Becoming Man.

In this special episode, Anthony offers a eulogy in memory of his grandfather, who passed away from cancer on July 31st, 2022. After the eulogy, Marshall and Anthony discuss the legacy of his grandfather, and the legacy of grandparents in our lives in general. In loving memory of Grandpa Jim, 6/5/32-7/31/2022

In the Season 1 finale, Anthony shares his story of growing up in the Catholic Church, leaving it as an adult, and the impact of these experiences on his personal and professional life. Content warning: This episode contains sensitive subject matter including suicide, sexual, emotional, psychological, spiritual, and institutional abuse.

We did it. Anthony and Marshall share their thoughts on the Depp v Heard trial. As always, please subscribe, rate and review to the show.

Anthony and Marshall are joined by Danny Stanley, Reid Wilson, and Addison Mittelstaidet of Big Grove Brewery to discuss creating community within corporations, their business as a connection-building entity in communities, the integration of personal and professional life, and fostering holistic growth within professional life. Big Grove is a brewery located in Iowa that has taprooms in Solon, Iowa City and Des Moines. They have been connected with numerous outreach causes to promote connection, community and mental health awareness. Below is a link to their current "Big Grove For Good" community outreach page. https://biggrove.com/pages/big-grove-for-good

Anthony and Marshall are joined by Kayla Sellers, MA, tLMFT as a continuation of their parenthood series. Kayla shares her experiences of an unexpected pregnancy and the physical, emotional, and relational impacts of a difficult pregnancy and postpartum struggles. Kayla shares her professional and personal perspectives on the radical changes involved in her journey into motherhood, growing as a couple with her partner, and taking ownership of her professional and personal goals in spite of unforeseen challenges. Kayla Sellers received her MA in Marriage and Family Therapy from Mount Mercy University and is now a PhD student in Marriage and Family Therapy at the University of Iowa. She is also a practicing therapist at Waxwing Psychological Services, PLLC.

Building off of information provided in Part 1, Marshall and Anthony share their personal stories of becoming new fathers. The stories include their thought processes during their wives ' pregnancies, experiences in the first year, insecurities, and the impact on their friend and marriage relationships.

In this episode, Marshall and Anthony begin a series of episodes on new parenthood and its impact on men. The changes that can happen to couples after the birth of a child, change in identity as a new father and share our own experiences of becoming new fathers.

Anthony and Marshall discuss whether or not our individual, family and cultural pasts matter in our lives today.

Anthony and Marshall are joined by professional comedian and Anthony's childhood friend Nathan Hults. Nathan discusses his journey through addiction and recovery, and his life as a husband and father in a sweeping discussion that also addresses family secrets, bullying, religion, grief and loss, parenthood, trust after betrayal, humility, and the hard work of living a meaningful life. Nathan is the co-host of The Town Crier Podcast and co-founder of Sno Jam Comedy Festival in Sioux Falls South Dakota, January 19th-22nd at Boss' Comedy Club in Sioux Falls, SD. All proceeds from Sno Jam go to benefit the South Dakota Special Olympics. Nathan's website: http://www.nathanhults.com Sno Jam Comedy Festival: https://www.snojamcomedyfest.com The Town Crier Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0S19E59uzGpPJWrK8DG8M0?si=e3cd78b33dc64f33

Anthony and Marshall are joined by family therapist Michelle Caldwell to discuss her experience raising a son as a young single mother while pursuing her own personal and professional goals. Michelle shares her insights into the challenges facing young parents working on growing themselves, the value of community and family support, and the challenge of raising a biracial boy in today's world.

Marshall and Anthony are joined by a clinical psychologist and author Dr. Scott Eilers to discuss his book, "For WHen Everything's Burning."

Anthony and Marshall address a variety of topics related to sex and masculinity including sexual dysfunction, stress and anxiety and its impact on sexual health, pornography, the influence of cultural norms on the sex norms for males throughout development, and communication about struggles regarding sex and relationships.

In this episode, Anthony and Marshall discuss the recent scandal in the NFL involving former Las Vegas Raiders head coach Jon Gruden. Points of discussion include the difficulty of communicating about masculinity across generations, scapegoating of individuals in order to avoid responsibility, and how to have a conversation about controversial topics without polarizing one another.

Anthony and Marshall sidetrack this week to talk about representations of people who are elevated or highlighted by society, particularly those who fall outside the acceptable norms of thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors. Similarities and differences between a "rogue" and a "lunatic", used in the literary sense, are discussed. The hero's journey is also discussed.

Marshall and Anthony discuss one of the biggest ripple effects of grief and mourning- supporting someone who's grieving. Important topics include long-term caregiving, compassion fatigue, and processing your own struggles with these processes are covered.

Anthony and Marshall are joined by Hannah Bousek, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Grief Specialist for an in-depth conversation on grief and loss. Hannah offers expert insight into the many factors involved in grieving, addresses common myths and misconceptions about grief, and offers practical insight into how to move well through the grieving process.

Anthony and Marshall introduce the concept of grief in this week's episode. The concept of ambiguous loss, or a loss without closure, is also defined and strategies for navigating this experience are introduced. This episode, and our grief series, is dedicated to fallen military service members, especially the members of Extortion 17, who passed away in combat on August 6th, 2011. https://www.31heroes.org/

Anthony and Marshall continue discussing change by exploring the challenge of risking instability and loss in the face of change. The conversation examines the power of changing within relationships as well as more strategies for engaging in meaningful change.

Anthony and Marshall discuss the challenges that arise when you know you need to change but feel like you can't. Anthony's anxiety about sharing personal stories is used as a catalyst to explore the wisdom of reaching out when you're stuck in a rut. The episode finishes with practical steps to identify problems and take back control to initiate change in our lives.

Description: In this week's episode, Anthony and Marshall discuss the quote: "Shame occurs when you haven't been able to get away with the 'who' you want people to think you are." by Carl Whitaker. They debate whether the gap between who we are and who we want to be is self-deception or the consequence of circumstance and discuss the factors involved in men's differing responses to experiences of shame by answering the question: Why do some men grow from encounters with shame while others wither from them?

Marshall and Anthony begin Becoming Man's series on shame by discussing defining shame and discussing its impact on family relationships across generations.

Anthony and Marshall discuss men's experience with and relationship to work. The meaning and investment that men often put into work, work/life balance, and the connection between providing for a family and loving are explored.

Marshall continues to share the legacy of the most influential people in his life. This week, he explores the impact of good women on his growth as a man.

Anthony and Marshall begin exploring the impact of good men in their lives. In this week's episode, Marshall shares the positive impact that his father, a professional mentor, and a former boss had, and continue to have, on his life as an individual, professional, husband, and father.

Marshall and Anthony explore the role society and culture play in men's expression of violence, and the attribution of violence to masculinity. They ask the vital question, "can violence be a generative force and not only a destructive one?". The role of society in influencing individual behavior and the relational impact of this dynamic is also examined.

In the episode, Anthony and Marshall move the discussion of violence out of the individual's self-concept and into relationships. The role that violence, and messages about violence, plays in the development of relationships, ways of relating, and parenting are addressed. Marshall and Anthony share personal stories about parenting and forming friendships, and discuss violence as both a destructive and generative force.

At some point in life, most males encounter the reality of violence in their social worlds. This process often includes deciding how violence will play a role in a male's sense of self. In this episode, Anthony and Marshal share personal experiences of how the capacity for and expression of aggression and violence formed their sense of self from childhood into adulthood. The impact of this process for them is also addressed, as well as the benefits and drawbacks of these experiences on their lives today.

Marshall and Anthony begin Becoming Man's series on masculinity and violence by reflecting on the role of violence in the upbringing of males, violence in the context of relationships, and the male's relationship to violence in society.

Anthony and Marshall discuss what happens when people encounter information or insight that forces them to embrace growth and change or atrophy into a lesser version of themselves. Both share personal stories of these experiences and contextualize the experiences within their ongoing process of maturation and growth as men.

This week, Anthony and Marshall respond to listener questions about the relationship between looking for meaning and purpose in life and mental health struggles. They answer these questions by sharing their own experiences of becoming fathers, pursuing their professional ambitions, and experiencing the risks and rewards of becoming vulnerable in relationships.

Anthony and Marshall take a deep dive into the history of masculine psychology in this episode.  Drawing from early masculine psychology literature, Anthony and Marshall spell out some of the core features of modern masculinity, how masculinity is often deeply connected to a male's self-esteem, and how masculinity became such a polarizing topic in our current cultural conversations. Marshall and Anthony also share personal stories about the impact of today's topics on them as children and adults.

In this episode, Marshall and Anthony highlight effective strategies for managing mental health concerns and finding wellness. They also explore the importance of connection, trust, and shared meaning in relationships with friends, family, and partners. Marshall and Anthony share about the importance of trusting relationships in their own lives and the benefits of being vulnerable about personal struggles. The episode ends with practical strategies for what to do if a friend or family member tells you they are struggling.

In this episode, Anthony and Marshall discuss the impact of depression and suicide on males in the United States. They provide statistics on the rate of depression and suicide for males and discuss the impact of silence that often surrounds the mental and emotional pain of men. This episode contains sensitive material, including a discussion of suicide. If you or anyone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please reach out for help. If you are facing a crisis situation, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255 or your local emergency services for immediate help.

Welcome to the "Becoming Man." podcast where we explore the human experience of becoming from a male perspective. In this episode Anthony and Marshall discuss the idea of 'becoming man' and lay the foundation for what Season 1 will explore and bring to listeners.