Podcasts about chidera

Does being too empathetic make men see you as pathetic? Could there be a pattern of your behaviour that predatory men are drawn to? Are you prepared for a world where the men you're dating are leaning closer towards red pill ideologies? In this episode, join Chidera as she raises the alarm on how close the predator is in proximity to all of us! Join my ⁠patreon⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do 'homewreckers' really exist? Would you date your friend's ex? Should you forgive your husband for cheating? Hmmm...in today's episode, join Chidera as she debunks this 'homewrecker' phrase once and for - and shines the light on where it belongs: MARRIED MEN! Join my ⁠patreon⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

" A lot of it was me trying to find a middle point. Most nights I would just pick up someone and have a little dance to them, make the crowd clap for them. Sometimes if there was a kid in the audience, I would give them a little high five. My favorite one was anytime if there was an empty seat in the front row. I would go sit down on that seat and just watch." This episode features Jesse Chidera who played the Rum Tum Tugger on the most recent International Tour of CATS which mostly performed in China. Hear Jesse share some of his fun in the audience Tugger moments, what it was like exploring China, and how the audience reacted to the cast singing Moonlight in Mandarin. Plus, Jesse adds some new theories into the mix for Bustopher Jones and compares CATS to Wicked. Check out Jesse on Instagram: @jesse_chid Produced by: Alan Seales & Broadway Podcast Network Social Media: @TheWrongCatDied Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel guilty about using men in a world where men created a system where women will always be commodified? Have you found yourself feeling tongue-tied when wanting to ask a man for help? Should men be of service to us? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why we should put these men to work! ;) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you struggle with premature attachment to men? Do you fear you'll never stop being a lover girl? Is it really the man you're attached to or are you attached to the idea of being desired? In this episode, join Chidera as she helps you banish the demonic spirit of unnecessary attachment to straight men! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is your loneliness starting to become obvious? Do you secretly fear that you're not going to find your person? Are you losing hope? It's okay! Let's chill out, take a deep breath and reground ourselves. In this episode, join Chidera as she talks you through your FOMO and debunks your fears. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has your poor coochie management led to your demise? Are you in denial about the ripple effect your sexual decisions have on the quality of your life? Are men onto something when they tell us sleeping with them makes us 'impure'? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ramifications of being sexually careless - and why we all ought to step up the pussy security IMMEDIATELY! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you live in a land full of stingy men who love to split the bill? Are you starting to lose hope that you'll meet a man who will treat you as you want to be treated? Has 'feminism' made men too lazy to provide? In this episode garnished with a storytime, join Chidera as she discusses how to survive stingy men! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Julie Sadwick, director of admissions and EDI special projects, as she chats with Chidera Izuchukwu '25S (MBA) and David Garrett '26S (MBA) about their experience as Toigo Fellows at Simon. Chidera and David discuss why they chose Simon, the impact Toigo has had on their MBA experiences, their advice for prospective students (and prospective Toigo fellows!), and more.  Interested in chatting with Chidera or David? Reference this podcast episode in an email to admissions@simon.rochester.edu and we'll connect you! View transcript.

So it's finally happened...he's become carried away and comfortable enough to start coasting through the relationship... His yearning has decreased and his ability to remain mad at you has suddenly taken precedence. Big yikes! Time to hit the brakes, I fear. In this new episode kicking off season 3, join Chidera as she talks you through the key indicators that your man might just be too comfortable, sis! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should my feminism be dismissed as 'anti-feminist'? Are you really independent if you still rely on men for orgasms? Is it possible to truly be empowered while dating men? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why 'feminists' hate sex workers, why it's radical to expect a man who loves you to put assets in your name, and what empowerment while dating men can actually look like! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you dating to marry or dating for money? Do women deserve to be paid to be pregnant? Is it possible to fall in love without giving away your power to a man? These are questions that need answers and in this episode, join Chidera as she covers them! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you struggle with putting your foot down when handling a situation with a guy? Are you often 'too nice' when you should be a little more dubious of men? Have you fallen into the mentality of making men's negligence about you? In this episode, enjoy a storytime and Chidera's real-time texting conversation with a man who is now blocked! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you 'owe' men sex for a cocktail? Does the 'gold digger' label scare you away from being upfront about your needs? Are you playing to win or are you playing to be fair? In this episode, join Chidera as she dilutes your fears of asking men for things, and chats through the ridiculousness of male entitlement! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you trying to find the firmness in your voice? Or are you worried you might be a bit too blunt? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through the ways we can all be a little stricter without flying off the rails - and why there's nothing scarier to a man, than a woman who is pissed off and relaxed about it... NEW DATE ADDED FOR MY SOLD OUT LIVE SHOW! Get tickets for my October 27th LIVE SHOW Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textInstitutional racism, socio-economic factors and low aspirations from teachers  are causing boys of Caribbean descent to fail in school.That's the view of founder of The Westside and Lewisham Young Leaders Academies, by David Okoro.Children of black Caribbean descent face significant educational disparities, with lower achievement in GCSE, higher rates of exclusion and are more likely to end prison. The academies offer a range of programmes, including mentoring, leadership development, and exposure to successful black role models to raise confidence, aspirations, and skills among black youths. In this podcast David Okoro and Chidera Nomeh, a student at Westside Academy join Angela Walker to talk about the positive impact of the academies and to discuss the wider issue of what can be done to close the gap.The academies face funding challenges and rely on grants, donations, and volunteers to continue their work. David emphasises the need for government intervention and investment to address the systemic issues contributing to the underachievement of black young people.https://www.wylauk.com/Music credit: Moment of Inspiration by Purple Planet MusicSupport the showhttps://www.angelawalkerreports.com/

Is the pressure on to start a family? Feeling broody? Or maybe even experiencing that FOMO feeling as everyone around you is starting to have babies? You are not alone! In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about why you don't need to have kids just because you want to...and the ways we can all show up in a maternal role without having to commit to parenthood *cough cough* shout out to the aunties! NEW DATE ADDED FOR MY SOLD OUT LIVE SHOW! Get tickets for my October 27th LIVE SHOW Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a first born daughter who has been plagued by the perpetual sense of responsibility...even over the men you date? Has your first born daughter status evolved into a saviour complex? Do you feel like you need to be useful in order to be loved? Dear first born daughters, this one is for us! In this episode, join Chidera as she muses and reflects on her life and upbringing as a first born daughter - and how this has actually empowered her to be stern, bold and fearless in her self-advocacy when dating men. NEW DATE ADDED FOR MY SOLD OUT LIVE SHOW! Get tickets for my October 27th LIVE SHOW Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you that friend who keeps calling your friend to complain about the same man you won't leave? Are you the friend who wishes your homegirl would get a grip and get over that man, so you can have your friend back? Or are you that woman who has exhausted all your friendships and has found herself isolated because you keep choosing men over self-respect? If any of the above resonate, this episode is for you! In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the irritation of being that woman who simply won't learn her bloody lesson... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are pick-me women simply misunderstood? Are things 'easier' with men when you let patriarchy run its course? What can women do to avoid becoming desperate? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through all the reasons why picking men over yourself will always leave you short-changed and resentful - no matter how exceptional you think your situation is... Get tickets for my October 26th LIVE SHOW at Leicester Square Theatre, London Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So what's the fuss around dating providers? Why are women scared to date selfishly? Why do we slut-shame women who are upfront about their requirements of men who want to sleep with them, whilst we uphold and celebrate the women who settle 'in the name of love'? In this episode, join Chidera as she explores the concept of men being providers - and why we shouldn't let 'feminism' stop us from having our own cake and eating it too...just like the men do! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do men deserve their loneliness? Do women make too many excuses for men? Can women develop the willpower to abstain from sexual and emotional reliance on men? In this episode, join Chidera as she explores the 'male loneliness epidemic' - and why we should all let men deal with this matter by themselves... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Queensley Chidera is a customer service expert, experienced administrative assistant and Certified Scrum master. She is originally from eastern Nigeria and currently resides in Halifax Novascotia with her husband. Queensley has over 8 years banking experience in Nigeria and 2 years of administrative experience in Canada. Queensley has a Bachelor's degree in Microbiology and a master's degree in food Microbiology from the Federal University of Technology Minna and the University of Nigeria Nsukka respectively. She is an advocate for inclusivity and equality in the workplace and has volunteered in programs that promote these. Outside of her career, Queensley loves trying new foods, loves cooking, hiking and hanging out with friends. Find out more @ajibo_queensley

Where is the line drawn between leadership and control? Do 'alpha' men actually live up to their description? Why do women seek such traits in men? In this episode, join Chidera as she explores the myth of the alpha male - and why we should all interrogate our attraction to alpha men... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is a person redeemable once you develop the ick for them? What does it take for a man to give you the ick? How can you tell when a man has gotten the ick for YOU? In this episode, join Chidera as we talk all things ick - including my biggest turn-offs that classify a man disqualified in her eyes! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you justify tormenting yourself for the sake of having a 'good story' to tell? Are you impulsive and adrenaline-driven in your dating decisions? Have you found yourself living in the architecture of your own demise? Featuring TWO saucy stories, join Chidera in this episode as she talks through times when she's done it for the plot...and benefited from the wild spontaneity! ;) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a woman who struggles to forgive men? Do people make you feel like you hold grudges for too long? Are you a recovering pushover? If any of the above questions resonate with you, pay attention to this episode! In this discussion, join Chidera as she runs through all the reasons men don't deserve to be forgiven so easily, and the ways women sabotage themselves by handing out the benefit of doubt to every Tom, Dami and Harry... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER

Why are straight women so helplessly bound to their heterosexuality? How can straight women gain more from their attraction to men without losing themselves? What do straight women keep doing wrong to further reinforce their suffering? In this episode, Chidera visits the various ways straight women betray themselves in exchange for 'love' from men... Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower

In an age where we feel compelled to prove we are loved, is sharing pictures of your boyfriend on social media a risky move? Do we jinx it by claiming men in public too soon? Do men benefit from us posting them online as our partners? In this episode, Chidera discusses why she is averse to the idea of sharing pictures of your new boyfriend on social media - and why the relief of not posting him might be worth it if/when he pisses you off! Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower

Are you still on your digital quest for love? Is the dating app fatigue kicking in? Have you started checking the dating apps more than you check Instagram? It might be time for a breather... In this episode, Chidera speaks on why she thinks you should quit dating apps once and for all! Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

On this insightful west hilarious episode, your favourite hosts, FK and Jollz talk bleach, skin bleaching and beauty standards can create artificial insecurities. They are joined by Chidera, the founder of Olaedo Naturals and Ebube who's still figuring out life in law and tech. Together, they help some of you solve dilemmas, talk about skin bleaching experiences and colourism! Enjoyy!Don't forget to use #ISWIS or #ISWISPodcast to share your thoughts while listening to the podcast on Twitter! Rate the show 5 stars on whatever app you listen and leave a review, share with everyone you know and if you also watch on YouTube, like and leave a comment! If you want us to solve your dilemma on the podcast follow the link: https://forms.gle/FiQ7q5sm2T5dequY7Make sure to follow us on Twitter: @ISWISPodcastInstagram: @isaidwhatisaidpodYoutube: @ isaidwhatisaidpod Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is the FINAL episode of The Slumflower Hour podcast's first ever season and of course, we had to wrap this up in style! It is with great honour to introduce to you, MISTRESS MARLEY: the professional dominatrix and sex educator, who took social media by storm with a viral video of her taking a leashed, kneeling, elderly, white male sub to her homecoming. Since the viral moment was documented in The New York Times, Mistress Marley has gone on to expand further into her dominance as a profession, taking on celebrity male clients and making six figures a year, centering reparations in her work and using her platform to teach other women how to become dominatrixes - all whilst throwing kink parties and fostering community for Black people in kink! In this conversation, join Chidera and Mistress Marley as they both muse on dating as dominatrixes, learning how to tell men what to do, common misconceptions about dominating men and the various ways being a dominatrix can provide useful transferrable skills for everyday life. You can find Mistress Marley at: @hausofmarley on Instagram @eyesxonfire on Twitter Mistress Marley's domination courses: https://www.patreon.com/sexcademy

On this week's episode of Inside the Headset presented by CoachComm, Chidera Uzo-Diribe, the Outside Linebackers coach for the Georgia Bulldogs, shares his beginnings as a young coach, his opportunity to start his career in the Power 5, and his experience coaching in the National Championship game. A member of the 2023 AFCA 35 Under 35 class, Coach Uzo-Diribe and the Bulldogs are fresh off a Top-25 win over Kentucky, continuing their hot start to the season.   Follow Coach Uzo-Diribe and Georgia Football on social media here:   @CoachDiribe96 & @GeorgiaFootball   Show Notes:  0:59 Introduction  1:35 When did you decide that you wanted to be a football coach?  4:00 Process of getting started as a coach  5:51 Adjusting from being a player to a coach  10:31 Finding your voice as a GA  12:43 Importance of having experience in recruiting prior to your first job  14:54 Experience with Bill Walsh Diversity Fellowship with the 49ers.   16:42 Learning curves starting out as a young coach  18:32 Opportunity to get 1st full-time job at Kansas  24:18 Personal and Life update  25:28 Including your wife in career decisions and transitions   26:28 Approaching the coaching profession with personal relationships  28:21 Challenges as a first-year position coach and turning them into learning opportunities  33:03 Transition to SMU   34:43 Process of preparing for your 1st interview  37:19 Experience with the time period after a HC leaves a program for an assistant  39:15 Transition from SMU to TCU to Georgia in one offseason  41:56 Opportunity to coach against TCU and Coach Dykes in the National Championship   43:56 Learning from coaches with a championship pedigree   46:06 Conclusion   

Is your horniness hindering you? Do you find yourself making more excuses for him because of your sexual attraction to him? Are you giving away so much of yourself and still not getting what you want from him? It may be time to talk about sexual discipline... In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses better ways to manage your sexual urges without losing yourself, as well as why it's sometimes important to revoke access to the pussy, even if the pussy still wants to play! Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Where do you draw the line of financially supporting a man you care about? Are men more likely to take advantage of generous women? What happens if that man can't pay you back? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the slippery slope of borrowing money to men...whilst being in a sexual relationship with the man you're financially supporting! Are there exceptional scenarios? Or should we just leave men to fix their own financial problems? Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses: what's the difference between ‘being bought' and being where your worth feels valued? Do you feel comfortable asking men for things or are you scared they will think you're 'fleecing' them? What makes a man worth being the 'right' man for you? Sometimes, you might not even by asking for too much...sometimes, he's just the wrong man! Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Are men trustworthy? Are there times when it's okay for a man to lie to you? Are you too honest with men? In a rather hilarious episode, Chidera unpacks the reality that the man you love will at some point, lie to you - and how we can make peace with the insincerity of men, whilst also accommodating the layers of nuance and reasoning as to why a man might lie; plus how we can benefit from catching him in said lie...depending on how damaging the lie is! Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Are you flimsy with your boundaries? Are you too forgiving of men? Do you find yourself being too agreeable and malleable? In this episode, Chidera discusses the idea of creating penalties when men hurt your feelings yet automatically expect forgiveness, why your boundaries might not be working, and what you can do to be stern while still maintaining your sweetness. Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

When is considered 'too soon' to sleep with a guy? Do men value it when you tell them 'I don't usually do this'? Are your sexual impulses sabotaging you? In this hilarious and anecdotal episode, Chidera discusses how a one-night-stand became a 3-week-bender, and what she learnt from the pursuit of instant gratification. We also touch on the controversy of sending nudes to men, and whether your power as a woman can still be redeemable after sleeping with a guy pretty early on into knowing him - especially if after the intimate exchange, you've noticed a change in his behaviour towards you. Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Would you rather settle or compromise? Have you explored the difference between settling and compromising? Are you his dream girl or are you his intermediary space-filler while he uses you to get good enough for his dream girl? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why compromise isn't as bad as we think it is - and the ways men compromise in their partnerships with women too. We also touch on many women conflating compromise with settling, and why identifying that distinction could save you years of heartache and under-satisfaction. Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Is the 'talking stage' even a real thing or is that man securing you as his placeholder? Do we need better boundaries with men who we are granting the chance to get to know us? Should we be making men work harder for our phone numbers? In this episode, join Chidera as she troubleshoots the 'talking stage' and debunks the common male hesitancy to be more affirmative and enthusiastic in their pursuit of you, while she visits the various ways men use the 'talking stage' as a way to buy themselves more of your time that they are wasting. Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Should we be more 'unrealistic' in our desires and demands of men? Are we benefiting from holding back on giving men a taste of their own medicine? Does our definition of 'savage' need to change? In this episode, Chidera discusses why it matters to match a man's arrogance, why you need to stop explaining yourself to men and why it's important to hold space for the things you don't find attractive about him - no matter how much you fancy him, as a means of staying grounded without becoming grandiose in your attraction to him. Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Do you find yourself trying to be strong when ignoring men back, only to find yourself caving and giving into your urges to hear from him? Do you feel bad about mirroring a man's energy? Do you have a scarcity mindset with men and dating? In this episode, Chidera discusses the importance of having an emotional anchor to refer to when you start to ‘forget' why you're upset with that man, learning how to use pain as a focal point to guide your behaviour when interacting with a guy, and allowing yourself to experience dating hot guys, broke guys, popular guys and other iterations of men who can't do anything substantial for you - in order to rid yourself of the FOMO and curiosity and in turn, have a more focused outlook when dating with your future in mind. Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Is it really a good thing when a guy comes back? Are you his emotional crutch? Did someone else reject him and as a result, he's come to seek comfort in you? In this episode, Chidera discusses why you probably should keep him on ice and stand your ground, why you need to start demanding reparations from repeat apologists, believing more in your sauce as the woman he's suddenly returned to, and making him work to earn the same spot in your life that he once took for granted. This is your world and the rules are yours to create and shape as you go along. Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Ever been with a Gemini man and wondered why he's like 'that'? Or have you dated a Scorpio man and haven't been able to understand why they do that obsessed-nonchalant thing? Maybe you've been with a Virgo man and you ended up leaving the relationship with insecurities you never even had to begin with...either way, you'll really enjoy this episode. From Aries through to Pisces, Chidera drags all the men of the zodiac signs - touching on reasons they're most likely to cheat, what makes them insufferable and how to catch them slipping! Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Do you find yourself feeling like that man is trying to compete with you? Is his desire to be right more important than his desire to treat you right? Do you feel like you need to minimise your accomplishments and wins in front of him, as a means of avoiding making him feel small? If you answered 'yes' to at least one of these, this episode is especially for you! During this thought stream, Chidera touches on the cunning and often overlooked ways that insecure men jealously chip away at your self esteem to make themselves feel like they're better than you. Whether he's a silent story-watcher, or a sudden 'Mr Unbothered' who was flirting with you the week before, there's something to take away from this episode to hopefully equip yourself with the awareness to spot men like this early on... Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Are you 'manifesting' the man of your dreams or are you too hyper-fixated on the prospect of a man loving you? Are you really returning to church to seek closeness with the Lord or are you looking for a man? Have you found yourself so deep in the rabbit hole of obsession, that you're paying tarot readers and astrologers to confirm your bias that he likes you back? In this episode, Chidera talks about how digitised spirituality has enabled us into a mindset of using 'magic' to call regular-ass men into our lives, the danger of being so attached to the idea of finding love that you forget to dream beyond meeting a man, and the reality that if you have to 'manifest' him, you're probably already obsessed with him... Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Why is the word 'friendzone' such a loaded term? How did we arrive at a place where men have successfully managed to push the 'friends with benefits' propaganda whilst they largely remain the only people who actually benefit from this mutual agreement? Are we deluding ourselves by letting the homies hit, in the hopes that they will treat us better than men we barely know? In this episode, Chidera dissertates on why she believes stingy men should be fast-tracked to the friendzone, ways women can tangibly benefit from a 'friends with benefits' setup and why good-looking men deserve to be treated just like regular-looking men. Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Why do we make exceptions and excuses for men yet, we penalise our female friends for similar offences? What happens when we enmesh our personalities with the men we are dating and in effect, we neglect our friendships with the women in our lives? Why do we leap at the idea of moving countries to strengthen a long-distance relationship with a man yet, we feel fear to take a risk of that size for our own selves? In this episode, Chidera discusses the complexity of showing up for friends who complain about their boyfriends and still stay, losing yourself in your partnerships with men, and why we have placed so much emphasis on being picked by men, that we have forgotten how to be in community with women. Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!

Are you really following your gut...or are you being led by your impulses? Does your pursuit of love compel you to operate from a place of FOMO and as a result, you keep finding yourself in situations you have to emotionally recover from? Is your romantic search for dopamine leading you to disappointment? In this short and sweet episode of The Slumflower Hour, Chidera discusses her relationship with rejection-sensitivity, the mistake we sometimes make of conflating a connection with compatibility, and learning to use your impulses to your advantage - as opposed to always giving into urges you haven't confronted. Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)!