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Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Aaron Crawley and Rajan Patel. www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/30 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming"

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Isaac Rawcliffe and Mali Gunter. www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/29 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming"

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Isaac Rawcliffe and Mali Gunter. www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/28 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming"

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Aaron Cawley and Mali Gunter. www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/27 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming" S3E14 - Ego

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Aaron Cawley and Mali Gunter. www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/26 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming" Check out Aaron's podcast here.

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Mali Gunter. www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/25 "[This episode] may be one of the greatest gems you've ever been given" - Mali Gunter, backed by Yunus Skeete Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming"

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Mali Gunter. www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/24 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming" Referenced in this fortnight's episode: Episode 3 - The Personal Development Mindset

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Malik Aidoo & Mali Gunter. www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/23 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming"

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Rajan Patel & Mali Gunter. www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/22 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming"

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Hamza Nazir & Mali Gunter. www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/21 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming"

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Dayana Soroko, Ella Hullet & Mali Gunter. www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/20 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming"

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Mali Gunter & Rajan Patel www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/19 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming"

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Mali Gunter & Rajan Patel www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/18 Skeetism: "Transforming society, one life at a time, through pride in who we are becoming"

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with Mali Gunter - Chief Culture and Community Specialist at the PDProjectwww.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/17 "We: The Stories" - Chapter 1: Self BeliefJoin our personal development journey through our workshopswww.facebook.com/events/148047573875675/(Wednesday, 21 April 2021 at 16:00 UTC+02)The 1 Million mission:"Help 1 Million people find themselves and their path to make being them just that little bit easier"

Hosted by Yunus Skeete with guest speakers Isaac Rawecliff and Angus Blackwww.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/16 "We: The Stories" - Chapter 1: Self BeliefJoin our personal development journey through out workshopswww.facebook.com/events/148047573875675/(Wednesday, 21 April 2021 at 16:00 UTC+02)The 1 Million mission:"Help 1 Million people find themselves and their path to make being them just that little bit easier"

Article 8 - It's not as simple as it seemsWritten and narrated by Yunus Skeetehttps://www.pdproject.co.uk/pdposts/8Disclamer: Engineering Yunus comes out in this one so the analogies get quite complicated - bare with me! See article for diagrams.In celebration of 10k streams!The 1 Million mission:"Help 1 Million people find themselves and their path to make being them just that little bit easier"

International Womens day Special:Hosted by Yunus Skeete with speakers Juliette Feller, Juliette Dudley and Mali Gunterhttps://www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/15In celebration of 10k streams!The 1 Million mission:"Help 1 Million people find themselves and their path to make being them just that little bit easier"

Article 7 - The conversations we are not having Written and narrated by Yunus Skeete https://www.pdproject.co.uk/pdposts/7 In celebration of 10k streams! The 1 Million mission: (https://www.pdproject.co.uk/about/mission) "Help 1 Million people find themselves and their path to make being them just that little bit easier"

Article 6 - Procrastination, a look beneath the surface Written and narrated by Daisy Rees https://www.pdproject.co.uk/pdposts/6

Article 5 - "Show That You Care" Written and narrated by Yunus Skeete https://www.pdproject.co.uk/pdposts/5

Article 4 - "Who are you being?" Written and narrated by Yunus Skeete https://www.pdproject.co.uk/pdposts/4

Article 3 - Attention Management Written and narrated by Yunus Skeete https://www.pdproject.co.uk/pdposts/3

Article 1 - Emotional Assumptions Written by Eloise Wroe-Wright, narrated by Yunus Skeete https://www.pdproject.co.uk/pdposts/2

SHOW NOTES: "A drastic change in perspective" - Helping a homeless man taught me the most about what is important and creating the life I want. It presented me with insights into what drives me, where I derive my fulfilments and how I can most effectively live my identity. -   (00:07:37) "I can't choose my life based off of impulses and snap responses" - Surely, at some point, I need to start listening to myself, however? -   (00:14:55) "Knowing your internal narrative and finding an external narrative that sits well with that" - Even if we know who we are and what drives us, we still have to find somethin we can follow which aligns with our identity. -   (00:23:19) "How do you know that you're doing the right thing?" - When it comes to creating the life we want and following our paath, there is no correct answer. That doesn't mean w shouldn't search for one.  -   (00:34:57) "Knowing your internal narrative and finding an external narrative that sits well with that" - Even if we know who we are and what drives us, we still have to find somethin we can follow which aligns with our identity. -   (00:23:19) Intuition - When we develop, it seems to alay all of our anxieties and solve all of our problems. When we don't, it can feel like we are constantly lacking our north star. -   (00:36:13) "Is that a poison that you need to release as a result of your lifestyle?" - A lot of what we end up needing is as a result of problems we created for ourselves somewhere else in our life. We talk about living lifestyles that prevent, rather than cure, problems. -   (00:42:45) "If this is out of your comfort zone, this is not for you" - As much as commitment and following things through is imperative, do when know when to twist rather than stick? If not, how do we know if we should be here doing what we are doing? -   (00:43:24) "That's just not where my powers lie" - We can look everywhere but ourselves to find what we want and what we see value in. At some point, we have to realise that that is not us, and it may never be. For me, I have been learning that there is nothing bad with that. -   (00:51:17) Diversity and healing - How much do we sacrifice my ideologies for our comforts? Launching too far into the unknown can leave us feeling isolated and stranded outside of our comfort zone. How do we reconsile this when it is in line with our ideologies to make sure we are living a life suited to who we are and the environments we feel comfortable in. -   (01:09:03)

Article 1 - Emotional Assumptions Written and narrated by Yunus Skeete https://www.pdproject.co.uk/pdposts/1

SHOW NOTES: "EQ vs IQ" - there is real value in our emotions. They need not merely be the recoil against life that we often give them credit for, if we can learn to read and understand them in ourselves and others, they can provide us with the ultimate clarity, meaning and direction. Ultimately, this requires us to develop our EQ - our emotional intelligence. (00:02:53) "Resilience isn't feeling less emotion, it is feeling the emotion and just knowing what to do with it" - For many of us as students, our emotional development has only been a journey a handful of years long. It is very easy to yearn for the days where everything was easier, and nothing affected us as much. Our emotions cannot go away however, and this should not be our ideal for resilience. (00:08:36) "Personal politics and emotional significance" - it is the relationship we have with our emotions that defines how our life feels. (00:13:35) "Expression, emotional silence and perspectives" - When we adopt the councillor’s role, we often yield our role as an expressive mouth to be the set of ears others need us to be. This can lead us to sitting on this pile of our own problems, reflecting that the struggles shared with us pales in comparison to the severity of our own. What we often forget is that people are unlikely to share their deepest and darkest problems, they will often only share the ones that you can help with or that they are comfortable with you knowing. (00:17:17) "These aren't obstacles, these aren't enemies" - emotions aren't something to circumnavigate, they are something to work through, not run through, but to sit with slowly (00:23:39) "When it comes to emotions, things, for me, settle rather than are resolved, and it is once things have settled that you can see where you need to go" - Our emotions have a habit of presenting themselves in obscure ways, but it is the EQ - our emotional literacy and intelligence- which enables us to decode it and which enables our emotions to heal us. (00:25:57) "We have these [emotional] feeders the whole time" - our emotions direct us in the most obscure of ways, that may not be the 'this is not your path' we are looking for but rather a 'I have woken up in a bad mood', 'I have to revise again', 'I am inclined to be angry and shout at this person' or 'I am inclined to judge'. It is once we have invited it into the room and things have settled without us trying to alter or suppress them that we can take heed, decipher and redirect. (00:27:18) "Is my emotional response in proportion to the severity of the situation?" - It is apparent how too large an emotional response can be unwarranted and destructive, however, contrary to the agendas of many of our coping mechanisms, too little of a response can be just as dangerous. (00:33:51) "We need to dissipate our emotional energy" - A lot of our emotions are suppressed due to us deeming them morally unvirtuous. However, if not used to heal us, that emotional energy will harm us, it is up to us to define how we seek to release that pressure. (00:39:37) "When it comes to our emotions, we are judge jury and executioner" - In how we process what is going on, we evaluate and we react, our emotional intelligence lends itself consulting those to the correct degree. We must ensure we have the full picture, are receptive to what actually is going on, and respond to the correct degree, to do this, we cannot suppress our emotional responses, but we must judge constructively. (00:50:47)

SHOW NOTES: Episode 10 - Personal Politics Episode 10 discusses a feeling of political paralysis; new year, different vote, same problems. When our vote is one of millions, it is easy to feel like we lack influence over our lives when  we deal with politics on national scales. This fortnight, we explore finding ourselves and uur path through investing in more local and personal contributions to regain a sense of control in a seemingly stagnant political system.  How we seek to uphold our civic duty - in a democracy, the power lies in the hands of the people, so it is partially up to us to run the country. Many of us do that with a vote, but how do we seek to engage with these duties on a daily basis within our sphere of immediate influence? What can we fix ourselves rather than wait for things to change around us? Is this a domain which we can influence? - common is the feeling that our contribution is drowned out by the noise of the nation.  In a world of six degrees of separation, the potential for our message to inspire is far more limetless than it may seem, it just depends how we seek to communicate it. National or personal politics - we can influence the face of things, but we can also influence the feel of  living in our society on a daily basis. Which is more important and are we giving both due consideration? We experience life through our lens and we live in  a nation of individuals - influence on a national scale comes down to individual shifts in each and everyone of us across the nation. If we want a more accepting society nationally, is the first place we need to go to mass communications or to ourselves? We interact with ourselves primarily and then the immediate sphere around us - we rarely interact with society on  a national scale rather than a personal one.  Which should we take more responsibility for influencing and how do we ensure that neither are neglected? What is realistic to expect from ourselves and others? - what we feel we are entitled couldn't have a larger influence on what it feels to live in our society. Analysing what is truly important and what exists within our domain of influence may reshuffle our perspectives. What are the prerequisites for a happy, fulfilling life? - how dependent  is contemptment and fulfillment on the state of national politics around you? How much can we let whether or not we will be able to afford a house, use our passport in the EU, or pay more in taxes dictate how life feels for us? Standing for something, not against - it feels as if people know more what they are against and why than what they are for and why. Contradictarily however, we are often ignorant to what we are against and how our ideoligies can effectively be shutting down others' opinions and libities. Was the last time we voted because we truly believed in something rather than because we could not stand the prospect of the opposition? Personal politics, morality and direction - how do we know that we and our ideologies are actually of benefit to all? Most of us think we are doing the right thing, but so do the people who most passionately object to us.  Where do we go from there?

SHOW NOTES: Looking to our past for context - Our upbringing defines the person we are and how we connect and develop. Awareness of vastly different dynamics - It takes constant contact and effort to sustain familial relationships optimally. A lack of contact changes everything. Attachment types - For the closely attached, distance can be painful, for the distant, distance can be fatal. Distance will often strain relationships and magnify their problems. Shifting landscapes - What we come back to may seem similar but the clock was still ticking whilst you were away. Often, landscapes have shifted drastically and a lack of appreciation of this can leave us tactless and prone to stirring conflict. Show that you care - The times we have together are  fewer and hence more important. Opportunities not taken to show that you care represent much greater losses. Managing conflict and fleeing to independence - Leaving things on a bad foot can leave a sour tone festering for a long time. We don't get to choose our family and we can't turn off our commitment to them. This often means the only option we have is to bite our tongue and pull together because we don't want to be spending the next 60 years pulling in opposite directions. Some problems are too big to be dealt with over an Easter break or a summer - Leaving them till another chapter in your life seems like the only feasible option, but it certainly doesn't come without consequence. Support networks - Our family can be our most robust support network, but that mandates keeping them in touching distance and taking them along for the ride. For many, this proves more difficult at university which is why our approach to doing so needs to be more intentional.

SHOW NOTES: Quote 1: "Time, the potential to get things done? " - We often adopt incredibly selfless attitudes towards time which leave us constantly scrambling to get things done on other people's schedules. Surely the focus of our time should be on adding value to ourselves? Quote 2: "What is on your time is on your mind " - Our emotional and physical energy is invested on the things we spend our time on. A visualisation of how little we focus on ourselves comes from our calendars; how many of our events are self-focussed? Quote 3: "What is on your mind should also be on your time " - With pressing responsibilities and a rigid calendar, we often have to block out our lingering thoughts to get everything done. The pathways for emotional expression need to be pathed, open and well-travelled. As inappropriate as it may seem, sometimes the time for that is now. Quote 4: "Pressure - what gets things done. " - Loading up that task-list is often treated as inconsequential, especially if it is the tasks we don't mind doing. What seldom changes though is that the pressure we put on ourselves is what drives us to strike those tasks of, and this has a cumulative effect. Whether we enjoy it or not, the reminder that more output correlates to more pressure still stands. We need to assess the extent to which we heed it. Quote 5: "Procrastination is an emotional regulation problem." - We are too quick to assume that it is more discipline, more time management or a better workflow system that allows us to keep on top of our task lists. More often than not, our efforts would be better placed focussing on managing our emotions rather than our time, it is they (our emotions) which keeps us going. Quote 6: "Often, we don't burn out because we have too many things to do, we burn out because we forget why we do them" - A lot of us have our pull, but what is our push. Once we have a why, we can bear almost any how. Quote 7: "Once you have put the work in and set your boundaries, you can tread that water forever." - If we don't set our boundaries and enforce a manner in which we are comfortable to be treated, we invite people to walk all over us. The same applies to our workload; it is on us to decide when we stop and take a break because our task list certainly won't.

www.pdproject.co.uk (http://www.pdproject.co.uk/) SHOW NOTES: Episode 7 - Career Development Quote 1: "That will look good on your CV" - As important as our career considerations are, we cannot allow them to take precidence over experiences inspired by genuine interest. Quote 2: "You cannot sacrifice the person you are today for the person you want to be tomorrow" - We need to remain loyal to ourselves. As much as that represents being loyal to our long-term interests and striving to our potential, it also reperesents being loyal to the person you are today. That means not sacrificing the now for the person you want to be because they don't exist (yet). Quote 3: "Assume no, not yes" - When it comes to following any sort of prescribed path it is easy to seek comfort in having a pre-fouraged, tried and tested path laid out for us. What may prove helpful is assuming we are not progressing. This allows for a reorientation reflective of the path we would choose for ourselves today rather than one we foresaw a number of years ago. For how many of us do our GCSE choices reperesent the last time we chose a path based solely on what we wanted to do? Quote 4: "Letting motivation precede commitment" - We often wait until we are presented with an interesting and enriching path before we wholeheartedly engage with it. Sometimes commitment is what we need to open ourselves up to the virtues of what we are doing and only then will motivation introduce itself. Quote 5: "Fix the small things" - For those times where we lack direction, applying ourselves to the manageable problems around us can provide an immense amount of feedback - be it how we best like to tackle our problems, what isn't for us or even what we are inclined to deal with first. With time, this can create an image that may start to look like a direction. Quote 6: "Collecting data" - Sometimes it takes climbing to the top of the ladder to realise that it was pirched agains the wrong wall. As much as it may seem as if it would be a tremendous waste not carry on, it can provide an invaluable insight into where to place our ladder next. Quote 7: "Aims, visions and trajectories" - The more we plan and create goals the greater our chances of dissapointment. This often dissuades us from creating detailed visions of what we want from our future. We cannot allow our goals to manifest as another measuring stick to compare unfavourably to. Rather they can be a tool that helps us mediate the disparity between the situation we find ourselves in and where we want to be. They can, if we let them, provide us with a trjectory that we can begin embarking on today.

www.pdproject.co.uk (http://www.pdproject.co.uk/) SHOW NOTES: Episode 6 - Personal Pursuits Episode 6 discusses the guest speakers' journeys through university within the context of managing their support networks. In an unedited format to aid transparency, we discuss our psychologies, social vulnerabilities, experiences and ways in which we can help ourselves whilst helping others. Quote 1: "I think all of your friends should be your counsellors." - Although we cannot replace professional support, the aim should be to create a proximal network of support in which those around you can be along for the ride. Quote 2: "What if pride is wanting to control others' perspectives of you?" - How much more would we share if we weren't concerned with preserving our image? We could all benefit from unpacking our personal blend of pride. Quote 3: "We are our own professionals, there is a vantage point that professionals don't have; our experience" - When it comes to mental health, we should not ignore the person going through it and how important that vantage point is. Quote 4: "Finding your way of making some sort of micro-movement" - Even if it is writing a letter rather than speaking face-to-face, we need to the first, manageable, step to letting others in. Quote 5: "My self-dependence and self-resilience meant I was probably the friend that needed the help the most." - We often only help those who look like they need it the most, but that can leave those prone to helping everyone else without anyone to return the favour. Quote 6: "We can wait until someone else provides the solution or we can think ‘what can I do today?’" - We can be the solution to each other’s problems, that can start with a smile or asking someone how their day went. Quote 7: "What if people are doing the best that they can? We'll never know whether people are doing the best they can or not, but when I assume people are, it makes my life better" - When others react in a way we wouldn't appreciate, it often leaves us resentful. What if instead, this was a sign that they themselves are in need and don't know how to handle the situation?

www.pdproject.co.uk (https://www.pdproject.co.uk/) SHOW NOTES: Episode 5 - Progressive Extremism/The Snowball Effect Episode 5 discusses  the topics of Progressive Extremism/The Snowball Effect. Guest speakers talk about their experiences with working towards large goals, as well as identifying the motives driving them towards them. The episode also touches on how things can snowball, positively or negatively, from the smallest and least expecting of places and managing this, such that your current trajectory remains in alignment with your needs and wants. Quote 1: "Optimise for happiness" - The PDProject Team Quote 2: "What is pulling you? What is pushing you?" - Tom Purves Quote 3: "Passion without a handbrake gets you nowhere." - Tom Purves Quote 4: "If you are not 80% sure that you will be able to achieve your next step, peg it back" - The PDProject Team 

www.pdproject.co.uk (https://www.pdproject.co.uk/) SHOW NOTES: Episode 4 - Personal Finances A minimalists approach to finance (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zVcwvCL2C2c&t=6s) - Matt D'Avella "...what you deserve is to not be in debt, what you deserve is financial freedom" - Matt D'Avella Be aware of "lifestyle creep"  - increased income should not necessarily always correlate to increased spending. Finding a comfortable level of living and maintaining that, regardless of pay rises, allows us to build the financial buffer needed to absorb those rainy days or build towards a better financial future. Knowing when you are most vulnerable financially and protect yourself. Be it from pay day, student finance incoming or the winter sales. Viewing money as an enabler, what doors are you shutting further down the line with your spending habits today?. From the most basic investment that ticks the boxes, does this extra expenditure really provide any additional value, or would extra value be achieved by having more money in your bank account further down the line? University of Bristol Student Finance (http://www.google.com/url?q=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.bristol.ac.uk%2Fstudents%2Fnew-undergraduates%2Ffunding%2F&sa=D&sntz=1&usg=AFQjCNGNbrtivJ5X53XM55FHRldKV6WAIQ) - For advice on student finances, budgeting and emergency loans.

www.pdproject.co.uk (http://www.pdproject.co.uk/) SHOW NOTES: Episode 3 - The Personal Development Mindset "My Personal Development Mindset was born from tying to make me better suited to the life I am currently living, and since that is constantly changing, there is always room for personal growth" - Yunus Skeete Comparisons can be a blessing, but more often than not they manifest as a curse. A common pitfall is drawing comparisons with us when we are at our weakest. Not too often do we look down the ladder, at those less fortunate than us. Rather we only focus on those who appear to be doing better than we are. This can lead to an immense amount of pressure and a negatively skewed perception of where we sit amongst our peers. "We could all benefit from living a life for the person you are today. Investments in our future are crucial, but make sure you optimise for today's happiness as well as tomorrow's" - The PDProject Team "It is what it is" - Mali Gunter. Seeking comfort in our current situation affords us a degree of rest bite from self-imposed pressures. This is something we are not privy to when we constantly compare reality to our ideals. "Keep it moving - move what you can and leave what you can't for another day" - The PDProject Team "If we don't start, we don't fail" - Failure paralysis "It is not about how we start, how we finish is always more pertinent" - The PDProject Team "Success as a game of numbers" - The PDProject Team "Life is about expending the least amount of effort" - Mali Gunter "Effort implies value, so invest in your life wholeheartedly" - Gruff Kennedy

www.pdproject.co.uk (http://www.pdproject.co.uk/) SHOW NOTES: Episode 2 - Productivity Trello (https://trello.com/) - smart tasks and lists Matt D'Avella (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NjR9lz-R1xk) - Six books that changed my life Quote 1: "Productivity is not necessarily about increasing output" - The PDProject Team Quote 2: Stop-Start lifestyle - "You are not busy because of the amounts of tasks you start, you are busy because of the amount of tasks you never get around to finishing." - The PDProject Team Quote 3: "There's a secret that real writers know that wannabe writers don't, and that secret is this; It is not the writing part that's hard. What's hard is sitting down to write. What keeps us from sitting down is resistance." - The War of Art by Steven Pressfield

www.pdproject.co.uk (http://www.pdproject.co.uk/) Disclaimer: This episode discusses the  first year journey of Charlie (a university student). This journey covers topics including depression, anxiety and sexual assault.  Although details are omitted, this may not make for comfortable listening for some.  If you have experienced similar or would like to know more, we would encourage you to consider consulting one of the support networks available, links to which can be found here (https://www.pdproject.co.uk/pdpodcast/support) . SHOW NOTES: Episode 1 - An Introduction to the PDPodcast Bristol Futures - Personal Development Planning (https://www.google.com/url?q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ole.bris.ac.uk%2Fwebapps%2Fportal%2Fexecute%2Ftabs%2FtabAction%3Ftab_tab_group_id%3D_332_1&sa=D&sntz=1&usg=AFQjCNF4YbRC0aK4_2GspUc8G8ZmAtmPdw) Bristol Futures - Time Management (https://www.google.com/url?q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ole.bris.ac.uk%2Fbbcswebdav%2Fcourses%2Fap16686_Test_2016%2FTime%2520management%2Findex.html%23%2F&sa=D&sntz=1&usg=AFQjCNE2copOcflgzh52Akl4f9ykrzZemw) Bristol Futures - Study Skills (https://www.google.com/url?q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ole.bris.ac.uk%2Fwebapps%2Fportal%2Fexecute%2Ftabs%2FtabAction%3FtabId%3D_80766_1%26tab_tab_group_id%3D_315_1&sa=D&sntz=1&usg=AFQjCNELOQWN2-jTlXW-q9eNuz2Bc93eIA) Charlie's Blog - Heartbroken Dropout (https://heartbrokendropout.home.blog/) Quote 1: "If you don't create your own definition of success, someone else will do it for you" - The PDProject Team