Life After Child Loss

In this episode, host Liene talks about closure and the misconceptions surrounding it. She explores why we believe we need closure to move on and why that's not necessarily true. Liene discusses the importance of understanding that closure doesn't always bring peace and that it's okay not to have all the answers. She offers guidance on how to create your own peace by choosing to be okay with not knowing, and how to move forward with your life while still honoring your grief. Ultimately, she reminds listeners that grief is a part of life and that it's okay to allow it to be a part of our emotional spectrum.If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com.Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. I'm always happy to hear from you!

In this podcast episode, Liene addresses the question of how grieving can eventually stop. She explains that while grief never completely goes away, it eventually becomes less dominant in our lives. In the early stages of grief, our brains have to update our mental maps to match our new reality, which takes time and experiences. Liene also shares her personal experience, saying that while she still experiences grief waves, she almost misses the early grief and encourages listeners to pay attention to and experience their own grief journey....If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com.Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. I'm always happy to hear from you!

Join me this week as I speak with Colin, a remarkable individual who has shown incredible resilience in the face of unimaginable loss. Despite the heart-wrenching experience of losing his two teenage children, Colin remains unwavering in his belief that there is still a life worth living after such tragedy. As he shares his story, you'll discover that this life is different from the one you might have envisioned, but it is no less meaningful. With acceptance comes the growth of a bigger heart and strength that is born of the deepest sorrow. Don't miss this inspiring conversation with Colin, a true testament to the power of the human spirit.Colin Campbell is a writer and director for theatre and film. He was nominated for an Academy Award for Seraglio, a short film he wrote and directed with his lovely and talented wife, Gail Lerner. He has taught Theater and/or Filmmaking at Chapman University, Loyola Marymount University, Cal Poly Pomona University, and to incarcerated youth through The Unusual Suspects. His one-person show titled "Grief: A One Man Shit Show " premiered at the Hollywood Fringe Festival, where it won a Best of Broadwater Award. He lives in Los Angeles and sometimes Joshua Tree.  Please check out Colin Campbell's new book: "Finding the Words: Working Through Profound Loss with Hope and Purpose."You can get in touch with Colin and find out more about him on IG @colincampbellwriter and his website https://colincampbellauthor.com/. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com.Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. I'm always happy to hear from you!

What do you think about yourself? Do you think of yourself as being capable and strong? Do you think of yourself as capable of creating the life you want? Or do you think of yourself as something less? Where are you limiting how you experience yourself based on the thoughts in your mind? What if you change them? You are not your thoughts. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com.Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. I'm always happy to hear from you!

Becoming the boss of your mind is magical. Learning to feel your emotions is life-changing. But there are days when you need to pause and meet yourself where you are with all the love, self-compassion, and zero judgment. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com.Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. I'm always happy to hear from you!

In the same way, as we fuel our bodies with food, we fuel our lives with the thoughts we are thinking. A glucose monitor helps to see how certain foods affect you.  How do we create similar awareness about how our thoughts impact us? If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com.Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. I'm always happy to hear from you!

Looking back at the death of our child, we often feel guilt and regret. We think we could have done better.We could have done something else. Blaming ourselves seems the right thing to do. But how is punishing you for what you seemingly did, is helping anyone? Letting go of the guilt might seem scary, but accepting "what is" is freeing, and focusing on the future you is the most loving and impactful thing you can do today. Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

Experience of loss comes with the loss of our identity or the sense of who we are. But the place never stays empty for long. So you replace it with a new identity. Does this new identity is something you want?I'll give you three steps to create the identity you want.Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

Today I want to talk about retraumatization. I'll talk about what it is and how to deal with it. We can't necessarily control when and if we will experience retraumatization events, but if we learn to recognize what is happening, we'll have an easier time processing it and not becoming overconsumed by it. Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

In my last episode, I said:- it's time to thrive this year and - grief and thriving are not mutually exclusive. I stand by what I said, and today I'll show you how to take your first three steps towards thriving. Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

We can't control what this year will bring us, but we can control the reality we create without thinking. Today I want to share with you a story my son told. I love how unique and adaptable children are. So much to learn from them. Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

This week I'm talking to my husband Eriks.  Talking about losing our son is not easy, but taking helps. Talking helps to process emotions. Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

Is it ok to want more from your life, or should you settle with what you have now and count your blessings? Wanting more doesn't mean you didn't love your child. Wanting more doesn't mean you don't love the things you currently have.Wanting more is about believing in yourself, your worth and your potential. Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

Holidays bring up a lot of emotion. We do feel more fragile and more vulnerable. We feel more of everything. Everything is heightened, and we have to deal not only with ourselves but also with other people. I've talked in previous episodes about how to manage yourself – how to lean into you to create the experience you want, and how to disrupt your patterns by asking you powerful questions, so this week I want to talk about other people – how to handle them.Ep"47 - Better Holidays After LossEp: 49 - The Right Questions For Better LifePlease sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

You know what you want, but keep doing the same as always. Sounds familiar? What keeps happening is - we slide back into autopilot and disconnect from ourselves and the things we truly want. How to disrupt the autopilot?Asking yourself powerful questions will wake you up from autopilot and make conscious what was unconscious before so that you can choose from your power.Here are five questions from Debbie Ford that might help you:-       Will this choice propel me forward, or will it keep me stuck in the past? -       Am I looking for what's right, or am I looking for what's wrong-       Am I standing in my own power, or am I trying to please another? -       Is this act of self-love, or is this act of self-sabotage?  -       Will this choice add to my life force, or will it rob me of my energy? Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

My oldest living son turned 7 - the age at which my son died. So naturally, reaching this milestone brought up a lot of worries and anxiety.  Listen to the episode to find out how to live with it. Please sign up for my emails at liene@coachliene.com. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

As we are approaching another holiday season, I wanted to share my thoughts on handling holidays better. Listen to the episode and find out the two most important questions to ask yourself to decide how to handle the holidays. Please sign up for my emails at liene@coach.com. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

Last week I talked about not wanting to feel it anymore, and I introduced two things you can do to help with your feelings - meditation and journaling. Today I'm sharing what I have learned from this practice. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

How often do you find yourself thinking - I just can't feel it anymore. It being, pain, sadness, stress. Unfortunately, there is no shortcut to escaping your feelings,  but there is a way to deal with them in a way you don't feel powerless. Listen to the episode and join me one week in doing two steps to learn to handle your emotions better. ...Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

If you ever wonder what's the point of getting better, listen to this episode where I talk about what's involved in getting better and the price of choosing to do the opposite. ...Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

There are always things we want to change in our lives. Right after the loss, we want to feel better. We want to enjoy things again, and we have difficulty believing it's possible. Change is possible, but it doesn't happen overnight when changing our beliefs and thought patterns. Instead, it's a gradual four-phase process that starts with a simple belief that it's possible. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

This week I'm talking to Annika. Annika is no stranger to loss.  She has lived through every form of pregnancy loss and also lost one of her twin boys at birth. Join in on our conversation on loss, joy and strength. You might not know the outcome, but you always have the choice of how you react to the events happening in your life. Always. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

So many of you are in pain and want help with your pain. I want to help with what you're going through in any way I can. Today, I'm sharing some pieces that I think can help you keep going and will give you some thoughts to consider as you go through your days. I'm here and want to help you in any way I can. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me on coachliene.com. 

Why is it important to talk about the inner critic? First, having a strong inner critic makes your grief experience even harder by constantly having to question whether you are doing it right. Second, constant questioning leaves no space for the grieving because of being on a continuous self-improvement hamster wheel. Listen to the episode to discover three steps to handle your inner critic. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me on coachliene.com. 

Every year there are certain calendar events. Some of these calendar and life events make us miss our children even more than usual. This is the time of the start of the new school year,  and it triggers so many of us. It's important to acknowledge that we have these feelings, recognize them and not feel guilty about them. Instead of "shoulding" yourself to be someone you are not capable of being, learn about four things that will help you get through this time and similar events in a way that supports your grief journey. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me on coachliene.com. 

I had a bad day and almost decided to skip recording my podcast this week. But after giving it some thought, I decided that instead of feeling bad about my bad day, I'm going to share with you - what it means to have a bad day and how to handle them. Sometimes choosing the momentary discomfort leads to getting over a bad day faster if it's done thoughtfully, leaning into the things you know about yourself and what makes you feel better. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me on coachliene.com. 

Why do some parents recover after losing their child and some don't? It's not because some parents are special.It's not because they didn't love their children. It all comes down to how you think about your life after the loss. Surprisingly, positive thinking is not helpful in recovery. Quite the contrary, it might get in the way. "Supersurvivors"https://www.bookdepository.com/Supersurvivors-David-B-Feldman/9780062267863...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me on coachliene.com. 

Am I supposed to be better by now? It is the question we often ask ourselves, especially in the context of other people moving on and us still feeling lost, sad and angry and not willing to continue without our child. We are bothered by this question because we also believe to some degree that we should be better by now, and we are not. Listen to this episode to learn how to find peace with this question and not be bothered by what other people think about our journey. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me on coachliene.com. 

Sometimes we go through periods when our anxiety feels so bad it seems we can't handle it. What's happening? Most likely, you experience your anxiety with your thoughts.  Come listen to this episode to understand what it means and how to get a handle on it. If you want to dig deeper into where anxiety comes from and what to do with it, listen to earlier Episodes 26 and 27 on Handling the Anxiety. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me on coachliene.com. 

It's only natural to feel out of control after you lose your child. The reason why you feel out of control isn't that you have less control now than you did before your child died. It's' because you are spending so much energy focused on what you can't' control, and so you lose the ability to see what you can control. You don't have to control everything to feel in control of your life. You just need to know the difference between what you can control and what you cannot and adjust your focus accordingly. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

When you lose your child, a massive hole opens up in you. What do you fill it with, and how? ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

We all wish we could turn back time to have our children back.Right? Do you think that can ever change? ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

This week I'm having a guest on my podcast - Sylvia. Sylvia lost her daughter right after the birth. Nevertheless, her daughter gave Sylvia an amazing gift. She taught Sylvia the importance of listening to herself and her own inner wisdom. What an amazing gift. If you want to get in touch with Sylvia, please email her at paolone.sylvia@gmail.com or follow her on Instagram @coachingwithcare (in French)....Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

We struggle with decision-making for many different reasons - lack of self-belief, doing it alone for the first time in a long time, brain fog. Whatever the reason you are struggling, it's possible to become better at making decisions when you understand three fundamentals of decision making:- there are no right or wrong decisions;- the worst that can happen is an emotion;- other people's opinions only can impact us when we don't have our own back. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

The first time I shared lessons I've learned after losing my son, I did it primarily to remind my brain how far I've come and what has changed.This time, I'm sharing my lessons because I have realized that things we are afraid of today might look different down the road. So I want to encourage you not to be afraid, try new things and experiment to get to know the current you.  References:Episode 4: Lessons I've learned since my son diedEpisode 25: When The Long-awaited Court Judgment Doesn't Make You Feel Better Anymore...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

What is the most important relationship in your life? One with your late child? With the remaining children and spouse? The family? Friends?They all are essential, but the most important relationship is the one you are having with yourself because this relationship will determine how your view the rest of your life. Losing a child hits your relationship with you hard. So I'm giving you one powerful tip to instantly improve your relationship with you. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.

So many of us experience anxiety after child loss. Let's talk about what it is and how to handle it. Welcome to part 2 of handling the anxiety, where I talk about how to live with it. Anxiety is part of many of our lives, especially after child loss. Let me show you how to live with it in a way that takes you forward. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com. 

So many of us experience anxiety after child loss. Let's talk about what it is and how to handle it. Welcome to part 1 of handling the anxiety. Tune in next week for part 2. ...Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me on coachliene.com. 

Today I received Supreme  Court's judgement in my son's case.I've been waiting for this judgement for 8 years. I used to hope that having someone sentenced would make me feel better, but receiving it made me feel nothing. ....The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Book a free 20min coaching session with me https://coachliene.as.me/free20min.  Well, it's not entirely free. In return, I will want your feedback on how was it. Search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside.

When you have something you can't get out of your head, it might be worth checking - is it a fact of life that I'm thinking about, or is it a story that I have created and keep on retelling myself daily, sometimes even hourly? Facts of life we can't change.However, we can decide about stories - to keep or to let them go....The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Book a free 20min coaching session with me https://coachliene.as.me/free20min.  Well, it's not entirely free. In return, I will want your feedback on how was it. Search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside.

How do you ever feel safe again after losing your child? There are no outside guarantees, and no one can make you feel safe. Safety can only be generated within. We do it with our thoughts and beliefs. But what if you can't believe in safety yet? You can turn into your body because you need to understand what you feel to understand how you feel. ...The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Book a free 20min coaching session with me https://coachliene.as.me/free20min. Search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside.

When life puts you on pause, you get a choice whether to argue with what is happening or to love harder what you already/still have. I believe that moving forward, building a life you love is much easier from a place of already loving what is, rather than from a place of lack. Listen to this episode to learn more about loving what is and why it is essential to love what is and how to do it....The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Just search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets right in there. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside.

"You are not thinking crazy enough" is a phrase stuck in my head. Are we even allowed to think crazy about our lives after child loss to allow for potential happiness and fulfilment? Is there any downside to thinking crazy about your future?Listen in to find out. ...The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Just search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets right in there. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside.

Let's talk about the possibility.What's possible for you after child loss? Life doesn't have to be over after you lose your child. Life doesn't have to be bleak and unhappy. You still have so much available to you despite the loss and because of the loss. How do we create possibility?What limits the possibility?Listen to the episode to find out....The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Just search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets right in there. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside.

Hello, back after an unplanned break. One might think that after having experienced child loss, there is nothing that can shatter you. Not true. Human life is full of twists and turns that create emotional turmoil and traumas. Nothing compares to losing a child, but you do experience traumas that need to be dealt with. It's important to know when you are not ok and be ok with not being ok. Pretending you are fine and engaging in avoidance deepens the misery. Find out 4 steps to use when you have a trauma response to deal with the trauma in a kind and healing way.The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Just search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets right in there. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside. 

Today is my son's 15th birthday. I celebrate his birthday by living and allowing the whole human experience - sadness, anger, worries, love, compassion and hope. The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Just search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets right in there. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside. 

Susan lost her son Matt almost 3 years ago to drug addiction when she least expected it. Join in on our conversation on surviving the loss, finding peace and unconditional love. Today Susan is working with parents of addicts helping them to take back control of their life, while understanding the addiction, learning to set boundaries, and loving their child unconditionally.You can reach Susan on SusanACoaching.com, on IG @susanacoaching and on Facebook just search for  SusanACoaching and Susan Achziger. The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Just search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets right in there. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside. 

Does trying to move forward since your child died seems hard?Are you afraid that if you move on with your life, it means you didn't love your child enough and that you are leaving them behind? This week I'll be sharing with you three painful beliefs that make it feel that moving forward is not the right and loving thing to do and how to start questioning these beliefs and get the freedom to live your life without regrets and fear. The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Just search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets right in there. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside. 

We all have guilty thoughts after we lose our children. Our friends and family tell us to stop feeling guilty. Should we follow their advice? Can we even stop feeling guilty? Do we want to stop feeling guilty? It's ok to have guilty thoughts. You can't stop guilty thoughts easily. But you don't have to act on them. When acted upon, guilt keeps you stuck and prevents you from grieving. The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Just search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets right in there. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside.

There are two things that every mom NEEDS after the child loss to move through the grief and build a new life after the loss. Doing these things will help you to:- move forward instead of staying stuck;- not to fall into destructive patterns;- not feel isolated from the world.  The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Just search "Life after child loss" on Facebook and join my group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss.  I do weekly live Q&A and share all my best tips and secrets right in there. Plus, there are bonuses from the podcast I'll post inside the group from time to time. I'll see you inside.

After the loss, there are days you don't want to do anything. But there are three things you should do every day no matter what. These three things will create a solid foundation for your road back from child loss. I did them. I stand by them. Try them and tell me what you think. If you like what you are hearing or have questions or comments, please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and more ways to connect on coachliene.com.Also, please join my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeafterachildloss - it's brand new, so you'll have a chance to build a community you want to be part of together with me.