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What is the day going to look like as a result of my fitful night's sleep? Turns out I may have had some covert or subversive anger issues today. But first how to do a 4 count meditation. The power of the hemingwayapp.comAdministrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting! These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones. You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS, https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for mobile mic for Android https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: firstname.lastname@example.orgFor social Media: https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Intro: 00:01 Imagine a conscious contact with God. So strong that no matter what you are doing or not doing that, no matter what your kids are up to or not up to, and that whether you've got the person of your dreams or they're just not cooperating, that you are happy content and at peace, a space where everyone else's thoughts, attitudes, and actions are beautiful and exactly as they are supposed to be. Well, this is the space where I like to play. My name is Misha Z, and this is today's. Slap. Join me as I shed light on the thoughts, actions, and attitudes that are causing you pain. And we train our minds to go to the capital S inner self, the joy that is waiting for us, the God with him.Mischa Z: 00:53 I am going to talk about covert anger today. Covert, anger, and how I needed to, uh, have, uh, have awareness that I did indeed have some, perhaps what we would call subversive or covert anger issues. That's what, that's what we're going to talk about today. Um, when I, uh, was, so this morning, I, you know, did my meditation. Man, I slept not so well last night, it was interesting. Um, very tossing and turny. Very, very, um, very inter intermittent. Ooh, I think I'm coming across someone. I know Tony. What's the apps, man. Good, good to see how fun is that? Just got to say hi to Tony. Where was I? Oh yeah, fitful night's sleep.Mischa Z: 02:10 And I think what's interesting about a fitful night's sleep is as I'm having fitful sleep in that moment, I can be very concerned about what is the day going to be looked, going to look like as a result of my fitful nights, sleep? You know what I mean? Does anybody else had that before? So you're in the midst of your fitful night's sleep and the mind starts projecting. Maybe we could call it, the ego starts projecting. Oh no, what's my day going to be like, I'm going to be tired. How am I going to show up for people? Um, am I going to be, am I going to be exhausted in all my activities?Mischa Z: 03:07 What else could we say? Um, you get what I'm talking about? It could be anything, or, gosh, am I going to be fitful all night? Am I ever going to fall asleep? And the mind just starts rolling. And I guess the point of this little diversion is that, you know, I had my fitful night's sleep. I woke up, I was actually felt more refreshed than I thought it was going to. So that was a surprise. So all that projecting about I'm going to be exhausted and not be able to get anything done or whatever worries were happening in the fitful moment.Mischa Z: 03:48 And I headed off to do my meditation, my hour meditation. I do my hour meditation and it's a fun one. Actually, it was pretty good. You know, it's focusing on what, you know, the thoughts would run and then come back to breath and I do a meditation on a four count, oftentimes. So that's what I was doing this morning. And when I see a four count, each out-breath is a countdown from four. I need to figure out a better way to say this, how that works. But so, you know, in breath through the nose; out breath through the nose. Mentally say Four. Next breath in out breath say three. Next breath in and out breath two. And you're saying this to yourself, obviously in your mind. In breath out breath, one. In breath, repeat from four on down. And whenever the, so what happens is you doing the four count? Inevitably the mind will start thinking about things.Mischa Z: 05:07 And the awareness that I'm thinking about other things becomes evident is that a double, a double positive, the awareness becomes evident. That is funny. Anyway, the awareness that I'm thinking about other things becomes evident. So you come back to the four count and it's a very smooth, aware process. Lots of fun insights are flying around back to the breath. It's funny too, in some of those moments, I can have fear like, oh no, if I go back to the breath, the insights will go away. So I was definitely playing with that thought. And um, so I come out of the meditation. So the meditation is great, good hour meditation. And after the meditation, I was, I would say, surprisingly vibrant and vital. Full of vitality. I dunno if that's the right word, but it was refreshed. Shall we say? Yeah, it was refreshed. That's a great way to say it. So all my worries of I'm going to be tired all day... That may still be yet to come by the way, I might need an app or a new meditation session to find that refreshed attitude.Mischa Z: 06:50 Um, and so I went into A Course In Miracles and, you know, I had a powerful couple of days. So A Course In Miracles, I'm reading, this is funny. I'm trying recording on a new platform and I lose track of, it's hard for me to find the time. So come out of the meditation, do my A Course In Miracles. And I'm just super, I was so calm and centered and connected. I think that that's a great word to say. I was connected. Like I have was just at peace in the moment, savoring my cup of coffee. Um, very, I hadn't perhaps I'd say spaced out is the right word. I would start my reading the A Course In Miracles. And then the next thing you know, it took me to some starts is what I'm trying to say until I was able to focus on it. The A Course In Miracles, section of a manual for teachers, uh, section three, I think it was, I can't remember what the name was, but again, I was not hard on myself for not focusing, right.Mischa Z: 08:31 It can be frustrated and I'm not focusing. I have to start again or read that paragraph for the sixth time or that sentence for the seventh time. And that was very much, it's all good. It's all good. I was not tripping at all and having awareness that I was not tripping. So that, that there was very much the feeling this morning in the meditation and coming out in the meditation of the gift of the aware, observing the observer. Is that a way to say it? Uh, um, yes. So my mind was drifting it's it's one of those days. Thanks for hanging in there. If you've made it this far, really the whole point of telling you all about the meditation and such was to say, one of the thoughts that popped up is I was reading A Course In Miracles and I jotted it down was covert anger. I was very memories of my covert anger, um, issues. Had calm, subversive as well. They were so subversive to me and that I was able to definitely justify them. And so my rationalization was subverting my relationship, my happy relationships, how's that? Oh my gosh, Russell Brunson. If you're listening to this, you will not be happy. I'm not using fifth grader, lower words.Mischa Z: 10:23 Oh my gosh. So many thoughts, streams piling through the brain. But so, uh, I'll, I'll close that loop, uh, Russell Brunson and many others, uh, you know, they say, Hey, when you're talking to the public, oftentimes a very effective way to get your point across is take, keep it simple. Like keep, you know, you don't need to use big words like that can actually distract from your message. And I think about that a lot. Cause I, I love big words. I love looking them up in the dictionary when I come across them. It's fun to, to sometimes, you know, look up words and then see them see that word materialize in your, or in my, um, conversations are writing at a later date. And as a matter of fact, to continue on that loop, um, there's a thing called Hemingway Hemingway app or hemingway.com, Hemingway editor or Hemingway app.Mischa Z: 11:35 I think it's Hemingway editor.com (it's actually hemingwayeditor.com). I'll put the link, check the link in the show notes. Um, and by the way, does anyone else do this? Does anyone else like throw in the big words, thinking that will make you more effective? I know I do. So if you do, Hey, welcome to the tape. So Hemingway editor, I think that's what it's called. Hemingway editor.com. You can again, check the show, the links in the show enough, you can, you can put in your sentence and it will tell you what grade level you're speaking at and are the sentences too complex are like run-ons or things like that. Or, um, you know, are you using it'll, it'll tell you words that are like, uh, I'm trying to think of the word. Um, well it'll give you recommendations for like past tense, present tense or things like that, or it'll say, Hey, you can actually just omit this word. Fricking love that I've gotten in the habit of going to Hemingway editor.com and, and putting in, uh, sentences things that I'm writing and really using it as a tool to, to be more concise in my thoughts, in my writing and, um, fix run-on sentences and all sorts of stuff.Mischa Z: 13:18 And it's really fun to use it and then send it out, send out whatever I'm sending out email or, or show notes or something like that. And then read it at a later date and be like, oh yeah, that is much easier to read than my normal writing. Anyhow, the meditation subversive, anger, covert, anger, and the issues that it caused me. And when I had awareness of it and the steps that I took to break free of it, that's what I was was, and am going to discuss. Let's do that for covert anger part two. Okay.Speaker 1: 14:07 Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for spending time with me today, as someone who is committed to growth and service to this world. I so appreciate your willingness to come with me, go within and serve our world through change. If you found value in this podcast and you know, someone who can use this message, share this episode with them, share it. So our mission can be achieved one episode at a time and of course, subscribe so you can hear more. And lastly, for more resources on what has helped me on my journey and can help you on yours, go to be love.media forward slash resources. 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I finished the A Course In Miracles (ACIM) "Text" portion. I've been hard at ACIM for two years. I give you a high level breakdown of the layout. I'm astonished that I've come this far with it. And one of major breakthroughs I've had. I relate the impact of studying ACIM for that long to things you may have been studying.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting! These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones. You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS, https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for mobile mic for Android https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: email@example.comFor social Media: https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 I finished the A Course In Miracles "Text". I just finished the A Course In Miracles "Text". I've been reading that, reading the A Course In Miracles, diligently doing all the exercise every day for, it's gotta be right at two years. And that's what I'm going to talk about today. And it's interesting. It feels like such a major accomplishment. And I was, I've been, I finished it yesterday, actually the Text. So the, A Course In Miracles combined volume is four main sections. There's the "Text", the "Workbook For Students", the "Workbook For Teachers". And I think it's "glossary" of terms or it's something there's a four section. And I, when I started it two years ago, I tried to start with the "Text", the "Text" section. It's about 670 or 675 pages long, composed of chapters. And each chapter has a section and each section is about two to three pages and it's super dense, lots of weighty concepts. And it's written in this double negatives and things like that. I was constantly looking up words and having to reread sentences to try to understand it. What they meant and get through the double and triple negatives even I think.Mischa Z: 02:16 And so in order, the A Course In Miracles is "Text", which is the 675 pages composed of all the chapters and sections. Then there is the "Workbook For Students", which is 365 daily exercises. And they're thought, um, exercises, meditation practices, um, some of the daily practices, have you say a mantra or a thought or a way to look at things on the top of the hour, every hour. Different things like that. It's really, really cool. And then I've just started the "Workbook For Teachers". And of course there's the "introduction" before all of that. So in the introduction, it says, Hey, you can read these this in no particular order. So if you're not called to read the "Text" first, then do the "Workbook For Students" or do the "Workbook For Teachers" or what have you. So I was trying to read the Text, but it was so weighty and lots of concepts and lots of words that I wasn't necessarily comfortable with.Mischa Z: 03:57 And so I found it to be a massive struggle and it was not gaining ground in the Text. This was two years ago when I first started. I was just walking past the skate park and they were cranking loud punk ish music. Not the poppy punk that perhaps we're all familiar with, but that edge. More mean. Mean's the right word, more aggression. I know what the word is. I'm looking for it. It doesn't matter. I hit pause and then re-started right now. So, and then of course I was reflecting on. Man, I used to kind of like that music when I was a wee lad and I would skateboard myself.Mischa Z: 04:55 Yes. When it was a weed, lad and used to skateboard myself who were the bands. Um, there was the straight edge bands cause because I was sober at such a young age and still sober straight line sobriety. Minor Threat, that was one of the straight edge bands. But of course there was the Dead Kennedys, Black Flag, the Sex Pistols, your classic. And then all the other ones, I can't remember. The more famous punk band has just popped into my head. But anyhow, back to the more spiritually weighted matters. Um, of A Course In Miracles in the Text was just not grooving for me. And so I was like, all right, I guess I'll just go to probably try it for a couple of weeks. So I moved on to, um, the Workbook For Students and the 365 exercises. And it was awesome. Highly recommend it to anybody, but I, but I did it one day at a time was very diligent, did not miss a day.Mischa Z: 06:10 If I went on camping trips, I would, I print out I'd snap, a picture printed out of that days, you know, exercise. And it really transformed my life in a lot of ways. If I was prepared, I would have told, be telling you how it transformed my life, but suffice it to say that judgements have been stripped away massively. Like I just don't judge people, places and things nearly as much. And it's interesting because as I was coming to starting the A Course In Miracles, I was like, I still have this low line judgment. And I don't like it. I don't like placing judgment on what people say, I'm just over it. And then A Course In Miracles manifested my willingness to do the a course of miracles. Finally manifested anyhow, I finished the 365 daily exercises of the Workbook For Students and started, went back to the Text and it was the most amazing thing.Mischa Z: 07:30 The Text, I could see it in a new light and the concepts were clean and crisp. I was able to get through the double negatives, you know, just awesome. So, so awesome. But I distinctly remember at the beginning of starting the Text, the second time I was like, there are 675 pages, two to three pages a day of way weighty concepts, what, that's a lifetime away. It felt like it was a lifetime away. And it was. So anyway, I just, all of a sudden yesterday I was done, literally. I was like, oh my God, I'm done! And wow. And my life for that next year, we'll tell you about reading that through the COVID through financial stuff, through like it's true, so much cool things have happened, new layers of letting go. I should save it for part two. Um, yes, yes. I will save it for part two, but I just would encourage anybody go buy A Course In Miracles and do itSpeaker 2: 08:56 And jump in the fray with me. You can click in the links in my show notes or on the resources page, www.belove.media/resources. So, so powerful. So look for a part two where I get more in depth into, um, actual changes that I'm aware of. And I'm going to end with this. I have gotten feedback from multiple people on how I've shifted so much, um, from, of course in miracles.New Speaker: 09:38 So as I was, you know, finished the course in miracles. And then, um, I finished the Text section of A Course In Miracles, the 675 pages, effectively two to three pages a day I got done and I was like, thinking, oh my gosh, I've got to record an episode about this because it's been so profound in my life. The ACIM for short, it's been so profound in my life. And then I was thinking, well, how many books have I read, which are powerful, or what have you, or, you know, I've been reading the big book. You can Google that. What's the big book, um, for my gosh, 35 years now, on and off, it's been so powerful in my life. I was thinking, well, what about, so I was like, well, gosh, I don't know if people will get the gravity of, of finishing the Text section, honestly. So I was thinking about it. I was like, man, I guess I would liken it to, I'm trying to think of any super it's like a college course or something is what I would say. So two years of this course in miracles, it's like college kind of, it's like taking math for two years, plowing through a couple of weighty, you know, math books and, and increasing your capacity for math equations, you know, getting into super fancy stuff. Or maybe, uh, I'm thinking like, um, Metta, no, not metaphysics, uh, like, uh, you know, physics like as people grow, grow and physics. And, and of course now I can't remember any of the terms, but then I was also thinking, well, maybe it's like someone reading the Bible. I've never tried to read the Bible myself, but I know some people have dedicated their lives to Matthew, this and Joseph that to Colin at this. And, you know, and just study a little bit or a lot of it every day. And as they can, maybe maybe people can relate to that or students or people who've taken doctorates, or masters or been to college, or maybe somebody who's, you know, mechanical thing. So learning, you know, going deep on engine stuff for electronics or it's, it's the it's that kind of wait. That was my final thought goodbye.
Being in a sex deprived marriage or relationship doesn't sound like the goal everyone is aiming for, yet so many people have found themselves in this exact situation. The number of reasons you may be experiencing this in your particular relationship could be anything. Tom and Lisa are answering the question, how to survive a sexual drought when the sex drive is super low. They get super vulnerable as Lisa shares her experience feeling less sexual and not being able to have sex as often because of her medical issues. They are sharing the 2 biggest pieces of advice to help you thrive and survive your next sex drought. Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They're taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. SHOW NOTES: Understanding | Why it's not a sexual drought when there are serious medical issues [0:45] No Pressure | Lisa on how supportive Tom was during her medical issues, no pressure [1:41] Feeling Sexual | Feeling less sexual and badly even if your partner is being supportive [3:07] Open Talks |Having open talks about how you're feeling, no judgement, just check in [4:40] Incest Taboo | A sexless marriage gives room for incest taboo, turning into roommates [6:19] Maintenance | 2 ways to keep your relationship alive: frequent sex & communication [9:42] Compromising | When sex drives are mismatched and not aligned, meet in the middle [12:09] Changing Love | Tom on ways to fall in love again with physical changes & feel desired [13:54] Secret to 20 Years | Lisa shares how having the uncomfortable conversations is the key [17:25] QUOTES: “Be open about how you're feeling. It's no judgement, it's no pressure on the other person.” Lisa Bilyeu [4:43] “You have to have sex often. You have to be very thoughtful not to let much time elapse. because it keeps that relationship dynamic alive.” Tom Bilyeu [9:45] “In a marriage, you have to negotiate this stuff, and that means that each of you are going to give a little.” Tom Bilyeu [13:00] “Why isn't he attracted to me anymore?', [...] because neither of you ever created the space in the first place that you could have the honest discussion” Lisa Bilyeu [19:08]
Jay shares a crazy story about the importance of maintaining the buddy system from a bachelor party he recently attended, and we share some advice from strangers on how to have a happy marriage (or at least a happy relationship, if you're not there yet).
In this interview former NFL player, American Ninja athlete, and transformational public speaker Anthony Trucks breaks down the three phases of his "Shift Method". See, Shift, Sustain. And the best part, he gives actionable steps within each phase. You can literally listen to this interview and begin to transform your life. And he tells amazing stories about crushing quarterbacks in front of 50,000 people! Um…it's amazing. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out Anthony Trucks here: https://anthonytrucks.com/Take his Identity Quiz that helped me so much here: https://go2.bucketquizzes.com/sf/4e63da08Get his book and free gifts here: https://identityshiftbook.com/Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting! These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones. You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS, https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for mobile mic for Android https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: firstname.lastname@example.orgFor social Media: https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: [music]0:00:06.4 Mischa Z: Welcome back to The Tools For A Good Life Summit. Right now, I would like to introduce to you Anthony Trucks, Ex-NFL player. This is a foster kid turned NFL athlete and serial entrepreneur with one serious superpower; making shift happen no matter what, by assessing the power of identity. You have overcome 30-plus traumatic life events, navigating the identity shifts that followed. Anthony has come to be known as the leading expert in shifting, which is making a shift internally to elevate how you operate externally, which in turn changes your life. Your system is called the Shift Method, and you weave together neuroscience, psychology, technology, and hard fought life lessons to help anyone with a desire for more in their life, achieve any goal they want or have ever wanted. I especially like this next sentence, "Before making it apparent that their goals were actually set far below their true potential in the first place." I love that. Like tapping into the potential that people don't even know that's there, it's beautiful.0:01:29.0 Anthony Trucks: And it's beyond, yeah.0:01:30.2 Mischa: Yeah.0:01:30.5 Anthony Trucks: Usually, it's far beyond their thoughts. We set limitations on our dreams without even knowing it.0:01:35.2 Mischa: Yeah, it's amazing. Buckle up, it's time to make shift happen.0:01:39.5 Anthony Trucks: Shift, shift and move.0:01:43.6 Mischa: [laughter] So first off, thank you so much for jumping in the fray with me. Very excited. And let's just maybe spend a few minutes, we can talk a little bit about your history and your 30-plus traumatic life events. I just... Looking at your history, one thing that jumped out at me was, you were 14, perhaps struggling a little bit in the foster home system. Yes, and then...0:02:09.6 Anthony Trucks: Yeah.0:02:10.3 Mischa: I read a note, you said, "Hey, I was a self-aware kid," and I recognized your pattern and you perhaps needed to change at that point. Maybe speak to that just quickly.0:02:21.5 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, well it's interesting, when I got to the age of 14, I'd already gone through years of crazy, We'll call it. I was given away at three, so I had a lot of different dynamics woven all into the personality and identity of who I was. It took a lot of years, but after a while, you start to see yourself for who you are. The problem is, I think, we are all self-aware, but we're aware of a self that we've crafted that's not always the most positive, so that's where why we beat ourselves up, "And we're not that good, not that great." And I think there's a separation when you can... In a positive way, a separation when you understand who you are seeing yourself through of the filter of the world, and then who you actually are. There is a difference. And so I think at 14, 15, I was still developing that. It wasn't until I was really like 15, that I got a chance to really see who I was. And I was like, "Oh, that's who you are," 'cause prior to that moment, I saw myself in a light that wasn't the best.0:03:15.3 Mischa: And was this a conscious change? Or was it sort of it just happened and looking back on it, hindsight, you're like, "Oh." Or was it... Does that question make sense, or...0:03:31.7 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it does make sense. It was more of a hindsight, I think it took time and in the distance, and the background to get it.0:03:38.6 Mischa: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You're just on the phone there, now you wanna put the...0:03:42.3 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, there's someone at the front door, but I'm not gonna talk to him.0:03:44.9 Mischa: Okay.0:03:45.6 Anthony Trucks: Somebody delivered flowers to my house, and it was the wrong person. So I think she's taking them, which is good, I hope she takes them to the person that deserves them 'cause someone deserves them, and they were not my flowers, but I'm good now.[chuckle]0:03:58.9 Mischa: All good. I'll be able to... We'll strike that. Strike that.0:04:02.1 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, yeah. Well, we could leave it in, it would just be weird, but that's the scatter brain-brain that is my brain. I'm the only one home, so my dog started barking, I gotta like, "Is someone at the door?" So yeah.0:04:10.9 Mischa: Yeah, yeah, yeah.0:04:11.9 Anthony Trucks: Now, we're good though. That's part of my identity. I can keep rolling, man. I mean you can keep it in, you don't have to keep it in.0:04:17.9 Mischa: Yeah, no, I love it. And we'll keep rolling. I think it's good.0:04:21.0 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, it's life.0:04:21.7 Anthony Trucks: What's that?0:04:22.4 Mischa: It's life, man.0:04:23.2 Mischa: That's life, especially these days.0:04:25.7 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, seriously.0:04:27.5 Mischa: Yeah. And then of course there was the, your very brief stint in the NFL. And I think the...0:04:37.5 Anthony Trucks: Yes, three years.0:04:39.3 Mischa: Yeah, yeah, the striking part there was you only got to play in one pre-season game and then you had an injury, or?0:04:44.8 Anthony Trucks: Well, my third year, I got hurt in my first pre-season game. So my first year, second year, I was cut the first year, cut the second year, third year, I was finally looking like I was about to make the team. And then I tore my shoulder and the season was over. So that was the first pre-season game. So no, I played in games. It wasn't like I just was there for a year and out of there, but it was, it's unfortunate man, there's a lot of build up to that whole situation, but the NFL is an interesting beast. It's the highest level in the world. So any time you get to the highest level in the world for anything, I don't care if it's the highest level of the world for, I don't know, kitten sock knitting, there's gonna be crazy things that go on, 'cause you got so many people involved, it's cutthroat.0:05:25.3 Mischa: Cutthroat.0:05:26.1 Anthony Trucks: It's ruthless. It is demanding at levels that are beyond human typical logic. 'Cause the typical human, I don't think that they... And this is not like saying people are better, right? But you're not typically in a race or in a competition to be the best in the world out of seven billion people, you know what I'm saying? So you're not... You're not at that... So now that you do, it's like the average human doesn't get the logic behind, why would you subject yourself to so much difficulty and pain and anguish? Why would you do that? It doesn't make sense. And I'm like, "It's right, it doesn't make sense that I would live a mediocre life, that is one I don't want to see what I'm fully capable of." It's a back and forth, you know what I'm saying?0:06:05.6 Mischa: Yeah.0:06:06.5 Anthony Trucks: So it's not that anybody is right or wrong, it's just, what's logic. And I don't think people use that... "Well, it's not logical." No, it's not logical to your brain, and that's okay. It's not logical that you would marry that person because they're a horrible person. There's just different things that are logic, and so I just... I've got to the point of realizing in life, the beauty is the difference. What is good for me isn't good for everybody else. I'm not a good fit for everybody, and that's okay. That's completely okay, and if you can get to that point, it alleviates so much more stress and anxiety and just weirdness that happens in life.0:06:40.3 Mischa: It's so empowering, it's very empowering.0:06:42.4 Anthony Trucks: Freeing, yeah.0:06:43.1 Mischa: A Place to be. Yeah, frank, I love that. I was curious, did you have any glory moments, sort of those stadium, 50,000 people.0:06:53.2 Anthony Trucks: Did I? Oh man.0:06:55.9 Mischa: Yeah.0:06:56.1 Anthony Trucks: How many do you wanna know about, man?0:06:57.3 Mischa: Tell me a couple. Tell me, I wanna know.0:07:00.7 Anthony Trucks: Here's a good one. Here's a good one. Here's a good one. It's two. These two are gonna be Oregon ones 'cause I had fun in Oregon. I had fun everywhere else but Oregon was a good one. So there's one play where we're playing against Arizona State, they had come to our house, junior year, and I'm trying to find, we're trying ball, right? And what happens, it was junior year, it's what it was. And they're at our house and we gotta beat them, we're trying to obviously make our way to get to another level and trying to get some ball game stuff going on, and they come to our house. And there's just this one specific play to where if they line up a certain way I blitz, and if they shift out of that, I don't blitz anymore because they have an extra person. Because if I blitz, somebody's open, so we'd be screwed. It's like 3rd and 12 or something, and the ball is... They get up to the ball, they get lined up. I'm supposed... Slits, they move. I don't realize it. So I am supposed to cover and in my head, I'm like, "I'm going, I'm going, I'm going, I'm going, I'm going."0:07:52.5 Anthony Trucks: I can see in the video, my line back with a mic sitting next going, "Don't go." You could see his hand motion, but it's Austin Stadium and Austin Stadium is one of the loudest in the country. You can't hear anything. So you gotta know it, and I'm just dialed, "I'm gonna get this dang court," as my head's here. And all of a sudden like you can see me in the balls hike, and I take off. Now, I don't know how that's happened, but their right guard was the guy who's supposed to guard me, guard or tackle, completely misses me, doesn't whatever it is, and the quarterback rolls out to me, and as he's rolling out, I barely... And he gets like a step away, I have to leave my feet, and if both of my hands don't grab this man in mid-air and grab him like a carnival game. You Know. I jump out, I'm in full Superman, I get one hand on his shoulder, one hand on his hip, I take him down and I celebrate, and the whole stadium just erupts, turn over on run downs, and we get the ball back. It was crazy. That was one of them. Another one...0:08:52.6 Mischa: So first of, wait, wait a minute. So that's on accident that that happens?0:08:56.0 Anthony Trucks: Oh yeah. After the play, if you look at the video, we have it after the play, I'm cheering my linebacker guy comes up, grabs my helmet, and you can see him yelling at me, "You've messed up, but you didn't mess up. Great job. Don't do that ever again."[chuckle]0:09:07.5 Mischa: That's so good. Okay, next one. Okay.0:09:09.8 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, and then other one was, we're playing against... So at my senior year, I'm balling against... All the teams are playing. I end up leading my senior year, the Pack-10 at the time, in sacks, tackles for loss, forced fumbles and fumbles recovered, I was like 6th in total tackles, but I missed a game against USC to a high ankle sprain, but I was balling that year. And I was doing well, I had three sacks against ASU, as a matter of fact, the next year at their place, and so I'm feeling good about myself and my coach ran a meeting one time we were about to play Cow, Cow is coming up to Oregon. And I'm talking I'm proud of how good I am, he's like great job. He goes, "Hey I don't want you to think you're the greatest," he says, "You ain't the greatest until you go in there, you sack, you force a fumble, you recovered the fumble, you pick it up and score a touchdown. Then you can start talking, right? So he says this and he's serious, but joking at the same time.0:10:00.5 Mischa: Of course.0:10:00.6 Anthony Trucks: This was like early in the week. Now we come to the game, I was like the second or third quarter, I can't remember what it was. And they line me up and they give me a blitz, so I'm like, "I'm gonna go get this guy," right? And in my head, I'm not thinking about what he said earlier in the week, I'm just doing my thing. So I come around the bend and the running back goes to block me. Somehow, he misses me completely. I sidestep him, he goes flying by. So I go up, the quarterback doesn't see me, blind sight, sack him. Forced ball comes out, forced the fumble. Fumbles on the ground. We both go to the ground. I recovered the fumble. Now it's college football, so your knee is down, so I didn't score a touchdown. I mean, the whole crowd's erupted. Everybody is crazy. Everybody's... I'm excited, I come to the sideline. I'm high five'ing. Hey man. Hey man, I come to a coach. He looks me dead in eyes, and he goes, "But you didn't score a touchdown." That was Don Kellum.0:10:54.0 Mischa: Ruthless. Don.0:10:54.3 Anthony Trucks: Ruthless dude. That's how he was. He was the hard-nosed dude. But he...0:10:57.3 Mischa: That's cold-blooded.0:10:57.9 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, I got a whole bunch of weird ones like that. I got stuff from the NFL, High School. We got a whole bunch, but those are two of my fun ones.0:11:01.3 Mischa: That's beautiful. Yeah. And so when you hurt your shoulder, and career is over, that's pretty deflating to go from those highs to those lows, obviously.0:11:14.5 Anthony Trucks: Pretty much though. Yeah, you go from being somebody to being nobody, at least in your head, internally. Any time a human being has put their heart into something, whether it's being a parent and the kid goes to college, leave the military, you leave sports, you lose a job, you leave a job, you sell a business. When you no longer can show up in the capacity of that role anymore, you lose a sense of yourself. And so for me, it was football and I've lost a sense of myself in that realm, and so yeah, I definitely had a little downward spiral, we'll call it.0:11:43.0 Mischa: Yes, and then you were able to make it through a dark time, come out the other side. Have a pivot point where, "Hey, I think coming through that perhaps close to suicide moment," yeah?0:12:00.3 Anthony Trucks: Most definitely. Yeah, unfortunately.0:12:01.9 Mischa: Yeah, unfortunately, it's a dark place to be. So you create a tool, which I'm staring at, at least the result of the tool, so now you...0:12:12.2 Anthony Trucks: One of them.0:12:12.7 Mischa: What's that?0:12:12.8 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, it's one of them for sure. I make a whole bunch of weird stuff now.0:12:15.5 Mischa: Yeah, cool. Oh, go ahead.0:12:17.5 Anthony Trucks: That's a good tool you got right there. That's the slow or go identity. It's a good grid right there.0:12:22.3 Mischa: Yeah, it's great. I just wanna tell you that, as I said before we started recording that you are very influential in me helping get the summit.0:12:33.1 Anthony Trucks: Nice.0:12:34.2 Mischa: Continuing with the summit process, because I took your little... You go to... Anybody can do this. They can go to Anthonytrucks.com and click on the what's my identity type button.0:12:46.8 Anthony Trucks: Easy.0:12:47.8 Mischa: Yeah, super easy. And the quiz I was taking it like... Yeah, we'll see. Honestly, I was like, "Yeah, what's this?" And I took it and that it was right on the money, my friend, and I was [0:13:00.4] ____.0:13:00.4 Anthony Trucks: Is it kinda weird?0:13:00.4 Mischa: Yes, it's very weird. Turns out, I hate to admit it, but I will, I'm a dabbler. And so it helped me... One thing you have on the dabbler is to find little successes to help propel you forward and to have a contingency plan for when you go into that dark spot, that shiny object.0:13:27.2 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, 'cause dabblers are people who chase opportunity, but they shut down in oppositions sometimes.0:13:31.3 Mischa: Yes.0:13:31.7 Anthony Trucks: So in order to push forward to be a doer, all you have to do is spend time doing more, which means you have to tackle the oppositions.0:13:39.6 Mischa: Yeah, perfect. Love it. So that moment helped me progress forward with my summit, 'cause it's lots of inviting and potentials for rejection and stretching, right?0:13:53.2 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, I agree.0:13:54.3 Mischa: So thank you for that, Anthony.0:13:54.4 Anthony Trucks: You're very welcome, man. What it's for? What I made it for, man. Yeah.0:13:57.8 Mischa: Yeah. So that was... I just... Beautiful. So I'm gonna get to the point here. So you're gonna answer a question for me. I'm gonna set up a scenario and why we're all here. So here's the scenario. We've got somebody... And it sounds like you have been through it multiple times in your life, so you are gonna be familiar with it, so we've got... Let's look at life, the three-legged stool, relationships, finance and health, and then... Yep, now, so now someone who is successful or once successful, and they... You have two legs of those stool come out from under you, that can be a very dark place, and you were there.0:14:40.1 Mischa: And so for me, I had that. I had had success in my 20-year sales career, all of a sudden, career upheaval. I went through a divorce out of nowhere, financial distress, and both my parents died in rapid succession within two weeks of each other, and it was a very dark time. And the thing was, was that to pull myself up from my bootstraps attitude that, "Work your way through it," wasn't working. I needed extra, I needed a little nudge, I needed something like this. So my question to you is, thinking of your tool, your modality, all your bag of tricks, what are the exact next steps you would offer a person like me that was in that scenario, so that I know that I'm headed in the new, right direction, that I'll have positive momentum towards getting my life back on track?0:15:36.4 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, so the one thing that's good about this is it's not a guessing game. I think some people, they will navigate this by guessing little pieces that could be beneficial, and for me it's like, I look at the whole revamp. See you've mentioned and alluded to earlier, I've had 30-plus randomly weird situations that have... I could say each one of them would have... Has knocked other people off track for an entire lifetime.0:15:56.2 Mischa: Yes.0:15:58.7 Anthony Trucks: Very odd. It's very odd, and I didn't even think of it and notice it until I was in my early 30s, to be quite honest. I was like, somebody else brought it to the forefront and I was like, "Yeah, I did, oddly have a way of doing this, and so I'll tell you what I've done every time that that's happened to me."0:16:12.0 Mischa: Fantastic.0:16:12.7 Anthony Trucks: So I did it accidentally at first, and now I do it proactively. I think we do have that unfortunate life, we do proactively choose to eat healthy sometimes, but most of the time we react to life, we're not responding in a chosen manner. So what I've done is I've gone back and said in those moments, I needed to look at who I was, not so much what I knew or what I had access to. And in my life now, I'm always like, "I got a problem. Who is Anthony right now? My wife and I are arguing, who am I? I'm not the best father. Who am I? I'm not working out the way I'd like to, Who am I?" And there's a reason why I say, "Who am I?", not, "What do I gotta do?" Because if you are the person to do those things, you wouldn't even question what you have to do, you just do that stuff. That's just the simple nature of it. Like if I'm the person who just... If it's who I am to work out every day, I'm gonna work out every day, I'm not gonna worry about that. If it's who I am to be the most amazing, loving, caring, paying attention husband, that's who I'll be every day.0:17:09.5 Anthony Trucks: And so when someone's in that space, typically we say, "What's wrong? What do I gotta fix? What do I gotta do?" And I'm more like, "Who do you gotta be?" 'Cause if you don't realize that there's a certain core person of you running all this, then you're gonna keep repeating the same situation, you'll keep landing in the same place. And this is why a lot of my work is in identity, it's all in that realm of, "Who are you?" So what I first have people do is you have to have them see. And the see phase... It's a three-step phase called the shift method. The first stage is the see phase, and the see phase is where you get to go in and take a look at what is really going on, and it usually isn't fun to see. It's the stuff where you get exposed to the true aspect of your humanity and you go, "Yeah, I don't like that part of me," but for the first time in your life, maybe you actually accept it and go, "I gotta work on that." 'Cause not everybody does.0:17:58.4 Mischa: Oh, absolutely. It can be hard. Can I ask you a question in that regard?0:18:01.6 Anthony Trucks: Please.0:18:02.0 Mischa: So is there like... Give my audience an actionable step in that regard to...[overlapping conversation]0:18:06.7 Mischa: Yeah, absolutely.0:18:07.6 Anthony Trucks: Here we go. So this is dead serious, is we have something we call triad talks, and it's a certain series of questions in a certain order and a specific way we do it, but I'll give you the overarching. What you do is you go and select a group of questions that essentially would get to the root of you, that you don't even... That you'd be scared to hear the answer to. We'll call it that. Get to the root of the questions. And then what you do is you go find people who you know and that you like and that they're positive humans, and you ask them, "Hey, can you answer these questions for me, about me?" And this is something where there's a way you go through it to where you do certain things to where you're not actually, we'll call it, cannibalizing your ability to get great answers, but what you'll do is you'll get feedback if you do it the right way. You'll get feedback from people that is really hard to swallow.0:19:00.0 Mischa: And usable, so let's just... I wanna tackle that. So we've got step one of the see... Step one is the see phase and a tool within that is a triad talk, and so... Fantastic. So give me an example of one, two or three questions, so like...0:19:19.3 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, easy. So I guess, well, one question I ask them is, if you were to get rid of a part of me, like, okay, you'll remove a certain part of how I do things. What would it be and why? If you were to rate my... If you could do this actually. Rating is usually fun. If you were to rate and you'll give me a number based from zero to 10 on how good of a friend I am or how good of a blank I am, is a good question there. What is the most frustrating thing about me that you feel like you have to endure, and I'll never change? Like little stuff like this.0:19:56.2 Mischa: Oh, those are good.0:19:57.1 Anthony Trucks: And they let them... And you ask the questions, but you have to be prepared for the answers. You have to actually absorb those answers a certain way, and if you do it right, it will break your heart, you'll feel like you wanna retort and you can't, but you'll get gold, you'll start to see yourself, and that's I think one of the biggest gifts is to see through the veil of really what's going on that other people can see, but I'm just blind to it, there's a statement that I love is you can't see the label when you're inside the jar. And a lot of us are in that jar and we don't even know what's going on or operating.0:20:33.2 Anthony Trucks: It's like, "How come no one's coming around? 'Cause it says poison on the outside," dude.[chuckle]0:20:36.5 Anthony Trucks: Like, Have you seen yourself?[laughter]0:20:38.2 Mischa: Right. Oh my God.0:20:38.7 Anthony Trucks: You gotta figure that out.[laughter]0:20:40.4 Mischa: Oh my gosh, that is amazing.0:20:43.6 Anthony Trucks: That's one of the first pieces, man, is, is going to a level of actually, that's the tactical thing is, What in the world do I gotta work on? And then the second thing that we do is we go through the shift phase, which really is where the action is taken, we are shifting internally and making shifts actionably externally because of those internal ones. And what it allows us to do is take a look at our life and then you actually change your life, 'cause shifts make the change, right? If I wanna change the destination of a plane, I am shifting the trajectory, right? I'm not... I wouldn't call it like I'm gonna change the trajectory. You'd kinda shift it like, I'm gonna go a little bit one degree this way. And I'll change the destination, right? That's what we're doing, we're trying to change the destination in your life. It's just a shift, not crazy.0:21:25.2 Mischa: You know what's so good about that and so hopeful about that is we don't necessarily need to do a 100, we don't need to move the ship completely.0:21:33.7 Anthony Trucks: No.0:21:33.8 Mischa: Right, it's like, "Hey, let's take those next little incremental things to get us going in that right direction, Right?."0:21:40.0 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, if you go... I literally Googled this, if you were to choose to go from San Francisco to the, say, Orlando Airport, if you on the way there made a one degree shift in trajectory from the get-go you would land 40 miles south in Lakeland, Florida.0:21:57.5 Mischa: Wow.0:21:58.3 Anthony Trucks: One degree.[laughter]0:21:58.9 Anthony Trucks: Isn't that crazy?[chuckle]0:22:00.2 Mischa: It's crazy, one degree.0:22:01.0 Anthony Trucks: That's the difference. So people are like, you don't gotta go and overhaul your entire life, man, just... 'cause the plane's always in the air. It's always going somewhere. Just adjust the trajectory. It's a shift and you're good.0:22:15.1 Mischa: I love it. So let me ask, how about an actionable step in the action step phase, so you've gone out and you gave me a few questions, so give me like an action step to help make that degree change.0:22:27.7 Anthony Trucks: Oh, yeah. So it's just fun but everybody can do this. All you gotta do is ask yourself, what's that one thing that's been lingering, and I'm gonna say why this is important. Let's purpose it with this, if something didn't scare you, it wouldn't be important to you. There are things that scare you that wouldn't scare me because they're important to you, and vice versa, there's things that I would be deadly afraid, deathly afraid to do it. You wouldn't even care. Like surfing, I'm gonna get eaten by a shark. I'm not gonna do that. But you're like, "No, bro this is easy." You see what I'm saying.0:22:55.5 Mischa: Yes.0:22:56.0 Anthony Trucks: The difference is, it's because what's important to you. Now, here's the thing, if that thing is lingering didn't scare you, it would already be done by now. It just would. If I'm like, "Hey, I want a hamburger and a milkshake," and I'm not gonna feel guilty, I'm going to the store right now.[chuckle]0:23:12.1 Anthony Trucks: I'm going to get it now... Any of you've done, I'm not afraid of it, I'm looking forward to it.[laughter]0:23:16.2 Mischa: Yes. Yes.0:23:16.6 Anthony Trucks: So a lot of these ideas and things that linger for a lot of folks, they're like, "I'm good, I just gotta get... " No you're afraid of it, and that's okay.0:23:25.2 Anthony Trucks: Right? So the first action you take is in the direction of the fear, and if you don't know how to do that, you take the fear and you find ways to open it up until you find the smallest pieces of it and then start attacking the small pieces, right? It's... What is that earth invaders? When you hit the...0:23:42.7 Mischa: Oh, space invaders?0:23:42.8 Anthony Trucks: And it turns into little ones and little ones...0:23:44.0 Mischa: Yeah, yeah, yeah.0:23:44.8 Anthony Trucks: You gotta make it the small ones, that's obviously the wrong game to do that, but when you can make things small. 15 minutes, it's much easier to overcome the fear for that 15 minutes than it is to perceive, "I gotta do this for the next week. Oh my God, okay, I'm gonna do that next week," and then next week and the next month, and then... So chunk it down to the smallest minute steps and then attack it that way, but it's usually gotta be in the direction of something that scares you or could linger for too long.0:24:12.1 Mischa: So any real-life example you've seen recently or you see...0:24:14.9 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, you wanna launch a podcast, you wanna launch a summit, right? Summit or podcast, right? And I'm not saying you're afraid of it at all, but I'm just saying, this is what... Some people are probably afraid of doing it. Yeah, he's maybe a little bit afraid, right?[laughter]0:24:25.8 Mischa: Yeah, maybe.0:24:26.5 Anthony Trucks: So you didn't just one day go, "Alright, I'm gonna do everything today," you're like, "Alright, I'm gonna send an email first." Small step.0:24:32.6 Mischa: Yeah.0:24:33.0 Anthony Trucks: Write the email, send it out, you wanna do it. Okay, great, okay, okay, now I gotta buy some equipment, I gotta figure out what the email thing look like. I gotta say, Okay, how do I time this? How am I gonna deliver it? How people are gonna opt in? When they opt in what are they gonna get? How I set a checkout page? How am I gonna get 'em to pay for this? Do I do a PayPal? This is all the stuff that goes into it. It's minute little steps, but you didn't just wake up one day, say I'm gonna figure it out today, you looked at little by little by little, and chunked it apart to where now it's real, it's live and it's coming to fruition.0:25:01.7 Mischa: I love that. Yes, thank you. Perfect, so then, so we've got the see phase, the action phase or the stuff... What did you define?0:25:11.2 Anthony Trucks: Shift. The see and shift.0:25:12.3 Mischa: Yes, yes.0:25:12.8 Anthony Trucks: And the last stage is sustain.0:25:19.7 Mischa: Sustain.0:25:19.9 Anthony Trucks: The sustain phase. See, Shift, Sustain.0:25:20.7 Mischa: See, shift, I couldn't read my own writing. See, shift.0:25:25.3 Anthony Trucks: Me either.[laughter]0:25:25.4 Mischa: Sustain. Sustain. So tell me about sustain.0:25:27.2 Anthony Trucks: Sustain phase is the one where... We as people unfortunately get to the point of we have success and then we stop doing what it took to get there because it either wasn't who we were, we just were pushing, or we got lazy. We're like, "I'll have this and maintain it'll be there," but we don't realize that you've gotta sustain the amount of effort to sustain a level of success and if you wanna have more success, you have to sustain the drive to continue to keep achieving more. So what happens is some people will... Like I had my gym business. I would focus on, "Let me get past this hump, I gotta make some money." And I would do all these things to get to the point that I make that money to pay the bills and go, "Oh, I can relax now." And then three months later, I'm in the exact same place. I gotta fight real hard because every time I would get to the top, I would stop doing what it took to get to the top.0:26:13.7 Anthony Trucks: Imagine if I just kept doing that stuff, the amount of momentum. So people don't have sustainability in life and it's not because they don't know how or don't have the skillsets, they just stop when they feel like they don't need to have that kind of effort and push 'cause they're not looking at shifting into being that person. And there's reasons that this happens. I think sometimes we lose sight of why we're doing things. It's not anchored consciously as to why I'm moving every day, I'm just getting up and doing it 'cause it's what my job is now.0:26:41.0 Mischa: Yep.0:26:41.0 Anthony Trucks: And then also I think sometimes we float around the wrong people. I think the hive, the environment's difficult 'cause there's a statement of, "You are the average of the five people you surround yourself with." And I think it's halfway right. I think you're the average of the expectations of the five people you surround yourself with. If you think about it, if I wanna... Say I have a million dollars and I wanna make $2 million dollars. Well, there's people I could hang out with that maybe have a million dollars, but what if it's a person that makes a half a million dollars, but they wanna make 2 and the million dollar people are content?0:27:15.7 Mischa: Yeah.0:27:16.5 Anthony Trucks: Well, the expectation of the half a million dollar person, they're like, "Look, I'm not shooting for 1, I'm shooting for 2." "Well, I'm shooting for 2 also. Let's figure it out." Whereas the million dollar people are like, "We've got a million dollars, we're cool." There's nothing wrong with them, but for what I want, I need to be around the expectations of what it takes to get there 'cause that half a million dollar person is not gonna let me sit idle at 1.2 or 1.3. They're gonna be like, "No, you keep pushing. You gotta get to 2." Whereas the 1 million dollar people, they're like, "Well, you're good. Slow down. What are you doing? Are you crazy?" So I think when you get into the sustain phase, if I'm gonna sustain my trajectory, I must consistently have a hive of people who have expectations at a level that are at or above where I wanna have them myself.0:28:00.0 Mischa: That's a great... I like the expectation piece in there because the... I like that added bit because the perception is, "If I hang out with a millionaire, bam, that's gonna... That is gonna help me elevate." Not that that's the all end all, but as an example.0:28:16.3 Anthony Trucks: Yeah. You'll get there. You can, but then, you can, but it's hard to get past there. Not that you can't, but it's hard to get past there 'cause you'll get to the point of... Think about what I just... Logically. "I got a million. Alright, cool. I'm gonna hang out, put my feet up. I'm gonna golf with Bob." And I'm like, "No, bro, I wanna make a $2 million dollar business. I can't go golfing and do that. I gotta go keep working." You know what I mean? There's just things you gotta look at. And so it is. It's an expectation piece and then if you don't sustain it, man, you'll lose it.0:28:44.8 Anthony Trucks: You'll just lose to be in place. And then I think at a certain level, for me, the sustain phase is, "I gotta find out why I gotta keep growing." And what I've found is anybody that's had a nominal level of success, there's a certain heart, for the majority in my opinion, to give back. They thrive, they wanna do well, and I found that there's this thing called marginal utility. And if I have 10 hamburgers, well, if I eat one 'cause I'm starving, that first one is delicious. Now the second one, it's still pretty good. Third one, I don't know. Fourth one, I can't do it, I can't do it. I got seven more hamburgers, what am I doing right now? I wanna feel good though. What do I do? I can't keep eating hamburgers.0:29:23.7 Anthony Trucks: Well, if I wanna feel good, what if I give them to somebody else who's starving? Different kind of good, but I feel good, so I give him the hamburgers. He does the same thing. He eats three and he's like, "Alright, I got four more." He keeps on passing it along. Well, the idea is if you do that, you'll notice, "Wow, I really like how it feels to give back and to serve. Who do I have to be, to be able to do that at a higher level?" And guess what it does? Puts you right back to seeing who you are and who that next person is that can do that. It's a cycle.0:29:54.6 Mischa: I think that's such a great space to work from as well. It's initially where perhaps when we're younger or what have you, it's that financial, build the family, find that success that pulls us forward and then it can be such a great place to work from, to shift to that, "Alright, how can I be of service on a broader scale?" So that's a great... That's a great thought as far as sustaining. So what are two or three habits that you have to help propel you on a daily basis or perhaps to find that...0:30:38.8 Mischa: That service piece, yeah. Go.0:30:40.3 Anthony Trucks: Yeah, yeah. So here's one thing is I fall in love with the day, not the destination. I think sometimes we spend way too much time looking at, "Well, am I there yet? Am I there yet?" like a 5-year-old in the car. But I love the days and I have a certain amount of space and time in my day that I operate and I love it. I love to be in motion. I think all humans... We love the motion. There's magic in the motion. There's something too... Like I can sit here with all this stuff off in my office and hang out, but there's more joy talking to you. Just like you. I'm sure before you could be in your house and be content, but when we get on like this, it's a different kind of joy we get to hang out in. There's no anxiety, there's no stress, we're just chatting, two guys talking. This is the motion of the magic, right?0:31:25.2 Mischa: Yeah.0:31:25.6 Anthony Trucks: And so what I look at is I need to be always in a position where I'm doing things that are keeping me moving, but the right things. So when you say, "How do I keep that consistent?" I just... I have a certain block of my day. I love being in the groove of working, but I make sure the things inside that groove are the ones that still scare me, are the ones that move that move the needle, are the ones that are useful to what I'm doing and habitually I just commit to falling in love with the day. And if I do that enough and if I have things that I enjoy, eventually, 'cause they're the right things, I end up at a destination and then I'm like, "Cool. I wanna get back to climbing the mountain." You spend way less time at the peak than you do on the journey. I want to enjoy the journey. So that's a big piece of it. And then if I'm hiking a mountain, I don't wanna be with a person who won't shut up that's annoying.0:32:17.9 Anthony Trucks: I wanna be with people who are like... Cheer me on, who could have similar conversations. 'Cause the thing about whenever you're out for a hike, time flies by with great conversation.0:32:27.6 Mischa: It does.0:32:28.6 Anthony Trucks: It melts away. So if I'm gonna be on this hike and I'm gonna enjoy the journey, I wanna have people that I can enjoy it with. And then when I get to the peak, I get to celebrate. They're taking a picture of me, I'm taking a picture of them. We get some lady I don't know to take a picture of us. It's this cool experience because you have the people and you are loving every step of the journey, quite literally.0:32:49.3 Mischa: Yeah, that's great. Do you calendar your sustainability, those activities?0:32:57.3 Anthony Trucks: Oh, man. I have a very ridiculous dialed in calendar for how my life is. It's right here. It's like my life is rolling it's... But here's the beauty of it, I have the method I use that I teach people, it boils down to execution. I think that's the one thing. Some people give a lot of insight, information, theory, and then leave it on you to figure out how to make it real in your life. Whereas for me, we teach, we talk, we boil things down to very specific actions, and even then I don't leave you hanging. Then I'm like, "Alright, great. We're gonna go... We're gonna put them in your life now, we're gonna make sure... " I just had a client call today, we broke down her entire morning routine down to the exact hour and a half she'll do it. I think an hour and half's kinda long, but for her it fits. But the idea's like I'm not just saying, "Go make a morning routine," and she's like, "Alright," and then walks away. We work through all of it, every piece, so there's understanding for it and the timing behind it, and then it's like, "Alright, now we take the action on it."0:33:54.6 Anthony Trucks: And it's that action that creates the difference, it creates a change. And so when I'm doing these things, I'm not just theory, man. I'm like, "I want you to finally have these things real in your life, because when they are that's when the true confidence comes in, the transformation comes in. It's not in the planning." We as humans feel better there. I think people fall in love with a safe work. "I wanna start a business." "Okay, start a business. What are you gonna do?" "Okay, I'm gonna get my business cards done, I'm gonna make a landing page, I'm gonna think of a name, I'm gonna, follow the... " That's not the stuff that you need to do to make the business. It sounds like it is. It's the safe work, though. You could do it in your house at night, making a little website, it looks pretty.0:34:29.0 Anthony Trucks: But the scary thing that actually makes it a real business, not you in the background, or having a hobby, getting bored, is when you can go, "Okay, pay me for this. This is what it's gonna cost you to actually get this improvement in your life." It's a business and that's the scary work. Now, the safe work and the fun work that has a place, but that's not what does it, man. And that's the thing is people are afraid of doing the scary work. They don't understand the sacrifice that it takes sometimes.0:34:58.3 Mischa: Yeah. It sounds like you are not only gifted at doing that scary work yourself, but you've systemized a way to...0:35:08.0 Anthony Trucks: Oh, very much.0:35:09.7 Mischa: Yeah, to pass it on to other people.0:35:10.2 Anthony Trucks: I have to. If I don't, then I'm just talking. If I was to sit here and give people all this information and not give them some way to apply it, I have done a massive disservice. I think we have a lot of people in this space that are doing a disservice because all they do is talk. Which means all you do is point the problem out and you inspire and motivate, but then you don't tell them what to do. It's kind of like people leave events and they're, "I'm excited. I'm gonna do this." And they're all gripping the steering wheel, they can't... They go to bed and one day they wake up like, "Where did it go? What do I do now? I don't feel completely inspired. I forgot how I'm supposed to feel, what's the next step?" And then it turns into this, I think, an immediate switch, it turns into, I don't know, sadness, a lack of self-esteem because I'm like, "Man, I didn't even do anything. I suck." And now it's even worse.0:36:00.5 Mischa: Yeah, it's like that emotional roller coaster, right? The one that... Yeah, I get that.0:36:05.2 Anthony Trucks: Yeah. I'll inspire you, but I'm gonna be very clear. The real motivation comes from “can you get up in the morning and do something?” And it's like that will come from, did you do it? Did you take an action? Because the moment I can give someone a guiding point and then they go execute on it, they feel amazing. It's palpable. You can't take it from them. That person is the one that's gonna get up every day because they're looking forward to that feeling. It's not how I yelled at them or that video that I made that was super cool with great drone shots. That's alright, but the thing is “is did you do something with your life that I guided you to do yourself so you created the pride that you get to keep”?0:36:42.6 Mischa: Anthony, that's beautiful. I think that that is a great place to end this section. Don't forget, we're gonna do another interview, but I just wanna say quick to everybody watching and listening to Anthony and I, if this was fantastic and you want to get more of what Anthony has to offer and see more, upgrade to the All-access pass for the bonus interview because Anthony and I are going to go even deeper. And I have a few more amazing questions and I'm gonna go let you pick what we wanna talk about. Before we end this section, is there anything that you think we missed or you wanted to say before we stop this bit?0:37:27.9 Anthony Trucks: I don't. No. I believe those who wanna be better will go join. There's always this thing that years ago someone explained to me was like, "You wanna make an investment, but you can go and try to invest in a company, right? But the best investment is always in yourself." And those who pay, pay attention, because it's worth more. And if it's worth more, you'll do more with it. So those who are like, "I really wanna commit to doing something great," yeah, go ahead and take that next step because we're gonna get in here in a second and those are the people that can raise their hand and we'll look back years ago and go, "That person is successful." Why? It's not by accident. They took those next steps.0:38:04.1 Mischa: Yeah, thank you so much for that, Anthony. And then again, a quick reminder to everybody, you can go to anthonytrucks.com, click on the, “What's my identity?” Take this test. It is awesome. It helped me. And then you can also book a call, there's a link to book a call with you. So I would encourage anybody, if they don't upgrade and see the next section, to at least click on anthonytrucks.com and take the identity type quiz.[music]——————-
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I've quit many addictive compulsive behaviors in my life. Including drinking, drugging, and gambling. And I definitely had a case of workaholism. And these days as I build an online business...on my days of weakness where I think, "if I could just work more". I'm like, “Yeah. No. You can't." Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting! These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones. You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS, https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for mobile mic for Android https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: email@example.comFor social Media: https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 There's a line in the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous that says "seemingly he couldn't drink again, even if he wanted to". Now, in other words, a person that had been crippled with alcoholism and not being able to stop drinking, and it was physically killing him and destroying his relationships. And, uh, he embraces the program, the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous and, you know, ends up where seemingly he couldn't drink again, even if he wanted to. And I'm going to relate that to working a lot. Seemingly I couldn't work again a lot, even if I wanted to. And we could say call that alcohol, uh, workaholism. So, uh, you know, I've had an opportunity in my life to clean up lots of, uh, addictive compulsive behaviors. So quit drinking. Um, a long time ago, decades ago, 35 years ago, as of this recording and I am not here representing Alcoholics Anonymous.Mischa Z: 01:34 So let's just get that clear. Um, I also got to quit drugs. I also got to quit gambling and I definitely had a case of yeah, workaholism. I think you could call it a workaholism when I was in sales, you know, my quest for success, financial success for, you know, notoriety you with, with it being number one, within whatever company I was in. Um, perhaps I worked an inordinate amount inordinate, too much. How's that to the detriment of family, to the detriment of relationships, to the detriment of, um, my physical health, maybe. Um, definitely. Uh, but, and I'm not saying anybody should or should not want to work that much or. Hey, somebody is so inspired to work, create whatever, you know, I'm not here to judge that or say what that amount is. I will say that, you know, the pattern I was in with work needing to achieve, needing to make X amount of money needing to, uh, do these kinds of things I would throw surfing in there as well.Mischa Z: 03:26 Um, but anyway, um, it was interesting because as I think about it, and as I record this, I was really good about taking weekends off work-wise I was really good about, um, not bringing the work home. It's just, I would leave really early in the morning and, uh, perhaps, you know, get home. I tried not to, to, to work 18 hour days, let's say it definitely. Some people will absolutely work from home work on the weekends or these sorts of things. I'm dating myself as well because not many of us were working from home as much as we are today. And the recent COVID pandemic has escalated that.Mischa Z: 04:23 But I mean to say, is that when I'm done working, I'm done working, but my routine had become this. I would, I would, you know, exit the house very early, so I could surf and maybe that's six in the morning surfing and then work for the two priorities and, and, you know, I would, so what would happen? And then on the weekends, it was all about surfing and Mischa time. And, and then, you know, I, I was working so much in producing so much in having success that I started putting on realistic expectations on Dawn, my wife, you know. I'm the producer and this sort of arrogant attitude look what I'm doing for the house, paying the bills. Therefore I don't need to provide perhaps other emotional support and stuff like that. I dunno. It's very interesting. Uh, just, just know that, you know. That drive for being number one that drive for ultimate success that drive for making a lot of money. You know, especially when I was in mortgages was there, I wanted to be number one at Wells Fargo. I wantedSpeaker 2: 05:57 that notoriety and the financial fulfillment of that. And so then, you know, it came to quitting the mortgage business and staying home with my two boys being a stay at home ish dad. So I did that back in 2016. I think it was when I finally quit mortgages. Um, maybe it was 2017. I've sort of lost track. I need to figure out that exact timeline. I think it was 2016. It's definitely, yeah, it must be five years by now, again, as I record this. But as I'm in the 2CCX, as I'm creating these online, working on creating an online business and doing all this stuff. I, I couldn't put in 12 hour days seemingly if I wanted to. Like that lack of balance and the capacity to, to go out of balance has been stripped from me. I couldn't go back to workaholism seemingly even if I wanted to.Speaker 2: 07:26 And sometimes, you know, the drive to have followers and do all this stuff and build this business and make it happen fast and all these things and the illusion of more time, more time spent will help accelerate that process. You know, I can, I can think that I want that, but I can't literally physically do it, which is pretty freaking cool. So on my days of weakness where I'm like, if I could just work more, I'm like, "yeah, no, you can't." I literally can't work more than the, you know what, as I've said before, I'm, I'm maybe putting in five or six hours, but it's good solid hours, but I seemingly couldn't do more even if I wanted to. So anyway, there you go. Um, love that, uh, I'm done have a good day peace out.
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More on Webster's definition of Salvation. And thoughts from A Course In Miracles. . Am I willing to embrace new thoughts and concepts? Am I willing to see somebody differently? Or am I going to be contemptuous and stubborn in my thought process? The more I can see people as simply good and spirit and part of the infinite mind... Then the side benefit of that is I get to see that in myself and my concept of myself changes.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting! These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones. You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS, https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for mobile mic for Android https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: firstname.lastname@example.orgFor social Media: https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:05 A Course In Miracles, the final vision chapter 31, section seven, the Savior's vision part two. Part one I was rolling so good that it ended up, um, taking me a good 10 minutes. So quick salvation 1). a. Deliverance from the power and the effects of sin. B: the agent, or means that affect salvation. See Christian science: the realization of the supremacy of infinite mind over all bringing with it, the destruction of the illusion of sin sickness and death. And that's capital I infant capital and mind implication God. Two: Liberation from ignorance or illusion. 3. A. A preservation from destruction or, or failure. 3 B deliverance from danger or difficulty.Mischa Z: 01:16 And here is... I'm going to paraphrase sentence 3.3. By focusing on the good in the people around us, or perhaps that we see the body grows decreasingly...The body grows decreasingly persistent in your sight and will at length be seen as little more than just a shadow circling around the good. By focusing upon the good in your brother, your neighbor, your sister, a politician, you don't like, um, whoever insert person there, the body grows decreasingly, decreasingly persistent in your sight. And will it length be seen as little more than just a shadow circling around the good. And I love that concept. So, um, people that perhaps I run into all the time or a loved one or a, an enemy, if I can focus on the good, we'll start to see more of the God within them, their spirit, and I'll be less fixated on their body and the illusion that they're their body.Mischa Z: 02:44 And I guess we're all going to need to take the leap that, um, we're more than our bodies and people who are listening. Hopefully you're like, yeah, I'm tired of seeing people just as, as a physical thing. Like I want to stop judging. I want to grow past judging, grow past, you know, resentment. Um, and I believe judgment judging good or bad, I would say or good. Cause it's easy to be like I judge good. Well, judging is judging. Um, the judgment could be perhaps low grade resentment. Oftentimes anyhow, like we want to see people as beautiful spirit. Whether you believe that we're souls are all one spirit. Just a little knock of the one spirit. Um, have faith in the person who is next to us or who we see, this is a sentence five.one so that your fearful concept of yourself may change. And so that's the next thing is if we can see people the good in people, and this is, I like this for me, right? This could be a different experience for you, but the more I can see people as just good and spirit and part of the infinite mind. Um, then I, the side benefit of that is I get to see that in myself and my concept of myself changes.Mischa Z: 04:29 Here's the kicker and all five sentence five by three. And all this shift requires that you be willing that this happy change occur no more than this. As asked all that this shift requires it is that you be willing that this happy change occur. And I am more and more seeing like there's all these thoughts and concepts that can be good, that are good and liberating and, and challenge my thinking of the norm. And challenge my illusions of what I think are important. And am I willing to embrace new thoughts and concepts and I willing to see this happy, or am I willing to, let's say, and all this shift requires is that you'd be willing that this happy change occur. Yeah. So am I willing, are you willing? I think that's such a great question. And so many circumstances, am I willing to see somebody differently?Mischa Z: 05:42 So great question again, it's easy to point to politicians, although the politics seems to be really, but nine right now. So maybe I could point to something else, but I think you get what I'm saying. If there's, you know, a place or thing out there, am I willing to see them differently or am I going to be contemptuous and stubborn in my thought process? And um, so great question. Here's the next. I give my next point that I love from this section of A Course In Miracles. I give my concept of myself to God that I may offer peace. So I've got this concept of myself that oftentimes can be diluted or is, you know, there's this whole meaning of life thing and all this stuff that I get to embrace more as they get older and, and, and things. Um, and am I willing to release the concept of myself? Just be like, you know what, and it goes on to, to, to, to, to say like, it's this concept of ourselves that we put between ourselves and the people that we see. And so can I let go of that concept of myself, give it to God or whatever you want to call it, just be free of it so that I can look on everything that I see, everyone that I come across brand new without judgment, not painted by what I think. I know.Mischa Z: 07:32 So it goes on here. Sentence 13.4. It cannot judge me. I cannot judge because I, I do not know. And recognizing this, I merely asked what is the meaning of what I behold, I love that I'm going to try that. What is the meaning of what I behold? So as I walk out today, I'm about to go shopping at trader Joe's and a couple other spots. I'll probably swing by target perhaps, but, um, I need to get some ibuprofen ibuprofen. My two jars that I bought at Kirkland 10 years ago are finally are finally used up. But anyway, you know, I'm going to bump into people and how I perceive myself, my age, my maleness, my singleness, my dadness my, all this stuff. Right? All these things. What if I was free of all that? And I could just see somebody and be like, what, what is it?Mischa Z: 08:47 What is the meaning of what I behold? So interesting. Interesting. Um, question. And I wrote down, I give the concept of myself to you, God, because I'm going to play with this idea and hopefully I'll play with this and report back a couple other quick sentences. What is temptation, but the wish to stay in hell and misery. Think about that one. That's a good one. What is temptation? But the wish to stay in hell and misery sentence, a paragraph 10 sentence, one paragraph 11, sentence five. This is the Savior's vision that I see my innocence and all I look upon and see my own salvation everywhere. Next sentence. I hold no concept of myself, between my calm and open eyes and what I see. I bring the light to what I look upon that I may see it as it really is. Then the next sentence, 13.4. I cannot judge because it does not. It cannot judge because it does not know any me and lessons and recognizing this, it merely asks what is the meaning of what I behold. I'm going to go try and do that. Be free of judgment. Not know and ask what is, what am I looking at here? God. All right. Love that everybody have a good day. Okay.
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My husband, Tim Rosenman, is the love of my life. Obsessed. He makes me laugh, feel at home, and the most loved. I cherish every moment and, Timmy, I am so happy I get to be the one to grow old with you. You asked us some great questions on IG, and we dove right in. We covered parenting, relationships, AND more on his personal life and how he grew up! He shared his insight on parenting a toddler (giving the biggest tip he swears by), advice for soon-to-be-married couples, and details on his upbringing in New York! Does Timmy have any secret tattoos? You'll have to listen to find out ;) This episode is brought to you by Arrae, Vitruvi, Monti Kids, and OUAI. Arrae creates natural supplements with real results and zero woo. With accurate dosing, Arrae's alchemy capsules solve everyday problems that women constantly deal with. Go to arrae.com and use code withwhit at checkout for 10% off. Vitruvi creates beautiful diffusers and non-toxic essential oils to naturally and safely scent your space. Visit vitruvi.com/withwhit and use code WITHWHIT20 to get 20% off your next purchase. OUAI was created by celebrity hairstylist Jen Atkin to create the first socially connected haircare brand. When you're ready to undo some damage, hit the reset button with the OUAI Detox Shampoo. Go to THEOUAI.com and use code WITHWHIT to get 15% off your entire purchase. Monti Kids was founded with the mission of helping families support their baby during the most critical years of development. If you would like to try their brand new products for yourself - use code WITHWHIT for 10 percent off your purchase! Terms and conditions apply. Check them out at montikids.com Produced by Dear Media
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Do you or your partner often worry about lots of things to the extent that it significantly impacts your life? Does anxiety affect your relationships? In today's episode we talk about generalised anxiety: what it is, how it manifests, what might have caused it, how different therapeutic approaches think of and address anxiety and what might be done about it. We briefly consider the impact of anxiety on your relationship system and we end the session with a breathing and visualisation exercise that you can practice to bring your anxiety down.
For the first time in almost two months, RDWA Podcast is back with another episode and a lot has happened since then. Ak reveals what happened on the night of April 28th and why that fatal car crash changed his life forever. Rudy and Ak give their thoughts on the hit show "Squid Games" and why this show could be one of the all time best on netflix.Dave Chappelle and his latest standup:Why is it being called to get removed and why we can be our own worst enemies.All that and much more!
I go ahead and give Webster Dictionary's definition of "Salvation", which is super juicy and leads to great conversation. Do Christian Scientists avoid the doctor because they believe god is going to cure them? Or is it something more alluring? And I leave you with a question. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting! These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones. You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS, https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for mobile mic for Android https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: email@example.comFor social Media: https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:02 Today's A Course In Miracles was super juicy. Got my mind going so much. So of course, in miracles, chapter 31, the final vision, section seven, the Savior's vision, it's actually on page 662 on the book that I have. And, uh, A Course In Miracles, combined volume. So I have never been a church guy in, um, through my life when I was a kid, I went to church a couple of times that. I, I I'm telling you the story because of the contempt or the judgment or the, yeah. The contempt that comes up when I hear certain words. And, uh, because the ego is strong in me. And, um, when I talk about this stuff, this is not to knock anybody who loves church and, you know, loves whatever. How God is being, uh, you know, however God's manifesting through their church. Awesome. I tend to go to recovery meetings to find connection to source and stuff like that.Mischa Z: 01:39 And I know a lot of people in recovery also go to church and stuff like that. So anyway, I probably didn't even need to talk about all of that, but just know that I've never been a church guy too much contempt. The dogma freaks me out. And, um, I'm sure the dogma of the recovery groups that I go to freaks other people out as well. So we're all leaning into our own dogma, but like the word savior, for example, historically, that would, you know, uh, would, uh, shut my mind down. I'd be like, savior heck with that, save your, shave your savior. But now the fact that I can say it on this podcast and that I can read content that has that word in it that's growth for me, perhaps the next time, I won't need to say this disclaimer, which would be ultimate growth.Mischa Z: 02:52 This section talks about salvation and judgment, a bunch and salvation as, so it's such an interesting concept. When I hear that salvation, it susses out that contempt in me, um, it shines that light of contempt on me. And honestly, I don't even really know where it came from or manifested from. Like I didn't really ever have a bad experience in church growing up. I, my parents definitely were not church goers. As in my youth. I went to church a couple of times with various friends. And I never really gripped me enough that I wanted to go back, but I did like the, the fellowship and, and such so anyhow salvation. So I was like, let's look up the word salvation as according to, to Webster. And the point of this is like, do I want salvation or don't I would, I rather hold the word salvation in contempt, therefore I don't want salvation or is salvation something to be wanted.Mischa Z: 04:16 So I went ahead and looked up salvation and Webster and definition two as what I'm going to start with because that's, I think you'll see that heck yes, I want salvation. I do. When I read number two. Liberation from ignorance or illusion. At this point in my life, I do want liberation from ignorance or illusion and/or illusion. Back in the day I did , I liked the illusions that I embraced and they served me. I liked the ignorance. Ignorance has definitely been bliss, blessed in my life over the years. However, when the veil of ignorance can be cracked, then you're kind of hosed. So yes, indeed. I do want ignorant. Uh, I do want, uh, salvation, according to definition, Webster two: liberation from ignorance or illusion. Number three, definition, three, a preservation from destruction or failure preservation from destruction or failure. Well, of course I might want some salvation there, deliverance from danger or difficulty deliverance from danger or difficulty. Let's go with 1) a. This is where it starts to get a little wonky for me. Deliverance from the power and the effects of sin. Now, historically, that definitely would have been a, uh, my mind would've started to shut down a little bit close off to these ideas. But today I love this idea deliverance from the power and effects of sin.Mischa Z: 06:24 And yeah, I would like that. I like the idea that there is no saying that that is an illusion and, and some of the things that come with that. One B the agent, or means that affect salvation, or it could be effects the agent, or means that affect salvation. C 1) c., I kind of like this one, Christian science: the realization of the supremacy of capital. I infinite capital M mind over all bringing with it, the destruction of the illusion of sin sickness and death. The realization of the supremacy of infinite mind over all bringing with it, the destruction of the illusion of sin sickness and death.Mischa Z: 07:26 And if we believe we are our bodies, I am my body. The body is the be all end, all of my existence, which may or may not be true. But if I hold strong to that, then I am going to believe in sickness because sickness ultimately, and death ends the body. And I, I, this is what comes to mind when I think of Christian science and it, and that this definition gives me a new appreciation of Christian Scientists. And that's that I, but if I, and I'm talking a bit out of ignorance here, but from what I understand, a Christian Scientists, they are not big into traditional Western medicine. Like if they get sick cancer or some such thing, from what I understand, a Christian Scientist would pray or do these things and, and would avoid say getting treatment for cancer. Now, when I hear people talk about that, somebody who's not a Christian Scientist, and they hear somebody say that they say a Christian scientist naive really believes that if they get cancer, they turn to God. They pray to God. And they believe that God will heal their sickness like the physical sickness, the cancer itself. And I would challenge that line of thinking that a Christian scientist says, Hey, I'm not my body. And that I'm much more in that. I'm part of this. What is it, uh, this, um, infinite mind.Mischa Z: 09:22 And so there's no need to heal from the sickness because this blip of time that we're represented by a body is an illusion. So there's no need to, like, I don't care if I die in other words, or I'll trust in God that if the cancer is meant to go away, it'll go away. If the cancer is meant to, end the usefulness of my body on this planet. So be it. And I love that thought. I love the thought of being so convicted that there's more going on than just our bodies that you're like, yeah, it's all good. Like there's no need to stress about the sickness or the short-term illusory pain that I'm going to feel.Mischa Z: 10:13 Cause I'm more than my body. I'm part of the infinite mind. So sin sickness and death are an illusion. I'm not going to be die. I'm just going to be perhaps liberated from this current way that I relate to the planet. I believe that, um, I'm not going to get a talk about judgment. I'll have to save that for the next episode, because I think that I hit a good, um, at least eight to 10 minutes, love to all. And, uh, I'm down for salvation. What I'm trying to tell you is today I choose. Yes. Salvation sounds good. Why not? And I ask you, are you willing to embrace the concept of salvation? Peace out, have a good day.
Angus and Rohini talk about the healing power of embodying the full human experience, or put another way, the full breadth of human emotions. They each reflect on how they used to turn to coping mechanisms to avoid their more painful emotions, but these strategies just made the experience more difficult and had a negative impact on their relationship. Their coping mechanisms tended to push the other away. It's in resisting our emotional experience that we suffer. As Sydney Banks, the man whose teachings inspired ours, said: "if the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world." The fear-based thoughts we have about our emotional experience is what paralyzes us. For example, Angus shares about his fear of heights and how once he saw the role his thinking was playing in magnifying that fear, he was able to just feel the emotion and still approach the activity involving the heights (like riding a roller coaster). Letting himself feel the fear instead of being stuck in the thoughts about the fear, allows him to still take part and ultimately enjoy the activity. Embracing our emotional experience, without judgement of ourselves, also allows us to experience deeper connection with others. It is difficult to have an authentic experience with someone else if we are "white-knuckling" our way through our own emotional experience. If we aren't being authentic then we aren't being vulnerable -- and our relationships require vulnerability for there to be true connection. This episode explores:Resisting our emotions causes sufferingBeing with our emotions is authentic and supports connectionLetting go of control is actually the most pleasurable choiceThe healing power of experiencing all of our emotionsShow NotesKnott's Berry Farm: "California's Best Theme Park" and where Angus rode a rollercoaster eyes-wide-open, screaming like a babyAngus Ross & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate a private couples' intensives retreat program that rewilds relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org. Read Rohini's latest blog.Episode 44 features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.
LACK OF COMMUNITY HURTS US ALL: In this podcast about love, marriage & relationships by Dr. Ray & Jean offering relationship advice for couples, we talk about how the current lack of community is negatively impacting our children and relationships Please subscribe to our podcast and leave us a comment and review. If you have questions, topic suggestions or would like to be considered as guests, email us at firstname.lastname@example.org. For more information about Couples Synergy, look us up online at Couplessynergy.com
We're back with some exciting news, we got married! It was also a Now Collective launch party to raise awareness amongst our friends and family. Now that we can sit back and take an objective look at the outcome, we can say it was a success! We left with a lot of insight, so take a listen as we discuss first impressions of our event and how our perspective gradually changed to be more positive.Happy October everyone!
We are encouraged to make offers so I'm making an offer. The Time I almost bought that shiny black Cayenne Turbo. And I'm having fun playing with the email tech. Not sure how this episode is of service…other than “be consistent and publish and learn”. But that's enough.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting! These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones. You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS, https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for mobile mic for Android https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: email@example.comFor social Media: https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 Walking recording with my shirt and V 88, Mike, go buy it off of my resource page. www.Belove.media/resources. I've got all sorts of other cool stuff. There. Books, podcast tech, I'm going to be building it out with more things in the future stuff that helps me thrive in life. That was not the purpose of this episode. However, we're encouraged to make offers, make an offer. So there you go. I'm making you an offer. Enjoy these episodes that I put out, learn with me, grow with me, laugh with me, but at the same time, go by the fun toys that I'm telling you about. So if you haven't bought, purchased the Shure MV88 mic yet, go purchase it. Now um, oh my gosh. I'm having, it's fun. Getting back on track. I believe a few episodes ago, perhaps three or four, I was talking about how it was getting back on track.Mischa Z: 01:10 Um, I'd gone camping. My brother had been to town and, and, um, I was pretty blown out after the summit. So I was, I was having a hard time finding focus in the moment and it starting to fall back in place one day at a time as I do the next indicated step. So I've got an email list that came from, uh, the summit. And some of you listeners may be part of that email list if you are. Hello. So glad to have you on board. Thank you for listening and partaking and being on this awesome journey with me. And you can also send me an email anytime at firstname.lastname@example.org. Say hi, check in, ask me questions, tell me what you like, what you don't like, whatever. Oh, go leave me a five-star review on the apple podcast. Anyhow. So I'm, I am, uh, tasked to email my list.Mischa Z: 02:24 And one of the programs that can automate that it's called Active Campaign and you can do all of these super cool flows. So as people log into the summit and register, they enter one flow and then if they buy the VIP, they're pushed over to another flow. And then if you, you know, do this, you're pushed over to another flow. And ultimately I want you in the nurture campaign flow and where I can add value to your life and sell you things and we can interact and all this fun stuff. And I'd hired Andrea, Andrea, Peer, you can Google her Facebook her. She's super gifted at what she does. She was the tech who, who helped me build out the summit. Andrea, if you're listening, love you, thank you so much for being part of my team and helping me. Um, but she had... Porsche Cayenne just went by.Mischa Z: 03:40 I had to pause it because he was very excited to get around that corner and stomp on it as he went by. I might too, if I had a shiny black Cayenne, which reminds me of a funny story, I almost did buy a shiny black cayenne turbo back in the day. This is about eight years ago, nine years ago. I don't know. I, I, I, I've never been a super big car guy and God bless you. If you are. Some people love their cars. I've been more of having fun with my house. I'm more of a house guy, which I think I learned from my dad, but I was buying that Cayenne Turbo, which is a ridiculously cool car. And for whatever reason, I was going to lease it. And, uh, we worked it out and have the payment and this and that. And the deal was pretty much done and I was happy with everything. And then they went and pulled my credit and my credit score wasn't, at the time, quite good enough to qualify for the amazing payment.Mischa Z: 05:01 So the deal fell apart. I came back to my census and it was like, I don't need a Porsche Cayenne. And again, if you have one, God bless you. If you have love your cars, love them. I had, uh, I've had some, whatever. Anyway, distracted. Now I barely ever drive. So I have a Ford, like a 2001, a pick em up truck, my son Waylon. I had that nice Mazda CX9 instead of buying the Porsche Cayenne. And I bought the, the CX9 with all the trimmings, and, all the fun stuff, the nav, all the goodies. And, uh, a year or so ago, my son was like, "I want the shiny car". And I was like, you know what? You can have the shiny car. I'll take the raggedy old truckSpeaker 2: 05:58 So Waylon has the shiny car I have the raggedy old truck and, oh, it just makes me think of home Jackson, Wyoming, my roots. Such a weird thing. Anyhow, thank you for the diversion. So Active Campaign, I'm finally catching up enough where I can play with Active Campaign myself, and it's taken me a while to get to this point, but here's the point. Um, I have people in the nurture flow and when somebody new...cause randomly people are coming into the summit. And still. And the summit is evergreen, which means people can still register for the Tools For A Good Life Summit, go check it out. If you haven't registered and watched any of the speakers. And then they, you can, you can, anybody who does that today, they get into the, into the evergreen flow, which is isn't an email flow, which, you know, releases the speakers day one day, two day three, cetera.Speaker 2: 07:15 They get 120 hours of free access to the, to the non VIP, um, interviews and all that. But after that, they, I needed the, the tag to get them into the nurture campaign. And, and I actually figured it out today and it felt so good. And that is part of the tech that I love playing with. So I love the email follow-up systems and all that kind of stuff. It's just so cool how you can do all that. And you know, the toys and the tech to do that now or so awesome. And visually they're super cool. And, you know, they show you that the, the flows and the trees and all that. And so I was able to, I'd had a couple of new people in the queue that were stuck in the evergreen queue. Sorry about the language. If you're not tracking me, but I needed to bump them over to the nurture path flow. And I quickly figured out how to add that tag, and it worked, and that's so fun and it's fun having fun, I guess that's my point. It's, um, I'm past a little bit of the overwhelm, still a slight overwhelm state, but having fun versus just like survival. Anyway, that's what I've got for you. Love to all have a great day. Go chase some dreams. Go try new things, learn new stuff. Take messy action. Um, get overwhelmed. Yeah. Life is good. Peace out.
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I had a really funny thought. Russell Brunson is my mentor and I've never met him. Who knows if I'll ever meet him. And, and he wouldn't be able to pluck me out of a picture or a crowd. Just like the people I used to make fun of. Who's mentor's and guru's are over in India. They've never actually met them. And half of them have been dead for decades. Life is full of Irony now isn't it?Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting! These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones. You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS, https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for mobile mic for Android https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: email@example.comFor social Media: https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:02 This episode is about. Well, I had a really funny thought as I was listening to the Russell Brunson Marketing Secrets Podcast recently. And you know, I'm in Russell,Brunson's 2CCX coaching program. His high end coaching program. I am a click funnels member. So I use his software to host the funnels and the webpages. Many of the webpages that I have that are about me. And Russell Brunson in effect, I was thinking about it like, he's my mentor, right? He is my mentor Russell Brunson's my mentor. And I thought, that's the funniest gosh, darn thing, because I have never met him. Who knows if I'll ever meet him. And, and he wouldn't be able to pluck me out of a, out of a crowd or a picture. And I think that that is so funny and so weird and so abstract. Because I'm like, well, he kind of is my mentor, this illusory mentor.Mischa Z: 01:41 And I had a, I had this guy Ken, who was a, my spiritual mentor for many years, 15, 16 years. And he finally passed away and Ken was my spiritual mentor. Mentor for free and, and, you know, very influential in my life. And one of the things he was telling me over the years was was, Hey, you should find a business mentor. You should find a business mentor. And, uh, oh, here comes the wind. This is going to be very windy. I need a wind screen for my phone. Oh, by the way, I'm walking through the Encinitas community park and now hitting the road. And I'm recording on my phone with my MV88 mic, which you should go by off of my resources page, www.belove.media/resources. But... I am the crazy one. I am the crazy guy talking into his phone.Mischa Z: 02:55 I'm the crazy homeless guy today. And the Encinitas community park. As I record this, it's about 5:30 ish, but it is busy, busy with lots of families, lots of kids, lots of football programs, lots of little kids at the park, lots of kids playing soccer, all the stuff. lots of people walking their dogs. Plenty of opportunities for me to feel in secure design, walking and recording with my Shure, Shure. S H U R E MV88, mic, which you can go by off of the show notes of this podcast episode and you should buy it because it's an awesome toy and you can record whatever's high quality recordings of whatever's rattling through your melon. So there's two ideas back to the mentor thing. And Ken telling me, I should have a mentor and being I've been in recovery for a majority of my life.Mischa Z: 04:12 What two-thirds of my life now, where the idea of mentorship is it's free. Um, you know, you, you, as, uh, as a recovery mentor, oftentimes it's, it's free and that 12 step programs and things so subconsciously or consciously, depending on any given moment, I've had an idea that it should be free. Now I did have a home loan mentor. Darren Riley love you, Darren, if you happened to be listening to this, Darren Riley taught me so much about home loans and was so influential and was a springboard for me for massive success and really how to do that business, right. And, and how to thrive. And, and all of these things. Now, I didn't literally pay him, but I worked for him for a couple of years. And he got, you know, a percentage of, of all the business that I did. And year one, it was a great deal for me, for me, because I took advantage of his knowledge and his, um, expertise and all that, and just was constantly, you know, taking advantage of that relationship.Mischa Z: 05:43 And I say taking advantage of that, I mean, you know, utilizing that relationship in a good way. And so he was overworked and underpaid year one of the mentorship. And then you're too, when I was effectively, well up to speed and just cranking away, I was a very quick learner and, uh, many things came together for me at that time. Um, you know, he was, his shoulder started hurting from stacking the money. That's how I like to say that. So anyway, uh, years later, you know. Ken, You should get a business mentor as I was looking for new ventures. And so I had it in my idea, you know, for free. And then also that you've got to know the guy or gal you've got to know the person. And so it makes me think about the other funny thought was like, you'll hear people who talk about, oh, my guru, my guru, my guru.Mischa Z: 06:52 And, and so you could say, oh, when was the last time you met your guru or, had coffee with them? Or talk to them? And they're like, oh, well, they're dead. You know, I talked to them in spirit or, well, I've never actually met them. They're, uh, they're Indian. And, you know, they're an avatar over in India or something like that. And so the way you're, you're oftentimes in those relationships, the way you're. It's a third party relationship, two or three degrees of separation. So either that, that spiritual person is dead. And so you're, you're getting to take advantage of that relationship by one of their, the dead person's old students, right? So that, that student, you know, is now teaching others. And by default, the dead guru is now the new students guru. Um, or, you know, you've got your Yogi who's over there in India.Mischa Z: 08:02 And, uh, you know, he, he was a teacher to somebody. Somebody who is now in the states and, and mentoring new yoga people, or what have you. And so again, by two degrees, or is that one degree of separation, two degrees of separation, the person you've never met is now your mentor. And, oh my gosh, I used to think that was the funniest thing ever. And now, honestly, I don't know if I'm going to publish this episode because it's just such an abstract, weird concept for me. But Hey, I'm paying for a high-end coaching program. And, uh, so which is awesome, not complaining, super stoked about it.Mischa Z: 08:54 Like it's been money well, well, well, well invested. And in hindsight, I would've taken advantage of high end coaching programs earlier in my life. Like really invested in myself in that regard. Um, but B it's two degrees of separation that Russell Brunson is my mentor. So one of Russell Brunson's coaches is my coach. His name is Vince Green. And Vince love you if you are happening to listen to this episode. But, uh, then says so good. And here's my, whatever it is, that one degree or two degrees of separation that Russell Brunson as my mentor. So funny life is good. Got to have fun, peace out.
Relationships can be tricky. & for many couples, it can be difficult to keep the sparks flying in the bedroom. In this episode, I'll be talking about what you can do as a man to ensure you are keeping your intimate relationship, intimate ;) What to listen for: A checklist of actions you can take to achieve a better sex life Red flags to look out for if it may be out of your control How to achieve polarity & why it's important A deeper look into why relationships tend to flatten out My name is Kevin Higgins. I coach driven nice guys from breakup to breakthrough. I help you rebound your life by discovering your truths & your purpose, building your confidence in your mission, & understanding women & relationships. If you'd like my help personally you can book a FREE 30 minute coaching session directly via my booking site: https://calendly.com/coachkevinhiggins/superiorman for more info about my work or to give a donation & support the podcast, ❤️ https://linktr.ee/kev_thecoach Get your question answered on a future episode by emailing
When it comes to dating, choosing the right person to give a try, or not, can be so tricky. You need to have a set of standards, boundaries and a list of qualities and traits you use when deciding who to date. You've heard it before and it's worth repeating again, “selection matters.” The question is how do you begin to make a list of those qualities, beliefs and values and prioritize them. Many of you may agree that starting with standards and boundaries is a great move, but how much weight does that list of qualities hold? Tom and Lisa discuss how much they each hit the mark (or not) on each other's list of predetermined desired traits. It comes down to knowing your personal values, knowing what qualities you're looking for, and it's more important to be open to unexpected new things, and discovering who someone is. Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They're taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. SHOW NOTES: Preconceived Notions | Why relying on your instincts over a premade checklist is better [1:32] Fundamentals | Lisa shares why fundamentals are more important than characteristics [5:23] Be Open | discovery and open to unexpected [8:39] QUOTES: “With online dating you're really making a decision on paper before you make a decision in real life.” Tom Bilyeu [2:45] “If I had made sure you had to hit these marks before going on that first date, I don't know if we ever would have gotten that first date, and then within that I found all these small intriguing things I never realized existed” Lisa Bilyeu [7:49]
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Ex NFL Player and CEO San Diego Rescue Mission Donnie Dee discusses service as a tool for a good life on the Tools For A Good Life Summit. Truly inspirational Donnie Dee is literally saving lives. Helping get homeless people off of the streets and back into a good life. Careful if you listen…you will want to volunteer. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Donate, support, and check out the San Diego Rescue Mission here: https://www.sdrescue.org/Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting! These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones. You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS, https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for mobile mic for Android https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: firstname.lastname@example.orgFor social Media: https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: 0:00:07.1 Mischa Z: Welcome back everybody to the Tools For A Good Life Summit and right now, I would like to introduce to you, Donnie Dee, President and CEO of the San Diego Rescue Mission. Welcome, Donnie.0:00:23.1 Donnie Dee: Well, welcome to you. Thanks for having me.0:00:25.4 Mischa Z: Indeed, indeed. And then before we get started here, I'm gonna read your bio really quick, if that's okay.0:00:30.7 Donnie Dee: Absolutely.0:00:31.6 Mischa Z: Alright, fantastic. Donnie Dee joined the San Diego Rescue Mission as President/CEO, mid-July, 2017. Anniversary is coming up or you just hit it?0:00:43.3 Donnie Dee: This week, yeah. Today, as a matter of fact.0:00:46.1 Mischa Z: Oh, wow.0:00:46.6 Donnie Dee: Yeah, four years ago today.0:00:48.5 Mischa Z: Oh, fantastic. Growing up in Kansas City, sports have always been important to Dee. He played football and basketball for Oak Park High School and was a four-year letterman in football at the University of Tulsa, graduating from there in 1988 with a business management degree. He was then drafted by the Indianapolis Colts and played in the NFL for two and a half years for the Colts and Seahawks. And then quick, was that an injury or you just... Go ahead.0:01:22.5 Donnie Dee: I did finish with an injury. I actually played for another team but just never really felt right, and so, yeah, I would say it was an injury that ended my career.0:01:32.4 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah, yeah. And was that a heavy moment?0:01:37.5 Donnie Dee: It was. You dream your whole life about playing a sport like that, and so for it to come down and you did not have a lot of control over how it ends is a little disappointing and a heavy thing to process. You play football your whole life and then for some of us, it just comes to an abrupt ending. It takes a little while to get used to.0:01:56.2 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'm guessing, and we can get into this in a minute, but your faith was not only tested but enriched and really helped you through that time?0:02:06.9 Donnie Dee: 100%. I think you find out what's most important and what you really value. And look, at the end of the day, football's a game, it can't be the most important thing in your life, and it's a game and it's why they call it a game. And so I think I was able to make the transition.0:02:23.4 Mischa Z: Yeah, what a great lesson too and I think what a great thing or analogy, or whatever that... For me, I just hear that and I'm like, "Yeah, how much stuff do I put attachment on where it's just money or it's just this or just that when really... " I think is the lesson there.0:02:42.8 Donnie Dee: Well, yeah, and it's easy to do because what our priorities are end up being the things that we chase and we center our whole life around, but what happens if we have the wrong priorities? Well, then we have established a life that isn't very deep, doesn't have a lot of substance, and those things always... You end up finding that out as time goes on that, "Hey, maybe this isn't as big a deal I thought it was." And that was really my relation with football. I went to University of Tulsa and football was the most important thing in my life. And then I got hurt in college and realized that, "Look, this can give you a lot of opportunities but it can't be the most important thing in your life 'cause it's gonna let you down eventually."0:03:26.0 Mischa Z: Yeah, and I'm thinking too, I bet from that part of the country you grew up in and just... That was probably your destiny to a certain extent. That's the lifestyle...0:03:38.8 Donnie Dee: Well, yeah, I think sports is a really big deal in the Midwest. Football is an enormous thing in Oklahoma. But even for me personally, my father was a professional basketball player for the Indiana Pacers and he won an actual gold medal, which I think is one of the most difficult accomplishments in all of sports, is winning a gold medal in the 1968 Olympics playing basketball. And so, yeah, I would say it was very much my destiny. I wanted to be an athlete, I wanted to accomplish what my dad had accomplished, I wanted to make him proud. I never imagined not being an athlete and I put that pressure on myself.0:04:14.6 Mischa Z: Yeah, I will say too, for anybody younger, back in the day... So when your father went to play basketball in the Olympics, that was amateurs. There was no Michael Jordan, no LeBron James showing up, that was strictly amateur class.0:04:32.6 Donnie Dee: These are all college guys playing against other countries and they were the best in the world, they were the best in the world. It has changed and now we've got pros playing against pros in the Olympics.0:04:42.9 Mischa Z: Yeah, I think that's cool. I think I'm even more excited now to have you on the summit because I think, to have your identity in sports that much or as a pro football player and to have those cracks start to happen in college and then perhaps ultimately in the NFL, that it's such a powerful testament to what we're offering. How do we make it through those rough parts of life when our identity is shattered a little bit? So anyway, yeah, let me finish up here and thank you for indulging those questions. So here we are. Dee began his career in 1990 with the Fellowship of Christian Athletes in Colorado. Dee went on to become COO or Chief Operating Officer of the FCA for five years before relaunching the Tom Landry Associates, a major donor program at FCA. Again, the Fellowship of Christian Athletes. Dee is married to his college sweetheart, Jackie, who was also a college athlete. They have two grown children, Johnny, who's now 28 and about to get married, right?0:06:00.7 Donnie Dee: That's correct.0:06:01.7 Mischa Z: Yeah, very exciting, congratulations. And Jennifer, 25, who both played college basketball at USD and UCI, respectively. If I'd quickly touched on a... And again, for any of the younger people, Tom Landry, he was the coach... He was the man in football for a few decades, perhaps.0:06:23.0 Donnie Dee: Very successful coach, went to the playoffs 23 years in a row, still has, I think, that record, and Bill Belichick's about to break it or maybe he was about to break it before last year because I don't think he went to the... I don't think the Patriots went to the playoffs last year, but Tom Landry is a very successful coach. He wasn't our founder but he got involved very early on with the Fellowship of Christian Athletes and really put us on the map. I think once he got involved and used FCA as his platform to share his thing, I think our ministry really exploded when I was with FCA, and I'm certainly thankful for his life and his leadership.0:07:01.0 Mischa Z: Yeah, and you had a chance to interact a little bit with Tom Landry?0:07:05.3 Donnie Dee: I did. We had an annual giving campaign that people would give $10,000 or more in a year in honor of Tom Landry and that was used for local field ministry to work with coaches and athletes at the local level.0:07:22.2 Mischa Z: I wanted to touch really quick before we get to the question and the meat of the summit question, to you, is that... Clearly, it's evident to me through your history and what you do that your faith is very important to you and it's been a very powerful part of your life, yeah?0:07:42.1 Donnie Dee: Yeah, it is and it has been, and I think it always will be. I didn't grow up in a Christian home, didn't grow up in the church, and so really just trying to figure out life by myself. I'm from a broken home, my father was an alcoholic, and so I think that, in many ways, I was gonna follow in his footsteps, not only athletically but also socially. I think I was destined to just be an alcoholic and to probably bounce around from relationship to relationship. And it wasn't until I got to college that I saw some other athletes that lived out their faith and that became inspirational for me and interesting to me that I asked questions. I think, in the end, I just began to embrace my faith and allow God to have a role in my life, and to have this daily relationship where I get a chance to strengthen my faith and try to be all that God has called me to be.0:08:39.4 Mischa Z: It's beautiful. So your interest and that nurturing in your college years, that's what led you to, obviously, your work in things like the San Diego Rescue Mission, yes?0:08:55.8 Donnie Dee: 100%. Yeah, I think faith and really beginning to understand the God of the Bible and really what the scripture teaches really compels you to wanna make a difference in the world and to wanna see other people not just as humans at different stages and different statuses in life but to begin to see them as God's creation and that whether you're homeless or whether you have billions that we're really all the same in terms of God's eyes and he calls upon us that have been given much to help those that maybe aren't as privileged or haven't been given as much, and I just think that's a great way to live your life. And I've seen so many that have gone before me that lived their lives that way and it really challenged me to embrace that.0:09:38.9 Mischa Z: Yeah, fantastic. I think my relationship with source or a higher power, or God, as you say, has been more from a recovery lens, like a traditional 12-step, that was my entry point, but I'd love...0:09:55.3 Donnie Dee: That's good.0:09:56.1 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah. I'm excited for your viewpoint. [laughter] And what I wanna touch on here too is service. So you are CEO and President of the San Diego Rescue Mission. So the San Diego Rescue Mission is feet on the street, helping people, yeah?0:10:22.0 Donnie Dee: That's correct. Yeah, we have a large facility downtown. It's an old hospital. I have 366 beds, 60 of those beds are used for emergency shelter use overnight, women and children only, and they stay there one night at a time, two nights at a time. The other 300 beds are used for what I believe to be the number one solution for homelessness and that is rehabilitation. You understand that, you understand the power of a program, you understand the power of accountability and direction, and support 'cause you've obviously overcome some things in your own life. And we have people that come to us that, yes, circumstantially, they may be homeless but there's other things that are going on in their heart that have led them to this lifestyle of homelessness and we're trying to address what's going on in the heart so that they can overcome and really be free from this challenge of living on the streets. So they live with us for a year. We call them students. The first semester is wellness, the second semester is education, the third semester is job placement and housing. And we tell them on day one, "Give us a year, we'll get you off the streets permanently." And we do that through our rehabilitation program.0:11:33.2 Mischa Z: It's beautiful. I love it. Well, good. I think we've laid the framework for service as a tool for a good life. So I have a question that I'm gonna ask you and I'm gonna lay the scenario and basically, if we think of life as a three-legged stool of relationships, finance, and...0:11:57.9 Donnie Dee: Health.0:12:00.0 Mischa Z: Health. Thank you. [chuckle]0:12:00.3 Donnie Dee: Absolutely. I read the question.0:12:01.9 Mischa Z: That's good. [laughter] I appreciate that, Donnie. Thank you. And then if we think of someone who was successful or is successful and two or three of the legs fall out from under them, so perhaps... So I'll speak for me. I went through divorce, another failed relationship after that, both my parents died in rapid succession, this was all 5 to 10 years ago, career upheaval. And up until that point, success had served me very well. And so pull myself up from my bootstraps, that mentality, that "Fix it. Work your way through it. Sort it out", that was no longer working. [laughter] I needed new tools. [laughter] And so by the grace of God, I got new tools. And so my question to you is, thinking of service to community as a tool, what are the exact next steps you would offer a person like me who is, perhaps, hitting that rough part of life? What are the exact next steps you would offer this person so they know they are headed in the new, right direction that they will have positive momentum towards getting their life back on track?0:13:27.7 Donnie Dee: That's a big question, that's a heavy question, and I don't know that there's an easy answer to that. I can tell you what comes to mind for me and I can tell you what has worked for me. I think the exact next steps really have to do with how you view the world. I think everything starts internally first. I can't be for the world if I'm not first that in myself. I can't impart what I don't possess. And so I think I have to have a philosophy of life. I think I have to have a view of the world that is healthy so that I can begin to see people and see others the way that would allow me to have influence on them.0:14:12.0 Donnie Dee: I think, for me, it starts with gratefulness. I think that so many of us, especially today, in this world feel like we need to play the role of the victim and I think we're losing sight of the amazing Americans that have overcome so much to make a life of themselves and they didn't play the victim. They played the, "I'm gonna get up every day, I'm gonna do the best I can, and I'm grateful for this opportunity." I think thankfulness and having a thankful heart really centers someone to really begin to see their circumstances and to see the world in a way that allows them to take advantage of their opportunities. I think that's the first step, is do you realize how much you have? It's like the guy that said that he was complaining having no shoes until he saw the guy who didn't have any feet. I think you don't have to look far, especially when you live in San Diego, to spend some time in Mexico and you see that it's a whole different world down there.0:15:25.0 Mischa Z: A whole different world, yeah.0:15:26.6 Donnie Dee: We have a lot to be thankful for and I think it starts with that.0:15:32.7 Mischa Z: Let me ask you a question, do you have any sort of things that you do to bring that gratitude forefront in your day?0:15:41.5 Donnie Dee: I do. I start each day in reading and in meditation, specifically reading the Bible and in praying out my faith and just trying to center myself around the opportunities I have for that day. It's easy for me to get out of the bed and to rush into the mission because of the volume of responsibilities that's down here. And we've got 300 people living with us and even during COVID. It's not like we kicked them out. They stayed with us, that's their home for a year. And so just the pressure and the volume of responsibility, and the stress, and the decisions that need to be made. I can't come down to this work everyday without something to give and I gotta have life to give if I'm gonna help somebody that's broken figure out how to take steps in their life. So I can encourage them to be grateful and to be thankful that they've got a place to live even though that in the world's eyes they're probably at the bottom of the...0:16:49.7 Mischa Z: Pecking order.0:16:50.0 Donnie Dee: Probably the bottom of the pecking order. There's a lot to be thankful for. They have a lot to be thankful for. They've got a bed, they've got a safe place, they've got meals. And I can't communicate that to them if I'm not coming from a position of gratefulness and thankfulness. And so, yeah, I think starting each day in just prayer and in reading, and centering myself around what I know to be true is one of the things I practice daily.0:17:14.9 Mischa Z: Fantastic. And I heard you say meditation in there too. Real quick, how much time do you dedicate to that in your morning?0:17:26.0 Donnie Dee: Thirty minutes or so. I read and pray and sometimes I'll listen to a good message but I really just try to carve out before I actually get up. I workout, then I sit out back and read and pray, and then I jump in the shower and grab my stuff, and I hit the road 39 miles south to the San Diego Rescue Mission. So that is in my routine six days a week.0:17:51.8 Mischa Z: Fantastic, thank you. Alright, so number one, start with gratitude, and you gave some great ways to do that. What do we have next? What's after that?0:18:01.6 Donnie Dee: Well, I think the next thing is to look for opportunities to serve. The world is full of need. There is so much suffering in the world and so many that are just challenged by their own circumstances, and you don't have to go far. You don't even have to do anything formally or structurally. You can just look around your neighborhood and see somebody that needs a helping hand, that needs a word of encouragement, that needs somebody to come alongside of them and just put their hand on their shoulder, and say, "It's gonna be okay." I think how we view the world and how we see the world really determines the opportunity, I believe, God gives us to serve the world. There's so many opportunities to serve. I had a friend that is no longer alive, he was a tennis pro at El Camino Country Club, and I would say my best friend ever.0:18:51.8 Mischa Z: Who is your best friend ever?0:18:53.1 Donnie Dee: He was my best friend. He passed away probably 10 years ago. I've got a picture of him up here in my bookshelf. He passed away about 10 years ago of a brain tumor and it really came on fast, and I just watched him go through all of that and really die in an honorable way. And he was just a tennis pro. He'd make a lot of money but then I saw him have an impact on a lot of people. I had a chance to officiate his memorial service. There's probably 500 people standing remotely in this little chapel. But I remember he used to tell his kids... And he's about 10 years older than me, so I kinda looked up to him a little bit. And I remember he told his kids who were a few years older than my kids that if you're having a bad day, go be a blessing to somebody. Go find somebody and be a blessing to them and not only will you make their day a much better day but it'll take your eyes off of what concerns you most. And I think that's a powerful principle that is easy to implement that can change your complete perspective and how you see your circumstances by, one, being grateful and by, two, looking for opportunity to be a blessing to somebody else, formally or informally.0:20:10.3 Mischa Z: I love that a lot. Service, for me, has been so impactful in my life to get me out of my head and all those things that you said, and to find that gratitude in a lot of what I do. My current state in the world, I'm trying to let go of what being of service means. So I have my vision and it usually has lots of accolades. I want to be of service and then the shiny objects but I... So I wanna ask you... Easy to implement. So tell me, give me some easy to implement both, I think you said, official and unofficial.0:20:58.8 Donnie Dee: Yeah, or formally or informally.0:21:00.0 Mischa Z: There we go.0:21:01.0 Donnie Dee: And I would say, formally, there's lots of organizations like the San Diego Rescue Mission. I had 240 volunteers down here last week that get what it means to serve the world, that get what it means to serve the community. They got things going on, they've got kids, little league games, and work, and church responsibilities, and yard work, and all kinds of stuff like the rest of us, but they come down every week, many of them, and they serve meals. They come down every week, many of them, and they help us run the mission; 240 volunteers that showed up last week. Now, some of them were regulars and then some of them came down for their once a month service project but I love that they're committed to this place. And I would say that's one of the ways to serve, is to be consistent, is to find a place that really hits your heart and a place that you wanna make a difference because there's lots of organizations like ours out there that need the help. We don't have enough staff to do all the things that we need to do around here and when volunteers come down and serve, not only does it help us raise our level of leadership but it helps those that we're serving because now we could do it at a much higher level.0:22:18.1 Mischa Z: I love that. I like what you said, and I'm gonna frame it this way, take the time to find some place that inspires you to be consistent. So go to the San Diego Rescue Mission and if that grabs you, awesome, be consistent but if it doesn't, perhaps look again. Keep looking until you can find that thing that maybe resonates, yeah?0:22:45.0 Donnie Dee: Yeah, and I think that we don't have to do everything, but what if all of us at this summit did something? And I'm sure that if you had the ability to find out all of the areas that people at this summit are involved in, we'd probably be impressed and probably be in awe, but there's probably somebody that this really speaks to them. You've been feeling like you need to get involved, you've been feeling like you need to do something, and I would say, find that thing and also, step back and evaluate your own story. What is it that you've been through? What is it that you've been challenged by, either as you grew up or even later in life? And typically, I have found that that ends up being something that you wanna give back too because you've been given so much. Like for you, I can only imagine what it's like for you to sit down with somebody who's struggling with an addiction and the power of that is, is that you know exactly what that's like, you know exactly what that means.0:23:53.4 Donnie Dee: I remember I'm the oldest of four and my parents got divorced when I was in eighth grade, and I always resented it. I was like... I never really understood how difficult and challenging it is to be married till I got married. I'm just a kid and I resented it, and I always wondered why it had to happen, because it was hard on us. It was really hard on us. But it wasn't until I was 25 years old and I took a position in Colorado working with coaches and athletes, and I met a kid whose mom asked me, "Would you meet with him because me and his dad are going through a divorce and he's really struggling?" And I sat down with him at Taco Bell and that divorce that I went through as an eighth grader made sense to me because I could speak to him in a way that I think he listened to me more than he listened to anybody else because I could relate. And I think that's the challenge, is not only to be consistent at that thing that you feel compelled to do but to find something that really resonates with your heart because you've been impacted, you've changed, you've overcome. And I think that puts you in a position to really have an impact on other people that will trust you because you've been there.0:25:08.3 Mischa Z: Yeah, that's good. That experience, bring that experience to the table and use that as a tool to serve. That's very powerful. How about informally? So we covered formally, tell me some informal.0:25:25.3 Donnie Dee: I think that some of us are more relational than others, and so as I mentioned earlier, just having a world view where you see people as people, not as a hassle or as a distraction, or as a... We've got... I remember when I was a kid, if somebody rang the doorbell, it wasn't uncommon growing up in a neighborhood. We were bouncing around from house to house. Somebody rings my doorbell now, I'm half freaked out. [laughter] What do they want? Am I in trouble? Am I about to get robbed? Why are they ringing my doorbell? We live in a world of garage door openers where we pull our car in and we get out, and walk into the house and we don't connect with anybody, and I just don't think that's... I don't think that's best for society. We are human beings, we are meant to connect, and I think the absolute most fulfilling way to connect is to help others. And so as we began to see in our neighborhoods, as we begin to see in our workplace, as we begin to see at the gym, as we begin to see people at our kids practices, and as we begin to build relationships, I think you find that there's a whole world out there that's waiting to be touched and waiting to be blessed if we'll have the eyes to see that.0:26:45.7 Mischa Z: Yeah, I loved that thought. This is what I hear, a lot of what I hear, is how powerful, when I walk out the door, a smile can be, a generous nod, an open, generous... And when I say generous, meaning... I don't mean literally having to give something to somebody but that... You know what I'm saying when I say generous?0:27:11.9 Donnie Dee: We all know people that when you're around them, they're life-giving, they're so positive, they're so enthusiastic, they're so full of joy. That's actually contagious. And when I see that, not only do I benefit from that but it's also a challenge to me that I wanna be that kind of person. I wanna be that kind of person that when others are around me, it raises their level of influence and leadership capacity.0:27:40.2 Mischa Z: Yeah, and the other thing I heard was, if I'm having... If I see somebody and I go negative and I get judgmental or whatever that could be, they shouldn't have crossed the street in front of me, or the gamut that can go through our brain is literally practiced to be like, "Wait a minute, can I shift how I view that person to a positive attitude or from a positive set of glasses?" or say it however you want.0:28:09.9 Donnie Dee: Yeah, yeah, no, I think it goes back to that way we view the world and we are all pretty selfish and we all are the most very self-centered and self-focused, and self-aware, and if I can begin to see the world from a standpoint of, "Look, it's not about me"... I need to remind myself of that daily. That's almost something I should rehearse in my head over, "It's not about me. This is not about me. This is not about me, my needs, my wants, my desires. What if I begin to make the world about other people?" and I think that's legacy. You start talking about how to make the most of our lives. Well, service is certainly a way to do that and at the end of our lives, what you have in an auditorium, like my friend that I mentioned, is a bunch of people that you've impacted if we dare to see the world in another's focused view. If we see the world in a self-focused view, then at the end of our lives, probably not a whole lot of people are around to celebrate your legacy, right?0:29:20.2 Mischa Z: Right, it's true.0:29:21.3 Donnie Dee: We know that now, so why don't we do something about it? Why don't we do something different?0:29:25.8 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah. If we can dare... Say that again, if we can dare to see the world... How did you say that? If we...0:29:33.2 Donnie Dee: Well, if we can dare to see the world others-focused instead of me-focused, then really I think build a legacy that has an impact on lots of people's lives.0:29:45.7 Mischa Z: Yeah, that's great. So good. Donnie, I love it. I think that that's a great place to stop interview one. So if this interview with Donnie Dee was fantastic and you want to get even more content from Donnie, upgrade to the all access pass for that bonus interview. And I've got some good questions and I know we're gonna have some fun, and I'm gonna give you an opportunity to be vulnerable, so I think that's always really good. Any final thoughts to share that we did not get a chance to cover, Donnie?0:30:29.0 Donnie Dee: No, just that I think we should all be mindful that life is short, and so each day's a gift. The Bible teaches that this is the day that the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it. And I think that regardless of your faith orientation, I think we would all agree that life is short and goes by very quickly, and so what we do with these days really determines a successful life. If you want another tip, I think, in terms of how to have an effective life and to be well-rounded and to be well-balanced like that three-legged stool, then we gotta get up every day and make this day count by treating it as a gift.0:31:09.7 Mischa Z: Yeah, that's good. That's good stuff, Donnie. Thank you so much. You can find out all about what Donnie does as President and CEO of the San Diego Rescue Mission by going to sdrescue.org. Again, sdrescue.org. There's opportunities to donate. I'm sure you would always love donations, donation-supported...0:31:38.2 Donnie Dee: Yeah, we've got a lot of opportunities to serve, a lot of opportunities to give, a lot of opportunities to praise, so yeah, we'd love to have any of your listeners involved in any one of those plans.0:31:48.6 Mischa Z: Alright, fantastic, Donnie. And again, everybody click on the all access pass button below so you can get unlimited access to all of our interviews with Donnie and all of the bonus interviews which Donnie and I are going to get into next. I'm gonna hit stop and thank you so much for round one, that was beautiful.0:32:10.5 Donnie Dee: Thank you.
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I had so much fun doing a mediation episode last Thursday that I thought I would do a meditation this Thursday. Maybe I will make it meditation Thursdays?! Todays meditation: What if there was no hurry? And the ideas and questions that surround that.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting! These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones. You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS, https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for mobile mic for Android https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: firstname.lastname@example.orgFor social Media: https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:03 I had so much fun doing a meditation episode last Thursday that I thought I would do it again. And I thought, "why not have meditation Thursdays?" Meditation Thursdays. So no promises, but I thought I'd give it a rip. How about it is Thursday. Here we go. Let's have a meditation. So for today I wrote down what if there was no hurry? What if there was no hurry. What if there was...well...let's start with this. Let's take a big, long breath in through your nose. Long breath out through your nose. Sit comfortably in your seat. If you're in your car, if you're on your couch, perhaps you're you're walking while you're, you are listening to this. Stop for a moment and bring your awareness to where you are. What you're doing. Take a big breath in through your nose.Mischa Z: 01:34 Big breath out through your nose. Role, your neck from side to side, feel the vertebrae by vertebrae, crackling breath in breath out. Role your shoulders up and down. Wiggle your hips from side to side, settle into your seat. Or if you're standing shift from one foot to the other and then let your arms hang dangle down by your side. Whether you're standing or sitting big breath in. Breath it all out, bring your awareness to your, your heart. Perhaps put your hand on your chest. Breath in breath out. And let's contemplate the idea. What if there was no hurry? What if there was no hurry regarding your relationships? Regarding your finances? Your job? What if you were right where you were supposed to be? Breathe that in. Right where I'm supposed to be. Breathe that out. Appreciate the silence of the moment. If it's quiet where you're sitting. Perhaps you hear a car go by. The train whistle, blow, no matter nice breath in long breath out. Savor where you are at this space. At this time, you are right where you're supposed to be. If you're single, there's no hurry to be in a relationship. If you were in a relationship, it's beautiful as it is. Can you see it and appreciate it for how it stands right now? Letting go of attachment of what we think needs to be.Mischa Z: 05:28 The illusion of needing more success. Needing, Wanting, Perhaps craving more than what you have. For, for me. Can I sit in this space of creating new opportunities? And letting go of expectations and outcomes where I think I should be? Can I stop comparing myself to others? What if there is no hurry? What if I'm where I'm supposed to be? What if my sons are where they're supposed to be? As far along as they're supposed to be? Long breaths in. Long breaths out. Breath in. And the long breath out. What if there is no hurry?Mischa Z: 08:39 Here that dog barking in the background, perhaps there's a refrigerator humming? A clock taking? Breathe in, breathe it out. Roll your head from side to side. What if there's no hurry. Role your neck around in the circle. Tilt your head strongly from side to side, reach your arms tall above your head. Interlace your fingers and stretcher arms tall issue. Push your palms to the ceiling. Now a big breath out and let it go. Shake your arms by your side. I encourage you to savor things as they are. And to question any time today where you're feeling stressed about time constraints. Ask yourself what if there was no hurry? What if there is no hurry?
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