Navigating No Contact with Toxic Parents

Today my guest is Cristina Mardirossian, the Founder and Director of Pasadena Trauma Therapy, Inc. Cristina is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist as well as a Certified EMDR therapist in Pasadena, CA. She works predominately with adult trauma survivors/Complex PTSD (sexual abuse, emotional abuse, neglect, physical abuse, dissociation, incest, cult survivors, etc). Her main approach in working with trauma truly lies in doing Parts Work using the Internal Family Systems (IFS) lens, however, she also uses the following modalities in her practice: Brainspotting, somatic therapies ( such as Trauma Resiliency Module, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy), and The Havening Techniques. Cristina also offers consultation to therapists and to clients for PTSD/Complex Trauma and Dissociative Disorders/OSDD/DID. She can be found at www.pasadenatraumatherapy.com Instagram: pasadena_trauma_therapy

In this episode I break down why dysfunctional family systems operate the way they do and why it can be so hard to even recognize our own pain and trauma because we grew up in systems of minimizing and denying

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My guest today is Ingrid Clayton, Phd. A clinical psychologist working with trauma survivors and a survivor herself. Today we are having a candid discussion about gaslighting and self gaslighting and why we do it and what it really is. Ingrid can be found at www.ingridclayton.com and Instagram @ingridclaytonphd

Today my guest in Miranda Pacchiana of The Second Wound. She also has a podcast called Truth and Consequences. The second wound is when survivors tell family members of the abuse that takes place within the family and they are not believed or they might be believed and told to get over it or move on or even worse scapegoated and ostracized from family. Miranda shares some of her own story of this. Let me know what you got out of this in the comments! Miranda can be found at: www.secondwound.com IG: @thesecondwound I can be found at: Tracy Principi www.tracyprincipi.com @tracyprincipi FB Group: Navigating No Contact with Toxic Parents

My guest today is Caroline Strawson, she is a narcissistic abuse survivor, therapist and coach. She is trained in IFS, Brainspotting and first year Somatic Experiencing! She's going to share some of her story as well as how narcissism usually starts in a childhood home. We gravitate to the familiar rather than the unknown and how to recognize and break that cycle. Caroline can be found on IG @carolinestrawson Her website is www.carolinestrawson.com

Today my guest is Mary Toolan, Scapegoat Recovery Expert. She shares her experience of being a scapegoat child and being no contact. Mary can be found on Instagram @scapegoatchildrecovery and her website is www.marytoolan.com

In this episode I'm breaking down why it's so hard to go no contact! I also have a very exciting announcement!

In this episode my special guest is, Ada Brosier, LMSW. Ada shares her personal journey of healing from a traumatic childhood and finding her voice and truth. As trauma survivors it is often a lifelong challenge to find out who we are, to trust ourselves and say how we feel. This episode will offer some personal insight from Ada and I as we have an indepth chat.

My guest today is Sarah Jean White, LMHC, CYT. We are talking about why it's often so difficult to set boundaries with toxic parents and break out of the cycle of having false hope they will change and much more! Find Sarah on Instagram @sarahjeanlmhc

Christy is a therapist in Bend, Oregon. She shares her own personal story of going No Contact with her own Parents and growing up with an alcoholic mother. We talk about why it's so hard in the beginning to go No Contact. Check out Christy on Instagram @trauma.queen.christy

My guest today is Rhonda Pearson, a Certified Somatic Soul Coach. IG @rhonda_d_speights. We talk about the cycle we can find ourselves in that includes guilt and shame and the loop that never ends. We discuss that journey in detail and how we get in touch with our needs and come back to our bodies after being rejected and abandoned by caregivers and so much more!

Siblings in toxic families have different experiences and I'll explain why

Breaking down the Scapegoat role and why it is abuse.

In this episode I give example of a trauma bond and what that means so you can identify if this might be happening to you or even a sibling.

My client Brittany shares her experience from living with her toxic mother in July when she reached out to me for services to now where she has completely transformed her life in a few short months. She shares how the Somatic Experiencing and nervous system exercises as well as having validation and a safe container were transformative for her.

My guest today is a fellow Somatic Worker, Luis Mojica of Holistic Life Navigation. One thing that can be really hard to do is raise children with an unregulated nervous system. Our kids can trigger us. Listen in as Luis provides some tools you can start using right away with yourself and your children no matter what age. This is truly the key to not passing down more trauma.

Brian Peck, LCSW joins us in this deep dive conversation on Forgiveness and why it is often pushed on us to forgive family and why that is not helpful and doesn't heal trauma.

Rate these questions on a scale from 1-5 to give yourself some clarity on the impact of emotional manipulation.

The subtle yet damaging effects of a covert narcissistic mother

This episode talks about the damage of invalidation, not being heard or having emotional capacity and how that shows up and can hurt us.

I know Mothers Day can bring up some unresolved emotions so tune in for some aha moments!

This is an overview of what you might be feeling during this time and why

Some tips for these stressful and anxious times. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Breaking down forgiveness and why it’s not necessary for healing! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

What is gaslighting, how it’s used and how to know if it’s happened or is happening to you. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode I explain triangulation and how it’s used to manipulate others. Email me tracy@tracyprincipi.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Enmeshment means we did not get a sense of who we are. Our individual identities, opinions, ideas and feelings were not supported. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Guilt is a huge process of going no contact. It is a wavy line. I dive into this multi-layered emotion. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode I explain why purring your heart out in a letter is a bad idea and what you can do instead. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In today’s episode I’m sharing my story of growing up with emotional abuse and the coping mechanisms I developed to survive in the world. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Are you extra anxious during the holidays? Not sure how to handle toxic parents? Maybe you feel guilty for being No Contact. Tune in as I offer suggestions on different scenarios. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Step one is coming to terms with the fact you will never get the acceptance or acknowledgment you are seeking from your toxic parents. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this first episode I open the container for this discussion that isn’t being talked about. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app