The Husband Factory Podcast

You are not at the mercy of life. You don't have to sit down and HOPE that you will get married.You don't have to feel helpless as time passes by.There is something you can do!You can and MUST pray. But there is prayer that is emotional  "God,  when?' And there is prayer that actually gets results. The prayers is this episode are the kind that actually get results. 

Be careful that you don't let your "spec" (your type) cause you to miss out on someone spectacular. 

Most single women are tuned into only one type of man- the type they want to marry.Sure, they will be friends with other men or associate with them but do what those men think really matter?Most times, it doesn't. Find out why that's a problem in today's episode.

Before you throw in the towel,  listen to this episode and see if you are doing all the things to move you closer to your dream.

No one has a right to mistreat you.You are made in the image of Almighty God and deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.It is never your fault if someone treats you less than what you are worthHowever, tolerating or staying with someone that doesn't value you is YOUR choice.Move on... fast. African Proverb:1st fool is not a foolBut 2nd fool is a foolPositive Affirmations for Single Women: https://www.husbandfactory.com/newBlogPost--43lq0GvgStop Looking for Your Type: https://www.podpage.com/the-husband-factory-podcast/stop-looking-for-your-type-part-1/ 1:1 consulting application: https://forms.gle/xZ9rg5KF3am9UZdT9

There comes a time in every woman's life where she has to tell herself the truth.There are certain issues that need addressing before you can effectively get to know someone and let them in your life.Do yourself a favor and "sit your butt down" during such times.Said with love. 

As promised, here is part 2 of  "Stop looking for your type".In this episode I'm a lot nicer and tell you what you SHOULD do instead.It's going to be amazing.God only wants the best for you.

Well.....it's  a New Year And not only are you interested in you, you have your sights on a new boo.At least you hope to meet one.After all, this is THE year you get married.You are serious this time.Before you start accepting applications from all the men beating down your door, listen to this episode and find out why you should NOT be looking for your type.Sorry in advance.

Respect is earned not given right?When you get married, your husband should act in a way deserving of respect before you shower him with it right?Well let's see.....

Tall, dark and handsome with chiseled abs and take-me-away biceps loses it's appeal after some time.So does his money, power or prestige.At the end of the day, you want a happy home.You want peace, joy, laughter, care and lots of love.You want a safe and healthy environment for your children to grow up in.You want a man that loves you like Christ loves the church.Sound too good to be true?It's not if you marry a man that has the "one thing" in this episode

When you get married you will find that you don't really know your spouse the way you thought you did.You will also find that you and him are very different in your approach to life, how you handle money and how you communicate.Another thing that you are certain to come across is his ego. Ego isn't bad.It's God-given. But there's a way to navigate a man's ego to have him singing your praises and showering you with love.I give you three ways in this episode

Are you ignoring warning signs?Are you trying to think positive when you really should be on high alert

There are many men out there.There are many good men out there. There are many men out there that you should just RUN from. Period.In this episode I give you a list of men that regardless of how spiritual they may seem, how handsome, how charming ..,,you shouldn't give them access to your life and you certainly shouldn't marry them. 

There's nothing like having inside information.It gives you an advantage. An edge. You can have inside information in every area of your life.That means you can get answers to these questions:What is my future going to look like?Is this man genuine?What should I be doing with my life right now?If I marry him, what will our marriage be like? You don't get these questions answered by visiting a psychic. God alone knows the end from the beginning. He knows everything about you & your future. He also knows  all about any man you are interested in: the kind of thoughts he has, his true intentions, his secret lifestyle (gulp) , his family background, his bad habits, etc..It would be not-so-smart to have someone who knows so much around you & you don't consult Him, Learn how to position yourself to hear from God in this episode. Scripture referencesJohn 10:27-28King James Version27 My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow meProverbs 4:20New Living Translation My child, pay attention to what I say. Listen carefully to my words.Habakkuk 2:1New Living TranslationI will climb up to my watchtower and stand at my guardpost. There I will wait to see what the LORD says and how he will answer my complaint.

Talk is cheap.Many of us believe that God CAN give us a good husband but our behavior shows that we really don't believe that He will do it for us.If that's you, don't worry. In this episode, I show you how to increase that belief and make yourself a target for Mr. Right.

Are you a romantic?Do you see the good in everyone and find yourself drawn to helping them?Do you have a track record of getting emotionally entangled in 0.2 seconds?This episode is the cure.Before the crazy comes on, and you start doodling his name and your name together- listen and learn from these tips.

Make no mistake about it, God is against adultery.Don't fall into the trap of dating a married man.Most people that find themselves in such situations never set out to be and never dreamed it could happen to them.Here's how to protect yourself.

"For Michael so loved you that he gave to you"A person can give to you without loving you  (transactional, emotionless giving) but no one can love you without giving to you.Even God so loved you that He GAVE His only begotten son.Love gives. Time, money and anything of value.This episode teaches you how not to settle for a stingy man. 

Arguments about money are the 2nd highest causes for divorce.What do you need to discuss with your fiancee now to make sure you start off on a good foundation?

What is a success clock and what is a relationship clock?Are there things you need to know as a single woman to optimize both?

How can I be so sure? Because God's word says it.Isaiah 34:16 Search and read the scroll of the LORD: Not one of these will go missing, not one will lack her mate, because He has ordered it by His mouth, and He will gather them by His Spirit“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” – Proverbs 18:22“Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” – Mark 11:24“Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37:4The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2:18“A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.” – Proverbs 12:4To work with me one on one: https://forms.gle/sJgn1GM13eADa6jK7

Don't do it.Even if you're engaged.Even if he begs you.Here's why.To work with me one on one: https://forms.gle/sJgn1GM13eADa6jK7

Unless he has a  crazy, undeniable conversion like Saul to Paul then don't take him back.He's your ex for a reason.Remember that reason and stick to your guns. For help and accountability: https://forms.gle/sJgn1GM13eADa6jK7

You don't have months or even years to waste with Mr. Wrong.You also don't have time to "try and see what happens" with a random guy.Time is life. Your life and time are very precious. This episode shows you three ways to guard them both.Links mentioned:Coach with me :https://forms.gle/3tdadTn7V5QCfC7H9

In life, there are certain things that can cost us to lose precious time.There are others that can cause us to lose things that matter more than time.You can't afford to experience either.To avoid this level of pain and disappointment, you need to knowWhat is God saying?Email me at thehusbandfactory@gmail.com 

So you met someone and things seem to be getting serious.He's talking exclusivity.You're spending more time with him and talking to him an awful lot.You know that you've heard me say on this podcast that "until you have a ring and a date keep your options open" but you are wondering.....Are there any clues that he could be someone I can marry?How can I know if  it's ok for this to go further....?This episode will give you some hints about what to look out for.

You are ready to settle down.You have so much love to give and just want someone that will treat you as good as you treat them.But somehow, it seems like your kindness is mistaken for weakness and your good intentions are not appreciated at all.Listen to this episode to avoid costly mistakes single women make that give them the opposite results than what they were looking for. 

Praying for a husband? CHECKGoing out to meet new people? CHECKStopped letting loser guys take up space in your life? CHECKSo what's next?What do you do while waiting for God to you know.... fulfill His promise and give you the man of your dreams and a million dollars?Half-kidding about the million. But there ARE things you can do while you wait for the man of your dreams,I break them down in this episode.

Waiting to meet THAT person is one of the hardest parts of being single.Here's some encouragement and practical tips on the best way to maximize that time.Let me know if it helps you!

I get asked these questions a LOT."How do I meet Christian guys?""How do I get them to notice me?"I give some tips to try in this episode.

You don't have to cross your fingers and hope for the best when it comes to choosing a life partner.There are some definite qualities to look for in a man that if found give you the potential to experience heaven on Earth in your marriage.There are also some other signs that if you see could mean disaster and more time on your knees than necessary.This episode details some of those negative signs.Chooser beware.P.S. Register for my Powerful Purity Conference here: https://flow.page/husbandfactory     

Don't feel obligated to continue talking to any man that you sense may not be right for you.Cut to the chase and disappear.I show you how in this episode. 

Men don't talk.Well, sure they will talk about sports and hobbies and work....But what about their dreams, things they dislike, or what their thinking.When you get married, it can seem like they talk less and less as time goes on.The interesting thing is that nothing is wrong most times.What can you do then to make him talk to you more and open up about the things that may be on his heart?I give you the secret in this episode.Check out other "The First Years" episodesNovember 10, 2021April 14, 2021

Really. How are you?mentallyemotionallyspirituallyfinanciallyphysicallysocially Rate yourself honestly and get to work. 

Nobody has the time to spend their married life praying for their husband to make some drastic changes.Talk to some married women. You can't change a man.When choosing the right guy make sure your eyes are wide open and your footing is sure. 

You can't avoid a broken heart.It comes with the territory right?Once you put yourself out there, it's just a matter of time.Someone will crush your heart and hurt you so bad that it will completely immobilize you.This is not exactly true......There is one thing in particular, that if you do it, will help you bounce back from a broken heart 1,000 times faster or avoid it completely.I tell you the secret in this episode.

Sure, you want to get married but are you available?I mean, really and truly available.Before God can bring one of His good men into your life, you have to be available.Check out this episode to see what I mean. 

A man can support you.He can help you, guide you and love you.A man can even inspire you,build you up and encourage you to be the best version of yourself.However, there are 3 things he cannot do for you. Listen to this episode to avoid having the wrong expectations.

Have you ever wondered if a guy really cares about you? How can you tell if he really loves you? If this episode I give you two simple ways to put him to the test 

Yes Girl.There are men that want to do dating and marriage God's way.There are men that are preparing to be a husband just like you are preparing to be a wife.It's refreshing!He's not the only one so don't settle!

No one is worth you compromising your integrity or the things God has for you.No matter what, stay true to who you are & to Gods word. Speaking of not compromising, don't ever compromise the quality of man that you believe God for. I have a conference coming up on 2/3/22 that will show you how to meet a good man & set yourself up for lasting love. I would love to see you there. Register here : https://www.eventbrite.com/e/find-fascinate-tickets-250933217007

What is your temperament?Can you live with someone very different from you?These are very important questions for you to know the answer to before getting married.Find out your temperament here: https://www.temperamentquiz.com/

You're not the same person you were ten years ago.There's a very big chance that you won't be the same person you are now, ten years from now.How do you make sure that you choose someone that fits your future? I give you 3 very important steps in this episode.

When setting goals, set at least 1  in each of the categories below. To be truly happy, your life needs balance.  If you focus only on success and neglect fun it will affect you .  Nine core Areas of life: SpiritualFamilyMinistryHealthCareer/BusinessFinances  Intellectual developmentSocial (Network) FunAlso make sure that you don't do the 3 things in this episode. 

TallConfidentSophisticatedVery HandsomeTatooedBeardedMuscularCockyWealthyIs there a "type" of guy that always seems to get your attention? Is that "type" of guy a weakness for you? Meaning that you ignore their bad behavior or lower your standards to remain with them.No man is worth you changing your value system or settling for being treated less than you deserve.If you notice a pattern of falling for the wrong type of guy, I teach you what to do in this episode.

You really have what it takes to have an amazing year .BuuuuuuuuuuuuttttYou have to be intentional. One of the ways, is to forget about certain things.I'll start you off with three.

When you get married how do you want the atmosphere of your house to be?Tense JoyfulPeacefulSpitefulBelieve it or not, you will be the thermostat in the home. The woman has the power to control the atmosphere with her words, her influence & her respect.Proverbs 14:1 New International Version The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.Create your own heaven on Earth in your marriage. It starts with a decision. The first decision is that you will have a peaceful, love-filled  home. The second decision is that you will marry a man that you respect, I tell you why in this episode. 

The other day I heard a story of a man that strung a woman along for 10 years. He kept promising they would get married & that things would change but it never happened. Finally, out of frustration she left him.Good for her.......but she had given 10 years to an unhappy relationship.Most times, women stay in such situations because they feel they've already invested so much time into the relationship.It's hard to let go of something familiar even if its hurting you.We tell ourselves:What if I don't meet anyone else?What if he changes for the better & I gave up too soon?It's too late now, let's just see what happens.However, as a woman you have to take your life into your own hands and make it what you want. You don't have the power to change anyone.If you meet a man that acts in a way you don't like, RUN.RUN before you fall in love.RUN before you get pregnant & bring innocent children into the relationship.RUN before you lose your self-worth.Don't make excuses. Don't try to help him. Visualize yourself in a committed happy marriage with someone that adores you and thinks you're worth it.  This episode tells you 3 things you should never let a man do & helps you to recognize  warning signs.

Darling,You need to keep a running reject list going. There are men that you don't have to entertain or give a second chance to.There are things that they do that should land them in "dating jail" and on your reject list.When you meet one of them:Do not stop for gasDo not stop for ice-cream Do not stop to explainPut them on the reject list and keep moving.Life is short. You don't have even a second to waste with the wrong man.Love you! 

Marriage is fun, exciting and really enjoyable.But the first few years of marriage can be challenging for many people.It takes skill, maturity and a whole lot of JESUS.The better prepared you are, the better chance you have of experiencing Heaven on Earth in my marriage.Kettelye shares the secrets that helped her own marriage thrive in it's first year and beyond. follow her on instagram @kettelye.marie