No Longer Ashamed

Well we are back! Thank you for your sticking with us through this time of vacations and crazy work schedule where we had to take a breakBut now we wanted to talk about something that has been on our minds a lot since we really find it important that as survivors of abuse that we do share our storiesBut what do you say when people don't know how to respond?Which ends up being a lot of the timeSometimes the subject of being a survivor comes up at unexpected times and we might not feel like it's appropriate to share our storyOr are we just dodging it because we don't feel like talking about it?None of us like to feel judged or shamed and sometimes it feels like the easiest way to avoid that is to not talk about it at allThen this message that is so important will never get outSo how do you know when to talk about it? and how do you deal with it when people respond in an unhelpful way

What does it mean to be broken?As survivors of abuse we often feel beyond repairThat isn't really true but it can feel that wayIf we can unlearn the lessons we were taught by being abused Then we learne that we aren't really broken, just injured

There are so many reasons that we stay silent about our abuseIt can be so hard to break the shame and guilt that keep us from speaking about what happened But are you robbing yourself of getting past the abuse you survived by keeping silentAre you forcing yourself and those that care about you to suffer from the issues that you refuse to addressIf you feel that what happened doesn't matter so it isn't worth dealing with, you are just trying to hide from your issuesWhen you find the freedom and courage to share about what happened then you find the freedom to be compassionate with yourself and take care of yourself

Why is personal growth so important for survivors of abuse?Many of us were taught by our abusers that we did not matter, that we were just objects to be usedIt is through personal growth that we can prove to ourselves that we do matter and we deserve to have hope and healingIt is the small steps that we take to take care of ourselves and improve little by little that leads to the larger goals that take back our self esteem

The coach was found guilty of all 19 charges of sex crimes in Sumner Washington!We have been following this trial for the last couple of years and we are thrilled that the perpetrator has been found guilty on all counts of the sex crimes!We first reported on this crime back in episode 87 in December of 2023 when we did a panel about sex abuse in sports with our guest Charnell Bolger, Kevins wife, who as a former athlete and coach and daughter of a coach, is very passionate about this subjectHer research on this issue also led us to our interview episode 89 with Sam Dordulian the Founder and President of the Dordulian Law Group in the Los Angeles area, and to the website US Center for Safe Sport which is an important resource for athletes and for parents and family members of athletes to be aware of the issues of sexual abuse in sportsWe, of course, are very thrilled with this verdict and are also so proud of the brave young men who had the courage to stand up to the abuse and report the abuser and go on the stand in the trial and testify what he had done to them, so we have joined with Charnell again to discuss this important trialhttps://uscenterforsafesport.org/safesport-ready-app/https://www.king5.com/article/news/local/jury-reaches-verdict-trial-ex-sumner-basketball-coach-charged-sex-crimes/281-53513d7a-00a1-4bb8-a271-fbc4433e5d0ehttps://www.amazon.com/Secret-Shame-Survivors-Understanding-Development/dp/B09XVH1RWJ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3T0PL2DOWBPPM&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.YzWjsw99X9Kum6sJzUbtb1QiSqxMh0W7-h4oggolaHw.eTBDRenGn25ITSHuh-quaNRQJbNS9jLv9rCw7OZIyKc&dib_tag=se&s=audible&sprefix=secret+shame+book+douglas+carpenter%2Caudible%2C140https://www.dlawgroup.com/

For this week we are doing something diffrerentCharnell was able to find the original recording of when Kevin gave his testimony of being a survivor of abuse in ChurchSince this is where it all started for this podcast we decided to publish it to share how it all beganThis is in a way the origin story of this podcast

How we talk about what happened to us as survivors can be very important in our healingIf we are using language that can be harmful for ourselves we can make it harder to get past our historyThat is why it is so important to pay attention to what we are saying to others and to ourselves about what happened to us and to learn from that on how to make changes

Almost two years after we first interviewed Luke we followed up to see how he was doing What we found out is that he had been doing a lot!His story is so inspiring to show how we can make a differenceLuke has taken his story to other podcasts and shows to spread the message to other survivors of abuse that you are not aloneThat there is healing and help and you deserve to have hopeWe are so thankful and encouraged by the work that Luke is doing and that we get to be a part of this

We are re-visiting our first interview with Luke to highlight the remarkable journey that began then with that episodeWhen Luke first contacted us we asked him if he would like to share on our podcast because we thought that his story of being abused by a woman could resonate with other men who were too ashamed to speak outSince that episode almost four years ago Luke has been advocating for survivors sharing his story on podcasts and other platforms as well as joining us on panels and now he is working with CSAsurvivors org to support othersWe are very proud to have been a part of Luke's journey to healing and helping other survivors and look forward to what is in the future with himFor more info about CSAsurvivors:https://soscsa.org/about

We have both had a couple of rough weeks and I have to admit it has been enough that I was questioning what is the point? I am not very proud of how I felt like I was ready to give up This isn't easy and there are times when I wonder why I am putting myself through this Then I got a reminder of why this matters, why it is so important that this message is heard, why your stories count It is for those children who need our protection, those children that depend on us We have a responsibility to share our stories so that others are aware of the scope of this issue and will be able to pay attention of what they should be looking out for Our mission started out to share Hope and Healing to other survivors who have gone through this and this is still one of our main goals But it is also very important that we share this message so that others will be aware of the scope of this issue and pay attention We can help prevent this from happening to other innocent children through awareness so we must try

In this week we are revisiting our panel discussion about toxic masculinity with our guests Mike Chapman and Nathan Spiteri We feel that this is such an important topic for survivors of sexual abuse since toxic masculinity can often be a result of abuse, for male survivors it can be one of the ways of coping This can lead to unhealthy relationships with others and an inability to be vulnerable It doesn't help that we are so overwhelmed with depictions of toxic masculinity in all the media that we are exposed to that it seems normal and celebrated

For this episode we are excited to have Kevin's wife Charnell on for her experience working with children in the classroom and as a coach What is our role if we see something and wonder if we should report it? We all would like to believe that abuse happens to someone else, not to anyone that we know That it happens in those other places, not here in our nice neighborhood or school or church But abuse does not discriminate- it happens everywhere 1 in 4 girls are sexually abused by the time that they are 18 ,and 1 in 6 boys These are our kids who this is happening to What can we do if we see something that just doesn't seem right? Are we supposed to tell someone? It can be very scary and messy to bring it up if we see something that we think isn't right- but it is worth it if it means you can save someone from abuse So what can you do? If you see something- report it https://www.iamonwatch.org/ https://www.thehotline.org/

Trauma from abuse can show up in many ways, some might seem very obvious and some might not The truth is if we ignore the affect that the trauma has on our life it doesn't go away it just gets worse We can try to hide it by overachieving or appearing to be so in control But often the affects will show up in ways that we aren't aware of and they can be very devastating to our mental and physical health and this can also affect our relationships It is not uncommon that when we address our trauma and start to get healing that survivors will also find that some of the physical ailments that they had will also get better

For so long I did not want to share about the abuse that happened to me because I did not want to feel that people would pity me It felt like because I was a survivor of abuse that my life was tragic Once I started addressing what happened to me and working on the issues that I had, it started to become easier to share because I felt better about how I was dealing with it The more that I worked at it, the more that I began to feel triumphant about what I overcame If you are a survivor and are working on overcoming the issues that you have because of the trauma that you experienced than you are being triumphant over all the things that happened to you that were trying to wreck your life And you should be proud of that Just a note- we recorded this episode right after our friend Dan had his heart attack and before he passed away so we waited to post this because we wanted to have the tribute to him first so that is why we talk about his heart attack in this episode

We are re posting this interview to honor the memory of our friend Dan who we had the pleasure of getting to know from his interviews and the panels that he participated on This interview was very memorable because of how much impact it had for Dan to share his story of being an abuse survivor the first time we interviewed him His perspective about what changed for him after sharing his story was very revealing and it confirms so much of how important it is to a survivor to have a voice We miss you dearly Dan and I wish we had your wisdom and wit on more of our show, but we are so thankful that we did get to know you and all of the wonderful work that you did in supporting others who were struggling --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

It is with great sadness that we are saying goodbye to our friend Dan Hillman who we had the honor to interview over three years ago and have had on panels and interviewed again a year after the first time Dan had a heart attack in November and this led to him going into a coma which he did not recover from Dan's story was very impactful for both of us and for all who his life has touched He went through so much pain and suffering which was a reason for so much of the struggles that he had in his life but through the grace of God he overcame so much and after becoming sober was able to help so many others to heal and have hope We will miss you greatly Dan but we will never forget you! So in your memory we are re-posting your first interview now and then we will run the last interview next week God rest Dan --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

We are not trying to be controversial by praying every week and we really don't want to offend anyone or force our beliefs on anyone What we want most of all is to offer hope to everyone who is listening That is all that we want, it is the reason that we are doing this podcast to offer hope --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

When is it correct to tell the truth about someone who was abusive? Is it allowed to write an obituary about someone who was abusive and tell the truth? Or is that unfair if they can't defend themselves Who are we protecting by hiding the truth? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

We are so excited to have our guests Mike Chapman and Luke Wiersma with us to talk about the treatments that they have had in their therapy and the new treatments that are available now for survivors of trauma We also discus what it has been like to share our stories and why that has been so important for our healing EDMR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, a psychotherapy https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ Brainspotting https://brainspotting.com/ Comprehensive Resource Model (CRM) https://comprehensiveresourcemodel.com/ Huna https://www.huna.com/what-is-huna/ CBT - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy Internal Family Systems - IFS https://ifs-institute.com/ https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.emdr.com%2Fwhat-is-emdr%2F%3Ffbclid%3DIwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAAR3ymV_rQNf7cqUQDTKKqCMfI7qqVfcri-tJuvgji5Wc-B2WGCKra2ppCnI_aem_Mrbj3SmrYlfQy9WJaSm-Cg&h=AT2ojxMEuGIXX73mtdnXJx3g3DucMJ_dqumKWMgSQPEaPAtob24XDcXPxBQPeDUfDRfUKMsZpLuTwhiyeGby8MpJ1kDzk8KS0WlUtaCv3Z2MC8ZUBDpSsSHTtwFVxUWlrL2fI7UMwuVm-YY --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Automatic Negative Thoughts are something that can make our lives miserable Especially for survivors of abuse we have often been taught so many of these thoughts from our abuse and we might not be aware of them when they are happening So what can we do about them when they happen? Dr. Daniel Amen teaches that there are ways to counter these thoughts and it starts with recognizing them and then there are techniques that you can use to change them --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

We have talked about the importance of healing from abuse and why healing matters not only for us the survivors of abuse, but to our relationships But we haven't really talked about what it means to be healed How do we define healing and being healed? After reading about Internal Family Systems (IFS) Kevin recognized that this is a subject that we haven't gone into detail about and how meaningful a subject it is So in this episode we discuss What is important to Heal and what does healing mean for a survivor of abuse --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

We're very excited about interviewing Johnny because it gave us both such hope The reason that his interview gave us hope is that he is young (20 years old) and he is already working on his healing from the abuse that he experienced This is such a positive sign that things are starting to change as far as there is more resources available now for survivors and these resources are easier to find Johnny found our podcast and after listening to some episodes he felt that he wanted to share his story hoping that his story would help other survivors find their voice and have the courage to share their own stories He also wants to be available to other survivors if they need someone to talk to and we are including his Instagram handle for anyone who would like to reach him Johnny Braun (@itsjohnnybraun) • Instagram photos and videos --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

I(t's easy to feel like an "other" when you are a survivor of abuse To feel different but not in a good way What does it take to embrace the good in being different? What are our traits that set us apart in a way that others notice How do we turn those traits into our superpower --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Since this is the time of year when there is so much youth sports happening we decided to re broadcast our episode about abuse and misconduct in youth sports In this episode we interview Kevin's wife Charnell about the research that she has been doing about the issues of sexual abuse in youth sports Her research has led her to the Dordulian Law Group who specialize in sex abuse and other offenses and to "SafeSport" which is an "independent nonprofit committed to building a sport community where participants can work and learn together free of emotional, physical and sexual abuse misconduct" --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

It's almost that time of year again so what better time to revisit our episode about the holidays For survivors of abuse navigating the holidays can be difficult especially if the perpetrator is a relative So it can be helpful to plan ahead for ways of dealing with the issues that can come up when we are preparing for holiday gatherings --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Cynicism is toxic in our lives and it spreads through our relationships As survivors of abuse it is hard to trust others when we have been taught they want to hurt us It can be easy to hold on to that cynical point of view of others because we think that we are just being protective It is possible to unlearn our cynicism which will enable us to have healthier relationships and heal --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

So often as survivors of abuse we cope with triggers and depression and anxiety with methods that are unhealthy for ourselves and for those that we care about Sometimes we aren't even aware of the ways that we are coping They might not even seem to be that unhealthy to anyone else But if our coping mechanisms are controlling us than we are just using them as a crutch that prevents us from actually progressing But there are ways of finding other ways of coping that are healthy and help us in our journey to healing --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

So many times we hear that therapy is so important But for most of us who have never experienced therapy it can be a really scary thing to try The only time we experience therapy is what we see on TV or movies So we don't know what to expect But it's so important to get good counseling to help you get through the experience of being a survivor How do we know what is good therapy going to be like It is important to know that everyone is different so therapy is going to be a different experience for you So how do you know if you are doing it right You try it with an open mind and the courage to be vulnerable --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

The pain that comes from being abused doesn't just go away But what happens to it? Our pain as survivors evolves as we explore it and learn where it comes from Expressing our pain helps us to learn how to accept it and handle it in ways that we can grow from --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Luke first came on our podcast over three years ago on episode 24 Since then he has been on our podcast several more times and on many other podcasts So we wanted to catch up with Luke and find out how things have been going and what has changed for him now since he first came on And also why he thinks it was so important for him to share his story with us the first time and why he still finds it so important to keep sharing --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

One of the hardest things for survivors to realize is how the affects of the abuse on us is affecting those around us The issues that we have because of what happened to us can affect all of our relationships But we feel that we are the only one that is suffering So if we don't want to get help because we don't think we need to than we are are ignoring the problems we could be having with our relationships --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Our mental maps are the shortcuts that our brains use when it is in the default mode Unfortunately for survivors of abuse our maps can be faulty and even unhealthy for us The good news is that we can change our mental maps for the better By becoming aware of the mental maps we have when we go into default mode we can intentionally work on changing the unhealthy ones and learn healthy new ones --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

How do you know if it was really abuse? Maybe you feel that it wasn't that bad, especially compared to what someone else went through Or you wonder if it was abuse if if you were stimulated and you got excited Or you feel like it was your fault that you should have known better Maybe you were told that it was your fault and you believed them The fact is that as a child you cannot give consent to any kind of sexual activity, you don't have the understanding to give that consent So any sexual act that you experienced as a child is considered non consensual and therefore abuse It doesn't matter if it only happened once, or you feel that you found it exciting or stimulating All abuse is wrong and it was not your fault What matters is how it affected you when it happened and how it is affecting you now --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Finding hope can be challenging for abuse survivors who are often suffering from a sense of hopelessness Hope is a feeling that can be learned because it comes from the way that we think about ourselves and our accomplishments When we learn that the feeling of hope comes from how we think about ourselves and that we control those thoughts then we can find that hope is possible for survivors --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Going through the process of healing from sexual abuse can be so difficult There are times it can be an emotional roller coaster of sadness and anger which can be very tiring Sometimes it can be helpful to have a outlet where you can find comfort and safety There are also times when it can help to find an outlet that connects you to your emotions in a safe place This can be many different things from music to art to dance to journal writing, whatever helps you connect to your emotions --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

As an abuse survivor there are many decisions that we have to make that most people aren't faced with Do we tell our story, who do we tell and when Part of what can make our decisions so hard is our own expectations about what will happen Until we actually take the steps to tell our story and get the help that we deserve our expectations about what is going to happen when we tell our story can be so overwhelming it can make it hard to do it Having some control over our expectations can help us to take the steps that we need in order to find the healing that we deserve --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

In episode 121 Laurie challenged Kevin to do an experiment Kevin accepted the challenge and was excited to see the results Because this challenge turned out to be so exciting for Kevin we decided to send this challenge out to you, our listeners So in this episode we are talking about what the challenge was and explaining why it is such a helpful exercise for you as a survivor of abuse to do We hope that you too will find this challenge exciting and helpful and we can't wait to hear your results! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

We revisit this important panel discussion on shame, both healthy shame and toxic shame With our former guests Tracy Stephanie and Ashleigh and Kevin's wife Charnell We discuss how shame affects our lives as survivors of abuse and how there can be healthy shame and toxic shame --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

One of the hardest questions survivors ask is if there is a God why does He let abuse happen? Was it a part of his plan? Or was I being punished for something? None of us truly know Gods plan but if we are given free will than the only one to blame for our abuse would be the perpetrator. We are never at fault for the abuse that happened to us and blaming anyone besides the perpetrator does not help our healing. ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

How we define ourselves and how others would define us can be very different. Where our identity comes from matters on how we present our-self. But we might not be aware of how others perceive us because of the way we learned to define ourselves that we are not aware of. Alot of what we can learn about our own values can come from what we consider important in others , how we view what we feel is an important characteristic in others shows us what we consider important. ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Rage is an important topic that is so hard to talk about Emotions aren't necessarily good or bad but they are information But when you lose control of your emotions , especially anger, then it can be a problem. That is why we are revising this episode of Rage. ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

As survivors we are sometimes more aware of red flags because of our experience What is our responsibility when we see something that makes us uncomfortable This is an issue that can be so important to help prevent abuse So we have revised this episode to make it sound better on all platforms --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Disclosure is an important step but not one to take lightly and it is not always the means to find closure In this episode we discuss what to expect from disclosure and the ways to find closure We have revised this episode to make it sound better on all platforms --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

For survivors shame seems to be a part of life It always seems to be present with us It doesn't have to be that way There are methods to counter the shame that we feel so we handle our shame in a healthier way So we are not controlled by our shame or identified with it Instead we can learn to control how we address our shame --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

This can be a very divisive topic for survivors One of the ways that our mind protects us when we experience trauma is to repress the experience This is helpful to us at the time of trauma but even though the memory is hidden the trauma still affects us If you have symptoms of trauma without any explanation for these symptoms it can be because the memories have been repressed Sometimes these memories don't come to the surface until something reminds of us of the trauma later in life If you are experiencing symptoms of trauma that are affecting you without any obvious explanations it could be because of repressed memories There are ways to uncover these memories that will help you to understand and recover from this It is important to find the root issues of your coping disorders rather than just treating them because your mind will often just find other methods to cope until you actually get to the actual trauma that you are hiding from --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

It is so important to be aware of coercive control when it is happening in our lives That is why we revised this episode to make it sound better on all platforms Coercive control can really affect us if we allow it, so it is important to know how to understand it --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

There are so many reasons why it can take so long to tell our story for the first time The fear of what can happen when we tell is overwhelming sometimes But that fear doesn't go away the more that we wait It doesn't get any easier by waiting Instead what happens when we think that is easier to just cope with it, the ways that we cope with it finally causes us to come to where we hit rock bottom and have to deal with it Don't wait for that time Do It Now! Now is the best time to find a way to tell your story in whatever way that you can and find the healing that you deserve Do it Afraid! It is scary but you have been through the worst so you know you can handle it and it won't get easier if you wait --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Barbara Lane is one of 11 siblings who were abandoned by their Mother when she was three years old. After she was sent to a Catholic orphanage she and her sister were adopted into a mafia mob family where they endured years of abuse. 43 years later she not only found healing from the abuse, but she was reunited with her sisters. She wrote a book about her remarkable story called "Broken Water" available on amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Broken-Water-Extraordinary-True-Story/dp/B0BYVFQTCR/ref=sr_1_1?adgrpid=1335909037017621&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.SfT9SR8apFfCmXwm5avW96MZVxduip7Kso2EIdJSyB9BouuU6SWqFSi4sdLV0zVQ.omjQejoeJWlcdpp3ZxMFJ0x5396KQgW-3OUeGG8k4n0&dib_tag=se&hvadid=83494579621405&hvbmt=be&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=67664&hvnetw=o&hvqmt=e&hvtargid=kwd-83495371212886%3Aloc-190&hydadcr=6805_13182700&keywords=broken+water+by+barbara+lane&msclkid=5447c0b8b81a1648c831a54f05885d03&qid=1710734742&sr=8-1 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

This is our recap of the first year of the podcast and what a year it was! It was the Covid lockdown and even though it seemed that everything came to a screeching halt we were both working full time and on top of that we started this podcast to reach out to other survivors of CSA To our delight we had several guests who shared their stories on our show and we learned so much from these brave survivors who were willing to open up about their experiences We also had our first panel where we invited several guests back on to discuss the topic of shame So we are revising this episode to improve the sound quality in order to make it better on all platforms, we hope that you enjoy listening to our improved version --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Dan Hartley and his wife Janell are the founders of Magezi Ministries in South Africa They minister to men and women to form healthier relationships and to break free from their bondage from addictions to pornography In our interview Dan speaks about his own freedom from addiction to pornography and how his healing journey led him and his wife to form Magezi Ministies to help those struggling to overcome their addictions and have freedom https://www.magezi.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support

Jerry Lin is the Master of Letting go! If you are feeling stuck, can't move forward and you can't seem to find joy in your life, Jerry helps you navigate through letting go in order to get to the life that you want! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kevin-bolger4/support