Targeted Podcast True Crime Domestic Violence

Working on a relationship can be hard work. Today we'll look at the academic research surrounding "emotional labor" and then apply it to Marsha and Donnie's marriage.Promo: The Rise of King Asilas: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-rise-of-king-asilas/id1316834618Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram: @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

*Refreshed file submitted as original one had overlapping audio at one point, but it may take a few hours before the new file appears on your app. If you hear a problem about 10-11 minutes into the episode, delete the episode, refresh feed, and download newer file.Today we'll examine how Marsha Brantley dealt with cognitive inconsistencies when she wrote in her blog, as well as how she wrote about Donnie and her marriage. The words chosen by someone can reveal much about the mental state. Sometimes it is looking at their specifically chosen words, sometimes it is looking at the themes revealed in their words, and sometimes it is looking at word choices they probably wouldn’t have consciously chosen, but show subconscious thoughts.Pouring through the blog, there is a lot of evidence of Marsha engaging in lowering her cognitive dissonance. Promo: So Dead Podcast. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-dead/id1447332205Thank you to Andie Elizabeth for reading Marsha's Blog. Andie was a Vocal Performance and Communication Advertising major from the college where Marsha Brantley once worked. I think Marsha would have approved. Check out her vocal work on her website https://andieelizabeth.comFacebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram: @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

We know that Marsha was a smart, tenacious, loyal woman who’d learned early in life to have faith that God would meet her needs and she could work through problems herself. It is her faith in particular that leads me to follow a new line of academic research today, Cognitive Dissonance, and discuss how it can impact someone in a domestic violence situation. There's a much larger body of research about Cognitive Dissonance, so I expanded the episode to outline the theory and explain how it intersects with family violence. Next week, we'll dig into Marsha's blogs and take a look at how she dealt with the cognitive dissonance that she was facing in her life, as well as what we've learned about her from friends and family.If you don't want to hear about the theory and early research studies, you may forward to 18:33 to when we discuss how it intersects with domestic violence.Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram: @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

The research indicates that Marsha was actually at a higher risk for life-threatening violence, even though on the surface she didn’t seem to be. Find out why in today's episode.Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram: @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

My dear friends, I am writing and recording this brief episode after the distressing events on Wednesday, January 6, 2021 in which a group of people – rioters – mobbed the capital of the United States and attempted to stop the Constitutional duties of our legislatures. I haven't been able to focus on much else this week, so there will not be an episode today.

Marsha Rader Brantley had personality traits that seem contradictory. Some describe her as fun, while others describe her as private and aloof. As we develop the victim profile, let’s dig into her personality as well as the situations that shaped her in her adult life. We finish the victim profile today and will be prepared to discuss domestic violence next week.Thank you to Andie Elizabeth for reading Marsha's Blog. Andie was a Vocal Performance and Communication Advertising major from the college where Marsha Brantley once worked. I think Marsha would have approved. Check out her vocal work on her website https://andieelizabeth.comFacebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram: @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

One of the things that drew me to researching the case was the lack of information about Marsha. In the news reports and 48 Hours TV show, she was a colorless wallflower who was a loner introvert. In hearing colleagues at work talk about her, though, I hear about a very different Marsha. She could be fiery, passionate, competitive, and fun. Today, we’ll hear from friends and family as we follow Marsha’s life from childhood through her college years.Thank you to Andie Elizabeth for reading Marsha's Blog. Andie was a Vocal Performance and Communication Advertising major from the college where Marsha Brantley once worked. I think Marsha would have approved. Check out her vocal work on her website https://andieelizabeth.comFacebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram: @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

When Marsha Brantley disappeared in late May or early 2009, no one reported her missing for nearly six months, not even her husband. In past episodes we established what was going on in her life throughout the first part of the year, hearing from friends and family that she was depressed, dealing with financial crisis, and had stopped interacting with many people. Today we’ll track the timeline immediately following her disappearance, including her husband's purchases at home improvement stores, and hearing from one of her neighbors as well as her hairdresser -- the one who eventually reported Marsha as missing.Thank you to Andie Elizabeth for reading Marsha's Blog. Andie was a Vocal Performance and Communication Advertising major from the college where Marsha Brantley once worked. I think Marsha would have approved. Check out her vocal work on her website https://andieelizabeth.comPromos for: Reverie https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reverie-true-crime/id1492793721Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram: @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Last week we discussed Marsha’s timeline from January through April 2009. Today we’ll examine the last month of her life, May, and two missed trips with friends that had been planned for June.Promos for: Malice https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/malice/id1471251398Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram: @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

A warning about background checks of internet dates and uncharacteristic behavior at writing group meetings. In the next episodes, we’ll cover the timeline, examining the months before Marsha went missing and then the period following until her disappearance was reported to law enforcement.We’ll hear from Cricket, who had been Marsha’s maid of honor years before, and from Reggie, who was one of Marsha’s Thunder Rock Writer friends.Promos for: Morning Cup of Murder https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/morning-cup-of-murder/id1462365038Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram: @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Imagine that you suddenly went missing. How long would it take for someone to report it to the police? Hours? Days? Weeks? Marsha Rader Brantley disappeared from Tennessee in the spring of 2009 but it took more than six months before it was reported. Because the only person close enough to have reported her missing didn’t do it. Was he a coercively controlling spouse who isolated her from others? Let's investigate throughout this season with new interviews and perspectives.Thank you to Andie Elizabeth for reading Marsha's Blog. Andie was a Vocal Performance and Communication Advertising major from the college where Marsha Brantley once worked. I think Marsha would have approved. Check out her vocal work on her website https://andieelizabeth.comPromos for: Murderific True Crime Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/murderific-true-crime-podcast/id1366667764Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram: @ @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

The final episode of season 3 is a Q&A with questions submitted by listeners as well as a reveal of whose story we'll be telling next season (at the 26:45 minutes mark).Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Fiona is a bright, creative woman who experienced domestic violence from multiple men in a few different countries. Despite being the repeated target of violence, Fiona wanted better for herself and her children. She started college when she was 44 years old, continuing through until she had a master’s degree. She wrote her first book, “I Did It, You Can Too!” to motivate others to persevere in their education.Just this week, Fiona is releasing her newest book, “River Never Smooth: Reclaiming Power After Abuse.” It is a memoir based on her life’s experience as someone targeted by abuse. Fiona's website: www.fionaharewood.comBook: River Never Smooth: Reclaiming Power After Abuse https://www.amazon.com/dp/1647460522/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_U_x_VDxjEbWX37MZZ via @amazonPromo: Death is Hilarious https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/death-is-hilarious-formerly-the-dirty-bits-podcast/id1231890102Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

3.15 When we ended last week, Cynthia had cut off contact with Ryan and was moving forward with her life. She had changed schools again, made a set of friends there, started dating one those boys and seemed to have Ryan firmly in her past. What happened to bring him back into her life?Abusive relationships aren’t just physical. They can happen online, too.Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast Resources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/ Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/ Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

As a 13-year-old, Cynthia felt like she was pretty grown up and when a 19-year-old Ryan paid her a lot of attention online, she was flattered, but knew she had to hide the relationship from her family. As a kid of divorced parents, she felt a bit neglected by them and when this man, Ryan, paid attention to her, at first it was like watering a withering plant. She enjoyed his focus on her and it helped ease loneliness.Unfortunately, she couldn’t recognize his predatory requests and became embroiled in a relationship that impacted her life all the way through her first year in college.Abusive relationships aren’t just physical. They can happen online, too.Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast Resources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/ Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/ Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

As we ended last week, Marie had decided she needed to permanently leave the marriage, to divorce her husband, not just pack up the kids and leave temporarily when he was being abusive, waiting for him to cool down. She began making plans and at first, it seemed as if it was going to be a successful exit, but complications lay ahead.Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast Resources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/ Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/ Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Last week we heard about Marie’s childhood and traced the legacy of abuse in her family. She told us, "Whenever I went into my marriage, it didn't seem like a big deal that I was being abused." Today we to shift to Marie’s adult life as she reveals the abuse perpetrated by the men she loved.Promo: Invisible Choir. https://www.invisiblechoir.com. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/invisible-choir/id1407577718Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast Resources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/ Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/ Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

In The Story of Marie we are going to explore the life of a young woman who experienced a lifetime of abuse and betrayal, exacerbated by her own mother’s dysfunctional response to abuse. Marie’s family left a legacy of abuse, one that she is still grappling with even as she tries to change it by sharing her experiences so that others can learn.Promo for Morning Cup of Murderhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/morning-cup-of-murder/id1462365038https://m.facebook.com/morningcupofmur/Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast Resources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/ Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/ Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Last week we heard from Lauren, a young woman who was raped by an acquaintance after helping him pick up furniture from a store and bring it to his home. If you haven’t already listened, please go back and listen to The Story of Lauren Part 1 before continuing with this episode.Today we'll follow Lauren's unsatisfying experience with police and the court system as well as learn how she prevailed and took back control of her life.Promo: Crime BeatLauren's Therapy Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/therapythought/Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast Resources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/ Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/ Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Years ago there was a bright young woman named Lauren who graduated with a communication degree from my university. She went on to grad school and won a scholarship, partly based on a submitted essay. It began, “I need to get bread, carrots, and shaving cream tomorrow at the grocery store. Did I move the clothes from the washer to the dryer?”These were the thoughts that were going through my mind the night I was physically attacked, beaten, and sexually assaulted.”Today and next week we will hear the Story of Lauren and how she recovered after surviving acquaintance rape.Lauren's Therapy Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/therapythought/Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast Resources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/ Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/ Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Moving forward from family violence is much easier to talk about than to accomplish because it is not a straight path. Recovery is like a zigzag road with hairpin turns and lots of backtracking. But keep moving on that path, because there is hope and light beside you as well as in front of you. We've talked about the strength of Josh’s sisters, Toshua Amber and Shelby. What you haven’t heard as much is that it has been an intense struggle, but they are moving on. It’s not easy. It’s not quick. But it is possible. Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Adverse Childhood Experiences, also called ACEs, impact the life of the survivor in ways that are not obvious. In earlier episodes we’ve discussed some of the more overt affects of abuse, but what we haven’t talked about are subtler effects such as negative health outcomes, a higher chance of self-harm, and a dysfunctional diet. Today, inspired by a listener, we'll take a brief look at ACEs as well as Toshua Amber and Shelby's uneasy relationship with food.Promo: Apple for the Teacher Pod https://anchor.fm/applefortheteacherpodFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Today’s episode explores the various encounters where help should have been given to the Osborne children when they looked to adults to help them. Promo: Obscura. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/obscura-a-true-crime-podcast/id1377988275Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Many have been wondering what type of abusers Jimmy and Christie Osborn were, and today we delve into the topic. Were they terrorists? Or something else?Promo for: Ignorance Was BlissFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast Resources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/ Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/ Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Surprise -- bonus episode today! The YWCA is a leader in providing a safe place for survivors of domestic violence. From housing, to childcare, to dealing with the legal process, there are so many resources that are available. Today is an interview with the CEO of YWCA USA, Alejandra Castillo as she discusses what the YWCA does as well as the disparate amount of violence for people of color.This is a Targeted Topic, which means it is a stand-alone episode, not tied to other miniseries.Promos for: Just the Tip-Sters https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-the-tip-sters-true-crime-podcast/id1335317858Bad in the Boondocks https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bad-in-the-boondocks/id1450344469Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/website: www.targetedpodcast.comemail: targetedpodcast@gmail.comTwitter: @targetedpodcastMerchandise: We have two store now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast Resources in the US: Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/ Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/ Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Josh was not the only Osborne child being abused and his sisters tell their story today.  Parts 1 & 2 released together. We can’t change the past, but we can use that knowledge to make better futures.  The story you hear today is that of Toshua Amber and Shelby;  although it ends well, the path they’ve followed is unimaginably sad.  At the end of our interview. Shelby said something profoundly mature and full of hope, "I don't parent the way that I was raised, I parent against the way I was raised." While this was originally scheduled to be a 2-part episode, we decided to release them together as one very long episode.  This means that next week we will not release an episode to get back on schedule. *Trigger warning - traumatic first-hand accounts of child abuse, sexual abuse and animal abuse.  It is handled respectfully, but may be upsetting. Promos for:  Cult of Domesticity Real Life Real Crime Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com       https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Josh's father and stepmother are tried together for aggravated child neglect in 2006.  It all hinges on whether or not starving a 15-year-old to 49 lbs and shackling him to a bed can be considered "serious bodily harm."    Promos for:  Trace Evidence Our True Crime Podcast Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com       https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Soon after Josh was rescued, his stepmother's family began spinning tales of how dangerous Josh was and that he'd once been found standing over her with a butcher knife.  Could this be true or was it a wild fabrication?  Was Christie truly in fear for her life and was that why she chained up Josh?    Promos for:  Voice of the Victim True Crime Finland Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com       https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

A phone call is about to be made leading to the rescue of 15-year-old Josh Osborn, whose parent starved him and chained him to his bed. His rescue will change the course of the Osborne children’s lives. Over the next few months we’ll examine Josh’s case, feature his history as well as that of his siblings, and using this knowledge to examine how we be better advocates. There is much about Josh’s story that never made it into court or into media reports. You see, Josh was not the only one being abused.    Promos for:  Murderific The Evidence Locker Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com       https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Dealing with a stalker is a confusing and emotional ordeal.  While this person’s behavior makes us uncomfortable and we want to stop it, we often try to let them down gently.  We try to save their face, meaning that we try to avoid embarrassing them.  When that doesn’t work, we try to tell them directly that we are not interested, thinking that a clear communication should do the job. It feels bad, scary, when these basic strategies don’t work, but we’re still worried that we are overreacting.  Today, I’m going to answer some of the questions I’ve received and provide some practical information about responding to stalkers.  None of it is perfect, unfortunately, and there are no easy answers, but there are some steps people can take if they want to assertively deal with a stalker.   Promo: Mugshots https://www.spreaker.com/show/mugshot   Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk  

Part of a holistic strategy of dealing with stalkers has to include appropriate legislation.  Reform in laws and legislation surrounding domestic violence usually grows out of tragic circumstances that receive a fair amount of publicity. Monica Deming's death provided just such an impetus. Along with a brief introduction by Jane, today’s episode features my conversation with Texas House Representative Brooks Landgraf, who introduced the legislation known as Monica’s Law.     Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Stalking is a dangerous sign in domestic violence, one that portends violence, but it is difficult for those involved to understand the risks.  From the target, to the police, to families, to friends, to the court system, stalking often seems like it is less threatening than it is. Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

On November 18, 2015 Monica Nielsen Deming posted on Facebook for the final time. She changed her cover photo to a fall sunset photo of a placid lake, bronze trees, and a solitary dock with the Bible verse John 14:8 inscribed across it.  “If God is all you have, God is all you need.”  Then Monica quietly deactivated her facebook account to try and escape the harassment with which former boyfriend Brandon Leyva bombarded her.  With a week and a half, Brandon shot Monica to death.   The previous two episode we’ve been learning about The Story of Jane, a survivor who is now and advocate for domestic violence survivors.  Jane introduced us to the case of Monica Deming as she is working to pass legislation to protect future targets such as Monica from violent perpetrators.  In honor of Jane, we're turning our focus to Monica’s story.  We hadn’t planned to delve into her death next, but as we prepared to talk about the legislation that is so important to Jane, we realized that we needed to understand the genesis of the proposed bill that is being called Monica’s Law.

When we left Jane last week, she had just opened the door to her abusive husband.  Hear the rest of her story, including the DA’s infuriating decision regarding her case. If you want to skip the recap, begin the episode at 5 minutes 45 seconds.   Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Today we are going to hear the story of Jane, a strong woman who first worked to provide her husband with a good life and then worked very hard to get away from him.  Jane is a listener of the podcast who shared her story with me and I asked if she would share it with you.   As you listen to Jane Smith’s story,  I think you’ll be able to chart her love for him, her increasing awareness of his potential for violence, and then his overt abuse.  We’ll be listening to her story in a few parts, with today’s episode only being the first.   Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

I wanted to pop back in during our mid-season break to wish you a happy holiday season.  Today I’m going to tell you a brief case about a case that escalated on Christmas Day a few years ago.   There’s an often said truism that domestic violence rates spike during the holidays.  This makes a sort of sense, doesn’t it?  After all, we’re already anxious and overworked, so we reason that it would be logical for this to be time where an abuser has less self control and may blow up more often.  Does the research back this up?  Let’s investigate. Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

Years ago Tracey Thurman said, “It wasn’t a personal attack on me on the part of the police.  They just weren’t trained for that back then.  As I read that statement, it made me wonder, yet again, how much have we learned since then?  Have we been able to change our thinking and become better advocates for targets of domestic violence? We examine the 2018 case of Anako Anette Lumumba as a reference to see the progress made. Thank you to Donna Barrow-Green, (activist, professor and author of the fiction podcast The Diarist) for speaking with us about some current problems that still may exist when police interview survivors of domestic violence.   The Diarist: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-diarist-an-audio-drama/id1360984677?mt=2    Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/targetedpodcast Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk   Promo for:  Strictly Homicide https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/strictly-homicide-podcast/id1351615471?mt=2   Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/

Twenty-nine years ago, in fall of 1989, NBC aired a TV movie that was so impactful that people who saw it then still remark on the effect it had on them.  It was Tracey Thurman’s story, called “A Cry for Help, starring Nancy McKeon as Tracey and Dale Midkiff as Buck. I recently watched the movie with two fellow podcasters and a full episode of our discussion will be up on Patreon by the end of November.  If you want access to it, become a Patreon member at the $3 dollar level, and you can hear the bonus content!  For today I wanted to give you a sneak peek into the episode.  At times we drifted off of the movie a bit to discuss the wider issues of domestic violence and I’m sharing a few of those moments with you today. Thank you to my pod friends for joining me! Check out their shows. Rachel of Yours in Murder https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/yours-in-murder/id1252518334?mt=2    and Bonnie of Writing About Crime https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/writing-about-crime/id1277741672?mt=2.  Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/targetedpodcast   Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/   Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/   website:  www.targetedpodcast.com   email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com   Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast     Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk   Promo for:  Murderous Minors: Killer Kids https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/murderous-minors-killer-kids/id1328036628?mt=2    Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/

In December of 1990, Tracey Thurman came to Washington DC to testify before a Senate Hearing.  Then-Senator Joe Biden of Delaware invited her to testify as Congress considered a Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) to address widespread intimate partner violence and a lack of resources for victims. Although bitterness against the police was an undertone in her testimony, she avoided blaming them in this statement, instead listing their problematic responses, focusing on prevention and asking for better protection for women in the future. Marissa Jones of The Vanished Podcast reads Tracey's brief statement for the episode and then we'll look at the WAVA and where it stands today.  Spoiler alert -- if you live in the US call your representative today and demand it be renewed by December 7, 2018. Marissa Jones of The Vanished Podcast:  https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-vanished-podcast/id1081124929?mt=2   Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/targetedpodcast   Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/   Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/   website:  www.targetedpodcast.com   email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com   Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast     Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk   Promo for:  Voice of the Victim https://vovpodcast.podbean.com/feed.xml    Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/

Police were annoyed in the 1980s because they felt like they were being asked to be social workers.  It took legislators to change the law enforcement practices (and hopefully, attitudes) with laws designed to require arrests for those accused of domestic violence.   The consequences of the new laws took some interesting turns over the decades... Shoutout to pod friends who provided voice-overs for this episode (around the 16 minute mark)!     Thank you Ali, host of In Sight (http://www.insightpod.com), Mysteriously Listed (http://www.mysteriouslylisted.com) and Beyond Your Nightmares (www.beyondyournightmares.com)! Thanks to Terence,host  of All Geeks Aside https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/all-geeks-aside/id1291734048?mt=2   Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/   Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/   website:  www.targetedpodcast.com   email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com   Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now!   https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com           https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast       Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk   Promo for:  Whispered True Stories https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/whispered-true-stories/id1437927544?mt=2     Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/

“Whatever happens, happens. But it was worth doing even if we lose the case.  The City of Torrington will be more careful next time.”  Burton Weinstein, lawyer for Tracey Thurman In June of 1985, Tracey sued the City of Torrington, and its police officers, for $3.5 million dollars.    This was landmark case, as it was the first time a federal judge allowed someone to sue the police for not protecting her from an abusive husband.    Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/   Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/   website:  www.targetedpodcast.com   email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com   Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now!   https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com           https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast       Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk   Promo for:  We Too Podcast and MAUL https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/we-too/id1438342144?mt=2 https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mysteries-and-urban-legends/id1289117317?mt=2      Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/

Alone, permanently disabled, and unable to work, Tracey Thurman sued the City of Torrington for violating her rights because they did not protect her from her husband’s abuse as they consistently refused to seriously respond to domestic violence.   As Tracey's lawyer said, "Needless avoidable human suffering caused by official incompetence or indifference or hostility or bigotry offend me deeply."   In order to understand the controversy about whether or not Tracey Thurman could or should have sued the city of Torrington for violating her 14thAmendment Rights, we should probably understand a little something about the US Constitution. Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/targetedpodcast   Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/   Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/   website:  www.targetedpodcast.com   email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com   Twitter:  @targetedpodcast   Merchandise: We have two store now! https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast     Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk   Promo for:  Yours in Murder https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/yours-in-murder/id1252518334?mt=2    Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/

When Buck Thurman assaulted his wife, Tracey Thurman for the final time in June 1983, their son CJ wasn’t yet two years old.  After stabbing her and stomping on her, Buck ran into the apartment she was staying in and grabbed CJ, bringing him out to see his mother laying limply in the glass, slowly bleeding out.  Buck dumped the baby on Tracey’s stomach and said, “I killed your F’ing mother.” Although CJ had witnessed many instances of abuse, surely at 22 months old, he was young enough to not be effected by it, right?  *Audio file fixed at 4:40AM on day of release Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! 1. https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         2.  https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk   Promo for:  Killafornia Dreaming https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/killafornia-dreaming/id1250294822?mt=2   Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/

Most of the time when we hear about domestic violence in the news, it’s because something tragic happened.  Usually it’s a perpetrator who assaulted a target, causing extreme injury or even death, such as in the case of Tracey Thurman when Buck stabbed her 13 times and stomped on her while a police officer did not intervene. Sometimes targets will go through the legal system for protection, as Tracey Thurman did, and obtain a restraining order against their abuser.  We don’t hear about the times when the restraining orders work, we usually hear about the times when the perpetrator violates it and causes damage. This brings us to some important questions. Are restraining orders worth more than the paper they’re written on?  Is it wise to try and obtain one?  Or will it just make matters worse? Today’s episode is a Targeted Topic, a stand-alone episode that you can listen to even if you’re not familiar with the domestic violence case we’ve been covering this season.  Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! 1. https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         2.  https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk   Promo for:  The Asian Madness Podcast https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-asian-madness-podcast/id1299113726?mt=2   Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/

After Buck Thurman’s first trial, his father, Duke, approached Tracey, warning her that her ordeal with Buck might not be over.  He said, “You know, whenever he does get out, he’ll either ask you to get back together, or he’ll be at the door to finish the job.” Were his words prophetic?  Let’s find out.    Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! 1. https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         2.  https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk Promo for:  The Murder in My Family Podcast https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-murder-in-my-family/id1396717244?mt=2   Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/

By the time Tracey Thurman was placed in an ambulance, nearly an hour had passed since she’d been stabbed and stomped on.  She laid bleeding out on the ground without receiving medical care. During eight months of hospitalization, she had to learn how to eat and walk again. Why did Buck attack Tracey when she left him?  There’s quite a bit of evidence to establish leaving as a dangerous period.  Dr. Betty Jo Barrett, a professor who specializes in intimate-partner violence says "Research has shown the risk of domestic homicide becomes highest during the period of separation.” Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! 1. https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         2.  https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk Promo for:  Status Pending https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/status-pending-podcast/id1412462452?mt=2   Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/

Last season, one of the most popular episodes was the examination of why Wanda Gibson Maddux stayed in the violent relationship with Ronny. Similarly, I want to examine the same topic with Tracey because I know this is still puzzling to many people. There have been many academic research studies about how targets of violence often undergo a leaving PROCESS rather than just leaving once or twice. The more times a target has left an abusive relationship, the more promising it is that the relationship will end.  While Tracey stayed for a while to try and work on their relationship, she also left multiple times and sought police protection to enforce her choice to leave. We also consider the media messages that surrounded Tracey Thurman and the theme that true love changes people.  Can a seemingly positive message -- that love is transformative -- impact a target's decision to stay in an abusive relationship?     Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! 1. https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         2.  https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk   Promo for:  Mens Rea Podcast https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mens-rea-podcast/id1244309070?mt=2   Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/

When Tracey met Charles "Buck" Thurman, she was a mama's girl in mourning.  After her mother passed away from lung cancer, Tracey dropped out of school in Connecticut to move far, far away to Florida where she met a cocky young man who wooed her. Buck easily and believably told her he loved her and he was very protective of her. Tracey said that he made her feel safe. The abuse didn’t begin right away.  His protectiveness slid into obsessiveness and his temper edged into violence.  This is the story of his abuse, which culminated on the day Buck nearly killed Tracey while a police officer was present (but did not intervene). *This episode is a frank description of the relationship between Tracey and Buck Thurman, including details of abuse.  Listener discretion is advised   Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! 1. https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         2.  https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk     Promo for:  Beyond Bizarre True Crime  https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-bizarre-true-crime/id1366656481?mt=2   Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/ Music:  Love Wins by Lee Rosevere at  http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Lee_Rosevere/Love_Wins/Lee_Rosevere_-_Love_Wins  Licensed through freemusicarchive.org Sound effects licensed through: https://www.soundeffectsplus.com/profile.php 

A survivor of abuse once told me, “The more we talk, the more we’re healed, and we see it as history instead of what is still going on.” Domestic violence is not something that happens to only a few people; it’s widespread.  About 35% of women and 28% of men in the U.S. have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime. Why don’t we know more know about it?  Shhhhhh.  It’s a secret.  People feel shame for their abuse.  They feel as if they’ve done something wrong.  They feel as if they will be judged, and found wanting, if others know about it. It is time for the secrecy to stop.  We can tell our stories, reclaim our power, use our experiences to help, to heal, to demand change in our world.   We’ll begin Season Two with the series “Fight for Justice” about Tracey Thurman, who had to sue an entire city in the 1980s to hold the police responsible for allowing her ex-husband to stalk and attack her despite her requests for police involvement in advance.  Tracey was a young married mother when her husband, Buck gradually escalated from intermittent slaps to deadly violence.  Tracey’s story will help us examine how society and law enforcement might fail targets of domestic violence.    Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/ Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! 1. https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com         2.  https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast   Custom artwork for the Fight for Justice series done by https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/  Resources in the US:   Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. http://www.thehotline.org/resources/   Resources in Australia:  The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources available https://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/   Resources in the UK: Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service, http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk   Promos: Getting Off Podcast https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/getting-off/id1309689589?mt=2 Suspect Convictions  https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/getting-off/id1309689589?mt=2      

Our episode today is the season finale and a sneak peek into Season Two.  There is so much interesting research and stories waiting to be told!  I wanted to begin Season Two highlighting a classic case of spousal abuse in which the target was almost killed because of a societal response that tacitly accepted battering as a “family matter” instead of an assault. I'll introduce you to a young woman named Tracey Thurman who took the city of Torrington, CT to court because the police officers did not provide equal protection for her, from her abusive husband, as required under the 14th Amendment. Promos for:  Impact Statement https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/impact-statement/id1360936758?mt=2 Already Gone https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/already-gone/id1109927634?mt=2   Facebook group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise: We have two store now! 1. https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com        Free Shipping at Threadless with code:  FREESHIP7189f5b67 2.  https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast

When I choose the first case for Targeted Podcast, it was Melisha Gibson’s story that called to me.  I knew the impact it had on me and I was intrigued to see what we could learn today, in 2018, from her death. I had planned on this season being about 6 or 7 episodes, thinking that would ample time to fully investigate the pertinent issues.  But 18 episodes later, the lessons have been a bit spread out so I’m going wrap up by giving a summation of the important ideas.   Today features my Top 10 Take-Aways.   In the end, I learned all sorts of things that I didn’t expect to learn and I hope you did too. Promo for Voice of the Victim Podcast:  http://vovpodcast.podbean.com Facebook group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise:  https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast