Queer Sex Ed Podcast

Sara and Jay are back this week to finish our discussion of justice-centered sex education! This week we discuss moral panics and also provide structure, guidance, and questions to ask yourself to build sex ed centered on trans justice. We tried to focus on offering structures, guidelines, and tangible ways you can question your own work, but there's no way we could cover everything in one show. For more on this, check out our previous episode, number 63, and also Episodes 1, 9, 11, 21, 23, 24, 34, and 53. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/IicmJZnuTvGPk7Ojfgieqg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 4:59 - Word of the Show: Moral Panic 20:33 - Famous Moral Panics of the Past and Present 28:43 - Patreon Message 32:30 - Main Topic Intro 38:49 - 5 (+2 Extra) Steps for Building Justice-Centered Sex Education 44:32 - Working Backwards to Build a Foundation 49:11 - Power Dynamics and Sex Ed 56:11 - We Can't Do This Work in a Vacuum 59:02 - Helpful Guidelines to Start From 1:07:15 - Questions to Ask Yourself Show Links: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wicked-deeds/201507/moral-panic-who-benefits-public-fear https://www.newstatesman.com/culture/games/2019/08/moral-panic-over-fortnite-and-purpose-play https://www.aier.org/article/the-anatomy-of-a-moral-panic/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-wrong-about/id1380008439  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-hysteria/id1441348407  https://rossieronline.usc.edu/youth-and-racism/akiea-gross-op-ed https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/04/how-sex-education-fails-people-of-color-in-the-united-states/ https://wearyourvoicemag.com/sex-and-health/sex/sex-education-centering-whiteness https://www.huffpost.com/entry/afrosexology-sex-positivity_n_5b69b913e4b0de86f4a59f1a http://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/whatwebelievein.html https://rewire.news/article/2015/04/09/can-teach-kids-consent-without-bringing-sex-conversation/ https://theestablishment.co/the-sad-case-of-laci-green-feminist-hero-turned-anti-feminist-defender-322515344297/ https://www.themarysue.com/laci-green-terf-impression/ Sex Education Guidelines: https://www.bzga-whocc.de/en/publications/standards-in-sexuality-education/ https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf https://culturallyboundgender.wordpress.com/2013/03/09/toward-an-end-to-appropriation-of-indigenous-two-spirit-people-in-trans-politics-the-relationship-between-third-gender-roles-and-patriarchy/ https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/07/appropriating-two-spirit/ https://intersexroadshow.blogspot.com/2016/08/the-problematic-ideology-of-natural-sex.html

This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between "trans-inclusive" sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework more broadly. Also discussed, inclusion, virginity, life-long sex ed, and reproductive justice. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/yxW1Eq_tTeefHcc5G02ZVg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 3:22 - Accountability Corner 17:57 - Word of the Show: Inclusion 25:00 - "The Language of Appeasement" Article Discussion 35:09 - Patreon Message 36:40 - Main Topic Intro 41:41 - What's Wrong With Sex Ed? 54:12 - Why Make Sex Ed Better? 1:04:59 - Being Justice-Centered  1:15:03 - Risk Aware Sex Ed 1:28:00 - Sex Education isn't a Biology Class Show notes: www.them.us/story/sex-with-acrylics-is-safe www.twitter.com/DrDLStewart  www.insidehighered.com/views/2017/03/30/colleges-need-language-shift-not-one-you-think-essay www.zora.medium.com/when-black-women-go-from-office-pet-to-office-threat-83bde710332e www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/4/20/reproductive-justice-and-family-building-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-21 www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/1/18/identifying-desire-asexuality-and-aromanticism-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-9 www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/2/5/sharing-your-desires-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-11 www.queersexed.org/archive/2019/4/21/biological-sex-and-expanding-the-trans-medical-model-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-53 www.medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615 www.coloradoindependent.com/2019/05/23/colorado-laws-sex-ed-consent/ Audre Lorde Reads Uses of the Erotic: www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFHwg6aNKy0 (CW: cissexism, anti-pornography) Text version: https://uk.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/11881_Chapter_5.pdf www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html www.medium.com/@JessieRaeFisher/on-neopronouns-eec46705c5dc www.nonbinary.miraheze.org/wiki/English_neutral_pronouns www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/10/01/guatemala.syphilis.tuskegee/index.html www.siecus.org/sex-ed-is-a-vehicle-for-racial-justice/

Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play (sometimes called CBT). We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safety tips, and give examples of genital torture play you might never have thought about before! Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/Bjuvrzx9T2mvJ37L3CWrAQ Segments: 1:30 - Intro 7:21 - Word of the Show: Pain Tolerance 14:40 - How Do You Find Your Pain Tolerance? 22:40 - Patreon Message 25:57 - What is Genital Torture Play? 29:48 - Why Not Just Use "CBT"? 33:23 - Types of GT Play 52:42 - Trans-Specific Tips for GT 1:10:28 - Harm Reduction Safety Tips 1:23:04 - Negotiating GT Show notes: https://www.cnet.com/how-to/australian-fires-everything-we-know-about-the-crisis-and-how-you-can-help/ https://www.npr.org/2019/01/31/690363402/how-the-cia-overthrew-irans-democracy-in-four-days https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/mg4pqn/we-asked-a-cock-and-ball-torture-expert-about-the-art-of-dilating-urethras https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know https://theprincessfantasy.com/blogs/news/figging-101-from-ancient-punishment-to-modern-pleasure https://sextoycollective.com/best-sex-machines/sybian-saddle/

Sara and Jay jump into the first topic discussion of Season 2, how to navigate sex and dysphoria as a trans person! We discuss strategies, validate the struggles, and give some tips from our experience. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/FM-xOB1SR4ek6UXYWOjcRg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 2:10 - Word of the Show: Gender Dysphoria 20:09 - Dysphoria Tips 45:46 - Patreon Message 47:54 - Exploring Sex As A Trans Person 59:17 - HRT Effects on Sex and Orgasm 1:19:58 - Final Takeaway Tips Show notes: https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/08/not-all-trans-folks-dysphoria/ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-navigate-gender-dysphoria-during-sex https://www.buzzfeed.com/kaichengthom/the-search-for-trans-womens-orgasms [NSFW] https://crashpadseries.com/ [NSFW] http://troublefilms.com/ http://instar-books10.mybigcommerce.com/nerve-endings-the-new-trans-erotic/

Season 2 kicks off with a question episode catching up on your emails to us over the break! We discuss endometriosis, herpes transmission, identity-based humiliation play, and more! We are so excited to be back in your podcast feed with regular weekly episodes again. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/p3FKnWmQTyS8jynNBQ_Mvw Segments: 2:35 - Season 2 changes to QSE 6:18 - Endometriosis and Testosterone HRT 20:11 - Identity-based Humiliation Play and Slurs 32:26 - Patreon Message 36:32 - Oral Herpes Transmission and Communicating Boundaries 53:21 - STI Risk with New Tongue Piercing 1:05:53 - Wrap Up 1:09:51 - Bonus! An Anti-Fascist Rant Show notes: [Last Week Tonight, Bias in Medicine] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TATSAHJKRd8 https://www.history.com/news/chamberlain-kahn-act-std-venereal-disease-imprisonment-women https://www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html Editors note: I accidentally left the same small clip of audio in the show at the end twice. I don't know how it happened, but I can't redo it without redoing the entire time-coded transcript so I'm leaving it in. I'll try and be more careful in the future.

This week, Jay and Sara spend some time talking about the general changes people can expect when starting testosterone or estrogen, progesterone, and spironolactone as hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Also discussed: muffing, exploring new sensations, and a response to Buck Angel's recent fearmongering about the risks of taking testosterone. Segments: 3:48 - Word of the Show, Muffing 13:13 - Patreon Message 14:46 - Intro to Hormones and HRT 25:21 - Talking with the doctor about HRT and sex 36:26 - Effects of Testosterone 49:17 - Effects of Estrogen 1:01:10 - Effects of Spironolactone 1:10:07 - Effects of Progesterone 1:15:12 - In Response to Buck Angel's Recent Post About Hysterectomy 1:26:12 -  Wrap-up and Tease for Next Week Show Links: www.vice.com/en_us/article/59dxw3/a-guide-to-muffing-the-hidden-way-to-finger-trans-women Direct link to buy Fucking Trans Women by Mira Bellwether: https://payhip.com/b/hRtK https://www.wpath.org/publications/soc www.hrc.org/resources/safer-sex-for-trans-bodies www.transhealth.ucsf.edu/trans?page=guidelines-home www.instagram.com/p/Bz57jmKjtTj/ (SERIOUS CW for body gore and bloody images. This is the Buck Angel post Jay is responding to around the 1 hour 15 minute mark. I feel we describe it well enough in the show to make our larger point without needing to see the actual picture, but I know some people will want to see the original thing for context.) Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019/2020 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Jay and Sara answer more questions from you, the listeners! Questions include bondage for disabled folks, lower sex drive on SSRIs, period sex, and Fetlife tips. Also discussed: new HHS regulations that discriminate against LGBTQ people. Segments: 3:07 - Accountability Corner 6:22 - New "Conscience Rule" in Effect Now 18:55 - Future HHS Regulation Proposed to Allow Discrimination 28:34 - Rope Bondage and Disability 38:35 - Lower Sex Drive on SSRI Medication for Depression 55:27 - Patreon Message 57:54 - Period Sex Taboos 1:14:32 - Fetlife Tips and Navigating Kink as a Newbie Show Links: Make a comment and learn more about new HHS guidelines at www.protecttranshealth.org https://www.huffpost.com/entry/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678 https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2015/03/23/indiana-house-passes-controversial-religious-freedom-bill/ https://www.splcenter.org/hatewatch/2018/05/15/10-things-you-need-know-about-tony-perkins-and-family-research-council http://www.brynntannehill.com/drums-in-the-deep/ https://www.postroehandbook.com/  Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay spend this week's episode discussing the legal and political movement to outlaw abortion in the United States, including the propaganda strategy of CPCs, the history of US abortion law, the current state of abortion rights, and how you can help protect abortion access in your area. Segments: 4:44 - Accountability Corner 8:54 - Word of the Show, Crisis Pregnancy Centers (CPCs) 21:08 - Patreon Message 23:43 - Intro to Abortion Rights 26:20 - Pushing Back on Anti-Abortion Propaganda 35:55 - US History of Abortion (1800-1990s) 47:04 - TRAP Laws After PP v Casey Supreme Court Case 1:06:57 - Current State of US Abortion Rights 1:12:35 - What Can We Do to Protect Abortion Rights? Show Links: https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2014/05/religious-right-real-origins-107133 https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/how-extreme-abortion-bans-in-alabama-and-georgia-happened.html https://www.marieclaire.com/politics/a27615254/abortion-bans-the-south/ https://qz.com/1620691/alabama-abortion-law-kay-ivey-and-the-white-women-for-trump/ https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2019/05/georgia-alabama-abortion-ban-hollywood-dont-boycott https://rewire.news/article/2019/05/21/the-auntie-network-local-funds/ https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/how-to-help-alabama-6-week-abortion-ban-georgia.html https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/After_Tiller Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Jay and Sara give tips on doing kink play in free and cheap ways! Also discussed: Pervertables, classism in kink spaces, where to find cheap toys, and kinky craft time. Segments: 3:18 - Word of the Show, Pervertables 8:03 - Kinky Craft Time! 14:34 - Our Favorite Pervertables 26:50 - Pervertable Safety Tips 40:29 - Patreon Message 43:27 - Kink Doesn't Need to Be Expensive to Be Good 58:16 - Planning Your Cheap Kinky Play 1:06:12 - Tips for Exploring Kink Alone, With Partners, and With Strangers/Acquaintances Show Links: http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/bdsm_toy_bag.html https://archive.org/details/ThePrivilegeOfPerversitiesRaceClassAndEducationAmongPolyamoristsAndKinksters Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Sara and Jay are talking about online dating, hooking up, consent communication online, and the culture of dick pics and other boundary crossing online. Also discussed: the male gaze, what app developers could do better, what we can do better as users, and tips for making your online dating focused on consent, communication, and mutually sexy fun. Segments: 5:56 - Word of the Show, Dick Pic 14:55 - How All Men Benefit From Misogyny #yesallmen 22:30 - Why Are Dick Pics So Bad? 31:36 - Patreon Message   35:06 - What We Mean By "The Male Gaze" 43:05 - Apps Designed By Cis White Men & For Cis White Men 58:00 - Using Tools That Weren't Meant For Us 1:10:08 - Better Online Communication Show Links: https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/01/why-men-send-dick-pics/ https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/13/magazine/women-coding-computer-programming.html https://www.1843magazine.com/features/the-scientists-who-make-apps-addictive Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This is the culmination of our four-part series on transgender medicine, focused on what a trans liberation future really looks like. What would it mean for all people to live, express, and love free from shame and the threat of violence? How can we work in solidarity with all marginalized people of intersecting identities to build a future of mutual support, honest communication, and unlimited love? Also discussed: A trans research update from Jay's conference including exciting news about HRT, fertility, PReP, and more! Segments: 2:32 - Trans Research Update of the Show! 6:57 - WPATH Changes Are a Mixed Bag 10:28 - HRT Research Updates 20:02 - PReP & HIV Prevention Research 28:16 - HRT and Fertility Study 44:18 - Public Health Updates  58:39 - Patreon Message 1:00:31 - What Would Trans Liberation Really Be? 1:20:15 - Envisioning Revolution Without Centering Violence 1:24:53 - Trans Liberation Isn't "Genderless" It's Genderful 1:33:02 - What Does Full Bodily Autonomy Look Like? 1:37:48 - What Else Would You Be Doing? Show Links: http://transhealth.ucsf.edu/protocols https://www.huffpost.com/entry/opinion-broadnax-afrofuturism-black-panther_n_5a85f1b9e4b004fc31903b95 https://chicagounbound.uchicago.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1052&context=uclf https://www.law.columbia.edu/pt-br/news/2017/06/kimberle-crenshaw-intersectionality Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Jay and Sara dig down into "biological sex" and break down why it's a problem, how it's more complicated than you probably know, and new ways to discuss bodies without binary sex. Also discussed: research impacts of using biological sex, expanding the trans medical model, and how we project gender and sexuality onto animals. Segments: 5:46 - Word of the Show, Biological Sex, Real Sex, or Sex 42:02 - Patreon Message 45:01 - Quick Medical Model Review 48:34 - How Research Focuses on Binary Sex AKA "We Start With Gender to Prove Gender" 1:04:26 - Animals Don't Have Binary Sex or Gender 1:11:40 - How The Medical Model Has Been Helpful Show Links: https://medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615 https://www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/3/3/audio-article-the-xx-and-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-15 https://www.nature.com/news/sex-redefined-1.16943#/spectrum https://www.newstatesman.com/future-proof/2015/02/sex-isn-t-chromosomes-story-century-misconceptions-about-x-y https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/qvyq8p/transgender-non-binary-stock-photos-gender-spectrum-collection Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Sara and Jay begin their series about everything anal! This show covers the basics of butt anatomy, ass play safety tips, and all of the many reasons we enjoy butt stuff. Future episodes will cover more specific activities, answer your butt questions, and dive further into why there is so much stigma built up around butt sex and ass play. Segments: 3:16 - Word of the Show, Lube 29:43 - Patreon Message 33:19 - Basics of Ass Anatomy (Ass-natomy) 48:05 - Ass Play Examples 1:02:23 - Butt-Specific Safety Tips 1:26:48 - What We Like About Anal Sex and Ass Play Show Links: https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32887307-buttbase-queer-sex-ed-t-shirt?p=classic-tee https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32890343-buttbase-queer-sex-ed-tote-bag?p=tote-bag&size=large https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8ZF_R_j0OY https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/buttsex/ http://www.newnownext.com/ive-contracted-my-third-gastrointestinal-parasite-from-rimming-and-i-cant-be-the-only-gay-man-suffering/01/2018/ Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Jay and Sara continue their discussion of trans medicine by focusing on current barriers to care caused by our medical model of trans identity. Also discussed: transmedicalism, solidarity work, and what non-binary transition can look like. Segments: 4:44 - Word of the Show, Transmedicalism 32:09 - Patreon Message 35:12 - Medical Model Recap 39:18 - How does the medical model influence trans medicine? 1:06:37 - Political and social impact of the trans medical model Show Links: http://feministing.com/2016/03/10/my-auntie-buffalo-bill-the-unavoidable-transmisogyny-of-silence-of-the-lambs/ http://bilerico.lgbtqnation.com/2013/03/the_emergence_and_danger_of_the_acceptable_trans_n.php https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/07/not-born-in-the-wrong-body/ https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2015/jul/24/alena-bradford-transgender-south-georgia Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay discuss the recently finalized trans military ban, including how we must address the impact of that on our community and still be abolitionist in our criticism of US imperialism and the military as an institution of violence. We also answer listener questions about staying dominant while you are bottoming, and navigating when one partner needs space when the other has abandonment trauma. Segments: 7:36 - Trans Military Ban 30:30 - Patreon Message 34:30 - Question Intro 41:22 - Question 1, Staying dominant while bottoming 52:30 - Question 2,  What to do when one partner needs space and the other struggles with abandonment 1:10:18 - Question 3, Finding a trans-competent therapist for my son Show Links: - www.apnews.com/ae07308b29c342429c3c627b7fc0b404 - www.queertranswarban.wordpress.com - www.polyamoryonpurpose.com/polyamory-drama Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Jay and Sara share some of the deep and complicated history of transgender medicine to discuss how physical differences become a medical diagnosis. Also discussed: the "medical model" of trans identities, and the process of medical pathologizing Segments: 8:22 - Word of the Show (Pathologize) 34:59 - Patreon Message 36:48 - A Quick History of Transgender Medicine (Genital Invert, Transvestites, Harry Benjamin, and the DSM) 1:18:05 - What is the "Medical Model" of Trans Identity 1:38:10 - White Supremacy, Colonialism, and Transphobia 1:43:26 - Current Trans Medicine (ICD 10, ICD 11, and Autogynophilia) Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of sensory deprivation play, including how to do it, what tools to use, and tips for staying safe. The word/phrase/concept discussed at the beginning is Dungeon Master (the kink kind, not the D&D kind). Segments: 2:33 Word of the Show, Dungeon Master 19:07 Patreon Message 20:21 Sensory Deprivation Intro 33:38 Why do folks like Sensory Dep? 46:36 Sensory Dep Safety 1:01:00 Fun stuff, toys, and personal stories! 1:23:21 Negotiation tips Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Happy 2019! The wait is over and we're back to answer your listener questions about sex, family, queerness, fat allyship, and more. Thank you to all the vulnerable people who sent us questions and put themselves out there. We really appreciate your questions and a chance to share your growth with the QSE audience. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This is an audio version of Sara's Medium article titled Protecting Transgender People Is Not A Political Choice. Read along here: https://medium.com/@QSE/protecting-transgender-people-is-not-a-political-choice-c5c2187f3773 QSE will be back NEXT WEEK, I promise. Thank you for your patience and understanding

Sara and Jay discuss news stories that you may have missed this year. We also discuss stories to keep tracking in 2019. QSE will be back next year after a short break for the week of New Year's. We hope you have a wonderful time celebrating the last year and finding love, support, and community in 2019. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay celebrate a new year by looking back at their favorite moments, best sex toys, top kink memories, and a special surprise segment about making mistakes. Also we look forward to think about our intentions for the next year. Join us, and maybe ask yourself or your partner(s) who listen these same questions: What things are you celebrating from 2018? What are you trying to be intentional about in the next year? What things do you think people may have missed in 2018? What mistakes have you made in your sex, kink, dating, social life and what did you learn from them? What is your favorite sex/intimate memory from the last year? What is your kink memory from the last year? What is your favorite new or rediscovered sex toy from the last year? Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.  

This week Sara and Jay talk about topping and bottoming fisting! Also discussed: defining edge play, how to safely explore your edges and how queerness gets portrayed as inherently sexual. Show links: https://crashpadseries.com/queer-porn/queer-porn-meets-sex-ed-in-crashpads-guide-to-fisting/   http://www.queersexed.org/archive/2017/5/31/queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-2-kink-and-bdsm-101 http://www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/3/10/submission-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-16   Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay talk about switching during kink play this week! Learn about why we talk about dom and top as different things, what switching means, ways you can try switching, and things to think about when you're negotiating play where people switch roles. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This episode of QSE was recorded live at CU Boulder! Jay and Sara discuss defining sex and why that's so difficult to do. Also discussed: STI testing, demisexuality, the sexphobia of SESTA/FOSTA, growing confidence as a dom, and so much more when we take audience questions. This episode was made possible by the University of Colorado's Ace&Aro Student Group. If you enjoyed this live episode, you can help bring one to your hometown! Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay talk about everything impact play this week! Learn about safe words, different kinds of impact play, things to negotiate in impact, and so much more. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara reads her most recent article about voter suppression for Medium.com. Please vote if you can in the US on November 6th, but remember that this system will never change just from votes alone. "Voting is important work. If you are working on voting rights and access, what you do matters. However, I also need you to understand that the reasons people can’t or don’t vote are largely linked to their oppression. Until we address that underlying bigotry, voting will continue to be restricted and manipulated to oppress people who are already marginalized." Read along here: https://medium.com/s/story/an-open-letter-to-everyone-who-wont-stop-telling-me-to-vote-21b75e28546b  You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay are talking about voting, voter suppression, and gerrymandering this week. If you're wondering why a sex ed show is talking about this, we're excited for you to learn! We talk about the recent attacks on the trans community by the Trump Administration as well as different types of gerrymandering, types of voter suppression, the importance of voting as harm reduction, and what we can do after the election because voting isn't enough. Show Links: https://medium.com/s/story/an-open-letter-to-everyone-who-wont-stop-telling-me-to-vote-21b75e28546b  https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brynn-tannehill/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678.html https://www.advocate.com/politics/2018/10/18/poll-trump-voters-believe-men-face-more-bias-lgbtq-people Gerrymandering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcUDBgYodIE Another explanation of gerrymandering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mky11UJb9AY https://www.brennancenter.org/publication/state-voting-2018 https://www.brennancenter.org/blog/state-voting-2018-updated You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Jay and Sara are answering your questions this week! Thank you to everyone who was vulnerable and asked us to help you move through difficult things. Discussed in this episode: dysphoria and eating disorder history, family rejection, telling a partner you are no longer attracted to them, fatphobia in dating preferences, what queer porn do we enjoy, supporting ethical porn production, and the pitfalls of focusing on inclusive language without inclusive action for allies.  You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us. Show links: http://www.ashleighshackelford.com/ http://www.askingbear.com/  https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/  http://www.instarbooks.com/books/nerve-endings.html  http://www.ihartericka.com/#home  https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/7xx73q/this-leading-trans-porn-company-is-wiping-slurs-from-its-site https://medium.com/the-establishment/the-radical-potential-of-trans-kink-porn-cc6396773fd7 https://www.teenvogue.com/story/what-you-should-know-before-you-start-watching-porn https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/mgyax8/what-its-like-to-be-a-genderfluid-sex-worker https://medium.com/@HARLOT/what-does-it-take-to-believe-a-whore-or-why-writing-about-sex-work-should-be-left-to-sex-workers-22fc6b2e9bdb

Sara and Jay are BACK and this time we're talking about boundaries, rules, agreements, and how you can figure out what your boundaries are and what you need to feel safe. Useful links:  https://www.morethantwo.com/polyamorywithoutrules.html https://www.morethantwo.com/jealousypractice.html You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara is back with another clip episode while the show is on a quick hiatus. This week we have clips from episodes 2, 14, and 16 about kink, BDSM, dominance, and submission, enjoy!  

Sara edited together some of her favorite moments about communication from past QSE episodes while she is healing from surgery. New episodes should be back in a few weeks, thank you for understanding. Full episodes available here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bcQC0QCVSl0vOlly0zXgQ?si=bl-Wchy_RWeiapwS273uOg https://open.spotify.com/episode/45LSqplKIF7DNz0TMOssAF?si=SLXgJgjwQOegPiKytBNosg  https://open.spotify.com/episode/7wROeWZESxjLQZ9IzV1TC0?si=2JbgolQnTgGxfv-7seREeg https://open.spotify.com/episode/55ngvnUYvskGtPQwsHyfHq?si=F54Z2UAbRAuY6Gr3rDxLCg https://open.spotify.com/episode/5Kze2aVlPRKa4rI8dAVmlZ?si=pqDmeS4iQEuqsz57ANdJfg  You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

QSE is on a short hiatus while Sara recovers from surgery, so we wanted to share this episode of Sara's new podcast in the feed for folks who haven't had a chance to listen yet. This new show was made possible by your generous Patreon subscriptions! Thank you for your support of QSE and we hope to be back soon.

Sara is back to read another article she recently published on Medium. This one is about how Nazis came to power and what we can learn from their legal structures, America's history, and our current legal climate. You can read-along with the article here: https://medium.com/@QSE/the-time-for-never-again-has-passed-americans-are-complicit-in-genocide-as-defined-by-the-un-940b368e63e5 You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay dive deep into heteronormativity, including how the assumption that everyone is straight shapes our world and what we can do to fight back against it. Also discussed: searching for a trans gene, assimilation, and how the nature vs nurture debate harms us all. Show links: http://titleknown.tumblr.com/post/122715038542/cactuswrens-bad-dragon-blacklist-post https://www.teenvogue.com/story/heteronormativity-gender-identity-sexual-orientation https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/07/what-is-heteronormativity/ You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Sara and Jay tackle how we can make sex toys that are marketed to able bodied cis men and women work for fat bodies, trans bodies, disabled bodies, and all different kinds of bodies. Topics include: sex negativity, making binary toys less binary, naming your body parts, experimenting, identifying pervertibles, and lots more! You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us. Get your own #buttbase sticker here: https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32901037-buttbase-sticker?p=sticker&size=small&size=small

Jay and Sara continue their 101 series, this time to discuss sex toys! How do you find safe sex toys? What different types of sex toys exist? What the heck is an erogenous zone?? Answers to these questions and more on this week's QSE.   Show links: http://dangerouslilly.com/toxictoys/ https://grapeshotmq.com.au/2016/11/the-ovipositor-the-infamous-egg-laying-dildo/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0wOGqyYFjf0   Sex toys shops we trust: www.toolshedtoys.com www.smittenkittenonline.com www.tantusinc.com www.bad-dragon.com/shop www.selfservetoys.com www.vixen-creations.myshopify.com www.myspare.com  Get your own #buttbase sticker here: https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32901037-buttbase-sticker?p=sticker&size=small&size=small You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay finish their discussion from last week with how modern laws, policies, and structures continue to fuel queer criminalization today. Also discussed: ICE and immigration enforcement, BDSM criminalization case law, HIV laws, SESTA/FOSTA, mass incarceration, and more. Thanks for sticking with us through a pair of difficult and important episodes. Show links: http://www.blackandpink.org/ https://blacklivesmatter.com/about/our-co-founders/ https://www.raicestexas.org/ https://lgbtbookstoprisoners.org/ https://www.thenation.com/article/heres-how-to-cop-watch/ https://www.aclu.org/know-your-rights/what-do-if-youre-stopped-police-immigration-agents-or-fbi https://docs.google.com/document/d/1oqggi1nJ-xrGaWZeBagc3W9QXeBj1AAisttB2seR3i8/edit?usp=sharing  Additional links: https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/qvnyzq/central-america-atrocities-caused-immigration-crisis  https://truthout.org/articles/seeing-dystopia-and-dreaming-abolition-at-the-us-mexico-border/ http://www.latimes.com/local/lanow/la-me-ln-lawful-resident-20180628-htmlstory.html https://www.mercurynews.com/2018/06/13/california-woman-in-shock-after-ice-agents-detain-father-a-legal-resident-outside-home/ http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/nationworld/ct-trump-immigration-strip-citizenship-20180613-story.html https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brynn-tannehill/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678.html http://www.brynntannehill.com/drums-in-the-deep/ https://thecorrespondent.com/5696/were-heading-into-dark-times-this-is-how-to-be-your-own-light-in-the-age-of-trump/1611114266432-e23ea1a6 http://www.nybooks.com/daily/2016/11/10/trump-election-autocracy-rules-for-survival/ https://www.policyalternatives.ca/publications/commentary/whos-boss  You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay cover a brief overview of ways that colonialist states have used police, incarceration, and state violence to criminalize and punish queer and trans people. Show links: https://www.npr.org/templates/transcript/transcript.php?storyId=622972320 https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-History-Studies-Susan-Stryker-ebook/dp/B004KPLWHG https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-Warriors-Making-History-Dennis/dp/0807079413/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1530395938&sr=8-1&keywords=transgender+warriors+feinberg http://bilerico.lgbtqnation.com/2008/02/transgender_history_trans_expression_in.php http://www.transadvocate.com/so-what-was-stonewall_n_8424.htm You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay sit down with Chris Barcelos, a researcher studying queer sexuality, teenage pregnancy, and health messaging. We discuss many different things including whether to double down on a moderate message in times of crisis or transform, messaging around teen pregnancy, how sex health is racist, the untold history of sexual health education in the USA, and much more. QUEER AND TRANS SAFER SEX PROJECT - Chris's archival project of trans and queer sex ed: www.qtsafersex.omeka.net  Apply to be interviewed for Chris's research here, especially if you are a queer person of color and/or trans woman or MAAB non-binary person: https://queersafersexproject.youcanbook.me/ Learn more about Chris Barcelos at www.tinyurl.com/queersex  Lou Sullivan Biography: https://www.amazon.com/Lou-Sullivan-Daring-Man-Among-ebook/dp/B06XBM61VQ You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week we talked about a few different topics that have been in community conversation lately, but part of a much longer history: bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, and polysexual as sexual identities are not transphobic. We also discuss how dating preferences are informed by cis white heteropatriarchy, challenging your own assumptions, and dealing with the difference between a bigoted preference and a response to past trauma. (As a side note, we recorded this before the hoax campaign to "drop the B" was started by 4chan and spread by other false social media accounts, but yeah... that's crap and don't share it or give them any more spotlight than it takes to debunk the memes when you see them on a friend's wall.) Other links:  Does Race Affect Your Dating Life? | Decoded | MTV News: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=reuxx06KgMw Racism in Gay Dating?!? Ft. Dylan Marron | Decoded | MTV: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTyDGiFZk98 You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay dive into a deep discussion of femme as an identity, expression, and way of being in the world. Also discussed: being femme in public, femme invisibility, non-binary femme, androgyny as a masculine default, and more. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay are back from a mini-break to answer your questions! Thank you to everyone who sent in a question, which you can also do at queersexed@gmail.com. Topics discussed include: STI disclosure, cutting a glove to make a dental dam, building a personal/community safety plan that doesn't involve police, icebreaker games for sex education groups, cis allyship, and dating at work. "Game On! The Ultimate Sexuality Education Gaming Guide" - https://books.google.com/books/about/Game_On.html?id=C49fMwEACAAJ You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

JAY IS HERE! We will be recording episodes in person to release over the next few weeks, but in the meantime, I wanted to share another article I wrote on Medium with you. This one is about dating and transphobia. Content warning for discussions of transmisogyny, violence against trans people, and queerphobia Read along at https://medium.com/@QSE/when-you-say-i-would-never-date-a-trans-person-its-transphobic-here-s-why-aa6fdcf59aca You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This is the second part of our conversation about sex ed! This week Jay and Sara discuss what it means to center education on the most marginalized identities, content we would like to see in sexual education, and some conversation about how openly exploring sexuality has changed our lives. For more on the FRC from Brynn Tannehill: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brynn-tannehill/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678.html You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay reflect on their first year of the Queer Sex Ed Podcast in addition to talking about the politics of what we call "comprehensive" sex ed. This discussion went over three hours, so we split it into two parts. The second part will be available next Thursday. Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara delivered this presentation at the Gender Infinity Conference in Houston just a few days after leaving her job to do Queer Sex Ed full time. Topics include: who gets left out of sex ed, expanding the scope of sex ed, and where our sexual scripts come from. In preparation for our next episode about comprehensive sex ed, we wanted to share the audio of this presentation with you. Next week, we will dive even deeper into what comprehensive sex ed looks like and how we can make it happen. You can view the version of this talk with slides at http://www.queersexed.org/training-and-workshops/ Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Jay and Sara discuss the broad spectrum of reproductive justice work as well as contraception, abortion, adoption, foster care, and ART (assisted reproductive technologies) from a trans-focused and queer-focused perspective. http://sistersong.net/reproductive-justice/ https://forwardtogether.org/ Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Jay and Sara talk about Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) including a discussion of the word "risk", tips on how you can talk to your partner, and some STI facts you probably never learned in school. CDC GYT materials: https://www.cdc.gov/std/sam/ More info: https://www.teenvogue.com/story/planned-parenthood-std-awareness-videos-get-yourself-tested http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/would_i_see_sti_symptoms_in_a_month  http://www.scarleteen.com/tags/sti_testing http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual-health Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.  

Sara and Jay answer your questions on this week's show! Topics include: speaking at universities, consent to have difficult conversations, coming out and finding community later in life, healing polyamory trauma, and shifting how we teach sex ed. Resources discussed: https://www.morethantwo.com/jealousypractice.html Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of conflict that happen in relationships, share communication skills for more effective conflict resolution, and talk about the difference between active and passive communication. Also discussed: cheating, heteronormative scripts, and emotional labor. Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Jay and Sara talk about talking! How can you communicate with your partners, friends, and fuck buddies in a way that is direct, honest, and kind. Also discussed: metamours, sexual communication, and mental health in relationships. Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.