Psychologists Off The Clock: A Psychology Podcast About The Science And Practice Of Living Well

In a world constantly demanding our attention and energy, have you ever felt trapped between the crucial need to care for yourself and the undeniable urge to care for those around you?  Well, for this conversation, Debbie gets into that very dilemma with Dr. Jordan Quaglia, as he challenges us to move beyond the 'either/or' of self-care and explore his revolutionary 'We Care' approach.  Jordan, who is the author of Self-Care to We Care: The New Science of Mindful Boundaries and Caring From an Undivided Heart, gives his take on the research on balancing self-care with caring for others and emphasizes the importance of holding both self-care and compassion for others simultaneously and offers practical strategies for setting healthy boundaries and integrating self-care into daily life. Come join Debbie and Jordan to redefine what it means to care! Listen and Learn:  Why balancing care for others and self-care isn't an either-or and the hidden choices in between When self-care crosses into avoidance or indulgence, it may signal disconnection rather than renewal Finding balance when caring for others overrides your own needs In moments of tragedy, do you become the superhero or collapse from the hurt? The We Care framework to transform self-care and caring for others into one balanced practice in everyday life Transform overwhelming empathy into sustainable compassion that fuels your action and protects your well-being How care-based boundaries protect your energy while deepening connection, not guilt Balancing self-care and caring for the world work together to fuel your resilience and action Resources:  From Self-Care to We-Care: The New Science of Mindful Boundaries and Caring from an Undivided Heart: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781645473473 Jordan's website: https://www.jordanquaglia.com/ Connect with Jordan on LinkedIn and Instagram:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/jordanquaglia  https://www.instagram.com/mindfulboundaries/?hl=en About Jordan Quaglia Jordan Quaglia, PhD, has spent over a decade researching and teaching on topics such as mindfulness, compassion, and boundaries. He is an associate professor of psychology at Naropa University, where he directs the Cognitive and Affective Science Laboratory and is research director for its Center for the Advancement of Contemplative Education. A recognized expert in the science of compassion, he has been designated as a research fellow by the Mind & Life Institute, a Contemplative Social Justice Scholar for Contemplative Mind in Society, and a panelist for multiple United Nations Day of Vesak conferences. In addition to his research, Jordan co-developed and regularly teaches an eight-week compassion training curriculum for hundreds of individuals. He lives with his wife in Boulder, Colorado. Book: From Self-Care to We-Care: The New Science of Mindful Boundaries and Caring from an Undivided Heart Related episodes:  374. Developing and Deepening Connections with Adam Dorsay  360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson  262. Hope and Values in Dark Times 254. Cultivating Compassion for a Lasting Connection with Michaela Thomas 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer  201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Nef 105. The Self-Care Prescription with Robyn Gobin 75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer 65. Self-care, Kindness, and Living Well with Kelly Wilson  46. Altruism and the Flow of Compassion with Yotam Heineberg 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

True strength and success lie in how well we can come together and support one another and how well we can stand side by side to move forward as a collective.  That powerful message comes straight from our guest, Dr. Lakeysha Hallmon, who is the author of No One Is Self-Made: Build Your Village to Flourish in Business and Life, and it perfectly sets the tone for this deeply honest and inspiring conversation with Jill. They talk about why we're not meant to do life or business solo, the power of building your “village,” and how real success comes from community, not isolation. If you've ever wondered who you need in your corner, how to find your purpose, or how to stop carrying the weight alone, this one's for you. Hit play on this conversation to find out what being “village made” really means and why it just might change the way you show up in the world. Listen and Learn:  Why the "self-made" myth is harmful and how being "village-made" redefines success How neuroscience proves we're wired for community and why it's vital for well-being Why being communal is especially critical for marginalized communities to overcome systemic barriers Are purpose and alignment the driving forces behind building a thriving community? "Life assignments" you can put into practice reveal your true purpose The six essential roles needed to build your "village" and how they contribute to collective success How to attract your "village" by showing up authentically and setting intentions in new spaces The crucial difference between individual and "village-made" values, and how they shape community Key "village-made" values like sharing space with those who shine and radical inclusivity When to keep grinding and when surrendering opens doors you never expected Channelling your anger into action and the "village verbs" that empower community building Resources:  Find Lakeysha and buy her book, No One is Self-Made, at https://drkeyhallmon.com/noism/ or get it at our POTC bookshop: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780063315891  Connect with Lakeysha on social media: http://www.linkedin.com/in/lakeysha-hallmon-ed-d-52680215a https://www.instagram.com/drkeyhallmon   Debbie's article on asking for help: https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-ask-for-help-without-discomfort-or-apology About Lakeysha Hallmon Dr. Lakeysha Hallmon has transformed the lives of thousands of Black entrepreneurs across the world through her flagship brand The Village Market, and sister organizations The Village Retail, a storefront featuring premier Black-owned brands and nonprofit Our Village United, which revitalizes small businesses by providing funding and technical services. Her love of community, paired with her mantra, Support Is a Verb, inspires Black entrepreneurs everywhere and the communities who support them with intention. As an award-winning expert in education and business development, Hallmon's innovative village model has become highly sought-after and has facilitated 8.3 million dollars in sales to Black businesses. Related Episodes 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer 273. A More Just Future with Dolly Chugh 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 370. Freedom, Energy, and Power with Emma Seppälä 371. Uniting Toward a Better Future with Diana McLain Smith Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's easy to forget how much doing something creative can lift your mood. Whether you're painting, building something, or just doodling for fun, creating is good for your brain and your mental health!  In this conversation, Debbie interviews bestselling author Kelly Corrigan, along with her daughter and coauthor, Claire Corrigan Lichty. They talk about their new children's book, Marianne the Maker, which highlights how creativity and hands-on making can support well-being for kids and adults alike. Listen in to hear about Kelly and Claire's experience working together as a mother-and-daughter duo, and learn how to incorporate everyday creativity to lift spirits, spark connection, and bond families! Listen and Learn: How can engaging in small creative acts help restore mental clarity and emotional balance during times of stress or uncertainty? Why is creativity not just a luxury but a scientifically backed, essential part of human well-being that can help both children and adults access better mental health? Actively supporting children's creativity by observing their interests and making space at home that reflects and encourages those passions Why is it valuable for families to create a home environment that normalizes creativity and engaged leisure, and how does this foster long-term cognitive and emotional development in kids? The benefits of creative hobbies as a form of active rest highlight their role in reducing mental fatigue, enhancing focus, and providing a healthy escape from cognitive overload How writing, even in imperfect or irregular ways, can serve as a powerful tool for mental clarity and emotional release during stressful times The importance of unstructured time and creative making in fostering self-entertainment, well-being, and resisting cultural pressures to constantly be productive The importance of sharing creative work for values-driven reasons rather than external validation Resources: Kelly's website: https://www.kellycorrigan.com/  Podcast: Kelly Corrigan Wonders: https://www.kellycorrigan.com/podcast Book: https://www.mariannethemaker.com/ https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593206096  Social Media:  Kelly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kellycorrigan/  Kelly on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kellycorrigan/  Claire on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/claire.lichty/ Kelly's TED Talk, To Love Is to Be Brave: https://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_corrigan_to_love_is_to_be_brave  Kelly's New York Times Op Eds:  https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/05/opinion/parenting-college-empty-nest-pandemic.html https://www.nytimes.com/2019/08/13/well/family/advice-to-my-college-freshman.html https://www.nytimes.com/2021/11/24/opinion/thanksgiving-family-forgiveness.html https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/22/well/family/college-applications-parents-children-advice.html Your Brain on Art (book mentioned in this interview):  https://bookshop.org/p/books/your-brain-on-art-how-the-arts-transform-us-susan-magsamen/18580097  If you want to write and could use some writing prompts and guided writing exercises, check out Debbie's Guided Journaling Substack here: https://guidedjournaling.substack.com/  Debbie's article on letting kids be bored: https://www.drdebbiesorensen.com/blogposts/2020/5/15/parents-get-ready-for-the-summer-of-boredom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raising grounded, thoughtful kids in today's chaotic world is no small task. In this episode, Emily talks with award-winning journalist and author Melinda Wenner Moyer about her new book, Hello, Cruel World: Science-Based Strategies for Raising Terrific Kids in Terrifying Times. Melinda shares practical, research-based tools to help parents guide their children through media influence, bias, and the challenges of social media and technology. It's a powerful conversation filled with real-world strategies for raising compassionate, critical-thinking kids who can thrive, even when the world feels upside down. Listen and Learn: How can parents raise compassionate, resilient kids when the world feels increasingly chaotic and uncertain? Understanding how bias and polarization form in kids is key to raising thoughtful, inclusive humans Why kids develop biased thinking and how family conversations can counter social media's influence How listening to your kids can reduce extremism, build empathy, and shape a better future Ways to talk with your kid about bias and hate language, even if they don't open up easily The importance of getting your kids to team up with diverse friends on projects to help them see past biases Teaching kids media literacy helps them think critically Research often misrepresents social media harm, but parent-child bonds shape kids' real tech experience Managing kids' tech means by balancing connection, autonomy, and open talks, not just strict rules Melinda's hope for parents embracing open talks and respect, shaping a stronger, kinder generation Resources: Hello Cruel World!: Science-Based Strategies for Raising Terrific Kids in Terrifying Times: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593719367 Melinda's website: https://www.melindawennermoyer.com/ Melinda's Substack: https://melindawmoyer.substack.com/  Connect with Melinda on social media:  https://www.instagram.com/melindawmoyer/?hl=en https://www.facebook.com/melindawennermoyer/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/melindawennermoyer  Emily's Substack article about Netflix's Adolescence: https://emilyedlynn.substack.com/p/the-two-problems-with-netflixs-adolescence?r=8nx18 About Melinda Wenner Moyer Melinda Wenner Moyer is an award-winning journalist whose work explores the intersection of science and everyday life. She's known for her deep dives into subjects that have both scientific and societal implications, addressing issues that are relevant to parents, families, and the general public. Melinda is a contributing editor at Scientific American magazine and a regular contributor and former columnist at The New York Times. Her first book, How To Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes, was published in July 2021 and won a gold medal in the 2022 Living Now Book Awards. Her second book, Hello Cruel World!: Science-Based Strategies for Raising Terrific Kids in Terrifying Times, will be published on May 27, 2025. She lives in New York's Hudson Valley.  Related Episodes: 390. Raising Empowered Girls in a Sexist World with Jo-Ann Finkelstein 381. Reimagining Boyhood with Ruth Whippman 382. The Anxious Generation? The Conversation We Should Be Having About Kids, Technology, and Mental Health 377. How to Raise a Citizen with Lindsey Cormack 317. Growing Up in Public with Devorah Heitner 256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer 398. Finding Joy in Your Relationship with Money with Elizabeth Husserl Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the ability to negotiate with a hostage-taker was also a skill that could improve relationships in everyday life? Gary Noesner, who is a former FBI chief negotiator and author of 'Stalling for Time,' which deep dives into his experiences and the lessons he's learned about human nature and effective communication over his 30-year career, joins Yael for this episode. You'll hear how patience, empathy, and active listening aren't just crisis tools; they're essential for everyday connection too. Gary also reflects on the evolution of negotiation tactics, the significance of emotional control, and the value of building genuine relationships. Listen and Learn:  How active listening transformed hostage negotiation, from trading demands to truly hearing the pain beneath Why most hostage-takers aren't criminals but people in crisis, and how listening changes everything How sitting with uncertainty and leading with empathy defuses crises more than force ever could Why slowing down negotiations and investing in human understanding can save lives in high-stakes crises Understanding even the most difficult people can defuse conflict and open the door to real influence The Waco Siege and how it exposed a clash of FBI strategies and what it taught us about negotiation, power, and restraint What strategies do elite negotiators use to maintain composure in high-pressure situations and handle their emotions without assuming undue responsibility? How humility, likability, and relationship-building can defuse conflict at home, work, or in crisis Resources:  Stalling for Time: My Life as an FBI Hostage Negotiator https://garynoesner.com/ Yael's newsletter post about connecting like a hostage negotiator Kate Murphy's book with a profile of Gary: Why Won't You Listen to Me? Jamie Holmes' book with a profile of Gary: Nonsense Connect with Gary on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gary-noesner-1a2480b Connect with Gary on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Stalling-for-Time/148979708465038 Connect with Gary on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/garynoesner/?hl=en About Gary Noesner:  Gary Noesner retired from the FBI in 2003 following a 30-year career as an investigator, instructor, and negotiator. A significant focus of his career was directed toward investigating Middle East hijackings in which American citizens were victimized. In addition, he was an FBI hostage negotiator for 23 years of his career, retiring as the Chief of the FBI's Crisis Negotiation Unit, Critical Incident Response Group, the first person to hold that position. In that capacity, he was heavily involved in numerous crisis incidents covering prison riots, right-wing militia standoffs, religious zealot sieges, terrorist embassy takeovers, airplane hijackings, and over 120 overseas kidnapping cases involving American citizens. He has written a book about his FBI negotiation career, which was published by Penguin Random House in 2010, entitled Stalling for Time: My Life as an FBI Hostage Negotiator.    The book is being used in part as the basis for a six-part mini-series on Waco that will air on the Paramount Network on January 24, 2018. Related Episodes: 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 392. Outraged with Kurt Gray 403. Conflict Resilience with Bob Bordone and Joel Salinas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is one you're really going to want to lean into because Michael is talking all about radical listening with Robert V. Biswas-Diener. If you've ever felt like traditional ‘active listening' just doesn't cut it, this conversation is going to open your ears and your mind in a whole new way. They chat about key ideas from Robert and his coauthor Christian Van Nieuwerburgh's book, Radical Listening: The Art of True Connection, such as why traditional active listening often falls short and what it means to really show up for someone through listening with intention, how to adapt your listening style depending on the situation, how culture can shape communication, and why staying curious might be one of the most powerful tools in your toolbox. This conversation is for anyone who wants to have deeper, more meaningful conversations with friends, coworkers, or anyone you care about! Listen and Learn: Why does radical listening go beyond traditional active listening, and how does focusing on intention transform the way we pay attention in conversations? How does your listening intention, whether to validate, learn, or fix, shape what specific cues and details you focus on during a conversation? How can well-intentioned behaviors like comparing, competing, or offering advice become obstacles to effective listening and connection? The importance of aligning your listening intention with the speaker's intention to create a true connection in a conversation How you can use internal and external skills, like calming your mind or staying present, to become a better listener Noticing different types of silence to help you understand what's really happening in a conversation Understanding cultural differences, and letting go of the “awkward pause” to help you listen more openly How you can accept someone's perspective without agreeing with it, and still create a more respectful and open conversation Why the way you ask questions matters, and why you want to ask ones that help the other person open up, not just satisfy your own curiosity How can interjecting, when done thoughtfully, show deep engagement in a conversation without being rude? Resources: Radical Listening: The Art of True Connection: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781523007196 Robert's LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/robert-biswas-diener-a860289/ Robert's websites https://robertdiener.com/ and https://positiveacorn.com/  Christian's website: https://coachonamotorcycle.com/ Parking Cars in America, 1910-1945: A History https://relationalriffs.substack.com/p/why-listening-is-a-superpower https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/are-you-listening/ About Robert Biswas-Diener: Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener is a researcher, author, and consultant with 75 peer-reviewed academic articles, and he has over 27,000 citations.  His previous books include The Upside Of Your Dark Side (New York Times bestseller, 2014) and the 2007 prose award winner, Happiness.  He has presented keynotes to Lululemon, Deloitte, Humana, AARP, The World Bank, and others.  In 2024, Thinkers50 named Robert one of the “50 most influential executive coaches in the world”.  He lives in Portland, Oregon, enjoying drawing and rock climbing. Related Episodes: 393. Supercommunicators with Charles Duhigg 353. Ask Great Questions with Jeff Wetzler 360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson 191. Conversations that Connect with AJ Harbinger Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Leadership so often comes with the pressure to appear strong, composed, and endlessly capable, but that version of leadership is no longer serving us. In this episode, Debbie sits down with Patricia Grabarek and Katina Sawyer, co-authors of Leading for Wellness, for a meaningful conversation about redefining leadership through the lens of wellness, authenticity, and vulnerability.  They share why it's time to move beyond outdated ideals of stoicism and perfection and how embracing a more human-centered approach, through genuine connection, clear boundaries, and flexible team cultures, can lead to healthier, more productive workplaces. With real-life examples and research-backed insights, Patricia and Katina offer practical strategies leaders can use to show up more fully, support their teams more deeply, and lead with intention and care. Listen and Learn: How toxic workplaces don't just harm employees, they drain communities, profits, and society as a whole How small acts of support from “generator” leaders can spark workplace wellness, even in hard times Can embracing authenticity over outdated leadership norms help teams connect, grow, and stay human? Why showing vulnerability and owning mistakes builds trust, safety, and real connection in leadership Building emotionally honest, flexible team cultures without slipping into toxic positivity How humane leaders bend rigid rules and protect their teams without crossing ethical lines The ways leaders break toxic overwork cycles and build teams that thrive without being always on Resources: Leading for Wellness: How to Create a Team Culture Where Everyone Thrives: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781394292011Connect with Patricia Grabarek and Katina Sawyer on social media: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patriciagrabarek/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/katina-sawyer-ph-d/  https://www.linkedin.com/company/workrbeeing/  https://www.instagram.com/workrbeeing/ https://www.instagram.com/patriciagrabarek/ About Patricia Grabarek and Katina Sawyer: Patricia Grabarek and Katina Sawyer are co-founders of Workr Beeing, and coauthor of Leading for Wellness: How to Create a Team Culture Where Everyone Thrives. Patricia Grabarek, Ph.D., is a seasoned industrial and organizational psychologist specializing in workplace wellness, organizational culture, employee engagement, diversity and inclusion, and leadership development. With a background in both consulting and internal roles, Dr. Grabarek has led people analytics and talent management initiatives for more than 60 organizations across various industries. Her work focuses on research-based strategies to improve well-being, retention, performance, and diversity efforts. She holds a Ph.D. and MS in industrial/organizational psychology from Penn State and a B.A. in Psychology from UCLA. Katina Sawyer, Ph.D., is an industrial and organizational psychologist and an Associate Professor of Management and Organizations at the University of Arizona's Eller College of Management. A leading expert in work-life balance, leadership, positive workplace behaviors, and diversity, she has published more than 50 peer-reviewed studies, book chapters, and articles in outlets such as Harvard Business Review. She holds a B.A. in psychology from Villanova University and a dual Ph.D. and M.S. in industrial and organizational psychology and women's studies from Penn State. Related episodes:  338. ACT for Burnout with Debbie!  265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren  299. Leadership and the Changing Workplace with Chris Shipley  378. The Happy High Achiever with Mary Anderson 357. Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas and Christopher Wong Michaelson 290. Shared Sisterhood: Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work with Tina Opie and Beth Livingston  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Constantly battling that harsh inner voice that tells you you're not enough, that you'll never measure up? It can feel like this voice is always lurking, trying to undermine your confidence and making it so much harder to move forward. The good news is that you can change your internal narrative. For this episode, Jill welcomes Shawn Costello Woolley and Holly Yates, coauthors of The Inner Critic Workbook, a fantastic resource that helps you transform your inner critic into a supportive, empowering voice. You'll understand how shame fuels negative self-talk, but more importantly, how self-compassion, mindfulness, and connecting with shared humanity can help you to quiet your critic and start building a kinder, more confident inner dialogue. Listen and Learn: How your inner critic often sabotages your path toward what matters to you most Why your inner critic exists, how it hijacks your progress, and the ways it holds you back in life Is your inner critic pushing you to avoid discomfort, keeping you from the meaningful things you crave? Why self-compassion isn't about letting yourself off the hook Why attempting to replace your inner critic with positivity frequently fails, and what works instead When your inner critic speaks, does it close doors or point you in the direction of values you care about? Using the CARE method for growth to turn your inner critic into a compassionate coach How shame isolates you, but sharing struggles helps you connect and turns our inner critic into a coach Transforming self-criticism into compassion by speaking to yourself the way you would to a friend Stepping back from your thoughts and reacting intentionally, not just based on emotional interpretations How observing your thoughts and actions in the present moment can help clarify your values and guide your choices Resources: The Inner Critic Workbook: Self-Compassion and Mindfulness Skills to Reduce Feelings of Shame, Build Self-Worth, and Improve Your Life and Relationships: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648484292 Shawn's website: https://www.drshawnwhooley.com/ More about Holly on: https://www.newharbinger.com/author/holly-yates/ Connect with Shawn and Holly on social media: https://www.linkedin.com/in/holly-yates-8a8055321 https://www.instagram.com/holly.yates.healing/ https://www.instagram.com/shawncostello19/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/shawn-costello-whooley-psyd-b181294 Related Episodes: 385. Oliver Burkeman on Embracing Your Limitations 346. Self-compassion Daily Journal with Diana Hill 341. Self-Forgiveness with Grant Dewar 301. Seven Daily ACT Practices for Living Fully with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff 147. Extending Compassion with Janina Scarlet and Sara Schairer 145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Paul Gilbert 75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You've tried reasoning with your kids, setting boundaries, and even taking away privileges, but the conflict just keeps bubbling up. When nothing seems to calm the chaos, where can you turn as a parent who's simply worn out and craving peace in your home? For this conversation, Emily brings in guest Dr. Jonathan Caspi, an internationally recognized sibling expert and professor at Montclair State University. Jonathan offers insights from his book, Raising Loving Siblings, on the parental role in sibling conflict, the importance of sibling closeness, and strategies to manage and improve sibling relationships.  Tune in if you are interested in learning about parental involvement and guidance for cultivating positive sibling relationships and reducing conflict.  Listen and Learn:  Why well-meaning parents may unknowingly fuel sibling rivalry and what to do differently instead Does parental conflict fuel sibling rivalry?  Why recognizing harmful sibling behavior matters How sibling bullying hides in plain sight through avoidance, fear, and subtle signs parents often miss Why everyday sibling spats are normal, but constant conflict may signal deeper family dynamics at play Can frequent sibling fights sabotage lifelong bonds? Why perceived favoritism can fuel sibling conflict, why avoiding favoritism talk may actually hurt family dynamics, and how to handle it better How to manage sibling bickering and aggression with strategies that foster better behavior and connection How validating kids' emotions and avoiding the 'victim vs. aggressor' mindset can help resolve sibling conflicts How parents' own childhood experiences can shape their approach to sibling relationships Resources:  ● Jonathan's book Raising Loving Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Help Your Kids Connect  ● Jonathan's websites:  https://siblingexpert.com/author/caspij/ http://www.theeasyfamily.com/  ● Connect with Jonathan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/siblingexpert/  About Jonathan Caspi Jonathan Caspi, PhD, MSW, is Professor of Family Science and Human Development at Montclair State University in New Jersey. Dr. Caspi is an internationally recognized sibling expert. In addition to researching, writing, and teaching about families and siblings, he has been a family therapist for over 30 years and has a private practice in New Jersey. Related Episodes: 397. The Mindful Path to Intimacy with James Cordova 386. Parents Are Stressed: What Do We Do About It? With Emily, Debbie, and Yael 373. How to Stop Freaking Out with Carla Naumburg 369. Good News About Adolescence with Ellen Galinsky 241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if your next disagreement could actually bring you closer to someone instead of driving you apart? In this episode, we're diving into Conflict Resilience: Negotiating Disagreement Without Giving Up or Giving In with co-authors Bob Bordone, a conflict resolution expert from Harvard, and Joe Salinas, a behavioral neurologist and founder of Isaac Health. Together with Yael, they have a down-to-earth conversation about what it really takes to stay present in conflict and why that matters for your relationships and your brain.  You'll hear personal stories, surprising research, and powerful insights on why it's so important to get comfortable with discomfort, listen with an open heart, and know when (and how) to engage in tough conversations. Listen and Learn:  What happens when a conflict avoider and a conflict expert team up to explore how tension builds connection? Why do two people experience the same conflict so differently, and how does your brain shape that story? Is conflict really worse today, or have we just lost the resilience to stay in the heat and handle it? Why avoiding conflict rewires your brain to fear it and building resilience means facing the heat, slowly. How sharing real stories across deep divides can reshape how we see “the other” and actually spark true change. Can deeper listening to those we disagree with reshape our brains, our beliefs, and maybe even our world? Why listening grows from curiosity to open space for real connection Knowing when to engage or exit conflict starts with curiosity and protects both peace and power Resources:  Conflict Resilience: Negotiating Disagreement Without Giving Up or Giving In: http://www.conflictresiliencebook.com Joel's website: https://joelsalinasmd.com/ Bob's website: https://www.bobbordone.com/about-me#:~:text=My%20Story,served%20as%20the%20Thaddeus%20R Yael's newsletter interview with the authors of You're Not as Crazy as I Thought (But You're Still Wrong)—on the topic of moving from “me versus you” to “us versus the problem” Additional Books Referenced in the Episode  Doppelganger: A Trip into the Mirror World: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781250338143  The Undoing Project: A Friendship That Changed Our Minds: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780393354775 Rising Out of Hatred: The Awakening of a Former White Nationalist: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780525434955 The Klansman's Son: My Journey from White Nationalism to Antiracism: A Memoir: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781419764783 You're Not as Crazy as I Thought (But You're Still Wrong): https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781612344614 About Bob Bordone:  Robert C. Bordone is a Senior Fellow at Harvard Law School, founder and former director of the Harvard Negotiation and Mediation Clinical Program, former Thaddeus R. Beal Clinical Professor of Law at Harvard Law School, and founder of The Cambridge Negotiation Institute. He is co-author of Designing Systems and Processes for Managing Disputes, and co-editor of The Handbook of Dispute Resolution. Bordone was ranked among 2025's World's Top 30 Negotiation Professionals by Global Gurus. About Joel Salinas:  Joel Salinas, M.D. is a behavioral neurologist, scientist, and Clinical Associate Professor of Neurology at the NYU Grossman School of Medicine, founder and Chief Medical Officer at Isaac Health, and former Harvard Medical School faculty. He is the author of Mirror Touch: A Memoir of Synesthesia and the Secret Life of the Brain.   Related Episodes: 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie 392. Outraged with Kurt Gray 397. The Mindful Path to Intimacy with James Còrdova 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 371. Uniting Toward a Better Future with Diana McLain Smith Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Breaking the cycle of addiction is both possible and challenging, but even just rethinking your relationship with it can be a powerful first step toward change. Offering an alternative to strict abstinence models is Kristin Dempsey, the author of The Harm Reduction Workbook for Addiction, who invites you to reconsider your approach to addiction, offering a tangible, compassionate, and science-backed method of recovery known as harm reduction.  Through reflective listening, motivational interviewing, curiosity, and "change talk," Kristin talks to Michael about just a few of these helpful strategies for reassessing your relationship with addictive substances (and even other areas of your life) and navigating change in a way that feels both supportive and sustainable.  Listen and Learn:  How harm reduction and motivational interviewing reshape substance use treatment with compassion What changes when someone explores behavior on their own with a workbook versus in live conversation? How can Kristin's workbook also reveal insights about everyday habits and hidden patterns? Why do we resist advice, even when we ask for it, and how can choice unlock real change? How “change talk” in motivational interviewing helps people move from intention to action Using reflective listening to improve your conversations and build stronger, more meaningful connections Can curiosity, not problem-solving, unlock deeper conversations and personal growth? Why you should support someone struggling with substance use by building a relationship first, not by jumping to advice Resources:  The Harm Reduction Workbook for Addiction: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648481901  Kristen's social media links: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristin-dempsey-ed-d-lpcc-lmft-322812a Bluesky: ‪@kristind-lmft-lpcc.bsky.social‬ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057356474362.  For more on Kristen's webinars and podcasts, in addition to information about her practice, see here: https://www.kristindempseycounseling.com/ Order The Harm Reduction Workbook and find free worksheets: https://www.newharbinger.com/9781648481901/the-harm-reduction-workbook-for-addiction/ Yael's newsletter on listening About Kristin Dempsey Kristin L. Dempsey, EdD, LMFT, LPCC, is a psychotherapist, counselor educator, and trainer. For thirty years, she has supported individuals with exploring their own relationships to substances. She is a member of the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers (MINT) and has been privileged to provide motivational interviewing (MI) training to thousands of people in behavioral health, primary care, public health, school, corrections, and human services organizations. Related Episodes 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Nadine Mastroleo 286. Not Drinking Tonight with Amanda White 101. The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Hillary Connery 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey 135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Success isn't just about how hard you work. It's also about who's advocating for you even when you're not in the room. In this episode, Debbie talks with Rosalind Chow, an associate professor at Carnegie Mellon University, about her new book, The Doors You Can Open A New Way to Network, Build Trust, and Use Your Influence to Create a More Inclusive Workplace.  They get into the real difference between mentorship and sponsorship, why both matter, and how having the right sponsor can completely change the game for your career.  Rosalind shares her perspective on the challenges of systemic racism and inclusion and how being intentional about sponsorship can actually create real opportunities for people who need them. Concluding the interview, Debbie and Yael give their take on what it means to build relationships that open doors, not just for ourselves but for others, too. Listen and Learn:  When systemic solutions fade, what can individuals do? How sponsorship, not mentorship, breaks barriers for marginalized professionals How power dynamics in mentorship can shape careers and why sponsorship may be the real key to success Rethinking networking and how shifting from power moves to collective problem-solving can build real influence Sponsorship vs. mentorship: why trust flows differently, and why sponsors take the biggest career risks Can sponsorship fight bias, or does it reinforce it? How Kristin became the unlikely leader of a program for Black professionals and won over skeptics How sponsoring a colleague led Kristin to a Harvard Business Review article and a career boost Resources:  Rosalind's website: https://www.rosalindchow.com/ The Doors You Can Open: A New Way to Network, Build Trust, and Use Your Influence to Create a More Inclusive Workplace: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781541702752 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rosalind-chow-6b25541b0/ About Rosalind Chow Rosalind Chow is an Associate Professor of Organizational Behavior and Theory at Carnegie Mellon University, where she studies the power of social hierarchy and its impact on diversity and inclusion efforts within organizations. She uses her research expertise to direct executive leadership programs aimed at accelerating participants' careers, with a particular focus on the advancement of women and members of marginalized groups. Her forthcoming book, The Doors You Can Open (PublicAffairs, April 8, 2025), introduces the concept of sponsorship as a way we can use our social connections to change the relationships we have with other people and the relationships that other people have with one another in the service of creating greater communal good. Related Episodes:  299. Leadership and the Changing Workplace with Chris Shipley 290. Shared Sisterhood: Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work with Tina Opie and Beth Livingston 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith 389. Generational Differences in the Workplace with Michelle Quist Ryder 357. Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas and Christopher Wong Michaelson 347. Job Changes & Career Pivots with Paula Brand  276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson  265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren  107. Playing Big with Tara Mohr  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Off-the-clockers, it's time to celebrate because Psychologists Off The Clock just hit 400 episodes!

Balancing warmth with assertiveness can feel like an impossible juggling act—too soft, and you're overlooked; too strong, and you're “too much.” Alison Fragale's book, Likable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve, offers practical, research-backed strategies to help women excel at work and in life.  In this episode, you'll get to understand the science of power and status, self-promotion without the cringe, and overcoming gender biases with authenticity and confidence. We also include real-world challenges, making this discussion both insightful and refreshingly relatable. Listen and Learn:  How power controls resources, but status shapes influence and why respect is the key to real authority How women can play smart within unfair rules to spark real change The science behind being a likable badass Navigating the balance between assertiveness and warmth and finding your authentic style Overcoming biases in social and professional settings How to confidently share your wins without feeling boastful, while staying warm and relatable Resources:  Alison's Book: Likable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve Alison's Website: alisonfragale.com Connect with Alison on: LinkedIn Instagram TikTok Alison's Substack: The Upper Hand with Alison Fragale Alison's Media Page: https://alisonfragale.com/media-research/ Alison's Hidden Brain episode: https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/how-to-win-people-over/ My WorkLife with Adam Grant episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secret-to-success-isnt-power-its-status/id1346314086?i=1000668204498 About Alison Fragale  Alison Fragale is the Mary Farley Ames Lee Distinguished Scholar of Organizational Behavior at the University of North Carolina Chapel Hill Kenan-Flagler Business School. As a research psychologist, award-winning professor, international keynote speaker, and author, she is on a mission to help others — especially women — use behavioral science to work and live better. Her scholarship has been published in the most prestigious academic journals in her field and featured in prominent media outlets such as The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Financial Times, Boston Globe, and Inc. Alison is the author of the national bestseller, LIKEABLE BADASS: How Women Get the Success They Deserve. She lives in Chicago with her husband and three children, who are all named after professional athletes. Related Episodes 49. Empowering Women with Robyn Walser 107. Playing Big with Tara Mohr 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith 290. Shared Sisterhood: Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work with Tina Opie and Beth Livingston 321. Imposter No More with Jill Stoddard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Money impacts us all, whether it brings joy, stress, or confusion. Chatting with Elizabeth Husserl, author of The Power of Enough and a financial advisor with a background in economics, spirituality, and psychology, we hear about finding joy in our relationship with money.  You'll learn about breaking free from the abundance-scarcity cycle and gain practical tools like the wealth mandala to help reshape your money mindset.  Elizabeth also teaches us how open communication can create healthier financial dynamics in families. Tune in for a fresh perspective on money as a tool for fulfillment and well-being!  Listen and Learn:  Redefining money as a social technology to change our relationship with wealth and well-being How our relationship with money shapes our sense of wealth—and why capitalism gets it so wrong How our bodies are wired for constant seeking, the tension of abundance vs. scarcity, and the shift to true fulfillment Are you unknowingly using money to avoid deeper needs? Breaking free from a scarcity mindset and finding the balance between spending, saving, and true fulfillment How to find true satisfaction with money by discovering what truly nourishes your life Ways to manage money intentionally by aligning resources with your most important needs Breaking the taboo around money to transform your relationship to wealth and well-being Resources:  ● Books: The Power of Enough: Finding Joy in Your Relationship with Money: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781608689422 ● Elizabeth's Website: http://www.elizabethhusserl.com ● Connect with Elizabeth on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabethhusserl ● Connect with Elizabeth on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethhusserl/ About Elizabeth Husserl  Elizabeth Husserl is a registered investment advisor representative, financial advisor, highly sought-after speaker, and cofounder of Peak360 Wealth Management, a boutique wealth planning firm. She does nonprofit work throughout the Americas and has led workshops at major tech companies, including Airbnb, Unity, and Google. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband and daughter. Related Episodes:  365. Tightwads and Spendthrifts with Scott Rick 357. Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas and Christopher Wong Michaelson 296. Money and Love with Abby Davisson 217. Redefining Rick with Shannon Hayes 182. Do More with Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is the recipe for developing deeper, more intimate relationships?  Breaking this all down in his new book, The Mindful Path to Intimacy, is couples therapist Dr. James Cordova, who talks to Yael about how true intimacy happens when vulnerability is met with warmth and acceptance and feeling safe being your real self with someone.  You'll hear some eye-opening research, including his “relationship checkup” method and how marriage therapy has evolved to focus on both behavior and acceptance.  If you are looking for ways to strengthen your relationship emotionally and physically—such as staying mindful, paying attention to one another, sexual intimacy, and making check-ins a regular habit—James has some extremely practical suggestions for you! Listen and Learn:  The true meaning of intimacy Balancing change and acceptance in relationships How can we stay open and kind when we hear something we don't want to? How mindfulness can transform intimacy The power of vulnerability and compassion in the face of conflict and how understanding your partner leads to a deeper connection Why our ancient instincts for self-protection clash with modern relationship needs How relational flexibility can transform your relationships How do daily hurts and unaddressed issues lead to distance in your relationship? The role "marital checkups" play in keeping intimacy alive and preventing relationship drift Why is sexual intimacy such a vulnerability trigger in relationships, and how can you address it? Using the "stop, drop, and roll" practice to stay open and connected Resources:  ● Books:  The Mindful Path to Intimacy by James Cordova  Reconcilable Differences by Neil Jacobson, Andrew Christensen, and Brian Doss ● More About James:https://www.clarku.edu/faculty/profiles/james-cordova/ ● Connect with James on Social Media LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-cordova-1b803316a Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrJamesCordova/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/jamesvcordova/ About James Cordova:  Dr. James Córdova is a professor at Clark University and a practicing couples therapist. Dr. Córdova's work strives to better understand the processes that affect marital/couples health and deterioration, particularly those processes that promote greater relationship, mental and physical health. His work helps to build empirically testable approaches to therapy that foster intimacy, acceptance, and motivation for adopting healthy relational practices. Dr. Córdova's current projects include (1) the Relationship Checkup, a relationship health checkup designed to help partners maintain healthy relationships for a lifetime, (2) observing the process of intimacy development in couples' interactions, and (3) studying the role of emotional skillfulness in relationship health. He has a few terrific books including The Story of Mu, The Marital Check-Up, and his brand new book, The Mindful Path to Intimacy: Cultivating a Deeper Connection with Your Partner. Related Episodes: 61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values and Schemas with Avigail Lev 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Daphne de Marneffe 179. How to Be an Adult in Relationships with Dave Richo 248. Let's Talk about Sex & Intimacy with Zoe Kors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered what it takes to bring a TED talk to life? In this episode, Michael Herold has a conversation with Dr. Alina Nikolaou, a passionate TED event curator, who shares her insights about the exciting world of organizing TED and TEDx events.  They discuss the process of selecting speakers, the power of storytelling, and how to balance entertainment with information. Dr. Nikolaou offers valuable tips on public speaking, preparation rituals, and the experience of participating in TEDx. You'll also pick up tips on how to pitch a TEDx talk and ways to stay engaged with the TED community. Listen and Learn:  The difference between TED and TEDx, and how these talks are bringing global ideas to local stages across the world  What it is really like to attend or organize a TEDx event—on stage, behind the scenes, and beyond How are TEDx speakers chosen, coached, and prepared to deliver talks that leave a lasting impact? How TEDx organizers curate the perfect lineup and ensure each talk flows  Even the weirdest ideas have a place at TEDx—how organizers craft the perfect lineup of talks What happens behind the curtain before a TEDx talk?  How can speakers avoid awkwardness when transitioning from rehearsal to the stage? What's the secret to delivering a talk naturally—without memorizing every word like a script? How to enliven a slide deck to captivate any audience Tips for landing a TEDx talk Resources:  TEDAI Vienna TED.com TEDx.com Alina on LinkedIn TEDAI on LinkedIn Alina's Website Jill's TEDx talk Michael's TEDx talk Ted Talks The Official TED Guide to Public Speaking  About Dr. Alina Nikolaou Dr. Alina Nikolaou is Director and Curator of TEDAI Vienna, the first TED event in Europe dedicated to groundbreaking ideas on Artificial Intelligence. Born to Greek and Austrian parents, Alina grew up during the financial crisis in Athens, Greece. After school, she moved to Vienna, Austria to graduate with degrees in Communication Science and Political Science. After a short and rather disenchanting journey into the world of advertising, Alina returned to academia for her doctoral research where she explored how Virtual Reality can affect how we think and behave toward complex sociopolitical issues. Her co-authored study about the influence of deepfakes on media trust and credibility won the award for Best Student Paper at the annual conference of the International Communication Science Association in 2023. Alina has held several courses at the University of Vienna, ranging from empirical research methods in the Social Sciences to Media History. In October 2023 she presented her research at AWE EU, the leading industry conference on mixed reality. Constantly fascinated with the hypes, hopes and fears that surround new technologies, Alina has been a Curator at TEDxVienna since 2019. There she specialises on interdisciplinary ideas about tech, philosophy and power, and brings them to life in the form of TEDx Talks. To deal with how miraculous and ridiculous the world is she constantly experiments with different artforms: A regular on Vienna's storytelling stages, Alina is known for her criticisms on capitalism, her borderline anarchist stance and her absurdist humor. Her most recent appearance was at the Rote Bar at Volkstheater, Vienna. Alina is also the creator of the (so far unsuccessful) dadaist Bring Back Boredom movement and the far more successful event format “Poetry Society Vienna”. Alina holds a Bakk.phil, MSc and Dr.phil. in Communication Science as well as a BA in Political Science from the University of Vienna, Austria.  Related Episodes 313. ACT-Informed Exposure for Anxiety with Brian Pilecki and Brian Thompson 188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer 239. Edit Your Story, Change Your Life with Lori Gottlieb 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being neurodivergent isn't a flaw or a superpower—it's just a different way of experiencing the world. To discuss the topic of neurodivergence, Debbie is joined by clinical psychologist Jennifer Kemp to talk about her new workbook, The Neurodivergence Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD: Cultivate Self-Compassion, Live Authentically, and Be Your Own Advocate, created specifically for autistic people and ADHDers.  They explore themes from Jennifer's book like what it means to receive a late diagnosis, why neurodiversity-affirming practices matter, and the real challenges (and stigma) that come with being neurodivergent. Plus, you'll pick up insight into the power of self-compassion and why it's essential for thriving in life—not just surviving. Join us for this meaningful discussion on how understanding and accommodating neurodivergent behaviors can make a world of difference, whether in the workplace, relationships, or everyday life. Listen and Learn:  How does embracing neurodivergence without over-simplifying the "superpower" narrative lead to healing? Crafting a neurodiversity-affirming workbook to help autistic and ADHD individuals thrive How code-switching, masking, and societal expectations fuel burnout Masking, eye contact struggles, and mental burnout in neurodivergence Why self-compassion and creative self-care are essential tools for navigating burnout, anxiety, and social overwhelm Practical tips for setting boundaries, asking for accommodations, and embracing self-compassion What changes could make life easier for autistic kids and how parents can break stigma Resources:  ● Books: The Neurodivergence Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD: Cultivate Self-Compassion, Live Authentically, and Be Your Own Advocate. How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing Unmasking Autism: The Power of Embracing Our Hidden Neurodiversity ● Website: https://jenniferkemp.com.au/ ● Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-kemp-b6148b ● Connect on X: https://www.twitter.com/jenniferkemp2 ● Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Adelaide-Behaviour-Therapy-267123166960864 ● Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennifer.kemp.psych About Jennifer Kemp BSc(Psych)Hons, MPsych(Clinical), GradDipApplSc(Psychology of Coaching) Adjunct lecturer, University of Adelaide Jennifer Kemp is a privately practicing Clinical Psychologist based in Adelaide. Using a neurodiversity-affirming approach, Jennifer weaves together acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), behavioral and compassion-focused approaches with her own lived experience of neurodivergence to help her clients improve their mental health and develop greater self-compassion, self-acceptance, and pride in their neurodivergent identity. Jennifer is the co-author of “The Neurodivergent Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD: Cultivate Self-Compassion, Live Authentically, and Be Your Own Advocate” and author of “The ACT Workbook for Perfectionism: Build Your Best (Imperfect) Life Using Powerful Acceptance & Commitment Therapy and Self-Compassion Skills.” Related Episodes:  226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp 367. ADHD in Adulthood with Michaela Thomas 344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley 358. How to Keep House While Drowning with KC Davis https://offtheclockpsych.com/230-the-laziness-lie/ 91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Erin Andrews 256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some of the worst kinds of abuse happen right in front of us—often hidden behind love, care, and even medicine. In this episode, Jill sits down with returning guest Andrea Dunlop and her co-author and colleague Mike Weber to talk about their book, The Mother Next Door: Medicine, Deception, and Munchausen by Proxy. Munchausen by Proxy (MBP) is a disturbing form of medical child abuse, which we have covered on the podcast before, where a caregiver—usually a mother—makes a child sick or pretends they are, all for attention and sympathy. Andrea, a podcast host and expert on MBP, and Mike, a seasoned law enforcement officer with years of experience in child abuse cases, highlighted what they've learned from investigating these heartbreaking stories.  They explain why these cases are so hard to catch, the legal system's challenges in prosecuting perpetrators, and the chilling similarities between MBP and child sexual abuse. And make sure to stick around until the end of the episode, where Jill and Emily wrap up with a debrief about the emotional toll of confronting such tough realities.  Listen and Learn:  The shocking truth of Munchausen by Proxy and its hidden dynamics The similarities between Munchausen by Proxy and child sexual abuse and the deep manipulation at play How skilled manipulators exploit medical systems and doctors' blind spots to hide abuse. Why even law enforcement, judges, and doctors might fail to recognize this devastating abuse Why are false accusations often believed more than the reality of underreported child abuse cases? Why is it so hard to accept that abuse can happen in 'good' families, and how can we spot it? How Andrea and Mike keep fighting when the system fails abused children Resources: Book: The Mother Next Door: Medicine, Deception, and Munchausen by Proxy Andrea's Podcast: https://www.nobodyshouldbelieveme.com/ Andrea's Website: https://www.andreadunlop.net/ Connect with Andrea on Social Media:  IG: https://www.instagram.com/andreadunlop/?hl=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andrea.dunlop?lang=en Mike's Website: https://www.mikeweberconsulting.com/ About Andrea Dunlop Andrea Dunlop is the author of four novels, including She Regrets Nothing and Women Are the Fiercest Creatures, and the host and creator of Nobody Should Believe Me, an award-winning investigative true crime podcast about Munchausen by proxy. Andrea is the founder of Munchausen Support, the nation's only non-profit dedicated to supporting survivors and families affected by MBP, and a member of the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children's MBP committee, where she serves alongside the country's foremost experts. She lives in Seattle with her husband and two children. About Mike Weber Mike Weber has forty years of law enforcement experience, including fifteen years as a crimes against children investigator. Detective Weber has consulted with numerous police agencies and district attorney's offices nationally on cases of medical child abuse, and was awarded the 2016 NCMEC Texas Hero for Children Award. He currently lives and works in Fort Worth. Related Episodes 19. Keeping Children Safe from Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower 84. Courageous Conversations to Prevent Childhood Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 308. Identifying and Surviving Gaslighting with Robin Stern 314. Munchausen by Proxy with Andrea Dunlop and Marc Feldman 320. Anger and Forgiveness with Robyn Walser Bonus Episode: Nobody Should Believe Me with Andrea Dunlop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever had a conversation that just clicked—where you felt truly heard and understood? What if you could create that kind of connection more often? Best-selling author Charles Duhigg joins Debbie in a conversation about his latest book, Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection.  Discover the psychology of great conversations, the power of reciprocal vulnerability, and easy strategies for handling difficult conversations without losing control as we break down what makes some people exceptional communicators and how we can all cultivate those abilities in our daily lives. Whether your goal is to improve your listening skills, build stronger relationships, or simply feel more comfortable in social settings, this episode is full of ideas to help you connect more deeply.Listen and Learn:  How "Supercommunicators" master connection The recipe for instant connection and how small shifts in communication can turn strangers into friends The Matching Principle and how syncing conversation types can help strengthen your relationships and connections Why mastering communication is key to lifelong well-being and how stronger connections can lead you to lasting happiness. How you can use the "matching principle" with your own partner to create deeper, more connected conversations Tips for asking deep questions to help you connect more meaningfully and move beyond small talk Shifting control in conflicts to create teamwork and healthier relationships How quiet negotiations can transform tougher conversations into mutual understanding Resources:  Charles' Website: https://www.charlesduhigg.com/ Charles' Book: Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection Connect with Charles on Socials:  https://twitter.com/cduhigg https://www.linkedin.com/in/charlesduhigg/ https://www.instagram.com/charlesduhigg/ https://www.facebook.com/charlesduhigg Yael's Washington Post article: https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2024/04/19/couples-conversation-communications-understanding-problem-solving/ About Charles Duhigg  A graduate of Yale University and Harvard Business School, Charles is a Pulitzer prize-winning journalist and the author of The Power of Habit, which spent over three years on bestseller lists and has been translated into 40 languages, Supercommunicators, also a bestseller published in 2024, and Smarter Faster Better, a third bestseller. Mr. Duhigg writes for The New Yorker magazine and previously wrote for The New York Times. Charles led the New York Times team that won the 2013 Pulitzer prize in explanatory journalism for “The iEconomy,” a series that examined the global economy through the lens of Apple. That series included examinations of such topics as the factories in China where iPhones and iPads are manufactured. Charles has also received The George Polk award, the Gerald Loeb award, the Investigative Reporters and Editors Medal, the Scripps Howard National Journalism award, the Robert F. Kennedy Journalism Award, and other honors. While a reporter at the Los Angeles Times, Charles reported from Iraq about American military operations. Today, Charles writes for The New Yorker magazine. Before becoming a full-time journalist in 2003, Charles worked as an analyst for American Property Global Partners, a private equity firm and co-founded SWPA Education Management Group, L.L.C., which developed education programs for medically underserved areas. He was also, for one terrifying day in 1999, a bike messenger in San Francisco. He lives in California with his wife and two children. Related Episodes: 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 254. Cultivating Compassion for a Lasting Connection with Michaela Thomas 360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson 353. Ask Great Questions with Jeff Wetzler Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tired of all the fighting over politics and morality? For this episode, we're tackling moral outrage with Kurt Gray, a psychology professor and author of Outraged: Why We Fight about Morality and Politics and How to Find Common Ground. You'll learn why we get so caught up in right vs. wrong, how to better understand what's driving people's fears and motivations, and how to connect—even when you don't agree. Plus, you'll get practical tips to manage your own outrage and have more empathetic conversations. Listen and Learn:  The surprising key to bridging divides in relationships, even amidst deep moral disagreements How morality evolved to balance selfish instincts with the need for cooperation in groups How morality's protective instincts can backfire, dividing us in groups and personal relationships Do cultural norms and deeper perceptions of harm shape our moral judgments and conflicts? Why does understanding the "other side" feel like betrayal—and what happens when both sides feel victimized? How moral typecasting shapes our views, seeing ourselves as victims and others as villains The complexity of human behavior and how even the most "evil" figures can have a backstory. How motivated reasoning can shape our political views and blur our judgment in conflict Embracing vulnerability and asking deeper questions to transform tough conversations Resources:  ● Books:  Outraged: Why We Fight About Morality and Politics and How to Find Common Ground Doppelganger by Naomi Klein The Shock Doctrine by Naomi Klein Article: Should an affair be disclosed? by Yael ● Website: https://www.kurtjgray.com/ ● Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kurtjgray/ ● Connect on X: https://x.com/kurtjgray ● Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kurtjgray ● Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kurtjgray/ About Kurt Gray Kurt Gray is a Professor in Psychology and Neuroscience at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, where he directs the Deepest Beliefs Lab and the Center for the Science of Moral Understanding. And is the author of Outraged: Why We Fight About Morality and Politics and How to Find Common Ground. Related Episodes: 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 362. Adult Bullies and High Conflict People with Bill Eddy 371. Uniting Toward a Better Future with Diana McLain Smith Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the very thing keeping you from deep, meaningful friendships is the fear of being your true, imperfect self?  This week Michael sits down with Jess Johnston for a chat about authenticity, friendship, and overcoming the fear of rejection. They dive into themes for her book, Perfect Is Boring (and It Tastes Like Kale): Finding Belonging and Purpose Without Changing Who You Are, which offers a refreshing take on embracing who you are while finding your place in the world.  Together, they explore the ups and downs of adult friendships, including letting down your guard to create real bonds. Jess's relatable stories and practical tips make it easy to see how consistency, courage, and even a little awkwardness can lead to meaningful relationships. If you've ever felt like perfection gets in the way of connection, this conversation is perfect for you. Listen and Learn:  Jess' off-grid childhood that sparked her love for writing and how those experiences shaped her perspective on connection The tension between performance and authenticity in your friendships and the courage to be rea What are the profound differences between belonging and fitting in? What does it really mean to be authentic? Awkward moments forge deeper connections—why embracing imperfection matters in your relationships and life The surprising power of intentionality and courage in building your adult friendships Why the fear of rejection is key to building meaningful friendships Resources:  Book: Perfect Is Boring (and It Tastes Like Kale): Finding Belonging and Purpose Without Changing Who You Are: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593728246 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessmariejohnston/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jessjohnstonwonderoak/ Website: https://wonderoak.com/ About Jess Johnston Jess Johnston lives in Southern California with her husband and four kids, who are the loves of her life. She is an Enneagram Seven and is enthusiastic about everything—but especially people, travel, and sauces. Jess's writing makes you feel like you're sitting cross-legged on her couch in your cozy pants while sharing hearts and drinking coffee. She is the co-author of the Wall Street Journal bestseller I'll Be There (But I'll Be Wearing Sweatpants) and has been a top contributor to publications such as HuffPost, Scary Mommy, and Motherly. Related Episodes 385. Oliver Burkeman on Embracing Your Limitations 360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson 374. Developing and Deepening Connections with Adam Dorsay 271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raising strong, confident girls in today's world isn't always easy, and this episode is here to help. Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein chats with Dr. Emily Edlynn about her book, Sexism & Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World, and dives into how we can support girls as they face things like cultural pressures, objectification, and the subtle sexism that still lingers. They share real, practical tips on helping girls think critically, find their voices, and navigate the media they're exposed to. If you're a parent, caregiver, or just someone who wants to make a positive difference, this conversation is full of valuable insights you won't want to miss. Listen and Learn:  Exploring the inspiration behind Sexism and Sensibility How societal norms shape women's voices and learn how Jo-Ann's book helps shift the narrative Progress and pitfalls: The dualities of feminism and girls' empowerment in modern culture How beauty culture, Eurocentric ideals, and self-objectification steal women's power and potential A parental guide to empowering your kids to combat self-objectification  The social dynamics that shape girls' voices and confidence, and why it's crucial for parents to intervene How can fathers empower their daughters to speak up while protecting them from societal biases? Resources:  Book: Sexism & Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593581162 Website: https://www.joannfinkelstein.com/ Substack: https://joannfinkelstein.substack.com/ Connect on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@joannfinkelstein.phd Connect on X: https://x.com/finkeljo?lang=en Connect on Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/100086974203277/ Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joannfinkelstein.phd/ About Jo-Ann Finkelstein: Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and the author of Sexism & Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World. She was educated at Harvard University and Northwestern University and now maintains a private clinical practice. An expert blogger for Psychology Today, her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Harvard Business Review, Oprah Daily, and CNN, among others. Her writing has appeared in The Washington Post, Ms., Your Teen, and other publications. Dr. Finkelstein serves on the Advisory Board for Stop Sexual Assault in Schools. She lives in Chicago, Illinois. Related Episodes: 381. Reimagining Boyhood with Ruth Whippman 369. Good News About Adolescence with Ellen Galinsky 337. Puberty Is Awkward with Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett 332. Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell 317. Growing Up in Public with Devorah Heitner 290. Shared Sisterhood: Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work with Tina Opie and Beth Livingston Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like your workplace is a mix of different worlds, with each generation bringing its own style, perspective, and expectations? For our second episode of the year, Dr. Michelle Quist Ryder, CEO of the American Psychological Foundation, joins us to talk about how Baby Boomers to Gen Z can navigate work together. From remote work shifts to work-life balance expectations, you'll come away with new knowledge on supporting each other across generations and creating healthier, more productive workplaces. If bridging generational gaps feels tricky, this episode offers practical tips to make it easier. Listen and Learn:  Why generational gaps in values and tech create workplace challenges  Understanding generational anxiety and why adapting workplace culture unlocks success for everyone Are return-to-office mandates sparking workplace crises, and how can companies adapt post-pandemic? How self-determination theory can unlock happier workplaces and fix toxic job cultures Can bridging generational differences in work values create healthier, more adaptable workplaces? Does turning your passion into a career kill your creativity, and how can you avoid that trap? Resources:  ● Website: https://ampsychfdn.org/about/apf-team/ ● Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-quist-ryder ● Connect on X: https://twitter.com/mquistryder About Michelle Quist Ryder Dr. Michelle Quist Ryder is a social psychologist, research professional, and the CEO of the American Psychological Foundation, an organization that leverages the power of philanthropy to invest in research and advance psychological knowledge. Dr. Quist Ryder has an extensive background in human-centric organizational design, effective DEI practices, and leveraging psychology to solve critical societal issues. Related Episodes: 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky   206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky 274. Quarterlife  299. Leadership and the Changing Workplace with Chris Shipley 303. Both/And Thinking with Marianne Lewis 333. How Work Works with Michelle P. King 347. Job Changes & Career Pivots with Paula Brand 352.Twentysomethings with Meg Jay 338. ACT for Burnout  357. Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas and Christopher Wong Michaelson 374. Developing and Deepening Connections with Adam Dorsay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kick off the New Year with us in this special cohosted POTC episode! We've got a MAJOR announcement for 2025, and we're also chatting about the ups and downs of decision-making—all backed by psychology. We're also reflecting on our 2024 highlights, sharing what we're all hoping for in the new year, and talking about how community, flexibility, and staying true to your values play into making some of life's tough choices. Plus, we're giving you a sneak peek at what's coming up on the podcast this year, including some awesome insights on relationship science and our personal goals for the future. Our exciting POTC New Year announcement Decision-making and understanding psychological flexibility How acceptance and commitment therapy can be applied when making decisions  Making values-driven decisions and the importance of community and connection Cohost 2024 reflections and highlights About Emily Edlynn  Emily (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children's Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children's hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019. About Debbie Sorenson  Debbie (she/her) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor's degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. She is author of the upcoming book ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She loves living in Colorado, her home state, with her husband, two daughters, and dog. About Jill Stoddard  Jill Stoddard is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive. She is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. Dr. Stoddard is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner's Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman's Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Her writing has also appeared in Psychology Today, Scary Mommy, Thrive Global, The Good Men Project, and Mindful Return. She regularly appears on podcasts and as an expert source for various media outlets. She lives in Newburyport, MA with her husband, two kids, and disobedient French Bulldog.   About Michael Herold  Michael (he/him) is a confidence trainer and social skills coach, based in Vienna, Austria. He's helping his clients overcome their social anxiety through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and fun exposure exercises. (Though the jury is still out on whether they're mostly fun for him). He is also a certified therapeutic game master, utilizing the Dungeons&Dragons tabletop roleplaying game to train communication, assertiveness, and teamwork with young adults. Or actually, anyone ready to roll some dice and battle goblins in a supportive group where players want to level up (pun!) their social skills. Michael is the head coach of the L.A. based company The Art of Charm, running their confidence-building program “Unstoppable” as well as workshops on small talk, storytelling, vulnerability, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As we turn the page to a new year, we're excited to release this episode as a special gift to help you start 2025 on the right foot. Let's face it—after the chaos and unpredictability of the past few years, many of us are craving positive change and looking for guidance on how to make it stick. Self-help has surged in popularity, but not all resources are created equal. That's why we're bringing back a conversation with Katy Milkman, author of How to Change, to cut through the noise and share strategies backed by science. In this compassionate and inspiring episode, Katy and Jill dive into actionable tools to help you create lasting change, whether it's breaking old habits or starting fresh. Katy's expertise has guided organizations like Google, the U.S. Department of Defense, and Walmart, and now she's sharing her wisdom with you. Tune in to learn why making New Year's resolutions isn't just tradition—it can actually be a powerful tool for transformation when done right. Together, let's set the stage for a brighter, more intentional year ahead. Listen and Learn: Jill and Yael's personal experiences with self-help books—what's worked and what hasn't Katy's advice on which behaviors to focus on first for meaningful change Practical tips to help you tackle impulsive behaviors today How Katy's book inspired real change in Jill's daily life (her gums are a fan!) Why one-size-fits-all solutions fail and how to find the strategies that work for you The science behind readiness for change and why timing matters A fresh take on New Year's resolutions and how to make them stick Resources: Grab a copy of Katy's book, How to Change: The Science of Getting From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be Sign up for Katy's newsletter here About Katy Milkman: Katy Milkman is the James G. Dinan Professor at The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, host of Charles Schwab's popular behavioral economics podcast Choiceology, and the former president of the international Society for Judgment and Decision Making. She is the co-founder and co-director of the Behavior Change for Good Initiative, a research center with the mission of advancing the science of lasting behavior change whose work is being chronicled by Freakonomics Radio. Over the course of her career, she has worked with or advised dozens of organizations on how to spur positive change, including Google, the U.S. Department of Defense, the American Red Cross, 24 Hour Fitness, Walmart and Morningstar. An award-winning scholar and teacher, Katy writes frequently about behavioral science for major media outlets such as The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, and Scientific American. Her bestselling book How to Change: The Science of Getting From Where You are to Where You Want to Be is now available. She earned her undergraduate degree from Princeton University (summa cum laude), where she studied Operations Research and American Studies and her PhD from Harvard University where, she studied Computer Science and Business. Related Episodes: Episode 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth  Episode 43. Willpower With Kelly McGonigal Episode 132. The Joy Of Movement With Kelly McGonigal Episode 34. Strengths, Goal Setting, and Grit with Alexis Karris Bachik  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parental stress has been declared a public health crisis by the U.S. Surgeon General—and it's a conversation we all need to have. In this episode, Emily sits down with Debbie and our dear friend and guest Yael Schonbrun, a clinical psychologist and author of Work, Parent, Thrive, to explore what's behind the overwhelming stress so many parents are feeling and, more importantly, what we can do about it. We're talking about all the things that pile up: money worries, the constant rush, and that pressure to “do it all.” Plus, we dive into what parental burnout actually is (and why it's not your fault) and share simple, science-backed tips to make life a little easier. This isn't just about managing parental stress—it's about showing up for yourself and your kids in a healthier, more sustainable way. If you've ever felt like you're drowning in the demands of parenting, this episode is for you. It's a conversation that matters—and one that can truly make a difference. Listen and Learn:  What is parental stress, why it matters, and how we can lighten the load together? How can we turn overwhelming parental stress into something manageable? Parenting burnout is skyrocketing—what's fueling it, and how can we reclaim balance in modern life? The pressures of modern parenting, how to find balance and break free from the stress. How working parents can shift from feeling torn between roles to using tension for enrichment What are the causes and consequences of parental burnout, and how driving awareness can help Why your well-being as a parent is crucial for your child's mental health, yet it's often overlooked—and learn how to break this unhelpful cycle How self-compassion and mindful check-ins can help ease your burnout and stress in daily life Supporting your child's autonomy to reduce parental burnout and strengthen your connections Resources:  Yael's website: https://www.yaelschonbrun.com/ Connect with Yael on socials:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/yael-schonbrun-a26a5229/ http://x.com/DrYaelSchonbrun http://instagram.com/yaelschonbrun/ Our Substack Q&A, Is Parent Stress Breaking News? Three Clinical Psychologists Discuss the Surgeon General's New Advisory: https://emilyedlynn.substack.com/p/is-parent-stress-breaking-news  About Yael Schonbrun Yael Schonbrun is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, author of Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like too Much), past Psychologists Off the Clock co-host, and parent of three. In her research, private practice, and writing, Yael draws on science, philosophy, and clinical practices to share practices proven to foster healthier relationships between partners, parents and children, and between our most important life roles. Yael is a frequent contributor to The Washington Post and her writing on work, parenting, and relationships has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Greater Good Science Center, Behavioral Scientist, Tricycle, among others. Related Episodes:  306. Screaming on the Inside: The Challenges of American Motherhood with Jessica Grose 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 338. ACT for Burnout with Debbie!  146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne 382. The Anxious Generation? The Conversation We Should Be Having About Kids, Technology, and Mental Health  379. Toxic Striving with Paula Freedman-Diamond  https://offtheclockpsych.com/be-mighty/ 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard 267. You are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Life can feel so overwhelming sometimes, especially with the nonstop pace of the modern world. But what if you learned to embrace the messiness that comes with life and concentrated more on what really matters to you rather than attempting to control everything? Building on the themes from his previous bestseller, Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, Michael is joined by returning guest Oliver Burkeman to break down his new book, Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts.  Oliver and Michael dig into key ideas, such as the limits of control, the traps of overachievement and information overload, and how to face life challenges with a proactive, value-driven mindset. You'll love Oliver's powerful metaphors, like navigating a kayak instead of steering a superyacht, which really brings home the beauty of going with life's flow while staying grounded and intentional. This is an incredible resource that offers daily insights designed to inspire action, so join us for this empowering conversation and start your journey of embracing imperfection and living a more meaningful life.  Listen and Learn:  Oliver's philosophy behind 'Meditations for Mortals' The Evolution from 4,000 Weeks to Meditations for Mortals Embracing the concept of imperfectionism by being finite, taking action, letting go and showing up  Embracing life's chaos with the kayak vs. superyacht metaphor The insecure overachiever and learning to break free from productivity guilt Dealing with the overflow of information and discerning what truly deserves your attention The paradox of life's endless problems and the freedom found in embracing them How to apply imperfectionism in your daily life  Balancing empathy with boundaries and why other people's problems aren't yours to solve Resources:  Oliver's books:  Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals Oliver's Website: https://www.oliverburkeman.com/ Connect with Oliver on X: @oliverburkeman About Oliver Burkeman Oliver Burkeman is the author of the Sunday Times bestselling Four Thousand Weeks and The Antidote, and for many years wrote a popular weekly column on psychology for the Guardian, 'This Column Will Change Your Life'. His work has also appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Psychologies, and New Philosopher. Related Episodes 242. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management with Oliver Burkeman 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 321. Imposter No More with Jill Stoddard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if we started seeing grief as a form of trauma—could it help us make sense of the confusing ways our mind and body react to loss? In this conversation, Debbie sits down with Meghan Riordan Jarvis, a psychotherapist who's spent her life helping people navigate the heartbreak of loss. She's here to talk about her new book, Can Anyone Tell Me? Essential Questions About Grief and Loss, and to share her personal and research-based wisdom on this tender subject. We look into the messy, complicated emotions that grief can bring—like anger, guilt, regret, and anxiety—and Megan offers simple, meaningful ways to cope. We also tackle the bigger picture: why we need more honest conversations about death and how we can show up better for each other in times of loss. We hope you'll join us for this meaningful conversation that might just give you a little clarity, hope, and comfort wherever you, or even the loved ones you are supporting, are on your grief journey.  Listen and Learn:  Why grief education is key to feeling less alone, less afraid, and truly understood How we can reconnect in the face of profound loss Loss, grief, and mourning: uncovering the nuanced definitions and how they shape our healing journeys How Meghan's two very contrasting losses shaped her approach to grief and healing The varying emotions of grief and why anger and anxiety might be more common than expected The shifting waves of loss, unexpected triggers, and lasting connections The idea of signs from loved ones Could the signs we receive from loved ones beyond death be more than just coincidence? Resources:  Can Anyone Tell Me?: Essential Questions about Grief and Loss: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781649632593 Meghan's Website: https://meghanriordanjarvis.com/ Connect with Meghan on:  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/meghan-riordan-jarvis-ma-licsw-071051142 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/griefismysidehustle/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meghan.riordan.jarvis/?hl=en Books Meghan mentioned in the episode:  The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss by Mary-Frances O'Connor: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780062946249 How Emotions Are Made, by Lisa Feldman Barrett: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781328915436 Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781250212832 Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief: A Revolutionary Approach to Understanding and Healing the Impact of Loss by Claire Bidwell Smith: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780738234786 Grief Works: Stories of Life, Death, and Surviving (A Practical Guide to Grief and Loss) by Julia Samuel: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781501181542  About Meghan Riordan Jarvis Meghan Riordan Jarvis, MA, LCSW, is a podcast host, TEDx speaker, and trauma-trained psychotherapist specializing in grief and loss. With 20 years of experience, she speaks on the importance of understanding grief and supporting grievers. Meghan hosts the popular blog and podcast Grief Is My Side Hustle and offers a free writing workshop, Grief Mates. She is founder of the Grief Mentor Method: Six Core Concepts to Creating a Personalized Grief Process and is the author of End of the Hour, a memoir on trauma, loss, and healing. Her new book is called Can Anyone Tell Me? Essential Questions about Grief and Loss.  Related episodes:  117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Joanne Cacciatore 356. Navigating the Challenges of Caregiving with Allison Applebaum 354. A Family Guide to Dementia with Brent Forester 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett 309. The Language of Emotions with Karla McLaren 216. Managing Anger and Irritability, Featuring Russell Kolts 320. Anger and Forgiveness with Robyn Walser 341. Self-Forgiveness with Grant Dewar 291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy  118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can you begin to heal from complex PTSD?  In this episode, Jill sits down with Stephanie Foo to explore her memoir, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma, a deeply personal account of her healing journey through complex PTSD (CPTSD). Stephanie shares what it's like to carry the weight of complex trauma, offering insights into how you can begin to heal too. Through her story and experience, you'll learn how CPTSD differs from PTSD and why understanding those differences can help you (or someone you love) feel less alone. Stephanie opens up about her therapy journey—EMDR, yoga, and meditation—and how relationships and community became her anchors in the storm. Whether you're a therapist, someone walking your own healing path, or supporting a loved one, this conversation is full of wisdom and practical advice to inspire hope and compassion. Listen and Learn:  Meet Stephanie and find out why she wrote What My Bones Know, a memoir about healing from complex trauma. Understand what makes CPTSD different from PTSD and how that knowledge can help you or someone you love. How writing and creativity can be powerful tools for processing trauma and finding meaning. The role of community, relationships, and support in recovering from trauma. The complexities of abusive relationships and how they shape the healing journey. Practical therapeutic methods like EMDR, yoga, and meditation, and why they worked for Stephanie. How social support can make therapy more effective and healing more sustainable. The importance of facing suicidal thoughts with connection and support from loved ones. How journalism and purpose helped Stephanie move forward after trauma. How to begin your own healing journey and the three key elements that helped Stephanie recover from complex trauma. How therapists can create compassionate, validating spaces for clients dealing with trauma. Resources:  What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Official Website: Stephanie Foo Facebook: Stephanie Foo on Facebook Twitter: @stephaniefoooo on Twitter Instagram: @foofoofoo on Instagram About Stephanie Foo Stephanie Foo is the NYT Bestselling author of What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma. She has written for Vox and The New York Times. She worked as a radio producer for This American Life and Snap Judgment, and her stories aired on Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. A noted speaker and instructor, she has taught at Columbia University and has spoken at venues from the Sundance Film Festival to the Missouri Department of Mental Health. Related Episodes: 271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay 309. The Language of Emotions with Karla McLaren 325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet 345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock 355. What is EMDR with Jamie Marich 360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson 374. Developing and Deepening Connections with Adam Dorsay 376. The Art of Therapy with Michael Alcee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this very special roundtable episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, our cohosts Debbie Sorenson and Emily Edlynn gather a panel of experts—including Tracy Dennis-Tiwary, Ellen Galinsky, and Devorah Heitner—to discuss an issue many parents face today: the impact of smartphones and social media on children's mental health.  Bringing their unique perspectives together, they look at the often-alarmist messages surrounding technology use in youth, offering a balanced and hopeful perspective rooted in evidence-based science and field and personal experience.  Some of the key topics they talk about include addressing parental stress around technology, shifting from rigid monitoring to supportive mentoring, and how cultivating digital literacy and independence in our children.  Please tune in for thoughtful, evidence-based strategies that prioritize your children's well-being and growth and reassure you that healthy digital citizenship is within reach without having to resort to fear-based tactics.  Listen and Learn: Meet the experts - Emily Edlynn, Tracy Dennis-Tiwary, Ellen Galinsky, and Devorah Heitner What are the effects of alarmist tech narratives? How do extreme views impact youth mental health? Lessons from public health campaigns on tech use Parents and community roles in digital literacy: How can we work together? Navigating the pressures of intensive parenting around tech Understanding the complex link between tech and mental health What science really says about technology's impact on kids Recognizing data cherry-picking in tech research Teen suicide and the importance of careful data interpretation Key findings from the National Academy on social media How do teens really feel about tech? Harnessing positive peer influence on tech habits The critical role of sleep in teen well-being School tech policies: What can parents do? Ways to involve kids in creating tech solutions How fear-based messaging affects kids Parental roles: Monitoring vs. mentoring Building executive function skills through balanced tech use Resources:  Tracy's New York Times review of The Anxious Generation: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/03/26/books/review/jonathan-haidt-the-anxious-generation.htm Devorah's Newsweek article: https://www.newsweek.com/everyone-wants-save-children-social-media-what-about-rest-us-opinion-1922435  Emily's debate with Jonathan Haidt:  You can watch it in its entirety here or this clip on YouTube. And you can follow the story of her participation in the debate on her Substack newsletter here https://emilyedlynn.substack.com/p/david-meet-goliath and here https://emilyedlynn.substack.com/p/sextortionist-rings-and-other-fear  The Surgeon General's advisory on Parental stress: https://www.hhs.gov/surgeongeneral/priorities/parents/index.html  A commentary by Emily, Debbie, and Yael on the advisory: https://emilyedlynn.substack.com/p/is-parent-stress-breaking-news  About our panelists:  Tracy A. Dennis-Tiwary, Ph.D. is a professor of psychology and neuroscience and Director of the Emotion Regulation Lab at Hunter College. Ellen Galinsky is President of Families and Work Institute and the elected President of the Work and Family Researchers Network. Devorah Heitner, PhD is the author of Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World and Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive and Survive in the Digital World. Emily Edlynn, PhD is a psychologist and the author of Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children and the emotions journal for kids, In Your Feels. And of course you all know her as a cohost of Psychologists Off the Clock.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have an insightful discussion with Ruth Whippman this week, who urges us to rethink masculinity and nurture boys in a way that honors their mental health and emotional depth. A mother of three and the insightful author of Boy Mom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity, Ruth brings a personal and societal viewpoint to the intense pressures that often shape modern masculinity.  She sheds light on the cultural forces that define "being a man" and shares her journey in challenging these norms.  We also learn about Ruth's experiences as a mother, how society's expectations affect boys from an early age, and the importance of fostering boys' emotional development and accepting their complete human complexity.  We hope you join us for this compassionate and in-depth conversation and broaden your understanding of how we can change how we see and raise boys today.  Listen and Learn:  The impossible expectations facing boys and men today—how do they find their way forward? How Ruth, a mother of three boys navigated feminism, fear, and future masculinity in a conflicted cultural moment  Are we burdening boys with blame from the past? The science behind why boys need more nurture early on but often receive less and how it creates an emotional gap with lasting effects How early affection shapes moral growth and how gender impacts this Are boys being deprived of friendship lessons that promote emotional depth and connection because of the way they are portrayed in the media? Precarious masculinity: how shifting ideals are creating a public health crisis for boys and men Hyperconnection and disconnection and how masculinity ties into mental health risks for boys The dark online world of 'incels,' where toxic masculinity and vulnerability collide in horrific ways The need to rethink how we approach boys' emotional growth beyond "masculinity" norms Resources:  Boymom, Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity Website: https://www.ruthwhippman.com/ Substack: https://substack.com/@ruthwhippman Social Media:  https://www.instagram.com/ruthwhippman/ https://twitter.com/ruthwhippman https://www.facebook.com/RuthWhippman/ About:   Ruth Whippman is an author, journalist and cultural critic and the mother of three boys. A former BBC documentary director, she has written for the New York Times, Time magazine, The Guardian, HuffPost, and other publications. She is the author of the book America the Anxious, which was a New York Post Best Book of the Year and a New York Times Editors' Choice and Paperback Row pick. Her latest book is Boymom, Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity. Related Episodes: 374. Developing and Deepening Connections with Adam Dorsay 361. Dudes and Dads: Men's Mental Health with Danny Singley 360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson 331. Seeing Others: The Importance of Being Recognized and Valued with Michele Lamont 325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers with Lisa Damour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the relentless push for productivity is actually standing in the way of a truly fulfilling life?  Join cohost Michael Herold and guest Ross White, author of The Tree that Bends: How a Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive, as they redefine balance and purpose, challenging societal pressures to stay constantly “on.”  Using the wisdom of nature and the anatomy of a tree, Ross explores how psychological flexibility—grounded in rest, resilience, and self-awareness—can empower us to find strength in slowing down.  And discover how “relenting” can open doors to a balanced, purpose-filled life. Listen to the full conversation to uncover how embracing rest could be your greatest asset! Link to Survey: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeCtaljb-QMHXl6651OdUrK6Zwt5QeDckw6dCoDYszC-0XpyA/viewform?usp=send_form Listen and Learn:  Are mantras like 'no limits' actually harming us? Hear from Ross why relenting, not relentless, may be key Finding a balance between 'get,' 'threat,' and 'reset' mode—are you tuned to your true needs?   Is purpose found or formed?      Small steps that could lead you closer to your purpose The 'reset' formula to shift from burnout to balance by cultivating mental flexibility How you can thrive amid the ‘uncontrollables' in life with the mindset shift high performers swear by What price would you pay for emotional well-being against mastery? How you can balance strong intention and light attachment in pursuit of a purposeful life What is the distinction between confidence and self-efficacy in high performance?  Resources:  The Tree that Bends: How a flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive The 'Strive2Thrive' webpage: https://www.strive2thrive.co.uk/ Instagram: @RossGWhite - https://www.instagram.com/rossgwhite/ X: @RossGWhite - https://x.com/RossGWhite LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/prof-ross-g-white/ About Ross White Professor Ross White is an award-winning clinical psychologist who specializes in supporting the mental health and wellbeing of adults working in high-performance environments, including elite-level athletes in football, rugby, track and field, and tennis. He has collaborated with the World Health Organization and the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees on projects to reduce distress experienced by refugees and other populations in the aftermath of humanitarian crises. He is currently Professor of Clinical Psychology at Queen's University Belfast, and is a director of Strive2Thrive, a clinical psychology consultancy firm that provides interventions and training to help individuals and organizations thrive. Related Episodes 378 - The Happy High Achiever with Mary Anderson 363. Worrying Is Optional with Ben Eckstein 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 328. How to Navigate Change with Brad Stulberg 301. Seven Daily ACT Practices for Living Fully with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen 284. Things We Love with Aaron Ahuvia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stuck in the never-ending grind but still feel like it's not enough?  Paula Freedman-Diamond, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist and author of Toxic Striving: Why Hustle and Wellness Cultures are Leaving Us Anxious, Stressed, and Burned Out-- and How to Break Free breaks down how hustle culture and wellness fads can mess with our sense of self-worth and add to our stress.  She talks about how perfectionism and the pressure to constantly achieve can leave us feeling anxious, and why it's so important to tune into what you need, not what society tells you is right. Dr. Paula shares ideas like intuitive eating and flexible living, encouraging us to prioritize our own values over external expectations. She also touches on the importance of setting boundaries and using social media mindfully, so it doesn't drain us. Her hope? To help people-pleasers and over-achievers find more balance, self-compassion, and ease in their lives. Listen and Learn:  How the pressures of perfectionism and toxic striving can manifest in every season of life from childhood to adulthood The harmful impact of hustle culture and how society glorifies relentless productivity and ties self-worth to achievement The fine line between healthy ambition and toxic striving and how burnout, perfectionism, and societal pressures intersect How wellness culture ties our worth to shifting health trends and body image, making people feel like they're constantly chasing unrealistic ideals instead of real wellness Blending intuitive eating and ACT helps break free from toxic striving and find balance How rigid rules around food, time, and behavior quietly shape our lives Shifting from rigid rules to self-compassion can transform habits like sleep, exercise, and eating How shame can fuel rigid behaviors, toxic striving, and the liberating power of self-compassion  Embracing pleasure, rejecting guilt, and recognizing that enjoying life enhances our well-being and the value we bring to others  How reclaiming your intuition and setting media boundaries can transform your daily life Resources:  Toxic Striving: Why Hustle and Wellness Cultures are Leaving Us Anxious, Stressed, and Burned Out-- and How to Break Free Paula Freedman-Diamond, Psy.D. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindfuldrpaula/ About Paula Freedman-Diamond:  Paula Freedman-Diamond, Psy.D., is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the owner and clinical director of HumanKind Psychological Services in Chicago, IL and the author of Toxic Striving: Why Hustle and Wellness Cultures are Leaving Us Anxious, Stressed, and Burned Out-- and How to Break Free, and The Addiction Recovery Workbook. Dr. Paula specializes in perfectionism, anxiety, and eating disorders. She enjoys helping high-achievers and people-please rs learn to stop chasing external approval and start living according to the wisdom of their own bodies and minds. Dr. Paula is on a mission to take down the toxic systems that make people feel like they're not good enough, no matter how hard they work. She is especially passionate about making healthcare more welcoming and respectful for all bodies. She provides education and supervision for clinical psychology doctoral students. She is a strong advocate for size inclusivity in health, fitness, and wellness spaces. Dr. Paula has been featured in the New York Times and is a featured expert for Reebok, Bark Technologies, and A Sweat Life. She is on the advisory boards for Medical Students for Size Inclusivity and Fat Torah. You can follow her on Instagram at @mindfuldrpaula.  Related Episodes: 358. How to Keep House While Drowning with KC Davis 378. The Happy High Achiever with Mary Anderson 230. The Laziness Lie with Devon Price 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 295. Buyer Beware: Pseudoscience and the Wellness Industry, featuring Pooja Lakshmin 326. Weight Stigma and Body Image with Sarah Pegrum Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How does happiness fuel productivity and success? Join Michael Herold in an empowering chat with Mary Anderson, the author of The Happy High Achiever, who gives her expertise on how high-achievers can turn the tables on stress and anxiety, unlocking powerful tools that can lead you to greater success and fulfillment in life.  You'll discover how to identify cognitive distortions, including what Mary coined the 'Troublesome Trifecta,' learn techniques to challenge those pesky, unhelpful thoughts and uncover personalized strategies for building your confidence, tackling perfectionism, embracing your authentic self, and forging meaningful connections with others. If you want to learn how to become a happy high achiever and unleash your full potential, listening to this episode and getting your copy of Mary's book is a step in the right direction! Listen and Learn:  What inspired Mary to write a guide for high achievers struggling with anxiety Redefining achievement and optimizing mindset to reach your best self  The "Troublesome Trifecta" of thoughts that can sabotage your progress and fuel anxiety Why striving for excellence, not perfection, could unlock your potential without all the stress Embracing your mistakes to achieve true excellence and balance high achievement  Why celebrating victories fuels your success and happiness Resources:  The Happy High Achiever: 8 Essentials to Overcome Anxiety, Manage Stress, and Energize Yourself for Success--Without Losing Your Edge Website: https://maryandersonphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Dr-Mary-Anderson/100063517721186/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_maryanderson/ Link to POTC Listener Survey: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeCtaljb-QMHXl6651OdUrK6Zwt5QeDckw6dCoDYszC-0XpyA/viewform About Mary Anderson Dr. Mary Anderson is a licensed psychologist and sought-after speaker with over a decade of experience helping patients become happier, healthier, and sustainably high-achieving. Dr. Anderson earned her PhD in clinical psychology, with a specialty in health psychology, from the University of Florida and completed her internship and post-doctoral fellowship at the VA Boston Healthcare System, with appointments at Harvard Medical School and Boston University School of Medicine. She currently lives in Boston, Massachusetts.   Related Episodes 122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 346. Self-compassion Daily Journal with Diana Hill 360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are kids learning enough about how the world really works? This week, Emily hosts Lindsey Cormack, a thoughtful political science professor and author of How to Raise a Citizen (and Why It's Up to You to Do It), to talk about how we, as parents, can play a big role in raising engaged citizens.  They delve into Lindsey's experiences and research, demonstrating how schools frequently fail to teach students the fundamentals of government. They also look into what it means to be a 'citizen' and how we can encourage our children to be interested in politics.  You'll hear tips on having age-appropriate political discussions, tackling misinformation, and helping kids feel empowered to participate.  This conversation is a heartfelt reminder for all of us parents to step up and help guide our kids into becoming informed, active voters. Listen and Learn:  Lindsey's journey to writing a parenting book that empowers kids to understand politics Why young adults struggle with politics—and how family conversations can change the future Raising politically empowered kids with the autonomy to shape their communities How you, as a parent, can shape future citizens to strengthen democracy in an age of political disengagement Protecting your kids from misinformation by helping them understand politics better Developing non-cognitive skills through civic engagement and how this can empower your kids for life Can engaging in politics boost your kids' college prospects and help them become impactful leaders? How engaging in local politics can boost kids' mental health and empower them to create change Ways you can engage your kids in politics positively and navigate tough discussions about leaders How to model open-mindedness and flexible thinking for kids in political discussions! Should more states have the constitution test for kids? Nurturing political understanding in your kids, from ages 5 to 18 Why equipping kids to navigate politics is crucial for a better future, not just party loyalty Resources:  How to Raise a Citizen (and Why It's Up to You to Do It) https://www.lindseycormack.com/ https://twitter.com/DCInbox https://www.instagram.com/howtoraiseacitizen/ About Lindsey Cormack Lindsey Cormack is an associate professor of Political Science and Director of the Diplomacy Lab at Stevens Institute of Technology. She has authored two books, How to Raise a Citizen (And Why it's Up to You to Do It) and Congress and U.S. Veterans: From the GI Bill to the VA Crisis. She created and maintains the digital database of all official Congress-to-constituent e-newsletters at www.dcinbox.com. She earned her PhD in Government from New York University. She currently serves as the Secretary for Manhattan Community Board 8. Her research has been published in Political Behavior, Congress & the Presidency, Legislative Studies Quarterly, Political Science Research and Methods, American Politics Research, Politics & Policy, Politics Groups & Identities, Politics & Gender, The Journal of Gender Studies, Energy Economics, The Legislative Scholar as well as in popular outlets including the Bloomberg Businesswire, The New York Times, The Washington Post, FiveThirtyEight, ProPublica, Roll Call, The New York Post, NBC News, the LSE USCentre, and The Hill, The Conversation, The San Francisco Chronicle, and more. Related Episodes: 371. Uniting Toward a Better Future with Diana Smith 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with Emily Edlynn 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer https://offtheclockpsych.com/273-a-more-just-future-with-dolly-chugh/  https://offtheclockpsych.com/values-fulfillment-theory/ https://offtheclockpsych.com/205-thrivers-with-michele-borba/ https://offtheclockpsych.com/howtobeanadult/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill takes on the dynamic blend of science and art in therapy with our amazing guest, Dr. Michael Alcee, a mental health educator and the author of Therapeutic Improvisation: How to Stop Winging It and Own It as a Therapist. Michael sheds light on the vital balance between left-brain logic and right-brain creativity that makes for effective psychotherapy, shares thoughts on the power of humor, metaphor, and emotional connection, and reveals how therapists can embrace their creative side while staying rooted in scientific principles.  With fascinating examples from Miichael's professional experience, he presents practical strategies to help therapists enhance their intuitive skills, boost their therapeutic presence, and build stronger connections with their clients. Please join us for an intriguing discovery of how blending science and art can elevate your therapeutic practice and transform the outcome of your client sessions! Listen and Learn:  How the art of therapy and music intertwine to create healing conversations that inspire growth The surprising encounter with Irving Yalom that revealed profound insights into the art of therapy and led Michael to write his book  How therapy becomes an art, blending science and creativity to help clients find their true selves Embracing intuition, creativity, and improvisation as a therapist to enhance your practice Understanding left and right brain dynamics and how it enhances therapy, fostering creativity and insight  How the concept "mindsight" and "wise mind" blend logic and emotion in therapy How therapists can embrace metaphor and intuition for deeper client connections and transformative outcomes  Resources: Therapeutic Improvisation: How to Stop Winging It and Own It as a Therapist https://michaelalcee.com/ https://michael-alcee.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-alcee-14417755/ https://www.instagram.com/mike_drop_/ https://www.facebook.com/livelifecreatively2/ Mentioned in this episode: The Courage to Create: https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Create-Rollo-May/dp/0393311066 About Michael Alcee Michael Alcée, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in Tarrytown, NY, and is a Mental Health Educator at the Manhattan School of Music. In his first book, Therapeutic Improvisation: How to Stop Winging It and Own It as a Therapist (Norton, 2022), Michael demonstrated how all clinicians are artists, reading the changes like well-versed jazz musicians, finding the poetic turns in their client's stories like skilled writers, and reveling in the creative act that emerges in the humanistic encounter of psychotherapy. His forthcoming book is entitled The Upside of OCD: Flip the Script to Reclaim Your Life (Rowman & LIttlefield, 2024) and aims to add depth to the exploration and understanding of the OCD experience. Michael has been a TEDx speaker and organizer and is a regular contributor at Psychology Today along with contributions to NPR, The Chicago Tribune, and The New York Times, among others. You can also find him on The Psychology Podcast with Scott Barry Kaufman and on Shrink Rap Radio. Related Episodes 82. Therapist Self Doubt with Jim Lucas 106. Therapy from “The Heart of ACT” with Robyn Walser 158. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone with Lori Gottlieb 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard 366. Psychologists ON the Clock: Getting Experiential with Us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you in the midst of a midlife transition, grappling with big questions about purpose, change, and self-discovery? For this week's episode, cohost Debbie Sorensen celebrates her 50th birthday with a discussion on the transformative period of midlife with her friend, Dr. Meg McKelvie.  A period rich with psychological shifts, existential questions, and challenges in finding deeper meaning, they get into acceptance and commitment therapy, emotional, psychical and cognitive changes, ways to overcome people-pleasing habits, and much much more.  With practical exercises and writing practices, this episode is a gift to anyone navigating midlife transitions and relationships, offering insight, reflection, and a path toward deeper understanding and fulfilling connections. We hope you enjoy this heartfelt and poignant conversation!  Listen and Learn: Opportunities that midlife brings for deeper understanding and transformation Confronting body changes and the aging process  How your relationships can become deeper in midlife; letting go of surface-level bonds and embracing genuine honesty and shared experiences The myth of the midlife crisis and how, contrary to what stereotypes lead us to believe, it frequently involves a sharp internal existential shift rather than a dramatic upheaval Living with unanswered questions and learning to sit with the discomfort of uncertainty Ways you can cultivate a personal space that nurtures self-reflection and self-sufficiency The lessons that regret can teach us The value of sitting with challenging emotions such as anger and grief, and how these feelings can provide critical insights into your life  The difference between body neutrality and body positivity and how stepping back from the internal debate about your body can lead to a more peaceful relationship with yourself Resources: Meg's website: https://www.drmegmckelvie.com/ LInk to the “Soul-Searching Questions” handout on Meg's website and Debbie's website.  More writing resources from Meg and Debbie:  Meg's writing workshops: https://www.drmegmckelvie.com/workshopsgroups Debbie's Instagram for journaling prompts: https://www.instagram.com/drdebbiesorensen/ Debbie's Guided Journaling substack: https://guidedjournaling.substack.com/  345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock A Substack essay Debbie wrote on her 50th birthday A commentary on the Surgeon General's recent advisory on parental stress, by co-hosts Debbie and Emily, and former co-host Yael Schonburn!  Books mentioned in the episode:  Finding Meaning In the Second Half of Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781592402076  The Heroine's Journey: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781611808308 Related episodes:  199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie 345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock 315. Hot & Bothered: Menopause with Jancee Dunn  291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy  257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 242. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management with Oliver Burkeman 351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman 274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser  116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are craving deeper, more meaningful connections in life then you're in for a treat with our latest guest, Dr. Adam Dorsay. Adam, also affectionately known as EnthusiAdam, is a licensed psychologist and executive coach who walks us through the core ideas from his upcoming book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the Four Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love, set to release on October 1st (mark your calendars!).  We touch on the essential connections we need in life—to ourselves, others, the world around us, and something greater. Throughout our chat, Adam offers plenty of practical, heart-centered tips on how to break down barriers like FOMO, embrace vulnerability, and start building truly meaningful connections.  From shared learning experiences to local adventures, we talk about ways to actively foster those deeper bonds we all long for. Please join us for an inspiring and actionable conversation that'll leave you feeling more connected than ever! Listen and Learn:  The true meaning of connection—beyond relationships The hidden barriers to connection—why FOMO, distraction, social media, and conformity are keeping us apart Using Adam's Driveaway Test to reveal the true impact of your connections  How creating a must-haves list can lead to lasting, fulfilling connections and relationships Examples of how you can strengthen your connections and build lasting bonds through shared experiences and learning together Resources:  https://dradamdorsay.com/ Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the Four Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/adam-dorsay-san-jose-ca/47721 https://www.instagram.com/dradamdorsay/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-dorsay-psy-d-a582a2/ About Adam Dorsay Dr. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and executive coach in Silicon Valley where he serves high-achieving adults. Adam is a TEDx speaker and the host of SuperPsyched, an award-winning podcast with over 200 episodes which we at psychologists off the clock love. And his book by the same name, Superpsyched: Unleash the power of the 4 types of connection and live the life you love will be available on October first and is what we are here to discuss today. Adam has provided keynotes and trainings to multiple corporations and organizations, including Microsoft, Linkedin, and the California Psychological Association. He is happily married, the father of young boys, and he has a hypoallergenic 33-pound Australian Labradoodle therapy dog named Raffi, who lives at his home and works at his office. Related Episodes: 254. Cultivating Compassion for a Lasting Connection with Michaela Thomas 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard 271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay 288. The Fun Habit with Mike Rucker 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard 360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you are constantly on an emotional rollercoaster with your children?  Get stuck into this lively chat with Dr. Carla Naumburg, a licensed clinical social worker, and the mind behind 'How to Stop Losing Your It with Your Kids'. Carla introduces us to her new book, 'How to Stop Freaking Out', which is written specifically for kids, and talks about how a mix of compassion and humor can make all the difference.  Whether you're a parent looking for ways to stay calm or a kid trying to understand your own feelings, Carla shares practical tips and fun mindfulness techniques that you can learn and introduce to your family in a gentle and impactful way.  Give it a listen and discover how you can bring more calm and connection to your family. You never know—you might just find the perfect strategy to make those daily challenges a little easier! Listen and Learn:  How Carla turned her hit advice for parents into a playful, illustrated guide for kids Why kids' emotional freakouts are not only normal but essential for their development The four core features of a freakout using Carla's FART acronym The "Safety Squirrel": a playful way to explain the brain's fight, flight, freeze, and freak-out responses How the simple act of "noticing" can gently guide your mind out of a freakout How to help your child recognize their emotional "buttons" and guide them with compassionate strategies to navigate their big feelings Playful strategies that you as a parent can experiment with to turn challenging moments into opportunities for growth and connection Self-compassion for kids and how this can help them handle tough times better Clara's clever way to introduce her book 'How to Stop Freaking Out' to your kids without them feeling pressured and making them eager to explore it Resources: How to Stop Freaking Out: The Ultimate Guide to Keeping Cool When Life Feels Chaotic How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent Website: www.carlanaumburg.com Email: carla@carlanaumburg.com Instagram: @carlanaumburg Facebook: Carla Naumburg About Carla Naumburg Carla Naumburg, PhD, LICSW is a clinical social worker and the author of five books, including the bestselling How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids and its forthcoming middle-grade companion How to Stop Freaking Out. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, CNN, and Mindful Magazine, among other places. Carla lives in Massachusetts with her husband and two daughters. Related Episodes:  344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber 337. Puberty is Awkward with Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett 332. Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with Emily Edlynn 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers with Lisa Damour 267. You Are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg 240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance 149. How to Not Lose It With Your Kids with Carla Naumburg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if there's more to happiness and fulfillment than what you've been taught? Speaking about her book The Art of the Interesting, Lorraine Besser questions accepted notions of what constitutes a fulfilling life. She doesn't just explore happiness and meaning; she challenges their dominance, exposing how chasing these ideals can sometimes leave us feeling empty and disillusioned. Lorraine invites us to consider a different path: pursuing a psychologically rich life. This isn't about endless joy or a sense of fulfillment that's always just out of reach. It's about diving into experiences that are novel, complex, and challenging—experiences that make us think deeply and feel intensely. Drawing from her own life and philosophical reflections, Lorraine shows us how to find interest and meaning in the every day, and she offers practical advice on how to weave psychological richness into the fabric of our lives. This is more than just a conversation; it's an important call to rethink what it means to live fully. Listen and Learn:  Challenging the traditional notions of happiness and meaning as the sole keys to a fulfilling life  Why the pursuit of constant happiness is unrealistic and how understanding the limits of pleasure can lead to a more fulfilling and realistic approach to a good life. The elusive nature of fulfillment and why achieving your dreams often leads to unexpected feelings of emptiness The historical evolution of the concept of individual purpose The roles of philosophers and psychologists in exploring happiness The concept of "the interesting" as the third pillar to a fulfilling life How embracing unexpected moments of curiosity and novelty can subtly enrich your life Distinguishing "Mindfulness 2.0" from traditional mindfulness  How embracing "psychologically rich moments" can turn your everyday struggles and mundane tasks into powerful opportunities for personal growth and deeper insight Finding "psychologically rich moments" to help you engage with and grow from challenging situations in life  How being open and honest in your friendships can transform your connections The biggest misconception about achieving a psychologically rich life  Resources:  The Art of the Interesting: What We Miss in Our Pursuit of the Good Life and How to Cultivate It https://www.instagram.com/lorbesser/?hl=en https://lorrainebesser.com/ https://twitter.com/LorraineBesser https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/lorraine-besser-ph-d/the-art-of-the-interesting/9781538743201/ About Lorraine Besser Lorraine Besser, PhD, is a professor of philosophy at Middlebury College, who specializes in the philosophy and psychology of the good life and teaches popular courses for undergraduates on happiness, well-being, and ethics. An internationally recognized scholar, she was a founding investigator on the research team studying psychological richness. She is the author of two academic books (The Philosophy of Happiness: An Interdisciplinary Introduction and Eudaimonic Ethics: The Philosophy and Psychology of Living Well) and dozens of professional journal articles on moral psychology. Related Episodes 351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman 357. Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas and Christopher Wong Michaelson 336. Mindfulness and Living Expansively with Sharon Salzberg 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 328. How to Navigate Change with Brad Stulberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the key to healing our fractured society lies not in silencing our differences, but in harnessing them? In this conversation with Diana M. Smith, a renowned thought leader in conflict resolution and organizational change, we're not just talking about the pressing issue of political divisiveness—we're talking about the power to reshape our society by rethinking how we engage with one another and transform conflicts into constructive forces for societal progress.  Drawing from her extensive career, including her newest book, 'Remaking the Space Between Us,' Diana touches on compelling insights on how collaboration across groups can solve today's complex problems.  Tune in to explore practical steps individuals and communities can take to foster understanding and unity in a polarized world and learn about the importance of shifting from an outrage mindset to an engaged mindset. Listen and Learn:  How Diana's journey from grassroots political activism and organizational learning led to groundbreaking insights on resolving lateral conflicts and preventing the rise of authoritarianism in a rapidly changing world How the media's focus on extremes distorts our perceptions and fuels division and what we can do to transform our fractured democracy The rise of solutions-focused journalism and how the shift from outrage to engagement can reshape the way we consume news and empower communities to tackle real-world problems The evolutionary history of in-group cooperation and out-group competition and how it has shaped today's divisive world The inspiring groups leading us towards a new evolutionary step in building a multi-group democracy—one that could finally bridge our divides and meet the challenges of the 21st century America's deep-rooted identity crisis, shaped by the historic tension between equality and liberty Actionable steps to bridge divides and foster meaningful connections across groups, overcome isolation, challenge biases, and collaboratively address societal issues Focusing on changing patterns rather than blaming individuals to transform adversaries into partners Resources:  Diane's books:  Remaking the Space Between Us: How Citizens Work Together to Build a Better Future For All Action Science  Elephant in the Room Divide or Conquer Find Diana online:  https://www.remakingthespace.org/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/diana-smith-bb8b505/ https://www.instagram.com/dianamclainsmith  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555850530104  Referenced in this episode:  The Old Man Who Saved American Democracy. Twice by Jonathan V. Last: https://substack.com/@jvlast/p-147892467 Solutions Journalism Network: https://www.solutionsjournalism.org/ https://onestepinc.org/ https://startswith.us/ https://storycorps.org/ https://braverangels.org/ https://citizenconnect.us/ About Diana McLain Smith Diana McLain Smith is a renowned thought leader who has led change efforts for thirty-five years in some of America's most iconic businesses and cutting-edge non-profits. A former partner at the Monitor Group and a former chief executive partner at New Profit, Smith developed an approach to conflict and change called Leading Through Relationships (LTR)TM. Related episodes:  262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen  234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer 353. Ask Great Questions with Jeff Wetzler  96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you truly living the life you desire, or are hidden patterns holding you back?  Challenging us to rethink our understanding of freedom and personal fulfillment, we bring you a fascinating conversation with Dr. Emma Seppälä, a renowned psychologist, bestselling author, and Yale lecturer who introduces her latest book, Sovereign, which delves into the profound concept of sovereignty—not just as a political term but as a personal journey toward breaking free from the self-imposed barriers that keep us from reaching our fullest potential.  Combining cutting-edge research with practical wisdom, she guides us in uncovering the often unseen obstacles that prevent us from living our best lives. You'll hear how to overcome mental and emotional traps and about the transformative power of stepping into your greatest self. Join us for an enlightening discussion that is jam-packed with insights that could change the way you approach your daily life. Listen and Learn:  What it truly means to be sovereign  How a bound self can sabotage your success and how cultivating a sovereign self can transform everything The key difference between self-criticism and self-awareness and how it could be impacting your resilience Techniques to transform bound emotions into creative energy and reclaim sovereignty The meditation session that helped Emma transform bound emotions and break a destructive habit Are hidden imprints shaping your life? How to stay sovereign and resist imprints and unhealthy messaging at work and in life  What is “positive relational energy" and how can it transform your relationships and work? The ways food, sleep, nature, and intuition profoundly impact mental health and decision-making Resources:  Sovereign: Reclaim Your Freedom, Energy, and Power in a Time of Distraction, Uncertainty, and Chaos emmaseppala.com iamsov.com https://twitter.com/emmaseppala https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCB4RsignHJRDo8r4IWW1Glg https://www.facebook.com/emma.seppala https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmaseppala/ https://www.instagram.com/thehappinesstrack/ About Emma Seppälä EMMA SEPPÄLÄ, Ph.D., is a best-selling author, Yale lecturer, and international keynote speaker. She teaches executives at the Yale School of Management and is faculty director of the Yale School of Management's Women's Leadership Program. A psychologist and research scientist by training, her expertise is the science of happiness, emotional intelligence, and social connection. Her best-selling book The Happiness Track (HarperOne, 2016) has been translated into dozens of languages. Her new book is Sovereign (Hay House, 2024). Seppälä is also the Science Director of Stanford University's Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education. Related Episodes: 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirsky 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius 289. Happily Even After with Jonah Paquette 341. Self-Forgiveness with Grant Dewar 351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine seeing teenagers not as a bundle of challenges but as a wellspring of untapped potential. That's exactly what our guest Ellen Galinsky, President of Families and Work Institute, invites you to do in this episode, through her book 'The Breakthrough Years: A New Scientific Framework for Raising Thriving Teens ' which challenges the negative cultural narratives about teenagers by presenting a new scientific framework that underscores teens' strengths and capabilities.  Guiding us in understanding adolescent brain development, Ellen talks about the advantages of positive risk-taking, the role of executive function skills and offers a fresh perspective on adopting an approach to problem-solving that promotes autonomy. You'll also hear how to navigate the turbulent waters of social media. Curious about how you can make the most of your teen's toughest years? Tune in to learn some game-changing wisdom that could totally shift your perspective—and theirs! Listen and Learn:  Challenging the negative stereotypes of teenagers Insights from the "Breakthrough Years" study on teens' voices and development Why risk-taking in adolescence is crucial for growth How risk-seeking in teens fosters bravery and examples of how you can encourage positive risk-taking  Using autonomy-supportive caregiving to transform parenting and problem-solving with teens Why shifting from an adversity mindset to a possibilities mindset can transform your parenting How executive functioning—focus, working memory, reflection, and self-control—shapes success Finding a balance of autonomy and structure in social media use and how this can support healthy teen development Resources:  The Breakthrough Years: A New Scientific Framework for Raising Thriving Teens Ellen Galinsky: https://ellengalinsky.com/ The Great Rewiring of Our Lives: Have We Ruined Childhood Forever? https://iai.tv/video/the-great-rewiring-of-our-lives?time=420 Connect with Ellen on Social: https://www.facebook.com/ellen.galinsky/ https://twitter.com/ellengalinsky https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellen-galinsky-2512a95 About Ellen Galinsky Ellen Galinsky is President of Families and Work Institute. She's conducted research on child-care, parent-professional relationship, parental development, work-family issues and youth voice. She also serves as senior science advisor to AASA, the School Superintendent Organization and as senior advisor to the Immediate Office of the Assistant Secretary of Youth Mental Health at the Administration for Children and Families, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Ellen is the author of the best-selling Mind in the Making, more than 100 books/reports and 300 articles.  Other highlights include serving as a parent expert in the Mister Rogers Talks to Parents TV series; as child care expert on Dr. T. Berry Brazelton's TV series What Every Baby Knows; being the elected President of the National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC); and being elected to the National Academy of Human Resources. In 2018, the Work and Family Researchers Network established the ongoing Ellen Galinsky Generative Researcher Award. She holds a Master of Science degree in child development and education from Bank Street College of Education and a Bachelor of Arts degree in child study from Vassar College.  Related Episodes:  342. Youth Sports and Raising Athletes with Kirsten Jones 337. Puberty Is Awkward with Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett 332. Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn 317. Growing Up in Public with Devorah Heitner 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers with Lisa Damour 253. Free Range Kids with Lenore Skenazy 240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance (EFFT Part 1 of 2) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover the keys to mastering any skill with Scott Young. Bringing us his latest book, Get Better at Anything: 12 Maxims for Mastery, Scott retells his fascinating journey of self-studying MIT's computer science curriculum and breaks down the essential process of learning: seeing, doing, and receiving feedback. You'll find out how learning from others, effective practice, and receiving feedback can accelerate personal and professional growth. If you want to enhance your own learning journey, we invite you to hear Scott's inspiring story and unique perspective and gain actionable insights from his book.  Listen and Learn:  How Scott self-studied MIT's computer science curriculum in a year, transforming a personal challenge into a widely recognized success story Mastering any skill by seeing, doing, and getting feedback  Debunking the misleading learning myths that could be holding you back Learning a skill from the ground up  How to identify the most effective and credible resources for mastering new skills Is it true adults have a harder time acquiring skills compared to kids? The process of unlearning  Is AI helpful or a hindrance to learning?  Strategies for empowering your young child's learning  How exposure therapy could transform your fear into confidence in just two weeks Resources:  https://www.scotthyoung.com/ Get Better at Anything: 12 Maxims for Mastery https://www.facebook.com/AuthorScottYoung/ https://www.youtube.com/user/ScottHYoungVid http://twitter.com/scotthyoung/ https://www.facebook.com/AuthorScottYoung/ https://ca.linkedin.com/in/scott-h-young-867ab21 https://www.instagram.com/scotthyoung/ About Scott H. Young Scott H. Young is the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of Ultralearning, a podcast host, computer programmer, and an avid reader. Since 2006, he has published weekly essays to help people learn and think better. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Pocket, and Business Insider, on the BBC, and at TEDx among other outlets. He doesn't promise to have all the answers, just a place to start. He lives in Vancouver, Canada. Related Episodes 357. Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas and Christopher Wong Michaelson 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 310. The Expectation Effect with David Robson 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you feel overwhelmed by chronic disorganization, struggle to maintain focus, or wonder if your adult challenges might be linked to ADHD, we're sitting down with Michaela Thomas, a brilliant clinical psychologist and the mastermind behind The Thomas Connection, the author of "The Lasting Connection," host of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, and a leading expert in ADHD support.  Through Michael's extensive and personal understanding of ADHD in adulthood, you'll discover why seeking a diagnosis can be transformative, how ADHD manifests differently across genders, and the benefits of understanding your neurodivergent brain for your relationships. Trust us, she's a powerhouse of knowledge and empowerment! Want to find out how to navigate your own ADHD journey with clarity and confidence? Tune in with Debbie and Michaela! Listen and Learn:  The myths about ADHD, why professional assessment matters, and how it impacts attention, energy, and motivation Why ADHD in women is frequently overlooked and how it presents differently in girls and women Michaela speaks about her own journey of being diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and how it has allowed her to live authentically The reasons why Michaela sought out an ADHD evaluation Why getting an ADHD diagnosis has advantages and disadvantages, as well as how developing self-awareness can improve your relationships and general wellbeing Why the ADHD assessment process is far more complex than many think Is ADHD really overdiagnosed? The distinctions between ADHD and autism in women and girls and why understanding these differences can affect both diagnosis and support The paradox of hyperfocus in ADHD Resources:  The Thomas Connection Pause Purpose Play The Lasting Connection Instagram @TheThomasConnection About Michaela Thomas  Michaela is a Senior Clinical Psychologist and managing director and lead psychologist of The Thomas Connection. As well as her role as managing director and lead psychologist of The Thomas Connection, she is also the author of couples and compassion book called The Lasting Connection and the host of the podcast Pause Purpose Play. She posts on Instagram under The_Thomas_Connection. Michaela specialises in perfectionism, helping high-striving women let go of the pressure of perfection, to find the balance to burn bright, not burn out. She offers online courses, and ADHD evaluations and support. She lives in London. She  Related Episodes:  254. Cultivating Compassion for a Lasting Connection with Michaela Thomas# 344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley 358. How to Keep House While Drowning with KC Davis 42. Strategies To Increase Focus And Work More Effectively with Debbie and Diana Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're unsure about life's big decisions and tired of making endless pros and cons lists, we've got a bonus co-host episode just for you! We're helping you break down complex decisions into easy-to-follow exercises that you can do right along with us or on your own time. From understanding your comfort zone to making tough choices based on values rather than fear or external pressures, we've got it all covered. It's like having your very own therapist in your earbuds. So join us, grab a pen and paper, and let us guide you in living a more purposeful life! Resources: Jill's Newsletter archive:https://jillstoddard.com/newsletter-archives Go with Your Gut:  https://jillstoddard.mykajabi.com/e/BAh7BjoWZW1haWxfZGVsaXZlcnlfaWRsKwhzfBVgAwA%3D--474f34703358236832a89a99e3d07f24cb493f21?skip_click_tracking=true Decision-Making:https://jillstoddard.mykajabi.com/e/BAh7BjoWZW1haWxfZGVsaXZlcnlfaWRsKwiOXf2cAgA%3D--fe7bdba30eb4f5f3cf33c61f944ca6a6fc5b1458?skip_click_tracking=true Related Episodes: 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 218. Off the Clock with Us 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 313. ACT-Informed Exposure for Anxiety with Brian Pilecki and Brian Thompson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Money talk can be a real minefield in relationships, especially if you and your partner or spouse have totally different spending habits. If this sounds familiar then you've got to check out our latest episode with Dr. Scott Rick, a behavioral scientist and the author of Tightwads and Spendthrifts. We tackle questions like whether tightwads and spendthrifts can actually find harmony together and uncover insights from his original research on the psychology of money management in relationships. Tune in to discover how your financial mindset could be impacting your love life and get actionable tips to transform your money management anxieties! Listen and Learn:  How our psychology not only influences how we handle money, but the way we handle money also influences our psychology  Defining tightwads, spendthrifts, and unconflicted consumers Does research suggest who is more likely to be a tightwad or spendthrift, and are there differences beyond how much money they make?   The most harmonious versus more conflictual pairings among Tightwads and Spenthroots Are couples with joint accounts and some financial translucency more likely to have higher marital satisfaction than full transparency? Scott's strategies for both tightwads and spendthrifts to manage their spending anxieties Why letting the tightwad parent handle toy purchases and the spendthrift plan vacations can lead to lasting family happiness How to teach your kids about money and responsibility while balancing their hobbies and preparing them for real-life financial decisions Resources: scottrick.com Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships https://www.instagram.com/likelyshopping/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/scottianrick/ https://twitter.com/scottianrick About Scott Rick Scott Rick is a marketing professor at the University of Michigan's Ross School of Business. He holds a PhD in Behavioral Decision Research from Carnegie Mellon University, where he was a National Science Foundation graduate research fellow. He has published research in premier journals spanning marketing, psychology, economics, and neuroscience. At the University of Michigan, he has won awards for both research and teaching. Rick's research has been covered extensively in outlets such as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and NPR. His first book, Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships, was published in January 2024 by St. Martin's Press. Related Episodes:  182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein 142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with Patrick McGinnis 217. Redefining Rich with Shannon Hayes 291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy 284. Things We Love with Aaron Ahuvia 296. Money and Love with Abby Davisson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you want the best guidance for your GI issues without exclusive access to a top-tier medical team, join us in this episode with Megan Riehl, co-author of Mind Your Gut: The Science-Based Whole-body Guide to Living Well. You'll discover how this book brings science-based strategies, and exercises straight to your home, offering tools rooted in cognitive behavioral therapy to manage GI symptoms effectively. Learn about accessible resources and the profound impact of a multidisciplinary team on your health. Tune in to unlock these valuable insights and improve your well-being! Listen and learn:  The expansive scope of the gastrointestinal (GI) system and the spectrum of GI conditions Why the gut is often called the second brain, and how its powerful connection with the brain influences our health in surprising ways How stress and anxiety fuel GI symptoms and create a cycle of worsening health The "Dream Team" of GI care Treating GI with cognitive reframing and decreasing behavioral avoidance Is clinical hypnotherapy effective for treating IBS and how does it work?   How a "gentle diet cleanup" can transform gut health—before you dive into restrictive diets The risks of gut pseudoscience on your gut health  How the gut microbiome could revolutionize precision medicine Resources: https://www.drriehl.com/ Mind Your Gut: The ScienceBased, Whole-body Guide to Living Well https://www.instagram.com/mindyourgutofficial https://x.com/DrRiehl The Gut Health Podcast Kate Scarlata and Megan Riehl Nerva: IBS & Gut Hypnotherapy  https://opbmed.com/ About Megan Riehl  Dr. Megan Riehl is a clinical health psychologist, an Associate Professor of Medicine and Director of GI Behavioral Health at the University of Michigan. Her research and passion for education have resulted in numerous peer-reviewed publications, leadership roles, and lectures. This year, together with digestive health expert Kate Scarlata, they co-authored Mind Your Gut: The Science-based, Whole-body Guide to Living Well with IBS and launched The Gut Health Podcast.  Related Episodes:  222. Living With Food Allergies with Tamara Hubbard 260. Health Anxiety with Karen Lynn Cassiday 30. Nutritional Psychology (Part 2) – Eating for Brain Health with the MIND Diet with Diana and Debbie 29. Nutritional Psychology (Part 1) – How food impacts mood, cognition and brain health with Diana and Debbie 39. Chronic Pain with Adrianne Sloan 170. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing (re-release) 177. Mind-Body Practices for Stress and Overwhelm with Rebekkah LaDyne 334. Our Polyvagal World with Stephen & Seth Porges Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If worry is your constant companion, take heart—you're in good company. Let's clear something up: worrying is as human as breathing. Everyone does it, and sometimes it even helps. But when worry transforms into a monster that steals your sleep, scrambles your thoughts, and holds your decisions hostage, that's when we've got a problem. If this sounds familiar, you'll want to hear this conversation with Ben Eckstein where we unpack his book, Worrying Is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck. Tune in to learn how to navigate the cycle of worry and find a balanced approach to life's uncertainties. Listen and Learn:  The fundamental distinction between "worry" and "worrying"  How did worrying become part of our human operating system, and when does it stop being helpful? Why don't our brains dismiss anxiety and focus solely on problem-solving, instead of reinforcing fear patterns? How to master the skills to coexist with anxiety and thrive despite it Unexpected insights from "Legend of Zelda" to explain the nuanced approach needed to treat anxiety The importance of having compassion for the future version of you Resources:  Worrying Is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck Website: www.bullcityanxiety.com Instagram: @bullcityanxiety Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bullcityanxiety About Ben Eckstein Ben Eckstein, LCSW is a therapist specializing in the treatment of OCD, Anxiety, and OC-Related Disorders. Ben honed his specialty in OCD while working at McLean Hospital's OCD Institute in Boston. He's now the owner and director of Bull City Anxiety & OCD Treatment Center in Durham, North Carolina. Ben is the vice president of OCD North Carolina, the NC state affiliate of the International OCD Foundation. In addition to his clinical work, Ben is a speaker, trainer, and author. His first book, Worrying is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck, was published in 2023. Related Episodes 313. ACT-Informed Exposure for Anxiety with Brian Pilecki and Brian Thompson 250. Anxiety and Perfectionism with Clarissa Ong 212. Stuff That's Loud: OCD and Anxiety with Lisa Coyne and Ben Sedley 188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever had to deal with someone who just seems impossible to reason with? You know, the kind of person who always blames others and seems to turn every minor disagreement into a conflict? If you've been there, you'll want to check out this episode with Bill Eddy, Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute and an expert in understanding high-conflict personalities and dealing with adult bullies. We talk about the characteristics of high-conflict individuals, the psychological impact on their victims, and effective strategies from his book Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them -- How to Stop Them to navigate these relationships. Tune in and empower yourself with concrete tools and expert advice to diffuse high-conflict behavior effectively and change how you handle bullies in your life! Listen and Learn:  Identifying the four main traits of high-conflict personalities  Do all individuals with personality disorders fit the high conflict profile? How to identify if you have a relationship with someone with a high-conflict personality The differences between adult bullies and child bullies What is the primary motivation for bullying behavior?  The surprise attack tactic bullies often use and how you can be less vulnerable to them What is a negative advocate, and how do people end up in that role? Using the BIFF method in communication to avoid blame cycles and maintain constructive dialogue Why you should never label the behavior of a high-conflict person or bully?  Combating bullying in political and online realms and why this demands societal action through education and setting boundaries Resources: highconflictinstitute.com Connect with Bill @highconflictinstitute on socials: https://www.linkedin.com/company/high-conflict-institute https://twitter.com/highconflict?lang=en https://www.instagram.com/highconflictinstitute/ It's All Your Fault! The High Conflict Institute Podcast Psychology Today Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/5-types-people-who-can-ruin-your-life Bill's books:  Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them -- How to Stop Them 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities Biff: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder About Bill Eddy:  Bill Eddy is Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. He trains lawyers, judges, mediators, and therapists throughout the United States and a dozen other countries in managing high-conflict family, workplace and legal disputes. He is the author of over 20 books and manuals and has a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com. Related episodes:  98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 308. Identifying and Surviving Gaslighting with Robin Stern 292. Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers with Stephanie Kriesberg 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 298. Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices