Miss Amanda Chen Show

Do you remember the last time you truly played, like as a kid at a playground? If you feel guilty about having fun or doing literally anything that doesn't bring you money or potential money, then this conversation is for you.  In today's episode of Learning How to Live, we learn how to play with Jeff Harry, professional play expert who goes into the offices of some of the greatest places to work to teach us how to play. Yeah, thats a real job! The biggest takeaway from this conversation is that it's not our fault that we don't know how to play. We have been looking for happiness in all the wrong places, when we ourselves are already the most fun.   Connect with Jeff: Website: RediscoverYourPlay.com Instagram: @jeffharryplays

Welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show podcast. We are in Season 5 - Learning How To Live. And a lot of that learning is about making the choice to live. And maybe that involves taking the risk to move your life to a brand new city you have never been before. In today's episode, I sit down with my new friend Kelly Stefanski, who literally just packed up her life and moved to Oaxaca, without ever even visiting before coming here! She shares her story about living in a cabin in the woods for a year after leaving a partnership that suffered through the pandemic, going through some deep self reflection, and now all of a sudden she is living in Oaxaca City and just adopted a dog. Tune in to celebrate the courage it takes to actually pack up and go. Follow her journey here: https://www.instagram.com/imitatenature/

I feel like we can all understand some concept of love, but how do we put it in practice? This week I really focused on the act of receiving love, and in that receiving I was able to give even more. In this episode, I talk about my friends visiting me in Oaxaca City for the first time. This is a big moment for me because I spent so much time giving my love by going to other parts of Mexico to see friends rather than having them to come to me. I never gave myself the space to receive love until now. Tune in to hear what happened and hopefully this might shift your perspective on how you think of love, and how you might give or receive love to both yourself and others.

Welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show podcast. We are in Season 5 where I talk about Learning How to Live. And in learning how to live, the first thing is to reflect on how we've learned how to work, believing that working permits us to live. But we're already alive, and yet we delay this blessing.  In this episode, I talk about redefining what success looks like and why I've changed the direction of this podcast to the style that it is today. I used to think that success would be attributed by the amount of listens, the 100 hours of sound bites, or getting wild stories that would shock and amaze people. These are all external things that take the true power of success away from you.  Success for me now is just a realization of myself and who I am. That way no person or thing can take success away from me. I have the power to give it to myself and I have the power to withhold it from myself. Make sure to subscribe and let me know if there is anything you would like me to talk about on the show. See you next Wednesday!

Welcome to Season 5: Learning How To Live. In today's episode I want to talk about authenticity and showing up for yourself. I was inspired by the quote, “We are constantly invited to be who we are.”  by poet Henry David Thoreau. Listen to my experience this week going on a virtual meditation retreat and learning how to stand up and speak up for myself when I enter an aggressive situation with my neighbour. At the end of the day, who is one person in your life? Why give them so much power to dictate how you are going to feel in your own skin? As painful and unusual and awkward as it might feel to show up, do it for you. There is no one saving me out here. I just have to show up or I go to bed as someone I know I'm not. And that I can't live with anymore. Let me know what you thought of this episode and send me your stories on showing up for yourself, as yourself. Make sure to follow and subscribe and I will see you next Wednesday with another episode on Learning How To Live.

Welcome to the first episode of Season 5: Learning How to Live. Today I talk about what a real day in the life looks like, and I ask the question - what makes a good day over a bad day? If you've been following my journey you know that I bought a one-way ticket to Mexico, sold everything I own and have been literally just living for the last six months. And that means living, not working. Of course, I will find random ways to make money here and there, but there is no plan. Im not working remotely. There is no safety net.  I'm writing about this because I felt like my day kind of sucked with moving all my things and feeling obviously really uneasy about my decision, which is a generally daily activity. Without focusing on whether something good or bad is happening to you, you can choose to make things happen for you instead. You are no longer the receiver of good or bad news, you are the active creator of good or bad things. How incredible is that? The biggest learning is that I have the power to change my day, and with that in mind, no day is ever a good or a bad day. It's just another day and we keep on living.

This is the Miss Amanda Chen Show Podcast with your host, Miss Amanda Chen! I'm an ex-journalist turned retired entrepreneur turned digital nomad turned nobody living nowhere just dropping truth bombs you may or may not resonate with.   Last year I started the 100 Masked Men Series and interviewed anonymous men from all walks of life about masculinity, self worth, and relationships. Over this time, I bought a one-way ticket to Mexico, sold everything I owned, walked away from hustle culture forever to live life in the wild. And in this journey I realized wow, I have spent so much time and energy learning how to work, how to be successful, how to survive, and how to thrive. And yes, I spent a lot of time speaking to men probably because I thought they were something for me to rise above, to overcome, again, speaking in work and success terms. But now I see men, people, and the world differently. And I m finally looking at myself differently. How will I show up in this world? How will I choose to live?   Join me on my adventure in Season 5: Learning How to Live, where I share my constant fears as a solo female traveler, hitchhiking in the middle of nowhere, not knowing the language, and not knowing anyone. As I am a full time straight-up traveler, I really try to stretch my dollar, negotiating on pretty much anything, sharing cars, beds, pots and pans with strangers and learning the local slang. The deeper I go in this adventure, the more I have to detach myself from the old life I had back home. Find out how I was able to make the official move, what my monthly budget looks like, how I can find temporary jobs and other remote ways to make money while I travel off-the-beaten path. Tune in as I share my incredible life lessons from the wildest experiences, learn how to solo travel Chen style and get tips on where to stay, what to do and how to get remote work, and enjoy some raw and honest interviews with beautiful strangers along the way.    Make sure to follow my journey on Instagram @missamandachen and send me a DM so I can answer any questions directly from followers like you. You're not going to want to miss the fifth season of the Miss Amanda Chen Show podcast, so don't forget to subscribe now and get the scoop on upcoming episodes. Until then, Amanda out!

Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen show podcast, I know it's been a while, but here I am. Today's episode I am reflecting on the 100 Masked Men Series, where I anonymously interviewed a hundred random men from all walks of life to understand and better my own relationship with men. And listening back to this last season, wow. Things have really changed not because I selected 25 better men, but because I became better.  This last season was about making the active choice to change our relationships. Check out this summary on the definition of masculinity and gender roles, relationships with fathers, women and sex, and the undervaluing of platonic friendships.  It was really tough to listen back to these conversations, but as I listened and heard the encouraging words from these men I realized I had at least two men in my life, every week, encouraging me and supporting me for going on this journey. Thanking me for giving them this time to talk and allowing them the space to share things that they never even thought about before. And that was enough to keep me going. Here are the reflections I have had after interviewing 100 Masked Men. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show! This is the final episode of the 100 Masked Men Series, where I anonymously interview men from all around the world about what it's like to be a man in the modern world today. Masked Man #100 is the Last Man. I really took my time looking for this one and I'm really glad I waited to cross paths with this Englishman that happened to be in Mexico City. After hearing a lot of personal accounts of perceived bad or toxic behaviour, it was interesting to find a man who basically ghosted his friend after suspecting that he might be abusive to his romantic partners. What happens when you know someone who might not actually be a harm to themselves, but more of a harm to others? In this episode, he shares his story on discovering that his best friend may not be as honest as he claims to be. I think this is a valuable conversation in assessing how men can gaslight other men into thinking they are the crazy ones. Make sure to subscribe and stay tuned to my last series summary on the 100 Masked Men and who knows what I will release in Season 5. Until then, Amanda out!

Welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show! We are 99 episodes in the 100 Masked Men Series and today I sat down with our audio editor, Shyloe Fagan to reflect over a year's worth of awkward silences and difficult conversations with a wide range of random dudes. In this episode we reflect on all the crazy guys that we've had on the show, how foreign the concept of friendship is for men, and how vulnerability is often only acceptable if spoken about pain or trauma, when actually vulnerability takes many forms. Shyloe even reveals my famous power move in interviews that I didn't even notice until she brought it up. I'm so grateful for having the opportunity to share so many intimate conversations with you over this year and I can't wait to wrap up this Series with the final episode for you next Wednesday. Bye for now!

Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We´re in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. Masked Man #99 is the Accountability Act. He shares his story about how he followed a girl to hitchhike through Mexico, and 9 years later he's permanently living in Costa Rica. And after that beautiful relationship, he admits he still ended up cheating on her with, of course, a young intern, and ultimately losing her trust forever. In this episode, we hear how he voluntarily took to social media with his now ex partner to confess his failure and consulted her about what she thought would be a fair consequence for his actions. He says this is a way to take accountability, and be the example he has not seen in other unfaithful men he doesn't aspire to be. And I appreciate how he gave her the space to really express herself in this situation, but it makes me ask the question - does the public need to be involved to achieve accountability? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. Masked Man #98 is The Sex Addict. He joined the 12-step program for Sex Addicts Anonymous after his partner seeked help with Partners of Sex Addicts. After losing his best friend from a stint with sexual allegations from his ex and his behaviour with porn and sexting ruining his relationship, he shares his spiritual journey on finding compassion and forgiveness for himself. I think this is an incredible story to listen to as someone who also struggled with sex addiction where celibacy is the path I am on today.  In this episode we discuss how we might reproach consequences to sexual misconducts, but more importantly, what redemption and re-acceptance would look like, because if there is no way to be accepted back into your community after a mistake has been made, then why bother trying to be better? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We´re in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.  Continuing with this week's theme on the end of things, Masked Man #97 is the Self Made Man. He shares his story on fighting to be in his daughter's life, which is so different from the typical idea of a man being trapped into fatherhood and running out. His daughter is all grown up and just left for college so he's now a retired dad and we both relate to figuring out where we go from here once we reach the end.  In this episode he tells me how being a father at a super young age made him more ferocious rather than soft. I think that is an important distinction to make because we always think that men simply melt when they have a daughter, but perhaps there is more behind that? We talk about the inevitable mortality that comes with fatherhood and being called daddy in the bedroom isn't the same thing anymore. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. It's the home stretch of the series, and this week's theme is all about the end of things. Masked Man #96 is The Masked Performance. He shares his story of a particularly memorable relationship with a woman that showed him a pure love, one that was unconditional, that didn't require him to have to work or perform for it. He wasn't ready to accept it at that time, and we talked about the end of things and how that shapes who we are today. In this episode we challenge each other to give space to hear a perspective that doesn't align with our own. I always encourage normalizing more uncomfortable conversations and this one got pretty dicey! It was a perfect example to see how much of our habits are learned behaviours from what we saw on TV and movies. And how I am now actively working on removing those behaviours by simply not watching TV and movies, nor eating meat, or drinking alcohol, or even having sex. So let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.  Continuing this week's theme on boundaries, Masked Man #95 is the Travelling Therapist. We go in depth on mental health and the imbalance in our relationships, especially with your therapist, coach, mentor, someone in the field of personal development. We talked about how to cultivate collaboration rather than an expert-teacher relationship, and a topic I loved talking about, un-communicated expectations. He believes we should hold expectations for others as long as they are communicated, versus the more toxic thought that nobody owes you shit so we must detach ourselves completely from the actions of others.  In this episode we talk about the value we put in our relationships, and how much of it is really about seeming to be accommodating, or about just having a connection with somebody, having a person, settling with any person, because we are so afraid of being alone and without a person. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. This week's theme is all about boundaries. Masked Man #94 is The Grand Gesture. He shares his story on thriving in one of those explosive, chaotic relationships that he was so proud to be in - you know what I mean! And in giving so much, pushing through the resistance, doing all that you can, and feeling immensely hurt and discouraged when you don't receive a standing ovation of a thank you for all your effort. In this episode we talk about seeing both sides to the story, on setting your own boundaries as well as respecting the boundaries of others. I really enjoyed the authenticity in this interview and having this as yet another example of the wide spectrum of where we all are in our own journeys. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.  Continuing with this week's theme on building better relationships, Masked Man #93 is the Emotionally Illiterate Man. This is a term he actually used to call himself and it really shows how much we identify with our words. This is a powerful conversation about a man who learns how to love and really puts in the effort to articulate the pain involved in expressing emotions.  In this episode we talk about compromise in an analogy of meeting in the middle, and I am obviously a bit skeptical as I don't want women to keep having to over accommodate the emotional support in relationships. Can we find a common ground? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. Now that we are in the home stretch of the series, this week's theme is all about getting into new relationships. Masked Man #92 is The One That Got Away. He shares his love story on finding the right person at the wrong time. They dated briefly, separated, and came back together ten years later and recently got married, In this episode we talk about what love means, and how we prove our love to someone versus how someone proves their love to us. We talk about compromise and what it means to truly work together in a relationship rather than one person just conceding to let the other win to maybe avoid a fight or something. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.  Continuing with this week's theme on communication, Masked Man #91 is the Green Flag. This young man shares his story reflecting on his last relationship and how his actions, or lack of actions, led to their separation. I appreciate this conversation because we go into how much we hurt others when we don't communicate.  In this episode we talk about how we might default to let men lead in a relationship, but then when does the woman ever get a chance to practice being in the driver's seat? It made us question why we default in general and the criteria we use to choose who should be in the lead. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. This week's theme is all about the importance of communication. Masked Man #90 is The Question of the Day. He creates videos on a thoughtful question of the day to encourage more meaningful conversations. This man comes from a background in restorative justice and a lot of his work is around developing better relationships through communication. In this episode we talk about what respect means, that it is typically thought of as something you can benefit from someone rather than something you give just for the sake of it. We talk about how to raise better young men and to move away from the drill sergeant intimidation technique and instead giving compassion and meeting people where they are. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. Continuing with this week's theme on vulnerability, Masked Man #89 is the Ashamed Man. He shares his story about having HSV (or more commonly known as herpes) and how that has affected his romantic relationships. I really wanted to get into more of the physicality of our sexuality with this one, and we uncovered so much guilt and shame. I mean how many of you still make herpes jokes in the group chat? I really appreciate the vulnerability in this episode, from the guilt in giving HSV to a partner without telling her to now making sure it is something he discusses straight away. I think it's a conversation we really need to dig into deeper. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.  Masked Man #88 is The Masked Provider. Rather than just defining what masculinity means, we take it one step further to speak about how we show up in relationships, what is the core masculine role that we embody, and do we switch roles depending on who we believe should lead?  In this episode we discuss the difficulty that we experience in wanting to follow our natural feminine or masculine energy, but resist it because of the shame we have received in our lives. Whether that is not letting a man open the door for you because you can do it all by yourself or you can't be vulnerable in front of a woman because what kind of man are you - it's like we're doomed either way as fulfilling or not fulfilling the stereotype. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. Continuing with this week's theme on dismantling the social construct of gender, Masked Man #87 is the Drag Queen. He shares his story about how drag helped him come to terms with the shame he felt for being feminine. In this episode we learn about how this man was continuously punished for performing any non-masculine behaviour, how that rejection made him repulse himself and try to follow the gender standards taught to him, to then find peace in drag.  We talk a lot about representation here, and how his experience was being a Mexican man embracing both his feminine self while also maintaining his family ties and culture, specifically with his relationship with his mother. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.  This week I'm questioning heterosexuality as a whole. Is straightness even real? Masked Man #86 is Cut Both Ways. In this conversation I learn about the risk involved in defining yourself as trans, the fetishization of the LGBTQ community, and practicing consent in a long-term relationship. After hearing this person unveil the silliness of deciding to date someone simply because of what is inside your pants, I literally whisper  that I don't believe straightness is real anymore. Rather, we are attracted to a lot of things, but the problem lies in trying to be the only thing someone is attracted to. Talk about control issues. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. Continuing with this week's theme on miscommunication on relationships, how much do we play up our sexual attraction with friends, just for the drama? Masked Man #85 is the Selfless Man. He shares his story about a best friend he's in love with and is doing everything in his power to destroy his feelings for her because it would be selfish to go for it.  I'm still a bit unclear about all the details, but it sounds like your typical third party situation and I actually get pretty heated because I don't back down when he calls me selfish. We obviously eventually arrive at the conclusion that choosing love would be the courageous thing to do, but only if you have this conversation with the third party and figure shit out. I guess we'll have to tackle that confrontation another day. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.  This week I'm focusing on miscommunication in relationships. Masked Man #84 is the Giver. He is a newly single man that gets really open and honest about how his last relationship fell apart. He talks about how he gives and gives and gives, and compromises his work and time for this girlfriend that apparently acted like it was never enough. And how trying to make her happy ultimately made him feel so trapped and stuck it sucked out all the love they had. Now I have heard about this a lot from men on this show, on prioritizing a relationship over their work and feeling lazy or like they're not at where they used to be when she wasn't in their life yet. But how often does love enter your life? Wouldn't that be worth taking a break from whatever your goals are, live a little? Then what are we living for, if not for love? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. Continuing with this week's theme on platonic relationships, I noticed that a lot of straight men don't have friendships with not only women but also gay men. Masked Man #83 is the Masked Outsider.  This is a fun episode where I get to chat with a gay man about his perspective observing straight men as an outsider looking in. I discovered him from his videos on red flags with straight men in relationship with women and I find it interesting that no one ever said he was wrong, they just said he was gay, so what does he know.  I can really relate with this one being a female host trying to understand the position of straight men and how we can all work together on building better relationships. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.  This week I'm focusing on platonic relationships. Masked Man #82 is the Best Friend. I discovered him on TikTok from his video on the weirdness of having a best friend act like a romantic partner and crossing boundaries. In this episode we talk about how we might like to remain in the grey zone in a friendship situation to feel like we can always get that ego boost with them, or maybe we want to use them to make our actual romantic partner jealous, whatever it is, it's just the fact that we are leveraging one person to affect our relationship with another person. I really hope in this conversation we can try to open up the discussion of platonic relationships to show that this can happen and that not every interaction with the opposite sex has to result in a tumultuous movie scene situation. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love in relationships. Masked Man #81 is the Disconnected Man. He bravely shares the three times he's been in a relationship and in all of those times he was abused, lied and cheated on. I think it's important to see that women do these things too, although it's just not spoken about that much.  In this episode I challenge him to think about how he might be in a cycle of repeating the same patterns, going for the same types of people, just to prove that he should be alone and that he can't trust anyone else but himself. It would be a different story if he tried things differently and got the same results. I guarantee you, just by changing you will receive a different result. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. Masked Man #80 is Ex-Wall Street. In this episode we talk a lot about the imposter syndrome, of overcompensating to do a good job in case we might get found out we're not actually who we say we are, and the courage in blocking out a poor mindset to realize how rich we really are.  We talk about leaving the matrix and traveling the world, and then returning home as a completely transformed person and how that can affect our relationships with our family and friends. What happens when you are so different you can't even recognize yourself? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love. On the theme of building better relationships, this week we're focusing on the most important relationship - the one we have with ourselves.  Masked Man #79 is the Isolated Man. He shares his experience about living alone for the first time and getting really comfortable with himself. So comfortable that socializing with people now is more of a challenge because he enjoys his company so much now. I'm sure we can all relate to this after the lockdown. In this episode we talk about feelings of resentment when we feel the other person isn't valuing our worth or even considering us in their plans. I don't think anyone intentionally tries to exclude the other from making a decision for the both of us, but how do we keep our eyes open for those non verbal cues that might suggest someone is uncomfortable about speaking up. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. This week we're moving on a higher vibration, so if you're into that self awareness thing, this one's for you. Masked Man #78 is the Conscious Man. He shares his story of coming from a very religious household, breaking out of that, and the isolation he received from choosing his own path. In this episode we talk a lot about the guilt we carry for not doing the right thing. But what exactly is right or wrong? Out of this conversation I learned that we might stay in a relationship with someone who is going through a hard time out of guilt of setting them off. And we take it even further when I think about how much I celebrated that man, praised him, for tolerating me at my worst. How could he leave now? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love in relationships. Masked Man #77 is the Man Behind the Walls. He bravely shares two love stories and how those experiences have made it difficult for him to trust in relationships today. I really like how honest he is in explaining why he resorts to the shut down method not because he doesn't have feelings, but because he doesn't want to hurt or be hurt. In this episode we discuss what it means to be truly in love, how much status is involved in how we choose partners, and the balance in having a desire to be needed in a relationship along with being able to fulfill your own needs. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. It's been a wild time learning to speak dude and get a glimpse of how these guys think, but I really want to push it this season and see how we can build better relationships. Masked Man #76 is the Friend With Benefits. We talk about how to filter out Fuck Boys and how to have a healthy relationship with sex. In this episode we talk about the new rules of dating, and how we are treating our partners like pets and use sex as a reward for good behaviour. We discuss what makes sex meaningful and share our thoughts on sexual health, from STDs to birth control.  And he shares an excellent example of a healthy Friends with Benefits situation. It can be done! Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

The theme for Season 4 is Choosing to Change. The final 25 interviews with anonymous men from all around the world as part of my 100 Masked Men Series will focus on changing our own behaviours to build better relationships with both ourselves as well as our interactions with those we care about the most. I hope you enjoy the show. New episodes drop on Wednesday.

Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show and here is the Season 3 recap of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.  This took me FOREVER to edit. It was such a transitional time for me and it definitely showed in these interviews. From giving compassion to the men on this show, I was able to give compassion and love to myself. And I reflect on a lot of our understanding of self worth and sex stems from fear of rejection. And of course, we debate about whether there is a virtue in ghosting and how some men have defined masculinity and the role for men in this modern world. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love. This week is the season finale and I´m finishing off our third quarter of the series with another stranger who dared to take the risk and live life on his own terms. Masked Man #75 is the Black Sheep. As the oldest in a household of 7 siblings, his decision to jump on a one-way ticket to Vancouver set the stage for his journey into the self. In this episode we discuss checking our egos when we have to return to a conversation we didn't really handle very well the first time. And it made me start to think about how much we always come back to something that already happened and try to repair the situation. Can we start having conversations and set intentions and expectations before things have to turn south? And you know how much I love using analogies so this episode we talk about making a sandwich. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. And this week is the season finale! So I went on a search for another man that also spends his time interacting with random strangers. Masked Man #74 is the Wandering Poet. He spends his life writing poems for people in the park and shares his observations on strange men. In this episode we talk about getting intimate with strangers, the unspoken danger in social situations with acquaintances, how hurt people hurt people, what trust means in a relationship, our lack of vocabulary to articulate the breath of our emotions and whether there are good and bad aspects to ghosting. And in general, we discuss how to cultivate more compassion for shitty men. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, relationships and self love. Masked Man #73 is the Man With Intention. He shares his perspective on what it means to live with intention, as a balance of openness to receive what the world brings you through the interactions we have with select people in this world. In this episode, we bring up the notion of getting burned when touching a hot pan and learning not to do it again. But then does that encourage us to seek out people to cook on our behalf? Or, do we learn how to hold a pan and then use that as leverage against those that have not learned? All about ego, intentions and expectations, layered in fear and self worth. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, and how our relationships affect our self worth. This week is all about the concept of love, how we define it, how we give it, and how we receive it. Masked Man #72 is the Grown Man. He shares his perspective on the balance in both accepting the truth as well as the consequences of articulating that truth.  In this episode we discuss whether or not we can go back to the past, and apologize for our mistakes. I think there is an element of not wanting to move backwards, but why do we think it is a step in the wrong direction? I think in focusing on moving forward, we might be too quick to cut out people in our lives when we were not our best selves. But that's not to say we can't come back stronger than ever. I am hopeful. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. Masked Man #71 is the Loving Man. We talk about how to cultivate self love, and the concept of acts of service being more of a form of validation than a pure act of love. Should we be thinking more about acts of love rather than acts of service? How would that shift our understanding of love and how we act in relationships?  In this episode we also talk about ghosting and it has become more popular even though no one thinks highly about this behaviour - meaning that those who do it would rather be condemned in that shame than speak their truth? It's one thing to talk about the desire for communication, but what about those that can´t find the courage to speak? How much are we tortured in our silence? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love. Masked Man #70 is the Uncertain Man. We talk about expectations in relationships, of needing to become better to be with a more virtuous partner, the power dynamics in cheating and the uncertainty or doubt of whether or not it's going to work out in the long-run. I think the biggest learning here is realizing that we can never be certain about the future, but we gotta be certain about how we feel. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth. Masked Man #69 is the Well-Sexed Prude. He shares his perspective on why he might engage in sex when he  isn't in the mood, and we realize it is more about a fear of rejection the next time, so we say yes now. And I guess this is a huge contributor to feelings of worthiness when we are expecting men to perform a certain way in sex, as a way to prove their role in this situation. In this episode we uncover why I felt so comfortable with the masked men series, as most of my intimate relationships have been with strangers. And in my opinion, there is more freedom when there isn't the attachment or expectation of a long-term commitment in place as an indicator of one's true intentions. Let's get into it.I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love. Masked Man #68 is the Masked Outcast. Here's another Toronto artist, but his glow up is very different from the last one, I think because he actually admits to his feelings, specifically the pain. And this is where we can reflect and recognize our growth.  He shares his healing journey of dealing with abandonment, from trying desperately to force people to stay in his life to letting it all go. I am so glad to hear there's more of a demand for conversations on mental health, especially from men. There is always something we can learn from the stories of others, if we open our hearts to it. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love. Masked Man #67 is the Inner Artist. He shares his journey of breaking free from the story that was given to him, and courageously made his own path. And now that he is his true self, he can be vulnerable and stand in his truth. But how does that affect how he interacts with others that may not be so authentic? We talk about the energy we put into relationships that we feel may be unbalanced - maybe you are doing more work, and you go your separate ways. I get super vulnerable here and admit this hurts, every time, for me. Because I want better, this is the whole point of me reaching out to these 100 strange men. What would be the point if I was just going to be okay with the way things are right now? Join me as we talk about being better humans. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, self worth and self love. Masked Man #66 is the Uncomfortable Man. He shares his journey in self healing in dealing with anger and violence. I am so grateful to have this conversation to share with you, we both get really vulnerable here, we laugh, we cry - it's beautiful.  And even in this anonymous call, there is so much discomfort when we talk about love. His inability to accept love. The shutting down when we get into that subject and why it's so difficult for him, and maybe for a lot of men. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, what success means in society and how that affects our self worth.  Masked Man #65 is the Token Entrepreneur. He is basically retired at 25-year-old, moving out of his parents house and about to start a new chapter, into the unknown. And this episode is an introspective reflection of the concept of entrepreneurship and how it has been a trending topic lately as the ultimate form of success.  I really enjoyed talking to someone else who is in a similar position to where I am today, where I guess we're both just learning how to live. I love talking about consciousness and spirituality, on understanding the self, so guys if this is a topic you enjoy to chat about, you know what to do. Send me a message at missamandachen on Instagram. Make sure to subscribe to the show and I'll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.  June is pride month, so this week I sit down with men who are challenged about their personal understanding of gender when interacting with members of the LGBTQ community, and in sitting with the discomfort that comes with privilege. Masked Man #63 is the Masked Inquirer. He shares his story about being a health visitor in the UK, which is basically a nurse that visits families to check on the health of a newborn baby. He reflects on how a lot of female health visitors and mothers would isolate men and how that could contribute to how men may feel like they have no role with childcare.  My question is, if women have been fighting to have a role in business, or other male dominated spaces, is it the role of men to fight for theirs in childcare, or do women have a responsibility to make space? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.  June is pride month, so this week I sit down with men who are challenged about their personal understanding of gender when interacting with members of the LGBTQ. I'm really glad we touched on aspects of gender norms as a form of identity, that is wrapped up in wanting the approval of others or to be seen as you are approving of others that you might feel you have privilege or power over. Masked Man #63 is the Modern Musician. At a ripe age of 22, he shares his introspective spirals on what matters most to him, especially when I ask him a profound question - what would you die for? We speak about the masculine trait of wanting a challenge, and the tension of becoming complacent without challenge or discomfort to push you. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.    Masked Man #62 is the Visible Man. He shares his transition from being an Asian American female to an Asian American male, and all the things that change, from not being able to smile at women on the street anymore, to having competitive banter with male colleagues. I think what is most interesting is the conversation on the power of sex, specifically moving from what might be considered the top of the totem pole to the bottom when it comes to what our society deems as sexually attractive.   It was so wild to hear the perspective from an individual that has literally experienced both sides of the gender game and how much race is a factor as well when it comes to power plays in society. I hope you enjoy the show. 

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.  Masked Man #61 is the Feeling Man. He shares his perspective on why he has more female friends than male friends mainly because he can talk about feelings. We get into the idea of competitiveness as a form of camaraderie among men and the confusion of what the role of men might be when interacting with women. I'm very interested in the idea of what the role of men is and whether that confusion is a factor in the search of self identity. What are your thoughts?