Podcasts about happily imperfect

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In this week's episode, recorded prior to the start of the pandemic, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C interviews therapist Sharon Martin, LCSW, author of the recent book "The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism" and blogger for Psych Central. Though the interview took place pre-pandemic, the subject of the discussion is just as timely now, if not more so, with so many people impacted by the mental health effects of the events of 2020. Sharon and Laura discussed perfectionism and the process of personal growth and change. Sharon Martin, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, mental health writer, and media contributor on emotional health and relationships. Her psychotherapy practice, in San Jose, CA, specializes in helping individuals struggling with perfectionism, codependency, and people-pleasing. Her own struggle to feel “good enough”, inspired her passion for helping others learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon writes the popular blog Happily Imperfect for PsychCentral.com and is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism. Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2 month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat. Resources Sharon's website is: https://livewellwithsharonmartin.com  Purchase her book at - https://amzn.to/3kWVaBK  Learn more about Sonya Renee Taylor - the Body is Not An Apology here: https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/about-tbinaa/history-mission-and-vision/ Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat  Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button.  Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here.  Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

If you have trouble asking for what you need, this episode of Woman Worriers is for  you. Host Elizabeth Cush and her guest, therapist and author Sharon Martin, talk about how to find your voice and why you might be silencing it. Quotes: “A lot of us of fall into trying to be what other people want us to be.” — Sharon Martin, LCSW “You can’t ask for what you need if you don’t know what you need.” — Sharon Martin, LCSW “The reality is that we all have needs.” — Sharon Martin, LCSW “We need to be asking ourselves throughout the day, ‘What is it that I need?’ so that I have a chance of trying to give that to myself.” — Sharon Martin, LCSW “People are often surprised to find that others are very willing to help them out.” — Sharon Martin, LCSW “We have a much greater chance of having our needs met if we can directly tell somebody what they are.” — Sharon Martin, LCSW “It’s clearly not realistic to go through life thinking we shouldn’t need anything or that we’re going to be able to meet everybody else’s needs and not be tired or not be resentful.” — Sharon Martin, LCSW “I usually encourage people to start practicing checking in with themselves.” — Sharon Martin, LCSW “There is a certain vulnerability in asking for something.” — Sharon Martin, LCSW EPISODE 121 Show Notes: If always doing for others leaves you feeling exhausted, overwhelming and maybe even resentful, you might need help. Have you asked for it? Many of us who are so good at meeting others’ needs don’t even know where to begin when it comes to our own. In this episode of the Woman Worriers podcast, host Elizabeth Cush, LCPC, of Progression Counseling in Annapolis, Md., welcomes back Sharon Martin, LCSW, a San Francisco Bay-area psychotherapist and author of the Happily Imperfect blog and The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism for a discussion about asking for what you need—whether it’s help with the dishes or just a hug—why it can be so hard, how to get started and the many benefits of learning to identify what you need and to ask for it.   Listen and learn: The first thing most women need to do if we want to start asking for what we need Why it’s hard for so many women to take the first step Why we so often overlook our own needs—and what we need to recognize in order to move forward Why putting names to your feelings matters Why so many of us end the day by binging on TV and eating junk food The simple question we need to start asking ourselves that could make all the difference Why it’s not selfish to ask for what you need—and what can happen if you don’t Why you shouldn’t apologize when you ask for something How not asking for what you need might be affecting your relationships The magical thinking trap that many of us fall into How our perfectionism can get in the way of asking for what we need—and how social media can make it even harder Why getting what you need is sometimes easier than you realize Which needs you can meet for yourself and which you can’t The role our upbringing plays Why getting your needs met is not an all-or-nothing proposition and how you might negotiate What happens when someone says “No” to your request—and how to ask so you’re less likely to hear it The bigger questions you might want to ask yourself How self-compassion can help as you move forward       Resources: Learn More > Sharon Martin’s website > Sharon Martin, LCSW on Facebook > Sharon Martin, LCSW on Instagram > Happily Imperfect blog > Feelings chart   More conversations with Sharon Martin: Episode 17- Sharon Martin on Codependence Episode 42- Sharon Martin On Perfectionism and Anxiety > Progression Counseling    

Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! The perfectionism habit can leave us feeling inadequate, never able to relax, overscheduled, and generally not-good-enough-ever. Yet it can be deeply ingrained through childhood and culture. So how do we combat it? Sharon Martin has the answers in her book, The CBT Workbook For Perfectionism. Takeaways: There’s a difference between perfectionism and the pursuit of excellence Certain parenting styles lead to perfectionism How to stop people-pleasing and be assertive instead Sharon Martin, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in helping perfectionists and people-pleasers embrace their imperfections and overcome self-doubt and shame. Sharon writes the popular blog Happily Imperfect for PsychCentral.com and is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism. Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review -----> Apple Podcasts or on Stitcher (or wherever you listen!) Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com.

TITLE Creating Peace Through the Holidays GUEST Sharon Martin, LCSW EPISODE OVERVIEW We talk about ways to make the holidays smoother—in terms of travelling, having guests, dealing with family members who may be challenging, feeling obligated, overspending, expectations, and lots of ways that Sensitives can provide better care for themselves during these times of overstimulation, high expectations and lots of activity.  Sharon explains what it’s like if a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) has a narcissist (or someone with narcissistic tendencies) in their life.  We talk about feeling criticized, and no matter what you do, it never feels like you’re enough or you’re good enough.  We talk a little about anxiety and depression and how counseling or therapy can help to gain insight into patterns that are from childhood. We talk about ways to take breaks; looking at new traditions, and being sure to take care of our basic needs HIGHLIGHTS Which parts of the holidays are overwhelming? You don’t have to do everything Take a lot of breaks If you are travelling to see family, consider staying in a hotel Be sure you’re taking care of your basic needs—sleep, nutrition, time alone, exercise, quiet time How to deal with challenging family members who may be narcissistic or are very critical Setting realistic expectations Prioritizing your values Recognizing limited resources Identifying where you feel obligated Fear of disappointing others   BIO Sharon Martin, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, mental health writer, and media contributor on emotional health and relationships. Her psychotherapy practice, in San Jose, CA, specializes in helping perfectionists and people-pleasers embrace their imperfections and overcome self-doubt and shame. Her own struggle to feel “good enough”, inspired her passion for helping others learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon writes the popular blog Happily Imperfect for PsychCentral.com and is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism. PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   website: https://LiveWellwithSharonMartin.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharonmartinlcsw/ blog: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/smartinlcsw/   Dr. Elaine Aron www.hsperson.com Dr. Ted Zeff www.drtedzeff.com Movie—Sensitive The Untold Story Podcast—Highly Sensitive Person highlysensitiveperson.net/book A Highly Sensitive Person’s Life: Stories and Advice for Those Who Experience the World Intensely by Kelly O’Laughlin   HSP Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/  E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Sharon Martin, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, writer, speaker, and media contributor on emotional health and relationships. Her psychotherapy practice in San Jose, CA specializes in helping individuals overcome codependency and perfectionism and learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon is the author of two e-books: Navigating the Codependency Maze and  Setting Boundaries without Guilt and writes the popular blog Happily Imperfect for PsychCentral.com. For Full show notes: https://nicoleburgesscoaching.com/ep12 In this episode: Boundaries can look different for introverts than extroverts What are People Pleasing behaviors How the “minor” people pleasing behaviors can lead to bigger issues Finding your voice and living in your values Being in midlife and rediscovering who you are as you establish boundaries Staying on your path or your side of the sidewalk The negative effects of poor boundaries as an introverted woman Giving yourself permission to self-reflect on what boundaries are working and where you need to establish some Shifting your thinking from either/or, all about them or all about me, and embracing the gray area Preventing or ending the resentment with boundaries How anger can be a warning sign that you need a boundary Improving your self-esteem and confidence Learning to lean into the discomfort

This week, I chat with LCSW and author, Sharon Martin. We talk all about perfectionism, how it impacts our interpersonal relationships, ways to show ourselves more compassion, and more!Sharon is a therapist in San Jose, CA who’s worked with adolescents, the homeless, juvenile offenders, veterans, and individuals struggling with substances, trauma, and mental illness. Her writing on emotional wellness, healthy relationship, and parenting have been featured in Redbook, Bustle, About.com, The Huffington Post and various other websites and publications including regular columns on PsychCentral & The Good Men Project.Connect with Sharon on her website, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, or Instagram. Read her PsychCentral column (Happily Imperfect) or her column on The Good Men Project (Courage to Be Me). Preorder her new book, The Perfectionism Workbook: Practical Skills to Help You Let Go of Self-Criticism, Find Balance, and Reclaim Your Self-Worth, out in January 2019.Things we reference in this episode:- Sharon's article 'The Link Between Perfectionism & Codependency'- Sharon's article '22 Ways to Love Yourself More'- PsychologyToday article 'The Unsettling Truth About What's Hurting Today's Students'Quotes:- “If the goal is unattainable and the alternative is failure, then we’re always going to be sitting in the failure camp.” (tweet)- “[Perfectionism] is often just as much about trying to meet other people’s expectations as it is about trying to meet your own expectations.” (tweet)- “The meat of learning is trying things and seeing what doesn’t work.” (tweet)- “You can think of life as a big experiment instead of a test where there’s a grade at the end.” (tweet)- “Maybe I can learn a lot of great things about myself, or about life, or about other people by taking a chance and not doing [something] so great.” (tweet)- “When we can be compassionate with ourselves, that’s when we can do better.” (tweet)- “There’s a lot of things in between success and failure.” (tweet)- “There’s still a lot of benefit in doing some of something or having it done imperfectly.” (tweet)Join the exclusive Cxmhunity Facebook group to interact with the hosts, guests, and other listeners by pledging just $1/month on Patreon!Support CXMH on Patreon or leave us a review on iTunes or Google Play! Check out our brand new merchandise to show off your love of CXMH or start conversations! Check out other episodes and find your favorite guest on our website.Connect with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.Intro/Outro music for this episode is Fall Down by Rivers & Robots.

Sharon Martin, LCSW, is dedicated to helping busy adults and teens in Silicon Valley manage stress in order to promote peace, balance, and happiness in their lives. In today’s episode, we discuss how self-esteem and negative self-talk affect this balance and happiness, and how people who work with children can foster a positive sense of self-worth in the next generation. We all tell ourselves a story about ourselves, which is impacted by the messages we hear every day, and this self-talk influences our sense of self.   Because the messages other people tell us influence our story, we often end up defining ourselves based on other people and a sense of relative achievement… but that is a quick path to negativity. Our sense of self has to be driven by what feels right, not what the outside world says is the right thing. Of course, this isn’t always easy – life is distracting, and the people in your life might contribute to this negative self-talk. On top of that, negative self-talk often tells us that we’re alone and isolated, so help seems that much farther away. There are some small mindset and lifestyle shifts that can help you build a positive belief system that makes life work for you. Recognize that everything you believe isn’t true… and some of your beliefs, messages, and values originally came from other people. Explore who you are, outside of what other people say. You don’t have to do specific things to prove your worth, and you shouldn’t have to prove your worth to receive love. Understand that failure isn’t the opposite of success – it’s part of the learning process. Don’t be afraid to take a risk in the future because of what happened in the past. If your environment has a negative effect, surround yourself with different people. Practice self-compassion in the face of negativity. There’s nothing inherently wrong with you because someone doesn’t like you or disapproves (and there’s nothing inherently wrong with them, either). Accept that you can’t control everything and, therefore, can’t be the cause of every problem. “There’s something very human about wanting to fit in, wanting to connect, and wanting approval from certain people… but that can’t be the driving force. There has to be something internal that feels right.” -- Resources: Connect with Sharon: Website | Facebook | Twitter Read Sharon’s Happily Imperfect blog   Pick up Sharon’s new eBook: How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt Interested in learning more about how I can help you through coaching?  Find out more at www.johnharrisoncounseling.com/individual-coaching/ Production & Development for True Calling Project by Podcast Masters

Are you a perfectionist? What does “perfectionism” really mean? How do we know if we’re struggle with perfectionism? What’s the problem with it anyway? I’m talking with perfectionism expert, Sharon Martin, LCSW, psychotherapist author of the blog, “Happily Imperfect,” and we’re sharing our best strategies for how to identify and overcome perfectionistic tendencies, unrealistically high expectations, and … Read more about this episode...