The Midlife

Tracy lobs up this week's topic - what do you do when someone lobs you, as she calls it, a hot potato?Kimberly and Tracy discuss how to handle toxic energy and dare you to matrix that sh*! right back.

Kimberly and Tracy talk to Bobbi Rebell about her new book Launching Financial Grownups.  Launching Financial Grownups is a call to action for parents of teenagers and young adults who want the best for their kids, but are beginning to realize their OWN financial independence, and financial separation from their children, has to become a priority as well. It is also a practical guide for how best to raise our children into financially responsible, independent young adults in our rapidly changing, increasingly competitive economy.

Join Kimberly and Tracy as they explore a message being communicated to women that they can only find true empowerment in divorce.

Kimberly and Tracy have some advice for channeling your inner Frank Costanza - "serenity now!"  The outside forces of chaos will never stop. You have to find the calm for yourself. 

Kimberly and Tracy can't let it go a week. They have to discuss what happened between Will Smith and Chris Rock last night. 

Kimberly's guest today is Tracy Feldstein. This is usually the part where we give you a quick synopsis of the guest. For Tracy we can't. She's done so much… and she's just getting started.

Shelley Paxton had checked all the boxes. To the outside world, she had it all. Inside was a different story.Shelley ditched the big job and the big money to literally save her soul and wrote a book about the experience. Join Kimberly and Shelley as they discuss Soulbbattical.

Kimberly's guest today is Lori Sairz,  CEO of Zen Rabbit. Lori is an award-winning writer, speaker, and broadcaster, and a nationally recognized expert in using gratitude and meditation to manifest goals faster. Lori is on a mission to guide Gen-Xers to get back to a place of liking themselves and their lives again. 

Kimberly's guest today is Jen Mann, author of the New York Times bestseller People I Want to Punch in the Throat and editor of the New York Times bestselling I Just Want to Pee Alone series. In an attempt to deal with the resulting range of emotions and physical changes in midlife, Jen posted a completely honest now-viral post, “Anyone Else Falling Apart Or Is It Just Me?” Jen used the thousands of responses she got, along with many of her own experiences to write her new book MIDLIFE BITES. A cross between a humor collection and a self-help guide, women ages 40-60 everywhere can explore subjects that may have been taboo in the past. As Jen likes to say, this is NOT your mother's midlife crisis book, where things get swept under the rug and “nice women” don't talk about those kinds of things. 

Long-term marriages can be, well, challenging. After 15, 20, 25 years together, things can feel stale. What if there's a path back? Kimberly interviews Dr. Nate Klemp and discusses actionable steps you can take to find your way back or to even to a new, better place with your spouse.

Join Kimberly for this conversation with Kelly Greytok. Kelly is a Private Plastic Surgery Recovery Nurse, but the chat isn't just about procedures. Kimberly and Kelly dive into aging and the true source of beauty. Hint: it isn't achieved under the knife. 

My guests today are Holly and Megan, founders of Dry Together. Dry Together hosts community events and conversation for midlife moms, where coping and connection don't revolve around alcohol.We had a very honest chat about the role of alcohol in women's lives as both anesthesia and social construct.

Kimberly's guest today is Tracy Gold. Tracy has the fierce spirit of an entrepreneur never willing to give up, even when the COVID shutdowns caused her to lose a lucrative deal with one of America's biggest singing sensations. Tracy discusses her business evolution, her dress design and media business, and the challenges many women in business face of charging what they're worth.

Kimberly's guest today is Pam Sherman, founder of The Perfect Balance. She is a certified fitness trainer and instructor since 1997, author, media contributor, and motivational speaker.There are lots of fitness "experts" and fads out there, but Pam provides a practical, creative, and fun (but no-nonsense) approach to health. The discussion is about more than working out like a terrible accident Pam suffered, her shift away from chronic alcohol use and my significant reduction and life in general.

If  you've fantasized about packing it all up and moving somewhere completely different or if your retirement plans include a quieter life in a quieter town, then you'll really enjoy my conversation today with Sherri Holzer.

Kimberly chats with Sara Arnell, author of There Will Be Lobster: Memoir Of A Midlife Crisis.

It's said that it's supposed to be so nice that you can sit with another person in silence but maybe that's an excuse to cover up the fact that you, and the other person, are just more interested, or maybe accustomed, to listening to your own thoughts swirl around in your head. 

Picture yourself five years from now. What's different? If your answer is "nothing", it's time to make changes. Kimberly discusses why change is hard, but necessary and how to actually start making changes right away.

In today's Re•Invented segment, Kimberly chats with parenting coach Randi Rubenstein. Kimberly and Randi talk about many stages of parenting but focus on the transitions in parenting approach as your children grow older and how different our parenting style is from our parents' generation.

Some people can't wait to get older because they think they'll have thicker skin - that they won't care as much. Kimberly explains the key to not letting other people's opinions determine your destiny is more complicated and that maybe the greatest success of getting older is that you care more; for the right people and the right things.

It's unavoidable...but manageable. How do you take care of the demands from other's but still carve out time for yourself without being resentful.

Don't worry, Kimberly's not dragging the holiday decorations out just yet. In this episode, Kimberly is sharing some of the work coming out of her transformative program Midlife Re•Imagined, Design Your Next Best Chapter and suggesting that back-to-school is a great time to make a fresh start.

Want to know how to become a Broadway producer, published author and creator of multiple online communities? Robin Gorman Newman boils it down to one thing; listen to your gut.

Kimberly discusses one of the greatest impediments to your happiness and success. You. And your self-sabotage.

Does this happen to you ever? Someone asks you what you did today and you don't have an answer. You know you never sat down. You know you were busy. You know things were crossed off your to do list if you have one, or would have been if you ever organized yourself to make one. But the entire day flew by and you feel like you truly feel like you have nothing to show for it. And don't you just want to punch the person asking about your day?Kimberly lays out the root cause of "Groundhog Day" and gives you actionable steps to finally see Spring.

One of the issues that seems to hit a nerve with so many women in Midlife is how the root cause of your discontent right now is feeling badly about your untapped, unused and ignored potential. If you feel like Marlon Brando in On The Waterfront, “I coulda been a contender” then tomorrow's episode is a shot in the arm for you.

Today is a Re•Invented Episode and my guest is Laurie Hermance-Moore.Laurie's current career is as an accredited genealogist but trust me when I tell you that she is so much more than 23 and Me.Join me as Laurie and I discuss not only the fascinating things she works on today, but her twisting road to uncover her passion and best apply her skills.

In order to have a robust second half, you need to have a solid foundation. And if you are feeling like your vanilla ice cream is melted, let me help you.

There comes a point in parenting when you have to flip a switch in your approach. When you stop raising children and you start raising adults. It's time to drop the facade and start sharing with your late teen/early adult children more of the human experience. There is huge benefit to them, and to you, to show not only the highlight reel of your life that they are probably already familiar with, but to start exposing some of the challenges you face, some of the regrets you may have, and some life lessons that you'd like them to internalize earlier than you did.

Today is a Re•Invented episode and Kimberly's guest is  Lauryn Bryght. Lauren is a  Certified Health Coach & Diabetes Prevention Influencer. But don't tune out if you're not a diabetic or pre-diabetic. Lauryn is someone you want to know. 

In this episode, Kimberly shares with you some reflections from her recent family vacation and some of her personal goals for the summer. Kimberly also discusses what SHOULDN'T be on your todo list for this, or any other summer.

Kimberly's 9 year old son has been dying to get on the podcast. Hear what he thinks happens on the podcast and his thoughts on the true source of happiness. Hint: this kid has it all figured out and serves up the reminder we all need.

If you would describe your current state of mind as paralyzed or your day to day as Groundhog's Day, Kimberly is sounding the alarm. Midlife is not actually halfway. It's time to make changes. Now. Before it's too late. Because there will be a too late. 

Celebrating the first year anniversary of The Midlife podcast, Kimberly shares some thoughts about what she's learned in her first year as a podcaster. 

Today's Re•Invented guest is Jeannie Ralston. Jeannie is an author and journalist and now founder of Next Tribe, an online community and magazine with a mission to help us age boldly.

Do you jump out of the way when someone grabs their camera? Then this episode is for you. Kimberly breaks down why we hate being in pictures but why it's time to put ourselves smack dab in the middle of the frame. She also shares with you shedding some of her own insecurities courtesy of her most recent marketing photo shoot; something she was truly dreading. Find out why.

If you wake up everyday asking yourself is this all there is and not feeling successful, you are not alone. But this wake up call in Midlife is the biggest gift if only you will answer. Kimberly asks you to stop thinking of success as a sweeping single analysis of your life and advocate unpacking individual categories that make up every facet of your human experience. 

This week's episode was supposed to be about the #1 Midlife Marriage Myth. And we get there. But not before discussing news of a very high profile divorce after 27 years of marriage. Yes, THAT one.

Jennifer Levinson, founder of Jen's List, is innovating again. This time it's with the Sofa Stud. Hear about her incredible new product; every couch needs one.  But it took us a while to get there because Jen has a fascinating story. You'll recognize lots of common themes in Jen's arc from mom to midlife entrepreneur.

A few weeks ago, Kimberly was asked to join Dr. Andrea Wilkinson on The Brainshape Podcast. Dr. Wilkinson has a PhD in Psychology with a specialization in Cognitive Aging. She has been studying brain fitness and cognitive maintenance for over 15 years. She co-founded BrainShape™   in 2014 - an online community for adults who want to enhance their mental & physical vibrancy as they age. What Kimberly teaches you in practice, Andrea backs up with science. 

Kimberly had a little, let's say "scuffle" at the little league park. You'll want to hear what happened and how Kimberly uses it to point out how and why our preprogramming stops us from sticking up for ourselves. Midlife is the time to find your voice. Kimberly empowers you to stop walking away wishing you would have said something but also points out the best way to be sure you're heard. 

When our parents start facing the challenges of getting older, we rise to the occasion. But in what form will that assistance take place, what are the financial concerns and how will your life be impacted? A lot of the information out there right now may be geared to our age group but it's as if your mother is whispering in the ear of the author. All the advice seemingly geared to you is really in the interest of your parents. Instead, Kimberly takes a fresh, and honest, and yeah maybe even selfish look at the stresses caring for aging parents places on us in Midlife. Don't send a link of this episode to your mother.

Sorry for the vague episode title today but I had to be kind of cagey today to get you to stop by and listen because I was afraid if I laid it all out there, your initial response would have been “NOPE!” For your sake and the sake of future, wildly happy, thoroughly fulfilled you, listen with an open mind, but more importantly with an open heart.

Stacey is one of the most flexible people I know. For as long as I have known her, she has been able to take everything in stride and keep a smile on her face. She's had an incredibly diverse career path, but each venture has built upon the last. Stacey has been able to grow, change and evolve applying the sum total of her experiences to whatever comes next. If you're feeling stuck in Midlife, I hope hearing from Stacey today will inspire you to take some action. Any action. You never know what wonderful place it may lead you.

Kimberly challenges you to think about the soundtrack you are running in the background, over your dialogue and through the scenes of your everyday. What mood are you setting? Is it passive or on purpose? Do you need to upgrade your selections? And what elements go into the soundtrack you are composing to accompany the live you want and deserve.

Kimberly talks to you about beauty, vanity, aging, and that poor woman in the mirror that you pick on.

Your expectations are killing you. They are the source of your anger, discontent, resignation and ultimately, sadness. There has to be a better way. There is. Kimberly lays it out for you.

On this Re•Invented segment of The Midlife Podcast, Kimberly's guest is author Stacy Parker. Stacy's book, Grief As A Second Language, is the bible you hope you'll never need, born out of her own tragic story. Stacy's perspective is worthwhile as so many of us are in a period of grieving. Flat out some have lost loved ones and friends to COVID along with the usual tragedies of illness and accident. But also,  we are in a collective period of grieving for life as we used to know it. And while this is a heavy topic, Stacy approaches it with such grace and you can count on Kimberly to inappropriately lighten the mood with some personal stories towards the end.

We can all agree, life doesn't go according to plan. And the common wisdom is when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Cute saying but how do you actually do that?In this episode Kimberly gives you the guide for how to make the most of the curveballs the universe sends our way and to see those curveballs as gifts to motivate meaningful change.Kimberly also reveals her biggest curveball to date with an honest tale of how she went from WTF to Best Thing That's Ever Happened.

Kimberly has been watching a lot of The Great British Bake Off. In this episode, she equates the competition to 3 stages in our lives and introduces one of her signature coaching strategies she uses to help women create the life they want and deserve.

Kimberly describes the five stages every long-term marriage goes through. Number 3 and 4 are a given. She wants to get you to number 5.