Life In The Right Layne

Date with clarity and learn how to have the define the relationship conversation with your significant other on this episode of the podcast. Not only does this help you understand how you feel, but it gives your partner and your relationship a clear direction.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

How do you ask your spouse or significant other for space in a relationship? It may be hard to find a life giving way to ask for space, but it is a necessary part of a relationship. On this episode, we're giving some advice on how to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend for space in a way that is uplifting.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

Many times it is challenging to determine whether dating someone is your will or God's will. On this episode, we're answering the question "How do I discern the will of God for my relationship?"- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

Dating purposefully may seem boring, but we're here to prove that wrong. On this episode, we're sharing our favorite creative date ideas that will make dating fun while also helping you intentionally learn about your partner.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

It's common to go into college thinking you'll find your future spouse, but how do we get there when we're half in the real world, half in the falsely secure season of college? From evaluating their ability to provide for you or be a daily encouragement, we're talking about what you need to be looking for to find your spouse in college.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

On the two year anniversary of Nicholas' proposal, we relive the events that took place on September 1, 2019 and talk about things like how long to date before marriage, knowing when you've found "the one" and more.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

This week, we're answering your questions about faith, relationships and our life.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

Our early 20's were a time of immense growth and development, going from college students to adults in the real world. God generously gave us good times as well as trials. While it may not be fun to look back on the moments where we let God down or pursued the wrong paths, we know that ultimately these hard times brought us closer to the Lord and gave us wisdom that is invaluable.On this episode, we're looking back a few years and revealing what we wished we knew in our early 20's. - Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

If you've ever felt the pressure to start dating and the uncertainty of who you should date, you're not alone. On this episode, we're talking about the stress and anxiety to have a significant other - especially when you're in the college or post-college seasons of life.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

How many times have we planned the perfect event, the perfect trip, the perfect job or the perfect relationship and things have gone horribly wrong? In those moments, we are overwhelmed with feelings of sadness, anger and bitterness. We often ask ourselves, "Does God truly want me to be happy?"On this episode, we're sharing the story of our honeymoon and how we have found perspective in this season to embrace moments of disappointment with the hope that God uses all things for our good.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

You may be surprised how clear the Bible is about what women really want. We are reminded, yet again, that God's everlasting Word provides more clarity and insight into our deepest nature than we could ever imagine.On this episode, we're finishing our two part series about serving your spouse and discussing what the Bible says women truly desire.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

You may be surprised how clear the Bible is about what men really want. We are reminded, yet again, that God's everlasting Word provides more clarity and insight into our deepest nature than we could ever imagine.On this episode, we're talking about what the Bible says men really want and how to understand them better. Stay tuned for part two to this series into how to best serve your spouse.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

It can be tempting to put our life on hold when we start dating someone new. While it is absolutely good to spend time with your significant other, it is not good to completely lose your personal life in the process. God has called us to our job, neighborhood and friend group for a reason. He wants us to be present and available to how He wants to use us when we are apart from our significant other. On this episode, we are talking about how to balance living our lives and evaluating someone meaningful for marriage.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

We've all been told "you are not good enough." We have all felt the discouragement that followed as we believed what was said of us. But how can God use our weaknesses to further His kingdom? Better yet, how can God turn our weaknesses into strengths that point to His mercy and good works? In this episode, we're sharing personal experiences of how God used us in our weakness, despite the criticisms from the world.

We confess, we're terrible at saying no.Our lives are cluttered and we're not able to give 100% attention to each activity. We finish our days feeling exhausted instead of filled up. Making wise decisions with our time is as much about what we don't choose to do as what we do choose to do. On this episode, we're talking about spending our time wisely and making time with God our priority.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

Overanalyzing and overthinking good relationships out of fear of the "wrong decision" turns even the sweetest relationships sour. Christians in particular are so aware of the need to choose a godly husband or wife that we tend to magnify small flaws and attempt to find problems where there may not be any. God is calling us to trust Him with our relationships, INCLUDING the evaluation process. We're not perfect, so we can't expect our spouse to be either. God's wisdom and judgement is crucial to finding "the one". We need to shrug off the desire to do it alone and instead trust Him.On this episode, we're talking about how to get out of your head in the dating process.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

We don't deserve to receive good things.Every thing we are given is a gift, plain and simple. It's hard to understand just how unworthy we are, but it is the unfortunate truth. Nothing we do, no amount of good, will ever make us deserving of gifts from God. BUT...God doesn't give us what we deserve! Jesus died OUR death on the cross and gave us life instead. We have received the greatest gift of all that we could never earn! Every other wonderful thing pales in comparison. On this episode, we are reminded of the reality that we don't deserve good things, yet God still gives them to us. As we live many of our minutes in sinful entitlement, we've got to remember that we truly don't deserve good things and every breath we breathe is a gift from God.- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

DON'T IGNORE THE RED FLAGS.Who you marry will shape your the entire trajectory of your life. Plain and simply. So many of us make the mistake of focusing only on the positives in a relationship and simply dismiss anything that seems unsettling. The reality is, dating is a process of evaluation, and we need to be wise when evaluating who we are with and the potential future we would have. On this episode, we're talking about the top 5 red flags you should look out for while dating. We share our experiences with each one from past relationships, and they are some of the most crucial ones to NOT ignore. Don't miss #5!!- Follow us on Instagram | @lifeintherightlayne- For more ways to listen to the podcast, visit www.lifeintherightlayne.com

On this episode, we're answering your questions about dating, couples bible studies and setting boundaries.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne or at www.lifeintherightlayne.com

On this episode, we're sharing some personal challenges we are going through related to our next stage in life and how our faith is developing because of it. We've shared how we trusted God with our future marriage, how we've had to trust Him with our wedding and now we are being stretched to trust Him with where to live. We continue to encourage you and ourselves to use every opportunity to trust God deeper, no matter what situation we may be facing.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne or at www.lifeintherightlayne.com

Nobody likes not fitting in, however when your faith is the reason you don't fit in, it feels like an even greater defeat. You're doing what you ought to do, believing in the truth, treating others with love and respect, so why are you continuing to be left out? On this episode, we dive into rejection for our faith and why it we should be thankful for our suffering.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne or at www.lifeintherightlayne.com

We made it to 1 year! It's amazing how much we have learned in just one year of marriage. Through the ups and downs, we feel like God used this year to grow us in ways we never would have guessed and on this episode, we're sharing how our first year of marriage surprised us and what we learned.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne or at www.lifeintherightlayne.com

This might be one of the most important things you learn in your life! It is all too easy to focus exclusively on your earthy job and forget that you really work for the Lord. Whether you are in school, work a job or are a stay at home mom, you have great responsibilities outside of your job description. In this episode, we are talking about how we can practically work for the Lord even while we are bogged down by our earthly duties.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne or at www.lifeintherightlayne.com

It feels like an eternity - waiting for marriage with the person you're meant to be with. What if we could use this time to set our hearts on Christ and spend time preparing ourselves for marriage? On this episode, we've got some encouragement for the couples in the long season of engagement.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne or at www.lifeintherightlayne.com

How do we handle the moments where we are overwhelmed by life? On this episode, we're getting real about our overwhelming moments and talking about how we can navigate them as Christians.Follow us on IG @lifeintherightlayne or at www.lifeintherightlayne.com

The hardest thing in life is when God tells us to wait for Him to move. The seconds and minutes tick by slowly and painfully as we wait. It's hard to understand why He has us waiting, especially if what we are waiting on is good in His eyes. On this episode, we talk about the painful moments where we are asked to wait and how to make it through (and even enjoy them).Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne or at www.lifeintherightlayne.com

We're jealous quite often, if we are honest with ourselves. Whether it's about things, situations, relationships or gifts, God wants us to live as far away from jelousy as possible. We're talking about practical ways to move away from a heart of jealousy to a heart of contentment.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

Sometimes the things of the world seem innocent enough, but corrupt our minds slowly. Even though it's hard (and unpopular), sometimes we need to back away in order to walk in a way that both glorifies God and also keeps our hearts and heads pure. On this episode, we're talking about why we chose to stop watching shows like How I Met Your Mother out of conviction.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

DISCLAIMER: We had MAJOR technical difficulties with this episode. Satan did not want this one made :( Audio is not great and the video portion was not able to be saved (you will hear us make references to a video that, alas, will never be.) We still wanted to share because it may end up making a small difference for someone and God's always greater than our imperfections!On this episode, we answer your questions about sex before marriage!Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

Following our conversation on the last episode about having a talk about your past sins, we're addressing how to navigate through the emotions and hurt that will follow. Though it is incredibly tough, being vulnerable and trusting the Lord to help you forgive will build a solid foundation for your future marriage.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

Is it necessary to talk about your past relationships and past sin with your significant other? On this episode, we're diving into this difficult (but highly necessary) discussion.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

When it comes to sex before marriage, how far is too far? We're talking boundaries and practical advice for navigating pre-marital temptation.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

The waiting game... it's really difficult. Why should we wait for sex within marriage? On the first episode of our series on purity and sex, we talk about waiting for marriage and the big "why" behind it all.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

We've all been there - fighting with our partner and questioning everything. It's hard, but overcoming conflict is the single most effective thing you can do to build your marriage. On this epsiode, we reflect back to our first fight and the strategies we've learned since then to handle conflict successfully.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

We 100% recommend couples do pre-marital counseling and on this episode, we're giving you our unfiltered experience.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

The world perpetually gets crazier and crazier and the noise around us gets louder. It can be intimidating to think about having an impact as a Christian during this time in history. So what should we be doing?On this epsiode, we talk about the best thing a Christian can be doing RIGHT NOW.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

Your future husband or wife isn't here yet. Sometimes it feels like we are completely powerless when it comes to finding them. However, through our prayers, we can make our requests for a future marriage known to God and ask Him to guide us to our future spouse. Today, we discuss what prayer for your future spouse means and share our own stories of prayer.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

As 2020 wraps up, we talk about anxiety and looking ahead toward the unknown.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

We want, we get, we want more. How do we learn to be content? On this episode, we lay out three practical ways to become more content and embrace the joy that only God can give.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

Wrapping up our 3 part series on how Christians should respond when hurt, we're talking about what to do when you're hurt by the Church. Nothing is quite as confusing and painful as being hurt by the Church. We want to help you navigate the feelings you have and turn them into something constructive and life giving. Jesus is perfect, even though His people aren't. Never stop trusting Him.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

Maybe one of the least talked about but most harmful realities in a Christian walk is the hurt that will inevitably be inflicted by a brother or sister in Christ. On this episode, we discuss our responsibility as a believer when someone hurts us and how to approach reconciliation in a way that glorifies God.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

This episode begins a three-part series looking at how Christians are supposed to react when we are hurt. Today, we're talking about getting hurt by non-believers and the importance of reacting differently to hurt than the world does.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

What advice do we wish we had received when we were single? On this episode, we discuss what we would have told ourselves in the season of singleness and (hopefully) impart wisdom to those currently in a season of singleness.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

Honestly, we both LOVED being single. Singleness is by far the most wished away season in our lives, however many people never look at the best parts! Today, we talk about three distinct advantages of singleness and why we loved being single.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

The emotional turmoil following a break up is incredibly difficult to navigate. Where does God fit in all of this? How can you recover in a way that makes you stronger? Today, we're talking about trusting God during a break up and the practical steps you can take to make this time impactful.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

Breaking up with someone you care about is perhaps the hardest undertaking in the world. However, the responsibility of dating is to carefully evaluate your partner for marriage. Today, we're talking break-ups and how to decide whether your relationship may not be ready for marriage. Despite the weight and grief that comes from a break-up, nothing could be more important than moving towards the things God has for us and rejecting roads that lead us away from Him.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

It's so easy to get caught up in longing for the next season in our lives. Tomorrow often seems more enticing than today. Today, we're discussing why the present is so difficult to live in and why it's vital to our wellbeing.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

What kinds of questions should you be asking your significant other while dating? Victoria and I came up with a list that should give you a great look at their heart, help with your evaluation of your compatibility and spark great conversations!To make it easy for you to copy, here they are:1. How would you describe God?2. What do you think our purpose is on Earth?3. What's the first thing you want people to notice about you?4. What are you passionate about?5. Where is life taking you?Let us know your thoughts on IG: @lifeintherightlayne

Control is the HARDEST thing to give up. For whatever reason, we want to keep all of our challenges and struggles instead of giving them up to our Creator. God is offering his back to carry our burdens today. Today, Victoria and Nicholas talk about why we have to give up control in order to find true control over our lives.

It's incredibly difficult to take a break. Our culture glorifies "the hustle" and pushes us to work more and more. However, God calls us to rest and to re-orient ourselves to the reality that He alone is enough. Today, we talk about how our world discourages rest and how to practically slow things down.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne or on the web at https://lifeintherightlayne.com/

How long must we search for "The One" before we find them? It feels like it will never happen for us and we seem to be looking in all the wrong places. Luckily, our God is much bigger than this search and He is in full control.On this week's podcast, we talk about how to find "The One" and give some practical tips on where to look.Follow us on IG: @lifeintherightlayne