Chooch On The Loose

Well, the cat's out the bag and now you all know I'm recovering from the lovely Delta variant of the Rona, which is why I missed an episode earlier this month. Today's episode is really quick, but I'm a hot ass fucking crying mess sharing a poem I recently wrote about a miscarriage I had in 2017 called "Not Worthy." Sorry for the snot nosed congestion, I had been crying a lot.  ++++ Have a comment, question, topic request or feedback? Email us at choochontheloose@gmail.com. ++++ If you haven't yet shared the episode with a friend or rated, reviewed and subscribed, do that shit ASAP. Ratings and reviews helps the podcast get found so we (who is we? IDK) can make $ and have oiled up muscular mens fan us & feed us grapes. If you really wanna help us reach that goal, our Venmo is @sonjacharde, Cash App $sonjacharde. You can also click the "support" link below. Consider it reparations and collective care. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Today it's just me, myself and Irene. Who the fuck is Irene, tho? Why do people say this saying? But for real, it's just me. I'm really fucking happy lately and May is Mental Health Awareness Month. I talk through how I think I got to this place where I'm happy as Mary Fuckin Poppins and give some encouragement and advice that no one asked for on how to (maybe) find your own happy place.  ++++ Check out our website thesolcollective.org! Treat yourself to tees, sweatshirts & mugs - some inspired by our podcast and some that encourage self-love & self-reflection. I published a whole ass guided book called "Fuck Those Voices: A Love Letter & Journal For Women Who Live With Trauma." It's a guided journal with affirmations, reflection prompts & stories of my trauma healing journey to help women begin the process of healing themselves.  Use code "Chooch" for $4 off any purchase over $30 on our website. You knowwww you love a discount! ++++ Have a comment, question, topic request or feedback? Email us at choochontheloose@gmail.com. ++++ If you haven't yet shared the episode with a friend or rated, reviewed and subscribed, do that shit ASAP. Ratings and reviews helps the podcast get found so we (who is we? IDK) can make $ and have oiled up muscular dark skinned mens fan us & feed us grapes. If you really tryna help us reach that goal, our Venmo is @sonjacharde, Cash App $sonjacharde. You can also click the "support" link below. The legendary T.I. said it ain't trickin if you got it. Go head and send that money "expeditiously." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

My newly found Melanin Sister, Rupa Joshi, joins me from the other side of the pond. We talk boundaries as women of color, self-love, colonization, White people and how they be White peopling, appropriation, healing the inner child and other stuff I can't remember. Rupa is an Indian woman of many talents with a voice like expensive satin. She's a poetess, a NLP & mindfulness coach, podcaster (link below), trained Indian classical dancer, amazing cook, hypnotherapist, business woman and philanthropist. Clearly, she's a true Renaissance woman :) Her new poetry collection, "Fireflies and Shooting Stars" can be bought here Facebook: Nidhi R Joshi Instagram: @bohemian_buddha Twitter @BohemianBudda LinkedIn TikTok The Soul Provocateur Podcast  ++++ Check out our website thesolcollective.org! Treat yourself to tees, sweatshirts & mugs - some inspired by our podcast and some that encourage self-love & self-reflection. I published a whole ass guided book called "F**k Those Voices: A Love Letter & Journal For Women Who Live With Trauma." It's a guided journal with affirmations, reflection prompts & stories of my trauma healing journey to help women begin the process of healing themselves.  Use code "Chooch" for $4 off any purchase over $30 on our website. You knowwww you love a discount! ++++ Have a comment, question, topic request or feedback? Email us at choochontheloose@gmail.com. ++++ If you haven't yet shared the episode with a friend or rated, reviewed and subscribed, do that shit ASAP. Ratings and reviews helps the podcast get found so we (who is we? IDK) can make $ and have oiled up muscular mens fan us & feed us grapes. If you really wanna help us reach that goal, our Venmo is @sonjacharde, Cash App $sonjacharde. You can also click the "support" link below. Consider it reparations and collective care.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Going thru a pre-midlife crisis and I don't have it in me to interview guests and edit podcasts. I'm committed to showing up however the fuck I am and doing what feels right intuitively. Today, all I have in me is a quick update and poetry. The piece I'm reading is called "Who's The Next Lucky Girl" and I wrote it in 1999 when I was 13 shortly after I was raped for the first time. Enjoy!   ++++ Check out our website thesolcollective.org! Treat yourself to tees, sweatshirts & mugs - some inspired by our podcast and some that encourage self-love & self-reflection. I published a whole ass guided book called "Fuck Those Voices: A Love Letter & Journal For Women Who Live With Trauma." It's a guided journal with affirmations, reflection prompts & stories of my trauma healing journey to help women begin the process of healing themselves.  Use code "Chooch" for $4 off any purchase over $30 on our website. You knowwww you love a discount! ++++ Have a comment, question, topic request or feedback? Email us at choochontheloose@gmail.com. ++++ If you haven't yet shared the episode with a friend or rated, reviewed and subscribed, do that shit ASAP. Ratings and reviews helps the podcast get found so we (who is we? IDK) can make $ and have oiled up muscular dark skinned mens fan us & feed us grapes. If you really tryna help us reach that goal, our Venmo is @sonjacharde, Cash App $sonjacharde. You can also click the "support" link below. The legendary T.I. said it ain't trickin if you got it. Go head and send that money "expeditiously." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Ohhhhh hey! Didn't see you there! Welcome back bayyyyybeeeeee! I'm so excited for season two and all the shit we'll be talking about. Our first episode is just me (your fav person). I give a short, informal update of my upscale dumpster fire ass life. I share three nonconventional tips that help me deal with trauma triggers and meltdowns and remind you that it's ok to NOT BE OK. Because bitch I am NOT OK most the time, ok?!?! ++++ Check out our website thesolcollective.org! Treat yourself to tees, sweatshirts & mugs - some inspired by our podcast and some that encourage self-love & self-reflection. I published a whole ass guided book called "Fuck Those Voices: A Love Letter & Journal For Women Who Live With Trauma." It's a guided journal with affirmations, reflection prompts & stories of my trauma healing journey to help women begin the process of healing themselves.  Use code "Chooch" for $4 off any purchase over $30 on our website. You knowwww you love a discount! ++++ Have a comment, question, topic request or feedback? Email us at choochontheloose@gmail.com. ++++ If you haven't yet shared the episode with a friend or rated, reviewed and subscribed, do that shit ASAP. Ratings and reviews helps the podcast get found so we (who is we? IDK) can make $ and have oiled up muscular dark skinned mens fan us & feed us grapes. If you really tryna help us reach that goal, our Venmo is @sonjacharde, Cash App $sonjacharde. The honorary T.I. said it ain't trickin if you got it. Go head and send that money "expeditiously." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Hey Boos Hey! I'm joined today with my Polish sister from another mister, Jean Swiderski. She's an inspiration and strong ass motherfucker who takes no shit. We talk about how she sees her childhood trauma as a strength and how she's been able to shift that pain and thrive.  ++++ Check out our website thesolcollective.org! Treat yourself to tees, sweatshirts & mugs - some inspired by our podcast and some that encourage self-love & self-reflection. I published a whole ass guided book called "Fuck Those Voices: A Love Letter & Journal For Women Who Live With Trauma." It's a guided journal with affirmations, reflection prompts & stories of my trauma healing journey to help women begin the process of healing themselves.  Use code "Chooch" for $4 off any purchase over $30 on our website. You knowwww you love a discount! ++++ Have a comment, question, topic request or feedback? Email us at choochontheloose@gmail.com. ++++ If you haven't yet shared the episode with a friend or rated, reviewed and subscribed, do that shit ASAP. Ratings and reviews helps the podcast get found so we (who is we? IDK) can make $ and have oiled up muscular dark skinned mens fan us & feed us grapes. If you really tryna help us reach that goal, our Venmo is @sonjacharde, Cash App $sonjacharde. The honorary T.I. said it ain't trickin if you got it. Go head and send that money "expeditiously." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Hey Boos Hey! In this episode, I'm joined again by one of my best friends, Jillian Mazzariello-Ahee (you may remember her from our previous episode about infertility). We talk about our starkly different parenting styles and how we've supported each other on our motherhood journeys even though we hardly ever agree on each other's approaches. We talk about co-sleeping, Judge Ass Judys of parenting (fuck y'all), some dumb invention called the Owlet, old school Puerto Rican mom remedies we were taught, raising your kid to be independent and a host of other shit. Our lives have never been in sync, but one thing that's never wavered is our love for each other and commitment to our relationship. I'd die and kill for her and that's that on that.  ++++ Check out our website thesolcollective.org! Treat yourself to tees, sweatshirts & mugs - some inspired by our podcast and some that encourage self-love & self-reflection. I published a whole ass guided book called "Fuck Those Voices: A Love Letter & Journal For Women Who Live With Trauma." It's a guided journal with affirmations, reflection prompts & stories of my trauma healing journey to help women begin the process of healing themselves.  Use code "Chooch" for $4 off any purchase over $30 on our website. You knowwww you love a discount! ++++ Have a comment, question, topic request or feedback? Email us at choochontheloose@gmail.com. ++++ If you haven't yet shared the episode with a friend or rated, reviewed and subscribed, do that shit ASAP. Ratings and reviews helps the podcast get found so we (who is we? IDK) can make $ and have oiled up muscular dark skinned mens fan us & feed us grapes. If you really tryna help us reach that goal, our Venmo is @sonjacharde, Cash App $sonjacharde. The honorary T.I. said it ain't trickin if you got it. Go head and send that money "expeditiously." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Hey Boos Hey! In this episode, I'm joined by a long time college friend, Jacob Brodsky. He holds the esteemed title of being one of my token gay white friends (actually, I think I only have ONE friend that is both white AND gay, so, he's extra special). We touch on why toxic positivity doesn't help people or situations, how words and thoughts become things, different things we do to manifest shit in our lives and shift our mindsets and a whole bunch of other random shit because that's what friends tend to do when they talk.   ++++ Our website is live at thesolcollective.org! Treat yourself to tees, sweatshirts & mugs - some inspired by our podcast and some that encourage self-love & self-reflection. I published a whole ass guided book called "Fuck Those Voices: A Love Letter & Journal For Women Who Live With Trauma." It's a guided journal with affirmations, reflection prompts & stories of my trauma healing journey to help women begin the process of healing themselves.  Use code "Chooch" for $4 off any purchase over $30 on our website. You knowwww you love a discount! ++++ Have a comment, question, topic request or feedback? Email us at choochontheloose@gmail.com.  ++++ If you haven't yet shared the episode with a friend or rated, reviewed and subscribed, do that shit ASAP. Ratings and reviews helps the podcast get found so we (who is we? IDK) can make $ and have oiled up muscular dark skinned mens fan us & feed us grapes. If you really tryna help us reach that goal, our Venmo is @sonjacharde, Cash App $sonjacharde. The honorary T.I. said it ain't trickin if you got it. Go head and send that money "expeditiously." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

In the season's finale, I give you six tips to manage the holidays without loosing your fucking mind. I'm pausing episodes until March 2021 in order to allow me some time to make new content, plan episodes and interview some guests. And also, to allow me a break so that I don't loose my fucking mind, because sometimes the pressure of entrepreneurship has made that scenario questionable. I will be sure to drop a quick bonus episode whenever the podcast tees drop (sorry for the delay), whenever that may be. Friendly reminder that you can send me any comments, questions, feedback or hit me up about being a guest on an episode at choochontheloose@gmail.com Or on IG @choochontheloose. You can schedule an interview here! https://calendly.com/thesolcollective/chooch-on-the-loose-podcast-recording. Lots of love to you all, hope you survive the holidays! See you in March 2021.   --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

**Trigger Warning: abuse, sexual assault, molestation, PTSD, mental health, trauma**In this episode, I'm joined by Joey Garza, founder of Above The Stigma, a non profit whose mission is to de-stigmatize mental health. We get real as fuck and shoot the shit about men and mental health, sexual assault, child molestation and the barriers that men face in getting the help they need to thrive mentally. I'm in awe and inspired by Joey. He's an amazingly resilient human being with a heart of gold and I'm so proud of him and honored to be a safe space where he can share his story.  You can follow Above The Stigma on IG @_abovethestigma_ and learn more about their endeavors, donate money (don't be cheap, heaux!), contact Joey at joey@abovethestigma.com and support  this life changing cause at abovethestigma.com. If you're in the Dublin, California area and reading this before 12/20/20 and you're into running and fitness shit, sign up to to join Above The Stigma at the "Santa Claus For A Mental Health Cause 5k"  here: https://tinyurl.com/y5p5qamr . Friendly reminder that you can send me any comments, questions, feedback or hit me up about being a guest on an episode at choochontheloose@gmail.com Or on IG @choochontheloose. Lots of love to you all.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

**Trigger  Warning: trauma, abuse, repressed memories** Today's episode is an emotional ass trip to science and psychology class as we walk down memory lane and I share how trauma has personally shaped my memories, relationships and emotional intelligence. You also get to hear an amazing side bar about why I LOVE Black funerals. It was exhausting and cathartic and I cried a little, so if you feel sad about me crying and want to buy me a cookie, cake, coffee, chocolate, whiskey, wine, bath salts and other shit that healthy people indulge in when they have emotional responses to shit, my Cash App is $Sonjacharde and Venmo is @sonjacharde. Oh, and I've got merch coming soon and as soon as it's live, I'll let ya'll know! Friendly reminder that you can send me any comments, questions, feedback or hit me up about being a guest on an episode at choochontheloose@gmail.com Or on IG @choochontheloose. Lots of love to you all.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

**Trigger  Warning: addiction, mental abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse.** October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Today I have a heart to heart with a person who has one of the biggest spaces in my heart, my mom, the Queen of my life, Maria Nelly Davila.  We talk about her experience as a DV survivor, how she left, how she is beginning to heal, how we mended our relationship and how living this experience continues to effect both of our lives decades after the fact. If you or someone you know needs help, you can go to thehotline.org or call 800-799-SAFE (7233).  Also, I'm tech savvy AF because I learned how to add a sound to alert you that a sponsor ad is coming on. Wow, I'm so smart and wise.  Friendly reminder that you can send me any comments, questions, feedback or hit me up about being a guest on an episode at choochontheloose@gmail.com Or on IG @choochontheloose  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

This week I meet with my friend Cynthia Padilla Pearson to discuss Post Partum Depression which is stupidly called the "baby blues." Cynthia is Puerto Rican (Weeeeeeepppppppaaaaaaaaa) so you get to enjoy us saying some Spanglish, if that's your thing (why wouldn't it be your thing, though?). Cynthia is passionate AF about women's rights as it pertains to safety and is an advocate to end violence against women and is a  leader in victim rights advocacy in Atlanta. She also has a business, Trauma Conflict Consulting that helps people navigate trauma and conflict in the workplace and in life by teaching skills that include more that using Vicks Vapor Rub (read that as "Vi Vapoo Roo" in a Spanglish accent) as the cure all for all of our shit. Bc newsflash - it's NOT the cure. You can follow her business on IG @traumaconflictconsulting to learn more.  This podcast was recorded at a local coffee shop (shout out to Gilly Brew Bar, it's Black owned) because COVID is a cock blocker and we can't be at each other's houses. As a result, there's some background noise. It adds character, and everyone loves character, so please don't let it deter you from listening. Also, Cynthia has a nice angelic voice and mine is loud AF and not angelic at all so sometimes my voice is louder than hers. Please adjust and readjust your volume accordingly, it's worth the listen and I promise I'll learn how to edit audio and cut out background noise and whatnot soonish (send HALP). For resources on Post Partum Depression, search the hashtag #PPD on InstaGram or go to PostPartum.net or https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/depression/index.htm. Be sure to subscribe/rate/review on Apple Podcasts, follow on Spotify, Google Podcasts and Anchor, text a friend or share it to your social media :) Oh, and friendly reminder that you can send me any comments, questions, feedback or hit me up about being a guest on an episode at choochontheloose@gmail.com Or on IG @choochontheloose. I love you all.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

This week I'm feeling throw some hot grits from a stove and swing a cast iron skillet to someone's head angry. Heads up that this episode is balls to the walls style so it's non-scripted and I took no notes beforehand. I talk about my experiences being catcalled/street harassed, how it infuriates me to my core and how I rarely feel safe in my own body as a woman out in public spaces in the world. I really need to make more $ via sponsors/ad listens so that I can reach my big life time goal of being fed fruit while laying on a bed of money naked in a fur. Soooo, to help me help you (because when this happens, there could be pics!) by being sure to subscribe/rate/review on Apple Podcasts, follow on Spotify, Google Podcasts and Anchor, text a friend or share it to your social media :) Oh, and friendly reminder that you can send me any comments, questions, feedback or hit me up about being a guest on an episode at choochontheloose@gmail.com Or on IG @choochontheloose. I love you all. Except street harassers. I don't fucking love y'all AT ALL.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

This week I have a real and very fucking raw convo with one of my bravest, strongest and closest friends, more like a sister, Jillian Mazzariello-Ahee, about her non-traditional journey to become a mother.  We also talk about how her hot lesbian wife loves to kiss me (*wink, wink*). Not safe for your fucking kidsssssssssss. But my kid makes a 2 second debut on the episode, so apparently it's safe for him! Friendly reminder that you can send me any comments, questions, feedback or hit me up about being a guest on an episode at choochontheloose@gmail.com Or on IG @choochontheloose --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

*Trigger Warning* Childhood trauma, addiction, domestic violence, abuse. Today's episode is a conversation with one my soul mates + best friends, Alana (aka Lana) Martin (Uh-Lahh-Nah).  We get vulnerable AF + share some of the darkest parts of us while we talk about our childhood traumas, how it has shaped our perceptions of the world + what we are doing to try keep healing,  to survive + be healthier.  Kudos to Lana for being brave AF + for coming to the conversation with her full mind +  heart, it's really hard + scary. If you are struggling with trauma + just need someone to listen, hit me up. I'm willing to be a listening ear. You are not alone. I see you. You are beautiful + strong. You can contact me at choochontheloose@gmail.com or on InstaGram @choochontheloose if you need that listening ear or to provide any comments, suggestions or questions or if you wanna be a guest on the show.  ---  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Today I share a raw, unedited, unscripted story about my journey as a Black single parent to a special needs child. I struggled about whether or not to do this, because people LOVE to be Judge Ass Judy when it comes to motherhood and I don't have the mental bandwidth to deal with that...but what the fuck ever. Let the Shaming Sheila's shame. I feel like there may be a woman out there who feels the same way I do and she may need to hear my story so she is affirmed that she is not alone, not a bad mother and not a horrible person. As always, email our very official AF email address choochontheloose@gmail.com to provide any comments, suggestions or questions or if you wanna be a guest and talk about some shit with me.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Today's episode is a conversation with my amazing fuckin cousin, Rohan DaCosta. We started out talking about respectability politics among Black ppl + ended up talking about all things Blackness. This podcast is NOT sensitive to White privilege or White tears so, hide your sensitive White fragility. Issa lil longer than my other ones (okay a lot) but Rohan has a beautiful mind that you'll wanna hear everything he has to say. He's an amazingly talented artist in Oakland + you can follow him at @unruly_dacosta on Instagram and buy his poetry book at Nomadic Press. I was drinking Guidance Whiksey (neat) again - they really need to sponsor me. As always, email our very official AF email address choochontheloose@gmail.com to provide any comments, suggestions or questions or if you wanna be a guest and talk about some shit with me. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Today's episode is a response to an email from a listener, my White soul brother, N.K., asking me to “do an episode on why capitalism is evil and blame White people for it. You know I'm here for it!” Look at my listeners coming through! A few ads and a Guidance and Kava Whiskey shout out (not sponsored - but it fuckin could be) As always, email our very official AF email address choochontheloose@gmail.com to provide any comments, suggestions or questions. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Today I've got two listener questions about being openminded sexually, accepting myself and others. Today there's no house music in the episode butttttt there's an awkward ass segway into an ad bc I need some fuckin pennies! Also, we officially have an email. Send comments, podcast topics or questions you want answered to choochontheloose@gmail.com. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Just in case the title isn't self-explanatory, I'm awkwardly ranting and rambling about under titty sweat. I'm also clarifying how to pronounce “Chooch” and giving a half ass introduction of myself. I'll do a better introduction next time? Or will I? Only one way to finnnd out! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support

Hey Boos. I've been a little behind on podcasting lately and have been going through some shit. Here's a 2 min update on some of what's been going on with me. I love y'all and I'll be back in your ear soon. Smooches! I love y'all and really appreciate you all's support. Friendly reminder that you can send me any comments, questions, feedback or hit me up about being a guest on an episode at choochontheloose@gmail.com Or on IG @choochontheloose --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/choochontheloose/support