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On a scale of 1 to 10 with my excitement level today, I am definitely at a 10. I completed a Google Survey last year in preparation for the 2023 Brave Women at Work podcast season. I asked who you wanted to hear from and if you had any dream guests. Well, today is one of the dream guests on your list! My guest today, Andrea Owen, is a very accomplished coach, author, and speaker. Andrea and I met in 2014 when I hired her as my coach to help me work through some difficult personal stuff. I accomplished my goal with Andrea's facilitation of Brene Brown's Daring Way Program. That work helped me heal relationships with my mom, family, and, more importantly, myself. This felt like a fun reunion, and it was great to reconnect with Andrea. During our conversation, we chatted about: What led Andrea to do the work she does with women What shame is and how it can really take us down and prevent us from reaching our goals Brene Brown and the Daring Way Program Shame resilience – what it is, why it is essential, and some tips on how to move through it How shame affects men and women differently And so much more Resources: Brave Women at Work: https://bravewomenatwork.com/ Brave Women at Work Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/bravewomenatwork Andrea Owen: https://andreaowen.com/ How Not to Feel Like Shit: How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness - https://www.amazon.com/How-to-Stop-Feeling-Like-Sh-t-audiobook/dp/B078JCLKKT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=M9L4786THSF0&keywords=andrea+owen+books&qid=1674597531&sprefix=%2Caps%2C251&sr=8-1 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS-Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve - https://www.amazon.com/52-Ways-to-Live-Kick-Ass-Life-audiobook/dp/B06WRSK6R8/ref=sr_1_3?crid=M9L4786THSF0&keywords=andrea+owen+books&qid=1674597552&sprefix=%2Caps%2C251&sr=8-3 Make Some Noise: Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength - https://www.amazon.com/Make-Some-Noise-Speak-Strength/dp/B08SPBPJL5/ref=sr_1_2?crid=M9L4786THSF0&keywords=andrea+owen+books&qid=1674597552&sprefix=%2Caps%2C251&sr=8-2
On a scale of 1 to 10 with my excitement level today, I am definitely at a 10. I completed a Google Survey last year in preparation for the 2023 Brave Women at Work podcast season. I asked who you wanted to hear from and if you had any dream guests. Well, today is one of the dream guests on your list! My guest today, Andrea Owen, is a very accomplished coach, author, and speaker. Andrea and I met in 2014 when I hired her as my coach to help me work through some difficult personal stuff. I accomplished my goal with Andrea's facilitation of Brene Brown's Daring Way Program. That work helped me heal relationships with my mom, family, and, more importantly, myself. This felt like a fun reunion, and it was great to reconnect with Andrea. During our conversation, we chatted about: Resources: Brave Women at Work: https://bravewomenatwork.com/ Brave Women at Work Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/bravewomenatwork Andrea Owen: https://andreaowen.com/ How Not to Feel Like Shit: How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness - https://www.amazon.com/How-to-Stop-Feeling-Like-Sh-t-audiobook/dp/B078JCLKKT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=M9L4786THSF0&keywords=andrea+owen+books&qid=1674597531&sprefix=%2Caps%2C251&sr=8-1 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS-Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve - https://www.amazon.com/52-Ways-to-Live-Kick-Ass-Life-audiobook/dp/B06WRSK6R8/ref=sr_1_3?crid=M9L4786THSF0&keywords=andrea+owen+books&qid=1674597552&sprefix=%2Caps%2C251&sr=8-3 Make Some Noise: Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength - https://www.amazon.com/Make-Some-Noise-Speak-Strength/dp/B08SPBPJL5/ref=sr_1_2?crid=M9L4786THSF0&keywords=andrea+owen+books&qid=1674597552&sprefix=%2Caps%2C251&sr=8-2
Welcome to episode 17 of our Thought Leadership Podcast! In today's episode, we have an amazing mentor and coach, known as Ken Rusk. We had the opportunity to discuss with him the importance of choosing the right path for your personal development. As well as the part that blue-collar careers could have in achieving your goals. Introduction 00:00How to Make Blue Collar Careers Cool 00:57What You Should Do vs. What You Want 02:34Let Go of the Beliefs that Are Holding You Back 04:40Why Promote Blue Collar Jobs 08:03Is the Educational Sistem Failing? 10:49How Going to College Affects the Economy 14:50Why is Important to Set Your Goals 18:06Why Rusk Changed his Last Name 22:59How Karma Works 25:43How to Make Your Business Grow 30:04The Balance of Working Hard and Go with the Flow 34:11Achieve Your Goals, "The Chase Mode" 39:05What Do You Do Question 40:40Be a Contrarian Thinker 42:00-About Ken Rusk:Ken Rusk specializes in mentoring and has coached hundreds of young people in areas such as short-, mid-, and long-term goal setting, life visualization, career paths, and sound financial planning. He is passionate about helping people achieve their dreams regardless of their educational background or past.-Leveraging digital tools, Latinpresarios helps B2B professionals become the go-to thought leaders in their niche. We get clients to come to you by creating and distributing quality content consistently. We are a personal brand agency.Visit our website: https://latinpresarios.com/#collegecareers #personalbrand #thoughtleadership #bluecollar
It’s time to start planning for 2020. In this episode, Andrea Owen interviews me about my book Winning Resolutions: Achieve Your Biggest Goals and Wildest Dreams Once and For All. We talk about how to plan for resolutions success, what to do if you stumble, and how you can structure your environment for resolution success. This interview first appeared on Andrea's excellent podcast Your Kick Ass Life. Subscribe to My Instruction Manual on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere else great podcast are found Visit MyInstructionManual.com for shownotes, more great content and to sign up the email newsletter Email: keith@myinstructionmanual.com Keith on Twitter: @KeithMcArthur Join our Facebook page and our Self-Help Book Club on Facebook Find us on Pinterest, Instagram and YouTube Purchase 18 Steps to Own Your Life HERE Purchase Winning Resolutions HERE Episode 83 Show Notes [00:00] Welcome and Intro [3:30] Andrea Owen interviews Keith Andrea is author of How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness. She is a life coach based on North Carolina and hosts the Your Kick-Ass Life Podcast. She previously appeared on the My Instruction Manual podcast in episode 13 and episode 56. In this conversation, Keith and Andrea discuss: Why we put so much pressure on ourselves at the start of a new year and how shame comes into play Keith’s take on the “New Year, New You” mentality The biggest mistake people make when creating a goal or resolution. Plus, some science-based strategies for achieving your biggest, baddest goals How an accountability partner can help you with goals and the science behind finding the right accountability partner Some ways to get back on track if you lose sight or abandon a goal, hint: think ahead! Taking control of your environment and some ways to structure your environment for goal success Gretchen Rubin's The Four Tendencies Giving Tuesday Please consider making a donation the CureGRIN Foundation to fund research to help find a cure for my son Bryson and thousands of others living with GRIN Disorders. Where to find Andrea Website: YourKickAssLife.com Podcast: Your Kick Ass Life Instagram: @yourkickasslife
If you're going to achieve your biggest goals and wildest dreams, you need to believe in them. And you need to believe in yourself. But we all have an inner critic that tries to sabotage our success. In this episode, author and life coach Andrea Owen joins us to talk about how to prevent our inner critic from killing our dreams. And author and fitness trainer Kathleen Trotter joins us to talk about whether rest days as part of a fitness routine are a bad idea or a good excuse. Feedback / Connect: Subscribe to My Instruction Manual on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere else great podcast are found Visit MyInstructionManual.com for shownotes, more great content and to sign up the email newsletter Email: keith@myinstructionmanual.com Keith on Twitter: @KeithMcArthur Join our Facebook page and our Self-Help Book Club on Facebook Find us on Pinterest, Instagram and YouTube Download a free copy of 18 Steps to Own Your Life by clicking HERE Purchase Winning Resolutions HERE Episode 56 Show Notes [00:00] Welcome and Intro [5:10] Featured interview with Andrea Owen Andrea is author of How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness. She is a life coach based on North Carolina and hosts the Your Kick-Ass Life Podcast. She first appeared on the My Instruction Manual podcast in episode 13. In this conversation, Keith and Andrea discuss: Her book Stop Feeling Like Shit has been translated into 16 languages [5:10] Why Andrea sets new goals in the Spring [8:00] What is your inner critic? [9:10] How sexism and racism feed the inner critic [11:30] How our inner critic kills our biggest goals and wildest dreams [14:15] Andrea's three-steps for managing the inner critic. [17:15] Andrea references the book It's Not About the Food How negative self-talk gets in the way of setting goals [24:00] [27:30] Andrea's Instruction Manual - Part 2! 1. If you had to pick one music album as the soundtrack to your life, what would it be? [28:00] Can't pick one album but one artist is Florence Welch of Florence and the Machine 2. What is one personal development myth you want to dispel [28:30] 1) Time Heals All Wounds 2) You can change your life with positive affirmations 3. What is one unusual or surprising gadget you couldn't live without? [29:20] Voxer app. Voice messaging app 4. What does a bad day look like to you and what are the steps you take to turn it around ? [30:00] When Andrea has been triggered in her relationship with her husband. To turn it around, she owns it and apologizes. 5. Looking forward, what's your biggest goal or wildest dream? [33:40] To reach 1-million women through the Your Kickass Life Community Where to find Andrea Website: YourKickAssLife.com Instagram: @yourkickasslife [35:20] Fitness contributor Kathleen Trotter on Rest Days Kathleen Trotter is author of Finding Your Fit: A Compassionate Trainer's Guide to Making Fitness a Lifelong Habit In this conversation, Keith and Kathleen discuss: Why rest and recovery matters The four components of recovery: Sleep, diet, rest days, recovery workouts Where to find Kathleen KatheenTrotter.com Instagram: KathleenTrotterFitness Twitter: KTrotterFitness Facebook: KathleenTrotter
In this very special edition of the podcast, life lessons from 10 of the most inspiring people on the planet. Host Keith McArthur speaks with Rick Hanson, Daisy Buchanan, Kristen Ulmer, Olivia D'Silva, Jake Nawrocki, Andrea Owen, Leslie Caubble, Carmela DiClemente, Jeff Chegwin and Stever Robbins. Feedback / Connect: Subscribe to My Instruction Manual on Apple Podcasts or on Android Visit MyInstructionManual.com for shownotes, more great content and to sign up the email newsletter Email: keith@myinstructionmanual.com Keith on Twitter: @KeithMcArthur Join our Facebook page and our Self-Help Book Club on Facebook Find us on Pinterest, Instagram and YouTube Buy 18 Steps to Own Your Life: Simple Powers for a Healthier Happier You on Amazon Episode 23 Show Notes [1:20] Welcome and Intro [1:45] Rick Hanson: 'Love at Will' Rick Hanson is the New York Times bestselling author of is author of Hardwiring Happiness and Buddha's Brain in 2009. His new book Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness goes on sale on March 27. Rick will be back for a featured interview on Episode 24 of the My Instruction Manual podcast, which will be available on March 26. It's an amazing conversation so make sure you give it a listen. [3:51] Daisy Buchanan: 'Success isn't permanent. Neither is failure.' Daisy Buchanan is the author of How To Be a Grown Up: You’re Doing Fine and Let Me Tell You Why. Daisy is a freelance journalist living in England. Daisy first appeared on episode 16 of the podcast. Listen here. [9:03] Kristen Ulmer: 'The most important relationship you will ever have is your relationship with fear' Kristen Ulmer is author of The Art of Fear: Why Conquering Fear Won’t Work and What to Do Instead. In the nineties, Kristen was known as the best female big mountain extreme skier in the world. Kristen talks first appeared on episode 17 of the podcast. Listen here. [12:13] Olivia D'Silva: 'Don't Take Your Blessings for Granted' Olivia D'Silva is author of Your Whole Life Economy: Recognize Your True Value and Improve Your Quality of Life, in which she describes seven precious resources we all have to offer. She is a life coach living in England. Olivia was my guest last week on episode 22 of the podcast. Listen here. [15:53] Jake Nawrocki: 'Never Give Up' Jake Nawrocki is the host of the popular podcast Operation Self Reset. He lives in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. Jake first appeared on episode 18 of the podcast. Listen here. [19:41] Andrea Owen: 'Take Responsibility' Andrea is author of How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness. She is a life coach based on North Carolina and hosts the Your Kick-Ass Life Podcast. Andrea first appeared on episode 13 of the podcast. Listen here. [22:25] Leslie Caubble: 'Progress not Perfection' Leslie Caubble blogs and podcasts about living in Hawaii at The Aloha 360. She was one of more than a million people who woke up on the morning of Jan. 13, 2018 to an errant email that warned ballistic missiles were on the way. Leslie first appeared on episode 15 of the podcast. Listen here. [28:03] Carmela DiClemente: 'Love is the most important thing in life ' Carmela DiClemente is co-author of Dare to Win: Lessons from 57 of the world’s most successful people. Carmela is former BBC producer who has worked with some of the biggest names in the UK radio business. Carmela appeared on episode 14 with co-author Jeff Chegwin. Listen here. [29:54] Jeff Chegwin: 'If you have a vision, see it through' Jeff Chegwin is co-author of Dare to Win: Lessons from 57 of the world’s most successful people. A veteran of the UK music industry, Jeff has promoted some of the biggest names in the industry including Paul McCartney and Elvis Costello. Jeff appeared on episode 14 with co-author Carmela DiClemente. Listen here. [30:54] Stever Robbins: 'Less Information. More Doing.' Stever Robins is author of Get-It-Done Guy’s 9 Steps to Work Less and Do More: Transform Yourself from Overwhelmed to Overachiever and host of the Get-It-Done-Guy Podcast. He is an executive coach and communications consultant who has been involved in multiple startups. Stever first appeared on episode 19 of the podcast. Listen here. [39:35] Closing words Feedback & Connect Subscribe to My Instruction Manual on Apple Podcasts or on Android Email: keith@myinstructionmanual.com Keith on Twitter: @KeithMcArthur Join our Facebook page Check out our Pinterest page: myinstructionmanual
Special Guest: Andrea Owen Life coach. Author and Self described Hellraiser. Andrea Owen is passionate about empowering women to value themselves and fiercely love who they are. She helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation—urging them to choose courage and confidence instead. Her new book is called How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness. You can learn more about Andrea and her new book in the show notes to this podcast or on www.yourkickasslife.com. The post How to Deal with the Inner Critic & To Stop Feeling Like Sh*t with Andrea Owen appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.
Special Guest: Andrea Owen Life coach. Author and Self described Hellraiser. Andrea Owen is passionate about empowering women to value themselves and fiercely love who they are. She helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation—urging them to choose courage and confidence instead. Her new book is called How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness. You can learn more about Andrea and her new book in the show notes to this podcast or on www.yourkickasslife.com. The post How to Deal with the Inner Critic & To Stop Feeling Like Sh*t with Andrea Owen appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.
Special Guest: Andrea Owen Life coach. Author and Self described Hellraiser. Andrea Owen is passionate about empowering women to value themselves and fiercely love who they are. She helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation—urging them to choose courage and confidence instead. Her new book is called How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness. You can learn more about Andrea and her new book in the show notes to this podcast or on www.yourkickasslife.com. The post How to Deal with the Inner Critic & To Stop Feeling Like Sh*t with Andrea Owen appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.
Special Guest: Andrea Owen Life coach. Author and Self described Hellraiser. Andrea Owen is passionate about empowering women to value themselves and fiercely love who they are. She helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation—urging them to choose courage and confidence instead. Her new book is called How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness. You can learn more about Andrea and her new book in the show notes to this podcast or on www.yourkickasslife.com. The post How to Deal with the Inner Critic & To Stop Feeling Like Sh*t with Andrea Owen appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.
OC031 Andrea Owen Today’s episode is with Author, Speaker and Coach, Andrea Owen. Andrea is currently on the press circuit to promote her second book called, “How to stop feeling like shit.14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness” Don’t you love that title?? Her chapter titles are fun too: Being an Asshole to Yourself: Learn to Manage Your Inner Critic Go Away and Leave Me Alone: Why Isolating and Hiding Out Isn’t Protecting You Checking Out: Are Your Numbing Mechanisms Still Working for You? Compare and Despair: The Never-Ending Mind FÅck What I really enjoyed about this book is that each chapter addresses a very common problem and also has very practical, very actionable steps to help resolve the bad habits that keep us stuck. Its about taking the right action and doing it consistently. She says, ”The key has been consistency and commitment to the work.” and I couldn’t agree more. Her book is being released on 1/2/18, and she is offering a private book study through her Facebook group with every purchase! I will actually be participating as well. The class starts 1/22/18 and I hope to meet you there too! You can purchase her book at: http://www.yourkickasslife.com So with that, please enjoy this conversation with Andrea! Peace & Love, Arlina PS. Don’t forget to enter your email address to get new episodes delivered to your inbox by visiting the website: odaatchat.com
Andrea Owen, author of How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t, reveals 14 toxic habits that are holding us back from happiness. And host Keith McArthur speaks with fitness contributor Kathleen Trotter about exercise resolutions for the new year. Feedback / Connect: Subscribe to My Instruction Manual on Apple Podcasts or on Android Visit MyInstructionManual.com for shownotes, more great content and to sign up the email newsletter Email: keith@myinstructionmanual.com Keith on Twitter: @KeithMcArthur Join our Facebook page Visit us on Pinterest Episode 13 Details: [1:02] Featured interview with Martin Andrea Owen Andrea is author of How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness. She is a life coach based on North Carolina and hosts the Your Kick-Ass Life Podcast. In this conversation, Keith and Andrea discuss: When Andrea hit rock bottom [2:13] How Andrea became a life coach [4:19] Andrea opens up about her struggles with co-dependency, eating disorders, love addiction and alcohol abuse [5:30] How Andrea identified the 14 toxic habits that hold us back from happiness [9:31] Keith admits that he sees 13 of the toxic habits in himself [10:53] Andrea talks about the most common habits that hold us back [11:30] Negative self-talk [11:30] Isolating and hiding out [13:36] So many of us struggle alone with our toxic habits [14:18] Dealing with these habits takes work [16:10] The habit Andrea is currently struggling with [17:38] When you want to cancel, is it because of fear or self care? [18:54] Why Andrea doesn't believe in affirmations, but does recommend mantras [22:02} Andrea on meditation [25:26] Practical tools: Make a list of all the things we're scared people will think about us [28:00] Talk to others about our successes [32:29] [34:34] Andrea Owen's Instruction Manual [39:29] Fitness contributor Kathleen Trotter on exercise resolutions for the new year Kathleen Trotter is author of Finding Your Fit: A Compassionate Trainer's Guide to Making Fitness a Lifelong Habit In this conversation, Keith and Kathleen discuss: Is New Year's really the best time for resolutions? [39:53] How Gretchen Rubin's The Four Tendencies can help you with your resolutions [43:11]
To kick off the new year, I'm thrilled to be talking with coach and writer Andrea Owen about her new book How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that are Holding You Back from Happiness and the ways we can all start showing up in our lives differently. In this conversation, Andrea and I talk about how you know when you need to make a change, the behaviors that we engage in that we *think* are protecting us, and the reality of embracing change in your life. (Spoiler alert: it ain't easy. It's an ongoing process. It's always worth it.) We also talk about how you can take your first steps towards changing habits and what to keep in mind if your life isn't currently feeling super kick-ass and what to do when challenges come up. I've known Andrea for years and am such a fan of her work. I think you'll get so much from this conversation! Show Notes: Connect with Tiffany on Insta Get Tiffany's newsletter and stay in the know Registration for 31 Days to Flow is now open through January 9 Connect with Andrea:Website | Instagram | Facebook | Podcast Andrea's How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t bonus Andrea's Books: How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS-Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve Tiffany's 2015 interview on Andrea's YKAL podcast Tiffany's recent interview with Andrea for her Recovery Series
To kick off the new year, I'm thrilled to be talking with coach and writer Andrea Owen about her new book How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that are Holding You Back from Happiness and the ways we can all start showing up in our lives differently. In this conversation, Andrea and I talk about how you know when you need to make a change, the behaviors that we engage in that we *think* are protecting us, and the reality of embracing change in your life. (Spoiler alert: it ain't easy. It's an ongoing process. It's always worth it.) We also talk about how you can take your first steps towards changing habits and what to keep in mind if your life isn't currently feeling super kick-ass and what to do when challenges come up. I've known Andrea for years and am such a fan of her work. I think you'll get so much from this conversation! Show Notes: Connect with Tiffany on Insta Get Tiffany's newsletter and stay in the know Registration for 31 Days to Flow is now open through January 9 Connect with Andrea:Website | Instagram | Facebook | Podcast Andrea's How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t bonus Andrea's Books: How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS-Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve Tiffany's 2015 interview on Andrea's YKAL podcast Tiffany's recent interview with Andrea for her Recovery Series
Andrea Owen returned to the show today and she has a new book out called How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness. What I love about Andrea is that she is so good at focusing on the basics that people really need to master before they move onto more “advanced teachings” – because guess what? The advanced stuff doesn’t matter if you don’t have the basics down!! So we talked about how to fast track your self-awareness because it has to come before knowledge to be effective. We got into numbing and isolation – something so many of us can relate to, specifically how to spot the ways that seem normal, go under the radar, and how we do it so much because modern living is very conducive to both. We covered doing friendship as an adult, especially a growth-oriented adult, real, deep listening, shame, triggers, and feelings. So many juicy things, enjoy, share, and let me know what you think! xo, E About Andrea Owen: Andrea Owen is an author, mentor, and certified life coach who helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing courage and confidence instead. She has helped thousands of women manage their inner-critic to create loving connections and live their most kick-ass life. She is the proud author of 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve, (Adams Media/Simon & Schuster). Her second book: How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness is due out in January 2, 2018 (Seal Press/Hachette Books). When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or hosting retreats, Andrea is busy competing in triathlons, chasing her 10-year-old son and 8-year-old daughter or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”. Learn more about Andrea at http://yourkickasslife.com and join the fun and wisdom at http://facebook.com/yourkickasslife In this episode, Andrea shares: 1. “Unwanted identity” 2. Small gestures of kindness and presence 3. What to do when you don’t know what you need