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A podcast about marriage, family, and life.

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    • Oct 24, 2023 LATEST EPISODE
    • monthly NEW EPISODES
    • 1h 8m AVG DURATION
    • 89 EPISODES


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    The One Where We Take a Break

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2023


    Waxing poetic about all things relationship-related has been the highlight of our collective week for nearly two years. But Phil's got a fancy new job and Jenna's launching a new book and Diane's sick of trying to wrangle the crew... so we decided to take a little break. It's not you, it's us. And it's not forever, we practically promise. Feel free to revisit your favorite past episodes as often as you'd like until we can get the HMTOP train back on the tracks. Until then, thanks for tuning in. Sincerely. Your time is precious and choosing to spend it with us means everything.

    The One With Sophie

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2023 73:18


    If you find yourself worried about the future of today's youth, Jenna's oldest daughter might just change your mind. Wise, witty, warm, and way more mature than her 20 years, Sophie shares a uniquely Gen Z take on mating, marriage and more. If you don't know what it means to be "left on opened" or you wonder what the next generation thinks of til-death-do-us-part, you won't want to miss this one.

    The One About Seven Magical Minutes

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 17, 2023 54:36


    All couples fight. Only some of them do it successfully and actually move forward happily afterward. What sets the ones who can brush off a spat apart from the grudge-holders? Turns out, there's a seven-minute exercise research shows can make you both happier overall--and not just in the minutes after you bicker. This is one episode you don't want to miss.

    The One About Surviving Summer with Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2023 59:46


    Summer brings with it some pros...like having more time with the kids, and some cons...like having more time with the kids! Here are some new and old ways to make the most of summer and stay sane.

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    The One About How to Survive Summer with the Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2023 57:34


    Summer brings with it some pros...like having more time with the kids, and some cons...like having more time with the kids! Here are some new and old ways to make the most of summer and stay sane!

    The One About Weekend Marriages

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2023 61:21


    Apparently millennials are even more narcissistic than we ever thought: to wit, enter the weekend marriage, a supposed trend where couples exist separately during the week (sometimes in the same house, but preparing their own meals and coming and going as they please) and then live like a unit on the weekends. Is this mad drive to preserve independence a sign of healthy boundary setting--or is it a self-absorbed way of avoiding the sacrifice and compromise inherent to marriage? As you'd imagine, we have lots of thoughts. (Note: This week's catch-up intro is longer than most; the day's topic starts around the 26-minute mark. Sorry, Carol! Spoiler: Jenna cries. Again.)

    The One About What Men Really Want for Father's Day

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2023 57:04


    How do you show your dude your appreciation on the daddy of all Hallmark holidays? Tune in for some ideas (and one hilariously major misunderatanding among the hosts).

    The One About Improving Intimacy

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2023 63:43


    Sometimes we have to wonder who the heck is coming up with some of the "relationship wisdom" on the internet. From talking about what's making you miserable to reminiscing about how great your love lives used to be, bad advice abounds out there. Don't worry. We're here to set the record straight.

    The One Where Phil Gets Preachy

    Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2023


    Pareting, spending, snorinng, social media use, thermostat settings, division of household labor, the direction the toilet paper comes off the roll: there are untold things married couples strive to have (and keep) in alignment. So what happens if your respective beliefs aroud one of life's biggest issues--religion and faith--aren't in sync--or fall out of it? As always, we have some thoughts.

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    The One About Anger Languages

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2023 68:01


    Almost everyone has a default reaction when they're frustrated or annoyed. Some people slam doors (ahem), others shut down, and still others start plotting immediate revenge against the perceived perpetrator. Knowing your own (and your partner's) knee-jerk reaction to discord can pave the way for swifter, smoother resolution. Really.

    The One About the Seven Year Itch

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2023


    Popular marriage folklore (and at least one classic movie) would have you believe that droves of couples start to feel restless, bored, or downright miserable right around the marital seven-year mark. But is that old seven year itch a documented, scientific thing? And if so, is there anything we can do to to prevent it? Tune in for a rock-solid plan for protecting your relationship from this infamous speed bump.

    The One About Marriage-Saving Phrases

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2023 62:33


    A Harvard-trained psychologist has identified nine key phrases that are virtually guaranteed to make your marriage happier than most. (Spoiler: "I'm sorry" may be on there. #SorryNotSorry) Tune in for a crash course in epic couple communication.

    The One About Venting

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2023 60:35


    Some people believe marital issues should be the exclusive domain of husband and wife; others feel that having a sound ear to bend can help you work through issues swiftly and successfully. Tune in to find out which camp the HMTOP crew is in.

    The One About Negativity

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2023 55:50


    Let's face it: some people have glasses that are half-empty; others' cups are routinely overflowing. We're not saying everyone needs to morph into Pollyanna in order to be happy in life, but changing your mindset can absolutely change your marriage. We're positive you're going to love this episode. (Do you see what we did there?)

    The One About Passive Men

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2023


    Is Phil's "care less" approach to marriage backfiring out there? This week, we tackle apathetic partners; the ones who never initiate or follow through with plans, seem indifferent to your needs and are reactive rather than proactive. It's a great time (really)!

    The One With the Man Cold

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2023 60:51


    Over time, bad habits can creep into the best of relationships. Are you guilty of any these potentially harmful behaviors? Tune in for the HMTOP take on compatibility, patience and realistic relationship expectations.

    The Questions Married Couples Should Ask

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2023 60:20


    We're not saying talking to your spouse is a bad idea, ever. But should you go in there probing for problems? One expert apparently things you should--by asking your partner questions like, "If you could change two things about me, what would they be?" and "Is your love for me growing stronger?" Team HMTOP vehemently disagrees--but fear not. We've got alternative talking points for you that can and will help you feel closer.

    The One About Marriage Vs. Money

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2023


    Not until you graduate. Not until you both have jobs. Not until you're earning XYZ a year. Not until you have XYZ in the bank. Once upon a time, finding a mate and starting a family were noble life goals; now they seem to have taken a far back seat to chasing the almighty dollar. This week, team HMTOP talks life, love, careers, and kids - and how they all fit into the grand plan.

    The One About Make-up Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2023


    Everyone's heard about make-up sex, and some folks (namely, men) are all for it. But is it always the best way to recover from a spat? According to experts, it depends. Here's how to make sure you're using make-up sex properly--and for the mutual best benefit. (Don't worry guys, you'll still get to have it!)

    The One About Couples Counseling

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2023 60:05


    There are lots of reasons folks may be less than excited to sign up for couples counseling: dealing with uncomfortable feelings, digging up your ugly skeletons, and sobbing in front of a stranger come quickly to mind. But certain experts say there are actually seven myths (read: they're not true!) that keep people from seeking professional marital help. Turn in for our take.

    The One About Surviving New Parenthood

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2023 62:34


    It's taxing enough adjusting to being someone's spouse--now you're a very tiny someone's parent! For some crazy reason, no one prepares new parents for the very real fact that when you have a baby, roughly every single aspect of your world gets rocked--including the marriage that got you into this mess in the first place. This week team HMTOP tackles tips for staying connected to your partner during this magical but also potentially trying time.

    The One About Valentine's Day

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2023


    To some people, Valentine's Day is the most romantic day of the year. To others, it's one layer beneath the pit of hell. Some experts even insist it can be downright toxic. Whichever side of the fence you're on, here's how to navigate the mother of all Hallmark holidays with your sanity (and relationship) intact.

    The One About That One Gesture

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2023


    This week's hodgepodge includes that guy who's annoyed because his wife is annoyed, free fast food for a year, and the one simple, seemingly minor gesture that supposedly spells marital doom. (For folks who like to get straight to the meat of the 'cast, feel free to fast forward to the 25 minute mark.) *This podcast may or may not be sponsored by #chik-fil-a

    The One about Navigating Newlywedded Spats

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2023


    Jenna wrote a book titled, "If It Was Easy, They'd Call the Whole Bleeping Thing a Honeymoon," for a reason: That blissfully blind newlywed stage doesn't last forever. And when the blush wears off, some folks are woefully unprepared for the reality of marriage. Today we discuss some landmines that might be lurking beneath your fledgling union--and how to sidestep them.

    The One with About Post-Wedding Surprises

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2023 74:59


    "For richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, for better or for... what on earth?" Let's face it, when we're dating and even engaged, everyone's on their best behavior. Which means sometimes, when the wedding dust has settled, folks start to feel comfortable enough to let it all hang out. This can be sweetly endearing--or downright disgusting. If nothing else, listening to the weird things someone else's spouse is doing is likely to make you feel better about your own. You're welcome.

    The One That Tackles Happy Wife Happy Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2023


    From a quasi-controversial piece titled "Happy Wife, Happy Life and other misleading advice," this week the HMTOP team tackles another online bit of lousy counsel (and of course, offer our superior guidance). TODAY'S TANGENT bonus: How to protect yourself from your shady robotic vaccuum. For real.

    The One about That Creepy Couple

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2023 59:06


    The premise is beyond awkward: Two couples go out to dinner, and one of them spends the entire meal sharing their best, most scintillating sex tips. Well, supposedly it happened--and naturally, HMTOP has some thoughts.

    The One about Reinventing Your Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2023 63:41


    New Year's resolutions may get a bad rap (namely because something like 99.9% of people break them in a matter of days), but that doesn't mean you can't start off a shiny new year with some goals or intentions for your marriage. Tune in for some ideas you might just like. (Yes guys, even you.)

    The One about That One Magical Week

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 26, 2022 62:47


    For many of us, the week between Christmas and New Years means lots of food, family, and flexibility. (Oh and apparently, filth--and you're fine with it. #NotJenna) Unless you're a pilot or ER surgeon or have some other important, life-or-death job, feel free to sit back, slack off and binge-listen to us all week.

    The One with Holiday Survival Tips

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2022 64:34


    Between the shopping and wrapping and cooking and cleaning and endless decking of halls, it's easy to forget the reason for the season. In this episode, the jolly HMTOP elves identify the top holiday landmines and how couples can avoid them.

    The One about Boundaries

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2022


    From slightly-annoying Cousin Chrissie who refuses to discipline her spawn and has never rinsed a plate in your presence to drunk Uncle Bob who wants to take your toddlers joy-riding after downing a six pack, family gatherings can quickly turn into marital minefields. Laying some sanity-saving ground rules in advance can help put the merry back in your next family gathering.

    The One With a Big Reality Check

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2022


    What started with an article about respect in marriage turned into a bigger conversation about emotional intelligence, free will, values, expectations, acceptance, belief systems and much more. Of course, we laugh a lot, too. If you listen to ONE episode this week/month/year, you might want to make it this one.

    The One about Control

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2022


    We all need to be needed... but sometimes "helping" your partner looks (and feels) a lot like a power play. Today's advice features tricks for being thoughtful and supportive without tiptoeing into parenting territory.

    The One about Toxic Apologies

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2022


    When two people commit to living together for life, there will inevitably come a day when somebody's little feelings get hurt. It turns out "I'm sorry" can range from slightly empty to downright toxic. In this episode, we discuss alternatives to the throwaway two-word standby.

    The One About Fexting

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2022


    You know how easy it is to fire off an angry text to your partner? Newsflash: It's almost as easy NOT to send it. It's a whole lot smarter, too. Here's why fighting via text (aka fexting) is never a good idea.

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    The One Where We Tackle Rough Patches

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2022


    Even the happiest marriage will hit an occasional hiccup. You may find yourself feeling hurt, lonely, disappointed, overwhelmed, underappreciated, or some combination of the above. The good news: It's perfectly normal. The better news: We can help. Tune in to this week's episode for HMTOP's top coping tips.

    The One Where HMTOP Turns One!

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2022


    In honor of Halloween, we cover why some people think marriage is "scary AF" (cheating spouses! boring bedroom antics! FOMO!) and cover a random list of things couples allegedly argue about on the spookiest of all days. Tune in for a frighteningly fun episode.

    The One Where We Expose the Worst Parents Ever

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2022 58:19


    It's no secret that kids can complicate virtually any situation. Therefore, it should come as no surprise that couples across the globe have taken to the secret confession site Whisper to blame their babes for their miserable marriages. Tune in for a HMTOP-style smackdown.

    The One about Forgiveness

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2022 60:18


    How do you move past disappointment, anger or betrayal? More importantly, should you? This week, the HMTOP team debates the path to peace in the aftermath of marital hiccups, and Phil shares his simple, airtight trick to finding forgiveness in your heart.

    The One Where We DEMAND Respect

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2022


    Respect is a lot like love: we all want it, it's difficult to define, and the only way to get it is to give it first. In this week's episode, we take a deep dive into Aretha Franklin's favorite topic. (Bonus: Phil mansplains his simple, unique method for dealing with stress! You'll definitely want to hear it.)

    The One About Gray Divorce

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2022


    The good news: divorce rates in general are on the decline. The bad news: That happy statistic doesn't include older couples. In fact, split-ups in the over-fifty crowd doubled between 1990 and 2010, not just in the US but around the world. Here's why a handful of "experts" think this is, and what HMTOP thinks of these "expert" analyses.

    The One Where We Define Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2022


    Marriage is many things (amazing, challenging, trying, rewarding); it's also not lots of things (easy, predictable, self-sustaining, boring). This week the HMTOP team breaks down happily ever after into its simplest parts and pieces. As always, hilarity ensues.

    The One About Keeping Secrets

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2022


    From a secret stash of chocolate to donating some change to charity under the radar, apparently lots of us are keeping a few (harmless, baby) skeletons in our marital closets. Researchers say this actually isn't a bad thing--as long as you keep a few important considerations in mind. Tune in for tips delivered in quintessential HMTOP style.

    The One With Phil's Fave Topic Again

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2022 61:10


    How often should you be doing it? How often is everyone else doing it? Is more necessarily more when it comes to sex? This week's podcast takes a deep dive into the mother of all biblical acts. Bonus topics: Jenna reveals exactly how warped her criminal mind really is, and why you should never, ever hold an open house.

    The One About What Husbands Hate

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2022


    Here's a newsflash: Living with another person day in and day out for the rest of ever can be a challenge. Invariably, we will all do things that bug our spouses. Today, the HMTOP trio tackles the guys' top marital peeves. (Don't worry, the wives get to weigh in, too.) Bonus: Jenna cries in the first five minutes of the podcast! Cut her some slack; her daughter is leaving for college an hour after recording.

    The One With Tips for Lasting Happiness

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2022


    With age (and time) comes wisdom. Today's topic comes from a writer who has compiled her top tips for having a thriving marriage in retirement. Team HMTOP decided that you don't have to be old and unemployed to benefit from these timeless tidbits. From not keeping score or bringing up past offenses to keeping your cool when debating hot-button topics, this episode is packed with laughs and plenty of actionable advice.

    The One Where We Explore the Laugh/Love Connection

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2022


    It's a fact: You can't fight and laugh at the same time. (Mean-spirited laughter doesn't count FWIW.) Turns out, couples who chuckle together are closer, happier and possibly even feel friskier than their crabby, mirthless chums. Here's how to infuse more passion and playful fun into your marriage.

    The One With RomCom Lines that Don't Work

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 16, 2022


    Are mainstream movies to blame for unrealistic marriage expectations? Maybe! (We're not saying it's all Renee Zelweger's fault with that whole "you complete me" nonsense... but she's definitely part of the problem.) The fact is, despite what Hollywood would have you believe, happily ever after doesn't drop out of the sky after any single three-word phrase. Today the HMTOP experts weigh in on the cinematic love lines that may be setting the relationship bar impossibly high.

    The One Where We Debate the Idea of Love Drugs

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2022


    If you're an HMTOP regular, you already know Jenna's not a big fan of Pharma. One evolutionary anthropologist claims that love drugs may be the secret to mending a mediocre marriage, and insists that love is nothing more than a chemical cocktail of hormones, something we can easily replicate in pill form. Seems legit in theory… but… So. Many. Questions.

    The One Where We Normalize Bad Decisions

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2022 61:11


    The couple in question have been dating for a few months. They both have kids and exes and limited funds. They're not technically moving in together; they're buying a house together... and then splitting it into his-and-hers halves. You see, it's a tough housing market out there! Neither could afford the house solo. The kids think it's great! What could possibly go wrong?

    The One Where Phil Was Right

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2022


    Tons of young couples think their twenties are the time to be selfish: to have fun, build careers, make money, and explore the world. But many experts ask: why can't you do this as half of a married couple? In this episode, Team HMTOP explores some of the many benefits of trudging through the trenches together.

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