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Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Dating after divorce in your 50s can feel exciting, terrifying, and exhausting all at once. In this episode, I share 10 powerful questions you need to ask yourself before you get emotionally invested.These questions help you stop chasing chemistry and start choosing peace. We talk about nervous system safety, emotional consistency, authentic self expression, and why you should never date someone's potential. I also break down the difference between chaos and connection, and why midlife is the time to stop auditioning and start being chosen.If you are tired of walking on eggshells, second guessing every text, or shrinking to keep the peace, this episode will help you recalibrate. At this stage of life, love should steady you. Not stress you.In This Episode:00:00 Intro. Dating After Divorce in Your 50s00:32 Question 1. Does This Relationship Make My Life Easier or Harder01:00 Question 2. Do I Feel Calm or On Edge01:30 Question 3. Am I Chosen or Still Auditioning02:00 Question 4. Can I Be Fully Myself02:30 Question 5. Do I Feel Safe Speaking Up03:00 Sponsor Break03:40 Question 6. Do Their Actions Match Their Words04:05 Question 7. Am I Growing or Shrinking04:30 Question 8. Would I Choose Them If Nothing Changed04:55 Question 9. Does This Feel Steady05:20 Question 10. Am I Truly At Peace05:50 Chemistry Versus Peace in Midlife Love06:10 Final Takeaway and Call to Action Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email:...
Fan Mail: Tell Wendy how you're saying yes to yourself!Ready to create more space and alignment in your life? Wendy is here for it. Send her a DM on Instagram or shoot her an email—she'd love to chat, hold space, and help you design the pattern interrupt you need. All links are below.Email: podcast@phineaswrighthouse.comInstagram @phineaswrighthouseIn this episode, Wendy sits down with Heidi Friedman, attorney and author of Love Lessons: 104 Dates and the Stories That Led Me to True Love. Though Heidi published her book as a yes to herself, she didn't expect how her story of 10 years of dating, 104 dates, and finding love after divorce would resonate with everyone from happily married couples to 20-somethings navigating modern dating. Heidi's message is simple but powerful: sometimes what feels like the worst luck in the world is actually setting you up for the best thing that will ever happen to you.They explore:Why karma is real, and why you have to do more than just sit on your couch and hope for the bestThe idea of "Good luck, bad luck, who knows?" and how it changes everything when life hands us setbacks Why giving to the universe what you want to get back actually works (yes, even for finding a husband)This is a conversation about hope, resilience, and trusting that our negative experiences may be exactly what needs to happen to lead us to our next "yes!" Connect with Heidi:Instagram @LoveLessons104Get her book: Love Lessons: 104 Dates and the Stories That Led Me to True LoveHer Podcast: I Love You More________________________________________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy: LinkedinInstagram: @phineaswrighthouseFacebook: Phineas Wright House Website: Phineas Wright House PWH Farm StaysPWH Curated Experience and Travel Interested in being a guest on the show? Send your pitch to podcast@phineaswrighthouse.com Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat! If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a 5-star review. It helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.
I want to read you a short email from a married man in a dead bedroom.There's no cheating.No screaming fights.No dramatic collapse.Just a quiet decision to stop bringing it up.I break down how a lot of men end up in sexless marriages not because they chose them — but because they slowly became passive. They stopped rocking the boat. They stopped advocating for themselves. They let things happen instead of taking control.We'll talk about:Why men confuse passivity with patienceHow avoiding conflict slowly erodes self-respectWhy guilt replaces desire in long-term relationshipsHow silence becomes the unspoken agreementAnd why wanting intimacy doesn't make you selfishThis isn't about demanding sex or blaming your partner. It's about agency — and what happens when a man quietly gives it up.If you've ever felt like your relationship just drifted into something you didn't choose, this one will probably hit close to home.Join the Brotherhood! https://helpformen.com/join
In this episode of The Glen Gilbert Connection, relationship and breakup coach Rudy A shares his raw, personal journey from marrying his high school sweetheart at 21 to navigating a divorce after 16 years. We dive deep into the unique challenges men face during heartbreak, exploring how the end of a long-term relationship can spark a massive identity crisis. Rudy discusses the critical importance of men taking true accountability for their faults rather than playing the victim, and how doing the hard work in therapy can forge a better man. We also tackle the most common pitfalls men fall into when trying to move on, specifically the dangers of isolation and using toxic rebound relationships to mask the pain. Looking to re-enter the modern dating world or build stronger connections? This conversation covers actionable strategies, emphasizing the need for men to establish a compelling personal world and a "visual story" of their passions before even touching a dating app. We break down the delicate balance of masculine vulnerability, advising men on when to open up to a partner and why treating a first date like a therapy session is a massive mistake. Finally, Rudy highlights the absolute necessity of building a tight-knit brotherhood of supportive male friends who will call out your toxic habits and help you reclaim your strength. More from Rudy A: Stan Store: https://stan.store/Rudy_A Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rudy_a__ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@rude_advice Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RudeAdvice/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@rudeadvice Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3JFxKkkzZHWU2kJsc2rMw7?si=acc1a17fbb5044a0&nd=1&dlsi=07bf18f3736b4c89 More from Glen Gilbert: Website: theglengilbertconnection.com Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-glen-gilbert-connection/id1806698347 Instagram: instagram.com/theglengilbertconnection X: x.com/TheGGConnection Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579580627062 Join Glen as he delves into the complexities of modern relationships, focusing on seasoned adults. Through insightful conversations with experts and real-life stories, this podcast provides invaluable wisdom to help men in their prime lead, provide, and protect within their relationships. Whether you're navigating marriage, long-term partnerships, or rediscovering single life, tune in for candid discussions that empower you to build stronger, healthier connections. The views and opinions expressed in "The Glen Gilbert Connection" are solely those of the host and guests and do not reflect the official policy or position of any other individuals, organizations, or entities. The content is for informational purposes only and not intended as a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified health provider with questions regarding medical conditions or relationships. #RudyA #Masculinity #Heartbreak #DivorceRecovery #MensMentalHealth #DatingAfterDivorce #RelationshipCoach #BreakupAdvice #GlenGilbertConnection #RudeAdvice #RebuildingIdentity #Accountability #ModernDating #MensSupport #PersonalGrowth #DivorceSupport #HealingJourney #SelfImprovement #DatingTipsForMen #MaleVulnerability #HealthyMasculinity #LifeAfterDivorce #BreakupRecovery #RelationshipAdvice #MenDating #EmpoweringMen #OvercomingHeartbreak #PodcastForMen #MovingOn #GrowthMindset
In this episode, Mardi Winder sits down again with Laurie Gerber, a love and relationship coach who specializes in helping people after divorce find new relationships. Laurie shares her own experience of working through challenges in her marriage with coaching, which helped her gain insight into what really matters in keeping a relationship strong. This led her to become a coach herself, with a focus on dating and finding love, especially for women over 50.The conversation gets real about the fears and myths that hold people back from dating again, like the worry that there aren't any good partners left out there. Laurie reassures listeners that this simply isn't true, and encourages a shift in perspective, if you're here, so is someone else who's a good match. She talks about her 3H Method, which makes dating feel more manageable and fun: pay attention to what your head, heart, and “hoo ha” tell you about someone, and don't get bogged down with endless lists of requirements.There's practical advice on online dating, including how to stay safe and what to watch out for, and tips for handling awkward moments, like figuring out how to politely turn down a match after a video call. Laurie reminds everyone that dating is a numbers game and it's okay to say “no” if things aren't clicking. The whole chat is supportive and easygoing, aimed at helping anyone feel more confident about jumping back into the dating world at any point in life.About the Guest:Laurie Gerber is one of the most engaging and effective life coaches and presenters in the country. After holding several positions at Handel Group® over the last 20 years, including President of HG Life, Laurie is currently licensing The Handel Method® and running Laurie Gerber Coaching, Inc. focusing on LOVE coaching. Laurie has appeared on the Today Show, Dr, Phil, MTV and A & E and been the resident love expert at Match, Zoosk, Jdate, and many more.She has been presenting to and coaching individuals, couples, and groups, with a wide range of partners including: the dating sites above, General Assembly, She Tribe, BeSocialChange, IvyConnect, Ellevate, and many more. She has appeared on television shows, podcasts, radio shows, and all over the internet. Check out “The Secret-Free Diet”, her TedX talk on the power of truth telling. When not working from her NYC townhouse, she's meditating, jogging, or attempting to get cuddles from her 10, 20 and 22-year old kids and husband of 26 years.For Laurie's gift: https://lauriegerber.com/webinarTo connect with Laurie:Website: lauriegerber.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoachInsta: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoachLinked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerberAbout the HostMardi Winder is an ICF and BCC Executive and Leadership Coach, Certified Divorce Transition Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist (CDS®) and a Credentialed Distinguished Mediator in Texas. She has worked with women in executive, entrepreneur, and leadership roles, navigating personal, life, and professional transitions. She is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and host of Real Divorce Talks, a quarterly series designed to provide education and inspiration to women at all stages of divorce.Are you interested in learning more about your divorce priorities? Take the quiz "The Divorce Stress Test".Connect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinderadams/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could...
In Episode of The Divorce Hour, Ilyssa Welcomes Attorney at Brach Eichler, Sean Smith, to Discuss The Differences Between Separation and Divorce. Co-Founder of The High Conflict Institute Bill Eddy on Dating After Divorce. . The Divorce Hour with Ilyssa Panitz is a safe and comfortable place for listeners to put their feet up and escape from the daily grind while we offer you comfort and advice during a challenging and often isolating time in your life. It is hard to turn to friends and family who don't understand what you are going through emotionally, mentally, or economically but we do and there is nothing to feel ashamed about! While the topics and guests will vary every week – the messaging is always the same: we are going to help you get through this dark period and despite how bleak you may think things look. If you cannot see the audio controls,
Dating after divorce can feel like standing in the middle of a wide-open field with no map, no rules, and a nervous system still recovering from impact. Some people jump right back in, others swear off dating forever, and many find themselves repeating patterns they thought they'd already healed.In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica is joined by relationship coach and fellow divorcee Anna Howerton for a deeply honest, grounded conversation about what dating after divorce really requires. Not strategies, not swipes, but self-awareness, clarity, and the courage to choose differently.They unpack why divorce can actually be one of the greatest gifts for future partnership, how to recognize red flags versus yellow flags, why “manifesting the perfect partner” can backfire without inner work, and how unmet needs from your first marriage often show up in disguised ways the second time around.This episode is for anyone who wants partnership again, but refuses to lose themselves in the process.You'll learn:Why divorce gives you the rare opportunity to choose again with wisdomHow to tell the difference between red flags, yellow flags, and growth edgesWhy dating too soon can turn you into an “energetic mess”How unmet needs from your first marriage shape who you're attracted to nextWhy clarity around your core emotional needs matters more than chemistryHow independence, attraction, and compatibility can clash if you're not honestWhy trying to change a partner often signals inner work that still needs doingHow to stay whole in a relationship instead of looking to be completed by oneWhat it really means to choose someone “warts and all”How to date with intention instead of chasing validation or potentialWe talk about:00:00 Dating after divorce, jump back in or stay out02:00 Why most people aren't taught how to choose a partner04:00 The gift of divorce, choosing again with self-awareness06:00 Why many first marriages were right at the time, but not forever08:00 Losing yourself in marriage and rebuilding identity10:00 Dating too soon and becoming emotionally reactive12:00 Boundaries, swiping fatigue, and dating with intention14:00 Codependency patterns that surface after divorce16:00 Manifestation, clarity, and calling in the wrong container18:00 Seeing people as they are, not as potential20:00 Red flags vs yellow flags and why they're personal23:00 Why surface-level deal breakers can sabotage connection26:00 Choosing someone with complexity, not perfection29:00 The danger of trying to change your partner31:00 Accepting someone exactly as they are today34:00 Emotional needs, attraction, and long-term fulfillment37:00 Why second marriages can feel harder but more honest40:00 Staying whole inside partnership instead of outsourcing happiness43:00 Using divorce as a blueprint for a healthier futureLinks Mentioned in the ShowLooking for support on your journey? Join THE CLUBReady to Define the New You? Create your BLUEPRINTLoved this week's guest? LEARN MOREContact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Clubwww.thecrazyexwivesclub.com Tag us @ Instagram | Facebook | TikTokDid you love this episode? Make sure to follow for more.
In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Vogel — fitness and mindset coach, podcast host, and a woman who's been through divorce herself — for one of the most honest conversations I've had about modern relationships.We talk about what really happens to marriages after kids arrive, why men and women slowly disconnect without realizing it, and how good people end up emotionally checked out years before divorce ever happens.Melissa opens up about her own marriage, why she drifted away emotionally long before it ended, and what she wishes someone had told her when she was younger. We get into attachment styles, masculine and feminine polarity, why accountability is so rare, and why “love” alone doesn't save a relationship.We also tackle the uncomfortable topics most people avoid:Why attraction fadesWhy fitness and self-respect matter more than people admit Why men and women cheat for very different reasonsWhy second marriages fail so oftenAnd why many couples quietly become roommates instead of loversThis is the kind of conversation every couple should hear — especially before things break beyond repair.If you're married, divorced, dating, or starting over as a man, this one will hit home.Join the HFM Brotherhood!
Send us a textIn this episdoe, the conclusion of the dating chronicles, I discuss how dating has gone in the last few month, which is the 6th year since my ex-wife left. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
For an anxious guy, nothing is more confusing than discovering that your avoidant, seemingly asexual wife was having an affair.No touching. No sex. Years of rejection.And yet… she was sleeping with someone else.I break down a real message from a man in a long-term dead bedroom who discovered his dismissive-avoidant wife had been cheating for years. We dig into anxious vs. avoidant attachment, why this dynamic is so common, and why the affair usually has nothing to do with you lacking masculinity, confidence, or sexual value.If you've ever wondered:“How could she want sex with him but not me?”“What does an avoidant partner actually want?”“Why counseling never seems to work with avoidant spouses?”“Was I just too needy or anxious?”…this video will make things click.We'll also talk about:Why “new” always beats “safe”Why anxious partners are usually the only ones willing to do the workWhy avoidant people struggle in long-term monogamyAnd why this pattern tends to repeat itself again and againIf you're dealing with a dead bedroom, infidelity, or the anxious–avoidant trap, you're not alone.
Are you actually ready to date again… or are you just lonely and looking for a distraction?In Talk To Me Tuesday (Episode 2), Nyomi reads a real letter from Marcus, a divorced dad who's feeling pressure from friends to “get back out there”—but he's not sure his heart is truly ready.This episode breaks down the difference between wanting companionship and being emotionally available, plus the real-life signs that you're still healing (and what to do before you start dating again).In this episode, we cover:The biggest signs you're not ready to date yet (and why that's okay)How unprocessed anger and hurt can follow you into your next relationshipThe green flags that show you are ready—emotionally, mentally, and spirituallyHow to get clear on what you want (non-negotiables, values, deal breakers)Dating as a parent: protecting your kids while rebuilding your lifeWhy being single isn't a “problem” to fix—and how to build a life you love firstIf you've been asking yourself, “Should I just jump back in?” this conversation will help you slow down, get honest, and move with intention.New Talk To Me Tuesday episodes drop every Tuesday.Always Keep It So Sexy (A.K.I.S.S).Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/ask-nyomi-bridging-the-gap-podcast--5343726/support."Thank you for joining me on Ask Nyomi: Bridging The Gap. Remember, your sexuality is sacred, your desires are valid, and honest conversations create deeper connections.If today's episode helped you see things differently, share it with someone who needs this conversation. And please rate and review the show.Follow me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @AskNyomi send your questions – this show exists because of YOU. Visit us at AskNyomi.ComUntil Thursday – stay curious, stay open, stay authentic.This is your girl Nyomi Banks. Keep bridging that gap." Always keep it Simply Sexy"
You're smart. You're self-aware. You've done the work. So why does dating after divorce still feel so hard?In this episode, we unpack the top 5 reasons smart, emotionally aware women still settle in dating after divorce — even when they know better.This isn't about low standards or bad choices. It's about subconscious patterns, nervous system wiring, and the quiet ways fear and self-protection influence who we choose.We explore:Why loneliness gets mistaken for compatibilityHow trauma bonds masquerade as chemistryThe fear of starting over again — and how it drives compromiseOver-intellectualizing emotions instead of trusting intuitionWhy lowering standards often comes from fear, not lack of self-worthIf you've ever thought, “I've done the work… so why does this keep happening?” — this conversation will feel deeply validating.To go deeper, we're hosting a powerful workshop inside The Next Chapter with relationship coach and certified hypnotherapist Mina Yang: High Standards, Soft Heart: The New Rules for Empowered Dating.This workshop isn't about dating tactics. It's about healing the subconscious patterns that drive attraction and attachment — so you can stay open to love without shrinking, settling, or losing yourself.
Send us a textThis is a continuation of the previous episode. I discuss what dating was like in the 5th year since my ex-wife left. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
In this episode of the Got HER Back Podcast, Meg and Carrie dive deep into what the soft girl era actually means beyond the TikTok aesthetic. From unlearning hyper-independence and healing after toxic relationships to redefining femininity, trust, rest, and healthy love, this honest conversation explores how strong women can soften without losing their hustle. They share personal stories about dating after divorce, learning to receive support, navigating healthy partnerships, and raising daughters to be both independent and emotionally safe. If you are in your healing era, learning to let your guard down, or redefining what balance looks like after burnout, this episode is your reminder that softness is not weakness. It is strength earned. You've got her back. And we've got yours. Chapters: 00:00 Intro – When Toxic Language Is No Longer Allowed 01:00 Catching Up After the Holidays 03:00 New Year's Eve in the Soft Girl Era 08:55 What the Soft Girl Era Really Means 10:45 Hyper-Independence and Survival Mode 13:30 Learning to Trust and Receive Love 16:40 Healthy Relationships vs Toxic Patterns 20:00 Dating After Divorce and Knowing When to Walk Away 23:45 Masculine and Feminine Energy in Relationships 27:10 Rest, Burnout, and Letting Someone Help 31:00 Raising Daughters to Be Soft and Strong 34:30 Redefining Success, Home, and Peace 38:45 Why Softness Comes From Safety 42:00 Internet Soft Girl Aesthetic vs Real Life 45:30 Final Thoughts on Healing and Living Fully
Divorce is not the end. It can be the beginning of your strongest chapter yet.Learn how to rebuild confidence, attract better women, and take control of your dating life again. Hit that play button and listen now!
Send us a textThis is a continuation of the previous episode. I discuss what dating was like 3 adn 4 years after my ex-wife left. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
You might have noticed something different—we changed our name.Welcome to Your Extraordinary Life and Dating After Divorce. Same host, expanded mission.Here's what happened: I spent years focused on dating after divorce. But the truth? Half my clients work with me on other parts of the divorce journey—thinking about divorce, surviving the process, healing afterward. And I realized I was hiding these stories and frameworks from you.So we're expanding.January brings you divorce-focused episodes. Then we return to a mix of dating and divorce content throughout the year. You choose what serves you.My approach stays the same whether we tackle dating or divorce: I help you cut through the noise. The childhood programming. The societal expectations. The voices that drown out what you want.Because here's what I know: You can do whatever you choose. The hard part? Figuring out what you want when everyone else tells you what you should want.I started as a divorce coach in 2016. I pieced together my own healing journey when nothing existed for divorced women. That experience shapes how I work with women today—helping them advocate for themselves without guilt, build lives that fit them, and make decisions from clarity instead of fear.This year brings more content, more truth, more tools.Ready to create your extraordinary life? Schedule a dating consultation call with Sade at sadecurry.com/info
Rick goes one-on-one with Melissa Rush, a Boston-based stand-up comedian, for a candid conversation about comedy, ADHD, and modern adulthood. They discuss living with ADHD—and whether it's a disability or a superpower—dating after divorce, and the realities of promoting stand-up comedy on social media.Rick and Melissa also talk comedy in and around Boston, reflect on college life in the 1990s, and share personal takeaways from the events and cultural shifts of 2025. Honest, funny, and relatable, this episode is a grounded look at comedy, focus, and figuring things out as you go.
Send us a textIn this episode, the first in a 3 part series, I discuss my dating journey since my ex-wife left. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
Send us a textIn this episode, we sit down with Dr. Greg Matos, a board-certified couple and family psychologist and author of the viral Psychology Today article on the "Rise of Lonely, Single Men." We dive deep into the current state of modern dating and why it feels so "damn hard" for men right now. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
"REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man" is now available in audiobook format! Here is a quick sample for you to enjoy. Want to hear more? Check out the links below:Amazon: https://a.co/d/0k5nxmvAudible: https://www.audible.com/pd/B0G75ZH84YApple: https://apple.co/45eKbNh
Send us a text We've all heard the phrase: "What other people think of you is none of your business." But when that "person" is your ex or soon-to-be ex-wife, does that rule still apply? In this episode I discuss that very question. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
Dating again after a long marriage can feel overwhelming. In this inspiring conversation, Bela talks with Jeannette, a Smart Dating Academy client who rebuilt her life after divorce. She shares how she healed, learned confidence, and by working with SDA, found a healthy relationship later in life. If you want hope and practical wisdom about dating after divorce, this episode is for you.
Did you ignore red flags in your last relationship, only to see them clearly after it ended?In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with trauma-informed coach Chavisa Horemans to break down the real science behind red flags in dating after divorce. They explore how warning signs show up through behavior, language, and your nervous system long before a relationship falls apart.If you are dating again, healing after divorce, or learning to trust your intuition, this episode will sharpen your discernment and help you stop normalizing what your body already knows is not safe.You'll learn:Red flags vs yellow flagsTrauma and dating after divorceHow your nervous system detects dangerOnline dating warning signsRebuilding trust in yourselfWe talk about:00:00 Intro03:00 Red flags vs yellow flags06:00 Dating profiles and hidden warnings10:00 Conditional love and power dynamics15:00 Why we normalize red flags20:00 Trust, intuition, and discernment30:00 Somatic healing and self-trust36:00 Final takeawaysHoliday Heart to Heart The Holiday Heart-to-Heart is the conversation you and I need to have!❤️
Send us a textIn this episode, I sit down with Greg Vorst and Michael Nolan, the Co-Founders of Embodied Recovery. They are pioneering a holistic approach to mental health and addiction that bridges the gap between modern science and ancient wisdom. We dig into why traditional talk therapy sometimes hits a wall and how trauma—including the trauma of divorce—gets trapped in the nervous system.We discuss the physiology of heartbreak, the power of breathwork to regulate your state, and how to move from simply "surviving" the split to actually embodying a new, healed version of yourself. If you are tired of spinning your wheels, this conversation offers a different roadmap out of the mud. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
In this episode of Saving With Steve, host Steve Sexton is joined by Jessica Yaffa, a speaker, trainer, coach, and internationally recognized expert and leader in healthy relationships. They discuss what it truly looks like to heal, rediscover yourself, and step into a new chapter after divorce. Jessica shares insight on dating with the right mindset, how to avoid repeating past dating mistakes, the best date for getting to know someone, and the steps that someone who hasn't dated for 5, 10, or even 20 years can take to make dating smooth and successful. Learn more about the show at www.SavingWithSteve.us
If you lean anxious in relationships, this one's for you.I see it all the time—guys who crave closeness so much that they choke the relationship. You text too much, talk too much, try too hard to keep things “good.” But that desperate energy ends up pushing her away.I'll show you what's really happening under the surface—why your attachment system freaks out when she pulls away, and how to stop feeding that panic. You'll learn how to regulate yourself, stop chasing reassurance, and build the kind of calm confidence that actually creates attraction.If you want more depth, grab my book The Dead Bedroom Fix or check out The Brotherhood, our private men's community with live meetings, courses, and 1,000+ hours of member-only content:
Send us a textJoin us for a powerful and vulnerable 5th Anniversary Special as we bring our Discord community members to the microphone!This exclusive roundtable discussion takes a deep dive into the most crucial and difficult phase of the process: The Beginning of Divorce. Our panel shares candid, unfiltered accounts of the emotional earthquake and logistical chaos that defined their "Day One." This episode is a must-listen for any man navigating the start of the divorce process, featuring powerful reflections from men who have successfully made the journey from the beginning to the present day.Thank you for five incredible years of rising from divorce! Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
Dating after divorce can feel exciting… and absolutely terrifying at the same time. How do you know when you're ready? What boundaries should you set? And how do you avoid repeating the same mistakes from your last relationship?In this episode, Sam and Leah break down the biggest do's and don'ts of dating after divorce so you can protect your peace, spot red flags early, and stay grounded in your worth. Whether you're newly divorced or just thinking about putting yourself back out there, this conversation will help you date smarter, not harder.We're talking: ✨ How to know you're ready to date again ✨ Avoiding trauma bonds and unhealthy patterns ✨ Why consistency > chemistry ✨ Red flags divorced moms should never ignore ✨ Keeping your identity and boundaries strong ✨ When (and if) to introduce someone to your kidsYou deserve a love that feels safe, steady, and aligned with the woman you've become.
Today we're digging into something wild: how a guy who talks about masculinity, strength, and “doing it right” completely lost his cool when his own story was challenged. That guy is Andrew Wilson.If you're rebuilding your life, your identity, or trying to walk the line of integrity after a setback—I promise you: this matters.We'll cover:Who Andrew Wilson is and what he representsThe “rulebook” many men in the debate/manosphere space are handed (never date a single mom, don't be a step-dad)The viral meltdown: what triggered it, what it revealsAnd most importantly: the real takeaways for you, the man rebuilding (not just surviving)My latest book: https://readrebuild.com
Send us a textIn this episode I speak with Professor Neil Shyminski about the Manosphere, Masculinity, and what it takes to be a man. https://www.neilshyminsky.com/ Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
This one feels extra close to home. As Thanksgiving rolls in, Ryan and I cozy up to talk about dating after divorce, the quiet that follows shared holidays, and what it's really like to rebuild love in your 40s. From last year's lonely Thanksgiving to navigating real-life quirks, triggers, blended-family chaos, and leaving the honeymoon phase behind, we go there. Honestly, it's some of our most real conversations yet.✨ We talked about:Dating after divorce when you've “lived a lot”Navigating the quiet, the loneliness & the healingWhat shifting out of the honeymoon phase really feels likeHow we communicate through triggers, tension & growthThe messy, beautiful truth about modern relationshipsIf this resonates, please like, comment, subscribe, and share. It helps our little community grow. ❤️Watch the full episode on YouTube here or head to https://www.youtube.com/@RealHeidiPowell.Here are the key moments from the episode:0:00 Why Dating After Divorce Feels So Different3:12 The Thanksgiving That Broke Me Open6:01 Why We Stay in Unhealthy Relationships9:18 The Side of Me Most People Never See12:27 Why I Crave Deep, Real Connection15:06 Feeling “Different” My Whole Life18:10 When Someone Finally Sees the Real You21:05 The DM I Never Replied To24:08 Why This Relationship Feels Different27:01 Leaving the Honeymoon Phase30:22 The Miscommunication That Taught Us a Lot33:42 How We Process Emotions So Differently36:29 Why Real Life Feels Like a Milestone39:41 The Hardest Part of Dating After Divorce42:53 What Healthy Conflict Really Looks Like46:06 Choosing Your Hard in Relationships49:40 Why Communication Matters More Than Chemistry53:11 What Surprised Us About Social Media56:44 The Emotional Crash After Big Life Events1:00:29 When Stress Shows Up in Your Relationship1:03:52 How Honest Talks Build Real Safety1:07:10 Understanding Your Triggers in Love1:10:31 Fighting with Each Other, Not Against Each Other1:13:02 When Speaking Up Helps and When It Doesn't1:16:15 What Healthy Love Looks Like NowConnect with Heidi:Website: https://heidipowell.net/ Email: podcast@heidipowell.net Instagram: @realheidipowellFacebook: Heidi PowellYouTube: @RealHeidiPowellTrain with Heidi on her Show Up App: https://www.showupfit.app/
Send us a textIn this episode I discuss how I handle when good memories about my marriage/old life surface. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily brings back holistic psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons for live caller coaching sessions that'll change how you think about sex and dating. A woman married 10 years whose husband won't explore sexually at all—why "I want to try new things" might sound like "what we're doing isn't good enough" to a partner raised in a conservative home. What "deepthroating" really represents when your partner grew up being told sex was wrong—and the outside-the-bedroom conversation they need to have before anything changes in bed. A woman terrified about her first date after a breakup because she thinks the sex will be "unwilling"—the breathwork practice that gets you out of your anxious mind and into your confident body. Why a first date is just a "warm-up" to see if you're having fun, not an audition for marriage—and how to tell if someone's worth seeing naked just by watching how they treat wait staff. The reframe that takes all the pressure off dating: ditch the checklist, get present in your body, and remember you're the gatekeeper with all the power. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:11 - Growing Up Conservative: How Family Beliefs Kill Your Sex Life 6:39 - The Compliment Sandwich: How to Ask for What You Want 9:46 - Antidepressants Killed Our Sex Life: Now What? 12:44 - Medical Issues vs. Sexual Needs: Finding Balance 16:03 - The Power of Hope: Changing Your Sexual Dynamic Instantly 19:03 - Beyond Penetration: Alternative Ways to Stay Connected 24:57 - Dating After Great Sex: Overcoming Fear of Bad Partners 29:44 - First Date Anxiety: Embodiment Practice Before Going Out 34:47 - Stop Performing on Dates: Be Your Authentic Self Instead
Send us a textIn this episode I discuss how to handle a high conflict co-parent and how to deal with Parental Alienation with Author Lisa Johnson.https://beentheregotout.com/ Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
Most guys in sexless marriages miss the most important piece of the puzzle. They think if they just get their wife to “want it” again, everything will go back to normal. But what if the truth goes all the way back to the beginning — before the wedding, before the kids — to whether the two of you were even matched in the first place?In this episode, I break down one of the biggest overlooked truths about dead bedrooms. We'll talk about:Why early sexual chemistry predicts long-term compatibilityWhy “good but not great” in your 20s often turns into “nonexistent” in your 30sThe biological reality of desire, novelty, and Mother Nature's cruel trickWhat it really means when your wife seems disinterested now but sexual after divorceHow to avoid this mistake in your next relationshipIf this topic hits home, check out The Dead Bedroom Fix at https://deadbedroomfix.com — and join our private men's community, The Brotherhood, at https://helpformen.com/join.
Send us a text When the dust settles after divorce, the urge to find comfort in someone new can feel irresistible. But often, that new relationship is a false positive — it feels like healing when it's really just distraction. In this episode, I explorewhy we rush into love too soon, the hidden costs of bypassing our own healing, and how to rebuild yourself before you rebuild with someone else. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
If the thought of swiping again makes you want to throw your phone across the room, this conversation is for you. In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm joined by Erica McKay—modern-day matchmaker, relationship realist, and founder of Erica Suzanne Matchmaking—for an honest and surprisingly uplifting convo on what dating after divorce really looks like. We talk about how to date with more intention (and way less pressure), why it's essential to focus on how you want to feel in your next relationship, and the power of doing the inner work before you hand over your number. Whether you're cautiously dipping a toe into dating apps or completely swearing them off, this episode will help you date slower, date smarter, and maybe even feel excited about love again. Resources Mentioned: The Confident Coach Certification Waitlist is the ONLY certification specifically for divorced moms who want overcome imposter syndrome and finally feel legit: https://products.ambershaw.com/certification Join the waitlist for ReNewU: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist Higher Infrared Sauna Blanket use code AMBER 15: https://higherdose.com/products/infrared-sauna-blanket What We Discuss: 05:00 Mistakes to avoid when rejoining dating apps 08:08 Erica's story: From divorce to finding real love again 11:22 Building a coaching business as a divorced mom 12:45 Why you should visualize how you want to feel, not just what you want 19:12 Why inner work is essential before reentering the dating pool 22:04 The power of saying "yes" to new experiences 24:52 Navigating new relationships post-divorce 28:12 Dating questions to ask early—and which ones to avoid 35:54 How to date slower and deeper 40:42 Alcohol on first dates: yay or nay? 42:34 How matchmaking works (and when to consider it) 46:11 Introducing Young Lux for 22–38 year-olds Find more from Erica McKay: Website: https://www.ericasuzanne.com/ Find more from Amber Shaw: Instagram: @msambershaw Website: ambershaw.com
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In this special episode, I read the introduction to my latest book, REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man. This book is the culmination of over a decade of working with men—through coaching, the Brotherhood community, and my other books. REBUILD is for every man who's been knocked down by life—divorce, heartbreak, failure—and is ready to rise again stronger, wiser, and more grounded.If you've ever felt lost or unsure of your next step, this episode is the perfect place to start.
Rediscovering yourself after divorce—especially during midlife and menopause—can feel overwhelming. When decades of partnership end, you're left asking: Who am I now? What do I really want? And if you're thinking about dating again, how do you navigate desire, boundaries, and intimacy in this completely new chapter?Dr. Jasmonae Joyriel, licensed clinical psychologist and founder of Ignite Anew, helps high-performing individuals and couples transform their relationships, friendships, and sex lives. A Spelman alumna with advanced degrees from Northwestern University and the University of Denver, she brings nearly a decade of experience across mental health centers, VA hospitals, and private practice. Specializing in how past experiences shape present needs, Dr. Joyriel offers a holistic, evidence-based, and embodied approach that goes beyond mindset to create mind-health. She delivers personalized therapy, couples work, and immersive retreats that empower clients to navigate sex, dating, friendships, and personal growth with depth and lasting fulfillment.Highlights from our discussion include:Before entering the dating world, reconnect with who you are now—not who you were in your twenties or thirties. Explore what brings you to life, revisit shelved dreams, and give yourself permission to want what you truly desire. If you don't know how to date yourself, you can't authentically date someone else.You're ready when you're dating because it adds to your life (not anchors it), when you've identified your contribution to past relationship dynamics, and when you can articulate how you want to date—casually, for commitment, or somewhere in between. Dating should feel like "sprinkles on top," not the whole pie.Your values have likely evolved since your last relationship. Clarify what matters now: What does generosity look like in a partner? What inspires you versus deprives you? Defining these before dating ensures your compass points north every time.Menopause, body changes, and shifting desire call for a more expansive "erotic pantry." Move beyond penetrative sex to include sensual massage, kissing, touch, and varied forms of pleasure. Consent isn't binary—it's created fresh each time by asking, "What do I want to do today?"Have adult conversations about sexual health, testing, and relationship structures within the first few dates. Discuss these topics in non-sexual settings (over coffee, during a walk) so decisions aren't made in heated moments. Your safety and agency matter, and the right partner will respect that.CONNECT WITH DR JASMONAE JOYRIEL:WebsiteInstagramLinkedInCONNECT WITH GABRIELLA ESPINOSA:InstagramLinkedInWork with Gabriella! The information shared on Pleasure in the Pause is for educational and informational purposes onGo to https://www.gabriellaespinosa.com/ to book a call.Full episodes on YouTube. The information shared on Pleasure in the Pause is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider before making any decisions about your health or treatment. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the host or Pleasure in the Pause.
Send us a textIn this episode I talk about the importance of building a tribe/community to help you get through your Divorce. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
“There's a freedom in not auditioning for your life anymore.”What happens when you're no longer living by someone else's playbook and finally start telling your own story? This week on Hotter Than Ever, we sit down with Julie Golden, reality TV producer, screenwriter, stand-up comedian, and creator of The Big D, a heart-forward and hilarious dating show for divorced singles.Julie opens up about her own midlife transformation: from shaping other people's stories in Hollywood to taking the mic and telling her own. She shares how grief, motherhood, and divorce led her to comedy, how she stopped waiting for permission to create, and why midlife is the most creatively and emotionally free chapter yet. Join us, as we dig into:What it means to stop “auditioning for your life” and finally choose yourself at work, in love, and in every creative pursuitHow building community and producing her own shows helped Julie reclaim her voice, empower other women, and make comedy a space for healing and honestyWhy authenticity beats approval every time and how midlife can be the most creative, connected, and joyful chapter yetWhat really goes on behind the scenes in reality television and how empathy can change everythingHow the hormonal shifts of midlife actually liberate women from people-pleasing and open the door to deeper self-trustWhy post-divorce dating isn't about looking for someone to “complete” you, but finding someone who's additiveOUR GUEST: Julie Golden is a former film executive turned screenwriter, reality TV producer, and stand-up comic whose career has spanned every corner of storytelling. Drawing on her love of comedy, matchmaking, and human behavior, she created The Big D, a heart-forward comedy dating show for divorced singles that's as much about laughter and connection as it is about second chances. A single, divorced mom herself, Julie brings authenticity, empathy, and humor to everything she creates, building a community where people can show up as they are, one laugh (and awkward flirt) at a time.Want more Julie? Learn more about “The Big D” at https://www.thebigddatingshow.com/ and follow her and her work on Instagram at @juliegoldengirlFind episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!
Send us a textIn this episode I speak with Attorney Kirk Stange about all things, custody. We also touch on false allegations and he gives his perspective on the importance of mindset. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com
A tender, practical look at life after divorce: how to co‑parent without drama, date with intention as a single parent, and rebuild a calm family system where kids feel safe and seen. Amber shares the habits, boundaries, and mindset shifts that turned conflict into cooperation.• early marriage, cross‑state moves, new parent stress• choosing divorce to model a healthy life for children• co‑parenting routines that remove contention• group texting with ex and step‑parent for transparency• “kids‑only” communication and gray rocking• dating with intention and keeping a values list• pacing introductions and honoring kids' timelines• therapy, accountability friends, and honest feedback• books that support self‑trust and discernment• hard conversations as the key to real connectionHey, do us a favor and take a second to subscribe to our podcast and the Utah Marriage Commission YouTube channel at Utah Marriage Commission, where you can watch this and every episode of the showBe sure to smash the like button, leave a comment, and share this episode with a friendYou can also follow and interact with us on Instagram at StrongerMarriageWife and Facebook at Stronger MarriageIf you want even more resources to improve your marriage or relationship connection, visit strongermarriage.org where you'll find free workshops, e-courses, in-depth webinars, relationship surveys, and moreVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/
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In this episode of the Wise Divine Women podcast, host Dana Irvine speaks with Joni Woods, an author and former youth pastor, about her journey through divorce, childhood trauma, and the process of writing her memoir, 'Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever.' Joni shares her experiences of navigating life after divorce, the importance of emotional intelligence, and the lessons learned from her past. She emphasizes the need for self-reflection, accountability, and grace in overcoming challenges. Joni also discusses her vision for the future, including speaking engagements and helping others through coaching.In practice, as a Human Connection and Culture Specialist, Joni brings a dynamic blend of experience in relationship development, conflict resolution, and group dynamics. Through work as a speaker and author, Joni helps individuals and organizations deepen their understanding of human behavior, build authentic relationships, and foster emotionally intelligent cultures. With a holistic, people-first approach, she is passionate about guiding others through the complexities of connection—with clarity, compassion, and purpose.More about Joni WoodsTakeawaysIt took me about eight years to get this in actual physical form.I didn't want my past to define me.I want you to have two happy homes.Grace is the thing that we live on.I learned a lot of painful church lessons.I spent more time in marriage counseling than being married.You have to listen for those little things.Emotional intelligence makes us better.Your situation doesn't have to define you.I hope to help women in the same situation.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Joni Woods and Her Journey03:00 The Process of Writing 'Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever'05:55 Navigating Divorce as a Former Youth Pastor09:02 Childhood Trauma and Its Impact on Relationships12:06 The Lessons Learned from Marriage Counseling15:02 Dating After Divorce and Discovering True Love18:03 The Vision for the Future and Speaking Engagements20:56 Co-Parenting and Emotional Intelligence24:01 Wisdom for Women Facing Divorce and Trauma27:11 The Importance of Self-Reflection and Accountability29:54 Building a Coaching Practice and Helping Others
Lindsay Perrin is back on Dear Bianca for the third time, and this one has it all. We go deep into her journey as a surrogate for two gay dads in NYC—from the very beginning to postpartum and everything in between. She opens up about what it was like being pregnant without a partner, how it compared to her pregnancies with her two kids, and the real highs and lows she faced along the way. Of course, we couldn't skip the fun stuff: Lindsay tells me about making a Hinge profile while pregnant (yes, really), what dating was like during that time, and what she's actually looking for in a partner now. Younger women might still be her thing… but she also admits she has a thing for Kris Jenner post-surgery LOL. And we wrap up by chatting about her 3rd annual NYC Lesbian Bar Crawl and what caused Lindsay and I had a little tiff that we hash out live on the mic. So grab your headphones, get comfy, and let's dive in. If you love Dear Bianca, please follow, rate and review the podcast — it seriously helps the show grow. Follow Bianca on Instagram: @thedearbianca Follow Lindsay on Instagram: @laperrin10 Story idea or topic you want me to cover? Email me: dearbiancapodcast@gmail.com xx B
In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I sit down with Marc Azoulay, psychotherapist and founder of Men's Therapy Online, for a raw and powerful conversation about the struggles men face during and after divorce. Too often, men are left to navigate their grief alone—raised to be stoic, self-sufficient, and emotionally guarded. But when divorce shatters their world, the quiet reckoning sets in. Identity collapses. Numbness and rage surface. Disbelief lingers. Many men find themselves staring at the wreckage of what used to be, barely recognizing who they are anymore. Marc and I explore what it really takes for men to move through this kind of pain and begin rebuilding their lives. We talk about the collapse of identity after divorce, the hidden cost of traditional masculinity, and why community, mentorship, and ritual are essential for healing. Marc offers practical guidance for finding structure and meaning again, navigating co-parenting while hurting, and stepping back into dating without the masks that keep men disconnected from their truth. He also shares the deeper practices that help men reclaim themselves and rise stronger—on their terms. Marc Azoulay, LPC, LAC, CGP, ACS, is the founder of Men's Therapy Online, a groundbreaking healing community that combines psychoanalysis, neuroscience, and Buddhism. His work—whether through group counseling, individual therapy, or wilderness retreats—creates safe spaces where men can confront their grief, break down unconscious barriers, and discover the man they were always meant to be. If you are a man navigating the grief of divorce and searching for clarity, brotherhood, and strength, this episode will offer both insight and a path forward. Connect with Marc: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@menstherapyonline Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/menstherapyonline LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcmazoulay/ MTO LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/menstherapyonline Twitter: https://twitter.com/marcmazoulay Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mens.therapy.online/ Website: https://menstherapy.online Blog mentioned in podcast: https://menstherapy.online/blog/rebuilding-after-divorce-guide/ Men's Therapy Podcast: https://menstherapy.online/mens-therapy-podcast/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/e-book-sign-up
I'm excited to welcome back Jennie Young to the podcast. Jennie is here to talk about dating after divorce and how to protect yourself from getting tangled in the patterns you worked so hard to get yourself out of. She's the creator of the Burned Haystack Dating Method — a sharp and fiercely feminist approach to spotting danger early in the dating process, and the author of the upcoming book Burn the Haystack In our conversation, Jennie and I dig into the realities of dating after divorce: from spotting danger in seemingly “safe” profiles to challenging the patriarchal scripts that keep women waiting to be chosen. Plus, we talk about shifting into the seat of choice, what it looks like to feel genuinely comfortable being single, and how these changes ripple out into raising kids with healthier expectations. ✨ Podcast episodes are available in two formats - audio and video! If you'd like to watch the video version of this episode, you can find it here. What you'll hear about in this episode: Jennie shares her origin story and the ah-ha moment that led to creating The Burned Haystack Dating Method (2:31) The feminist philosophy behind Burned Haystack and how it flips the traditional “pick me” script (5:33) Why green flags can actually be red flags in disguise: from love bombing to performative sensitivity (15:25) The importance of being comfortable (and even happy) being single before re-entering dating (32:44) What the “extinction burst” in the toxic manosphere means, and why starving it of attention is essential (35:09) How to shift the messaging for our kids so they grow up with healthier expectations and values (42:39) Learn more about Jennie Young: Jennie Young is the creator of Burned Haystack Dating Method, a dating method grounded in applied rhetoric and feminist praxis. It is designed to combat many of the challenges of dating in a market that is too frequently mediated by misogynistic and patriarchal structures. She holds a Ph.D. in rhetoric and discourse studies from Case Western Reserve University and a satire writing certificate from Second City Chicago. Her work has been published in McSweeney's, Ms. Magazine, HuffPost, and others and covered by major media outlets such as The New York Times, Newsweek, RollingStone, and others. Resources & Links: ALL NEW: The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are Now Available on YouTube! Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate The Divorce Survival Guide Resource BundlePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveKate on InstagramKate on FacebookKate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch Jennie's book Burn the HaystackJennie's Substack, Burned HaystackJennie's website Jennie's Facebook Group Jennie on Instagram Episode 317: Burned Haystack Dating Method with Jennie Young Episode 325: They Helped Me Find Love—Now They're Interviewing Me About It! With Alyssa Dineen and Jennie Young =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. =================== Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-336-breaking-patterns-choosing-power-dating-after-divorce-with-jennie-young/
Stepping back into the dating world after a long marriage and painful divorce can feel overwhelming. The landscape has changed, your confidence may feel shaky, and it's easy to carry old fears and insecurities with you. But what if dating after divorce wasn't about pressure or “finding the one”? What if it was an invitation to rediscover yourself? In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I'm joined by the incredible Julie Ferman, a professional matchmaker and dating coach with over 30 years of experience, who has helped create more than 1,400 success story couples. Together, we explore how to uncover your blind spots—the hidden beliefs and patterns that quietly hold you back—and how to approach dating with curiosity, confidence, and intention. Julie shares practical insights like the three-date rule, the importance of authentic communication, and how to enjoy the process rather than fear it. What makes Julie's approach so powerful is that it's not just about meeting someone new—it's about transforming how you see yourself in relationships and in life. This is your opportunity to grow, heal, and reconnect with your own desires while opening the door to meaningful connections. If you're ready to approach dating after divorce with a fresh perspective, this episode will give you the clarity, tools, and encouragement to begin. Remember, this next chapter isn't only about finding love with someone else—it's about falling back in love with yourself. Connect with Julie: Links: https://linktr.ee/JulieFerman Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cupids-coach-with-julie-ferman/id1451684205 Register to get your FREE 30 Minute Consultation: https://julieferman.com/join/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/e-book-sign-up