Building Without A Blueprint

In this episode Princeton spills all the tea on why men sometimes opt to disappear in relationship instead of communicating effectively. He finishes his list and then shares how men can improve if they’ve ghosted before. 

In this episode Princeton tackles the topic of ghosting during the dating process, and helps men understand what may truly be underneath the decision to stop contact. 

In this episode Princeton talks to relationship expert Keishorne Scott about the right and wrong ways for men to respond to heartbreak. They get down to the root of all and provide answers for men who want to be better men and get the relationship they want and deserve. 

In this episode Princeton sits down with his little brother Preston parker and they take time to laugh, reflect, and process the rollercoaster that has been 2020

Listen as Princeton talks about the last sermon of the year. Let’s learn about the miracle of stability and taking courage of still standing despite all the challenges that we are facing.   Episode Highlights:  The miracle of stability of still standing despite the challenges this year is revolutionary. Matthew 7:24- "Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock." Sometimes it is not the house that you praise God for, but the foundation that the house sits on that you praise God for. Princeton realized that he is still standing, not because of his right decisions, but because of what he's built on. Jesus did not just come to save us, but he came to make us stable. Being stable deserves to be celebrated. The fruit of people's obedience to God is stability, the true measure of God's relationship with us. Stability is not the absence of a conflict but a presence of a foundation. Some people hear God but never choose God. They are always building something but not according to the right blueprint. The beginning of stability is when you see the word of God as safety, not slavery. Anything we do, simply because we must, will not easily be sustained. God is essential, if you only see Jesus but don't hear him, you never stay the course. If God is not the foundation, the events determine whether it is a good or a bad day. There is freedom, where there's a foundation. Companies that don't have core values/identity are always at the mercy of the latest trend. Foundation lets you reinvent without fear. God says, "I love you too much to build you high without first building you deep." God being absent is the process of going deep before going high.  Foundation building looks like unseen sacrifices.  Often, God softens our hearts when He wants to increase our strengths. The enemy has been tormenting us, making us look at someone else's house, not enjoying the stability of our own.  Faith says “I trust the way I was built.” The lord is the strength of our lives.  If you have with God, you have stability.    3 Key Points: Matthew Chapter 7 explains that the miracle of standing despite the storms that we have, is a miracle that deserves celebration. Jesus came not just to save us but to give stability as the fruit of our obedience with God. Building a foundation are unseen sacrifices, giving 100% in temporary circumstances.    Tweetable Quotes: “To be still standing is not like a small thing after this year, it is absolutely revolutionary.”- Priceton “Stability is something to show for this year."- Priceton "Stability does not mean every aspect of your life aligns perfectly so that your story makes sense."- Priceton “I almost gave up, but I didn't lose my way.”- Priceton “Digging deep always brings you to your knees and prayer”-Princeton   Resources Mentioned: Building Without a Blueprint Podcast  Princeton's Website Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter

We’ve talked about Jesus struggling with anxiety, but was anxiety ever a topic of one of his sermons? Princeton explores part two of the famous sermon on the mount in Matthew 6 and explains how it contains life lessons on how to deal with anxiety.    Episode Highlights:  We are laboring on the same topic about mental health & faith and understanding how to navigate both. It is possible to be saved, to love the Lord, to have a Holy Ghost, and yet still affected by the pains of this life. The enemy's strategy is to overwhelm us. If we don't have the tools in life to accomplish anxiety, then we will be overtaken by the enemy.  Anxiety comes in three levels as it exists in the body, the soul, and spirit. In Matthew chapter 6, Jesus talked about anxiety, which also allows us to read what Jesus' teachings on how we can win our journey in anxiety. The first seven recommendations from Jesus are: Stop performing for the measurement and approval of people. Learn the value of genuine alone time. Remember that your needs are already known. Remember the reverence of God and your relationship with God. Release the desire to have everything in your order and submit to divine order. Take one day at a time.  Forgiveness is the art of realizing which makes space for peace. The second seven recommendations from Jesus are as follows: Lesson 8, have boundaries, for a life with no bounds will always have anxiety. The real measure of health and maturity is when you learn how to say no. Lesson 9, practice gratitude, which will give you strength. Wake up every morning for the things that you can do, not for what you can't, then complain about it. Thank people for who they are, instead of calling them out for who they're not. Lesson 10, keep your process to yourself when necessary. Be transparent, but don't advertise every step of the process to the world. Inviting people on your labor is an invitation for their praises as well as their criticisms, and therefore will give you more anxiety. Jesus says you have anxiety because there are too many people involved in your healing that I didn't ordain to be involved. Lesson 11, don't chase materialism because if you pursue materials, then your peace is based on whether you have it or not. The danger of being in American Christianity is, sometimes we take capitalism, which is the idea of securing stuff by any means, as a sign of the presence of God. As people think having material things a symbol of having God, we are more anxious trying to genie God into performing something. Lesson 12 says, monitor what you look at because it is vital to guard what you look at. Frequent social media posts or advertisements makes you think you need it when you’re not, then will expose you to more anxiety.  Lesson 13 says, no man can serve two masters. Prioritize your pursuit and focus on prayer as it will give you strength, clarity, and energy to do anything on your list. Lesson 14 says, look to nature. You are anxious because you have disconnected yourself from the world. Jesus says, the next time you feel anxious, go outside and look at a tree. Verse 33 proves that Jesus preaches about anxiety. Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you. Don't be anxious and everything you worry about shall be added.   3 Key Points: Jesus talked about anxiety through Matthew chapter 6 and gave his recommendations how to deal with it. The enemy will take advantage of anxiety by overwhelming people, but God has tools in life to overcome anxiety. Don’t be anxious, trust the Lord and his process, then all your worries shall be added.   Tweetable Quotes:  "One of the enemy's greatest strategies is the ability and his desire to overwhelm us."-Princeton Parker "If you do it to be seen, then being seen is all you get. "-Princeton Parker "Sometimes, we pray with anxiety, we pray like God doesn't see us. "-Princeton Parker "Do you know that the biggest weight comes from those three words, I have to"?" "If I manage the day well, the year is guaranteed."-Princeton Parker I have realized that the true measure of health and maturity, if when you say No to. " "There's a practice of gratitude that gives strength."-Princeton Parker "Imagine, what it might do to your relationships if you thank people for who they were, instead of calling them out for who they're not."-Princeton Parker "He says, listen, wash your face, involve those who need to be involved, don't have the anxiety to involve those who don't need to be involved."-Princeton Parker     Resources Mentioned:  Building Without a Blueprint Podcast  Princeton's Website Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter  

We’ve talked about Jesus struggling with anxiety, but was anxiety ever a topic of one of his sermons? Princeton explores the famous sermon on the mount in Matthew 6 and explains how it contains life lessons on how to deal with anxiety.  Episode Highlights:  Matthew 6 is about a discussion of how a good deed has done for the wrong reasons. Princeton talks about Matthew Chapter six on how Jesus preaches about anxiety.  Princeton gave recommendations from Jesus on how to deal with anxiety. Verses 1-4 lesson says, stop performing for the measurement and approval of people. Don't do good work trying to be impressive, because you tend to open yourself up to the anxiety.  When you open up for people's praise /identity, you also live by their rejection.  It is not the right motivation if you just want to be seen because you are not even aware that you open up to others by basing your identity on what people are saying.  Jesus never tried to impress even he has a lot of reasons and opportunities to do so because he is going to the will of the Father that sent Him. The tendency is, you might impress people today until someone comes along who's more impressive.  People give praise because of what they need, so the moment they lose it, they will no longer be impressed. Princeton is so concerned about every generation on how we are so obsessed with how we look to others.  There's a lack of inner peace because our concern all the time is how we look to others.  Verse 5-6 lesson says, learn the value of genuine time alone.  Anxiety is not about too many things that we're going through, but because of not having that time alone. The lesson from verse 7 to 8 is to remember that your needs are already known.  The Father knows what you need before you ask.  The lesson from verse 9 says, remember the reverence of God and your relationship with God. When praying, you see God is way bigger than your anxiety.  The lesson from verse 10 says, release the desire to have everything in your order.  Anxiety is because we choose to do it our way as we believe that our plans are more significant than God. The lesson from verse 11 says, take life one day at a time. Forgiveness is the art of releasing which makes space for peace. Do not hold on to anger to put more space for peace. The closure is an important part of forgiveness. Forgiveness begins in acknowledging that sin was committed. Our responsibility is to forgive but not to entertain the same space. Holding on is not going to penalize others who have sinned you, but it will just make you heavy.  To wrap it up, therefore take no thought as God said don't be anxious.     3 Key Points: To avoid exposing yourself to anxiety and find inner peace, do good things not trying to be impressive.  The Father knows what we need, pray and see that God is greater than your anxiety. Do not hold on to anger, forgive to put more space for peace.   Tweetable Quotes:  "When you do good work don't do good work trying to be impressive." -Princeton Parker "If you wanted to be seen, is not the right motivation in the first place."-Princeton Parker "How much freer would you be, if you pick clothes out in the morning not caring about what people's gonna say?"-Princeton Parker "Sometimes, we like to be offended because it guarantees us an opportunity to something later on" -Princeton Parker "Where there should be love, there's anger." -Princeton Parker "If God treated you the way you treat others will you be satisfied?"-Princeton Parker   Resources Mentioned:  Building Without a Blueprint Podcast  Princeton's Website Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter

You’ve never heard this scripture preached like this. Jeremiah 29:11 is one of the most famous inspirational scripture quotes, but Princeton talks about now there’s more to the text than we usually talk about.   Episode Highlights:  Princeton welcomes listeners as they pressed the play button to this podcast. Princeton realized that even people in the church quote scriptures, and we are like biblically illiterate. Be contextual biblical interpreters/preachers to get the scripture's richest meaning, and don't end up misinterpreting its meaning. Princeton talks about the contextual sense of Philippians 4:13 of how to be content in every stage of life as Paul developed the tool so that he can be okay and know who he is with God no matter what the situation is. We hear scripture on social media, and so we post a scripture more likely to be a motivational quote than a scripture. Unlike scriptures, a motivational quote doesn't need context because they are not part of a larger story. Princeton runs the exposé of Jerimiah 29:11 to find about how it relates to anxiety, to commit to reading verses, and see the real knowledge of the words of God. Anxiety sits here among us until we are willing to confront it and have that conversation. Jeremiah 29:11 is prominent in social media because it is so affirming that God says, “I want to give you an expected end”. Princeton started reading verses one through ten and about to explain the context of the scripture. The book of Jerimiah says to build, plant, invest, anchor yourself, but the people's objective is to leave. The root of our anxiety is that as a culture, we are so future- focus that we do not make peace with right now. God's question is, "Am I a God of now, or do you need me to transport you to where you're going?". In Exodus, Israel is acquainted with God of Suddenly as he spoke to Moses about getting ready, as he's about to send victory. One of the solutions to anxiety is the power of being present. When you are in a rush, you miss the things that you're supposed to see. We tend to bypass essential pieces that will make us improve. People tend to be so entrepreneurial hungry that they don't come from purpose but from capitalism. As we bypass essential pieces, we miss the people with the necessary wisdom we need. It is worth your investment even if you don't live here forever. We only invest in things that will directly benefit us. In applying for a higher position in a job, people tend to feel ready to advance as they thought they knew everything about it. Your mastery of any level would be seen by how you handle that level, not by your request to the next level. When you're handling it right, the promotion will come to you. Success doesn't need to be a prerequisite for a relationship. Jeremiah says, pray for the city that has you in captivity, pray for the peace of that city. To be present means your attitude about where you are must change, and it doesn't until you pray for the wellbeing of it. You can't effectively pray for something that you are not concerned about. Sometimes, the answer to that anxiety is a changed heart. Anxiety comes from different circumstances, but sometimes it comes because all we want is the next, instead of seeing God in our now. Princeton's teacher friend dared him to be present, rededicated to living something that's not permanent. Even your worst days deserve the best you. The whole point of the scripture is not just to give you the hope, but to teach you to obey from verses one through ten. Worship is the power of being present. See the value of being here, decide to live fully in it, and find the joy in your now.   3 Key Points: Build, plant, invest, anchor yourself in your now. Anxiety comes from different circumstances such as expectations, perceived fear, trauma, but sometimes it comes because we are so future-focus who miss seeing God in our now. See the value of being here, find the joy in your present and live your life to the fullest.   Tweetable Quotes:  "The wind of time is blowing back my hairline probably about an inch a day"- Princeton Parker "When you're always trying to go next, it is the reflection that you believe that now has nothing left to offer, which is often a manifestation of pride."Princeton Parker  "Your mastery of this level would be seen by how you handle this level, not by your request to the next level"-Princeton Parker "Sometimes, the answer to that anxiety is a changed heart"-Princeton Parker "Just because you don't live here forever, doesn't mean it's not worth your investment."-Princeton Parker   Resources Mentioned:  Building Without a Blueprint Podcast  Princeton's Website Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter Impact Network  

Sometimes we’re not anxious because of the difficulty of life, we’re anxious because our expectations were unhealthy. In this episode, Princeton talks about how we can manage our anxiety by managing our expectations of life, people, and ourselves.   Episode Highlights:  As the anxiety series continues, Princeton will discuss expectations concerning anxiety. People have expectations, but people need to practice asking what builds these expectations. Princeton often compares himself so much with young influencers, which made him feel down on his own and creates much sense of delay. Princeton shares 2Kings 5:1-7 passage, which will help people deal with anxiety. John 10:10 implies not to focus primarily on what the enemy's doing, but on how you live your life based on your purposes.   Look at life and life more abundantly- the quality of life as lived upon the earth.  People tend to ignore mental health in pursuing the ultimate life-ending. As we learn a lot of things in life, our enemies continue to gain grounds because we don't have the discussion. Anxiety must be dealt on three levels, and understand that self is a tripart who has a spirit, a soul that lives in a body. Luke used Agony, a very particular word describing Jesus' emotion in the garden of Gethsemane. The cause of anxiety can be from external shapers, such as trauma or a perceived threat, but the most significant reason for it is our thought. People build their lives in unhealthy expectations, and then anxiety comes from the process of those unhealthy expectations not being fulfilled. It is not wrong to have expectations, but it is essential to know the difference between healthy and unhealthy expectations. Healthy expectations produce hope, while unhealthy expectations produce anxiety. The separator between healthy and unhealthy expectations is the question, "What shaped your expectations? Was it by God or by people? By wisdom or by fear? By your identity or by your insecurity? Out of purpose or out of pride?  Princeton tells a story from 2 King 5:1-7, about a proud leprotic man named Namaan, who meets Elisha to heal him.  Namaan was so proud that he felt he was doing them a favor by coming over and not killing them all.  Namaan is on the verge of not being healed because his process is not going according to his unhealthy expectations.  On Princeton's 6th grade activity, the teacher asked why he expected to go to Princeton University, was it by purpose, or is the pride that “Princeton went to Princeton”?  Going to USC, Princeton expected to live with all other freshmen but ended up living a hundred-mile off-campus house with Juniors.  Because of unexpected things that happened in his life, he gets to meet the most amazing people in his life.  Princeton realized that the greatest miracles in his life occurred on the other side of his unhealthy expectations. Princeton challenged everyone to reshape where they thought they'd be at this age and rethink what they would have accomplished by now. People tend to make the situation worse by trying to turn “what is” to “what they thought”.  Micromanaging every piece of the process will send yourself to further anxiety.  Healthy expectations will free you to the present, to serve, and to rest, which ultimately allows you to build discipline as you focus on how to be obedient to the process.  The greatest help for our anxiety is to remove the pressure we put on our experience to be perfect.  Stop building your brand, and remember to build your life. Everything God's promise will come to pass.   3 Key Points: It is not wrong to have expectations, but you must know the difference between healthy and unhealthy expectations. Remove too much pressure in life, the pressure we put on our lives, become the pressure that we put on our minds.  Submit to process beyond your expectation to achieve the healing that you have been desiring.    Tweetable Quotes:  "I really believe that sometimes, our expectations are killing us"- Princeton Parker "I want to be saved and delivered. I want the fullness of what Jesus promised me." -Princeton Parker "It is not wrong to have expectations" - Princeton Parker "I am fixated on the way I thought, my life was supposed to go, not in the way it is productive for my life to go." - Princeton Parker "Sometimes the greatest thing in your lives are on the other side of your expectation"-Princeton Parker "Every time God challenges me to think differently, every time that God, challenged me to submit, every time to challenge to embrace a process, I have found the most impactful healing."-Princeton Parker   Resources Mentioned:  Building Without a Blueprint Podcast  Princeton's Website Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter

Everyone talks about Jesus being strong, but in Princeton’s view, the strength of Jesus is that he identifies with every struggle that we have, including anxiety. Did Jesus struggle with anxiety? Princeton answers in this episode.   Episode Highlights:  Princeton talks about bad news, where Breonna Taylor, a black medical worker, was shot and killed by Louisville police officers.  Officers are more concerned about the endangerment of the neighboring department than the fact that someone died in that incident. The incident made Princeton exhausted, broken, hurt, and infuriated in anger at the term "Justice", and the system. There's impending anxiety arising from the pandemic, politics, personal life, etc.   Princeton talks about the good news where this podcast reached 1000 downloads, which means somebody is listening amid all the absurd things going on and being blessed by it.  As the light is more powerful than darkness, let's continue to find the light of God and build a community to fight the darkness. Even a believer has an internal battle with anxiety and questions on how to get through as a believer.  As Princeton asked the audience to raise their hands, about 80% to 85% of the room had experienced anxiety.  John 10:10 “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” In a salvific life, we get saved, reconciled back to God, thereby guarantees an everlasting life. God is concerned about the quality of life we have. A life that doesn't live under the control of anxiety.  Isiah 26:3 says you are more than your anxiety, and it is not an identity.  A healthy and peaceful life is possible by opening yourself first and starting the healing process.  People don't reach out for help because they believe there is no help, or they don't deserve that help.  It is important to teach that anxiety is a regular human emotion because we tend to feel that there is something wrong with us.  The misconception of anxiety as being crazy is the device of Satan, so you don't reach out for help.  The hardest part of healing is to tell what's going on, and opening up is disarming the darkness's power. 1 Corinthian 10:13 is powerful as it says, "no temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind." Luke 22:39-44 talks about the anxiety of Jesus from the Garden of Gethsemane, expressing his emotions as being emotionally distanced from his assignment. Anxiety happens on three levels, physically, mentally, and spiritually. Jesus experienced anxiety when he took a step down to live in a body and walk amongst us and endure a death of violence. Princeton wants to destroy the idea that there is something wrong with you because of what you are going through. In the presence of agony, there's always a greater force that lives in you. The fifth truth about anxiety is that the Savior decided to say yes to experiencing anxiety so that you wouldn't be ashamed about yours. Luke 22 teaches us that Jesus lived your experience, so he knows how you feel. Jesus defeated death, so anything that's killing you doesn't have to control you. Jesus went through so that we could conquer shame. Shame prevents you from asking for help when you need it. God has always cared about our experience, God identified with our experience through Jesus.    3 Key Points: Anxiety is a regular human emotion that is common to all humans.  There is nothing to be ashamed of with your anxiety because Jesus went through the same process. God identified with our experience through Jesus, so he completely understands how you feel and what you are going through.    Tweetable Quotes:  "I am a spirit, a spirit that's inhabiting a black body"- Princeton Parker "Light is more powerful than darkness." - Princeton Parker "The beginning of breaking Satan whole is to bring the light to it" - Princeton Parker "Sometimes the message of hope is not always I'm gonna be alright, sometimes the hope is that He's with me." - Princeton Parker "The crazy part is, Jesus knows what I am going through”. - Princeton Parker "I want you to remember this episode. Hold up! You know how I feel, and you just not know because you're looking at me but, you know because you dealt with it." - Princeton Parker   Resources Mentioned:  Building Without a Blueprint Podcast  Princeton's Website Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter

In this episode of Building Without a Blueprint, Princeton Parker provides another installment of the mental health series he ran at his church called Chill Out: How to Navigate Faith and Anxiety on the last Sunday of every month.  

During this episode of Building Without a Blueprint, host Princeton Parker hosts the third part of his “Chill Out” series to continue his discussion on mental health. Princeton continues his discussion on anxiety, the lies and myths surrounding anxiety, and how to deal with anxiety on “all 3 levels,” being body, soul, and spirit. Princeton gives 3 steps for dealing with a panic attack that addresses all 3 levels.

In this episode of Building Without a Blueprint, Princeton Parker continues talking about the mental health series he ran at his church called Chill Out: How to Navigate Faith and Anxiety on the last Sunday of every month. Princeton shares part two of the series, where he discusses the lies we are told or that we believe about anxiety. Also, how changing those things can assist us in moving forward in becoming better people in the world and representatives of Christ.

In this episode of Building Without a Blueprint, Princeton Parker talks about a mental health series he ran at his church called Chill Out: How to Navigate Faith and Anxiety on the last Sunday of every month. Princeton shares part one of the series, where he unpacks what anxiety is, how to think through it, what are some common ways that it shows up, and why he went on this journey. 

In the wake of the sudden passing of Kobe Bryant and his daughter Gianna, Princeton preached a message for those wrestling with faith and tragedy. If you’ve ever struggled with trusting God after tragedy, this sermon is for you.   

EVERYONE talks about avoiding temptation. Very few talk HOW or even what temptation really is. In this sermon taken from early 2019, Princeton helps us all create a game plan to avoid those things that get in the way of our relationship with God, ourselves, and others. 

In this video, Princeton reflects on a goal he set at the beginning of the year. He challenges all of us to focus on placing the maximum investment in our talents and dreams. 

In this episode, Princeton talks about the impact of our parents on the way we see God. Oftentimes family trauma causes us to have an unhealthy view of God because we believe that God is just like the people, things, and spaces that hurt us. Princeton unpacks this reality and then shows us how to begin to heal our view of God.

In this Father’s Day sermon, Princeton talks about masculinity. He argues that manhood is about choices, and the bible gives two types of men from which we can all choose. In the tale of two men, who will you choose to be?

Life hurts. To be human means we will experience pain, and experience it often. In this episode, Princeton says that YOU can be productive, even when you are not sure if your pain is productive. He teaches you how in this inspiring conclusion to the two-part series.

Life hurts. To be human means we will experience pain, and experience it often. In this episode, Princeton unpacks the idea that faith should help us have a healthy relationship with pain. In part one, he starts the journey by teaching the difference between productive pain and abusive pain.

Episode Description: In this episode Princeton plays back a sermon that unpacks the biggest lesson he learned in therapy, and how it has changed his whole perspective on life and building. He discusses how our short-term situations, do not define our long term identity. He addresses that when we learn this, we can live lives that are free of feeling like we have to prove who we are.

This episode plays back an episode of the “Art of Connection” radio show where he is interviewed by his mentor, Jonathan Sprinkles. In the interview, Princeton describes what originally sparked his desire to create Building Without A Blueprint, and what the purpose of the show is today.

In this episode, Princeton concludes his Black Women Who Build series talking to expert author and brand leader, Sonia Jackson Myles founder of The Sister Accord. The episode asks the question: Where do black women go to have a safe space and heal? The answer: Sisterhood. This episode unpacks the importance of sisterhood, the barriers to healthy sisterhood, and how to build sisterhood.

In this episode of the Black Women Who Build series, Princeton spends time with licensed marriage and family therapist Kiaundra Jackson to talk about tools and strategies for soul care of black women. They unpack Kiaundra’s journey to healing and wholeness, her brand development as a mental health professional, and her strategies for other black women to heal and take care of themselves.  

In this episode, Princeton sits down with Emily Rountree to discuss her journey to entrepreneurship and how she took a small idea in a business class and grew into a business that has her being recognized by Forbes magazine. 

In this episode, Princeton begins a series highlighting the stories, experiences, and contributions of black women in various aspects of society. This first episode in the series features author, Professor, researcher and administrator Professor Donyell Roseboro of the University Of North Carolina Wilmington.  

In this episode Princeton addresses one of the biggest reasons for burnout: fighting the wrong fight. He says that fighting the wrong fight not only drains us, but steals our ability to remain grateful. Listen to this sermon to get clarity and inspiration to fight the right fight.

Princeton Parker continues dissecting the movie ¨A Star is Born¨ (spoiler alert) as he did in Episode 8. He not only imparts impactful lessons but also shares how we can incorporate them into our lives.

In this episode, Princeton gives a review of the blockbuster hit “A Star Is Born” starring Bradley Cooper and Lady GaGa. He shares a lesson from the film on the importance of being personally healed so that our relationships and our dreams can be healthy and strong.

In this episode Princeton reflects on what he is grateful for in 2018 and presents part two of the sermon: "Don't Worry, I'm Just Growing" 1:00—Princeton Parker starts with Exodus chapter 13. 2:40—A 40-year journey where Egypt is slavery Caymun is freedom and the wilderness is the time you need to evolve from slavery and caymun. The wilderness and time is the process of evolving. 4:41—You cannot have Caymun (the result) if you haven´t enjoyed the wilderness (process). 5:46—Change of environment is not freedom. Change of character is. 7:20—Princeton unpacks the trials and traumas of slavery. 9:45—The power of intentionally taking the long route. 10:10—Can you see areas in your life where you were taken a long way around? 11:35—God is taking you the long way around not because he is angry. God wants you to be ready. 12:00—You know you are growing when you can peacefully renegotiate your timeline. 12:27—You have nothing to prove. When you don´t make a deadline, ask this question--What created that deadline? It can still happen on a different timeline. 13:30—Interogate where your timelines come from. 15:33—You know you are growing when you take count of the fact that the things you dislike most about people are in you too. 16:12—Your pain will expose what you still have a taste for. 16:48—You know you are growing when you are ok without temporary fixes. 17:25—How long you suffer does not entitle you to success. The work you put in on your heart does. 19:00—You know you are growing when God makes you face things that he used to shield you from in the last season. 20:40—The power of knowing that you are enough. 20:50—You know you regrowing when you are facing difficult situations. 21:45—You know you are growing when you forgive yourself for the things that aren´t yourself and you decide not to repeat the mistakes of the generation before you. 22:15—You know you are growing when you learn to enjoy the experience. 23:30— Preaching songs with Princeton. 24:34—We glory in tribulation because it is producing something. 25:09—Princeton highlights the fruits of patience. 26:30—Don´t stop seeking God, and do the work through tribulations. 27:20—The next thing you get in this season is because you put in work. 28:00—Patience breeds experience. 29:34—This too shall pass. 30:53—You are not going through it, you are growing through it. 31:30—Everything that was getting in your way was nailed to the cross. 32:10— You´ve got to grow. Don´t stop growing. 33:20— I know it is expensive to grow, but you are going to like the way you look. 35:10—Growing hurts. Growth and death feel the same. 38:10—Talk to yourself the way you would talk to someone else. You have the words you just use them for everyone else except yourself.   3 Key Points: Princeton explains the process of growth in comparison to the journey from Egypt to Caymun. You cannot reach your destination without going through the process. 2. God takes you the long way intentionally to prepare you.    When we go through growth, talk to yourself the same way you would talk to someone you love--be passionate, motivating, and forgiving.   Tweetable Quotes: -       “Change of environment is not freedom. Change of character is.” –Princeton.  -       “You know you are growing when you can peacefully renegotiate your timeline.” – Princeton.  -       “Interrogate where your timelines come from.” – Princeton.  -       “You know you are growing when you take count of the fact that the things you dislike most about people are in you too.”–Princeton  -       “You know you are growing when God makes you face things that he used to shield you from in the last season.”–Princeton   -       “Patience breeds experience.”–Princeton -       “You are not going through it, you are growing through it.”–Princeton Resources Mentioned: Subscribe to Building without a Blueprint and share it! More about Princeton Parker Email Princeton--buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com Princeton Parker: Instagram, facebook, twitter

In the sixth episode of the Building Without a Blueprint, host Princeton Parker shares his deep desire to contribute to humanity in a way that is bigger than himself. He shares his sermon where he upacks a season of change and pain. Princeton beautifully parallels his stories with those of Jesus.  1:37—Princeton Parker thanks the presence of the Lord and starts us off with a prayer. 2:20—Today, Princeton focuses on Exodus the 13th chapter and Romans 5th chapter. 4:23—He honors the woman and Dr. Thomas and gives thanks to the different departments in the church. 6:28—We begin with focus on the book of Exodus chapter 13, 17 verse. 7:51—The book of Romans chapter 5 talks about patience, experience, and hope. Hope will not embarrass you. 8:55—Don´t worry. I´m just growing--the topic for today. This is why people leave our lives because they can´t handle our growth. 10:47—We get so sccustomed to talking to our neighbor that we don´´ receive the right word for us. Don´t worry. I´m just growing. 11:42—The person who is most afraid of your developmnent is you. 12:10—Don´t worry. Im just growing. These words aren´t about having ´beef¨ with other people. These words are for ourselves. 13:40—When we rest, it is an act of faith. We believe we don´t hold up our life but God does. 15:08—Princeton delves into gym culture and uses it to lead into how small events can cause long-term pain. 18:40—One comment or short act can have a long-term impact on others . 19:02—The danger of pain is that it can make you lose all sense of perspective. 19:48—In pain, we lose track ofthe side-effect. 19:55—Don´t hold judgement of people because it is all driven by pain. 21:20—Pain is disorienting and can drive depression. 24:40—In this seson while you grow. you will get one that says stop because of the discomfort, but the other message will come from your mind because it will say keep going becasue of the reward. Don´t worry. Im just growing. 25:20—See pain not as just pain but opportunity. 26:01—Changing the way you see your circumstance doesn´t make it hurt less. Changing the way you see your circumstance will make you hurt with purpose. 27:26—People don´t leave because of the pain. They leave because they lose perspective. It isn´t worth it and the purpose is lost. 28:30— When you lose your perspective and you run towards something else, you are just running towards another kind of pain. 29:19—Your pain is here to grow you not kill you. 30:22—The reason why God is putting me through this pain is to figure out my ¨heart¨ issues, passion issues. 31:11—Holiness is a heart issue. 31:47—Don´t try to address someones sin before you see their pain. 32:00—Jesus forgives sin. If I forgive you but don´t heal you, it is very likely you will go back to what injured you in the first place.   3 Key Points: Life is filled with seasons of growth and change, and the person most afraid of our growth is ourselves. Throughout the season of growth, there is also pain, growing pains. Pain, if we let it, can make us lose our perspective and purpose.    We cannot address someone´s sin until we have also seen their pain.   Tweetable Quotes: -       “The person who is most afraid of your developmnent is you.” –Princeton.  -       “The danger of pain is that it can make you lose all sense of perspective.” – Princeton.  -       “Changing the way you see your circumstances doesn´t make it hurt less. Changing the way you see your circumstances will make you hurt with purpose.” – Princeton.  -       “Your pain is here to grow you not kill you.”–Princeton   Resources Mentioned: Subscribe to Building without a Blueprint and share it! More about Princeton Parker Email Princeton--buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com Princeton Parker: Instagram, facebook, twitter

In this episode, Princeton shares a follow up to his conversation on self-love with Dr. Mikki Taylor. You protect what you value, and Princeton teaches how the greatest demonstration of loving yourself, is protecting yourself. This is a must listen!  3:45—Princeton Parker introduces the topic of today--boundaries 4:19—Boundaries are huge in your ability to love yourself. Boundaries are a reflection of value. 4:45—You can tell how much meaning something has to someone by their willingness to protect it: think about your bank account or house? To what extent have we protected these things? 6:20—Boundaries must be set out of value, not fear. 6:19—The art of setting boundaries is done because you value yourself rather than as a way to avoid your fears. 9:20—Humility is not your ability to be loved. Humility is strength is under control. 10:35—God never wants us to be so in touch with him that we are not in touch with humanity or ourselves. 11:00—What to be of service means and doesn´t mean. Being of service and putting ourselves aside equates to unhealthy boundaries. Set boundaries to honor your value. 13:10—The blueprint for boundaries using Jesus as a case study. Even Jesus had boundaries 14:24—Jesus lives along the line between humanity and divinity. 15:30—One of the key steps in your self-love journey would be learning to acknowledge, embrace, and then, honor your limits. Limits can include the following topics: I cannot change people. I do not control the way other people receive me. I do not control the way other people receive my truth. I need to rest. 17:30—You cannot feel guilty for your limits. 18:20—If you have not acknowledged and embraced your limits, others are going to make you feel guilty for them. 19:54—Acknowledge your limits and the honor them by setting boundaries. 21:20—Everything Jesus does is intentional and by design. 22:04—The first boundary: Jesus had strict boundaries around his time. Jesus practiced spending time alone. 23:20—What we lose when we overfill our life with people and projects is our time alone. 24:20—Acknowledging your limits means acknowledging that you aren´t holding everything up--family, relationship, and a job can all survive without you. 25:27—Jesus knows how to prioritize his needs over everyone else`s. 26:33—Jesus spent time away but he also changed the environment--nature, the beach, eat alone. 27:27— We use intentional time alone to invest in ourselves: prayer. 28:25—Prayer is used as a processing space. 30:36—Have you thought about where you need to go to get away from your daily routine and do you respect your boundary of being alone? Sometimes you have to say no. 31:28—Jesus knew how to not prolong a conversation, experience, or relationships. 32:24—Jesus knows how to not allow someone to overstay their welcome. 33:50—Value your time enough to not be late. Start to set boundaries around your time. 34:15—Second boundary: Jesus had boundaries around who he revealed himself to in his fullness. Jesus had 12 friends and he only revealed his true form to three of them. 36:25—Jesus was careful about who he revealed his skills to (Mathew 13). 38:50—I set boundaries around my gifts and talents--only giving them to those who see me for who I am. 40:21—Jesus set boundaries. Jesus is love, and therefore, setting boundaries is love. 42:00—The power of having boundaries set as an inner circle, outer circle, and outside world. 43:30—The third boundary: Jesus never worked to prove himself. he was resolute in knowing who he is and what he came to do. 45:00—You don`t owe the world an explanation. 46:12—Faith is not the divine nature above going to drop you something miraculous. It is about putting your work in plus the acts of God. 47:30—How long you have suffered does not entitle you to success or a specific outcome. You have to do the work. 49:40—Get rid of that ¨enough thing.¨ 50:00—Fourth boundary: Jesus had boundaries around what he tolerated. He did not tolerate hypocrisy, judgement, or abuse. 52:00—Make a list of things that you will not tolerate in relationships, in your space, or things happening around you. 53:23—Jesus knew when to respond and when not to respond-- ¨You said it.¨    3 Key Points: Boundaries are a huge part of the pathway to self-love. Boundaries to set with Jesus as an example: Time, who I reveal myself to, who I prove myself to, what I tolerate, and what I need a response. Jesus was unlimited and yet he had boundaries. Loving everyone and everything does not come at the expense of loving yourself.   Tweetable Quotes: “One of the key steps in your self-love journey would be learning to acknowledge, embrace, and then, honor your limits.” –Princeton. “You cannot feel guilty for your limits.” – Princeton. “You don`t owe the world an explanation.” – Princeton. “With God as your foundation and purpose as your motivation, keep going.”–Princeton   Resources Mentioned: Subscribe to Building without a Blueprint and share it! More about Princeton Parker buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com Princeton Parker: Instagram, facebook, twitter

The fourth episode of the Building Without a Blueprint podcast, where host Princeton Parker shares Mikki Taylor`s light and her deep desire to contribute to humanity, gives us the building  blocks to build self-love in our lives without needing a blueprint; all we need is the presence of God. Mikki Taylor, Beauty and Cover Essence Magazine, CEO and founder of Mikki Taylor Enterprises, leaves us with the important building blocks to self-love. 1:00—Introduction of Guest, Mikki Taylor—Beauty and Cover Editor of Essence magazine and Founder of Mikki Taylor Enterprises 2:29—The story behind how Mikki and Princeton met. 3:00—Mikki Taylor describes herself as a guiding light in service, a mother, a wife, engager, and champion of woman. 4:22—Grappling with the essence of assurance and confidence in knowing who we are and what we do. 6:19—The power of not remaining silent on important issues such as championing woman in the realm of beauty. 7:55—A discussion around how Mikki doesn´t lose herself when she is in service advocating for others. 10:00—The language used to sell beauty product to woman is still not a voice of inclusion. 11:16—You have to understand the people you serve in the industry to do business well. 11:58—The complexity of feeling invisible paralleled with self-love. 13:00— The key is to kick the door open and get inside and then hold it open for others. 13:30—Essence as a magazine celebrates the story of all magazine and works with a voice of inclusion. 14:42—Self-love requires knowing our value and vision. 16:52—Self-love also means surrounding yourself with the right people. 17:16—Your greatness was not designed to live in isolation. 17:45—Deciphering the behaviors that destroy self-love is important in your self-love journey. 18:39—There are physical, vocal, and beahvioural behaviors that destroy self-love. 19:34—Self-destuctive habits include destuctive eating habits, shopping, and body language. 20:27—We have yet to fire our inner critic. Don´t wait to step out of your way. 20:50—How to fire your inner-critic and move forward. 21:39—Your inner critic will try to sneak back in in a lot of ways. You have ot stay focused even once you fire it. 22:00—Regardless of your ancestry, we all came here to escape oppression and this can be reflected in our pursuit of self-love. 26:00—Self-love is not a robbery from god, but instead a tenant of his promise. 26:52—We need to stop looking for outside validation and instead incourage ourseleves. We are not created to be in bondage to thoughts thta hold us back. 28:19—Mikki reviews the steps to achieveing self-love and how to execute on it. It may mean you need to change habits, get out of your own way, or let go of some people from your life. 30:11—You have the power to thrive. Life is not a dress rehearsal. 31:00—Go where you are celebrated not where you are to 33:25—You must walk in the truth of who you are. 34:00—Mikki discusses other people who have impacted her greatly. 36:26—Mikki leaves us with affrimations for our self-love journey.   3 Key Points: Self-love is an imporant piece of knowing our identity, value, and owning our purpose. The role of self-love in an industry of Beauty and Modelinga is even more pronounced. Know your purpose, passion, fire your inner critic, and get out of your own way.   Tweetable Quotes: -       “Self-love also means surrounding yourself with the right people.” – Mikki Taylor.  -       “If you haven´t identified your purpose, get still and figure out what it is.” – Mikki Taylor.  -       “Your greatness was not designed to live in isolation.” – Mikki Taylor.  -       “Be still.” – Mikki Taylor.  -       “We have yet to fire our inner critic. Don´t wait to step out of your way.” – Mikki Taylor.  -       “Go where you are celebrated not where you are tolerated.” – Mikki Taylor.  -       “Self-love is not a robbery from god, but instead a tenant of his promise.” – Mikki Taylor.  -       “The goal is just to get through the door [of the beauty industry] and then hold the door open for others.” – Mikki Taylor.  -       “You must walk in the truth of who you are.” – Mikki Taylor.  Resources Mentioned: Building without a Blueprint Princeton Parker Mikki Taylor ¨Edited in Chic¨--book mentioned by Princeton    

Summary: The third episode of the Building Without a Blueprint podcast, where host Princeton Parker shares personal stories of himself and others that have had the deep desire to contribute to humanity but aren’t sure how provides an audio recording of a past sermon that relates to the building blocks of building without a blueprint. Learn the reasons why our authentic life is about relying on God, not a plan or blueprint.      01:51 – God wants you to depend totally on God—not on other people or things. 05:44 – God is leading us from understanding things mentally, to understanding them because we have experienced them. 07:40 – Building without a blueprint allows you to know who you are. 09:07 – Building without a blueprint keeps you authentic—if you had a blueprint for it you would be a copy of someone else. 10:20 – When you build without a blueprint you know how to fix it when it goes astray. 11:09 – There is no blueprint because you are becoming the blueprint to be able to help others. 12:28 – The blessing is the building of something—not the becoming of a thing. 14:26 – What the world needs now is different than what it needed in the past. 17:14 – There is no blueprint for life because God is the builder—not us. 18:50 – When you are building without a blueprint you have to check the foundation (the word of God)—everything you are not is why God chose you. 20:57 – Know why you are building. 21:16 – You need to change what you see. 21:31 – Don’t build all your dreams around one person. 21:51 – You have to build brick by brick.   3 Key Points: 1. God knew if you have a blueprint you would become self-sufficient and not depend on God for guidance.   God wants to take you from the realm of knowing something mentally from understanding, to the realm of having knowledge based on having experienced it for yourself. If God allowed you to have everything that everyone else has you would never know how much God put in you.   Tweetable Quotes: -    “Building without a blueprint makes you not depend on people, and totally depend on God.” – Princeton Parker. -    “Building without a blueprint shows you who God is.” – Princeton Parker. -    “Building without a blueprint shows you who you are. – Princeton Parker.   Resources Mentioned: Website – Princeton Parker’s Website Instagram – Princeton Parker’s Instagram Brandon Combs – Twitter for Brandon Combs Trap Noir– Instagram for Trap Noir Marcus Paul – Instagram for Trap Noir

Princeton shares the sermon that inspired the podcast. He looks at the life of the prophet Amos and how he like all of us, had an intense call from God to build something with no training or resources. Summary: This is the second episode of the Building Without a Blueprint podcast, where host Princeton Parker shares personal stories of himself and others that have had the deep desire to contribute to humanity but aren’t sure how. Today, Princeton provides an audio recording of a past sermon that relates how Amos was called upon by God to be a prophet when he had no experience, and how Princeton has had to do many things without instructions or examples.   01:46 – Princeton Parker speaks about his podcast theme song that he produced and the talented people he collaborated with. 04:39 – He states that his preaching perspective carries over throughout his day-to-day life outside of church.  10:10 – He sets up what his sermon will be about, the prophet Amos from the Bible, that was an inspiration for Dr. Martin Luther King’s “I Have a Dream” speech. 13:05 – Princeton Parker’s sermon is played featuring The Book of Amos-Chapter 7 and Psalm 23-Verse 1 and Verse 4. 18:13 – Amos was a herdsman and a gatherer of sycamore fruit who was summoned by God to be a prophet. 20:37 – He admits that just being he is a good preacher, it doesn’t mean he is good at other things, like math and science. 23:37 – He shares his experiences working at a Disney amusement park. 25:26 – The Rubik’s cube is an analogy about not always being put together in life and having to build without a blueprint. 31:11 – Don’t criticize somebody’s lifestyle until you understand the pain that has brought them towards those decisions. 32:02 – God can’t be subjected to understanding by the way of one thought pattern or framework. 34:14 – The reason some people like “Love and Hip Hop” is not because it is a TV show, but because their lives genuinely look like that. 36:30 – When we get frustrated with our lack of success, we often quit trying and use “perfection” as a defense that we shouldn’t try to live up to. 38:20 – Moses had the unique position to relate to both the oppressed and the oppressor, and had to realize that at some point he would be hated by both. 41:35 – Some people can only receive you when you rock the way they rock. 44:30 – The thing that will make you great in life will at most times feel like a burden. Amos’ name means “burden.” 46:25 – Everybody wants to be famous, but nobody wants to be a role model. Each privilege comes with seven times the responsibility. 47:33 – Don’t ask God for something that you aren’t ready to represent. People will want to hold you accountable for it. 52:03 – Princeton gives his contact information.   3 Key Points: 1. Don’t criticize someone’s lifestyle until you understand the pain that has brought them towards those choices.    When we get frustrated with our lack of success, we often quit and use “perfection” as an excuse that we shouldn’t try living up to. Each privilege comes with seven times the responsibility.   Tweetable Quotes: -    “Whatever I go on to do, I’m a preacher at my core.” – Princeton Parker. -    “You have faith so that the same grace that has been extended to you, the same power, the same resources, the same privilege that has been extended to you might be used for other people.” – Princeton Parker. -    “Don’t try to address somebody’s sin, until you address their pain.” – Princeton Parker.   Resources Mentioned: Website – Princeton Parker’s Website Instagram – Princeton Parker’s Instagram Brandon Combs – Twitter for Brandon Combs Trap Noir– Instagram for Trap Noir Marcus Paul – Instagram for Trap Noir

Who is Princeton Parker? In this episode Princeton introduces his story and talks about how he has been building his life with no blueprint as a kid preacher who began preaching at 4 years old.