Podcasts about Inner critic

In this episode, Julie Squires, a certified compassion fatigue specialist and master certified life coach, joined us again to offer advice on silencing your inner critic. Everyone has a voice in their head that is sometimes unkind. Squires said when we take that negative talk to heart, “it becomes what we believe.” Negative thoughts can create feelings that lead to stress and nervous system deregulation. Fortunately, there are tools and resources that can help.The Business of Practice podcast is brought to you by CareCredit.This information is shared solely for your convenience. You are urged to consult with your individual advisors with respect to any information presented.Business of Practice Podcast Hosts, Guests, and Links Episode 141:Hosts: Dr. Amy Grice and Carly Sisson (Digital Content Manager) of EquiManagement | Email Carly (csisson@equinenetwork.com) | Connect with Carly on LinkedInGuest: Julie SquiresPodcast Website: The Business of Practice

We can know we are loved and still not be able to let it in. The gap between believing something and feeling it in the body is not a faith problem — it's a physiological one.In this second conversation with Aundi Kolber, Michael and Julianne press deeper into what it actually takes to change: why being loved is not just a comfort but a biological prerequisite for growth, why asking someone to change before they feel safe is, in Aundi's word, cruel, and what it means to come home to yourself rather than keep fleeing from what hurts. Aundi also draws a line between the shame that keeps us stuck and the compassion that actually moves us — and why God is calling us home, not calling us out.This is a rebroadcast of one of the most-listened-to conversations in the show's ten-year history.Aundi Kolber is a licensed therapist and author of Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us Out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival and Into a Life of Connection and Joy.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Happy Mindful Monday Everyone! In this week's epsiode, our host Allie Brooke sits down with Guryan Tighe. Guryan  is an experienced leadership coach, communications strategist, and a self-described “Fear Technician.” She is the founder of FOURAGE, a company built on a deeply transformative belief: instead of trying to conquer or fight our fears, we need to understand and work with them to unlock true professional success and personal fulfillment. With a rich background serving as a Chief Culture Officer and workshop facilitator, Guryan has spent years enhancing interpersonal relationships, leadership development, and organizational change. She is a recurring speaker with the Stockholm School of Economics Executive MBA program and an executive coach at Dominican University of California's Institute for Leadership Studies. Her brand-new book, Unmasking Fear, was just released in August 2026, and today she is here to help us reorient our relationship with the things that scare us most. In this episode, they discuss; Irrational fears vs rational fears - How to teach your brain the difference to create the life YOU want How can we reframe the way we approach fear when it comes to our careers What to do when your self-critic hijacks your moment: Mastering the art of “nexting.” Why you should name your inner critic— it gives you the power to observe, engage, and disrupt What if imposter syndrome is actually a good thing? How To Connect w| Guryan Website: fourage.io LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/guryan-tighe/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unmaskingfear?igsh=MTNoZHMzeDltODAxdA%3D%3D   The Growth METHOD. FREE Membership◦ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1:1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ GROWTH MINDSET COACHING PROGRAMS!◦ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Application Form ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ What are the coaching sessions like?⁠⁠• Tailored weekly discussion questions and activities to spark introspection and self-discovery.• Guided reflections to help you delve deeper into your thoughts and feelings.• Thoughtfully facilitated sessions to provide maximum support, accountability, and growth.• Please apply for a FREE discovery call with me!• Allie's Socials• Instagram:@thegrowthmindsetgal• TikTok: @growthmindsetgal• Email: thegrowthmindsetgal@gmail.comLinks from the episode• Growth Mindset Gang ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Broadcast Channel⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠• Growth Mindset Gang ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠• Growth Mindset Gal ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠• Better Help Link: Save 10%SubstackDonate to GLOWIGloci 10% off Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome to The Dancing Housewife Podcast — where we explore the art, heart, sport, and science of ballroom dance. Whether you're a competitive dancer, social dancer, dance parent, pro-am student, or simply someone who loves the ballroom world, this podcast is designed to inspire, educate, and entertain.Each episode features conversations, stories, insights, and practical tips about ballroom dance, competition life, mindset, etiquette, confidence, growth, and finding joy both on and off the dance floor.From the beauty and artistry of movement… to the athleticism and discipline required to succeed… to the mindset and lifestyle behind the scenes… The Dancing Housewife Podcast celebrates every part of the ballroom journey.✨ Visit the blog for more ballroom dance inspiration, resources, and encouragement at thedancinghousewife.com

If you've been doing all the "right" things to grow, heal, or change your life—but still find yourself stuck in the same fears or emotional patterns—this episode is for you. I'm unpacking why your brain stays attached to old identities and familiar patterns, even when they're limiting your growth. We'll explore how the Inner Critic thrives on fear, hustle, and hypervigilance, why childhood survival strategies still shape your adult life, and how real transformation happens when you learn to separate from those conditioned patterns in real time. I also share why discomfort may actually be a sign that your growth is working. ✨ ✨ Tune in to learn how to retrain your nervous system toward possibility instead of danger, recognize the patterns that no longer belong to you, and begin leading your life from your Authentic Self instead of your past conditioning.   Your weekly reflection questions: What old survival pattern in your life still feels familiar, even though it's limiting your growth? Where are you interpreting discomfort as failure instead of evidence of transformation? What part of your identity is your current season of life asking you to leave behind?  

 "Your life is a garden and whatever you cultivate is what springs up, and if you don't pull out certain weeds, it ends up choking out the good stuff." My good friend, Dr. Word Smith is back for the third time. He flew into Philly, we sat down with zero agenda, and what came out was one of the most honest, layered conversations I've had on this show about relationships, childhood wounds, codependency, Buddhism, karma, and what it actually takes to change.We get into why intimate relationships are the sharpest mirror we have for our unprocessed childhood material, and why most of us don't even have language for what we didn't receive growing up, only a feeling that something was missing. Word shares his own journey through toxic shame, perfectionism, and self-criticism, and what it looked like to actually move through it over 25 years of real inner work. We also dive into Buddhism, the concept of seed planting, why just changing your thoughts doesn't work, and why the feelings and the body have to be part of the equation.Then we go deep into codependency, the slow, invisible way it builds, how it rewards you just enough to keep you stuck, and what it means to finally hit the wall where continuing the old way is no longer an option. We talk about the container: what it means to have a safe space where your body knows it can finally feel, and why that safety isn't a luxury, it's the actual mechanism of change. We close with a tease: we may be co-facilitating a retreat this fall. Stay tuned.TODAY'S HIGHLIGHTSWhy intimate relationships trigger us more than anything elseThe moment Word finally understood what toxic shame wasHow to trace shame back to childhood: what questions to ask yourselfWhy affirmations alone don't work, and what you're missing when you skip the feelings and bodyBuddhism, karma, and seed plantingCodependency: a survival mechanism that stops serving youThe perimenopause layer: why women in their 40s suddenly can't tolerate the old patterns anymoreSelf-abandonment disguised as being a good mom, wife, partner, and how to start seeing itThe container: why your body knows when it's safe to feel, and why that space is the key to processingFall retreat announcement. More details coming soonCONTACT DR. WORD SMITHDr. Word Smith is an energy worker, coach, Buddhist scholar, and Chinese medicine doctor with 25 years of experience helping people with manifestation, healing, and result-based transformation. Visit drwordsmithwisdom.comFollow on IG dr.wordsmithwisdom**WAYS TO ENTER MY WORLD**When you leave a review of the podcast on Apple Podcasts and send us a screenshot of it, we'll send you a $250 credit that you can apply to anything else in my world.Join me in The Metamorphosis which is my 3-month, groundbreaking, flagship program to rapidly and efficiently clear the familial and ancestral trauma that is blocking you from experiencing the wealth and freedom that you desire.Check out my newest video on my YouTube channel What's the Inner Critic + 7-Min Breathwork to Release ItQuestions? Let's jump on a call CONTACT ALYSEYouTube @alysebreathesalysebreathes.comIG @alyse_breathesinfo@alysebreathes.com

Let's be real—transitioning into homeschool high school feels big. It doesn't matter how many years you've been at this. That shift from middle school to high school brings with it a swirl of emotions: uncertainty, excitement, fear of missing something, and sometimes—let's be honest—a bit of guilt. Pin those thoughts in your mind for a moment as I share with you a conversation we recently had in the Confident Homeschool Mom Collective. It was a rich, heartfelt conversation about this very season. And the stories shared were so resonant, I knew I had to write to them. One homeschool mama said: “Oof, high school… well, Viv is starting 7th grade and I feel like we're already behind.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1929DM Lewis was hitting every external marker of success. NYT bestseller. Platform. Audience. And none of it touched the feeling inside. He was still that kid on the couch. Broke. Feeling stupid. Chasing the next thing to feel valid. What he thought was drive turned out to be a defense mechanism. The anger, the need to prove people wrong, it got results, but it wasn't vision. It was a wound doing the work. The shift started with one question: what's actually running your mind right now? Your thoughts aren't facts. They're patterns. Copied and pasted from pain you absorbed years ago. And if you don't stop to look at them, they become your future by default. Step one is just awareness. Take inventory. Notice how you respond when you get rejected. Notice how you receive praise. That's where reprogramming begins. Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Social anxiety is often framed as shyness, insecurity, or fear of judgment. But for many people living with complex trauma, social anxiety is a nervous system output shaped by chronic relational stress, sensory overwhelm, hypervigilance, masking, shame, and learned survival patterns.  In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof explore how complex trauma changes social engagement, why connection can feel exhausting, the role of the inner critic and toxic shame, sensory processing, nervous system overload, people pleasing, social fatigue, masking, emotional suppression, and post-traumatic growth.  We discuss why awareness alone does not create change, how nervous system rehabilitation supports healing, and what becomes possible when safety, capacity, and authentic expression begin to grow. If social situations leave you drained, overthinking, scanning for danger, withdrawing, overperforming, or feeling exhausted afterward, this conversation offers a new lens for understanding why. Chapters 0:00 - Social Anxiety as a Full Nervous System Output 0:36 - Welcome: Social Anxiety Through the Lens of Complex Trauma 1:30 - Elisabeth: Why She Never Identified as Having Social Anxiety 2:46 - The Post-Social Binge, the Crash, and What the Outputs Were Saying 4:03 - Jennifer: How Alcohol, Food, and Cannabis Got Her Through Social Situations 5:33 - Scanning the Room, Monitoring Everyone, and Masking It All 7:25 - What Shifting Capacity Actually Looked Like at a Recent Social Event 9:09 - Discernment vs Avoidance: Knowing Your Real Capacity 12:17 - The Neuroscience: Social Anxiety as a Protective Output 13:41 - How the Output Becomes the Input: The Spiral Loop 14:07 - Fight, Flight, Fawn, Freeze in Social Settings 16:07 - Why Masking Is Metabolically Costly 17:29 - How the Inner Critic and Toxic Shame Compound Social Anxiety 21:43 - Sensory Mismatch, Sensory Overwhelm, and Why They Drive Social Anxiety 24:39 - Why Social Environments Are Especially Demanding Sensory Spaces 26:43 - HPA Axis Dysregulation and Chronic Relational Stress 32:12 - Tired but Wired: What It Is and Why It Happens 35:28 - Post-Traumatic Growth and Increasing Relational Range 38:22 - Introvert or Trauma Response? An Important Distinction 40:31 - Micro Exposures, Recalibration, and Growth That Does Not Erase Sensitivity 41:00 - Human Design, Boundaries, and Knowing What Is Yours 43:09 - Neurodivergence, Neuro Abundance, and Social Overwhelm 43:29 - Authenticity, Expression, and Feeling Safe in Your Own Body First   Ways to Engage with Neurosomatics    Join us inside Rewire: This is where you actually experience the practices Jennifer and Elisabeth talk about on the podcast that brought us freedom, self-attunement, a new relationship with food and our body.  rewiretrial.com   Explore the neurosomatics of boundaries: boundaryrewire.com   Introduction to neurosomatics for practitioners, coaches and therapists - The NSI foundations Bundle: https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/workshops/   Wayfinder Journal: Track nervous system patterns and support preparation and integration through Neurosomatic Intelligence: https://stan.store/illuminated   Join Jennifer on Sacred Synapse to explore the intersection of neurosomatics and Psychedelic neuroscience: https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23   Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors:  FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired   Resources and Links NSI Foundations Bundle for coaches and practitioners: neurosomaticintelligence.com/foundations Two week Rewire Trial of guided neuro somatic training: rewiretrial.com Learn more about Elisabeth's work at brainbased.com Learn more about Jennifer's work at her YouTube channel: Sacred Synapse https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23 Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. 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Bestselling novelist Holly Ringland on writing from joy instead of fear, the toolkit she built to meet the inner critic with self-compassion, and finding the first true sentence of her debut after decades of silence.   We discuss Why the pain of not writing eventually outweighs the pain of writing. What grief and loss can crack open in a writer that nothing else can. How the first true line of a novel can arrive once you stop listening to the reasons you can't write it. A bullet-point approach to plotting that protects the nervous system from the blank page. What to ask for from early readers, and what to refuse. The distinction between self-doubt and the inner critic, and why it matters. Meeting the inner critic with an equal and opposite internalised force. Breaking procrastination by making the next step impossibly small. Fiction as the lie that tells the truth truest.   Resources & Links

If you've been doing all the "right" things—but still find yourself stuck in cycles of fear, overthinking, self-doubt, or holding yourself back from the life you know you're meant for—this episode is for you. I'm unpacking the powerful difference between living from the conditioned mind of the Inner Critic and living from the deeper wisdom of your heart and Authentic Self. We'll explore why the nervous system resists expansion even when you deeply desire change, how old survival patterns shape your identity and reactions, and why transformation is less about becoming fearless and more about learning to witness the Inner Critic without becoming it. Joanna also dives into the connection between heart-led living, emotional energy, entrepreneurship, purpose, and trusting the deeper guidance moving through you. ✨ Tune in to learn how to separate from fear-based conditioning, reconnect with your Authentic Self, practice appreciation and nervous system regulation, and begin leading your life—not from survival—but from trust, expansion, purpose, and the wisdom of the heart.   Your weekly reflection questions: Where in your life are you allowing fear and conditioning to make decisions instead of your Authentic Self? What familiar patterns or emotional reactions are keeping you connected to an old version of yourself? What would change if you trusted the quiet guidance in your heart more than the fearful voice in your mind?  

How to negotiate with your inner critic means transforming its harshness into something more like guidance. This guide explores understanding what your inner critic is trying to protect, finding a middle ground between listening to it and being destroyed by it, and moving from self-attack to self-guidance. The quiet moment is where you learn to hear your inner critic differently—not as an enemy but as a concerned voice that has gotten its method wrong.

Is your body failing you, or is it trying to get your attention? In this episode, we challenge the frustrating cycle of "doing everything right", eating well, taking supplements and managing stress, only to find that your body still isn't healing. Drawing inspiration from the profound work of Caroline Myss, we explore the connection between your emotional life and physical health, diving deep into the concept of "Woundology" and how your biography becomes your biology. What We Cover:Healing isn't just physical; your body is constantly responding to your thoughts, emotions and energy. We break down the Seven Graces to help you shift from a state of burnout to one of balance: Reverence: Shifting from speaking to your body like it's broken to treating it like it's wise. Gratitude: Moving beyond "toxic positivity" to create a subtle nervous system shift. Humility: Softening the grip of needing to control every outcome. Endurance: Learning to stay present with discomfort instead of numbing through distractions. Forgiveness: Releasing the stored resentment and emotional weight that manifests physically. Faith: Trusting the healing process even when the results aren't instant. Compassion: Silencing the inner critic that is dysregulating your nervous system. Experience the Shift. This episode includes a guided "Grace Check-In" practice. This short, experiential meditation is designed to help you stop pushing and start listening to what your body is truly asking of you. 00:52 Healing as "Being" vs. "Doing" : A fundamental shift in perspective where healing is defined not just by routines or protocols, but by who you are being while you perform them. 02:18 The Seven Graces Framework : Inspired by Caroline Myss, these seven internal shifts (Reverence, Gratitude, Humility, Endurance, Forgiveness, Faith, and Compassion) are introduced as tools for recovery 03:10 The Concept of Woundology : A syndrome where individuals may subconsciously use illness to manipulate their environment rather than pursuing true healing. 03:38 Biography Becomes Biology : The concept that life experiences, traumas, and stress physically alter the body's chemistry and immune function. 10:49 The Inner Critic and the Nervous System : Highlighting how self-judgment and internal pressure physically dysregulate the nervous system. 11:47 The Body as a Responsive System : The core message that the body isn't "broken" or failing, but is actively responding to physical, mental, and spiritual "food". 12:46 A short meditation to connect with your body. Stop fighting your body and start healing from the inside out. Ready to go deeper into the physical, mental, and spiritual sides of healing?Connect with Sarah: www.sarahdawkins.com Listen: Subscribe for more episodes on how to heal naturally and live fully.Who am I?Sarah Dawkins is a passionate Holistic Health and Healing Coach, international speaker and author of Heal Yourself. She's also a multi-award-winning entrepreneur and the award-winning host of the uplifting podcast Mind Body Medicine for Self Healers with Sarah Dawkins.With over 20 years' experience as a Registered Nurse, Sarah combines her deep understanding of conventional medicine with her own powerful self-healing journey to create a truly integrative approach. Having overcome multiple chronic health challenges herself, she now supports others in uncovering and addressing the root causes of their symptoms, helping them restore balance, reclaim their energy and create lasting, vibrant wellness.www.sarahdawkins.com#burnoutprevention #burnouttobalance #bodyconnection #reconnectwithyourself #calminthechaos

Softening the inner critic means gentling the harsh self-judgment that undermines your confidence and well-being. This guide explores recognizing when your inner critic is too loud, cultivating a kinder internal voice, and responding to yourself with warmth instead of criticism. The quiet moment is where you can notice your inner critic speaking and choose to answer it with something gentler instead.

Today, if things don't go perfectly, take care not to let the inner critic take over. When your inner critic takes over, this can create loops of frustration, blame, and self-doubt. In this session, we target that harsh, reactive voice. Instead of fighting your flaws or pushing for perfection, Day 3 guides you to lower your defenses, meet your mistakes with deep kindness, and find a steady, supportive anchor within yourself. Perfect for anyone looking to quiet a racing mind and cultivate lasting emotional resilience. A Daily Message for Your Heart Take a slow, spacious breath into the center of your chest, letting your shoulders drop completely. Your heart does not require you to be flawless or to have everything figured out to be worthy of love. It is okay if you are still learning, growing, and finding your way. All your heart asks of you today is that you stop fighting yourself. Put a hand over your chest right now and gently remind yourself: "I am doing the very best I can, and I am worthy of my own kindness." Trust the steady, quiet wisdom within you. You are exactly where you need to be. This is day 3 of a 7-day meditation series, "Stop Procrastinating: Meditations for Overwhelm and Focus" episodes 2720-2726. THIS WEEK'S MEDITATION JOURNEY Welcome to Stop Procrastinating: Meditations for Overwhelm & Focus. If you are arriving here today feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated by a task you've been avoiding, take a deep breath and let the pressure go. There is no shame here. True mindfulness teaches us that procrastination isn't a lack of discipline; it's how our nervous system freezes when a task feels too heavy or the anxiety of perfectionism takes over. In this series, we aren't here to force or push our way into productivity. Instead, we are creating a quiet space to soften the stress, calm the inner critic, and gently untangle the mental blocks keeping you stuck. You don't need to feel perfectly ready to begin—you just need to find the stillness to take one single, intentional step. Right now, the pressure is entirely off. For the next few minutes, give yourself permission to just be here, exactly as you are. Take a deep, clearing breath in… and let it settle. Now is your time. YOUR WEEKLY CHALLENGE You're Invited To Take Part In an Emotional Regulation Quest Notice your emotional response to stressors. Begin to identify and name the emotions you experience the most when you're under stress. This is a great week to keep a Journal of your emotions. MEDITATION TECHNIQUES: Day 1: Visualization  Day 2: Affirmation Day 3: Breathing Technique Day 4: Mudra Technique Day 5: Chakra Technique Day 6: Layer Meditation Techniques Day 7: Reflection + Introspection SHARE YOUR MEDITATION JOURNEY WITH YOUR FELLOW MEDITATORS Let's connect and inspire each other! Please share a little about how meditation has helped you by reaching out to me at Mary@SipandOm.com or better yet -- direct message me on https://www.instagram.com/sip.and.om. We'd love to hear about your meditation ritual! WAYS TO SUPPORT THE DAILY MEDITATION PODCAST SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode. Consistency is the KEY to a successful meditation ritual. SHARE the podcast with someone who could use a little extra support. I'd be honored if you left me a podcast review. If you do, please email me at Mary@sipandom.com and let me know a little about yourself and how meditation has helped you. I'd love to share your journey to inspire fellow meditators on the podcast! All meditations are created by Mary Meckley and are her original content. Please request permission to use any of Mary's content by sending an email to Mary@sipandom.com. FOR DAILY EXTRA SUPPORT OUTSIDE THE PODCAST Each day's meditation techniques are shared at: sip.and.om Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sip.and.om/ sip and om Facebook https://www.facebook.com/SipandOm/ SIP AND OM MEDITATION APP Looking for a little more support? If you're ready for a more in-depth meditation experience, allow Mary to guide you in daily 30-minute guided meditations on the Sip and Om meditation app. Give it a whirl for 7-days free! Receive access to 3,000+ 30-minute guided meditations customized around a weekly theme to help you manage emotions. Receive a Clarity Journal and a Slow Down Guide customized for each weekly theme. 2-Week's Free Access on iOS https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/sip-and-om/id1216664612?platform=iphone&preserveScrollPosition=true#platform/iphone All meditations are created by Mary Meckley and are her original content. Please request permission to use any of Mary's content by sending an email to Mary@sipandom.com.Let go of repetitive negative thoughts. Music composed by Christopher Lloyd Clark licensed by RoyaltyFreeMusic.com, and also by musician Greg Keller.

The way we relate to ourselves—whether with truth, kindness, and grace or with harsh criticism—is more than a personal issue; it's a defining factor for our entire life. It powerfully shapes our longevity, our health, and ultimately the kind of fruit we produce in ministry and leadership. In today's episode we unpack what it means to be properly related to yourself and why it matters to both your life and your leadership.

What This Decision Is Really About If you’ve decided to homeschool in British Columbia, you’ve already made the hard decision. But there’s a second decision waiting right behind it — and it stops a lot of families cold. Registered homeschooling vs online learning in BC — which is right for your family? After two decades of homeschooling in BC and six years of coaching families through this exact moment, here’s what I know: this decision isn’t actually about finding the right school or the right system. It’s about who you are as a family. It’s about the values you’re being called toward in this season of your life, the child standing right in front of you, and how much ownership you’re ready to take over the education you’ve already decided to give them. The government language matters — and I’ll give it to you plainly. The practical differences between the two paths matter — and I’ll walk you through them clearly. But neither one will tell you what you actually need to know. Only you can determine that. And the good news is, you already know more than you think you do. This post will help you hear it. If you’re still deciding whether to homeschool at all, start here first: Start Homeschooling in British Columbia: How to Decide What the BC Government Says About Registered Homeschooling vs Online Learning in BC In British Columbia, the government draws a firm line between these two options — and it matters that you understand it. If you enroll in online learning, you are not considered a homeschooler by the BC government. You are an online learner. Your child’s education is authorized by the Ministry of Education, delivered through an online school, and overseen by an assigned teacher or learning consultant. You follow BC curriculum as defined by the online school, work toward learning outcomes, and may have report cards, check-ins, and grade-level expectations depending on which school you choose. If you register as a homeschooler under Section 12/13 of the BC School Act, you are fully responsible for your child’s education. No required curriculum. No mandatory testing. And no Dogwood diploma is received upon high school completion. You register by September 30th — or any time you pull your child from school — with a public or independent school of your choice. And that’s essentially it. The government steps back entirely. One path keeps the government close. The other lets you close the door. (Having said that, there may be reasons you choose to travel one path versus another. I address those reasons in the upcoming BC Homeschool Clarity Session.) Get your free 1st Year Confident Homeschool Roadmap What Registered Homeschooling vs Online Learning in BC Actually Looks Like Day to Day Here’s where the registered homeschooling vs online learning in BC decision gets practical. Online learning gives you structure, a built-in support person, and in some cases funding. If you’re someone who wants a framework to lean on — especially in year one — that might be genuinely useful. The variation between online schools is significant, though. Some are flexible and relationship-based. Others feel much closer to a traditional school environment. Research the specific school, not just the category. Registered homeschooling gives you a lot of freedom. You choose the curriculum or resources, the pace, the philosophy, and the schedule. Nobody is checking in. Nobody is assigning grades. You are the architect. That’s exhilarating for some families and terrifying for others, and both responses are completely reasonable. What I’ve noticed across two decades is this: most families start more structured than they’ll eventually be. The families who begin with online learning often find, a few years in, that the structure sometimes becomes constraining rather than supportive. (But not always). And the families who begin with registered homeschooling often spend year one to four recreating school at home before they relax into something that actually fits. Both are normal. Both are part of the process. Neither choice need be permanent. My Registered Homeschooling Story in BC — The White Couch Moment When I started homeschooling, I had a vision. Three little girls in white dresses, slamming screen doors, running in from the garden, reading Anne of Green Gables on a white Ikea couch while we sipped afternoon tea. You know — utopia. The white couch lasted about a season. (A white couch in any family home is always an unwise choice.) But let me back up, because the vision didn’t start with a couch. It started with a book. We were living in Alberta at the time. My two oldest girls were in private school. I had no particular complaints — I genuinely loved my daughter’s kindergarten teacher — but something was quietly unsettled in me. I picked up a book called The Homeschool Option: How Do I Know If It’s Right for Me? and something shifted. Within the week, we decided to homeschool our family. She was naming things I didn’t know I was already thinking. What I was really looking for was freedom from other people’s goals and expectations for my family. A customized education for each of my kids — one that would let them walk in their own path, aligned with who they actually were. Not a standardized path. Not someone else’s vision of what their lives should look like. Ours. At almost exactly the same time, my husband was wrestling with his own version of that same question — about his life, his work, his sense of ownership and intention. Both of us, in the same week, arriving at the same place from different directions. That convergence felt like something worth listening to. So before we even moved to the interior of BC, I had already decided. I registered our oldest two — the ones who were school age at the time — as homeschoolers. We landed in BC already committed to the registered path, already clear that we weren’t interested in someone else’s curriculum or someone else’s timeline or someone else’s definition of what an educated child looked like. That clarity served us. But it didn’t protect us from the learning curve. My family shifted from structured homeschooling to unschooling to eclectic homeschooling over our first few years. I registered as a homeschooler and never looked back — but what that looked like changed constantly. Two of my daughters eventually entered public high school for grade 10, with no testing required and no difficulty adjusting. Another graduated without a Dogwood and went straight into college. The decision I made at the beginning — registered homeschooling, full stop — stayed constant. But everything inside that decision evolved as my kids grew and as I grew. That’s what I want you to hear: the path you choose today is not your forever answer. It’s your next right step. And if you choose it purposefully — because it fits who your family actually is, not because you stumbled into it or someone scared you into it — you’ll have something solid to stand on when it gets hard. And it will get hard. That’s not a warning. That’s just the truth of any meaningful thing. “The path you choose today is not your forever answer. It’s your next right step.” The Path You Choose Today Is Not Your Forever Answer If anything in that story resonates — the quiet unsettledness, the search for something that fits your family rather than someone else’s template, the desire to lead your own life on your own terms — you’re already thinking the right thoughts. You just might need a conversation to help you hear them clearly. That’s exactly what the BC Homeschool Clarity Session is for. A small group, a Friday afternoon, and a mom-to-mom conversation with someone who gets it. Choosing Between Registered Homeschooling vs Online Learning in BC — Who Are You as a Family? This is the framework I use with every family I coach through this decision — and it matters more than any comparison chart. Are you moving toward something, or away from something? Both are valid starting points. But knowing which one you are helps you stay grounded when it gets hard. Families who are running toward freedom, connection, and a different pace of life tend to settle into homeschooling more naturally. Families who are primarily running away from a bad school situation sometimes find that the relief wears off and the uncertainty rushes in. Neither is fatal — but it’s worth knowing. How comfortable are you being the primary architect of your child’s education? Not forever — just right now. If the answer is “not very,” online learning gives you a scaffold to lean on while you build confidence. If the answer is “I’d love that,” registered homeschooling gives you the room to do it. Does your child need a transcript, credits, or a Dogwood? If your child is heading into high school with university or trades in mind, this plays into this discussion too. Online learning makes that path more straightforward. Registered homeschoolers can absolutely pursue post-secondary — my own kids did — but it requires more intentional planning. A note here: if your child is nowhere near high school, take this particular concern off your plate entirely. You have plenty of time to get to know your kid, plenty of time to help them find their direction, and plenty of time to figure out the transcript question when it’s actually relevant. Don’t let a high school concern drive a decision you’re making for a seven-year-old or even your eleven-year-old. What is the emotional atmosphere in your home? This is the question most families have never been asked. Not “is your home perfect” — none of ours are — but are you willing to look at it honestly and tend to it? Homeschooling magnifies whatever is already present in your family dynamics. The families who thrive are the ones who are willing to pay attention to this. Do you genuinely enjoy spending time with your kids? Even imperfectly. Even on hard days. This isn’t a trick question — it’s the most honest predictor of whether this lifestyle will be sustainable for you. These aren’t abstract questions. They’re the ones that actually shift something when you sit with them honestly. Here’s what one BC homeschool mom said after working through exactly this kind of conversation: The One Thing I Know for Certain About Registered Homeschooling vs Online Learning in BC The families who thrive in homeschooling — regardless of which side of the registered homeschooling vs online learning in BC decision they land on — are the ones doing it purposefully. Not reactively. Not because someone scared them into it or shamed them out of conventional school. But because they looked at the child in front of them, asked honest questions, and made a decision that fit their actual family. That’s what this decision is really about. Ready to Stop Researching and Start Deciding? Here’s what I know after two decades of homeschooling and six years of coaching: every parent has one singular goal — to raise up their particular child for their particular purpose in life. You care the most about your child. You see your child most clearly. And you are the most invested person in the room, and you always will be. You also carry a set of values that are uniquely yours — a sense of what you’re being called toward right now, in this season of your family’s life. Whether registered homeschooling or a specific online school aligns with those values is something only you can determine. Every online school has its own culture, its own intentions, its own feel. Every family does too—the fit matters. Why This Conversation Is Different from Any Facebook Thread I have no skin in the game when it comes to your choice. I’m not here to talk you into a particular path. My only intention is to help you find your own clarity — because you already know your family better than anyone. Sometimes you need the right conversation to hear what you already know. That’s what the session is for. Every two to three weeks, I open a Friday afternoon for a small group of BC families at exactly this crossroads. Six to eight families. One hour. Real conversation with someone who has been doing this in BC for two decades. There are plenty of homeschool parents who could have this chat with you. What’s different is this: for the last six years, I’ve been working as a certified life coach, specifically with homeschool families — coaching and walking alongside women through every family dynamic imaginable inside the four walls of a home. I’ve been supporting women to untangle the overwhelm and find their footing, to stop second-guessing themselves and start leading their families with intention, to navigate the hard relational dynamics that homeschooling surfaces — the conflict, the burnout, the loneliness, the self-doubt — and come out the other side clearer and more confident than when they started. A graduated homeschool parent can tell you what worked for their family. I can help you figure out what will work for yours. You don’t have to spend hours down a rabbit hole of Facebook threads and government websites to get clarity. Not ready for that yet? Start here — grab your free Confident Homeschool Roadmap and keep it close for your first year. The BC Homeschool Clarity Session — $35 CAD → Register for the BC Homeschool Clarity Session — $35 CAD → (function(m,a,i,l,e,r){ m['MailerLiteObject']=e;function f(){ var c={ a:arguments,q:[]};var r=this.push(c);return "number"!=typeof r?r:f.bind(c.q);} f.q=f.q||[];m[e]=m[e]||f.bind(f.q);m[e].q=m[e].q||f.q;r=a.createElement(i); var _=a.getElementsByTagName(i)[0];r.async=1;r.src=l+'?v'+(~~(new Date().getTime()/1000000)); _.parentNode.insertBefore(r,_);})(window, document, 'script', 'https://static.mailerlite.com/js/universal.js', 'ml'); var ml_account = ml('accounts', '1815912', 'p9n9c0c7s5', 'load'); Frequently Asked Questions: Registered Homeschooling vs Online Learning in BC Can I switch from online learning to registered homeschooling in BC? Yes. Neither decision is permanent. Families switch between the two paths regularly as their needs change. You can register as a homeschooler at any point in the school year. Do registered homeschoolers in BC get funding? Not typically. Registered homeschoolers under Section 12/13 of the BC School Act do not receive government funding. Online learners may have access to funding depending on the school — verify directly with the school you’re considering as amounts and eligibility change. Does a registered homeschooler in BC need to follow the BC curriculum? No. Registered homeschoolers are not required to follow the BC curriculum, complete mandatory testing, or work toward a Dogwood diploma. You are required to provide an educational program that enables your child to become literate and develop their individual potential contributing to their greater world. Can a registered homeschooler in BC enter public school? Yes — at any time, with no testing or pre-admission requirements. What is the deadline to register as a homeschooler in BC? September 30th if you know ahead of time. However, you can pull your child from school and register at any point throughout the year. Is there a homeschool life coach in BC who works specifically with homeschool families? Yes. Teresa Wiedrick is a certified life coach and homeschool mentor based in the Kootenays, BC. She homeschooled in BC for nearly two decades and has been coaching homeschool families for six years. She works with BC families navigating the registered homeschooling vs online learning decision and supports homeschool moms through their first year and beyond. You can learn more about her here. How do I start homeschooling in BC? Starting homeschooling in BC begins with one decision: registered homeschooling or online learning. Once you’re clear on that, the practical steps follow quickly. For a full walkthrough of how to get started — including the legalities, what to expect in your first year, and how to build confidence before you begin — read Start Homeschooling in British Columbia: How to Decide. What do I need to know before I start homeschooling in BC? Before you start homeschooling in BC, it helps to understand the two paths available to you — registered homeschooling and online learning — and what each one actually requires of you. It also helps to know that most families start more structured than they’ll eventually be, that the decision isn’t permanent, and that you are more ready than you think. For a deeper look at what to expect, visit Start Homeschooling in British Columbia: How to Decide Ready for a more personalized conversation? 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You're doing a lot. The coaching package has been rewritten. The niche has been reconsidered. The email is still sitting in draft. This isn't a strategy problem or a productivity problem. This is your inner critic - and it's probably been running your business quietly for a while. This episode names it, explains why it is so hard to spot, and gives you a simple practical tool to work with it.WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:Why the inner critic never announces itself as fear - and the specific disguises it wears instead, including perfectionism, over-preparation, and endless reasonable second-guessingWhat perfectionism actually is underneath the surface - a stress response with a specific job, not a personality traitThe real reason coaches keep reworking the offer, second-guessing the niche, and staying in the loop of almost-readyWhat happens the moment someone sees their inner critic clearly for the first time - and the surprising vicious cycle that can followA simple technique for separating the inner critic's voice from your own so it stops driving without your knowledgeWhy the goal is never to silence the inner critic - and what actually works insteadBook a free 30-minute call with Candy: https://stepintosuccessnow.com/Grab the free course, Stop Guessing and Start Signing Clients: https://candymotzek.lpages.co/vfo/She Coaches Coaches | Helping accomplished professionals build a business and life that actually fits

Dr. Ashley Kuchar is a mindset coach, educator, and speaker who helps athletes quiet their inner critic, handle pressure with poise, and bounce forward after mistakes. She is a former collegiate basketball player with a PhD in educational psychology, bringing both lived experience and research-backed tools to help athletes build lasting confidence in themselves and their performance. You can learn more about Ashley's work at failbettertraining.com.Support the show

Working with the inner critic means relating to your harsh self-judgment with understanding rather than automatic acceptance. This guide explores recognizing when the critic is too loud, separating its voice from your own, and answering it with something gentler and more accurate. The quiet moment is where you can observe the critic without being controlled by it, responding with wisdom rather than就会被它控制。

Softening the inner critic means gentling the harsh self-judgment that undermines your confidence and well-being. This guide explores recognizing when your inner critic is too loud, cultivating a kinder internal voice, and responding to yourself with warmth instead of criticism. The quiet moment is where you can notice your inner critic speaking and choose to answer it with something gentler instead.

Why does someone's silence sometimes feel louder than words? In this deeply personal episode of Getting Through the Week, we're talking about the emotional spiral that can happen when communication suddenly changes… when the texts stop, the calls slow down, or someone we care about goes quiet. For many of us, silence doesn't just create uncertainty — it activates old wounds, survival patterns, and the voice of the inner critic that immediately starts filling in the blanks with fear, self-doubt, and painful stories. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why silence can feel so emotionally triggering ✨ How past experiences shape the stories we tell ourselves ✨ The difference between intuition and fear-based assumptions ✨ What happens in the nervous system when we feel disconnected ✨ How to stop abandoning yourself while waiting for reassurance ✨ Learning to sit with uncertainty without letting your inner critic take control This conversation is for anyone who has ever found themselves overthinking, questioning their worth, or emotionally unraveling simply because someone became distant or quiet. Sometimes the hardest part isn't the silence itself… It's the meaning we attach to it. Join me for an honest conversation about emotional awareness, attachment, healing, and learning how to come back home to yourself — even in the middle of uncertainty.  If you would like to know more about Soft30Reset, please email me at drkellyrae@gmail.com #GettingThroughTheWeekPodcast #InnerCritic #EmotionalHealing #SelfWorth #AttachmentHealing #MindsetShift #WomenHealing #EmotionalAwareness #Overthinking #PersonalGrowth #HealingJournegmail.comy #PodcastForWomen #AnxietyHealing #SelfReflection #Soft30Reset

The voice in your head, the one that whispers you're too much or not enough, or that it's all too late, can run your life. In this solo episode, Jo unpacks the inner critic: what it actually is, why it gets so loud in midlife, and three powerful ways to start quietening it. It's time to change how you talk to yourself.In this episode, we explore:What the inner critic really is, and why it wasn't born meanWhy midlife has a particular way of turning the volume upHow to separate yourself from the voice so it loses its gripThe one question that stops a critical thought in its tracksWhy speaking to yourself like a good friend is more powerful than any affirmationIf you've ever spoken to yourself in a way you'd never speak to someone you love, this episode is the gentle, honest place to begin.Connect with JoBook a 20-minute connection call: ⁠https://calendly.com/jo--138/20min?month=2025-07⁠Re Imagine mentoring: ⁠https://www.joclarkcoaching.com/work-with-me⁠Resources and programmes: ⁠https://www.joclarkcoaching.com/resources⁠Instagram:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/joclarkcoaching/⁠LinkedIn:⁠ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joclarkcoaching/⁠

We have reached the conclusion of our 7-day archive series, The Compassionate Return. Today is a day of reflection and integration. We review the somatic tools and heart-centered shifts we've practiced this week, grounding them into a lasting sense of self-honor that you can carry with you long after the meditation ends. In This Episode: From Practice to Presence: How to maintain a compassionate baseline in a high-stress world. The Sovereign Heart: A final guided meditation to seal in your progress and claim your inner peace. A Daily Message for Your Heart:  Take a moment to be truly proud of yourself. It is not easy to look inward with kindness, especially when the world demands so much of our outward energy. You have claimed your right to self-honor. You have proven that your heart is a place of transformation, not just a place of burden. As you move forward, let the affirmation 'I honor the journey I am on' stay tucked in your pocket. You are exactly where you need to be, and you are doing a beautiful job. I am so glad we walked this path together. This is day 7 of a 7-day meditation series, "Healing with Compassion: A Meditation Series for Self-Honor," episodes 2586-2592. THIS WEEK'S MEDITATION JOURNEY I want to start by wishing a very Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers, grandmothers, and those who provide that steady, nurturing light in our lives. Today, I've reached into the archives to bring back a very special series I recorded a few years ago. As I was sitting here with my tea, I realized that there is no greater gift we can give—to our mothers or to ourselves—than the gift of Compassion. This series, The Compassionate Return, is a journey of self-honor. It is about softening the edges of how we view our own lives so we can show up more fully for those we love. SHARE YOUR MEDITATION JOURNEY WITH YOUR FELLOW MEDITATORS Let's connect and inspire each other! Please share a little about how meditation has helped you by reaching out to me at Mary@SipandOm.com or better yet -- direct message me on https://www.instagram.com/sip.and.om. We'd love to hear about your meditation ritual! WAYS TO SUPPORT THE DAILY MEDITATION PODCAST SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a single episode. Consistency is the KEY to a successful meditation ritual. SHARE the podcast with someone who could use a little extra support. I'd be honored if you left me a podcast review. If you do, please email me at Mary@sipandom.com and let me know a little about yourself and how meditation has helped you. I'd love to share your journey to inspire fellow meditators on the podcast! All meditations are created by Mary Meckley and are her original content. Please request permission to use any of Mary's content by sending an email to Mary@sipandom.com. FOR DAILY EXTRA SUPPORT OUTSIDE THE PODCAST Each day's meditation techniques are shared at: sip.and.om Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sip.and.om/ sip and om Facebook https://www.facebook.com/SipandOm/ SIP AND OM MEDITATION APP Looking for a little more support? If you're ready for a more in-depth meditation experience, allow Mary to guide you in daily 30-minute guided meditations on the Sip and Om meditation app. Give it a whirl for 7-days free! Receive access to 3,000+ 30-minute guided meditations customized around a weekly theme to help you manage emotions. Receive a Clarity Journal and a Slow Down Guide customized for each weekly theme. 2-Week's Free Access on iOS https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/sip-and-om/id1216664612?platform=iphone&preserveScrollPosition=true#platform/iphone All meditations are created by Mary Meckley and are her original content. Please request permission to use any of Mary's content by sending an email to Mary@sipandom.com.Let go of repetitive negative thoughts. Music composed by Christopher Lloyd Clark licensed by RoyaltyFreeMusic.com, and also by musician Greg Keller.

What if the way you speak to yourself is the very thing holding you back?Today I'm joined by Dr Marianne Trent, a Clinical Psychologist specialising in trauma, grief, anxiety, and depression.We have a waffle about everything from self-compassion, curiosity, and learning how to quiet the inner critic.From imposter syndrome and people-pleasing to trauma, burnout, and emotional resilience, Dr Marianne breaks down the hidden patterns that shape how we think, feel, and respond to the world around us. We explore why so many of us struggle to give ourselves the same kindness we offer everyone else, and how curiosity can be the key to real personal growth.The episode dives into the idea of “glass and rubber balls” in life, helping us understand what truly deserves our energy and what's okay to let bounce. Dr Marianne also shares practical tools for managing overwhelm, including grounding exercises, mindfulness techniques, breathing practices, and ways to reconnect with yourself when life feels too loud.If you've ever struggled with self-doubt, overthinking, or feeling like you're never “enough,” this conversation will hit home.To find out more about Dr Marianne, please head to the below links:Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/73D4CLEHa52JRtLPInXBPV?si=c6a5ef228bb149b2Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmariannetrent/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you find yourself emotionally hijacked by certain people, situations, or reactions—and you keep wondering why the same patterns repeat in your life—this episode is for you. Joanna is unpacking one of the deepest truths about transformation: that your triggers are not interruptions to healing, they are invitations into it. We'll explore how the Inner Critic forms unconscious identity patterns rooted in childhood conditioning, why emotional reactions often reveal disowned parts of ourselves, and how the people who activate us most are often reflecting the exact places where we've abandoned our own needs, power, expression, or worth. ✨ Tune in to learn how to stop seeing triggers as proof that something is wrong with you, uncover the unconscious meanings driving your reactions, and reconnect with your Authentic Self—the part of you that can respond with curiosity, integration, and emotional freedom instead of fear and conditioning.   Your weekly reflection questions: What emotional reactions in your life feel bigger than the current situation itself? Where might you still be seeking validation, approval, or worth outside of yourself? What part of yourself have you learned was "unsafe" to fully embody?  

We can look strong on the outside… while quietly battling ourselves on the inside. In today's episode "From Inner Critic to Inner Coach”, I'm joined by Kym Coco—author, yoga teacher, nature lover, and wellness expert whose life's work beautifully blends movement, mindfulness, and emotional healing. With a Master's Degree in Sports Kinesiology and years of teaching yoga and wellness workshops around the country, Kym brings both wisdom and lived experience to this powerful conversation. Together, we explore one of the most influential voices we all live with: the inner critic. Kym shares her own journey from appearing strong and   healthy on the outside while carrying unresolved anger and grief within… to learning how to create true alignment between body, mind, and spirit.  We talk about how the mind naturally drifts into the past, the future, and self-judgment—and how simple, grounded practices can help us shift that harsh inner voice into an inner coach that supports our confidence, growth, peace, and joy. This episode is a beautiful reminder that healing isn't about becoming someone new… It's about learning to meet yourself with more compassion along the way.  So let's call in Kym… and let's Call IT in With Dar. Support the showFull Show Notes can be found at CallITInPodcast.comPhoto credit: Rebecca Lange Photography Music credit: Kevin MacLeod Incompetech.com (licensed under Creative Commons)  Production credit: Erin Schenke @ Emerald Support Services LLC.Grab Dar's Flight Deck Oracle Card DeckTake Dar's Archetype Quiz

Your inner critic isn't your enemy. In this episode of Your Quiet Moment, we explore the voice inside that judges, compares, and criticizes. Through gentle meditation and honest self-inquiry, you'll learn to understand what your inner critic is really trying to protect you from. This session helps you recognize the patterns that keep repeating in your life and see them with clarity instead of shame. By understanding the fear beneath your self-judgment, you can finally respond to yourself with compassion instead of criticism. Let this meditation be a new beginning in your relationship with yourself.

Every year I finish the homeschool year kinda lackluster. And you know what? I’m good with that. I recognize it for what it is: a season. That’s exactly why I do a Homeschool Year End Review — and why I think every homeschool mom should too. Because, seriously, what are the chances I’m gonna love every dang minute of this homeschool thing? And when else would I feel homeschool fatigue? At the end of the homeschool year! (Oh, and February, cause ya know: slump month…Oh, and usually about year two or three of our homeschool journey when I need to have a giant shift from “how I thought homeschool would be” to “how homeschool actually is”…Anywho, I digress…) In this post, you’ll discover my approach to the Homeschool Year-End Review — and how it sets you up to actually enjoy your summer instead of dreading September. Finish your year with a Homeschool Mom Year-End Review https://youtu.be/z_GP9smtgBM?si=g3MIJgKK-OpAh_RI Join me for a Homeschool Mom Year-End Review. Finish Your Year With a Homeschool Mom Year End Review If we do a homeschool year end review now, I don’t have to return to it in July. I can sit by my watering hole of choice and not think about homeschool planning. By the end of May, I usually close the homeschool room door and don’t return till early July. I let stuff sit.The books get closed.The planner gets closed.And we just shift into a season of being outdoors. And you know what? We all need it after that point. A chance to recollect our ideas about last year, check what worked, check what didn’t, and springboard into the new year with ideas that did work and new ideas I want to include. If you’re there and want to springboard — join me at the Homeschool Year End Review. Join the Homeschool Year End Review Real Planning for Real Homeschool Moms: Why the Year-End Review Works Are you wrapping up your homeschool year? Even in my most traditional homeschool years, I’ve always wrapped things up by the end of May. Typically at the beginning of June, I’d bring the kids outside to sit, draw, read some poetry, write some poetry, narrate a Shakespeare play, learn Latin names for native plants, learn the name of cloud formations, and identify animal scat. (AKA harnessing my inner Charlotte Mason — although I don’t think she ever mentions animal scat, ha.) It’s also the time of year I assessed my past homeschool year and used that as a brainstorming tool to imagine my upcoming homeschool year. It was fresh on my mind! That’s why I created a Year End Review for you — a group coaching opportunity. If you want to do your homeschool and your life on purpose, you need regular breaks from the same-ole same-ole to check how it’s working for you and your kids. (Or if it’s not.) Three Things Your Homeschool Year-End Review Should Cover Over the years I’ve learned that a meaningful year-end review isn’t just about curriculum or schedules. It goes deeper. Here are the three areas that matter most. 1. Is your homeschool plan still working for this season? This is the question most of us are afraid to ask honestly — because what if the answer is no? A plan that fit beautifully two years ago can quietly become the thing that’s exhausting you today. Not because you failed. Because your season changed. Your kids grew. Your family shifted. Life happened. And if this year didn’t go the way you hoped — that gap between your vision and your reality deserves to be acknowledged. Maybe even grieved a little. Because when we skip that step and jump straight to “okay, new plan!” we carry the weight of disappointment straight into next year. The first part of a good year-end review is giving yourself permission to look honestly at what happened, release the expectations that were never realistic, and ask: what actually fits our life right now? Need a starting point for your planning? Homeschool Planning for Four Kids: Our Sixth Year walks through exactly how I’ve approached this in real life. 2. Where is your time really going — and does it match what matters? Here’s a question I love to sit with during my Homeschool Year-End Review: Is how I’m spending my time actually aligned with what I say I value? Because most of us are busy. Very busy. But busy doing what, exactly? When we slow down and look at where our time is actually going, we often discover a gap between our values and our daily reality. A time-and-values check-in isn’t about guilt. It’s about awareness. Once you can see where your energy is going, you can make intentional choices about where it goes next year. 3. How does homeschool mom life actually feel — and can it feel better? This one is the one we skip most often. Because we’re so used to asking how our kids are doing that we forget to ask the same about ourselves. How are you doing? Not your homeschool. Not your curriculum. The question isn’t about your kids’ progress. It’s about you. Are you enjoying this? Does homeschool feel like something flowing from you — or something running over you? Because when a homeschool mom is depleted and disconnected, the whole family feels it. And no curriculum swap in the world will fix that. This part of the Homeschool Year End Review is about reconnecting with yourself — with who you are beyond the role of homeschool mom, and what it would look like to actually enjoy the life you’ve built. If that question is sitting heavy on you right now, you might also want to read: Are You Homeschooling Good Enough? What We’ll Explore in the Homeschool Year-End Review Together In the Year-End Review workshop, we’ll chat about: What worked for you this year — and what didn’t What worked for each of your kids — and what didn’t And what you learned about your kids this year What you learned about yourself — and how you’re addressing that How you record and acknowledge the learning, growth, books read, and things done this year The hard moments you don’t want to repeat — and how to address them next year What your vision words are for next year How you used your resources, time, and skills this past year How you’ve contributed to the world — and how you want to What to Expect at the Homeschool Mom Year-End Review Here’s what we’ll do together in our two hours: Rethink your homeschool plan for 2026/2027 — and release what no longer fits your season Audit how your time and energy are really being used Reconnect with how homeschool mom life feels — and how to make it better Design a personalized Burnout Prevention Plan Explore child-inspired learning approaches Create a Y.O.U. Plan — one that includes your identity and wellness, not just your kids’ education You’ll work directly in two tools during the session — the Wellness Journal for Homeschool Mamas and the Homeschool Mama Vision Planner — so you leave with them already full of your own clarity. Not blank pages to figure out later. Bring your journal and a pen. Come without the kids. You’ll receive personal coaching feedback during and after the session. Save Your Seat → What You’ll Leave With After the Homeschool Year End Review Clarity & confidence about your 2026/2027 homeschool year An updated home education plan that fits this season A personalized Burnout Prevention Plan Personal wellness practices that fit your real life A Y.O.U. Plan — because your identity matters too The Wellness Journal for Homeschool Mamas The Homeschool Mama Vision Planner Kind Words “Before the Year-End Review session with Teresa, I felt overwhelmed and exhausted — even thinking about planning next year filled me with dread. After just that one conversation, I walked away feeling confident, hopeful, and clear. Teresa’s kindness, understanding, and gentle guidance saved me so much indecision and stress. If you’re a homeschool mom feeling stretched thin or unsure where to begin — this is the support you didn’t know you needed.” — Jen, homeschool mom of 3 Ready for a more personalized conversation? 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Everyone has a critical inner voice. But if you grew up in an environment shaped by chronic relational stress, that voice does not just comment. It runs. It loops. It drives your body into a stress state before you have even finished the thought. In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof explore the inner critic as the next distinguishing characteristic of complex trauma in their ongoing CPT series. This is not a conversation about toxic positivity or affirmations. It is a precise, neuroscience-grounded look at why the inner critic develops, what it is actually doing in the brain and nervous system, and what it genuinely takes to loosen its grip over time. The inner critic is a predictive safety mechanism. It developed to preempt rejection, suppress behaviors that previously led to punishment, and maintain attachment in environments where connection felt conditional. It is not your core self. It is a learned neural pattern rooted in threat detection and self-referential processing that, once formed, keeps running because it worked. Or at least, it worked enough. Jennifer and Elisabeth trace how chronic relational stress reorganizes the default mode network around threat rather than flexible identity development, what the medial prefrontal cortex and posterior cingulate cortex have to do with rumination and shame-based identity loops, and why children with developmental trauma learn to blame themselves for relational failures that were never their fault in the first place. They also go deep on the outward expression of the same pattern: the external critic, the person who micromanages, projects, and stays braced and guarded because the nervous system is still predicting the letdown. Both hosts bring this into their own lived experience with real honesty. Elisabeth talks about the constant body-focused narrator that used to run during recording sessions. Jennifer shares what the inner critic sounds like when she is launching something new and putting her voice out into the world. Neither of them is pretending it is gone. They are showing what it looks like when it no longer runs the show. The episode closes with practical, nervous system-grounded pathways for working with the inner critic, including why celebration and reward matter more than positive thinking, how oxytocin-mediated safety gradually quiets social threat monitoring, and why the most important move is not arguing with the voice but interrupting the loop at the body level first. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why the inner critic is a predictive nervous system adaptation, not a reflection of truth or identity How chronic relational stress reorganizes the default mode network around threat and self-monitoring What the medial prefrontal cortex and posterior cingulate cortex have to do with rumination and the inner critic Why children with developmental trauma internalize relational failures as personal flaws How perfectionism, body criticism, and post-performance crashes are all outputs of the same underlying pattern What the external critic is, why it always coexists with a loud inner critic, and how to recognize it in yourself Why you cannot think your way out of the inner critic loop and what actually interrupts it How the ventral striatum and reward signaling can be used to reinforce new behaviors and self-expression Why oxytocin-mediated safety, through connection, touch, nature, and sensory pleasure, reduces the social threat driving the critic What post-traumatic growth actually looks like in relation to the inner critic: not eliminating it, but expanding capacity beyond it Chapter Markers 0:00 - The Inner Critic as a Distinguishing Characteristic of Complex Trauma 0:58 - Welcome: What the Inner Critic Actually Is 1:49 - Jennifer and Elisabeth Share Their Own Inner Critic Experiences 4:36 - Why This Matters: Recognizing Complex Trauma in the Patterns 5:33 - The Difference Between a Normal Inner Critic and a Trauma-Amplified One 7:11 - The Neuro Biology: How the Inner Critic Develops as a Protective Pattern 8:28 - How Authenticity Becomes a Threat Signal 10:38 - The Default Mode Network and Self-Referential Rumination 13:52 - What the Growth Edge Actually Feels Like in Practice 17:05 - The Brain Science: The Default Mode Network, Medial PFC, and Posterior Cingulate 19:22 - Why Developmental Trauma Teaches Children to Blame Themselves 21:10 - How to Interrupt the Loop: Sensory Anchoring, Movement, and Tools 23:18 - Working With State to Shift the Story 24:51 - Perfectionism as an Output of the Inner Critic 28:11 - Why We Stay Stuck in the Loop Even When We Know Better 29:12 - The Ventral Striatum, Reward Signaling, and Why Celebrating Small Wins Matters 35:57 - Oxytocin, Social Safety, and Softening the Hypervigilance 39:49 - The External Critic: When the Inner Voice Gets Projected Outward 43:03 - Post-Traumatic Growth and the Inner Critic: What Actually Changes Ways to Engage with Neurosomatics    Join us inside Rewire: This is where you actually experience the practices Jennifer and Elisabeth talk about on the podcast that brought us freedom, self-attunement, a new relationship with food and our body.  rewiretrial.com   Explore the neurosomatics of boundaries: boundaryrewire.com   Introduction to neurosomatics for practitioners, coaches and therapists - The NSI foundations Bundle: https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/workshops/   Wayfinder Journal: Track nervous system patterns and support preparation and integration through Neurosomatic Intelligence: https://stan.store/illuminated   Join Jennifer on Sacred Synapse to explore the intersection of neurosomatics and Psychedelic neuroscience: https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23   Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors:  FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. 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Most people think the “never enough” voice in their head is the thing keeping them motivated.The voice that says:You should be doing more.You're behind.You're wasting time.You should be further along by now.But here's the plot twist: that voice isn't unique to you.Almost everyone hears it.The difference is not who hears it. The difference is who builds their life around it.The question is whether you've mistaken it for wisdom.In this episode, we unpack the sneaky way self-contempt disguises itself as responsibility, ambition, discipline, or drive. We talk about why so many people accidentally partner with an inner critic they think is helping them succeed—while constantly moving the finish line and dismissing their growth.We also explore:• why high-capacity people are especially vulnerable to this mindset• the difference between healthy conviction and chronic internal criticism• how the “never enough” voice fuels burnout, shame, comparison, and hopelessness• why progress becomes invisible when contempt is your measuring stick• how curiosity creates transformation more effectively than self-hatred ever willOur Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What's inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon't just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows

Let's be honest — Most of us aren't actually moving forward. We're just running away from things that happened years ago, hoping that if we go fast enough, the past won't catch up. We've all heard the advice to "just let it go" or "give it to God," but if it were that easy, why are we still so exhausted? Why does that one mistake from a decade ago still have the power to ruin your Tuesday morning? In this episode of The Leader's Cut, Preston Morrison and Tim Ross are getting back into the gritty reality of what it actually takes to find your "Missing Peace." This isn't a conversation about surface-level "happiness"—it's a deep dive into the parts of your soul you've been trying to ignore. If you feel like you're just surviving your life instead of living it, it's time for a reality check. The Holy Spirit wants to do more than just comfort you; He wants to cut away the trauma that has been making your decisions for you. We're talking about the stuff nobody wants to talk about, including: * The Inner Critic's Real Identity: Who is that voice in your head that's constantly bothered by your mistakes? (Hint: It's not God, and it's not just "you.") * Emotional Indigestion: Why the things you refuse to process are currently defining your future. * The Biology of Peace: How to move the peace of Jesus from a "concept" in your head to a "regulation" in your actual nervous system. * Why You're Not "Here": The real reason you find it impossible to be present with the people you love. * The Trap of Self-Awareness: Why knowing you have a problem isn't the same thing as letting Him cut it out. You can keep running, or you can stop and finally metabolize what's been chasing you. It's time to stop letting start walking in the peace you were actually designed for. This is where true healing begins.    

If you've ever felt deeply called toward a bigger future—but also terrified to fully step into it—this episode is for you. I'm unpacking one of the most important truths about transformation: that your future is often limited not by your talent, but by the identity you've unconsciously learned to live inside of. We'll explore why growth feels uncomfortable, how the Inner Critic reacts to expansion, and why the nervous system often interprets uncertainty as danger even when your soul knows you're meant for more. I'm also sharing my own journey of building the MIND Method Academy™ and what it required me to release internally in order to hold a larger vision for my life and leadership. ✨ Tune in to learn how to separate from the conditioned identity built around fear, approval, control, and overperformance—and begin reconnecting with your Authentic Self, the part of you capable of holding the future you know is possible.   Your weekly reflection questions: Where in your life are you waiting to feel confident before allowing yourself to move forward? What old identity patterns are you still carrying that may no longer align with the future you want to create? How would your decisions change if you stopped treating fear as a warning and started seeing it as evidence of expansion?  

On this episode of The Bandwich Tapes, I sit down with Texas songwriter Amber Westerman for a conversation about new chapters, creative honesty, and the courage it takes to build a life that actually fits. Amber's journey has taken her from farming in Hawaii to writing songs in Nashville, and now back to a place that feels more like home.We talk about that turning point—recognizing when a path that once felt exciting no longer feels right. Amber shares what it meant to leave Nashville behind and return to Texas, and how that decision helped reconnect her with the reasons she started writing songs in the first place.Amber also speaks candidly about the less glamorous parts of being a modern artist, including social media burnout and the pressure to chase trends. Instead of leaning into the constant push for visibility, she's chosen to focus on authenticity and genuine connection with listeners—something that comes through clearly in both her songwriting and the way she approaches her career.Along the way, we talk about the story behind her single “Barefoot Days,” how Hawaii continues to shape her musical perspective, and what's coming next as she moves forward with new music and her band. It's an honest conversation about staying grounded, trusting your instincts, and building a creative life on your own terms.Key TakeawaysCreative paths evolve — sometimes the most important move is recognizing when it's time for a new chapter.Place shapes the music — Amber's time in Hawaii and Texas both deeply influence her songwriting voice.Authenticity matters more than trends — real connection with listeners lasts longer than viral moments.Social media pressure is real for artists — navigating that landscape requires intention and boundaries.Songwriting grows from lived experience — personal shifts often lead to deeper creative work.Returning home can reset perspective — reconnecting with roots can bring clarity and purpose.Building a sustainable music life requires honesty — both with yourself and with your audience.Music from the EpisodeBarefoot Days - Amber WestermanAbout the PodcastThe Bandwich Tapes is a podcast hosted by Brad Williams, featuring conversations with musicians, composers, producers, and creative thinkers about their musical journeys. Each episode explores the influences, decisions, and experiences that shape a life in music—one conversation at a time.Connect with the ShowEmail: contact@thebandwichtapes.com

“I want to offer you a perspective shift when it comes to your inner a-hole voice. What if that voice and even your struggles with food are not actually the problem? What if they are trying to help you?”What if your inner critic isn't the enemy, but a protective part of you? In this episode, I'm joined by clinical psychologist Dr. Jeanne Catanzaro to explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help you understand the different “parts” driving your thoughts and behaviors around food. We unpack why dieting can feel safe even when it's not serving you, and how to replace self-criticism with curiosity and compassion so you can break free from old cycles and build a healthier, more supportive relationship with yourself.What You'll Learn:Where your inner critic really comes from, and why it's so loud about food and bodyWhy dieting and controlling food can serve as coping mechanisms (and what they're trying to protect you from)How the tug of war between food freedom and restriction happens inside, and why it actually makes senseSteps to start responding to your inner critic with curiosity and compassion rather than shameWhat it means (and looks like) to approach your relationship with food differently, so you can finally break the cycleResources:Jeanne's book, Unburdened Eating: An Internal Family Systems Approach to Healing Your Relationships with Food and Your BodyJeanne's WebsiteIFS InstituteEpisode 220, How Tracking Macros Turned Toxic for Jamie (and the food freedom she finally found!)Grab the Hunger & Fullness Scale Guide at DietCultureRebel.com/hungerfullnessscale and take your next step toward building trust with your body and food.Connect with me over on Instagram at @diet.culture.rebel.Struggling with food, but not sure where to start?You don't have to feel 100% ready to get support. If you're tired of obsessing over food or feeling stuck in the diet cycle, my team of Registered Dietitians is here to help. We offer one-on-one nutrition counseling—and we accept insurance! Spots are limited, so head to https://dietculturerebel.com/insurance to see if we're covered in your state and learn how to get started.

In this episode of Why Not Wellness, Cat gets real about the things we think and say to ourselves about our bodies… and how the body keeps score, even when we don't. If you've ever: Looked in the mirror and gone straight to what's “wrong” Compared yourself to younger, smaller, “more put together” versions of you Felt like your midlife body has betrayed you …this conversation is for you. Cat talks about: The quiet, constant self-talk we aim at our bodies How your nervous system “hears” every eye roll, every harsh thought, every skipped meal and overworked day Why the body keeps score in tension, fatigue, and numbness, even when you can't remember what you said Common “voices” we carry: the Comparison Voice, the Drill Sergeant, the Inner Critic, and the Ghoster What it looks like to interrupt that pattern with a simple apology to your body How to start giving your body new receipts to keep: moments of kindness, rest, pleasure, and honest gratitude You'll also walk through a short reflection you can do anywhere: Notice the part of your body you've been hardest on Hear the stories and expectations you've placed on it Begin talking to it like a partner instead of a problem This episode is an invitation to shift from body war to body home, one softer thought at a time.

Click here to watch on YouTubeEveryone wrestles with an inner critic. The real difference is what you do when that negative voice shows up. In this episode, Brian shares how to take control of your inner narrative, guard what you allow into your mind and build the emotional and physical capacity to stay positive under pressure. He also explains why your routines, relationships and daily inputs play a major role in how you think, work and lead.From personal stories to practical coaching, Brian shows how to quiet the negative voice, reinforce the positive and become your own biggest fan.YOU WILL LEARN:• Why your input determines your output.• How routines and physical capacity help you manage negative thoughts.• Why being kind to yourself is essential for long-term success.NOTEWORTHY QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE:“Self-reflection is good, but self-deconstruction is bad.”“Not everyone in the world is cheering for us. We can't be joining the critics.”“Your input determines your output.”“We say things to ourselves we would not allow anyone else to say to us.”“When I've been at my best as a human being, it's when that part of my life is at its most disciplined.”“If you're not your own biggest fan, nobody will be.”“I'm not going to turn my mind into a prison.”“I need to be at my physical best to then have the emotional capacity to handle things.”“Social media is a great supplemental process. I don't think it's a primary process.”“The two things that will test you in business are success and adversity.”thebrianbuffinishow.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why does trying to silence your inner critic make everything worse?Dr. Cindy McGovern breaks down why the voices in your head don't respond to suppression — and why the ones you inherited from other people's fear and outdated rule systems are still running your life. This conversation goes deep into the gap between knowing something intellectually and actually living differently.What you'll learn:Why silencing your inner critic makes it louderThe difference between a victim and a volunteerHow to take inventory of which voices actually deserve the micDr. Cindy McGovern is an organizational psychologist and author who spent decades studying why smart, self-aware women stay stuck. Her work focuses on the internal permission gap — why desire alone isn't enough to change behavior.Find Dr. Cindy's book "The Permission Mission" and all links at: mindlove.com/452Ready to figure out which voices in your head are actually yours? Join the free Mind Love Collective for monthly themed calls and weekly challenge accountability. mindlove.com/joinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stop letting your inner critic convince you that you are falling behind. In this episode of The Vibe With Ky Podcast, Ky talks with trauma expert Kristine Jensen about the real roots of imposter syndrome.This season is proudly sponsored by Sucreabeille. Check out Ky's signature collab fragrance right here:https://sucreabeille.com/products/why-did-i-walk-into-this-roomKy explores the clinical difference between feeling guilty for a mistake and feeling deep shame for simply existing. Together with Kristine, they discuss how a loud inner critic is actually a biological survival response built in childhood. Listeners will learn how to practice self-compassion and take actionable steps to stop masking for safety.Here is what you will take away from this conversation:The exact clinical difference between guilt and shame.Why you do not need perfect memory recall to heal from past trauma.How to actively pivot away from toxic positivity and find true peace.Guest Website: https://kristine-jensen.com/Bruised Not Broken Book: https://a.co/d/0c5BUtauJoin The Vibe With Ky: https://thevibewithky.comMental Health Hub: https://thevibewithky.com/mental-health-resources-hubInstagram: https://instagram.com/thevibewithkyPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/thevibewithkyFacebook Subscriber Hub: https://www.facebook.com/thevibewithky/subscribe/Disclaimer: I am not a licensed mental health professional. Please seek professional help if needed.

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If your life feels like it's shifting underneath your feet—and you can't quite find solid ground—this episode is for you. I'm unpacking what's really happening when everything starts to change at once… why uncertainty activates your Inner Critic so intensely… and how the patterns of overthinking, control, and doubt aren't signs that something is wrong—but signals that something deeper is unfolding. We'll explore the hidden reason behind obsessive thinking about your future, what your nervous system is actually trying to do when it scans for certainty, and why the discomfort you feel right now may be the very space where your identity is transforming. ✨ Tune in to learn how to stay grounded in the middle of uncertainty, separate from the voice of your Inner Critic, and begin moving through this next chapter with a deeper sense of trust, clarity, and internal stability—without needing to have it all figured out.   Your weekly reflection questions: Where in my life am I trying to force certainty instead of allowing myself to move forward in the unknown? When I feel obsessive or anxious about my future, what am I actually afraid of losing? What would it look like to trust my next step—even if I can't see the full path ahead?  

Ministry can stir up all kinds of feelings, especially when we're dealing with conflict, with grief, with change. And the better we understand what's happening beneath the surface, the better we can lead ourselves—and our people—more thoughtfully and more effectively.In this episode, I'm speaking with Dr. Audrey Davidheiser, a licensed psychologist and the author of Grieving Wholeheartedly. Audrey helps us understand something called Internal Family Systems—IFS—a powerful way of thinking about our inner world and all those “parts” of us that can get in the way of effective leadership.THIS EPISODE'S HIGHLIGHTS INCLUDE:Audrey Davidheiser explains what drew her to Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy.Internal Family Systems is a psychological model that views people as having multiple internal "parts."Parts of yourself often express themselves in day-to-day decisions, sometimes even in conflict with each other.Markus Watson clarifies that having "parts" is different from dissociative identity disorder or multiple personalities.Audrey Davidheiser explains the difference between parts in IFS and the rigid, unaware system found in Dissociative Identity Disorder.Internal Family Systems builds on the foundation of family systems theory, adapting it to the internal world.Inside everyone are parts that take on different roles, often formed in response to significant experiences, such as trauma or relational wounds.Markus Watson illustrates the concept with the example of feeling different internal responses to everyday situations like going to a late-night movie.Every person has both helpful and challenging internal parts, such as critics, achievers, or comfort-seekers, and these parts influence behavior.Audrey Davidheiser introduces three types of parts in IFS: exiles (hurt parts), managers (protective parts), and firefighters (distracting/soothing parts).Parts are not inherently bad; even when their actions are destructive, they are typically trying to protect us or relieve pain.Markus Watson inquires about the relationship between sin and IFS, prompting Audrey Davidheiser to articulate how parts can miss the mark despite good intentions.Pastors can benefit from understanding their own internal parts, especially when reacting to challenging questions or situations in ministry.Audrey Davidheiser suggests the practice of being "unblended"—letting the true Self, rather than an emotional part, lead when responding to others.Leaders who operate from their "Self" (instead of from a part) can foster healthier responses and guide their communities through change with greater empathy and wisdom.RELEVANT RESOURCES AND LINKS:Audrey DavidheiserAim For Breakthrough websiteBooks mentioned:Grieving Wholeheartedly, by Audrey DavidheiserRelated Episodes:262: From Fired to Flourishing, with Chuck DeGroat254: Endless Expectations and Emotional Exhaustion206: The Healing Power of Pilgrimage, with Jon HuckinsSend me a text! I'd love to know what you're thinking!Click HERE to get my FREE online course, BECOMING LEADERS OF SHALOM.

In this episode, Larry opens the doors of a live Dad Edge Alliance Q&A featuring neuroscience expert and brain coach Ashleigh Di Lello. This is a rare look behind the curtain at what actually happens inside the Alliance — real men, real questions, and real breakthroughs in real time. Ashleigh was told she was going to die at 13. She learned to walk again three times. And when a catastrophic hip surgery in 2017 left her in chronic pain and facing the possibility of never walking again, she decided to stop trying to control her body and start studying her brain instead. What she discovered — and has since spent seven years coaching others through — is a comprehensive, neuroscience-based process for rewiring the patterns, beliefs, and self-critical voices that keep men stuck. The men in this Q&A ask the questions most of us never say out loud: how do I quiet the inner critic at 61? How do I build resilience when my business is falling apart? How do I help my perfectionist daughter without making it worse? And what does it actually mean to feel your emotions without losing your identity as a man? Ashleigh answers every one of them — and the conversation goes places you won't expect.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] The quiet, sinister nature of negative self-chatter — and why morning affirmations aren't enough [3:26] Ashleigh's story — told she would die at 13, three hip surgeries, learning to walk again, and turning it all into a neuroscience-based brain rewiring practice [5:13] Ashleigh opens the Q&A — the brain's mechanisms are the same for all of us and can become our greatest asset [8:20] Jason's question: 61 years old, raised to suppress feelings, bullied in school — how do I quiet the inner critic now? [10:35] You are not either strong or weak — you are both. The human experience is contrast. [12:15] Self-criticism locks up the neural synapses — why the brain cannot change long-term through shame [13:47] The writing exercise — ten minutes, throw it away, slow the brain down and finally hear yourself [16:26] Speaking to your brain instead of letting your brain speak to you — and why micro-action is what changes the operating system [19:40] Larry shares his own moment — sitting down after his interview with Ashleigh in tears, writing down every cruel thing he was telling himself [21:09] Chris's question: how does your process actually work from start to finish? [22:15] The 12-week process — identifying, processing out, then rewiring. You can't skip the first half. [23:43] What isn't expressed is suppressed — and the brain holds on to it [28:24] Why men are more prone to addiction — shame activates the brain's alarm system and it will always find an outlet [31:10] Scott's question: how do I build resilience under prolonged stress as an entrepreneur? [33:29] Resilience is not a character trait — it's a part of your brain you can grow [34:36] The win book — why you need a physical record of what's working, not just what isn't [36:07] When your identity gets attached to not pivoting — and how that keeps you stuck [40:27] Never make a big decision on a bad day — and give your brain real breaks from stimulation [42:24] Chris's question: I can already see perfectionist tendencies in my nine-year-old daughter — how do I help her? [43:38] Share your own struggles with your kids — it gives them permission to struggle too [45:18] Failure is not a noun — it's how we learn. And the brain can't learn through shame. [46:31] The win book applies to your kids too — build the evidence of progress, not just the list of what went wrong [49:08] Practice makes progress, not perfect — and what that means for how you raise your kids [51:38] Henry's question: how do men navigate the space between survival instincts and actually feeling their emotions? [52:23] It's not either or — it's and. Feeling doesn't eliminate strength. It creates space for more of it. [54:13] Let it out to bring it in — what isn't expressed will keep battling for space with everything you're trying to build   Five Key Takeaways Self-criticism doesn't create lasting change. When you shame yourself, the neural synapses lock up. The brain can only rewire through self-compassion, not judgment. What isn't expressed is suppressed — and it doesn't go away. It stays in the brain and body, driving patterns you don't understand and can't seem to break. The writing exercise is one of the most neuroscience-backed tools available. Ten minutes, write what you'd never say out loud, and throw it away. You move it out so you can bring something better in. Resilience is a part of the brain you can grow — by doing what you don't want to do, acknowledging it when you do, and keeping a physical record of your wins. You are not either strong or weak. You are both. Allowing yourself to feel the full human experience doesn't diminish your strength — it creates space for more of it.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Ashleigh Di Lello's website and free Brain Body Blueprint: https://ashleighdilello.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1469): https://thedadedge.com/1469 Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: what you're saying to yourself when no one is listening is either building you up or quietly tearing you apart — and most of us have no idea how cruel we actually are to ourselves. Ashleigh Di Lello learned to rewire her brain not from a textbook but from necessity. She had no other option. And what she found on the other side was not just recovery — it was a life she built on purpose. The brain can change. You can change. But it starts with being honest enough to write it all down, compassionate enough to not judge what you find, and brave enough to let it move through you instead of holding it in. Go out and live legendary.

If you're in a season where what used to work… suddenly isn't—and you feel a quiet fear, grip, or loss of control underneath it all—this episode is for you. I'm unpacking one of the most important (and least talked about) truths about growth: that the identity that built your life is not the one that will expand it. We'll explore how the Inner Critic forms as a brilliant adaptation for safety and connection, why that identity can become limiting over time, and what it really means to let go of the version of you that once felt essential. ✨ Tune in to understand the grief that comes with real transformation, learn how to stop mistaking your Inner Critic for who you are, and step into a new way of being—one rooted in freedom, not fear.   Your weekly reflection questions: Where in your life are you still relying on a version of yourself that was created for safety rather than alignment? What feels like "loss" right now that might actually be the beginning of transformation? If you weren't trying to control the outcome, how would you show up differently today?

Should you give your inner critic have a name? Psychotherapist and author Philippa Perry reckons giving that nagging voice in your head a silly name is the first step to stopping it running your life.In this chat with Fearne, Philippa explains why not feeling ‘good enough' is often less about truth and more about habit. She shares how to tell the difference between a helpful critical inner voice and a self-sabotaging one, and why negative thought patterns keep us stuck.Fearne and Philippa also chat about the power of shame, and why talking about the things you feel most embarrassed about is the fastest way to shrink them.Plus, how is your phone eating away at your ability to connect IRL? And what can you do if you can't access therapy? Philippa talks through some of her favourite self-therapy exercises.Philippa's novel, Shrink Solves Murder, is out on May 7th.If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like:Philippa's first Happy Place episodeFlo PerryBryony Gordon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You were not failing at your diet. Your nervous system was doing exactly what it learned to do to survive. In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof go deep on one of the most personal and most pervasive patterns they have both lived through: the disordered relationship with food and the body. Building on their recent conversation with Luis Mojica, this is the episode where they go further, bringing the neuroscience, the lived experience, and the practical path forward into a single, honest conversation. Both hosts have a long history with binge eating disorder. For decades, food was the primary regulation strategy, the way the nervous system found relief from stress it had no other tools to process, the way the body found pleasure when pleasure felt dangerous, and the way a dysregulated system managed to keep functioning. They are not talking about this from the outside. They are talking about it from the other side. The conversation moves through several layers. First, why food behaviors are regulation strategies, not character flaws, and why disordered eating works, at least until it doesn't. Then into interoception, the brain's ability to sense internal body signals, and how disrupted interoceptive awareness drives everything from not knowing you're full to being unable to feel your own emotional states. They trace how visual processing deficits can distort body image and increase stress load, how the default mode network gets locked into self-referential rumination and body obsession, and how the salience network learns to flag the body itself as a threat. Elisabeth breaks down what is actually happening neurologically when the obsessive loop runs, why insight alone does not stop it, and what actually interrupts it: sensory anchoring, movement, proprioceptive tools, and the slow building of emotional processing capacity over time. Jennifer brings it back to the body and the breath, to shame, to the secret eating and the shame spirals that followed, and to what it actually felt like to slowly, gradually come out of that. The episode closes with one of the most important reframes in the whole conversation: healing your relationship with food and your body is not about getting the food right. It is a portal into self-attunement, emotional processing, and relational capacity that ripples into every area of life. It is post-traumatic growth.     In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why food behaviors are nervous system regulation strategies, not willpower failures How the absence of early co-regulation leads to using food as a modulation tool Why diets fail without somatic and nervous system support in place How interoceptive deficits drive disordered eating, emotional disconnection, and body image distortion How visual processing issues can compound stress load and body dysmorphia What the default mode network and salience network have to do with food obsession and body rumination Why psychedelics can soften rigid thought loops temporarily but cannot rewire them without nervous system preparation and integration How to interrupt the rumination loop using sensory anchoring, orienting, movement, and proprioception Why shame is harder to metabolize than any food behavior and how to begin working with it somatically How uncoupling pleasure from shame is a critical and often overlooked part of healing the relationship with food and body Why healing the food relationship is one of the deepest portals to relational health and post-traumatic growth   Chapter Markers 0:00 - Food as Energy, Rest, and the High Performer Trap 01:08 - Welcome: Moving From Control to Self-Attunement 03:20 - Six Years of Conversations About Food and How Far We Have Come 06:24 - Every Diet Failed. Here Is Why. 08:31 - Food Behaviors Are Regulation Strategies, Not Character Flaws 11:29 - Safety Has to Come Before Pattern Change 14:19 - Perfectionism, the Inner Critic, and Controlling Appearance as a Stress Response 15:43 - How Vision Training Changed Body Image 19:50 - Interoception: The Missing Piece in Food and Body Healing 23:56 - Physical Hunger vs Emotional Need: Learning to Tell the Difference 28:13 - Interrupting the Pattern in Real Time 30:28 - Building Emotional Processing as a Skill 36:56 - The Default Mode Network and Why the Obsessive Loop Runs 40:05 - The Salience Network: When Your Brain Learns Your Body Is a Threat 41:58 - How to Interrupt the Loop: Sensory Anchoring, Movement, and Proprioception 53:14 - Shame, Secret Eating, and How They Get Woven Together 56:12 - Uncoupling Pleasure From Shame: A Portal Back to the Body 1:01:32 - Food as One of the Deepest Portals to Post-Traumatic Growth Ways to Engage with Neurosomatics  Join us inside Rewire: This is where you actually experience the practices Jennifer and Elisabeth talk about on the podcast that brought us freedom, self-attunement, a new relationship with food and our body.  rewiretrial.com   Explore the neurosomatics of boundaries: boundaryrewire.com   Introduction to neurosomatics for practitioners, coaches and therapists - The NSI foundations Bundle: https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/workshops/   Wayfinder Journal: Track nervous system patterns and support preparation and integration through Neurosomatic Intelligence: https://stan.store/illuminated   Join Jennifer on Sacred Synapse to explore the intersection of neurosomatics and Psychedelic neuroscience: https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23   Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors:  FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired   Resources and Research   Feusner, Jamie D., et al. "Abnormalities of Object Visual Processing in Body Dysmorphic Disorder." Psychological Medicine, vol. 41, no. 11, 2011, pp. 2385–2397. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21557897/   Feusner, Jamie D., et al. "Abnormalities of Visual Processing and Frontostriatal Systems in Body Dysmorphic Disorder." Archives of General Psychiatry, 2010. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2853756/   Madsen, Sarah K., et al. "Visual Processing in Anorexia Nervosa and Body Dysmorphic Disorder: A Review." Journal of Psychiatric Research, 2013. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3786585/   Dhir, S., et al. "Parameters of Visual Processing Abnormalities in Adults with Body Dysmorphic Disorder." PLOS ONE, 2018. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6261110/   ​​Khalsa, Sahib S., et al. "Interoceptive Awareness in Anorexia Nervosa: Disturbances in Body Awareness." Biological Psychiatry, vol. 75, no. 4, 2014, pp. 275–281. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24090776/   Pollatos, Olga, et al. "Reduced Perception of Bodily Signals in Anorexia Nervosa." Eating Behaviors, vol. 9, no. 4, 2008, pp. 381–388. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18928907/   Jenkinson, Paul M., et al. "Interoceptive Sensitivity and Eating Disorder Psychopathology: A Meta-Analysis." Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews, vol. 92, 2018, pp. 387–397. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29935263/   Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear.  We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. 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We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.  We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.  Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. 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