TCK Care

Life gives you a lot to handle, often at the same time. What do you focus on first? Here's one model for setting priorities, especially in a time of crisis. (Photo by Glenn Carstens-Peters on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Adjustment takes time. It takes patience, and flexibility, and so many things. TCK's are professional adapters, but let's not forget that it can be beneficial to rehearse the basics if you want to pursue excellence. So let's talk about the basics of what it takes to adjust. (Photo by Jon Tyson on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie talks about what happens when people tell and listen to a single story. I believe that Third Culture Kids are prone to tell single stories, especially about themselves. But that doesn't have to be true. Let's talk about what it would take to tell your whole story. (Photo by Masaaki Komori on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

What makes third culture kids inclined to view the world so differently? How can we use our vantage point to make the world a better place? And what exactly is the legacy we're going to strive for? Let's talk about it. (Photo by IGOR FIGUEREDO on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Why might TCK's have difficulty getting in touch with their feelings? How might that impact relationships? And what's to be done about it? Let's talk about emotional availability. Here's an excellent article on emotional availability that I reference in the podcast. Don't forget to listen to my interview with Micahel Pollock defining what it means to be a TCK. (Photo by Cyrus Gomez on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Is it just me, or does the process of transition have an inextricable connection with deep feelings? In this week's episode, I speak to the way that an outward experience can affect us on the inside, dramatically shaping our emotional reality. And I talk about how feelings are just feelings, and that there's nothing wrong with them. (Photo by Erik Odiin on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Inés joins me on the show to share her amazing story of travel, adventure, language, and connection. Inés and I talk about the nature of relationships in a transient state, and how language is more than just the words that we speak. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Have you ever felt alien? Do your memories appear strange to you, as if you may come from another world, or another time? Today I'm going to talk about what it's like to carry the memories from the Third Culture, memories of other worlds that we carry inside ourselves. (Photo by Manuel Inglez on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

This goes out to the TCK's who have lived the life, done the work, and are in a good place. Let's take a second to celebrate the fact that life can be good and that #youvegotthis! (Photo by Lidya Nada on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Third Culture Kids are highly adept at managing change. But what about when change ends and things remain the same? How does someone who's used to change handle the new normal? (Photo by Javier Allegue Barros on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Have you ever been told to put on your own oxygen mask first? I talk about the oxygen mask analogy and give TCK's with care-taking personalities a couple of thoughts on what exactly that means. (Photo by Calle Macarone on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Vygotsky's zone of proximal development meets the TCK aptitude for learning. I draw implications from the zone of proximal development for improving your ability to learn and grow as a person. (Photo by Ales Me on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

I received a letter that addresses TCK's lack of social cultural role models in certain situations. Role models often provide an important aspect of learning as we find ourselves in a cultural context. (Photo by Monica Valls on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

"Wherever you go, there you are." In this episode, Darci Nealeigh talks about the state of self compassion. She identifies early on how crucial this practice is given the current health pandemic where we are often stuck with nothing but ourselves. We talk about trust, inner dialogue, and give several analogies and exercises for being compassionate to yourself. (Photo by Nick Fewings on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

The world has never been as small as it is with social media. And accessing information has never been so easy. Connecting with loved ones with images and messages from our lives feels amazing. But what is the cost? Addictions counselor Rhys Pasimio joins me on the show once again to talk about how social media affects our lives and relationships. (Photo by ROBIN WORRALL on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

"What is the hardest part of being a TCK?" I read a letter written by a TCK from Africa who is raising his children in Asia. Identity, belonging, friendship, and parenting play prominent roles in this week's conversation on what it means to be a TCK. (Photo by Joanna Kosinska on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

What is the status quo for a TCK? How does a person sustain a state of balance with high stress levels? What do you do when mobility is normal? Just a few thoughts on equilibrium in a mobile, multicultural life. (Photo by Christophe Hautier on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Stability can be the source of much ambivalence for TCK's--something to wrestle with and long for at the same time. Jon Walthour from TCK Tales and I continue the conversation about what it's like to increase a sense of stability in context. Setting anachor. (Photo by milan degraeve on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Two TCK's (Jon Walthour from TCK Tales and myself) talk about the journey of setting anchor in the middle of a mobile life. We talk about the different kinds of anchors that hold people in place, factors that support stability, and what it's like to pick up (or cut off) those anchors and move on. Real talk with TCK podcasters. (Photo by Rostyslav Kondrat on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

I wanted to speak to the TCK's who face our current health crisis, emphasizing strengths that TCK's might bring to the current situation. I hope this encourages you and finds you well. (Photo by

Lauren Wells, who came on the show last year to talk about processing grief, wrote Raising Healthy TCK's. Lauren shares with us the four basic components of raising healthy TCK's as explained in her upcoming book. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

How helpful is the label "TCK"? Or any label, for that matter? What is the danger in using a label as you introduce yourself? In this episode I interact with Stephanie Boon's article Identity Theft of Third Culture Kids to talk about the place of labels in the TCK community. (Photo by Thomas Kelley on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Author Christina Hoag shares the story of her international heritage and upbringing and her global quest. Christina has amazing stories You can learn more about Christina and her writing on her website. Be sure to check out Girl on the Brink and Skin of Tattoos on Amazon! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Julia's global, multicultural upbringing uniquely enables her to connect with expatriates on an empathetic level. Julia decided to use her aptitude for connection combined with her appreciation for global mobility to begin a career in expat coaching and consulting. In this episode, Julia tells her own story and extrapolates on the difference between change and transition, breaking down the transition framework created by William Bridges. For more information about Julia, visit her website, Yellow Wood Coaching, read her blog, or follow her on Facebook or Linkedin. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

"How I see my TCK work is all about building bridges between people" says Tanya Crossman, author of the book Misunderstood. Tanya has spent years caring for TCK's, interviewing TCK's, and working with TCK families. She speaks into the need for giving TCK's permission to fail. To learn more about Tanya, check out her Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Expat coach, consultant, writer, podcaster with a background in occupational psychology, Louise Wiles speaks from her firsthand experience traveling the world as well as raising TCK's to address the end goal of the drive to see the world. Louise covers the basics of what it takes to thrive abroad. Be sure to check out Louise' website, check out her book, Thriving Abroad, her own podcast, and the resource she mentions Families in Global Transition. (Photo by Kea Mowat on Unsplash) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Artist, musician, and producer DC Collard shares the story of his upbringing in Malaysia and London. DC speaks to the role of music in processing the challenges of his globally mobile life and focusing on the benefits from his TCK experience. To learn more about DC and his music, and for more information about his TCK themed album, click here. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Alyssa starts her story by talking about being from here now, which I believe is an excellent summary of the sense of ongoing transience that many TCK’s claim. Alyssa shares the positive and challenging aspects of her journey, framing it all in the lens of continual growth and increasing awareness for an uplifting TCK story. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Elizabeth Liang tells the story of creating the solo show Alien Citizen, which is the story of her international upbringing. Elizabeth talks about the process of finding her story, telling the hard truths, and the liberty that brings. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

TCK Judith Kooyman talks about what growing up in Thailand has meant for her, how her international experiences have contributed to the formation of identity, and the importance of staying actively involved no matter where you live. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

MK Care Coordinator Heidi Tunberg and I talk about one of the most important parts of cultural adaptation: rejection. What does it mean for the TCK to reject culture? How do you know what parts of the culture you want to accept and reject, and what are the consequences going to be? We also take a serious look at values in the Third Culture and weigh their merits. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Kate Berger, therapist and founder of the Expat Kid’s Club in Amsterdam, talks about what it means for parents to have empathy first for themselves, then for their children, and how empathy supports healthy development. A healthy sense of empathy is especially valuable for TCK’s growing up in a highly mobile (which can mean highly stressful!) lifestyle. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Ben Pankow shares from his experience growing up in Cameroon and talks about how having a long term perspective fortifies the TCK to get through the hard times. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

TCK/MK/therapist/author Tim Sanford, author of I Have To Be Perfect joins us on TCK Care (the Podcast!) to talk about the records that we play in our minds that tell us holy heresies — things like, “I have to be perfect”, “I should already know”, “Other people’s needs are more important than my own”, etc. Tim talks about where these heresies come from, why they’re attractive, and how to begin to dispel them. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Caleb Cox, TCK and performer and producer of Going to be Gone shares the story of growing up overseas and how his adaptation skills have guided him in his work. In this episode we talk about navigating goodbyes and Caleb performs Going to be Gone…and it’s amazing. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Wait no more! TCK and math whiz Jane Heinze created The Official Origins Algorithm to answer the dreaded question, “Where are you from?” Jane has graciously offered to share her algorithm with the world, so reach out to me on tckcare.com/connect to receive your free blank copy of The Official Origins Algorithm! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Eric shares how his childhood move to the Philippines was influenced by his parents proactively instilling excitement for the work they would do overseas. Furthermore, Eric had the unique experience of having a minority worldview at an international Christian school. Please reach out to me on TCKCare.com if you would like to hear more about Eric's story and how you can be involved in supporting his current career in missions. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

“The world could not be more complicated” says Megan Norton, TCK and co-founder of Intercultural Transitions. Megan talks about how the field of TCK care is growing to meet the complexity of the TCK experience and gives advice to TCK care personnel for maximizing their potential. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

TCK Daniel Black speculates on the state of migration that is second nature to many a global nomad. The drive to pursue novelty and excitement can be both empowering and costly. Daniel shares from his own experiences and gives a word of encouragement to managing and changing those patterns of behavior. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Directors of Member Care Steve and Debra Rowe share the story of losing their son while serving in Brasil. They describe the process of grieving David's passing and give tribute to the legacy of love that David left on the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

“I wasn’t aware that I was a chameleon until it started hurting.” For someone who has spent his whole life adapting, Nelson has developed profound insight into how he uses his adaptation as a relational skill. Nelson speaks to the importance of self-awareness for maintaining well-being and shares his own journey of increasing awareness and identity. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

TCK Linda Kelley shares the story of losing an orphan in Papua New Guinea. She shares the beauty of her childhood and her aptitude for languages as well as the deep sadness of feeling alone in her experiences. She shares how her relationship with Jesus has facilitated healing and continued insight into her experience. She gives timeless advice to families to promote an atmosphere of vulnerability and transparency, sticking together through fear and pain. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

What is a transition seminar, and who benefits from one? Joining me on the show are three people who care deeply for TCK’s and are invested in helping TCK’s make a smooth cultural transition from living overseas to living in North America. We cover what a transition seminar is, what TCK’s can expect to take away from this experience, and of course, share a lot of personal anecdotes along the way. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

“The healthiest people make the healthiest parents” says TCK and LPC Risa Hobson (cool credentials, right?). She goes on to share advice for families starting out on their international journeys as well as examples of how to navigate transitions well. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Anastasia shares a struggle that may resonate with many TCK’s — feeling empathy for people and yet being separated from them by the barriers of race, socioeconomic status, politics, or whatever the case may be. And on the other end, perfectly blending in to a group of people that internally you feel disconnected from. Anastasia talks about where her struggle comes from, and gives encouragement to others who may also be in the process of deconstructing the life they thought they knew. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Linda Stollfus shares her story of growing up in west Africa and how her TCK experience has served her as a Clinical Social Worker. Linda shares some positive memories of what serving overseas meant to her family, and gives solid advice to other families serving or planning on serving overseas. I love that Linda’s advice comes from a positive upbringing of her own as well as years of experience helping families in a clinical setting. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

While listening to Beth tell her story, I was shocked to hear that her family experienced two consecutive evacuations in a short span of time. Evacuations are not uncommon to many a TCK, so we delved into what that experience meant for her, what it was like in the moment, and how she has healed and grown since then. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

As former missionaries and parents of four TCK’s with experience serving overseas as well as in missions administration, my parents come on the show to talk about how they advocated for their family as they raised their children overseas. I get to explore some of my own story as we discuss the challenges that faced our family, and the things TCK parents have done to support their children. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

David Johnson shares his perspective of VIP syndrome — of both feeling uncomfortable in your own skin and having a unique perspective of your surroundings inspired by broadened horizons. A lively sense of humor and a lot of insight make this a particularly fun episode. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Waciwi calls it like it is. She shares her story with courageous transparency and honesty and challenges the culture and religion that shaped her developmental years. She speaks with passion and vulnerability on religion, politics, and sexuality, making a powerful and emotional interview. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support

Tabi Eckert shares a vivid depiction of her early years in Niger, and discusses the family, social, and spiritual dynamics that have shaped her journey. She has a profound way of looking at her own story, as in an ongoing process of interpretation. With that, her story is insightful, relatable, and moving. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tck-care/support