Podcast appearances and mentions of Kenneth M Adams

Join us in this recording for Part 2 of the Bay Area SAA/COSA Quarterly Speaker meeting as Allison W. shares about her experience in recovery in COSA, living through covert incest, & finding peace after a miscarriage.   Links mentioned in this episode: COSA website: https://cosa-recovery.org   Adult Children of Sexual Addiction Meeting is open to anyone affected by sexual compulsive behavior including members of other Twelve Step programs. Especially helpful for anyone who identifies as being affected by childhood caregivers or members of your family of origin – or - if you are not sure and are exploring whether you may have been affected by compulsive sexual behavior in this way, you are very welcome! Tuesdays 4:00 pm Pacific /  5:00 pm US Mountain / 6:00 pm Central / 7 pm Eastern  Thursdays 1:00 pm Pacific / 2:00 pm US Mountain / 3:00 pm Central / 4:00 pm Eastern /  9:00 p.m. BST  Zoom ID: 566 056 0930 Please contact ACSA.COSA2@gmail.com for information and meeting passcode   Book mentioned in this episode: Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D. Podcast mentioned in this episode: The Mental Illness Happy Hour: Episode #588 Covert Incest with Dr. Kenneth Adams https://mentalpod.com/archives/6606   Find Links for the Podcast: https://sexaddictsrecoverypod.com/ Be sure to reach us via email: feedback@sexaddictsrecoverypod.com If you are comfortable and interested in being a guest or panelist, please feel free to contact me. jason@sexaddictsrecoverypod.com SARPodcast YouTube Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLn0dcZg-Ou7giI4YkXGXsBWDHJgtymw9q   To find meetings in the San Francisco Bay Area, be sure to visit: https://www.bayareasaa.org/meetings To find meetings in the your local area or online, be sure to visit the main SAA website: https://saa-recovery.org/meetings/   The content of this podcast has not been approved by and may not reflect the opinions or policies of the ISO of SAA, Inc.

Join the conversation today as Amie and Alana interview Dr. Kenneth M Adams, Ph.D., CSAT-S and author of the new book, Alight in the dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts co authored with Mary E Meyer, Ph.D., LMFT, and Culle L Vande Garde, LCSW where they detail the unique issues experienced by adult children who grew up with a sexually addicted parent. We are thrilled to share this powerful conversation with you in hopes that as a child of a sexually addicted parent, you will find the pieces that you have been carrying and find hope and healing. We also hope that for those who are the addicted parent or betrayed parent, this book will help you to understand your children's experiences so you can be a source of healing for them as well. If this book brings up any questions or concerns in your personal journey please reach out to Alana, Amie or Luke. NEW Support Groups available starting in April. For more information or to register click HERE Ready to take your healing to the next level? Choose Recovery for couples is for those who are ready to lean into the relationship and do that next level work. This comprehensive support group is designed to provide you and your partner with the tools and support you need to work through the pain and begin rebuild your relationship. Alana and Luke tag team teaching and support to guide you through the healing process and help you communicate effectively, regain trust, and begin to move forward. Click HERE for more information and to see if you are ready. Believing In You Coaching Program starts April 5th! This group is for women who are ready to take their individual healing up a notch. Learning to trust yourself, love yourself and believe that you can truly create the life you want. We do that by digging into more awareness and leaning into more acceptance so that you can experience the life in the way you choose. To find out more information on that or get your spot click HERE Follow on Instagram to stay caught up on whats happening! @Chooserecoveryservices @therapywithalana @amiewoolsey

This week: "What If We're Angry with the Wrong Person?"Enmeshment runs rampant in families. If you grew up in a family with enmeshed issues, you have likely continued that pattern in your adult romantic relationships. Dr. Kenneth M. Adams is a clinical psychologist specializing in enmeshment, addictions and covert incest. He is the author of Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners and When He's Married to Mom.In this episode, our host Jamie Yuenger speaks with Dr. Adams about the following topics: - What enmeshment is and how it plays out in our families of origin- Why enmeshment is harmful to our relationships- How enmeshment later effects our adult, romantic relationships Visit our website for a full transcript of this episode (# 25). Read more about Dr. Adams' work on his website Overcoming EnmeshmentContent: enmeshment, covert incest, emotional incest, addiction recovery, sex addiction------------------------------------ Tickets to Live Event: Join us September 25th for our first, live online event. Our theme for this series is Major Life Changes and our special guest is Sister Monica Clare, a progressive nun with a TikTok following of over 170,000. Sign up for our newsletter here by September 2nd to get 25% off your ticket. If you become a patron of the show before September 2, 2022, you'll receive a free ticket to the event via Patreon. Become a patron by clicking here. Regular $9 tickets can be purchased here. Visit our website: https://ifyouknewme.showBecome a Member: Official members receive regular resources and tools that support well being. Join here. Talk to us: If you have a topic or guest idea you would like us to consider, send us a message. Or, connect with us on Instagram and Facebook.Get the Newsletter & Postcards: Sign up Get bonus content on Patreon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join us in this episode as Bryan shares about his recent relapse, recovering from enmeshment with his mother and reconnecting with the program.   Book mentioned in this episode: Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D. Podcast mentioned in this episode: The Mental Illness Happy Hour: Episode #588 Covert Incest with Dr. Kenneth Adams https://mentalpod.com/archives/6606   YouTube Links to music in this episode (used for educational purposes): Opeth - Patterns in the Ivy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_gqZeIMO7bo   Be sure to reach us via email: feedback@sexaddictsrecoverypod.com If you are comfortable and interested in being a guest or panelist, please feel free to contact me. jason@sexaddictsrecoverypod.com Launching soon: https://sexaddictsrecoverypod.com/ SARPodcast YouTube Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLn0dcZg-Ou7giI4YkXGXsBWDHJgtymw9q   To find meetings in the San Francisco Bay Area, be sure to visit: https://www.bayareasaa.org/ To find meetings in the your local area or online, be sure to visit the main SAA website: https://saa-recovery.org/meetings/   The content of this podcast has not been approved by and may not reflect the opinions or policies of the ISO of SAA, Inc.

Jason starts us off with a check in about him dealing with the cold. The darkness and then the cold has made him wonder why he continues to live where he is. Jason identifies that because he moved so often when he was a child, he wanted to make sure that his children don't have to go through that. The situation has left him feeling helpless. Jason and Edward discuss his plans to move once the children are out of school and out of the house. Our Deep Dive this week, delves into the subject of covert incest. Coming from the book “Silently Seduced” by Kenneth M. Adams. Jason read it several years ago, and after three tries Edward has finished reading the book. Jason and Edward discuss their own experiences with one of their parents taking them on as a proverbial partner to get their needs met while making Jason and Edward feel special. Edward discusses in some depth how his mother's behavior towards him has shaped his relationships with women, as well as many other areas of his life. The discussion winds it's way through warning signs as both children and adults as well as some resources and a few things that can be done on your own. Ultimately the work should be done with a therapist as it is a deep trauma.

Enmeshment and healthy boundaries are a topic of interest for many of us, as our family dynamics often contribute to our inability to show up in our romantic relationships. In today’s episode, I speak with Dr. Kenneth M. Adams who began his professional career in 1981 treating children, adolescents, and their families. Dr. Adams created and facilitates the Enmeshment Workshops: From Guilt and Ambivalence to Passion and Purpose to help those struggling to break free from enmeshment. In 1985 he began a private practice with the Children of Alcoholic Parents program, an outpatient program for the treatment of adults who had grown up in alcoholic families. It was there that he began to notice that many of these clients had addictions and enmeshment issues, two of his primary specialties today. We talk about the following and so much more: ✅ What is enmeshment? ✅ Why does it happen, and how often does it happen? ✅ When does it start? ✅ How enmeshment is different between parents and children v romantic partners ✅ The difference between enmeshment and codependency ✅ Some ranges of healthy enmeshment v unhealthy enmeshment ✅ How he works with people who need to create boundaries and step out of their enmeshment patterns ✅ Guidance for parents as well as children who are in enmeshed relationships Please tag us and tell us what you loved! You can follow @Gateways_To_Awakening on Instagram or Facebook if you’d like to stay connected.

Enmeshment and healthy boundaries are a topic of interest for many of us, as our family dynamics often contribute to our inability to show up in our romantic relationships. In today’s episode, I speak with Dr. Kenneth M. Adams who began his professional career in 1981 treating children, adolescents, and their families. Dr. Adams created and facilitates the Enmeshment Workshops: From Guilt and Ambivalence to Passion and Purpose to help those struggling to break free from enmeshment. In 1985 he began a private practice with the Children of Alcoholic Parents program, an outpatient program for the treatment of adults who had grown up in alcoholic families. It was there that he began to notice that many of these clients had addictions and enmeshment issues, two of his primary specialties today. We talk about the following and so much more: ✅ What is enmeshment? ✅ Why does it happen, and how often does it happen? ✅ When does it start? ✅ How enmeshment is different between parents and children v romantic partners ✅ The difference between enmeshment and codependency ✅ Some ranges of healthy enmeshment v unhealthy enmeshment ✅ How he works with people who need to create boundaries and step out of their enmeshment patterns ✅ Guidance for parents as well as children who are in enmeshed relationships Please tag us and tell us what you loved! You can follow @Gateways_To_Awakening on Instagram or Facebook if you’d like to stay connected.

Creating a healthy relationship as an adult requires a fine balance of intimacy and sovereignty. This can be really tough for men who grew up with maternal enmeshment issues—they've got to untangle a maladaptive relationship with their mother. Dr. Kenneth Adams is an expert on helping people do exactly this. We dive deep into what enmeshment looks like, the kinds of confusion and chaos it creates in relationships, and how to break free. Dr. Kenneth M. Adams began his professional career in 1981 treating children, adolescents, and their families. In 1985 he began private practice with the Children of Alcoholic Parents program, an outpatient program for the treatment of adults who had grown up in alcoholic families. It was there that he began to notice that many of these clients had addictions and enmeshment issues, two of his primary specialties today. He wrote his first professional article in 1987 on covert incest and sex addiction in alcoholic families and has since written three books and numerous peer-reviewed articles. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a CSAT supervisor, and CSAT training facilitator as well as an EMDR practitioner. Connect with Dr. Adams -Website: https://www.overcomingenmeshment.com/ -Book: When He's Married to Mom - How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment: https://amzn.to/3h8woyP -Book: Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners: https://amzn.to/3DSi5Z6 Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they're looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The Tech See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is one of those episodes that totally changed my mind about a book. I initially didn’t like the book, and didn’t bother finishing it. But chatting with crime novelist Aime Austin changed my perspective entirely. The second we finished talking, I immediately ordered the first book in the series, so I could get the whole picture. Also, if you are a library person, you are going to love hearing about how Aime relies on her local librarians to curate a reading list for her and her son.   Support the Best Book Ever Podcast on Patreon   Follow the Best Book Ever Podcast on Instagram or on the Best Book Ever Website   Host: Julie Strauss Website/Instagram/Facebook   Guest: Aime Austin Facebook/Instagram/Twitter/Podcast   Want to be a guest on the Best Book Ever Podcast? Go here!   Discussed in this episode: What Came Before He Shot Her by Elizabeth George (This book is 14th, in the Inspector Lynley series, which begins with A Great Deliverance by Elizabeth George. Though as Aime explained to me, “What Came Before He Shot Her” is more of a side story than a murder mystery in the series.) Barbara Kingsolver The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd Agatha Christie Inspector Gamache Series by Louise Penny The Dublin Murder Squad Series by Tana French The Witch Elm by Tana French The Searcher by Tana French Julia Spencer-Fleming When He’s Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D. Sarah Mayberry Elizabeth Decker Promising Young Woman     Discussed in our Patreon Conversation City Spies by James Ponti Diary of a Wimpy Kid by Jeff Kinney Charles Dickens The Thorn Birds by Colleen McCullough (Note: Some of the above links are affiliate links. If you shop using my affiliate link on Bookshop, a portion of your purchase will go to me, at no extra expense to you. Thank you for supporting indie bookstores and for helping to keep the Best Book Ever Podcast in business!)

This is one of those episodes that totally changed my mind about a book. I initially didn't like the book, and didn't bother finishing it. But chatting with crime novelist Aime Austin changed my perspective entirely. The second we finished talking, I immediately ordered the first book in the series, so I could get the whole picture. Also, if you are a library person, you are going to love hearing about how Aime relies on her local librarians to curate a reading list for her and her son.   Support the Best Book Ever Podcast on Patreon   Follow the Best Book Ever Podcast on Instagram or on the Best Book Ever Website   Host: Julie Strauss Website/Instagram/Facebook   Guest: Aime Austin Facebook/Instagram/Twitter/Podcast   Want to be a guest on the Best Book Ever Podcast? Go here!   Discussed in this episode: What Came Before He Shot Her by Elizabeth George (This book is 14th, in the Inspector Lynley series, which begins with A Great Deliverance by Elizabeth George. Though as Aime explained to me, “What Came Before He Shot Her” is more of a side story than a murder mystery in the series.) Barbara Kingsolver The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd Agatha Christie Inspector Gamache Series by Louise Penny The Dublin Murder Squad Series by Tana French The Witch Elm by Tana French The Searcher by Tana French Julia Spencer-Fleming When He's Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D. Sarah Mayberry Elizabeth Decker Promising Young Woman     Discussed in our Patreon Conversation City Spies by James Ponti Diary of a Wimpy Kid by Jeff Kinney Charles Dickens The Thorn Birds by Colleen McCullough (Note: Some of the above links are affiliate links. If you shop using my affiliate link on Bookshop, a portion of your purchase will go to me, at no extra expense to you. Thank you for supporting indie bookstores and for helping to keep the Best Book Ever Podcast in business!)

Dr. Kenneth M. Adams talks to Rabbi Shais Taub about topics including addiction as an intimacy disorder; the negative cycle of shame in addiction particularly in religious communities; and how the last "spiritual assignment" of the parent is to allow their adult children to shift loyalties from their family of origin to the family they are building with their spouse. Dr. Adams is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a CSAT supervisor, and CSAT training facilitator as well as an EMDR practitioner. Dr. Patrick Carnes, internationally recognized expert on sex addiction, wrote the following in his review of Dr. Adam's first book, Silently Seduced: “Ken Adams, is one of those rare combinations of competence as a writer, clinician, and researcher. This book is developing a loyal readership fast, which is probably because Ken is one of the more astute observers of the connections between shame, abuse, and sex addiction.” For more information about the Fresh Start Retreat Center visit www.thefsrc.com or call 888-373-7481.

Dr. Kenneth M. Adams talks to Rabbi Shais Taub about topics including addiction as an intimacy disorder; the negative cycle of shame in addiction particularly in religious communities; and how the last "spiritual assignment" of the parent is to allow their adult children to shift loyalties from their family of origin to the family they […]

Rob and Tami answer the community's questions and cover topics like having empathy in the betrayed partner, creating healthy love boundaries, and why men seem to cheat more than women do. Rob and Tami also discuss whether there should be anonymity in recovery.    TAKEAWAYS: [0:25] My husband has been emotionally distant with me after he cheated on me. What's going on?  [3:50] How to create boundaries as a love addict?  [6:15] Should I keep reading books about codependency?  [9:25] How can I empathize more for the partners of sex addicts?  [13:30] Now that I'm sober from porn, I have a food addiction! What do I do?  [16:55] Suggested literature for mother enmeshment?  [18:30] What can I do to build emotional intimacy with the betrayal partner? [20:55] Why should there be anonymity in recovery? [23:35] Why does it seem more men cheat than women do?    RESOURCES:  Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss Cruise Control Book by Robert Weiss Dr. Kenneth M. Adams

I never heard of this author or book prior to going to The Meadows.  It found it very insightful! Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners By Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D.

The 2-time Olympic gold medalist and Women's Basketball Hall of Fame inductee shares about surviving domestic abuse and becoming an advocate for other survivors. She also shares about being one of 20 children, being a preacher's kid and learning how to stop trying to "rescue" broken partners and take care of herself. For more about Ruthie go to www.MightyRuthieBolton.com Contact her at teammightyruthie@gmail.com Follow her @MightyRuthie Domestic Violence resources: National Coalition Against Domestic ViolenceNCADV | National Coalition Against Domestic Violence   Domestic Violence www.domesticviolence.org   Help Guide www.helpguide.org   Safe Horizon Moving Victims from Crisis to Confidence - Safe Horizon   National Network to End Domestic Violence Home Page - NNEDV Support Our Sponsors! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling.  To get a free week go to www.BetterHelp.com/mental  Must be 18. This episode is sponsored by the Calm sleep and relaxation app.  For 25% off a premium subscription go to www.Calm.com/mental This episode is sponsored by Lightstream debt consolidation loans.  For a special interest rate go to www.Lightstream.com/mental This episode is sponsored by the Spoke Media podcast Family Ghosts.  Listen wherever you get your podcasts. Other Links Mentioned The article by Stephanie Shipp that Paul read comes courtesy of www.ThriveTraumaRecoveryCoaching.com You can read it here https://thrivetraumarecoverycoaching.blogspot.com/2019/12/thrive-trauma-recovery-coaching-blog.html The books she recommended are:Covert Incest Syndrome by Patricia Love Ed.D. and Jo Robinson - the definitive text on emotional incest/parentification. Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners by Kenneth M. Adams  The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller WAYS TO HELP THE PODCAST ______________________ Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2 ————————————————————————— Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing. Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod  -------------------------------------------------------- Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod Become a one-time or monthly donor via Paypal  or Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com) ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Try Our Sponsor’s Products/Services ---------------------------------------------------

Rob welcomes friend and colleague Dr. Ken Adams. They discuss signs and examples of mother-enmeshed men and how it relates to sexual addiction and intimacy. problems. Dr. Adams shares his knowledge on the evolution of our sexuality, the steps to emancipation, and some gold nuggets of wisdom on what to expect if you are involved with an enmeshed man.   TAKEAWAYS: [1:08] Dr. Ken Adams lives in Michigan and has a thriving practice. His book, Silently Seduced explores how an individual’s relationships with their moms can produce the types of problems that sex addiction creates. Married to Mom to uncover why a man might seem to continually choose his mom over his partner. He began private practice with the Children of Alcoholic Parents Program. There he became interested and devoted to working with sex addiction. [4:11] Enmeshment is a term used in family therapy field to describe when family members are too involved, and the dynamic is too close. When a mother burdens her son with expectations and inappropriate boundaries, the son may begin to feel disloyal when he has other objects of desire. He then acts out and carries out these desires on the side while feeling a tremendous amount of grief and guilt. [8:50] It is the parents job to celebrate the independence and emancipation of their children. On the flip side, it is the son’s responsibility to leave and start their own life with their own partner. [14:53] The evolution of our sexuality is primarily tied to our early care taking experiences. Emotional freedom and having a need for their own space is a running theme that comes up consistently for enmeshed men. [17:28] Emancipation involves two things: external boundaries and an internal structure of how he feels about romance, including the important task of figuring out how to parse out freedom in a commitment. [20:12] The man may project his feelings of being trapped and burdened on to his well-meaning partner, or also be drawn to someone dominating that may pull him away from his mother. [22:02] Our partner choice is not doomed based on how we grew up. It’s an inside job and a “one day at a time” solution for the mother-enmeshed man to observe what makes him feel overwhelmed and trapped, and to turn out obligations when he starts to feel smothered. [29:45] In the sex and love addicted area, females tend to struggle with overt / physical insest, and males covert / emotional insest.   RESOURCES Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Out of the Doghouse Cruise Control Silently Seduced Married to Mom Kenneth M. Adams