to excel in every single arena.      Nevertheless, try we do.     That leads to feelings of overwhelm, uncertainty, insecurity, ineffectiveness, guilt, shame and the list. goes. on. What IS possible is identifying what's the most important, tuning out distractions by defining what's sacred and concentrating there. This less is more approach is an utter and complete game changer.     Join Rebekah as she talks priorities, the conversation that changed everything and how to change how you view productivity in a way that actually works in accomplishing more with less.     Download The Ambition Coalition Productivity Planner Here!     Resources mentioned:     Free to Focus: A Total Productivity System to Achieve More by Doing Less https://a.co/d/1SJwzZ9     The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks than Others Do in 12 Months https://a.co/d/6XF7650     The Ambition Coalition Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.ambition.coalition/     Follow Rebekah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebekahfowlkes/     Follow Melissa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissaeickenhorst     Podcast Produced by clantoncreative.com

The weight of womanhood is REAL HEAVY.     Pressures, standards and expectations in virtually EVERY part of our lives and the reality that it is STRAIGHT UP IMPOSSIBLE to excel in every single arena.      Nevertheless, try we do.     That leads to feelings of overwhelm, uncertainty, insecurity, ineffectiveness, guilt, shame and the list. goes. on.     What IS possible is identifying what's the most important, tuning out distractions by defining what's sacred and concentrating there. This less is more approach is an utter and complete game changer.     Join Rebekah as she talks priorities, the conversation that changed everything and how to change how you view productivity in a way that actually works in accomplishing more with less.     Download The Ambition Coalition Productivity Planner Here     Resources mentioned:     Free to Focus: A Total Productivity System to Achieve More by Doing Less https://a.co/d/1SJwzZ9     The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks than Others Do in 12 Months https://a.co/d/6XF7650     The Ambition Coalition Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.ambition.coalition/     Follow Rebekah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebekahfowlkes/     Follow Melissa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissaeickenhorst     Podcast Produced by clantoncreative.com

Episode 023 | Dr. Oxana Ormonova is a board-certified Internal Medicine Physician, Clairvoyant, Spiritual Healer, and Intuitive Life Coach gifted with insight and perception to facilitate deep transformation and healing on spiritual, emotional, and mental levels. From a very young age, Oxana realized she was different – being able to see and feel things no one else could. As a physician, this talent was helpful to others, but painful for herself, as Oxana could feel all the pain of her patients and colleagues.Through much trial and error, she found a way to embody her intuitive gifts and feel great in her body, and it's these secrets she's now passionate about sharing with others. Oxana's greatest love (other than diving into the Pacific with her marine family) is empowering people by helping them heal themselves on all levels – physical, emotional, and spiritual. She works with people all over the globe, from physicians, to business executives, to coaches and entrepreneurs. She also teaches others how to develop their intuition and maintain energetic boundaries.In this episode:

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In this episode of the podcast, we delve into overcoming the burden of 'shoulding'—that nagging feeling of always having to meet certain expectations.I chat with my client Marilyn about how this constant pressure was dictating her life choices, causing stress and preventing her from being present with her family. Throughout our coaching, we explored identifying these intrusive thoughts and finding strategies to pivot away from them.Marilyn shares her journey of shifting from feeling overwhelmed by obligations to embracing a more balanced, fulfilling life as a working mom.Topics in this episode:Tackling the pressure of "shoulds" and how to shake them off. Insights from Marilyn's coaching experience and key takeaways. Strategies for juggling career goals and motherhood effectively. Marilyn's personal growth journey and the shifts in her mindset. Handy tools and techniques from coaching to live more intentionally. Show Notes & References: This podcast is on YouTube! Check it out by clicking here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPZA5JKXYxjCMqodh4wxPBg Learn more about coaching with me by clicking here: https://www.rebeccaolsoncoaching.com/aligning-motherhood-program Want ongoing support as a working mom? Sign up for the free 19-day audio series: How to be a present and connected mom. Each day you will receive an email with a downloadable audio of 5 minutes or less that will teach you a tool or strategy for being more present and in the moment. Click here to sign up and receive the first audio: https://www.ambitiousandbalanced.com/be-present-optin Enjoying the podcast?Make sure you don't miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or where ever you listen to podcasts. Leave a rating and review in Apple Podcasts or Podchaser.

“When your determination changes, everything will begin to move in the direction you desire.  The moment you resolve to be victorious, every nerve and fiber in your being will immediately orient itself toward your success.  On the other hand if you think “this will never work out,” then at that instant every cell in your being will be deflated and give up the fight. Everything then will move in the direction of failure.  I want you to understand the subtle workings of the mind.  How you orient your mind, the kind of attitude you have, greatly influences both yourself and your environment.”   This quote is from Daisaku Ikeda, former president of Soka Gakkai International, the largest and most diverse lay organization of Buddhist practitioners in the world. And it has been on or by my desk for at least 10 years. And I'm pretty sure that I first scribbled it down over 20 years ago when I first moved to Seattle, Washington in 2005.  Now after 13 years of studying esoterics and metaphysics it still rings true it just has so many additional levels of meaning and truth.   Forbes Magazine recently stated that - “intention is a critical factor in achieving success…It provides a purposeful and strategic approach to navigating life's complexities and a guiding force propelling you toward a future of purpose, genuineness and success.” the Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy shares that  Intention is “mental directedness towards objects, as if the mind were construed as a mental bow whose arrows could be properly aimed at different targets.”  The key here that unlocks the Power of Intention is the alignment and purposeful direction of your thoughts and actions toward a desire that you really want to achieve in your life. A prerequisite then for this alignment is you must know for yourself what you desire. What do you really want for your life?  Where do your passions lie? What gives you a sense of true fulfillment? If you do not know what you want and desire in the heart of your hearts then it is really going to be hard to align your thoughts and actions to make that desire happen. And you never unlock the true power of intention.   The definition of intentional according to Webster's dictionary is “Done on purpose; deliberate.” Synonyms include “Conscious, Willed and Purposeful.”   In my esoteric and Kabbalistic training we are taught that the Magickian or Alchemist uses their imagination to clearly identify and describe their specific desire, and then they must set their intention, concentration and will upon the appropriate object.  None of this saying "Walk around your life like a zombie doing whatever everyone else says you should do.”  In fact, it is specifically the opposite.  Intention is “thinking ahead and making choices based on personal beliefs, values, and goals.”  Not acting on impulse, but planning ahead to choose things that create a positive impact for your life and the things you value.  Okay, okay, Angel, you might be saying.  Great, be more positive. Be more intentional.  Those are great buzzwords but how do I do that? But that's just it.  I'm not telling you to BE MORE positive, or BE MORE Intentional.  That would be me “shoulding” on you.  Instead I'm giving you an equation that if you choose to follow it for yourself - your thoughts and actions will be the cause that results in the effect of an intentional life.  And that intentional life of thinking and doing on purpose with purpose will result in you achieving more of what you actually want, desire and desire, which will result in you feeling more fulfillment and joy and gratitude for what you have and have been able to accomplish.  Which will fuel more gratitude, and more ability to to be intentional.  It is a positive cycle of cause and effect which will in turn result in you becoming positive and living a more joyful life.  No shoulding needed. Because you will be doing it. And that is the most important thing.  So let's review the equation that allows you to unlock the Power of Intentional creation in your life.  Step one and the foundational piece is that you need to get clear on what it is you want and desire in your life.  What do you really want for you? All studies and literature on this point to you identifying for you what brings you joy and passion. (not simply what brings you momentary pleasure) But what are your values, what gives you a sense of fulfillment?  What feels purposeful?  Now if you are at this step (step one) and already stuck, don't worry.  Start small. Identify a very short term clear achievable thing you would like in your life that you personally would feel good about if you accomplished.  This can be very selfish (or may feel selfish and that is ok, we have to start somewhere). So this could be taking a weekend trip to a place you want to see.  Or paying off a credit card. Balancing your budget. Cleaning your garage. Going to the gym two or three times a week.  If you allow yourself to hear what you want to do for yourself the answer is there.  Feel out your desires, your intuition and higher self are telling you every day what you actually want.  Another technique to get there is to attend a meditation or listen to a meditation app.  This act of meditating is going to create space in your monkey mind as in it's going to quiet the noise so you can actually hear what your higher self is saying.  But meditation aside - just ask yourself what do I actually want?  And be honest with yourself.  Stop denying your inner voice and desire.  Listen.  You know the answer.   You must get past step one in order to harness the power of intention.  You have to have an appropriate and specific objective to focus on.  A place to point your mental bow and arrow.  And you really have to actually want it or else you will not be able to focus on it or determine to create it or achieve it without desire.  Once you have step one.  The thing you desire to achieve then you can begin step two, which is the alignment of your thoughts toward the achievement of the objective.  If you go back to season one episode two or three I speak to this.  The 4 worlds.  1. Idea 2. Thought 3. plan  4. Action.  This is always the path to intentional creation.  In this case Idea = Your desired objective (identifying what you want, specifically). Thought = alignment of your thoughts.  “I am going to create this and I am committed to taking steps to do it.  I am determined and won't give up.”  Then 3. Plan!  Yes, what are the microsteps and daily intentions you are going to take until you reach what it is you desire?  What is your daily routine going to be?  How are you going to prioritize your time and perhaps even block your time to ensure you have the time to do the things necessary.  Then finally Action = which equals action is alignment with your thoughts and doing the things you have planned to do such that it results in the thing you desire.  So, this is your equation to harness the power of intention.  Alignment and purposeful direction of your thoughts and actions toward a specific desired objective.  Now, intentionality is a practice like any other skill. It will take practice before it is second nature and then it is never going to be autonomous programming/ habitual because it is specifically the opposite of automatic/without thought/habit/subconscious doing.  Because you are specifically choosing to be intentional and choosing a disciplined set of daily rituals to move your life in a positive direction and accomplish not only goals but personal development and progression.   So, it is going to take the specific application of daily consistent effort, but it will be effort that brings you joy and satisfaction and stress reduction versus jogging on the hamster wheel of purposeless action.   So, let me tell you about the power of intention. Once upon a time I was a very unhappy lawyer working in the corporate realm.  I believed in nothing woo woo like energy healing and I even thought things like power of intention or positive thinking were a pile of huey. I read the quote from Daisaku Ikeda (I was practicing buddhism at the time) and thought how nice it would be to have something to be determined about. I was stressed out, tired all the time and suffered from chronic anxiety and itching because I had a body wide candida infection and no idea.  The doctors I talked to were like “shrug. There is nothing wrong with you.  You must have chronic fatigue.”  I was 27 years old and tired of being tired. I had no purpose.  I had accomplished everything I was supposed to do in life (college, law school, a job in a law firm).  But as a reward I hated my job, was sick, bored and generally meh about the whole thing that was my life.  There was nothing I enjoyed doing besides drinking and listening to music with my friends - but that wasn't making me happy or feeling any better. Then a friend introduced me to the practice I now do and teach in the Empower Thyself class & initiation.  And I completely ignored her for like 4 or more years.  Because I am a hard head stubbornly attached to my suffering like many logic and achievement driven attorneys I know.  But I eventually caved because I needed a change so badly.  And I saw a change in my friend who took the class.  So it couldn't hurt right?  Well, it could.  I saw the loss of what I considered a crazy investment of money and time into some spiritual, mindful, wellness, blah, blah, blah, bullshit.  But I cringed and took the chance and invested my $ into the process.  And most of what I learned in that first weekend I dismissed as complete Fooey. How could daily affirmations and intentional statements and some meditations help anything I was facing?  I had medical problems and career problems and satisfaction problems.  But I did believe in testing things to see if they worked.  I paid for the class after all.  I might as well try what I paid for and put it to use.  So I started doing the daily rituals and asking for specific things to come into my life.  And after a while (not overnight and not immediately, but over time) I started to see shifts, and started to be a little different.  One big change was that I started choosing to do things that I enjoyed for the sheer sake of doing them.  I really liked writing and traveling and food.  So I started a food and travel blog.  And I made an editorial calendar and I created content on that calendar.  I planned trips to create more content for the blog and because I wanted to travel.  My boyfriend/partner at the time thought I was being irresponsible and that Id turned crazy on him because I didn't just stay home and drink wine and make him dinner anymore.  And eventually that relationship changed/ended because we became different people.  I chose then to move to a nicer big light filled house, and the toxic people in my life started falling away, and my health got better, and my boundaries got better, and I actually started being happy and finding purpose in working with people as a healer and as an attorney.  I started actually charging for my services in a way that brought me abundance so I could invest more in myself and in things I enjoyed and wanted to explore.  I started having opinions about areas I held expertise and I didn't stress about it.  I stopped worrying about everything and what everyone thought I should do with my life.  Until eventually I intentionally decided to launch my own business and leave my corporate environment all together.   But honestly the biggest shift was the daily investment in intentional choice.  I chose to do something every day and make small changes.  Then I grew the courage to start choosing things that I was passionate about instead of continuing on the path of SHOULD (what I thought other people wanted me to do, or what one should do to live a successful life).  Shoulding was killing me slowly.  Drinking and chronic purposelessness was causing me illness, not fulfillment.  So the biggest shift was the little shift in me identifying a passion and doing something that brought me joy.  Then taking baby steps to accomplish that.  Eventually all those microsteps led me to be able to make bigger choices about my life and find my actual purpose that keeps me going on a grander scale.  I can read Daisaku Ikeda's words about determination today and understand hermetically with my actual life what he is talking about - because I am living purposefully and actualizing the Power of Intention in my life every day.   But it all started with step one.  Me identifying something I desired and that I was passionate about.  So for our exercise this month that is your homework assignment.  What are you passionate about?  What brings you joy?  Not momentary pleasure. What is something that if you did it you would feel really fulfilled internally?  Not something you Should achieve.  But simply something that you want. You are going to delve into your heart of hearts and be honest with yourself.  You know what you desire.  Go inside and listen to yourself and figure it out.  Then write it down.  Articulate what you desire and specifically want for yourself and write it on a piece of paper.  Then bonus - do a vision board.  Make this desire visual so you are really clear what it looks like.  Because if you are really clear about it, and really want it, and are really passionate about it - you are going to have the motivation to align your thoughts to take action.  You will create a plan, even if that is baby steps you are going to take every day to achieve that thing.  You are going to focus your attention and will upon an appropriate object such to manifest it in your life.  And when you do you are going to celebrate it.  And maybe even tell me about it.  And if you are truly stuck - reach out! I can help with that!  Let's get you on your path to purpose, joy and harnessing the power of intention. 

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the cycle of saying "I should do that" without taking action? What's holding you back? You are not alone, my friend!I've been there and my clients! I am sharing real stories and 3 actionable steps to get you unstuck and moving forward, so you can make it happen, too!Let's do this, my friend! This is the sign you've been looking for... Stop 'Shoulding' and start 'DOING'!

Hey friends! TGIW and time for a new episode! Leave the to-do list for later, because nothing packs a connective punch like dropping these three parenting mishaps that often fly under the radar. Once you see them you can't unsee them, and once you see them you're gonna want to stop doing them ASAP. Homework:At the top of a blank sheet of paper write this statement and question: "I'm ready to stop should-ing, needing, and doubting. What exactly needs to happen for me to feel ready?" Write down as many responses to this question as you can and "I don't know" is not an answer, it's avoidance. When you're finished, look at what you wrote down. If someone you loved showed you this list would you sign off on it? If not, why?Next Steps:--> Sign Up For my FREE Parenting Course: https://cmp.works/fpc--> Watch the STOP Yelling Workshop: https://cmp.works/stop-yelling-workshop>> Get your name on the waitlist for League: A Connect Method Parenting Coaching Program for tired parents ready to create deeper relationships, better listening, and more fun! https://cmp.works/7yq

Family members "should" on patients.Patients "should" on themselves.And we "should" on patients too.This week I share eight "shoulds" that we can try to avoid to improve the wellbeing of the families that we care for.Also, today is book launch day! Check out Coping Courageously: A Heart-Centered Guide for Navigating a Loved One's Illness Without Losing Yourself - I wrote this book for families bit also for clinicians who care for seriously ill people.Check it out and tell a friend!Dr. CDelia Chiaramonte, MDwww.copingcourageously.comMy book Coping Courageously: A Heart-Centered Guide for Navigating a Loved One's Illness Without Losing Yourself is out! If you're a physician, clinician, or have a loved one with dementia, cancer or other serious illness or an aging parent this book is for you.You're invited to the Coping Courageously book launch party! January 18th, 2023 7:00pm Eastern. RSVP required. RSVP HERE.Creating Integrative Palliative Solutions for Hospices and Clinicians Who Care for People With Serious IllnessPlease review this podcast wherever you listen and forward your favorite episode to a friend! Sign up to stay connected and learn about upcoming programs:https://trainings.integrativepalliative.com/IPI-stay-in-touchI'm thrilled to be listed in Feedspot's top 15 palliative podcasts!https://blog.feedspot.com/palliative_care_podcasts/

"It is our choice to cry when we want to, to feel deeply when we want to, to numb when we want to." This week, we're strategizing how to respond differently when the shoulds and shame are used to direct our grieving. Spoiler: My ideas are way better than demotivating yourself with insults. Links + Resources from this episode: Join the Restorative Grief Project Learn more about MandyCapehart.com/coaching Become a Patron! Order the book: Restorative Grief --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mandy-capehart/message

"When you are doing something you feel you should do, it's out of obligation, you will start to build resentment towards yourself and others in situations that can lead to depression, mental fatigue, victimization, and all other sorts of negative feelings." - Meshell Baker in today's Tip 1675 Are you SHOULDing yourself? Join the conversation at DailySales.Tips/1675 and share your thoughts! Have feedback? Want to share a sales tip? Call or text the Sales Success Hotline: 512-777-1442 or Email: scott@top1.fm

“Shoulding” all over yourself is never good for your mental and emotional health and the holiday season is ripe with expectations around how you “should” be spending them. So, this episode of the Grace & Grit podcast invites you to consider how you want to spend the holiday season this year even though what you discover may go against the grain of tradition and family expectations. Topics explored in this episode include: Extending yourself the grace of making decisions that protect your well-being even when it means disappointing others. Acknowledging that joy comes in many forms and that you are the only person who really knows what will bring you true joy this holiday season, Owning the fact that how you finish the year is how you will start the year, regardless of your intentions to start fresh come January 1. Have a listen. If it helps, consider sharing it with a woman who is trying to “should” her way through the season.   You can listen here: https://graceandgrit.com/podcast-347 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Leave a Review for the Grace & Grit Podcast: https://graceandgrit.com/podcastreview **** Ready to Rumble? Join me in the Rumble & Rise Arena at https://graceandgrit.com/readytorumble Looking for more Grace & Grit? Visit https://graceandgrit.com/

Feel like there are things you should be doing for weight loss (like drinking enough water), but you're just not motivated? This week on the Get Your GOAL podcast, we're diving into the struggle of consistency and I'm sharing my personal experience with staying hydrated. So grab your water bottle and let's reframe your mindset to break free from the burdensome “shoulds!” Be sure to WATCH this podcast on YouTube: https://youtu.be/JFflWVM6Rc0 It's happened to all of us at some point. You start off all gung-ho about drinking the recommended amount of water every day, only to fall off the wagon and berate yourself for not doing what you "should" be doing. Sound familiar? But here's the thing I've learned: all this "shoulding" doesn't do you any good. It just drags you down and makes you feel burdened. And what's worse is that it often leads to avoiding doing the very thing you're "shoulding" yourself to do! So, what's the solution? Instead of telling yourself, "I *should* be drinking my water," ask yourself, "Why do I *want* to drink water?" It seems like such a small difference, but trust me, focusing on the reasons you want to do something makes it easier to take action. Rather than feeling burdened, you'll discover a sense of curiosity and excitement about drinking water. And here's the real secret: It's finding your own motivation, your own reasons for wanting to drink water that'll get you to actually drink. Maybe it's because you want to feel energized, or because it supports your weight loss goal, or simply because it makes you feel good. Whatever it is, make it personal and meaningful to you. Stop "shoulding" on yourself and start creating the results you really want. Cheers to a fabulous, hydrated life, my friend! Find the show notes for this episode at https://getyourgoal.com/podcasts/311-stop-shoulding-on-yourself/ RESOURCES: Download The 5-0 Method, Weight Loss for Women over 50: https://getyourgoal.com/ Join the Get Your GOAL Mastermind group: https://getyourgoal.com/work-with-me/

Are you “Shoulding” all over the place?  Should pack the healthy snacks Should have our kids in all these activities Should be the PTO leader Should be posting every day on social media Should be the bible study leader Yet you are falling apart?  This episode may be sensitive for some. If you or anyone you know is battling depression,  anxiety, or thoughts of suicide please be aware we discuss these topics on today's show.    HELP is not a bad four letter word! Medication is not the enemy!  Boundaries are a good thing!   Connect with Caris Snider:  Website~Instagram~Car Line Mom~There's an Elephant on my Chest Connect with Courtney: Website~Instagram~Facebook  

Do you have no time to yourself? The root cause might be your Inner Critic. But how do you even silence this voice, when we've been practicing self-criticism for 30 or 40 years?Here's an actionable first step. Start noticing when you are "shoulding" yourself.Once you master this strategy, you'll notice your confidence returning and you start making decisions with more ease and freedom. Which means you'll find work-life balance.See full transcipt at AsiansBreakingCeilings.com in Episode 7.Jeanny Chai Bio here*Take the FREE ASSESSMENT My Personal Roadblock to Success [00:00] Teaser[00:45] Episode 7 Intro[01:40] Shoulding myself day and night[03:03] We used to live guilt-free[03:51] The connection between low confidence and shoulding yourself[07:27] How to Silence Your Inner Critic[08:22] The Limitations of Talk Therapy[09:14] How to Start Taking Ownership of Your Career[10:47] Childhood shoulding [16:21] Being too responsible means no fun[18:58] When Work Becomes Your Parent[19:53] BREAK[20:28] Managing conversations with ourselves[21:14] The Pressure of Taking Care of our parents[23:08] Going no contact with my Mom[25:12] Getting Shoulded at Work[29:26] No Bonus for you[30:23] The Key to Freedom[32:09] Stop Shoulding Affirmation[33:59] Preview of Episode 8 (Sorry, not Sorry) Looking for a coach? Book a Confidence Igniter call with JeannyTheme Song: Imagine by ZooMid-roll Song: Making Progress by Dan PhillipsonAffirmation Song: Sky High by AKPost-roll Song: Clarity by Zoo

Hold up, friend! You've been played, conned, duped! Your guilt, shame, and past regrets have you chained, and guess what? It's all a wicked trap set by the enemy. "Shoulding" on yourself? Enough already! That's like drinking poison and expecting someone else to get sick! But who's doing this to you? And WHY? In this mind-blowing, controversial episode, we're tearing off the band-aid and exposing the filthy lies that have kept you stuck. Warning: This isn't for the faint-hearted. It's raw, real, and full of truth bombs that'll have you gasping, laughing, and maybe even tossing your grandma's meatloaf! We're not holding back. If you're still whining about that text you shouldn't have sent, or that embarrassing fall in the cafeteria, it's time to wake up and smell the conspiracy! You're better than that, and it's high time you knew why. And just for the record, those "I wish I would've" moments? They're a lie. A big, fat, juicy lie served on a platter of deception. And we're about to devour it, expose it, and laugh in its lying face. This episode is a game-changer, a life-altering explosion of truth, humor, and a slap of reality. Think you're up for it? Buckle up, because we're going full-throttle. Hit play now – your freedom's calling, and it's sick of waiting!

This is part 2 of the 2 part series with Zach and Sarah.  Sarah and Zach are divorced co-parents of two children. They came to Leslie to talk about Andrew, their 16-year-old son who is withdrawn and struggling in school. Last session Leslie explored ways to approach Andrew with curiosity and compassion in order to connect with him. She touched on family dynamics and how Andrew may feel like an outsider in a family of high achievers. We're going to dive more deeply into that today - how putting pressure on your child, intentionally or otherwise, can set them up for shame and anxiety. Having intense feelings like you are not good enough or that you can't live up to your parents expectations (perceived or real) can cause major disruptions even when it's unintended by the parents.  Parenting is hard and we are all learning as we go. Sarah and Zach are dealing with very different issues with their two children.  Andrew's withdrawn behavior can feel so invalidating to the parent who is trying hard. Parenting the challenging child as we hear in this episode, is not very validating because your child doesn't tell you that you're doing a great job. Even though we all love getting the smile, the hug, and hearing the words, I love you, it's  NOT the child's job to validate you. Remember, they're just trying to survive adolescence. Parenting is hard and so is being a teenager.For a full transcript of this episode and more information about the host visit https://lesliecohenrubury.com/podcasts/ . You can also follow Leslie's work on Facebook and Instagram. Join the conversation with your own questions and parenting experiences.Time stamps:5:15 “Shoulding” your child is shaming your child8:05  Teaching parents to not work so hard8:14  Talking less.  Listen more to your kids.  Listen twice as much as you talk8:45 Nonverbal ways of connecting with your child8:53 Make simple observations. Use the phrase “I notice that” Connecting to your kid in simple little ways that don't put them in the “hot seat”9:26 Say it and let it go10:01 Indirect ways of connecting: talk about yourself10:35 Be a real person12:35 Manage your expectations and don't personalize what your teen says or what they do.15:50 Three Step Apology17:10 The core belief of shame and what that means26:54 Feel the fear and do it anyways:  People/children may not realize that the anxiety is often present when you are doing something new27:41 “Can you give yourself permission to….”28:25 “You must have a good reason for…” 34:18 Creative solution brainstorming with your child - Practice brainstorming without evaluation36:52 Shaping behavior - step by step successes.Leslie-ism: Practice listening to your child - We have two ears and one mouth - listen twice as much as you talk.Credits: Is My Child a Monster? is produced by Alletta Cooper, Dale Rubury, and LeslieCohen-Rubury. Theme music is by L-Ray Music. Public relations is handled by Gabriela Glueck. Graphics and Website Design by Brien O'Reilly. Transcriptions by Eric Rubury. A special thanks to everyone who contributes their wisdom and support to make this possible.

Ever felt trapped by your own fear or perceived limitations? Unearth the power of ditching those constraints and embracing a growth mindset in this episode, where you get to listen to my keynote from FEMPOWERED. Raised in a staunch Christian Southern household, my journey meant wrestling with fear, overcoming insecurity, and recognizing the counterproductive nature of an all-or-nothing mentality. Ultimately, it was a matter of pushing versus forcing, discovering the sweet spot of healthy progress, and laying a foundation in truth.Imagine a future where you're not just surviving, but thriving. Isn't it time you gave yourself permission to dream, to want, to reach for more? By connecting with your higher self, your inner-admiral, you can tap into potential you didn't even know existed. Explore techniques to align your beliefs, goals, and action steps, and learn to recognize the sneaky 'shoulds' that can mislead you off your path. In this journey, your future self becomes your guide, your inspiration, and your blueprint.Before we wrap up, consider this: what's one step you could take towards that future, right now? It doesn't need to be a leap, even a tiny step in the right direction can start a domino effect. If you're feeling the pull of transformation, ready to step into a more empowered version of yourself, consider signing up for a free discovery call at nandikamille.com. Let's take that step together, let's empower each other on this journey to a life we truly desire.ENJOY THE PODCAST?Leave us a 5-star review so more people can find us!LEARN MORE ABOUT COACHINGNandiCamille.comSCHEDULE YOUR FREE DISCOVERY CALL--> CLICK HERELISTEN TO MY CONFIDENCE SESSIONS IN THE MARIGOLD APP50% off annual membership: Use code: NANDI50---> Click below to learn morehttps://apps.apple.com/us/app/marigold-self-confidence/id1463889202LET'S BE SOCIALEmail: hello@nandicamille.comInstagram: @nandi.camilleLearn more about Nandi and Life Coaching at: NandiCamille.com

We know it's counterintuitive, but it's true. "Shoulding" yourself into being a better person neglects the most important ingredient we need to grow: grace. John, Shay, and Lynn share why it's hard to believe this is true and discuss the proper place “shoulds” have in the Christian life. When you're done with the episode you'll know how important it is to: -Focus on trusting God instead of pleasing God -Use discernment when you see “shoulds” controlling your life -Begin saying “I wish” instead of “I should” If you find the WYITW podcast helpful, tell your friends, leave the team a podcast review, follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds or email us at withyou@thecrossingchurch.com with any topics you'd like discussed on future episodes.

If should is a word you use to talk to yourself, this episode is for you. Should is a word that many of us use when we talk to ourselves, and I wanted to bring awareness. After listening to this podcast, you can decide whether it's a word you would like to continue to use or change it.Some takeaways from this episode:Telling yourself you should be doing more or being more leaves you feeling like you aren't enough as you are.Focus on accepting your experience - get curious about what it has to teach you. When we say we should do something, we are reinforcing the idea that we are not doing the thing we think we should be doing.Thank you for listening to The Binge Breakthrough Podcast - your personal guide to breaking through the barriers that keep you stuck in the cycle of binge eating, compulsive overeating, or emotional eating.I would love it if you could leave a review and share this show. This helps others discover that there is a perfectly good reason why they do what they do with food and that healing is possible. Visit my website http://janepilger.com/ Follow me on Instagram and Facebook. Get full access to The Peaceful Eater at janepilger.substack.com/subscribe

Kait not only tells her own story and experience with legalism in her church life, but also how we can embrace purity AND sexuality in a God-honoring way. Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Want to WATCH the podcast? We're now on YouTube!  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://faithfulcounseling.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make a lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we'd love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating

We get it summer is busy! With work, vacations, holidays and the bottomless pit that is our childrens stomach summer is not the relaxing break it's marketed to be! So let's take a little time this summer to look at the things we CAN do! This week we are giving ourselves permission to HAVE FUN! Jeanette shares some tips on preparing for fun and some fun ideas for you and your family! Don't worry Jeanette isn't SHOULDING on you, she's offering up a fun challenge to let go and cannon ball into the pool to make some sweet memories not FOR your kids but WITH your kids! Links from Today's Show:   Get the Brain Dump Worksheet! https://bit.ly/worksheetbraindump Check Out 1st Phor www.1stphorm.com/jeanettet Join the email community https://view.flodesk.com/pages/621d6beb9b7136a9e313d546 Want to listen to Jeanette's other podcast?! Listen to It's Time For Coffee here! https://link.chtbl.com/sWcTEkZy Moms at Work is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual guidance to help you grow into the perfectly imperfect parent you want to be, visit www.ChristianParenting.org  

Episode Notes Networking Masterclass Replay | $11 Check out your Human Design (its free, and all you need is your birthdate, time, and location) Welcome to the Dietitian Collaborative Podcast! Where the goal is to create community for RDs so they can connect, collab, and grow! RoundTable Rendezvous Tour | Snag your ticket! Toronto July 5 Las Vegas July 10 Charlotte August 11 Miami Aug 13 Chicago Aug 18 San Jose Aug 26 Los Angeles Sept 10 So you don't have to search for hours...here's my Instagram @thedietitiancollaborative The Dietitian Collaborative Podcast is brought to you by Wellness Cucina.

I love Elikqitie! We met in person a year ago at Podfest and she is about the sweetest and smartest person you'll ever meet! And you're going to love her too when you listen to this episode!! Are you over fifty and feeling fabulous? Then this episode of the "Fabulous Over Fifty" podcast is just for you!  Get ready to laugh, nod your head in agreement, and maybe even shed a tear as you listen to the fabulous Elikqitie share her thoughts on some of the hottest topics affecting us over-fifties. But that's not all! Elikqitie makes a great point about being able to wear whatever we want, no matter our age. So if you've always wanted to don a bikini, but felt like you can't because you're over fifty, think again! And if you want to wear leggings and a tunic shirt every day, more power to you! So there you have it. Fabulous is a state of mine, and we don't need anyone telling us what we "should" or "should" not do. No more shoulding on each other!!   This episode of "Fabulous Over Fifty" is chock-full of wisdom, wit, and practical advice for those of us who are over fifty and fabulous. (all of us!!) So grab your headphones, a cup of coffee or tea, and prepare to be entertained and inspired. And don't forget to share this episode with a friend – because who doesn't love spreading a little fabulousness around?   Thank you for joining me today! I'm having a blast creating Fabulous Over 50 & it would be an honor to have you share it with someone who would enjoy it. Thank you! Want more? Go to the website and you'll find many ways to live your best life over 50! I'd love to hear what you think about this episode, and what you'd like to hear about in the future. Send me a message HERE. Have a blessed week, Jen Want to connect? Elikqitie: https://www.travelglutenfreepodcast.com/ You can find Jen in the following places: JenHardy.net Facebook Instagram LinkedIn  

This is part 2 of the 4 part series with Tim and Natasha who share their concerns and challenges with their 6-year-old daughter Rosie. This episode discusses how Tim and Natasha's own childhood experiences and their personalities affect how they in turn parent their own child.  Tim and Natasha both feel strongly about not repeating what their own parents modeled.  It's  harder than you think, to not impose your own issues into parenting.  And it doesn't help that children often and easily make the interpretation that they are BAD.  Children can feel invalidated when that is not the intention of their parents.  And its not only the child that can feel badly about themselves.  Parents can also feel judged or struggle to feel good enough as a parent.  Takeaways from this session:6:09 Use the expression - when does this work for you and when does this not work for you7:03 Practice being dialectic - use two hands when helping the child become aware of what's happening inside themselves and what's happening outside of them.  7:37 Slow down when dealing with your child. It helps you and it helps them7:56 Playing the Other-Interpretation-Game. 8:49 S.T.O.P. Skill14:25  Telling a child what to do, rather than telling your child what not to do. 17:32 Clarifying the intention of communication 21:05 Being responsible as the adult for your own anger (children don't make us angry, that's how you respond to whatever they are doing)21:50 The three states of mind - Emotion Mind, Wise Mind, Reasonable Mind24:30  Shoulding our children is shaming them - Example of shaming statement31:50 It is very common for children to feel like they are bad - that's shame.Beware of the shame-blame game.  32:50 Using the line:  That's a feeling not a factLESLIE-ISM  Every quality or behavior we have works for us some of the time and doesn't work some of the time. Whether it is being loud or doing nothing, there are two sides of the coin for each behavior or quality that we have.  Ask yourself and ask your child:  When does this work for you and when does it not work for youShow Note LinksAn overview of What Dialectic Behavior TherapyThree States of Mind STOP SkillFor a full transcript of this episode and more information about the host visit https://lesliecohenrubury.com/podcast/. You can also follow Leslie's work on Facebook and Instagram. Join the conversation with your own questions and parenting experiencesCredits: Is My Child a Monster? is produced by Alletta Cooper, Dale Rubury, and Leslie Cohen-Rubury. Theme music is by L-Ray Music. Public relations is handled by Tink Media. Transcriptions by Eric Rubury. A special thanks to everyone who contribute

This week Nikki & Brie welcome Cari Rose back to continue the conversation and focus on identifying the aspects of the Victim Mindset, how to flip it around and feel more empowered in situations and reframe any situation to be a Creator in your own world, choosing what's in alignment with the life you want, opportunities for growth, how two triangles can change your life, and much more.  The episode kicks off with Nikki, Brie, and Cari reflecting on last week's discussion about feeling worthy and self-confidence, a grounding meditation to release any stressors and recalibrate to open up to what messages the universe is trying to send today.  Nikki, Brie, and Cari also cover: *Identifying Victim Consciousness*The Dreaded Drama Dynamic of Victim>Persecutor>Rescuer> *Switching roles based on the situation*Embracing the Empowerment Dynamic, Survivor/Creator>Challenger>Coach>*Switch from being saved to feeling supported*Going from "Life is happening TO me” consciousness to "Life is happening BY me."*Transform to a positive mindset and stop “shoulding” all over yourself*Embracing gratitude*Real-life situations of reframing your mentality to feel empowered and go from victim to Creator*Co-creating with the Universe and Nature*How two triangles can change your life*The incredible power of using the phrase “I'm choosing…” Next week on The Nikki & Brie Show, as the series continues, Cari returns to talk about manifestation! Next week on The Nikki & Brie Show, as the series continues, Cari returns to talk about manifestation! Follow Cari on InstagramCari's Awaken Your Intuition Program: **Sign up to receive a 15% off code for the Garcia Army! FeelTheShift.com Call Nikki & Brie at 833-GARCIA2 and leave a voicemail!Follow Nikki & Brie on Instagram.To watch exclusive videos of this week's episode, follow The Nikki & Brie Show on Instagram, Facebook, and Tik Tok!  

Carol Feil wants you to see our faithful God, the Master Gardener, in all details of your life. She wants you to know that being rooted in His unchanging character helps you dig deep into His word, cultivating growth even in seasons of dormancy.   Carol wears yellow boots in the garden and calls them her "listen and learn boots", paying close attention to what God's teaching her about Himself and who He wants her to be. Carol admits she struggles with imposter syndrome but continues to walk forward in her legacy of faith footprints—boot-sized!—and praying that whoever she meets will follow alongside. Do you want help replacing should with could? Carol has an added resource that will help you with that process. CLICK HERE FOR FREE RESOURCE. Some gems from Carol: Knowing God's will is more about the little things he leads us to be and do. "Shoulding" messages in our heads are lies that play on-repeat and need to be countered with truth. Roses grow best when pruned. So do I. We need to be patient with the process of replenishment. What thoughts need reframing? Pay attention and do the work of replacing. In the absense of truth, Satan will fill in the blanks with his lies.  Join Carol on the journey to developing deeper roots and stronger shoots: Website: https://carolfeil.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolfeil/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CarolFeilWriter _____ When asked, “What's the greatest commandment?” Jesus replied simply: “Love God, love your neighbor.” I imagine He was thinking, “It's not rocket science” or “What's not to like?” or “It's not complicated.” He was right, it's not complicated. But people are people and we make it complicated. I need to pray daily to uncomplicate what He says is best for me and best for others. So I wrote “31 Days of Uncomplicated Prayers,” and once I pray them through, I start over again. You can too. One short, simple prayer to help uncomplicate love sent to your inbox for 31 days. Don't worry. They are short. God doesn't mind short prayers. Sign up HERE     

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Oh the "should's" of life!! Do you find yourself saying, "I should've done this" or "I should've done that."??  Or maybe, "I shouldn't have said that, done that, etc.,"?? Anytime you have this self-talk you are arguing with your reality. We drive ourselves crazy with this kind of talking because it's based in a lot of guilt and shame. Tune in to today's short but sweet episode if you talk to yourself this way.

There is nothing worse than being on the writing struggle bus! Yet, when you embark on writing a book, it is almost guaranteed to happen. In today's episode, I share a few main causes I have experienced and see my clients' experience on our book writing journey. Listen to the full episode to get the full explanation and solutions for these: 1. When/then thinking (ex. when I clean the kitchen, then I'll write) 2. Know it all first/Shoulding (ex. I should know all the aspects about what I want to write before I begin writing it) 3. Disconnected from your words (ex. trying to sound or write like someone you are not)4. Writing for others (ex. being overly concerned with whether anyone will read or like your writing) 5. Constantly trying to write THE final draft of the bookLet me know which one of these resonates with you the most and which one are hoping to resolve. As always, leave us a review so that more people see the podcast and get the writing support they need. Then, share your takeaways and this episode on IG, tagging me @shanahartman_ Remember, we are here to change the personal growth and biz strategy publishing world by activating our unique voices and stories.If you are ready to see if working with Shana and her team is your next step for leaving your legacy and getting your core messages from business and life in an empowering book click this link to work with Shana!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode I talk about focusing on what you can control.

Sometimes it's one word that creeps into your vocabulary and can cause you to feel guilty, anxious, and worried. This particular word can cause you to experience frustration, and even stress. Often after using this one word you conclude you're a failure. What is that word you wonder? SHOULD. I should have done those dishes last night. I should have finished that report at work. I should be skinnier by now. I should be able to handle this crisis better. I shouldn't eat this second helping of pudding. Or we can flip it to the accusatory tone: You should be ashamed of yourself. You should go to the gym even though it's late. You should never say those things. You shouldn't be struggling with anger at your age. You should never leave your wallet lying around like that! In this Magnificent Monday Series on cognitive distortions, we will explore and explain: 1. What IS shoulding 2. What is it damaging to your brain, mood, and relationships 3. How to over come shoulding with 5 Practical TIPS you can start using today! BONUS MENTION: Motivational 64 oz. Water Bottle: https://amzn.to/3ZWcknk CONNECT WITH VICTORIA: EMAIL: choose2think@gmail.com WEBSITE www.choose2think.co MENTORING www.choose2think.co/coaching.html YOUTUBE www.youtube.com/channel/UCz8Z2B9TtXvWn0RKelVY5DQ FACEBOOK www.facebook.com/groups/choose2think INSTAGRAM www.instagram.com/victoriadwalkerlydon/ *CHOOSE 2 THINK DEVOTIONAL. Peek Inside Here. https://amzn.to/3Hcl7v1 *CHOOSE 2 THINK JOURNAL: Peek Inside Here. https://amzn.to/3WvinND *When you click on these Amazon affiliate links, I may earn a teeny commission from qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. Thank you for your support! DISCLAIMER: The Choose 2 Think Inspirational Podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Please consult your physician or doctor for all medical advice and counsel. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/victoria-walker-lydon/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/victoria-walker-lydon/support

Have you ever caught yourself saying things like "I should spend less time on social media" or "I should be cleaning the house" or "I should" ??  If so, then this is the episode for you. Today, I'm talking all about what happens when we "should" all over ourselves and what we can do instead to make better use of our time and energy.  Mentioned in This Episode:**Download the free 2023 Goal Planner Workbook here**Your Brain is Always Listening by Dr. Daniel AmenAre you sick and tired of feeling overwhelmed by all the things? I can help. Schedule a free consult today. Come join The Time Tamers Facebook Group for more tips and tricks!Follow me on Instagram! @theresamharpLearn more about Theresa Harp from The Time Tamers here.

Host Chaz Wolf brings on Karmen Berentsen, a 7+ figure queen in the fashion boutique industry. Karmen is the CEO of A Line Boutique out of Denver, Colorado and purchased the company in 2012. Karmen has grown her sales over 500% since 2013, in spite of facing challenges during the COVID lockdowns.Since 2013, her company sales have grown to over 500% and continues growing each month. Aside from her business receiving local and national accolades, Karmen has launched a podcast, started an Adventures and Experiences through A Line to continue her mission to empower women, and even wrote her memoir. In this episode, Chaz and Karmen discuss turning to ambition and success to numb pain, operating in abundance, and “moonshot” goals. Tune in now to absorb Karmen's wealth of knowledge and experience so you can take your business to the next level! During this episode, you will learn about;[01:42] Intro to Karmen and her business[05:14] Why Karmen continues to push[07:58] How Karmen stopped “shoulding” on herself[12:49] Would Karmen's trajectory have changed if life had been different?[16:45] A good decision Karmen made[20:40] Karmen's advice on leveling up your business[29:17] A bad decision Karmen made[36:38] Karmen's approach to decision-making[38:33] Karmen's advice on managing a team[41:57] One metric Karmen would track[42:30] Karmen's book recommendation[43:19] Karmen's thoughts on masterminding[44:15] If Karmen only had one hour, how would she use it?[47:08] If Karmen lost it all, what would she do?[51:42] How to connect with Karmen[52:53] How to connect with Chaz and info on the GTK 90 day intensiveNotable Quotes“King is not masculine. It's a mindset.” - Chaz Wolfe (Host)“I help souls feel alive.” - Karmen Berentsen“I don't do everything. I do what I want to do.” - Karmen Berentsen“Don't “should” on yourself.” - Karmen Berentsen“This is your human experience. Like do something with it. Show up.” - Karmen Berentsen“What I thought was gonna destroy me, healed me.” - Karmen Berentsen“The world is beautiful and abundant, and there is more opportunity than I can ever make good on.” - Karmen Berentsen“I am an ambitious, tenacious, adventurous, fierce person, but I have learned the power of kindness.” - Karmen Berentsen“As long as I have my health, the sky's the limit.” - Karmen Berentsen“You're making it about the human, about the relationship, not about just that one individual transaction. It matters long term.” - Chaz Wolfe (Host)Books and Resources Recommended:Dare to Lead by Brené Brownhttps://www.amazon.com/Dare-Lead-Brave-Conversations-Hearts/dp/0399592520Good to Great by Jim Collinshttps://www.amazon.com/Good-Great-Some-Companies-Others/dp/0066620996/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1670474344&sr=8-1Learning to Fly by Karmen Berentsen

"I should exercise, I should work more hours at work like so and so, I should be a PTO mom..." We need to stop "shoulding" ourselves! Shoulding yourself leads to negative self care and inaction, which is opposite of what we want!  Listen in to hear 3 tips to help you stop shoulding yourself and a Habit Hack to flip the script next time you find yourself shoulding yourself! *** WORK WITH ME: -Enroll in my signature program,, SELF TRANSFORM U now! (my mini course, THE HABITS THAT STICK STARTER KIT is included in your enrollment!) or reserve your spot in this month's STU Next Level for 1:1 coaching! -HABIT HACKING STRATEGY CALL: Hop on a 30 minute call with Emily! This is the breakthrough to FINALLY make your habits stick! -Ready to stop dieting and find your own version of food freedom?  Then you're probably ready for my Whole30 Anytime Course or the Plant Based Whole30 Anytime Course! -Get on the waitlist for the  HABIT HACKING SOCIETY so you'll be the 1st to know when the doors open again! -CHECK OUT THE FREEBIE VAULT!: Access habit tools, self care checklist, Whole30 resources, free workouts and more! -HOP ON A QUICK, FREE HABIT CALL WITH EMILY!    LET'S CONNECT: -Sign up for weekly motivational texts from Emily at: 1-773-904-2157 or click this link!  -Join our FREE Self Transformed Community to connect & continue the conversation together each week and join in our mini workshops together!   **Please subscribe, rate and review Self Transformed so others can connect with our content too!  I'll even send you a Starbucks Gift Card or hop on a FREE HABIT HACKING CALL with you if you email me a screenshot of your review at coachemilynichols@gmail.com** Thank you so much! Sign up for Emily's newsletter to receive even more inspo & exclusive content (promise not to spam)** Connect with Emily:@emilynichols22 @selftransformed www.emily-nichols.com 

Sahara Rose is a best-selling author and host of the Highest Self Podcast, called “a leading voice for the millennial generation into the new paradigm shift” by Deepak Chopra, who wrote the foreword of her books. She is the founder of Dharma Coaching Institute and Rose Gold Goddesses. In this episode we talk all about discovering your dharma, finding your purpose and living your truest expression in life. If you know that you are here for something greater than what you're currently doing right now, then this is for you. Ready to discover a unique coaching certification program design for the spiritual entrepreneur looking to create extraordinary abundance, experience career fulfilment and serve others at the highest level? Sahara's DCI (Dharma Coaching Institute) is NOW ENROLLING. And, you can score $$$ off your tuition by following this link. PLUS, you'll receive my exclusive on-demand biz training (straight from The Queendom Mastermind), all on The Soul of Your Services! Claim your bonuses today. Time Stamps 2:24 What is your “dharma”? 10:15 “Shoulding” yourself to meet your dharma 13:03 How Sahara found her dharma 19:39 Understanding Dharma Archetypes 30:51 Trying to match the success of others without following YOUR dharma first 37:07 How to expand your purpose inside the Dharma Coaching Institute 41:53 Mel's 3 questions Want behind-the-scenes audio and video footage? Then be sure to join my monthly membership for your soul, The Goddess Collective. Goddess Collective members unlock access to extra “after the cut” content from each and every interview I host. During this segment of the podcast (which is recorded only for Collective members, and hosted inside the Collective website), questions that are submitted by the Goddesses are answered by podcast guests. The Goddess Collective also includes: A monthly workshop and workbook Fortnightly moonology readings A monthly Aphrodite Circle group coaching call hosted by yours truly Bonus interviews Interviews with guest experts An invitation into a members-only exclusive Facebook community, and Instant access to all the content that came before, and so much more… …all for $67. Click here to join, and access all my guest's behind-the-scenes footage: https://bit.ly/3uweOvD Sponsors: Get 25% off your Yoni Pleasure Palace order today by using MELISSA at checkout! (The best discount you'll find in store): https://yonipleasurepalace.com/?ref=yonipleasure Mentioned in this episode: Dharma Coaching Institute (Use this link to enjoy $150USD off your investment!) FREE VIDEO SERIES: How To Discover Your True Purpose, And Create A Career Aligned With Your Soul Sahara's Instagram

We create many lists in a day and a week to help us be productive and accomplish many tasks. However, there is a list that we create that most of us don't know about that is not very helpful.  The "Should" List.  Yes, that should sounds a lot like a familiar cuss word we know, and that's just what a should list is. In the words of Corrine Crabtree, "Anytime we think someone "should" do something, we automatically put them on our 'shit' list." Our lists can get pretty long with all the "shoulding" we do, and one person who most definitely ends up on this list is ourselves.  Whenever we "should" we judge. We judge the other person and end up judging ourselves for the judging.  Join in for this week as we talk more about this "should" list and how we can eliminate the list by changing "should" to "could."