Podcasts about modeling

In this episode of Over 50 & Flourishing, I sit down with Susan Holmes McKagan for a conversation about reinvention, courage, and playing the long game.After a successful career as a 90s supermodel, Susan pivoted in her late 40s and enrolled in Harvard Graduate School to deepen and refine her craft as a writer. She shares what inspired that decision, what it felt like to be older than many of her classmates, and how the academic rigor sharpened her writing and strengthened her discipline.We also talk about her nearly 27-year marriage to Duff McKagan of Guns N Roses. How they met on a blind date, what keeps their relationship strong, and what it was really like raising two daughters while navigating life on tour. Susan offers an honest look at the pros and challenges of being married in the rock and roll world and why longevity in love, just like career, requires intention and growth.In this episode, we discuss:Why Susan chose to go to Harvard Graduate School in her 40s after a successful modeling careerWhat it felt like to be the outlier in the classroomHow her writing sharpened and evolved after graduate schoolHow she met Duff McKagan and built a lasting marriage in rock and rollWhat tour life was like while raising a familyThe importance of taking leaps of faith at any ageWhy following your passion matters more than playing it safeHow benefiting from the long game leads to lasting successFor more on Susan Holmes McKagan, follow her on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanholmesmckagan/?hl=en Twitter/X: https://x.com/SuHolmesMcKagan Susan's book, The Velvet Rose: https://a.co/d/0cZfZwW8 Three Chords & The Truth: https://duffmckagan.com/radio-show/ Thanks to my Sponsors:Ritual: Save 25% on your first month at Ritual.com/OVER50 Hers: If you want clearer insight into your health, go to https://ForHers.com and schedule your labsAudible: Go to Audible.com/BigAgeSeries to start listening todayHoneylove: Save 20% off Honeylove at Honeylove.com/OVER50 Manukora: Head to Manukora.com/FLOURISHING to save up to 31% plus $25 worth of free giftsBloom Nutrition: Go to bloomnu.com and use code OVER50 for 20% off your first order. Keep in Touch:Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://dominiquesachse.tv/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://dominiquesachse.tv/book/Insta: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/dominiquesachse/Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DominiqueSachse/TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@dominiquesachse?lang=enYouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@dominiquesachsetvHave a question for Dominique? Submit it here for a chance to have it answered on the show! https://forms.gle/MpTeWN1oKN8t18pm6 Interested in being featured as a guest? Please email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠courtney@dominiquesachse.tv⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We want to make the podcast even better. Help us learn how we can: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/2EcYbu4⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

America Out Loud PULSE with Dr. Randall Bock – Jonathan Leaf challenges the habit of modeling human nature on chimpanzees, arguing that the comparison distorts how we understand war, obedience, language, and belonging. He proposes that humans resemble cooperative herd animals more than violent primates, reshaping debates about evolution, identity, and social behavior...

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America Out Loud PULSE with Dr. Randall Bock – Jonathan Leaf challenges the habit of modeling human nature on chimpanzees, arguing that the comparison distorts how we understand war, obedience, language, and belonging. He proposes that humans resemble cooperative herd animals more than violent primates, reshaping debates about evolution, identity, and social behavior...

What happens when a "late-starter" ER doc finally hits FI at 60, then must figure out how to actually spend the money without blowing it—or hoarding it forever? Bill joins Mindy and Scott on the BiggerPockets Money podcast to walk through his full "caught up to FI" debrief. Here his decade-long sprint from single-digit savings to 40%, taking his money back from a private bank, and the 60th-birthday retirement-readiness check that came back with a 100% success rate. From there, they dig into his move from a simple three-fund portfolio to a risk-parity setup, why he hired a flat-fee planner after years as a DIY investor, and how he's using FI to buy back time and jump-start his kids' wealth with Roth IRAs, HSAs, and tax-savvy living gifts. This episode covers:  ➡️ Going from "rich but broke doctor" to FI in about 10 years ➡️ Boosting a savings rate from single digits to ~40% without feeling deprived ➡️ Shifting from a three-fund portfolio to a risk-parity decumulation strategy ➡️ Using flat-fee, advice-only planner instead of 1% AUM ➡️ Order of withdrawals: taxable, pre-tax, Roth, plus asset location ➡️ Modeling taxes, RMDs, and Social Security timing in real life ➡️ Building a "3-1-1" spending plan for needs, comfort, and luxury/giving ➡️ Helping adult kids fill Roth IRAs and HSAs as part of generational wealth ➡️ Weighing when to actually leave medicine once money is no longer the boss   ==============================   DEALS & DISCOUNTS FROM OUR TRUSTED PARTNERS   MONARCH MONEY The modern way to manage money! Monarch will change the way you organize your financial life. Track, budget, plan, and do more with your money – together. Get 50% off the first year using this link and entering code: CATCHINGUP50   For a full list of current deals and discounts from our partners, sponsors and affiliates, click here: catchinguptofi.com/our-partners    SUPPORT  THE  SHOW

Please reach out to me at icandocoaching@pm.me for public speaking coaching.This is a special episode that I'm calling Wednesday Remix. I was a guest on the Total Potential podcast (please subscribe https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/total-potential/id1510966470) a few years ago and wanted to share my conversation with Cole. SummaryIn this episode, Benjamin Lee shares five practical ways to let go of worry, especially in the context of parenting. Drawing from his personal journey, faith, and extensive experience, he offers actionable insights to help listeners manage anxiety and cultivate peace.Key TopicsTypes of worry and their rootsBiblical perspective on worry and trust in GodPractical exercises to identify and release worryThe importance of routines and habits in managing stressFaith and mindfulness as tools for peaceChapters00:00 Introduction and episode overview01:14 Benjamin Lee's background and journey06:52 Worry in the context of parenting08:13 Personal experience with worry and stress10:52 Different buckets of worry and their roots13:06 Practical steps to identify worries15:15 Trusting in God's control and promises18:03 The role of suffering and life's challenges21:08 Distinguishing between worry and concern26:49 Strategies to stay present and manage worry31:56 Taking action to reduce worry38:52 Faith practices to combat worry49:52 Modeling calmness for children51:13 Teaching children about worry and response52:32 Resources and closing thoughtsFor all my episodes - https://icandopodcast.comBooks, Clothing, Blogs - https://benjaminlee.blog

Robin Zander hosted a Snafu webinar for the Sidebar community on non-sales selling—think self-promotion for career transitions, freelancers, entrepreneurs, and product people. The goal: learn to "sell yourself" without the ick factor.   Participants shared fears: follow-ups feel intimidating, sales feels slimy, and success seems like a numbers game. Robin reframed it: selling is really about enrollment—being a chief evangelist for your work, not begging for attention.   Drawing on stories from his childhood pumpkin patch, his time as a personal trainer (where desperation lost him clients), and opening Robin's Cafe in San Francisco (raising $40k, serving multiple stakeholders, training staff with Danny Meyer's principles), he showed the difference between selling from need vs. service. Long-term success comes from genuine connection, curiosity, optimism, and passion.   Attendees explored their "authentic attitude" and reflected on times self-promotion felt good versus slimy. Exercises included mapping all the people who benefit from your work—employees, customers, managers, mentees, community—and practicing generosity in selling (a "Miracle on 34th Street" mindset: help customers even if it means sending them elsewhere).   In Q&A, Robin tackled: Asking for promotions as modeling for others, especially women and minorities Persistence in follow-ups (yes, emailing Mark Benioff 53 times counts) Relationship-based enterprise selling Avoiding fear-based AI marketing by knowing who you serve and what problem you solve Recommended reading: Setting the Table (Danny Meyer), Unreasonable Hospitality (Will Guidara), The New Strategic Selling.   Robin also shared upcoming Snafu conference details (March 5, Oakland Museum of California) and reminded everyone: Snafu = situation normal; all fucked up. 00:00 Start 01:06 Audience Fears About Selling Robin Zander welcomes 93 participants to the webinar Notes the session is interactive with exercises planned Encourages participants to drop questions in chat or interrupt him Last 15–20 minutes reserved for questions Robin introduces himself briefly Focuses on storytelling as a tool for self-promotion Shares experience as a community builder Runs a conference called Responsive since 2016 (not Snafu) Tools, structures, and company cultures for resilient organizations Two-day event each September on the future of work Focus on building resilience in organizations Observations on rapid change Technology and work-life changes happening at a fast pace Questions about resilience in individuals Traits needed in careers, personal relationships, professional relationships Ability to stay resilient through change Robin frames his expertise Emphasizes his strength in asking questions and fostering honest conversations Labels himself a reluctant salesperson Not the world's leading expert on self-promotion or selling Key lessons from research and interviews Two buckets matter in business and life: Example: Sidebar community forming coalitions for learning and action Operational excellence: being competent and at least as good as others Promotion/enrollment/sales: standing up, saying what you want, building coalitions Started interviewing people about influence and persuasion Started a weekly newsletter called Snafu Written by hand, not AI Shares lessons from his life and others about self-promotion and resilience Focus on courage to take action: raising hand, offering something valuable Core characteristics of self-promotion and selling yourself Connecting with others: art of connection Courage to ask: inspired by Amanda Palmer's TED Talk and book The Art of Asking Opposes traditional "always be closing" sales mentality Advocates for simply asking for what you want Current work mostly involves storytelling for large companies Clients include Supersonic, Airbnb, Zappos, and others 12:25 Service as the Core Principle Robin introduces the concept of storytelling for self-promotion Stories used to: Get promotions Build coalitions Propel career or organizational growth Emphasizes turning personal, career, or company stories into "commercials" Focus of today's talk: self-promotion with impact Core principle: service Showing up from a place of helping others Through helping others, also helping oneself Distinguishes between sleazy salespeople and effective self-promoters Childhood anecdote: Robin's pumpkin patch Tended plants all summer, learned responsibility and care Harvested pumpkins and sold them using a small red tin box labeled "money" Ran "Robin's Pumpkin Patch" for five to seven years At age five, father had him plant pumpkin seeds Engaged neighborhood kids for fun, collaborative promotion Explained product (pumpkins) enthusiastically to potential buyers Used scarecrow costumes and creative gestures to attract attention Lessons learned from pumpkin patch: Authentic enthusiasm creates value Helping people do what they were already inclined to do Early experience of earning and serving simultaneously Self-promotion is most effective when it's service-driven, not manipulative Applying childhood lesson to career and business Asking for a raise Persuading companies to choose one service over another Promoting oneself or others (e.g., Evan, web developer) Key principle: approach self-promotion from delight and service, not need or fear Authentic enthusiasm as foundation for: Interactive exercise for participants Not influenced by sleep deprivation or stress Could be inspired by childhood or adult experiences Opposite of fear; personal and unique for each participant Question posed: what is your authentic attitude when self-promoting? Examples shared from participants: Curiosity Passion Inspiration Service to others Observation Possibility Insight Value Helping others Creativity Belief in serendipity Optimism Key takeaway from exercise and story Promoting from delight, enthusiasm, and service Promoting from need or fear Two versions of self-promotion: Effective self-promotion aligns with authenticity and enthusiasm, creating value for others while advancing oneself 18:36 Gym Job and Needy Selling Robin shares the next story and sets up the next exercise Gym culture is sales-heavy Initial motivation: love of fitness, desire to help people Quickly realizes environment incentivizes personal trainers to sell aggressively Timeframe: ~20 years later, at age 20, moved to San Francisco First post-college job: personal trainer in gyms Early experience at gyms Key lesson from early failure Selling from need feels gross Promoting oneself from fear or desperation leads to poor results Recognizes similarity to unwanted sales calls received personally First authentic success in self-promotion Worked at Petro and World's Gym in San Francisco, Pilates instructor Owner confronted Robin after two weeks: no clients, potential clients being lost to others Threatened termination by Friday if no clients acquired Robin froze under pressure, approached clients but with needy, desperate energy Outcome: fired by Friday, left gym Encounters man in pain on Valencia Street, offers help as personal trainer Approach comes from genuine care, desire to serve Leads to three-year working relationship, consistent sessions, good income Next client: world-famous photographer Michael Light at UCSF swimming pool Client comes from natural connection, not pushy salesmanship Dichotomy observed: Pushy, need-based self-promotion → freeze, poor results Service-oriented self-promotion → natural connections, sustained relationships Exercise for participants Prompt: identify two moments: One time self-promoting felt slimy → what were you doing? One time self-promoting felt good → what were you doing differently? Two-minute reflection / chat participation Participant reflections/examples Slimy examples: Interviewing for a job during layoffs, giving desperate energy Selling P&L at a hyperscaler Selling computers and printers in UK post-college Sales emails getting ghosted Feeling inauthentic or performative, taking advantage of someone Good examples: Offering services out of care and love rather than ROI Showing impact of work to junior child Knowing services add real value and solve a challenge Being clear on what the other person needs Key takeaway Self-promotion feels different depending on intent and knowledge Slimy → desperate, inauthentic, unclear value to recipient Authentic → service-driven, clear value, connection-focused Effective self-promotion combines knowing your value and serving others, not just pushing for personal gain 25:35 Miracle on 34th Street Lesson Feeling good in self-promotion comes from genuinely helping, solving problems, and sharing information Santa Claus hired at Macy's to hold kids and give candy canes, but real goal: persuade parents to buy from Macy's Santa instead sends parents to competitor to truly serve them Macy's manager initially furious Outcome: customers feel genuinely served, return praising Macy's, become loyal fans Robin references Miracle on 34th Street (original version) Key insight: providing real value, even if it benefits someone else, eventually returns value to you "Put enough bread across the water, eventually good things come back" Participant reflections Slimy: knowing audience expects judgment, catering to them for approval Good: giving the gift of knowledge, providing service freely Takeaway: authentic self-promotion is rooted in service, generosity, and sharing expertise, not manipulating for immediate gain 27:45 Starting Robin's Cafe Through Service Robin shares a major professional turning point: opening Robin's Cafe in 2016 No restaurant experience beyond college busing tables Opened in three weeks, eventually grew to 15 employees by 2018 Worked in multiple industries: Pumpkin patch, personal trainer, circus performer Opened a café/restaurant in Mission District, San Francisco Courage and conviction came from clear focus on service to others Employees: create a great workplace, go-giver culture Investors: $40k raised from friends/family, provided value and potential return Landlords (ODC, nonprofit dance center): wanted success of business to support community Customers: diverse—tech workers, kids in dance classes, local community Robin himself: financial sustainability, learning, personal growth Key audiences served by Robin's Cafe Approach to challenges Used Danny Meyer's Setting the Table as a service-focused framework for employees Philosophy: "giving in order to get paid" Examples: spouse, kids, dog, manager, peers, mentees, clients, community, customers, extended family, mentors Served multiple stakeholders during crises: break-ins, flooding, city permitting, neighborhood issues Exercise: identify all the people who benefit from your work or success Key idea: the more stakeholders served, the easier self-promotion becomes, because it comes from service, not need or pressure Show up thinking: does this serve the person I'm talking to? Principle: selling yourself from a place of service Consider multiple stakeholders simultaneously Audience question: elaborate on applying this service mindset specifically to asking for a promotion Tying service to self-promotion in career advancement Result: asking for a raise, applying for jobs, pitching clients—all easier and more authentic 38:11 Promotion As Service Asking for a promotion from a place of service Example: doing the role already, deserving recognition, asking for what you believe you've earned. Personal perspective: advocating for yourself is a form of service to yourself Recognize other stakeholders in the process: Modeling courage and advocacy for the next generation Authority enables ideas to be taken more seriously Stories gained from new responsibilities enhance value to clients or teams People you mentor, especially women or underrepresented groups The organization: your promotion can make it stronger Your family or children: showing them what it looks like to advocate Concrete examples Outcome: trajectory of career positively influenced, demonstrated courage, modeled behavior Asking first time for a manager role Later asking for VP title as a director Courage and small steps Courage = acting despite fear, not absence of fear Practice by taking incremental steps toward what scares you Avoid masking or hesitation; direct action builds confidence and results Persistence and follow-up Busy people require patience and multiple nudges Example: Mark Stubbings emailing Mark Benioff 53 times before a yes Persistence = respectful, consistent follow-ups Role modeling for women and minorities Demonstrates that asking is a normal, expected, and service-oriented act Many don't ask for promotions or raises due to upbringing or cultural norms Modeling advocacy teaches the next generation, including children, to speak up Service mindset in practice Approach self-promotion by asking: is this good for the other person? Keep intention aligned with service, not desperation Books for guidance: Setting the Table – Danny Meyer: service-driven sales and employee culture Unreasonable Hospitality – Will Guidara: lessons from the restaurant world on giving value and delight Key takeaways for promotion and asking Serve yourself, your mentees, your organization, and your broader audience Take small, courageous steps to ask for what you deserve Follow up respectfully and consistently; don't assume silence = no Self-promotion becomes easier and authentic when rooted in service, not fear or need Snafu Newsletter Weekly newsletter written by Robin Covers influence, persuasion, and modern workplace dynamics A resource for ongoing learning and practical insights 56:55 Where to Find Robin Robin's newsletter covers influence, persuasion, and modern work. Snafu Conference Responsive Conference Robin Zander on social medias  

Ace Diosa joins Target Talk to talk about her journey from Houston to building a name for herself in modeling and beyond. She reflects on how she got started, the early lessons that reshaped her confidence, and the moment she began thinking of herself as more than just talent. We get into the reality of the industry, what people don't see behind the scenes, and what separates those who last from those who don't.She also talks about creating StrutByAce, stepping into mentorship, and launching her podcast Unretouched, a space focused on honest conversations around modeling, identity, and mental health. From navigating pressure to choosing peace, Ace shares what she's learned about ownership, growth, and building something that lasts.Follow her: @acediosa

Anjelica Huston has lived many lives, all with grace and charisma. As the daughter of John Huston (director of The African Queen, The Maltese Falcon, and more) she was movie royalty from birth. But she grew up in rural Ireland and went to high school in Swinging-Sixties London. That meant she developed a set of values far removed from Hollywood high society. Her first career was as a high-end fashion model, a favorite subject of Richard Avedon and later a muse of Halston. But she had always wanted to be a movie actress, and she spent time in the trenches, working on her craft in classes and smaller roles before her Oscar-winning turn in Prizzi's Honor. Right as she was leaving the photo studio for the movie studio, she met Jack Nicholson: "he made me laugh," she tells Alec. The couple defined Hollywood cool for almost two decades. Huston tells Alec the story of all of her transitions -- romantic, professional, and geographic. Her two wonderful memoirs are A Story Lately Told and Watch Me. Originally aired April 7th, 2020. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this heartfelt and expansive episode of Hidden Wisdom, Meghan Farner is joined by Shayna Persad, yoga teacher, womb healer, astrologer, and creator of Healing with Shayna, for a powerful conversation on conscious motherhood as a path of spiritual awakening.Shayna shares her journey from a Catholic upbringing into divine feminine embodiment, womb wisdom, and conscious parenting—exploring how children act as mirrors for unhealed wounds, nervous system dysregulation, and inherited patterns. Together, Meghan and Shayna unpack the difference between conscious parenting and permissive parenting, the role of boundaries, and why many “good” children are actually responding to trauma rather than safety.This episode weaves together spirituality, psychology, astrology, and motherhood to reframe parenting not as control or hierarchy, but as partnership, guidance, and soul-level remembrance. They also explore how our views of parenting shape our views of God, authority, and agency—and why healing the “bad mom” wound is essential for feminine wholeness.00:00 | Introduction to Shayna Persad & conscious motherhood01:05 | Shayna's spiritual roots: Catholicism, angels, and the divine feminine05:55 | Yoga, Bali, and awakening into feminine spirituality08:10 | Bridging religion and spirituality12:30 | Astrology and surrender vs control15:20 | Growing up without feminine models16:40 | Healing the mother wound through motherhood19:30 | What conscious motherhood really means21:35 | Children as mirrors for inner healing23:10 | Why “good” children may not feel safe25:25 | Parenting, God, and rethinking authority29:10 | Healing isn't linear31:20 | Working with triggers in daily parenting32:50 | Journaling, meditation, and nervous system regulation35:45 | Children sharing the mother's energetic field37:00 | Using astrology to understand your child40:35 | How awareness heals trauma43:40 | Healing comes from within, not outside authority47:30 | Conscious vs permissive parenting49:30 | Modeling behavior over control50:45 | Acceptance and allowing children to be who they are53:20 | The “bad mom” wound55:25 | Why good moms question themselves56:35 | Repair, apology, and conscious parenting in practice Join the Contemplative Prayer + Meditation Q&A with Meghan and Phil McLemore, on February 16th at 7pm MT. Register here! Hidden Wisdom initiates truth-seekers into the Mysteries, guiding listeners toward a lived experience of the Divine that awakens and transforms faith—without dismantling family or community. Pursue your Journey: ✨ Hidden Wisdom App – Coming Spring 2026! Pathway programs, community, library, events and more! Join the waitlist for updates, sneak peeks, and discounts!

What if AAC feels heavy in your classroom, not because you're doing it wrong — but because you've been carrying pressure that was never meant to be there? In this episode, we reflect on what unfolded during AAC Bootcamp and explore the invisible weight educators, SLPs, and caregivers often carry when supporting AAC users. From second-guessing modeling to worrying about prompt dependency, progress monitoring, and team hesitation, this conversation gently reframes what AAC is actually meant to be. AAC is not about performance. It is about exposure. You'll hear real classroom examples of what modeling without expectation looked like in action, what shifted when adults removed pressure, and how teams began moving from urgency to presence. This episode centers regulation, access, and sustainability — because support works best when it fits daily life. In This Episode, You'll Learn • Why AAC often feels fragile or intimidating in school settings • The hidden performance pressure educators carry around communication • The difference between modeling for exposure and modeling for output • What modeling without expectation actually looks like in real routines • Why slow AAC growth is expected — and meaningful • How core boards increase language visibility across the classroom • What changes when devices become part of classroom culture • How to support paraprofessionals and team members in feeling confident with AAC • Why advocacy increases when educators feel clear and grounded • How shifting from outcomes to opportunities changes everything Key Takeaways • AAC is not about performance — it is about exposure • Modeling without expectation reduces pressure and builds trust • Communication grows through consistent, low-pressure modeling • Slow progress does not mean ineffective support • When nervous systems are supported, learning becomes possible • Language should be visible and available across routines • Confidence across teams increases access for students • Culture shifts happen when adults align around shared understanding • Access reduces pressure Try This • Choose one daily routine — snack, art, sensory bins, or transitions — and model one or two core words naturally without pausing for imitation • Place one core board in a high-use area to increase visual exposure • Share this phrase with your team: "We're modeling for exposure, not performance." • Focus on consistency over intensity Related Resources & Links Autism Little Learners Membership (includes full AAC Bootcamp replay): www.autismlittlelearners.com/pod AAC Companion Pack AAC Strategies: Building Buy-In to Help Teams Embrace AAC as a Child's Voice Gestalt Language Processing & Music Communication, Autism & AAC: Why AAC Is Not a Reward  AAC and Dysregulation: Why Kids Can't Use AAC When They're Dysregulated When adults move from pressure to presence, classrooms feel safer. When we trust exposure, language grows. Connection is the foundation.

Some comments linger longer than they should. A tone, a look, an offhand remark from your partner, your child, or a friend can spiral into a story in your head before you even realize it. This conversation unpacks what it really takes to not take things personally, especially in the relationships that matter most. From defensiveness and truth triggers to slowing down your reactions and separating someone else's mood from your responsibility, we share practical mindset shifts that create more peace at home and in your friendships.Key Topics Covered:• The connection between defensiveness and hidden truths.• Why pausing before reacting changes everything.• Separating your partner's emotions from your own sense of worth.• The role tone plays when giving and receiving feedback.• Helping kids regulate before expecting repair or apology.• Teaching children awareness of how their words impact others.• Navigating the sting of feeling like a means to an end as a parent.• Modeling reciprocal conversations and emotional awareness at home.• How past friendship wounds shape present reactions.• Real life examples of working through friendship conflict without escalation.LINKS AND RESOURCES:HERSELF AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastLet's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Feeding choices carry an enormous emotional weight for new parents, often shaped more by online narratives and cultural pressure than by balanced evidence. In this conversation, we unpack formula guilt, breastfeeding myths, and how distorted risk messaging fuels shame. We talk about how understanding research in context can help parents move away from fear-based thinking and toward informed, values-based decisions that support both parent and baby. The episode also explores the long-term impact of early feeding shame on maternal confidence. Feeding is often the first major parenting decision, and how a parent navigates it sets the tone for future choices. We focus on strengthening self-trust, rejecting stigma, and recognizing that child outcomes are driven by complex environmental and social factors, not a single feeding method. What we discussed: Why parents feel guilt around formula feeding How online activism shapes feeding narratives Evaluating whether sources of information are trustworthy Misleading statistics and risk exaggeration Relative risk vs absolute risk in infant illness The psychological harm of formula shaming Why stress can worsen milk supply struggles Breastfeeding benefits in realistic context Why breastfed babies still get sick The role of environment and exposure to germs Myths about allergies, IQ, and milestone differences How child development is multifactorial Socioeconomic factors in feeding research Sibling comparison studies and feeding outcomes Why shame damages maternal bonding Strengthening decision confidence early in parenting Owning feeding choices without apology How openness reduces stigma for other parents Modeling self-trust for the parenting journey Letting go of guilt about long-term outcomes Want more? Listen to the full, original episode. Check out Mallory's new book, "Bottle Service": https://www.amazon.com/Bottle-Service-Encouragement-Guilt-Free-Successful/dp/1668088762 Our podcasts are also now on YouTube. If you prefer a video podcast with closed captioning, check us out there and ⁠subscribe to PedsDocTalk⁠. Get trusted pediatric advice, relatable parenting insights, and evidence-based tips delivered straight to your inbox—join thousands of parents who rely on the PDT newsletter to stay informed, supported, and confident. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠! And don't forget to follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠@pedsdoctalkpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram—our new space just for parents looking for real talk and real support. We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on the ⁠PedsDocTalk Podcast Sponsorships⁠ page of the website.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feeding choices carry an enormous emotional weight for new parents, often shaped more by online narratives and cultural pressure than by balanced evidence. In this conversation, we unpack formula guilt, breastfeeding myths, and how distorted risk messaging fuels shame. We talk about how understanding research in context can help parents move away from fear-based thinking and toward informed, values-based decisions that support both parent and baby. The episode also explores the long-term impact of early feeding shame on maternal confidence. Feeding is often the first major parenting decision, and how a parent navigates it sets the tone for future choices. We focus on strengthening self-trust, rejecting stigma, and recognizing that child outcomes are driven by complex environmental and social factors, not a single feeding method. What we discussed: Why parents feel guilt around formula feeding How online activism shapes feeding narratives Evaluating whether sources of information are trustworthy Misleading statistics and risk exaggeration Relative risk vs absolute risk in infant illness The psychological harm of formula shaming Why stress can worsen milk supply struggles Breastfeeding benefits in realistic context Why breastfed babies still get sick The role of environment and exposure to germs Myths about allergies, IQ, and milestone differences How child development is multifactorial Socioeconomic factors in feeding research Sibling comparison studies and feeding outcomes Why shame damages maternal bonding Strengthening decision confidence early in parenting Owning feeding choices without apology How openness reduces stigma for other parents Modeling self-trust for the parenting journey Letting go of guilt about long-term outcomes Want more? Listen to the full, original episode. Check out Mallory's new book, "Bottle Service": https://www.amazon.com/Bottle-Service-Encouragement-Guilt-Free-Successful/dp/1668088762 Our podcasts are also now on YouTube. If you prefer a video podcast with closed captioning, check us out there and ⁠subscribe to PedsDocTalk⁠. Get trusted pediatric advice, relatable parenting insights, and evidence-based tips delivered straight to your inbox—join thousands of parents who rely on the PDT newsletter to stay informed, supported, and confident. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠! And don't forget to follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠@pedsdoctalkpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram—our new space just for parents looking for real talk and real support. We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on the ⁠PedsDocTalk Podcast Sponsorships⁠ page of the website.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Our guest speaker, Antoine Destin, continues our Storm Proof series with a message titled, "Modeling Peace".

Episode #1100 In this revisit of a fan-favorite episode, Doug Holt is joined by his wife, Erin, to discuss the small, intentional shifts they use to raise resilient and self-aware children. Parenting often feels like a series of reactive moments, but the goal of conscious parenting is to proactively pass down the tools for self-love, emotional intelligence, and growth . Doug and Erin share the specific rituals they use with their own children to ensure they grow up with a solid foundation of self-worth and the ability to navigate life's inevitable challenges . Building self-love starts with simple habits, such as encouraging kids to look in the mirror and tell themselves they love themselves, making it a normal part of their day . Doug also uses a constant verbal check by telling his kids he loves them until they are almost annoyed, ensuring they never have to question his affection . At the dinner table, they move past the standard "how was your day" by asking about "magic moments" or pre-framing the school day as being either "good or great" to keep their children's minds focused on the positives . Modeling behavior is ultimately more impactful than words alone. Whether it is letting your children see you journal, meditate, or exercise, they pick up on the healthy habits that serve you . Most importantly, Doug and Erin discuss the power of "repairing" the relationship when you lose your cool; by apologizing for raising your voice, you teach kids that while emotions are natural, taking responsibility for your actions is a requirement for healthy relationships .   If you want to stop guessing what is missing in your relationship and learn a step-by-step methodology to regain the love and respect you once had, click the link below to get our free training: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Hawk breaks down the newly released Justice Department files revealing that Jean-Luc Brunel, the French modeling scout and one of Jeffrey Epstein's closest associates, was secretly negotiating with federal prosecutors in 2016 and was prepared to hand over incriminating photographs and testify about Epstein's sex trafficking operation. Brunel's lawyer told prosecutors his client had recruited girls for Epstein and was willing to walk into the US Attorney's Office in New York in exchange for immunity. Then Epstein found out. Emails now part of the document dump show Epstein immediately contacted Katherine Rummler, then a prominent attorney and later Goldman Sachs general counsel, who has since resigned. Epstein's outreach effectively shut down Brunel's cooperation, and prosecutors never pursued him further. More than 50 additional girls were trafficked in the three years that followed. The files also expose how Epstein used Brunel's modeling agency MC2, which Epstein helped bankroll with up to $1 million, as a vehicle to recruit foreign women, secure their work visas, and keep them financially dependent. A recruiter named Daniel Sead supplied girls from Sweden, Slovakia, France, and Russia. Virginia Giuffre had alleged Brunel trafficked girls as young as 12. Brunel was arrested in France in 2020 on rape charges and was found hanged in his cell in 2022. Epstein's nonprosecution deal in 2008, negotiated by then-US Attorney Alex Acosta, allowed the trafficking to continue for years. Julie K. Brown's Miami Herald investigation and her book Perversion of Justice ultimately forced federal action in 2019. SUPPORT & CONNECT WITH HAWK- Support on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/mdg650hawk - Hawk's Merch Store: https://hawkmerchstore.com - Connect on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mdg650hawk7thacct - Connect on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hawkeyewhackamole - Connect on BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/mdg650hawk.bsky.social - Connect on Substack: https://mdg650hawk.substack.com - Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hawkpodcasts - Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mdg650hawk - Connect on Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/mdg650hawk ALL HAWK PODCASTS INFO- Additional Content Available Here: https://www.hawkpodcasts.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@hawkpodcasts- Listen to Hawk Podcasts On Your Favorite Platform:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3RWeJfyApple Podcasts: https://apple.co/422GDuLYouTube: https://youtube.com/@hawkpodcastsiHeartRadio: https://ihr.fm/47vVBdPPandora: https://bit.ly/48COaTB

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Growing up with immigrant parents shapes how we love, communicate, and show up in marriage.In this powerful conversation, I am joined by Dr. Stacey Litam, licensed professional clinical counselor and author of Patterns That Remain: A Guide to Healing for Asian Children of Immigrants, to explore:- How transactional love patterns form in immigrant households- Why achievement often becomes tied to worth- The impact of collectivistic vs. individualistic culture on marriage- Why affection can feel uncomfortable — and how to navigate that- Modeling healthy self-care for your children- Healing “in-between” identity strugglesConnect with Dr. Stacey:Website: www.staceylitam.comIG: @drstaceyalitamLinkedIn: @Stacey Diane A. LitamGrab her book here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Did you struggle to fit in as a sensitive kid or are parenting an HSP child? In this episode, I talk with Sarita Fichtner about embracing your sensitivity and building resilience in children through connection as well as:  • Learning to live on your own terms and listen to your instincts  • Modeling acceptance and building resilience for your sensitive child • The kinds of social pressures highly sensitive children face • How parents can foster self-love and acceptance in their HSP kids who may not always fit in  • Accepting the balance between the messy and magic of life  Born and raised on the West Coast of Canada, Sarita is a highly sensitive children's book author and mom.  She recognizes the importance of emotional wellness and is passionate about supporting highly sensitive children.  Sarita believes the world will change when we can mindfully embrace who we are from a young age. Keep in touch with Sarita: • Website: http://www.saritaimagined.com  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saritaimagined Resources Mentioned: • Pop Out Loud: First Day of Soccer by Sarita Fichtner: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781069596710  • Pop Out Loud: First Day of School by Sarita Fichtner: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781738195404Thanks for listening! You can read the full show notes and sign up for my email list to get new episode announcements and other resources at: https://www.sensitivestories.comYou can also follow "SensitiveStrengths" for behind-the-scenes content plus more educational and inspirational HSP resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths And for more support, attend a Sensitive Sessions monthly workshop: https://www.sensitivesessions.com. Use code PODCAST for 25% off. If you have a moment, please rate and review the podcast, it helps Sensitive Stories reach more HSPs! This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment with a mental health or medical professional. Some links are affiliate links. You are under no obligation to purchase any book, product or service. I am not responsible for the quality or satisfaction of any purchase.

Send a textWhy are you a father?Why should you show up when it's hard?Why does being a dad actually matter?In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Paul Wandrey of the Why Dad Podcast to unpack the question most men never slow down enough to answer.We talk about grief, miscarriage, losing a child, emotional exhaustion, anger, therapy, and the pressure to be the “strong oak” for your family. But what if real strength isn't about being unbreakable?This episode dives into:How loss reshapes a man's identity as a fatherThe myth of emotional stoicism in menProcessing grief without shutting downHolding boundaries without losing connectionHow to redefine strength as a husband and dadWhy defining your “why” changes everythingIf you've ever felt tired, frustrated, disconnected, or unsure how to lead your family well… this one is for you.Stronger. Mindful. Present.InstagramYoutubePodcast00:00 Becoming a Dad: The Steeper Learning Curve & the Big “Why?”00:37 Welcome to The Daughter Podcast + Meet Paul01:48 What “Why Dad?” Really Means (Kids' Questions, Future Fathers, Showing Up)04:10 Intentional Fatherhood & Paul's Co-Host Perspective (Before You Have Kids)06:07 Sponsor Break: People Will Hunt06:53 Paul's Origin Story: 1 of 9, Military/Catholic Upbringing, Seminary Years08:43 Loss, Grief, and Fatherhood Tested: Miscarriage & Isla's 22-Week Birth12:38 Turning Pain Into Purpose: Becoming the Best Dad + Starting a Podcast14:47 Processing Miscarriage as a Couple: Dad vs. Mom Experience23:21 Honoring Amelia: Naming, Art, and Learning How to Support Sarah26:55 The “newborn smell” & instant bonding as a dad29:32 Racing to the hospital: unexpected labor at 22 weeks31:02 In the OR: helplessness, waiting, and Isla's final moments33:31 After the loss: choosing to heal together (not break apart)35:47 Redefining strength for dads: grief, pressure, and leading as one41:01 Tools that helped: therapy, anger triggers, and parenting with empathy46:48 Modeling growth (not perfection) + the host's own dad journey52:47 Looking 50 years ahead: health, presence, and lasting connection56:16 Advice to dads in grief: find your “why” and keep recentering58:42 Where to find Why Dad + final thanks, subscribe, and newsletter outroGuest Disclaimer:The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host.Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further explSupport the showCatch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

A systems-level exploration of methylmalonic aciduria using personalized genome-scale metabolic models. Featuring Almut Heinken, Vito Zanotelli, and Jean-Louis Guéant, discussing fibroblast transcriptomics, TCA cycle anaplerosis, heme biosynthesis flux, and the promise of multi-omics-guided precision medicine.

Steven Forth is a pricing strategist and AI innovator with decades of experience building value-based pricing models.  As the founder of Value IQ, he blends rigorous pricing theory with emerging AI applications—often pushing the boundaries of how pricing professionals think about data, modeling, and buyer behavior. In this episode, Mark and Steven step into another live debate aka 'intellectual challenge' about AI-generated synthetic data  with real pushback, not polite agreement. They challenge whether synthetic data is a breakthrough for pricing or just smarter-looking "fake data" that distances us from buyers. What unfolds is an unscripted stress test of the idea itself, and it ends with a surprisingly human conclusion you should definitely listen to.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: What synthetic data actually is—and how it differs from simply "making up numbers." Where synthetic data becomes dangerous, especially when assumptions about buyer behavior go untested. Why even the most advanced AI modeling cannot replace direct conversations with buyers.   "Go out and talk to buyers and understand their buying process." – Steven Forth   Topics Covered: 00:00 – Why synthetic data is suddenly a pricing topic. Steven introduces Value IQ and the idea behind AI-generated pricing intelligence. The setup: why synthetic data is gaining attention—and why Mark is skeptical from the start. 03:45 – What is synthetic data (without the buzzwords)? A plain-language definition of synthetic data and how it differs from CRM or ERP history. Why backward-looking data limits pricing strategy. 06:30 – The "fake data" objection. Mark challenges the idea head-on: Isn't this just inventing numbers? A sharp exchange on statistical misuse, p-values, and the danger of generating data that simply confirms what you want to see. 09:30 – Interpolation vs. extrapolation in pricing models. Why most pricing data isn't normally distributed. Discussion of fat tails, clustering, segmentation signals, and what synthetic data might distort—or reveal. 12:30 – The three types of synthetic data. Steven outlines three practical applications. (1) AI-generated buyer simulations. (2) Stress-testing value and pricing models. (3) Modeling competitive and economic scenarios. This is where the conversation moves from theory to use cases. 16:30 – Can AI predict buyer behavior? Mark pushes the core issue: pricing changes behavior. So how can synthetic data anticipate it? A discussion about assumptions, validation, and ground truth. 20:00 – A practical example: AI-driven Van Westendorp studies. A concrete scenario: simulate 100 real buyers, test pricing sensitivity, validate with actual survey data, and refine the model. A tangible way to experiment responsibly. 23:30 – The risk: Are we moving further from real buyers? The philosophical tension of the episode. Does synthetic data create insight—or another buffer between pricing teams and customers? 26:30 – The surprisingly human conclusion. After 25 minutes of AI debate, Steven's final advice is simple and grounded: talk to buyers and understand their buying process. 29:00 – Closing thoughts and where to connect. How to reach Steven and Mark—and a final reminder that AI is a tool, not a substitute for customer insight.   Key Takeaway: "Synthetic data is data that is generated for you by your AI." – Steven Forth "With synthetic data, you can explore scenarios that do not yet exist or parts of the market you do not yet touch." – Steven Forth   People and Resources Mentioned: Craig Zawada – Former McKinsey partner, co-creator of the pocket price waterfall; now Chief Strategy Officer at PROS  Benoit Mandelbrot – Referenced in the discussion about fat-tailed distributions and why pricing data is often not normally distributed. Pocket Price Waterfall – A pricing analytics framework originally developed at McKinsey. Van Westendorp Price Sensitivity Meter – Used as a practical example of how synthetic data could simulate buyer responses. Conjoint Analysis – Discussed as a potential future application for synthetic respondents. Bayesian Updating / Bayesian Statistics – Mentioned as a way to iteratively improve models by aligning synthetic data with real-world results. Interpolation vs. Extrapolation – Statistical concepts debated in the context of synthetic modeling. Normal vs. Fat-Tailed Distributions – Discussion on why pricing data often violates normal distribution assumptions.   Connect with Steven Forth: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevenforth/  Email: steven@valueiq.ai Subscribe to Steven's Substack: Synthetic data in pricing: https://pricinginnovation.substack.com/p/synthetic-data-in-pricing   Connect with Mark Stiving: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stiving/ Email: mark@impactpricing.com  

Jason Seeman, founder of Raising Fathers, joins Steve Hodgson on The Noise of Life Podcast to explore modern fatherhood, conscious parenting and what it truly means to become a father in today's world. Not just biologically, but emotionally. Not just as a financial provider, but as a regulated, self-aware, emotionally intelligent man.In this powerful conversation on fatherhood and masculinity, we unpack the transition from boy to man and from man to father - two rites of passage many men were never guided through. Jason reflects on the generational models of masculinity many of us inherited: fathers who were loving yet emotionally guarded, men shaped by war, survival, responsibility and silence. We explore how unresolved childhood experiences, generational trauma and emotional suppression quietly echo through families unless consciously interrupted.This episode dives deep into emotional intelligence in parenting as a daily practice - not theory. We discuss emotional regulation, anger management, repair after conflict and how a father's tone, presence and reactions shape a child's nervous system and sense of safety. Jason shares a powerful reframe around discipline and parenting styles, explaining why fear-based compliance may change behaviour short-term but can impact confidence and emotional security long-term.We also explore modern relationships and marriage dynamics - including cognitive load imbalance, communication breakdown, partnership conflict and rebuilding intimacy with intention. Practical tools such as structured relationship check-ins, emotional awareness practices, and conscious communication strategies are shared to help fathers strengthen connection at home.At its core, this episode is about self-awareness, compassion and breaking generational cycles. It's about recognising inherited patterns, regulating ourselves before regulating our children and understanding that children model the behaviour they observe.If you are a father, an expecting dad, navigating co-parenting, healing your relationship with your own father or exploring men's mental health and emotional wellbeing, this episode will resonate deeply.Inside this podcast:- Why modern fatherhood is a missed rite of passage- How intergenerational trauma shapes parenting styles- Why fear based discipline creates long term insecurity- The role of emotional regulation in raising resilient children- How couples can reconnect through awareness and intentional communicationConnect with Jason:Linktree  → https://bio.site/raisingfathers Website → https://www.raising-fathers.com/Connect with Steve:Instagram → https://bit.ly/3KARQhR LinkedIn  → https://bit.ly/48sw8Vj Episode Highlights00:00:00 - The difference between sound and noise in life00:05:00 - Wanting to be a father from childhood00:07:00 - The rite of passage from man to father00:09:00 - Media stereotypes of modern fathers00:11:00 - Emotional openness and inherited silence00:12:00 - “Make sure you don't yell at your wife”00:14:00 - Intergenerational trauma and Holocaust survival imprint00:24:00 - Breaking unconscious parenting patterns00:28:00 - Modeling apology and repair for children00:31:00 - Aggression, tone, and fear based compliance00:45:00 - Relationship strain after children00:54:00 - The power of structured check ins00:58:00 - Intimacy and connection as relational glue01:03:00 - Conflict as a feature, not a flaw01:07:00 - Self compassion before behavior change01:10:00 - The belief that “I must be perfect to be good enough”01:11:00 - Doing the real work behind closed doorsABOUT THE PODCAST SHOWThe Noise of Life is a podcast that shares real stories, raw truths, and remarkable growth. Hosted by Steve Hodgson a coach, facilitator, speaker and Mental Health First Aid Instructor. This podcast dives deep into the “noise” we all face, the distractions, doubts and challenges that can pull us away from who we truly are.

You want to chase your modeling dream. In this episode, we explained the 3 steps to get started.Enroll in the Online Modeling Course to take your modeling career to the next level: https://modelingmastercourse.com Become a guest in High Feels Podcast: https://highfeelspodcast.com/guestQuestions or comments? Email: ask@highfeelspodcast.com

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In this episode of Brief Talk, I sit down once again with Paul Williams-Ferns, founder of Dante 7 Underwear, along with three of his models — Will, Jamie, and Leigh — for a conversation that goes far beyond fabric and photography. What started as a follow-up about his brand launch quickly turned into an honest discussion about vulnerability, confidence, masculinity, and the unexpected bonds formed during a shoot. Paul shares why he intentionally chose everyday men over influencers or OnlyFans models, looking instead for personality, depth, and even vulnerability. He explains how building Dante 7 is about more than underwear — it's about art, philosophy, storytelling, and creating a sense of belonging. We talk about what it takes to prepare first-time models for such an exposed experience, especially in a social media world that can be both empowering and brutal. Will opens up about battling self-doubt and how stepping in front of the camera helped rebuild his confidence after personal loss. Jamie talks about turning 40 and deciding to take chances instead of living with regret, and how modeling has reignited something in him creatively. Leigh shares his perspective as the straight guy in a gay-centered brand and how quickly orientation became irrelevant when it came down to camaraderie, laughter, and mutual support. We also dig into the reality of modeling — the physical strain of holding poses, the mental exhaustion of long shoot days, and the discipline behind getting the perfect shot. Paul discusses the importance of premium fabrics, sustainability, and why he wanted honest feedback from the guys before ever wearing the product himself. At its core, this episode is about stepping outside your comfort zone, supporting each other, and finding confidence in unexpected places. It's a reminder that sometimes the boldest move you can make is simply saying yes. ⸻ Guest Links Will Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/willjboys_2 Jamie Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifeofjimjamipt Leigh Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dante7leigh/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dante7leigh Paul Williams-Ferns Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulwilliamsferns Dante 7 Underwear Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dante7underwear ⸻ Support UNB For ongoing support, join our Patreon: www.patreon.com/unbblog You can now join for free. For one-time support, visit our support page: https://www.underwearnewsbriefs.com/about/support-unb/ You can donate via Ko-fi or PayPal. Shop the UNB Store: www.unbstore.com Gift us something from our wish list: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/KCJXCDDPU0LI?ref_=wl_share Shop with our affiliate partners: Amoresy – https://amoresy.com/UNBTIM BodyAware – https://bodyaware.com?bg_ref=7FgHF6QR1x Xdress – https://xdress.com?bg_ref=cG6ohBdgUO Real Men – https://www.rmac.store/TIM77812 ⸻ Find Out More Read more at: Stretchingthetruth.com Follow UNB: Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/unbblog Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/unbblog Reddit – https://www.reddit.com/r/unbstoreandblog/ ⸻ Follow Tim Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/unbtim Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/unbtim Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/unbtim BlueSky – https://bsky.app/profile/unbtim.bsky.social Spandex Party – https://spandexparty.com/unbtim ⸻ Send feedback or questions to: feedback@brieftalkpodcast.com

In this deeply moving and thoughtful conversation, Dr. Ren shares the personal, cultural, and professional journey that shaped his life and work. Origins & Identity Ren begins by telling the story of his first ten years growing up in Japan and the powerful meaning behind his name. Ren, which means “Lotus,” was intentionally chosen by his mother — a decision so unusual at the time that she had to seek special permission to have it officially recognized. She even had his name added to an approved registry so he would not be treated as a foreigner. Years later, the name would rise to become one of the most popular in Japan. A Childhood Rooted in Activism & Spirituality Ren reflects on the profound influence of his mother — a self-described “wild woman” and feminine activist — and a family culture steeped in both social justice and spirituality. As a child, he participated in nuclear peace marches and was even featured in the news as a baby alongside Buddhist monks. Raised in a bi-racial family in the Bay Area, Ren navigated a unique spiritual landscape: ·       A father who was a Christian minister ·       A mother who practiced Buddhism ·       Exposure to Japan's polytheistic cultural traditions His parents fostered an environment of freedom, creativity, and deep acceptance. Masculinity, Culture, and Formation Ren shares how hockey culture played a significant role in shaping his early understanding of masculinity — including its strengths, pressures, and emotional limitations. These experiences ultimately led him to pursue psychology, where his multicultural upbringing and feminist influences deeply inform his clinical perspective. Understanding Men: Shame, Anger, and Social Expectations Ren discusses his work in homeless shelters, his research on masculinity and economics, and how systemic pressures shape men's emotional lives. He explains: ·       Why anger is often more socially acceptable for men than shame ·       How economic expectations and social norms intensify male distress ·       The hidden emotional costs of trying to live up to an impossible masculine image Changing Rape Culture & Supporting Men's Healing As the first male staff member at a women's resource center, Ren facilitated men's groups focused on sexual assault prevention and accountability. He shares insights about: ·       How patriarchal systems harm men as well as women ·       The “man box” exercise he uses to help men examine rigid gender expectations ·       How younger generations are showing greater emotional openness Expanding Masculinity (Not Redefining It) Rather than replacing masculinity, Ren advocates for expanding it — pushing the edges outward so men can live more fully and authentically. He speaks about: ·       The importance of permission-giving among men ·       Modeling vulnerability and emotional honesty ·       Supporting men to step outside restrictive norms The Role of Feminist Psychotherapy Ren highlights how feminist therapy frameworks help men develop self-compassion by understanding systemic influences rather than internalizing blame. This is especially vital for men who have experienced trauma or violence.  Harnessing Justified Anger for Change A powerful theme of the episode is how justified anger can become a force for healing and social transformation when channeled constructively. Hope for the Future Ren closes by sharing what keeps him hopeful: his direct connection to people's real lives and stories. He reminds us that healing — individually and collectively — requires a return to genuine human connection and conversation. Check out Dr Ren’s Upcoming Workshops at Heartland Yoga (and online) Check out Dr. Ren’s Therapy Practice Today's Episode sponsored by: Kate Moreland Coaching Dr Yoga Momma Heartland Yoga Want to go on retreat? Want to join Betsy in Costa Rica in May 2026 at her favorite retreat center to help you reorganize your inner space using yoga, meditation, energy medicine, and hypnosis?  All the details here! Source

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Over a distinguished NBA and collegiate career, Shane Battier established himself as a scholar-athlete, All-American, leader, and philanthropist. Dubbed the "No-Stats All-Star" by Michael Lewis in a New York Times Sunday Magazine cover story, Shane is regarded as one of the most successful, albeit atypical, basketball players in history for using his leadership, lockdown defense, and intellect to win championships at every level. After graduating with honors from Duke University with two Final Four appearances, one national championship, two All-American awards, & Naismith and John Wooden National Player of the Year awards, the Memphis Grizzlies selected Battier in the 2001 NBA draft. Battier went on to be part of the back-to-back 2012 and 2013 NBA championship Miami Heat team and a USA Basketball Men's Senior national team member. He understands that champions are made when no one is looking and that attention to the often-unnoticed intangibles makes the difference in building a championship culture. In our conversation this week, John and Jerry unpack the highs and lows of Shane's remarkable journey, from his childhood and the role of his parents, to his high school and college days, to his introduction to the NBA, and finally his championship seasons. We also discuss his post basketball years, his struggles with the transition off the court, an dhow he has reinvented himself to become an advisor, speaker, and a better father and husband.  BOOK A SPEAKER: Interested in having John or one of our speaking team come to your school, club or coaching event? We are booking November and December 2025 and Winter/Spring 2026 events, please email us to set up an introductory call John@ChangingTheGameProject.com PUT IN YOUR BULK BOOK ORDERS FOR OUR BESTSELLING BOOKS, AND JOIN 2025 CHAMPIONSHIP TEAMS FROM SYRACUSE MENS LAX, UNC AND NAVY WOMENS LAX, AND MCLAREN F1! These are just the most recent championship teams using THE CHAMPION TEAMMATE book with their athletes and support teams. Many of these coaches are also getting THE CHAMPION SPORTS PARENT so their team parents can be part of a successful culture. Schools and clubs are using EVERY MOMENT MATTERS for staff development and book clubs. Are you?  We have been fulfilling numerous bulk orders for some of the top high school and collegiate sports programs in the country, will your team be next? Click here to visit John's author page on Amazon Click here to visit Jerry's author page on Amazon Please email John@ChangingTheGameProject.com if you want discounted pricing on 10 or more books on any of our books. Thanks everyone. This week's podcast is brought to you by our friends at Sprocket Sports.  Sprocket Sports is a new software platform for youth sports clubs.  Yeah, there are a lot of these systems out there, but Sprocket provides the full enchilada. They give you all the cool front-end stuff to make your club look good– like websites and marketing tools – AND all the back-end transactions and services to run your business better so you can focus on what really matters – your players and your teams. Sprocket is built for those clubs looking to thrive, not just survive, in the competitive world of youth sports clubs.  So if you've been looking for a true business partner – not just another app – check them out today at https://sprocketsports.me/CTG. 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Vedle úspěchů v soutěži krásy vystudovala Karlovu univerzitu, kde získala titul doktorky farmacie. V roce 2004 se stala Miss ČR, na Miss World se umístila mezi TOP 15 dívkami.

Vedle úspěchů v soutěži krásy vystudovala Karlovu univerzitu, kde získala titul doktorky farmacie. V roce 2004 se stala Miss ČR, na Miss World se umístila mezi TOP 15 dívkami.

The Extremely Talented, Livi DarConte, chats with Uncle Vinny about her upbringing in film, directing, writing, acting, scoring, and life in general. Go follow https://.instagram.com/lividarconte/ to keep up with her new work. 0:00 - welcome @Livi-DarConte 0:40 - getting into film industry at a young age 2:40 - Daydream coming to life 3:55 "Mourning Glory" short film 5:50 - When people understand your art 7:00 - Film dedicated to Livi's grandmother;bts 9:00 - Risk taking in film 10:00 - turning dreams into reality through film 12:00 - Working in many different roles 13:00 - writing 14:40 - producing 15:30 - importance of versatility 17:00 - Arizona creative scene 18:45 - Livi's personal style 21:00 - Who cares what someone else thinks 23:30 - Modeling for suicideboy$ 25:25 - Directing music videos 26:45 - music in film 27:45 - working well with people 31:45 - Livi's vision 32:30 - gaining experience in life to help with creativity 35:30 - only 22 years old 37:45 - confidence is everything 40:00 - upcoming plans 41:00 - follow @lividarconte Click the Below Links to Keep Up With New Versatile Vigilante content: Instagram: https://instagram.com/VersatileVigilante/ Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/versatilevigilante Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/podcast/6rbWSYZP9asHUv431qHZfK/overview Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/versatile-vigilante/id1384221180?mt=2 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/VersatileVigilante

Hi friends,This week's episode is a little different and really special. It's just me, Steph, reflecting on the past three years of hosting the Christian Parenting Podcast. As I look back on the many conversations I've had with incredible guests, a few themes have come up over and over again. And I wanted to take a moment to name them, reflect on them, and remind you (and myself!) that faithful parenting is not about doing everything perfectly, it's about showing up with humility, love, and trust in God.In this solo episode, I share some of the truths that have encouraged me the most over the years:Relationship comes before instruction. Our kids don't need a lecture, they need connection.Consistency matters more than intensity. One big moment doesn't outweigh everyday faithfulness.Modeling an authentic faith makes a lasting impact. Your honesty and humility preach louder than perfection.You're not responsible for the outcome. You're invited to be faithful, present, and full of grace, and let God do the rest.These reminders have shaped how I approach my own parenting and I hope they encourage you as you walk alongside your kids in faith, love, and truth.With Love,StephResources MentionedChristian Parenting resourcesSign up for Morning MinuteI Can Only Imagine 2 movieRaising DaughtersOpen a LearningRX centerThe Christian Parenting Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.orgPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Tarina launches with a question for Nic: “Can you help me improve?” Nic immediately knows it's a trap—and he questions whether to take the bait, which he does. In this episode, Nic and Tarina talk about the third Proof of Leadership: Model. They take the idea of leading by example further—giving substance to the practice of modeling the behavior you want to see in others. The question they ask themselves: If we aren't leading by example, then what happens to our influence? Modeling is a discipline not just a skill. You have to develop the capacity to do the hard things, whether it's strapping on the tool belt or doing the paperwork. The easy thing is to just send an email or schedule a Zoom call. The hard thing is to go to the job site, pull on your steel-toe boots, the hardhat, and look at the crusty sheet metal workers in the eye. Behavior is communication and doing the hard thing builds trust over time. Nic shares a story about how to model the communication you want to see. He concludes, “Just because information is bad doesn't give you permission not to communicate it.” If you enjoy Nic and Tarina's podcast and get something from listening to “all this Nic Bittle Crap,” please hit the like button, share it with a friend, or both. Your recommendation goes a long way in helping us reach more people.Also if you have questions that you want Nic and Tarina to answer, email them at info@nicbittle.com. ---

Ephesians 5:1-2 with Pastor Greg Denham

Staff pushback happens. Eye rolls, sighs, and the dreaded “we already tried that” can make even the calmest team lead feel defensive. In this Misfit Minute, Caitlin talks about shifting from control to curiosity when staff resist new strategies and how asking the right questions builds trust, buy-in, and stronger teams.

Julie Apel, assistant headmaster at Hillsdale Academy in Hillsdale, Michigan, joins host Scot Bertram to discuss Hillsdale’s Master Teacher Program, what makes a teacher a master teacher, and how the program aligns with classical education principles and best practices. Learn more: https://k12.hillsdale.edu/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Stop using accountability as a weapon and start using it as a tool for growth. In this episode, JP Nerbun, Nate Sanderson, and Betsy Butterick break down why traditional "discipline" often fails and how to build a culture of mutual trust.Subscribe to join us for more discussions like this and go deeper with a FREE membership in the TOC Coach Community: https://www.skool.com/toccoachSubscribe to the Culture Toolbox Newsletter for the notes to this and every episode! https://tocculture.com/culture-toolbox Most coaches want accountability, but few know how to teach the actual communication skills athletes need to hold each other to a standard. We explore the "Trust Gap," the difference between punishment and outcomes, and a powerful story of how one athlete's confession transformed a team's culture.In this episode, we discuss:The Accountability Trap: Why athletes often have a negative association with the word and how to reframe it as "responsibility".   Skill vs. Fear: Why players don't speak up (hint: it's usually because they haven't been taught how).   Consistency is Key: How treating star players differently destroys team trust. Outcomes over Consequences: Shifting the language to emphasize player choice and education over compliance.   Building Mutual Trust: Practical ways to invite your players to hold you accountable as a leader.Chapters:0:00 – What coaches get wrong about accountability2:15 – Why athletes feel frustrated by "The Word"4:45 – The 3 things athletes need: Consistency, Clarity, and Skill7:30 – Accountability vs. Discipline vs. Feedback10:15 – Reframing "Consequences" to "Outcomes"13:40 – Deterrence vs. Grace: The "All-Boys School" example16:20 – A story of radical ownership: The athlete confession19:50 – How to build mutual trust with your players23:10 – Closing thoughts: Modeling the standard

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Tune in Friday, February 6, 2026 @ 7pm EST/4pm PST/6pm CST for the next “He Said, He Said, He Said Live!” A Look at the World from A Seasoned Black Man's Perspective…because one perspective isn't enough!” for From Runway to Revelation: Sharon ‘Magic' Jordan-Roach on Perspectives from the Secret Place, Grief, Grace, and Divine Calling.This Friday, February 6th, He Said, He Said, He Said Livewelcomes a truly iconic guest: Apostle Sharon “Magic” Jordan-Roach — a trailblazer whose extraordinary journey spans the world's most celebrated fashion runways and a powerful spiritual calling rooted in faith, purpose, andtransformation.For over two decades, Sharon “Magic” Jordan-Roach was aforce in the international fashion and modeling industry, working with legendary designers including Stephen Burrows, Halston, Patrick Kelly, Calvin Klein, Roberto Cavalli, Isaia, Betsy Johnson, Byron Lars, Willi Smith, Yves St. Laurent, and Epperson just to name a few. A former beauty queen, sheseamlessly evolved into a multifaceted leader — model, author, ordained Apostle, mentor, and mother.For fifteen years, Magic served as Lead Coach at the prestigious Barbizon School of Modeling in New York City, shaping the next generation of talent. She is also the founder and owner of The Image Strategist, a multi-tiered consulting and educational platform guided by her powerful motto: “Your soul is the foundation. Style is the expression.”Now, Sharon brings her voice to a deeper dimension with herdebut prayer journal, Perspectives from the Secret Place — apractical and transformative prayer guide filled with quotes and scriptures designed to help readers access their core thinking, confront hidden beliefs, and ultimately change the trajectory of their lives.In this intimate and revelatory conversation, Sharon shareshow grief, grace, and divine calling reshaped her identity — and how the “secret place” became the space where purpose was reborn.This is not just a story about fashion. It's a story about calling,healing, and becoming.New Episodes of “He Said, He Said, He Said” - Live stream Fridays, 7 p.m. EST on all these links: https://linktr.ee/hesaidhesaidhesaid FACEBOOK: facebook.com/hesaidhesaidhesaidlive RELIVE and SHARE special moments from "He Said, He Said, He Said" here: SHOW CLIPS (22) He Said, HeSaid, He Said - Live - YouTubeFOLLOW US —- CLICK LIKEand SUBSCRIBE to us @hesaidhesaidhesaidlive on YouTube and Instagram!#HeSaidHeSaidHeSaidLive #HSHSHLive #FromRunwayToRevelation #HeSaidShow#SharonMagicJordanRoach #SharonMagic #MagicJordanRoach #TheImageStrategist #RunwayToRevelation #FaithAndFashion #SoulIsTheFoundation #StyleWithPurpose

What if your best days haven't even happened yet? In this episode of Ask Kati Anything, I'm joined by the incredible Amy Edwards—CEO, author, and host of The Amy Edwards Show. At 53, Amy is the happiest she's ever been, but getting here required walking through some of life's darkest valleys. We dive deep into the messy, complicated, and ultimately beautiful process of transformation. Amy opens up about the stigma of being twice-divorced, the "blackout" period of losing her voice during a legal battle, and her unconventional journey through psychedelic healing and sobriety. Whether you are struggling with a "failed" relationship, feeling stuck in a cycle of rumination, or wondering if it's too late to start over, this conversation is a reminder that you don't need anything outside of yourself to access hope. Shopping with our sponsors helps support Ask Kati Anything. Please check out this week's special offer: Feel like your best self again, visit https://www.forhers.com/KATI to get a personalized, affordable plan that gets you! Chapters 00:00 – Meet Amy Edwards 03:04 – Becoming the "Matriarchs" after losing parents 04:29 – Religious differences and choosing love over judgment 09:35 – The reality of divorce at 25 vs. later in life 13:57 – A perfect storm: Pregnancy, losing a mother, and a broken leg 17:46 – The "Rebound Marriage" and learning to stand up for yourself 21:14 – Why "Staying for the Kids" can be the real failure 26:42 – Modeling resilience: Showing children that women can do anything 30:12 – Mental health tools: The "Don't Drink the Drano Today" logic 36:32 – Psychedelics and Ego Death: Rewiring the brain 40:32 – Ketamine therapy and clearing the "ruminating sand" 43:10 – The road to sobriety and finding a growth-mindset partner 54:19 – The "Table" Metaphor: Breaking the cycle of transactional love 01:03:16 – Losing your voice: When the body forces you to slow down 01:07:37 – Radical Self-Love: doing mirror work 01:15:45 – Your best days haven't happened yet MORE AMY https://www.youtube.com/@TheAmyEdwardsShow The Trouble with Becoming a Witch: A Novel by Amy Edwards https://amzn.to/4ahkoFU https://www.instagram.com/realamyedwards/ MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co DISCLAIMER The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Ask Kati Anything ep. 300 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts or check out the fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Corey and I talk about modeling the person you want your child to be—instead of trying to force them into having good character or good values. We discussed the difference between being a gardener or a carpenter parent, raising kind and helpful children, and how to trust the modeling process. We give lots of examples of what this has looked like for parents in our community as well as in our own homes.**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this episode? Share it with them!We talk about:* 00:00 — Intro + main idea: be the person you want your child to be* 00:02 — How kids naturally model what we do (funny real-life stories)* 00:04 — When modeling goes wrong (rabbit poop + shovel story)* 00:06 — Not everything kids do is learned from us (fight/flight/freeze)* 00:08 — Gardener vs. carpenter parenting metaphor* 00:10 — Why “don't do anything for your child” is flawed advice* 00:12 — Helping builds independence (adult example + kids stepping up)* 00:17 — Hunt, Gather, Parent: let kids help when they're little* 00:19 — How to encourage helping without power struggles* 00:23 — Family team vs. rigid chores* 00:26 — Trust, faith, and “I'm sure you'll do it next time”* 00:29 — Respecting kids like people (adultism)* 00:31 — Living values without preaching* 00:36 — It's the small moments that shape kids* 00:38 — Don't be a martyr: let some things go* 00:40 — When this works (and when it doesn't)* 00:42 — Closing reflections on trust and nurturingResources mentioned in this episode:* Yoto Screen Free Audio Book Player * The Peaceful Parenting Membership * Hunt, Gather, Parent podcast episode* Evelyn & Bobbie brasConnect with Sarah Rosensweet:* Instagram* Facebook Group* YouTube* Website* Join us on Substack* Newsletter* Book a short consult or coaching session callxx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team-click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! 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Hi, Corey.Corey: Hey, Sarah.Sarah: I'm so happy to be talking about what we're going to be talking about today because it's something that comes up a lot—both with our coaching clients and in our membership.Today we're talking about modeling the person you want your child to be—being the person you want your child to be—instead of trying to force them into having good character or good values.Corey: This is one of my favorite topics because people don't really think about it. There's that phrase that's so rampant: “Do as I say, not as I do.” And we're actually saying: do the exact opposite of that.Sarah: Yeah. And I think if people did this, that phrase wouldn't have to exist. Because if you're being the person you want your child to be, then you really can just say, “Do as I do.”I guess that “Do what I say, not what I do” comes up when you're not being the person you want your child to be. And it shows how powerful it is that kids naturally follow what we do, right?Corey: Yes.Sarah: Yeah. We both have some funny stories about this in action—times we didn't necessarily think about it until we remembered or saw it reflected back. Do you want to share yours first? It's so cute.Corey: Yeah. When I was a little girl, my favorite game to play was asking my mom if we could play “Mummy and her friend.” We did this all the time. My mom said she had to do it over and over and over with me.We'd both get a little coffee cup. I'd fill mine with water, and we'd pretend we were drinking tea or coffee. Then we would just sit and have a conversation—like I heard her having with her friend.And I'd always be like, “So, how are your kids?”—and ask the exact things I would hear my mom asking her friend.Sarah: That's so cute. So you were pretending to be her?Corey: Yes.Sarah: That is so cute.I remember once when Lee was little—he was probably around three—he had a block, like a play block, a colored wooden block. And he had it pinched between his shoulder and his ear, and he was doing circles around the kitchen.I said, “What are you doing?” And he said, “I'm talking on the phone.”And I realized: oh my gosh. I walk around with the cordless phone pinched between my shoulder and my ear, and I walk around while I'm talking on the phone. So for him, that was like: this is how you talk on the phone.Corey: That's such a funny reference, too. Now our kids would never—my kids would never do that, right?Sarah: No, because they never saw you with a phone like that.Corey: Right.Sarah: That is so funny. It's definitely a dated reference.You also have a funny story, too, that's sort of the opposite—less harmless things our kids copy us doing. Do you want to share your… I think it's a rabbit poop story.Corey: It is. We're just going to put it out there: it's a rabbit poop story. This is how we accidentally model things we probably don't want our kids doing.So, if you were listening this time last year, I got a new dog. She's a lab, and her favorite thing is to eat everything—especially things she's not supposed to eat, which I'm sure a lot of people can relate to.Our area is rampant with rabbits, so we have this problem with rabbit droppings. And my vet has informed me that despite the fact that dogs love it, you need to not let them eat it.So I'm always in the backyard—if you're hearing this, it's really silly—having to try and shovel these up so the dog's not eating them.Listeners, we're looking into a longer-term solution so rabbits aren't getting into our backyard, but this is where we're at right now.Whenever I noticed I'd be shoveling them up and I'd see her trying to eat something else I hadn't shoveled yet, I'd say, “Leave it,” and then give her a treat to reward her.One day, my little guy—little C—who loves taking part in dog training and is so great with animals, he saw our dog eating something she shouldn't. He ran and got his little sand shovel and went up to her holding it—kind of waving it at her—like, “Leave it.”And I was like, why are you shaking a shovel at the dog? Totally confused about what he was doing.And he's like, “Well, this is how you do it, Mommy.”And I was like… oh. I shake a shovel at the dog. You just say, “Leave it,” and then you give her the treat—not the shovel.Not an hour later, I'm shoveling again, she's trying to eat something she shouldn't, and I'm like, “Leave it, leave it.” I look at my hand and I'm holding the shovel up while saying it to her.Sarah: Right?Corey: And I was like, “Oh, this is why he thinks that.” Because every time I'm saying this to her, I'm holding a shovel mid-scoop—trying to get on top of the problem.Sarah: That's so funny. And when you told me that the first time, I got the impression you maybe weren't being as gentle as you thought you were. Like you were frustrated with the dog, and little C was copying that.Corey: Yeah. Probably that too, right? Because it's a frustrating problem. Anyone who's tried to shovel rabbit droppings knows it's an impossible, ridiculous task.So I definitely was a bit frustrated. He was picking up both on the frustration and on what I was physically doing.And I also think this is a good example to show parents: don't beat yourself up. Sometimes we're not even aware of the things we're doing until we see it reflected back at us.Sarah: Totally.And now that you mentioned beating yourself up: I have a lot of parents I work with who will say, “I heard my kid yelling and shouting, and I know they pick that up from me—my bad habits of yelling and shouting.”I just want to say: there are some things kids do out of fight, flight, or freeze—like their nervous system has gotten activated—that they would do whether you shouted at them or not.It's not that everything—every hard thing—can be traced back to us.Kids will get aggressive, and I've seen this: kids who are aggressive, who have not ever seen aggression. They've never seen anyone hitting; they've never been hit. But they will hit and kick and spit and scream because that's the “fight” of fight, flight, or freeze.So it's not that they learned it somewhere.And often parents will worry, “What are they being exposed to at school?” But that can just be a natural instinct to protect oneself when we get dysregulated.Also, kids will think of the worst thing they can say—and it's not necessarily that they've heard it.I remember one time Asa got really mad at Lee. They were like three and six. And Asa said, “I'm going to chop your head off and bury you in the backyard.”Oh my goodness—if I hadn't known it wasn't necessarily something he learned, I would've been really worried. But it was just a reflection of that fight, flight, or freeze instinct that he had.So I guess it's: yes, kids can learn things from us, and I'm not saying they can't. Your example—with the dog, the rabbit poop, and the shovel—of course kids can pick up unsavory behavior from us.But that doesn't mean that every single hard thing they do, they learned from us. And also, they have good natures. There are things that come from them that are good as well, that they didn't learn from us.Corey: That's right.Sarah: I want to ground this conversation in a great metaphor from a book by Allison Gopnik. I think the title is The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children.To really embrace what we're talking about—being the person you want your child to be—you have to believe in the gardener metaphor of parenting.The gardener metaphor is: your child is like a seed that has within it everything it needs to grow into a beautiful plant. You provide the water, sunlight, proper soil, and then the plant does the work of growing on its own.The carpenter metaphor is: you have to build your child—make your child into who they're going to be.This idea we're talking about—be the person you want your child to be—that's the soil and the light and the water your child needs to grow into a beautiful plant, or a beautiful human being.It's not that we're doing things to them to turn them into good humans.And honestly, most parents, when you ask them what they wish for their child, they want their kid to be a good person when they grow up.I want to say to parents: it's easier than you think. The most influential thing you can do to help your child grow up to be a good person is to be the person you want them to be.This goes up against a lot of common parenting advice.One phrase I wish did not exist—and I don't know where it came from, but if anyone knows, let me know—is: “You should never do anything for your child that they can do for themselves.”Such a terrible way to think about relationships.Can you imagine if I said to your partner, “You should never do anything for Corey that she can do for herself”? It's terrible.I make my husband coffee in the morning—not because he can't make it himself, but as an act of love. For him to come downstairs, getting ready for work, and have a nice hot coffee ready. Of course he can make his own coffee. But human relationships are built on doing things for each other.Corey: Yes. I think that's so profound.I think about how I was just telling you before we started recording how we've been spending our weekends skiing. When I first started skiing with my husband—even though I'd grown up skiing—I'd never done it as much as him. He helped me so much. He did so much of the process for me so I didn't have too much to think about.Now that we do it all the time, he said to me the other day, “Look at how independent you've gotten with this. You can do so much of this yourself. You're managing so much more on the hill.”He was so proud of me, and I was thinking: imagine if he hadn't done that for me. If he had been like, “Just figure it out. We're on the ski hill. You're an adult.”I probably wouldn't have enjoyed it very much. But he did lots of things for me that I could have done for myself, and that love and support helped nurture the shared love we had.Sarah: Yeah.And I think it's tough because our culture is so individualistic. Hyper-individualistic—everyone should stand on their own two feet and do things without help and make it on their own. And that has really leaked into our parenting.One of the major fears I hear from parents is that their kid won't be independent.So a lot of parents push kids to be independent—and what that ends up looking like is the opposite of what we're talking about.Part of the reason there's pressure for individualism is because we see it as a way for kids to turn into “good people.”But so many qualities of being a good person are about human interconnectedness: caring about other people, being kind, being helpful, being conscientious, thinking about what's the right thing to do.All of that comes from how we're modeling it—the gardener metaphor.But there's always this tension: wanting your kid to be helpful, caring, kind, and thinking you have to make them be those things instead of letting that gardener process develop.I'm on the other side of this because my kids are grownups, so I've seen it develop. One of the things I realized a couple years ago is this progression I saw with Maxine.One time we were on our way out the door. My husband happened to be leaving for work at the same time we were leaving for the school bus. Maxine was probably around seven, and I was carrying her backpack for her.My husband—who also has that individualism thing—said, “Why are you carrying her backpack? She's seven. She can carry her own backpack.”And I was like, “I know, but she likes me to carry it, and I don't mind.”And I really knew that someday she would want to carry her own backpack.Sure enough, a couple years later, she's carrying her own backpack, doesn't ask me anymore. I didn't think about it for a while.Then one day we were coming from the grocery store and had to walk a little ways with heavy groceries. She insisted on carrying all the groceries and wouldn't let me carry anything.I was like, “I can carry some groceries, honey.” And she's like, “No, Mom. I've got it.”She's carrying all the heavy groceries by herself. This full-circle moment: not only was she helping, she wanted to do it for me. She didn't want me to have to carry the heavy groceries.I just love that.Corey: Yeah. And I love when we have these conversations because sometimes it feels like a leap of faith—you don't see this modeled in society very much. It's a leap of faith to be like, “I can do these things for my children, and one day they will…”But it's not as long as people think. I'm already seeing some of that blooming with my 10-year-old.Sarah: Yeah.And Sophie in our membership shared something on our Wednesday Wins. Her kids are around 10, eight or nine, and seven. She's always followed this principle—modeling who you want your kid to be.She said she always worried, “They're never going to help.” And whenever you hear “never” and “always,” there's anxiety coming in.But she shared she had been sick and had to self-isolate. Her kids were making her food and bringing it to her. She would drive to the store, and they would go in and get the things needed.She was amazed at how they stepped up and helped her without her having to make them. They just saw that their mom needed help and were like, “We're there, Mom. What do you need?”Corey: Oh—“What do you need?” That's so sweet.Sarah: I love that.One more story: this fall, my kids are 20—Lee's going to be 25 next week—21, and 18.My husband and I were going away for the weekend, leaving Maxine home by herself. It was fall, and we have a lot of really big trees around our house, so there was major eavestroughs—gutters—cleaning to do, getting leaves off the roof and bagging all the leaves in the yard. A full-day job.My husband had been like, “I have so much work to do. I don't want to deal with that when I come home.”So I asked the boys if they could come over and the three of them could do the leaf-and-gutter job. And they were like, “Absolutely.”They surprised their dad. When we came home, they had done the entire thing. They spent a day doing all the leaves and gutter cleaning. None of them were like, “I don't want to,” or “I'm busy.” They didn't ask me to pay them—we didn't pay them. They just were like, “Sure, we'll help Dad. We know he has a lot of work right now.”I just love that.Corey: Oh, I love that. When they're so little, they can't really help take the burden off you. But knowing that one day they will—it's such a nice thing to know.Although this brings us to that good point about Hunt, Gather, Parent.Sarah: Yeah. If people haven't listened to that episode, we'll link to it in the show notes.Let's talk about some things you can do to actively practice what we're talking about—modeling who we want our kids to be.One idea is really encapsulated by Michaeleen Doucleff, who wrote Hunt, Gather, Parent. She traveled in Mexico, spent time with Mayan people, and saw kids doing household stuff without being asked—helpful, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, taking care of younger siblings in this beautiful way that was pretty unrecognizable by North American standards.She went down and lived with them and studied what they did. She found it started with letting kids help when they were little.The two- or three-year-old who wanted to help a parent make food or do things in the garden—rather than the parents doing it without the kid around, or giving them something fake to help with, or not letting them do it—those parents let kids do it.Even if it took longer, even if the parent had to redo it later (not in front of them). They let their kids be imperfect helpers and enthusiastic helpers.That's an impulse we've all seen: kids want to help. And we often don't let them because we say they're too little or it takes too much time. And we end up thwarting that helping impulse.Then when we really want them to help—when they're actually capable—they've learned, “Helping isn't my role,” because it got shut down earlier.Corey: Exactly. And I really feel that for parents because schedules are so busy and we're so rushed.But you don't have to do this all the time. It's okay if there are sometimes where there's a crunch. Pick times when it's a little more relaxed—maybe on weekends or when you have a bit more space.Sarah: Totally.And while we're talking about helping: this comes up a lot with parents I work with and in our membership. Parents will say, “I asked my kid to set the table and they said, ‘Why do I always have to do it?'”This happened the other day with a client. I asked, “What was your child doing when you asked?” And she said, “He was snuggled up on the couch reading a book.”And I was like: I can see how that's frustrating—you could use help getting the table ready. But let's zoom out.Modeling might look like: “Okay, you're tired. You've had a long day at school. You're snuggled up reading. I'll set the table right now.”Being gracious. Even if they refuse sometimes, it's okay to do it. But also, in that specific helping piece, we can look at the times when they help without being asked.When I give parents the assignment to look for that, every parent says, “Oh, I won't find any.” And then they come back and say, “Oh, I did find times.”So when they do help—carry groceries, help a sibling—how can you make them feel good about it?“Thank you. That saved so much time.” “I was going to help your brother but my hands were full—thank you.”Pro-social behavior is reinforced when it feels good.If you want them to help more, ask: “What would you like to do to help the family team?”Not, “This is your job forever.” More like, “I've noticed setting the table isn't a great time for you. What are some other things you could take on?” And if they don't have ideas, brainstorm what's developmentally appropriate.Often there are things kids would like to do that you've just never thought of.Corey: It's true. It's kind of like how adults divide jobs at home—often according to who likes what. But with kids we think, “I should just tell them what to do, and they should just do it.”It makes sense to work with what they like.Sarah: And also the flow of the family and schedule.That's why we never had chores in the strict sense. My kids helped out, but it was never “one person's job” to do the dishwasher or take out the garbage.Because inevitably I'd need the dishwasher emptied and that person wasn't home, or they were doing homework. And if I said, “Can you do the dishwasher?” someone could say, “That's not my job—that's my brother's job.”So instead, if I needed something done, whoever was around: “Hey, can you take the garbage out?” I tried to keep it relatively equal, but it wasn't a rigid assignment. And I think that helped create the family team idea.Corey: Yes.Sarah: And that “it's someone's job” thing is that individualism again.You hear this: “Can you clean that up?” and if you haven't been modeling cleaning up messes that aren't your own, you might hear, “Well, I didn't make that mess.”But if you model: if they make a mess and you say, “Can you pick up your crayons?” and they're like, “No,” then you can say, “Okay, sure, I'll pick up the crayons for you,” and they have the experience of seeing someone clean up a mess that isn't theirs.They're more likely to absorb: “Oh, yeah, I can help with messes that aren't mine.”Corey: I've really seen this play out in my house this winter. One child loves shoveling. The second there's any snow, he's like, “Time for me to shovel.” It doesn't matter if it's early morning or dark out—he's out there shoveling.And I've been blown away, because first of all, I do not like shoveling. It's genuinely helpful.But he'll also be looking out for when the plow comes by—this doesn't happen where you live on the island, but for lots of people: the plow makes a wall at the end of the driveway. Even if you already shoveled, you have a new wall.He'll keep looking: “Just watching out for the plow.” Like a little old man. The second it happens, he's out there so everyone can leave the house as needed.And he's even admitted, “There are lots of jobs I don't like, but I really love doing this. This is something I can do for everybody.”Sarah: That's so great. That's a perfect example of letting them choose something that helps the family.In terms of flexibility—doing things for them—how have you seen that play out? Because for me, when my kids were small, they did very little. We'd do “Let's all tidy up,” but maybe they'd pick up three things and I'd pick up most of the things. We'd do a 10-minute tidy.Mostly I did dishes, setting and clearing the table, all of that. But then I found that as they got older, they just started doing it.And I never got into power struggles because, honestly, it was often easier to do it myself. Maybe that worked out because I didn't have a grand vision—I just lived it, and then I saw them grow into doing a lot as they got older.What about you? How are you seeing that balance between what you do for them and how you see them growing?Corey: I'd say this is where you really have to have faith. Something that maybe wasn't modeled for us.This comes up with clients all the time: they get anxious—“They're never going to clean up, they're never going to be helpful, they'll be entitled.” They get stuck in “never” because it's not happening right away.So when I tell people: invite them, and if they don't want to do it, say something like, “You don't want to do it this time. I'm sure you'll do it next time.”But mean it—not passive-aggressive. Not “I'm sure you'll do it next time” as a threat. Actually mean: “I'm sure you'll do it next time,” and then go about it with trust that they will eventually do it.You're holding space. You're not being anxious about it.Sarah: Yes—holding space, having faith.Corey: And I think it's giving ourselves—and the parents we work with—a permission slip.You can tidy up for them without being angry about it. If you're doing this like, “No one helps me,” that's not going to work.You have to truly trust the goodness of your children—that they'll want to be like this.Sarah: Yeah.And I think some of it comes down to how we treat other adults.If your partner normally does the dishes and says, “I'm exhausted from work,” hopefully there's give-and-take. You pick up slack when they're tired.A lot of this is: how do you want to be treated? How do you treat other adults? And how can you work on treating kids the same way?So often we don't treat kids the way we treat adults. And sometimes that's appropriate. But often it's just a lack of respect.I saw a comedy skit once where these moms were sitting around drinking wine, and at first it was normal, and then one goes to reach for the bottle and another slaps her hand: “You haven't finished what you have in your glass. Finish what you have first.”Someone interrupts, and the other says, “I was still speaking. Wait until I'm done speaking.”And you're like: oh my gosh, that's what people do to kids all the time. If you see an adult do it to another adult, it's funny—but it's also jarring because it's considered normal when people do it to kids.Kids aren't always seen as having the same rights or deserving the same respect as adults.Corey: Yes. And I think Iris Chen talks about this. You did a podcast with her back in season one—adultism.Sarah: Yes, adultism—like racism or sexism, but adultism: prioritizing adults' needs and rights over children's.Corey: And that really stood out to me. If we treat them like the beautiful little people they are—not “just children,” but people—that goes a long way in what we're talking about today.Sarah: Yeah.And the last big point is how this works with values.Corey: We hear this a lot: parents get worried about values. They really value the environment and worry their kids aren't living those values.Like a parent who was upset their kids were buying candy made with palm oil because of how it's harvested. “Why don't my kids care?”If we get preachy—“We can't buy candy with palm oil,” “We only buy thrifted clothes”—it can turn into, “You're trying to control me,” and then kids push the other way.Versus if we live those values and give them room to play with them and figure out where they land, they tend to be more open—and more interested in the why.A strange example from this weekend: I don't really like those disposable hand warmers because you can only use them once. I prefer things we can use multiple times.It was supposed to be really cold, so I was like, “Okay, I guess I'll buy them.” I didn't say anything weird about it. We used them.At the end of the day, he had to throw them out, and he goes, “I don't feel great about this. It was helpful, but I don't know if it was helpful enough that we have to throw this in the garbage now.”And I was like: that's exactly how I feel. But I didn't get preachy. He was able to think about it himself.So even with values, we live them. If kids aren't agreeing with our values, sometimes we have to give space and pull back. When someone's pushing something on you, you often feel like not complying.Sarah: Yeah. It becomes a power struggle.And I do think there's a difference between pushing and educating. You can give them information in an age-appropriate way, and you can say, “You can buy that with your own money, but I don't want to support that, so I'm not going to.”Not in a way that makes them feel terrible. Just: “These are my values.”I've said this to my kids. Maxine was maybe 14 and said, “My phone's broken. I need a new phone.”I said, “What's wrong?” She said, “My music library keeps going away and I have to download it.”I started laughing and said, “That's not enough to get a new phone.” I said, “My values are we use electronics until they're broken. We don't get a new phone because of a little glitch.”You should see our minivan—it's scraped up and old-looking. Maxine actually said we're going somewhere with her boyfriend and his mom, and she said, “Can you please ask my boyfriend's mother to drive?”I said, “Why?” And she said, “Our car is so embarrassing.”And I'm like, “It works great. We drive our cars into the ground.” That's our family value.And then last year, Maxine's phone screen actually broke. She wanted a new phone, and I said, “My values—because of e-waste—are that I'd get it fixed if I were you. But I promise I won't judge you if you want a new phone. Do what feels right for you.”No guilt-tripping. And she chose to fix the screen instead of buying a new phone.So these are examples—like your hand warmers—where we can give the information without being heavy. And they usually absorb our values over time.Corey: Because it's not just that moment—it's hundreds of interactions.And that's actually empowering: you don't need one big conversation. You get to show them these little things throughout life.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Corey: I mean, if we're talking about phones, goodness gracious—how long have I needed a new phone?Sarah: I know. I've been wanting you to get a new phone so you can post Reels for me.Corey: They're like, “Corey, maybe you've taken this too far.” But I don't know—the modeling I've given my children is that you can make a dead phone last for two extra years.Sarah: And I like your point: it's all of these interactions over and over again.The opposite of what we're talking about is you can't tell your kids not to be materialistic if you go out and buy things you don't need. You can't tell them people are more important than phones if you're on your phone all the time.You really have to think about it. That's why that “Do as I say, not as I do” sometimes gets used—because it's hard. It's hard to be the person you want your kids to be.And it keeps us honest: who do we want to be? Who do we want them to be?Corey: I mean, it's that moment when I stood there holding the shovel and I was like, “Ah. I see.”So we can see this as a beautiful thing for our own growth, too, because we're going to keep realizing how much it matters.Caveat, though: I don't want parents to listen and feel pressure—like every moment they're being watched and they must be perfect.Because this is also a chance to model messing up and making repairs. So don't take this as: you have to be perfect.Sarah: And the other thing: if you're listening and you're like, “Why do I have to do everything around here? Sarah and Corey are saying clean up your kids' messes, carry things for them, do the chores…”I'm not saying every parent should be a martyr and never get help.Remember what I said: where can your kids help? What are they already doing? What could they choose?And I think I also let a lot of stuff go. My parents once came to visit and said, “Sarah, we really admire how you choose to spend time with your kids instead of cleaning up your house.”I was like, I think that was a backhanded compliment. And also them noticing it was kind of a mess.It wasn't terrible or dirty. It was just: I didn't have a perfect house, and I did everything myself.I did a lot myself, but I didn't do all the things some people think they need to do.Corey: That totally makes sense. You're basically saying: what can you let go of, too?Sarah: Yeah. For the sake of the relationship.And I think the last thing I wanted us to talk about is: does this ever not work?You and I were thinking about objections.If you're living this way—gracious, helpful, flexible, modeling who you want them to be—you're putting deposits in the Goodwill Bank. Your connection increases. They care what you think because that Goodwill Bank is nice and beefy.The only time you could say it wouldn't work is if you didn't have a good relationship. But if you're doing all this, it builds relationship—so I don't even think you can say, “This doesn't work.”Nobody's perfect. There were plenty of times I asked my kids to do things and they were grumpy, or I had to ask 10 times. It wasn't like, “Of course, Mom, let me empty the dishwasher.” They were normal kids. But in general, if you trust the process and maturation, your kids move in that direction.Corey: I'd add one other thing: it wouldn't work if this is all you're doing, with nothing else.Sometimes people think peaceful parenting is passive, and what we're saying can sound passive: “Just be who you want them to be.”But there are also times you need to do something. Like we said: if you're being the person you want to be and they're never helping, there's also a conversation: “What do you like to do?” There are collaborative steps.This is the big philosophy—embodying who you want them to be—but there are also practical supports and conversations that help them be successful.Sarah: Totally.And the last thing is: remember this happens over time. Trust the growth process and maturation and brain development.Remember that when they're little, their agenda is not your agenda. And as they get older, they start to see the benefits: “Oh yeah, it is nice when the living room's tidied up.”When they're little, they don't have the same agenda as you. That's a lot of why you get, “No, you do it.”And I actually can't believe I didn't say this earlier, but a lot of times when we're doing things for kids, they feel it as nurturing.So sometimes when they don't want to help, it's their way of saying, “I want to make sure you're taking care of me.” Sometimes that can look like refusal or not wanting to do things themselves.Corey: Yeah, absolutely.Sarah: Thanks, Corey.Corey: Thank you. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

Send us a textThis episode features Nick Brunacini, Terry Garrison and John VanceWe dig into why reactions make or break leadership, how to de-escalate without dodging accountability, and why the best chiefs manage problems early and at the lowest level. Stories from the fireground and the station show how kindness, clarity, and standards live together.• Owning attitude and response under stress• Differentiating training gaps from discipline issues• Managing at the lowest level with real support• Using personal power over positional power• Pausing before acting to create options• Fixing problems early before they gain seniority• Stopping freelancing and backing standards• Modeling humor, consistency and calm• Handling HR and law enforcement escalation wisely• Treating one-offs differently from habitual behaviorRead Terry Garrison's article here: https://bshifter.com/think-youre-a-strong-leader-your-reactions-might-prove-otherwise/Buy “Timeless Tactical Truths from Alan Brunacini” at bshifter.com in our store for only $10!This episode was recorded at the Alan V. Brunacini Command Training Center in Phoenix on February 3, 2026.For Waldorf University Blue Card credit and discounts: https://www.waldorf.edu/blue-card/For free command and leadership support, check out bshifter.comSign up for the B Shifter Buckslip, our free weekly newsletter here: https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/su/fmgs92N/BuckslipShop B Shifter here: https://bshifter.myshopify.comAll of our links here: https://linktr.ee/BShifterThanks for listening - please subscribe and give us your support! 

I reached out to Mandii because her personality online seemed very relatable and even funny- after getting to know her through this podcast interview, I learned she is a badass! Her prior job was in security, and she was in the Marine Corp as well.  Modeling became her full time gig after a while! I was so surprised at all the shifts Mandii has made throughout her life, I can tell she has the drive to make things happen.  Check out Mandii on her IG: https://www.instagram.com/mandii_monarch/ Cover Image by SwipeRight Photo

In this episode, we're talking about what truly changes when AAC is modeled all day—not just during instruction, but during play, routines, transitions, and real-life moments. So often, AAC is treated as something that happens only at the table or during therapy. But when modeling AAC becomes part of the entire day, communication shifts from a task to a relationship. This episode explores how modeling AAC without expectation builds regulation, engagement, trust, and spontaneous communication over time. In this episode, you'll learn: What "all-day AAC modeling" actually means (and what it doesn't) Why modeling AAC throughout the day supports regulation and engagement How modeling without expectation reduces pressure for kids and adults Examples of AAC use during play, routines, and transitions Why AAC devices and core boards should be available beyond instruction How consistent modeling supports spontaneous communication Why relationships grow stronger when communication is modeled relationally Common reasons adults stop modeling AAC—and why consistency matters Key takeaways: Modeling AAC all day means access across the entire day Communication grows through exposure, not pressure Modeling without expectation builds safety and trust AAC works best when it's part of daily life, not a special activity Try this today: Choose one routine (snack, play, or transitions) and commit to modeling AAC there for a week Model on a core board or AAC device without prompting or expecting a response Notice engagement, connection, and regulation—not how many buttons are pressed Want support modeling AAC all day? If you want to feel more confident using AAC beyond structured moments, you don't have to figure it out alone. My AAC Bootcamp is designed to help educators and caregivers model AAC naturally across the entire day—during play, routines, and real-life moments—without pressure or perfection. When AAC is modeled all day, communication stops being a task—and starts becoming a relationship. Links & Related Podcast Episodes (Lindsay, can you add related podcasts?) Visual Schedule Pictures Resource Visual Schedule Information Visual Schedules Made Easy Course  

In this episode of the Better Coaching podcast, Luke Gromer speaks with Betsy Butterick about her new book, 'Kids These Days,' which explores effective strategies for coaching Gen Z athletes. They discuss the unique challenges that Gen Z presents to coaches, the importance of leading with 'why,' and how to navigate technology in coaching. Betsy emphasizes the need for co-creation in team environments, the difference between praise and affirmation, and the significance of modeling vulnerability and accountability as a coach. The conversation also touches on how to teach accountability among peers and the importance of creating tech-free spaces for genuine connection.—RYG x NIKE SPORTS CAMPSThe Better Coaching Podcast is powered by RYG Athletics, a proud provider of NIKE Sports Camps.If you're interested in becoming one of our NIKE Sports Camp directors, fill out the form below.Director interest form:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://forms.gle/Bo4otGjRjDkju1xp8⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RYG Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://rygathletics.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠—FREE PODCAST NOTES, NEWSLETTER, & COACHES COMMUNITYClick the link below to download the show notes, subscribe to our newsletter, or join the community!

This crossover episode from the Latent Space podcast features Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan on the 10-year anniversary of the Chan Zuckerberg Initiative and their expanded Biohub vision. They discuss how a “Frontier Biology Lab” working in sync with a “Frontier AI Lab” could enable breakthroughs like a Virtual Cell and true N-of-1 precision medicine. The conversation covers the acquisition of Evolutionary Scale and ESM3, new biological data collection at scale, and how AI-powered biology might transform drug discovery and disease prevention. Sponsors: Blitzy: Blitzy is the autonomous code generation platform that ingests millions of lines of code to accelerate enterprise software development by up to 5x with premium, spec-driven output. Schedule a strategy session with their AI solutions consultants at https://blitzy.com Framer: Framer is an enterprise-grade website builder that lets business teams design, launch, and optimize their.com with AI-powered wireframing, real-time collaboration, and built-in analytics. Start building for free and get 30% off a Framer Pro annual plan at https://framer.com/cognitive Serval: Serval uses AI-powered automations to cut IT help desk tickets by more than 50%, freeing your team from repetitive tasks like password resets and onboarding. Book your free pilot and guarantee 50% help desk automation by week four at https://serval.com/cognitive Tasklet: Tasklet is an AI agent that automates your work 24/7; just describe what you want in plain English and it gets the job done. Try it for free and use code COGREV for 50% off your first month at https://tasklet.ai CHAPTERS: (00:00) About the Episode (04:27) CZI origins and focus (08:29) Why tools over cures (14:43) Virtual cells and imaging (Part 1) (20:19) Sponsors: Blitzy | Framer (23:24) Virtual cells and imaging (Part 2) (25:22) Data diversity and grounding (32:30) Evaluating models and Biohub (Part 1) (37:53) Sponsors: Serval | Tasklet (40:42) Evaluating models and Biohub (Part 2) (41:06) Future healthcare and aging (53:39) Modeling scales and immunity (58:53) Timelines, data, and collaboration (01:04:01) Outro PRODUCED BY: https://aipodcast.ing SOCIAL LINKS: Website: https://www.cognitiverevolution.ai Twitter (Podcast): https://x.com/cogrev_podcast Twitter (Nathan): https://x.com/labenz LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nathanlabenz/ Youtube: https://youtube.com/@CognitiveRevolutionPodcast Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/de/podcast/the-cognitive-revolution-ai-builders-researchers-and/id1669813431 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6yHyok3M3BjqzR0VB5MSyk

We’re back!  It’s been a heck of a few  weeks for the FTN crew but we are back at it and bringing some reactions to the most recent preview.  We … Read More