Podcasts about fewer meltdowns

Carla Naumburg, PhD is a clinical social worker and the best-selling author of five parenting books. These include her international bestseller, How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), as well as You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent; Ready, Set, Breath and Parenting in the Present Moment.. Her latest, which is recently published and the topic of this podcast is How to Stop Freaking Out, the (completely swear-free) middle-grade adaptation of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids. She's also a wife (making her second appearance on the pod) and the mother of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:* Everything about her newest book and the philosophy behind it* How she first got into writing* What it takes to research and write a book* The inspiration behind How to Stop Freaking Out* The five different types of freakouts* Why kids freak out* How to model and teach emotional regulation in our kids* An extensive discussion on kids, smart phones and social mediaListen now on Apple, Spotify, Overcast and YouTube.—Where to find Carla Naumburg* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carlanaumburg/* Carla's Website: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/* Carla's Books: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/Where to find Adam Fishman* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/—In this episode, we cover:[1:43] Welcome[2:54] How did she start writing?[5:15] Carla's Childhood[6:43] Her newest book[8:13] Inspiration for How To Stop Freaking Out[10:26] The Process for writing a book[12:42] How a metaphor from her last book didn't translate to this one[14:58] Teaching middle schoolers[20:29] The types of freakouts[25:44] Why do kids freak out?[30:18] Modeling/teaching emotional regulation[36:04] How do parents navigate freakouts/how do we shrink our buttons?[43:52] Smart phones/social media and kids[50:42] Waiting on phones plan[55:39] The book[56:17] Lightning round—Show references:Carla and Josh on Startup Dad - youtube.com/watch?v=YiaE6ZmaOIQHow to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent: https://www.amazon.com/How-Stop-Losing-Your-Kids/dp/1523505427You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent: How to Practice Self-Compassion and Give Yourself a Break: https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-Parent-Self-Compassion/dp/1523517115Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family: https://www.amazon.com/Ready-Set-Breathe-Practicing-Mindfulness/dp/1626252904/Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Present-Moment-Focused-Matters/dp/1937006832/How to Stop Freaking Out: The Ultimate Guide to Keeping Cool When Life Feels Chaotic: https://www.amazon.com/How-Stop-Freaking-Out-Ultimate/dp/1523518243/Sweet Valley High: https://www.amazon.com/Sweet-Valley-High-138-book-series/dp/B08LGKQMDMMount Everest: https://www.britannica.com/place/Mount-EverestOprah: https://www.oprah.com/index.htmlThe Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt: https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036Taylor Swift: https://www.taylorswift.com/Snapchat: https://www.snapchat.com/First Phone: A Child's Guide to Digital Responsibility, Safety, and Etiquette by Catherine Pearlman PhD LCSW: https://www.amazon.com/First-Phone-Digital-Responsibility-Etiquette/dp/0593538331Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World by Devorah Heitner: https://www.amazon.com/Screenwise-Helping-Thrive-Survive-Digital/dp/1629561452/Caillou: https://en.caillou.com/Bluey: https://www.bluey.tv/MacGyver: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088559/My Fair Lady: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058385/The Breakfast Club: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088847/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1Dirty Dancing: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0092890/—For sponsorship inquiries email: podcast@fishmana.com.For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit startupdadpod.substack.com

FEWER MELTDOWNS - NO ELOPING!If you've ever broken down crying because you feel like you "just can't do autism anymore", You need to listen to this podcast, because autism mom Danielle knows what to do when despair hits you hard. She also brings hope to those who are struggling with stress from dealing with eloping, meltdowns in the grocery store or school and lack of social skills. Danielle recently watched her son deal with noise, kids screaming, and challenging and unpredictable situations WITHOUT meltdowns and that was a HUGE milestone that she wants to share with you so that you might experience the same. "I cried."  That's how Danielle described her reaction that the day when she was finally able to take her son to an un-planned event at school and he didn't have a meltdown."He didn't push, elope or react when kids of all ages started pushing and screaming.  He also didn't protest when he was given his usual plum, apples and healthy treats while other children ate the pizza and candy that used to give him tantrums in the past. Even though you might think that Danielle is lucky - in this podcast episode she describes the days when "she just cries out to God because she "simply doesn't want to (or know how to handle) autism anymore. Why? Because he's still not speaking/communicating. Because the progress he's made has taken 3 years. 

Author, clinician and parenting coach Carla Naumburg, PhD and I have a fun, real and relevant chat about parenting, the challenges of doing so in our society's current strained state of affairs and how mindfulness practice won't solve everything, but when the “stuff” is hitting the fan with your kids, parents can learn how mindfulness helps them literally do anything else other than completely losing it! Carla Naumburg, PhD, is a writer, mother, and clinical social worker. She is the author of three parenting books: the bestselling How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family (New Harbinger, 2015), and Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters (Parallax, 2014). Carla's writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, CNN, and Mindful Magazine, among other places. Carla lives outside of Boston with her husband, daughters, and two totally insane cats. Learn more at www.carlanaumburg.com. You can find Carla here: Facebook , LinkedIn , Twitter, Amazon

Summer is here, which for parents means Season Two of pandemic parenting. Parent tempers are triggered in so many ways now and we’ve lost access to the time and space that we need to calm our buttons. If you’re a parent and losing your cool more than you’d like with your kids, join Yael for an engaging and refreshingly irreverent interview with Dr. Carla Naumberg, author of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent. Spoiler alert: This episode’s chock-full of advice for how to make temper buttons less pushable and practical skills for what to do when you’re ready to explode at your kids! Listen and Learn: Carla’s 5 basic truths about losing it with our kids Owning our triggersWhy kids are button pushers and not triggers Specific practices to “calm” our buttonsWhy self-compassion is key, especially now, and how to engage itBest practices to apply after losing it with your kids/after the sh*t storm About Dr. Carla Naumburg: Dr. Carla Naumburg Carla Naumburg, Ph.D., is a writer, mother, and clinical social worker. She is the author of three parenting books: the bestselling How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family (New Harbinger, 2015), and Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters (Parallax, 2014). Carla has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, CNN, and Mindful Magazine, among other places. Carla lives outside of Boston with her husband, daughters, and two totally insane cats. Resources: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent by Carla NaumburgReady, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family by Carla NaumburgParenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters by Carla NaumburgSelf-Compassion for Parents: Nurture Your Child By Caring for Yourself by Susan Pollack  113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Dr. Schrag Hershberg  

This week’s theme is all about anger. Because let’s face it … sooner or later, we’re going to have to blow. I begin by reading Chapter 17 from my new book, The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care. Appropriately, it’s called ‘The Joy (and Relief) of Getting Mad Responsibly.’ Then I turn to the professionals for some good advice. In this frank, funny, honest interview Carla Naumburg, author of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids, lays it all out. Because sometimes you DO indeed have to lose it at the grocery store. Carla taught me all about the following: How to cope with ‘losing it in the grocery store with your kids’ moments Why we do, indeed, lose it Understanding our triggers Working with those who judge us when we lose it How to manage harsh parenting moments overall The role played by shame An immediate fix for your nervous system in breakdown moments Critical self-care steps to take to avoid meltdowns It’s a feisty and furious episode with some darn good self-care packed inside.Enjoy (responsibly!) RESOURCES How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care Carla’s Website MORE ABOUT CARLA Carla Naumburg, PhD, is a writer, speaker, and clinical social worker. She is the author of three parenting books: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family (New Harbinger, 2015), and Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters (Parallax, 2014). She’s appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, CNN, and Mindful Magazine, among other places. Carla she lives outside of Boston with her husband, daughters, and two totally insane cats.

In Episode 103, I'm chatting with Carla Naumberg, a writer, speaker, clinical social worker, and parenting coach. She's the author of three parenting books, including the one that we discuss in this podcast episode, How To Stop Losing Your S*** With Your Kids: A practical guide to becoming a calmer, happier parent. BIG IDEAS Mindful parenting allows you to have stronger relationships with your children and enjoy parenting more. The strategies you use to remain calm with your kids will work with everyone else as well. Parents often feel deep, overwhelming shame about the way they explode at their kids and this often gets in the way of their ability to parent in the way they want to. When parents become triggered, it's the fight or flight response of their nervous system being activated. Parents need the time to exercise, to get some quiet time alone, and to do some fun things. This will make them less likely to yell at their kids. Parents need support. Parents should realize that it's necessary to take care of themselves, and they are worthy of doing that. QUOTES Carla: "The whole point of mindful parenting is so that we can have a stronger relationship with our children and enjoy parenting more." Audrey: "All of these strategies that you share here also work with siblings, aging parents, spouses, co-workers. In general, the same strategies that help you to stay calm and respond more the way you want to with your kids, also help with everyone else." Carla: "So many parents feel a deep shame about the way they explode with their kids. The shame, for some parents, is really overwhelming and it's paralyzing. And it gets in the way of their ability to parent the way they want to." Carla: "Everyone talks about kids pushing our buttons, or your buttons being pushed. I love that because it's a great metaphor for what's going on in our bodies and our nervous systems when we are 'triggered'. I define 'triggered' as anything that makes us more likely to lose our temper with our kids. So when we are triggered, we are in some kind of a heightened state and it's really about our nervous system and this fight or flight reaction that we have. Even when it's a kid who we on some level know can't really hurt us, there is something about their behavior that is threatening to us on an emotional level, on a psychological level, and maybe even on a physical level." Carla: "The goal here is to not get our kids to stop pushing our buttons. That would be a nice goal but it's not realistic. So the goal of the book, and what I talk about, is how can we make our buttons smaller and dimmer and less sensitive, so that when the kid comes around with their finger out, looking for something to push, it's not going to be us." Carla: "Getting time away from your kids, getting quiet time, getting time to do something fun is important. But a big one that I think most parents aren't even aware of is this idea that I bring up of single-tasking, which is doing one thing at a time. What I think many parents don't realize is that any time we're multi-tasking, or trying to do multiple things at once, we're actually triggering ourselves." Carla: " The way to get better at this is to think of it as a practice. And by practice, I mean something that when you start out you're really not very good at it, and then the more you do it, you actually get better at it. The idea is to notice when our mind is wandering and then to make a conscious decision to bring it back to this thing we're doing. That's going to put you in a much better position to notice when you're about to lose your temper. And so when you notice that, you can make a choice to do something other than yelling at your kids." Carla: "We don't get the support we need and there's no shame in asking for support and help. So, in the book, I want to break it down for people. What kind of support do we need? Really, I get very specific and concrete about the kinds of support we need, what it looks like, and how to find it. And how it  can make parenting so much easier." Carla: "I think that the amount of stress and tension that we carry, and this need to manage every aspect of our kids' lives, and that it all has to be perfect, absolutely contributes to the extent to which we lose our temper with our children." Carla: "I think it's really important to start to shift our mindset so that we are worthy of taking care of ourselves. Even if for no other reason than we will be yelling at our kids less often." Related Podcasts/Posts Ep. 97: Parenting the Challenging Child Ep. 89: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men 10 Ways to Teach Kids to Calm Down Book Summary Ever lose it with your kid? If so, you’re definitely not alone. Parenting is stressful, children are insane, and you’re only human. Carla Naumburg, PhD, a clinical social worker, was so at a loss with her daughters that she found herself Googling “how to stop yelling at my kids” during a particularly grueling evening. That moment led to this book—a short, empathic, insight-packed, and tip-filled program for how to manage your triggers, stop the meltdowns, and become a calmer, happier parent with calmer, happier kids. How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids not only explains why we explode at our children but also teaches us everything we need to know to decrease stress and increase patience, even in the most challenging family moments. Based on recent research and evidence-based practices, and written in the warm, funny, instantly relatable tone of a parent who’s been there, the book guides even the most harried parents toward a new way of engaging with their children. Readers will come away feeling less ashamed and more empowered to get their sh*t together, instead of losing it. About Carla Carla Naumburg, PhD, is a writer, speaker, and clinical social worker. She is the author of three parenting books: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family (New Harbinger, 2015), and Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters (Parallax, 2014). Carla has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, CNN, and Mindful Magazine, among other places. Carla is a sought-after public speaker, and she lives outside of Boston with her husband, daughters, and two totally insane cats. Links Carla's Website: www.carlanaumburg.com Instagram: @carlanaumburg Facebook: Carla Naumburg, PhD Twitter: @swmama Newsletter: www.carlanaumburg.com/signup

How to get kids to listen without yelling and nagging? We all want our children to cooperate easily. Many parents do struggle with challenge. That was the case for Carla who later ended up writing books on mindfulness. Why? Because it was helpful in combating the bad habit of yelling.  Yelling doesn’t have to be part of your parenting repertoire. Carla shares with us her own definition of mindfulness which I love. -how she integrated mindfulness into her family – how it has changed her life from being less reactive to yelling less…and much more -we talk about mindful listening -an exercise you can do with your kids when they go from zero to crying -how to create a calming down corner for your child. -how to handle meltdowns public places… She is witty, funny, smart and a great storyteller.. About my guest Carla Naumburg, PhD is a clinical social worker, writer, and most importantly, mother. She is the author of Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness With Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family (New Harbinger, 2015) and Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters (Parallax, 2014). Carla’s writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, among other places. She is a contributing editor for Kveller.com, a website for those who want to add a Jewish twist to their parenting. Carla holds an MSW and a PhD in clinical social work and she has an advanced certificate in mindfulness and psychotherapy. She grew up in Santa Fe, New Mexico, and the Bay Area of California, and she currently lives outside of Boston with her husband and two young daughters.   Resources and links: Carla’s books: Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family You can follow all of Carla’s writing and sign up for her newsletter at www.carlanaumburg.com. Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to Authentic Moments Podcast on iTunes and give us a start rating. Ratings are very important. They help other people to find the show. itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/authe…d1052399775?mt=2    Thank you for listening!

The holidays are here! Biz and Theresa head into the festive season wondering: if we say what concerns us and ask for help and the opportunity to actually enjoy at least some of it... maybe we actually will? If that doesn’t work, there's always #HidingInTheBathroom. Plus, Biz says goodbye to the ant and the stroller, Theresa is faced again with one of the great questions of the universe, and we talk to the very funny and very grounded Carla Naumburg, PhD, author of Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness With Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family. Carla Naumburg: http://carlanaumburg.com/ Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family: http://amzn.to/2gHXQ9J Twitter: @SWMama Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are LEGO and MTMT Watches. OBM listeners can get 15% off plus free shipping and free returns from MVMTwatches.com/mother. You can also check out https://www.pinterest.com/LEGO/. Share your genius and fail moments! Call 206-350-9485* *Be sure to tell us at the top of your message whether you're leaving a genius moment, a fail, or a rant! Thanks!! Share a personal or commercial message on the show! Subscribe to One Bad Mother in iTunes Join our mailing list!