Podcast appearances and mentions of randi rubenstein

Episode 150: Finding Community, Healing Together, and Living in Alignment with Randi Rubenstein What does it mean to find real community in a world that often feels disconnected? In this episode of The Innovative Therapist Podcast, I sat down with Randi Rubenstein for the final conversation in our three-part series on Creativity, Entrepreneurship, and Living an Aligned Life. This time, we explored the transformative role of community in healing, leadership, and building a more connected and joyful life. From the mastermind group Randi accidentally created years ago to the healing communities I've found through dance, parenting circles, and entrepreneur spaces, we both reflect on the power of being seen, held, and co-creating with others. But we also don't shy away from the complexity—how community can also bring up fear, past wounding, and the need for strong Pack Leadership (Randi's term for grounded, non-reactive leadership rooted in care). Here's what we explore in this deep and energizing conversation: ✨ What makes a community feel safe, healing, and energizing (vs. performative or depleting)✨ How strong Pack Leadership creates safety and builds trust✨ Why we often carry wounds from early communities and how to find spaces that help us heal✨ The connection between novelty, leadership style, and nervous system regulation✨ Why co-creating (vs. top-down leading) is the secret to sustainable group work✨ How our own zones of genius show up in leadership roles✨ Navigating sensitivity and overwhelm when leading or participating in group spaces The Truth About Healing in Community One of the biggest takeaways? While we are wounded in community, we are also healed in community. The difference lies in the presence of safe, emotionally regulated leadership. Randi shares how the community she built within Mastermind Parenting grew out of a simple parenting course—and how the women in that group didn't want to leave because they finally felt held. That accidental community is now a co-created space that has helped women start businesses, change their lives, and feel a sense of deep belonging. Pack Leadership and Co-Creation: The Container Matters We unpack how Pack Leadership (a grounded, non-reactive presence that models calm confidence and sets clear boundaries) is essential for a safe group space. But not the "dominate or control" kind of leadership—this is about responding from our Self energy and encouraging everyone to bring their voice and genius to the table. Co-creation is the heart of it all. Whether it's a mastermind group, a dance retreat, or a kitchen-table podcast, there is power in shared ownership. That's what turns a program or group into a community. Feeling Too Much? You're Not Alone. As two sensitive leaders, Randi and I also talk about how it can be hard to feel the pain of others so deeply—and how to stay grounded and effective as a community builder. Whether you're leading a large group or building small, intentional spaces, trusting your energy, pace, and personal capacity is vital. Aligned Leadership Means Trusting Yourself We also explore how our nervous systems guide us toward the right communities. Randi shares her "straightjacket or skinny dipping" metaphor for gauging how a space feels in your body. Does it feel constrictive or expansive? Energizing or draining? That intuitive guidance is part of aligned leadership. Where Community Shows Up From mastermind groups to dance studios, local creative meetups, and therapist circles, we reflect on where we've found aligned, life-giving community. It takes courage to find your people—and to walk away from spaces that don't feel right. But it's worth it. Loved this Convo? Don't Miss the Other 3 Convos with Randi This Season: Pack Leadership: The Most Life Changing Concept I've Learned Since Intuitive Eating Creativity, Play, and Getting More of What You Want Want to Keep the Conversation Going?

Episode 139: Creativity, Play, and Getting More of What You Want In this episode of The Innovative Therapist Podcast, Randi Rubenstein returns to dive deeper into the concept of Pack Leadership while exploring how creativity and play can transform our lives. We discuss the importance of leaning into your Zone of Genius, fostering meaningful connections through creativity, and how play has reshaped my approach to parenting and work. We'll cover how humans are naturally wired to be generous, curious, and connected, and how we can cultivate environments that bring out these qualities in ourselves and those around us. Whether you're a therapist, parent, or simply someone striving to align more deeply with your purpose, this episode offers practical strategies to help you thrive. Why Creativity and Play Matter For a long time, I struggled with bringing play into my parenting in a way that felt meaningful and connecting—not boring or forced. Then, I stumbled across a podcast episode that gave me hope I could shift this narrative. (Here's the podcast episode that inspired me.) I realized that play isn't about perfection; it's about showing up with curiosity and an open heart. Creativity and play have also deeply impacted my work. Leaning into my Zone of Genius has allowed me to focus on what I'm best at while creating space for joy and innovation. For more about the Zone of Genius concept, check out my earlier episode: Episode 129: Embracing Your Zone of Genius. What You'll Learn in This Episode Stories of Transformation: Hear how embracing creativity and play has changed my approach to parenting, making it more enjoyable and meaningful for both me and my kids. Practical Strategies: We'll discuss actionable tips for incorporating creativity and play into your daily life, whether at home or work. The Counter-Cultural Nature of Zone of Genius: Learn why focusing on what lights you up is not only generous to others but also incredibly challenging in a culture that often rewards overworking and self-sacrifice. Highlights from the Episode Pack Leadership and Creativity: Building on Episode 138, we explore how Pack Leadership intersects with creativity and play to foster environments of trust and connection. Playful Parenting: Inspired by recent research and podcasts like 10% Happier and How I Built This, I've learned how to make play enjoyable and connecting—not a chore. These insights have transformed my relationship with my kids and made parenting feel more aligned. Intrinsic Motivation and Generosity: Humans love to learn and give back. We discuss how to create family and work environments that naturally bring out these qualities. Creativity at Work: Discover how focusing on your Zone of Genius can make your work feel more vibrant and aligned, leading to deeper connections and greater impact. Episode 138: Pack Leadership Recap If you missed our last episode, Randi Rubenstein introduced the life-changing concept of Pack Leadership. This approach prioritizes calm, confident leadership while rejecting shame and perfectionism. For a deeper dive, listen to Episode 138: Pack Leadership: The Most Life-Changing Concept I've Learned Since Intuitive Eating. Practical Strategies to Embrace Creativity and Play Start Small: Begin with a short, playful activity you genuinely enjoy. It could be a game, drawing, or storytelling. Prioritize Joy: Make space for activities that bring you and your family joy. It's not about quantity but quality. Align with Your Zone of Genius: Reflect on what you're naturally good at and passionate about, then find ways to incorporate it into your parenting, work, and daily life. Create Supportive Environments: Foster spaces where curiosity and generosity can thrive. This might mean setting boundaries, asking for help, or simply modeling playful behavior. Want More? If you're inspired by this episode and want to dive deepe...

Episode 138: Pack Leadership: The Most Life-Changing Concept I've Learned Since Intuitive Eating As women, as leaders, as humans striving for connection and authenticity, we often find ourselves navigating the delicate balance of strength and vulnerability. Our energy is fierce yet compassionate, loving yet boundaried. We do things differently, and our leadership should reflect that. This concept of Pack Leadership, which I explored in my conversation with Randi Rubenstein on The Innovative Therapist Podcast (Episode 138: Pack Leadership: The Most Life-Changing Concept I've Learned Since Intuitive Eating), has completely transformed how I approach not just parenting, but every aspect of my life. If you're familiar with intuitive eating and its empowering framework for building trust with your body, think of Pack Leadership as its counterpart in relationships. It's about cultivating connection, safety, and a deep sense of belonging in your “pack”—be it your family, your team, or your community. Let's dive into why this concept is so powerful, how it connects to the bigger picture of empowerment, and why I'm so passionate about sharing it with you. What Is Pack Leadership? At its core, Pack Leadership is about creating an environment where everyone feels safe, valued, and like they belong. It rejects shame, blame, and perfectionism, replacing them with love, understanding, and calm, confident leadership. Here's how Randi Rubenstein beautifully breaks down the key elements: Calm, Confident Leadership The leader sets the tone for the group. Think of a steady pilot during turbulence or a coach who believes in the team no matter the odds. This grounded energy instills safety and trust, helping the group face challenges together. Self-ish Leadership In a world that glorifies selflessness, Pack Leadership asks us to prioritize our own needs and well-being. True leadership comes from a place of fullness, where we can give generously because we're not running on empty. It's about rejecting the idea that martyrdom equals strength and instead embracing the idea that we lead best when we're well-rested, supported, and nourished. Receiving Support Gone is the lone wolf mentality. Instead, Pack Leadership encourages us to embrace help, evolving family and group dynamics to better suit everyone's needs. It's about letting go of the societal expectations that demand constant self-sufficiency and perfection. Messy Humaning Leadership isn't about being perfect. It's about showing up authentically, owning mistakes, and laughing along the way. This “messy humaning” fosters connection and growth, creating a safe space for everyone to be imperfectly human. Why Pack Leadership Matters Addressing Loneliness and Unworthiness We live in an era where many people feel disconnected, lonely, and unworthy. Pack Leadership shifts this narrative by fostering a sense of belonging, giving each member of the pack a secure base from which they can grow, explore, and thrive. Parallel Lessons with Intuitive Eating Just as intuitive eating helps us navigate extremes—like rigid diet culture and chaotic eating—Pack Leadership helps us find balance between authoritarian and overly permissive approaches in parenting and leadership. Both frameworks center trust: trusting yourself, trusting your group, and cultivating mutual respect. Empowerment Across All Areas Pack Leadership isn't just about parenting. It's about showing up in all areas of life—business, relationships, and self-care—in a way that's rooted in self-trust, love, and empowerment. When you lead your pack with calm confidence, you create a ripple effect that touches everything you do. What You'll Hear in Episode 138 In my conversation with Randi, we explore: • How to get what you truly want: deeply connected relationships with your kids and the other humans you care about most.

Episode 137: Creativity, Entrepreneurship, & Living an Aligned Life (Season 5) Welcome to Season 5! I'm so excited to kick off this season of The Innovative Therapist Podcast with a fresh approach: a seasonal model. In Episode 137, I share why I made this shift and how this season's theme, Creativity, Entrepreneurship, & Living an Aligned Life, will guide us through meaningful and inspiring conversations. Taking extended breaks between seasons has been an intentional choice to allow time for rest, creativity, and alignment with what feels most life-giving—and I'm thrilled to bring this energy into Season 5. To start off this episode and season, I'll share about a song I've been obsessed with every since I heard it. Actually, a YouTube video. I've probably listened and/or watched this video 200x, maybe more. I just watched it before I recorded this episode. I didn't really know why I liked it, but over time I think I'm understanding. I'll share this story as an example of how we can get curious about why we love what we love, even if on the surface it doesn't "make sense" right away... What to Expect This Season This season, we'll dive deep into the stories of therapists and professionals who have carved out lives and careers they truly love. Through honest conversations, we'll explore the messy, beautiful process of paving a path that aligns with our values, embracing creativity and play along the way. My hope is that these stories inspire you to reflect on your own path and find ways to live more fully in alignment. You're also going to see my true Zone of Genius in action, which is essentially, having deep honest talks with super cool people. We'll explore questions like: How do we bring more creativity and play into our work and personal lives? What does it really mean to live in alignment with our values and strengths? How can we reimagine traditional models of therapy and leadership? Each episode is designed to highlight different facets of creativity, play, and alignment through storytelling and practical strategies. Episodes 138 & 139: The Foundation for This Season Episode 138: Pack Leadership: The Most Life-Changing Concept I've Learned Since Intuitive EatingIn this conversation with Randi Rubenstein, we explore the transformative concept of Pack Leadership and its parallels to intuitive eating. It's all about creating safety, connection, and belonging within our “pack,” whether that's our family, team, or community. Randi shares practical strategies to embody calm, confident leadership in all areas of life. Episode 139: Creativity, Play, and Getting More of What You WantRandi returns to talk about how creativity and play have transformed both my parenting and professional life. We discuss how working in your Zone of Genius is not only fulfilling but also deeply generous to those around you—even though it's a countercultural idea. We also explore practical strategies for fostering creativity and play with our kids, at work, and in our daily lives. Additional Guest Lineup for This Season I'm beyond excited to share the lineup of incredible guests joining us this season. Each brings a unique perspective on creativity, play, and living an aligned life: Melvin Varghese, PhD — Creator of Selling the Couch podcast with 1.8+ million downloads, Melvin has so much insight into doing work as a therapist beyond 1 on 1 work. We'll discuss the pros and cons of doing work outside of one-on-one therapy and what it means to follow your creative instincts in new directions. Elisa Pérez-Arellano, LMSW — Elisa shares her journey of blending creativity and connection into her work and how it's shaped her aligned life. Adeshola Nnamdi, LMFT — Adeshola explores the intersection of cultural identity, creativity, and mental health, offering insights on how to honor your roots while forging your unique path. Rachel Bentley,

Ever wonder if being 'nice' can go too far in parenting? Listen in and join me and my guest, Randi Rubenstein for eye-opening insights! Click here for the show notes and extra resources. Is being a nice parent the answer to good parenting? My guest today shares what being nice means for today's parents.   What We Talked About: Randi's Mastermind Parenting is a unique trademarked method. What is the NICE framework? How to communicate with pack leadership and empathy How to enforce consequences the right way Understanding and nurturing strong-willed children Things to Remember “Parenting is when you start to feel freer to be who you naturally are.” “We learn how to communicate with strong leadership.” “What truly connects people is when we get to be ourselves and you get to be you and we get to mess it all up and then come back together.” - Randi Rubenstein   Click here for the show notes and extra resources.

This October 31 marks the one-year anniversary of my book, and I'm celebrating by sharing a curated list of my favorite podcast appearances! I've chosen episodes where the hosts' perspectives, personalities, and generosity truly shone. With so many podcasts out there, it's a challenge to find ones that are both genuinely helpful and uplifting. If I'm serving up a celebration, it's going to be as satisfying as the best birthday cake. Join me as I revisit standout moments, including the time a host knew my book so well it made me question my own words, the episode where I shared my birth story, and another where I reveal how I've personally taught my sons about the importance of global networking. Discover how you can use your imagination to tell your own story and feel truly worthy!   In this episode, you will hear:   My book Fertile Imagination turns ONE on Halloween, and I'm celebrating by sharing all the juicy details from my podcast tour!

In this episode, we delve into the intricate dance of balancing entrepreneurship and motherhood, especially when raising a strong-willed child. Join us as Randi Rubenstein, parent coach, author, and founder of Mastermind Parenting, shares insights on maintaining structure, accountability, and firm yet loving boundaries. Discover how the principles of pack leadership can transform your parenting approach and draw parallels between the challenges of managing a business and raising resilient children. Embark on the emotional journey of entrepreneurial motherhood, from the lows of failed launches to the highs of tangible success. Reflect on how jealousy can serve as a catalyst for uncovering hidden dreams and transforming envy into motivation and actionable steps. Tune in for expert advice on navigating turbulent times with resilience and grace, and learn how to move beyond talking about change to actually taking action for personal and professional growth. Whether you're dealing with a strong-willed child or running a business during challenging times, this episode offers the mindset, methods, and tools to thrive.   In this episode, you will hear: Challenges of juggling business responsibilities while raising children. Parallels between managing a business during turbulent times and raising resilient children.  How mom founders can leverage their superpower of imagination to dream bigger. The dynamic relationship between working moms and stay-at-home moms. Identity shift and emotional challenges that come with leaving a secure job to start a business Self-reflection and turning envy into motivation and actionable steps toward goals. Emotional regulation and leadership in both parenting and business contexts. Necessity of mental preparation, accountability, and setting clear boundaries. Quotes, that can change your perspective: “What if you have a strong-willed kid and then you have another kid or multiple other kids? How are you supposed to get a handle on this? I would say it's the exact same thing, you know. The accountability piece and learning how to have that structure and have those boundaries into and to say what's okay with you as the pack leader.”   “A lot of women who are working many, many hours are still the ones responsible for what are we going to eat this week and what about those school forms and we need to go through your closet. You look like you're waiting for a flood.”   “You get out what you put into something, but it's doing the reps of whatever it is that you learned, you know, in business or in personal and holding yourself accountable for, okay, I made the investment. You could make the investment or you could have made the investment a decade ago, but you're so capable of still implementing what you learned.”   This episode is brought to you by Fertile Imagination to Networking Success, my 9-week group coaching program for visionary mom founders who have decided they are going to become power strategic networkers because they do not want to miss out on one more opportunity for maximum business growth! A program for a founder who wants a step-by-step process that works. My approach which I have used over and over and helped my client use too is called the Imagination to Impact and Income Method ™ and it will help you connect with the right people, lead the right conversations, and swing open the right doors to success.   If you want to learn more, then schedule a free call on www.melissallarena.com/sessions today. DM me on Instagram @melissallarena just type the word SESSION and I'll share the link if that's easier to see my calendar availability for this free call where you will get all the details you'll need to know if this program is the perfect fit for you and to hear about the extra bonuses available only this summer to the first mom founders who join. Here's that link: https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/      About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein is a renowned parent coach, author, and the visionary founder of Mastermind Parenting. With a deep-seated passion for helping parents navigate the complex journey of raising strong-willed children, Randy has become a trusted voice in the parenting community. Her expertise lies in teaching parents how to implement structure, accountability, and firm yet loving boundaries, all while fostering a nurturing and growth-oriented family environment.   Randi's approach is rooted in the principles of pack leadership, emphasizing the importance of consistency, personal growth, and accountability without resorting to permissive or punitive methods. Her work rejects shame, blame, and spanking, focusing instead on a balanced strategy that combines firmness with love. This philosophy not only helps parents manage their households effectively but also draws insightful parallels to the challenges faced by entrepreneurs in the business world.   SHARE this episode and discover strategies to transform your parenting and business, fostering resilience and consistency. Explore entrepreneurial motherhood, turn jealousy into motivation, and learn about our new group coaching program. Enhance your networking skills and navigate challenges with resilience. Tune in now to thrive at home and in business! Supporting Resources:  Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Podcast: MastermindParenting Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mastermind-parenting-podcast/id1362773053 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to my podcast for moms who are entrepreneurs, founders, and creators?  I'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.   I'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast for writer moms.    About Fertile Imagination to Networking Success, but first about a recent client…   Michelle founded a non-profit six years ago and has since raised over $1.5M. During our first conversation she told me she spent the first year just getting the word out so she could get families to apply. And now she was shifting to really try to fundraise and grow her program. Michelle knew that this wasn't necessarily her strongest suit, she said it's hard, and I'm not great at asking for money, and I'm not great at all these things. But I knew I had to do it, and I knew I had to network, and I knew I had to do everything.   That was when Michelle decided it was time to ask for help. We spoke on a 30-minute call and Michelle took a leap of faith to partner with me in my Fertile Imagination to Networking Success program.   Fast forward a few weeks Michelle grew bold, bolder, ultimately her boldest self. She had this to say: And then during our time together, I just started putting myself out there saying it. My goal is $50, 000 by the year saying that to people and explaining why that was the case and what that was coming from. There wasn't an arbitrary number. It was a very well thought out plan and in terms of the numbers. That was the boldest thing I did during our time together and ask the first IVF baby to wear our merchandise. Are you at this stage, is it time to grow your business? Is networking not yet your strongest suit?   Join me inside of Fertile Imagination to Networking Success:  A LIVE 9-week group coaching masterclass to fast-track making connections with the right people to take your business to the next level.   •      9 weeks of live networking coaching and community •      Value-packed on demand curriculum on everything from navigating impostor syndrome to who to network with, how to find them, what to say, and on planning your fall and winter 2024 networking calendar focused on your business growth goal. •      3 hours/ weekly investment this summer (2 whenever or wherever you wish) to hit the ground running in the fall and feel ahead for a change  •      Lifetime access to tools and resources built for mom founders including meditations and unexpected ways to let go of mom guilt and overwhelm •      Exclusive opportunity for the first five mom founder participants including a multimedia podcast guest feature, two private bonus sessions, and a 30% discounted investment   Special extras: Daily Wins Workbook, Impostor Syndrome Journaling, and Networking Email Templates and More   I'm also offering an EXCLUSIVE bonus for the first five mom founders only which is a guide on how to boost your productivity as a solopreneur and/or delegate or farm out things in your business so you can easily fit this into your summer calendar.   Go to www.melissallarena.com/sessions to schedule a 30-minute call with me to learn more about Fertile Imagination to Networking Success for Mom Founders and jump in on this exclusive summer offer for the first five mom founders. 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Episode 119. In today's solo episode, I'm going to share some of what I've learned about IFS and how it works based on both my personal and professional experiences thus far. I'm also going to talk about learning to slow down, how it's a journey I'm still on, and how IFS helps me actually do it, specifically focusing on my example of my Overworking Part, which I learned as I talked through this episode is very linked with my "Optimizing my Experience" Part (also described in my episode with Randi Rubenstein). In this episode I share my process of recognizing my Overworking/Optimizing Parts, appreciating them, and helping to do things (like record this episode for you!) from a more embodied and grounded place. In the middle of the episode, I lead you through an IFS based meditation to get to know a Protector Part of yours, Overworking Part or otherwise. Then I cover 3 of the main lessons I've learned from experiencing IFS. Without further ado, let's dive in! But First, Words of Wisdom “Compassion as a spontaneous aspect of Self blew my mind, because I'd always assumed and learned that compassion was something you had to develop. There's this idea—especially in some spiritual circles—that you have to build up the muscle of compassion over time, because it's not inherent. Again, that's the negative view on human nature at play. To be clear, what I mean by compassion is the ability to be in Self with somebody when they're really hurting and feel for them, but not be overwhelmed by their pain. You can only do that if you've done it within yourself. That is, if you can be with your own exiles without blending and being overwhelmed by them and instead show them compassion and help them, then you can do the same for someone in pain who's sitting across from you.”― Richard C. Schwartz, No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model The Top 3 Lessons I Have Learned Through Experiencing IFS Cognitive Self-Compassion is Very Different Than Heart Self Compassion. It's totally different. And I was definitely always practicing the cognitive type. This really came to light for me when I talked with Dr. Allyn Richards in episode 108 (you can listen here). We both experienced compassion for ourselves by practicing IFS in a way that was totally different than anything we've tried to do in the past. You Have to Life it to Give It. Hearing this always felt annoying to me. But also so true. I always heard that you shouldn't teach meditation if you don't have a meditation practice. Well, I occasionally taught it, but I definitely didn't have a practice. Talking About Parts is Very Different than Talking to and Building a Relationship with Parts. One of my trainers in my Level 1 mentioned that she often sees therapists saying they are doing IFS, when really they are talking about parts with clients, which can be helpful. Many of us, therapists especially, have developing amazing conceptualization and analyzing parts that helped us a TON. And also, they are still parts. When you truly build a relationship with and honor these parts, new levels of healing and embodiment open up, likely that you didn't believe were truly possible. Wanting more support beyond these podcasts? I am currently accepting new therapy clients if you live in one of these 40 states in the US My rate for an intake session is $220 and for a 45 minute follow up is $195 If interested in learning more, including my availability and details about my practice, email me at info@drshawnhondorp.com or call 616-227-0001 Or if you are a therapist of helping professional looking to connect in community and learn more about or experience the IFS model, get on my email list here and/or email me at info@drshawnhondorp.com to introduce yourself! We may be starting another IFS based community group soon. “I know I shouldn't focus on weight loss, but…” (Polarized Parts Alert!)

Have you had the joy of parenting a strong-willed child? 

Episode 114. This week's episode is special. I was on the Mastermind Parenting podcast with Randi Rubenstein, my beloved parent coach recently. And the convo was so good, that we are replaying it here. So if you want to learn a little more about my story and how I got here, and hear me chat about it with one of the people who have been most influential in getting me here, this episode is for you! What to Expect in this Episode What to Expect in this episode: Some of my training and background and what I thought I was going to do for a career When I learned about IFS and what continues to keep me aligned and pursuing training in it How Randi has used it and is still using it, and a discussion about our understanding of it How our relationship is very "power with" dynamic and how parenting, and therapy can often be a "power over" model and how that can be less helpful and even harmful at times How watching Randi coach has shifted my view of how healing happens and my role as a therapist A story about shifting my relationship with one of my protector parts recently (I got teary sharing this one!) And more! Disclaimer: This blog and podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for individual professional advice or treatment, including medical or mental health advice. It does not constitute a provider-patient relationship.

Episode 113. This week's episode is all about my first 4 days of my Internal Family Systems Level 1 training! So if you're curious about what this IFS thing is, what the training is like, if it's worth the wait and the money, and what I'm learning, this episode is for you! What to Expect in this episode: My process with finding IFS and the long process of finally getting into a Level 1 training! The roller coaster that took me and on how I felt when I got it, versus how I feel now What the schedule of the training looked like The overall impact for me so far Main takeaways and lessons An example of one of my protector parts and how a 10 minute exercise with a new therapist learning IFS shifted things dramatically for me How you can begin to explore IFS and my recommendations after exploring it for almost 2 years And more! Other Mentors & Resources Mentioned Internal Family Systems (IFS) Institute Online Learning Options My very candid conversation called "What your therapist really thinks..." with Randi Rubenstein on the Mastermind Parenting podcast “I know I shouldn't focus on weight loss, but…” (Polarized Parts Alert!) Are you feeling unsure how to guide a client who wants to improve their relationship with food, but also wants to lose weight? We offer this super cool transformational exercise that can help your clients work to understand their polarized parts, build self-trust and listen to their intuition! This free PDF gives step-by-step instructions for doing one of my all-time favorite exercises (based on Internal Family Systems theory) to explore polarized parts. It will help clients get to know the parts of themselves without judgment, understand their intention, and create empowerment and harmony in their bodies. This is hands-down one of the best ways I've found to help support client autonomy and build self-trust at the same time. I can't wait to share it with you! Sign up today to use this innovative tool! Disclaimer: This blog and podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for individual professional advice or treatment, including medical or mental health advice. It does not constitute a provider-patient relationship.

Episode 110. On this week's podcast, we talk to Pooja Arora who you are going to absolutely love. (Peyton, my intern who edits the podcast says it was one of her favorite episodes ever). Even though I feel really excited about this episode, a part of me is definitely anxious. Why? Because on the podcast, we talk about a variety of methods of healing that aren't all unequivocally supported by rigorous scientific research. We talk on the episode about interventions like Emotional Freedom Technique (aka EFT Tapping), Neurolinguistic Programming, among other interventions, including my personal experience with trying some of these methods out. Basically, there is research supporting some of the methods above, but how well it works compared to other methods, and why it works is not totally clear. And the world I come from, the western psychological research world, tends to frown up such things... :) Navigating the nuance And although a part of me is worried about what you will think of me, the truth is I believe we need to have more conversations about methods outside the traditionally accepted, 100% unequivocally supported by randomized controlled trials, track. I love science and research. And, it has major flaws and limitations. The truth is, that traditional methods of healing leave many of us struggling, suffering, and sometimes spending years not getting the healing results we crave. The reality is I've always been open to other methods, even if I have many skeptical parts that come along for the ride. And as Pooja says in today's interview, those skeptical parts are allowed. They can join. And if you could get relief for a physical or emotional symptom that's been plaguing you for years in a few sessions, would your interest be piqued? I know mine was. The Power of Intuition Pooja Arora is someone that I was introduced to through my parent coach Randi Rubenstein. She did some work with some of the other moms in the group, indvidiually and in a group setting and people were getting great results. Some of the results she has gotten for others are outlined in our conversation and some in her bio in this week's ​blog post​. When we connected, she shared that she has dealt with a lot of her own body image concerns, and overcome a lot in that area, despite really persistent shaming and bullying throughout her life. At that point, I knew I had to have her on. She does her own work, has gotten great results for herself and others, and what I'm realizing more and more is that it's much more about the person delivering the healing modality, and your trust and belief in them, than even the method itself. This was truly a great conversation. So without further ado, here's what you can expect in my conversation with Pooja: How Pooja got relief from debilitating stomach pain and infection after trying all the things, in just 2 transformational sessions Her experiences growing up in India and her experiences with persistent bullying about her body and appearance, and the ways she has overcome this Pooja's MANY areas of specialty and 20 different certifications, including but not limited to Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Neurolinguistic Programming, Past Life Regression, Reiki, and many more The techniques that were most helpful to her in healing trauma and body shame What Emotional Freedom Tapping (EFT) was developed for (bringing relief to Vietnam veterans) What an EFT session could look like to help resolve body shame triggers How psychotherapy can be synergistic with EFT The story of how Pooja helped me to release a very difficult experience from when I was a young child, and how several months later my current reaction is very different to the same trigger And much more! “I know I shouldn't focus on weight loss, but…” (Polarized Parts Alert!) Are you feeling unsure how to guide a client who wants to improve their relati...

For parents with strong-willed children, Randi Rubenstein's Mastermind Parenting makes all the difference. Randi shares how well-measured iteration of her programs unlocked possibilities for her business—and her students—that she'd never considered before.

Highly sensitive children can express themselves with very strong emotions that can leave parents feeling rattled and desperate. Randi's experience with her son took her on a journey of acceptance and unconditional love. Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 25, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades. Randi's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the long standing Mastermind Parenting podcast and author of The Parent Gap.  Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Randi Rubenstein about the emotional rollercoaster of parenting a highly sensitive child. Parenting is Leadership Parenting is a leadership opportunity. With the "Parenting is Leadership" Guide from ImpactParents, two frameworks and a dozen core competencies will guide you to up-level your parenting... and improve the most important relationships of your life. Here is what to expect on this week's show: Practical approaches for managing emotions and establishing a healthy family life. Active listening and validation helps nurture secure attachments with your little ones. Strategies for guiding your children without controlling or remedying their behavior. Related Links: The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them by Elaine N. Aron Calm The Chaos: The Benefits of Practicing Mindfulness Don't Take It Personally: 4 Questions to Coach Yourself Connect with Randi: Mastermind Parenting Mastermind Parenting Podcast Instagram Facebook LinkedIn   Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools    Connect with Impact Parents: www.impactparents.com Instagram: @impactparents Facebook: @impactparent LinkedIn:@impactparents Twitter: @impactparents  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We often talk about a child centered divorce and while one or both parents may make every effort to do so, there is trauma for our children in the transition of divorce.  Today we are going to look at our kids' ‘bad behavior', what parents so often do under stress when frustrated with your kids and a N.I.C.E. framework that today's guest teaches that enables you to support you child's needs while setting effective boundaries and ensuring they feel heard and loved. Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child and has been passionate about bringing these resources to other parents for almost two decades. Randi's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the long standing Mastermind Parenting podcast and author of The Parent Gap. Get more information on Randi and her program below: Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Contact: info@mastermindparenting.com Podcast: Mastermind Parenting Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mastermind-parenting-podcast/id1362773053 Follow Randi on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Free Giveaway you are offering our listeners: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/  Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstartFor more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Contrarian Kids are often moody, negative, and can have after school restraint collapse. They may be trying to tell us that they are feeling overwhelmed, and their negative attitude has been a way to get attention. Jillian, a medical professional, was stumped by her contrarian kid and spoke with Lindsay who helped her shift her relationship and her daughter. She realized she was focusing on her daughter being strong-willed without acknowledging that she was being strong-willed too, and that's why they were constantly butting heads and her daughter would win every time. You may relate to Jillian's story as this conversation between Jillian and Lindsay provides an insightful resource to help those in similar situations. "The reason that the contrarian pattern is in our lives is because there really is something to figure out. We must figure out what is causing my kid to have this blown nervous system so much of the time. Where are they putting so much energy out and using their bandwidth that it's just too much for them?" In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. What is the contrarian kid, and what do they want to tell us? 2. How can we help our contrarian children regulate their nervous system? 3. What is the story of Randi Rubenstein's formerly strong-willed child, and how did their relationship change? And much more! The biggest thing Jillian has learned through this process of learning our N.I.C.E. framework to transform her strong-willed kid is that Jillian herself is a highly sensitive person. This is why I say parenting is the ultimate personal development journey. When we are open to coaching and seeing things differently, we learn so much not only about our kids but about ourselves as well.  As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi's Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it's free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting  

Episode 86. Y'all. I have a personal celebrity on the podcast today. What to Expect in this Interview In this interview, we cover: The value of collaboration among people who are self-taught, and people with more traditional training The parallels between shame in parenting and shame in eating and body stuff What to do if you're concerned that your kid is eating too much sugar (note here that Randi uses some language here that I don't necessarily use and could feel like diet culture or restrictive for some, however, you can find a way to have boundaries in a way that works for you and your family) and how you can use putting boundaries around technology as a guide What to do if your kids tells you they feel fat or someone made fun of their body The crucial role of emotional safety in shifting behaviors Why empathy alone isn't enough for behavior change - it's the combination of empathy plus boundaries is so important for long-term sustainable change What empathy truly looks like and how to apply it for yourself and others A brief introduction to how an Internal Family System (IFS) model applies to moving away from dieting and binge eating Why boundaries are "the work" for most of us Ready to Break the Emotional Eating Cycle for Good? Ready to stop avoiding and break the binge eating cycle for good? The first step is to tune in to your body with curiosity and awareness. Grab the free step-by-step guide today! Grab my free guide to disrupt the cycle of emotional eating today! Who is Randi Rubenstein? Randi Rubenstein helps parents navigate hard conversations. She has a soft spot for families with strong-willed kids and believes these kids need our help the most.  Randi's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast and author of The Parent Gap.  At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.  Randi works with parents across the U.S. and is based in Houston, Texas where she lives with her husband, Scott, and they have 3 kids.  "True empathy means that when someone tells you how they feel you just believe them."-Randi Rubenstein Support Local Bookstores Near You! Did you know that that if nothing slows their momentum, Amazon will have almost 80% of the book market by the end of 2025? Look, I love the convenience of Amazon, but I've got a super cool way that you can support local bookstores and my blog and podcast simply by buying books like you already do! You can choose any bookstore on the list in the US (they plan to expand to other counties in the future) OR you can just let the donation get split between all stores. They have raised over 15 million dollars for local bookstores. On my bookshop, you will see my absolute favorite books related to health and wellness, courage and vulnerability, and even my favorite fiction and kids books! My recent favorite related to achieving a deeper level of healing is No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. This model of healing has been incredibly helpful to me personally. I'm also using it with clients and seeing great results. This book isn't specific to eating or weight concerns, but is really one of the best ways I've found to help work with that deeper root cause of any behavior you are struggling with and I think you'll find it super interesting and valuable. So if you believe in supporting local businesses and want to support my blog and podcast, please consider buying your books through Bookshop from now on! The Psychology of Wellness Bookshop Link. Disclaimer: This blog and podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for individual professional advice or treatment, including medical or mental health advice. It does not constitute a provider patient relationship. Disclosure: Using the Bookshop.

A struggling parent of a strong-willed child seeks to define good parenting but finds themselves in a dilemma where they must choose between pushing their child too hard or letting them miss out on essential learning experiences. Listen and learn the secrets to raising strong-willed kids and helping them grow into successful, independent adults. This episode of the Mastermind Parenting podcast with Randi Rubenstein is about strong-willed kids. A good parent means striving to be better by learning and growing, and it often takes a difficult, strong-willed kid to push us to take the time to do that. A good parent also understands there is no such thing as perfection, and that strong-willed kids are like a tough personal trainer, pushing us to break the cycle and create the dream family we have always wanted. In this episode, you will learn the following: Is there a roadmap to being a good parent? How can you tell when you're making the right decisions as a parent? What does it mean to be a "cycle breaker" and how can you strive to be one? As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi's Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links Join the latest Weekend Wam Up Coaching Session, it's free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/ Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

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In today's episode of the Gentle Parenting Show, Kim sits down with Randi Rubenstein. Randi is the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting Podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Her mission is that every human deserves to have a family that gets along and no one should ever feel like the problem child. Today Kim and Randi talk about:   Raising Cooperative Children    Finding Time to Parent a Strong-Willed Child  Attention and Strong-Willed Children Setting Boundaries With a Strong-Willed Child  Are Boundaries Too Strict?     Our favorite quotes from this episode are “children actually do better when we're imperfect, as long as they see us figure out how to repair whatever mistake we made.” and “providing structure is actually really respectful of your kids because you get to have more fun.”   A Free Gift From Randi  Randi put together a 3-day program to help go from angry to aligned when parenting a strong-willed child. This program is usually for sale on her website, but she is giving it to our listeners for free right HERE.   Connect With Randi Head to Randi's website where you can find out more about her programs, coaching, and podcast. Follow along on Instagram and Facebook.

In today's Re•Invented segment, Kimberly chats with parenting coach Randi Rubenstein. Kimberly and Randi talk about many stages of parenting but focus on the transitions in parenting approach as your children grow older and how different our parenting style is from our parents' generation.

Randi Rubenstein is the founder of the Mastermind Parenting program, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast and author of The Parent Gap. The Mastermind Parenting philosophy is that every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi helps parents navigate difficult conversations with a clear head and an open heart. She has an extra special soft spot for families with strong-willed kids and believes these kids need our help the most. Randi lives in houston with her Husband and has 3 children, 2 boys and a girl, her youngest son is in high school, her daughter is in college and her oldest son is in grad school. Connect with Randi: Instagram-@mastermindparenting Website- https://mastermindparenting.com Podcast- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mastermind-parenting-podcast/id1362773053

In this brief but mind blowing episode of Look Ma' No Hands, Parenting Coach Randi Rubenstein gives us her four-step sibling fighting tool that totally flipped me upside down when I heard it. I was doing almost everything the opposite of what she suggests and I couldn't believe how logical and game-changing her tools were when I heard them. So excited to share her wisdom with you in this episode!

Sibling dynamics in early childhood can be a huge challenge to navigate. From navigating conflict to addressing each child's different needs, Randi Rubenstein comes to the rescue again in this episode where she gives great suggestions on how to validate our children where they're at and be less divisive, helping our kids live more harmoniously with themselves and one another.

For this episode, and the forthcoming episode 57, I’d like to take some time to answer questions from my listeners and participants in my parenting boot camp. For this episode, and the forthcoming episode 57, I’d like to take some time to answer questions from my listeners and participants in my parenting boot camp. I often receive questions like “what’s your opinion on [parenting technique]?” I say the same thing Dr. Phil says to participants on his show: “how’s that working for you?” There are no universal answers to cultivating a healthy family dynamic. Every parent is different. Every child is different. Life is like a test, and everybody gets a different exam form with different combinations of questions to figure out. I’ve worked with kids and parents who are chained down by self-defeating mindsets — the place of no. These people are conditioned to rely on external validation and motivation. They deeply dislike leaving their comfort zone and taking risks. They want the solution, the Right Path, to be provided so they can take it. If only life were that simple! As parents, ours is the responsibility — and the joy! — to figure out what works in our families. My goal is, as always, to give you that assertive “pack leader” energy that Randi Rubenstein always talks about. I want your efforts as a parent to come from a place of yes. Everything is figure-out-able. Subscribe on Apple! Subscribe on Android! Join my FREE parenting bootcamp! Let’s Connect! Here’s where you can find me: Learn more at https://www.coachingkelly.com Find me on Instagram! Find me on Facebook!

Are your kids watching enough TV right now? Parenting Coach Randi Rubenstein wants to make sure. Quarantine parenting is exhausting, but it brings up issues we can either run from or work on and heal from. While we're showing up for it all, remember to keep the TV on and give yourselves a break! You'll love what Parenting Coach Randi Rubenstein has to say in this episode about kicking back, setting the kids up with their favorite shows and making time for YOU.

For this weeks episode of Styling Social Justice we had the pleasure of having Randi Rubenstein as a guest- and what an eye opener it was for us as parents! According to Randi, the best way to talk to your kids about serious topics is through honesty and empathy. Knowledge is power when we’re not scared to discuss it

According to parenting coach Randi Rubenstein, "all behavior is communication." Through "conscious discipline", we can work with our children to unpack their emotions and create healthy patterns of communication that benefit the whole family. This episode was brought to you by Social Mama App! SocialMama is support and friendship at every stage of motherhood. The app provides opportunities for women to create meaningful mom friendships and build your mom tribe, without shaming or guilt. Go to socialmama.us to learn more and download the app!

Randi came into my life at a time when I needed her most. Being a busy mompreneur comes at a cost and I had just started homeschooling my oldest son. I was overwhelmed, discouraged and had no idea how to even begin to create the family of my dreams with all these new circumstances! Soon after our chat on the podcast I was able to take Randi's parenting course and it was AMAZING. Not only was the content informative and broken down into bite sized pieces busy moms can handle, her coaching calls were SO helpful.

In this episode, Parent Coach, Randi Rubenstein and I talk about meeting the physical and energetic needs of our children and ourselves, conscious parenting, self-care as a parenting tool and building a biz while raising our kids. You can find Randi at. http://www.randirubenstein.com and grab our seasonal self-care guide at lil omm.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lolacommunity/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/lolacommunity/support

Parenting coach & author Randi Rubenstein joins us to talk about her extraordinary parenting strategies, stories from her own experiences with her kids, her clients' breakthroughs in parenting, and ideas for effective communication with kids of all ages.

B”H Is there a gap between what you thought you’d be as a parent and where you are as a parent? Do you worry that you’re messing up your kids? My guest wants to help parents close what she’s called the Parent Gap, and to teach parents to stay connected to their children, change unhealthy patterns and keep their cool while running their household. I have Randi Rubenstein on Jewish The post Episode 43: Randi Rubenstein, Parenting Coach & Author of The Parent Gap appeared first on Jewish Latin Princess.

Self-Care Houston, Episode 13: Randi Rubenstein joins Jennifer in a conversation about self-care and what that means as a mom. Randi and Jennifer talk about their own experiences as moms and how they continue to learn what self-care looks like in the context of a marriage and family. Randi is the author of "The Parent Gap," and a fellow mama in the trenches that facilitates transformational teacher trainings and parent coaching since 2007. Randi helps parents replace negative patterns such as threats, bribing and name calling with a new positive parenting toolbox that inspires rather than backfires during the teen years. Subscribe in iTunes.

Have you ever wanted to reach out to a parenting coach or take a class on how to be a better parent but just not been able to find the time or make the commitment? On Episode 94 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie spend an hour with parenting coach Randi Rubenstein and learn all kinds of new parenting tips and tricks. Throughout the interview, Randi offers buckets of advice on how to improve your parenting game. As an author and coach, Randi helps parents stay calm and think clearly during triggered moments with their kids and to change unhealthy patterns, including ones that were passed down through generations of their family. It’s an enlightening interview that will leave listeners with new, practical parenting tools...and a taste for more advice from Randi! For complete Show Notes, visit the Mama Bear website!

Join Dr. Angela Lauria of The Author Incubator interview author Randi Rubenstein on the writing and publishing of her book, Am I Screwing Up My Kids?  For Randi, writing this book had been a far off dream, but that all changed when she got into The Author Incubator and with the help of Angela Lauria's guided meditation, the title of the book actually came to her and she was able to viualize the book in her hand, all done and ready for the world and her readers. She said that writing the book was a fun process through which she was able to learn more about herself like she would have in 20 years of therapy!  The book, for Randi, was sort of self-fulfilling in that it allowed her to become clear about her own philosophies that are applied to helping people create a connected family in her coaching sessions. It's become like a guidepost to refer to in her work with all the benefits that go with it.  Read more and download the transcript: Randi Rubenstein on The Author Incubator