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In this episode of For The Dads with Former NFL Linebacker Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherm discuss Will’s nature walk with the fam, hear a PT6 voicemail about a LEGENDARY Milk Team 6 member, and dive into some amazing comments from PT6 —all while keeping the episode fun, light and of course, under an hour. The episode kicks off with the boys showing off the latest For The Dads merch before they dive into some hilarious conversations, including: A Recap of Will and his Wife’s Staycation Sherm talks weekend bonding with ScarScar Scottzilla takes her first steps! Other highlights include: Dinnertime Routine Updates with Will A phone call that has us DYING with laughter

This week I got to speak with Claire Tomkins, founder of Future Family, about her personal fertility journey and the importance of financial support in navigating IVF. We discussed the normalization of fertility conversations, the emotional and financial challenges couples face, and the innovative solutions Future Family offers to alleviate stress and provide support for those looking to build their families. Claire emphasizes the importance of community, resilience, and maintaining a positive outlook throughout the fertility journey. You can find out more about Future Family and their financing options at www.futurefamily.com Thank you to our amazing podcast sponsor, Needed! Check out their products at thisisneeded.com and save 20% off your first order with the code DRKELSEY. Sick of Googling what your fertility labs mean and not getting anywhere? Grab Fertility Labs 101 for just $37 and have a full understanding of what to order, what the labs mean, and what is optimal for conception (for both you and your partner!). Check it out at ttc.kelseyduncan.com/fertility-labs   

Send us a textThere's more Star Trek talk in this one!State of Play September 2025: all announcements, trailers Great-Great-Great Nephew Of Colonel Sanders Goes Scorched Earth On KFCEA Announces Agreement to be Acquired by PIF, Silver Lake, and Affinity Partners for $55 BillionFALLOUT 76'S BURNING SPRINGS UPDATE, ITS "BIGGEST EVER," TAKES US TO OHIO IN DECEMBERThe Enshittification Of Game Pass Is HereNintendo of America president and COO Doug Bowser to retireCapcom Really Wants You To Know That Street Fighter's C. Viper Is SingleClair Obscur: Expedition 33 Is Getting A Free Expansion With New Boss BattlesSupport the showPATREON: http://www.patreon.com/thegorgeDiscord: discord.gg/K8A6SG2Big Gay Nerds: https://soundcloud.com/biggaynerdsBackground music: DJ CUTMAN: https://music.djcutman.com/Broke for Free: https://brokeforfree.comVisager: https://visager.bandcamp.comAdventuria: https://adventuria.bandcamp.com/INTRO: https://soundcloud.com/zak235Ben's BlueSky: thegorgepodcast.bsky.socialSara's BlueSky: radioinactivity.bsky.socialE-mail: thegorgepodcast@gmail.com

In this episode of For The Dads with Former NFL Linebacker Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherm discuss Will’s Ultimate Weekend Playbook, help a PT6er prepare his 4th grade Daughter’s football team for glory, and dive into some amazing comments from PT6 —all while keeping the episode fun, light and of course, under an hour. The episode kicks off with the guys talking about Will’s Bald Head before they dive into some hilarious conversations, including: Sherm is Solo Parenting for an ENTIRE Weekend. Will breaks down how to keep dinner time FUN An awesome Dad Hack about being ready for the birth Other highlights include: Will’s Spooky Dad Hack A hilarious comment about being DEEP in the trenches

Have you ever stood in the grocery aisle, holding a package of “clean” chicken or “healthy” sandwich meat, praying this time it's finally the answer? The food that will give you steady energy, lift the brain fog, quiet the pain, and give you the strong body you need to scale your business and fully live your God-given calling?Friend, we've been there too. For years we thought we were “eating healthy,” doing all the right things. But behind the scenes we were exhausted, inflamed, and frustrated… wondering why we couldn't show up fully in life or in business. What we uncovered later shocked us—and it explained so much.In this episode of Power On Plants, we're pulling back the curtain on one of the biggest so-called “healthy” food choices. We'll share a truth that changed everything for us and for the entrepreneurs, leaders, and families we serve, truth that can set you free from the cycle of symptoms that keep holding you back.If you're tired of Googling symptoms… if you've tried “clean eating” but still can't shake the brain fog… if you're missing opportunities because your body just won't show up the way you need it to, this episode will give you fresh hope, clear direction, and a practical path forward.God never designed His sons and daughters to stay stuck in survival mode. Your calling is too important to let the enemy keep sidelining you with health struggles! It's time to fuel your body with the most nutriet dense foods on the planet, so you can finally feel good, step into food freedom, and 10x your business and life.

Curious what everyone is Googling about Disney Vacation Club? In this video, we dive into the actual top DVC search terms - everything from “Is DVC worth it?” to “Which DVC resort is best?” - and we give you our real, no-fluff answers.Along the way:• Myth-busting some DVC rumors• Pros & cons we think are under-discussed• Our personal take (and what we'd tell a new buyer)If you've ever typed “Disney Vacation Club cost,” “DVC resale,” “DVC benefits,” or anything in between into a search engine, this one's for you.Support our DVC Fan content by joining our⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon Community⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Visit our official sponsor, World of DVC, for all your DVC needs!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DVC Resale Market⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is the largest broker of DVC resale contracts on the internet!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Monera Financial⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for an easy solution to financing your DVC contract!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DVC Rental Store⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is a fantastic resource for those looking to rent points or rent out points!Buy Discounted Disney World or Universal Tickets with ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Unlocked Magic⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Book Your Next Disney Cruise with⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Be Our Guest Vacations!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the Keyholder Club Loyalty Program - Download the App and Sign Up TODAY!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple App Store⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Google Play Store⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Become a member of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DVC Fan Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Follow us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DVC Fan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for even more on Disney Vacation Club!

In this episode of For The Dads with Former NFL Linebacker Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherm discuss the origin of the Will C Pose, read an emotional comment that shatters the Anytime Cryer Parlay, and dive into some amazing comments from PT6 —all while keeping the episode fun, light and of course, under an hour. The episode kicks off with the guys talking about Will’s Bald Head before they dive into some hilarious conversations, including: The beginning of Spooktober A call-in questioning a PT6ers Manhood A healthy convo about potential Baby Names Other highlights include: Sherm’s Laundry Dad Loss The boys talk about their first sip of beer

The way people search is quickly changing. Instead of Googling, millions are now turning to ChatGPT for recommendations on everything from restaurants to business coaches. In this episode, Brittni breaks down how business owners can make sure their name shows up when people ask AI for products or services like theirs. You'll learn practical strategies for building a strong online presence, creating content AI can find, showing up in authoritative spaces like LinkedIn and directories, and even exploring custom GPTs as a lead generation tool. If you want to future-proof your visibility and get discovered by clients in the age of AI, this episode is your step-by-step guide.   Resources: The Meeting Place Membership Rock The Reels 1:1 Coaching Free Client Welcome Guide Additional Trainings and Resources Connect with Brittni: Follow me on the Gram - @brittni.schroeder Join my Facebook Group  Visit my website Subscribe to my Youtube You can find the complete show notes here: https://brittnischroeder.com/podcast/how-to-get-your-business-to-show-up-on-chatgpt  

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H4 - Tues Sept 30 2025 - "on the WORD Talk line, Pablo on Fetterman and Michelle about Hegseth " , " Kevin on the WORD Talk Line about Pete Hegseth comments" , " without Googling, What Product featured the Swedish Bikini Team ? " , " Joy Reid on a podcast , talking about Conservatives wanting to put us back. "

We've got 8 hours 53 minutes until the GOV'T Shuts down.. 03:20-03:33pm 00:00:00 00:13:40 Here's what the Democrats are planning for the shutdown tonight 03:35-03:49pm 00:00:00 00:13:37 if the Gov't shuts down , it won't last long. 03:49-03:57pm 00:00:00 00:07:48 its fun when week men talk tough... Hakeem Jeffrees and Chuck Shumer 03:59-04:16pm 00:00:00 00:16:20 Talking to Congressman Ralph Norman about the Gov't shutdown possibility 04:20-04:31pm 00:00:00 00:11:12 Pete Hegseth called in all the the top brass from around the world 04:32-04:35pm 00:00:00 00:02:20 Local News & Traffic & Weather from NEWS/TALK 98-9 WORD 04:36-04:48pm 00:00:00 00:11:59 Yesterday they had that field meeting in Charlotte about recent crime 04:51-04:57pm 00:00:00 00:06:26 Randy in Greer got a call from Sen Lindsey Graham's office 04:59-05:18pm 00:00:00 00:18:52 6 hours 53 minutes away from Gov't Shutdown.. will the Democrats cave? 05:20-05:29pm 00:00:00 00:08:50 Pete Hegseth called all the top brass from around the world 05:30-05:33pm 00:00:00 00:02:13 Local News & Traffic & Weather from NEWS/TALK 98-9 WORD 05:35-05:49pm 00:00:00 00:14:23 Congressman William Timmons on the WORD Talk Line about the Gov't Shutdown 05:49-05:57pm 00:00:00 00:00:00 Richard in Dallas on the WORD Talk Line about Hegseth Comments 06:00-06:17pm 00:00:00 00:17:21 on the WORD Talk line, Pablo on Fetterman and Michelle about Hegseth 06:20-06:20pm 00:00:00 00:00:15 WYRD Contest Rules 06:21-06:30pm 00:00:00 00:08:26 Kevin on the WORD Talk Line about Pete Hegseth comments 06:31-06:33pm 00:00:00 00:02:07 Local News & Traffic & Weather from NEWS/TALK 98-9 WORD 06:35-06:47pm 00:00:00 00:12:29 without Googling, What Product featured the Swedish Bikini Team ? 06:48-06:57pm 00:00:00 00:08:45 Joy Reid on a podcast , talking about Conservatives wanting to put us back.

Here's this week's episode, which we accidentally tucked behind the paywall in the first send. Friday #AmWriting is always free—but if you're already a paid sub, thanks! And if not… maybe now's the time?Every draft gets messy. Characters show up too early, reveals happen too late, and suddenly nothing's where it “should” be. In this episode, Jennie and KJ talk how to tackle the chaos and keep your words flowing.Episode is free for all and romping through podplayers everywhere. Transcript is below—for paid subscribers only (because they cost $$ to make—thanks for helping us keep them coming!)(Hearing impaired? Shoot us a note and we'll work it out.)Because Free Doesn't Cover TranscriptsTRANSCRIPTKJ Dell'AntoniaI had written about 13,000 words-ish, and sort of vaguely call it the first five chapters, sort of. I have my loose, rickety Inside-Outline, which gets to the end and becomes almost an only emotion outline, because I'm not entirely sure I know what's going to happen. I'm not entirely sure how. And, you know, we talked about that, so that's fine. Like, I'm working—I'm working from that. I'm not working—it's not like, and next I will write this. It's more like, here's the—what—whatever scene I write next, here's why it has to happen, plot-wise, and here's why it has to happen, emotion-wise. But it may not be exactly what I outlined. So I'm actually making an outline of what I actually wrote as I write it, which is kind of fun. But then as I'm—so as I'm doing that, and kind of comparing what I think is going to happen to what I'm writing, I realized, after I sent you a big chunk, which we're partly excited about and partly not—and then it was—it was great—I realized that I needed something. Some things were out of order. Like, I started to write the thing that was the next up in my kind of vague plan, and then I was like, oh, wait. Like, I can't have—this person can't be doing this before—or they're—like, I need—I need—anyway, so I've ended up—I went back, but I'm not revising. I'm actually sticking in new things already. So it's like that 13,000 words is stretching out into, you know, probably 20,000 words as we approach. So I'm still in the world before the big death happens, because there were things... but also, in part, because it was getting too long. Like...Jennie NashYeah. Yeah.KJ Dell'AntoniaSo I needed things—so I needed to move some action. I was like, oh, well, now I'm supposed to have, like, five more things happen before the death. I can't put another 10,000 words in here. Those things have to go back up. They have to start happening within what I've already done. So some of it was that as well.Jennie NashWell, it was super fun to read your pages, because I can just feel the wheels turning, I guess, or the engine of the whole thing. And there were parts of it that felt super assured and like, oh, this is going to be good. And you really know this character now, which is what you've been circling around—like, really, who is this and really what's going on here? And that was so fun to see. It was like, oh, yeah, more of this. This is great. This is—this is going to be good. And then there were other parts, it was like, well, what's happening here?KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah, well, that was one of the parts that was like this. That was—it was in the wrong place. It was like; I was trying to do too much sort of introductory throat clearing.Jennie NashSo, KJ, I want to stop and ask you a question about something you just said, because you whizzed by it and it's—it's like an incredible skill that you have. Where you said something was out of order. It wasn't that the thing was—what you wrote was not good or not right for the book. It was that you determined it was in the wrong place. And there's so much that goes into that, like it's about thought, but it's also about rhythm and pacing and feel. And I just feel like that's something a lot of people don't know how to do. Like, can you talk about that for a hot second?KJ Dell'AntoniaI can try. Some of this I learned from Sarina [Sarina Bowen], and from reading her thriller draft while she was still working on it, and talking about the process of paying attention to what the reader learns when—both from a thriller... this works—it's not just from a thriller perspective, it's also—I think we all have this urge to sort of, like, introduce—like you—when you read Save the Cat and you read all this, there's—there's an introductory period where you have to establish that you know your protagonist, everything is going wrong in their home life, their work life, and their emotional life. And the reason for that is—the you know—their emotional flaw. I'm probably mashing together a lot of different systems here. So you learn that, and then, you know, you want to write, like, 30,000 words of what's wrong with your character and what's going on—it's all backstory. And then, you know, maybe you do that, and you realize there's not enough action in it, and there's not—you know, you do want the reader to know those things, but they need to know it more gradually. And then you start paying attention in the books that you're reading to how little you maybe know before things happen, and how much fun it is to figure things out. Even silly things like, oh, you know, why—why are they not going back to their apartment all day? And it turns out to be because their ex was clearing their stuff out of there that day or something like that. But they don't say that, because that's not how they think about it. They just think, all right, can't go back to the apartment, damn it, you know? And I just spilled coffee all over myself. Where am I going to take a shower? Better call this friend. And so your brain is like, wait, why can't you go back? And so creating—building that—is really hard. And I think paying close attention as you read, and learning to pay attention even as you read for fun to what's making it fun is kind of what has helped me build that. And again, then watching Sarina build her endings and be like, oh, I gave this up too soon—which is a different process. So I was more—I'm more in the “I took too long to tell you this,” or “I took too long to let this happen.” I worried too much about telling you everything before I let it happen. I'm at that stage—like at the beginning of the book. Things need to happen while you're telling the reader things.Jennie NashWell, this is so good because what you're really saying is that you're not just writing your story—you're thinking about the reader's experience of being in your story. I mean, that's the pro move, right? Is...KJ Dell'AntoniaI hope so.Jennie NashDoing both things at the same time—like, what—what is the reader going to know? What are they going to feel? What are they going to think? What's—what's your question—what's going to be fun for them?KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah.Jennie NashSuch a good question.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah. And this is a multi-protagonist book—or not multi—it's not—it's a multi-POV book with one protagonist. So that balance is also really interesting. And I've tried to pay attention to how other people do that. But that was part of it—was realizing that's what that was. The mistake that I was making was—I had—there's going to be five points of view, but, as I said, one protagonist. And so I had given you two of the other points of view, and one of them—um, Summer—was—was embroiled in the action. Like, I feel like that one in turn—but the other one was too introductory. It was too much this—and so I moved that to after Nate breaks his leg. That's when we really meet her for the first time. And it's just very—and it—so it makes things happen faster.Jennie NashThat's so good. That's so good.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah, we don't need—we don't need an introduction to her, and we're not really getting an introduction to any of these other characters other than through the protagonist. You just suddenly get their point of view. And that's—I don't know that. It feels modern, it feels fast. We'll see...Jennie NashWell, and it's—the other point of view, are there not to tell their own story...KJ Dell'AntoniaRight.Jennie NashBut that's a structure, but that's not your structure. They're there to help—to tell the protagonist's story.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah, and to help—yeah, they have their own stories, but exactly—exactly. They're there to tell—I mean, they're there to help tell the protagonist's story. But really, they're also there... they're there because they need to be there to tell the larger story.Jennie NashRight. Right.KJ Dell'AntoniaSo they're there for the plot story, but the plot story all is also very intertwined with the protagonist's story. So—but—but—yeah, so every time—but every time I go to them, it needs to be, why are we here? Like we can't—I can't ever just go to that other—that other point of view so we learn what's going on with that point of view. That's not why they're there.Jennie NashRight.KJ Dell'AntoniaThey're only there if it's something about the mystery or something about the protagonist.Jennie NashThat's good. That's a good stress test.KJ Dell'AntoniaIt is, and—and it's been—I mean, I'm glad I sort of sorted that out so quickly. I feel like in my initial draft of The Chicken Sisters, even though it didn't have other points of view, it had some extraneous subplots that were just there for the subplot.Jennie NashYeah. Yeah. Well, you're on your way. And some of the writing was—was like I said—I used the word assured. It was—I particularly love your writing about—I mean, this book has a lot of—the setting is important. There's a natural spaces setting that we're in a lot, and the way you write about that is really good and really puts us there. And it's clear that you—that you've spent a lot of time in that space. You know, like literally walking through snow. That is not a thing I've spent a lot—a lot of time doing, and your writing about it really put me there, which was cool.KJ Dell'AntoniaAnd that is an interesting—I mean, I'm really enjoying this. But this is actually about something else, or a different person setting. I feel like when you read something like that, if—if you have spent a lot of time in that setting, then you can definitely tell. If it's not particularly important to the book, it's not necessarily annoying that maybe somebody got the setting wrong. But sometimes—you know, I was just reading something that I know was written by a writer who does not live in the part of the country that they were writing about, and I suspect never has, because I have lived in that part of the country. And there's this—this chunk that they wrote about, a particular journey that is common to it, and I don't—because this is someone I know, I'm not—I'm just not—I'm going vague. But—and as someone who's experienced that particular journey that is taken within the process of living in this particular place, I'm like, oh, this—clearly this person read about doing this thing on the internet. Like, you can just tell. And it's painful as someone who's been there, and it was some of what led me to stop reading the book. But not—not all of it. Not all of it. I could have—I could have tolerated that. And there are plenty of times where you're reading along and you're like, okay, I know this person's not really a vet, but they've clearly been in a vet's office, and this is—it's fine. Like, it doesn't matter. I'm happy. It's working. It's working for me. So it's just one element. But it goes on the list, right? If you're...Jennie NashYeah.KJ Dell'AntoniaSo I feel like that's something to be super careful about—is when you're kind of Googling to see what something's like is—or maybe to play it down, it might have just been that there was a lot about this particular journey. And I was just like, it is not really quite right. Anyway...Jennie NashI had a funny experience when I wrote my novel called The Threadbare Heart, which was so long ago that I can barely even remember what it was about. But there was—there was a fire, and somebody lost a fabric collection in the fire. That—this was important to the story and to this character. I can't even tell you why that was so, but I do remember I did a lot of research on fabric collecting—why people do it, what they collect, how they store it—because I wanted to get those details right. And the—now I'm, like, wishing I remembered why—why I landed on that for this character. But the book—the book had to do with what you would take in a fire, basically. And I think I needed somebody with something very physical. I think that's how I got there. But anyway, I had done all this research, and I quite love textiles in—as a concept. I don't collect them my own self. I'm not a seamstress my own self. But I like them, and so I did a lot of research. And there's a whole quilt underworld out there of quilters, and I went down that rabbit hole. But the funny thing is that when the book came out, I got all of these requests from sewing places. Will you come on and talk about your fabric collection? Will you come on and talk about your sewing machines and how your grandmother taught you to sew? And I was like, oh, that was made up. My grandmother did not—I didn't—I don't know how to sew. I don't have that sewing machine. But it was—I was so proud, because it was not just one. It was a lot. I got a lot of requests that people thought this was an expertise that I had. And I was like, look at me!KJ Dell'AntoniaI love that! Yeah, you did it. You got far enough into—I think there's—the trick is to get far enough into something that you know a lot more than makes it into the book. And the...Jennie NashYeah!KJ Dell'AntoniaMistake that was made in the thing that I was reading with was that this was a person who had essentially gone, okay, when you're in California, you get to, you know, Los Angeles from Santa Barbara by taking the 1 [Highway 1], and you see the following things. And therefore I'm going to write those things. But they didn't—like if they'd driven it 452 times, they might not have mentioned, you take the 1 [Highway 1]. They might have said, you know that—that part where you—you see that one turn-off, and that, my God, that rest stop has been closed since 1982. Like, they might have said something like that. And so you got deep enough to get into that, and the writer that I'm complaining about did not.Jennie NashSo interesting. So interesting.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah, and you don't see it. You shouldn't see it. That's the crazy stuff about this. Like everything else, you don't—as a reader, as a regular reader who's not reading from a writer-y point of view—and even when you're a writer, you should not feel the sausage being made.Jennie NashThat is a great place for us to end. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amwriting.substack.com/subscribe

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Tiff and Kristy go into the DNA of an effective leader. These are the common traits that Dental A-Team has seen from the top dental practices, with Tiff and Kristy breaking down how exactly these leaders were able to cultivate such characteristics. Episode resources: Subscribe to The Dental A-Team podcast Schedule a Practice Assessment Leave us a review Transcript: The Dental A Team (00:00) Awesome. Hello, everyone. Dental A Team listeners, thank you so much for being here. I had the pleasure of having an email exchange with a really, really well-rounded office manager, regional manager. And anyways, my point was that she mentioned that she is an avid Dental A Team listener, and she has been for many years. And it was just so special to hear that and to have this email thread with her and to hear how much it has impacted her   professional life and I just wanted to give a massive shout out that came up this morning and I wanted to just thank you guys for being here because as much as this may impact your life and and hopefully add value to your systems, your practice, whether you're a dentist, whether you're a team member, office manager, and you know what I mean we've worked with CPAs, we've worked with chiropractors, we've worked with eye doctors.   anyone who's here listening, you found value in this and you continue to come back or if this is your first time, welcome. And I just want to give a massive shout out to you guys and a thank you for supporting our team and our company through the podcast. We love being here and we love what we get to do with you guys every single day. So massive shout outs and welcome to today. I have the beautiful pleasure of honestly having a very relaxed and calming   podcasting day and I have Miss Kristy here with me today and Kristy, know I've told you off camera, off mic, ⁓ how relaxing podcasting with you is and truly, truly from the bottom of my heart, you make podcasting very easy and stress free and knowing that we had a few today, really I was like, goodness it's Kristy, because I am just so excited to podcast with you. So Kristy, thank you so much for being here.   and just for being you. You bring a sense of ease, a sense of joy, and a sense of fun to our company as well as a multitude of other things and I value you. So thank you, Kristy. How are you this morning? It's still morning here as we're recording. How are you doing?   DAT Kristy (01:58) doing well and I'm with you Tiff. I mean we don't get to spend a lot of time with each other so whenever we get to spend time even if it's podcasting ⁓ I always enjoy my time with you so yep it's a good morning.   The Dental A Team (02:10) Thank you.   Thank you. I agree. I agree. The sun is shining. It's supposed to be cooling down. So I'll be missing it. But you should be able to enjoy some great Phoenix weather here in the next week and enjoy that pool of yours. And when I get back, we need to set up a coffee date because it just hasn't happened yet. And we need that time together. I'm really excited. In a few weeks, we've got our in-person mastermind that we've got a ton of our doctors.   DAT Kristy (02:27) Yes.   The Dental A Team (02:39) coming out to Phoenix to spend some time with us. And I know I have a few doctors, you have a few doctors that are coming. Each consultant has quite a few actually offices that are joining us. We're just super, super excited to host everyone here in Phoenix. I am, my clients, my clients know who they are. They are near and dear to my heart. They are some of my closest friends in my life. And I have a couple coming that I am so excited for you guys to meet.   And one of them is just so special and she knows who she is and I'm just giving her massive hugs and massive shout outs. She is such a supporter of everything we do. She's a supporter of me as a human and you know, I just am so excited for you to meet her, Kristy. So I wanted to just shout that out and let everybody know what's coming up in our lives. We've got a lot of Dental A Team fun happening and part of that is this.   course this mastermind that we've got coming up and the things that follow it that go along with that. mean we've got every month we have our doctors only mastermind for our clients and most of what we do is center focused around really truly building leaders and ⁓ within that I think I think something I tell my clients and my teams especially my teams when I'm working with teams is our goal is to create ease efficiency and joy.   in your jobs. No matter what your job is, no matter what your position you hold in the practice is, I want you to love going to do that every single day or at least I say like 95 % of the time there's going to be those days where you're like heck no Tiff I don't want to do this. But a lot of that comes down to I think effective leadership and being able to create a practice that works for you, a business that works for you instead of you working for the business, meaning it's just like gosh I'm exhausted every day and   Will this ever end? And new doctors, it does end. Okay, but not yet. Don't get too hasty. You gotta put your time in. You gotta do your time. But it does end. And Kristy, I think a lot of that, and something you're fantastic at, I've watched you do this with doctors. I've watched you do this with startup doctors. They know who they are. They're here listening too. And I've watched you do this with doctors who have been in practice for 10 years plus. You build incredible leadership.   through really solid systems and efficiency and culture and team. Kristy, my biggest question to you, I told you I was going to ask you this kind of defining question. When you think of a leader, when you think of a practice leader, a dentist leader, an office manager, and anyone who is deemed a leader or wants to be, what kind of characteristics do you think of within that person that either they innately have or can be developed?   DAT Kristy (05:27) You're going deep today, huh? ⁓ Yeah, I think number one, compassion because   The Dental A Team (05:30) I am, yeah. I don't know what's up today, but I am. It's in me.   DAT Kristy (05:44) With leadership, I think we owe it to our people to be brutally honest in a way, but do it in a compassionate way, if you will. the ability to be honest and share from that space of, want to better this person or I want to grow this person versus coming from a place of criticism.   You know what I mean? Because you and I have talked about this before. I don't think anybody walks into a job on any given day saying, I'm going to make it heck today. I'm just going to come in and raise havoc. And I don't think anybody intentionally does that. And so having a leader that can come from a compassionate space and understand that people really are trying to do well and be able to deliver from that space.   The Dental A Team (06:43) Yeah, I totally agree with you. think compassion's a fantastic word there. And ⁓ the way you described it, I think, defines that really clearly. Because I do think there's just so much confusion wrapped up in empathy, sympathy, compassion, being nice. And I think a leader is everything, is all of those pieces. But well-rounded and doesn't get lost in them is, I think, a good thing to say there. ⁓   They're all fantastic characteristics, but being able to navigate that and being able to navigate ⁓ clear and kind, like I really, I really truly love looking at the difference between kind and nice. And I think, you know, nice, even when you say like, ⁓ nice, it doesn't feel in your body as good as kind does. And when someone can be clear and kind, that's that compassionate side of I'm here with you.   And I'm going to tell you, I'm going to tell you the way I'm going to show you the way. Right. And when we get off track, we're going to do it together. And I'm going to tell you when we get off track, when you're off track, when, things aren't being met, when the accountability needs to be put into place, I'm going to do that for you because that's kindness. I think a lot of leaders shy away from that because they want to be nice. They don't want to hurt feelings. They don't want to make someone feel like they're not a good team member or they're not doing a good job because they are doing a good job. They're just doing something that needs adjusting.   And I know Kristy, you've had these conversations too. I've listened to you have them with doctors and office managers of the not saying something to someone holding back information and holding back what could inspire them or just make them a better manager and leader is actually hurting the other person. So where we're trying to be nice and save their feelings, we're actually making it way worse and we're doing damage.   to the human, the person, and that think, Kristy, is where that compassionate side comes into play of compassionate kindness, of that joint. always say, ⁓ use words like I'm partnering with you, and can I partner with you in this? Are you open to me giving some feedback here? You really lay it out very well where it's open and, again, compassionate and kind. And Kristy, I think you do a great job with that.   How do you help to coach leaders and doctors to have those conversations and with verbiage like that? What are your biggest suggestions that even if somebody could take one thing away from today, maybe it's a suggestion of a hard conversation. ⁓ How do you suggest to your doctors and your clients how they can do that?   DAT Kristy (09:25) Yeah, I think there's a few things, Tiff. Honestly, in onboarding new people, I love to have the conversation before it even needs to happen. with new employees just opening the door that, hey, there's going to come a time when we have to address a few things. So finding out what their style is for addressing and always trying to accommodate in that way, I mean, you don't   always have the room to do that. But if I can find out, hey, there's going to come a time when we have to have a conversation, what is the best way to address you? How do you prefer me to approach you in those situations, first and foremost? And that obviously works well for new team members. But as we're learning leadership, we might not have all new team members. So coming into it,   for our existing team members just being vulnerable and honest and saying, hey, I'm looking to grow my leadership skills too, right? And so I may not always hit the mark, but I wanna open the door for honest open communication. And so just like what you said, asking permission and ⁓ I guess with that too is in that approach, always trying to make it from my point of view.   You know, maybe referring back to a situation and being able to address it like, hey, you know, I need to clear the air. And earlier when you were talking about the story I'm telling myself is, I'm sure, you know, that may not have been your intent and that's why I wanna open this space for communication. Yeah.   The Dental A Team (11:17) Yeah, that's beautiful.   That's beautiful. And what that leads into is kind of our next chapter of this whole podcast. And it so succinctly goes together because that communication that you just gave and that openness. I always think of when I when I hear you speak and when I hear you speak of ⁓ verbiage to be able to use like this, I think of you said vulnerable and I think vulnerable for sure. We're open, we're vulnerable, we're honest. But I think you also bring a sense of ⁓   like humility and humbleness to the conversation. And when a leader and a doctor or anyone who an established team member who's been there for a while can be humble and say, you know what, don't know everything and I am growing and learning because I'm a human and we're doing that in every space of our life. Who I am today as a mom, who I am today as a girlfriend, as a best friend, as a friend, a coworker, who I am today is different.   than even two weeks ago, right? We're constantly changing. So being able to be humble allows the space for the other person, for the other, and when you're a dentist and leader or office manager, having these conversations with the team, either individually or open forum, like allows them the space to know. They don't have to know it all either. And they can be in the space of learning and they can ask questions. So.   Kristy, think one of the biggest things we get asked, well, number one thing we get asked when people call in and say, Dental A Team, please help fix my family, is systems, right? And I was actually in a practice yesterday with our consultant Trish, and it was so much fun. And we did the team meeting, and one of the things I said to the whole team was, listen, everybody says we need systems. We need systems implemented. And I'm like, for sure, you need systems.   But systems without communication and without leadership, you already have systems. You know why they're not working, why they're quote unquote broken. You have systems. You're doing a lot of the things I'm going to tell you to do. You're just not doing them consistently and you're not talking about it. So if we can fix the communication and really bring that sense of humbleness, think what you've done there, Kristy, with that conversation that I hope people will take away and go spread is you have inspired.   a culture of positivity. Because whenever we're in a space, we've hired consultants, we have people on our, we have team members on our team right now that have said, I have never worked in a place that I didn't feel like I had to know everything. And when I didn't know a thing, I was scared to say it and I had to like go find it on my own. So we're like behind the scenes trying to track down information and hoping we're right. I remember in my dental practice,   Kiera talks all the time about how she didn't know the definition. She didn't know what KPI stood for, right? She knew it was important. She didn't know what the actual acronym meant. I only knew, and I tell her this all the time, I only knew what KPI stood for because when I became a leader in my dental practice, the office manager wanted me to come into the KPI meetings. And I was like, yeah, of course, I'll be there. Sure thing, no worries. Meanwhile, I'm over here Googling. What the heck is a KPI meeting?   I had no idea, but I also wasn't comfortable enough to be like, yeah, sure, whatever you want. What does that mean? How do I show up? What do I bring? How can I be valuable to that meeting? I Googled it, and then I sat there like, none of this makes sense. I sat in those meetings with the CPA, and I'm just like, I am not, I'm not the same as you guys, and I feel so small right now. But I was not in ⁓ an environment at that time that felt, and it wasn't because,   DAT Kristy (14:34) you   The Dental A Team (15:03) she wasn't supportive or helpful, I just didn't feel seen, heard, and ⁓ like I could be vulnerable, right? I had to just be, you had to put on a face and you had to do the thing. And I think, Kristy, what you've done with that communication is you've opened up space for the culture to really be what our clients are constantly asking for. They're always asking, Tiff, how do I fix the culture, right, Kristy?   Help me fix my culture. How do I get my team engaged? And it's like, you just did it with one sentence, right? Have you seen that, Kristy?   DAT Kristy (15:36) Yeah, absolutely. ⁓ It's communication out of the gate. I don't know the exact statistic, you may know a little better than me, but I know it's up in the high 90 % that all communication is misunderstood just out of the gate. So we already have that going against us. Anything we can do to help open that door and create that safe space. And again,   I guess my biggest thing, if you kind of said, if there was one takeaway, don't ever start a sentence with why. Don't ever start a sentence with why because you'll automatically put them on the defense. Maybe asking a question of, you share with me how you came to this decision or not, why did you do this?   The Dental A Team (16:17) I totally agree.   Yeah, yeah. think a lot of communication starts that way. And I think I try to encourage teams in general, people, when I go into practices and I'm having these meetings and I'm having similar conversations of teaching even just a full team how to communicate together, I actually try to encourage them to stop considering that they're two different people in their lives. Because we think   I'm at work, I have to be this person at work, but at home, like, are you saying if you were to go to your husband or your kid, like, I think of Brody, my 17 year old son, and for those of you who have been listening for a long time, he's 17 now, yes. But I think like, if I came to him and I was like, why did you do it like this? He'd be like, well, why wouldn't I have? And I'm like, well, that's not, like, I actually needed to know why you did it this way. And he's like, well, why are you asking, right? It would just be this like back and forth.   But instead, come almost like I tell people, think about how to get around it. The why this hard statement is the rock in between you guys. And if you try to push through that rock in the middle, you're not going to get anywhere. I massively hurt my wrist one time trying to move this rock that did not look as heavy as it was for years. My wrist hurt. That's what you're doing. But walking around that rock, walking around that boulder and saying,   I actually really want to understand because sometimes, Ray, I tell practices, if you don't agree with what I'm saying that we need to implement, like tell me because I could be wrong. I might not know your practice as well as I think I do and we need to talk through it. And that's the same thing. Like maybe we got a different result than we wanted, but I need to know how you got there because number one, if you use the system that's in place, it's broken. Number two, if we didn't use the system, we needed to know.   what we did use, right? So I think that's brilliant, Kristy, and really just a way to like get around that issue that's in the middle and keep defenses down.   DAT Kristy (18:27) for sure. Another technique that I've used before and especially from leaders is make sure you keep speaking to the results you're looking for. It's painting the clarity for the person on the other end. What's the end result? What are we trying to achieve here that we're missing the mark? You know, another great thing is being able to state the behavior that you are seeing now, maybe even what it's causing.   You know, for instance, when you are in morning huddle and you go, what about, you know, can you see how that maybe drags everybody down and moving forward, stating the behavior you want to see moving forward? It's OK if you feel that way. But can you refrain from saying it in front of everybody? And you and I have a conversation on the side, you know. So again, it's what's the behavior today that's happening that   isn't so favorable, what's the result we want to see and speaking to that versus the person.   The Dental A Team (19:30) I love that. And again, that is like infusing the care into the person and the situation. But like I want I want you to be looked at as a leader in your position. And I know, just from my own experience, when you do come to the table that way, people actually like the people lose trust in you, you lose value, right. And so I do agree being able to show up. And I think the flip side to all of this that I   of thought of while you were saying that piece, because that's massive, is being able to show up how you want others to and then backing this up. So there's a difference in having this conversation and just being like, cool, had the conversation, Kristy. My team didn't do anything about it. They don't care. They're not changing. And then having the conversation and walking the walk, backing it up and continuing. know, Kristy, you probably get asked this a lot too.   DAT Kristy (20:03) Mm-hmm.   The Dental A Team (20:26) They're like, well, how many times do I have to say it? They're not listening. And I'm like, they are, but they've been, if you're working with a team that's established, right, even established with you, they've been down a road already. So we're retraining behaviors and habits. But the only way to do that is by continuing to show up how you want them to show up. You can't tell someone, I can't tell Brody to do this thing. But if I do it, if I.   If I show him and care and love him enough to show him how to behave and how to be in the world, he mimics that, right? We are all just mirroring each other. We are literally duplicating and repeating what we're seeing. So if your team, this one's a hard truth, this just popped in, but if your team, you're like, my team sucks, be like,   Actually, you know what? Maybe I should look in the mirror and reflect to myself because if I look at my actions, I were mirroring myself and watching myself, how would I show up? Because if you're not walking that walk and you're like, yeah, sweet, vulnerable, humble, come tell me, and then somebody has a conversation with you and you're like, well, this is why, let me tell you why. Guess what you're gonna get when you say, why did this happen? You're gonna get the same behavior, right, Kristy?   DAT Kristy (21:30) Mm-hmm.   Yeah, 100%. You know me and my analogies, but we literally are a product of what we live, right? We learn what we live. And so if we're always coming from that critical spirit, we're going to get more of that, you know? So coming from that space of ⁓ understanding, right, versus criticism. ⁓ And to your point, it's coming full circle again.   A lot of times we don't lean into those difficult conversations and those literally are so powerful. Like really that's where our growth comes and I challenge people to see them as a caring conversation versus a negative conversation if you will. ⁓ Really our growth comes from that and not addressing it is also validating the behaviors.   The Dental A Team (22:34) totally agree.   Totally agree with you. That is, drop the mic right there. I totally agree. And that's that nice space, right? Where we're like, well, I don't want to make them feel bad. Well, you just told them it was okay what they're doing then. So either you have to get over that and be okay with whatever it is. You can no longer hold it against them. And it has become a standard of okayness or you have that conversation. Those are the only two options. That is a.   do or die, like only two options. You cannot personally or professionally continue to hold something against someone if you're not willing to help to change that behavior.   DAT Kristy (23:16) Yeah, and you know, with that tip, I would say I was in that space too, when I was learning, learning to be a leader, because yes, we all have innate characteristics that can guide us to being a leader, but it is a muscle that has to be developed and leaning into those conversations had made me a better leader. But also, I would say having a mentor.   or a coach like us to practice the conversations can be very helpful. Before you get into those conversations, I tell my doctors that all the time. mean, think of professional football teams or baseball or whatever. I always say, how much time do they spend practicing versus how much time do they play on the field? And how often do we practice having hard conversations?   The Dental A Team (23:47) Totally.   Yeah.   Totally. I agree.   Mm-hmm. I totally agree with you and I tell leaders all the time practice at home. I have thank the Lord he blessed me with Brody I have practiced so much communication on him and watched how it's molded him and been like, okay or watched his Reactions or just how a situation altered based on my communication and been like, okay Well, that was a misstep because I think our kids will always tell us ⁓ and it's just it's   DAT Kristy (24:13) Yeah.   The Dental A Team (24:35) training and teaching and guiding them to. So practice on your family. Tell your family, I'm going to practice this. Tell your husband, tell your wife. I don't care. But I do. I totally agree with you. Practice is key. And I think effective leadership and dentistry comes down to being able to have those conversations and being able to back it up. And if you're trying to create a great culture, you're trying to get your team engaged, this is the way to do it. And like Kristy said, you don't have to do it alone.   DAT Kristy (24:41) You   The Dental A Team (25:03) You never do. You never have to do it alone ever. We are always here. Hello@TheDentalATeam.com. You guys know that. You've listened to this a million times, but also if you're a client, reach out to your consultant. ⁓ And if you're a future client, like reach out to us. We are here. We're here to have the conversations and we know that you can do it. This is how you inspire culture. So my auction item, Kristy, I think for everyone is to take a look at their leadership style, at the things that are maybe driving you crazy.   DAT Kristy (25:03) Mm-mm.   The Dental A Team (25:33) ⁓ that you feel like you're hitting a wall or maybe your team just isn't right where you want them to be. And then just have a moment of self-actualization and really look at what's creating that. And is there something that you can do differently as a leader that could get a different result? Because that's how you're going to inspire a team to be solution oriented as well. So Kristy, this was beautiful. I hope everyone enjoyed this deep dive of communication and effective leadership conversation. Thank you so much, Kristy, for your amazing   words, you really do handle communication in a way that a lot of people don't yet know how to. So thank you for sharing that wisdom with us today. Everyone, go drop us a review. You know I love to say that, but I really do mean it. And five stars are always fantastic, but really, truly just tell us what worked best for you. If there's anything that you've done that's working, people really do read those reviews.   DAT Kristy (26:13) You're welcome.   The Dental A Team (26:28) drop some information in there as well. And then as always reach out, Hello@TheDentalATeam.com. are here to serve and help you, whether it's through leadership, whether it's through systems that is leadership or really just finding those spaces that are overlooked. I know when we were in a practice yesterday, we found just like the easiest, most simple, low hanging fruit possible to make a massive difference. And the office manager said, how did you like that is, I can't believe I didn't think of that. And I said, you know what?   You're here every single day. You're in it. You're in the thick of it. You're in the weeds. You're busy. This is why we exist, is to be able to come in and see areas that are unnoticed that could make a massive, massive difference. So reach out. We are here for you. Hello@TheDentalATeam.com. And we cannot wait to meet you. Thanks, guys.  

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts, OR— BRAND NEW: we've included a fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I have a conversation with Devon Kuntzman, an ICF-certified coach and author of the new book Transforming Toddlerhood. We cover why toddlers are so misunderstood, and how to work with our toddlers by better understanding their needs and development. Tune in to learn better ways to work through car seat struggles, diaper changes, tooth brushing, throwing things, and more!**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this post? Share it with them!We talk about:* 7:10 Why do toddlers have such a bad reputation?!* 10:00 Contractionary needs of toddlers* 11:00 What hard toddler behaviours are totally normal?* 13:00 Nuance around “limit setting” and power struggles* 19:30 Having unrealistic expectations for our toddlers* 24:00 Understanding crying* 29:00 Toddlers need for movement and bodily autonomy* 30:00 Car seat struggles* 31:15 Refusing diaper changes* 32:00 Tooth brushing* 35:00 Throwing things* 38:00 The problems with Time OutsResources mentioned in this episode:* Yoto Player-Screen Free Audio Book Player* The Peaceful Parenting Membership* Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Handle Tantrums, End Power Strugglers, and Raise Resilient Kids --- Without Losing your Mind * Devon's website xx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team- click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! 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No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HEREInterview transcript:Welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today's guest is Devon Kuntzman, who is an expert on all things toddler. We discussed why toddlers get a bad rap—why they can be really challenging—and what's going on with them developmentally. Devon has so much insight into how to understand your toddler better, and therefore how to make life with them easier by knowing how to support them.We also talked about mysterious toddler behavior, and I asked her the questions I get most from you—what to do in tricky situations like car seats, teeth brushing, diapers, and more. You are going to finish this episode with a deeper understanding of your toddler and a deeper appreciation of these wondrous and sometimes challenging little beings.Even if you don't have a toddler anymore, you might find it interesting—as I did—to understand in hindsight exactly why they acted the way they did. And if you don't have a toddler anymore but you do know someone with a toddler—that's ages one through four—send this podcast on over to them. I'm sure they're going to find it really, really helpful. Devon is just wonderful.Okay, let's meet Devon.Sarah: Hey Devon, welcome to the podcast.Devon: Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here.Sarah: Me too. I'm so excited to talk about your new book that's coming out. But before we dive into that, can you tell us a little bit about who you are and what you do?Devon: Yes. So, I am Devon Kuntzman, and I'm an ICF certified coach, toddler expert, and the founder of Transforming Toddlerhood. I'm also a mama to a toddler and now an author with a book coming out October 21st called Transforming Toddlerhood as well.I really started Transforming Toddlerhood in 2018 to dispel the myth that toddlerhood is terrible. Yes, toddlerhood is very, very challenging developmentally for so many reasons, but it's also a critical developmental period. If we just go into it white-knuckling it, bracing ourselves for the worst, we actually start to miss the magic of this developmental period and the opportunity to set our kids up for success in the long run.The first five years of life set the foundation for brain development and social-emotional development for years to come.Sarah: I love that. And actually, I love the toddler stage. I know a lot of people find it really challenging, and I can see why, but also, as you said, it is really magical. They're such interesting little creatures, and I just love that stage.So, your book is coming out October 21st, and we would encourage anyone listening to pre-order it. I was so excited to read your book because, when I was reading it, I was thinking, “You know what this is? It's like a perfect peaceful parenting primer, except everything is focused on this age group.”There are a lot of great peaceful parenting books out there, but they don't focus on this age group. And this age group is so specific. I don't know if that's what you were intending to write when you wrote it. If you weren't intending to, I think that's what you did.Devon: Yes. The reason I wrote this book is because we have so many parenting books out there—amazing books that talk about peaceful parenting, respectful parenting, and all of these things. But none of them are truly tailored to the toddler years.At the same time, I have parents DMing me every day asking me so many different questions, and I can see the desperation of these parents. They're searching on Instagram, they're Googling, they're trying to find the answers to these very real, challenging problems in their lives. And there wasn't just one place to go to get all of these answers.That's why I wrote Transforming Toddlerhood. It's an all-in-one, comprehensive, easy-to-read guide that truly covers just about every challenge you might have throughout toddlerhood. Whether it's healthy, developmentally appropriate discipline, being on a different page from your parenting partner, your child whining, struggling with parental preference, or introducing a new sibling—I really cover everything in this book.I wanted parents to have a place they could go to get quick answers that were trusted, so they didn't have to search everywhere for them.Sarah: Yeah, you absolutely did it. You succeeded at your goal. I get lots of questions about toddlers too—in my coaching and in my communities—and every single one of the questions that I get was in the book. That was great.So, I encourage people to go out and get it. I'm actually going to order a copy for my husband's cousin and his wife. They have a little girl who's about 15 or 16 months now, so it'll be perfect for them.Devon: Perfect.Sarah: So, toddlers—as you mentioned before—have a bad rap, right? You know, the “terrible twos,” the “horrible threes,” or whatever people call them. Why do you think that is? And maybe tell us a little bit about what's going on developmentally. I think those two answers are probably connected.Devon: I am so excited to answer this question, because this is a question I always ask everyone who comes on my annual summit. And I'm so excited to get to answer it myself.I really feel that toddlerhood is so challenging for parents because it's the first time your child is realizing that they're a separate entity from you. And at the same time, you're realizing your child is a separate entity from you as well.The whole point of toddlerhood is for your child to become their own separate individual. And the way they do that is through behaviors that delineate a line between your toddler and yourself. They're going to say “no.” They're going to push back. They're going to have their own agenda.We start seeing this even as early as nine months old, with a child who doesn't want to get their diaper changed. Or you have a 12-month-old—you ask them to come over, they laugh and run the other direction. Or you have a 14-month-old who thinks you're moving too slowly, or doesn't like what you're doing, and then they hit you on the head.It's really the first time we move out of a purely caregiving role into what I like to call a really active parenting role, where we have to decide how we're going to respond to these behaviors.I think the bigger challenge is that we're looking at these behaviors through a logical lens with fully mature brains. So, we label these behaviors as bad or wrong. But really, all the behaviors that drive us crazy are developmentally appropriate behaviors for toddlers.Because of that mismatch—between our expectations of what we think is typical and what our toddlers are actually doing—it creates a lot of frustration. It creates fear spiraling: “Are they always going to be this way? Is my child going to grow up to be a bully?” X, Y, Z. All of that makes parenting this age group really, really challenging.Sarah: Yeah, I was just talking to someone this morning who has a 2-year-old and a new baby—which, of course, as you know, exacerbates the challenges of toddlers when you're adding to your family.I have noticed anecdotally that people tend to think two or three are the hardest years, and it almost always comes back to when they had their next child. If they had them two years apart, they found two harder. If they had them three years apart, they found three harder.This mom was just telling me about some struggles, and I said, “Yeah, your daughter is at that stage where she has her own ideas about things she would like to do or have. And it's combined with a lack of logic, perspective, and brain development.” It's like a perfect storm: “I know what I want, but I don't have any experience in life or brain development to be able to express it in a different way.”Devon: Yes, exactly. And another challenge that's really happening in toddlerhood—which comes through in their behavior—is this idea of contradictory needs.As I was saying, your toddler is trying to become their own person. They want to be independent. They're developmentally driven to have a sense of control, feel capable, and exert their will. But at the same time, they're highly reliant on the adults in their life to meet their social and physical needs.So even though these developmental needs are so strong, they still need you—that safe and secure base—to help meet their emotional and physical needs. Toddlers are constantly trying to balance these opposing needs, and that really comes out in contradictory, challenging behavior that can drive us crazy.Sarah: Yeah, I love that. I remember that so well—that “I want to do it by myself. No, I want you to do it for me.” The contradictory needs. That's such a beautiful way to put it.Devon: Yeah.Sarah: What is something you hear all the time that you find yourself saying, “Oh, that's totally normal for toddlers”? What's something parents don't know is normal, but you find yourself reassuring them that it is?Devon: Yes. Basically, the behaviors we as adults really don't like, that we think are inappropriate. Yes, in our logical, fully mature adult brains, hitting, biting, throwing, kicking, screaming, crying—all of these things—feel wrong.But if you think about it, babies' only way of communicating is to cry. Then, as toddlers start to grow, they go through a lot of physical development. They start communicating through their behaviors.For example, if you have a toddler throwing food from their high chair at 15 or 18 months old, they might be experimenting with cause and effect: “If I drop this food, what happens? Does the dog pick it up? How do my parents respond?” They're experimenting and exploring, which is very appropriate.Or take hitting and biting. Toddlers, especially one- and two-year-olds, cannot say, “I don't like this. I'm feeling frustrated.” So instead, they hit you or bite you.I just want parents to know: behavior is not good or bad. We have to step away from that dichotomous lens. Behavior is communication. Once we understand that, we can ask: “What skill does my child need to learn to be successful here?” instead of “What punishment do I need to give to make them listen or to teach them a lesson?”Sarah: Yes—or not only, “What skill?” but also, “What support does my child need to meet my expectation?” Right? Because sometimes the skill's not going to come for a long time with a toddler. But the support is something you can give them.Devon: I love that. This comes up a lot—the idea of “My toddler's not listening to me.” We set the limit, and then we expect our toddlers to just fall in line, follow through, and listen.But the truth is, we need to ask: “What support does my toddler need to meet this limit I'm setting?” We often think saying the limit is the end of our job, but it's actually the beginning.Setting the limit is step one. Then we have to help our kids follow through on that limit—especially the younger they are or the more unmet needs they have in that moment. If they're tired, hungry, overstimulated—then they're going to need even more help to follow through.Sarah: Yes. And I'm going to jump ahead in my list of questions. I was going to ask you about power struggles later, but I want to ask now since you just mentioned limits.I find parents sometimes get too hung up on limits—not that limits aren't important, because they are—but they often get too attached to their own sense of what the limit should be.I love that when you were writing about power struggles, you suggested starting with the question: “What's the goal here?” I'd love for you to talk about power struggles and limits through that lens. Because, as I mentioned this morning to a parent of a 2-year-old, there's so much a 2-year-old has no control over in their life. We want to think about how we can be flexible about the rest.So maybe just talk about your lens of power struggles a little bit, starting with that “What's the goal here?” I love that.Devon: Oh my gosh, I have so much to say on this subject.When we ask ourselves, “What's the goal here?” the main thing to consider is: are we trying to win? Because if you're battling your toddler to win, then you've probably lost sight of the bigger picture—which is: How do you want to show up as a parent? What relationship are you trying to create? What support are you trying to give your child? What skills do they need to learn?When we get caught up in trying to win, we're in our stress response. The more committed we get to winning, the more tightly we get locked in the power struggle. And then everyone's just on their own emotional roller coaster.The reality is, it takes two people to be in a power struggle. And if you're waiting for your toddler to suddenly say, “Oh, just kidding, I'll do what you want,” you'll be waiting a long time. Toddlers are developmentally driven to exert their will and be their own person. They're likely to double down.And toddlers can be really persistent. So we have to zoom out and think about the bigger picture. Instead of being so attached to one way of doing something, we can pivot in an empowered way.That might mean moving forward and letting your toddler follow you. Maybe it's giving them a choice between two things within your boundaries. Maybe it's saying, “When you brush your teeth (or pick up this toy), then we can go outside (or read a book).”There are so many different tools we can use to pivot out of power struggles. Because quite frankly, we're the adults. We have to be the leaders and guides in these moments. Our toddlers aren't going to suddenly say, “Oh, just kidding, sorry.”Sarah: Yes. And the other thing I've been thinking about a lot lately is, if we're not modeling flexibility, how are our kids going to learn it? If we can't be flexible as parents, then how will our kids learn to be flexible?So often parents say, “My kid is so rigid, they're not flexible at all.” And then you listen to the parent a little, and it sounds like they're also being pretty rigid with their child.I think finding those graceful sidesteps—what you're talking about—is so important. It's not about someone winning and someone losing, but about how we can still get to the goal we're trying to reach.Devon: Exactly. And this is a very Montessori-aligned thought: we as parents have to create the container, the foundation. But within those boundaries, there are a million ways something can happen and get done.So, we can give our child freedom within the boundaries. Of course they still need our guidance, but the key is to avoid backing out in a way that says, “Fine, you win.” Instead, we ask: how can we give them a sense of control within our boundaries? That way their developmental need for autonomy is met, while we're still in charge overall.Sarah: Okay. Going back to expectations—one thing I read in your book really struck me. You cited research showing that half of parents believe kids are capable of self-control and milestones earlier than they actually are.I find that too—parents' expectations are often way too high for the age their child is, or for where they are developmentally.So, how do you know if your expectations are out of whack? And what happens—what are the negative things that can happen—when they are?Devon: I always say we typically underestimate our child's physical abilities and overestimate their social-emotional capabilities and impulse control.There's a lot of research and polls showing this is the case. And when we hold unrealistic expectations, we get really frustrated, because we think our toddler is being “bad,” doing something they shouldn't be doing developmentally.Then we turn it inward: “I must be doing a bad job. I'm messing up.”The best way to know if your expectations are appropriate is by looking at your child's behavior over time—over several days or a week. What's really happening in those moments? If you see a consistent pattern, you can start to say, “Okay, maybe I'm asking too much of my child.”That doesn't mean you just throw the expectation out the window and say, “Too bad, I'll try again next year.” It means they need more support.So you scaffold the skill. For example, something like getting dressed takes a lot of planning and coordination. It's a skill that needs to be built over time. We need to start transferring those skills to our children—with our support.So when your expectations are too big, you don't throw them out completely. You ask: how can I support my child to get where I need them to be?Sarah: Yeah. I always talk about when there's the gap between your expectations and the reality, a lot of conventional parenting is like, “Okay, well what threat or consequence do I need to close that gap?” But I always think about just like, what support do we need to close the gap between the expectations and reality?And of course, sometimes I think you do—there is a place for throwing expectations out the window. Because sometimes they're so far off that it's better to let go of the expectation than to try to get your kid to do it.Or, you know, I think resources can go up and down. One day your kid might be able to do something, and the next day their resources might be a lot lower and they can't manage. We have to be flexible.Devon: For the parent too. There are going to be days when we're more resourced, and days when we didn't sleep well. Maybe our toddler was up at 2:00 AM and we're tired. There are days when we just feel like there's too much to do and not enough time. Days when we have our own feelings, emotions, and needs that need attention, and there's not a lot of space for that.That's where we really just need to have compassion for ourselves and for our toddlers, and really give each other the benefit of the doubt—knowing that we're doing the best that we can. Then we can start working from that place: right now, we're doing the best we can in this moment. What's the next step to getting where we need to be?I didn't mention this in the book, but something I talk about a lot with my private clients is that oftentimes we want to jump from A to Z. And that's a really big leap, right? We want to leap across the Grand Canyon, when really what we want to do is step across on stepping stones. Move from A to B, B to C, C to D. That's how we eventually get to where we need to be.This is true across the board when we're thinking about expectations, skills, and things of that nature. So when we don't try to do it all at once, we're going to have more realistic expectations and we're going to be less frustrated.Sarah: Yeah.Devon: That makes so much sense.Sarah: I love also that you really, in the book, normalize toddler behavior. You mentioned before, throwing—and at one point, as I was reading your book, I wondered, “I wonder if she's going to talk about play schemas.” And then you had the section on play schemas.So much of what toddlers do, parents just don't know is normal. Like you were talking about throwing food off the highchair. I always remind parents of the trajectory schema—how does the food move through space, or what happens when I drop this, and learning about gravity.Speaking of normalizing, one of the things that I loved in your book was when you talked about avoiding positive dismissiveness. I loved how you addressed that—when parents say that kids are crying for no reason. Can you talk about that a little bit, what to avoid, and what to do instead?Devon: Yeah. I decided to dedicate a chapter to crying because crying is such an important communication tool for kids. Beyond that, research shows that crying is actually beneficial to our bodies. It helps release hormones that make us feel better.So crying serves a lot of purposes. When we look at crying as “fake crying” or “crying for no reason,” it really shortchanges a normal biological process, a normal way of communication for young children. It also dismisses a child's needs.Now, I will tell you, it is hard to hear your child cry. It is so hard. I had a baby that cried for hours on end—I'm talking five-plus hours a day. So I've heard my fair share of crying, probably enough for ten lifetimes.It's really hard for me, even now with my toddler, to hear him cry. But knowing that you're not a bad parent and there's nothing wrong if your child is crying—that this is actually an emotional release—is super helpful.We don't want our kids to shove it down. Instead of saying, “You're fine, you're fine”—which usually comes from a good place, because we just want our kids to feel better—we can say things like, “That must have been hard,” or, “That was unexpected,” or, “Oh, you fell down and scraped your knee. I'm sorry that happened.”This creates emotional connection and helps build emotional resilience.Sarah: I love that. Listeners to this podcast will have heard me talk a lot about emptying the emotional backpack. That's what you're talking about too—crying might not even be about the thing that just happened. It might just be how they're releasing pent-up stresses, tensions, and big feelings they've been carrying around.And the second part of what you're talking about is really empathy, right? It's so hard because we don't always get why something is so upsetting—like you cut the sandwich wrong, or the muffin is broken in half and they want it whole.But I always tell parents, it's appropriate for little kids to have big feelings about small things. That's their life perspective right now. They don't have big adult problems like we do; they just have toddler problems. And to them, those are just as big.Devon: Yeah. And I think it also really stems from this idea of a lack of control. A lot of crying isn't really about the thing that happened—it's just the release of all the pent-up stuff, and that was the last straw.But why that becomes the last straw—like cutting the sandwich wrong or peeling the banana when they didn't want you to—is because toddlers have so little control over their lives. Yet this is the stage where they're craving control so badly, as they're differentiating themselves and becoming their own person.So that little thing, like peeling the banana when they didn't want you to, just reinforces the lack of control they feel—and that's what sends them over the edge.Sarah: That makes so much sense. I just have so much compassion and empathy for toddlers. I think toddlerhood and middle school are the hardest times of childhood.Okay, let's shift into some tips, because I'm going to use you to ask some of the questions I get all the time. These have been the questions on repeat for the last 12 years I've been doing this.Here's what I hear:My kid won't get in the car seat—or they cry when they're in the car seat.They don't want their diapers changed, even if it's really wet or dirty.They don't want me to brush their teeth.They won't stop throwing things.So if you want to lump some of those together, go for it—or take them one at a time. I'd love to hear your advice on those situations.Devon: Absolutely. Most of these have to do with the toddler's developmental drive to experiment and explore—and that happens through movement. Couple that with bodily autonomy: kids know inherently that they are in charge of their bodies.You can't force a child to eat, use the bathroom, or fall asleep. They are 100% in control of their bodies. That idea—that control is an illusion—is really tough for toddler parents to reckon with. But toddlers are great at teaching us this.The faster we accept that control is an illusion, and that instead we are partners who have to work with our children, the better things will go. At the same time, we are the adults, and we are in charge. Sometimes we do have to cross a child's bodily autonomy to keep them safe and healthy.So let's go through the examples.Car seats: Toddlers don't like being restricted—in a high chair, stroller, or car seat. Every toddler will push against this at some point. It can last for a while and come in phases.Giving your child a sense of control helps: let them climb in, let them choose whether you buckle them or they do it, let them clip the chest strap. Play a silly song as a celebration when they're in. Keep special toys in the car that they only get to play with there.Also, start earlier than you think you need to, so you're not rushing. But in the end, sometimes we do have to keep them safe by buckling them in. If we go against their autonomy, we need to talk them through what's happening, support their emotions, and try again next time.Diaper changes: When toddlers start refusing diaper changes, it means they're ready for something new. They want to move from a passive bystander to an active participant in their toileting journey.The first step is to change them standing up in the bathroom. Teach them how to push down their pants, undo the diaper tabs, or lean forward so you can wipe them. Yes, it's harder to clean them up this way, but it gives them control.Tooth brushing: Toddlers want control here too. I recommend three toothbrushes—one for each of their hands and one for you.Sarah: I remember letting my kids brush my teeth with my toothbrush while I brushed theirs.Devon: Exactly! That's perfect. Another tip: start brushing your own teeth in front of them from a young age. Don't put pressure on them; let them get interested in what you're doing.If it's become a big power struggle, change up the environment. We often brush my son's teeth in his bedroom, with his head in my lap—it's actually easier that way. Change of scenery can make a big difference.Sarah: I'll share a tip that worked with my kids—we made up a story about “Mr. Dirt” who lived in their mouths, and every night we brushed him out. They loved hearing about his adventures while we brushed.Devon: I love that. That's playfulness—and playfulness creates connection, which creates cooperation. Play is the language of toddlerhood. The more we can tap into that, the better things go.Sarah: Yes! I'm surprised we got this far without specifically calling out playfulness—it's the number one tool in the toolbox for working with toddlers.Devon: Exactly. Playfulness, role play, brushing a doll's teeth first, or letting your child brush yours—it all helps toddlers feel powerful and understood.Sarah: Okay, the last challenge: throwing things. I talked to a young couple who wanted to make a “no throwing” rule in their house. I told them I didn't think that would work, since it's such a developmental need. How do you manage throwing when it could be unsafe or destructive?Devon: Great question. I talk about this in my book when I explain the recipe for effective discipline: connection, limits, and teaching skills.First, get curious about what's driving the behavior—throwing can mean so many things. Then, set clear limits: it's not okay to throw breakables or throw at people. Finally, teach skills and alternatives.Sometimes you can't expect a two-year-old to regulate in the heat of the moment, so give them safe alternatives: a basket of balled-up socks, or paper they can throw into a laundry basket. This meets the need within your boundaries, while you also work on calming skills in calmer moments.Sarah: That's so helpful. Now, can you talk about why you don't recommend timeouts, and why you prefer time-ins instead?Devon: Yes. Timeouts are usually used as punishment—to teach a lesson or stop a behavior. But that's shortsighted. Behavior is communication, and if we don't understand what it's telling us, it will keep popping up—like a game of whack-a-mole.Also, kids often escalate in timeout, because they're being cut off from their safe base—you. They need you to help them calm down.That's why I recommend time-ins instead. With time-ins, you're still upholding limits and keeping everyone safe, but you're staying with your child, supporting them, and helping them regulate. This builds long-term skills and emotional resilience.Sarah: Love that. Thank you so much for coming on and for writing this book. I really encourage anyone who is a toddler parent—or who knows one—to pre-order your book. It's a fantastic addition to the peaceful parenting world, and so specific to toddler needs and development.Before I let you go, here's the question I ask all my guests: If you could go back in time to your younger parent self, what advice would you give?Devon: Gosh. I waited a long time to have a child, and I had a vision of how I wanted things to go. But I had a child with a lot of extra needs, and the things I thought would happen didn't. So I would tell myself to loosen my expectations, be grateful for the moments I have, and be flexible in how needs get met.Sarah: I love that. Perfect advice for parents of toddlers especially. Thanks so much, Devon.Devon: Thank you! You can find me on Instagram at @transformingtoddlerhood, or on my website, transformingtoddlerhood.com/book for preorder info and bonuses.Sarah: We'll put the link in the show notes. Your book is comprehensive and very readable—even for me, far past the toddler years. Great job, Devon.Devon: Thank you. That was my whole goal.Thanks for reading Reimagine Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet Substack! This post is public so feel free to share it.>> Please support us!!! Please consider becoming a supporter to help support our free content, including The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, our free parenting support Facebook group, and our weekly parenting emails, “Weekend Reflections” and “Weekend Support” - plus our Flourish With Your Complex Child Summit (coming back in November for the 3rd year!) All of this free support for you takes a lot of time and energy from me and my team. 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This week on the DM Deep Dive Podcast, Roz, Mocha, Shem, and Maurie tackle juicy listener questions—from using fame to score perks, to jealousy in relationships, to awkward beard dilemmas and sending spicy texts to the wrong person. Plus, Roz and Shem get nominated as a dream couple, and we find out what weird stuff the guys have been Googling. It's messy, hilarious, and totally unfiltered.

In this episode of In-Ear Insights, the Trust Insights podcast, Katie and Chris discuss whether awards still matter in today’s marketing landscape, especially with the rise of generative AI. You will understand how human psychology and mental shortcuts make awards crucial for decision-making. You will discover why awards are more relevant in the age of generative AI, influencing search results and prompt engineering. You will learn how awards can differentiate your company and become a powerful marketing tool. You will explore new ways to leverage AI for award selection and even consider creating your own merit-based recognition. Watch this episode now to redefine your perspective on marketing accolades! Watch the video here: Can’t see anything? Watch it on YouTube here. Listen to the audio here: https://traffic.libsyn.com/inearinsights/tipodcast-do-awards-still-matter.mp3 Download the MP3 audio here. Need help with your company’s data and analytics? Let us know! Join our free Slack group for marketers interested in analytics! [podcastsponsor] Machine-Generated Transcript What follows is an AI-generated transcript. The transcript may contain errors and is not a substitute for listening to the episode. Christopher S. Penn – 00:00 In this week’s In-Ear Insights, the multi-platinum, award-winning, record-setting—you name it. People love to talk about awards, particularly companies. We love to say we are an award-winning this, we’re an award-winning that. Authors say, “I’m a best-selling, award-winning book.” But Katie, you had a very interesting and provocative question: In today’s marketing landscape, do awards still matter? Katie Robbert – 00:27 And I still have that question. Also, let me back up a little bit. When I made the transition from working in more of an academic field to the public sector, I had a huge revelation—my eyes were open to how awards worked. Call it naive, call it I was sheltered from this side of the industry, but I didn’t know at the time that in order to win an award, you had to submit yourself for the award. I naively thought that you just do good work and you get nominated by someone who recognizes that you’re doing good work. That’s how awards work. Because in my naive brain, you do good work and they reward you for it. Katie Robbert – 01:16 And so here’s your award for being amazing. Speaker 3 – 01:18 And that is not at all that. Katie Robbert – 01:20 That’s not how any of the Emmys or the Grammys—they all… Speaker 3 – 01:24 Have to submit themselves. Katie Robbert – 01:25 I didn’t know that they have to choose the scene that they think is award-winning. Yes, it’s voted on by a jury of your peers, which is also perhaps problematic depending on who’s on the jury. There’s the whole—the whole thing just feels like one big scam. Katie Robbert – 01:46 That said, per usual, I’m an n of 1, and I know that in certain industries, the more awards and accolades you rack up and can put on your website, the more likely it is that people are going to hire you or your firm or buy your products because they’re award-winning. So that’s the human side of it. Part of what I’m wondering when I said, “Do awards matter?” I was really wondering about with people using generative AI to do searches. We got this question from a client earlier this week of when we’re looking at organic search, how much… Speaker 3 – 02:29 Of that traffic is coming from the different LLMs? Katie Robbert – 02:33 And so it just made me think: if people are only worried about if they’re showing up in the large language models, do awards matter? So that was a lot of preamble. That was a lot of pre-ramble, Chris. So, do awards matter in the age of LLMs? Christopher S. Penn – 02:55 I think that you’ve highlighted the two angles. One is the human angle. Awards very much matter to humans because it’s a heuristic. It’s a mental shortcut. The CMO says, “Go build me a short list of vendors in this case.” And what does the intern who usually is the one saddled with the job do? They Google for “award-winning vendor in X, Y or Z.” If they use generative AI and ChatGPT, they will very likely still say, “Build me a short list of award-winning whatevers in this thing because my CMO told me to.” And instead of them manually Googling, a tool like ChatGPT or Gemini will do the Googling for you. Christopher S. Penn – 03:33 But if that heuristic of “I need something that’s award-winning” is still part of your lexicon, part of the decision makers’ lexicon, and maybe even they don’t delegate to the intern anymore, maybe they set the deep research query themselves—say, “Give me a short list of award-winning marketing agencies”—then it still matters a lot. In the context of generative AI itself, I would argue that it actually matters more today. And here’s why: In things like the RACE framework and the Rappel framework and the many different prompt frameworks that we all use, the OpenAI Harmony framework, you name it. What do they always say? “Choose a role.” Christopher S. Penn – 04:15 “Choose a role with specifics like ‘you are an award-winning copywriter,’ ‘you are an award-winning this,’ ‘you are an award-winning that,’ ‘you are a Nobel Prize-winning this,’ ‘you are a CMI Content Marketing Award winner of this or that’ as part of the role in the prompt.” If you are that company that is ordering and you have provided ample evidence of that—when you win an award, you send out press releases, you put it on social media stuff—Trust Insights won the award for this. We are an award-winning so-and-so. That makes it into the training data. Christopher S. Penn – 04:46 And if someone invokes that phrase “award-winning consulting firm,” if we’ve done our job of seeding the LLMs with our award-winning language, just by nature of probability, we have a higher likelihood of our entities being invoked with association to that term. Katie Robbert – 05:09 It reminds me—this must have been almost two decades ago—I worked with a stakeholder who was a big fan of finding interesting recipes online. Speaker 3 – 05:25 So again, remember: Two decades ago. Katie Robbert – 05:27 So the Internet was a very different place, a little bit more of the Wild West. Actually, no, that’s not true. Christopher S. Penn – 05:34 MySpace was a thing. Katie Robbert – 05:36 I never had a MySpace. And the query, he would always start with “world’s best.” So he wouldn’t just say, “Get me a chili recipe.” He would always say, “Get me the world’s best chili recipe.” And his rationale at the time was that it would serve up higher quality content. Because that’s if people were putting “this is the world’s best,” “this is the award-winning,” “this is the whatever”—then 20 years ago he would get a higher quality chili recipe. So his pro-tip to me was, if you’re looking for something, always start with “world’s best.” And it just strikes me that 20 years later, that hasn’t changed. Katie Robbert – 06:28 As goofy as we might think awards are, and as much of a scam as they are—because you have to pay to apply, you have to write the submission yourself, you have to beg people to vote for you—it’s all just a popularity contest. It sounds like in terms of the end user searching, it still matters. And that bums me out, quite honestly, because awards are a lot of work. Christopher S. Penn – 06:50 They are a lot of work. But to your point, “What’s the world’s best chili recipe?” I literally ask ChatGPT, “What is the title of it?” “Award-style chili recipe.” Right there it is. That’s literally. That’s a terrible prompt. We all know that’s a terrible prompt. But that’s not a dishonest prompt. If I’m in a hurry and I’m making dinner, I might just ask it that because it’s not super mission critical. I’m okay with a query like this. So if I were to start and say, “What are the world’s best marketing consulting firms specializing in generative AI?” That’s also not an unreasonable thing, of course. What does it do? It kicks off a web search. So immediately it starts doing web searches. Christopher S. Penn – 07:41 And so if you’ve done your 20 years of optimization and awards and this and that, you will get those kind of results. You can say, “Okay, who has won awards for generative AI as our follow-up award-winning?” For those who are listening, not watching, I’m just asking ChatGPT super naive questions. So, who are award winners in generative AI, et cetera? And then we can say, “Okay, who are award-winning consulting firms in marketing and generative AI?” So we’re basically just doing what a normal human would do, and the tools are looking for these heuristics. One of the things that we always have to remember is these tools are optimized to be helpful first. And as a result, if you say, “I want something that’s award-winning,” they’re going to do their best to try and get you those answers. Christopher S. Penn – 08:43 So do awards matter? Yes, because clearly the tools are able to understand. Yes, I need to go find consulting firms that have won awards. Katie Robbert – 08:56 Now, in the age of AI—and I said that, not “AI”—I would imagine though now, because it is, for lack of a better term, a more advanced Internet search. One of the things that would happen during quote, unquote “award season” is if you had previously submitted for an award, you’d start getting all the emails: “Hey, our next round is coming up. Don’t forget to submit,” blah, blah. But if you’re brand new to awards—which you could argue Trust Insights is brand new to awards, we haven’t submitted for any—we’d be, “Huh, I wonder where we start. I wonder what awards are available for us to submit to.” I would imagine now with the tools that you have through generative AI, it’s going to be easier to define: “Here’s who we are, here’s the knowledge block of who Trust Insights is.” Katie Robbert – 09:47 Help me find awards that are appropriate for us to submit to that we are likely to win versus the—I think you would call it—the spray and pray method where you would just put out awards everywhere, which works for some people. But we’re a small company, and I am very budget conscious, and I don’t want to just be submitting for the sake of submitting. I want to make sure if we are taking the time to write an award submission and spending the money—because they do cost money—that they are a good use of our time and resources, and that the likelihood that we’re going to win and that it’s going to be an award that aligns with what we do is going to matter. Christopher S. Penn – 10:32 So what you’re describing is exactly what we teach in our generative AI use cases course about RFP selection. Go/no-go evaluators to say, “Here’s an RFP, should I bid on it? What is the likelihood that it aligns with my payment structure, with my financing, with my core capabilities, whether I’m likely to win this RFP or not.” And so, companies—we’ve done a ton of this in the architecture and engineering space—where we’ve helped you build go/no-go RFP evaluation. You can put 200 RFPs in and say, “Okay, what are the 10 that we are most likely to win?” And that has been enormously valuable for people. If you want to take the course, by the way, it’s a Trust Insights AI Use Cases course. Christopher S. Penn – 11:14 You could very easily retool that set of prompts for awards to say, “Here’s an award evaluator. Here’s, as you said, the knowledge block. Here are 200 different awards I could apply for. Give me the five I’m most likely to win.” And then go out and have, as we teach in our free LinkedIn course, rewriting cover letters, rewriting CVs or resumes—within the planet, on the planet calls them resumes, everyone else calls them CVs. Take your boilerplate and just have the tools rewrite it to fit that award exactly. Being truthful, being honest, being factually correct. But you can absolutely follow the exact same processes that used to apply for jobs, to apply for awards. Christopher S. Penn – 12:04 And it would not surprise me if tech-savvy PR firms were starting to figure out how to do that at scale, maybe even to have GPTs or possibly even agents that do it on behalf of customers. Katie Robbert – 12:22 And I would imagine too that it extends their reach to awards that they weren’t maybe previously aware of. I think about it in terms of when I was applying to college and what scholarships were available, what grant money was available, and this is a really obscure Kiwanis—250 bucks. I’ve never done anything with them, but I need the money. So let me go ahead and volunteer on a Saturday morning. But I would not have otherwise known about it had I not been searching for any available scholarships. And I think the same is true of these awards. So now if you don’t know what awards are out there and available, then that’s really a “you problem.” Christopher S. Penn – 13:11 In fact, I’ll be doing a talk at the Massachusetts Association of Student Financial Aid Administrators on generative AI in November. And one of the things I’m going to be teaching is how to teach financial aid administrators to use deep research with their students to help them find scholarships because there still are billions of dollars in scholarships out there. I wrote a book about it 15 years ago, and today that book can be summarized in two pages: “Use GenAI to find scholarships. Use GenAI to apply for them.” Done. You can scrap the other 78 pages. You don’t need them. Christopher S. Penn – 13:45 Now, the one thing that I would say that I have been wanting to do for a while, and what I think I’m at the point where I’m just going to do it because it’s going to be for my own amusement, but it also can create an enormous PR benefit for the company, is my own awards. Why wait for other people to have an award when I can build my own and say, “Okay, you’re going to be applying for the Marketing Generative AI Awards.” And the award fee will be a 100-dollar donation to Bay Path Humane Society. That’s the entry fee. Christopher S. Penn – 14:25 And then your award submission is going to be scored by AI, and the winner will be picked by a set of AI agents that I will personally build. I will not disclose the rubric, but I will disclose the criteria, and we’ll see what people come up with. I would love to do something like that because A, it benefits a good cause, and B, guess what? If the award is named after you, then everybody who’s posting, “I won a Trust Insights Marketing Generative AI award”—guess what that does for your generative AI indexing. Speaker 3 – 14:58 Interesting. Katie Robbert – 15:01 So, it sounds like there’s two angles. One: start your own. I guess this is true of anything: “Oh, I couldn’t get into that community. I couldn’t get into that club.” Speaker 3 – 15:10 Okay, start your own. Katie Robbert – 15:12 “I couldn’t win an award.” “Okay, start your own.” Give yourself an award. “You are the first recipient of the Trust Insights ‘great guy’ award.” Christopher S. Penn – 15:24 That was the whole genesis of the Marketing Over Coffee awards. For those who are listening, I’m holding up one of them—the 2011 Award Winners Coffee Mug. They’re just coffee mugs. These are $2 each, so it’s not a super expensive thing. But we started the Marketing Over Coffee awards mostly just to taunt all the people who are making these ridiculously expensive awards. “$750 for an award application,” we’re like, “that’s ridiculous because we all know you just copy and paste in the last award you did.” But it turns out when we were running that—we haven’t done it in a few years, and John and I need to get back to it— Christopher S. Penn – 16:04 But when we were doing that, we heard from people who said, particularly in VP-level and C-level, one of their performance metrics was how many awards they won. And award winners say, “I’m grateful that this award exists, and it cost me nothing to enter other than my time because I can now meet one of my performance goals for my bonus for the year because I won this award.” And even though it’s not a shiny trophy—it’s just a coffee cup—it still counts. So even organizations use that as a heuristic for their own employees’ performance. Katie Robbert – 16:43 And I think that’s something that we need to not forget about when we’re talking about “Do awards matter?” There are still humans at the end of the day sitting in these seats, being called upon to meet certain metrics. Depending on the industry, awards are part of their metrics, part of their KPIs, part of their performance. Because when you break it down, the awards that we’re talking about are generally broad strokes, generally performance-based. So what did you do that was cool, new, interesting, got some kind of outcome? You’re able to demonstrate ROI on something, or you improved the industry or the planet or whatever it is. They are performance-based. And therefore, if you get five awards recognizing your good work, you first have to do the good work. Katie Robbert – 17:45 And so I can understand why that’s a motivator. So if I win an award, it means I did something good. First, let me figure out what the good thing is that’s award-worthy. Christopher S. Penn – 17:57 Yes, exactly. And with that thought process comes a lot of clarity. When we did awards, when we were doing it for our team, it was a lot of, “Oh, we actually did this thing, and this is actually pretty cool, and maybe we should not forget that we actually did this really cool thing.” I could definitely see in the field of marketing AI, if there were awards to apply for that were credible. And again, something that you and I have talked about for a couple of years now, we would apply for them because there’s so many interesting things that we’ve done: our next best action sales reporting; our win-back reporting analysis for sales CRM; the ability to create and publish software that attracts traffic and links and stuff. Christopher S. Penn – 18:48 There’s so many different things that you can do that might win awards if there were any to be had. Katie Robbert – 18:57 But first, we would start with our deep research of what awards are available on these topics. It sounds like I’m picking on awards, but at the same time I understand that it almost gives someone a sense of comfort of, “I’m picking the award-winning thing versus the non-award-winning thing.” Speaker 3 – 19:32 That, and that only benefits us. Katie Robbert – 19:18 So, are there awards for courses? Could I submit any of our courses for awards? Be, “Here’s our award-winning AI strategy course.” People would likely pay attention to. Christopher S. Penn – 19:35 It’s the same as I maintain my IBM Champion certification. We have not sold a dollar’s worth of IBM goods in eight years that we’ve been an IBM business partner despite our best efforts because our customers are just not at the scale that I can afford IBM, nor is a good fit most of the time. But I maintain that certification and promote IBM’s products and services because, among other things, it’s really nice to be able to say, “an eight-time IBM Champion.” That’s a mental heuristic. People have: “I’ve heard of IBM. An IBM Champion sounds important. And so you must know what you’re doing.” It’s all these mental shortcuts we use in an increasingly busy world. And I think that’s another part that we haven’t talked about yet. In a world where—God, I sound like an AI. Christopher S. Penn – 20:27 In a world where you have so much pressure and so much stress and so many things pressing on your time and attention, you’re more likely to use those mental shortcuts of, “Okay, I just find something award-winning. I don’t have time for this.” Katie Robbert – 20:40 So I guess, all to say, awards still matter. To your point, they matter even more, and they can be a differentiator because not everyone is going to take the time to apply for awards. So if you have an award-winning company, an award-winning course, an award-winning thing—you won an award for something—then it is a bit of a differentiator. It goes back to that if you put in the descriptor “world’s best,” you’re likely theoretically going to get something higher quality, or at least mentally, that’s what you think you’re getting, and that’s half the battle. Christopher S. Penn – 21:21 Yes. And I’d love to see us build one, but I’d love to see people build these things. Particularly for areas where recognition is sparse. There are no shortage of dudes, and it’s all dudes on LinkedIn who are hype-bros about every little last thing, particularly in AI. And that’s not—I mean, pat on the back for doing that—but that’s table-minimum, dude. You are not revolutionizing the world. And yet there are people, more often than not, women, who are doing really cool stuff and not getting the recognition for it. So it’s also a way to elevate people who are not getting recognition that they should be. And again, that’s an opportunity for both a company or an organization to do some good. Christopher S. Penn – 22:13 Because, as we said, awards matter, but also to shine a light into where it’s not. Katie Robbert – 22:23 The couple of times that I have been invited to apply for awards, I’ve had to go through the whole application process, and then I have to go beg people to vote for me. And for that, there’s—we can get into the psychology, but let’s skip it today. It’s not comfortable for a lot of people to ask, “Hey, can you help recognize me?” Christopher S. Penn – 22:54 I get why awards do that. Same reason South by Southwest does that. They say, “Popularity is a filter.” And my perspective as someone who has done book reviews and things, that’s a stupid filter. Because there are a lot of things that are popular that are stupid. Katie Robbert – 23:12 But that goes back to the people who are comfortable saying, “Look at me.” It doesn’t matter if they necessarily have something to say. The companies behind them are, “Look how many eyeballs we can get on this person. Look how much clout this person has.” “It’s. I brought that back. You’re welcome.” But it’s why influencers exist. Awards are just another version of influence. Christopher S. Penn – 23:45 Exactly. Whereas I would like to see more focus on the work itself. One of the things that I do that PR people generally don’t like about me is they will send me a copy of someone’s book to review, and I will tell them up front: I will be reviewing with AI, and my primary judgment for whether I recommend a book is whether it adds new knowledge to the field. Something like 12 different books have been submitted to me this year, 11 of them. When I handed back the draft to the PR person, “Why did you say this?” I said, “I didn’t. AI said this.” AI said, “Your client’s book offers nothing new. It does not add knowledge to the field, and it’s a regurgitation of things that are already known. So my recommendation is, ‘Do not buy this book.'” Christopher S. Penn – 24:38 And so those book reviews never got published. Weird. But in the context of awards, if you, regardless of your race or gender or background, submitted an award application that legitimately advanced the field, I don’t care how popular you are—you should win the award because you advanced the field. Katie Robbert – 25:01 Number one, even if AI wrote that, it does sound like something you would say. Christopher S. Penn – 25:05 Absolutely. Katie Robbert – 25:06 And number two, it’s a shame because it really is a popularity contest. It doesn’t matter how far… Speaker 3 – 25:12 You’ve advanced the field. Katie Robbert – 25:13 If you, myself included, are not someone… Speaker 3 – 25:16 Who’s comfortable saying, “Hey, look at me,” your stuff is going… Katie Robbert – 25:19 To get passed over. And it’s just a shame. So I think, all to say, awards matter. Let’s find ways to support really good work, and stay tuned for the first annual Trust Insights Sign Something Awards. We don’t know yet. It’s TBD. Christopher S. Penn – 25:38 Yes, exactly. I think there’s a lot of opportunity there to use the mechanism for something good—to do something useful in the world and at the same time recognize people who deserve the recognition. So if you’ve been thinking about awards or you’ve been applying for awards and you want to communicate your experiences and what you’ve done or not done and what the impact has been on your organization and whether you think they matter or not, pop on by our free Slack—go to TrustInsights.ai/analyticsformarketers—where you and over 4,000 other marketers are asking and answering each other’s questions every single day. Christopher S. Penn – 26:21 Go to TrustInsights.ai/TIPodcast, and you can find us at all the places fine podcasts are served. Thanks for tuning in, and we’ll talk to you on the next one. Speaker 3 – 26:35 Want to know more about Trust Insights? Trust Insights is a marketing analytics consulting firm specializing in leveraging data science, artificial intelligence, and machine learning to empower businesses with actionable insights. Founded in 2017 by Katie Robbert and Christopher S. Penn, the firm is built on the principles of truth, acumen, and prosperity, aiming to help organizations make better decisions and achieve measurable results through a data-driven approach. Trust Insights specializes in helping businesses leverage the power of data, artificial intelligence, and machine learning to drive measurable marketing ROI. Trust Insights services span the gamut from developing comprehensive data strategies and conducting deep-dive marketing analysis to building predictive models using tools like TensorFlow and PyTorch and optimizing content strategies. Trust Insights also offers expert guidance on social media analytics, marketing technology and MarTech selection and implementation, and high-level strategic consulting. 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I've been to a lot of medical conferences, but veterinary medicine conferences are different. Picture me, a human ophthalmologist, standing in front of a thousand vets, showing them photos of my dog Milo's eyes (because why not?). Turns out, they loved it and then immediately called me out for doing the exact thing they can't stand about human doctors. Oops. Kristin and I also get into the strange overlap between vet medicine and human medicine (yes, the cardiologists still argue), why ER veterinarians might actually have the hardest job in medicine, and how I managed to accidentally do the very thing vets complain about most. And if that's not enough, we dive headfirst into a Twitter firestorm about whether doctors should ever “Google it” in front of patients, plus a surprise crash course in chemotherapy drugs straight from my med school review book. Takeaways: Vet vs. Human Medicine – The personalities are eerily similar… but vets may have the tougher gig. The Milo Moment – How my dog's eyesight became the star of my keynote. Human Doctor Problem – Why vets roll their eyes when we try to flex our “expertise” in their clinics. Googling in the Exam Room – The controversial tweet that sparked a million opinions. Chemotherapy 101 – A chaotic but oddly fascinating attempt to explain cancer drugs on the fly. — To Get Tickets to Wife & Death: You can visit Glaucomflecken.com/live  We want to hear YOUR stories (and medical puns)! Shoot us an email and say hi! knockknockhi@human-content.com Can't get enough of us? Shucks. You can support the show on Patreon for early episode access, exclusive bonus shows, livestream hangouts, and much more! –⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://www.patreon.com/glaucomflecken⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Also, be sure to check out the newsletter: https://glaucomflecken.com/glauc-to-me/ If you are interested in buying a book from one of our guests, check them all out here: https://www.amazon.com/shop/dr.glaucomflecken If you want more information on models I use: Anatomy Warehouse provides for the best, crafting custom anatomical products, medical simulation kits and presentation models that create a lasting educational impact.  For more information go to Anatomy Warehouse DOT com. Link: https://anatomywarehouse.com/?aff=14 Plus for 15% off use code: Glaucomflecken15 -- A friendly reminder from the G's and Tarsus: If you want to learn more about Demodex Blepharitis, making an appointment with your eye doctor for an eyelid exam can help you know for sure. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.EyelidCheck.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for more information.  Today's episode is brought to you by DAX Copilot from Microsoft. DAX Copilot is your AI assistant for automating clinical documentation and workflows helping you be more efficient and reduce the administrative burdens that cause us to feel overwhelmed and burnt out. To learn more about how DAX Copilot can help improve healthcare experiences for both you and your patients visit ⁠aka.ms/knockknockhi⁠. Produced by⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Human Content Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a follow-up to Episode 97 on blooming where you're planted — but this time, we're asking: What if the soil isn't right? This one's for anyone sitting in the middle space — between blooming and uprooting, between “I can make this work” and “I think I need to go.” If you've ever wrestled with your environment — whether it's a job, a place, or a relationship — this episode offers reflection, stories, and gentle coaching to help you discern your next step.

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You're listening to Burnt Toast! Today, my guest is Denise Hamburger, founder and director of Be Real USA. Be Real is a nonprofit that imagines a world where every child can grow up with a healthy relationship to food and their body. They work with body image researchers, psychologists, teachers and public health officials to design curricula about nutrition and body image that are weight neutral, and inclusive of all genders, abilities, races and body sizes.So many of you reach out to me every September to say, “Oh my God, you're not going to believe what my kid is learning in health class.” Food logs, fitness trackers, other diet tools are far too common in our classrooms— especially in middle and high school health class. Denise is here to help us understand why those assignments are so harmful and talk about what parents and educators can do differently. This episode is free — so please, share it with the parents, teachers and school administrators in your communities! But if you value this conversation, consider supporting our work with a paid subscription. Burnt Toast is 100% reader- and listener-supported. We literally can't do this without you.PS. You can always listen to this pod right here in your email, where you'll also receive full transcripts (edited and condensed for clarity). But please also follow us in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and/or Pocket Casts! And if you enjoy today's conversation, please tap the heart on this post — likes are one of the biggest drivers of traffic from Substack's Notes, so that's a super easy, free way to support the show!Two Resources You'll Want From This Episode: Here's how to access the BeReal Let's Eat Curriculum: And here's a roundup of everything I've written on diet culture in schools: Episode 211 TranscriptDeniseWell, this all started I would say about 10 years ago. Actually, about 12 years ago. I was an environmental lawyer in my first career—that's what I'm trained to do. I went to law school, was practicing in big law firms. Which has nothing to do with body image, except I was an environmental lawyer who weighed herself every day and got her mood affected by the number on the scale for 40 years. So that's four decades.VirginiaSo many times getting on a scale.DeniseI really felt like I didn't want anyone else, especially young women today, to waste the amount of time and energy that I had wasted distracting them from what they need to be doing in their lives, figuring out their own person possibilities. That's really what you're here to do. And it takes us away from what we're supposed to be doing.With that in mind, I went back to school at the University of Chicago, and I was thinking of get a social work degree and doing something with body image. But then I wrote a paper on my own body image for one of my classes at the School of Social Work and I found 50 years of research on body image. And then 30 years of discussion and research on how to prevent eating disorders and body dissatisfaction. Like, wow, there is so much out there, so much research on this. But I haven't heard any of this. It feels like it's not making its way into resources that people can use.So I started speaking on it, and I was speaking to middle-aged women, and I thought the message that we all would really benefit from would be everybody's got this. Because I feel like, especially my generation, where we didn't really talk about how we felt about our bodies. I'm at the tail end of the Baby Boom. So I'm 62 and I felt that people in my generation—again, I was 50 at the time—weren't in touch with their own feelings on body image. After talking about this for so many years, younger generations have access to it I think a lot more. But I felt like we could all benefit from knowing that everybody's got it—so kind of a common humanity. It's not our fault, which helps with the shame around it.So everyone has it, it's not our fault, and society has given it to us. And I think that this is something that would resonate with my generation. So I started speaking in local libraries and community houses to women my age, and quickly learned that it is really hard to undo decades worth of thought patterns and feelings around food, body and eating. People came to hear me talk about body image, and I think, in general, when I started out, they were hoping I had a new diet.VirginiaOh, I'm sure they were. I'm sure they were like, “Oh, we're going to go hear her talk about how to love your body by making it smaller!”DeniseAbsolutely. And all of the women, because they were women in my workshops, were starting to talk about their daughters. They're saying that my daughter's got this, and she's coming home and saying this. Then in one of my audiences, I had a health teacher at my local high school. There was a health teacher who came and said—this is about 2015—you should hear what the young girls are saying. They've got this new thing called Instagram and and they're seeing pictures of, “perfect” looking people and feeling bad about themselves or feeling flawed in comparison.So she said, “What resources are there for for the students in my class?” And I said, there has got to be something because there is 50 years' of research there, there has got to be something fabulous for you. And I called the professors listed on the the studies. The granddaddy of the industry, Michael Levine, I called him up. I said, “Michael, just tell me, what can I recommend to these teachers?” And he's like, “I don't know. I don't know. We don't have it. It's not there. Even though the research is there.”So there was a curriculum created for high risk kids. It needed to be given by facilitators called The Body Project. And I called one of the professors who wrote The Body Project and said, “Listen, I'd like to give this tool to a teacher for universal,” which means giving it to everybody in the classroom, and and she wants to bring it to her high school, but it looks like you need to be trained. And it was a script. The Body Project was a script. And this teacher said to me, I'm not reading a script in a classroom. You're not going to get a high school teacher to read a script.VirginiaYeah. I would imagine high school students sitting in a classroom aren't going to respond to someone just reading a script at them.DeniseNobody wants to hear it. It's not useful. It wasn't created for that use. So this professor, Carolyn Becker, had actually written a paper on how the academics need to work with stakeholders to make sure that their research makes it to the public. And I said, I'm calling you. I'm a stakeholder. What do you need? And she said, “We need somebody to translate it.” And I said, “I'm your girl.”VirginiaI mean, it's wild that the research has been there. We've known what works, or what strategies to use for so long, and yet it's not in the pedagogy, it's not in the classrooms.So you started with the body image curriculum, BodyKind. And now this year, you've just released your weight neutral nutrition curriculum for middle and high school students, called Let's Eat.Full disclosure: I got to be a early reader of the of the curriculum and offer a few notes. It was already amazing when I read it.DeniseThank you.VirginiaI did not have to add a lot at any by any means, but it was really cool to see the development process, and see where you ended up with it. It's really remarkable. So let's start by talking about why nutrition. You've done the body image thing, that's really powerful. Why was nutrition the next logical place to go?DeniseI have spoken at this point to probably 10,000 teachers. And they're always asking me, what nutrition curriculum do you recommend? Same deal. There's not one out thereAnd I had asked one of my interns to give me her textbook on it, like what are you learning about nutrition? And in my intern's textbook, it was 2018, you saw encapsulated the entire problem of what's wrong with nutrition curriculum.They are asking the children to weigh and measure themselves, and they're asking the children to count calories in different ways, and to track their food. Food logs. Again, these were best practices in the 90s and and 2000s on how to teach nutrition. So this is all over the nutrition curriculum.Then, of course, they're talking about good and bad foods, which foods can you eat, which foods you can't you eat, and all of these things in the research we know cause disordered eating and eating disorders, they all contribute to it. I have a list of probably nine research papers that point to each of these things and tell you why these are bad ideas to have a nutrition class.And we also know there have been two papers written, where they polled students or young people coming in for eating disorder treatment and asked them, what do you think triggered your eating disorder? And around 14% in both studies said, “My healthy eating curriculum at school was where I started getting this obsession.” So you know, what's out there hasn't been helpful, and even worse, has been part of the problem in our society.[Post-recording note: Here's Mallary Tenore Tarpley writing about this research in the Washington Post, and quoting Oona Hanson!]VirginiaIt's so rooted in our moral panic around “the childhood obesity epidemic.” Educators, public health officials, everyone feels like, that's the thing we have to be worried about if we're going to talk about kids and food. It all has to be framed through that lens. And what you are arguing is: That weight-centered approach causes harm. We can see from the data that it's not “fixing” the obesity epidemic. Kids aren't thinner than they were 40 years ago. So it didn't work. And it's having all these unintended ripple effects, or sometimes, I would say, intended ripple effects.DeniseYes, exactly. Studies on nutrition curriculum have shown that over 11 years, teaching diet and exercise did not do anything, in two age groups. One was elementary/middle school, another one was a high school group. And they found no changes in body size or nutritional knowledge and and only the effects of what they call weight stigma. Which is just anti-fat bias. So it only causes harm. And these meta studies were from “obesity researchers,” right? So they are even acknowledging we don't know how to prevent obesity.VirginiaSo you could see very clearly why the current landscape is harmful. How did you think about how to design a better curriculum?DeniseWe had been working on the back burner on an intuitive eating for students type of curriculum. Because the question I get from my teachers is, “What should I be teaching?” So we had been kind of working on an intuitive eating curriculum, and then one of my ambassadors, Selena Salfen, she works in Ramsey County Public Health in Minnesota, said, “Hey, we're looking for a nutrition curriculum. Why don't we do one together?”It really turned into how to eat, not what to eat. So we started working on body cues and building trust with your food. And then started really focusing on empowering the student as an authority on their own eating behavior, teaching them how to learn from their own eating experiences. Which is part of responsive feeding. And Ellyn Satter's Division of Responsibility In Feeding. So we have pieces from all of these. We are empowering students to be experts on their own eating.VirginiaIt's also so much more respectful of students' cultural backgrounds, as opposed to the way we learned, like the food pyramid or MyPlate, saying “this is what your plate should look like.” And that doesn't look like many plates around the world. That's not what dinner is in lots of families. Your curriculum is saying, let's empower students to be the experts is letting them own their own experience.DeniseAbsolutely, and trust their own experience. And trust themselves. And they don't have to go outside of themselves. We want to teach them to act in their own best interests. That's part of self-care, teaching them to take care of themselves. They need to learn it somewhere.So if you do what they've done for years and tell them you need to cut out sugar and you need to cut out carbs, or you need to get this this many grams of protein, it leaves off all of the wonderful parts of eating that we get to experience many times a day, which is the joy, the pleasure, the sharing of food. So in our curriculum, we ask the kids, what do you do in your culture around food? How do you celebrate in your culture with food? What do you eat?We get the discussion going with them and allowing them to feel pride in how their family celebrates. And so it's really bringing in all these other aspects that we experience with food every day into talking about food. And we talk about pleasure, what do you like, what food do you like, what food do you enjoy? And we want them to be able to hold what foods they like, what their needs are that day.So you talked about MyPlate, MyPlate is stagnant. It always looks the same. But your nutritional needs change every day. If I'm sick, my needs around nourishment are different from if I've got a soccer match after school that day. So we're trying to teach them to be flexible and really throw perfectionism out the window, because it's unhelpful in any area of life, but especially around eating, especially around food.VirginiaI'm wondering what you're hearing from school districts who are worrying about the federal guidelines. Because they do need to be in compliance with certain things. DeniseSo we spent a long time with the Food and Nutrition guidelines. The CDC food and nutrition guidelines, and we spent a long time with the HECAT standards, which are the health curriculum standards. We know that teachers are trying to match up what they're teaching to the federal standards and the state standards. Because every state has their own discussion of this, and they write their own rules. Usually they look like the federal standards, but we find with food and nutrition, sometimes they go off. You'll get somebody on the committee who hates soda, and will write 10 rules around soda. So every state has their own idiosyncratic rules around it as well.VirginiaI mean, on the flip side, that means there have been opportunities for advocacy. For example in Maryland, Sarah Ganginis was able to make real progress on her state standards. But yes, the downside is you're gonna have the anti-soda committee showing up.DeniseTotally. And half of the country. We really tried to hit the big standards. I'm actually thumbing through the curriculum right now. We have two pages of the HECAT model food nutrition lessons and which ones this curriculum hits. And then if you're interested in talking about some of the others — like some of them really want to talk about specifically sugary drinks— we give links in the curriculum to discussions that we agree with. So we may mention sugary drinks in a little piece of the curriculum, but if you want to get the article or the discussion on it that frames it the way we'd like to see it framed, we've got links in the curriculum for that.VirginiaSo tell me about the response so far. What are you hearing from teachers and districts?DeniseThe biggest response I'm getting is, “It's a breath of fresh air.” It's safe, as you say. And for the teachers out there that are familiar with all of the things that we've been teaching that haven't been working, this is important. And I just want to say to all the health teachers who have been teaching nutrition out there because this is the way we've taught it for years: This is how it's been done. But when you know better, you do better. And that's the point we're at now. I know people have been weighing and measuring kids and telling them to count calories for decades because that was best practices at the time. But we're beyond that. The research has figured out that that's not the best practices going forward.VirginiaThat's right.DeniseWe had about 50 teachers and 250 students trial it. We get the experts to say everything we want to say in the curriculum, and we put it in there, and then let's say that takes nine months. We have another nine months where we have expert teachers like Sarah weighing in on the curriculum. Telling us what happens when she teaches it in class with her and the students. What would you like to see different? Even down to activities. How would this activity work better? So we spent another nine months making sure that the teachers and the students like it, can relate to it, and that the activities are what are working in class.So that's an extra step after some of the other research curriculum that we really want to make sure it's user friendly and the students like it. We got a lot of feedback. We did two rounds of that.Now we released it to the public after we had a masters student write a thesis on all of the the data we collected, and felt very comfortable that it does no harm.VirginiaIt's been tested.DeniseYeah, it's been tested. It's feasible and acceptable. Now we're going to go and do the official feasibility and acceptability tests, like we've done on BodyKind with Let's Eat and then take it to schools. We use the University of North Carolina's IRB. We use the Mind Body Lab there, run by Dr. Jennifer Webb, and we are going to be doing research on Let's Eat. We've got the Portland Public Schools, and then we've got a school district in Maryland, in Arundel County, that we've identified and that we're working with to test students. And then, we'll hopefully do an official test, write an official paper, as we've done with BodyKind.VirginiaAnd I should also mention, you're making this resource free! Schools don't have to pay for this, which I think everyone who's ever tried to make any change in the school district of any kind knows, if it costs money, it's harder to get done. So that's great. DeniseYou know, it's so funny. I've been speaking on this for years. I mean, we've been in curriculum development for five years, and I always forget to say that! I don't know why. It's a free curriculum! I'm a nonprofit. I've never been paid. This is such a passion project for me, and I continue to wake up every day energized by the work I'm doing.And the mission of our nonprofit is to get the best, well tested resources out to schools. And we want to remove barriers. And how we remove barriers is offering it for free.VirginiaA lot of our listeners are parents. They're going to be listening to this thinking, “Okay, I want this in my kid's school.” How do we do that? What do you recommend parents do? DeniseSo a couple things. We find the best advocate is the person at the school, the wellness professional, charged with curriculum decisions. So there are people in your district whose job it is to make sure that the teachers have the latest and greatest curriculum on nutrition.And they want these resources because they want to make sure that their students get the best resources out there. So it takes a little bit of sleuthing to call up the school, whether it's the administrator or a health teacher, and figure out who's that person, who's the wellness coordinator. It could be a wellness coordinator. It could be a health teacher, who's responsible for curriculum. Find that person and talk to them. They're looking for this conversation. It's part of their job. You could even say I heard about this new curriculum. It's available for free. And you can hand them the postcard. That's what I hand out when I speak at conferences. And it's got a QR code. It describes what this curriculum does. We teach tuned in eating. It describes what tuned in eating does. VirginiaDownload that PDF above to QR code it right from this episode! DeniseYes. So you can send them as a PDF. You can write an email, figure out who the person is, send them the curriculum. Say “I was listening to a podcast, and there's this great curriculum out there. I'd love you to check it out.”VirginiaI think that feels really doable, it's a great starting point. What about when a kid comes home and tells a parent “Oh, we did calorie counting today?” Because that's often how parents start to think about this issue. It kind of lands on their lap. Is it useful to engage directly with the teacher? How do you think about that piece of it? Because obviously, especially the school year is underway, asking a teacher like, hey, can you just change your whole curriculum right on a dime, they probably won't appreciate that. So, what's a, better way to think about this advocacy?DeniseI thought you did a great job in your book Fat Talk on giving them scripts, giving parents scripts to walk into the school. You want to be sensitive to how overloaded the health teacher is, the nutrition teacher is. They're teaching 10 subjects in health that they need to be experts on so, you know, this is just one piece of what they're teaching.The great thing about nutrition is, most health teachers are teaching nutrition so they've got some background in it, and you can just be as sensitive as possible to their time and do as you say in the book, you know, in a in a positive, collaborative way. “I heard about this research, I thought you might be interested,” rather than a critical way. And and again, your kid might not be taking health, they might just be in the school district. So maybe you have this discussion with an administrator, and ask them, who wants to talk to me about this? And ask them, who can I speak to? It could be a guidance counselor. Could be school social worker. You know, this is eating disorder and body dissatisfaction prevention, right? So who, who is interested in this topic?VirginiaWho in the district is working on that and wants to know about this? That's super helpful.And I'll also add: One thing I learned in reporting the book and thinking more about the school issue is we do, as parents, always have the right to opt our kids out of the assignments that we know to be harmful. So if you see a calorie counting assignment coming, you can ask for an alternative assignment. You can accept that your kid might get a lower grade because they don't do it, but that might feel fair.Especially with older kids, I think it's important to involve them. Like, don't just swoop in. Never a good idea. They may want to talk to the teacher or you have do it. Work that out with your kid and figure out the best way forward. But I think it's definitely worth doing that. If your kid's like, no, don't talk to the teacher. No, I'm not opting out. You can still have the conversation at home about why this assignment is not aligned with your values, and that's yes important to do, too.DeniseI also wanted to say, we have an ambassador program at Be Real, and we have 135 ambassadors. What we've done with all of the materials we've been using for 10 years, which are presentations and worksheets for the presentations. We have frequently asked questions, where I quote you all the time. What do I do with my mother in law, who's saying this thing? We give them scripts. What do I do when people equate body size with health? What do we do when people assume that everyone could be small if they tried hard enough? We have answers for all of these questions in our materials, frequently asked questions.I have templated the presentations I give. I use the notes, I give the talk track, so my ambassadors can give a talk with a teleprompter if they're doing it on Zoom. Use the presentation as a teleprompter, and all the accompanying material we have on Canva that the ambassadors can create their own and add to it, and use their own name and picture to give talks and and things like that. We've got all of this so people are able to take this resource to their own local area,VirginiaSo they might give this talk to a PTA or a church group or any kind of community organization they're affiliated with.DeniseAbsolutely. And we've been doing this for about seven years, and the last five years, it's grown tremendously, and we have meetings every quarter. And at the meetings, people say, how do I get into my local school? And someone else will say, you know, I tried the principal and they didn't answer my phone calls. And then I went and looked up so and so and and then I started out doing this for professional development for health teachers in the state of Illinois. So we also have ways to to be certified as a professional development trainer on this topic. So that's how I initially got to health teachers. And then they also speak at conferences. So I speak at National SHAPE, which is the health teacher conference, but there are state SHAPE conferences out there that my Ambassadors will go speak at and it's really how to get all of this material, another way to get it disseminated all throughout the world.VirginiaOh, I love that. Well, we will definitely link in the show notes for anyone who's interested in becoming about an ambassador. ButterDeniseI am obsessed with Orna Guralnik, she is a psychotherapist who has a show on Showtime called Couples Therapy.VirginiaYes, I've been hearing about this.DeniseOh my God, it is so good. I don't know why I like it so much, but I just binge watched the new season. And I say every time, I've got to string it out and enjoy it, but no, it's impossible. And so I just binge watched the whole season, and as I was preparing for this interview, I just kept Googling what podcast she's been on.VirginiaThat's so satisfying. I love when you get a really good rabbit hole to dive down with the show. Another podcast I really enjoy, called Dire Straights , hosted by two writers, Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory, they just did an episode looking at the history of couples therapy and it actually has a pretty problematic history. Was not always great for women, very much developed as a way to help husbands control unruly wives—but has become other things. But you would enjoy that episode because they talk quite a bit about the show couples therapy and, she's obviously doing something quite different.DeniseOkay, that's my next one. Definitely going out and getting that.VirginiaI will also do a TV show butter, because they are so satisfying. I just started watching with my middle schooler a show that's been off the air for a few years now. It's called it's Better Things, starring Pamela Adlon and created by her. It's about a divorced mom with three daughters. She's a working actor in LA but it's just like about their life. It's very funny. It's very real and kind of gritty. My middle schooler and I have watched a lot of sitcoms together, and this is definitely a more adult show than we've watched before. But it's still a family show, and it's just, it's so so good. It's just a really incredible authentic portrayal of mothers and daughters. Which, you know, being a mother and a daughter, sometimes I'm like, is this making you like me more? Is this making you appreciate me? Probably not.DeniseHaving raised three kids, I don't aspire to that anymore.VirginiaNot the goal, not the goal.DeniseJust never going to show up.VirginiaBut it is really sweet bonding in a way that I hadn't expected. So that is my recommendation.DeniseLovely, lovely, lovely.VirginiaAll right, Denise. Tell folks again, just in case anyone missed it. Where do we find you? Where do we find the curriculums? How do we support your work?DeniseCome to berealusa.org—that's our website. We have more information on everything I've mentioned, on all of the curriculum, on how to become an ambassador, and just more explanation. On the website, we have fact sheets on everything we do. So if you go in, I think on the homepage, you drop down, they'll say fact sheets. And we also have probably have 10 fact sheets that will give you more information on this. We also talk about why you shouldn't be taking BMI school. We had a “don't weigh me in school” campaign about five years ago that kind of went viral. So anyway, that's all good on our website.The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith (follow me on Instagram) and Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus, and Big Undies.The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.Our theme music is by Farideh.Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe

New episode out now! We watched the first episode of Luther, the British detective procedural starring Idris Elba. We discuss Luther himself and how he does not come off as a good or stable person, are drawn into the character of Alice and think she is realistically terrifying, have a lot of questions about Luther's relationship with his estranged wife Zoe, and talk about how the most important piece of evidence was the lack of evidence. We get into Luther abusing his power and toeing the line of legality, wonder what Alice's true motivations are, think the actors were excellent, and dive into the misogyny inherent in Luther and the treatment of women as a prize. Katy recommends some other British mystery shows, Carrie shares some disturbing lines from And Just Like That…, Maddy deserves a gold star, and Mack gives some good dating advice. We also talk about different reward systems employers use, try to recruit people for D&D, go on a collective semi-rant about the modern alpha male mentality, and learn about dark cremation facts. Listen to hear more about William Shatner, excited Googling, the Glasgow Coma Scale, microplastics, and how women are actually people! Enjoy this episode of many tangents!TW: Violent death of a dog, pedophilia mention, capital punishment, domestic violence, domestic violence in the police force, misogyny, veterinary euthanasia, cremation

In this episode of For The Dads with Former NFL Linebacker Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherm discuss dealing with dogs and kids in the house, discuss Will’s week solo parenting, and walk through some recent gifts from PT6 members —all while keeping the episode fun, light and of course, under an hour. The episode kicks off with the boys talking about the Bussin Bowl this weekend before they dive into some hilarious conversations, including: A returning commenter updating us on a MAJOR situation The boys announce our Wayfair Giveaway Winner Sherm brings the heat with a wonderful new quote Other highlights include: A terrific question for the boys from a PT6 caller Will talks about meeting PT6ers in the wild

What if the very things you do to manage your health are actually keeping you stuck?In this episode of Building Resilience, Leah uncovers the common habits that may be making you sick, like constantly talking about symptoms, compulsive Googling, avoiding activities, or delaying joy. These everyday patterns can keep your nervous system locked in protection mode, fueling chronic pain and stress. The good news? With awareness and small, practical shifts, you can begin to rewire your system toward safety, calm, and healing.We'll explore: • Why symptom-focused talk and reassurance seeking backfire • How avoidance and hyper-monitoring shrink your world • The power of micro-habits that retrain your brain toward safety • Why joy and gratitude are essential to nervous system healingNew Resource : IBS Nervous System ResetNEW: My Safe Space: Affirmation and Journal Prompt Set

What are the top questions women are Googling about menopause? In this episode, I'm breaking down the six most searched questions about menopause and sharing the science, the myths, and the practical solutions that actually help. Because menopause isn't just something you type into a search bar, it's something you live through and you deserve more than generic answers. We cover: The very first signs and symptoms women notice when menopause begins The average age menopause starts and what influences it The most common (and surprising) symptoms no one tells you about How long menopause actually lasts and why the answer isn't simple Hormone therapy: is it safe, who should consider it, and what the research says   Blog article: https://hackmyage.com/most-common-and-uncommon-menopause-symptoms/ Podcast Uncommon Symptoms and Perimenopause Stages: https://youtu.be/o7UZcD79rN8?si=by8XD7rU4sHJ0V-J   Give thanks to our sponsors: Try Vitali skincare. 20% off with code ZORA here  Get Primeadine spermidine by Oxford Healthspan. 15% discount with code ZORA ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Get Mitopure Urolithin A by Timeline. 20% discount with code ZORA at https://timeline.com/zora Try Suji to improve muscle 10% off with code ZORA at TrySuji.com https://trysuji.com Try OneSkin skincare with code ZORA for 15% off  Join ⁠⁠⁠Biohacking Menopause⁠⁠⁠ before October 1, 2025 to win a Flexbeam Red Light Therapy Device. Or save 10% with code ZORA at recharge.health   Join the Hack My Age community on: YouTube: https://youtube.com/@hackmyage Facebook Page: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠Hack My Age⁠     Facebook Group: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠Biohacking Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠  https://www.facebook.com/groups/biohackingwomen50 Private Women's Only Support Group: https://hackmyage.com/biohacking-menopause-membership/ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠HackMyAge⁠    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HackMyAge.com⁠   

Do you know what the hardest part of the fertility journey is for so many women? It's the two week wait. That stretch of time after ovulation, when you're hoping this will finally be the month… and battling TTC anxiety every single day until you know if you're pregnant. If you've ever been there, you know the two week wait can feel like two years. The questions, the Googling, the second-guessing every cramp or symptom. It's exhausting. And it can make you feel like you're losing trust in your own body. That's why, in today's episode, I'm sitting down with Dr. Jane Levesque, a naturopathic doctor who specializes in fertility, women's hormones, and supporting you in the emotional side of TTC. Together, we're unpacking practical ways to handle two week wait anxiety, build emotional resilience, and reconnect with your body while you're trying to conceive. Whether you're in the thick of the two week wait right now, or just want to prepare yourself for the ups and downs of TTC, this episode will give you the clarity and encouragement you need to stop feeling broken and start feeling empowered. P.S. Not TTC but trying to manage anxiety around healing your gut, autoimmune flares, or chronic issues like mold? This episode is ALSO for you! Listen in to learn Dr. Jane's TOP TIPS on managing anxiety that applies to all things health! TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - Introduction to the Two Week Wait 00:34 - Meet Dr. Jane Levesque 02:51 - Podcast Collaboration and Episode Highlights 04:22 - Mastering the Two Week Wait 05:52 - Understanding Pregnancy and Fertility Challenges 09:14 - The Importance of Body Awareness and Trust 12:04 - Addressing Anxiety and Emotional Health 16:16 - The Role of Trauma and Mental Health in Fertility 23:13 - The Practitioner-Patient Relationship 28:28 - The Morning Bread Dilemma 29:00 - Finding Joy Beyond Food 31:07 - Holistic Approach to Health 33:38 - Setting Realistic Expectations 43:42 - Emotional Intelligence and Resilience 49:50 - The Healing Journey EPISODES MENTIONED:Better Belly Podcast Episodes:49// 9 Reasons Your Supplements Aren't Healing Your GutNatural Fertility Podcast Episodes:83// How to Know Where to Start On Your Fertility Journey85// Egg Quality - How to Assess It and How to Improve It47// Why the Supplements You're Taking Aren't Helping You Get Pregnant CONNECT WITH THE GUEST:Dr. Jane's WebsiteFollow Dr. Jane on Instagram: @drjanelevesqueListen to Dr. Jane's Podcast, Natural...

In this episode of For The Dads with Former NFL Linebacker Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherm break down dealing with their kids growing up, discuss Will’s daughter being faced with her first bully, and Sherm gives his most emotional Dad Loss to date—all while keeping the episode fun, light and of course, under an hour. The episode kicks off with the boys teasing some BRAND NEW PT6 Merch before they dive into some hilarious conversations, including: A voice mail that leaves the entire pod in tears Will gives Sherm advice on operating PT6 duties during football season The boys give Milk Team 6 the ULTIMATE ammo Other highlights include: A heartwarming comment from someone in Will’s past Will provides listeners with a beautiful Lesson of the Week.

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Today, Ali sits down with Jessica Bell van der Wal, founder of Frame, to talk about her deeply personal fertility journey and what ultimately led her to create a resource to better support others.Jessica talks about learning about her mother's miscarriages, growing up Catholic, and facing her own unexpected challenges when trying to conceive. She opens up about having PCOS, a mild thyroid condition, irregular cycles, and ovarian cysts, and also navigating infertility treatment with no fertility coverage. She also gets real about anxiety and shame, the loneliness of late-night Googling, and going through IUI (which ultimately led to her pregnancy). Follow on IG: @meet_frameFor more, click: www.frameyourfuture.comTOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: TTC; ART; IUI success; PCOS; thyroid condition; ovarian cysts; male factor infertility; anxiety; shameEPISODE SPONSORS: BEAUTIFUL BIRD AND WORK OF ARTAli's Children's Book Series about IVF, IUI and Family Building Through Assisted Reproductive Technology https://www.infertileafgroup.com/booksThe latest book in the Work of ART series, “Beautiful Bird” tells the story of three parents, one incredible boy and a family built with love—and a little bit of science.Order yours now! The first 150 copies will be Personalized, Signed and Numbered! Don't miss out on this limited edition! Tap the link in bio and stories to order your copy today.When Helen decides to have a baby on her own, she welcomes Jack Bird into the world through IUI with the help of her friend, Aaron. But when Jack is born and needs extra care in the NICU, Aaron and his partner, Blake, fall in love with Jack, too. Together, the three join forces to raise Jack, proving that family isn't about how you start—it's about how you grow.Order yours now at https://www.infertileafgroup.com/booksFERTILITY RALLYIG: @fertilityrallywww.fertilityrally.comNo one should go through infertility alone. Join the Worst Club with the Best Members at fertilityrally.com. We offer 5 to 6 support groups per week, three private Facebook groups, tons of curated IRL and virtual events, and an entire community of more than 500 women available to support you, no matter where you are in your journey.Join today at link in bio on IG @fertilityrally or at www.fertilityrally.com/membershipSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/infertile-af/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/infertile-af-infertility-and-modern-family-building-through-art/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Is it fat… or inflammation? Dr. Shivani Gupta reveals the simple daily shifts that can cool your body's fire and bring back your energy. Feeling puffy, bloated, or like your body's rebelling? It might not be “just weight”, it could be inflammation. In this Fit Girl Magic podcast episode, I sit down with Dr. Shivani Gupta, an inflammation-fighting powerhouse, to unpack why midlife feels like a WTF moment for your body and what you can actually do about it. We talk: the hidden ways stress, sleep, and modern living fuel inflammation, how to tell if it's fat or inflammation, and the 3 daily habits that make the biggest difference (spoiler: turmeric, sleep, and less stress). Plus, Dr. Gupta shares her Ayurvedic wisdom on gut health, metabolic fire, and why your body needs seasonal “downshifts” instead of nonstop hustle. If you're tired of guessing, Googling, or grinding harder, this episode is your permission slip to slow down, tune in, and finally work with your body instead of against it. Resources + Links Mentioned in This Episode: Podcast: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShivaniGupta Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.shivanigupta  and use #turmericlife LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shivaniguptafl/ @‌shivaniguptafl and use #turmericlife JOIN the 7-Day Inflammation Detox Challenge https://www.7dayinflammationdetox.com/optin1641313075014- ( Free videos everyday and resources ) FREE GIFT: Anti-Inflammatory E-Cook Book https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ItNJ1DV3XsOn5MwBbSpeTFH8o3KFu2qk/view?usp=sharing Turmeric Supplement use code FGM Facebook group Free Resources: https://www.fitgirlmagic.com/freeresources_podcast

In this episode of For The Dads with Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherm recap their weekends with the fam, dive deep into voicemails and comments from our amazing audience including a Dad ON THE WAY TO THE HOSPITAL, and give emotional Dad Lessons—all while keeping it light and fun for all of PT6 to enjoy. The episode kicks off with PT6 community shoutouts that bring both heart and humor, including: Will and Sherm recap meeting PT6ers in the wild over the weekend The boys deliver a heartfelt response to an intimate comment about relationship struggles. Will talks with Sherm about balancing family with career. Other highlights include: A can’t-miss call-in from a man who JUST got the news his wife’s water broke (Let’s Go Tyler!). Will closing the show with an EPIC Lesson of the week.

The first six weeks of pregnancy can feel like the longest waiting game of your life. Heck, those two weeks after you have sex may as well be a year!! Even once you've got the positive test, and your body is already shifting, that first prenatal appointment still doesn't happen for weeks. Cue: late-night Googling, second-guessing every cramp or craving, and wondering what's actually normal.In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on those early weeks. From my own experiences (yes, even as a birth educator, I was up at 3 a.m. searching symptoms

No matter how much Kate did to fix her marriage, it was never enough. Her husband kept calling her "selfish," so she gave more—got a master's degree with an infant on her lap, took a second job, and made sure he had nothing to do around the house. But the fights kept getting worse. After one midnight screaming match that woke the children, her husband said something that shook her. Kate started Googling divorce attorneys, but instead found a book that changed everything. Now her husband takes her out on dates twice a week, built her a dream office in two days, and sends her love songs about his "hot wife." She went from doing everything to doing so much less—and getting so much more. If you're exhausted from trying to make your relationship work, Kate's story will show you there's another way.   Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here:https://lauradoyle.co/4mdMVRs

In this episode of For The Dads with Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherm dive into the importance of date nights, weekend plans (shoutout Baylor/Auburn), and swap kids’ entertainment recommendations—all while keeping it real with laughs, stories, and raw dad energy. The episode kicks off with PT6 community shoutouts that bring both heart and humor, including: The nickname Willy One Shelf catching fire amongst the PT6ers. Sherm’s battle with gravity as he shows off the new For The Dads Oxford Pennant (and teases new merch). The introduction of the podcast’s newest team member. Sherm also gets vulnerable about dad-loss as his wife heads out of town for the week, leaving him solo at home. (We’re all devastated for him, trust us). Other highlights include: A can’t-miss call-in from a general contractor who just can’t catch a break. Sherm closing the show with a gut-wrenching Keanu Reeves monologue that leaves the boys in tears.

In this episode of For The Dads, hosts Will and Sherm dive into fatherhood, fall routines, and breaking generational parenting cycles—all while keeping it real with laughs, stories, and raw dad energy. The episode kicks off with hilarious and heartfelt PT6 community shoutouts, including: A college football equipment manager grinding while parenting a 2-week-old A legendary Neyland Stadium meltdown moment and Chef’s official apology Absolute “sickos in the trenches” holding it down for dads everywhere Will opens up about a personal dad loss involving toys and laundry chaos, and Sherm debuts a new segment: "The Trenches", sharing a brutally honest 36-hour parenting stretch with his daughter. Plus, a can't-miss call-in from a shirtless lawn mower dad, and to close, Will delivers a powerful message on breaking generational cycles and moving away from pointless punishments in parenting.

Welcome to another episode of For The Dads, where hosts Will Compton and Sherm break down everything you need to know about football season survival and Will’s MASSIVE Husband Loss—because being a dad isn't easy! In this episode, Will and Sherm dive into how to successfully plan your weekends during football season, how to handle the emotional rollercoaster when your team loses, and why setting expectations with your spouse is crucial for a smooth season. Plus, the boys talk about balancing family time and football fandom, especially when there’s a new baby on the way! To kick things off, Will and Sherm catch up with Papa Team 6 before jumping into a hilarious story about accountability when Will puts off putting up a shelf in his daughter’s room. Then it’s all about football. Will talks about setting expectations with your wife for the weekend game schedule, while Sherm opens up about his worries that his infant daughter might cut into his football time. The guys also share some fan-submitted stories in Dad Losses, crack a cold one to celebrate seeing your kids after a business trip, and recount their adventures at the county fair. Plus, a surprise call from across the seas wraps up the show. And to finish, Sherm shares his first solo dad lesson—with an epic twist from his favorite Lord of the Rings scene.