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From her TikTok and Instagram, @findingmrheight, dating coach Ali is now joined by her good friend Roark to bring you their positive and practical dating approach in podcast form. Ali's expertise & Roark's 10,000 hours in the dating trenches allow them to tackle modern dating issues while helping you seek and attract the one that you're looking for. Follow along @findingmrheight for even more content!

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    • Apr 24, 2022 LATEST EPISODE
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    62. The Third Hot Topics One

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2022 60:59


    This week, Ali & Roark cover listener questions in a Hot Topics episode. They start with a question about friends who choose to stay friends with your ex. Then, they tackle a question about disclosing *your own* red flags. And they conclude with a Dating Mythbusters question – do men just decide they're ready one day? During the Updates portion, Roark accidentally hard launches Lots of Dogs, and Ali has a fabulous date with the Disco Ball! Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 22:00 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    61. The Closure One ft. Abby Medcalf

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2022 96:41


    She blinded us with science! Ali & Roark are joined by Dr. Abby Medcalf – a psychologist who tells them all about how the brain affects our relationships. The focus of the conversation is closure – what is it, why do we want it, and how can we get – but Abby goes much further and they probably could have talked for hours because she is so darn lovely and interesting. During Updates, Roark recounts an epic Phone Throwing Moment in her friend-group group chat, and Ali goes on a first date and gives a Disco Ball status report. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 27:00 Where to find Abby: at her website https://abbymedcalf.com/about/ If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    60. The Astrological One ft. Aliza Kelly

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2022 68:32


    The stars align this week as Ali & Roark get to talk to astrologer Aliza Kelly. Aliza has a really interesting and nuanced approach to astrology that has even consummate cynic Roark intrigued. They discuss topics like what does it really mean to have a particular sign? Is your sun sign the be all end all? And should we *really* not date THAT sign (you know which one we mean)? Before Aliza joins the pod, Ali & Roark give some quick updates on the Disco Ball and Lots of Dogs. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 15:20 Where to find Aliza: at her website www.alizakelly.com and on Instagram @alizakelly If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    59. The First Long Distance One

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2022 71:13


    It's just Ali & Roark this week as they start a conversation about how to long-distance date. With Ali back from Colombia, the two have a lot to catch up on and they spend more time on updates than usual. Both Ali & Roark had great first dates that they eagerly report. Then, they transition to Topic Talk with a Weird or Nah about starting a relationship while long distance, and Ali tells her story of accidentally ending up in an LDR. They take a few listener questions about how to *date* long distance (how to be in a relationship long distance will be saved for a later episode). Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 36:00 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    58. The Dating After Divorce One ft. Desiree Simone

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2022 73:24


    Ali & Roark are joined by Desiree Simone this week to talk about dating after divorce and dating a partner who has kids. As is par for the course, they bite off more than they can chew, and the three mainly discuss dating after divorce. First, Desiree shares her own story. Then, she offers perspective on sharing your divorce story with a new partner, and, if you're dating someone who is divorced, how to discuss it with them without being invasive. For the first time in a while Ali and Roark both have first dates lined up this week. Roark's guy is a blast from the past, while Ali's unfolds live on air! Timestamps: Desiree joins for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 23:00 Where to find Desiree: Listen to her podcast Break Bottles, Not Hearts anywhere you listen to podcasts, on Instagram @iamdsimone and on TikTok @_iamdesiree If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    57. The Sixth Grab Bag One

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2022 62:40


    It has been a minute since Ali & Roark did a Grab Bag episode and they are excited to bring it back! In this round of Grab Bag questions, they tackle dating as an introvert, breaking up with someone you live with, whether an age gap is too much to overcome in dating and many more! But first, it's the updates - Roark gets Googled before a first date and Ali gets blocked! Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 26:30 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    56. The Lovebombing One ft. Meghan Wainwright

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2022 77:30


    This week, Ali & Roark have Meghan Wainwright on the podcast to share her experience being lovebombed. She talks about what it felt like to experience a “whirlwind” romance and the moments that gave her pause and the red flags she should have seen more clearly. And the three discuss how Meghan approaches dating differently now and how to call out a lovebomber. During updates, Roark is looking at her flaws and Ali heard from … the ROWER. Timestamps: Meghan joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 24:10. Where to find Meghan: On TikTok and Instagram @theblondeinpink and listen to her podcast Main Character Moment If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    55. The Chronic Illness One ft. Gigi Robinson

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2022 80:12


    This week, Ali & Roark welcome Gigi Robinson to the pod. Gigi uses social media to talk about mental health, body image, chronic illness – and the intersection of them. The three discuss how to tell others about a chronic illness, how to hype yourself up when your body image isn't at its best, and how to know you're “enough.” During Ali & Roark's updates, Ali tells Roark something that literally makes Roark's jaw drop. And Roark recaps the end of her Dallas stay. Timestamps: Gigi joins the show for Weird of Nah and Topic Talk at around 24:20 Where to find Gigi: her website www.gigirobinson.com and on Instagram and TikTok @itsgigirobinson If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    54. The Gaslighting One

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2022 63:35


    The Topic Talk is a little more serious this week as Ali & Roark discuss gaslighting. They analyze how the term has become vastly overused in a way that can sometimes undermine how genuinely serious real gaslighting is. Given this, they largely focus on unintentional gaslighting or gaslighting “moments” – how to spot them and how to call them out. Before Topic Talk, Roark discusses how Dallas dating has reminded her of her standards, and Ali has a new matchmaker date on the horizon. They also want to say that if you or a friend you are experiencing gaslighting, check out therapeutic resources: www.therapyden.com/; www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists; www.talkspace.com/ Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 21:45 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    53. The Timeline One ft. Laura Behnke

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2022 76:18


    It's official – Ali & Roark celebrate one year of podcasting! And funnily enough, their guest this week joins the podcast to talk all about time. Well, timelines, really. Laura Behnke didn't have a relationship until she was 35, and she comes on the pod to say “who cares” to following anyone's timeline but your own. The three discuss embracing your life without a partner, being fully yourself on dates, and much more! Before that, Ali shares a recent first date and a couple phone-throwing moments, and Roark is having fun with a new dating mindset. Timestamps: Laura Behnke joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 19:35 Where to find Laura: her website https://www.thelifeactuallycompany.com/about and on Instagram @laurabbehnke If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    52. The First Love Language One

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2022 81:41


    Ali & Roark dive into the five love languages this week! Although this isn't a series, this is a big topic and they will definitely revisit it, so please send in your questions if you have any. They walk through the five different love languages, then discuss the utility of the framework, its shortcomings, and their own experiences sharing their love languages and receiving their partners'. During their updates, Ali gives the full story of the end of the Rower, and Roark talks about dating in Dallas. Timestamp: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk beings at around 33:00 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    51. The Widowed Mom One ft. Krista St. Germain

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2022 84:38


    The subject matter of this weeks episode is a bit heavier than usual, but it's a truly moving conversation between Ali and guest Krista St. Germain, host of The Widowed Mom podcast and founder of Coaching with Krista. They talk about losing a partner, moving forward and dating again, and how to integrate grief. Unfortunately, Roark couldn't join Ali and Krista, but both Ali & Roark share their updates at the beginning of the episode. Roark gets Ali's help strategizing her double-date profile for Dallas, and Ali gives some Rower updates as well as telling Roark about a blizzard virtual date. Timestamps: Krista joins the show for Topic Talk at around 38:30 Where to find Krista: on Instagram @lifecoachkrista and on her website https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/- and of course listen to more of Krista on The Widowed Mom podcast. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    50. The Therapy Jeff One ft. Jeff Guenther

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2022 99:28


    This week, Ali & Roark have WAY too much fun with Jeff Guenther (aka Therapy Jeff). So much fun that a fair amount was deemed NSFP (not safe for pod), but Jeff *may* be coming to a Patreon near you sometime soon. You may recognize Jeff from your TikTok FYP. He is incredible at doling out bite-sized relationship advice you absolutely need to hear, and Ali & Roark think you'll love this episode. They debate what questions to ask new partners and what might be a little too hard-hitting. Before Jeff joins them, Roark talks about shooting her shot with a guy from the past, and Ali discusses her next move with The Rower. Timestamps: Jeff joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 28:45. Where to find Jeff: On TikTok @therapyjeff and on his website www.therapyden.com. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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    49. The Second Hot Topics One

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2022 62:37


    This week, Ali & Roark cover listener questions in a Hot Topics episode. They start with a question about dating burn out from solid first dates that don't turn into seconds dates. Then, they read a dating-app screenshot where the listener is curious about how she should react to a match's sexual opening message. And they conclude with a discussion of a listener's situationship. But before all that, Roark reveals how the first date she was excited for went, and Ali checks in emotionally about where she's at with The Rower. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 35:10 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    48. The Third Breakup One ft. Amy Chan

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2022 74:15


    It's the final episode of the breakup trilogy and Ali & Roark have the perfect guest – Amy Chan, founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp. Amy used her own breakup as a catalyst to change her life and she shares with Finding Mr. Height listeners how to come out of a breakup stronger than before, and how to avoid getting stuck in negative loops so that we can move onward and upward. Before Amy joins the pod, Roark talks about her series of first dates and Ali had a tarot reading which provided some food for thought on The Rower. Timestamps: Amy joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 23:30 Where to find Amy: check out her website https://amy-chan.com/about/, sign up for Renew Breakup Bootcamp https://renewbreakupbootcamp.com/, read her book called Breakup Bootcamp, and follow her on Instagram @missamychan. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    47. The Second Breakup One

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 10, 2022 74:45


    It's part two of Ali & Roark's breakup series. This time they're discussing what it's like to be the one initiating the breakup. They start by discussing the difficulty of knowing whether your relationship problems are “normal” or “breakup worthy.” And then analyze how to end things with someone as kindly as possible – is there an ideal time, location, or mode of communication? But first, Ali gets vulnerable and shares her story of New Year's Eve with The Rower, and Roark has her first first date back on the scene. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 25:45 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    46. The First Breakup One ft. Dara Pollak

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2022 118:48


    Ali & Roark's three-part breakup series begins with special guest Dara Pollak – author of a viral post about a blindside breakup. Dara is a wonderful and vulnerable storyteller, and she shares her emotional journey from relationship to breakup to moving forward afterwards. It is a very relatable story and they know the listeners will hear themselves in parts of Dara's experiences. Before Dara joins the show, Ali discusses New Years Eve plans with the Rower, and Roark is back on the apps! Timestamps: Dara joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 26:45 Where to find Dara: her blog post can be read at https://www.theskinnypignyc.com/2021/10/the-blindsided-breakup-story/; follow her on Instagram @darapollak If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    45. The Second Anxious One

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 27, 2021 76:25


    Ali & Roark start off this week's episode with some huge personal updates – buckle up! Then, they continue their discussion of anxiety in dating from early dates to during a relationship. They cover a huge range of topics including how to share your needs, how to self-soothe, when to bring your partner into your anxiety and ask them for help, and how to manage anxious feelings about being on the same page. Ali and Roark share personal anecdotes of experiences that have made them anxious – accidentally giving each other new things to worry about – and how they reframe their thoughts to feel calmer. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 29:00 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    44. The First Anxious One

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2021 67:44


    Ali & Roark start to tackle a big topic this week: feeling anxious. Dating can (and does) frequently cause anxious thoughts and feelings, so Ali & Roark start the multi-episode series by discussing some tried-and-true anxiety management strategies they use. Then, they discuss the situations leading up to a first date that make listeners anxious ranging from wondering if their date will find them attractive to stressing about finding a parking spot. First, Ali is on vacation again (can you believe it!), and Roark seeks her advice on making birthday plans with the Classmate. As a note, Roark's audio is not up to our usual standard, sorry about that! Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 22:15 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    43. The Stylish One ft. Alyssa Dineen

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2021 87:19


    Ali & Roark welcome Alyssa Dineen, stylist and author of the book The Art of Online Dating, onto the podcast this week to discuss discovering your personal style, being confident in your clothes, and what to never wear on a first date. It's a super fun conversation and don't blame us if it results in either a closet clean out or a trip to your favorite store! But first, Ali reveals that phone-throwing moments are back in earnest including a Bumble match who is familiar with Ali's alter ego… Timestamps: Alyssa joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 30:40 Where to find Alyssa: her website - https://stylemyprofilenyc.com/ and her Instagram - @alyssadineen. Take the style quiz at https://content.leadquizzes.com/lp/O3mVbZQcoQ If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    42. The First Hot Topics One

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2021 62:43


    Ali & Roark introduce a new episode format this week – Hot Topics. Rather than focusing on only one topic or covering a whole bunch like a Grab Bag, Hot Topics episodes will thoroughly answer your questions from the Finding Mr. Height Google form. For their first Hot Topics episode, Ali & Roark read a listener's screenshot and discuss whether she should go out with the guy she's texting, they answer a question about a guy whose friends secretly spied on their date, and finally they address whether one listener is in a situationship with a guy who is “really busy with work.” In the updates section, they both discuss how they're handling communicating with the people they are seeing while home for the holidays. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Hot Topics begin at around 25:45 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    41. The Couples Therapy One ft. Charisse Cooke

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2021 70:46


    This episode is filled with lightbulb moments as Ali & Roark are joined by relationship therapist Charisse Cooke. And they promise they don't *totally* derail the Q&A with Charisse by making it a personal therapy sesh. Charisse covers a ton of ground and answers listener questions such as how to handle having doubts about your partner, how to get what you need from a relationship, and how to set boundaries in a gentle way. In the updates section, Roark shares her feelings about not being able to see the Classmate for a bit, and Ali is in much better spirits after a great third date. Timestamps: Charisse joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 21:40 Where to find Charisse: her website - https://charissecooke.com/ and her Instagram - @thecharissecooke If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    40. The Family One

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2021 81:34


    With Thanksgiving right around the corner, Ali & Roark are here this week to discuss a very timely topic: meeting the family. When's the “right time” to meet someone's family? Should you bring a gift? What if your relationship to your family isn't exactly stellar? They answer these questions along with many more and share horror and success stories of their own. In the updates section, Ali gets vulnerable and lets the listeners in on some of her anxious feelings, and Roark recaps her New York visit. Also, this episode has a particularly fun feel as most of it was recorded when Ali & Roark were together in person! Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 23:20 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    39. The Multiple One

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2021 71:48


    How can you navigate dating multiple people before becoming exclusive with someone? Ali & Roark talk through the logistics and emotions of that early-dating phase. Topics include, how to tell someone you're still open to dating others (and whether you have to), running into someone you're dating while on another date, and how to manage your attachment. Before that, Ali reveals she is invested in a new guy, and Roark has been sick. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 22:20 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    39. The Fifth Grab Bag One ft. Shaun Galanos

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2021 86:56


    It's another Grab Bag episode as Ali & Roark are joined by Shaun Galanos aka @thelovedrive to answer all sorts of questions about direct communication and vulnerability. This is the longest episode yet because the three have way too much fun laughing, commiserating, and agreeing with each other. Questions answered include: how to say “I love you” first, how to slowly bring down your walls, and how to set your standard and live with the person's reaction even if it's not what you wanted, and lots more! In this week's updates, Ali has a big reveal about the Threepeat which Roark asks incessant questions about. Timestamps: Shaun joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk, which begins at around 22:45 Here are all the ways to find Shaun! His website: https://www.shaungalanos.com/; TikTok & Instagram: @thelovedrive If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    37. The Second Attachment One ft. Kirstie Taylor

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2021 82:54


    Ali & Roark are joined by special guest Kirstie Taylor this week to dive more deeply into attachment theory and answer listener questions. Kirstie, a dating and relationship writer who authored the book What I Wish I Knew About Love, drops about 83 insightful bombs this episode as the three women discuss their own attachment journey, and answer questions about anxious-avoidant couples, how to move towards being more secure, and many more! In the updates portion, Roark is dealing with the Classmate's social double-booking, and in a weird or nah and update crossover, Ali reveals a conundrum she's had with the Threepeat and gets Kirstie's advice on the matter. Timestamps: Kirstie joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 24:45 Here are all the ways to find Kirstie! Her website: https://www.kirstietaylor.com. Her TikTok: @kirstietaylorr. Her Instagram: @wordswithkirstie If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    36. The First Attachment One

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2021 68:53


    After being asked many times to discuss this topic, Ali & Roark are finally talking about attachment styles. This is the first of two dedicated episodes on the topic. This week, they define each attachment style, discuss where their styles came from, and share a few anecdotes about navigating dating through an attachment-style lens. Also, they take an attachment quiz and analyze their results – you can take it too at: https://dianepooleheller.com/attachment-test/. In the updates portion of the podcast, Ali talks about how she's feeling after another fun date with Threepeat, and Roark drops the L-Bomb! Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 30:40 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    35. The Aligned One

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2021 66:48


    How much in common do you have to have with the person you're dating? Do opposites attract, or do birds of a feather flock together? Ali & Roark discuss a HuffPost article “8 Things You *Don't* Need To Have In Common With Your Future Spouse” and answer a few listener questions as they parse through what important commonalities are, and which ones matter less. As always, they share their personal updates first. Ali had a very promising fist date, which included a controversial gift (at least Roark thinks so), and Roark's mom meets the Classmate! Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 32:20 This episode starts out with a preview of our Patreon episode. There, you'll here us get a little deeper about what we're going through, and you'll get out personal updates much earlier and more in real time. Join us at www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    34. The Defining One

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2021 67:12


    We hope you're ready to go steady with this podcast, but whether you are or aren't, Ali & Roark are here to talk all about defining the relationship (the DTR talk). After being asked this question a whole bunch, they finally break down the concept of what it means to be “exclusive.” Also, they discuss how to initiate a DTR and how to handle it if it doesn't go your way. In the personal updates arena, Ali talks about her France trip and introduces a man from her past who recently made a reappearance, and Roark and the Classmate hit a relationship milestone: the first time someone gets sick. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 22:45 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    33. The Second Social One

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2021 63:40


    It's the social media sequel! This time around, Ali & Roark talk about how to navigate social media pitfalls while in a relationship and after a break-up. For example, how to handle a partner who refuses to post photos of you. When (if ever) to delete photos of your now ex. And whether you should block your ex. Before addressing these questions, and many more, Ali talks about BEING IN FRANCE (yes, we all are very jealous) and Roark talks about balancing her new job with her relationship. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 23:00 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    32. The Social One

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2021 67:05


    This week, Ali & Roark tackle how social media affects early dating. Is it weird if someone doesn't have social media? How do you handle someone asking for your social media handle before you've gone on even one date? And once you're ready, do you need to discuss posting your new partner on the grid? First, Ali gives an update on the Aussie and shares about the latest potential matchmaker date while Roark complains about how tired she is. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 23:00 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    31. The Fourth Grab Bag One

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2021 64:42


    It's another Grab Bag week where Ali & Roark take your questions submitted to @findingmrheight on Instagram. This round, topics include: how to move forward after a break up, dating in a new city, and setting boundaries in a new relationship. Before they answer questions, Roark discusses communicating her needs within her relationship and Ali fends off TikTok trolls regarding a text interaction with The Aussie. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 27:30 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    30. The Swiping One

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2021 61:13


    It is another jam-packed episode this week where Ali & Roark dissect how to build the most right-swipeable (yes, that is a word now) dating app profile. They go over Ali's philosophy for which photos to use and debate the merits of various prompts on Hinge and Bumble. Listen to this episode with your profile open and see if you can upgrade yours! But first, Ali reveals a big decision regarding a current dating prospect and Roark discusses how she did in fact have to deal with Trivia.  Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 22:45. Want to learn more about dating app strategy? Tune into Ali's live two-part dating app webinar on Wednesday, September 15th. Part 1: The Profile. Part 2: The Messages. More info at findingmrheight.com/workshops If you'd like to hear personal updates before everyone else, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    29. The Dating & New York One ft. Jonah Feingold

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2021 74:12


    This week, Ali & Roark are thrilled to welcome Jonah Feingold (@jonahfeingold) back on the pod! They had the pleasure of watching Dating & New York – Jonah's debut movie as writer and director – and then getting to chat with him about it. Jonah shares about his creative process, tells an incredible casting story, and discusses rom-com tropes. Before bringing Jonah on, Roark has a big personal update to share with the listeners and Ali continues on her matchmaker dates. Additionally, they weigh in on a couple listener questions: how to find dates who won't react poorly to personal success; and when calling out a ghoster may not be the right call. Timestamps: Listener Questions begin at around 29:30; Interview with Jonah begins at around 41:45. Distributed by IFC, Dating & New York opens in theatres and video on demand on Friday, September 10. Follow on IG @datingandnewyork and watch the trailer here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wKfOZGfyrG8 Don't forget to join The Search Party at our Patreon for exclusive, additional podcast content: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    28. The Opening One

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 30, 2021 54:23


    Hey Listener, big question for you… Did you know this is Ali & Roark's tried-and-true Bumble conversation opener? Filled with practical advice, this episode is all about how to get messages going and grab someone's interest on the apps. As usual, Ali & Roark both share their personal updates – including Ali's first matchmaker date. Also, they both open the archives to share some OG phone-throwing moments. Topic Talk begins at approximately 22:25 Don't forget to join The Search Party at our Patreon for exclusive, additional podcast content: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    27. The Searching One ft. Jenna Langbaum

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2021 76:34


    Ali & Roark have a big one for you this week! First and foremost, they have launched a Patreon (cue the confetti)! If you want to become a Patron and have access to exclusive, additional podcast content as well as a private Discord channel head to this link: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. Thank you in advance for your support!! In this week's episode, not only do Ali & Roark have some exciting personal updates (which even required an emergency recording session to update the updates!), but they also welcome on the amazing Jenna Langbaum, author of Me in Search of You. Jenna's book is a unique approach to sharing stories of modern dating. In a collection of short stories, she highlights the complicated emotions and bizarre dating stories we all accumulate as we search for the one. You can find her on Instagram @jennalangbaum and you can find her book anywhere you purchase books! Timestamps: Interview with Jenna begins at approximately 34:30 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    26. The Negging One

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 16, 2021 68:08


    Ali & Roark think you'll enjoy this podcast only if you're smart, cool, and can hold a conversation. Did that statement make alarm bells go off? It should, because it's an example of negging! (And to be clear, we would never say that for real, we love you all!) This week's topic is negging: the back-handed compliment aka an insult that unfortunately permeates dating. But first, Ali & Roark start the episode with their updates – including an epic phone-throwing moment on Roark's part. Next, they recap the insanity of FBoy Island episodes 4 through 6. Finally, they talk about all the ways negging can appear in dating – from subtle to blatant and from dating profile to within a long-term relationship – and how to be aware of it and avoid those who do it. Timestamps: FBoy Island recap begins at around 23:00; Topic Talk begins at around 40:45. If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    25. The Confusing One

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 9, 2021 76:43


    Have you ever asked yourself: do they like me? If so, it may because you're receiving mixed signals. Ali & Roark are here to discuss what it feels like when someone you're dating is running hot and cold. They answer listener questions about the confusion of having a strong in-person connection but lukewarm texting; and what it's like to date someone who behaves like you're in a relationship but tells you they don't want one. But first, Ali & Roark give their own personal updates as well as start a new segment where they discuss the HBO Max show FBoy Island. Timestamps: FBoy Island talk begins at around 22:10; Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 43:20. If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    24. The Group Chat One ft. Ilana Dunn

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2021 67:27


    This week, Ali welcomes on Ilana Dunn of Seeing Other People (@seeingotherpeople) to co-host while Roark takes the bar. Ali has about a million personal updates this week ranging from ghosts to phone throwing moments. Then, Ali & Ilana get into how friendships impact dating relationships. For example: how to handle friends who don't like your new person, and how to handle it when you don't like your friend's new person. Topic Talk begins at approximately 25:00 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    23. The Third Grab Bag One

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 26, 2021 58:37


    Ali & Roark are back to answer as many of your questions as possible in another Grab Bag Episode! But first, both share personal updates and discover Roark has a lot in common with Ali's exes. They read a *chef's kiss* listener submitted Phone Throwing Moment, and this week's Weird or Nah triggers what will inevitably be a podcast mainstay: Ali's Anger. Then, in this lightning round they tackle: using a childhood photo on your dating profile, meeting the parents, when lack of exclusivity may signal they aren't interested, and if we ever feel too comfortable being single.  Grab Bag Questions begin at approximately 28:40 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    22. The Exploding One

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 19, 2021 52:41


    Have you ever been lovebombed? Would you like us to describe it to you? Well, Ali & Roark are here to do just that. Before Topic Talk, both Ali & Roark have dating updates to share this week! Then, they define lovebombing and talk about how tricky it can be to separate it from genuine affection and interest. Both share their own experiences being lovebombed and address how to set effective boundaries when you notice lovebombing behaviors. Topic Talk begins at approximately 23:30 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    21. The Undefined One

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 12, 2021 65:57


    I think we got a situation, here! Well, a situationship that is. Ali & Roark delve into the messy topic of relationships that aren't quite relationships, but they're also totally relationships. We said it was messy! As usual, Ali & Roark share their personal updates including Ali's fun first date and Roark's CRIME story. Then, they tell stories of their own experiences with situationships and answer listener questions about them like how you can avoid getting into one, and how to voice your needs when you want more. Topic Talk begins at approximately 26:20 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    20. The After The First One

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 5, 2021 52:25


    Ali & Roark finally finish the first date trilogy and address after the first date. How do you tell if you're into someone enough for a second date? Who should send the first text? Should the text say thank you or something else? How much texting between dates is appropriate? Who should set up date two? They address all these questions and more! If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    19. The Queer One ft. Queer Dating Coach Ariella Serur

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2021 92:43


    Ali & Roark have wanted to do an episode focused on LGBTQIA+ dating for a while now, and Pride Month felt like the perfect time! As always, they start with their updates. Ali is *accidentally* perpetrating CRIME and has an all-time phone throwing moment and Roark ran into an ex at a coffee shop. Then, they have two amazing guest segments. First, Ariella Serur, @queerdatingcoach on Instagram, comes on the pod to have both an insightful and fun conversation. Ariella tells Ali & Roark all about her work as (you guessed it) a queer dating coach. They discuss how queer daters don't have a “map” or “playbook” of norms like heteronormative daters do, and Ariella shares her “four quadrants” for how to meet people. Then, Ali & Roark welcome in Roark's friend Nicole, @nic_nak_cooks. Nicole is a gay woman dating in LA and brings wild stories from the dating front lines. Timestamps: Ariella's interview begins at around 23:20; Nicole joins at around 1:10:00 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    18. The Grieving One

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2021 70:12


    Ali & Roark have an emotional discussion this week as they tackle grief in dating. As always, they start the episode with their own dating updates and delve into a canine-related “weird or nah.” The conversation about grief begins at around 25:30, and given that this can be a difficult topic, they both understand if this is an episode you'd prefer to skip. During “Topic Talk,” Ali opens up about her own personal journey since her dad's death in 2018. She shares what it is like to talk to a new partner about it and how she's come to understand new needs and boundaries. Roark talks about being on the receiving end of that kind of disclosure and they both discuss how to best support those going through grief. If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    17. The During The First One

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 14, 2021 62:12


    Ali & Roark thought discussing the first date would be two episodes, but turns out it is a trilogy! In Episode 14 they covered everything before the date and in an upcoming episode they will tackle after the first date. But first, in this episode, they answer a bunch of listener questions about going on the first date itself. Topics include: how to keep a conversation going and how to end a date before it becomes a marathon hang. Timestamp: Topic Talk begins at about 25:00 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    16. The Not Dying Alone One ft. Logan Ury

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2021 78:02


    Ali & Roark could not be more excited to have Logan Ury on the podcast this week. Logan is a behavioral scientist, dating coach, and author of How to Not Die Alone. Basically, Logan gives Ali & Roark a coaching session as they talk through the three common dating tendencies that may be holding people back, how to keep your standards high while optimizing your search for the traits that really matter, and how to say "f*ck the spark" and find a life partner rather than a prom date. Before they talk to Logan, Ali & Roark catch up to discuss men who can't seem to make a plan for a date and why Ali lost her voice. Follow Logan on Instagram @loganury and find all her information including ordering her book How to Not Die Alone at: https://www.loganury.com/  Timestamps: the Logan Ury interview begins at 20:21 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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    15. The Second Grab Bag One

    Play Episode Listen Later May 31, 2021 67:34


    Ali & Roark are together this week for a second grab bag episode. You read that right - Ali & Roark are literally together! They had a blast recording this one in-person in New York. Both girls went on first dates this week (some more promising than others), and Ali received an apology text from an ex from five years ago. After sharing their updates, they take a bunch of listener questions. On this episode Ali mentions her friend Brandon - the professional photographer who took our pictures. Follow him on Instagram @blhstudio If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    14. The Before The First One

    Play Episode Listen Later May 24, 2021 44:35


    Ali & Roark are back this week for part one of two episodes on a very important topic: the first date. In this episode, they discuss everything leading up to the date (part two will be about the date itself). They start off with updates - Ali had her first first date in a hot minute, and Roark had a non-dating related phone throwing moment. Then, they walk the listeners through how to get from in-app messaging onto a date, planning the date, and answer the question - is it ever too late to cancel? Ali & Roark also chat about how to get into a date mood and created a pump-up playlist on Spotify. Link to “Date Pump Up”: https://tinyurl.com/ex7cx7vn If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    13. The Just Friends One ft. Seeing Other People

    Play Episode Listen Later May 17, 2021 76:19


    It's Ali & Roark's longest episode yet - and for good reason! They welcome on Ilana & Jonah, the duo behind the Seeing Other People podcast, to discuss everything surrounding being friends with an ex. The four swap stories of times they've attempted to remain friends with people they've dated. And they tackle several listener questions: such as the difference between being friends with someone after a couple dates versus a full-blown relationship, and how to set a boundary when someone you're dating is friends with an ex. Follow Ilana & Jonah @seeingotherpeople and download their podcast on your preferred app! If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    12. The Motherly One ft. Our Moms

    Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2021 51:37


    It is a Mother's Day extravaganza as Ali & Roark welcome their moms to the podcast! As always, Ali & Roark start the episode with their own updates. Roark has been chatting with "Hinge Standout Guy" and Ali has been having egg-freezing related phone throwing moments. Next, they bring on Trude & Christine! Ali's mom Trude and Roark's mom Christine share their dating stories, offer advice to their younger selves, and muse about the men they hope Ali & Roark will end up with. The four share many laughs and even get a little teary. Knowing that Mother's Day can be hard for those who have lost a parent, Ali & Roark totally understand if you want to hop off the podcast when they bring on their moms. The segment begins at around 15:30.  If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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