ManTalks Podcast

I've been seeing a disturbing trend online where women claim that "incredible men are just average women," implying that men are simply playing catch-up to a female baseline. In this episode, I dive into the dangers of this "female supremacy" narrative and what I call the "Patriarchy Virus," which frames men as the root cause of every societal problem. I also break down why judging men by female metrics destroys relationships and discuss the immense, often overlooked effort it takes to chisel yourself into an exceptional man.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 The "Incredible Men Are Just Average Women" Narrative01:43 Introducing the Patriarchy Virus03:09 The "One Up, One Down" Relationship Dynamic05:10 Society Values What Men Contribute, Not Who They Are06:23 Identity: Community vs. Competency08:52 Why Modern Culture Demonizes Hierarchies10:04 Applying Female Metrics to Male Psychology11:50 Misandry and the Contempt for Men14:14 The Reality of Women Who Buy Into This Narrative16:03 It Is Hard to Craft Yourself Into a Great Man***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Josh Trent to explore how marriage, father wounds, and emotional epigenetics shape a man's inner world. We talk honestly about porn, anger, healing the mother wound, and what it actually takes to build emotional safety with your partner. Josh unpacks how breathwork, mentorship, and men's work helped him transform survival patterns into real love and leadership. This episode is raw, personal, and directly speaks to men who are ready to stop repeating cycles and start leading with truth.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Welcome and setup00:31 Marriage as transformation01:13 Anger toward the feminine02:26 Injuries from childhood03:37 Unsafe relationship with women04:53 Realizing wife is not mom05:37 Breaking unconscious patterns06:36 Avoiding emotional honesty08:35 Growing up with bipolar parent10:35 Creating safety by coping11:39 Being shielded from truth13:40 Moving to Hawaii14:41 Womanizing and addiction15:47 Mission to feel feelings17:34 Hungry Ghost metaphor19:08 Dysfunction in relationships21:24 Men's work and mentorship23:05 Masculine leadership26:24 Joining men's communities29:32 Emotional epigenetics33:14 Containment in relationships34:33 Safe emotional expression35:36 Relationship with other men38:13 How to communicate honestly41:51 How to open up43:52 Breathwork and embodiment46:42 Middle path for men48:51 Healing financial fear50:23 Self leadership for men53:27 Porn and disconnection55:45 Why porn hooks men58:51 Escape velocity1:03:47 Healing lineage pain1:06:55 Breaking generational cycles***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts |

I dive into the single most important skill that many modern men have lost but that women deeply crave: containment. I discuss why mastering your own internal fire—your anger, impulses, and emotions—is the key to shifting from being perceived as a potential predator to a trusted protector. We explore how developing this capacity doesn't mean castrating your masculinity, but rather harnessing it to create a sense of safety that feels like "shade in the desert" for your partner.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Introduction01:29 The #1 Skill Women Crave02:32 Understanding the Predator-Prey Dynamic04:30 Why Women Are Attracted to a "Dangerous" Edge06:15 Becoming a Protector Instead of a Predator08:45 Why She Needs You to Be an Emotional Container11:55 The Rule: Contain Yourself First14:15 The "Shade in the Desert" Metaphor15:45 Personal Story: Providing Containment in a Crisis21:00 How Boundaries Create Polarity***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with fertility specialist Gabriela Rosa for a blunt, science-driven conversation about what's really happening to our reproductive health. We get into why fertility challenges are rising, how men contribute fifty percent of the equation, and the lifestyle choices that quietly sabotage conception.I also explore the emotional and relational pressures couples face when trying to conceive, along with practical steps to improve fertility before pregnancy even begins. This is one of the most eye-opening fertility discussions I've had on the show.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Fertility As A Health Indicator03:20 Generational Impact Of Reproductive Health08:25 Fertility Rates vs Infertility Rates14:50 How Technology Shaped Modern Family Choices17:38 Why Sperm And Egg Quality Decline24:50 The Big Lifestyle Factors Hurting Fertility27:15 How Men Dramatically Improve Sperm Quality30:55 Why Everything Starts Pre-Conception36:13 Vulnerability, Masculinity And Fertility41:30 The Cost Of Delaying Testing48:53 What Men Should Stop And Start Doing58:15 Metabolic Health And Testosterone01:03:15 Emotional Toll And Seeking Support***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook |

I break down how women can naturally inspire a man's masculine energy without controlling, nagging, or pushing him. I share what actually shuts men down and what makes us come alive in relationships. I also talk about playfulness, admiration, and the subtle shifts that completely change how a man shows up. If you want a more connected, confident, and balanced relationship, this conversation will help you get there.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Why Women Want to Understand Men03:20 - Letting Go of Control06:05 - The Nagging Trap12:40 - The Power of Playfulness16:35 - Tell Him What You Want20:10 - Admire His Actions24:40 - Your Way Isn't Always the Best Way31:10 - Notice the Good in Him***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive deep with Alex Grendi into the realities of performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and the pressure men carry in the bedroom. We unpack how self-worth, porn, and emotional tension affect arousal and sexual confidence. Alex breaks down the psychology behind performance issues and shares practical solutions men can start using immediately. This conversation is honest, raw, and a must listen for any man who wants a healthier relationship with sex.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Introduction00:35 How self-worth affects sex01:17 Emotional roots of performance issues02:03 Porn and male conditioning03:19 Nervous system and arousal04:34 Porn induced dysfunction05:37 Unrealistic expectations07:22 Shame and performance pressure07:45 Women influenced by porn08:20 Monetization joke break10:01 What men really want12:49 Why men feel pressure13:12 Saying no to sex15:18 Handling anxiety during sex16:53 Belief and awareness17:36 Pressure when sex is infrequent18:29 Communication with partners19:59 Reducing pressure22:14 In the moment anxiety tools24:03 Breath control in sex25:30 Parasympathetic vs sympathetic states27:38 Arousal pacing and control29:50 Hyper stimulation from porn31:44 Self worth and performance links33:15 Where low self worth comes from34:45 Perfectionism and pressure35:16 Support and standards37:37 Using sex for validation38:56 Understanding different dysfunctions41:33 What causes ED in healthy men43:54 Forcing erections vs allowing44:30 Emotional litmus test45:35 Nervous system signals46:50 Emotional suppression47:46 Performance with highly attractive partners48:45 Self-sabotage49:39 Building sexual confidence49:58 Rituals and daily practice53:57 Letting go of control56:05 Reconnecting to the body57:48 Sex as meditation58:29 Romance novels conversation01:00:20 Where to find Alex***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the

I break down what emotional intelligence truly means for men and why so many of us get it wrong. I talk about the four traps that keep men disconnected from their emotional life and how these patterns sabotage leadership, relationships, and self-trust.I also share a simple 3A framework you can use to build real emotional mastery without losing your edge. If you're a man who wants to lead with clarity, presence, and strength, this one's for you.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Why Men Struggle With Emotional Intelligence01:07 - Emotions as Data03:37 - The Myth of the Stoic Leader06:09 - The Four Traps Men Fall Into12:44 - Understanding Empathy & Boundaries15:42 - What Healthy Masculine Leadership Really Is17:20 - Seneca, Self-Conquest & Misinterpretations18:25 - The 3A Model of Emotional Intelligence23:30 - The Call for Modern Masculine Leadership24:53 - Adaptability & Regulation for the Future25:38 - Final Challenge to Men***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Dr. Orion Taraban to break down what's really happening in the modern dating and relationship landscape. We get into why dynamics between men and women have shifted, how power works in relationships, and what actually drives attraction today. Orion and I challenge a lot of popular narratives and get honest about what men need to focus on to succeed relationally. This one pulls no punches.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Modern dating is deteriorating04:50 Tech, AI, and dehumanized dating10:30 Double standards in attraction15:45 How the marketplace really works22:00 What makes men attractive27:40 Love vs relationship dynamics33:55 Power shifts in modern relationships41:10 Cultural narratives and ideology48:00 Optionality and relationship power55:00 What men should focus on01:02:00 Where to find Dr. Orion***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I unpack the subtle and often misunderstood behavior known as avoidant gaslighting. I explore why avoidant partners distort truth, not always to manipulate, but to protect themselves, and how these patterns create distance and erode trust. You'll learn how to recognize this behavior, respond without escalating, and set boundaries that foster accountability and connection.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - What is avoidant gaslighting?02:50 - Truth distortion and misremembering05:26 - “The Turn” and shifting blame07:39 - Why avoidants retreat from closeness10:04 - How to name and address the behavior13:42 - Tools for shared accountability15:56 - Avoidant awareness vs. defensiveness17:27 - Building reflection and self-awareness***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with my guest to explore the pain that shaped his relationships, especially the deep wound left by his father. Together, we uncover how childhood neglect and emotional distance can carry into adulthood, shaping how men love, trust, and show up. You'll hear the raw, unfiltered process of reconnection, forgiveness, and reclaiming the parts of ourselves we've hidden for too long.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - The struggle to connect in relationships03:00 - Unpacking the father wound06:00 - Facing hidden grief and sadness10:00 - Speaking truth to his father17:00 - Releasing anger and old pain21:00 - Becoming the father he needed29:00 - What he hides in love33:00 - Healing the relationship with his dad35:00 - Embracing the inner child41:00 - Learning to express and reconnect***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I break down one of the biggest imbalances destroying modern relationships — the lack of reciprocity in expectations between men and women. I talk about how men are often taught to meet every expectation a woman has, but rarely to define their own standards. I'll share how this dynamic leads to resentment, imbalance, and frustration, and what men can do to restore integrity, respect, and balance in their relationships.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – The core imbalance in modern relationships00:57 – What women are taught vs. what men are taught02:44 – The cost of overgiving and having no standards06:17 – Bringing your own expectations into relationships09:13 – The moving target of expectations10:40 – Restoring balance and reciprocity12:22 – Knowing your value and defining your standards14:11 – Communicating expectations and setting boundaries16:55 – Don't reward disrespect18:50 – Expect deeply, love generously***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Glen Henry, creator of Belief in Fatherhood and author of Father Yourself First, to talk about the real work of becoming a better man and father. We dive into the challenges modern dads face—balancing ambition, healing our own wounds, and showing up with patience and presence. Glen shares raw insights on building relational equity, repairing trust, and learning to father yourself before fathering others. This one's a heartfelt and honest look at fatherhood that every man needs to hear.Buy Glen's book here:https://a.co/d/3EP2YoDSHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – The biggest challenges fathers face02:40 – The crisis of absent fathers05:00 – Mentorship and the power of guides08:20 – Storytelling and fatherhood in Black culture12:00 – Entering fatherhood with fear and purpose17:20 – Accepting your child's invitations22:00 – Learning patience and self-compassion28:40 – Healing, failure, and forgiveness31:40 – What it means to father yourself38:20 – The power of proof and mentorship43:30 – Adventure, play, and connection49:10 – Managing ambition and presence56:40 – Rebuilding trust with your kids01:00:25 – Understanding relational equity01:02:20 – Glen's message for fathers everywhere***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com |

I dive into how to desexualize your brain and regain control of your impulses in just 30 days. I break down the neuroscience of cravings, why willpower alone doesn't work, and how to rewire your brain to stop falling into old patterns. I also share a practical five-step plan that you can follow to take back control of your urges and direct your energy where it matters most. This isn't about shame—it's about building trust, self-respect, and leadership within yourself.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Why impulse control matters01:47 – You're not weak, just conditioned02:57 – How porn rewires your brain07:42 – The 3 forces behind urges12:22 – Step 1: Identify your triggers14:33 – Step 2: Redesign your environment16:44 – Step 3: Urge surfing19:38 – Step 4: Implement intentions21:03 – Step 5: Build your dopamine menu24:00 – Closing thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with John Lee to unpack the critical difference between anger and rage. John shares his decades of experience helping men and women understand how rage can destroy connection, while healthy anger can build intimacy and trust. We explore the generational cycles of rage, how it gets passed down to children, and what it takes to break free. If you've ever struggled with anger or felt trapped in rage, this conversation will hit home.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:10 – Welcome back, John Lee00:37 – Anger vs Rage02:11 – Why Rage Never Resolves04:24 – Rage Is Contagious06:29 – The Illusion of Control08:04 – Enragers and Outragers11:38 – Fathers, Sons, and Rage13:50 – No Models for Healthy Anger16:08 – Anger as Sacred Energy20:08 – Rage Equals Pain for Children23:19 – Facing Personal Rage24:24 – Four Styles of Rage27:11 – Where Healing Begins30:30 – Sobriety and Rage32:57 – Why Men Resist Rage Work36:59 – Reconnecting to the Body41:13 – Why Rage Work Isn't Filmed44:06 – Gentle Practices to Reduce Rage48:58 – Expressing Anger Appropriately52:37 – Boundaries Around Rage53:45 – Closing Thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook |

I explore what it truly means to build self-worth as a man in a world that often tells us we're not enough. Drawing from Nietzsche's philosophy, I unpack how struggle, suffering, and the act of becoming shape our sense of value. This isn't about chasing external validation or perfection - it's about forging yourself into someone you respect. Join me as I share personal insights, lessons from fatherhood, and why facing life's fire might be the path to authentic self-worth.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - The age of hollow men01:19 - Nietzsche and the bridge of becoming03:36 - Do it scared05:23 - The forge of suffering08:31 - Will to power and masculine expansion11:37 - Building ManTalks and facing judgment12:19 - The enemies of self-worth16:04 - The act of becoming19:25 - Living dangerously and becoming whole***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Monica Yates for a raw and honest conversation about modern relationships, polarity, and the evolving dynamics between men and women. We dive into why true intimacy isn't about splitting everything 50/50, why safety matters more than equality in relationships, and how both men and women can better understand their roles without falling into resentment. This one will challenge assumptions, spark debate, and hopefully leave you with some clarity about love, respect, and partnership.A Man's Guide to Period Phases:https://monicayateshealth.com/products/a-mans-guide-to-period-phasesFree resource from Monica YatesSHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Opening thoughts09:00 – Men losing purpose in modern culture12:00 – Breadwinners and shifting expectations31:00 – Bathrooms, chivalry, and respect42:00 – Safety over equality in relationships46:00 – Roles, polarity, and fulfillment53:00 – Masculinity, emotions, and balance01:05:00 – Leadership, attraction, and standing firm***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I take you on a deep dive into the Father Wound through a Jungian lens. I explore how your relationship with your father shapes your identity, sense of worth, and connection to the masculine. You'll learn how this wound shows up in perfectionism, rebellion, or emotional distance—and discover five practical steps to begin healing and “fathering yourself.” This conversation is about reclaiming inner authority, developing discipline, and embodying a mature, grounded masculinity.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:01 - Introduction & Overview02:16 - Defining the Father Wound07:07 - The Father Archetype & Order10:06 - How the Wound Shows Up in Men15:01 - The Impact on Relationships17:00 - The Unlived Life of the Father19:28 - The Five Healing Steps26:15 - Rituals & Emotional Integration27:40 - Closing Reflections***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down once again with Stephen Jenkinson to explore his latest work on matrimony, ritual, and the mothering of culture. We talk about how weddings have lost much of their meaning, what it means to return to vows with real weight, and how ritual can nourish not just a couple but an entire community. Stephen shares how he reconstructs ceremony from broken shards of tradition and why it matters now more than ever.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction01:19 - Matrimony vs. Marriage06:10 - The Mothering of Culture13:32 - Rituals, Ceremony & Lost Meaning25:52 - Blessing and Vows45:55 - Creating Old Order Matrimony52:34 - Reimagining the Wedding Ritual01:04:38 - Remembering Ritual & Culture01:08:16 - Closing Thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I break down what complex trauma really is - and how it quietly shapes the way many men think, love, and connect. I share the difference between acute trauma and complex trauma, how it's formed in childhood through neglect or inconsistency, and how these early wounds show up in adult relationships. Most importantly, I give you real, actionable tools to begin healing and reconnecting with your sense of safety and self-worth.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - The hidden struggle many men face02:23 - What complex trauma really means07:03 - How complex trauma is formed11:34 - The telltale signs and survival patterns17:55 - How to start healing complex trauma20:26 - Building safety in relationships24:11 - Learning to regulate your nervous system27:23 - Final thoughts and Carl Jung's reminder***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive deep into what really happens to men in a sexless marriage — emotionally, psychologically, and biologically. I break down why rejection cuts so deeply, how it impacts a man's confidence and identity, and what couples can do to rebuild trust, safety, and intimacy. Whether you're in a relationship that's lost its spark or trying to understand your partner better, this conversation offers a roadmap back to connection.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Why a sexless marriage hurts men02:53 – Rejection and the male nervous system05:25 – Hormonal and emotional fallout10:32 – When sex becomes a bargaining chip13:15 – Resentment and emotional withdrawal17:03 – How to start rebuilding intimacy22:54 – Practical steps for reconnection28:29 – Co-creating a new vision for your sex life31:06 – Final reflections and takeaways***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I explore the real roots of self-worth and why so many of us struggle with it despite doing “all the right things.” I share how childhood experiences shape attachment and how that impacts our ability to value ourselves as adults. I also break down the crucial practices that build self-worth — from expressing needs and boundaries to taking healthy risks. Finally, I open up about my own journey of failing my way to success and how you can begin your own process of healing.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – What really damages self-worth02:29 – Attachment and early development07:23 – Childhood shame and adult struggles11:41 – Hostility to needs and boundaries15:23 – Expressing desires and boundaries18:58 – The risks of lacking self-worth23:24 – Doing hard things builds value25:05 – ManTalks Alliance invitation***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive into the three “dark traits” that every great leader throughout history has had to master. From unpredictability to high stress tolerance to a lack of empathy, these qualities can make or break your leadership in relationships, business, and self-mastery. I unpack how to wield them without being consumed by them, drawing from history, psychology, and personal experience.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Why great leaders need dark traits02:05 – Trait #1: Unpredictability10:20 – Trait #2: High Stress Tolerance18:15 – Trait #3: Lack of Empathy27:48 – Integrating the dark traits29:08 – Carl Jung on wrestling with the shadow***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive into the anxious attachment trap and why it keeps sabotaging relationships. I share the hidden beliefs and behaviors that fuel insecurity, and I break down practical strategies to move toward secure attachment.You'll learn how to interrupt the cycle, communicate clearly, and start building safety and stability in your relationships.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Understanding anxious attachment02:44 - Why it's not your fault03:57 - Common red flags and behaviors05:54 - Pre-breakup anxiety explained07:04 - Why you attract avoidant partners10:16 - Breaking the cycle of anxiety12:50 - How to communicate anxiety without pushing partners away16:45 - Expressing your needs clearly17:59 - Self-soothing strategies for anxious attachment20:29 - Building security in your relationship***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I explore the rise of misanthropy and why so many people seem to be losing faith in humanity. I unpack how social media, economics, and cultural conflicts fuel this growing sense of distrust and despair. I also share why I believe practicing a radical faith in humanity is not only possible but necessary. Join me as I challenge the narratives of fear and invite you to see a different way forward.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Introduction: What is misanthropy?00:58 – Social media and amplified othering03:38 – Economics and generational insecurity04:47 – Gender conflict and family strain11:20 – The idea of “Virtuous Misanthropy”16:49 – Catastrophic thinking and the future22:35 – Radical faith in humanity23:38 – Closing thoughts and invitation***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive into Carl Jung's concept of the Puer Aeternus—the eternal child, or what we might call the “man-child.” I explore how this archetype shows up in our lives through procrastination, fantasy, and avoidance of responsibility. I share myths like Icarus and Peter Pan, the shadow side of this archetype, and practical steps to move from the eternal boy to the integrated man.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:01 – The Puer Aeternus: Eternal Child02:42 – Fixation on Youth vs. Responsibility04:12 – The Provisional Life07:01 – Myth of Icarus08:12 – Peter Pan and Neverland10:33 – The Seduction of Youth13:24 – The Shadow Side16:34 – Step 1: Accept Limitations18:47 – Step 2: Embrace the Ordinary20:14 – Step 3: Facing Failure21:50 – Step 4: Commit to the Process23:29 – Step 5: Seek a Mentor25:28 – From Eternal Boy to Integrated Man26:21 – Brutal Honesty and Feedback27:43 – Closing Thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Sandy to explore how childhood experiences and family dynamics shaped the way he shows up in his marriage and new role as a father. We dive into themes of complex trauma, feeling alone, and learning how to connect in the moment rather than after the fact. Together, we work through practical exercises on presence, nervous system awareness, and building safety in relationships. This is a raw, vulnerable dialogue about healing, fatherhood, and not carrying old patterns into the future.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Introduction00:37 – Childhood patterns and family role04:07 – Struggles in marriage and fatherhood07:34 – Feeling unseen as a boy11:17 – Working through tension in the body15:51 – “I'm not alone anymore”23:58 – Understanding complex trauma31:08 – Daily connection practice with partner36:50 – Breaking the freeze cycle42:05 – Learning from fatherhood44:30 – Closing reflections***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Today, I discuss the common belief that men are intimidated by successful women. We explore where this narrative comes from, why it persists, and what's really going on beneath the surface. Instead of intimidation, attraction often breaks down when certain traits and behaviors enter the relationship dynamic. Tune in for an honest look at success, gender roles, and what makes relationships thrive or fail.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Are men really intimidated by women?01:04 – The origins of this narrative01:58 – Success vs. attraction in relationships03:52 – Clarifying the message about women's accomplishments04:38 – What men actually get frustrated with06:59 – Influence, power, and attraction dynamics07:42 – Traits that push men away08:32 – Why “intimidation” isn't the real issue10:14 – Relationship struggles with role balance11:00 – Closing thoughts and reflections***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive into the archetype of the Trickster—the part of us that thrives on chaos, sabotage, and disruption, yet also carries the medicine of transformation.I explore how the Trickster shows up in mythology, film, and our daily lives, and why learning to embrace him can free us from stagnancy. You'll discover how to build a relationship with this shadow energy and use it as a source of creativity, humor, and growth.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:01 – Introduction to the Trickster Archetype02:38 – The Joker as Chaos Embodied03:47 – Loki, Hermes, and Bugs Bunny05:29 – Chaos as Medicine07:29 – The Trickster Breaks Taboos10:16 – Growth Through Disruption12:02 – The Trickster in Religion and Myth14:08 – Denying vs. Embracing the Trickster16:54 – Trickster Heroes: Iron Man and Jim Carrey19:21 – Recognizing the Trickster Within21:44 – Confronting the Inner Saboteur23:40 – Why We Need the Trickster Today25:08 – Closing Reflections***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I break down why quitting weed is so damn hard and the science behind it. From brain rewiring and withdrawal to the skyrocketing potency of today's cannabis, I explain the real reasons people struggle. I also share a proven step-by-step strategy to help you prepare, manage cravings, and quit for good. If you've tried before and slipped back, this roadmap is for you.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Why quitting weed is hard01:09 – Reason #1: Brain rewiring05:02 – Reason #2: Withdrawal is real06:58 – Reason #3: Potency of modern weed10:25 – Reason #4: New side effects12:42 – Reason #5: Social acceptance & access13:45 – Stage 1: Prepare & track usage16:56 – Stage 2: Managing withdrawal22:13 – Stage 3: Therapy & nervous system support24:38 – Step 4: Reward progress27:16 – Medical support options28:22 – Final thoughts & accountability***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Connor sits down with storyteller Jameson Olsen to dive into the myth of Hercules and uncover its relevance for modern men. From the legendary labors to the tragedy that shaped his journey, Jameson unpacks how these ancient myths reflect the struggles of responsibility, temptation, betrayal, and redemption men face today. They explore the crossroads between vice and virtue, the weight of personal choices, and the timeless lessons hidden in myth. This conversation challenges men to confront their own trials, learn from archetypal stories, and find meaning in bearing the burden of life's hardships.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction00:36 - Retelling ancient stories for modern times02:57 - The trials of Hercules and lessons for men04:52 - The Choice of Hercules: virtue vs. vice08:15 - Modern vices and distractions13:13 - Hercules' origins and fatherless upbringing15:43 - Tragedy: Hera's curse and the loss of family20:25 - Redemption through the labors22:57 - The Nemean Lion: confronting the impossible29:27 - The Hydra: breaking destructive patterns40:16 - Cleaning the Augean stables44:40 - The mares of Diomedes: consequences of carelessness48:42 - Hippolyta's belt and the gender divide54:07 - Bearing the heavy burden of disaster58:22 - Redemption, atonement, and moving forward01:03:20 - Using stories as mirrors for personal growth01:06:05 - Where to find Jameson Olsen***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at

I dive into why many men feel invisible to women in the dating world and relationships, exploring the concept of sexual marketplace value. I break down the reasons behind this invisibility and share practical steps to stand out, from auditing your personal presentation to building a strong social network. Join me as I discuss how focusing on self-improvement naturally boosts your attractiveness and visibility to women.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction to Male Invisibility00:52 - Understanding Sexual Marketplace Value03:11 - Why Most Men Are Invisible04:43 - The Choice Paradox in Dating05:32 - The Storefront Analogy07:23 - Importance of Presentation09:20 - Value Dynamics for Men and Women11:44 - Social Networks and Social Skills13:12 - Actionable Steps to Stand Out14:41 - Building Scarcity in Interactions16:38 - Investing in Long-Term Assets19:17 - Improving Physical Presence20:38 - Signaling Value, Not Selling22:09 - Overcoming Mediocrity***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Listen to this episode for a raw and powerful conversation about loss, grief, and reclaiming self-trust. Together, we explore how childhood wounds shaped his sense of worth and authority, and what it means to step into becoming the true authority of your own life. This is a deeply moving dialogue about forgiveness, healing, and learning to finally trust yourself.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Welcome and introduction00:49 Confronting grief and loss07:10 Childhood trauma and its impact14:30 Speaking to his mother22:50 Reclaiming voice and feelings29:10 Inner child connection33:00 Choosing a new authority36:28 Owning self-worth and power44:12 Reflections on authority and healing47:39 Closing thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I explore the character of Aragorn from The Lord of the Rings as a model of virtuous masculinity. I break down how he embodies the protector, the healer, and the humble king, and what that means for us as men today. Aragorn shows us how strength and gentleness, ambition and humility, can coexist—and why the world needs more of that balance right now.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Introduction00:27 – The hands of the king03:13 – The protector king06:22 – The humility of power08:24 – Strength with purpose11:11 – Brotherhood and bonds13:39 – Magnanimity and greatness16:55 – Humility at the Black Gate18:26 – Strong and gentle19:23 – Redefining greatness22:04 – Closing thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Roger for a powerful conversation about intimacy, leadership, and the courage it takes to be fully honest in a relationship. We explore how childhood wounds can carry into adult partnerships, and the work it takes to break free from old cycles of shame and avoidance. Roger opens up with deep vulnerability, and together we unpack what it means to step into responsibility and create real connection.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Opening & Welcome00:52 – Roger's Relationship Struggles04:08 – Intimacy & Connection Challenges07:56 – The Cycle of Avoidance13:29 – Childhood Roots with Mom20:05 – Healing the Inner Boy28:22 – Facing the Partner with Honesty35:30 – Learning to Be Okay with Disappointment42:35 – Separating Self from Validation47:29 – Commitments for Change52:19 – Micro Moments of Leadership53:18 – Closing Reflections***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive into how your shadow self might be quietly sabotaging your love life — and what you can do about it. Drawing from Jungian philosophy, I explore why we're drawn to partners who embody the very traits we've disowned in ourselves. I share practical ways to spot your shadow at work in your relationship and how to begin integrating it for deeper connection and intimacy.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Welcome & Jung's insight on fate00:50 Your shadow's hidden intelligence02:37 What is the shadow?04:20 How to know when your shadow is active07:13 The nice guy/people pleaser dynamic09:18 Nature abhors a vacuum in relationships11:57 Relationships as mirrors for self-reclamation14:17 Steps to integrate your shadow15:19 Closing thoughts & final Jung quote***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with Anthony Rispo to dive deep into social cognition, human behavior, and the cultural shifts affecting men and women today. We explore how disagreements can fracture relationships, the erosion of nuance in public discourse, and the role social media plays in polarizing people. Anthony also shares his insights on gender dynamics, the state of therapy for men, and the growing narrative around being “better off alone.” This is a thought-provoking conversation that isn't afraid to push into complex and sometimes controversial territory.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Anthony's background and journey into psychology04:20 – Research interests and social cognition explained08:51 – The impact of disagreement on relationships14:14 – Political polarization and identity formation26:09 – Gender differences and dating dynamics29:09 – The brain's role in social cognition38:39 – Therapy, masculinity, and practical approaches for men49:23 – Dark traits, therapy, and ideology53:49 – Being alone and cultural narratives57:52 – Consequences of rejecting traditional structures01:04:35 – Anthony's personal story and standing against groupthink***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive deep into the silent treatment often used by avoidant partners—and what it really means. I share why this behavior isn't always intentional, how it impacts you emotionally, and what practical steps you can take to respond in a grounded, respectful way. As someone who used to be avoidant myself, I get the struggle from both sides. If you're trying to navigate this dynamic in a relationship, this episode will give you clarity and tools to build healthier communication.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Understanding the Silent Treatment01:28 Why Avoidants Pull Away03:09 Core Beliefs of the Avoidant Mindset05:22 Nervous System Triggers and Silence08:23 The Emotional Impact on You10:35 Step 1: Ground Yourself11:50 Step 2: Communicate Assertively13:30 Step 3: Reinforce Choice and Set Agreements17:45 Invitation Over Demand: The Path Forward***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive into the modern traps that disconnect men from their masculine core, like the "nice guy" culture and procrastination, which drain your inner fire. I share practical steps to rebuild momentum through small, daily habits, helping you reclaim your strength and direction without relying on motivation. Join me as I explore how to balance empathy with assertiveness and take action toward your goals.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS(00:00) - Introduction: Feeling Disconnected(01:04) - The Nice Guy Trap(02:46) - Conflict Avoidance and Inner Fire(03:46) - The Procrastination Paradox(06:41) - Building Momentum(07:47) - Daily Habits for Masculine Energy(09:31) - Finding the Middle Ground(10:48) - Call to Action***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: relationshipsSo many men fall into a very specific (and usually confusing) trap. They're asked to "be more vulnerable", they go way too far with it, and it ends up pushing the partner into the mother/caregiver/therapist role way too often.I've talked about this before, but let's go deeper. Here's how to interpret what's actually being asked of you.(00:00:00) - What a woman does NOT mean, and one of the paradoxes of dating(00:07:48) - What does she want, really?(00:09:01) - What can't be filled by romance—and what it actually takes(00:12:14) - Don't project spiritual meaning onto sexual instinct***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: masculinity, cultureMuch like open pit mining, our culture has ravaged certain aspects of maturity and masculinity—and it's getting harder to remember what used to be the core components. Here are the most important principles I think most of us have forgotten to implement in our lives.I'd also love to get your thoughts on this. DM me on Instagram or if you're listening to this on Spotify, drop a comment!(00:00:00) - Learn to love and embrace the unknown(00:04:45) - Embrace discomfort(00:08:10) - Take responsibility and ownership almost to a degree that feels uncomfortable(00:10:04) - Build a brotherhood and honor your people(00:12:19) - Have dominion over your impulses(00:16:04) - Become emotionally sovereign(00:18:52) - Honor the feminine without resentment. Or pedestaling***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I was asked recently what I'd say to men who've been thinking about giving up. Who are at the end of their rope. Not an easy topic, and I don't have a magic bullet or tactical steps for you this time.But I do have a gentle reminder.(00:00:00) - Intro, and choice(00:07:42) - On suffering and gauging what you can truly change(00:15:31) - The risk of convincing***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: parents, anger, unavailabilityMy guest this week came to work on how can't see any path other than "it's all on me", as well as a feeling of emotional distance from his father. But why? What's hidden in the shadow that connects the two? This is an excellent episode to get a feel for the work in action—and how we so easily bury certain parts of ourselves and others in the unconscious. (00:00:00) - Intro, what my guest is struggling with, and his family situation(00:10:30) - How my guest's teenage self felt in the moment(00:19:16) - What's really going on(00:27:01) - What my guest has realized***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: mindset, nervous systemThere's good, there's great, and then there's real mastery. I've had the privilege of working and talking with many extraordinary men. Masters of their craft. There's something that all of them do well—and it's what separates the great from the exceptional. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:05:51) - What separates good from great, and great from exceptional(00:10:35) - The best part, and the crucial part(00:14:25) - The importance of slowness***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: traumaThis week, I sit down with Tim Fletcher to explore the deep and often misunderstood world of complex trauma. We unpack how subtle childhood experiences like emotional neglect or identity suppression can shape our nervous systems, relationships, and sense of self for decades. Tim breaks down the science and psychology behind trauma and its complexity, and offers insights into how healing actually happens. If you've ever struggled with anxiety, emotional reactivity, or feeling disconnected, this one is for you.(00:00:00) – Introduction to Tim Fletcher and What Is Complex Trauma?(00:06:20) – Subtle Forms of Childhood Trauma(00:12:00) – Simple vs. Complex Trauma(00:19:20) – Adult Symptoms of Complex Trauma(00:28:10) – How Trauma Shapes the Brain(00:37:50) – Recovery and Co-regulation(00:54:00) – Presence, Addiction, and ConnectionTim Fletcher started helping people as a pastor over 30 years ago. When he experienced some significant personal trauma, he transitioned into the addiction treatment sector. Over the last 15 years through countless hours of counselling sessions, training in the various treatment programs and building on the research of Gabor Mate, he started to correlate the connection between Complex Trauma and life problems. Tim was guided by statistics that over 90% of people with addiction challenges suffer from Complex Trauma. Tim is becoming widely-known across the globe and is sought after for counselling, teaching, training, and seminars. Thousands tune in each week to watch his Friday Night Videos.Connect with Tim-Website: https://www.timfletcher.ca/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/timfletcherco/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TimFletcher

Talking points: anxiety, attention, mindsetWhat if the jitters aren't just from the extra coffee this morning? What if you're taking in too much info, courtesy of the never-ending scroll? There's something underneath it all, team, and building resiliency against that can be an absolute game changer. Here's how.(00:00:00) - What's underneath all anxiety, and what it does(00:03:01) - Why this is relevant to men(00:06:38) - The Cheesecake Factory Effect(00:09:15) - So what do you do, and what real freedom involves(00:15:33) - Do it scared, and do it to completion (with a caveat)(00:19:43) - Find the joy in the process, NOT the outcome***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: relationship, attachment, cultureI love Stan because he's able to cut through so much of the modern BS around relationships, and get straight to practical, tactical perspectives and advice. We covered a TON of ground here, from the importance of social contracts and mutual protection, to the need for shared vision and purpose in creating equitable and collaborative relationships. This is definitely a convo that will spark some discussion, so listen in, team.(00:00:00) - Intro and the nature of secure functioning(00:05:52) - Human Nature and Relationship Dynamics(00:10:01) - Impact of Technology on Relationships(00:23:35) - Creating Secure Functioning Relationships(00:35:06) - Predictability and Prevention in Relationships(00:36:51) - The Importance of Quick Repair(00:43:02) - Mutual Protection and Solidarity(00:47:20) - Compatibility and Relationship Agreements(00:51:59) - The Role of Attachment in Relationships(01:00:42) - Final Thoughts and Practical AdviceStan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a renowned expert in human behaviour and couple relationships, known for developing the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT). He is a global speaker and teacher on secure-functioning relationships, with his insights reaching over 1.7 million viewers through his TEDx talk. Stan has authored six bestselling books, translated into multiple languages, and has published numerous academic articles.In 2010, Stan co-founded the PACT Institute with his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, to train therapists in integrating psychobiological approaches into their practices. His work has earned him the Educator of the Year award from the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists CA in 2014.Stan leads couples in creating healthy attachments through his clinical practice in Calabasas, California, and Wired For Love Couple Retreats. He has held academic positions at UCLA and serves on the boards of Lifespan Learning Institute and Relationships First. A former president of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Ventura County chapter, Stan is trained in various psychotherapeutic techniques, including Adult Attachment, Facial Action Coding System, and Vipassana meditation.Connect with Dr. Tatkin-Website: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PactTrainingInstitute***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation |

Talking points: relationships, infidelityNot the happiest of talking points today, team, but it's always worth discussing. There's no universal reason for it, but from my own experience and years of working with men, I've seen some common themes. Here's a quick breakdown of the top reasons, plus the underlying motivation for almost every man that's knocked on my door.(00:00:00) - Intro, and the underlying motivation for a majority of men(00:03:40) - Reasons that fall into this category(00:10:53) - One of the main drivers for my own infidelity, and how attachment styles can play into it***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: mental health, masculinity, cultureWhen Movember reaches out, you answer the call. I'm grateful to have interviewed Professor John Oliffe on a recent report co-authored by him—and spearheaded by the Movember Institute for Men's Health. Some of the stats they've released left me a little surprised; like 2 in 5 men in Canada die prematurely, and from largely preventable casues. Listen to this one, team.(00:00:00) - Intro, and the premature mortality of men(00:10:29) - On co-constructed masculinity, and how modern complexity affects how we perceive manhood(00:16:26) - On “protest masculinity”, and what's causing men to die early?(00:22:34) - Depression, suicide, and getting upstream of the risk factors(00:32:120) - Why hiding what you're going through so common, and why some men dismiss the healthcare system(00:40:06) - What Dr. Oliffe would say to the man reluctant to see a therapist(00:44:49) - The changes and diversity of modern masculinityDr. John Oliffe is a Professor and Tier 1 Canada Research Chair in Men's Health Promotion at the School of Nursing, University of British Columbia. Founder and lead investigator of UBC's Men's Health Research program, his work focuses on masculinities as it influences men's health behaviours and illness management, and its impact on partners, families, and overall life quality. Findings drawn from his research offer guidance to clinicians and researchers to advance men's health promotion in the areas of psychosocial prostate cancer care, smoking cessation and male suicide prevention.For those of you in Vancouver, check out the formal launch of John and Movember's work here: https://nursing.ubc.ca/community/events/2025/launch-real-face-of-mens-health-reportConnect with Dr. Oliffe-Website: www.menshealthresearch.ubc.ca-LinkedIn: http://ca.linkedin.com/in/johnoliffe***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or

Talking points: relationships, cultureThis might bother some of you, but I think it needs discussing, because I get it all the time in comments, emails, and DMs: serious disappointment and frustration with dating. From men and women both. There are a lot of reasons for this, both surface-level and deeper, but here's what I'm seeing the most. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:05:04) - What we're not actually teaching young men(00:08:14) - Where do we go from here?(00:11:04) - A gap I see in most relationships(00:13:37) - Have the conversation***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Talking points: relationships, the shadow, psychologyEvery man casts a shadow, regardless of how much of "the work" he's done. But whether or not you let it negatively impact your relationships is up to you. Listen in for what shadow work actually means for your relationships, and straightforward advice on how to get started.(00:00:00) - Intro and the biggest misconception about shadow work(00:03:57) - How the shadow can manifest in a relationship(00:08:40) - But WHY does this happen?(00:12:12) - Tips for shadow awareness in your relationship(00:18:19) - Last but not least: accountability, and what integration means

Talking points: myth, psychology, purposeI've loved myths and legends since I was a kid. As a man, that love has only grown because they can serve up powerful, meaningful guidance. So this week, we're digging into what Arthur, Excalibur, and the Holy Grail teach about the journey of the mature masculine.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:02:38) - Boyhood, coming of age, and crossing the thresholds of manhood(00:07:45) - The symbol and importance of Excalibur(00:16:04) - The sword in the stone CAN'T be pulled by might(00:18:33) - The meaning of pursuing the “holy grail”(00:22:36) - Purpose and ego don't usually mix