I'm The Mom Now Podcast

This episode is a re-release of Episode 22: Mother's Day Dread. I start out with an answer to a question I frequently got after it was first released. And then I add some additional information at the end about my 90-minute Self-Mothering Workshop for BIPOC women & femmes that you can register for here if you're interested in learning more about self-mothering.  When it comes to unloved children, Mother's Day doesn't bring up all the flowery, happy feelings it does for people with healthy non-toxic relationships with their mom.

 We don't have the loving and supportive moms depicted in Hallmark commercials. For us, our moms aren't our biggest cheerleaders, they're our biggest tormentors.
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So I'm sending love and support to the unloved children navigating tough emotions this Mother's Day.


Some of us had moms who mistreated us and were hostile to our needs. Self-mothering is the way to give yourself the love and support you needed from your mom, but didn't get, so that you can start showing up in the world as the wonderful, magical, lovable person that you are. I'm having a FREE 90-minute workshop: Building your self-trust through self-mothering on April 30th at Noon EST. In this workshop, I'll cover: ✨What self-mothering is/isn't ✨Why self-mothering is essential to building self-trust ✨3 Ways to self-mother that will foster deeper self-trust. There'll also be time at the end for Q&A. You can sign-up here.

In today's episode, we chat more about the fifth way to live a life you love: be vulnerable. We'll discuss: - Why being raised to be a people-pleaser makes it hard to be vulnerable - Why we close ourselves off to avoid being hurt - The role our self-trust plays in our ability to trust other people - Why you should celebrate the ways you're already succeeding at being vulnerable Want to deepen your self-trust and allow yourself to show up vulnerably?  Sign up for my newsletter Schedule an interest call for 1:1 coaching Check out my blog Rooting for you!

In today's episode, we chat more about the fourth way to live a life you love: be weird. We'll discuss: - Why we're programmed to be afraid of being considered weird - Why I don't mind being considered weird as an Autistic person - 5 tips to unleash your inner weirdo - My upcoming private podcast: Self-trust for Weirdos (Learn more here) Want to deepen your self-trust and give yourself permission to stop watering yourself down?  Sign up for my newsletter Schedule an interest call for 1:1 coaching Check out my blog Rooting for you!

In today's episode, we chat more about the third way to live a life you love: go it alone. We'll discuss: - Why growth means outgrowing people - Why we're afraid to leave people behind - How to respond when people question your conflict resolution skills - Why going it alone doesn't mean going unsupported Want to deepen your self-trust and give yourself permission to walk away from people and things holding you back?  Sign up for my newsletter Schedule an interest call for 1:1 coaching Check out my blog Rooting for you!

In today's episode, we chat more about the second way to live a life you love: give less fucks. We'll discuss: - Why we give so many fucks about what other people think - What it looks like when we're giving way too many fucks about other people's opinions and expectations - What to do to start giving way less fucks Want to deepen your self-trust and give less fucks in the process?  Sign up for my newsletter Schedule an interest call for 1:1 coaching Check out my blog Rooting for you!

Today we're gonna dive deeper into the first of the six things living a life you love requires: light some shit on fire. In episode 52 I mentioned that lighting some shit on fire is essential to living a life you love because there are absolutely going to be thoughts and habits you have to get rid of, and people you'll have to walk away from. Simply removing yourself from a toxic situation isn't enough. Visit the podcast show notes here to see links for everything discussed in this episode.

In today's episode, I share 6 affirmations for BIPOC religious abuse survivors trying to manage their hearts and minds during this Lent/Easter season. So many BIPOC trauma healing spaces center on religion which alienates those of us trying to heal from racial and religious trauma.  If you need words of encouragement from a religious abuse survivor to religious abuse survivors, this episode is for you. The 6 affirmations I discuss today are: 1. I can connect with and surrender to my own sovereignty as the leader of my life. 2. I do not need to be religious to be deeply rooted in my culture & ancestry. 3. I am not a sinner, I'm a human doing human things and my humanity is sacred. 4. I am allowed to reject the notion that God/the Bible can be both abuser & healer. 5. I will honor my nervous system and give myself permission to unplug & disengage when I'm triggered. 6. I will not rush my trauma healing to fit other people's expectations and timelines. Visit the podcast show notes here to see links for everything discussed in this episode.

In today's episode, I'm sharing my favorite affirmation for when I'm in my head about having to do things a certain way because I "should" and how I coach myself to do the opposite of "fake it til you make it" by leaning into my humanity.   Connect with me: Subscribe to my newsletter Follow my blog Apply for 1:1 self-trust coaching

In today's episode, I want to talk about a phrase that I like to say and I hear it a lot, especially in the coaching space, but I absolutely disagree with the tools and tips I've seen about how to make it happen. I'm sure you can guess the saying because it's also the title of the episode, live a life you love.   We'll chat about what's really holding you back from living a life you love and the 6 things that living a life you love requires.   Things mentioned in the episode: Podcast Show Notes FREE 5-Day Challenge Self-trust Coaching With Me

In this episode, I share a frank, unfiltered discussion about my leaving Christianity and the colossal impact it's had on my self-trust.   Check out the podcast show notes here.

Inner child work is super important on your self-trust journey and your trauma healing journey as a whole. Because the version of you who learned you're untrustworthy, not enough, broken, stupid, worthless, was your childhood self. So if you want to unlearn all the bullshit you were taught about who you are, you have to involve the version of you who learned it in the first place: your inner child.  While this work is important for everyone, it's absolutely vital for black women. But it's hard because as black women we are more likely to be the breadwinners in our household and more likely to be single parents. And when you have the weight of the world on your shoulders it feels selfish to spend time on yourself.  In this episode you'll learn: Why inner child work is hard for black women The role parentification played in our childhood  The role adultification bias played in our childhood Two tips to engage your inner child  The 3 ways you can work with me to connect with your inner child Your action item for this week is to do this journal prompt: I feel the most childlike and carefree when I (fill in the blank) because (fill in the blank). Whatever your answer is, make time to do it at least once in the next week. Find links and everything mentioned in this episode here. Ready to cultivate deeper self-trust and self-compassion so you can start showing up in the world as your true self? No more performing, no more proving, no more pretending? Apply to work with me here.

Today's the last day of 2021 there are only a few hours left and we've been in a series called the 4 things you should leave in 2021. Let's recap. The first thing is thinking you're not enough, the second thing is taking yourself too seriously, the third thing is skimping on self-care. If you haven't listened to episodes 46, 47, and 48 you should check them out because the truth is, in order to start operating from a place of self-trust and self-compassion, there are some things you're gonna have to stop doing.  Today we're gonna chat about the 4th and final thing you should leave in 2021 being afraid of the unknown. In this episode you'll learn: Why I never approached New Year's with optimism growing up Why you're not really a control freak Why the fear of the unknown is normal The mindset shifts that helped me deal with fearing the unknown What you should do instead of making resolutions The action item for this week is: Instead of focusing on something you lack or something you want to improve, make a list of the things you do well and find ways to do more of those things next year. Find links and everything mentioned in this episode here. Ready to cultivate deeper self-trust and self-compassion so you can start showing up in the world as your true self? No more performing, no more proving, no more pretending? Apply to work with me here.

In this episode, we're gonna talk about the third thing you should leave in 2021, skimping on self-care. It's no coincidence that those of us who grew up being treated like crap, think we deserve to feel like crap, so we treat ourselves like crap. Cue the Lion King - “It's the circle of life.” In this episode you'll learn: Why we struggle with self-care How self-care and self-trust are related How perfectionism and people-pleasing impact self-care and self-trust How to improve your self-care while honoring your nervous system Why self-trust is vital for self-care The action item for this week is is to prioritize 10-15 minutes of self-care for the next week. It takes time to build a consistent self-care practice. Find links and everything mentioned in this episode here. Ready to cultivate deeper self-trust and self-compassion so you can start showing up in the world as your true self? No more performing, no more proving, no more pretending? Apply to work with me here.

Today, we're gonna talk about the second thing you should leave in 2021, taking yourself too seriously. Something that rings true for those of us raised by emotionally stunted parents is we weren't allowed to be a kid when we were kids. Parents like ours treated us like adults and held us to adult standards. So behaving like the children we were, meant shame and anger from our parents. In this episode you'll learn: Why we take ourselves too seriously The role perfectionism and unhappiness play The three things that can help you stop taking yourself so seriously Why engaging your inner child is essential A new look at the generational cycle of trauma The action item for this week is to schedule an inner child play date. Use this time to be carefree and silly. Find links and everything mentioned in this episode here. Ready to cultivate deeper self-trust and self-compassion so you can start showing up in the world as your true self? No more performing, no more proving, no more pretending? Apply to work with me here.

If you've got 2022 on the brain, you'll love the series I'm kicking off today where we'll go over the 4 things you should leave in 2021. These things have kept you from stepping into your magic and showing up in the fullness of who you are. In this episode, we're gonna talk about the first thing you should leave in 2021 - thinking you're not enough. You'll learn: The two main reasons we think we're not enough The affirmation that's helped transform my relationship with myself What asking if you're enough really means A new take on New Year's resolutions Why the path to self-trust is paved with self-love The action item for this episode is the journal prompt: What decision have I been delaying for the “better” version of me to decide? Find links and everything mentioned in this episode here. Ready to cultivate deeper self-trust and self-compassion so you can start showing up in the world as your true self? No more performing, no more proving, no more pretending? Apply to work with me here.  

In today's podcast episode, I share why you should ditch the naughty or nice list if you want to give your kids a magical, shame-free Christmas. In this episode you'll learn: Why the naughty or nice list is manipulative as fuck. The two things you need to stop doing if you're ready to ditch the naughty or nice list. A new way to approach the Elf on the Shelf. What I think about good kids vs bad kids. What being “good” and “nice” is really teaching our kids. Find links and everything mentioned in this episode here. Ready to cultivate deeper self-trust and self-compassion so you can start showing up in the world as your true self? No more performing, no more proving, no more pretending? Apply to work with me here.

In today's episode, we're gonna talk about two reasons why your miss your shitty, toxic family after going no-contact - especially during the holidays.  Need some support this holiday season from someone who understands what it's like navigating the holidays after no-contact WITHOUT being shitty to yourself for missing your family or any other feelings you're dealing with?  I'd love to help. You can sign up for a holiday coaching intensive here. Rooting for you!

In this episode, we chat about the 4 tips I have for how to talk to your kids about your decision to go no-contact. The blog post I mentioned in the episode can be found here. Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? You can submit it here. Interested in a Helm Your Holiday coaching session to help you gain confidence and clarity as you navigate the holiday season after going no-contact? You can learn more and schedule your session here. Rooting for you!

In this bonus episode, I answer a question I got frequently after I talked about how to handle unwanted gifts sent by your no-contact family: “What do I do with gifts addressed to my kids?” If you have that question too, take a listen to hear my thoughts.  Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? You can submit your question here. Interested in having a Helm Your Holidays coaching session? You can learn more and schedule your session here. Tune in next week where I'll talk about how to talk to your kids about going no-contact. Rooting for you!  

Last year I did a mini-series on the podcast called Holidays Your Way. In it, I discussed why you deserve to have happy holidays and how to make new traditions. You can check it out in episodes 11-14. While I absolutely still agree with everything I discussed in that series, I want to acknowledge that the first couple of holidays after going no-contact are ROUGH. You might not be in the place emotionally to do all the things I talked about in Holidays Your Way. But instead of ignoring your emotions and pretending everything is fine, how can you show yourself radical acceptance and kindness as you process your emotions? If you need some tips on how to approach not-so-happy holidays, this episode is for you.  If you're anxious because you're expecting unwanted gifts from your toxic family, this episode is for you too. If you're worried about the holidays because you haven't talked to your kids about being no-contact and not celebrating with your toxic family, the next episode is for you - but you should still listen to this one. :) Rooting for you! T

In this mini-episode, we talk about why self-discovery is scary after going no-contact and how shifting the way you approach it can make all the difference. 

When it comes to measuring our progress, nothing sparks more regret and resentment, nothing threatens our self-trust more, than social media.  In today's episode, we're gonna talk about 5 reasons social media damages our self-trust: 1. It encourages pretending  2. It incentivized being a copycat 3. It prevents us from being present 4. It causes passivity  5. It emboldens the dehumanization of others   In case you need this reminder: You are enough You're doing enough You should be so proud of the work you're doing and the work you've done. I know I am.   Want to stay connected with my work now that I've quit social media? You can subscribe to the podcast, subscribe to my newsletter, or work with me for self-trust coaching.    Rooting for you!  

In today's episode, we're gonna go through why we struggle with our self-trust in the first place. Spoiler alert: It's not your fault. Not only did our toxic parents not help us foster self-trust, they actively fostered self-distrust because they were only interested in doing things that made us easier to control. And vilifying us for having a mind of our own meant we were more likely to go along with whatever they wanted. But if we stop there, if we think our parents alone are the reason we struggle with self-trust, we're missing a big piece of the equation. Thanks for tuning in to The Helmistry Pod! Don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode.  Want to cultivate deeper self-trust and improve your relationship with yourself after going no-contact with your controlling toxic parents? Visit my website helmistry.com to learn more about how to work with me. You can also subscribe to my newsletter and/or join my private group The Helmistry Collective. Rooting for you!  

Having abusive parents doesn't just make the parent-child relationship toxic, it makes our relationship with ourselves toxic.  Because as kids, most of what we know about relationships is learned from our parents. From how they treat themselves, how they treat each other, how they treat other people, and how they treated us.  When it comes to how they treated us, I want to highlight one thing they taught us about ourselves that we have to commit to unlearning. That we're broken. In this episode we chat about: Why we were taught we're broken Why you should cut yourself some slack if you feel like you're not progressing quickly enough in your healing journey How the toxic environment we were raised in sets us up to look for toxic forms of motivation Why the message you're not broken is especially necessary if you're neurodivergent like me  If you'd like to go deeper in your self-trust work through 1:1 coaching with me, learn more about my 4-month self-trust coaching program here.  Rooting for you (and your whole-ass-self)!

In this episode, we're gonna talk about the path to self-trust. Self-trust is believing in yourself. But before you can believe in yourself, you have to know who you are. And therein lies the problem for most of us childhood trauma survivors, we have no clue who we are. We'll also cover: The three steps to self-discovery The two types of self-awareness  Why you can't work on self-trust without tackling self-discovery and self-awareness first How your inner child is an awesome partner in your process Ways to connect with your inner child Be sure to tune in next Wednesday for more tips and tools on how to take life after no-contact by the helm. Want to dive deeper into your self-trust journey? Learn more about how to work with me here.  Rooting for you!

At the beginning of our healing journey, we can fall into a pretty common trap for childhood trauma survivors - focusing too much on our parents.   When you focus too much on your parents it causes issues like: 1. Keeping you stuck in the past 2. Trying to fix your parents 3. Overlooking how your parents' behavior impacted you   Yes, there's a time for meaningful reflection on how your parents caused your trauma and that you're not to blame. But don't stay there.

In this episode we talk about the three signs you struggle with self-trust: 1. You play small/settle 2. You're a people-pleaser 3. You're a jerk to yourself   In all of these instances you're too focused on the wrong things: 1. Your comfort 2. What other people think 3. Your weaknesses

In this episode, I share how I respond to one of the common things I've heard after going no-contact: "Your kids are gonna go no-contact with you."  I also rant about a parenting incident I witnessed in the grocery store. Today's the last day to sign up for my supercharge your self-trust challenge. You can sign-up here. Rooting for you!

One of the things I really struggled with after going no-contact was being able to trust myself again. Like so many other childhood trauma survivors, my parents raised me not to trust myself because if I didn't think I was capable of being in control of my life I was more willing to let them be in control.  If you struggle with self-trust too, next week (July 5th-July 9th) I'm having a free challenge to Supercharge Your Self-Trust in 5 days. In this challenge, there will be daily emails, live Q&A/coaching sessions, and a private (non-FB) community where we'll discuss the daily topics. Day 1: Get good at being the bad guy Day 2: Listen to your inner child Day 3: Honor your limits Day 4: Prioritize self-care Day 5: Take responsibility If you're interested in joining the challenge, you can sign-up here. Registration ends on Friday, July 2nd. Rooting for you!

Last week I asked a bunch of questions in my IG stories. One of them was, "What's something you struggle with most since going no-contact?" Most of the answers to this question were a variation of "Constantly feeling the need to explain my reasons for going no-contact." In today's episode, we'll chat about three reasons we feel the urge to explain, and often overexplain, our decision to go no-contact: Lack of normalcy Lack of boundaries Lack of self-trust  

For us unloved daughters, Father's Day brings just as much dread as Mother's Day does. So all the tips I gave in the Mother's Day Dread episode (Ep. 22) still applies: 1. Check in with your inner child 2. Be mindful of your triggers 3. Establish/Enforce boundaries 4. Prioritize self-care In this episode, we talk about two ways Father's Day dread differs from Mother's Day dread. 

A lot of people have strong feelings about going no-contact. It's typically the people without toxic parents or the people with toxic parents who feel like they can't set boundaries who have the most opinions about it. ⠀ Since there are a lot of misconceptions out there, I thought it'd be a good idea to talk about what no-contact is and isn't. ⠀ Going no-contact is NOT: ⠀

In today's episode, we'll chat about:   1. Why we live for our parents 2. Who else we often find ourselves living for 3. The issues living for others can cause 4. The real reason holding some of us back   I also talk a little about what to expect in a No-Contact Navigator coaching intensive. You can learn more about how to work with me here.    

One of the side effects of going no-contact is that you question literally everything in your life. In today's episode, we're gonna talk about how going no-contact with my toxic mom made me lose my ambition. 

In today's episode, we're gonna chat about that time I broke no-contact 6 months into my no-contact journey. I broke no-contact because: 1. The pressure I was getting from my toxic mom's enablers got to me. 2. The internal resistance I felt was overwhelming. 3. I was convinced that the only way to have a good relationship with my daughter was to make the relationship with my mom work. Going no-contact was hard the first time, but it was EVEN HARDER the second time. 

One of the things often recommended before going no-contact is going low-contact. ⠀ I went this route and it was an EPIC failure. ⠀ In this episode, we chat about 3 reasons going low-contact might not work for you: ⠀ 1. It makes your anxiety skyrocket 2. It makes your interactions tense 3. It makes the interactions feel like you're babysitting your toxic mom ⠀ The biggest thing is figuring out if the reason you're going low-contact is that you're trying to placate her instead of doing what's right for you. My new coaching intensive No-Contact Navigator is open! If you'd like some help figuring out your next steps after going no-contact to ensure you prioritize your healing and start living life for yourself, you can find out more here. Rooting for you!

The beginning of my no-contact journey was consumed with self-doubt. I was desperate for validation that I'd done the right thing and didn't blow up my life for no reason. No one in my personal life had gone no-contact so the messages I got from most of the people around me was that I was being unreasonable. So I searched endlessly for a blog post, article, chat room, or something to give me the encouraging words I needed to hear and reassurance that I'd made the right decision - to no avail. In my quest to help others on the same journey as me, I wanted to create something to help validate that what they're feeling is normal and navigate what's to come. So my no-contact scale was born. Sign-up here to be notified when applications for my No-Contact Navigator VIP Day are open. Rooting for you!

When I went no-contact, I didn't know of anyone who'd been down this road before. Now that I'm coming up on 8 years of no-contact, I want to share some things I wish I knew before ahead of time. It wouldn't have changed my mind, I just would've been better prepared. 

While no two no-contact journeys are exactly alike, there are definitely some similarities and trends. One place, in particular, is the responses we get from well-meaning and not-so well-meaning people. Whether it's a flying monkey, a new coworker, or a new mom in your mommy and me class trying to make small talk, your mom will inevitably come up in conversation. However you reveal that you don't talk to your toxic mom anymore, be prepared to hear one (or more) of these 5 responses.

Mother's Day is Sunday and the dread you're feeling might spark thoughts of how nice it would be to not have to deal with her. If that's you, this episode will help. We're gonna talk about what to consider when you want to go no-contact.  When some people hear I've gone no-contact with my toxic mom, they say "You're so strong". While it's meant to be a compliment, I see it as a red flag. Especially if the person I'm talking to is an unloved daughter with a toxic mom herself. Because in those cases focusing on my perceived strength lets you off the hook for taking action with your own mom. If you can chalk up my ability to go no-contact to me having access to some measure of strength you don't have, then you don't have to explore what you can do in your own life, to lessen your mom's power and toxic influence over you.  The truth is, it took time to get to this place. The first time I said "No" to my mom, I felt like I was gonna throw up. And I didn't even say it out loud. It was in a text. Waiting for her reply was agonizing.  If you're seriously considering going no-contact with your toxic mom here are some things to consider.

In today's episode, we're gonna talk about Mother's Day Dread. When it comes to unloved daughters, Mother’s Day doesn’t bring up all the flowery, happy feelings it does for people with healthy non-toxic relationships with their mom. ⠀ We don’t have the loving and supportive moms depicted in Hallmark commercials. For us, our moms aren’t our biggest cheerleaders, they’re our biggest tormentors. ⠀ So I’m sending love and support to the unloved daughters navigating tough emotions this Mother’s Day. ⠀ As you process your emotions, remember to do these 3 things: ⠀ ✨ Examine your memories (check-in with your inner child) - Did Mother's Day feel performative growing up? How can you best show up for little you right now? ⠀ ✨ Evaluate your triggers - What are the things and who are the people you need to avoid or lessen your exposure to in order to preserve your mental health? ⠀ ✨ Establish (and enforce!) boundaries - Turn the channel on triggering commercials. Ignore the call of that person who's gonna make you feel like shit for not reaching out to your toxic mom. Unplug from social media. Whatever you need to do, do it. ⠀ I also want to remind you of two important things: ⠀ 1. You don't have to celebrate Mother's Day if you don't want to. ⠀ 2. If you decide to celebrate it - Mother's Day is yours! Don't worry about anyone else's expectations. Do what YOU want to celebrate YOUR day.   Wanna hear more inspirational content for unloved daughters? Follow me on Insta @jonesingtia!

In today's episode, we're gonna talk about the happiness vs. joy debate. I was raised with the biblical explanation that happiness is circumstantial and joy is eternal. But since I've started deconstructing my faith, I've changed my view on whether or not joy is something that can be accessed outside of Christ.   

In today’s episode, we're gonna talk about happiness routines - what they are and how you can create one.  I'm sure you've heard of a self-care routine - a set of things you do daily/weekly/monthly to ensure you're operating from a place of high energy and mental clarity? If you have one or you're working on it, that's great! But how about a happiness routine - a set of things you do daily/weekly/monthly to ensure you're operating from a place of joy and contentment?

While we don't expect to have to endure another pandemic in our lifetime, experiencing a crisis is inevitable. When dealing with turbulence, grief, and uncertainty in your life, here are three ways to feel happiness: Lean-in to control Prioritize gratitude Embrace both-and thinking Rooting for you!

In today's mini-episode, we're gonna talk about what it's like for me being an autism mama as a childhood trauma survivor.   So much of how we react and respond to our kid's behavior is rooted in our trauma.   Being an autism mom has stretched me the most on my childhood trauma journey because Bubs' behavior kept triggering me.

In today's episode, we're gonna talk about 3 reasons why you're not happy. I know that our happiness isn't 100% in our control, and I talk about some reasons why that's the case.   As we chat about the 3 reasons you're not happy, know that I mean it from the perspective of the things you can control.   The 3 reasons you aren't happy are: For you, happiness comes after the hard thing. For you, happiness is a bad thing. For you, happiness goes against the narrative you've lived with all your life. I talk a little bit about toxic definitions of happiness, so if you haven't listened to episode 15, I recommend you listen to that first.   Rooting for you!

In today's episode, we're gonna talk about religious trauma. This is my first Easter since I started deconstructing from my religious programming and I wanted to share some hope with those of you who are dealing with the same feelings. I questioned whether or not to talk about this, but decided the resistance I felt meant it needed to be shared. 

What does happiness mean to you? This is the most important question as it relates to your happiness journey because you won't prioritize experiencing happiness more often if you believe happiness means pain or discomfort.   Just like all of our beliefs. our views of happiness are formed during our childhood. That means a significant part of your happiness journey will revolve around discovering and dismantling the toxic definitions of happiness instilled in you as a child.   Three of the 4 most common toxic definitions of happiness are: 1. Happiness is perfectionism 2. Happiness is compliance 3. Happiness is avoidance of emotions   Take a listen to hear about these definitions and the 4th one as well as how our toxic parents reinforced them.   Be sure to tune in on Wednesdays and Fridays for new episodes of I'm the mom now.

Welcome back to Holidays Your Way, a 4-week podcast series designed to give you a functional framework to create a holiday season you can truly enjoy. In the first episode, we talked about how your childhood holiday memories lay the foundation for how you feel about the holidays now. In the second episode, we talked about how the negative holiday memories you have could've created some triggers that reinforce your holiday hater status. In the third episode we used what you loved and hated about the holidays to create your holiday framework including your mission statement and some holiday activities that aligned with that mission. Today, we're gonna talk about how to establish boundaries based on the obstacles you identified in your action item and touch on how to pandemic-proof your holidays.

Welcome back to Holidays Your Way, a 4-week podcast series designed to give you a functional framework to create a holiday season you can truly enjoy. In the first episode, we talked about how your childhood holiday memories lay the foundation for how you feel about the holidays now. In the second episode, we talked about your negative holiday memories could've created some triggers that reinforce your holiday hater status. For your two action steps in Episode 2, I asked you to write a list of your negative holiday triggers and to think about how you want to feel this holiday season. In today's episode, we're gonna take those action steps and craft the holiday season of your dreams.Need some help working through the action steps? I created this workbook to help you craft the holiday season of your dreams!Tune in next Wednesday as I share how to establish boundaries that protect your holiday vision and how to 2020-proof your holiday. Have podcast episode ideas or want to chat? Email me at heytia@jonestia.com.