New You New Life

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Do you find it interesting that when it all hits the fan. Some friends become enemies and some enemies become friends. Yes, but no matter what. It's not their business. We get those friends that secretly support us in everything we do. However, when everything gets to boiling I'm out. I don't pick this side or that side. All the while knowing what pain and tragedy looked like in your world as they were from a distance having your back. Bye Felicia or Felix I see how you move. I'm good and counting it all Joy! That's how we must handle people who pretend to understand, care, and so much more without coming close. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

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Simply put I am motivated to change everything about me that made me choose, pick, and assume that the friends that walked away were true, the love that didn't work owed me anything, the opportunity that never emerged was ever a part of my existence.  I'm changing because somewhere in the past my decision making helped me to excuse red flags, red lights, yellow lights and not yield from detours and one way streets. Sometimes we have to sit, marinate, and look at all the evidence before us. Is this good for me. Am I holding on for reasonings of guilt, lack, frustration, failure, shame, or unbelief? Why when I did see these flags did I not run from them. Was my self est3m so low that it continues to dictate staying? The answer is Yes, we hold on because we stop believing in ourselves and how we can ultimately push towards cultivating a different outcome and mindset instead of sitting within certain experiences that stunt, our growth, eliminate the power within and take away the urge to push out any birth of becoming and enhancing who we are.  Get up, get going, and you may not have all the pieces you need but start your life in the right direction of taking the first steps. Doing so, will create an inner willingness to mush forward that will build up not just your mind but everything.  It's easy to stay with someone, something, doing things out of comfortability. You are not stronger when you give in to this. You are stronger when you walk away from such. Living in pain, conflict, misery, and doubt will not help you be the best you can be, have the best you can be, and do the best you can do. No it will keep you trapped and screaming for more. More acceptance, understanding, appreciation, validity, peace, independence. You don't have to live within your trapped expectations. No let go.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

If you are easily offended, we will easily lose our footing in life. You should never allow others to dictate how we feel about ourselves or them after interacting. Giving someone the responsibility of caring how we feel after they have offended, disregarded, or pushed us to the side in any way does nothing but break us down in the wrong scenarios.  We must never take offense to someone else's actions. When we do that we give them footing into our worlds. Life begins to take on a new meaning when we allow what others have embedded in us to rule over what we know to be true. Life is like a box of chocolates Ladies, it's always going to deliver something chewy , yummy, crunchy, and yucky that will sometimes knock you off your feet and get you to see red coming from someone who is far off or near your inner circle.  Everyone has an assumption, opinion and idea to make you a greater you. It's not what they say, it's how we react to it.You have the responsibility of guarding things from entering into your head mind and soul that render no substance. Be mindful of how you invite others into your Conversations and life experiences no matter how small.  Write this down, make it a journal prompt. It's none of our business how others come at us, for ,or to us. It's our business how we handle it and how much importance we actually give the person's assumption, interaction, or issue with us. Someone will always have a viewpoint or opinion to share. You rightfully have the responsibility to respond or not respond intelligently.  Keep a poised and elegant posture about you  at all times when dealing with outsiders. What they say should be heard. But you don't always have to intake it. If what they are saying has no relevance. Never give it credence. Your reaction is just what they need to get the picture. Sometimes a none reaction says more than anything. Grow tough skin that can't be peeled off easily by others.Let them be assured and in their assumptions and thoughts. It's none of our business.   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

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Dealing with human beings is like playing a high stakes game of poker. As people, we do one of three things. We mask up, with our game face as if we were attending a masquerade all the while controlling the narrative and playing games trying to earn the advantage while having a terrible hand to play. We lay our hand of cards out on the table, with no caution not having a concern of losing just wanting to reveal that I'm not the full householder. Then there is the one that has the full house. This person has neither vulnerability or a poker face. They are, assured, of their win. Some would chop it up to vanity and conceit based upon that persons current standing in the game. I can tell you from experience that if you are moving with no caution and laying all your cards on the table with everyone. You will forever lose. Your precious cargo of information should stay close to those who see your merit will and will never use your vulnerability as a way to demean or destroy you. However, you have to think and move strategically to protect yourselves from wolves. People with this personality find themselves giving over to other people's opinions and concerns and trying to change up for them. Ladies, if you are a constant game player. Going through life not making heavyweight decisions, just playing with others mentally, and financially you are setting yourself up to receive the law reciprocity. What you put out and act out will be returned unto you. Try a hint of vulnerability and honesty! But if you are the person who has the cards. Hold em until you can't. Play them at the right time and, don't let others see your hand. Protect the view but stay looking in all your blind spots to observe anyone's plus one seeking to learn of your upper hand. Stay the course. And practice never allowing others to see you sweating through a bad game. As always I say Write this down, make it a journal prompt, Be Real and True eliminate games and lies for personal or professional gain, be honest and vulnerable but, yet don't give away all your plays. Earn and win with integrity. Taking something that never belonged to you will bring you frustration and tragedy. Play your full house always at the right time. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

Have you ever wanted a car, a dress, anything tangible so much? You dotted all your I's and crossed every T's to be told, no, you can't have that! This or that will not work for you. Many times we hear behind every 20 No's there is someone who's waiting to present us with a yes.  But when going through our seasons of doubt of ever hearing what we want to hear and uncertainty, we can't see why there was ever a no. We feel disconnected and frustrated. We may even sleep, eat, and take a shower marinating on the number of times we have experienced hearing the word No! However, instead of focusing and giving the No influence, we should revisit and revamp our approach. Something surrounding that No you were given, wasn't appropriately done or completed. Something was, or was not, said that was off. Research is missing. Or maybe those 20 people feel No is the right word for you. Our yes's come in seasons. If Yes, came all the time we would be un-sobered spoiled adults acting like children. Hearing No builds character. Hearing No builds might, hearing No gives you a never give up attitude. We have all heard that term. Everything that glitters is not gold. So everything we want is not always for us. So we have to use our inner intuition ladies and see why that product, person, or opportunity, has been held back from us? It could just be that before we get our yes, we have to grow a thicker skin, stamina to push forward to #21  answers which could finally  be our Yes! As always I say write it down, make this a journal prompt, and remember the last no you heard won't stop the Yes, that's coming your way. Ladies, if you stay persistent. Staying at it is Key, to Hearing and Celebrating your Yes! Finally,  after being bottled down by the No's body shots in the corner of the ring of opportunity. You come out giving it all you got with an uppercut here and there, as you fight your way to the middle of the ring, towards that one if not two Yes's. No is not an option.  Your yes is very near. Don't give up. Tour yes is calling you. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

Has everything fallen in shambles in life? Does everything in your life have you side-eyeing it, searching for motives? Sometimes it's like that. But, please realize on the other side of life's crazy personality is much more of a friendlier journey. I speak of journeys, allot on this platform, because that is what this is! A sometimes blind journey of faith towards all things that make you purr like a kitten and grow lol. So I just came to remind you. Simply you are worthy of your next level and all that's being added to you. Smile bright even when the ugly rears its head. Stand as tall and firm as you can and have faith in yourself. You can not only do it. You can beyond conquer your self-esteem giant. Don't let it tear you down. Tear it down. Worthiness is becoming on any woman. Worthiness affirms and will have you feeling like nothing can break me, mold me, and shape me, but my honest truth. Living within worthiness, I can promise, life will look and feel so different.  The way you and I act, and relate to any situation will never be the same. Because when it sets in that, you are worthy of whatever? This catapults your self-esteem. So while we want to chant, I reclaim my time. Loves, let us start by reclaiming our worthiness. There is nothing like it. And once you get there, there will be no-one like you or who could stop you.  As always I say write this down, Make this a journal prompt. Worthiness is a lifestyle, not a word. I walk with my head high, shoulders out, and attitude checked, because Worthy I am. You and I are more than worthy. Fb:https://www.facebook.com/NewYouNewLifePodcast/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

Patience is the virtue that we all seek. We are currently in an era that has awakened an impatience for anything!  Everything has a non preparatory aspect to it. It's called pop it in the microwave and in a few minutes it's done. Life doesn't truly happen that way. But the internet has spoiled us to think so. Another thing is that we are extremely  focused on what, and who we want. Rather than who or what we need. Our wants and cravings will send life into an out of control tailspin. Because, most not all of the time what we want is no good for us. He feels like sour yogurt is placed in our stomachs. It seemed to have a great taste while going down, but once in our systems, it was toxic.Now, why would you want to feel out of it? Life is meant to be enjoyed. When we want something or someone, they bring us a displeasure that hardens our hearts, cripples our self-esteem, and gets us to help them devalue who we are. You don't need that eye candy if he is not showing you chivalry, appreciation, and support. But because you and I can be impatient, we cannot see past that. We don't need that Gucci tote bag right now. It doesn't matter our cravings when we do things that align us with a path not chosen for us. This is practicing impatience. A few ways to deal with this is,  1 Meditate, silence all the lambs and lions in your world. Turn on some environment music or just sit in total peace and quiet. 2. Unpack your goals the right way, this means to make your large task towards your goals measurable and smaller. 3. Oh boy, this is the duzzy for me. Learn to Focus on what you can control. Everything is not in my control. Every situation will not happen as I would like. So I have to take the aspect that I love to plan out the equation and just let life happen. 4. Every comment or Action doesn't deserve our reaction. Sometimes people and situations will make you want to handle them. But it's unnecessary drama added to the issue their pushing, or that happening the best to do is to respond to what's necessary and leave the rest for them to deal with. It does not matter how big the rumor is. Your reaction gives lies validity.  5. Set specific and much-needed boundaries. Everyone can't be, nor should they be in your inner court. 6. Lastly, practice gratitude. Appreciate the underappreciated. But appreciate those assisting you on your whole woman journey. Thankfulness makes the world go round As always I say write it down, Make this a journal prompt. Having patience is beyond a virtue,  learning to accept the timing of gifts, changes, people, and blessings being presented to you in the right season. You are a woman of patience and virtue, you are a woman who patiently  waits with expectancy. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

Have you ever come to a place where you're breaking down from facing all your truths about yourself. About how you have conducted yourself life? How you once moved blindly through life as if you were on your own cloud.  Although we should forever move forward. Strive towards happiness. And breath some relieve. There comes a time when we have to cut all the fantasizing out and truly take a look at ourselves with a magnifying glass that even reveals the gunk in the crevices.  Where you and I  have dared to look when you are cracking halfway smiles and experiencing what should be joyful milestones and changes in life. Yet something is missing. We feel disconnected on every level. There comes a time where you have to dig deep into all the natural facts and details of how we got where you are now. How did life happen the way it did for us. Who were we before all the changes? Then that's when it happens you find that you may have not been as innocent as you thought. You might have taken actions that didn't practice the best of appreciation for yourself or others involved. You made unfocused and forced decisions and moved in life with a lack of emotional intelligence.  To wake up and realize how quick and nonchalant it all happened, you are forced to cry out, scream, and just feel like you are not worthy of that person, person's, thing, or level of advancement.  You begin to see how you carelessly on a whim made decisions that not only alter your life but so many others. As you come to this realization, you feel defeated, hurt, like a broken heart overwhelmed by the truth of your true identity.  You can't fake a breakthrough. We can claim it, and that's good, but it doesn't happen until we stop falsifying how our current and past collide. How we let our emotions and concern for self only interrupt our world.  I'm walking this out now! Yesterday I realized my truth, and it made me want to give up on pursuing happiness and the level of excellence I'm heading for in business. But I can't and won't stop. For a moment, I felt without any other choice. I called my sister, best friend, and friend and poured out my heart. My realization came by way of a phone call to get a specific date. From there, a simple call became a heartache. When I told you, ladies, we are walking this journey together. I didn't lie.  Yesterday after months of not understanding how I lost, true love, family, growth, and opportunity my truth, shot an arrow of realness to my heart.  Now, ladies, you may want to leave that man, (not an abusive scenario) but you once elevated each other, maybe it's children that are unruly and don't listen to your wisdom, and instruction, or perhaps it's a job or opportunity that leaves you feeling lackluster and empty. Whatever the case, take a moment and put your emotional intelligence in order. Try not to just see what you want, to gain an aspect of peace understanding and accomplishment. See the big picture of how it will affect all parties.  My breakthrough showed me how selfish and careless I was. My emotions called me to do things and make moves I would have never done had I just took a breather. The other thing is I learned every man or woman that says they have your back do not. There's always a hidden agenda. In most cases not, all. So watch who you bring to your backyard barbeques, or fancy dinner parties metaphorically speaking. I brought guests that complained about everything from the aesthetics of my home, decor, the taste of each dish, and the food presentation itself. And because I was the host. I was responsible for anything occurring at my party. I didn't handle it well at all. Yesterday I had to take responsibility for my actions, but I'm not staying there. I am moving forward toward my tomorrow that involves sound decisions that are profoundly respectful and encouraging to myself and others. To those who complain at my dinner party or barbeque, I forgive you! To those who were offended by others --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

There many times when are voices are taken and disregarded as important. Don't give others too many chances to tell you to hush. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

What's love got to do it?  Everything! When it is not coming from within.  When we as women seek out love and appreciation, adoration, and loyalty, yet we fail to give ourselves that very thing. We fall for the illusions of what we are to expect from Men, Family, Friends,  Peers, and even sometimes our Children. You see love, this can occur in any type of relational environment. When we are begging, yearning, crying, screaming. Will someone please love me, cherish me, appreciate me? We are saying with our very lips. I am being lazy, I am not feeling me. Will someone else make it easier on me and do it? How dare you demand that of someone else when you are still struggling with the woman in the mirror.  We have to love ourselves first, become our own best friend, and adore spending time with the one beauty we look in the mirror at on a daily basis.  What's wrong with popping some popcorn and pouring you a glass of Rose watching a comedy and laughing alone.  What's wrong with taking yourself on a drive to the beach,  and having dinner, what is wrong with packing some snacks and hiking the Hollywood hills, what's wrong with treating yourself to a movie or play. Not a thing. Try it! If we can not invest in being happy and joyous alone. Who are we, to ask anyone to treat us as we have not, treated ourselves. Begging someone to pour into you when you fail to pour your own personal energies into yourself looks like a curse word to others. In most cases, not all. People treat us how we treat ourselves, so if you are seeking to connect to others and for them,  to see your value? Please, see in yourself first. When we add people into our lives, both parties should add tremendous value to the other. No-one person should ever pour themselves into a loveless, empty vessel that can't seem to invest in itself. Never should we give over and stop being ourselves to enrich someone more than we do the inner me. Remember, your value is your responsibility. Let your love inside radiate so that others can see you love on the most important lady in your life. You. Which gives others the vibes to connect and want you just as much as you can't get enough of yourself. It is only then that others will seek you out to invest in having friendships, love, and opportunities beyond with you. As always I say write it down,  Make it a journal prompt to love you in every way and invest in time that can grow and enhance both the inner and outer you. That's real self-care. Run a bubble bath, listen to some water waves or jazz. Enlighten yourself to what you want.. Love you first, and all the rest will follow. Woman, sprinkle yourself with your own type of awesome! Your true love comes from within. Feel the love in you --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

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What is your heart conversation? Is your heart, selfish, or selfless? Does it forgive or hold grudges? Have you come to a point in your life's journey where your heart keeps having critical conversations that tell you it's had enough, or is your heart at the moment saying it can't get enough of too much of one thing. Our hearts don't stop until life has emptied us. This thing that pumps with no end has several jobs to perform. One is mechanically the other spiritually. Our hearts helps us live, by pumping blood around our bodies, it provides oxygen, and nutrients that we are need of, and it lastly gets rid of waste. The heart is a dynamic organ that performs two jobs within one. Ladies, the portion of the heart I am speaking regarding, is connected to your soul. It is the desires and sense of fulfillment we have. Yes, this portion of the heart is operated based on our emotional intelligence and listens to the mind. What is your heart administering to your mind at this very moment? Are you thinking about how your lives are thriving even as you are going through its rugged roads? Perhaps you are thinking that good old' lady Life owes you more than she is presenting you.  You are finally at your wits end with your membership to Life's AAA road service, and find it to be a joke. You could be doing better in your career, with a different man, less or more children, more money, better opportunities, in a fancier home, and more metropolitan city. When we provoke a negative mindset, our heart is saying it needs to be fixed. During this very time, we have one of the following conditions of the heart,  broken, fearful, angry, hardened, empty, or thirsty, and can't embrace having a whole heart because we are more fixated on what we want rather than what we have. The grass will always look greener on the opposite side of our decisions until we are there. Trust me. We all have heard the phrase. Water, your own grass, and then you will see it turn a beautiful green. Mow it and keep it maintained, and you will be the talk of the town. Stop looking at what your neighbor might have that you think you want. And look at how you can make a life through your heart conversations, illuminate and create in your world an even more beautiful landscape of love, success, and opportunity.  It's time to write it down and make it a journal prompt and remember your heart and the condition of it is your business and responsibility. Check your heart, is it walking in love and all things pure, or regret, frustration, and discontentment? Your heart is awaiting the TLC, and private time it needs with you, to blossom and grow. Your heart is ready to live true! Are you ready? Ready to walk in oneness with your heart? Are you ready to show your heart love? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

Reaction is what every antagonist wants. Your adversaries or whatever you care to call them. Would like to see you come out of yourself and act extra so that they can stand a lot taller in your presence. But instead of reacting breath, think, and then say nothing. Every comment is not warranted as an answer, and every action not a reaction. The best way to kill people with kindness is to not give attention to their foolishness. Take heed to what they say to you but give it no authority. Always have every  Ace in your hand ready to play and never let your right hand know what your left hand is doing. For years, I struggled seriously with the habit of upsetting my spirit for situations, things, and people, who were either wasting my time or talents. Until one day, one of my mentors pulled the bottom hem of my skirt. Rai, are you really giving that any allegiance? You are a queen, walk like one, talk like one, think like one, and never play small for anyone. I had to take a look at what she said. I had played a limited role for so long that people who knew I was a go-getter and solid winner, saw me play the role of a peasant. Playing this role that was challenging and filled with so much roleplay that I was dying inside. So here is what I did. And you can find your own ritual of bringing your kingdom ship back to life. But as for me, loves everything starts and ends with God!  Okay,  I listened to what she said, followed by going to the one who created me. I then asked Him to restore and reconcile me into the woman He has prospered me to be. I begged him with my full being to bring her front and center again. But make me a more improved version. I had to again become a woman who walked with authority and acceptance of who God had made me. I fasted for 5 days for every area of my life. Seriously, no water, no food.  People were literally calling me baby Jesus. I just said Wow, laughed, and kept going. I placed my face in Word, verse mapped, and waited on my creator to revamp my soul that was broken and nearly dead. Listen, I was absolutely, having a can these dry bones live Lord moment?  I then took inventory of my actions toward myself and others and all the events that occurred in my life, how I had contributed to each, I asked for forgiveness,  and amended a few broken relationships.  One of them was essential and of great importance.  And last, but least, I separated myself from arenas of foolishness, physically and mentally. The journey is not over, although that is where it started for me. I am not quite sure how it commence for you? We are all walking our own paths to finding our truth. How will your journey begin? What will you do to get back to reclaiming your queendom status? Well ladies it's time to   Write it down  Make it a journal prompt and embrace the journey as you grow into who you are becoming. Never play small for others to shine or win. Walk in the room with your head held high being beautifully you. Continue to be gorgeously transformed from within. It is time to reclaim your royalty. The queen is in the building. All hail the queen. She's back. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

Ladies, have you ever just said, I am going to look life square in the face and ask it, hey, what do you think about me? Why do you make yourself so hard? What are you trying to get me to see, do, learn, understand? Life is no joke. It sometimes feels like you are in a fistfight and, you are losing end. It seems as though she does not want for us to truly live. It would much rather play tug of war and games. Life is what it is: a city of experiences waiting to introduce themselves to us. Sometimes Life will doll itself up and go out of her way to introduce you and me to others at the party then disappear. Bye, girl, you are on your own. No seriously, life is the plus one that gets lost after she has introduced you to one of two people you will ever meet. The person or group sent to uplift you, love you and appreciate you, and the other that is sent to rock all parts of your world apart and teach you her hardcore lessons of taking a cocktail from strangers metaphorically speaking. Life will show you just how mature you really are when she is being presented with your emotions. Life has no feelings, she is a woman of streets with no morals, a drug dealer with no heart, a preacher without a soul. She treats everyday like its own and gives a damn about how she interacts with others. Life is boisterous, loud, and conniving, and Life, says it is her way or the highway. So, My question is, how do you put life in her place? How do you get her to act right? You stop feeding her excuses and show her your truth, not the misaligned truth she has designed for you. You develop a master plan that works for you and her. One that aligns you with success and all those things you crave in her. Set goals and stick to them. Focus and eliminate things that say no to you. Be poignant in living the truth and putting a muzzle on life!  You got this! It is time to put life, in her place. Do not make frivolous and anxious decisions that are not targeted. Rob Schneider, who portrays one of my favorite characters from the movie Waterboy, said it best, and I'm going to repeat him to remind you that You Can Do It! With that being said Write it down  Make it a Journal Prompt and remember life, does not run you, you run her. She has to fall in line and watch your steer. Life likes to push us around. Keep telling her Life, Sh! I got this love. I got my life in order. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

When one thinks that they are the reason everything happens and everything happening to them is based upon their own great deeds and talents. This is when the delusion of Pride starts to set in the heart. Not one of us is achieving and accomplishing on our own just as it takes a village to raise our children; it indeed takes the same for us to have successful lives. I have experienced so many people who have allowed an arrogant outlook to rise up in their thoughts that dismissed all of the hard-working men and women who helped them get to the level of success that they have. It was not just them that got the promotions, recognitions, or received the once farfetched achievements. No, there was a force of determination set up in a posse of friends, peers, superiors, and home front advocates that have kept preaching continuous lessons or do not stop you can do it. We have all heard behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women, behind every successful worker is her team of peers, behind every great boss there is a parade of front line workers, and ladies, let us not forget behind every achieving man is a woman. All these sayings make sense because where there are prolific remarkable achievements, there is a team of people that helped motivate that person to their height of success. I  have said all of this, ladies, because it may at times feel like you are pushing yourself out and taking this journey alone. You may feel like no one, and nothing has got you out of that horrific situation but you. I am  SORRY NOTHING can be further from the truth than you realized because every person who took out time to acknowledge your pain and took out time to see you through your personal rights of passage of getting you together has helped, hold up your crown, straighten and even at times placed it back on your head when it dropped. These individuals and communities are worthy of your attention and gestures of appreciation. When we take on the Look at me shine. I did this alone. We are telling ourselves an unscrupulous lie because not one person has gotten to the top by herself. Do not allow Pride to shorten how long you experience success in life. If you can not recognize the parade of others behind you on the staircase, you won't be allowed even grandeur success because Pride never stands the test of time and always falls, fails, and destructs. As always I say write it down, Make it a journal prompt and remember not one woman can sashay herself to any level where she paramount in life. Alone. A whole woman wants all those heaving and hoeing, pushing, believing, and guiding to be blessed and recognized. Real women don't win alone. Woman,  you will never do it alone.  Join us on YouTube and Facebook --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

Ladies if you are the smartest person in the room. Then you are in the wrong room and have done nothing but stunted your growth in life. Life is about spreading your love and talents amongst each other. But my question to you is, are you the smartest woman standing in the room of your inner court? Do you have the grandest influence, and largest intellectual territory? No it's not okay for that to be your truth. You should always be surrounded by people who have arrived and gone where you are headed in life. One thing we do is hold on to friendships that don't benefit us , reek of bad character, and drain us mentally, emotionally, spiritually, psychologically, or sorry to say financially out of obligation for how long we have been friends.  While we should cherish our childhood friends we should also dismiss any weak friend that does more taking than giving. If your friendships do not have substance or reciprocation what is there to it? Nothing!!! Okay now I'm going to give you something you need, truth. It may hurt, It may not feel at all good. However what these life vitamins will do is give you a volume of reality. If the above is the case. Oh my you don't need to get rid of your friends you have, in most cases at least, you do however need to grasp opportunities to connect to women who think, act, achieve and move like you do. It's okay to pick up the pieces and move away from people or things that hold you back from your greatness. It's okay and most definitely not a big deal if you aren't the biggest geek on premise.   Look around your inner circle what is reflected when you see inner workings of the women who surround you? Are you entangled in a web of friendships with no substance? Are you friends benefitting from you and you, them? If so, you're in a good company, and headed towards excelling.  As I always say write it down, Make it a journal prompt  and don't forget wise women don't mix with fools who want nothing but to slumber, They are only attracted to meaningful connections that build them up and take them places. Never,should anyone look to just get from someone.Nope that plain usery. However, we should give as immensely as they do so in return. Life is about being uplifted not down traughten. Remember to check the blind spots for fakeness and users, Check it for friends who seek to gain not grow. You are worthy of great friendships. No doubt you are worthy of having winners in your circle. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

We are what we believe. What is it that you have begun to speculate about you? Have you gotten caught up on lies you heard from others or fibs you have once assumed about yourself?  Its, time we leave all that stinking thinking behind and remind  ourselves how amazing we are,  We must leave the trivial lies behind us and concentrate on being the absolute best we can be. Here's what you say to yourself going forward. I'm going to make myself feel prodigious today. I'm going to accomplish and create awesome things so that I can lift my head and say I'm pretty dang fantastic. I did this, and I did that, and it will give you butterflies when you look up and see how much you have quelled and accomplished. When we choose to live through our truth and disregard the negative fairytales created to stop us from our destiny.   There is no stopping us from being the best. The time has come to say I'd much rather smile big than cry, I'd rather scream yes I did it, Than scream look what you, they, it did to me. I' would willingly feel free, then be 12 years a slave in a bad relationship, career, or situation.  I'd rather proclaim happiness than give up and feel defeated. The point is I'd rather live without excuses and live failing forward. I'd rather walk in my home and feel free from bondage and deficiency. Today let us proclaim that we are joyous women extracting happiness daily. When people see us, they will see an uncontrollable glow that is filled with acceptance, love, and appreciation from the journey of deception, loss, tragedy, abuse, lies, manipulation we once traveled, and that we are traveling now towards all things great and insparative.  As always I say write down make it a journal prompt and ladies meditate and say this to yourself every day. I choose happiness over yesterday's pain and failures. I now choose a designation that evolves in being optimistic. I don't believe the lies.  I will never believe the hype. I refuse to trust the lies. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

Life can be daunting when we make decisions that end up shaking our whole world. No matter what happened. Its time to say I forgive myself and walk-in in the reassurance that you will never repeat the same decision twice. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

I was told that I had to be a certain temperament and have a certain attitude in order to be received with love and respect. The lies they tell. No respect me because I am a breathing human being who will do the same unto you. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

Recently I was posed a question I could not answer. I begin to feel defeated and walls closing in on me. Now I must take steps so that question asked can be solidified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

Lets daily sip on our coffee and have short conversations to empower broken women to live 100% daily Affirmation #1 - You are Strong! There are times when we all are going through our lives journeys. We must be reminded of our strength. Sometimes we have to dig really deep to capture even a small glimpse of our inner power. But we find it. Find your strength #newlifers. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-you-new-life/message

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