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Are you doing all the right things — kegels, workouts, even PT — but still dealing with leaking, pressure, or pain? You're not alone, and you're not broken. In this powerful episode of the Pelvic Floor, Core & More podcast, Dr. Des breaks down why your pelvic floor rehab might not be working yet — and what foundational pieces most women skip that make all the difference in healing. Whether you're postpartum, navigating prolapse, or just feel disconnected from your core, this is your permission slip to slow down, reconnect, and rebuild your body from the inside out.

In this episode of For The Dads with Former NFL Linebacker Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherm answer a question about allowing their children to play contact sports, Sherm shares a confession of a lifetime (Sorry Jillybean!), and Will discusses Scottzilla swinging on her big sister — all while keeping the episode fun, fresh and of course, under an hour. The episode kicks off with Will discussing additional ways to help get PT6 rewards for being the best community on the internet before they dive into some hilarious conversations, including: Sherm’s thinking through buying a second diaper bag Jill’s random attacker on Facebook A HUGE announcement for Crack a Cold One Other highlights include: A nightmare car ride for the Klump family The Compton Household survived the flu

Start Your Year With a Pelvic Reset

3 Minutes for Health Anxiety: The "Stop Googling" MeditationIf you are feeling "off" and your first instinct is to reach for your phone to search for symptoms, this episode is your manual override. We are moving away from the search bar and back into your body to remind your nervous system that you are safe in this moment.This is your Pocket Sized Moment of Calm.Apple Podcasts IndexOptimized for clean readability and quick navigation.00:00 – The Manual Override: Why your brain wants a diagnosis and why we're choosing a reset instead.00:19 – Breathwork for the Threat Response: Using specific exhales and four-count inhalations to signal safety to your nervous system.01:00 – The Search Engine Truth: Understanding why search results prioritize "dramatic possibilities" over likely ones.01:11 – Grounding & Reality Testing: A guided sensory exercise to pull you out of a digital spiral and back into the room.01:40 – Reframing the Sensation: Internalizing the mantra: "I am experiencing a sensation, not a catastrophe".02:20 – Post-Meditation Protocol: Simple, physical steps to take once this episode ends to maintain your peace..Stop. Put the phone down. Do not hit search.When your body feels "off," it's natural to want answers. But a search engine is not a doctor—it's an algorithm designed for drama, not accuracy.In this 3-minute Pocket Sized Moment of Calm, we guide you through a specialized reset for health anxiety. We'll use:Controlled Breathing: To switch your nervous system out of "threat mode".Sensory Grounding: To remind you that you are in a room, not a medical emergency.Cognitive Reframing: Shifting from "catastrophe" to "sensation".Your Post-Episode Challenge: Once you finish listening, drink a glass of water or walk into a different room. Stay strong, and choose peace over the search bar today.If you found this helpful, please follow the show and share this episode with someone who needs a reminder to stay off the "medical" search engines today.

Ever find yourself hyped for the “New Year, New Me,” only to hit February and think…ugh, here we go again? Yeah. SAME. If you're tired of the all-or-nothing resolutions, counting every calorie, or Googling another 30-day detox, this episode is your actual fresh start.In today's kickoff to 2026, I'm walking you through 3 tiny, zero-drama habits that will finally help you lose weight this year. No calorie counting. No perfection. No 47-step routines. Just real-life strategy that works whether you're juggling kids, career chaos, or your coffee going cold for the third time.No guilt. No self-sabotage. No restarting every Monday. Just small, strategic shifts that build momentum and actually stick.If you're ready to stop canceling on yourself and finally become the woman who follows through, grab your (probably lukewarm) coffee and hit play. 2026 is YOUR year, and it starts with one simple step. Let's GO!xoxo,JackieMORE FROM JACKIE: >

"Modern convenience has clipped us... We are outsourcing our skill."Welcome to the start of a new series: The Utility of Action.We spent the last three episodes building the machine (Skill, Body, Mind). But a machine sitting in the garage only has potential. It has no utility.In this episode, Vulcan challenges the modern habit of "Outsourcing Competence." When something breaks, do you call a guy? When you get lost, do you stare at a blue line on a screen? If so, you are a passenger in your own life.IN THIS EPISODE:Theory of Operation: Why you should stop Googling and start tracing the lines.The Blackout Challenge: Could you survive a weekend if you flipped the main breaker?Musonius Rufus: Why "Theory is False Without Practice."The "Lost Bus": Navigating the world when the GPS dies.Don't be a slave to the tool. Be the master of the skill.#SundaySmoke #SelfReliance #Stoicism #MusoniusRufus #Skill #UtilityOfAction #MenOfAction

Text Me!If you're searching for how to quit drinking alcohol in 2026, you're not alone, and you're not behind.In this Season 8 kickoff episode of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I break down why the old way of quitting alcohol no longer works for so many women, especially high-functioning, successful women stuck in the moderation cycle.White-knuckling, willpower, and “just drinking less” may have worked for some in the past, but in 2026, we understand more about the nervous system, emotional regulation, and why so many women drink to cope with stress, anxiety, and burnout.This episode introduces a calmer, smarter, and more sustainable way to stop drinking without shame, fear, or all-or-nothing thinking.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why trying to drink less keeps you stuck in the cycleHow to stop drinking every night without relying on willpowerWhy grey area drinking is so common  and so exhaustingWhat actually helps after 30 days without alcoholHow to quit drinking wine when it's tied to stress and identityWhy quitting alcohol in 2026 is about lifestyle + emotional sobrietyHow to build a sober lifestyle that feels freeing, not restrictiveWhether you're sober curious, stuck asking “Do I really have to quit forever?”, or quietly Googling how to stop drinking wine at night, this episode will help you rethink sobriety in a way that feels realistic and supportive.Resources & Support Mentioned:Soberity Circle 1:1 Sober Coaching Book Free ResourcesPODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by ExactNature, a trusted holistic tool for anyone navigating recovery and sobriety. Use code SV25 at checkout to save on your order. Click here to shop and save. Grab my Masterclass for Free:Gain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

If you haven't filed for divorce yet but you're spiraling, crying, rage-texting, and panic Googling how to leave your spouse...this episode is your pre-divorce game plan. Andrea walks you through the “invisible work” that protects you before you file: creating a private email, organizing finances, understanding monthly expenses, regulating emotions, interviewing attorneys strategically, protecting kids from adult stress, and avoiding common mistakes that can cost you money (and peace).This is not about being sneaky—it's about being smart.Key Topics CoveredWhat to do before you file for divorceHow to create a private email and start organizing information safelyThe pre-divorce financial lists you need (accounts, debts, passwords, credit score)Why tracking monthly expenses now saves you later (hello, financial affidavits)How to stay emotionally neutral and avoid the “high-high / low-low” spiralHow to interview attorneys and choose the right “business partner”What NOT to do before filing (spending changes, threats, escalating conflict)How to protect your kids (routines, boundaries, therapy support)Bonus: writing down your “why” and what you want on the other sidePractical Pre-Divorce Action Steps (Checklist)Do these before you file:Create a new private email address (separate from anything your spouse can access).Start a Google Doc/Sheet to track:All known accounts (banking, retirement, investments, credit cards, loans)Unknowns you need to identify (accounts you suspect exist, balances you don't know)Passwords/access issuesPull your credit score and document it.List all monthly expenses (mortgage/rent, utilities, insurance, subscriptions, kids' expenses, activities, childcare).Interview at least 3 attorneys before hiring—choose strategy, not vibes.Keep household routines stable (especially if you have kids).Don't threaten, don't escalate, and don't make sudden spending changes.Get a hobby/outlet (something healthy + consistent).Consider lining up a therapist for your kids if you expect the process to hit them hard.

“The best way to change life on Earth is to change the way we start.” In this episode, Nick speaks with Anne Wallen to dive into the intricate relationship between maternal health, psychological preparation for parenting, and the impact of childhood trauma on parenting styles. Anne shares her personal journey as a maternal health professional and mother of six, emphasizing the importance of meeting a baby’s needs and the psychological aspects of parenting. What to listen for: Maternal health is crucial for every human being The psychological preparation for parenting is as important as physical preparation Trauma from childhood can affect parenting styles and decisions Meeting a baby’s needs is essential for their psychological development Self-awareness is key to breaking generational trauma cycles Understanding the impact of trauma can help in parenting “Unhealed wounds don't disappear when you become a parent; they show up.” Parenting activates old patterns you didn't even know were still there Triggers often come from your past, not your child's behavior Awareness gives you a pause between reaction and response Healing yourself reduces the chance of repeating the same cycles “Safety is the foundation of healthy development.” Feeling safe shapes the brain, nervous system, and emotional regulation. Consistent responsiveness teaches a child that they matter Emotional safety supports curiosity, confidence, and resilience A regulated parent creates a regulated environment About Anne Wallen Anne is a respected figure in women's health with over 30 years of experience and is a leading voice on global change in maternity care – particularly for those at greatest risk. She continues to educate and empower birth professionals in more than 20 countries, contributes to a variety of curricula, and shapes the future of maternal health through her impactful role as a speaker and mentor. Anne is the Director and co-founder of MaternityWise International, and her legacy lies in inspiring generational changes around and elevating women’s healthcare worldwide. https://www.maternitywise.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-wallen-08478035/ https://www.instagram.com/maternitywise/ Resources: Interested in starting your own podcast or need help with one you already have? https://themindsetandselfmasteryshow.com/podcasting-services/ Thank you for listening! Please subscribe on iTunes and give us a 5-Star review! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mindset-and-self-mastery-show/id1604262089 Listen to other episodes here: https://themindsetandselfmasteryshow.com/ Watch Clips and highlights: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk1tCM7KTe3hrq_-UAa6GHA Guest Inquiries right here: podcasts@themindsetandselfmasteryshow.com Your Friends at “The Mindset & Self-Mastery Show” Click Here To View The Episode Transcript Nick McGowan (00:00.91)Hello and welcome to the Mindset and Self Mastery Show. I’m your host, Nick McGowan. Today on the show we have Anne Wellen. Anne, how you doing today? I’m good. I’m really excited to get into this. I think this is going to be a different conversation than what we typically have, but we were just talking and talking and at one point you’re like, you’re not recording? I’m like, no, let’s start this now. Anne Wallen (00:10.602)I’m good, how are you? Nick McGowan (00:25.614)So this will be great. And why don’t you kick us off? Tell us what you do for a living and what’s one thing most people don’t know about you that’s maybe a little odd or bizarre. Anne Wallen (00:34.382)Okay, well, I am the director of Maternity Wise International, which what we do is we train doulas and childbirth educators and lactation support people. I’ve been doing this for 23, 24 years now, and it’s pretty much my life. I love maternal health. It’s so, important to every human on this planet. And maybe the… An interesting factoid about me is that I have six kids. A lot of people, when you tell them you have six kids, they’re like, my gosh. And yes, I birthed them all. But five of them are adults. I have a little nine-year-old as well. She was a surprise, like the best kind of surprise. But yeah, so my six kids and yes, that’s really the main reason why I got into the work that I got into when I had my first at 17. and didn’t feel like I could be the mom that she deserved, loved her so, so, so much. And I had some family friends that I grew up with who actually babysat me who had been struggling with fertility issues. And so I chose to let them adopt her. And we have had an amazing, beautiful extended family relationship. And she recently gave birth to her first daughter just this summer. So I am officially a grandma in addition to all the other things that I do, but Yeah, that’s a little factoid that most people don’t know. But she’s part of the reason she’s the main reason why I became a mental health professional or a maternal health professional. And a lot of the way things have gone through my life, not just how I was raised, but experiences thereafter have gotten me very interested in mental health. And so I like to kind of create this intersection between the both worlds. And I look at things from a very psychological perspective. So this is This is gonna be a fun one. Nick McGowan (02:29.229)Yeah, I think everything ties back into that. It’s not even just a physical thing. Like I even said to you, somebody has a baby and they go home and how their partner reacts to whatever’s going on or the chaos or whatever the thing is, how does that then tie into the baby and how does the baby move throughout life? Even with you having a kid at 17, you are a child at 17. Though I’m sure we can both think back to 17 years old and thinking I’m grown ass adult and I can do all the things in the world, but you are not. You’re a child. Anne Wallen (02:50.412)Hmm. Nick McGowan (02:59.039)And the fact that you had somebody that you could hand the baby over to that you knew, you trusted, and you were able to have a relationship, it sounds like that could almost be like an ABC sitcom, you know what I mean? Anne Wallen (03:05.325)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (03:13.356)Yeah, well, I mean, my life is, I always joke that, like, that’s just the tip of the iceberg. But I always joke that, you know, Hallmark probably wouldn’t agree to make a movie because my life is so far-fetched. But yes, that’s, that was such a, such a blessing because I really knew that I was not going to be able to do what she needed as far as mothering. And I’ve, you know, hadn’t even finished high school yet. And my wonderful, wonderful and she was my next door neighbor growing up. And I just knew that they were the right people to take care of her and they raised her and she’s an amazing human being. And it’s just really wonderful to have this open relationship at this point, especially, you know, now that she’s having babies of her own. it was really cool too during COVID. She took one of my doula trainings because she was going to be a doula for a friend of hers. So Just a really cool, you know, like sometimes things just come full circle and you just, little blessings, little surprises. So. Nick McGowan (04:22.764)And you wouldn’t have been able to script that. Like, I love when that stuff happens in life where it’s like, I’m gonna have a baby, hand it over to my neighbor, because I love them. And then years later, like, really? Somebody would be like, that’s crazy. Get out of my office, you know? Anne Wallen (04:24.863)No! Anne Wallen (04:37.355)Yeah, well, I I knew that I didn’t, I knew that I probably wouldn’t be okay with just never knowing. know, some moms, and I’ve supported moms as their doula through giving their baby away. I’ve supported adopting families as well. it’s, I am really, really fortunate because I don’t think that most people could go through that experience and it would be, I mean, Don’t get me wrong, it was heartbreaking. It’s still heartbreaking that I wasn’t able to raise her myself. I mean, I’ve had five other kids since then and I know what it is to be a mom and I know what things I’ve missed out on. But being able to have an open adoption is really, really something special and I know some people don’t have that option. And so to be able to give your baby to someone that you think that you can trust and then hope that they’re doing what you would want them to do. That’s a whole level of, yeah, that’s tough, that’s hard. So, yeah. Nick McGowan (05:43.52)could only imagine. I have no idea what that would be like. I don’t have kids, not gonna have kids. And I couldn’t imagine what that’s like just handing a child over. I’ve talked to different people that have had either abortions or they’ve adopted, they’ve handed kids off to be adopted and then just haven’t ever talked to them again or people that have had some kid that are like, hey, by the way, about 30 years ago, you and my mom on a beach. And here we are, we’re like, you and my mom at a party or whatever. It’s like, but I, one of the big reason why I wanted to have you on is to be able to talk about how the psychology of that ties into not just people that have kids, but people that were kids. Cause even your emails back in the conversations, you were like, yeah, everybody was born. And then what we do from there and how that all ties into it. So why don’t, why don’t you kind of get us started off with like, not only what you see with, people that are having kids. but also the people that are concerned about having children and what that ties into just the rest of life. Anne Wallen (06:53.121)Well, kind of as we were talking about before we started recording, getting ready for having a baby, well, having a baby, you really need to put in the work, you need to prepare. And it’s not just about eating the right foods or avoiding the wrong foods and getting enough water and whatever else. There’s a lot of psychological preparation that people need to do. And we all walk around with our own traumas. We all walk around with our own disappointments and wounds. you’re gonna carry that into your parenting. And if there is one situation that you’re gonna find yourself in as kind of just this automatic robot, it’s as a parent. You don’t realize all these scripts and all this just unprepared, you know, in the moment reactions that you’re going to have to your own child until you’re there. And then you’re like, Nick McGowan (07:26.218)Hmm. Anne Wallen (07:52.961)I sound just like my mom or my dad used to say that and I still sometimes even you know I’m on kid number six at this point she’s nine and I still will say things you know two wrongs don’t make her right or whatever little sayings that you grow up with and I realize wow I got that from this scenario or I learned that during this moment when I got in trouble or whatever and it can it can really make a difference Nick McGowan (07:54.515)Ha ha. Anne Wallen (08:22.669)being aware and intentional with your parenting. And when I say aware, I just mean if you’ve got wounds or if you’ve got trauma or if your parents were abusive, if there was something else going on, you know, in those immediate, the first weeks, months of your life, it is really, really important to meet that baby’s needs immediately or as quickly as possible, right? So, There are things like crying it out. There are things like scheduled feeds. And they’re actually, we’re not just talking about a physical experience that this baby’s going through. It’s a psychological experience. And so we can get deeper into that if you want to, but a lot of people, they’ll hear from their parents when they become parents, they’ll hear things like, put the baby down, don’t spoil that baby. Or, they should be sleeping all night and they should be doing this or they should be doing that. You know, we let that baby cry it out. We gave you formula. You turned out fine. Whatever it is, right? Whatever this thing is that might be the response to whatever the parents are wanting to do. You know, the grandparents and well-meaning aunts and uncles, they’ll have some retort usually, right? And advice from your elders is always helpful. And having, just having elders around to… support your efforts is beautiful and helpful, but sometimes they don’t know what’s best for your baby. And the only person who really knows what’s best for the baby is the parent, especially the parent who’s bonded to the baby. Usually that’s the mom when they’re really, really small. And that’s usually because there’s breastfeeding going on or whatever it is, the main caretaking duties usually falls to the mother. So if that mother is well attuned to the baby, baby’s getting their needs met, this is teaching the baby that they can trust, right? It’s teaching the baby about relationships. It’s teaching the baby that I’m valuable. I am worth listening to. I am protected. I’m safe. All these different things, right? If you’ve got a baby who is routinely put down after, you fed for 15 minutes, now we put you down. You cry? Too bad, baby. We read the book that said, Anne Wallen (10:47.18)put you down, right? Or we heard from grandpa that said put you down, whatever it is. That baby crying so desperately, that’s their only way to communicate that they have a need. So if they’re crying so desperately, I’m still hungry, I’m cold, I just want to be held, I’m scared, I’m alone, whatever it is, I have gas pains, whatever it is, they’re trying to communicate that they have a need. And if we ignore that, if we say, no, I’m going to spoil the child if I pick them up again. This is programming their brain, right? This is programming their mind to say, no matter how hard I cry, I’m going to be ignored. What does that, for you, Nick, what does that translate to? What does that, what would that tell you? Nick McGowan (11:17.928)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (11:31.148)Trauma as a little kid, you’re just instantly, you’re shoved to the side it feels. And that’s, I think that’s an interesting thing to be able to point out, because look, babies are not gonna listen to this podcast. They will when they get older, but like they’re not listening right now. In fact, none of these episodes are for children at all, primarily because of my mouth at times, I’m sure. But the parents, or the new parents, or the people that are thinking about having kids. Anne Wallen (11:34.102)Yeah. Nick McGowan (11:58.088)or the people that feel like they have to have kids because the system tells them, their family system, you have to, which that’s another thing that ties into the psychology of it. Like if somebody says, you, hey, you have to have a kid because you have to keep our lineage going. You have to keep our last name going. You have to do this. You have to do that. okay. And then they go and have the kid and then put everything onto that kid or there’s already some pain that goes along with it. I think the big thing you pointed out that stood out to me and especially for the show, Anne Wallen (12:01.015)Mm. Anne Wallen (12:14.614)Hmm. Nick McGowan (12:27.61)is the work that has to be done before that. I’ve talked to different people that have had kids and they’re like, hey, we planned. We did all these things. We read all these books. We then got pregnant when we wanted to and shit was still crazy because they’re parents and like life and people and like things happen. And then there are people that just accidentally had a child and you know, it’s all, it doesn’t matter if you plan it or not plan it, it seems, but going into a big situation of having a child and Anne Wallen (12:30.572)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (12:57.552)sticking it through for at least 18 years or so, it doesn’t seem to me like a lot of people really think about the work they need to do until like after the fact. Like I met with somebody recently who’s got a young kid and he was offered to go on tour with some band and he was like, I can’t because I am attached and I can’t leave my child. And I can see that he’s such a good dad. But he had said to me, like, things changed as soon as I had the kid, as soon as the kid came into my life. And I hear that from a lot of different people. Like as soon as this happened, then I changed. I stopped smoking or I stopped doing this or I started doing more of whatever it was. And that’s great. But what about the deeper work that’s unseen? Like the trauma that comes from your parents or your parents’ parents or the things that happened that you were a kid that was just crying because you wanted to be held and your parents are like, I can’t. Shut up in there. How does that then tie into we as people that could potentially then have kids and not see that stuff needs to be worked on? Anne Wallen (13:54.688)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (14:05.161)Yeah, so having a baby is a great motivator for lifestyle changes, right? So if you are, if you have unhealthy habits, having your baby might make you think about your mortality and how, you need to eat better or stop smoking or whatever it is so that you can live longer so you can be there for your child. When you are going through pregnancy, even, you know, no matter what the family dynamic, mom, mom, mom, dad, whatever you’ve got going on. both partners, or even if you’ve got a single mom going on, the person who is in the relationship thinking about when this baby gets here, what are we gonna do? The kind of deeper work that they really need to be doing includes psychological preparation for just how they feel about themselves, number one, just simply because whether they feel worthy, whether they feel rejected by their parents, if there’s any kind of abandonment issues, Which abandonment issues start with, you know, crying it out in the crib? We, let me go, can I get a little sciency with you for just a second on that? So, crying it out, they’ve actually done brain scans and they see that crying it out creates a change in the brain structure. So our frontal lobe is the solutions, you know, forward thinking we call it, right? The creative, ambitious forebrain. The hindbrain is the survival primal, Nick McGowan (15:10.31)Please. Anne Wallen (15:30.955)aggressive, it’s the hunter-gatherer brain. And when you have a baby who is, who their needs are met consistently, their forebrain grows and their hindbrain does not grow. Not that it doesn’t grow, but it doesn’t, the balance is more forward-thinker, right? A baby who is left to cry it out, a baby whose needs are not met consistently. And that’s this, we’re not talking about a baby who has like just a crying spell and we put the baby down. for safety’s sake, you know, and we walk away so could take a breath and then we come back, you know, we’re not talking about that. We’re talking about a routinely left to cry baby. That hind brain actually grows and the forebrain can shrink. So now you’ve got a kid who’s got the more aggressive, primal survival skills, more violence prone, more prone to, you know, ADD and some other issues that are, you know, really all about them feeling that they need to survive, right? It’s just such primal, instinctual behavior. So now you have a kid who physically, chemically is growing up with this need to survive, this like fear, right? It’s like I’m on alert, I’m hypervigilant all the time. Now you make them a parent, right? They go through life and they probably have Nick McGowan (16:55.877)Hmph. Anne Wallen (16:58.187)plenty of issues, right, because of that hypervigilance, because of that, you know, fear that’s kind of like their root chakras in like a high alert mode all the time. So you get into this parenting situation, you’ve got a baby coming, right? You need to be able to say, I’m okay, I can advocate for my needs, I can prepare for the birth experience itself, because the birth experience could be traumatizing. And then, how am gonna care for this baby once it’s out, knowing that, or subconsciously, knowing that they were treated with a neglectful-ish, not that parents always are neglectful intentionally, but they don’t always know that the baby is just trying to communicate. And there’s a lot of, we’re not gonna go religion, but there’s a lot of religious. Nick McGowan (17:47.951)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (17:54.09)books out there on parenting that talk about babies, you know, being manipulators and things like that. You got to train them to be good, right? Which is ridiculous. anyway, that in itself is traumatizing just to just to read that if I was a, know. Yes. Yeah. Nick McGowan (18:09.252)Yeah, basically calling your baby a little demon. Don’t you do it little demon. It’s like, I just want some love. I don’t understand. Anne Wallen (18:17.267)Honestly, and there are books out there that have caused babies to become really, really, really sick and even pass away because they’re telling parents, like, you need to have this regimented feeding schedule and you shouldn’t be holding your baby, etc. And, you know, the abandonment issue is huge in our culture. If you go to other places in the world, you’re not going to see people with abandonment issues quite like you do in America. But in America, we have the Juvenile Manufacturing Association who really, really promoted getting babies out of your bed and using all these furniture pieces, right, for baby swings and cribs and, you know, bouncy seats and all these things that are not the mother, not the parent. And the only thing that a really a baby wants when they come out is that relationship. They are looking for a face when they come out. They’re looking for a face and if they don’t get a face to connect to, they’re three months behind in their developmental milestones on average. So the face, the connection with another human being is so important. It’s so important just to their brain development. It’s important to their psychological development. And it’s really important for the parents’ development too because when you create this bond, There’s something in you that softens. And even if you’ve had a ton of trauma, it’s like this little, I don’t know, it’s like this little knowing wakes up inside of you. And you just know, this instinct just shows up and kind of helps guide you in how to meet the baby’s needs in a way that’s healthy and appropriate for the baby. And a lot of times when you look at and you study mom-baby dyads, there’s this, unspoken language between them, right? It happens during sleep. Dr. James McKenna wrote a bunch of different studies over the last 20 to 30 years on watching moms and babies sleep. And when babies, know, vitals go too low, mom stirs and sometimes they even wake up and touch the baby and the baby perks back up again. It’s very SIDS preventive, you know? So like, Nick McGowan (20:41.197)Hmm. Anne Wallen (20:42.58)there’s these things that we have these superpower abilities to connect with other human beings and we don’t even realize it. And the thing that oftentimes gets in the way of that is trauma, other people’s well-meaning but bad advice. And how do we like get ready for all of that? So that’s where pregnancy, thank goodness we have nine months. to get ready for when the baby comes, right? We have nine months to work through our core hurts and figure out how did our parents’ parenting style affect us? And do we want to repeat that or do we want to have a different parenting style, right? And what is best for a baby? And a lot of times, you know, when you just read mainstream information, you know, there’s some real… Nick McGowan (21:10.945)Hahaha Anne Wallen (21:37.873)Sorry, Nick, I know you’re a man, but there are some masculine solutions or frameworks for very feminine processes and that’s not always the best way to go, right? And you can say your baby needs to eat every three hours. We wanna keep baby alive, right? So we’re gonna make sure baby eats every three hours. But what if baby’s hungry before that? You can’t make them wait. Hunger is one of those things that psychologically, if you are left to be hungry, Nick McGowan (21:48.419)Does it make sense? Anne Wallen (22:08.154)It actually causes so much stress on the body. Adrenaline goes up, cortisol goes up, like all these things, chemical reactions that really are trauma reactions. If you look at it that way, they happen in the body when you’re left to be hungry. So just something as simple as the baby needs to be fed can cause lifelong impairments, psychologically speaking. Nick McGowan (22:36.93)I think something to point out here for people that are listening to this, and if you’re about to have a kid, don’t let her scare you off the ledge. Like go do it because it seems like, look, no matter what happens, people are going to make the decisions they’re going to make. But I think the biggest thing you pointed out is the human aspect of it. That the mom or the parents just in general that are connected with their children can feel that, can be connected with their kids. Anne Wallen (22:39.22)Yeah. Anne Wallen (22:46.419)No! Anne Wallen (22:55.732)Yeah. Anne Wallen (23:02.664)Yes. Nick McGowan (23:05.474)The fact that you pointed out like, well, capitalistic society was like, how do we make money off this? Well, we want to get the kid out of the bed. We can get them into a whole plethora of their own little suite over here and we can make a whole bunch of money and we might as well push this thing. There’s information that comes from the external world like that. Like, oh, well, baby shouldn’t be in your bed for longer than X amount of time. We should have a crib and like all people have that stuff basically when they have their shower at this point and they get it and they… Anne Wallen (23:17.962)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (23:35.381)have like three to $10,000 worth of stuff that just sitting in there for the baby, when the baby probably needs to be deeply connected with them, but every baby is different. And it’s wild to think about how those systems, the family system that tells us, well, when you were a kid, this is what we did. You made the decisions you made. And that’s to be said that way. But then the other systems that say, you need to have this, you need to have that, you need to have that. Anne Wallen (23:47.092)Yeah. Anne Wallen (23:57.15)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (24:05.024)themselves to block all that madness out. Like, thanks for your feedback, grandma. Thanks for your feedback, Capitalistic Society. That person needs to be so deeply entwined with themselves and to understand about themselves. So based on the research you’ve done or the information that you’ve seen, how many people are actually doing that deeper work? Like, hey, I’m pregnant now. I wonder how fucked I was as a child based on the dumb things that happened. How do I not deliver that onto this child? Anne Wallen (24:10.814)Yeah. Nick McGowan (24:33.963)how many people are actually doing that work? Or is that part of the reason why we’re having the conversation? Because more people need to have that internal conversation. Anne Wallen (24:41.096)We really need our society, especially in America, to be doing that work more. Because a lot of people are just, like I was saying before, you’re kind of in this automatic robot mode. If you don’t do the work and you don’t have any kind of self-awareness, you’re just gonna do the things that you don’t even realize you learned to do. So like as an infant, even though you’re not sitting there taking notes on how your parents are parenting you, you’re learning how to be a parent by experiencing their parenting. And if you look around, we have a lot of entitled people walking around and a lot of broken people walking around who are really just living out their traumas and trauma reactions day to day, rather than looking at them, understanding that that’s what it is. You know, it took me till I was in my 40s to even understand what narcissistic abuse was, because it felt so familiar. Walking around the planet, being raised by someone who was narcissistically abusive. Now back then, 50 years ago, they didn’t have those words, right? But a lot of people have experienced that and they don’t know what it is. And they’re kind of, you know, either perpetuating it as the narcissist in their relationship or continuing to be used by the narcissist for their supply, right? And this is such a hot button, like, I don’t know, like a really popular terminology nowadays and everyone’s gonna, you know, everyone walks around kind of saying, I know a narcissist or that guy’s a narcissist or whatever, right? So it’s word that gets thrown around a lot. But the deeper issue is when you are not cared for, Nick McGowan (26:12.609)Hmm. Anne Wallen (26:36.859)in a way that shows you that you’re valuable, right? Then you grow up trying to prove to yourself how valuable you are, your whole life. And so that’s gonna put you into two camps. You’re either gonna be more like a narcissist, right? Trying to get source from people, trying to get that love and acceptance and to prove yourself worthy, right? Or you’re gonna become more of the enabler, more of the empath type. Nick McGowan (26:57.066)Yeah. Anne Wallen (27:05.925)Sometimes it’s just how we’re wired when we’re born, but a lot of it’s learned, right? And so you walk around trying to fix everybody else, trying to pre, what’s the word I’m looking for? Like you’re anticipating what they need, right? And you’re jumping in and taking care of everybody else. And neither one of those makes a good parent. So when you have a kid, you’re going to… Please don’t get me wrong, public, okay? Not all babies are coming out as narcissists, but all babies do come out needing someone to meet their needs. And so they look like little narcissists, right? Because they’re calling out, they’re crying, you you have to do everything for them. And as they’re growing, you’re trying to boost their self, right? And if you have additional kids around between age two and three, that’s a huge hit to the self-esteem of the toddler. You know, so then you’re trying to like fix that and soothe that and so there’s this whole chain of events that happens between zero and about seven, eight years old. And there’s ways to feed the little narcissist monster that you might be growing or there’s ways to help the child become self-sufficient and self… Nick McGowan (28:03.466)Yeah. Anne Wallen (28:31.529)self-aware, but also, you know, like help them to develop empathy and help them to develop compassion for others. But a lot of this is not by word. It’s in modeling. And again, we go back to if you haven’t dealt with your shit before you have your baby, it’s going to walk around showing your child how to not be a grownup, but they’re not going to know the difference. Nick McGowan (28:51.529)Yeah. Nick McGowan (28:58.527)And just keep going. Yeah. Anne Wallen (29:00.167)Right, and so even though trauma can be passed on from DNA, right, and it can be passed on cellularly, right, but it’s also passed on just by modeling. Modeling what that reactivity looks like, modeling what that unhealed wound looks like. So, go ahead. Nick McGowan (29:16.329)Yeah. Well, it’s interesting with how the, think about often how the body keeps the score. Bessel van der Kerk wrote about that and there are other people that say, I don’t agree with it and that’s fine. You can say whatever you want. I’ve experienced it. I’ve experienced what it’s like to be able to have bodily reactions at things when my mind’s going, the fuck are you doing? Like, what is this? And it’s like, that ties back literally to my mom as I was a little kid. Anne Wallen (29:24.349)Yeah. Anne Wallen (29:39.315)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (29:45.596)and watching and going, she seems to fly off the handle of things. Note to self, guess that’s how it’s done. Cool, that’s what I’m gonna do. And then you learn later and you’re like, no, that’s not it. she was coming from generational trauma and chaos and wondering how do I pay for this thing? And what the fuck are you crying about? And what’s this? And sometimes that would come out of her mouth. Like, the fuck are you crying about? To go, I don’t know. And maybe she’s just overwhelmed. So even pointing out that people will look. Anne Wallen (29:51.922)Right? Anne Wallen (29:58.568)Hmm. Anne Wallen (30:09.831)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (30:11.727)and say like, yeah, a lot of people are calling people narcissists at this point because it’s like they learned a new word and they go, well, this looks similar. I’m glad that you’re pointing out that it’s actually deeper and not exactly the same thing at all, but sure, there are tendencies to it. Like the babies need us. Aren’t we like the only organisms that really do that though? Like all other mammals basically are like, cool, you’re born, go get it, have at it. And we need people. Anne Wallen (30:26.728)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (30:38.844)Yeah. Nick McGowan (30:41.606)And those people also need the babies because of that connection. It’s wild to think about how things that’ll happen just on a day to day that a parent might think, I was just a little upset or a little cold or whatever, that could change so much with that child. And especially in the formative years. I learned a handful of years ago about a theory called the subconscious winning strategy. that we develop a strategy as a child to go, oh, note to self, this is how I win. This is how I get love. Like my core wounding personally is to not be abandoned or unloved. That comes from being a child. So I figured out, oh, I can make people laugh and I can do these different things that then show up in a certain way. And I learned that about myself, I don’t know, at 38 years old and was like, oh my God, my entire life I’ve been doing this because it just deeply ingrained in us. Anne Wallen (31:15.784)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (31:36.914)Hmm. Nick McGowan (31:39.891)You pointed out self-awareness. That’s one of the biggest things I’ve noticed in every single episode I’ve had on this show, every conversation I’ve had that’s peripheral to the show. If you’re aware of something, you can only then become more aware of it as you’re more aware of it. But you can also push things to the side. I’ve watched parents go, I can’t. I’ve had friends that are parents that they’re like, man, some nights I just fucking can’t even. Anything. Like everybody needs to leave me alone and I just need to stare at the ceiling for a little while. or they dive into some vice, alcohol or something else. So what advice do you have for people that are trying to figure out, I either have a kid and I need to and want to be a better parent, or we’re thinking about having kids, or I’m still kind of reeling from being a kid, and how do they then work through their stuff? Anne Wallen (32:33.106)So I think you could, you know. Anne Wallen (32:39.752)I’m hearing some interference. Are we still together? Nick McGowan (32:42.974)We’re good. Anne Wallen (32:45.128)Okay, this could go off on so many, you’re like the tree trunk just now and there’s so many branches and things that we could just go into off of that. I think one of the things that you have to understand is that narcissism, for example, is a spectrum, right? And so, one end is kind of it’s a healthy self-awareness, self-love, self-protecting, self-serving, right? The other end is where you’re using people in a malignant way. Now, a newborn, I always make jokes with my students, like the newborns don’t read the books, right? They don’t know what the parents think that they’re supposed to be doing. But when they are little and they’re trying to communicate, right? We can, if we’re cold, for example, we can go and manipulate the thermostat, right, to make it whatever we want. If we’re hungry, we go and manipulate the refrigerator door and get a snack. Babies can’t do those things, so they’re not manipulators, right? But what they are is desperately trying to communicate with us, and we have to put aside, and you see many a mom who’s had sleepless nights, dads too, Nick McGowan (33:41.842)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (34:04.029)where they’re just doing whatever it is that the baby seems to be needing and it might just be an overnight, know, shit fast story. You’re just, nobody’s getting sleep, everybody’s crying, like everybody’s crying. And you just have to get through it, right? But the fact that you are trying, the fact that you haven’t just put the baby away and said, I can’t do this anymore, you know, good luck kid, right? The fact that they’re not doing that, Nick McGowan (34:30.332)You Anne Wallen (34:33.224)the baby and informs the baby, I am worth trying for. And so even if they aren’t fixing it, I can see they’re trying. Right? Now, do you need to step away? Do you need to be able to eat, you know, shower, take a crap by yourself? Yeah, of course. Right? And you need to be able to take care of yourself in order to take care of somebody else. And you need to be able to set boundaries and say, you know, Nick McGowan (34:37.445)Hmm. Anne Wallen (35:02.464)I am, and we talked a little bit about personality types before, but I’m an introvert, right? And when you’re looking at the Myers-Briggs, introverts need time alone, away from everybody, away from touch, away from sound in order to rebuild their battery. Extroverts, they need other people to recharge their battery. And so if you’ve got babies who are almost all extroverts in that Nick McGowan (35:15.846)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (35:30.638)stage of their life. They need somebody else for something at all times usually. And you’ve got an introvert parent who’s like, I am all tapped out. I’m in the negative. Like kid, I can’t help you right now. I cannot do anything right now. I need to go, you know, just take a bath or something in silence. Everyone leave me alone. Knowing that about yourself and knowing that this whole scenario is going to change. Because before baby came, You probably had self-care mechanisms or habits or whatever in place that you can say like, okay, I am drained. I went to that party. I’ve been at work all day. I need to just have like an evening of quiet. Well, when you have a baby, there’s no such thing. So being able to plan ahead for stuff like that, knowing yourself, being self-aware enough to say, I know what my needs are in a general way, putting a person into this know, sphere of my everyday life, what do I need to do to keep myself sane while still caring for the needs of this other human being? And being able to build some kind of structure around that. It could be, do I need to live closer to my parents so my parents can help me? Does it mean I need to hire a postpartum doula or a nanny or somebody that’s gonna be able to help take care of the child so that I can take care of me? You know, just, and that’s not selfish. That’s not being a bad parent saying, well, I can’t always meet the baby’s needs 100 % of the time. Who can? Like we have this really unrealistic expectation, this leave it to be for mom mindset, right? Where it’s like, she’s just gonna do everything. She somehow wakes up with makeup on, with her clothes pressed and you know, like she never spent any time on that, right? Well, that’s kind of what we’re expected to do as parents is we’re expected to just be up and ready for the world and ready to take care of this baby 100 % without having any kind of prep or any kind of get ready time? No, that’s not how it really works. But then you have that expectation which makes people then feel like they’re failing. And that’s not fair either. That’s where if you look at postpartum depression, it has gone up and gone up and gone up and it’s in its highest Anne Wallen (37:57.818)in places where, or in family dynamics where nobody’s getting sleep, you know, there’s sleep deprivation going on and there’s no social support. And those are the two key factors. And a third key factor is babies who cry a lot. And babies don’t just cry a lot. So if you know how to meet your baby’s needs, you can understand your baby’s language, if you can anticipate their needs and just kind of, you know, Nick McGowan (38:04.699)Hmm. Anne Wallen (38:27.781)Be prepared as we just keep, I keep saying preparation, preparation, right? But being prepared and understanding what does this cry sound mean? Does it mean hungry? Does it mean pain? Does it mean sleepy, right? What do these cry sounds mean? And then being able to appropriately respond to the baby’s needs and making sure that the baby’s needs are met quickly. These all feed into a satisfied, healthy, happy baby, which, creates calm, satisfied, happy, healthy family, right? And then if you are dealing with trauma triggers where maybe the baby crying is a trauma trigger for you, right? And you haven’t figured out what this baby’s need is, you’re gonna be spiraling and that spiral’s gonna, you’re gonna have anxiety, you’re have the depression, you might even develop other issues. And let me just say one really quick little piece. Nick McGowan (39:08.922)Yeah. Anne Wallen (39:26.823)The news a lot of times says, you know, when a mom kills her babies, right? The news will a lot of times say, oh, she had postpartum depression. That’s not postpartum depression, that’s postpartum psychosis. So postpartum depression and anxiety and OCD and all these other different kinds of mental health disorders, they can turn into psychosis. But psychosis is when you have suspended the connection to reality in such a way that you would do that heinous act, right? And why does it get to that point? Because we’re not getting enough sleep, we’re not supporting our families, not, you know, we’re not like creating this wrap around care for families. And dads need it too, you know, like we think, mom’s got postpartum depression. Dads get postpartum depression too. Nick McGowan (40:09.091)Yeah. Anne Wallen (40:22.797)sleep deprivation will do it to anybody. You don’t even have to have a baby. You sleep deprived somebody for long enough and they’re gonna experience depression and anxiety. And so being aware, preparing for having that help afterward, understanding what is it that your personal wounding might look like and how might that affect the way you’re gonna care for your baby. So for example, you mentioned abandonment. A lot of people have… Nick McGowan (40:30.456)Yeah. Anne Wallen (40:49.807)abandonment issues because of the whole put your baby to cry it out in the bed philosophy that was taught for a long time. It’s not taught anymore, shouldn’t be taught anymore, we know better now. But there’s a lot of adults walking around that that was the way they did it and they’re gonna hear from their mom and dad and everyone, you know, that’s how you should do it. So it feels really unnatural for a reason. Nick McGowan (40:54.585)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (41:09.026)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (41:14.435)It’s that little instinct, that little knowing that awakens in us when we have a baby that tells us, no, that’s not okay. My baby needs me, my baby. That sound is really grating on me. Why? Because it’s meant for us to do something about it. And so being able to look at, there’s a tool that I sometimes will use, it’s called the self-redemption cycle. Nick McGowan (41:27.543)Yeah. Anne Wallen (41:39.705)And you’re really, it’s like this little circle, right? It informs who you are. It informs yourself about who you are. But it takes the core hurt. Have you ever heard of this? So it takes the core hurt and then it looks at what emotions are drawn from that core hurt. And then it says, what are you seeking? What do those emotions tell you about what you’re seeking? And then what kind of behaviors are you gonna do to meet the thing or find the thing that you’re seeking? And then a lot of times those are unhealthy behaviors too. Nick McGowan (41:57.016)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (42:08.398)So then you create a new core hurt for yourself, only to do it all over again. And so it’s important for us to really be aware of what are the triggers, right? What are the things that make us feel abandoned or unloved or whatever our thing is, right? And then be able to work through those things because first of all, going into a birth situation, Nick McGowan (42:08.546)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (42:36.91)You have to advocate for yourself. You have to be able to speak for yourself. You have to be informed enough because we live in a profit driven medical society and you cannot, it’s not that you can’t trust doctors as individuals, but you can’t trust the system to have your back. The system is not built to your wellness. The system is to profit and wellness doesn’t bring profit. And so, Nick McGowan (42:55.81)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (43:06.616)You have, you know, a whole system that I don’t want to say is like designed against you, but you have to be wise going into that. If you’re going to have your baby in a hospital, which not everybody’s having babies in hospitals, I’ve had three at home myself, but if you are going to go into a hospital, you have to know what you’re getting yourself into. You have to know how to handle it. And it’s not the time to be defending yourself or standing up for yourself. you have to feel so safe to be vulnerable, to be able to open your body to let your baby out. And if you don’t, your labor will be dysfunctional. And that psychological piece, which is, I was saying before, like 80 to 85 % of your whole birth experience, it’s not physical. Physically, we breathe, we digest our food, we use the bathroom. We don’t need anybody to coach us how to do those things. We don’t need to read books on how to do those things. Our bodies know how to do it. And it’s the same way with birth. Our bodies know how to give birth. But there’s safety mechanisms built into the process, survival mechanisms. And one of those survival mechanisms is, is it safe out there? Is it safe for the baby who’s super, super vulnerable? Like you said, you know, we’re the only species that’s like, our baby comes out and they are completely and utterly dependent upon us for everything. Nick McGowan (44:30.444)Yeah. Anne Wallen (44:32.068)And so if our subconscious says, it’s not safe for that little vulnerable person to come out, it will shut down labor. And you can give it all the drugs you want. You can give it all the pitocin you want. It’s not gonna receive it. Your brain’s gonna shut down those pitocin receptors and say, nope, it’s not safe out there. She doesn’t like the doctor. Or the lights are too bright. Or yeah, or whatever the reason that’s triggering her. Nick McGowan (44:51.03)Politics. Yeah. Anne Wallen (44:58.884)you know, making her feel unsafe. And it could just be there’s a male doctor and she doesn’t feel comfortable around males in that way, right? And so it could be all kinds of things. As a doula and as a doula trainer, I have seen thousands of different scenarios where, you know, she might love her doctor and feel super safe with her doctor, but she gets to the hospital and guess what? It’s the person on call and she’s never even met them. Right, and now we have a hurdle to get over. And does she feel strong enough and confident in her ability enough to not let that affect her? Or is she, or does she not feel that way? Right, and in the moment, you’re just trying to hang on for dear life. You’re just having labor. You’re just trying to get through it, right? And so all these other psychological factors are really tough to have to. Nick McGowan (45:50.678)Peace. Anne Wallen (45:54.488)navigate, that’s why you’ve got to prepare ahead of time and really have somebody there, whether it’s your partner who’s very well versed and really, you know, knows what you want and is willing to stand up for you, or a doula, or you’re home with your midwife, you know, whatever your scenario, but it’s definitely not for the faint of heart, but it’s also not for someone who is just kinda coming at it willy nilly like, yeah, I got pregnant, yeah, I’m gonna have a baby, and yeah, we’re gonna do this thing called parenting. I mean, you can do it that way, but you’re gonna be on autopilot the whole time. Your reactions to things are not gonna be intentional and worked through the way that they should be for the betterment of your baby, right? Nick McGowan (46:32.246)Hmm. Nick McGowan (46:41.731)yeah. Anne Wallen (46:44.803)The best way to change life on Earth is to change the way we start, right? Nick McGowan (46:50.324)Yeah, what a good way to put that. And especially all of this ties in to so many different pieces, but it’s all similar. Like you go into some big situation, you have to be prepared, but you also need to understand about yourself. And there are people I’m sure that try their best to be as prepared as they can be. Again, I’ve had a few friends that are like, I’ve read every fucking book I could. I talked to everybody I could. Anne Wallen (46:58.522)Mm. Anne Wallen (47:14.777)Yeah. Nick McGowan (47:16.278)And I still expect to screw this kid up in some sort of way, because I’m going to say something weird or whatever. it’s like totally, like you’re just going to do what you’re going to do and your kid’s going to go how they’re going to go. But that’s the sort of like anti-matter in the middle of it. That’s like, well, all that stuff is just going to happen. But as long as you’re best prepared, you’re going to do what you can. Those people that are kind of wandering around that are like, well, we had a baby and like, I still don’t know my stuff or what’s going on. That. Anne Wallen (47:36.558)Yeah! Nick McGowan (47:45.714)level of self-awareness takes many, many, many blocks to get through to be able to get to that point. So the whole purpose of this show is to be able to help people on their path towards self-mastery and really figuring themselves out and living the best life that they can. So for the people that are on that path towards self-mastery, wanting to have a kid or have a kid or are still kind of reeling through the stuff that they’ve been through as a kid, how… What’s your advice for somebody that’s on their path towards self mastery that’s kind of going throughout all that? Anne Wallen (48:19.747)So the number one thing that you can do is to just nurture yourself, right? Nurturing and making it okay to get things wrong. Having self-forgiveness, having self-grace. Because as you go through these blocks, I could tell you just from my own personal experience that going through different, you know, looking at what has happened to me and saying, okay, this event, and I’m gonna sit with how this event makes me feel. until I can take away the power from it. And some people use counseling for that, some people use EMDR. I found EMDR super helpful. I think too, know, alongside having self-grace and having self-forgiveness, being with other people who are healthy psychologically is really important. If you are in a situation or a relationship that is kind of keeping you in I don’t want to say in abuse because maybe the relationship isn’t abusive, but maybe in a situation where you are constantly triggered or you are continually kind of repeating bad habits, right? And you’re recognizing that, but then you’re in this situation where they’re just triggering you and triggering you and triggering you. You got to get away from it to be able to heal it. It’s so tough. to be able to heal something while you’re in the midst of reaction. And honestly, you know, we talked about the word narcissism and the word trauma and things like that. One of the most powerful ways that I feel like people can heal from stuff and actually keep digging into their past and finding the next thing, right? Like, okay, well, I healed from this and now what? What’s the next thing? Nick McGowan (50:17.15)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (50:17.325)You’re subconscious, two things. One, I really believe that your subconscious will always answer you. And before you even finish the sentence, right, you know the answer. That’s your intuition, you can trust it. Right, so being able to say, what’s the thing that is really holding me back right now? You know it, your subconscious just told you what it was, right? And then going through that, working on that, focusing on that. The other thing is, is that for people, A really powerful tool for us to get understanding about something is labeling. So when you are, let’s say narcissism, when you are looking at narcissism, you can say, hey, here’s a behavior. This makes me feel uncomfortable. What is this? Why does this make me feel uncomfortable? it’s gaslighting. I’ve got a word for that. Nick McGowan (50:52.861)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (51:08.148)hehe Anne Wallen (51:09.977)Right? I’ve got a word for the bandwagoning technique. I’ve got a word for flying monkeys. I’ve got a word for all these different things. Right? And so being able to look at your shit and having a label for the different things that you’re experiencing, having a label for the different reactions that you might be having. Number one, it helps you to understand it. It helps you have a little more power over those things rather than it having power over you. But then also, you know, we can Google it. If you have a word that you’re like, my goodness, you know, this thing is really just triggering me. Why does it trigger me? Okay, comes, I can see that it’s stemming back from this thing that happened to me. And like I said, just ask yourself the questions. Just keep asking yourself the questions. And when your subconscious tells you this is what it was, then you can look it up, right? One of the reasons why I learned about narcissism is because I was Googling, why doesn’t my husband like me? How sad is that that you got to ask that question? But I soon found out that it’s one of the list of things in the narcissistic playbook. And so then you start to realize, this behavior happened at this point in my life and at that point in my life and at that point in my life. And because you have a label for it, you can start to identify the root cause. And that’s where you can kind of start taking your power back. Nick McGowan (52:35.719)Yeah. Anne Wallen (52:38.456)and you can rework the programming that’s going on in your head. And so then you’re no longer a robot, just on autopilot. You can have a moment, you could take a moment to pause and say, I’m not gonna respond like that anymore. I’m gonna, I look, I see it for what it is now. And I’m not gonna let that do this thing to me. And I’m not gonna let that do that thing to my child, because I’m not gonna respond the same way anymore. Nick McGowan (52:54.547)Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (53:08.132)And I’ll tell you what, every kid, I really believe this, every child is born to bring the balance. So like if you have, and I apologize for all the noise in the background, I am in New York City. I don’t know if you hear the sirens. They’re about to come right in front of my building, I could tell. All right, they’re gone. Okay, so. Nick McGowan (53:08.231)Yeah. Nick McGowan (53:30.483)Alright. Anne Wallen (53:35.074)give them a second. So when you have, you know, these, this labeling and when you have this balance that the child is bringing into the family, you know, you, you might say, that kid’s a, that’s a wild child or whatever. A wild child compared to what? Maybe you have very placid parents, right? And then the child’s just bringing the balance. They bring in the party. Or you have parents who are, you know, maybe really Nick McGowan (53:35.155)They’re good. Nick McGowan (54:00.989)you Anne Wallen (54:05.061)just super extroverted and then you get this little introverted child because they’re bringing the balance or you have two kids, right? I’ve had my two boys, they’re kind of like in the early middle of the six of them and I had one that was like large muscle. You tell him to dig a hole, he’s gonna be like, how deep and how big and tell me where to go and I’m on it, right? And then you got the next kid. who was very small motor skills, very artistic, you know, just like super minute focus, right? And you tell him to dig a hole and he’d be like, I don’t know how to dig a hole, right? So like they’re opposites, but this is what happens in family structures. It’s like the kid comes in and they fill the gap of what’s missing. This can get tricky if you have stuff that you haven’t worked on in the past, because guess what? Nick McGowan (54:48.443)Mm-hmm. Anne Wallen (55:02.852)Kids also bring the triggers. So for example, my nine-year-old, love her to pieces, she’s really different from me. It’s a challenge sometimes to be her parent because I don’t know what to do with her half the time because she’s just so different from me. And so that in itself is a little bit of a trigger. And so as a parent, when you are trying to learn, because a lot of times we think, oh, we’re here to Nick McGowan (55:18.096)Hmm. Nick McGowan (55:24.272)Yeah. Anne Wallen (55:32.696)you know, mold and shape this person. But I want to challenge that perception. I think we’re really here to figure out who this person is and help them to be the best of whoever it is that they’re supposed to be. And we’re not really supposed to be directing that all that much at all. Right. And so that also can be really tricky if you don’t know who you are. Right. If you’re if your stuff Nick McGowan (55:57.893)Yeah. Anne Wallen (56:01.496)goes into identifying as, I worthy? Should I speak up? Do I have to fight for stuff? All the different things that go on as a child inside of you, your child, it’s gonna be mirrored back to you. And if you haven’t figured those things out, if you didn’t figure them out as a child, how are you gonna have answers for your kid when they’re going through the same thing? So. getting into and really just there’s actually a book for if you’re pregnant now or if you’re looking at getting pregnant, there’s a book called birthing from within. It’s kind of a whole system. I really like it because it kind of digs into the psychological aspect of, you know, this labyrinth of how were you created mentally, emotionally, and then how are you going to walk or step into parenthood, you know, as a person who can be there for your kid in all these different ways that you’re gonna have, it’s gonna be demanded upon you whether or not you have the skills to meet the needs or not, right? Yeah. Nick McGowan (57:05.967)Yeah, whether you like it or not. man, there’s so much to that. And again, I’m not going to have kids ever. I’m no longer equipped to. And I can think about how these things relate to us as people without kids because we were kids at one point and this ties back. Even the two kids that you have that you talked about, you literally just described my brother and myself. And my dad was like, Anne Wallen (57:25.112)Yeah. Nick McGowan (57:34.359)I understand the one who can dig the holes. I don’t understand why you’re building things and you’re painting. What the hell is this about? I’m gonna stick with the one over here because that makes sense and parents can go to that. They can look at that and they can do those things. But I really appreciate that you’re challenging people to understand the most about themselves and where their things have come from so that they don’t really bring them into anything further unless they go, hey, I learned this before cause I went through some shit. Anne Wallen (57:56.334)Mm-hmm. Nick McGowan (58:03.077)Here’s how you go about it a little differently, but you do you kid and I’m here to support you. I think that’s a crucial thing that you really pointed out and I appreciate you pointing that out. This has been awesome to have you on today and I appreciate you being with us. Before I let you go, where can people find you and where can they connect with you? Anne Wallen (58:08.109)Yeah. Nick McGowan (58:27.194)Did I totally cut out there? Awesome. So I’d asked where can people find you and where can they connect with you? Anne Wallen (58:36.484)Well, I am like I said the director of maternity wise you can find me there. That’s easy maternity wise calm just like that And you can also find me. I’m a contributor to brains magazine So I have several articles published there and if you want to find me on LinkedIn, I’m Anne Wallen. So hey Nick McGowan (58:58.896)Again, Ann, it’s been great having you on today. I appreciate your time. Anne Wallen (59:01.988)Thank you.

The ladies kick off the new year with Wild ’N Out star Darren Brand, and let’s just say—this episode is like your favorite group chat on speakerphone. From sleep deprivation confessions to throwing kids into Christmas trees (don’t worry, it’s all jokes), the trio dives into everything from TikTok touchdown dances to why January gym memberships expire faster than New Year’s resolutions. Darren shares his comedy journey, dropping gems about grinding since 2008, seven seasons on Wild ’N Out, and why making people laugh is more than entertainment—it’s healing. And yes, there’s a Snoop Dogg blunt story that’ll make you wish you were backstage. But it’s not all laughs—well, mostly it is. They get real about mental health, safe spaces for Black men, and why intimacy isn’t just romantic—it’s about being able to take your emotional wig off without judgment. Sprinkle in some hilarious tangents about R&B bingo, strip clubs during COVID (masks on, everything else off), and the cultural struggle of explaining “ain’t nobody coming to see you, Otis” to someone outside the race, and you’ve got an episode that’s equal parts comedy and culture. Darren even teases his upcoming “Too Grown Too Real” tour and R&B Bingo road show—because who doesn’t want prizes with their nostalgia? Bottom line: If you need a laugh, a little wisdom, and a reminder that Black love and Black laughter are undefeated, this episode is your vibe. Just don’t blame us if you start planning a karaoke night or Googling “Cracker Barrel dumplings” by the end. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@u1pn Follow: @urban1podcast @indeskribeabull @lynee_monae Executive Producer: Jahi Whitehead/ @Jahi_TRG Video/Social Media Producer: Walter Gainer II See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of For The Dads, we take a trip down memory lane and look back on the laughs, the tears, and the moments that defined our first year together. From the very first episode to where we are now, we revisit the stories, sayings, and inside jokes that helped shape the show—and the community around it. These are the moments that made us laugh out loud, hit pause to reflect, and realize we were all going through this dad thing together. Thank you to everyone who’s been along for the ride. When we started For The Dads, we had no idea where it would lead—but creating a space to talk honestly about fatherhood, in all its highs and lows, wouldn’t be possible without you. Here’s to another year of learning, laughing, and showing up for our families.

In this episode, Christa takes you behind the scenes of a live training she hosted for her Inner Circle clients, all about how to get better results from AI tools like ChatGPT. If you've ever felt stuck staring at a blinking cursor when trying to write content - or ended up with a robotic, boring blog post - this episode is for you.You'll learn exactly how to write better prompts that get you high-quality content tailored to your brand voice, audience, and goals.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why most people get bad content from AI—and how to fix itThe formula for a high-performing blog prompt (hint: it starts with “Act as a…”)Real-time examples:“Caring for your feet in the summer” → transformed into an SEO-rich, client-attracting blog“Pilates and pelvic health for women in menopause” → turned into a carousel, reel, blog, and email ideaHow to target your content for different types of buyers:Ready-to-buyInformation-gatherersLurkersWhat backlinks are and how to use them for SEO (including a genius idea for backlink swaps with peers)Tips for making ChatGPT content sound more like you (and not like a robot)

It is the quiet week between Christmas and New Year's. The guests have gone home, the adrenaline has worn off, and you are likely left with a heavy realization: The holidays didn't fix it. If you are currently Googling "how to get a divorce" or secretly looking up attorneys while your spouse is in the other room, you are not alone. Next Monday, January 5th, is known in the legal industry as "Divorce Day," where inquiries skyrocket by 25%. But before you make a call that you cannot unmake, Susan Guthrie has a message for you: Stop. Just breathe. In this urgent and deeply practical solo episode, Susan reveals why the "smartest people" wait until March to file, and exactly what they do in January instead. Drawing on 35 years of practice, she breaks down the "Broken Promise" theory, the danger of the "New Year's Resolution Bomb," and why urgency is the enemy of a good divorce. If you are feeling the pressure to act, this episode is your permission slip to pause, plan, and protect your future before you ever step foot in a courtroom. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN: The "Broken Promise" Theory: Why the holidays amplify marital cracks rather than fixing them. The January vs. March Strategy: Why amateurs rush to file in January, while strategists use the month for "vetting and verification". The 3 Critical Questions: What you must ask yourself before you hire a professional (hint: do you know the "business reality" of your marriage?). The "First Responder" Rule: Why your first call should almost never be to a lawyer—and who you should call instead. The Financial Reality Check: The sobering statistic about the 41% drop in household income for women post-divorce and how to prevent it. Mistakes to Avoid: Why hiring a "shark" out of fear is the fastest way to burn through $30,000+.   FEATURED RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS: FREE DOWNLOAD: The "January Strategy Calendar" Don't spin your wheels this month. Susan has created a free 4-week "Pre-Season" planner to help you audit your emotions, gather financial documents, and vet professionals before you file.

Your “source of truth” for customer acquisition isn't GA4. It's what people tell you when they sign up — and right now, that story is changing fast.In this episode, we unpack a simple but brutally effective tactic: adding a required “How did you hear about us?” field to your signup form — and using that data to understand where real discovery is happening. The surprise? More and more B2B customers are saying social media, even when analytics tools claim otherwise.But here's the deeper shift: organic social is hard to measure… unless you track the right trailing indicator. That indicator is branded search.You'll learn how to use Google Search Console to track brand-name impressions over time, why it's becoming the only KPI that matters for modern founder-led marketing, and how branded search creates a defensible moat competitors can't easily steal.If you're planning your marketing strategy for 2026, this is the measurement system you need.What You'll LearnWhy signup form attribution is often more reliable than your analytics dashboardsThe biggest B2B acquisition shift happening right now: from search → socialWhy organic social is nearly impossible to ROI… and how to measure it anywayThe “branded search” metric that acts as a trailing indicator for social discoveryWhy branded search is a marketing moat your competitors can't take from youHow to build a branded-search chart using Google Search Console in minutesThe exact prompt to pull branded impressions by query and track them over timeTimestamps00:00:00 - Customer Discovery Starts at Signup00:00:10 - The Shift: Search → Social00:00:31 - Why Organic Social Now Matters Most00:00:52 - The Measurement Problem (and the Fix)00:01:12 - Branded Search = Your Trailing Indicator00:01:33 - Why Branded Search Is a Moat00:01:54 - Where to Invest Time, Money, and Energy00:02:04 - The 2026 Strategy: Grow Brand Searches00:02:15 - How to Track Branded Search in GSC00:02:25 - Building the Branded Impressions Chart00:02:46 - Live Demo: Google Search Console Setup00:03:07 - Final ThoughtsKey Topics & Insights1. Signup Attribution Beats Analytics (Almost Every Time)One of the fastest ways to understand how customers actually found you is simple: add a required “How did you hear about us?” field in your signup form.Why it works:It captures customer intent in their wordsIt reveals channels analytics often misattributesIt shows the real discovery story (not the last-click story)And the punchline: it often contradicts what GA4 says.2. The B2B Discovery Shift: Search → SocialIf you've been paying attention to the data, something big is happening:People aren't discovering new software products through search anymore. They're discovering them on social — then Googling them afterward.This shift has accelerated over the past 12–18 months. Even in B2B, where trends typically lag behind DTC.What this means:SEO is no longer the first touchpointSocial is becoming the top-of-funnel discovery engineSearch is evolving into a validation channel3. Organic Social Has a Measurement ProblemThe hardest part about investing in organic social is that it's difficult to tie to ROI.Whether you're doing:Founder-led contentCreator sponsorshipsCommunity distributionOrganic growth loops…it doesn't fit neatly into traditional attribution.So instead of forcing bad ROI models, track the trailing indicator that proves social discovery is working.4. Branded Search Is the Trailing Indicator That MattersHere's the key idea:When someone discovers your product on social, they don't click your link. They Google your name.That branded search becomes the measurable proof:A discovery event happenedPeople care enough to look you upYour brand is entering the market's memoryThis is why branded search growth is one of the strongest indicators of momentum.If branded search is increasing month-over-month, your brand is winning.5. Branded Search Creates a Defensible MoatThis is where it becomes more than measurement — it becomes strategy.Branded search is difficult for competitors to steal. Once people are searching your name, you own that demand.The only way competitors can interfere:They bid on your brand in Google AdsThey try to outspend youOr they attempt to confuse the marketBut that's expensive, obvious, and usually temporary.So branded search is not only a KPI — it's defensibility.6. How to Track Branded Search in Google Search ConsoleThis is the tactical part.To track branded search over time, you want a chart that shows:Impressions over timeFor queries containing your brand nameCaptured in every format your audience might type itAnd this is surprisingly easy to pull from Google Search Console.7. The Exact Chart & Prompt to Build ItThe goal is to extract Search Console impressions where queries include your brand name.Example prompt:“Build a chart showing total impressions over time for queries containing ‘YOURBRAND'.”Then your job becomes simple:Increase branded impressions month-over-month through:social contentdistributioncreator partnershipspodcast mentionsrepeated brand exposureconsistent visibilityThis becomes the clearest signal that marketing is compounding.Action Steps (Do This Today)Add a required “How did you hear about us?” field on signupReview responses weekly (and compare against analytics)Use Google Search Console to track branded query impressionsCreate a monthly KPI: branded impressions growthUse branded search growth as the scoreboard for your organic social effortsSponsorToday's episode is brought to you by Graphed – an AI data analyst & BI platform.With Graphed you can:Connect data like GA4, Facebook Ads, HubSpot, Google Ads, Search Console, AmplitudeBuild interactive dashboards just by chatting (no Looker Studio/Tableau learning curve)Use it as your ETL + data warehouse + BI layer in one placeAsk:“Build me a stacked bar chart of new users vs. all users over time from GA4”…and Graphed just builds it for you.

#905. What's actually worth your money when it comes to injectables, lasers, and skincare… and what's just hype?Kaitlyn sits down with her trusted injector and go-to skincare expert, Elisabeth Smith, for a no-BS beauty chat that answers the questions everyone is quietly Googling. From Botox myths that refuse to die, to how to actually find a good injector in the age of social media, they break down what works, what doesn't, and what can seriously go wrong if you're not informed. Kaitlyn also walks through a treatment she's doing that day, why it makes sense for her skin, and how to think about timing, safety, and expectations.They get into the treatments people love to hate, what delivers the biggest return on investment, budget skincare that's genuinely worth it, and the beauty advice online that makes professionals cringe. If you've ever wondered where to spend, where to save, or whether you should do anything at all—this episode is your guide.If you're LOVING this podcast, please follow and leave a rating and review below! PLUS, FOLLOW OUR PODCAST INSTAGRAM HERE!Thank you to our Sponsors! Check out these deals!Macy's: If you're still checking off your list, hop online or pop into Macy's, grab those last-minute gifts with same day pick up, where they have something for everyone. Only at Macys.com. Real Real: Get $25 off your first purchase when you go to TheRealReal.com/vineEPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: (8:20) — How to actually find a good injector (and why social media can't be trusted)(21:00) — The “danger zones” of filler that can lead to blindness

In this episode of For The Dads with Former NFL Linebacker Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherman break down Will’s Christmas trip to New York City that turned into full-blown chaos when Will’s entire family got sick. What should’ve been a magical holiday quickly became a crash course in dad survival, patience, and choosing humor when everything goes sideways. The episode kicks off with Christmas chaos from the jump, as Will recaps how fast plans unraveled, why he still loves NYC, and what it’s like parenting through sickness while trying to keep the holiday spirit alive. The boys then dive into gift-giving expectations, fan comments, and the pressure dads feel to make Christmas “perfect.” Other highlights include: Uncle Derrik’s gifts to the pod• Will and Sherman’s favorite gifts growing up• An absolutely insane dad hack from a caller• Why choosing joy beats stressing over things you can’t control —--- TIMELINE 00:00 - Christmas Chaos 9:00 - Will loves NYC 45:00 - Gift Giving 1:01:00 - The fellas read some fan comments 1:22:00 - Caller leaves an INSANE dad hack 1:24:33 - Will reads some emails 1:33:00 - Choose joy over stress —--- For The Dads is for every guy who needs a place to talk, vent, and laugh about all the insane, hilarious, and chaotic sh** (sometimes literal) that comes with being a dad. Hosted by Will Compton–NFL Vet, creator of Bussin' With the Boys, and proud dad of two. This show isn’t about expert advice and how fatherhood is the greatest thing on earth—it’s about embracing the love and suck of parenthood every day. From balancing work and family to battling the mental load, fears, and the moments that wreck you in the best way, we dive into it all with honesty, vulnerability, and a sense of humor. Cause at the end of the day... us dads have no idea what we're doing. Alongside Will is his producer Sherman Young. Together, they’ll break down everything that can go right and wrong (...usually wrong) when you bring tiny humans into this world. Expect funny parenting stories, laughs, call-ins, advice, weekly themes, and the kind of conversations you’d have over a cold beer in the garage. Whether you’re raising teens or still Googling “how to install a car seat”, For the Dads is the ultimate podcast for dads who are in it, about to be in it, or just trying to do their best while screwing it up along the way. ----- FOLLOW THE BOYS Instagram: / Forthedadspod Twitter: / Forthedadspod Facebook: / Forthedadspod LISTEN iTunes: http://bit.ly/BWTB_Apple Spotify: http://bit.ly/BWTB_Spotify -----See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's Christmas, which means two things: Kristin's wearing a periodic-table tree shirt, and I'm reminiscing about the worst cafeteria meal in VA history (“brown meal,” may it never return). But the real adventure this week? Our kid suddenly developed mysterious brown patches on her skin, smooth, painless, and deeply unsettling for two parents whose medical degrees contain zero pediatrics. Cue the panic Googling, the advice nurse, and the pediatrician casually wiping it off with an alcohol pad like a magic trick. Then we dive headfirst into microbiology, where we rediscover that: Anaerobes “can't breathe fresh air,” Encapsulated bacteria are the gym bros of the microbe world, andnd urease-positive organisms somehow got saddled with the mnemonic P CHUNKS. Takeaways: Terra Firma-Forme Dermatosis: The completely benign, extremely weird skin condition that wipes right off with alcohol. Holiday Clinic Life: Why no one wants their eyes dilated on Christmas Eve (except maybe for the sparkly lights). Anaerobe Mayhem: “Can't breathe fresh air” and other microbiology mnemonics that should probably be illegal. Encapsulated Bacteria: The microscopic linebackers that even your spleen has strong opinions about. P CHUNKS: The urease-positive mnemonic you'll wish you could forget. — To Get Tickets to Wife & Death: You can visit Glaucomflecken.com/live  We want to hear YOUR stories (and medical puns)! Shoot us an email and say hi! knockknockhi@human-content.com Can't get enough of us? Shucks. You can support the show on Patreon for early episode access, exclusive bonus shows, livestream hangouts, and much more! –⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://www.patreon.com/glaucomflecken⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Also, be sure to check out the newsletter: https://glaucomflecken.com/glauc-to-me/ If you are interested in buying a book from one of our guests, check them all out here: https://www.amazon.com/shop/dr.glaucomflecken If you want more information on models I use: Anatomy Warehouse provides for the best, crafting custom anatomical products, medical simulation kits and presentation models that create a lasting educational impact.  For more information go to Anatomy Warehouse DOT com. Link: https://anatomywarehouse.com/?aff=14 Plus for 15% off use code: Glaucomflecken15 -- A friendly reminder from the G's and Tarsus: If you want to learn more about Demodex Blepharitis, making an appointment with your eye doctor for an eyelid exam can help you know for sure. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.EyelidCheck.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for more information.  Today's episode is brought to you by Microsoft Dragon Copilot. Dragon Copilot is an AI clinical assistant that streamlines documentation, surfaces critical information, and automates routine tasks — empowering healthcare teams to focus more on patients and less on administrative work. Learn more at ⁠⁠https://glau.cc/Dragon⁠⁠ Produced by⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Human Content⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Luxury hotels look incredible online… but when it comes to points, most people are left wondering: How many points do I really need to stay there?In this episode, I'm breaking down the real numbers behind luxury hotel stays on points — without the overwhelm. We're talking actual ranges, real examples, and the biggest mistakes I see people make when trying to book elevated hotels with their points.If you've ever thought:“I probably don't have enough points”“Luxury hotels must take millions of points”“I'll just save my points for flights instead”This episode will completely change how you think about hotel redemptions.In this episode, you'll learn:What “luxury” actually means in the world of points (and what it doesn't)Why cash price and point price rarely tell the same storyHow many points luxury hotels typically cost per nightReal Hyatt luxury hotel examples and why Hyatt is a favorite for points usersReal Marriott luxury hotel examples — and when they make senseHow to book luxury hotels without hotel-specific pointsYou don't need a million points — but you do need a plan. In this episode, I walk through realistic point ranges for weekend getaways, resort stays, and longer city trips so you can stop guessing and start planning intentionally.Why strategy matters more than your point balanceLuxury travel doesn't come from randomly earning points — it comes from knowing which points to earn, when to earn them, and how to use them. I'll show you how flexible points, hotel programs, and timing all work together to unlock high-end stays for far fewer points than most people expect.Want help planning your luxury hotel stay?If you're ready to stop Googling and want personalized guidance, here are a few ways I can help:Elevated Escape – Personalized help choosing the right cards and points strategyBest Credit Card Offers- Grab the cards to get you the points needed for a luxury stayTravel Points Academy – Learn my full step-by-step system for earning and using pointsIf this episode helped you, be sure to save it, share it with a friend, and leave a review — it helps more women and families learn how to travel luxuriously without blowing their budget.

In this engaging episode of the Uncommon Wealth Podcast, Phillip Ramsey tackles the top five financial questions people are Googling today. His aim is to provide a deeper understanding of essential financial concepts that arecrucial for anyone looking to improve their financial literacy. Whether you're curious about writing checks or preparing for retirement, this episode has something for everyone.Phillip breaks down frequently searched financial queries, offering listeners easy-to-digest insights into writing checks, budgeting, understanding credit scores, saving for retirement, and investing in stocks. He underscores the importance of staying informed and learning practical strategies that can help manage personal finances effectively. As Phillip shares his knowledge, he provides listeners with the tools to empower themselves financially in an increasingly complex economic landscape.

News with Sean 12-22-2025 …What was Hampton Roads “Googling” this Year?

If you're overwhelmed, exhausted, pretending you're fine, or Googling “How to pretend I'm not miserable in my marriage and ruin Christmas?” this conversation is exactly what you need.December hits differently when your marriage feels heavy. In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Morgan and Andrea break down why the holidays can push you into emotional overdrive and why that does not automatically mean you need to file for divorce today. From understanding the difference between a crisis moment vs. a clarity moment, to learning the now-iconic Pantry Party Plan, this episode gives you practical strategies to stay grounded, calm, and emotionally safe during one of the most triggering months of the year.You're Not Weak — You're OverwhelmedAndrea and Morgan open the episode with a message so many listeners need to hear: You're going to be okay. Holiday stress isn't proof that your marriage suddenly collapsed — it's proof that December is a pressure cooker.Friends. Traditions. Money. Kids. Expectations. Fake joy. Your nervous system is maxed out, and that's normal.A crisis moment feels like:wanting to flee your househiding in the pantrycrying out of nowherefantasizing about driving away and not coming backpanic bubbling in your chestThese moments do NOT require divorce decisions.A clarity moment feels like:“Yep… this marriage still doesn't feel right.”annoyance, sadness, or distancenoticing repeating patternscalm recognition of misalignmentClarity = information Crisis = not the time to actThis distinction alone saves listeners from major mistakes.December will give you a moment where you need to step away — mentally or physically. Andrea introduces the Pantry Party Plan, a simple, strategic grounding tool to stop panic from running the show.Step 1: Set a timer.3 minutes → small wobble5–7 minutes → medium crisis10 minutes → major meltdown preventionStep 2: Exhale first. Panic makes it nearly impossible to breathe in. So start by pushing out all your air, then allow the inhale.Step 3: Add your mantra. Pick something that makes you laugh, relax, or feel powerful. Andrea's? “Bitches ain't shit.” Find one that works for YOU.

If you've ever taken a hit and then immediately thought, “Wait… how long is THIS gonna stay in me?”, this episode is about to become your new favorite panic-relief comedy session.We're breaking down the real science, the myths, and the ridiculous things people do when they realize they might—just maybe—have a drug test coming up.You'll hear:How long THC actually sticks around in your blood, urine, saliva, hair, and probably your soulWhy two people can smoke the same joint but one is sober in an hour and the other is high until WednesdayThe funniest detox myths people swear by:“Just drink 14 gallons of cranberry juice.”“If you sweat hard enough, you'll be fine.”“Bro, take a bath in vinegar.”Times when I 100% should've checked before smoking… but didn'tHow edibles, concentrates, tolerance, metabolism, and “that one friend who rolls fat joints” all affect how long THC sticks aroundThe moment every stoner knows:“Wait… is my job gonna test me?”“Should I Google this?”“Actually, no—Googling made it worse.”It's comedy, cannabis education, and panic-fueled storytelling all rolled into one episode.

What if the pain in your knees, hips, or even pelvic floor… starts at your feet?

Healing starts with Trust. In this episode, I'm inviting you to begin healing with me. Not someday. Not after more Googling. NOW!Today I'm giving you your very first assignment - your first piece of homework on this healing journey!If you enjoyed this episode or any episode in the past, please leave us a review! I would greatly appreciate it! Much Love,Dr. Lisawww.theanxietydr.com

In this episode of For The Dads with Former NFL Linebacker Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherm talk about family holiday traditions around Christmas time, Will saves the day by fixing his HVAC, and Sherm’s caught in the middle of a Mom vs Wifey debacle— all while keeping the episode fun, fresh and of course, under an hour. The episode kicks off with Will breaking down Rue’s new “look at me!” phase before they dive into some hilarious conversations, including: Sherm’s Daycare throwing him under the bus ScarScar rolls over for the first time Talking through new Christmas traditions Other highlights include: Some Santa talk amongst the boys Will has a bone to pick with the Polar Express

Would you like access to our advanced agency training for FREE? https://www.agencymastery360.com/training As a user, do you still use search engines or have completely defaulted to AI? How will this shift reshape the agency world? How will ads work when people are only getting the one answer they need? Most agency owners are still treating SEO like it's 2012 — optimizing keywords, buying backlinks, and praying to the Google gods. But search has already changed. People are asking AI for answers, not Googling for links. And if you want your agency or your personal brand to stay visible in this new era, the rules are completely different. Today's featured guest will unpack the shift from SEO to AEO and why most businesses are invisible to AI without even realizing it. Kasim Aslam is one of the world's leading voices on Answer Engine Optimization. He runs one of the largest AEO communities and leads a six person research team that has analyzed millions of AI citations to understand how large language models choose their sources. He is also the author of The AEO Blueprint and the founder of multiple companies, including a staffing agency, a mastermind, and AEO.co. Kasim has spent the past year deep in the trenches studying how AI crawlers gather, filter, and prioritize information. When it comes to AEO, nobody has more real data. In this episode, we'll discuss: SEO is over. Understanding AEO. Why brands may get lost in LLMs. The quiet Google change that just changed everything in AI citations. The future of ads. Subscribe Apple | Spotify | iHeart Radio Sponsors and Resources E2M Solutions: Today's episode of the Smart Agency Masterclass is sponsored by E2M Solutions, a web design, and development agency that has provided white-label services for the past 10 years to agencies all over the world. Check out e2msolutions.com/smartagency and get 10% off for the first three months of service. Why SEO Is No Longer Enough: The Rise of Answer Engine Optimization (AEO) To understand Answer Engine Optimization, we must first understand that, despite what some agencies may be saying, it is not the same as SEO. Traditional search engines prioritize links. That is why entire industries exist around buying them. In the world of LLMs, backlinks barely matter. The number one ranking factor for AI citations is schema markup. And only 12.4% of websites have clean, validated schema. In other words, nearly 90% of brands are invisible to AI crawlers, regardless of how strong their SEO is. Schema isn't just another optimization tactic. It is the visibility layer. It is the metadata that helps LLMs understand and categorize your content. If your schema is broken or missing, AI cannot reference you even if your content is excellent. This is the equivalent of having a beautiful storefront on a street no one can find. The second key is social mentions. In the same way SEO relied on links, AEO relies on people talking about you. For instance, a TikTok comment from someone in the agency industry saying Jason Swenk is their go-to agency guy counts as an authority signal. LLMs weigh these human mentions heavily. Finally, a lot of the nuances on AEO are changing every day, but Kasim has learned that the real key is building authority, long-form content. That along with clear schema and personal brand is the future of staying in the conversation. Why Personal Authority Beats Brand Authority in AI Search One of the biggest shifts Kasim highlights is that answer engines prefer individuals. A person can write a book, earn a PhD, share opinions, create content, develop mastery, and build authority in a way brands cannot. That means generalists are in trouble. If your expertise is scattered, AI won't know how to classify you and won't choose you as an authoritative answer. Meanwhile, someone who goes deep in a single topic becomes the preferred answer. It is a shift away from corporate brand authority and toward personal authority. Authority is not spread across a company anymore. It sits with people. Agencies that hide behind a brand name will lose visibility. Personal brands that plant a flag will win. For agency owners, this is huge. You do not need a bigger brand. You need clear expertise tied to a real person. This is exactly why Jason positions all the Agency Mastery content around him. Personalities thrive. Brands get lost. Where LLMs Get Their Data (and Why That Just Changed Overnight) Kasim's research revealed that 21 percent of all AI citations once came from Reddit. YouTube followed at 18.8 percent. These platforms had deep context and raw human conversation, which LLMs love. Then Google quietly changed everything. Twenty two days before the interview, Google cut off 90% of the internet from AI crawlers by reducing search results from hundreds to ten. Because LLMs rely on deep search results (not the top ten), reducing the searchable depth limits the information AI can access - removing platforms like Reddit from the AI training pipeline. AI tools rely heavily on these deeper results for nuance. By limiting access, Google essentially removed Reddit and other community based sites from the AI food chain. This change sent shockwaves through stock prices and visibility, and most people never noticed. Google is protecting the content needed to train AI because only two organizations truly own the global knowledge graph: Google and Amazon. OpenAI and the rest are crawling, not casing, the internet, which means they operate at a major disadvantage. Google is playing statecraft. And according to Kasim, Google will win the AI race. The Rise of Screenless Search and Voice-Driven Results According to Kasim, we are quickly moving toward a screenless world. Eric Schmidt has said the screenless future is years away, not decades. And the younger generation is already there. Over 55 percent of people under 25 use voice instead of text. Voice queries require different markup, structure, and formatting, and only 0.3 percent of websites use voice schema. Meanwhile, 65 percent of all searches end in zero clicks. People are asking, getting an answer, and moving on. That number does not even include the people who have stopped using search altogether and have already shifted to answer engines. This means your future website is not for your audience. It is for AI. Kasim is rebuilding his personal site in Notion because he believes CSS-light, simple, stripped down sites will perform better for AI ingestion. We are entering a world where content is created for machines first and humans last. How Google Gemini Is Rewriting the Future of Advertising Here is a wild data point. When Kasim set up new Chromebooks for his kids, he discovered the default search engine was not Google. It was Gemini. Google owns Chrome. Google owns Chromebooks. Yet they replaced its primary revenue driver on its own device with a product that currently has no ads. This tells you where the company is headed. They are rebuilding a new knowledge graph optimized for answer engines, while competitors still reply on the old search-oriented graph. And the future ad model will be nothing like what agencies grew up on. If one answer becomes the default experience, where do ads go? How are they shown? What are users willing to tolerate? And will businesses have to give away deep content to earn visibility the same way early YouTubers and bloggers did? These questions will reshape the entire lead generation ecosystem. Data, Moats, and the K-Shaped Economy The people who win in this new world are those who own data. Not tool access or workflows. Data. Custom GPTs, custom models, and proprietary knowledge bases become your moat. We are entering a K-shaped economy. Twenty percent of people and businesses will become unstoppable because their productivity will outpace demand. Eighty percent will fall to zero. The middle disappears. That means agency owners must adapt, evolve, and lean into deep expertise. Vibe coding (the rapid, exploratory use of AI tools) and no code platforms are accelerating this divide. Kasim's team recreated a software that normally costs ten thousand a year in a weekend. Entire SaaS categories are about to be wiped out. Do You Want to Transform Your Agency from a Liability to an Asset? Looking to dig deeper into your agency's potential? Check out our Agency Blueprint. 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Your future boss is probably already Googling you… the question is, what are they finding? Today Erin and Keri talk with Emily Pearlman - a LinkedIn expert - and they break down the modern rules of getting noticed, getting hired, and getting ahead. If you've been feeling the nudge to elevate your career, this episode gives you the roadmap (and the push) to finally do it. You can find Emily on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/emilypearlman Emily's wise words to use at the end of an interview: “It was great speaking with you. I'm now even more excited about this opportunity.” Join our online community: www.getthehelloutofdebt.com    For more information on Transformation Weekend, go to ⁠transformationweekend.ca  ⁠ Today's episode is brought to you by Monarch. Monarch is an all-in-one personal finance tool that brings your entire financial life together. Get 50% off your first year with code SKYE at monarch.com  Leave us a voicemail message here: www.speakpipe.com/erinskyekelly  Purchase Get The Hell Out Of Debt and Naked Money Meetings online or from your favorite bookstore. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this heart-to-heart episode, Dr. Desiree Cassell shares a gentle and grounding message for the woman who feels stretched thin this season. If you've spent the year doing all the things — caregiving, working, running a household, or healing your body — and still feel behind, this one's for you. We talk about why your symptoms might flare during the holidays (hello stress, pressure, and tension), and how to shift into a slower, softer rhythm that actually supports pelvic floor healing and core restoration. This is your invitation to stop waiting until January to feel good again — and to embrace your body, breath, and boundaries right now. No hustle. Just healing. And one big exhale.

What if you could get personalized side hustle ideas that actually fit your life instead of scrolling through another generic listicle? That's exactly what we're tackling in this special crossover episode with Allison Baggerly from the Inspired Budget Podcast. After 650+ interviews on the Side Hustle Show, I noticed something interesting: almost nobody finds their winning side hustle idea by Googling "ways to make extra money" and picking number 17 from some random blog post. The ideas that stick are the ones that connect your skills, interests, and available time with real problems people will pay you to solve. So I created a free ChatGPT prompt generator that asks you the right questions and spits out personalized side hustle ideas tailored specifically to you. And Allison volunteered to be our test pilot. Tune in to Episode 712 of the Side Hustle Show to learn: how to use AI to brainstorm side hustle ideas that actually match your skills, schedule, and income goals the three levels of side hustles and how to choose the right one for your income goals how to move beyond generic lists and find ideas people will actually pay for Full Show Notes: How to Unlock New Side Hustle Ideas with AI New to the Show? Get your personalized money-making playlist ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Sponsors: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Start hiring NOW with a $75 sponsored job credit to upgrade your job post! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quo (formerly OpenPhone)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Get 20% off of your first 6 months! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Sign up for a $1 per month trial! About The Side Hustle Show This is the entrepreneurship podcast you can actually apply! The award-winning small business show covers the best side hustles and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠side hustle ideas⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. We share how to start a business and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠make money online⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and offline, including online business, side gigs, freelancing, marketing, sales funnels, investing, and much more. Join 100,000+ listeners and get legit business ideas and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠passive income⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ strategies straight to your earbuds. No BS, just actionable tips on how to start and grow your side hustle. Hosted by Nick Loper of ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Side Hustle Nation⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

If you're frustrated because finding high protein meals or planning high protein dinners for your family feels impossible, you're not alone. Episode 174 dives into the real reason busy Christian moms struggle to get enough protein, and what actually makes dinner the hardest meal of the day when you're trying to stay consistent with your health habits. Inside this episode, we talk about: Why Googling “high protein meals” or “high protein dinner ideas” leads to overwhelm How to hit your protein goals without cooking complicated recipes Simple ways to build easy high protein meals for busy moms How to repeat meals with small variations to make high protein family dinners doable The connection between spiritual disciplines, nutrition habits, and consistency What most Christian women get wrong about feeding their families high protein foods My own rotating meal system, how we simplified dinner in our home, and practical high protein ideas you can use tonight You'll also hear the one mindset shift that changes everything: You don't need brand-new high protein recipes every week — you need a simple rhythm you can repeat. This episode is especially helpful if you've searched for: “high protein meals,” “how to get toned,” “how to lose weight,” “easy healthy meals,” “meal planning for families,” “high protein dinner ideas,” “Christian fitness,” “Christian nutrition,” or “simple workouts and health habits.” JOIN THE COMMUNITY & WAITLIST

Send us a textOn this episode of What They Talkin', Dizzle and Boogie link back up after a minute away and jump straight into three wild stories dominating the internet:First up — Netflix drops $72B to buy Warner Bros, instantly becoming the biggest owner of premium shows and movies on the planet. HBO, Game of Thrones, DC, Harry Potter… all potentially sliding into Netflix's empire. The guys break down what the deal means for streaming, pricing, and whether bundling is the future.Then Boogie brings Google's newly released 2025 Year in Search report — revealing the most-searched Netflix shows on the planet. From Monster: The Ed Gein Story to Squid Game 3 to K-Pop Demon Hunters, the people have spoken… and some of y'all are Googling some creepy stuff.Finally, Dizzle closes out with the viral chaos of Crystal from Cinnabon, who got fired for dropping the hard-ER on a customer… then somehow raised $130,000 on GoFundMe. The internet is a wild place, and the guys break down the madness.Plus: a reminder to donate to the Swurl Kickstarter — because unlike Crystal, Swurl is actually trying to build something useful.Click HERE to follow our social links Click Here to submit a random story Music by: Eric Mayleek and VertygoOur Website Here Also, check out - Swurl.io If it wasn't for them we wouldn't have thought about doing this.

In today's episode Gina sends reassuring messages regarding the worry and preoccupation anxiety sufferers have over medical conditions. From managing information overload to distinguishing anxiety from illness, this episode will help you reduce and eliminate worry over health issues.Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors!https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching linkACPGroupCoaching.comTo learn more, go to:Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.comJoin our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership ProgramLearn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership:For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/Here's what's included for $5/month:❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind❤ And more fun surprises along the way!All this in your favorite podcast app!Chapters0:26 Introduction to Health Anxiety3:52 Managing Information Overload9:28 Distinguishing Anxiety from Illness13:14 Techniques for Calming the Mind16:45 Living with Chronic Illness18:53 Closing Thoughts and ResourcesSummaryIn this episode, we delve deep into the topic of Calming Health Anxiety, responding to the surge of interest and discussions in our community. Health anxiety, often referred to as hypochondria, involves an excessive preoccupation with one's health and medical conditions, which can severely disrupt daily life. I explore the nature of this anxiety, focusing on how mistaken beliefs about our physical symptoms can spiral into panic and overwhelm. The fear that something is seriously wrong often leads to a vicious cycle of worry and avoidance, distracting us from enjoying our lives.We discuss the crucial role that information plays in health anxiety. With the internet at our fingertips, many individuals fall into the trap of Googling symptoms, which can exacerbate feelings of fear and uncertainty. The availability of vast amounts of information can trigger mistaken beliefs, making us more susceptible to anxiety. As I recommend, taking a break from online research can be a beneficial step toward fostering peace of mind. Establishing boundaries around information consumption is key to reducing anxiety levels.I emphasize the importance of awareness when it comes to managing health anxiety. Recognizing that the thoughts we experience are merely thoughts—not reality—is the first step in finding peace. By acknowledging these runaway thoughts without judgment, we can begin to set them aside and cultivate a clearer perspective. Techniques to ground oneself and access a more logical, wise mindset can ultimately help in containing anxious thoughts and reducing their impact.#anxietyrelief#anxietyhelp#mentalhealthmatters#selfcare#mindfulness#stressrelief#nervoussystemregulation#panicattackhelp#innerpeace#calm#healthanxiety#calminghealthanxiety#hypochondria#medicalanxiety#stopgoogling#anxietycoach#healthscare#worrywart#physicalanxiety#wisemind#thoughtawareness#anxietytools#overcomeanxiety#healingjourney#anxietyrecovery#mindovermatter#anxietycoachespodcast#podcastlife#ginaryan#ACPSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Drew and Josh announce the release of their first co-written book, The Disordered Guide to Health Anxiety, and dive deep into the many faces of health anxiety. From the resource gatherer constantly Googling symptoms to the optimizer obsessing over perfect health metrics, they explore how health anxiety shows up differently for different people - and why it's fundamentally about the anxiety, not the health itself.You'll hear real stories from listeners navigating health anxiety, including someone who faced their driving fears while expecting a second child, and discussions about the difference between panic disorder's health fixation and health anxiety disorder. Drew and Josh tackle tough questions about managing anxiety while waiting for actual medical test results, explaining why the emotions are justified but the compulsions aren't helpful.The episode covers the compulsive behaviors that keep health anxiety alive - from fitness watch monitoring to constant symptom checking - and why overcoming health anxiety doesn't mean achieving certainty about your health. It means learning to respond differently when those fears arise. The guys also discuss the role of courage in recovery and why turning your back on health-based compulsions can feel reckless and irresponsible, even when it's the right move.Whether you're the person who can't stop researching symptoms or the one too terrified to see a doctor, this episode offers a realistic look at what health anxiety actually is and how people move forward with it.Get The Disordered Guide To Health Anxiety:https://disordered.fm/bluebook---The Disordered Guide to Health Anxiety is now available. If you're struggling with health anxiety, this book is for you.---Want a way to ask questions about this episode or interact with other Disordered listeners?  The Disordered app is nearing release! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our home page and get on our mailing list for more information..---Struggling with worry and rumination that you feel you can't stop or control? Check out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Worry and Rumination Explained⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a two hour pre-recorded workshop produced by Josh and Drew. The workshop takes a deep dive into the mechanics of worrying and ruminating, offering some helpful ways to approach the seemingly unsolvable problem of trying to solve seemingly unsolvable problems.

Rachael Herron's latest: The Seven Miracles of Beatrix Holland, is, truly and in so many ways, the book only she can write. It pulls from every part of her life: identity, spirituality, a love of what's magical in the world, her joy in crafting and her understanding of community and family. I, of course, wanted to know: how did you find the guts to put it all on the table? We talked about vulnerability, the challenges of writing the book of your heart, and learning to play with what you fear. Rachael says, “I'm spoiled for any smaller kind of writing. I'm not sure I can go back.”You're gonna love it. Links from the Pod:The Seven Miracles of Beatrix HollandInk in Your Veins podcastRachel's website: https://rachaelherron.comThe Jennifer Lynn Barnes “take my money” list.The War of Art, Steven Pressfield#AmReading:Careless People, Sarah Wynn-Williams This Is Not a Book About Benedict Cumberbatch, Tabitha Carvan Transcript below:EPISODE TRANSCRIPTMultiple SpeakersIs it recording? Now it's recording—yay. Go ahead. This is the part where I stare blankly at the microphone. I don't remember what I'm supposed to be doing. All right, let's start over. Awkward pause. I'm going to rustle some papers. Okay, now—one, two, three.KJ Dell'AntoniaHey, listeners, this is the Hashtag AmWriting Podcast, the place where we help you play big in your writing life, love the process, and finish what matters. I am KJ Dell'Antonia, and today I am bringing to you an interview with Rachael Herron. I just finished talking to Rachael, and I really enjoyed this. We talked about vulnerability. We talked about the challenges of writing the book of your heart. We talked about what should show you where that book is, the idea that the fear is where you should play. It's, it's a really great interview, and I know that you are going to enjoy it.Let me tell you a little bit about Rachael. She is the author of so many, so many books, thrillers and romances, and most recently, in the book that we are talking about, The Seven Miracles of Beatrix Holland. And I have to read you—Rachael's going to describe this to you, but I got to read you the very short thing that basically made me say, take my money. And it went like this. A psychic tells Beatrix Holland that she'll experience seven miracles and then she'll die. No problem, though, Beatrix isn't worried. She is above all things pragmatic. She vastly prefers a spreadsheet to a tall tale. Then the miracles start to happen.It's a really great book, and more importantly, it's a big book. It is a book where Rachael is writing what comes from deep inside, and it is a book that only Rachael could write. And that is why I asked Rachael to join me today. I hope that you enjoy this interview, and before I release you to it, I just want to remind you that the place to go to talk more about writing big and playing big in your writing life is anywhere that we are: the AmWriting Podcast, Hashtag AmWriting, AmWritingPodcast.com. Find us on Substack. Find us by Googling. Grab those show notes—you should be getting them—and join us for all the different ways that we need to come together in a community to give each other the strength to do our very best and biggest work.So I'm going to ask you to describe The Seven Miracles of Beatrix Holland to me. But also before I even do, I want to say how much I enjoyed it. And also so we have been spending most of our time on the AmWriting Podcast lately talking about writing—writing big and striving big and trying to do something different and bigger and better than what you have done before. We, I think as writers, we're always trying to up our game, but there's upping your game, and there's reaching for the stars. And I felt like this book reached for the stars in a way that you maybe didn't even set out to because to me, as someone who has read much of your work and followed your career and listened to a lot of the Ink in Your Veins Podcast and sort of just knows what's going on with Rachael, this is the book that only you could write. So when I say this is your big book, I don't mean, you know, that this is, is going to be a—I'm sorry—I don't actually mean that 200 years from now, people will be passing this around.Rachael HerronExactly.KJ Dell'AntoniaWhat I mean is that this is you. This is and it's you. All of your books are you, but this was really you in a way that felt downright magical to me. And it's a magical book. So can you tell us a little bit about Beatrix Holland? And I will also say that even before I read it that you had me at the premise. So give us that.Rachael HerronWell, I don't know how to talk about it now that you've talked me up so well. But thank you. Thank you for, you know, being honestly an ideal reader for this book. The Seven Miracles of Beatrix Holland is about a woman who is pragmatic and sensible and doesn't believe in, you know, mumbo jumbo, not really worried about that kind of thing. But she is told by a psychic that she will experience seven miracles and then she will die and whatever, that's not a big deal. It doesn't bother her, because none of it is true. She doesn't believe it. And then, me… miracles start to occur; things that even she cannot say are not miracles. And so therefore, maybe, what about that death thing that's going to be preying on her mind?KJ Dell'AntoniaSo on top of that…Rachael HerronWho likes what the book is about…KJ Dell'AntoniaWe're on an island, and there's family secrets being revealed. And there are amazing family secrets that I think many of us would, I mean, they're kind of awful, and I've talked to some people, and some people would be thrilled by them, and some wouldn't, but yeah, just it just kind of keeps giving and giving and giving. And it's funny because you say I'm the ideal reader, and actually, I don't know that I necessarily would be…Rachael HerronOh, that's even better…KJ Dell'AntoniaExcept, if somebody else had written this, I would not be the ideal reader. And I don't think that's because I know you. I think it's because of the way that you wrote that. And when what I when I say, I wouldn't be the ideal reader, I am getting a little tired of books that are giving me certain specific elements that are very trendy right now and that people feel obliged to give me. And you know you have, certainly, you've got LGBTQ characters in this, but also you have LGBTQ characters in your life. You are yourself such a character.Rachael HerronAs my wife is one of them over in the other room.KJ Dell'AntoniaAnd this isn't me saying I will only read books about queer people by queer authors. No, no, no. It's that these are the thing, the elements of this book that sort of fall into that, that are just there, because that's your life and what you see…Rachael HerronRight. Right.KJ Dell'AntoniaAnd it just is perfectly natural. And of course, you have a lot of—and it's in the sort of the same way that, of course, there's a lot of witchiness and spirituality, because it's part, it's part of you and part of who you are. So it's, it's, it reads as authentic.Rachael HerronOh, that's such a, that's such a—that's such a huge compliment. I wrote this book to please myself.KJ Dell'AntoniaThat's what… that's my next question. Don't make me. Don't make me interrupt you. What? That was my question. What was your intention? What did you set out to do with this book?Rachael HerronI—so this is my sixth genre, and I've been writing for—I've been published for 15 years, and this is my 26 or 27th book. I've lost, I can't remember, maybe more. I have a list somewhere. And I have always thought about, you know, the market and what people want to read and what people want to hear, as you know, as you know this, you've been, you've been doing the same thing a long time.KJ Dell'AntoniaAnd there's nothing wrong with that.Rachael HerronThere's nothing wrong with writing tree, market around market, exactly. But, but in this case, I wanted to write a book, and I wanted to have fun, and, and, and to be honest, I talk about this regularly is that I was going to self-publish it. I didn't even want to deal with my agent coming back and saying, oh, you should edit it this way. Or, you know that this or that editor doesn't want it, or they wanted to change in some way. I wanted to write a—I wanted to write a series of about found family, and I did, I did the Jennifer Lynn Barnes thing, the adored Taylor, where I just, I just made the list of everything I love the most. You know, I love witch stuff. I love practical magic. I love sisters. I love twins separated at birth. Why wouldn't I? I love grumpy, grumpy, older women and fireflies and all of the things that I love the most. And I and I wrote that book, and it was one of the fastest books I've ever written, and not because I was rushing, just because it came easily. I was following my heart and following my gut, and I was also following my tarot cards. When I would get stuck, I would just pull a tarot card and see what it did with my subconscious and moved me forward, and I it was just play. And then I revised it quickly. I hired my favorite editor, edited it, got it copy edited, and then I decided, oh gosh, I don't think I want to do a whole series, and I'm not sure if I want to self-publish, because that's a lot of work, so I'll just let my agent have it and to see if she could sell it. And she said, okay, I'll take a look at it and see if I could sell it. And then it sold at auction because it was, I don't… there's no because there it was just no surprise. There's no because there's no because there's never a because in publishing. You can also write the book of your heart.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah, and then this—the rest of the story wouldn't fall that way and it would never sell that way…Rachael HerronExactly. So it happened to go this way. And of course, a lot of it is a lot of it is luck. Cozy, cozy, queer fantasy is, you know, on an upswing right now, but that wasn't, you know, a couple years ago. It took a couple years for it to come out.KJ Dell'AntoniaWhat do you love most? Yeah, what do you love most about this book and the experience?Rachael HerronThe thing I love most about the whole experience is that it has spoiled me for any other kind of writing; I think now, which may be a good or a bad thing. Ask me in a few years. But I kind of refuse now to write a book that I don't desperately want to write, that I can't stop thinking of. Because I've written a lot of books that I love, but they were, you know, what they were, they were my job. They were the book I sold. And now I will write the book that I sold. Now I will do, do what the contract says. And I don't want to do that anymore. I just want to write the books that grab me and fascinate me and keep me in their thrall and what that means is that I have to, you know, focus on other ways to bring in money and to support. And really, I'm now, I'm supporting this writing passion with things like teaching and with, you know, you know, old backlist books. But I'm not, I'm not sure if I can go back. I don't want to, I don't want to be a work a day writer, writing to a contract that I don't maybe love as much as other contracts I've had, right?KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah.Rachael HerronSo, yeah, it's spoiled me a little bit that way.KJ Dell'AntoniaSo are there other ways that this book feels bigger than things that you have written before? And this is again; we're not denigrating our old work. We're not…Rachael HerronNo, of course not. Of course not. I think that every—for me, it's always been a goal that for every book that I write, it needs to be me playing bigger. It needs to be me playing truer, more, more free. And in this book, it's only recently come up in my in my consciousness that I think that I needed to leave the United States and move around the world to New Zealand. And one of the reasons we left the states was because we were scared of the way LGBTQ rights are, are trending. There's 867 pieces of legislation that are anti LGBTQ on the dockets right now in the United States, and that's, that's up by like 700% in the last four years, and it's and it's terrifying. But it I didn't strike me until recently that this is my first novel that has a queer love story. It's not a romance, but there's a queer, queer love story inside it. And I finally, perhaps, felt safe enough to do that, you know, because it and when I came into the industry, I came in writing straight romances, because that's what would sell. And when I would ask to write other things that was turned down by traditional publishing because they thought it wouldn't sell. And then, you know, obviously self-publishers came along and said, oh, there is a market. Wow, look who wants to read these books. But, and so it was me kind of exposing myself in that way, and also me exposing myself in in the way that Beatrix does is that I always, I also just want to believe in magic. I want to believe I want to believe in things out there that I can't explain, that are bigger than me, that I don't actually need a name for or to understand. Because if I could understand something that is that big, something that is powering the universes, I can't be expected to understand that. But can I, can I engage with it? Can I play with it in the in the exact same way that that Beatrix does? I think the answer is yes. And I did. When I would pull the tarot cards to help me write the next chapter if I got stuck, it was an actual process of engaging with a larger thing, saying, I don't know how to write this book. Help me write this book. Asking for help in writing this book from, from whatever is out there. I don't have, I don't have big ideas about it, but yeah. So that was, that was, it was scary, and maybe that's why I originally wanted to self-publish it, because then it, it felt like I could keep total control.KJ Dell'AntoniaSure.Rachael HerronIf I did that,KJ Dell'AntoniaOf course, you could keep anyone who wouldn't like it from reading it then.Multiple Speakers[Both laughing]KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah, okay, so maybe not so much. But no, I get it. It must have felt…Rachael HerronYeah.KJ Dell'AntoniaLess vulnerable. So I was going to ask you next, what was hard about it. And I guess that's, is that what was hard? But maybe something else was.Rachael HerronLet's see, what was that? So that was hard, being that honest and vulnerable. And you know how when we write our novels, the thing that we want to do is be as truthful as possible, even though we're just making up a pack of lies. It's it feels more true often than even memoir can when we're when we're doing this. What else felt hard? Not much felt hard about this book. And I have had books that I have struggled with like I am wrestling muddy alligators for decades at a time. It feels like those that's what those that's what those books feel like. And there's nothing wrong with those books. They were just; you know where I was at the moment. But this book, I it's one of those gift books. It just, I must have struggled, and I do not remember. I honestly do not remember struggling.KJ Dell'AntoniaWell… I wish for…Rachael HerronI just remember it being joy.KJ Dell'Antonia…all of us. I wish that. I wish that journey for all of us. Oh. Yeah, yeah…Rachael HerronAs usual, I struggle whenever I get copy edits back. When I get copy edits back, I realize I don't know how to write a sentence.KJ Dell'AntoniaSo if any of our listeners are sort of trying to find within themselves the freedom to write what they really want to write, and maybe can't even figure out what the heck that would be, what would you say to them…asking for a friend?Rachael HerronI would encourage them to do one of those “ID lists”, to sit down and write a list of the thing that if you saw that something about it was on the box of the of the video cassette at the video rental store, because that's how old I am, if you saw that listed on there, would you pick it up and rent the movie? Write down all of the things that you love the most and then actually use it as an exercise in creativity within constraints. How many of those things can you actually shove in there? Can you get them? Can you get them all in there? The other thing I like to ask myself when this question comes up is, if I am alone—well, it doesn't actually matter if I'm alone or not—but if I, if I walk into the bookstore, any bookstore, and and I reject any “shoulds,” you know, should I look for that cookbook I was thinking about, or should I look for that new nonfiction I heard about on the podcast, if I'm if I'm released of all shoulds, where will I want to—and say somebody tells me you can only look at one section of the store today. What is the section of the store that I will go stand in front of and pull books off the shelf and look at? And perhaps that is a clue as to where you should be writing.KJ Dell'AntoniaAnd how about freeing yourself up to actually do it. We can't all move to New Zealand, Rachael.Rachael Herron[Laughing] Freeing yourself up do you mean to write the book, to write that book?KJ Dell'AntoniaTo write that book. I don't. Yeah, most of my listeners—well, most of our listeners aren't you know, we tend to be a podcast for professionals or people that are playing professional so, you know, these aren't people who can't put their butt in the chair, but to be vulnerable and admit that you want to go bigger and then do it. That's a different question. Got any advice for that?Rachael HerronI do like to think of Steven Pressfield's advice from his book The War of Art, where he talks about resistance with the capital R. And the place where you feel the most resistance, that's your that's your compass that is pointing north to what you what, what you are meant to do. And a lot of times when we think about these bigger stories that we may want to write someday, the someday, right when I get there, I'll write it someday, that you've already got this compass pointing you there, and it is terrifying. And the fear of how can I do that now is maybe the thing that says that you do not need to put aside the fourth book in the series that you're writing that you need to finish before you write this next series. You can do that. But maybe listening to that resistance, listening to that fear, and dedicating 15 minutes, three times a week, to playing with the idea of this book. If you were to start to write it anytime in the future, you can, you can at least be courting it and flirting with it, making it know that you are going to be available to write that, that book of your heart, because everybody, every we all need that. We all need that. We also need to pay the bills and do the professional writing and do all that too.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah, yeah.Rachael HerronBut…KJ Dell'AntoniaWe got to; we got to try to do the biggest things we can. All right. Well, that's a great place to lead into my next question, which is, what have you read recently where you really thought the writer was playing big?Rachael HerronCan I give you two?KJ Dell'AntoniaOf course!Rachael HerronOkay, the first one, and strangely, these are both nonfiction. So make of that what you will, Careless People: A Cautionary Tale of Power, Greed, and Lost Idealism by Sarah Wynn-Williams, who is a QE. Have you heard of this one?KJ Dell'AntoniaOh yeah. This is the…Rachael HerronOh yeah, the Facebook book.KJ Dell'AntoniaThe Facebook book. We moved fast, and we did indeed break things.Rachael HerronWe did move fast. We broke things. And Sarah has a uniquely Kiwi sense when she's looking at them, because she goes in and she's really watching it all happen. And I don't care about Facebook. I don't actually engage with all of the stuff that said about it. And this book is written basically it felt like a thriller. It was—I couldn't put it down. And she was fearless, the things that she said. No wonder Zuckerberg wanted to silence it. He looks like a moron. And she was absolutely fearless. And it was one of those schadenfreudy, why am I reading this? Why can't I put this down? But I can't put it down. And I think it was because of her bravery.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah.Rachael HerronSo I really enjoyed it for that. And then the other one I want to tell you about is kind of on the flip side. And you may not have heard about this one. It's called This Is Not a Book About Benedict CumberbatchKJ Dell'AntoniaNot only have I heard about this one, it's entirely possible that I sent it to you.Rachael HerronReally?!KJ Dell'AntoniaI love this book! All right, go on. Go on.Rachael Herron…The Joy of Loving Something--Anything--Like Your Life Depends On It, by Tabitha Carvan. Oh, my god, isn't it brilliant? She writes about how, yes, she does love Benedict Cumberbatch, who I'd really never considered very much in my lifeKJ Dell'AntoniaNo, I couldn't pick him out of a lineup of youthful-ish…Rachael HerronYeah.KJ Dell'AntoniaBritish-ish…Rachael HerronYeah.KJ Dell'AntoniaActor-ish,Rachael HerronAnd she loves him, loves him, loves him, no, no joke, loves him. And the whole book is about recovering from any shame around loving the thing that you were put on this earth to freaking love with your whole heart, no matter what anybody says. And I really think the Benedict Cumberbatch is a really great thing to tie this whole book in.KJ Dell'AntoniaIt had to be something like that, because if it was like knitting, I mean,Rachael HerronRight, exactly.KJ Dell'AntoniaOkay, that's fine, honey, you can love your knitting. And you know it also is…Rachael HerronExactly,KJ Dell'AntoniaYou know, it also is…Rachael HerronThis is not a book about yogurt. Who cares, you know. But Benedict Cumberbatch is funny to say. He's actually kind of funny to look at when you do look at him, when you do look him up. And it's so evocative, and it is, and it is something that people would snicker at.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah.Rachael HerronRight? People would snicker.KJ Dell'AntoniaStill even… yeah, it's like, she snickers it herself. But also she's like, okay, why? Why is that, you know? Why would it be? What if I were super obsessed with the stats of some obscure ball—baseball player, no one would mock that. If I wanted to watch every football game played by, you know…Rachael HerronThat blew my mind when she said that, of course, of course. So, and she goes deep. She's again, she's so brave. She plays big. She goes into what it means. How does it like? How does it affect her husband? What does she think about how it affects her husband? Like she goes all of the places. I'm so, I bet you did tell me about it, and I'm so glad that you did.KJ Dell'AntoniaI love, I love. I keep extra copies to force people to read it. I tie people up in like, you know parts of my house and force them… no. I don't really do that.Rachael Herron[Laughing] I love that. But, and what are those all have in common? I think that what are, the both those books have in common? Is these women who, who, at any point, anybody in the whole world could have told them that's not really a good idea to write.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah, no, that's exactly right.Rachael HerronAnd it would've been true.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah. It would have been true. It would have been excellent advice.Rachael HerronExcellent advice not to write that book.KJ Dell'AntoniaReally, you should not admit that you love Benedict. Or really, I mean, you're never going to work in this town again, man.Rachael HerronYou're never going to work in this town again. And the whole, during the whole book of Careless People, she's talking about being inside, she is inside the beast that is doing the damage. And that's and that's brave too. And I don't think Seven Miracles is as brave as those books, but there was, but there was bravery and resistance around moving, moving toward, really putting yourself on display.KJ Dell'AntoniaRun towards the fear.Rachael HerronAnd that's what we writers do.KJ Dell'AntoniaThat's our theme.Rachael HerronYeah, run towards the fear. Even if you can only give it 15 minutes a day or so, three times a week, that's enough. That's good enough to tell your bravery. It should come back more.KJ Dell'AntoniaYes.Rachael HerronScooch, door bravery, little scooches.KJ Dell'AntoniaEdge towards the fear. Tip toe.Rachael HerronOh, that's beautiful. I love that you're doing this series.KJ Dell'AntoniaWe love it too. So, yeah, it's going great. Well again, thank you. I was really excited to talk to you about this book. I was really excited to read this book. I enjoyed the heck out of it, and I think, listeners, that you would too. You should absolutely check it out as well as all the rest of Rachael's work. Links of course, as always, in the show notes, and follow Rachael in all the places. Although, to me, the best thing to do is to go and listen to the Ink in Your Veins Podcast. Because obviously, people, you're a podcast listener, you wouldn't be here. Where do you most like to be followed, Rachael?Rachael HerronAt Ink in Your Veins or on Rachaelherron.com/write, if you are a writer and want to get on the on the writing encouragement list. But I just want to thank you for doing this amazing show and for having me. I feel very, very honored to be here.KJ Dell'AntoniaWell, thank—thank you. All right. And as we say in every episode, until next week, kids, keep your butt in the chair and your head in the game.NarratorThe Hashtag AmWriting Podcast is produced by Andrew Perrella. Our intro music, aptly titled Unemployed Monday, was written and played by Max Cohen. 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Brian Walshe is on trial right now for murdering and dismembering his wife Ana. Her body has never been found. He's already pleaded guilty to disposing of her remains and lying to police—but he says he didn't kill her. His defense: he woke up, found her dead from some unexplained medical event, and panicked. Rather than call 911, he spent three days Googling how to dismember a body, bought a hacksaw and hatchet at Home Depot, and distributed her remains across dumpsters in eastern Massachusetts. To protect his kids, they say. The prosecution has a different theory. And a search history that starts at 4:55 a.m. with "how long before a body starts to smell." In this full interview, retired FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke—former chief of the Bureau's Counterintelligence Behavioral Analysis Program—takes us through every dimension of this case. Dreeke spent 21 years catching spies and detecting deception at the highest levels. His expertise is reading people: what they say, what they do, and what the gap between those things reveals. We break down Walshe's police interviews and the behavioral markers of deception. We examine the marriage itself—the affair Ana was hiding, the power imbalance created by Brian's home confinement, the resentments that may have been building beneath the surface. And we analyze the aftermath: the Google searches, the shopping trips, the dumpster runs, and what that sequence of behavior tells us about guilt or innocence. This isn't speculation. It's pattern recognition from someone who made a career out of knowing when people are lying. The jury is deliberating the evidence. After this interview, you'll understand what that evidence actually means. #BrianWalshe #AnaWalshe #WalsheTrial #TrueCrime #FBI #RobinDreeke #BehavioralAnalysis #FBIProfiler #MurderTrial #DeceptionDetection #CrimePsychology #PoliceInterview #ForensicEvidence #GoogleSearches #TrueCrimePodcast #Cohasset #MassachusettsCrime #ConsciousnessOfGuilt #CriminalBehavior #TrueCrimeCommunity #JusticeForAna #ColdCase #FBIAgent #Interrogation Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

Brian Walshe is on trial right now for murdering and dismembering his wife Ana. Her body has never been found. He's already pleaded guilty to disposing of her remains and lying to police—but he says he didn't kill her. His defense: he woke up, found her dead from some unexplained medical event, and panicked. Rather than call 911, he spent three days Googling how to dismember a body, bought a hacksaw and hatchet at Home Depot, and distributed her remains across dumpsters in eastern Massachusetts. To protect his kids, they say. The prosecution has a different theory. And a search history that starts at 4:55 a.m. with "how long before a body starts to smell." In this full interview, retired FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke—former chief of the Bureau's Counterintelligence Behavioral Analysis Program—takes us through every dimension of this case. Dreeke spent 21 years catching spies and detecting deception at the highest levels. His expertise is reading people: what they say, what they do, and what the gap between those things reveals. We break down Walshe's police interviews and the behavioral markers of deception. We examine the marriage itself—the affair Ana was hiding, the power imbalance created by Brian's home confinement, the resentments that may have been building beneath the surface. And we analyze the aftermath: the Google searches, the shopping trips, the dumpster runs, and what that sequence of behavior tells us about guilt or innocence. This isn't speculation. It's pattern recognition from someone who made a career out of knowing when people are lying. The jury is deliberating the evidence. After this interview, you'll understand what that evidence actually means. #BrianWalshe #AnaWalshe #WalsheTrial #TrueCrime #FBI #RobinDreeke #BehavioralAnalysis #FBIProfiler #MurderTrial #DeceptionDetection #CrimePsychology #PoliceInterview #ForensicEvidence #GoogleSearches #TrueCrimePodcast #Cohasset #MassachusettsCrime #ConsciousnessOfGuilt #CriminalBehavior #TrueCrimeCommunity #JusticeForAna #ColdCase #FBIAgent #Interrogation Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

Brian Walshe is on trial right now for murdering and dismembering his wife Ana. Her body has never been found. He's already pleaded guilty to disposing of her remains and lying to police—but he says he didn't kill her. His defense: he woke up, found her dead from some unexplained medical event, and panicked. Rather than call 911, he spent three days Googling how to dismember a body, bought a hacksaw and hatchet at Home Depot, and distributed her remains across dumpsters in eastern Massachusetts. To protect his kids, they say. The prosecution has a different theory. And a search history that starts at 4:55 a.m. with "how long before a body starts to smell." In this full interview, retired FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke—former chief of the Bureau's Counterintelligence Behavioral Analysis Program—takes us through every dimension of this case. Dreeke spent 21 years catching spies and detecting deception at the highest levels. His expertise is reading people: what they say, what they do, and what the gap between those things reveals. We break down Walshe's police interviews and the behavioral markers of deception. We examine the marriage itself—the affair Ana was hiding, the power imbalance created by Brian's home confinement, the resentments that may have been building beneath the surface. And we analyze the aftermath: the Google searches, the shopping trips, the dumpster runs, and what that sequence of behavior tells us about guilt or innocence. This isn't speculation. It's pattern recognition from someone who made a career out of knowing when people are lying. The jury is deliberating the evidence. After this interview, you'll understand what that evidence actually means. #BrianWalshe #AnaWalshe #WalsheTrial #TrueCrime #FBI #RobinDreeke #BehavioralAnalysis #FBIProfiler #MurderTrial #DeceptionDetection #CrimePsychology #PoliceInterview #ForensicEvidence #GoogleSearches #TrueCrimePodcast #Cohasset #MassachusettsCrime #ConsciousnessOfGuilt #CriminalBehavior #TrueCrimeCommunity #JusticeForAna #ColdCase #FBIAgent #Interrogation Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

I am joined this week by the beautiful and incredible Nell Daly from Revenge Capital. Nell is not only a venture capitalist investing in underrepresented founders but also a former psychotherapist who spent 17,000 hours listening to people's life stories and understanding how deeply money affects our psychological well-being and life choices. Today, we dive deep into Nell's unconventional journey from growing up as the daughter of Irish immigrants who physically skipped middle class but psychologically remained "kids from the projects," to becoming a therapist treating the symptoms of economic inequality, to finally deciding to treat the root causes by becoming a venture capitalist. You'll hear about the profound ways financial insecurity shaped her childhood, her pivot from law to art school after a friend's tragic death, and the realization that came from years of private practice that economic freedom is fundamental to human autonomy and mental health. Nell shares how she taught herself venture capital during the pandemic by Googling every term she didn't understand, why her son named the fund "Revenge," and her mission to make sure that anyone who doesn't look or sound like traditional power has a seat at the table. Listen as Nell talks about the courage it takes to keep touching the hot stove, why being talent isn't enough when you want to run the company, and how we need more women later in the food chain writing the actual checks. Key Topics: Growing up with the psychological scars of poverty even when you're physically middle class Treating 17,000 hours of patients and realizing money is the root cause, not just a symptom Learning that economic freedom is fundamental to leaving bad relationships and living out your dreams Teaching yourself venture capital through Google when you don't come from banking or finance Why "Revenge" perfectly captures what underrepresented founders are really seeking The difference between being talent and being the one who writes the checks Creating systematic change so talented women don't leave male-dominated industries in tears Connect with Nell online: Website: https://revenge.capital/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nellgibbondaly/ Instagram: @nell.daly @revengecapital   Find more from Syama Bunten: Instagram: @syama.co, @gettingrichpod Join Syama's Substack: https://thewealthcatalystwithsyama.substack.com/ Website: wealthcatalyst.com Download Syama's Free Resources: wealthcatalyst.com/resources Wealth Catalyst Summit: wealthcatalyst.com/summits Speaking: syamabunten.com Big Delta Capital: www.bigdeltacapital.com

Dear Listener, are you stuck in singleness limbo—eternally swiping and messaging? Do you rarely get past dates one or two, and never into a long-term relationship? Does it seem like you almost never meet someone who feels unquestionably right for you?What if the thing keeping you single isn't your profile, lack of dating skills, or bad luck, but your brain running scared from doubt?In this episode, we explore an oft-missed culprit for chronic singledom: Relationship OCD (ROCD). We sit down with Relationship Center psychotherapist, sex therapist, and dating coach Cat Fillmore to unpack how this misunderstood form of OCD can quietly sabotage your dating life.Cat explains what ROCD actually is (spoiler: it's not just “being picky”) and how it shows up as an obsessional cycle: a trigger, an intrusive thought (“Do I really like them enough?”), spiraling meaning-making, intense anxiety, and then compulsions like endless Googling, reassurance-seeking from friends, or constant “checking” of your feelings.You'll hear how ROCD can lead people to swipe endlessly, dismiss promising matches over tiny details, or cut things off after 1–3 dates because the connection doesn't feel perfectly “just right.” Cat also shares how to tell the difference between ordinary dating anxiety and ROCD, why self-diagnosing is tricky, and why working with an OCD-informed therapist matters.Most importantly, Cat offers hope: ROCD is highly treatable—often with Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)—and you can learn to live with doubt, date more freely, and build real, lasting love.If fear about the “what ifs” of a relationship makes dating feel painful or pointless, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways00:00 - Intro03:01 - What is Relationship OCD?09:28 - What are some of the signs ROCD might be sabotaging your dating life?23:13 - Can can someone with ROCD find lasting love? How?Resources and linksFor full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcastHave a question or comment? Email us at podcast@relationshipcenter.com. We love hearing from you!If you'd like to work with one of the talented clinicians on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.To get a monthly email with our best content, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter.If something in this episode touched you, will you share it with a friend? That helps us reach more sweet humans like you.Lastly, we'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts. And be sure to hit subscribe while you're there so you never miss an episode!

If you've ever found yourself Googling “How do I get an avoidant to choose me?” or “How do I make an emotionally unavailable person love me?” This episode is your wake-up call. I'm giving you the truth no one online seems to want to say out loud. You cannot “make” anyone love you… but you can understand the deeper wounds that keep pulling you toward emotionally unavailable partners in the first place. This episode is packed with real talk, compassion, and the exact mindset shift you need if you're tired of repeating the same painful relationship patterns.Inside the Episode:• Why you're drawn to avoidant partners and how old patterns keep recreating the same pain.• What's happening in your nervous system when you chase emotional unavailability.• How to show up securely with someone avoidant — matching energy, regulating yourself, and assessing their real capacity.If this episode hit home..if you heard yourself in these patterns, now is your time to break them. The Empowered.Secure.Loved Program is open for applications, and this is your LAST chance this year. We're closing applications at the end of December, and once it's closed, it's closed.And because this is truly the final chapter of the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program, we are doing something incredibly special as a heartfelt farewell. This is your last opportunity to step into this life-changing work before the doors close for good.

Dr. Gregory T. Obert is a clinical psychologist and the founder and CEO of the Royal Oasis Psychotherapy Institute, a premier telehealth practice delivering elite, discreet, evidence-based psychotherapy. He brings over 15 years of experience helping thousands navigate anxiety, depression, trauma, and life transitions. He specializes in veterans' issues, PTSD treatment, and fostering resilience through personalized, holistic care. Additionally, he is the author of The Man on the Bench, a novel about hope amid loss, and the host of the podcast Meditations by Gregory T. Obert, featuring guided meditations for wellness.In today's episode of Smashing the Plateau, you will learn how to move from structure to self-direction—reframing fear, narrowing your focus, pricing with confidence, and using real community to shorten your path to traction.Gregory and I discuss:Why Gregory chose to start his own practice [05:18]Why many keep private practice as a side gig—and the bigger opportunity [05:46]The two biggest barriers: fear of variable income and insurance constraints [07:20]Referrals, pipelines, and the internal conflict about charging [10:47]A simple first step to strengthen your pricing mindset [13:44]The hidden knowledge gap: marketing, visibility, and “putting yourself out there” [15:12]Differentiation through a few clear specialties (and why it works) [17:50]Community as a necessity: one hour > months of Googling [20:04]Learn more about Gregory and receive premium psychotherapy at www.royaloasispi.com.Follow him on social media:Website:https://gregorytobert.com/ Locals: https://drgregorytobert.locals.com/ Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/drgobert Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@docgobert LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gregorytobert YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrGOBERT Libsyn: https://meditationsbygto.libsyn.com/ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/meditations-by-gregory-t-obert/id1168490615Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0esz5sbFAeAmJzPp5NJbz9Thank you to our sponsor:The Smashing the Plateau Community______________________________________________________________About Smashing the PlateauSmashing the Plateau shares stories and strategies from corporate refugees: mid-career professionals who've left corporate life to build something of their own.Each episode features a candid conversation with someone who has walked this path or supports those who do. Guests offer real strategies to help you build a sustainable, fulfilling business on your terms, with practical insights on positioning, growth, marketing,...

If you're doing "all the things" — kegels, breathwork, core workouts, even YouTube rehab videos — and still struggling with pelvic floor symptoms, this episode is your permission slip to stop trying to figure it out alone. In this episode of The Pelvic Floor, Core & More Podcast, Dr. Desiree Cassell, Pelvic Health PT and creator of the RESTORE program, walks you through the most common signs it's time to seek out professional pelvic floor therapy and why waiting only makes it harder. From leaking and pelvic pressure to persistent pain and plateauing with progress, she shares the body's signals that it's time for a deeper level of support. Whether you're postpartum, navigating prolapse or pain, or just don't feel strong or connected in your core — there's no shame in asking for help. You deserve real answers, customized care, and freedom in your body again.

In this episode of For The Dads with Former NFL Linebacker Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherm talk a recap of their thanksgiving with the Fam and Friends, check in on the Compton Household Flu, and break down have arguably our most hilarious call-in to date — all while keeping the episode fun, light and of course, under an hour. The episode kicks off with Will & Sherm discussing how Will’s Daughter called him “Will” before they dive into some hilarious conversations, including: Making up the word Falconia as a medical disease (Shoutout Sherm) Of Course, Olipop and Terminal List Chef talks Turkey Other highlights include: An ELITE Dad Hack for Kid Photos Will Compton's Reading His First Fiction Novel!

In this episode of For The Dads with Former NFL Linebacker Will Compton, hosts Will and Sherm talk through what they are thankful for this Holiday season, recap a night of horrors with the illness bug in the Compton Househole, and break down Sherm’s worst travel day EVER —all while keeping the episode fun, light and of course, under an hour. The episode kicks off with Will & Sherm going through their favorite comments from last episode before they dive into some hilarious conversations, including: An email from the middle of the ocean. A Call in from Papa Whiten Papa Compton’s Internal GPS Other highlights include: The RIGHT way to make a Thanksgiving Turkey Sherm’s beautiful message of the week