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Seth Bradley interviews Sam Silverman to break down fund-of-funds economics, common misconceptions, and why this structure has become a critical part of modern capital raising. Sam explains how fund-of-funds models create cleaner, more compliant alignment between sponsors, fund managers, and passive investors—without automatically eroding returns. The conversation walks through how margins are actually created, why share classes and underwriting decisions matter earlier than most sponsors realize, and how fund managers can structure compensation sustainably. Sam also shares practical guidance on when fund-of-funds make sense, how to explain layered economics to investors, and why long-term alignment matters more than short-term fee optimization. Sam SilvermanCurrent role: Founder, Fully FundedBased in: United StatesSay hi to them at: https://www.fullyfunded.com/ Visit ⁠www.tribevestisc.com⁠ for more info. Visit bestevercrypto.com today to get started and earn up to $2,500 in bonus crypto. Try QUO for free PLUS get 20% off your first 6 months when you go to quo.com/BESTEVER  Join us at Best Ever Conference 2026! Find more info at: https://www.besteverconference.com/  Join the Best Ever Community  The Best Ever Community is live and growing - and we want serious commercial real estate investors like you inside. It's free to join, but you must apply and meet the criteria.  Connect with top operators, LPs, GPs, and more, get real insights, and be part of a curated network built to help you grow. Apply now at⁠ ⁠⁠⁠www.bestevercommunity.com⁠⁠ Podcast production done by⁠ ⁠Outlier Audio⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chris Naugle ( @TheChrisNaugle ) & Caleb Guilliams go head-to-head debating whether you should borrow against your whole life insurance policy to purchase cars and other liabilities. They disagree over the math and opportunity cost, as well as comparing their philosophies behind their positions. Watch the full interview: https://youtu.be/m2goBXyB27M Buy Your Tickets to the Life Insurance Summit! Click Here: https://betterwealth.com/summit Want a Life Insurance Policy? Go Here: https://bttr.ly/bw-yt-aa-clarity Want Us To Review Your Permanent Life Insurance Policy? Click Here: https://bttr.ly/yt-policy-review 00:00 - Introduction 00:18 - Why Use IBC for Cars? 01:35 - Calculating the Cost of Financing vs. IBC 02:24 - Negotiating a Car Price While Using IBC 03:35 - Dealerships Making Money on Financing 04:20 - IBC is a Process 06:06 - Volume vs. Rate 06:34 - The 4% Loan vs. 6% Policy Loan Scenario 07:38 - Chris Disagrees and Explains the APR 09:35 - Modeling the Math (Chris vs. Caleb) 10:48 - Paying Back the Policy at the Bank's Rate 12:33 - Loan Repayment vs. New Premium 13:28 - Opportunity Cost and Capital 15:07 - Disagreement on the Logic 16:24 - Personal Preference for Moving Capital 18:57 - An Alternative Strategy (Leasing and Reinvesting) 20:24 - Consistency in Teaching Money Concepts ______________________________________________ Learn More About BetterWealth: https://betterwealth.com ==================== DISCLAIMER: https://bttr.ly/aapolicy *This video is for entertainment purposes only and is not financial or legal advice. Financial Advice Disclaimer: All content on this channel is for education, discussion, and illustrative purposes only and should not be construed as professional financial advice or recommendation. Should you need such advice, consult a licensed financial or tax advisor. No guarantee is given regarding the accuracy of the information on this channel. Neither host nor guests can be held responsible for any direct or incidental loss incurred by applying any of the information offered.

The unifying youth culture across the Arab region is characterized by a proud new Arab identity and the changing standards of beauty with the rise of "Arab beauty" (A beauty), which celebrates Arab features and aesthetics. The founder of Mille World and Mille Creative, Sofia Guellaty, talks about her journey launching the first Arab youth platform in the Arab world, the role of media professionals as "editors of conversations," and the emergence of a new, proud Arab identity among both Gen Z and millennials. She discusses how she uses fashion and pop culture as a tool for "soft power" to talk about liberation, representation, and diversity, moving away from superficial content. She reflects on her early career, her shift from being fascinated by the West to "unbashedly proud to be Arab," and the challenges faced by Arab talent, including visa issues and the lack of an Arab-centric market. The conversation also delves into how her platform, Mille World, aims to address the lack of authentic Arab youth representation by giving a voice to young creatives who want to define their own stories, not be perceived through a "western gaze". Explore Mille World

Send us a textEpisode 42 - From Blueprint to Shelf of Doom: A Modeling Insanity Cautionary Tale with Special Guest Brian DencklauIn this episode, Brian Dencklau from the Built Sideways Podcast joins the show to talk first about New Years Resolutions for 2026, planning and preparing builds and what happens when a build doesn't go as planned, what new kits everyone wants to start the year, Social Media Shout Outs, and a nice Riv Rant thrown in to start the year off right.  So take a listen, have some laughs and enjoy the show...Opening and end music by Supernova by Arthur Vyncke https://soundcloud.com/arthurvostMusic promoted by http://www.free-stock-music.comJoin the Podcast on Facebook on The Modeling Insanity Podcast PageEmail the Insanity Crew at modelinginsanitypodcast@gmail.com for any comments or suggestions.

Dr Kirk answers patron emails. January 14, 2026This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.00:00 Is it possible to have every schema?21:31 Modeling empathy23:20 How might a client present with both Borderline and Narcissism? 32:38 Is short form clinician content any good? 38:57 Is Will from Goodwill Hunting a Narcissist?  Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com(By The Daily Telegraph. Copyright holders of the image of Madeleine at three are Kate and Gerry McCann. The age-progressed image was commissioned by Scotland Yard from forensic artist Teri Blythe for release to the public. Both images have been widely disseminated by the copyright holders, and have been the subject of significant commentary., Fair use, https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?curid=39861556)

  Guest: Eric Leininger, teacher in the classroom for 14 years   If you'd like to watch this podcast, check out the PCA YouTube page.   Parents, one of the primary “shifts” we've seen in education deals with the issue of where the responsibility lies. In the old days, students were primarily responsible for their actions; today if students have a problem, the responsibility falls on the shoulders of the teachers.    Parents, when your son or daughter has an issue in the classroom, Eric's wisdom on how to best handle these situations is to address the problem at home and help your child learn how this situation can best shape their character. Eric does not recommend contacting the teacher unless the situation/problem is egregious. Disciplinary issues at a school or on the court/field are opportunities to train your children about how to better handle situations or how to work through a seeming (or real) injustice.   Before contacting a teacher, Eric recommends that you examine Scripture and pray for God's wisdom in how to best proceed. As a parent, Eric also recommends that you should look to trust those who are partnering with you in the discipleship process. Modeling for your students that we respect the authority of our teachers is a valuable life lesson.   Here is the link to a video/article of Hannah, a young former high school English teacher who quit after 3 years because of technology and general apathy/laziness of students in the classroom.

A screencast from Chapter 8 in CH 222 entitled “Modeling Gases (Boyle, Charles, etc.)”

On stage at the school assembly, second-grade Mike got stuck for 30 seconds saying the Pledge of Allegiance. Every eye on him. Then: a rush. Not relief—an actual high. "I got through it. I did it." Today Mike Liben is CEO of Chai Travel, leading meetings, closing deals, and proving substance beats style every time. When the Brooklyn DA suggested Mike avoid the courtroom, Mike was resolute: "I'll say what I need to say. And they'll listen." He took the harder path—and it made him stronger. Judges started requesting him. Not despite his stutter. Because of what he brought. Every leader can learn from Mike: The best communicators aren't the smoothest talkers. They're the most prepared. Whether you stutter or not, this proves speaking with confidence comes from knowing what you have to say matters more than how you say it. IN THIS EPISODE: Why preparation and substance beat smooth delivery every time (courtroom lessons for every leader) The "rush" after doing hard things - and what it teaches about building confidence How to navigate difficult conversations when the stakes are high Barry Liben's intensity - how the same force that was sometimes tough for young Mike also became his model for resilience Why judges preferred Mike in court (hint: it wasn't his fluency!) What Mike learned about leadership from watching his father refuse to let physical limitations win How stuttering built the empathy that makes Mike a better CEO The business principles behind Chai Travel's success What every professional can learn about speaking with confidence in meetings, presentations, and executive conversations   ABOUT OUR GUEST: Mike Liben is CEO of Chai Travel, a family-founded travel agency built on the legacy of his father, Barry Liben. Before entering the travel industry, Mike spent 11 years as a prosecuting attorney in the Brooklyn District Attorney's office, specializing in domestic violence cases. Despite stuttering since childhood, Mike chose the courtroom over desk work - and became the prosecutor judges requested. Mike lives with his wife and children, carrying forward his father's philosophy of treating everyone like family.   TIMESTAMPS  0:00 Mike's obsession with substance over style 1:21 Welcome to TranscendingX 2:06 What doesn't show up on Mike's resume 5:26 On stage at the school assembly: The Pledge of Allegiance moment 8:02 The "rush" after hard moments—building confidence through action 9:42 Doing hard things builds the capacity for leadership 10:01 The worst advice: "Stomp your foot while stuttering" 10:49 "Did you forget your name?"—what people still get wrong 13:15 The complicated father-son dynamic 16:25 Barry's frustration: "I want my money back" 17:14 What changed: Seeing the stuttering community 19:39 Barry's mobility challenges: Modeling relentless determination 22:41 Bar mitzvah speech: When fluency went "off the rails" 27:03 "I think I'm done with therapy"—choosing his own path 31:50 Growing up in Barry Liben's shadow 32:02 Why Mike chose to become an attorney despite stuttering 33:48 Courtroom lesson: The best attorneys are the most prepared 35:23 The DA's suggestion: "Maybe avoid the courtroom" 36:13 Mike's resolute response: "I'll say what I need to say. And they'll listen." 38:47 First court appearances: The harder path made him stronger 39:31 Judges started requesting Mike—substance won over style 39:50 Transitioning from prosecutor to entrepreneur 40:21 Barry Liben: Self-made travel industry force 42:06 Starting Chai Travel: Following Barry's example 42:48 Barry's credo: Treat everyone like family (top to bottom) 45:06 The turbulence analogy: When to push through vs. when to reroute 46:51 Leading as CEO: How communication challenges show up (and don't) 49:35 Empathy from experience: Why understanding challenges makes you a better leader 57:00 The myth: Communication challenges don't have to disqualify you from leadership 57:57 Let substance guide your decisions, not style 58:42 Mike's billboard: "Substance is what matters" ABOUT THE HOST Uri Schneider, M.A. CCC -SLP is co-founder and leader at Schneider Speech; creator and host of Transcending X; and former faculty at the University of California, Riverside School of Medicine. SEE ALL SHOW NOTES http://www.transcendingx.com/podcast LEARN MORE at http://www.transcendingx.com and http://www.schneiderspeech.com  

In Episode 6.6, Scott and Vince close their limited series with a deep dive into communication, the foundation of effective leadership. They discuss how clarity, tone, and active listening directly influence trust, culture, and performance.   Scott highlights that communication isn't just about speaking clearly but ensuring mutual understanding. Vince shares practical tools such as reflective listening, open-ended questioning, and feedback loops that foster connection and accountability.   They conclude that leaders should model the communication behaviors they want to see, challenge assumptions, and continually ask: What one change could improve your communication right now?   Key Takeaways Listening to understand builds stronger relationships and trust. Clarity depends on what others hear, not what leaders think they said. Modeling communication sets the tone for organizational culture. Key Insights Nearly every leadership issue ties back to poor communication. Reflective listening ensures shared understanding before execution. Empathetic listening fosters mutual respect and trust. Nonverbal cues shape the impact of messages more than words alone. 360-degree feedback uncovers blind spots and strengthens leaders. Open-ended questions clarify intent and expectations. Communication quality defines culture quality. Leaders should ask themselves if they are modeling good communication. Listening before reacting prevents misunderstanding and conflict. Intentional communication transforms engagement across teams. Connect: Scott De Long, Ph.D. & Lead2Goals Instagram: @scottdelongphd @lead2goals.com LinkedIn: @scottdelongphd Web: lead2goals.com Email: scott@lead2goals.com Books: I Thought I Was A Leader You Win Again, Jack (New for 2025!) Vince Moiso & Vis Business Group Instagram: @visbiz.us LinkedIn: @vincentmoiso Web: visbiz.us Email: vince@visbiz.us Books How to Survive in the Wilderness The CEO Podcast Instagram | @theceopodcast LinkedIn | @the-ceo-podcast Facebook | @theceopodcast

In this episode, we sit down with Brooke Taylor, a NYC-based personal trainer, educator, and founder of the Brooke Taylor Fit App. With over 24 years of experience and 111+ certifications, Brooke brings a science-backed, women's health–focused approach to training that prioritizes longevity and sustainability. We explore why so many people struggle to reach their fitness goals, how to actually use heart rate zones, and why excessive cardio can backfire. Brooke shares practical guidance on starting strength training, building intrinsic stabilizer muscles, navigating perimenopause, and setting realistic, achievable goals. The conversation also covers nutrition guidelines, fasted workouts, modeling healthy behaviors for kids, and how Brooke's app helps support consistency, strength, and confidence long term. If you're ready to train smarter, not harder, this episode is a must-listen.Brooke Taylor is a highly respected NYC-based personal trainer, educator, and the creator of the Brooke Taylor Fit App, with over 24 years of experience and an unmatched 111+ certifications and continuing education credentials. As the owner of Taylored Fitness NY LTD, Brooke has built a reputation as one of the most knowledgeable and impactful trainers in the industry—blending science, movement, and women's health into truly transformative programs. Brooke holds numerous national and international certifications, including: ACE, AFAA, NASM, STOTT PILATES®, Precision Nutrition, TRX, Vbarre, RRCA Running Coach, Fitness Nutrition Specialist, Menopause Coaching Specialist, Women's Health Specialist, and extensive continuing education in corrective exercise, pre/postnatal training, neuromuscular stretching, exercise performance, metabolic conditioning, and special populations.SHOW NOTES:0:40 Welcome to the podcast!3:32 About Brooke Taylor5:22 Welcome her to the show!6:36 Why aren't we achieving our fitness goals?10:30 Understanding heart rate zones12:46 Making group fitness work for you15:51 The problem with excessive cardio17:14 How to start strength-training20:35 Strengthening intrinsic stabilizer muscles23:29 Her get-up-and-go approach27:58 Navigating perimenopause32:50 How to set a realistic goal for the New Year35:32 Nutrition guidelines & body types39:43 Modeling behaviors to children43:37 Importance of quality or quantity48:31 Fasted workouts54:58 How the app works!59:59 her final piece of advice1:01:34 Where to find herRESOURCES:Email: info@tayloredfitness.netWebsite: www.brooketaylorfit.comIG: @tayloredfitness @brooketaylorfitappFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/TayloredFitnessNYLtdApp Website: https://brooketaylorfit.com/app-feature/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/biohacker-babes-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode of First Round's On Me, we're joined by Kalissa Persaud — actor, model, and creator — for a wide-ranging conversation about art, identity, confidence, and what it really means to build a creative career in the age of algorithms.We talk about acting vs. content creation, why follower count is quietly reshaping opportunity, and how micro-influencers are becoming more trusted than celebrities. Kalissa opens up about rejection, craft, modeling for major fashion houses, and the pressure of growing up in industries that reward perfection while punishing humanity.The conversation expands into AI in the arts, the danger of over-curation, confidence vs. self-belief, and why real connection — eye contact, presence, imperfection — is slowly disappearing in a hyper-digital world. At its core, this episode is a reminder that art is supposed to be human, not optimized.Funny, thoughtful, and unexpectedly philosophical, this is a conversation about choosing belief in yourself when the world is constantly telling you who to be.

Life rarely goes according to plan, and parenting is no exception. Dr. Roger Smith discusses the vital shift from total parental control to fostering flexibility in your children. Using travel mishaps as a metaphor, he explores how parents can model emotional balance when things go wrong—whether it's a spilled glass of juice or a missed opportunity. Learn how to train your children to navigate multiple pathways, handle disappointment without a meltdown, and understand that making a mistake isn't a moral failure. By staying pleasant when you have to "flex," you teach your children the essential life skill of enjoying the journey, even when the path changes. Visit me at: https://rogersmithmd.com/ This has been a production of ThePodcastUpload.com 

We got our hands on the new Nightbringer courtesy of Games Workshop and kick off the show talking about it.  We talk about both of the new Necron characters this … Read More

Send us an email @ info@parentcoachesunleashed.com SummaryIn this episode of Parent Coaches Unleashed, Jessica Anger and Carrie Wiesenfeld delve into the topic of boundaries in parenting. They discuss the generational differences in understanding and setting boundaries, the challenges of grandparenting, and the importance of respecting the boundaries of adult children. The conversation emphasizes the need for parents to model healthy boundaries for their children and to prioritize self-care as their kids grow into independence. The hosts also explore how to communicate effectively with college-aged kids and the significance of allowing them to navigate their own journeys.TakeawaysIt's important to respect the boundaries set by adult children.Parents often feel uncomfortable when their children assert boundaries.Modeling healthy boundaries can benefit future generations.Self-care is crucial for parents as their children become independent.Communication with college-aged kids should be respectful of their autonomy.Parents should not overstep when offering help to adult children.Setting boundaries can lead to stronger family relationships.It's never too late for parents to start setting their own boundaries.

In this deep dive, we break down the PR90 Speech System—a science-backed approach to transforming how you speak by rewiring your brain through neuroplasticity, daily habits, and real-world application. You'll learn why speaking confidence isn't a talent you're born with, but a skill you can train, how identity shapes your speech patterns, and how tools like 7-7-7 breathing, modeling, immersion, and proactive speaking replace fear with calm control. ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction & speaking identity 02:08 Neuroplasticity and habit change 07:31 The 3 mindset laws (belief, control, accumulation) 11:04 The daily blueprint & immersion 17:47 Affirmations, breathing, visualization 23:20 Managing self-talk (TRACK method) 30:02 Modeling & proactive speaking skills 37:45 Presenting with confidence 40:36 Final takeaway & reflection If you've ever struggled with anxiety, stuttering, or freezing under pressure, this video shows you a clear, step-by-step path to becoming a smooth, confident communicator—on purpose.

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Send us a textWhat is the one thing parents can't afford to get wrong?In this episode of The Way of Valor, Angie Taylor is joined by her sister, educator, ministry leader, and parent coach Kelly Loftis for a powerful conversation on what truly matters most in parenting. Together, they cut through the noise, pressure, and overwhelm to focus on the vital role parents play in shaping their children's faith and worldview.You'll hear why modeling an authentic relationship with Jesus matters more than outsourcing faith to church programs and how small, consistent habits can have a lifelong impact on your kids, even when you feel like you're falling short.In this episode, you'll learn:Why parents have the greatest spiritual influence in a child's lifeHow small, everyday habits build faith that lastsWhat to do if your child is older and seems to be driftingWhy consistency matters more than perfectionIf you're a parent in any season tired, busy, or wondering if you've missed your chance this episode offers clarity, hope, and practical encouragement.Don't forget to leave a 5-star review and share this episode with a parent who needs it.Connect with Angie Taylor on:IG: https://www.instagram.com/mrsangietaylor/?hl=enFB: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090424997350

In this episode of Skin Anarchy, Dr. Ekta sits down with Natasha Denona for a rare, reflective conversation that traces the creative and philosophical roots of one of modern makeup's most influential brands. Known for palettes that have become industry benchmarks, Natasha opens up about how her work has always been driven less by trends—and more by intention, education, and respect for the user.Growing up between science and art shaped everything. Natasha's mother, a chemist in inorganic chemistry, exposed her early to laboratories, precision, and technical thinking. While chemistry itself didn't immediately click, the discipline behind it did. That structured curiosity later resurfaced in how Natasha approaches formulation, texture, and product architecture—where creativity is always grounded in control.Before makeup, there was painting, theater, and dance. Natasha shares how color became both emotional language and psychological tool, first explored through art and stage makeup. That foundation explains why her palettes feel cohesive yet expressive—each one designed as a complete story rather than a collection of random shades.A defining theme of the episode is education. Natasha doesn't create products to sit on a shelf; she designs tools that teach. Long before “educational beauty” became a marketing buzzword, her launches embedded technique—guiding users through layering, sculpting, and dimension the way professional artists actually work.Rather than chasing novelty, Natasha deliberately builds for longevity. Palettes like Biba and Camel weren't designed for a moment—they were designed to last across ages, skin tones, and styles. Inclusivity, she explains, has always been non-negotiable, not performative. Her decision to launch 52 foundation shades wasn't strategic—it was personal.Throughout the conversation, one belief remains constant: the product should be the star. Natasha never wanted her image to overshadow the work itself.Listen to the full episode of Skin Anarchy to hear Natasha Denona reflect on creativity, inclusivity, and why true innovation in beauty comes from intention—not trends.SHOP NATASHA DENONA CHAPTERS:(0:02) - Welcome & Introducing Natasha Denona(1:14) - Growing Up Around Science, Art, and Photography(4:43) - Early Relationship With Color, Makeup, and Expression(6:11) - From Dance & Modeling to Makeup Artistry(7:26) - Building Iconic Color Stories & Palette Philosophy(9:05) - Inclusivity as a Core Creative Principle(13:19) - Creating Complexion Products at Scale(17:05) - Longevity, Creativity, and Avoiding Trends(24:08) - Entrepreneurship, Visibility, and Authentic LeadershipPlease fill out this survey to give us feedback on the show!Don't forget to subscribe to Skin Anarchy on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your preferred platform.Reach out to us through email with any questions.Sign up for our newsletter!Shop all our episodes and products mentioned through our ShopMy Shelf! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To kick off 2026, I sit down with Dr. Paul Leonardi, author of the bestselling book Digital Exhaustion, for a conversation that felt incredibly timely—and personal. If you've been feeling distracted, mentally drained, short-tempered, or like your family is getting the leftovers of your energy, this episode puts clear language around what's happening inside your brain.   We dive deep into how constant app switching, nonstop notifications, and digital overload are quietly exhausting our attention, memory, marriages, and relationships with our kids. Paul breaks down the science behind digital exhaustion in a practical, grounded way, and I share a powerful moment when my 12-year-old voluntarily handed back his phone because he didn't like how it made him feel. This episode isn't about rejecting technology—it's about learning how to use it without letting it use us.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Introduction [1:02] Welcoming listeners to 2026 and the 11th year of The Dad Edge Podcast. [1:40] Introducing Dr. Paul Leonardi and the concept of digital exhaustion. [2:22] How digital overload impacts attention, memory, marriage, and family life. [3:05] Parenting in a world our brains were never designed for. [4:12] Raising kids with devices and navigating unfamiliar territory. [6:07] Independence, social media, and emotional complexity in today's kids. [7:35] How online trends shape kids' identity and self-image. [9:58] What's actually happening in the brain during prolonged digital use. [11:16] The hidden "taxes" we pay for constant connectivity. [12:26] Driver #1: attention and constant context switching. [13:31] Driver #2: inference and filling in the blanks online. [15:26] Driver #3: amplified emotions—both positive and negative. [16:31] Why multitasking burns massive mental energy. [17:20] The impact of digital overload on memory and mental residue. [18:41] Outsourcing memory to devices and what it costs us. [21:15] When kids are actually ready for devices—and when they're not. [23:42] Why screen time isn't the real issue—interruptions and content are. [26:35] The emotional cost of likes, validation, and online comparison. [28:39] Larry shares the story of his son giving up his phone voluntarily. [31:11] Why kids struggle to articulate digital overwhelm. [32:06] The Facebook outage study and the surprising relief people felt. [35:10] Introducing the Roommates to Soulmates live course. [37:54] Digital exhaustion inside marriage and miscommunication over text. [38:58] "Make the match" — choosing the right communication medium. [43:12] "Be here, not elsewhere" and the power of undistracted presence. [46:09] How distraction has become socially normalized. [49:21] Why work interruptions at home send the wrong message. [51:39] Modeling priorities for kids through availability and presence. [56:21] Where to find Paul, his book, and additional resources.     Five Key Takeaways Digital exhaustion comes from attention switching, inference-making, and emotional overload, not just screen time alone. Multitasking is a myth—the brain burns massive energy switching contexts, leaving us mentally drained. Kids often feel overwhelmed by devices before they can explain it, which shows up as stress or behavior changes. Choosing the right communication tool matters, especially in marriage and parenting. Presence beats duration—ten fully focused minutes matter more than hours of distracted time.     Links & Resources Paul Leonardi — Digital Exhaustion Book: https://paulleonardi.com/digital-exhaustion-book/ Paul Leonardi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-leonardi-45b67321/ Dad Edge Mastermind & Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Roommates to Soulmates Course: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1422     Closing Remark If this episode made you rethink how you're using your phone, your attention, or your presence at home, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. The way we show up—focused, intentional, and available—shapes not just our kids' childhoods, but the adults they become.

We are back for 2026 and looking forward to an amazing year!  We take a little look back at the 2025 highlights and then cast our gaze forward to the … Read More

• Bart Merrick real estate team sponsorship, experience, testimonials, stress reduction, early prep for spring market, free consultations • Holiday "Wifecast" framing and seasonal tone • Neighborhood construction noise, warning etiquette, early start realities, intent vs timing, community behavior conflicts • Confronting kids damaging property, parental embarrassment, safety vs emotional reactions, retaliatory noise humor • Child's first band performance, nerves, minimal practice, surprise competence, bonding over anxiety • Advanced math placement doubts vs results, lifelong math insecurity, trusting school decisions • Likability, humor, and "faking it" as coping strategies learned from parents • Band concert dress codes, inconsistent enforcement, embarrassment, past vs present norms • Parenting conflicts over toughness vs sensitivity, tone affecting confidence, undermining each other, seeking validation • Middle school desire for acceptance over achievement, awkward uniforms, body image, finances, fitting in • Growth, puberty, differing ambition levels, frustration as growth, conformity as teamwork vs resentment • Arguing over whose memories are "right," curiosity vs fixation on details • Former teacher arrested in park, legality, social norms, speculation, crude humor • Health testing with stool/blood kits, awkward logistics, partner help, anxiety, relief of home testing • Digestive issues, food sensitivities, improvement after quitting alcohol, waiting on results • Toilet repair saga, lesson in calling pros early, leak avoided, praise for honest service, show discount • Gift-giving debate, stopping exchanges, spending differences, emotional shopping, expensive craft machine mix-up, returns • Restocking fees, return abuse, shopping as dopamine addiction, corporate vs consumer responsibility • Amazon economics, Prime, seller fees, data, monopoly feel, bad recommendations, clutter fatigue • Buying experiences over stuff, adult loss of Christmas magic, modeling tradition for kids • Santa encounter with convincing banter, kid asking for practical gift, adult embarrassment • Stocking traditions, shopping for boys vs girls, tech killing toy novelty, loss of physical media • Novelty shirts, Spencer's humor, pushing offensiveness, custom shirt idea • Kids' edgy jokes, explaining boundaries, sex questions, puberty talks, disgust reactions, setting limits • Modeling affection, fear of distant patterns, timing-based rejection, libido humor, miscommunication • Over-the-top sexual jokes, generational shifts, eventual kid awareness • School photo fundraisers outdated, pricing complaints, yearbooks still valued • Ideas to modernize school photos, privacy concerns, candid vs posed shots • PTA staffing frustration, nostalgia for growth photos, abundance lowering value • Quality vs quantity in media, scrolling fatigue, distrust of AI visuals • Underwear ads obsession, hatred of pouch styles, trolling brands, algorithm traps • Online irony misread, niche marketing, "not for you" content, engagement fueling feeds • School photos again: phone cameras vs pro lighting, traditions, senior photos • Holiday time compression, fewer cards, travel plans • Italian Christmas dinner, homemade salad debate, effort vs efficiency, pride in cooking • Closing reminder on real estate timing and interest rates, lighthearted sign-off ### • Social Media: https://tomanddan.com | https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive | https://facebook.com/amediocretime | https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive
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“The best way to change life on Earth is to change the way we start.” In this episode, Nick speaks with Anne Wallen to dive into the intricate relationship between maternal health, psychological preparation for parenting, and the impact of childhood trauma on parenting styles. Anne shares her personal journey as a maternal health professional and mother of six, emphasizing the importance of meeting a baby’s needs and the psychological aspects of parenting. What to listen for: Maternal health is crucial for every human being The psychological preparation for parenting is as important as physical preparation Trauma from childhood can affect parenting styles and decisions Meeting a baby’s needs is essential for their psychological development Self-awareness is key to breaking generational trauma cycles Understanding the impact of trauma can help in parenting “Unhealed wounds don't disappear when you become a parent; they show up.” Parenting activates old patterns you didn't even know were still there Triggers often come from your past, not your child's behavior Awareness gives you a pause between reaction and response Healing yourself reduces the chance of repeating the same cycles “Safety is the foundation of healthy development.” Feeling safe shapes the brain, nervous system, and emotional regulation. Consistent responsiveness teaches a child that they matter Emotional safety supports curiosity, confidence, and resilience A regulated parent creates a regulated environment About Anne Wallen Anne is a respected figure in women's health with over 30 years of experience and is a leading voice on global change in maternity care – particularly for those at greatest risk. She continues to educate and empower birth professionals in more than 20 countries, contributes to a variety of curricula, and shapes the future of maternal health through her impactful role as a speaker and mentor. Anne is the Director and co-founder of MaternityWise International, and her legacy lies in inspiring generational changes around and elevating women’s healthcare worldwide. https://www.maternitywise.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-wallen-08478035/ https://www.instagram.com/maternitywise/ Resources: Interested in starting your own podcast or need help with one you already have? https://themindsetandselfmasteryshow.com/podcasting-services/ Thank you for listening! Please subscribe on iTunes and give us a 5-Star review! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mindset-and-self-mastery-show/id1604262089 Listen to other episodes here: https://themindsetandselfmasteryshow.com/ Watch Clips and highlights: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk1tCM7KTe3hrq_-UAa6GHA Guest Inquiries right here: podcasts@themindsetandselfmasteryshow.com Your Friends at “The Mindset & Self-Mastery Show” Click Here To View The Episode Transcript Nick McGowan (00:00.91)Hello and welcome to the Mindset and Self Mastery Show. I’m your host, Nick McGowan. Today on the show we have Anne Wellen. Anne, how you doing today? I’m good. I’m really excited to get into this. I think this is going to be a different conversation than what we typically have, but we were just talking and talking and at one point you’re like, you’re not recording? I’m like, no, let’s start this now. Anne Wallen (00:10.602)I’m good, how are you? Nick McGowan (00:25.614)So this will be great. And why don’t you kick us off? Tell us what you do for a living and what’s one thing most people don’t know about you that’s maybe a little odd or bizarre. Anne Wallen (00:34.382)Okay, well, I am the director of Maternity Wise International, which what we do is we train doulas and childbirth educators and lactation support people. I’ve been doing this for 23, 24 years now, and it’s pretty much my life. I love maternal health. It’s so, important to every human on this planet. And maybe the… An interesting factoid about me is that I have six kids. A lot of people, when you tell them you have six kids, they’re like, my gosh. And yes, I birthed them all. But five of them are adults. I have a little nine-year-old as well. She was a surprise, like the best kind of surprise. But yeah, so my six kids and yes, that’s really the main reason why I got into the work that I got into when I had my first at 17. and didn’t feel like I could be the mom that she deserved, loved her so, so, so much. And I had some family friends that I grew up with who actually babysat me who had been struggling with fertility issues. And so I chose to let them adopt her. And we have had an amazing, beautiful extended family relationship. And she recently gave birth to her first daughter just this summer. So I am officially a grandma in addition to all the other things that I do, but Yeah, that’s a little factoid that most people don’t know. But she’s part of the reason she’s the main reason why I became a mental health professional or a maternal health professional. And a lot of the way things have gone through my life, not just how I was raised, but experiences thereafter have gotten me very interested in mental health. And so I like to kind of create this intersection between the both worlds. And I look at things from a very psychological perspective. So this is This is gonna be a fun one. Nick McGowan (02:29.229)Yeah, I think everything ties back into that. It’s not even just a physical thing. Like I even said to you, somebody has a baby and they go home and how their partner reacts to whatever’s going on or the chaos or whatever the thing is, how does that then tie into the baby and how does the baby move throughout life? Even with you having a kid at 17, you are a child at 17. Though I’m sure we can both think back to 17 years old and thinking I’m grown ass adult and I can do all the things in the world, but you are not. You’re a child. Anne Wallen (02:50.412)Hmm. Nick McGowan (02:59.039)And the fact that you had somebody that you could hand the baby over to that you knew, you trusted, and you were able to have a relationship, it sounds like that could almost be like an ABC sitcom, you know what I mean? Anne Wallen (03:05.325)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (03:13.356)Yeah, well, I mean, my life is, I always joke that, like, that’s just the tip of the iceberg. But I always joke that, you know, Hallmark probably wouldn’t agree to make a movie because my life is so far-fetched. But yes, that’s, that was such a, such a blessing because I really knew that I was not going to be able to do what she needed as far as mothering. And I’ve, you know, hadn’t even finished high school yet. And my wonderful, wonderful and she was my next door neighbor growing up. And I just knew that they were the right people to take care of her and they raised her and she’s an amazing human being. And it’s just really wonderful to have this open relationship at this point, especially, you know, now that she’s having babies of her own. it was really cool too during COVID. She took one of my doula trainings because she was going to be a doula for a friend of hers. So Just a really cool, you know, like sometimes things just come full circle and you just, little blessings, little surprises. So. Nick McGowan (04:22.764)And you wouldn’t have been able to script that. Like, I love when that stuff happens in life where it’s like, I’m gonna have a baby, hand it over to my neighbor, because I love them. And then years later, like, really? Somebody would be like, that’s crazy. Get out of my office, you know? Anne Wallen (04:24.863)No! Anne Wallen (04:37.355)Yeah, well, I I knew that I didn’t, I knew that I probably wouldn’t be okay with just never knowing. know, some moms, and I’ve supported moms as their doula through giving their baby away. I’ve supported adopting families as well. it’s, I am really, really fortunate because I don’t think that most people could go through that experience and it would be, I mean, Don’t get me wrong, it was heartbreaking. It’s still heartbreaking that I wasn’t able to raise her myself. I mean, I’ve had five other kids since then and I know what it is to be a mom and I know what things I’ve missed out on. But being able to have an open adoption is really, really something special and I know some people don’t have that option. And so to be able to give your baby to someone that you think that you can trust and then hope that they’re doing what you would want them to do. That’s a whole level of, yeah, that’s tough, that’s hard. So, yeah. Nick McGowan (05:43.52)could only imagine. I have no idea what that would be like. I don’t have kids, not gonna have kids. And I couldn’t imagine what that’s like just handing a child over. I’ve talked to different people that have had either abortions or they’ve adopted, they’ve handed kids off to be adopted and then just haven’t ever talked to them again or people that have had some kid that are like, hey, by the way, about 30 years ago, you and my mom on a beach. And here we are, we’re like, you and my mom at a party or whatever. It’s like, but I, one of the big reason why I wanted to have you on is to be able to talk about how the psychology of that ties into not just people that have kids, but people that were kids. Cause even your emails back in the conversations, you were like, yeah, everybody was born. And then what we do from there and how that all ties into it. So why don’t, why don’t you kind of get us started off with like, not only what you see with, people that are having kids. but also the people that are concerned about having children and what that ties into just the rest of life. Anne Wallen (06:53.121)Well, kind of as we were talking about before we started recording, getting ready for having a baby, well, having a baby, you really need to put in the work, you need to prepare. And it’s not just about eating the right foods or avoiding the wrong foods and getting enough water and whatever else. There’s a lot of psychological preparation that people need to do. And we all walk around with our own traumas. We all walk around with our own disappointments and wounds. you’re gonna carry that into your parenting. And if there is one situation that you’re gonna find yourself in as kind of just this automatic robot, it’s as a parent. You don’t realize all these scripts and all this just unprepared, you know, in the moment reactions that you’re going to have to your own child until you’re there. And then you’re like, Nick McGowan (07:26.218)Hmm. Anne Wallen (07:52.961)I sound just like my mom or my dad used to say that and I still sometimes even you know I’m on kid number six at this point she’s nine and I still will say things you know two wrongs don’t make her right or whatever little sayings that you grow up with and I realize wow I got that from this scenario or I learned that during this moment when I got in trouble or whatever and it can it can really make a difference Nick McGowan (07:54.515)Ha ha. Anne Wallen (08:22.669)being aware and intentional with your parenting. And when I say aware, I just mean if you’ve got wounds or if you’ve got trauma or if your parents were abusive, if there was something else going on, you know, in those immediate, the first weeks, months of your life, it is really, really important to meet that baby’s needs immediately or as quickly as possible, right? So, There are things like crying it out. There are things like scheduled feeds. And they’re actually, we’re not just talking about a physical experience that this baby’s going through. It’s a psychological experience. And so we can get deeper into that if you want to, but a lot of people, they’ll hear from their parents when they become parents, they’ll hear things like, put the baby down, don’t spoil that baby. Or, they should be sleeping all night and they should be doing this or they should be doing that. You know, we let that baby cry it out. We gave you formula. You turned out fine. Whatever it is, right? Whatever this thing is that might be the response to whatever the parents are wanting to do. You know, the grandparents and well-meaning aunts and uncles, they’ll have some retort usually, right? And advice from your elders is always helpful. And having, just having elders around to… support your efforts is beautiful and helpful, but sometimes they don’t know what’s best for your baby. And the only person who really knows what’s best for the baby is the parent, especially the parent who’s bonded to the baby. Usually that’s the mom when they’re really, really small. And that’s usually because there’s breastfeeding going on or whatever it is, the main caretaking duties usually falls to the mother. So if that mother is well attuned to the baby, baby’s getting their needs met, this is teaching the baby that they can trust, right? It’s teaching the baby about relationships. It’s teaching the baby that I’m valuable. I am worth listening to. I am protected. I’m safe. All these different things, right? If you’ve got a baby who is routinely put down after, you fed for 15 minutes, now we put you down. You cry? Too bad, baby. We read the book that said, Anne Wallen (10:47.18)put you down, right? Or we heard from grandpa that said put you down, whatever it is. That baby crying so desperately, that’s their only way to communicate that they have a need. So if they’re crying so desperately, I’m still hungry, I’m cold, I just want to be held, I’m scared, I’m alone, whatever it is, I have gas pains, whatever it is, they’re trying to communicate that they have a need. And if we ignore that, if we say, no, I’m going to spoil the child if I pick them up again. This is programming their brain, right? This is programming their mind to say, no matter how hard I cry, I’m going to be ignored. What does that, for you, Nick, what does that translate to? What does that, what would that tell you? Nick McGowan (11:17.928)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (11:31.148)Trauma as a little kid, you’re just instantly, you’re shoved to the side it feels. And that’s, I think that’s an interesting thing to be able to point out, because look, babies are not gonna listen to this podcast. They will when they get older, but like they’re not listening right now. In fact, none of these episodes are for children at all, primarily because of my mouth at times, I’m sure. But the parents, or the new parents, or the people that are thinking about having kids. Anne Wallen (11:34.102)Yeah. Nick McGowan (11:58.088)or the people that feel like they have to have kids because the system tells them, their family system, you have to, which that’s another thing that ties into the psychology of it. Like if somebody says, you, hey, you have to have a kid because you have to keep our lineage going. You have to keep our last name going. You have to do this. You have to do that. okay. And then they go and have the kid and then put everything onto that kid or there’s already some pain that goes along with it. I think the big thing you pointed out that stood out to me and especially for the show, Anne Wallen (12:01.015)Mm. Anne Wallen (12:14.614)Hmm. Nick McGowan (12:27.61)is the work that has to be done before that. I’ve talked to different people that have had kids and they’re like, hey, we planned. We did all these things. We read all these books. We then got pregnant when we wanted to and shit was still crazy because they’re parents and like life and people and like things happen. And then there are people that just accidentally had a child and you know, it’s all, it doesn’t matter if you plan it or not plan it, it seems, but going into a big situation of having a child and Anne Wallen (12:30.572)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (12:57.552)sticking it through for at least 18 years or so, it doesn’t seem to me like a lot of people really think about the work they need to do until like after the fact. Like I met with somebody recently who’s got a young kid and he was offered to go on tour with some band and he was like, I can’t because I am attached and I can’t leave my child. And I can see that he’s such a good dad. But he had said to me, like, things changed as soon as I had the kid, as soon as the kid came into my life. And I hear that from a lot of different people. Like as soon as this happened, then I changed. I stopped smoking or I stopped doing this or I started doing more of whatever it was. And that’s great. But what about the deeper work that’s unseen? Like the trauma that comes from your parents or your parents’ parents or the things that happened that you were a kid that was just crying because you wanted to be held and your parents are like, I can’t. Shut up in there. How does that then tie into we as people that could potentially then have kids and not see that stuff needs to be worked on? Anne Wallen (13:54.688)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (14:05.161)Yeah, so having a baby is a great motivator for lifestyle changes, right? So if you are, if you have unhealthy habits, having your baby might make you think about your mortality and how, you need to eat better or stop smoking or whatever it is so that you can live longer so you can be there for your child. When you are going through pregnancy, even, you know, no matter what the family dynamic, mom, mom, mom, dad, whatever you’ve got going on. both partners, or even if you’ve got a single mom going on, the person who is in the relationship thinking about when this baby gets here, what are we gonna do? The kind of deeper work that they really need to be doing includes psychological preparation for just how they feel about themselves, number one, just simply because whether they feel worthy, whether they feel rejected by their parents, if there’s any kind of abandonment issues, Which abandonment issues start with, you know, crying it out in the crib? We, let me go, can I get a little sciency with you for just a second on that? So, crying it out, they’ve actually done brain scans and they see that crying it out creates a change in the brain structure. So our frontal lobe is the solutions, you know, forward thinking we call it, right? The creative, ambitious forebrain. The hindbrain is the survival primal, Nick McGowan (15:10.31)Please. Anne Wallen (15:30.955)aggressive, it’s the hunter-gatherer brain. And when you have a baby who is, who their needs are met consistently, their forebrain grows and their hindbrain does not grow. Not that it doesn’t grow, but it doesn’t, the balance is more forward-thinker, right? A baby who is left to cry it out, a baby whose needs are not met consistently. And that’s this, we’re not talking about a baby who has like just a crying spell and we put the baby down. for safety’s sake, you know, and we walk away so could take a breath and then we come back, you know, we’re not talking about that. We’re talking about a routinely left to cry baby. That hind brain actually grows and the forebrain can shrink. So now you’ve got a kid who’s got the more aggressive, primal survival skills, more violence prone, more prone to, you know, ADD and some other issues that are, you know, really all about them feeling that they need to survive, right? It’s just such primal, instinctual behavior. So now you have a kid who physically, chemically is growing up with this need to survive, this like fear, right? It’s like I’m on alert, I’m hypervigilant all the time. Now you make them a parent, right? They go through life and they probably have Nick McGowan (16:55.877)Hmph. Anne Wallen (16:58.187)plenty of issues, right, because of that hypervigilance, because of that, you know, fear that’s kind of like their root chakras in like a high alert mode all the time. So you get into this parenting situation, you’ve got a baby coming, right? You need to be able to say, I’m okay, I can advocate for my needs, I can prepare for the birth experience itself, because the birth experience could be traumatizing. And then, how am gonna care for this baby once it’s out, knowing that, or subconsciously, knowing that they were treated with a neglectful-ish, not that parents always are neglectful intentionally, but they don’t always know that the baby is just trying to communicate. And there’s a lot of, we’re not gonna go religion, but there’s a lot of religious. Nick McGowan (17:47.951)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (17:54.09)books out there on parenting that talk about babies, you know, being manipulators and things like that. You got to train them to be good, right? Which is ridiculous. anyway, that in itself is traumatizing just to just to read that if I was a, know. Yes. Yeah. Nick McGowan (18:09.252)Yeah, basically calling your baby a little demon. Don’t you do it little demon. It’s like, I just want some love. I don’t understand. Anne Wallen (18:17.267)Honestly, and there are books out there that have caused babies to become really, really, really sick and even pass away because they’re telling parents, like, you need to have this regimented feeding schedule and you shouldn’t be holding your baby, etc. And, you know, the abandonment issue is huge in our culture. If you go to other places in the world, you’re not going to see people with abandonment issues quite like you do in America. But in America, we have the Juvenile Manufacturing Association who really, really promoted getting babies out of your bed and using all these furniture pieces, right, for baby swings and cribs and, you know, bouncy seats and all these things that are not the mother, not the parent. And the only thing that a really a baby wants when they come out is that relationship. They are looking for a face when they come out. They’re looking for a face and if they don’t get a face to connect to, they’re three months behind in their developmental milestones on average. So the face, the connection with another human being is so important. It’s so important just to their brain development. It’s important to their psychological development. And it’s really important for the parents’ development too because when you create this bond, There’s something in you that softens. And even if you’ve had a ton of trauma, it’s like this little, I don’t know, it’s like this little knowing wakes up inside of you. And you just know, this instinct just shows up and kind of helps guide you in how to meet the baby’s needs in a way that’s healthy and appropriate for the baby. And a lot of times when you look at and you study mom-baby dyads, there’s this, unspoken language between them, right? It happens during sleep. Dr. James McKenna wrote a bunch of different studies over the last 20 to 30 years on watching moms and babies sleep. And when babies, know, vitals go too low, mom stirs and sometimes they even wake up and touch the baby and the baby perks back up again. It’s very SIDS preventive, you know? So like, Nick McGowan (20:41.197)Hmm. Anne Wallen (20:42.58)there’s these things that we have these superpower abilities to connect with other human beings and we don’t even realize it. And the thing that oftentimes gets in the way of that is trauma, other people’s well-meaning but bad advice. And how do we like get ready for all of that? So that’s where pregnancy, thank goodness we have nine months. to get ready for when the baby comes, right? We have nine months to work through our core hurts and figure out how did our parents’ parenting style affect us? And do we want to repeat that or do we want to have a different parenting style, right? And what is best for a baby? And a lot of times, you know, when you just read mainstream information, you know, there’s some real… Nick McGowan (21:10.945)Hahaha Anne Wallen (21:37.873)Sorry, Nick, I know you’re a man, but there are some masculine solutions or frameworks for very feminine processes and that’s not always the best way to go, right? And you can say your baby needs to eat every three hours. We wanna keep baby alive, right? So we’re gonna make sure baby eats every three hours. But what if baby’s hungry before that? You can’t make them wait. Hunger is one of those things that psychologically, if you are left to be hungry, Nick McGowan (21:48.419)Does it make sense? Anne Wallen (22:08.154)It actually causes so much stress on the body. Adrenaline goes up, cortisol goes up, like all these things, chemical reactions that really are trauma reactions. If you look at it that way, they happen in the body when you’re left to be hungry. So just something as simple as the baby needs to be fed can cause lifelong impairments, psychologically speaking. Nick McGowan (22:36.93)I think something to point out here for people that are listening to this, and if you’re about to have a kid, don’t let her scare you off the ledge. Like go do it because it seems like, look, no matter what happens, people are going to make the decisions they’re going to make. But I think the biggest thing you pointed out is the human aspect of it. That the mom or the parents just in general that are connected with their children can feel that, can be connected with their kids. Anne Wallen (22:39.22)Yeah. Anne Wallen (22:46.419)No! Anne Wallen (22:55.732)Yeah. Anne Wallen (23:02.664)Yes. Nick McGowan (23:05.474)The fact that you pointed out like, well, capitalistic society was like, how do we make money off this? Well, we want to get the kid out of the bed. We can get them into a whole plethora of their own little suite over here and we can make a whole bunch of money and we might as well push this thing. There’s information that comes from the external world like that. Like, oh, well, baby shouldn’t be in your bed for longer than X amount of time. We should have a crib and like all people have that stuff basically when they have their shower at this point and they get it and they… Anne Wallen (23:17.962)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (23:35.381)have like three to $10,000 worth of stuff that just sitting in there for the baby, when the baby probably needs to be deeply connected with them, but every baby is different. And it’s wild to think about how those systems, the family system that tells us, well, when you were a kid, this is what we did. You made the decisions you made. And that’s to be said that way. But then the other systems that say, you need to have this, you need to have that, you need to have that. Anne Wallen (23:47.092)Yeah. Anne Wallen (23:57.15)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (24:05.024)themselves to block all that madness out. Like, thanks for your feedback, grandma. Thanks for your feedback, Capitalistic Society. That person needs to be so deeply entwined with themselves and to understand about themselves. So based on the research you’ve done or the information that you’ve seen, how many people are actually doing that deeper work? Like, hey, I’m pregnant now. I wonder how fucked I was as a child based on the dumb things that happened. How do I not deliver that onto this child? Anne Wallen (24:10.814)Yeah. Nick McGowan (24:33.963)how many people are actually doing that work? Or is that part of the reason why we’re having the conversation? Because more people need to have that internal conversation. Anne Wallen (24:41.096)We really need our society, especially in America, to be doing that work more. Because a lot of people are just, like I was saying before, you’re kind of in this automatic robot mode. If you don’t do the work and you don’t have any kind of self-awareness, you’re just gonna do the things that you don’t even realize you learned to do. So like as an infant, even though you’re not sitting there taking notes on how your parents are parenting you, you’re learning how to be a parent by experiencing their parenting. And if you look around, we have a lot of entitled people walking around and a lot of broken people walking around who are really just living out their traumas and trauma reactions day to day, rather than looking at them, understanding that that’s what it is. You know, it took me till I was in my 40s to even understand what narcissistic abuse was, because it felt so familiar. Walking around the planet, being raised by someone who was narcissistically abusive. Now back then, 50 years ago, they didn’t have those words, right? But a lot of people have experienced that and they don’t know what it is. And they’re kind of, you know, either perpetuating it as the narcissist in their relationship or continuing to be used by the narcissist for their supply, right? And this is such a hot button, like, I don’t know, like a really popular terminology nowadays and everyone’s gonna, you know, everyone walks around kind of saying, I know a narcissist or that guy’s a narcissist or whatever, right? So it’s word that gets thrown around a lot. But the deeper issue is when you are not cared for, Nick McGowan (26:12.609)Hmm. Anne Wallen (26:36.859)in a way that shows you that you’re valuable, right? Then you grow up trying to prove to yourself how valuable you are, your whole life. And so that’s gonna put you into two camps. You’re either gonna be more like a narcissist, right? Trying to get source from people, trying to get that love and acceptance and to prove yourself worthy, right? Or you’re gonna become more of the enabler, more of the empath type. Nick McGowan (26:57.066)Yeah. Anne Wallen (27:05.925)Sometimes it’s just how we’re wired when we’re born, but a lot of it’s learned, right? And so you walk around trying to fix everybody else, trying to pre, what’s the word I’m looking for? Like you’re anticipating what they need, right? And you’re jumping in and taking care of everybody else. And neither one of those makes a good parent. So when you have a kid, you’re going to… Please don’t get me wrong, public, okay? Not all babies are coming out as narcissists, but all babies do come out needing someone to meet their needs. And so they look like little narcissists, right? Because they’re calling out, they’re crying, you you have to do everything for them. And as they’re growing, you’re trying to boost their self, right? And if you have additional kids around between age two and three, that’s a huge hit to the self-esteem of the toddler. You know, so then you’re trying to like fix that and soothe that and so there’s this whole chain of events that happens between zero and about seven, eight years old. And there’s ways to feed the little narcissist monster that you might be growing or there’s ways to help the child become self-sufficient and self… Nick McGowan (28:03.466)Yeah. Anne Wallen (28:31.529)self-aware, but also, you know, like help them to develop empathy and help them to develop compassion for others. But a lot of this is not by word. It’s in modeling. And again, we go back to if you haven’t dealt with your shit before you have your baby, it’s going to walk around showing your child how to not be a grownup, but they’re not going to know the difference. Nick McGowan (28:51.529)Yeah. Nick McGowan (28:58.527)And just keep going. Yeah. Anne Wallen (29:00.167)Right, and so even though trauma can be passed on from DNA, right, and it can be passed on cellularly, right, but it’s also passed on just by modeling. Modeling what that reactivity looks like, modeling what that unhealed wound looks like. So, go ahead. Nick McGowan (29:16.329)Yeah. Well, it’s interesting with how the, think about often how the body keeps the score. Bessel van der Kerk wrote about that and there are other people that say, I don’t agree with it and that’s fine. You can say whatever you want. I’ve experienced it. I’ve experienced what it’s like to be able to have bodily reactions at things when my mind’s going, the fuck are you doing? Like, what is this? And it’s like, that ties back literally to my mom as I was a little kid. Anne Wallen (29:24.349)Yeah. Anne Wallen (29:39.315)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (29:45.596)and watching and going, she seems to fly off the handle of things. Note to self, guess that’s how it’s done. Cool, that’s what I’m gonna do. And then you learn later and you’re like, no, that’s not it. she was coming from generational trauma and chaos and wondering how do I pay for this thing? And what the fuck are you crying about? And what’s this? And sometimes that would come out of her mouth. Like, the fuck are you crying about? To go, I don’t know. And maybe she’s just overwhelmed. So even pointing out that people will look. Anne Wallen (29:51.922)Right? Anne Wallen (29:58.568)Hmm. Anne Wallen (30:09.831)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (30:11.727)and say like, yeah, a lot of people are calling people narcissists at this point because it’s like they learned a new word and they go, well, this looks similar. I’m glad that you’re pointing out that it’s actually deeper and not exactly the same thing at all, but sure, there are tendencies to it. Like the babies need us. Aren’t we like the only organisms that really do that though? Like all other mammals basically are like, cool, you’re born, go get it, have at it. And we need people. Anne Wallen (30:26.728)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (30:38.844)Yeah. Nick McGowan (30:41.606)And those people also need the babies because of that connection. It’s wild to think about how things that’ll happen just on a day to day that a parent might think, I was just a little upset or a little cold or whatever, that could change so much with that child. And especially in the formative years. I learned a handful of years ago about a theory called the subconscious winning strategy. that we develop a strategy as a child to go, oh, note to self, this is how I win. This is how I get love. Like my core wounding personally is to not be abandoned or unloved. That comes from being a child. So I figured out, oh, I can make people laugh and I can do these different things that then show up in a certain way. And I learned that about myself, I don’t know, at 38 years old and was like, oh my God, my entire life I’ve been doing this because it just deeply ingrained in us. Anne Wallen (31:15.784)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (31:36.914)Hmm. Nick McGowan (31:39.891)You pointed out self-awareness. That’s one of the biggest things I’ve noticed in every single episode I’ve had on this show, every conversation I’ve had that’s peripheral to the show. If you’re aware of something, you can only then become more aware of it as you’re more aware of it. But you can also push things to the side. I’ve watched parents go, I can’t. I’ve had friends that are parents that they’re like, man, some nights I just fucking can’t even. Anything. Like everybody needs to leave me alone and I just need to stare at the ceiling for a little while. or they dive into some vice, alcohol or something else. So what advice do you have for people that are trying to figure out, I either have a kid and I need to and want to be a better parent, or we’re thinking about having kids, or I’m still kind of reeling from being a kid, and how do they then work through their stuff? Anne Wallen (32:33.106)So I think you could, you know. Anne Wallen (32:39.752)I’m hearing some interference. Are we still together? Nick McGowan (32:42.974)We’re good. Anne Wallen (32:45.128)Okay, this could go off on so many, you’re like the tree trunk just now and there’s so many branches and things that we could just go into off of that. I think one of the things that you have to understand is that narcissism, for example, is a spectrum, right? And so, one end is kind of it’s a healthy self-awareness, self-love, self-protecting, self-serving, right? The other end is where you’re using people in a malignant way. Now, a newborn, I always make jokes with my students, like the newborns don’t read the books, right? They don’t know what the parents think that they’re supposed to be doing. But when they are little and they’re trying to communicate, right? We can, if we’re cold, for example, we can go and manipulate the thermostat, right, to make it whatever we want. If we’re hungry, we go and manipulate the refrigerator door and get a snack. Babies can’t do those things, so they’re not manipulators, right? But what they are is desperately trying to communicate with us, and we have to put aside, and you see many a mom who’s had sleepless nights, dads too, Nick McGowan (33:41.842)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (34:04.029)where they’re just doing whatever it is that the baby seems to be needing and it might just be an overnight, know, shit fast story. You’re just, nobody’s getting sleep, everybody’s crying, like everybody’s crying. And you just have to get through it, right? But the fact that you are trying, the fact that you haven’t just put the baby away and said, I can’t do this anymore, you know, good luck kid, right? The fact that they’re not doing that, Nick McGowan (34:30.332)You Anne Wallen (34:33.224)the baby and informs the baby, I am worth trying for. And so even if they aren’t fixing it, I can see they’re trying. Right? Now, do you need to step away? Do you need to be able to eat, you know, shower, take a crap by yourself? Yeah, of course. Right? And you need to be able to take care of yourself in order to take care of somebody else. And you need to be able to set boundaries and say, you know, Nick McGowan (34:37.445)Hmm. Anne Wallen (35:02.464)I am, and we talked a little bit about personality types before, but I’m an introvert, right? And when you’re looking at the Myers-Briggs, introverts need time alone, away from everybody, away from touch, away from sound in order to rebuild their battery. Extroverts, they need other people to recharge their battery. And so if you’ve got babies who are almost all extroverts in that Nick McGowan (35:15.846)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (35:30.638)stage of their life. They need somebody else for something at all times usually. And you’ve got an introvert parent who’s like, I am all tapped out. I’m in the negative. Like kid, I can’t help you right now. I cannot do anything right now. I need to go, you know, just take a bath or something in silence. Everyone leave me alone. Knowing that about yourself and knowing that this whole scenario is going to change. Because before baby came, You probably had self-care mechanisms or habits or whatever in place that you can say like, okay, I am drained. I went to that party. I’ve been at work all day. I need to just have like an evening of quiet. Well, when you have a baby, there’s no such thing. So being able to plan ahead for stuff like that, knowing yourself, being self-aware enough to say, I know what my needs are in a general way, putting a person into this know, sphere of my everyday life, what do I need to do to keep myself sane while still caring for the needs of this other human being? And being able to build some kind of structure around that. It could be, do I need to live closer to my parents so my parents can help me? Does it mean I need to hire a postpartum doula or a nanny or somebody that’s gonna be able to help take care of the child so that I can take care of me? You know, just, and that’s not selfish. That’s not being a bad parent saying, well, I can’t always meet the baby’s needs 100 % of the time. Who can? Like we have this really unrealistic expectation, this leave it to be for mom mindset, right? Where it’s like, she’s just gonna do everything. She somehow wakes up with makeup on, with her clothes pressed and you know, like she never spent any time on that, right? Well, that’s kind of what we’re expected to do as parents is we’re expected to just be up and ready for the world and ready to take care of this baby 100 % without having any kind of prep or any kind of get ready time? No, that’s not how it really works. But then you have that expectation which makes people then feel like they’re failing. And that’s not fair either. That’s where if you look at postpartum depression, it has gone up and gone up and gone up and it’s in its highest Anne Wallen (37:57.818)in places where, or in family dynamics where nobody’s getting sleep, you know, there’s sleep deprivation going on and there’s no social support. And those are the two key factors. And a third key factor is babies who cry a lot. And babies don’t just cry a lot. So if you know how to meet your baby’s needs, you can understand your baby’s language, if you can anticipate their needs and just kind of, you know, Nick McGowan (38:04.699)Hmm. Anne Wallen (38:27.781)Be prepared as we just keep, I keep saying preparation, preparation, right? But being prepared and understanding what does this cry sound mean? Does it mean hungry? Does it mean pain? Does it mean sleepy, right? What do these cry sounds mean? And then being able to appropriately respond to the baby’s needs and making sure that the baby’s needs are met quickly. These all feed into a satisfied, healthy, happy baby, which, creates calm, satisfied, happy, healthy family, right? And then if you are dealing with trauma triggers where maybe the baby crying is a trauma trigger for you, right? And you haven’t figured out what this baby’s need is, you’re gonna be spiraling and that spiral’s gonna, you’re gonna have anxiety, you’re have the depression, you might even develop other issues. And let me just say one really quick little piece. Nick McGowan (39:08.922)Yeah. Anne Wallen (39:26.823)The news a lot of times says, you know, when a mom kills her babies, right? The news will a lot of times say, oh, she had postpartum depression. That’s not postpartum depression, that’s postpartum psychosis. So postpartum depression and anxiety and OCD and all these other different kinds of mental health disorders, they can turn into psychosis. But psychosis is when you have suspended the connection to reality in such a way that you would do that heinous act, right? And why does it get to that point? Because we’re not getting enough sleep, we’re not supporting our families, not, you know, we’re not like creating this wrap around care for families. And dads need it too, you know, like we think, mom’s got postpartum depression. Dads get postpartum depression too. Nick McGowan (40:09.091)Yeah. Anne Wallen (40:22.797)sleep deprivation will do it to anybody. You don’t even have to have a baby. You sleep deprived somebody for long enough and they’re gonna experience depression and anxiety. And so being aware, preparing for having that help afterward, understanding what is it that your personal wounding might look like and how might that affect the way you’re gonna care for your baby. So for example, you mentioned abandonment. A lot of people have… Nick McGowan (40:30.456)Yeah. Anne Wallen (40:49.807)abandonment issues because of the whole put your baby to cry it out in the bed philosophy that was taught for a long time. It’s not taught anymore, shouldn’t be taught anymore, we know better now. But there’s a lot of adults walking around that that was the way they did it and they’re gonna hear from their mom and dad and everyone, you know, that’s how you should do it. So it feels really unnatural for a reason. Nick McGowan (40:54.585)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (41:09.026)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (41:14.435)It’s that little instinct, that little knowing that awakens in us when we have a baby that tells us, no, that’s not okay. My baby needs me, my baby. That sound is really grating on me. Why? Because it’s meant for us to do something about it. And so being able to look at, there’s a tool that I sometimes will use, it’s called the self-redemption cycle. Nick McGowan (41:27.543)Yeah. Anne Wallen (41:39.705)And you’re really, it’s like this little circle, right? It informs who you are. It informs yourself about who you are. But it takes the core hurt. Have you ever heard of this? So it takes the core hurt and then it looks at what emotions are drawn from that core hurt. And then it says, what are you seeking? What do those emotions tell you about what you’re seeking? And then what kind of behaviors are you gonna do to meet the thing or find the thing that you’re seeking? And then a lot of times those are unhealthy behaviors too. Nick McGowan (41:57.016)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (42:08.398)So then you create a new core hurt for yourself, only to do it all over again. And so it’s important for us to really be aware of what are the triggers, right? What are the things that make us feel abandoned or unloved or whatever our thing is, right? And then be able to work through those things because first of all, going into a birth situation, Nick McGowan (42:08.546)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (42:36.91)You have to advocate for yourself. You have to be able to speak for yourself. You have to be informed enough because we live in a profit driven medical society and you cannot, it’s not that you can’t trust doctors as individuals, but you can’t trust the system to have your back. The system is not built to your wellness. The system is to profit and wellness doesn’t bring profit. And so, Nick McGowan (42:55.81)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (43:06.616)You have, you know, a whole system that I don’t want to say is like designed against you, but you have to be wise going into that. If you’re going to have your baby in a hospital, which not everybody’s having babies in hospitals, I’ve had three at home myself, but if you are going to go into a hospital, you have to know what you’re getting yourself into. You have to know how to handle it. And it’s not the time to be defending yourself or standing up for yourself. you have to feel so safe to be vulnerable, to be able to open your body to let your baby out. And if you don’t, your labor will be dysfunctional. And that psychological piece, which is, I was saying before, like 80 to 85 % of your whole birth experience, it’s not physical. Physically, we breathe, we digest our food, we use the bathroom. We don’t need anybody to coach us how to do those things. We don’t need to read books on how to do those things. Our bodies know how to do it. And it’s the same way with birth. Our bodies know how to give birth. But there’s safety mechanisms built into the process, survival mechanisms. And one of those survival mechanisms is, is it safe out there? Is it safe for the baby who’s super, super vulnerable? Like you said, you know, we’re the only species that’s like, our baby comes out and they are completely and utterly dependent upon us for everything. Nick McGowan (44:30.444)Yeah. Anne Wallen (44:32.068)And so if our subconscious says, it’s not safe for that little vulnerable person to come out, it will shut down labor. And you can give it all the drugs you want. You can give it all the pitocin you want. It’s not gonna receive it. Your brain’s gonna shut down those pitocin receptors and say, nope, it’s not safe out there. She doesn’t like the doctor. Or the lights are too bright. Or yeah, or whatever the reason that’s triggering her. Nick McGowan (44:51.03)Politics. Yeah. Anne Wallen (44:58.884)you know, making her feel unsafe. And it could just be there’s a male doctor and she doesn’t feel comfortable around males in that way, right? And so it could be all kinds of things. As a doula and as a doula trainer, I have seen thousands of different scenarios where, you know, she might love her doctor and feel super safe with her doctor, but she gets to the hospital and guess what? It’s the person on call and she’s never even met them. Right, and now we have a hurdle to get over. And does she feel strong enough and confident in her ability enough to not let that affect her? Or is she, or does she not feel that way? Right, and in the moment, you’re just trying to hang on for dear life. You’re just having labor. You’re just trying to get through it, right? And so all these other psychological factors are really tough to have to. Nick McGowan (45:50.678)Peace. Anne Wallen (45:54.488)navigate, that’s why you’ve got to prepare ahead of time and really have somebody there, whether it’s your partner who’s very well versed and really, you know, knows what you want and is willing to stand up for you, or a doula, or you’re home with your midwife, you know, whatever your scenario, but it’s definitely not for the faint of heart, but it’s also not for someone who is just kinda coming at it willy nilly like, yeah, I got pregnant, yeah, I’m gonna have a baby, and yeah, we’re gonna do this thing called parenting. I mean, you can do it that way, but you’re gonna be on autopilot the whole time. Your reactions to things are not gonna be intentional and worked through the way that they should be for the betterment of your baby, right? Nick McGowan (46:32.246)Hmm. Nick McGowan (46:41.731)yeah. Anne Wallen (46:44.803)The best way to change life on Earth is to change the way we start, right? Nick McGowan (46:50.324)Yeah, what a good way to put that. And especially all of this ties in to so many different pieces, but it’s all similar. Like you go into some big situation, you have to be prepared, but you also need to understand about yourself. And there are people I’m sure that try their best to be as prepared as they can be. Again, I’ve had a few friends that are like, I’ve read every fucking book I could. I talked to everybody I could. Anne Wallen (46:58.522)Mm. Anne Wallen (47:14.777)Yeah. Nick McGowan (47:16.278)And I still expect to screw this kid up in some sort of way, because I’m going to say something weird or whatever. it’s like totally, like you’re just going to do what you’re going to do and your kid’s going to go how they’re going to go. But that’s the sort of like anti-matter in the middle of it. That’s like, well, all that stuff is just going to happen. But as long as you’re best prepared, you’re going to do what you can. Those people that are kind of wandering around that are like, well, we had a baby and like, I still don’t know my stuff or what’s going on. That. Anne Wallen (47:36.558)Yeah! Nick McGowan (47:45.714)level of self-awareness takes many, many, many blocks to get through to be able to get to that point. So the whole purpose of this show is to be able to help people on their path towards self-mastery and really figuring themselves out and living the best life that they can. So for the people that are on that path towards self-mastery, wanting to have a kid or have a kid or are still kind of reeling through the stuff that they’ve been through as a kid, how… What’s your advice for somebody that’s on their path towards self mastery that’s kind of going throughout all that? Anne Wallen (48:19.747)So the number one thing that you can do is to just nurture yourself, right? Nurturing and making it okay to get things wrong. Having self-forgiveness, having self-grace. Because as you go through these blocks, I could tell you just from my own personal experience that going through different, you know, looking at what has happened to me and saying, okay, this event, and I’m gonna sit with how this event makes me feel. until I can take away the power from it. And some people use counseling for that, some people use EMDR. I found EMDR super helpful. I think too, know, alongside having self-grace and having self-forgiveness, being with other people who are healthy psychologically is really important. If you are in a situation or a relationship that is kind of keeping you in I don’t want to say in abuse because maybe the relationship isn’t abusive, but maybe in a situation where you are constantly triggered or you are continually kind of repeating bad habits, right? And you’re recognizing that, but then you’re in this situation where they’re just triggering you and triggering you and triggering you. You got to get away from it to be able to heal it. It’s so tough. to be able to heal something while you’re in the midst of reaction. And honestly, you know, we talked about the word narcissism and the word trauma and things like that. One of the most powerful ways that I feel like people can heal from stuff and actually keep digging into their past and finding the next thing, right? Like, okay, well, I healed from this and now what? What’s the next thing? Nick McGowan (50:17.15)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (50:17.325)You’re subconscious, two things. One, I really believe that your subconscious will always answer you. And before you even finish the sentence, right, you know the answer. That’s your intuition, you can trust it. Right, so being able to say, what’s the thing that is really holding me back right now? You know it, your subconscious just told you what it was, right? And then going through that, working on that, focusing on that. The other thing is, is that for people, A really powerful tool for us to get understanding about something is labeling. So when you are, let’s say narcissism, when you are looking at narcissism, you can say, hey, here’s a behavior. This makes me feel uncomfortable. What is this? Why does this make me feel uncomfortable? it’s gaslighting. I’ve got a word for that. Nick McGowan (50:52.861)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (51:08.148)hehe Anne Wallen (51:09.977)Right? I’ve got a word for the bandwagoning technique. I’ve got a word for flying monkeys. I’ve got a word for all these different things. Right? And so being able to look at your shit and having a label for the different things that you’re experiencing, having a label for the different reactions that you might be having. Number one, it helps you to understand it. It helps you have a little more power over those things rather than it having power over you. But then also, you know, we can Google it. If you have a word that you’re like, my goodness, you know, this thing is really just triggering me. Why does it trigger me? Okay, comes, I can see that it’s stemming back from this thing that happened to me. And like I said, just ask yourself the questions. Just keep asking yourself the questions. And when your subconscious tells you this is what it was, then you can look it up, right? One of the reasons why I learned about narcissism is because I was Googling, why doesn’t my husband like me? How sad is that that you got to ask that question? But I soon found out that it’s one of the list of things in the narcissistic playbook. And so then you start to realize, this behavior happened at this point in my life and at that point in my life and at that point in my life. And because you have a label for it, you can start to identify the root cause. And that’s where you can kind of start taking your power back. Nick McGowan (52:35.719)Yeah. Anne Wallen (52:38.456)and you can rework the programming that’s going on in your head. And so then you’re no longer a robot, just on autopilot. You can have a moment, you could take a moment to pause and say, I’m not gonna respond like that anymore. I’m gonna, I look, I see it for what it is now. And I’m not gonna let that do this thing to me. And I’m not gonna let that do that thing to my child, because I’m not gonna respond the same way anymore. Nick McGowan (52:54.547)Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (53:08.132)And I’ll tell you what, every kid, I really believe this, every child is born to bring the balance. So like if you have, and I apologize for all the noise in the background, I am in New York City. I don’t know if you hear the sirens. They’re about to come right in front of my building, I could tell. All right, they’re gone. Okay, so. Nick McGowan (53:08.231)Yeah. Nick McGowan (53:30.483)Alright. Anne Wallen (53:35.074)give them a second. So when you have, you know, these, this labeling and when you have this balance that the child is bringing into the family, you know, you, you might say, that kid’s a, that’s a wild child or whatever. A wild child compared to what? Maybe you have very placid parents, right? And then the child’s just bringing the balance. They bring in the party. Or you have parents who are, you know, maybe really Nick McGowan (53:35.155)They’re good. Nick McGowan (54:00.989)you Anne Wallen (54:05.061)just super extroverted and then you get this little introverted child because they’re bringing the balance or you have two kids, right? I’ve had my two boys, they’re kind of like in the early middle of the six of them and I had one that was like large muscle. You tell him to dig a hole, he’s gonna be like, how deep and how big and tell me where to go and I’m on it, right? And then you got the next kid. who was very small motor skills, very artistic, you know, just like super minute focus, right? And you tell him to dig a hole and he’d be like, I don’t know how to dig a hole, right? So like they’re opposites, but this is what happens in family structures. It’s like the kid comes in and they fill the gap of what’s missing. This can get tricky if you have stuff that you haven’t worked on in the past, because guess what? Nick McGowan (54:48.443)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (55:02.852)Kids also bring the triggers. So for example, my nine-year-old, love her to pieces, she’s really different from me. It’s a challenge sometimes to be her parent because I don’t know what to do with her half the time because she’s just so different from me. And so that in itself is a little bit of a trigger. And so as a parent, when you are trying to learn, because a lot of times we think, oh, we’re here to Nick McGowan (55:18.096)Hmm. Nick McGowan (55:24.272)Yeah. Anne Wallen (55:32.696)you know, mold and shape this person. But I want to challenge that perception. I think we’re really here to figure out who this person is and help them to be the best of whoever it is that they’re supposed to be. And we’re not really supposed to be directing that all that much at all. Right. And so that also can be really tricky if you don’t know who you are. Right. If you’re if your stuff Nick McGowan (55:57.893)Yeah. Anne Wallen (56:01.496)goes into identifying as, I worthy? Should I speak up? Do I have to fight for stuff? All the different things that go on as a child inside of you, your child, it’s gonna be mirrored back to you. And if you haven’t figured those things out, if you didn’t figure them out as a child, how are you gonna have answers for your kid when they’re going through the same thing? So. getting into and really just there’s actually a book for if you’re pregnant now or if you’re looking at getting pregnant, there’s a book called birthing from within. It’s kind of a whole system. I really like it because it kind of digs into the psychological aspect of, you know, this labyrinth of how were you created mentally, emotionally, and then how are you going to walk or step into parenthood, you know, as a person who can be there for your kid in all these different ways that you’re gonna have, it’s gonna be demanded upon you whether or not you have the skills to meet the needs or not, right? Yeah. Nick McGowan (57:05.967)Yeah, whether you like it or not. man, there’s so much to that. And again, I’m not going to have kids ever. I’m no longer equipped to. And I can think about how these things relate to us as people without kids because we were kids at one point and this ties back. Even the two kids that you have that you talked about, you literally just described my brother and myself. And my dad was like, Anne Wallen (57:25.112)Yeah. Nick McGowan (57:34.359)I understand the one who can dig the holes. I don’t understand why you’re building things and you’re painting. What the hell is this about? I’m gonna stick with the one over here because that makes sense and parents can go to that. They can look at that and they can do those things. But I really appreciate that you’re challenging people to understand the most about themselves and where their things have come from so that they don’t really bring them into anything further unless they go, hey, I learned this before cause I went through some shit. Anne Wallen (57:56.334)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (58:03.077)Here’s how you go about it a little differently, but you do you kid and I’m here to support you. I think that’s a crucial thing that you really pointed out and I appreciate you pointing that out. This has been awesome to have you on today and I appreciate you being with us. Before I let you go, where can people find you and where can they connect with you? Anne Wallen (58:08.109)Yeah. Nick McGowan (58:27.194)Did I totally cut out there? Awesome. So I’d asked where can people find you and where can they connect with you? Anne Wallen (58:36.484)Well, I am like I said the director of maternity wise you can find me there. That’s easy maternity wise calm just like that And you can also find me. I’m a contributor to brains magazine So I have several articles published there and if you want to find me on LinkedIn, I’m Anne Wallen. So hey Nick McGowan (58:58.896)Again, Ann, it’s been great having you on today. I appreciate your time. Anne Wallen (59:01.988)Thank you.

In this episode of Sunrise Life, I interviewed freelance model Katie Marie for a deeply honest, powerful conversation about resilience, boundaries, and building a creative career on your own terms. Katie shares her journey from agency modeling to freelancing, learning how to set her rates, curate her brand, and stop working for free. We also dive into the realities of travel modeling, including one of the most shocking and cautionary “crash photoshoot” stories we've ever shared on the podcast. Beyond the industry talk, Katie opens up about healing from trauma, breaking cycles, and transforming pain into purpose. This episode is raw, grounding, and ultimately filled with hope — a reminder that you can rise, rebuild, and still choose joy. Check her out on IG! https://www.instagram.com/katie.marie.gaudin/ And check out her website (her self published book is in here too!) https://www.katiemariegaudin.com/ 

Most people think marketing, selling, and copywriting are mysterious skills you either "have" or you don't. In this episode, Igor explains why that belief is wrong and how discovering the right system completely changed his results.  

Ray Ray's Podcast — Episode 174 “Ace Diosa”Ace Diosa, a professional model, commercial actress, and mental health advocate, joins Ray Ray's Podcast for an honest and empowering conversation about navigating the entertainment industry while prioritizing mental wellness. Ace opens up about her experiences in modeling and acting, the realities behind the camera, and why advocating for mental health is central to her purpose and platform.From confidence and self-awareness to resilience and representation, this episode highlights the importance of balance, authenticity, and speaking up. Recorded at Hello Studios Dallas, this episode is a must-watch for fans of entertainment, mental health conversations, and personal growth stories. Subscribe for weekly episodes featuring actors, musicians, athletes, entrepreneurs, and community leaders sharing their journeys and lessons learned. Topics & Keywords: Ace Diosa interview, model and actress podcast, commercial acting, mental health advocacy, women in entertainment, confidence and wellness, self-care conversations, Dallas podcast, authentic storytelling, Hello Studios Dallas. Connect with Us:Instagram: @rayrays_podcastWebsite: www.rayrayspodcast.comEmail: ray@rayrayspodcast.com#RayRaysPodcast #AceDiosa #DallasPodcast #MentalHealthAdvocate #ModelLife #CommercialActress #WomenInEntertainment #AuthenticConversations #HelloStudiosDallas

This week, Jason is joined by one of the biggest breakout stars in Netflix's reality TV world, Chloe Veitch! Chloe first rose to fame on Too Hot To Handle, quickly becoming a fan favorite with her humor, honesty, and a big personality. She went on to compete on The Circle and later on Perfect Match, and most recently hosting Sneaky Links After Dark, building a reputation as one of the most recognizable faces on Netflix reality universe. Beyond television, Chloe has leveraged her fame into a career as a model, influencer, and content creator, connecting with millions of fans across social media. Chloe opens up about her early dream of pursuing a career in London's West End, how her relationship with money has evolved, and why she used opportunities as a form of escapism growing up. She shares how getting signed to a boutique London agency at 18 — and taking an unpaid modeling job — unexpectedly led to Too Hot to Handle, plus the reality show she almost joined and why she played The Circle more strategically. Chloe breaks down how TV exposure turns into brand deals, the hard lessons she's learned about valuing income, why being single performs better on reality TV, and the one show she would never do again. She also dives into hosting — landing her first job without an audition but needing to sell the concept to Netflix — getting off ADHD medication, controlling the energy in the room, knowing when to walk away from relationships, launching her Big Sister radio segment with the Unwell Network, the power of loyal followers, standing firm on non-negotiables, and the advice she'd give her younger self. Chloe reveals all this and so much more in another episode you can't afford to miss! Host: Jason Tartick Co-Host: David Arduin Audio: John Gurney Guest: Chloe Veitch Stay connected with the Trading Secrets Podcast!  Instagram: @tradingsecretspodcast  Youtube: Trading Secrets Facebook: Join the Group  All Access: Free 30-Day Trial  Trading Secrets Steals & Deals! Northwest Registered Agent: Northwest is your one stop business resource. Learn how to build a professional website, what annual filings your business needs to stay in good standing, and simple explanations of complicated business laws. Don't wait, protect your privacy, build your brand and get your complete business identity in just 10 clicks and 10 minutes! Visit [https://www.northwestregisteredagent.com/tradingsecretsfree] and start building something amazing! Quince: From Mongolian cashmere sweaters to Italian wool coats, Quince pieces are crafted from premium materials and built to hold up without the luxury markup. Get your wardrobe sorted and your gift list handled with Quince. Don't wait! Go to Quince.com/tradingsecrets for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Upwork: Instead of spending weeks sorting through random resumes, Upwork Business Plus sends a curated shortlist of expert talent to your inbox in hours. Trusted, top-rated freelancers vetted for skills and reliability.... and rehired by businesses like yours. Right now, when you spend $1,000 on Upwork Business Plus, you'll get $500 in credit. Go to Upwork.com/SAVE now and claim the offer before 12/31/2025.

Dr. Shuvro Roy talks with Dr. Rosa Cortese about new ways to improve multiple sclerosis and MOGAD diagnosis, including how AI and imaging could enhance accuracy and influence future care.  Read the related article in Neurology®. Disclosures can be found at Neurology.org. 

The holidays after divorce can feel heavy, emotional, and overwhelming — and I know that personally. In this encore episode, I talk about how we can create more calm, stability, and intention during the holiday season, even when co-parenting feels challenging. I share why waiting until conflict shows up is often too late, and how choosing growth, compassion, and preparation before the holidays arrive can completely change how we experience them. I open up about my own grief around holiday expectations, how I've learned to hold sadness and gratitude at the same time, and why being intentional about how we want to feel matters more than being right. This conversation is about slowing down, getting specific, and deciding how we want to show up—for ourselves and for our children. When we take care of ourselves first, we have more patience, energy, and love to give. Takeaways: How to reduce reactivity during co-parenting holidays Why preparation matters more than perfection Holding grief and gratitude at the same time Modeling emotional maturity for your children If you're feeling overwhelmed or stuck in repeating patterns, I invite you to reach out for a clarity call. You don't have to navigate this alone. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

In this special episode, Adam Butler and Ben Hunt join Matt Zeigler to unpack one of the most charged debates in markets and economics today: whether our official statistics still reflect lived reality. Building on Mike Green's work and Adam Butler's essay The Bureau of Missing Children, the conversation moves beyond the technical definition of poverty to a deeper idea of economic precarity, the growing gap between what we measure and what people actually experience. Together, they explore debt, housing, childcare, labor mobility, AI, and the erosion of meaning in economic language, while wrestling with what policy, community, and human-centered solutions might look like in a world that increasingly feels unstable.Main topics coveredWhy the debate should focus on precarity rather than povertyThe disconnect between inflation statistics and lived experienceHow debt, housing, childcare, and education drive economic insecurityThe idea of a participation budget for modern family formationWhy labor mobility has broken down since the financial crisisHow asset prices and credit intensify risk for householdsThe role of grandparents and off-balance-sheet support in the economyDarwin's wedge, positional goods, and rising costs of everyday lifeThe impact of AI, technocracy, and anti-human incentivesCentralized versus decentralized solutions to today's economic challengesWhat it means to carry the fire and preserve human-centered valuesTimestamps00:00 Introduction and the emotional roots of the precarity debate02:00 Poverty versus precarity and what we are really measuring06:30 Technocrats, narratives, and the limits of economic statistics09:00 Personal experiences with precarity and debt15:00 The Bureau of Missing Children and family formation economics21:00 Modeling household income and participation budgets25:50 Rising costs of childcare, housing, and everyday life33:00 Darwin's wedge and positional competition36:45 Debt, housing, and labor immobility40:00 Grandparents, unpaid care, and off-balance-sheet subsidies46:30 How today differs from 40 or 50 years ago49:40 Labor mobility as a lost engine of opportunity55:00 Policy paths, mission-driven economics, and decentralization01:11:00 Visionary leadership versus bottom-up solutions01:15:50 Carrying the fire and preserving meaning01:17:30 Where to follow Adam Butler and Ben Hunt

What if pregnancy wasn't a reason to pause your training but a reason to get more structured?In this episode, I sit down with Dawn. After three years away from consistent training following the birth of her first daughter, she committed to a structured BBM plan. Four weeks later, she found out she was pregnant.Instead of pulling back, she protected the routine she had just built. She upgraded to unlimited training and continued lifting. Now at 33 weeks pregnant, she is training consistently and feeling more capable than she did during her first pregnancy, when her movement was limited to yoga.We talk about what changes when pregnancy is approached with structure instead of fragility, and how strength training supported both her physical capacity and mental steadiness.We cover:– Why she upgraded to unlimited training immediately after finding out she was pregnant– Training through pregnancy without defaulting to fear or excessive restriction– The difference between feeling limited in yoga versus supported by strength work– Adjusting nutrition from vegan to animal protein to support recovery and energy– Navigating modifications while maintaining intensity– Modeling strength and consistency for her daughterIf you're pregnant or navigating any season that feels like it requires you to slow down- this conversation offers a grounded alternative.DM me if this resonates, or book a Coffee & Goals consultation here:

Episode Description: What if wellness wasn't just a perk, but a leadership necessity? In this Working Forward Conversations episode, Nikki Lewallen Gregory and Jason Cochran flip the script on workplace wellness, diving deep into why wellness is a non-negotiable requirement for modern leadership. From morning meditations and mid-day workouts to setting boundaries and asking for help, they share personal rituals and team-wide practices that fuel sustained capacity and impact. Get a behind-the-scenes of how People Forward Network lives out people-first values, with wellness baked into every level: micro (individual), mezzo (team), and macro (world-changing mission). Whether you're burned out or building a better culture, this convo offers a fresh, energizing perspective on leading well by living well.   Additional Resources: Join the PFN Community! Connect with Nikki on LinkedIn Connect with Jason on LinkedIn Follow PeopleForward Network on LinkedIn Learn more about PeopleForward Network   Key Takeaways: Define wellness clearly for yourself and your organization. Micro habits shape sustained leadership and personal energy. Team rituals protect energy and promote shared accountability. Modeling self-care encourages psychological safety and trust. Wellness supports impact beyond profit.  

It would be great if our kids were naturally buddies, if there were never times of conflict, bullying, and general unlikability. But that's not real life. AllMomDoes host Julie Lyles Carr tackles your question about how to help our kids (and ourselves) with our sibling relationships.Show Notes: https://bit.ly/4adZYiQTakeaways:Sibling relationships are foundational to family dynamics.Fairness in parenting can shape sibling relationships positively.Teaching conflict resolution is crucial for healthy sibling interactions.Adult sibling relationships can be complicated and require clear communication.Repairing relationships after conflict is essential for long-term harmony.Modeling healthy relationships helps children navigate their own.Acknowledging unfair situations can reduce resentment among siblings.Parents should avoid favoritism to maintain sibling bonds.Encouraging independence in sibling relationships fosters stronger connections.Seeking professional help can provide tools for managing difficult sibling dynamics.Sound Bites:"That's so weird. Other moms I know don't do things like that.""I would love to talk about this whole topic of sibling rivalry.""Siblings are all over the Bible, and I don't think it's any mistake.""I want to encourage you to think about the wrapped Christmas batteries.""There is conflict that is appropriate.""Repairing relationships is essential for long-term harmony.""Be clear, put it in writing.""We want things to be as fair as possible."Chapters:00:00 - The Foundation of Sibling Relationships07:07 - Fairness in Parenting11:30 - Conflict Resolution and Communication19:34 - Navigating Adult Sibling Relationships30:00 - The Importance of Repairing RelationshipsKeywords:sibling relationships, parenting, conflict resolution, family dynamics, fairness, communication, adult siblings, family therapy, sibling rivalry, childhood development

Episode Description: What if wellness wasn't just a perk, but a leadership necessity? In this Working Forward Conversations episode, Nikki Lewallen Gregory and Jason Cochran flip the script on workplace wellness, diving deep into why wellness is a non-negotiable requirement for modern leadership. From morning meditations and mid-day workouts to setting boundaries and asking for help, they share personal rituals and team-wide practices that fuel sustained capacity and impact. Get a behind-the-scenes of how People Forward Network lives out people-first values, with wellness baked into every level: micro (individual), mezzo (team), and macro (world-changing mission). Whether you're burned out or building a better culture, this convo offers a fresh, energizing perspective on leading well by living well.   Additional Resources: Join the PFN Community! Connect with Nikki on LinkedIn Connect with Jason on LinkedIn Follow PeopleForward Network on LinkedIn Learn more about PeopleForward Network   Key Takeaways: Define wellness clearly for yourself and your organization. Micro habits shape sustained leadership and personal energy. Team rituals protect energy and promote shared accountability. Modeling self-care encourages psychological safety and trust. Wellness supports impact beyond profit.  

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How do you coach at scale - and still achieve measurable results? In this practical and results-driven episode, join us as Nicole Jansen sits down with Will Linssen, globally recognized leadership coach, CEO of Global Coach Group, and author of Triple Win Leadership Coaching. With his approach impacting over a million leaders across more than 30 countries, Will Linssen shares how leadership coaching can be scaled to deliver measurable results - not just for individual leaders, but for teams and organizations as a whole. Discover the revolutionary "triple win" methodology - an approach that ensures the leader wins, the team wins, and performance outcomes win. Explore why traditional coaching models fall short, how involving coworkers in the coaching process is a game changer, and how organizations can build a culture where everyone levels up together. Tune in as Will Linssen unpacks his journey from engineering to process-driven leadership development, offers data-backed strategies for coaching at scale, and reveals how AI is reshaping the future of leadership. Whether you're a coach, HR leader, or organizational executive, this conversation will reshape how you think about leadership transformation. What We Discuss in This Episode What is "triple win" leadership coaching and why does it matter? Why do most organizations fail to scale effective coaching—and how can that change? The pivotal roles of measurement, consistency, and co-worker feedback What truly drives sustainable leadership growth across an organization? How can coaches create structured AND customized programs for maximum impact? Will Linssen's journey: From industry insider to global coaching influencer The process mindset: Borrowing best practices from other business domains Where coaches, consultants, and organizations are missing the mark (and practical ways to fix it) Leveraging technology and AI for 21st-century leadership development Specific, actionable guidance for coaches growing their practice or impact in companies Podcast Highlights and Timestamps 00:00 – Leadership Is Not About Me, It's About We 01:08 – Scaling Coaching for Real Results 02:06 – Challenges and Solutions 04:00 – Why Classic Coaching Models Fail 05:37 – The Power of Stakeholder Feedback 08:27 – Customizing Leadership for Every Team Member 10:39 – Modeling a Feedback-and-Growth Culture 11:14 – From Industry Frustration to Process-Driven Coaching 13:20 – Building Leaders by Design 16:11 – The Art of Impactful Coaching 19:20 – Training Coaches for the Triple Win 23:33 – A Mindset Shift for Coaches and Organizations 26:43 – The Future of Leadership in the Age of AI Top 10 Takeaways for Triple Win Leadership Coaching Triple win coaching ensures leaders, teams, and business results all improve together. Most traditional coaching fails to deliver measurable, recognized improvement—only 18% of coworkers see change. Involve coworkers in setting leadership goals and gathering feedback for greater engagement, relevance, and results. Structure (a process-driven approach) is essential; it enables, not restricts, customization for every leader and situation. Regular measurement, action planning, and coworker feedback are vital for sustained coaching success. Coaches need both coaching skills and business frameworks - a program that addresses both sets up long-term impact. Leadership transformation is not just for leaders - it must cascade to teams and become part of culture. The process of developing leaders can borrow best practices from operations and project management, ensuring scalability. AI is changing what leaders and coaches need to do - the key shift is leveraging data and feedback to put ideas into action. Lasting transformation depends on taking action. Favorite Quotes On True Leadership: "Leadership is not about the leader. It's not me, it's about we. The more leaders understand that, the more they see coworkers need to be involved." On Results-Based Coaching: "At the end of the day, we're selling results. There's a lot of coaching people sell process, but people want to buy results." On Involving Teams: "If the leader gets better and the team doesn't get better, we're missing the point."  Episode Resources: https://leadersoftransformation.com/podcast/leadership/549-triple-win-leadership-coaching-building-extraordinary-leaders-teams-and-results-with-will-linssen/ Check out our complete library of episodes and other leadership resources here: https://leadersoftransformation.com ________

A surprising theme ran through the last part of our year: when modelers stop chasing perfect and start building what they truly love, everything clicks. Your letters proved it. We heard from builders paring down stashes, organizing tools, and finally tackling “someday” subjects with less guilt and more momentum. That energy shaped our own workbenches too—methodical planning, smarter jigs, and reliable materials turned tricky steps into repeatable wins. Think KV-85 intake screens built with a custom jig, CA used with intention, Mr. Surfacer and thinner cleaning up seams before weathering could ruin them, and decals that go down right the first time.We also talk practical stash strategy. New kits will always tempt us, so here's what works: trade up when the upgrade arrives, and keep a short list of builds you can actually start. We've locked in a tight plan for 2026: an early jet like the Meteor F.1, a buddy build of the HE 162, a quirky Panzerwerfer 42 on the Maultier, and a focused approach to finishing what's already close. Along the way we share community hacks you'll use tomorrow—holographic craft vinyl for prismatic optics, ultra-thin PLA paper alternatives, and the magic of a simple paint inventory app that removes friction at decision time.We wrestle with do-overs too. When is it worth rebuilding a past project, and when should the lesson travel to a new subject? The answer depends on joy. If a vignette still speaks to you, rebuild it with better kits and skills. If not, apply the learning forward and keep moving. That mindset powered our favorite listener stories this year, from club exhibition formats to seeing a dusty stash kit reborn by a friend. It's the community at its best—sharing tips, swapping kits, and cheering each other to the finish line.If you're in a dark time, start small. Fifteen minutes on oil weathering, a single jigged subassembly, a quick decal session with a brand you trust. Momentum beats perfection every time. Subscribe, share with a modeling friend, and leave a review to help others find the show. Then tell us: what's the first kit you're starting in 2026?Tamiya PLA Paper - Super thin styrene sheet materialSQUADRON Adding to the stash since 1968Model Paint SolutionsYour source for Harder & Steenbeck Airbrushes and David Union Power ToolsModel PodcastsPlease check out the other pods in the modelsphere!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Give us your Feedback!Rate the Show!Support the Show!PatreonBuy Me a BeerPaypalBump Riffs Graciously Provided by Ed BarothAd Reads Generously Provided by Bob "The Voice of Bob" BairMike and Kentucky Dave thank each and everyone of you for participating on this journey with us.

SummaryIn this episode, Shannon Valenzuela and Peter Ulrickson explore the significance of the Quadrivium in education and Dr. Ulrickson's unique presentation of teaching these arts in his books A Brief Quadrivium and the accompanying teacher's guide. They discuss the interconnectedness of mathematics and the arts and highlight the unique perspectives offered by each discipline. They explore the importance of modeling, proof, and observation and the role of rhetoric and logic in mathematics. The conversation also addresses the sensory engagement in learning and the value of teaching mathematics classically.Topics Covered:The importance of proof and the power of modelingThe arts of the Quadrivium and their perspectives on cosmic orderThe role of rhetoric and logic in the study of mathematicsEngaging the senses in the experience of learning mathematicsThe transformation of students' perceptions of mathematics through an encounter with the QuadriviumToday's Guest:Peter Ulrickson is a professor of mathematics at the Catholic University of America. In addition to his work on the quadrivium, he publishes original research in various areas of modern mathematics. Professor Ulrickson received his Ph.D. from the University of Notre Dame.For more information about the books: briefquadrivium.comTimestamps:00:00 Introduction03:28 Introduction to A Brief Quadrivium04:07 Exploring Music and Astronomy in the Quadrivium10:01 Proof and Modeling in Mathematics13:09 Developing the Sense for Order20:45 Engaging the Senses in Mathematical Inquiry26:51 The Ordering of the Quadrivial Arts30:48 Exploring the Teacher's GuideResources Mentioned in Today's Episode:Peter Ulrickson, A Brief Quadrivium (publisher, Amazon) and Teaching the Quadrivium (publisher, Amazon)"The Quadrivium and the Stakes for Ordering the Mathematical Arts" by Lesley-Anne Dyer WilliamsUniversity of Dallas Links:Classical Education Master's Program at the University of Dallas: udallas.edu/classical-edSt. Ambrose Center Professional Development for Teachers and Administrators: https://k12classical.udallas.edu/Support the showIf you enjoyed the show, please leave a rating and review — it helps others find us!

In this GoodKind Podcast episode, Clayton, Amy, and Chris explore how artificial intelligence is quietly reshaping everyday life — from school and creativity to productivity and parenting. What begins as a practical conversation about using AI for efficiency quickly turns into a deeper discussion about discernment, formation, and what should (and should not) be offloaded to technology.The team unpacks what AI does well — summarizing information, organizing ideas, brainstorming, and speeding up tasks — while also naming its limitations, including its tendency to sound confident even when it's wrong. They discuss why better prompts matter, how AI can short-circuit learning if used too early, and why struggle and effort still play a critical role in creativity, wisdom, and growth.They also reflect on how parents are already navigating AI in schools, writing assignments, music, and communication — often faster than expected — and why modeling intentional use matters more than setting rigid rules. Throughout the conversation, they return to a central question: Which human is this replacing? — and how that question can guide healthier decisions around technology.If you've ever wondered whether using AI is making things easier at the cost of meaning… or how to integrate helpful tools without letting them become formative forces… this episode offers a thoughtful, grounded framework for using AI with clarity, boundaries, and purpose — especially in family life.You learn how AI works best as a support tool for information and efficiency, not a replacement for creativity or wisdom.Clear prompting leads to better results, while vague questions often produce shallow or incorrect output.AI excels at summarizing, brainstorming, and organizing information — but still requires discernment.Not everything should be offloaded; relationships, creativity, and formation matter too much.Overusing AI can weaken creative and learning muscles, especially for kids.Asking “Which human is this replacing?” helps clarify whether AI use is appropriate.Modeling intentional AI use shapes how children understand effort, learning, and meaning.00:00 Introduction to AI and Everyday Life02:41 What AI Is Good At (and What It's Not)05:28 Prompting, Accuracy, and Discernment08:47 AI, Creativity, and the Cost of Ease12:11 Parenting, School, and Early AI Exposure15:36 Which Human Is This Replacing?18:42 Modeling Healthy Technology Habits21:10 Final Thoughts and Key TakeawaysKeywords:artificial intelligence and families, Christian parenting and technology, AI and creativity, using AI responsibly, parenting in the age of AI, technology and formation, discernment with AI, raising kids with technology, meaningful learning vs convenienceTakeawaysChapters

Relationships in HD — Part 13: Parenting with the End in Mind Description: In Part 13 of Relationships in HD, Pastor Eric unpacks what it means to parent—and disciple—with the end in mind. From Titus 2 to Proverbs 22 and Ephesians 6, Scripture shows that biblical parenting isn't merely about raising compliant kids, but about shaping men and women who love Jesus, think biblically, serve faithfully, and stand strong in a culture that pulls them the other way. This message expands the circle beyond biological parenting. Every mature believer—older men, older women, mentors, youth leaders, and spiritual fathers and mothers—carries a responsibility to invest in the next generation. Pastor Eric walks through the voices that shaped him: parents who were purposeful, a father-in-law who discipled him to Jesus, a youth leader who said “yes” when asked, and a pastor who taught him to keep his feet on the ground and his heart faithful. With honesty, humor, and real-life stories (from toddler defiance to raising sensitive sons and strong daughters), Pastor Eric shows why we must train up children according to their way—their God-given wiring, personality, gifting, and calling—while grounding them in the unchanging truth of God's Word. Parenting with the end in mind means raising boys to become providers, protectors, and humble leaders; raising girls to become wise, strong, compassionate women of God; and raising all children to become functioning members of society and faithful disciples of Jesus Christ. The goal is Jesus. The foundation is Jesus. And if we miss Him, we miss everything. Key Scriptures (NKJV): Titus 2:1–8; Proverbs 22:6; Deuteronomy 6:6–9; Ephesians 6:1–4; 1 Corinthians 11:1; Romans 5:6–8; Matthew 19:13–14. Highlights: Parenting is both biological and spiritual—every mature believer has a role in shaping the next generation. Titus 2 discipleship: older men and older women teaching those coming behind them. Why rebellion isn't inevitable—Scripture calls all believers, including teens, to holiness and self-control. Train up a child according to his way—guiding each child's unique wiring under God's design. Raising sons to provide, protect, lead with humility, and treat women with dignity. Raising daughters to love their families, walk in strength and wisdom, and live self-controlled lives. Modeling repentance and honesty—children don't need perfect parents, but parents who walk with a perfect Savior. The church's calling: producing the next generation of Ricks, Kens, Debbies, and faithful disciplers. The ultimate end: pointing every child—ours or others—to Jesus, the only One who can save. Next Steps: Identify one young person in your home or church you can intentionally invest in this week. Pray through Deuteronomy 6, look for natural moments “when you sit, walk, lie down, and rise up,” and bring God into real-life conversations. Then choose one simple practice—an apology, a conversation about Scripture, or an act of sacrificial love—that points them toward Jesus.

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In this conversation, Darin sits down with his longtime friend, athlete, and powerhouse human Gabby Reece to talk about what it really takes to grow up without shutting down. They go into childhood chaos, the gift and cost of competitiveness, and what it means to stay "dangerous" in the best way as you age — in your body, your relationships, and your purpose. Gabby opens up about losing her father young, being uprooted from the Caribbean, using sport as a lifeline, and eventually navigating fame, motherhood, and a marriage with Laird Hamilton under intense pressure. She and Darin get radically honest about boundaries, addiction, partnership, sleep, hormones, and why women's wisdom in midlife is massively undervalued. This episode is part love letter to long-haul relationships and part tactical playbook for anyone who wants to keep evolving instead of checking out.     What You'll Learn in This Episode 00:00:03 – Darin's SuperLife mission & why this show exists 00:00:32 – Why Darin is obsessed with cellular health right now 00:04:16 – Twenty years of friendship and the wild arc of life with Gabby 00:06:45 – Island roots, being "rudderless," and getting pulled out of paradise 00:08:30 – Losing her dad, a dolphin-trainer mom, and the power of "bonus parents" 00:10:35 – Sports as salvation and why she chose volleyball over basketball 00:12:42 – Modeling to pay for school & navigating a career before NIL existed 00:14:44 – Built-in boundaries, "don't pet the tiger," and self-protection 00:16:44 – Competitiveness, survival, and learning to take radical responsibility 00:18:52 – Imposter syndrome when you're "crushing it" on paper 00:21:37 – Holding the line on food and environment while raising kids 00:23:43 – Laird's deep confidence vs. her self-doubt: two different operating systems 00:25:41 – MTV Sports, doing extreme things, and why intention matters more than spectacle 00:27:35 – Meeting Laird on The Extremist & the early blueprint of their relationship 00:29:52 – When the "fun guy" drinks too much: loving someone and drawing a hard boundary 00:32:33 – Co-creating safety: respect, sobriety, and growing closer instead of apart 00:34:46 – Radical honesty as foreplay for a long relationship 00:37:01 – Female hormones, aging, and the reality of shifting needs 00:40:00 – The body as an antenna: Manna, minerals & energetic upgrades (sponsor) 00:41:25 – Wanting your partner to stay "exciting" without making it their job 00:42:20 – Purpose, drive, and doing life as two sovereign people in one unit 00:44:37 – Kids, meetings, breastfeeding in the car & modeling a different kind of motherhood 00:49:40 – Rituals, school drop-offs, and redefining "fun" as training time 00:50:54 – "Is this aging?": brutal workout days and reframing decline 00:52:42 – Empty nest vs. open bandwidth: watching kids step into a noisy world 00:53:46 – A female-led wellness project with Dr. Gabrielle Lyon, Stacy Sims & others 00:55:29 – Why women move the needle in wellness (and why the industry ignores them) 00:58:56 – No magic pill: the truth about change, discipline, and lazy biology 00:59:53 – Becoming the person you're aiming at before you walk downstairs 01:01:30 – Training as non-negotiable and redefining "fun" in midlife 01:02:29 – Mindy Peltz, menopause, and how culture is failing women in transition 01:05:58 – Shifting from "glue of the family" to embodied wisdom 01:07:41 – A message to young women: skill, service, and soft power 01:08:45 – Harmony when everyone brings their best traits     Thank You to Our Sponsors Fatty15: Get an additional 15% off their 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going to fatty15.com/DARIN and using code DARIN at checkout. Our Place: Toxic-free, durable cookware that supports healthy cooking. Go to their website at fromourplace.com/darin and get 35% off sitewide in their largest sale of the year. Manna Vitality: Go to mannavitality.com/ and use code DARIN12 for 12% off your order.     Join the SuperLife Patreon: This is where Darin now shares the deeper work: - weekly voice notes - ingredient trackers - wellness challenges - extended conversations - community accountability - sovereignty practices Join now for only  $7.49/month at https://patreon.com/darinolien     Find More from Gabby Reece: Instagram: @gabbyreece Podcast: The Gabby Reece Show Website:gabbyreece.com Book: My Foot is Too Big for the Glass Slipper     Find More from Darin Olien: Instagram: @darinolien Podcast: SuperLife Podcast Website: superlife.com Book: Fatal Conveniences     Key Takeaway Develop yourself so you can stand on your own two feet — build real skills, know yourself, and keep evolving — but never believe you have to abandon love or service to do it. Those are the very things that make a strong life worth living.  

In this special “Miami Besties” episode of Not Alone, Valeria brings together the most memorable, honest, and vulnerable moments from her conversations with the women closest to her. The episode begins with friend Vita Sidorkina, whose conversation dives into raising resilient kids, the value of honesty with children, and the Russian cultural principles she still carries. Plus, an open conversation about how “daddy issues” can shape who we choose to marry and life with a husband who is 20 years older. Next, Isabela Grutman reflects on what marrying young taught her, navigating the early modeling world, and the reality of “high-value” men. We also get into long-term partnerships, and what it means to renegotiate your marriage as you evolve. Then, Martha Graeff opens up about her first marriage, the courage it took to prioritize her mental health, and the financial realities of leaving, including why she believes prenups are empowering, not limiting. Finally, Camila Coelho shares her deeply personal experience growing up with epilepsy, from getting diagnosed as a child to managing her condition as an adult, and the stigma that still surrounds it.  Together, these conversations reveal the raw, real, and resilient sides of womanhood, friendship,and the stories that shape us. Shop my looks from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/3190104 Follow me: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky?lang=en Follow Not Alone TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@notalone.pod What we talked about:  0:26 - Setting up the “Miami Besties” Episode 1:53 - Introducing friend Vita Sidorkina  3:22 - Start of Vita  3:26 - Bringing back honest communication with children 5:09 - People being too soft 7:28 - Russian values Vita holds on to 9:50 - Not growing up with childhood trauma 11:15 - Daddy issues & marital age-gaps 15:21 - Introducing friend Isabela Grutman 16:22 - Start of Isabela  16:26 - Wasting people's time 18:06 - Marrying young vs. later in life 21:47 - Modeling at a young age 22:57 - Women looking for high-value men 23:53 - Lessons from marriage 25:15 - Not taking everything personally 26:18 - Renegotiating the marriage terms 30:01 - Introducing friend Martha Graeff 31:07 - Start of Martha  31:28 - Early days with her ex-husband 33:35 - Prioritizing mental health 35:16 - Financial aspect of leaving your marriage 36:09 - Importance of a prenup  38:25 - Introducing friend Camila Coehlo 39:41 - Start of Camila  40:19 - Getting diagnosed with epilepsy as a child 44:00 - Managing her type of epilepsy 45:55 - The stigma around epilepsy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We dive into the three new Grotmas detachments we’ve seen so far.  They Astra Militarum, Chaos  Space Marines and the Blood Angels. You know we’re excited!  Will you see these … Read More

We bring back 21 Questions and open up about purpose as a daily practice, community without the performer's mask, and the skills that turn love from a feeling into a craft. Along the way we get candid about fatherhood, boundaries, and what it takes to feel valued, not used.• Thanksgiving trip reflections and why people matter more than place• Community over celebrity and rejecting meet-and-greets• Purpose as practice and rebuilding self-belief• Discipline versus self-punishment and sustainable routines• Custody stress and rebuilding fatherhood with consistency• Anger as secondary to embarrassment, fear and disappointment• Compatibility versus commitment and why checklists miss the fit• Therapy lessons on communication and conflict resolution• Patterns we create and project in dating• Needed versus valued and the role of reciprocity• Independence inside partnership and keeping your circle• Rethinking love languages beyond what feels good• Joy and risk in love, and losing extended bonds• Teaching sons about integrity, discipline and vision• Modeling partnership as a daily, mutual choiceSubscribe to the motherfucking YouTube. Make sure you scan this link right here to subscribe to the Patreon, to the Safe House. Here are the monologues. We got the shadow work group where we meet every other Saturday.Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

If you've ever felt like raising kids and staying healthy are competing priorities, this episode will change how you think about both.We're bringing together six of our most powerful conversations on parenting — from applying the Five Factors to family life, to helping kids navigate adversity, to designing environments where healthy choices happen naturally.Last week, we published an essay called Your Ceiling Becomes Their Starting Point **— a complete guide to building healthy family habits.This compilation episode is the raw material behind that essay: years of conversations about how to raise resilient kids while maintaining your own health.We explore the frameworks, tactics, and daily practices that transform abstract principles into real family culture.

Smylie Kaufman is joined by golf analytics authority Rick Gehman, the creator of RickRunGood.com and host of CBS Sports' First Cut Podcast, for a deep dive into the world of golf data, modeling, betting edges, and modern player strategy. Rick breaks down how the PGA TOUR is evolving through analytics, why driving is more valuable than ever, how players misinterpret ShotLink data, and where fans can actually find a meaningful betting advantage. Smylie and Rick also get into: - Why baseball analytics paved the way for golf - How players should interpret their own ShotLink stats - Why proximity is one of the most misunderstood metrics - What really wins under pressure - The biggest Ryder Cup mistakes made by Team USA - Why the European model works — and how the U.S. can fix it - Which rising players are primed for breakout seasons - And the surprising ways modern players use (and misuse) data This episode is packed with insight for golf fans, bettors, stat nerds, and players alike. Don't forget to like, comment & subscribe to support the show! CHAPTERS: 00:32 Rick's background: baseball → data → golf 02:08 Building the golf database 03:27 Baseball analytics ⇄ golf analytics 04:38 How data changed modern golf 05:30 ShotLink: what players misunderstand 06:32 How younger players use tech + data 08:12 Why hitting driver is more valuable than ever 10:08 Misleading stats: Proximity explained 12:26 Real strategy: Driver vs. iron off the tee 14:06 Modeling golf courses & comp-course analysis 16:22 What pros ask Rick for (custom reports) 17:31 Predicting performance on new / unfamiliar courses 19:34 Ryder Cup breakdown: U.S. vs Europe strategy 21:03 Where Team USA went wrong 22:49 Pairing mistakes explained (Scheffler/Bryson, etc.) 24:59 Why Europe trusts data more effectively 27:15 If Rick ran Team USA strategy 29:20 Presidents Cup → How USA should use it better 31:36 Shot-shape & trajectory analytics (new radar data) 33:31 “Go-to shots” under pressure 35:02 Darts, proximity, and scoring insights 36:27 NEW stat idea: Strokes Gained Under Pressure 38:41 Bonus Putting metric 40:14 Rising talents who will break out 42:03 Players who maximize limited skillsets 45:06 The importance of speed in the modern game 49:05 Ben Griffin's leap explained 51:28 The Jordan Spieth question 54:11 Chris Gotterup's ceiling 56:00 Outro + In memoriam for Scott Hulme #TheSmylieShow #RickGehman #GolfAnalytics #PGATour #GolfBetting #GolfStats #RickRunGood #GolfPodcast #DataGolf #ShotLink #GolfStrategy

Stacy sits down with licensed depth therapist and author of the new book, The Motherhood Myth, Vanessa Bennett, to unpack why so many women feel overwhelmed, overextended, and exhausted by unseen emotional labor. Through the lens of depth psychology, they explore the “have it all” trap, the inner patriarchy, self-abandonment, inherited power systems, and the cultural scripts still shaping modern motherhood and partnership. From modeling conflict for our kids to untangling the sister wound and reclaiming our needs, this conversation offers clarity, validation, and a grounded path toward finally stepping off the hamster wheel. 0:00 | Vanessa Bennett & depth psychology 2:00 | Feminism, equality & the “have it all” trap 6:30 | Emotional labor, burnout & the hamster wheel 10:00 | Modeling conflict & repair for our kids 12:45 | Inner patriarchy & self-abandonment 16:00 | Power systems we inherit without realizing 18:30 | Marriage roles & old scripts that linger 22:00 | Sex, needs & emotional outsourcing 27:00 | Sister wound, witch wound & lost community 32:00 | Emotional intelligence as “both/and” 35:00 | Practical steps to stop self-abandoning 39:00 | Where to find Vanessa's work See complete show notes and more at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠realeverything.com⁠⁠! Find Vanessa: vanessabennett.com instagram.com/vanessasbennett https://www.vanessabennett.com/books Find Stacy: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠realeverything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/realstacytoth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠missionmakersart.com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠missionalchemists.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices