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Send us a textIn this episode we interview Dr. Adrian on her journey navigating dissociative identity disorder (DID). She shares with us everything there is to learn about DID: the causes, treatments, living and communicating with her parts and the ways it affects her life. =================================Adrian A. Fletcher, Psy.D., M.A., is a licensed psychologist, author, and survivor with lived experience of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder. She also uses the name Adrienne & Co. System to reflect a DID system of 22+ parts. She is a trafficking and ritual abuse survivor. A passionate mental health warrior, she stepped out publicly in 2021 to challenge the stigma around DID and trauma. She and her parts are here to bring hope, love, and inspiration to the world by sharing their lived and professional experience with mental health. She and her parts are the proud authors of One Soul, Multiple Expressions: Poems by the Parts, former podcast hosts of Braving the Way with Dr. Fletch, and hosts of an international mentorship program for people living with DID. They have been featured in the Los Angeles Times and USA Today. They have also had their work published by The American Psychiatric Association, The National Alliance on Mental Illness, Psychology Today, and This Is My Brave. They are currently writing a book for people with DID through New Harbinger publications with the love of their life, Mabel Rose, called The Experiential Toolbox for DID, which will be released in 2025.Follow Adrienne and her parts on instagram @adrienneandcoSupport her work via her poetry book: https://www.amazon.com/One-Soul-Multiple-Expressions-POEMS/dp/B0BLG6SWS6Support the showAdditionally, you can now also watch the full video version of your favourite episode here on YouTube. Please subscribe, like or drop a comment letting us know your thoughts on the episode and if you'd like more stories going forward!If you would like to offer any feedback on our show or get in touch with us, you can also contact us on the following platforms: Website: www.multispective.org Email: info@multispective.org Instagram: www.instagram.com/multispectiveorg Facebook: www.facebook.com/multispectiveorg Reddit: www.reddit.com/r/multispective Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/multispectiveProducer & Host: Jennica SadhwaniEditing: Stephan MenzelMarketing: Lucas Phiri

Do you obsess over your partner's flaws? Does thinking about the future of your relationship leave you imagining the worst-case scenario? When it comes to navigating the world of romantic relationships, some feelings of anxiety, doubt, and fear are to be expected. But if your fears so extreme that they threaten to destroy an otherwise healthy relationship, you may have relationship OCD--a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) that causes chronic obsessive doubt and anxiety in relationships. So, how can you free yourself to discover deeper intimacy and security? Relationship OCD (New Harbinger, 2022) offers an evidence-based, cognitive behavioral approach to finding relief from relationship anxiety, obsessive doubt, and fear of commitment. You'll learn to challenge the often-distorted thought patterns that trigger harmful emotions, increase your ability to think rationally, and ultimately accept the presence of intrusive thinking while maintaining the values of a healthy relationship. Relationships are the ultimate unknown. If you're ready to let go of needing to know for sure, this book will help you find satisfaction and thrive in your romantic relationships--in all their wonderful uncertainty. For more:  The Center for Anxiety and OCD Website The ROCD Masterclass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Do you obsess over your partner's flaws? Does thinking about the future of your relationship leave you imagining the worst-case scenario? When it comes to navigating the world of romantic relationships, some feelings of anxiety, doubt, and fear are to be expected. But if your fears so extreme that they threaten to destroy an otherwise healthy relationship, you may have relationship OCD--a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) that causes chronic obsessive doubt and anxiety in relationships. So, how can you free yourself to discover deeper intimacy and security? Relationship OCD (New Harbinger, 2022) offers an evidence-based, cognitive behavioral approach to finding relief from relationship anxiety, obsessive doubt, and fear of commitment. You'll learn to challenge the often-distorted thought patterns that trigger harmful emotions, increase your ability to think rationally, and ultimately accept the presence of intrusive thinking while maintaining the values of a healthy relationship. Relationships are the ultimate unknown. If you're ready to let go of needing to know for sure, this book will help you find satisfaction and thrive in your romantic relationships--in all their wonderful uncertainty. For more:  The Center for Anxiety and OCD Website The ROCD Masterclass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

Book your free session directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Welcome to episode 452 of the OCD and Anxiety Podcast. In this enlightening discussion, host Robert James is joined by Dr. Marisa Mazza, a distinguished clinical psychologist and author of "The ACT Workbook for OCD." Together, they delve into the transformative power of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) combined with Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) for those struggling with OCD and anxiety. Dr. Mazza shares her personal journey into the world of OCD treatment, offering listeners valuable insights into evidence-based strategies that help disrupt the cycle of anxiety and compulsions. The conversation is rich with practical advice, compassion, and inspiring stories that emphasize finding meaning and purpose in life beyond the confines of OCD. Listeners will explore the vital ACT principles of acceptance, mindfulness, and value-based living, as well as learn effective techniques for managing compulsions and overcoming perfectionism. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating OCD or supporting a loved one, providing a pathway to resilience and recovery Marisa T. Mazza, Psy.D., is a licensed psychologist, supervisor, and founder of choicetherapy, a renowned group practice specializing in evidence-based treatments for OCD and Anxiety. Passionate about guiding individuals beyond their fears, she facilitates empowering workshops and provides consultation to therapists seeking genuine connections with clients. Dr. Mazza's expertise is widely recognized, as she serves as faculty at the Behavioral Therapy Training Institute of the International OCD Foundation. Her book, "The ACT Workbook for OCD," published by New Harbinger, showcases her exceptional knowledge and insights on mindfulness, acceptance, and exposure skills for living well with OCD. Links https://www.choicetherapy.net/team Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.      

If you have obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), you may seek constant reassurance from others, lose time to compulsions, struggle with unwanted thoughts and intense emotions, or act out in ways that are ineffective. These symptoms can put a major strain on your relationships--whether it's with family, friends, partners, or other relationships. And you may feel alone, embarrassed, and ashamed of your symptoms, which can lead to further withdrawal and social isolation. So, how can you reduce the impact of OCD on your relationships? Drawing on evidence-based practices grounded in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), exposure and response prevention therapy (ERP), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindful self-compassion, psychologist Amy Mariaskin offers a comprehensive guide for managing your toughest symptoms--before they hijack your relationships. With this book, you'll find hands-on skills to move toward what you truly want in your relationships and strengthen feelings of intimacy, trust, and connectedness. And finally, you'll learn how to cultivate self-compassion, mindfulness, and curiosity--all while challenging the beliefs and behaviors that keep you feeling stuck in isolation. If you're tired of OCD sabotaging your relationships, Thriving in Relationships When You Have OCD (New Harbinger, 2022) will help you take control of your symptoms--and your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

If you have obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), you may seek constant reassurance from others, lose time to compulsions, struggle with unwanted thoughts and intense emotions, or act out in ways that are ineffective. These symptoms can put a major strain on your relationships--whether it's with family, friends, partners, or other relationships. And you may feel alone, embarrassed, and ashamed of your symptoms, which can lead to further withdrawal and social isolation. So, how can you reduce the impact of OCD on your relationships? Drawing on evidence-based practices grounded in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), exposure and response prevention therapy (ERP), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindful self-compassion, psychologist Amy Mariaskin offers a comprehensive guide for managing your toughest symptoms--before they hijack your relationships. With this book, you'll find hands-on skills to move toward what you truly want in your relationships and strengthen feelings of intimacy, trust, and connectedness. And finally, you'll learn how to cultivate self-compassion, mindfulness, and curiosity--all while challenging the beliefs and behaviors that keep you feeling stuck in isolation. If you're tired of OCD sabotaging your relationships, Thriving in Relationships When You Have OCD (New Harbinger, 2022) will help you take control of your symptoms--and your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

Our guest today is Sarah Bergenfield, a Somatic Psychologist, and a Level 3-trained and Certified IFS practitioner, specializing in autism. Sarah holds a master's degree in embodiment studies and wrote her thesis on autism as an embodied condition that impacts the brain, body, and mind. Sarah is a student in the Applied Neuroscience program at Kings College in London and begins her Ph.D. in Psychology in September at the California Institute of Integral Studies. She is a wife, mom to three children, and dog mom to Magnus, her assistance dog. Sarah is the co-author of the book, Embodying Autism – Navigating your Autistic Brain, Body, and Mind, written with Martha Sweezey and published next year by New Harbinger. She is an international speaker and educator on the topic of understanding autism as an embodied condition. We will be speaking with Sarah about the nature of autism (Episode Part 1) and (Episode Part 2) how IFS concepts and techniques can be understood through the lens of autism, how IFS therapy can be helpful for autistic clients, and some special considerations to keep in mind when working with autistic clients with IFS.  Hope you enjoy the episode and find it useful.

Our guest today is Sarah Bergenfield, a Somatic Psychologist, and a Level 3-trained and Certified IFS practitioner, specializing in autism. Sarah holds a master's degree in embodiment studies and wrote her thesis on autism as an embodied condition that impacts the brain, body, and mind. Sarah is a student in the Applied Neuroscience program at Kings College in London and begins her Ph.D. in Psychology in September at the California Institute of Integral Studies. She is a wife, mom to three children, and dog mom to Magnus, her assistance dog. Sarah is the co-author of the book, Embodying Autism – Navigating your Autistic Brain, Body, and Mind, written with Martha Sweezey and published next year by New Harbinger. She is an international speaker and educator on the topic of understanding autism as an embodied condition. We will be speaking with Sarah about the nature of autism (Episode Part 1) and (Episode Part 2) how IFS concepts and techniques can be understood through the lens of autism, how IFS therapy can be helpful for autistic clients, and some special considerations to keep in mind when working with autistic clients with IFS.  Hope you enjoy the episode and find it useful.

Welcome to Season 4, Episode 35! We often read to learn new information or to be entertained (or both). But we also love reading to improve ourselves, which is what we did with The Conscious Style Guide by Award-winning Editor and Author Karen Yin (S04E22). Today's guest is Dr. Helen Hsu, whose new book is The Healing Trauma Workbook for Asian Americans published by New Harbinger. It was released in July and is informative, inspirational, and empowering. Dr. Hsu accomplishes that by creating an easy-to-use workbook that is segmented into concepts with an activity or question to make you reflect deeply and consider solutions. We really enjoyed going through the workbook and learned a lot about ourselves and how we react to stressors.  Dr. Helen Hsu is a clinical psychologist, educator, and author, and she is currently the Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) Director of Outreach, and a lecturer at Stanford University. With more than 20 years of experience through K-12 public schools, private practice, geriatric care, hospice, university counseling, and community-based health center, Helen also founded Hella Mental Health… an organization that's devoted to nourishing the overall well-being and mental health of BIPOC communities through education and empowerment.  Hella is dedicated to lifelong learning of cultural humility and works with an anti-racist, LGBTQ+ affirming perspective. The workbook is the same way, which is apparent as you go through the activities and questions in it. Whether you realize it or not, so many people of AANHPI descent have experienced trauma in their backgrounds, and leveraging The Healing Trauma Workbook for Asian Americans can be a significant step towards healing and change.  In our conversation, we talk about Dr. Helen Hsu's background, the decision to create a workbook, the inspiration for Hella Mental Health, how intergenerational trauma works, the use of mantras, and so much more. We hope you go out and get The Healing Trauma Workbook for Asian Americans, visit Hella Mental Health, or follow her work on Instagram or YouTube.  If you like what we do, please share, follow, and like us in your podcast directory of choice or on Instagram @AAHistory101. For previous episodes and resources, please visit our site at https://asianamericanhistory101.libsyn.com or social media links at http://castpie.com/AAHistory101. If you have any questions, comments or suggestions, email us at info@aahistory101.com.

This week we are happy to welcome Dr. Lauren Muhlheim to The Hamilton Review Podcast! In this conversation Dr. Muhlheim shares important advice for parents about: - How to recognize signs of an eating disorder in your child. - Family based treatment for parents and their child dealing with an eating disorder. - Diet culture and how it impacts families and what parents can do to minimize the impact. - Dr. Muhlheim also discusses a newer eating disorder called - Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake disorder. This is a very critical topic that hasn't been discussed on The Hamilton Review Podcast before. Dr. Muhlheim is an expert in her field and we hope that parents gain a lot from this episode. Dr. Lauren Muhlheim is a psychologist, certified eating disorder specialist, "Diet Culture Deprogrammer," and the owner of Eating Disorder Therapy LA. At EDTLA. Dr. Muhlheim helps people with food and body image issues, anxiety, and depression. Dr. Muhlheim is one of the few therapists in Los Angeles certified in Family-Based Treatment (FBT) for adolescent eating disorders. Her book for parents based on this approach, When Your Teen Has an Eating Disorder: Practical Strategies to Help Your Teen Recover from Anorexia, Bulimia, and Binge Eating was published by New Harbinger in September 2018. Dr. Muhlheim does not believe that parents cause eating disorders and knows they can be an important part of the solution. Dr. Muhlheim is an advocate for the inclusion of parents in the treatment of their children. How to contact Dr. Lauren Muhlheim:   Eating Disorder Therapy LA   Dr. Muhlheim's email address   How to contact Dr. Bob: Dr. Bob on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChztMVtPCLJkiXvv7H5tpDQ Dr. Bob on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drroberthamilton/ Dr. Bob on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bob.hamilton.1656 Dr. Bob's Seven Secrets Of The Newborn website: https://7secretsofthenewborn.com/ Dr. Bob's website: https://roberthamiltonmd.com/ Pacific Ocean Pediatrics: http://www.pacificoceanpediatrics.com/

EMBODIED LEADERSHIP SUMMIT REPLAY! Check out our special guest interview with Nancy Colier, author of "The Emotionally Exhausted Woman" About Nancy Colier: A longtime student of Eastern spirituality, Nancy Colier is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, and author of "The Emotionally Exhausted Woman: Why You're Feeling Depleted and How to Get What You Need" (New Harbinger, 2022), as well as numerous other books. She is a thought leader and national speaker on women's empowerment, wellbeing, and mindful technology, and has been featured on Good Morning America, The New York Times, and countless other media. She is also a regular blogger for Psychology Today. In addition, Nancy spent 25 years as a nationally top-ranked equestrian and serves as a performance consultant to professional athletes and artists. Connect: Website: https://nancycolier.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nancycolier.lcsw.rev LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancy-colier-41b76ab7/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nancycolier1/ About "The Emotionally Exhausted Woman": Are you feeling emotionally exhausted? Do you worry about being likable (at all cost)? Are you trying to do it all and be it all—all the time? This radically different self-care guide will help you find the courage needed to express your deepest needs, nurture self-awareness, and be yourself in a world that expects you to be everything to everyone. Are you a retreat leader and wand to co-create with Phoebe at nOMad? If you are a retreat leader who wants to widen your reach to fill your next retreat, we want you! Apply now, for our annual Embodied Leaders' Retreat. FREE GIFTS FOR YOU! Build Your Own Retreat Checklist: www.thenomadcollective.org/Retreat-Path Embodiment: Somatic/Movement (Mvt109™) Video Series: www.thenomadcollective.org/embodimentfreebie Find out about our other upcoming retreats in Bali and other locations at nOMad here: www.thenomadcollective.org/upcoming-retreats Please review, subscribe, and share this episode if you enjoyed our space in between! Follow Phoebe Leona at: FB: www.facebook.com/phoebeleona.love/ IG: @PhoebeLeona.Love Website: www.PhoebeLeona.com Follow nOMad at: IG @thenomadcollective_ Website: www.thenomadcollective.org

Today I'm offering something different for you. No commercials. Just me and you talking. I've said before on SelfWork that I've seen so many people become paralyzed in their decision -making about what course or direction they should follow. Hopefully, through my own story of discovering my own potential, you'll get a taste of what I've learned works – which is to simply “go.” Go in a direction – any direction that puts itself in front of you. At least that's healthy and productive. Learn from that. And keep going. Sometimes you have to pick yourself up from disappointments. But you learn every time. And you'll hear at the end my own exciting announcement of my TEDxBocaRaton talk now being available on YouTube! I'll hope you can watch! Vital Links:  Here's the link to my TEDx talk! Just click here! Episode Transcript This is SelfWork, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. At SelfWork, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them. I'm Dr. Margaret and SelfWork is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own selfwork. Hello and welcome to SelfWork. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm so glad you're here today. I am offering something different for you. No commercials, just me and you talking. I've said before on SelfWork that I've seen so many people become paralyzed in their decision making about what course or direction they should follow. Hopefully, through my own story that I'll tell today of self-discovery, you'll get a taste of what I've learned works, which is just simply go, go in a direction, any direction that puts itself in front of you, at least that's healthy and productive. You learn from that and then you keep going, and I have an announcement to make of something I'm more than honored to tell you is now available. Potential. It's one of those words that would come up, especially for my mom when my life wasn't going so well. "But you have so much potential.," she'd say to me. At least at that time, it felt like I was being chastised, certainly not supported. But I think I was wrong. I was the one who felt so bad about me that I couldn't see any potential. So today is a story about me being open to discovering potential in myself, and hopefully my story will make sense for you. You know me as Dr. Margaret who does this podcast. Maybe you know, I'm the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. What you may not know is that I never actually wanted to write a book. Never dreamed of hosting a podcast. I'd never had ambitions to be known for something. Well, you know, that's not quite true. When I was much younger, I thought I'd be a famous opera star, but that wasn't in the cards for me. But I've come to love being a therapist and a mom and a wife, , and my husband would quickly note the order of those things like, oh, I'm last . And you know, I was quite happy doing that. I'd found my potential, at least I thought I had. I began writing online when my son had gone to college because I had time on my hands and my husband was undergoing a medical treatment. So that was really new for me. I'd always liked writing emails and things, but I'd never considered myself an author. But I needed to do something while I was being with my husband and a woman here locally that I knew Jeanette is her first name. She's basically a coach for inventors and entrepreneurs taught me about online stuff. I didn't even know what a link was when I began. That was back in 2012. That's when I started a blog about empty nest and then pretty quickly started writing about mental health. The writing was fun. So I thought, "Okay, this fills my time." And hopefully, as I say on the podcast, I was extending the walls of my practice to those who wanted to read what I had to say and maybe learn a little bit more about therapy and mental health treatment. But in 2014, I was sitting and thinking about the people I'd seen who'd walked into my office, not telling me they were depressed, but saying things like, "I'm not sure what's wrong. I probably don't even need to be here." Or some such story. What they all had in common was an inability to express painful emotion. In fact, they might be telling you about something that was even traumatic, but they'd be smiling as if they were telling me what they'd had for lunch. They were completely detached from their pain, like they had their anger or sadness or shame stuck so far back that it was as if that pain didn't exist. It was weird to watch, and I had to begin to tune in very closely to what these people were saying and not pay as much attention to how they were saying it. So again, on that afternoon in 2014, I literally grabbed a name from out of the air when I was titling the piece and called it the Perfectly Hidden Depressed Person, are You One? And the post went viral after it appeared on the Huff Post. I received hundreds of emails. "How do you know about this? It's like, you're in my head.". So I got curious, and I looked around at the popular literature and I found Dr. Brene Brown. The Gifts of Imperfection is an incredible work on perfectionism, vulnerability, and shame. And of course, now she's world famous and has written scads of truly great books and has a TED Talk that is one of the most watched talks ever. But I also found Terrence Real's book. "I don't wanna talk about it" on what he termed Covert Depression, but it was written only for men, and I was finding this in my clients, were both men and women. Then I turned to the academic research, and there were so many researchers shouting out the dangers of the combination of perfectionism and depression saying that perfectionism alters the presentation of depression and makes it very hard for a therapist or clinician to really see what's going on. Yet the pain is very real and very active, but it's active underneath an armor that's worn as camouflage for those often traumatic memories. Recently, we were all shocked by the suicidal death of the incredible dancer, entertainer, and producer tWitch. He wrote in a suicide note about something from his past that it had to do with his death by suicide. I don't know any more than that. But back in 2014, there wasn't too much about this link between having a perfect seeming life and suicide. It just wasn't being talked about. So what was I to do? Well, I've told clients through the years, "If you believe something should exist and it doesn't, then create it." So that's what I did with luck, support from many, many important others, very, very hard work by me and the fantastic team I'd built over the years. Five years later, Perfectly Hidden Depression was published. Then the pandemic hit. So no face-to-face interviews, certainly no book tour. So basically I thought, okay, I've reached my potential, and that's the end of this journey. But there's one more twist to this story. Three years ago, right at the beginning of the pandemic, a woman I didn't know, a stranger, Cindy Metzler, reached out to me on LinkedIn. She said a friend had told her about the death of another friend. We'll call that friend Jane. Jane was a wife and mother of two, a highly respected and successful person in her community, and she died by suicide on Valentine's Day using a means that was very planned, and there was no doubt she'd chosen to die. Everyone was absolutely shocked trying to absorb this tremendously confusing loss. But at the funeral, Jane's husband walked up to Cindy and her friend and said, "I found this on Jane's bedside table." It was my book. Tears came to my eyes when I heard this story in 2020, and Cindy and I became virtual friends along with her other friend, Tricia and I volunteered a couple of times to speak to groups that Cindy ran about this kind of hidden depression, and that all went very well. What I didn't know was that Cindy was and is a co-organizer of the Boca Raton TEDx Talks. Now, if you don't know what a TED Talk is, TED was begun years ago by a man who believed in giving people a stage to talk about what he termed "ideas worth sharing." The TED or the t e d part of it is technology, entertainment, and design. All kinds of people auditioned from scientists to students, to artists to creators. And what happened after that? TED became a huge platform for people to share those ideas. Then cities and communities around the world wanted to host their own TED Talks, so they were termed TEDx talks. Now, TEDx follows the same guidelines created by big Ted, like what the stage looks like, how long the talks are. They can't be more than 20 minutes. And then the famous red dot that the speaker stands on, well, seems like the universe thought I had more potential. Cindy asked me to submit to her city's TEDx committee. TEDx spoke a ratton. They didn't host anything in 2021 due again to the pandemic. But I submitted in 2022 and I didn't make the cut. So once again, I thought that was that. I played around with the idea of submitting to other TEDx venues, but somehow I just couldn't find the energy to do it. I was pretty deflated actually, after submitting and getting turned down. And this journey through the last decade had had its share of disappointments. My book was published, yes, but 39 Count 'em, 39 other publishers had said no. Some I got interviews, which was great, but it was still a no, and there were two reasons. One, no one knew who I was, and two, those publication houses didn't think people hiding depression would buy a book on hiding depression. , you can see the irony. So when I got turned down those 39 times, each one of those 39 times, I thought, "Okay, this is the end." I was disappointed, but I was happy to have gotten the chances I had, and sure enough, New Harbinger came along and said, yes. Again, lots of luck and hard work. But back to the other story, Cindy and I stayed in touch, and this year, 2023, she asked me to submit again. I took a big breath and I did, and my talk was chosen. Then the real work began as I hired a great coach, but we only had nine weeks to create a talk that would be about 14 to 15 minutes long that would share not only the idea of perfectly hidden depression, but give a solution to its core problem, and that talk had to be memorized. . I've always had trouble with memorizing; even my band used to kid me in my twenties, that I kept song lyrics in front of me when I'd sung the same songs night after night after night.Memorizing was simply not my forte. So I gave the talk on May the 20th this year, and I was incredibly nervous. But I think the message comes across, it's not only about perfectionism and depression, it's on transparency. It's on learning to trust. It's on how we as a culture can change to stop talking about suicidal thoughts or feelings as if they're only a symptom of depression. They're not. Pain is at the core of suicidal thinking, and we can all feel that kind of pain given the right circumstances. All of us. I can't tell you how many times people have shared the fact that they've thought about dying, about taking their own lives because of what's happened to them in the present or in the past. But I'm not gonna give you the talk here. I'm asking that you go watch it on YouTube. The link will be in your show notes or you can go to YouTube, put in Dr.Margaret Rutherford and TEDx and it ought to come up. That's it. Again, the link will be in your show notes and please like, comment and share if you can. Now, I don't know if this is the end of the journey or not, but what I hope you can see, if you keep curious, if you keep open and if you risk, you never know what might be in store for you or what potential you have that is within you just waiting to be discovered. Thank you so much for listening. Today's shortened self-work. I always appreciate you taking the time to listen. I'm Dr. Margaret, and this has been SelfWork. You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you'd like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome! My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression is available here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it's available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook! And there's another way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You'll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you're giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I'll look forward to hearing from you!  

Get a taste of the Raising Good Humans Summit! We've come together with New Harbinger to hold an event in July, 2023, and you can listen to a sampler of it here. You'll get practical guidance and hear fascinating discussions that will help you cultivate greater self-compassion in the face of everyday stress, transform generational patterns of reactivity, navigate mental health challenges, and discover your own pathway to mindful, conscious parenting. In this episode, Hunter talks to Carla Naumburg, Chris Willard, Mr. Chazz, Cathy and Todd Adams, Dr. Shefali, and Alyssa Blask Campbell. Sign up for the summit at www.mindfulmamamentor.com/summit! If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to Apple Podcasts or  Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Over 200,000 copies sold! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we're over 25 thousand strong! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Approximately 1-4% of people throughout the world experience obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Individuals with OCD are more likely than those without OCD to engage in nonsuicidal self-injury (NSSI), and recent research has shown that, among those who self-injure, having a diagnosis of OCD predicts more severe self-injury.In this episode, licensed clinical social worker and OCD expert Nathan Peterson explains how he differentiates nonsuicidal self-injury (NSSI) from Self-Harm OCD, which is just one of many subtypes of OCD and one in which a person experiences intrusive thoughts or mental images of violence toward oneself. He then walks us through how he uses Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) for Self-Harm OCD in therapy. Learn more about Nathan and his therapy practice OCD and Anxiety Counseling here. He has nearly 100k subscribers on YouTube (@ocdandanxiety) where his videos receive thousands and thousands of views. You can also follow him on Instagram (@ocdandanxietyonline), Twitter (@ocdandanxiety1), and Facebook.  Click here to take his online "Do I Have Harm OCD? Test." Below are additional resources about OCD and/or NSSI:Browning, M. E., Lloyd-Richardson, E. E., Schneider, R. L., Faro, A. L., Muehlenkamp, J. J., & Claudio-Hernandez, A. (2022). Obsessive compulsive disorder and co-occurring nonsuicidal self-injury: Evidence-based treatments and future research directions. The Behavior Therapist, 45(6), 199-208.International OCD Foundation at https://iocdf.org/.Winston, S. M., & Seif, M. N. ( 2017). Overcoming unwanted intrusive thoughts: A CBT-based guide to getting over frightening, obsessive, or disturbing thoughts. New Harbinger.Baer, L. (2012). Getting control: Overcoming your obsessions and compulsions (3rd ed.). Plume.To learn more about how medication can help address OCD (most often in tandem with ERP but not discussed in this episode), click here. Follow Dr. Westers on Instagram and Twitter (@DocWesters). To join ISSS, visit itriples.org and follow ISSS on Facebook and Twitter (@ITripleS).The Psychology of Self-Injury podcast has been rated #5 by Feedspot in their "20 Best Clinical Psychology Podcasts" and also featured in Audible's "Best Mental Health Podcasts to Defy Stigma and Begin to Heal."If you or someone you know should be interviewed on the podcast, we want to know! Please fill out this form, and we will be in touch with more details if it's a good fit.

Do you know that moment when out of the blue, you feel overwhelmed by panic, and your heart starts beating out of your chest, your breaths get shallow, and it feels all-consuming? Yeah, I've been there, the debilitating physical symptoms of a panic attack. But did you know that you can help regain control of a panic attack by stimulating your vagus nerve? Welcome to Normalize The Conversation, your host Francesca Reicherter is joined by Dr. Chuck Schaeffer, a licensed psychologist, sleep and panic expert, and author of the upcoming book When Panic Happens short Circuiting Anxiety and Fear On The Spot using Neuroscience and Polyvagal Theory by New Harbinger available 2024. Join us as Dr. Schaeffer breaks down panic and its causes, then shares what you can do to calm a panic attack. ---- Normalize The Conversation is an initiative of Inspiring My Generation focusing on normalizing the conversation, bringing education and awareness to the forefront, and amplifying global voices to spark change and hope. Inspiring My Generation is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization on a mission to suicide prevention through awareness, conversation, education, and support. Connect with us on Instagram and Facebook: @Inspiring My Generation Visit our website: inspiringmygeneration.org --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/normalizetheconversation/support

If you're feeling frustrated and helpless watching your child struggle with ADHD despite your efforts to manage it with traditional methods, then you are not alone! Dr. Russell Ramsay is a licensed psychologist specializing in the assessment and psychosocial treatment of adult ADHD. He is co-founder and clinical director of the University of Pennsylvania's Adult ADHD Treatment and Research Program, where he is professor of clinical psychology. Dr. Ramsay is widely published, including five books on adult ADHD, has lectured internationally, and is in the CHADD Hall of Fame. His next book, CBT Workbook for Adult ADHD and Anxiety: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Skills to Manage Stress, Find Focus, and Reclaim Your Life, is slated for publication in spring 2024 by New Harbinger.   Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Dr. Russell Ramsay about how parents can model CBT coping techniques, encouraging their children to track and change their thoughts as a means of personalizing their coping strategies. Recommended Treatment for Children and Teens with ADHD Tip-Sheet So -- your child has ADHD. Want to get past the confusion and the stigma really fast? This FREE Guide explains, in the simplest terms possible:  What is recommended treatment for children and teens  Ten things to consider when trying to make a decision about medication  Exactly what to look for in a behavior therapy training program. Short, sweet, and to the point -- don't spend hours on the internet scouring.  ImpactParents gives you exactly what you need to know without wasting any time or effort.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: Discover the immense benefits of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in treating ADHD. Learn how the Coach Approach helps create personalized strategies for thriving with ADHD. Develop an unstoppable growth mindset for achieving outstanding success.   Related Links: Rethinking Adult ADHD Connect with Dr. Ramsay: Website Twitter LinkedIn   Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools   Connect with Impact Parents: www.impactparents.com Instagram: @impactparents Facebook: @impactparent LinkedIn:@impactparents Twitter: @impactparents  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wed, 28 Dec 2022 20:15:38 +0000 https://iss-doch-was-du-willst-podcast.podigee.io/111-wie-starte-ich-diaetfrei-ins-neue-jahr f13243cf0441dc0a2462f42681ccf6fa Warum Abnehmen kein Vorsatz für das neue Jahr sein muss (+Alternative) Ich kann mich noch so gut daran erinnern, wie ich das erste Mal an Silvester und an Neujahr ohne einen Plan dasaß und mir wirklich der A… auf Grundeis gegangen ist. Ich wusste, ich kann keine Diät mehr machen, aber ich war völlig überfordert von der Vorstellung, keinen Plan mehr zu haben und „einfach drauflos zu leben“. Und weil ich nicht möchte, dass du dich so hilflos fühlst wie ich, als ich angefangen habe, intuitiv zu essen, gibt es zum einen die kostenlose #diätfreiinsneuejahr2023 Selbstfürsorge-Woche, zu der ich am Ende der Episode alle Infos gebe, und in der Episode selbst bekommst du fünf kurze und knackige Tipps, wie du diätfrei ins neue Jahre startest. Ich wünsche dir viel Spaß beim Anhören! Die gesunde Alternative zum ewigen Diätkreislauf Diäten scheitern mit einer Wahrscheinlichkeit von 95–98 %. Zwei Drittel wiegen nach einer Diät mehr als vorher. Höchste Zeit für einen Paradigmenwechsel! Die zertifizierte Ernährungstherapeutin Dr. Antonie Post und die Heilpraktikerin und Traumatherapeutin Petra Schleifer haben nach jahrelangem Kampf mit dem eigenen Körpergewicht erkannt: Gesundheit kennt kein Gewicht! Diesen gewichtsneutralen Ansatz, der den Prinzipien von Health at Every Size® folgt, vermitteln sie in ihrem Ratgeber mit Anleitung zum Selbstcoaching. Zum Buch: https://antoniepost.de/mein-buch/ Eine neue Podcast-Episode erscheint jeden Mittwoch. Mehr Infos und Inspiration zur Anti-Diät-Bewegung und Health at Every Size findest du auf: www.antoniepost.de und https://www.instagram.com/drantoniepost/ Du hast etwas auf dem Herzen? Dann schreib mir gerne eine Mail an: kontakt@antoniepost.de. Die wissenschaftliche Datenlage sagt ganz eindeutig, dass Diäten die körperliche und mentale Gesundheit gefährden und langfristig zu einer Gewichtszunahme führen. Aber was, wenn das Gewicht die Gesundheit belastet oder jemand eine chronische Krankheit hat wie Bluthochdruck, eine Fettstoffwechselstörung oder einen Diabetes? Spätestens dann ist es doch sicher gerechtfertigt, eine Diät anzufangen und damit zu versuchen, vorsätzlich Gewicht zu verlieren, oder? Nein. Nur weil jemand eine Diagnose hat, wirken Diäten trotzdem nicht. Sie erhöhen nur die Scham, wenn eine nachhaltige Gewichtsreduktion (wie zu erwarten ist) nicht funktioniert und den Leidensdruck, zu essgestörten Verhaltensweisen zu greifen. Die gute Nachricht: Um deinen Blutzucker wieder in Balance zu bringen bzw. ganz allgemein etwas für deine Gesundheit zu tun, musst du dir weder Lebensmittel verbieten noch eine strenge Diät einhalten und auch keinen vorsätzlichen Gewichtsverlust anstreben. Alles, was du brauchst ist Selbstfürsorge und auf meiner Homepage kannst du zwölfseitiges E-Book herunterladen, das dir fünf Strategien an die Hand gibt, wie du gewichtsneutral und bedürfnisorientiert deinen Blutzucker positiv beeinflussen kannst. Hier kannst du dir das E-Book „Blutzucker in Balance“ für 0€ herunterladen: https://antoniepost.de/blutzucker-in-balance/ Disclaimer: Dieser Podcast dient ausschließlich zu Informations- und Bildungszwecken, ist kein Ersatz für eine individuelle medizinische oder psychische Gesundheitsberatung und stellt keine Therapeut-Patient-Beziehung dar. Falls du Hilfe brauchst wende dich z. B. an: https://www.bzga-essstoerungen.de/ oder Telefon: 0221-892031 (Es fallen die Kosten für Gespräche ins Kölner Ortsnetz an). Das Beratungstelefon der BZgA steht Betroffenen, Angehörigen und anderen Personen für Fragen rund um Essstörungen zur Verfügung. Die Berater unterliegen der Schweigepflicht. In dieser Episode zitierte Studien und Quellen: „Gesundheit kennt kein Gewicht – Mit Selbstcoachingprogramm zu Körperakzeptanz, intuitiver Ernährung und Bewegung aus Freude“: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.de/Paperback/Gesundheit-kennt-kein-Gewicht-Das-Anti-Diaet-Buch-/Petra-Schleifer/Suedwest/e599004.rhd Zur Iss doch, was du willst! Bibliothek: https://antoniepost.de/membership-iss-doch-was-du-willst-bibliothek-angebot/ Die #diätfreiinsneuejahr2023 Selbstfürsorge-Woche https://antoniepost.de/diaetfrei-ins-neue-jahr-2023/ Alle Termine für 2023: https://antoniepost.de/termine-2023/ Insta-Post: Essen ist so viel mehr als Makronährstoffe https://www.instagram.com/p/CDo3mmxlVcw/?next=%2Ftv%2FCJrC74EI21t%2F Insta-Live: #diätfreiinsneuejahr2021 Tag 5: Emotionales Essen https://www.instagram.com/tv/CJrC74EI21t/ Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch. The Intuitive Eating Workbook: Ten Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook). 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In Episode 6, Dr. Nally dives into willpower, hope and how this relates to motivation. He talks about the amygdala and it's effect on cravings, addiction and the autonomic nervous system. Listen in as he gives 5 steps to controlling anxiety, panic & cravings. How can a ketogenic lifestyle help irritable bowel? Find out on today's podcast. References: 1. Berenz EC, Vujanovic AA, Coffey SF, Zvolensky MJ. Anxiety sensitivity and breath-holding duration in relation to PTSD symptom severity among trauma exposed adults. J Anxiety Disord. 2012 Jan;26(1):134-9. doi: 10.1016/j.janxdis.2011.10.004. Epub 2011 Oct 17. PMID: 22047652; PMCID: PMC3254809. 2. McKay, M., Wood, J.C. and Brantley, J. (2007) The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook. New Harbinger, Oakland. 3. Van Dijk, T. A. (2013). The field of Epistemic Discourse Analysis. Discourse Studies, 15(5), 497–499. https://doi.org/10.1177/1461445613501448 4. The Human Amygdala, by Paul J. Whalen & Elizabeth A. Phelps (2009) 5. Molecules of Emotion The Science Behind Mind-Body Medicine, by Candace B. Pert (1997) 6.Wibowo, E., Wong, S.T.S., Wassersug, R.J. et al. Sexual Function After Voluntary Castration. Arch Sex Behav 50, 3889–3899 (2021). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-021-02094-6 7. Britta K. Hölzel, James Carmody, Karleyton C. Evans, Elizabeth A. Hoge, Jeffery A. Dusek, Lucas Morgan, Roger K. Pitman, Sara W. Lazar, Stress reduction correlates with structural changes in the amygdala, Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, Volume 5, Issue 1, March 2010, Pages 11–17, https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsp034 8 . Lowen MBO, et al. Effect of hypnotherapy and educational intervention on brain response to viscerla stimulation in the irritable bowel syndrome. Aliment Pharmacol Ther. 2013 June ; 37(12): 1184–1197. doi:10.1111/apt.12319. 9. Sumithran P., Prendergast L. A., Delbridge E., Purcell K., Shulkes A., Kriketos A., et al. . (2011). Long-term persistence of hormonal adaptations to weight loss. N. Engl. J. Med. 365, 1597–1604. 10.1056/NEJMoa1105816 10. Transforming Therapy by Gil Boyne (1989). #DocTalk #LimbicSystem #amygdala #Cravings # Anxiety #PanicAttacks #IBS #PrinciplesOfLife #DeepThoughts #ChangeYourThoughtsChangeYourLife #ChronicIllness #ChronicDisease #ObesityMedicineSpecialist #HormoneSpecialist #ClinicalHypnotherapist #JustKeepEsterifying #WhoIsListeningAnyway #DocMuscles #DocMusclesLife #LeadFollowOrGetOutOfMyWay #DocTalk #LiftRunShootKetoForLife #KeepHammering #ImNotDeadYet #Keto #Carnivore #Ketogenic #BaconMakesYourPantsFallOff

In This Episode: Amy Mariaskin, PhD shares her new book, Thriving in relationships when you have ocd What is Family accommodation and how does it apply to ocd Ocd family accommodation vs family support,  What is OCD reassurance and how it can creep into one's relationship Relationship ocd, also known as rOCD Relationship issues with ocd and how to manage them Sexual orientation OCD, Gender related OCD, and Harm OCD and the impact this has on relationships Attachment styles in ocd and how to understand them to help you navigate communication.  Links To Things I Talk About: Thriving in Relationships When You Have OCD: How to Keep Obsessions and Compulsions from Sabotaging Love, Friendship, and Family Connections Amy's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ocdnashville/?hl=en ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor:This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com.  CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors.  Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety...If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 312.  Welcome back, everybody. This is going to be a really important episode for you to listen to. Today, we have the amazing Dr. Amy Mariaskin, who is what I consider to be a very dear friend, someone I very much respect. She has written a book about relationships and OCD, and we talk all about it. We go deep into some of the core skills and discussions she has in her upcoming book. And this is just going to be an episode I really feel like you could take away and put some skills together right away. I'm so thrilled. So, thank you, Amy, for coming on this show.  But before we do that, I would like to do the review of the week, and I really hope you listen carefully to this. Not because it's reviewing the podcast, but because I actually think the person who wrote this, who put in this review, is following some key points that I want you to consider. And this is what I encourage a lot of people to do. So, let's go.  This is from Detroitreview and they said: “Thank you, I just started listening today after having a few weeks of anxiety and irregular thoughts that I never experienced. I randomly chose your podcast and am thankful for your experience, knowledge and personal and situations. As a 46-year-old father of two boys and loving wife, your podcast gives me a sense of calming. I'm taking notes on each cast.” Guys, I encourage you to do this. This is a free resource. It is jam packed full of skills. I encourage you to take notes. So, I love that you're doing that Detroitreview. “While I started with the most recent, I have listened to #301/302/303.” And then they went on to say: “And they've already given me strategies that I'm using. I decided to start from your first podcast in 2016.” And that is what I encourage you all to do, mainly because those first 11 episodes are core content. I want you to take the content I talk with my patients about all the time. He went on to say, “I have been so impressed. I've listened to 1-2 daily. I'm up to 10 and 11. There's so many things to listen to and I'm so grateful for you. The meditations are amazing. Keep up the great work.” Thank you so much for that review, Detroitreview. That is exactly my intention. This is a free resource, you guys. I want you to take advantage of the skills and tools so that you can have a toolkit for yourself. And so, I'm so thrilled for that review. It just makes me feel like, yes, that's exactly what I want you guys to take from this podcast. Okay, before we get over to the show, let's talk about the “I did a hard thing” segment. This one is from Kelly, and they said: “I recently faced one of my biggest fears – general anesthesia.” Holy moly, Kelly, I feel you on so many levels with this. “I started struggling with some gallbladder issues and was told I needed to have it removed. I was terrified, and I didn't think I could go through with it. Thoughts were racing out of control. I sought help with therapy and your podcast. Thoughts are thoughts and not facts was huge for me. It was calm the day of the surgery, and I did it. Thank you.” That is amazing. You guys, listen, thoughts are thoughts. Just because you have them doesn't mean they're facts. I love that they're bringing in that key concept as well.  Alright, let's go over to the show. This is the amazing Dr. Amy Mariaskin. She's an OCD therapist. She's an advocate. She's an author of an upcoming book. You must go and check it out. I'll leave the link in the show notes. I am so, so honored to have you on the show, Amy. Let's get over to the episode. Kimberley: Welcome, Amy Mariaskin. I am so excited for this episode today. Can you do a little introduction of who you are and all the good things about you? Amy: Yes. Thank you so much. I'm excited to be here. I'm Dr. Amy Mariaskin. I'm a licensed clinical psychologist and owner and director of the Nashville OCD and Anxiety Treatment Center in Brentwood, Tennessee. I've been working with OCD and anxiety for over 15 years now, and I just absolutely love it. Kimberley: And you wrote a book? Amy: And I wrote a book. I know I need to get better about that. I was like, “Oh, do I say it now or do I say it later?” Kimberley: You say it all the way. Amy: All the time. I wrote a book. It was fun and not fun and everything in between. And I think we'll be talking quite a bit about it. It's called Thriving in Relationships When You Have OCD. Kimberley: Right. Now, when you told me that you were going to write this book, I was so excited because I feel like at the crux of everything we do, a lot of the time, the reason people with OCD want to get better or the thing that propels them is how much their OCD impacts relationships. Not always, but I feel like that's such a huge piece of the work. So, I am so grateful for you for writing this book, and it is an amazing book. I've read it myself. You did a beautiful job. And I want to cover some of the main pieces that you cover in your book today and go from there. So, first of all, congratulations. I know writing a book is not easy. Amy: Thank you. Yeah, it's been a dream for a long time. So, I'm excited about the accomplishment and I'm ready to figure out the next topic. When Ocd Is The Third Wheel Kimberley: Yeah. I love it. I love it. Okay. So, Chapter 1, I think it's funny. I'll have to tell you how, when I was reading your book, I was lucky enough to get an early manuscript. I remember sitting, it was with my kids at track and they were running. And I opened the book and the first chapter said, “The Third Wheel: Understanding OCD's Role in Relationships.” And I was like, “That's exactly it.” So, I was excited right off the bat. Tell me, what do you mean by the third wheel? Tell me a little bit about that. Amy: Yeah. First, I should also thank you for writing the wonderful foreword for the book. So, if anybody is a fan of Kimberley, yet another reason that you might be interested in this book. Well, let me think. So, yeah, the third wheel analogy, it felt very apt because when I work with couples, I often imagine, and sometimes I'll have couples imagine that the OCD is like this other presence in the room sitting there with us. Not physically, but in all the things that are important for relationships, all the ways that we develop intimacy, and that we even structure our time or the activities we choose to do together that OCD can wiggle right in there and can be this like third presence. And the thing is, it's really easy, I think, for somebody without OCD if they don't have good education or they don't understand it, to get that third wheel confused with the person with OCD itself. So, like, “Well, you never want to go out,” as opposed to saying, “We both want to go out.” And here's this other guy, OCD, really bossy, really pushy, really oppressive, who's also coming along with us. And even when you do the things that you love, OCD can come along.  So, it felt to me like this sense of something in the relationship that makes it both unbalanced and is this separate component and that both people, in coming together, have to find creative ways to connect around it or eventually connect and evict it more and more. And so, that's why I chose that metaphor. Kimberley: Yeah, I love that. And it's funny because I remember when I was an intern and I was seeing a family or perhaps the wife who had OCD, what was interesting is I'm sitting in my chair and I noticed that the family members always sat across from her as if it was like her versus them, like who's on which side of the team. And a big part of it was like, all you guys need to be over on that side of the room. You're the team. I'll be over here with OCD and we'll work this out. But I think that that, even metaphorically, is such an important part of how OCD can turn everyone against each other. Is that how you've experienced it? Amy: Yeah, I think at times there are a lot of conversations about how everybody has a common goal to figure out how to live with one another, develop intimacy, connections, be they friendships, parenting relationships, romantic relationships, even work relationships, and things like that, how to form those and how to come together around common goals. And sometimes OCD can be, again, confused as a goal that one person in the relationship has. And the truth is, everybody's suffering in a way, and that everybody can be a part of that process of, again, reducing symptoms or evicting it, things like that.  I do the thing as well when I have people in my office to just look at where are they sitting or when OCD comes up, what is the body language? Are both people really like arms crossed? Is the person with OCD hanging their head in shame, which we know could be such a powerful emotion and such an inhibitor of connection and vulnerability. So, I look for some of those and I remind them, “Head up, we're all talking to OCD right now, and we're all working with that, and we're all on the same team.”  Family Accommodation & Ocd Kimberley: Such an important message. Thank you for that. I think that's beautiful. So, let's say the third wheel, I always think of like you go on a date and the third wheel shows up. And we know that definitely happens with OCD. You addressed a lot in your book about family accommodation. Can you share what that means and how that can impact a relationship? Amy: Yeah, absolutely. Accommodation is this thing where we're extending this metaphor. You're on a date, you're with somebody, and the third wheel rolls on up. It's, “Hey, my buddy from college is here, what's up?” Essentially, accommodation is like, “Hey, why don't you have a seat right here? Here's the menu, here's a place mat.” It is anything that the person in the relationship without OCD is doing to make OCD have a comfortable place at the table. So, that's the metaphorical way. That's abstract, but bringing it down to practically what it looks like, it means doing things generally in the service of what feels comfortable in the moment for the person with OCD. We're going on a trip and I have concerns about contamination and I really want you to check all the hotels, do all this research to make sure that none of these places have ever had bedbugs or things like that. Then when we get there, we're dirty from traveling, so I'm going to need you to take a shower. And so, the person, the spouse is taking showers and doing research and perhaps taking over responsibilities from the person with the OCD in order to provide that short-term relief. But it ends up, again, making a place for OCD in the relationship. And it reduces that motivation for the person with OCD to change.  Family Accommodation is tricky. There are a lot of ways that it can happen. I think reassurance-seeking is certainly one that I think we'll talk about, but providing excessive reassurance about things to the person with OCD in a way to keep them comfortable but keep them caught up in compulsions. And I think it's important to note that a lot of times, partners will hear about accommodation. And just as much as we think being apprised of accommodation and looking out for it is important, it's also, I think, really important that partners understand that that's nuanced and that they don't take it to like, “Well, I'm not going to do that for you. That might be accommodation,” or, “I'm not going to reassure you about anything,” or “Is that your OCD?” I guess I say that to say that it's a little tricky, but it's really anything that is preventing the person with OCD from experiencing discomfort and thereby strengthening the cycle. Kimberley: Right. No, I'm grateful that you bring that up actually, because probably the one that I get asked the most from parents, and this not in every relationship, but with parents, is like, okay, my child is having a really hard time getting homework done, their OCD is impacting them. So, if I don't help accommodate them, if I don't do some compulsions for them, read for them or so forth, they won't do their homework. And then there's an additional consequence. So, they'll say like, “I feel like that's too risky. I could actually be letting my kid fall behind, so I can't stop doing this accommodation.” What are your thoughts on that? Again, how would you approach that type of situation? I mean, there's many examples. Amy: Sure. I think with a situation like that, first, I would validate the parents' love and desire for their child to do as well as possible. Most accommodation is coming from a place of love and not a deliberate enabling or anything like that. Of course not. So, I really provide a lot of validation there. And then I help them reframe it as, “One way to be loving and supportive in the long run is to really cheer your child on in taking over, taking on more and more ownership of that.” So, does that mean, “I know that I've been reading. Right now, I've been reading for you, and that makes it easier to do your homework. We also know that you have OCD and we know that your brain tells you, you've got to reread and reread and reread. So, can we be on the same team together, fight that rereading? I'm not going to read it for you because I love you, because I know you can do this. Boy, is it going to be hard at first and I'm going to be there to cheer you on and motivate you.” I sit with kids, I'm always about gamifying it. “Do we want to just race through this? We don't have to be perfect.” Again, it depends on the symptoms, if it's perfectionism or what's getting in the way.  And then what I say is, if a parent says, “Well, then they're really just not going to get their schoolwork done,” sometimes then I'll say, “Well, if it gets to the point where it is interfering with things like that, then it may be that they need a little bit more support.” Because it's like, with kids, your job is school and with the adults, your job can be a job or it can be care taking. It can be a lot of different things. But if one of those major domains of living is affected, then it may just mean that you need more support. So, we might up the number of sessions per week or refer out to another program or things like that.  But those kinds of things would be the same things I would say in any kind of relationship where there's an accommodator, which is, wow, you love your friend or partner or coworker so much that you're willing to do this stuff for them so that they're not suffering or so that they can demonstrate their potential as in the case of the kid with homework. But here's why that's not the loving response in the long run. Ocd Family Accommodation Vs Ocd Support  Kimberley: Right. You're right. I mean, you mentioned like, then we have the complete other end of the spectrum where people are going, “No, I'm cutting you off completely.” And I think too, I think it's important, as you said. Some accommodation happens in every relationship. I don't particularly like cleaning hair out of the sink drain. That's not my favorite. So, I'm going to ask my husband to do it, knowing that I take the trash out or whatever. We trade-off. So, how might people identify accommodation through the lens of OCD compared to loving exchanges of acts of service?  Amy: Right. Oh, I love that question, because essentially, what we call compromise in relationships could be called accommodation – accommodation by a gentler name. And I think part of that has to do with, what's the motivation there? You do such a wonderful job in your podcasts and online and everything of talking about how doing the hard things are important, and how if you're not doing the hard things and you're avoiding difficult things that can really shrink your world over time and put anxiety or OCD in the driver's seat. So, if the motivation, if a child or a spouse or a friend is asking-- well, if you are asking a child or a friend or a spouse, if you're saying, “Hey, can you do this for me,” or “I'd feel a lot more comfortable if you did this,” thinking about, is it a compulsion or a preference to me? There are so many different ways that we can look into that, but is it in the service of just like, I could, but I prefer not to? Or is it, I feel like if I do that, I'm going to be too anxious or I'm going to do too many compulsions, or something bad is going to happen? So, I think if the motivation there is more avoidance due to anxiety as opposed to just preferences, I think that's helpful.  Sometimes I'll say to people when they'll say to me like, “Well--” and I think division of labor in the house is such a good example. When people say, “Well, I don't ever take the trash out,” I will often ask, “Well, what happens when your roommates are out of town?” Let's say they're living in a roommate situation. And if they say, “Well, it just piles up and I can't deal with it,” then I say, “Aha, this might be a place that we need to work on and chip away.” And again, reducing accommodations doesn't mean like all of a sudden, I'm a garbage master and I'm the only one doing it. It might mean that I'm doing some exposures to get up to the point where I can have that role in the household.  So, I love that question of like, well, what if you had to do it? What would that be like? And if it's really hard, then hey, let's help break down some of those barriers and reduce accommodation. OCD Reassurance Kimberley: Yeah. I usually tell clients like, “Okay, let's just do it so that we know you can, and then you can move on to the next exposure.” Tell us about reassurance. You talked about it a little bit. And in your book, actually, the thing I highlighted, because I read it in Kindle, that I love the most is your reassurance tracking. Tell us a little about that.  Amy: Yes. Because again, I love that you're highlighting this because reassurance is something that is okay. Reassurance happens in all relationships. Again, we might call it by different names. It might just be checking in. It might be clarification. It might be getting information from one another. So, I developed a worksheet that's also available with the book that allows for people to track when they're asking for reassurance from loved ones, and to answer a series of questions that aren't going to give you a 100% certain answer of whether or not it's compulsive, but are going to give you some clues. So, on the worksheet, it says, people write down the situation. So, for example, I was asking my friend if she was mad at me. That might be the situation. And then there's a column that says, what were your emotions?  Again, if we're seeing anxiety, guilt, shame, some of those words might be a clue that our OCD is at play, but not always. And then people track, did you ask only once? Because we also know if it's truly the type of reassurance, “Oh, I just need to know. I'm having a vulnerable moment. I just need to know, is this okay with you? Are you upset?” Then asking once and accepting the answer is generally how it goes. So, if you're asking more than once, if you answer no to that, it's a clue that it could be compulsive reassurance. And then also, was the source credible?  I feel like I talk about this example a lot, but I just love it so much, which is that I worked with a little girl who was really worried about getting strep throat. She would ask everybody for reassurance about her tonsils. I mean, anybody and everyone. At one point, she took a picture and she was just old enough that she got social media. She put it on her Instagram and she was like, “Do you guys think I have a strep throat?” That was the caption. That was the little caption, which is like, she was laughing about it afterwards, but that's not a credible source. I mean, she wasn't even friends with all the docs in town or anything, or ear, nose, and throat specialist. So, was the source credible?  Now, often if it's social reassurance, it is a credible source. If I ask you, if I say, “Kimberley, was I too long-winded,” you're going to be able to tell me. So, you would be a credible source. If I leave this room right now after doing this podcast and I ask somebody, “Do you think I was long-winded? Do you think I was?” and they're like, “Well, we weren't there,” that's that answer. That's that question about credibility.  And then the last one is, did you accept the answer? Anxiety and OCD have this way of undermining. Well, pretty much everything, but undermining any answer we get and countering with it. ‘What if,' or ‘Are you sure?' ‘But I think...' So, if it's starting with a ‘but,' a ‘maybe,' a ‘what-if,' then again, it may not be that helpful reassurance-seeking. Relationship Ocd (Rocd) Vs Relationship Issues With Ocd Kimberley: Yeah, I love that. And thank you for adding that because I just love that template so much. That is just like gold. I love it so much. Alright. So, as you move into Chapter 4, I believe it is, you talk about specific subtypes of OCD that are commonly impacted in relationships. Can you share just briefly what your thoughts are around that? Amy: Yeah. I love this question too because as I've been talking about the book, a lot of people are like, “Oh, great, a book about ROCD, or relationship OCD.” And my answer to that, or my response to that is, “Yes, and...” Just a step back, any subtype of OCD can affect and often does affect relationships. Why? Because OCD goes after what's important to us. And for many of us, our connectedness with one another is just so important. That being said, there are subtypes of OCD that are relational in nature. And so, I do have a chapter that is more devoted to these types, and one of which is relationship OCD. This is a passion of mine. I've done now a few iterations of an ROCD treatment group at my clinic, and I have other plans to expand that group and do some cool programming around that.  But relationship OCD, it's basically when OCD symptoms are about the relationship itself or about the person with whom you're in relationship. So, it could be about-- we think about it a lot of times with romantic relationships, but it could be any relationship. To use a different one, it could be, am I a loving enough parent? Do I love my kids enough? How do I know? Do other parents have these thoughts? So, it could be about the relationship or it can be about the individual. Like, my spouse doesn't like the same music that I do, and are we ever going to get past this? And so, something that might be seen as, yes, it's an actual difference, but then there's all this story making around the difference and how the difference is going to be the demise of the relationship. Those are the two flavors of ROCD, relationship and partner-focused.  I also want to pause here and say that oftentimes when people talk about ROCD, I feel like there's this pull to say, “Well, if you know you have ROCD, if relationship issues come up in your relationship, it's probably your ROCD.” And that's just like another backdoor to the certainty that we all want. I think all relationships have some crunchy bits and some edges that chafe. And so, I want the people with ROCD to feel empowered to also develop the relationships that they want and then notice that maybe the ROCD turns up the volume on some of their concerns, if that makes sense.  Kimberley: It's hard, isn't it? Because so many times a patient will say, “But I don't know if I really love-- is he the one?” And we're like, “Well, we'll never know.” There's no way to objectively define that. And then someone, a friend is like, “Well, if you don't know, it must be a problem.” It's so hard for those people because people without OCD also don't know all the time either, so it's a common concern. Sexual Orientation Ocd & Gender Related Ocd Amy: Right. No, that's a great point. So, I have some stuff about relationship OCD in there and then the identity subtypes of OCD as well. So, sexual orientation OCD and gender-related OCD. I put those in there because oftentimes our identity is the foundation from which we interact with others and create relationships and things like that. So, I talk a little bit about sexual orientation OCD, not just even in dating, but in finding a community and friendship and things like that. SOOCD can rear up and lead to lots of social comparisons or it can just really try to sabotage certain relationships, and with gender-related OCD as well, be it somebody who is cisgender and wondering if they are transgender or vice versa. I've worked with people in the transgender community who have OCD and have these unwanted thoughts about like, “Well, what if this is not who I am? What if I've been doing this for attention?” And then, therefore, are wanting to compulsively disengage from their community because of the feeling of like, “Well, I don't feel authentic enough.” So, that's a way in which that can root in relationally. Kimberley: Right. So, we've got relationship OCD and identity. What are the other ones?  Harm Ocd & Its Impact On Relationships Amy: Yeah. And then the last one that I highlighted in here in that section is harm OCD. And I put that in there because harm OCD, which again is a huge category, which I would say under that are anything that's violent. That could be sexual as well. So, sexual violence toward others or sexual intrusive-- obviously, all intrusive thoughts, but intrusive thoughts about being sexual with children. I would roll all that into the harm OCD category. And this one is just, it's always so striking to me the ways in which OCD can take something that's really important. Like, I want to be a good person, I want to be a kind person and then undermine it. So, the amount of people I've worked with harm OCD who are experiencing isolation and really the self-imposed isolation, the irony of which is “I'm isolating myself because I don't want to harm others,” but then they're withholding themselves as this fantastic person to be out in the world. And so, that's what I always say, is you're doing more harm isolating, but sort of. Get out there. You have so much to offer and in fact, your OCD has attacked this area because it's important for you generally to have relations with others. Kimberley: Yeah, I love that. So, I love how you've given us a way, and as you said, it can impact any relationship outside of those subtypes as well. What I'd love to do is give you the mic and tell us just now, in general, give us your best relationship ideas, advice, tips, tools, whatever you want to call them, for the person with OCD and the loved ones of people with OCD. Amy: Yeah. Thank you. I feel like that's a dangerous thing to be giving me the mic. Kimberley: It's all yours. Go for it. What's the main thing you want people to know? Amy: I think I want for people to be able to-- number one, there's no right or wrong way to have a relationship provided that everything is consensual and respectful. And so, taking a step back-- and actually Russ Harris just put out this. I don't know if you saw this, but this incredible list of relational values words. So, there's an activity where-- or I don't know if it's new, it's new to me. That's clarifying what are your relational values and what are they with different relationships? Is it playfulness? Is it intimacy? And so, figuring out what you want and having your spouse do the same. In our relationship OCD group, most recently, we had people and their significant others, I shouldn't say spouse, do this and figuring out ways to connect around those things. I think it comes down to connection and to supporting each person, like supporting each other's goals.  I think I'm bringing this up in part because I think sometimes there are these narratives out there about like, we have to have all the same interests or opposites attract. And again, to that, I say yes, and... For some people, they want people with really similar interests and for others, they want somebody who's going to be different. But I think what we can do is support each other and try to see the world through your loved one's eyes and try to celebrate when they're celebrating.  I think part of this is like, I'm married to somebody who's a huge thrill seeker. He's paragliding. He just got his private pilot's license. He does things that are not in my nature. If he's gone out and he's done some sort of paragliding trip in a different country, and he'll come back and he'll say, “I found a lift here and there were thermals,” in my head, I'm like, “You didn't die. You didn't die. Yeah, you didn't die.” And I have to stop my own anxious story about it or my own interpretation of “I wouldn't like that” and just be there with him in that moment of sharing his joy. It's finding joy in others' joy. It's being there with other people's emotions about whatever they are. Because I think with anxiety and OCD, it can always be this upper-level analytical process of like, “Oof, I don't like that. Is that okay?” or things like that. I know a lot of the Gottman's research will talk as well about how very important it is to just support one another, be cheerleaders, et cetera.  Attachment Style & Ocd  I think too, knowing your attachment style. And this is a whole topic that we could spend forever on, but knowing if you're somebody who-- when you get close to others, do you feel more resistance in getting closer or do you feel worries about like, “Ugh, I don't want to lose myself by merging with someone else”? Or do you have more resistance around, “I'm worried they'll abandon me, I'm worried they won't love me enough?” And that's a very, very, very rudimentary look at two of the concepts of attachment, that more avoidant attachment where it's, “I'm worried I'll be subsumed by the other person and I value independence,” or more anxious attachment, which is, “I'm worried they won't love me enough or I'll be abandoned.” Knowing that and knowing when those thoughts come up, take a pause, take a step back and check in with yourself and your body and the facts and things like that, instead of reacting in that moment. When anxiety is there, it wants us to just react to every alarming or provocative thought that we have. So, yeah, those are some things. I know that I had them scrolling through because I know I had more in the book from the Gottman. They're top of mind. Kimberley: I think back to when I was first married, I was so young. So, if someone had explained to me attachment styles, it would've made the first five years so much easier. You know what I mean? My husband would go away. He's actually away right now. He would go away because he loves to fly fish. And for me, I would feel anxiety because he would leave and I would interpret, because I'm anxious, and I was like, “No, this isn't hard for me to be alone.” It would quickly turn to anger towards him for having a hobby. I'm totally fine to say this too. I'm feeling anxious here by myself. He's off doing something fun for him. So then I got angry that he's doing fun things and leaving me to have my anxiety. He would come home not to a happy wife. He would come home to wife with her hands on her hips. You know what I mean? And I think that that is so common for people with anxiety. When you're feeling anxious, you feel like they're doing it to you like, “Why are you doing this to me?” And then that can create a whole narrative that can interfere in relationship. So, that's just a personal example of how, if I had have known my anxious attachment early in our marriage, I think that would've saved us a lot of fights. Amy: Yeah. Oh, I love that example. And I feel like for me, as somebody who tends toward the other side, I tend to feel more worried about being stifled by relationships. I want to be fully seen and encouraged. And so, sometimes, in particular with friendships, if I've had people who are like, “I've felt exactly the same way,” or “I had the same experience,” or “We should do this all together. Let's get matching jackets,” I'm like, “I am an individual.” I get really threatened because my feeling is-- my brain's automatic interpretation is they don't see you because they think that you are just-- they assume like we're all the same, whereas they're just like, “We want to affiliate.” So, I've had to do some work there as well, even with friendships, to know like it's not-- people aren't trying to kidnap my identity and merge it with theirs. They're actually just being loving.  Kimberley: Right. But it feels threatening. Yeah, absolutely. I think the last question I have for you is, it goes back to that accommodation reassurance piece, particularly related to these dynamics. And maybe this is just my experience, I'd actually love to hear yours. What I do find is, when the person with OCD is coming from an anxious place, like often overanalyzing things, hyper-attending hyperawareness of things, their need for reassurance or their need for everyone to follow what OCD tells the family to do, I have found that the partner, because it's so overwhelming for them, tends to flip to the other end of the spectrum where they don't worry about anything or they're like, “It's fine.” Or maybe even they're frustrated of like, “It's fine, it's fine.” Have you noticed that as a trend in dynamics of a relationship? Amy: Yeah. Sometimes almost like there's a dismissiveness. Yes, I have noticed that and I think that there are so many reasons why that can happen. And I think for the partner and their experience, getting at what that is and what's motivating that is so interesting because, to the person with anxiety or OCD, it can feel really invalidating, or it can feel very comforting. But I think a lot of the times, it can feel invalidating and the partner might be doing it because they might be having their own feelings come up about, “I don't know what to say.” I've tried to use facts and sometimes facts can bounce right off of OCD if you're not in the mindset to accept them. OCD is skeptical about everything. So, I've tried everything and I'm really now at this place of like, “I am so tired.” And it'll come out. “I'm so tired of hearing you talk about this.” And that's when, as a clinician, I see time out. I think you're both really tired of this cycle that OCD has you both in.  So, yeah, I will see that. And I think sometimes when that's the pattern as opposed to a lot of overly accommodating, I think when that's the pattern, the element for me in working with couples to inject back in there is the validation of, “This is really hard.” And also for them to take a step back and realize, well, not everything is going to be OCD either. Sometimes if there is reassurance-- I mean, again, the irony is sometimes this pattern can lead to more reassurance because then it's like, “Well, you just dismissed me. You said that there's nothing wrong in our relationship that you did it in a manner that felt dismissive. And so, now I'm going to ask again.”  So, yeah, deconstructing that pattern. Does the partner feel angry? If so, you're angry at this pattern, not your partner. Does the partner feel helpless, hopeless? Did they feel scared? Are they grasping at straws? So, yeah, that would be how I would look at that when I see it come up. Kimberley: Oh, thank you. I'm so grateful that you shared all that because I think they are all great questions that need to be addressed within the relationship. Thank you. So good. Okay, tell us about your book. I want to be respectful of your time. Tell us about your amazing book, which I think every family that has members should read. Tell us about it. Amy: It's called Thriving in Relationships When You Have OCD: How to Keep Obsessions and Compulsions from Sabotaging Love, Friendship, and Family Connections. It's available for pre-order as of the recording of this, which is in October, but I think this is going to come out later. It will be hot off the presses December 1st from New Harbinger Publications, available on Amazon, available through New Harbinger, I think available on other websites. People keep sending me links and I'm like, “Wow, that's really cool.”  So, yeah, I tried to cover all different kinds of relationships. We talk about family relationships, parenting, romantic relationships, sex and intimacy and those kinds of relationships, friendships, work, and really just a relational lens to what can be a very isolating and security disorder. And I don't want anyone to feel like they have to go at it alone. Kimberley: Thank you. Again, hats off to you. Much respect. You did a beautiful job writing the book. It's an honor. I was so honored to write the foreword. And I think, again, it's like a handbook I think everybody needs to have on the onset of being diagnosed. Here's the book to make sure you can protect your relationship and nurture the relationship outside of OCD. So, thank you. Amy: Well, thank you for having me.

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Since Mary is getting married soon, it's only fitting that she talks to renowned relationship psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon. You will learn... which green flags to look out for in your relationship how to navigate feeling like you're carrying the “emotional burden” of your relationship what it means when you say “I love you but I'm not in love with you” the key to making a relationship last long-term Follow Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Learn more about Alexandra here: www.dralexandrasolomon.com And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr.alexandra.solomon Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a regular contributor at Psychology Today, the creator and host of the Reimagining Love podcast, and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; New Harbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show. Mentioned In This Episode... Dr. Alexandra's podcast episode with her husband Todd: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-stories-toddcast/

Theresa talks to Matthew McKay, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, professor of psychology at the Wright Institute, founder of the Berkeley CBT Clinic, cofounder of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinic and publisher of New Harbinger books about his latest title: Love in the Time of Impermanence. Matthew has authored and coauthored more than 40 bestselling books, including The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook, Seeking Jordan, and The Luminous Landscape of the Afterlife. Visit: Dr McKay's Amazon author page Visit: www.seekingjordan.com To participate in Dr Wahbeh's IONS telepathy research study visit:Www.teletele.org To find out more about Theresa's bestselling dream, intuition, afterlife, astrology and mystical titles and mission, visit:Www.theresacheung.comhttp://linktr.ee/theresacheungYou can contact Theresa via @thetheresacheung on Instagram and her author pages on Facebook and Twitter and you can email her directly at: angeltalk710@aol.comThank you to Cluain Ri for the blissful episode music.White Shores is produced by Matthew Cooper

"We don't have to be in danger to feel afraid" - Dr. Dave Carbonell. We have a very exciting episode for you today on The Panic Pod, as I am joined by someone I hold in very high regard, Dr. Dave Carbonell. Dr. Dave and I cover two topics in this episode - rumination and the fear of going crazy. Dr. Carbonell offers some incredible insights that will resonate and benefit so many of my listeners. We touch on the truth behind anxiety, which is that we aren't often afraid of the trigger itself, we are actually afraid that our response to the trigger will be out of control and this is what truly scares us. Doctor Carbonell is a Clinical Psychologist who specializes in the treatment of anxiety disorders as a therapist, author, and teacher. He offers exposure based treatment of fears and phobias in Chicago; is the author of four anxiety self help books; and teaches workshops for therapists who want to learn more about the treatment of anxiety disorders He is the author of four self-help books: Panic Attacks Workbook (2004) and Fear of Flying Workbook (2017) are both published by Ulysses Press. The Worry Trick (2016) and Outsmart Your Anxious Brain (2020) are both published by New Harbinger. You can find out more about him on his website - www.anxietycoach.com Enjoy!

Coming to your favorite podcast platform on May 3. Evidence-Based is the official podcast of New Harbinger Publications—an independent, employee-owned publisher of books on psychology and self-help. In each episode, hosts Cassie and Kendall join leading mental health experts to explore the latest psychological interventions, as well as topics related to mental health and personal growth. Visit us at www.newharbinger.com/podcast to learn more.

We all want positive, healthy, and genuine relationships whether it's with family, friends, peers, coworkers, or romantic partners. And yet, time and time again, we all seem to get stuck in how we see and relate to certain people, which can limit or even sabotage our relationships. These autopilot reactions are called cognitive biases, and they happen when our brans try to simplify information by making assumptions. Seeing beyond these "blindspots" is essential to building the connections we truly want. But where do we begin?  In this episode, we chat with cognitive neuroscientist and behavioral economist Dr. Gleb Tsipursky about his book The Blindspots Between Us: How to Overcome Unconscious Cognitive Bias and Build Better Relationships (New Harbinger, 2020). We discussed some of the dangerous judgement errors our autopilot systems fall into -- like the halo/horns and attribution errors -- and a few strategies on how to overcome them. Even though they seem straightforward, they're not easy so get ready to be challenged!  Sarah Kearns (@annotated_sci) reads about scholarship, the sciences, and philosophy, and is likely drinking mushroom tea. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

We all want positive, healthy, and genuine relationships whether it's with family, friends, peers, coworkers, or romantic partners. And yet, time and time again, we all seem to get stuck in how we see and relate to certain people, which can limit or even sabotage our relationships. These autopilot reactions are called cognitive biases, and they happen when our brans try to simplify information by making assumptions. Seeing beyond these "blindspots" is essential to building the connections we truly want. But where do we begin?  In this episode, we chat with cognitive neuroscientist and behavioral economist Dr. Gleb Tsipursky about his book The Blindspots Between Us: How to Overcome Unconscious Cognitive Bias and Build Better Relationships (New Harbinger, 2020). We discussed some of the dangerous judgement errors our autopilot systems fall into -- like the halo/horns and attribution errors -- and a few strategies on how to overcome them. Even though they seem straightforward, they're not easy so get ready to be challenged!  Sarah Kearns (@annotated_sci) reads about scholarship, the sciences, and philosophy, and is likely drinking mushroom tea. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

We all want positive, healthy, and genuine relationships whether it's with family, friends, peers, coworkers, or romantic partners. And yet, time and time again, we all seem to get stuck in how we see and relate to certain people, which can limit or even sabotage our relationships. These autopilot reactions are called cognitive biases, and they happen when our brans try to simplify information by making assumptions. Seeing beyond these "blindspots" is essential to building the connections we truly want. But where do we begin?  In this episode, we chat with cognitive neuroscientist and behavioral economist Dr. Gleb Tsipursky about his book The Blindspots Between Us: How to Overcome Unconscious Cognitive Bias and Build Better Relationships (New Harbinger, 2020). We discussed some of the dangerous judgement errors our autopilot systems fall into -- like the halo/horns and attribution errors -- and a few strategies on how to overcome them. Even though they seem straightforward, they're not easy so get ready to be challenged!  Sarah Kearns (@annotated_sci) reads about scholarship, the sciences, and philosophy, and is likely drinking mushroom tea. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lisa Tener is a leading book writing and publishing coach, entrepreneur, speaker, and author of the best-selling book, “The Joy of Writing Journal: Spark Your Creativity in 8 Minutes a Day.” Winner of the Silver Stevie Award for Coach/Mentor of the year and known as “The Creativity Catalyst,” she has helped thousands of aspiring writers through her coaching services and courses. Lisa is a leading authority in book proposal development, whose clients have signed five- and six-figure book deals with HarperCollins, Random House, Hachette, Beyond Words, New World Library, New Harbinger, St. Martin's Press, Yale University Press, Johns Hopkins University Press, HCI and other major publishers. Lisa has been quoted as an expert by the New York Times, Boston Globe, Glamour, Vice, and MarketWatch, in addition to appearances on ABC World News and PBS TV. Purchase your copy of The Joy of Writing Journal: Spark Your Creativity in 8 Minutes a Day: https://amzn.to/3uMHUaL

What do people usually fear in life? How do our fears affect us? And what can we do about them? Join me in this week's episode as I explore the nature of fear and its counterpart, avoidance, as well as providing a framework to stop fear from boxing us in in our lives. ACT Values List: https://www.actmindfully.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Values_Checklist_-_Russ_Harris.pdf References American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (Vol. 5). American Psychiatric Association. Dyer, W. (2005). The power of intention. Hay House. Forsyth, J. P., & Eifert, G. H. (2008). The mindfulness & acceptance workbook for anxiety: A guide to breaking free from anxiety, phobias, and worry using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. New Harbinger.

Our current podcast features a six-book series called the Becca Epps Series about Bending Your Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors (Shawnee Scientific Press, 2017-2021). The author of the series, Amy R. Murrell, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist. Prior to writing this series, Dr. Murrell had co-authored a research-based self-help book (The Joy of Parenting; New Harbinger, 2009) and approximately 50 empirical or theoretical articles or chapters. All six of the picture books in the Becca Epps series are based on a cognitive-behavioral model of psychotherapy, called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Mel Rosenberg is a professor of microbiology (Tel Aviv University, emeritus) who fell in love with children's books as a small child and now writes his own. He is also the founder of Our Boox, an app that allows anyone to create and share awesome flipbooks. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our current podcast features a six-book series called the Becca Epps Series about Bending Your Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors (Shawnee Scientific Press, 2017-2021). The author of the series, Amy R. Murrell, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist. Prior to writing this series, Dr. Murrell had co-authored a research-based self-help book (The Joy of Parenting; New Harbinger, 2009) and approximately 50 empirical or theoretical articles or chapters. All six of the picture books in the Becca Epps series are based on a cognitive-behavioral model of psychotherapy, called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Mel Rosenberg is a professor of microbiology (Tel Aviv University, emeritus) who fell in love with children's books as a small child and now writes his own. He is also the founder of Our Boox, an app that allows anyone to create and share awesome flipbooks. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

On this episode, we will be speaking with Jennifer Kemp about the fears that underlie perfectionism and how to navigate these experiences with self-compassion. Jennifer is a Clinical Psychologist who has a special interest in perfectionism from both her own experience and through the work she does with clients. Jennifer integrates Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), clinical behaviour analysis, and exposure with self-compassion in her work. In her private practice in Adelaide, Australia, Jennifer sees clients struggling with chronic illness, depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), eating disorders, trauma, grief and loss. Jennifer has a background in leadership coaching and facilitation and provides supervision to Clinical Registrars and experienced practitioners. She is the author of “The ACT Workbook for Perfectionism” for New Harbinger, due for release in December 2021.

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! This week host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C interviews Erika Shershun, LMFT, a somatic trauma therapist in California who specializes in working with survivors of sexual trauma. In this episode you'll hear Erika, who is trained in EMDR and Somatic Experiencing, talk about the importance of embodiment - being present in our bodies - to the healing process and how sexual trauma can make it difficult to stay in our bodies. She discusses some of the common reactions to sexual trauma and explains how her book, Healing Sexual Trauma, offers daily practices for grounding, orienting, coming into safety and coming into presence. She even demonstrates an orienting practice she frequently uses with clients.   Guest's Bio:   Erika Shershun, LMFT is a somatic psychotherapist specializing in working with sexual trauma survivors. Her work is body based and trauma informed, incorporating neurobiology and EMDR to help ease and resolve symptoms. Passionate about getting the needed tools that eluded her for so long into the hands of all survivors, she wrote the Healing Sexual Trauma Workbook, released by New Harbinger in July, 2021. Drawing on the powerful mind-body techniques of somatic therapy, it's a step-by-step guide to overcoming the physical and psychological effects of sexual trauma, increasing positive body awareness and restoring a sense of hope and vitality. Erika sees individual clients residing in California, and facilitates an ongoing weekly therapy group for female identified survivors at her practice in San Francisco (currently meeting remotely). A second specialization is working with artists, performers, and creatives. Erika welcomes and values diversity, including all races, sexualities, genders, body sizes, and abilities. Resources Find Erika's FREE e-book, The Many Ways to Ground, and purchase her workbook, The Healing Sexual Trauma Workbook, at: www.healingsexualtrauma.com.  Erika's therapy website is at: https://www.erikashershuntherapy.com/ Follow Erika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erikashershun  Thank you to this week's sponsors! Sunset Lake CBD is created on a small farm outside of Burlington, Vermont that is a producer for Ben & Jerry's Ice Cream.  Sunset Lake CBD customers support regenerative agriculture that preserves the health of the land and creates meaningful employment in the community. Farm workers are paid a living wage, and employees own the majority of the company. Therapy Chat listeners, get 20% off your entire order of Sunset Lake CBD products using promo code CHAT at www.sunsetlakecbd.com.  Help us make Trauma Therapist Network the best resource it can be! Send a message about resources you think should be included in the Trauma Therapist Network Site using the form on this page. Looking for a trauma therapist or are you a trauma therapist wanting to join the network? Check it out at: www.traumatherapistnetwork.com! Therapy Chat and Trauma Chat podcasts are also found on the site. Follow Therapy Chat on Instagram Follow Trauma Chat on Instagram Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio

— Have you ever been swept up in powerful emotions that prompted you to do things that damaged your relationships or caused you to feel overwhelmed and lost? Have you often regretted emotional behavior or felt that it cost you your self-respect? Have you thrown away your dreams and acted against your deeply held beliefs because of being emotionally out of control? Most people, at one time or another, have done things they regret under the influence of emotion. But if you feel that you constantly go from one crisis to another because of your emotions, and you want to change, Cedar Koons's work and insights can help you. The mindfulness skills she teaches help you find shelter from the devastation caused by powerful, out-of-control emotions so you can ride out the storm without being harmed. Instead of being swept away, you can take shelter in your own strength and intention through mindfulness. Valeria Teles interviews Cedar Koons — an Author, Mindfulness Teacher, Expert in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Consultant, And Speaker Cedar Koons is an author, mindfulness teacher and an expert Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) consultant.  DBT is an evidence-based treatment for borderline personality disorder, a mental health condition associated with extreme emotions, suicidal behavior, addictions, and relationship turmoil. Throughout her career Cedar has worked as a DBT psychotherapist, team leader, researcher, trainer and consultant. She is certified by the Linehan Board of Certification, the gold standard in her field. Cedar's book, The Mindfulness Solution for Intense Emotions: Take Control of BPD with DBT, published by New Harbinger in 2016, offers guidance and stories for people with extreme emotions on how to use mindfulness to reduce suffering and increase quality of life and relationships. Cedar leads a weekly online mindfulness group and in person retreats for therapists treating borderline clients.  She also a poet and fiction writer. Her new mystery, Murder at Sleeping Tiger, about a murder at a Zen sesshin, will be published by Camel Press in 2022. Cedar lives in the village of Dixon, between Santa Fe and Taos, New Mexico.  She is married and has four children and four grandchildren. To learn more about Cedar Koons and her work, please visit: cedarkoons.com     — This podcast is a quest for well-being, a quest for a meaningful life through the exploration of fundamental truths, enlightening ideas, insights on physical, mental, and spiritual health. The inspiration is Love. The aspiration is to awaken new ways of thinking that can lead us to a new way of being, being well. 

This is such a rich conversation about relationships, sex and sexuality, monogamy and love. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in theDepartment of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University,  and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own YourSexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; NewHarbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the LoveYou Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show. She is an international speaker and teacher whose work has been featured on six continents.  She is also a strong,positive resource on Instagram, where she has earned more than 160K followers to date.   Her website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/

Provider self-care is an important and ethical responsibility for all providers. Our training as behavioral health providers does not render us immune from stress and even symptoms of mood or anxiety difficulties. Many of us found that some of the self-care behaviors we relied on prior to the COVID-19 pandemic were suddenly unavailable. What can be done? Consider creatively applying the advice we give to our clients to ourselves. Listen as Andy discusses with Dr Carin Lefkowitz practical adjustments we can make to our self-care routines in the current environment. Carin M. Lefkowitz, Psy.D., is a clinical psychologist and Senior Military Behavioral Health Psychologist at the Center for Deployment Psychology (CDP) at the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences in Bethesda, Maryland. Dr. Lefkowitz earned her M.A. and Psy.D. in clinical psychology at Widener University, with a concentration in cognitive-behavioral therapy.Resources mentioned in this episode: 13:50 : Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D. “Don't Feel Motivated? Play the Impossible Game”: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/get-out-your-mind/201903/don-t-feel-motivated-play-the-impossible-game 18:40 : Guided meditation by Kristin Neff -- Self-compassion exercise for therapists : https://self-compassion.org/guided-self-compassion-meditations-mp3-2/ 28:55 : Self-care for Practitioners free e-booklet by New Harbinger : https://www.newharbinger.com/blog/professional/a-guide-to-self-care-for-practitioners-a-free-e-booklet/ Calls-to-action: Choose one or two self-care behaviors you can prioritize for self-careTry the Impossible Game to enhance your motivationSubscribe to the Practical for Your Practice PodcastSubscribe to The Center for Deployment Psychology Monthly Email

In today's episode we explore the topic of fat discrimination and oppression by diet culture with author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat and expert on body justice and fat activist, Virgie Tovar.   In this episode we discuss: Virgie's story of how she became an expert in fat discrimination and sexuality studies What is fat phobia and how to recognize it How diet culture is a form of oppression Ways that diet culture is bigotry How we can be better allies for fat acceptance What is internalized inferiority and ways to recognize how you may feel inferior in your everyday life   Virgie Tovar is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body justice. In 2018 she was named one of the top 50 most influential feminists by Bitch Magazine. She is the founder of Babecamp, a 4-week online course designed to help women who are ready to break up with diet culture. She started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight and in 2018 gave a TedX talk on the origins of the campaign. She is a contributor for ForbesWomen and Bedsider. Her new book, FLAWLESS: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color,comes out in March 2020 from New Harbinger. She holds a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. In 2018 she was the recipient of the Poynter Fellowship in Journalism at Yale. Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, Tech Insider, BBC, MTV, Al Jazeera and Yahoo Health. She lives in San Francisco.    Links: Babecamp: www.virgietovar.com/babecamp.html IG: www.instagram.com/virgietovar ForbesWomen: https://www.forbes.com/sites/virgietovar/#c72bcd75ef92 You have the right to remain fat book: https://www.amazon.com/You-Have-Right-Remain-Fat/dp/1936932318   Resources for you: Learn more about our services at Nourishing Minds Nutrition. Read testimonials from our amazing clients here.   Let's hang out! Connect with Victoria and staff: Victoria's Instagram Victoria's Website Nourishing Minds Nutrition Instagram Nourishing Minds Nutrition Website

In The Healing Otherness Handbook: Overcome the Trauma of Identity-Based Bullying and Find Power in Your Difference (New Harbinger, 2021), Stacee Reicherzer—a nationally known transgender psychotherapist and expert on trauma, otherness, and self-sabotage—shares her own personal story of childhood bullying, and how it inspired her to help others heal from the same wounds. Drawing from mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), Reicherzer will help you gain a better understanding of how past trauma has limited your life, and show you the keys to freeing yourself from self-defeating, destructive beliefs.  Stacee L. Reicherzer, PhD, is a Chicago, IL-based transgender counselor, educator, and public speaker for the stories of the bullied, forgotten, and oppressed. The San Antonio, TX, native serves as clinical faculty of counseling at Southern New Hampshire University, where she received the distinguished faculty award in 2018. She travels the globe to teach and engage audiences around diverse topics of otherness, self-sabotage, and imposter phenomenon. Website: https://www.drstacee.com/ John Marszalek III is author of Coming Out of the Magnolia Closet: Same-Sex Couples in Mississippi (2020, University Press of Mississippi). He is clinical faculty of the Clinical Mental Health Counseling Program at Southern New Hampshire University. Website: Johnmarszalek3.com Twitter: @marsjf3 Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/lgbtq-studies

In The Healing Otherness Handbook: Overcome the Trauma of Identity-Based Bullying and Find Power in Your Difference (New Harbinger, 2021), Stacee Reicherzer—a nationally known transgender psychotherapist and expert on trauma, otherness, and self-sabotage—shares her own personal story of childhood bullying, and how it inspired her to help others heal from the same wounds. Drawing from mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), Reicherzer will help you gain a better understanding of how past trauma has limited your life, and show you the keys to freeing yourself from self-defeating, destructive beliefs.  Stacee L. Reicherzer, PhD, is a Chicago, IL-based transgender counselor, educator, and public speaker for the stories of the bullied, forgotten, and oppressed. The San Antonio, TX, native serves as clinical faculty of counseling at Southern New Hampshire University, where she received the distinguished faculty award in 2018. She travels the globe to teach and engage audiences around diverse topics of otherness, self-sabotage, and imposter phenomenon. Website: https://www.drstacee.com/ John Marszalek III is author of Coming Out of the Magnolia Closet: Same-Sex Couples in Mississippi (2020, University Press of Mississippi). He is clinical faculty of the Clinical Mental Health Counseling Program at Southern New Hampshire University. Website: Johnmarszalek3.com Twitter: @marsjf3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

In The Healing Otherness Handbook: Overcome the Trauma of Identity-Based Bullying and Find Power in Your Difference (New Harbinger, 2021), Stacee Reicherzer—a nationally known transgender psychotherapist and expert on trauma, otherness, and self-sabotage—shares her own personal story of childhood bullying, and how it inspired her to help others heal from the same wounds. Drawing from mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), Reicherzer will help you gain a better understanding of how past trauma has limited your life, and show you the keys to freeing yourself from self-defeating, destructive beliefs.  Stacee L. Reicherzer, PhD, is a Chicago, IL-based transgender counselor, educator, and public speaker for the stories of the bullied, forgotten, and oppressed. The San Antonio, TX, native serves as clinical faculty of counseling at Southern New Hampshire University, where she received the distinguished faculty award in 2018. She travels the globe to teach and engage audiences around diverse topics of otherness, self-sabotage, and imposter phenomenon. Website: https://www.drstacee.com/ John Marszalek III is author of Coming Out of the Magnolia Closet: Same-Sex Couples in Mississippi (2020, University Press of Mississippi). He is clinical faculty of the Clinical Mental Health Counseling Program at Southern New Hampshire University. Website: Johnmarszalek3.com Twitter: @marsjf3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

In The Healing Otherness Handbook: Overcome the Trauma of Identity-Based Bullying and Find Power in Your Difference (New Harbinger, 2021), Stacee Reicherzer—a nationally known transgender psychotherapist and expert on trauma, otherness, and self-sabotage—shares her own personal story of childhood bullying, and how it inspired her to help others heal from the same wounds. Drawing from mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), Reicherzer will help you gain a better understanding of how past trauma has limited your life, and show you the keys to freeing yourself from self-defeating, destructive beliefs.  Stacee L. Reicherzer, PhD, is a Chicago, IL-based transgender counselor, educator, and public speaker for the stories of the bullied, forgotten, and oppressed. The San Antonio, TX, native serves as clinical faculty of counseling at Southern New Hampshire University, where she received the distinguished faculty award in 2018. She travels the globe to teach and engage audiences around diverse topics of otherness, self-sabotage, and imposter phenomenon. Website: https://www.drstacee.com/ John Marszalek III is author of Coming Out of the Magnolia Closet: Same-Sex Couples in Mississippi (2020, University Press of Mississippi). He is clinical faculty of the Clinical Mental Health Counseling Program at Southern New Hampshire University. Website: Johnmarszalek3.com Twitter: @marsjf3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/gender-studies

In The Healing Otherness Handbook: Overcome the Trauma of Identity-Based Bullying and Find Power in Your Difference (New Harbinger, 2021), Stacee Reicherzer—a nationally known transgender psychotherapist and expert on trauma, otherness, and self-sabotage—shares her own personal story of childhood bullying, and how it inspired her to help others heal from the same wounds. Drawing from mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), Reicherzer will help you gain a better understanding of how past trauma has limited your life, and show you the keys to freeing yourself from self-defeating, destructive beliefs.  Stacee L. Reicherzer, PhD, is a Chicago, IL-based transgender counselor, educator, and public speaker for the stories of the bullied, forgotten, and oppressed. The San Antonio, TX, native serves as clinical faculty of counseling at Southern New Hampshire University, where she received the distinguished faculty award in 2018. She travels the globe to teach and engage audiences around diverse topics of otherness, self-sabotage, and imposter phenomenon. Website: https://www.drstacee.com/ John Marszalek III is author of Coming Out of the Magnolia Closet: Same-Sex Couples in Mississippi (2020, University Press of Mississippi). He is clinical faculty of the Clinical Mental Health Counseling Program at Southern New Hampshire University. Website: Johnmarszalek3.com Twitter: @marsjf3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/spiritual-practice-and-mindfulness

Today I talked to Debbie Sorensen about her book, co-authored with Diana Hill, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (New Harbinger, 2021). When you are faced with life's challenges, it's easy to lose track of what's important, get stuck in your thoughts and emotions, and become bogged down by day-to-day problems. Even if you've made a commitment to live according to your core values, the ‘real-world' has a way of driving a wedge between you and a deeper, more meaningful life. Now there's a flexible program for learning how to practice a popular, proven-effective therapy protocol on your schedule! With The ACT Daily Journal, you'll learn all about the six core processes of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)—including mindfulness, acceptance, and values-based living—and even learn about a seventh: self-compassion. If there was ever a time to adopt the ACT approach to living, it's now. By applying ACT to your life, you'll learn how to roll with life's punches, and stay in contact with the present moment, even when you have unpleasant thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. The gift of being present is becoming increasingly valuable in these uncertain times of conflict and chaos; it's never been so important to live flexibly, with more meaning, and with a deeper understanding of shared struggles and our inherent humanity. ACT is more than just a therapy—it's a framework for living well. It helps us accept. It teaches us to make a commitment to what we deeply care about. And it works best when practiced daily. Let this journal guide you toward what really matters to you. Debbie Sorensen, PhD is a psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. See is a co-founder of Impact Psychology Colorado, a collective of therapists in Colorado, and the Healthcare Wellbeing Collective, which provides resources for Healthcare Professionals. She holds a part-time position as a Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain VA MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. She co-created and co-host the popular psychology podcast Psychologists Off the Clock.  Elizabeth Cronin, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist and mindfulness meditation teacher with offices in Brookline and Norwood, MA. You can follow her on Instagram or visit her website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

Today I talked to Debbie Sorensen about her book, co-authored with Diana Hill, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (New Harbinger, 2021). When you are faced with life’s challenges, it’s easy to lose track of what’s important, get stuck in your thoughts and emotions, and become bogged down by day-to-day problems. Even if you’ve made a commitment to live according to your core values, the ‘real-world’ has a way of driving a wedge between you and a deeper, more meaningful life. Now there’s a flexible program for learning how to practice a popular, proven-effective therapy protocol on your schedule! With The ACT Daily Journal, you’ll learn all about the six core processes of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)—including mindfulness, acceptance, and values-based living—and even learn about a seventh: self-compassion. If there was ever a time to adopt the ACT approach to living, it’s now. By applying ACT to your life, you’ll learn how to roll with life’s punches, and stay in contact with the present moment, even when you have unpleasant thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. The gift of being present is becoming increasingly valuable in these uncertain times of conflict and chaos; it’s never been so important to live flexibly, with more meaning, and with a deeper understanding of shared struggles and our inherent humanity. ACT is more than just a therapy—it’s a framework for living well. It helps us accept. It teaches us to make a commitment to what we deeply care about. And it works best when practiced daily. Let this journal guide you toward what really matters to you. Debbie Sorensen, PhD is a psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado. I have a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. See is a co-founder of Impact Psychology Colorado, a collective of therapists in Colorado, and the Healthcare Wellbeing Collective, which provides resources for Healthcare Professionals. She holds a part-time position as a Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain VA MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. She co-created and co-host the popular psychology podcast Psychologists Off the Clock.  Elizabeth Cronin, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist and mindfulness meditation teacher with offices in Brookline and Norwood, MA. You can follow her on Instagram or visit her website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/spiritual-practice-and-mindfulness

Divorce, by definition, is damaging. Taking apart a relationship impacts us far beyond the law. Today on the show, clinical psychologist Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins us to talk about how the stresses of divorce can sneak up on us in ways we might not expect. In addition to her practice, she's the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism that Masks Your Depression, and host of The SelfWork Podcast. Margaret, welcome to the Toaster.About Dr. Margaret RutherfordDr. Margaret Rutherford, a clinical psychologist, has practiced for twenty-six years in Fayetteville, Arkansas. Earning the 2009 Arkansas Private Practitioner of the Year award for her volunteer work at a local free health clinic, she began blogging and podcasting in 2012 to destigmatize mental illness and educate the public about therapy and treatment. With her compassionate and common-sense style, her work can be found on her website, as well as HuffPost, Psych Central, Psychology Today, The Mighty, the Gottman Blog and others. She hosts a weekly podcast, The SelfWork Podcast with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. And her book, Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism that Masks Your Depression, is published by New Harbinger and available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble or your local bookstore.Links & NotesPerfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism That Masks Your Depression by Margaret RutherfordAbout Dr. Margaret RutherfordSubscribe to The SelfWork PodcastRecommended Reading: Coming Apart by Daphne Rose Kingma

Austyn is an author, spiritual medium, and soul gardener who empowers individuals to create soul-centered lives. A certified grief counselor, she combines intuition and mediumship with shamanism, energy medicine, and sacred ceremony.Psychic medium John Edward invited her to host a weekly online show on his Spiritual website Infinitequest.  She has been the Guest Medium for the California State Spiritualist Convention, as well as a presenter and educator at the Sun Valley Wellness Festival, Edgar Cayce's A.R.E., as well as The Original Afterlife Conference, for which she has been a board member for the last seven years.Austyn developed the Divine Spark Cards© for developing mediums to expand their trust, as well as grief counselors to inspire healing conversations with their clients.  Her Divine Insight Cards©, assist anyone in connecting with their intuition.  Designed for personal use, or to supplement your holistic practice, these cards empower you to connect more deeply with your soul senses or add a powerful tool to your lightworker toolbox.She is featured in Matt McKay's book Seeking Jordan, as well as Trust Within The Heart of Intuition by Molly Carroll.Austyn's Amazon bestseller Soul Conversations is published by New Harbinger's Reveal Press. austynwells.com

David M. Allen, M.D. discusses Borderline Personality Disorder from different angles, with special attention given to family dysfunction and the family systems theory of Murray Bowen.  He talks about why personality disorders take so long to heal, what type of therapy works best, and the different problems borderline patients may encounter on their road to recovery.   David M. Allen, M.D. is professor emeritus of Psychiatry and the former director of Psychiatric Residency Training at the University of Tennessee Health Science Center in Memphis, a position he held for 16 years. He is the author of a self-help book from New Harbinger publishers titled Coping with Critical, Demanding, and Dysfunctional Parents: Powerful Strategies to Help Adult Children Be Assertive and Stay Sane. He is also the author of How Dysfunctional Families Spur Mental Disorders: A Balanced Approach to Resolve Problems and Reconcile Relationships.  Prior to that he was in the private practice in psychiatry in Southern California for 13 years during the advent of managed care health insurance. Additionally, he has done research into personality disorders and is a psychotherapy theorist. He is the author of three books for psychotherapists: A Family Systems Approach to Individual Psychotherapy, Deciphering Motivation in Psychotherapy, and Psychotherapy with Borderline Patients: an Integrated Approach, as well as numerous journal articles and book chapters. He was the associate editor of the Journal of Psychotherapy Integration and a former treasurer of the Association for Research in Personality Disorders. He received his medical degree from U.C. San Francisco, and did his psychiatric residency at the Los Angeles County - University of Southern California Medical Center.He has two great self-help books available on Amazon:Coping with Critical, Demanding, and Dysfunctional Parents: Powerful Strategies to Help Adult Children Be Assertive and Stay Sanehttps://amzn.to/38A7UJC How Dysfunctional Families Spur Mental Disorders: A Balanced Approach to Resolve Problems and Reconcile Relationshipshttps://amzn.to/2X4Aaz3The Sanity Sessions: Exploring Mental Illness And Maladaptations is a biweekly podcast featuring interviews with leading experts in the field of psychology and mental health.   Clint Sabom is Creative Director of Contemplative Light. He lived in Budapest, Hungary in 2003 as a Gilman Scholar. He speaks English, Spanish, and Portuguese. In 2007, he lived for six months in a silent monastery.. He holds bachelor's degrees in Religious Studies and one in Spanish literature. He has traveled extensively through Europe and South America. He has spoken and/or performed at Amnesty International, Health Conferences, High Schools, and art galleries across the US. He has studied and done in his own work in Advaita Vedanta, Buddhism, Shamanism, NLP, and hypnosis.   Clint offers a powerful audio mini-course on emotional release, with powerful techniques you can use the rest of your life.  Learn more here: https://contemplativelight.teachable.com/p/emotional-release

Virgie Tovar is an author, activist and started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight. In 2018 she was named one of the 50 most influential feminists by Bitch Magazine. She is the founder of Babecamp, a 4-week online course designed to help women who are ready to break up with diet culture. In 2012, Tovar edited the anthology Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion and in 2018 The Feminist Press published her manifesto, You Have the Right to Remain Fat, which was placed on the American Library Association's Amelia Bloomer List. Her new book, FLAWLESS: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color, comes out in Spring 2020 from New Harbinger. She holds a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. She is a contributor for Forbes and was awarded the Poynter Fellowship in Journalism at Yale. Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, Tech Insider, BBC, MTV, Al Jazeera and NPR. She lives in San Francisco.