Set Fire To Your Last F*ck

Just like your kiddos, this podcast is taking a little summer vaca! I'm determined to conquer the insatiable snack dragon (why are they all so damn hungry!?) and actually read all those books I've accumalted on my kindle. Also, I'm telling you more about Happy Lawyer Coaching and wtf it's all about.  Do you know a bad ass female lawyer that would like me? I'd love for you to introduce her to me on Instagram! I'm @happylawyercoach over there and will be kicking off a new podcast directly at lawyers, very soon! Don't be a stranger. Email me sometime would ya? hello@renatabmusial.com Keep chatting on IG @therenatamusial too! I'll see you in September! 

Coupled with a partner who has ADHD? Whether it's your partner, you, or as in my case BOTH of us, ADHD is probably having a bigger impact on your relationship than you realize. In this episode, I'm sharing my experience and what I'm learning in my relationship. Recommended reading: The ADHD Effect on Marraige

It's okay not to love Mother's Day. I'm giving a voice to the moms and women who have a tough time with this "holiday." There are many reasons why this might be a tough day. Maybe your mom has already passed, you have a crappy relationship (or no realtionship), she lives far away, she lives too close. Maybe you yearn to be a mom but it hasn't worked out for you. Maybe you don't want kids and you are tired of everyone asking you why not? This day is even tough for the moms who look like they have all their shit together. 

How do you set fire to a business you've been putting your heart and soul into for two plus years? You just decide.  And yes, it's exactly what I'm doing:t ransitioning into something even more amazing and incredible. And in this episode I'm giving you the why and what. Because sometimes, everything in your life is actually leading you up to something greater...

Last year, I was introduced to the woo-to-me topic, human design. (I'm a 6/2 environmental/mental projector BTW). I've mentioned it in passing, but today I'm giving you a lay-person's explanation about what it's all about and why I'm obsessed so you can judge for yourselft whether it might be something you'd like to dig into. Unlike "personality tests" like the Enneagram or Meyers Briggs, which can change slightly depending on your season of life, your human design type is yours from birth to the end. And the more I lean into mine, the better my life is becoming both personally and professionally. Note, it might be helpful for you to learn your type BEFORE you listen to the episode, so grab your free test at Jovian Archive. You will need your date and exact time of birth, that's really important.

I went on vacation with all of my kids and... it didn't suck. Partially because of what I did before the trip even started. Am I the only person on earth who goes on vacation and totally forgets that systems and processes and routine can also work there too? You too? In this episode, I'm sharing some stupid-simple but life-changing vacation hacks that are sure to make the trip a little easier and, as a result, a whole lot more fun.

Put your head down and work, wing it more often, find your sweet spot, take more breaks, and hire a coach. If we had to give our baby-entrepreneur-selves some advice, that's what's it would be.  In today's episode, I'm talking to my friend and coach, The Cussing Coach, Dre Valenzuela, and we're not just giving advice to business owners based on what we know. We're also sharing our struggles as business owners. Because let's face it, we want to quit this game too, some days.  Dre is an avid 90s R&B fan, full of sass, and so much damn fun, I just know that you're going to love her as much as I do. And don't miss out on following her on IG at @thecussingcoach 

What the hell is our obsession with popularity? Popular people? Popular things? Trends? Celebrity. Is that even a "real" thing? What if you're not "popular" in the way that other people see popularity? Can you do something about it? Do you even want to?  In today's episode, this former unpopular girl is digging into why "being popular" has never really been her thing.  

Renae Saager is the host of the Ditch the Binge Podcast and my fiery guest today! She's joining me for a high-energy conversation about overcoming a shitty body image, repairing a stressed relationship with food, and reminding me that it's absolutely not worth skipping dessert for the next month just so I can maybe fit in my spring break bikini a little better.  Find Renae on Instagram at www.instagram.com/renaesaager And check out her podcast Ditch the Binge. --- This episode is sponsored by Match Maker, a new membership for fire-starting female entrepreneurs, that kicks off later this month.  For more information, head over to www.renatamusial.com/matchmaker   

The ability to change your mind isn't exactly a skill that's taught or encouraged. But why not? After all, evolution, growth, development, all require change! What's the big deal about changing your mind and how can you own the change with confidence instead of apprehension? Things are changing a little bit here on the podcast and, in today's episode, I'm diving into the why and what that means for us both.

When terrible things happen to people in our life, we often don't know what to say. This will help.

As little girls growing up in the 80s, you maybe dreamt about getting married to an "equal partner." Someone who would participate in family-life, share the housework, and support all of our ambitions. (Sexy and romantic too, please). And, even if you found that person, the dream could still end up kind of nightmarish. Because, it turns out, and what nobody tells you, is that marriage requires you to continuously reassess all of the agreements you've made in your relationship. And evaluate the responsibilities you've agreed to take on or put upon each other.  Did we mention the fact that we change as humans?  In today's episode, I'm talking about the unequal division of labor, how it's making me crazy in my life and relationship, and what I'm doing about it. 

Do you know what worked for you last year? What you want to repeat? Or never do again? Did you have any fun? Who did you spend time with? Who do you never want to see to again? These are the things I'm asking myself as I recap my 2021. Turns out, it wasn't as bad as the last two weeks would have me believe! (So if last week's episode had you a little down, this exercise will be a great pick-me-up!) Going into a new year can be exciting and full of potential but it's important to take a little time to reflect on your last year so this year can be even better. Follow me on Instagram at @therenatamusial and @millennialmidlife Want to know about working with me? Head to my website to find out more about what I do and how we can work together.

Why aren't we talking about the fact that we are not okay? Why do we carrying on claiming that everything is "fine" when it clearly is not? As mothers, business owners, wives, daughters, employees, friends, children, we are taking on heavier and heavier burdens and trying to carry on as usual. Smiling away and declaring ourselves to be "okay."  It has not been "fine" or even remotely "okay" for me the last few weeks. To make matters worse, isolating myself and keeping my feelings secret took me to a deep, dark place where I felt alone and utterly helpless and hopeless. But, the moment I started to talk about it and share it, the chokehold grip around my heart and throat immediately eased. So if you're not okay right now, that's actually okay. There are a lot of us that aren't okay. And I'm here to shine the light for us.  .... Random things I mention in this episode: Morgan Harper Nichols Eve Rodsky's Fair Play.   

My husband has a hobby that I hate. But I love him so... how does is this supposed to work? And does it?  Today I'm talking about doing things we don't like when they are for the benefit of someone we love.  www.renatamusial.com www.instagram.com/therenatamusial  

Do you remember the first time you tried to make yourself smaller? Quieter? Lesser? For me, it was in seventh grade. I passed a note to a friend that ended up getting picked up by an older classmate. Fuck.  What was the big deal? What was in the note? I'm sharing the whole story in today's episode. Plus how I'm choosing to rewrite that experience today.  Check out the BEHIND THE SCENES video on YouTube.  Let's hang out on IG too!

I used to be that "we can do hard things!" girl. I'd push past discomfort and signals from my gut that things were... off. Sometimes we don't feel like doing things and do them anyway: eat vegetables more often than we eat cake, drive the speed limit on an open highway, etc.. But sometimes, when we don't feel like doing things, we really need to honor that in ourselves. 

If you're feeling bored with life these days, you're not alone, I'm feeling this hard. And there's nothing wrong with being a little boring. But if you're like me and want to add a little more spice to life, in this episode I'm sharing some of the things that I'm trying to make midlife more interesting. A few things I discussed: Rainbow stairs @homeofficepalace Book a Call with Renata Hang out on Instagram: @therenatamusial Check out the website: www.renatamusial.com  

Hot Girl Summer can't last all year. You can't always be "on," crushing it and launching new stuff and in super-star-creator-mode all. the. damn. time. You need some time to rest. To assess. To plant new seeds. To clear out old weeds. You need time to listen and be quiet. And it's boring AF but it's 100% essential.  In this episode, I give you the pep talk but it's really the one I needed to hear myself. www.renatamusial.com/coaching

If you want to stand out in business, you've got to stand UP... as yourself. You've heard that before, but what exactly does that mean and how do you do that?  In today's episode I'm taking you through the three main ways I think you build a brand that sounds like you: (1) don't talk like a robot, (2) share shit that fires you up (but also cools you down), and (3) create lots and lots of junk content. Struggling with this in YOUR business? Want to blow things up for your business? Let's talk. I'm offering podcast listeners a 50% off discount on a one-month intensive through the end of November with cost PODCASTBLOWUP Go to www.renatamusial.com/coaching to book your one-month intensive.

When it comes to building your business, I say, screw the rules, unless you're making them up for yourself. What "rules?" I'm talking about the ones created by OG famous girl bosses and B.School babes. The lists, the algorithm-hacks, the five-step-plans. The ONLY rule you really need to follow? Try, try again. YOU are the one that gets to make the rules. Hate sending emails? Skip it. Don't love dancing on video? Screw the trends.    

When thinking through a new business idea or offer you want to add, crunching numbers isn't the only thing you should be thinking about. How is the business or offer going to fit into your lifestyle? What is it going to bring into your life? Let's discuss.  

Feeling hot is so much more important for your well-being than you might realize. It improves your self-confidence, instills fun back into your life, and puts you in touch with your feminine energy (and power)! Not to mention, if you want to be having more you-know-what, well feeling sexy is the first place to start.  In this episode, I get into helping you get your groove back. Tell me what you think by following me on Instagram. And, if you need some help working through some of the meh of midlife? Book a free consult with me and we can dig into it a little bit.

As little girls we were taught to share, take care of others, and be helpers, but not how to get what we want, ask for what we need, and listen to our intuition. In this episode, I help you put yourself first, maybe for the first time. A few things mentioned in the episode: The “I love my partner most," NYT article mentioned in episode can be read here. Want to dig into this topic a little more? Need some help getting through it yourself? Book a guaranteed-happier-or-your-money-back coaching session with Renata or send her a DM. Don't forget to follow Renata on IG. The second IG account (the Millennial Midlife podcast IG account) will be disappearing soon to make Renata's life (and ultimately YOUR life) easier. Renata's account and the podcast account are basically the same thing and… do you REALLY need more accounts to follow? I thought not.

Making a change in midlife is especially scary because it feels like you have so much more to lose. But pivoting doesn't have to be 180 degrees. In fact, making small pivots might just be exactly what you need to feel more fulfilled and re-energized about your career. In this episode, I dig into why pivoting is so scary in midlife and how to tackle it like the big girl you are. Want to dig into this stuff a little more? Book a guaranteed-happier-or-your-money-back coaching session with Renata or send her a DM. And don't forget to follow on IG.  

Motherhood has always felt unfulfilling to me. Spoiler alert, it was because I thought it had to be fulfulling in the first place. Being a mom doesn't have to be your life's work, a passion, or even something you like. When I stopped focusing on all of the tasks that seemed to make up momlife, and instead thought about how to have more fun in my day-today, I felt a huge shift. In this episode, I'm sharing how I did that and the ways you can make your days amazing too. Or at least slightly less annoying.

It's basically my entire life mantra: give fewer fucks. But it's got nothing to do with being a bitch, or nasty. I'm not stuck up (though I do have discerning taste) and I'm way nicer than my RBF lets on. This episode tackles just how (and why) I think this might be a great life mantra for you too. Want to dig a little deeper into these topics and work through some of your own stuff? Let's talk.  

What's so terrible (or amazing) about midlife, anyawy? Today, I'm discussing some of the best things about midlife and a few of the major reasons why I think it's so difficult. Follow Renata on Instagram or reach out via her website at www.renatamusial.com

What ABOUT our friends? Where the hell did they all go? When did they start to kind of suck? And where the hell are you supposed to meet cool women to hang out with? I'm not sure I know the answers but I'm here to talk about it.; Let's talk all about friendship in midlife. Follow Renata on Instagram or reach out via her website at www.renatamusial.com

I've been following gurus who claim that we were all "made for more" and that we should always dream big and aim high and while that sounds good, what exactly is "more" and how do we know when we've achieved it? Do more, get more, make more, be more… it's a message we've heard from our youth. Why doesn't anyone teach us how to be okay exactly as we are? That doesn't mean abandoning all of your goals or a life of #netflixandchill it means examining the “more” that you're striving for and whether you want it in the first place. EPISODE LINKS Renata Musial on Instagram

Every life coach under the sun is promising that they can help you "get unstuck." But maybe stuck is exactly where you want to stay. At least for a little while. EPISODE LINKS Renata Musial on Instagram

Welcome to the middle of somewhere. I'm your host, your guide, the big sister you never wanted but always needed, Renata and I'm here to help you navigate the beauty and bull$hit of this beautiful. This is podcast for recovering (or wanna be recovering) good-girls who are over living life according to someone else's rules. She's done all the things that were expected of her, in the way she thought she was supposed to and yet she finds herself lost, unhappy, angry, and utterly lost. “How the eff did I get here?" she thinks. "And how fast can I run away?” Episode 1 introduces you to your host, Renata Musial, a former attorney-turned-stay-at-home-mom-turned-entrepreneur-turned-coach who wants to teach you the only way out: setting fire to your last fuck. The purpose of this podcast is to have open and honest conversation about the icky parts of life and how they impact our relationships, careers, and motherhood.